https://simplecast.com Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Host Cate Osborn has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?” Tune in to Sorry, I Missed This to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:00:00 +0000 Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:00:14 +0000 https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/833a165d-5e3f-4f74-a9ab-ae449f2d94a4/51c5ee53-ff6c-4800-aa83-9e1ab177e656/3000x3000/sorry_i_missed_this_lockat3x_1.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this episodic It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Host Cate Osborn has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?” Tune in to Sorry, I Missed This to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. Cate Osborn, Understood.org false https://feeds.simplecast.com/xF5Cl7lM Understood.org sorryimissedthis@understood.org 19e120ce-6a82-404c-9655-788b90b83c1b How online community is saving (and breaking) my ADHD brain Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic.

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 21 Apr 2026 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-online-community Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic.

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> How online community is saving (and breaking) my ADHD brain Understood.org 00:24:42 Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic. Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic. false full 49 f5a9ee10-a3e6-4a87-95e4-374a761c3c73 Writing the ADHD guide we wish we'd had Content warning: This episode discusses self-harm. 

What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD? 

Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done. 

For more on this topic 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 7 Apr 2026 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this Content warning: This episode discusses self-harm. 

What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD? 

Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done. 

For more on this topic 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Writing the ADHD guide we wish we'd had Understood.org 00:18:33 What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD? Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done. What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD? Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done. false full 48 ef8f62e3-1560-4276-885a-b10f6c79b8f3 ADHD gaslighting and chasing new relationship energy (Reddit Reactions) As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts. 

From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship?

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 24 Mar 2026 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts. 

From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship?

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD gaslighting and chasing new relationship energy (Reddit Reactions) Understood.org 00:22:57 As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts. From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship? As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts. From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship? false full 47 7f28e602-8e32-4dbc-9556-3e0b975c361d When ADHD turns chores into conflict Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy. 

Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything.

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2026 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-chores-conflict Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy. 

Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything.

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> When ADHD turns chores into conflict Understood.org 00:23:58 Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy. Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything. Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy. Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything. false full 46 fad4c9ef-802b-4667-9a99-e7e02a9c09d1 Decisions, decisions: ADHD and the trap of analysis paralysis Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you!

We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD. 

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/overthinking-decisions Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you!

We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD. 

For more on this topic

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Decisions, decisions: ADHD and the trap of analysis paralysis Understood.org 00:20:35 Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you! We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD. Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you! We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD. false full 45 e32fbb29-86f0-4b64-9c95-d2d15aaaca7d How menopause and hormones impact ADHD symptoms in women If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause.

Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating.

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/menopause-hormones-adhd-symptoms If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause.

Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating.

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> How menopause and hormones impact ADHD symptoms in women Understood.org 00:19:26 If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause. Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating. If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause. Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating. false full 44 090bf992-5940-4c37-a674-031d32efaf8c Stuck in your head? ADHD, overthinking, and getting “unstuck” Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”? 

Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops. 

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/getting-unstuck Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”? 

Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops. 

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Stuck in your head? ADHD, overthinking, and getting “unstuck” Understood.org 00:31:18 Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”? Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops. Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”? Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops. false full 43 a16d2fea-7940-4c1f-be84-05309d44a0e1 When ADHD mistakes spiral and resentment hits (Reddit Reactions) When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral.

Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships. 

What actually can stop that spiral? 

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-mistakes-spiral When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral.

Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships. 

What actually can stop that spiral? 

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> When ADHD mistakes spiral and resentment hits (Reddit Reactions) Understood.org 00:19:18 When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral of OMG. Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships. What actually can stop that spiral? When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral of OMG. Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships. What actually can stop that spiral? false full 42 a0fa107a-f0fe-482c-85a3-e10de1e38e74 Sensory overload in intimacy and the ADHD hyperfocus spiral (Listener Q&A!) In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop. 

From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it. 

Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming.

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/sex-sensory-overload In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop. 

From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it. 

Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming.

For more on this topic: 

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Sensory overload in intimacy and the ADHD hyperfocus spiral (Listener Q&A!) Understood.org 00:19:13 In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop. From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it. Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming. In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop. From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it. Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming. false full 41 e917d50a-ef91-4945-82ca-659320c93c87 Weaponized incompetence and other ADHD “crimes” (Reddit Reactions) We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!

This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. 

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband

(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?

(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”

(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 2 Dec 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!

This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. 

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband

(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?

(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”

(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Weaponized incompetence and other ADHD “crimes” (Reddit Reactions) Understood.org 00:16:52 We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode! This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode! This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. false full 40 a4180228-67fb-4765-95ec-6b90d9c1f580 ADHD impulsivity and saying yes to sex too fast Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same. 

Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision. 

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

02:15 How ADHD-related impulsivity can influence sexual decisions

08:45 Consent, emotional regulation, and navigating pressure or fear of rejection

17:30 Differentiating shame from embarrassment after vulnerable sexual experiences

28:10 Strategies for slowing down and gathering insights from experiences

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-impusivity-sex Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same. 

Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision. 

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

02:15 How ADHD-related impulsivity can influence sexual decisions

08:45 Consent, emotional regulation, and navigating pressure or fear of rejection

17:30 Differentiating shame from embarrassment after vulnerable sexual experiences

28:10 Strategies for slowing down and gathering insights from experiences

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD impulsivity and saying yes to sex too fast Understood.org 00:31:02 Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same. Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision. Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same. Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision. false full 39 e53c9042-9997-4a62-86aa-4059e6a83423 ADHD, disordered eating, and getting through the holidays The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding.

(Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.)

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(02:05) Aleta’s personal story with ADHD and eating

(05:48) What’s the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating? 

(07:46) What about ADHD can affect our relationship with food? 

(13:39) Sensory challenges and food

(18:11) The consequences of ignoring our own needs

(20:12) Good food practices to support ourselves and the neurodivergent people in our lives

(26:23) Aleta’s parting advice for the holidays

(28:23) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 4 Nov 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-disordered-eating-holidays The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding.

(Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.)

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(02:05) Aleta’s personal story with ADHD and eating

(05:48) What’s the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating? 

(07:46) What about ADHD can affect our relationship with food? 

(13:39) Sensory challenges and food

(18:11) The consequences of ignoring our own needs

(20:12) Good food practices to support ourselves and the neurodivergent people in our lives

(26:23) Aleta’s parting advice for the holidays

(28:23) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD, disordered eating, and getting through the holidays Understood.org 00:29:45 The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding. (Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.) The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding. (Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.) false full 38 643044e6-610f-4834-ba74-93f9fa9f11ce Breaking the burnout cycle: How to move forward In the final episode of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” three-part series, host Cate Osborn and Dr. Shauna Pollard explore what comes after burnout. They discuss how burnout can affect your relationships, the importance of communicating your needs clearly, and how to reflect on past experiences to avoid repeating patterns. 

Cate and Dr. Shauna also shares practical tips for tuning in to yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a plan for moving forward with greater awareness, balance, and resilience.

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps: 

(00:00) Intro 

(01:44) We have more emotions to regulate while in burnout

(05:26) How can burnout impact relationships?

(14:32) Setting boundaries

(17:52) How can we show up for our partners when we’re burned out?

(23:11) Feeling “too much” for needing to have our needs met 

(24:44) What do we do if we don’t have a support system?

(28:01) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 21 Oct 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/burnout-moving-forward In the final episode of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” three-part series, host Cate Osborn and Dr. Shauna Pollard explore what comes after burnout. They discuss how burnout can affect your relationships, the importance of communicating your needs clearly, and how to reflect on past experiences to avoid repeating patterns. 

Cate and Dr. Shauna also shares practical tips for tuning in to yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a plan for moving forward with greater awareness, balance, and resilience.

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps: 

(00:00) Intro 

(01:44) We have more emotions to regulate while in burnout

(05:26) How can burnout impact relationships?

(14:32) Setting boundaries

(17:52) How can we show up for our partners when we’re burned out?

(23:11) Feeling “too much” for needing to have our needs met 

(24:44) What do we do if we don’t have a support system?

(28:01) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Breaking the burnout cycle: How to move forward Understood.org 00:29:17 In the final episode of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” three-part series, host Cate Osborn and Dr. Shauna Pollard explore what comes after burnout. They discuss how burnout can affect your relationships, the importance of communicating your needs clearly, and how to reflect on past experiences to avoid repeating patterns. Cate and Dr. Shauna also shares practical tips for tuning in to yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a plan for moving forward with greater awareness, balance, and resilience. In the final episode of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” three-part series, host Cate Osborn and Dr. Shauna Pollard explore what comes after burnout. They discuss how burnout can affect your relationships, the importance of communicating your needs clearly, and how to reflect on past experiences to avoid repeating patterns. Cate and Dr. Shauna also shares practical tips for tuning in to yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a plan for moving forward with greater awareness, balance, and resilience. false full 37 42a9d51e-0049-456c-83b8-b59d78a9876f Breaking the burnout cycle: What is rest? Burnout isn’t a weakness. It’s a signal that your body needs real rest. 

Dr. Shauna Pollard is back for the second episode in our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series to answer the question: What is rest?  

Cate and Dr. Pollard talk about what true, restorative rest looks like (hint: it’s not just zoning out on your phone), and how to start taking small, doable steps toward rest when you’re already deep in burnout.

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps: [2-4]

(00:00) Intro

(02:08) How do you realize that enough is enough and you need to rest?

(03:58) How do we know if the “rest” we’re taking is actually restorative? 

(09:10) Feeling guilty or uncomfortable with resting

(15:18) How to decide what to pursue, and what to wait on

(20:14) The relationship between perfectionism, procrastination, and burnout

(23:41) Finding small moments to integrate rest, and other suggestions from Dr. Shauna

(29:07) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 7 Oct 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/burnout-rest Burnout isn’t a weakness. It’s a signal that your body needs real rest. 

Dr. Shauna Pollard is back for the second episode in our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series to answer the question: What is rest?  

Cate and Dr. Pollard talk about what true, restorative rest looks like (hint: it’s not just zoning out on your phone), and how to start taking small, doable steps toward rest when you’re already deep in burnout.

For more on this topic: 

Timestamps: [2-4]

(00:00) Intro

(02:08) How do you realize that enough is enough and you need to rest?

(03:58) How do we know if the “rest” we’re taking is actually restorative? 

(09:10) Feeling guilty or uncomfortable with resting

(15:18) How to decide what to pursue, and what to wait on

(20:14) The relationship between perfectionism, procrastination, and burnout

(23:41) Finding small moments to integrate rest, and other suggestions from Dr. Shauna

(29:07) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Breaking the burnout cycle: What is rest? Understood.org 00:30:21 Burnout isn’t a weakness. It’s a signal that your body needs real rest. Dr. Shauna Pollard is back for the second episode in our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series to answer the question: What is rest?  Cate and Dr. Pollard talk about what true, restorative rest looks like (hint: it’s not just zoning out on your phone), and how to start taking small, doable steps toward rest when you’re already deep in burnout. Burnout isn’t a weakness. It’s a signal that your body needs real rest. Dr. Shauna Pollard is back for the second episode in our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series to answer the question: What is rest?  Cate and Dr. Pollard talk about what true, restorative rest looks like (hint: it’s not just zoning out on your phone), and how to start taking small, doable steps toward rest when you’re already deep in burnout. false full 36 65da319d-efd6-4385-9fe3-2549a2fd7fdd Breaking the burnout cycle: What is burnout? Feeling drained, unmotivated, or stuck in survival mode? In part one of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series, host Cate Osborn and psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard unpack the question: What is burnout? They explore the signs to watch for, how to recognize when you’re in it, and how it’s different from depression.

If you’ve been wondering whether what you’re experiencing is burnout, this episode is a good place to start.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) A word from Cate on burnout

(01:50) What is burnout? How is it different than depression?

(05:57) What happens when ADHD perfectionism and overcommitting meets burnout?

(08:06) How do we know that we’re starting to get burnout? How can we tell if it’s burnout or depression?

(12:11) How to recognize whether your battery is low or completely tapped out

(15:55) How to get to know ourselves and our bodies better to help us in the future

(22:57) Burnout spreading from work into the home

(26:39) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 23 Sep 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/what-is-burnout Feeling drained, unmotivated, or stuck in survival mode? In part one of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series, host Cate Osborn and psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard unpack the question: What is burnout? They explore the signs to watch for, how to recognize when you’re in it, and how it’s different from depression.

If you’ve been wondering whether what you’re experiencing is burnout, this episode is a good place to start.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) A word from Cate on burnout

(01:50) What is burnout? How is it different than depression?

(05:57) What happens when ADHD perfectionism and overcommitting meets burnout?

(08:06) How do we know that we’re starting to get burnout? How can we tell if it’s burnout or depression?

(12:11) How to recognize whether your battery is low or completely tapped out

(15:55) How to get to know ourselves and our bodies better to help us in the future

(22:57) Burnout spreading from work into the home

(26:39) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Breaking the burnout cycle: What is burnout? Understood.org 00:27:57 Feeling drained, unmotivated, or stuck in survival mode? In part one of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series, host Cate Osborn and psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard unpack the question: What is burnout? They explore the signs to watch for, how to recognize when you’re in it, and how it’s different from depression. If you’ve been wondering whether what you’re experiencing is burnout, this episode is a good place to start. Feeling drained, unmotivated, or stuck in survival mode? In part one of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series, host Cate Osborn and psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard unpack the question: What is burnout? They explore the signs to watch for, how to recognize when you’re in it, and how it’s different from depression. If you’ve been wondering whether what you’re experiencing is burnout, this episode is a good place to start. false full 35 a3551c9a-2f81-4ecf-aed9-a243fa0557f0 Cate answers your burning ADHD questions It’s a solo mailbag episode! Host Cate Osborn grabs her trusty D20 to let fate decide which listener emails to answer. 

Cate answers some common ADHD questions from navigating ADHD as a woman, to what it means to have a diagnosis, to how symptoms can shift as we age.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro
(00:27) The rules
(01:14) Why do previously stimulating activities become routine?
(02:48) What does an ADHD diagnosis provide?
(05:30) What are some tips for self kindness when dealing with problems we’ve created?
(09:56) How to not get too overloaded by a task
(14:52) Does ADHD become more calm as you get older? Are there future treatments other than medication being developed?
(21:38) A parting word from Cate
(23:04) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 9 Sep 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/cate-answers-your-burning-adhd-questions It’s a solo mailbag episode! Host Cate Osborn grabs her trusty D20 to let fate decide which listener emails to answer. 

Cate answers some common ADHD questions from navigating ADHD as a woman, to what it means to have a diagnosis, to how symptoms can shift as we age.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro
(00:27) The rules
(01:14) Why do previously stimulating activities become routine?
(02:48) What does an ADHD diagnosis provide?
(05:30) What are some tips for self kindness when dealing with problems we’ve created?
(09:56) How to not get too overloaded by a task
(14:52) Does ADHD become more calm as you get older? Are there future treatments other than medication being developed?
(21:38) A parting word from Cate
(23:04) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Cate answers your burning ADHD questions Understood.org 00:24:13 It’s a solo mailbag episode! Host Cate Osborn grabs her trusty D20 to let fate decide which listener emails to answer. Cate answers some common ADHD questions from navigating ADHD as a woman, to what it means to have a diagnosis, to how symptoms can shift as we age. It’s a solo mailbag episode! Host Cate Osborn grabs her trusty D20 to let fate decide which listener emails to answer. Cate answers some common ADHD questions from navigating ADHD as a woman, to what it means to have a diagnosis, to how symptoms can shift as we age. false full 34 dbfcce13-5631-43b3-b413-a2b0f34bd349 When ADHD, money, and relationships collide What if your money problems weren’t just about willpower, but about who you are?

In this episode of Sorry, I Missed This, Cate chats with Ellyce Fulmore, financial educator and author of Keeping Finance Personal, about how who you are affects how you deal with money. We cover how things like ADHD, race, gender, and queerness all shape your money habits. Ellyce explains how to understand your own “money story” and why some advice doesn’t work for everyone. We also talk about what happens when someone with ADHD gets into a relationship and has to mix money with a partner.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) A word from Cate on ADHD and money

(02:44) The intersection of identity and finances

(07:57) Balancing treating yourself and impulse spending

(10:13) The word “should”

(14:09) Shame, guilt, and embarrassment about money

(17:50) The ADHD tax

(20:42) ADHD and finances in a relationship

(25:05) Ellyce’s advice for starting to think about your money story

(26:58) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the “Sorry, I Missed This” show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 26 Aug 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Ellyce Fulmore) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-money-relationships What if your money problems weren’t just about willpower, but about who you are?

In this episode of Sorry, I Missed This, Cate chats with Ellyce Fulmore, financial educator and author of Keeping Finance Personal, about how who you are affects how you deal with money. We cover how things like ADHD, race, gender, and queerness all shape your money habits. Ellyce explains how to understand your own “money story” and why some advice doesn’t work for everyone. We also talk about what happens when someone with ADHD gets into a relationship and has to mix money with a partner.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) A word from Cate on ADHD and money

(02:44) The intersection of identity and finances

(07:57) Balancing treating yourself and impulse spending

(10:13) The word “should”

(14:09) Shame, guilt, and embarrassment about money

(17:50) The ADHD tax

(20:42) ADHD and finances in a relationship

(25:05) Ellyce’s advice for starting to think about your money story

(26:58) Outro and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the “Sorry, I Missed This” show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> When ADHD, money, and relationships collide Ellyce Fulmore 00:28:11 What if your money problems weren’t just about willpower, but about who you are? In this episode of Sorry, I Missed This, Cate chats with Ellyce Fulmore, financial educator and author of Keeping Finance Personal, about how who you are affects how you deal with money. We cover how things like ADHD, race, gender, and queerness all shape your money habits. Ellyce explains how to understand your own “money story” and why some advice doesn’t work for everyone. We also talk about what happens when someone with ADHD gets into a relationship and has to mix money with a partner. What if your money problems weren’t just about willpower, but about who you are? In this episode of Sorry, I Missed This, Cate chats with Ellyce Fulmore, financial educator and author of Keeping Finance Personal, about how who you are affects how you deal with money. We cover how things like ADHD, race, gender, and queerness all shape your money habits. Ellyce explains how to understand your own “money story” and why some advice doesn’t work for everyone. We also talk about what happens when someone with ADHD gets into a relationship and has to mix money with a partner. adhd and long-term relationships, keeping finance personal, adhd tax, ellyce fulmore, adhd and money false full 33 88f49dd7-ba6c-43cb-8ec4-b3e9fea7727d Throwback to a conversation on ADHD and social skills Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function, or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up uncomfortable questions. Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold on to friendships? What do I even like to do? 

In this episode Host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach, and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills — and what we can do to help.

Related resources

For a transcript and more resources, visit the “Sorry, I Missed This” show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 12 Aug 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/the-influence-of-adhd-on-social-skills Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function, or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up uncomfortable questions. Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold on to friendships? What do I even like to do? 

In this episode Host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach, and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills — and what we can do to help.

Related resources

For a transcript and more resources, visit the “Sorry, I Missed This” show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Throwback to a conversation on ADHD and social skills Understood.org 00:37:47 Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function, or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up uncomfortable questions. Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold on to friendships? What do I even like to do? In this episode Host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach, and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills — and what we can do to help. Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function, or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up uncomfortable questions. Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold on to friendships? What do I even like to do? In this episode Host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach, and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills — and what we can do to help. false full 32 ce44b53c-f8ee-434f-aa79-e3076f02edde So... How does that make you feel about your therapist? Ever wondered if your therapist gets you, or if therapy is even working? You’re not alone. This week, Dr. Elizabeth Kilmer is back to unpack the complicated, sometimes confusing, always human relationship between therapist and client (especially when ADHD is in the mix).

Host Cate Osborn and Elizabeth dig into how different types of therapy work, how to tell if therapy is actually helping, and what kinds of conversations are and aren’t fair game in the therapy room. Whether you’re starting therapy for the first time or reevaluating a long-term fit, this conversation will help you trust your instincts and advocate for what you need.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(00:43) What inspired this episode

(01:53) Relationship between therapist and client basics

(04:45) How do we know if a therapist is a good fit for us?

(06:50) What is a ‘therapeutic modality’? What is a ‘manualized treatment’?

(09:36) How do we know if therapy working?

(13:51) How do we give feedback to our therapist?

(17:29) How do we breakup with a therapist?

(19:35) What do we talk about in therapy?

(23:52) What do we do if we don’t have access to therapy?

(26:09) Advice on how to start therapy

(29:22) Outro and credits

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 29 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Elizabeth Kilmer) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this Ever wondered if your therapist gets you, or if therapy is even working? You’re not alone. This week, Dr. Elizabeth Kilmer is back to unpack the complicated, sometimes confusing, always human relationship between therapist and client (especially when ADHD is in the mix).

Host Cate Osborn and Elizabeth dig into how different types of therapy work, how to tell if therapy is actually helping, and what kinds of conversations are and aren’t fair game in the therapy room. Whether you’re starting therapy for the first time or reevaluating a long-term fit, this conversation will help you trust your instincts and advocate for what you need.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(00:43) What inspired this episode

(01:53) Relationship between therapist and client basics

(04:45) How do we know if a therapist is a good fit for us?

(06:50) What is a ‘therapeutic modality’? What is a ‘manualized treatment’?

(09:36) How do we know if therapy working?

(13:51) How do we give feedback to our therapist?

(17:29) How do we breakup with a therapist?

(19:35) What do we talk about in therapy?

(23:52) What do we do if we don’t have access to therapy?

(26:09) Advice on how to start therapy

(29:22) Outro and credits

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> So... How does that make you feel about your therapist? Elizabeth Kilmer 00:30:38 Ever wondered if your therapist gets you, or if therapy is even working? You’re not alone. This week, Dr. Elizabeth Kilmer is back to unpack the complicated, sometimes confusing, always human relationship between therapist and client (especially when ADHD is in the mix). Host Cate Osborn and Elizabeth dig into how different types of therapy work, how to tell if therapy is actually helping, and what kinds of conversations are and aren’t fair game in the therapy room. Whether you’re starting therapy for the first time or reevaluating a long-term fit, this conversation will help you trust your instincts and advocate for what you need. Ever wondered if your therapist gets you, or if therapy is even working? You’re not alone. This week, Dr. Elizabeth Kilmer is back to unpack the complicated, sometimes confusing, always human relationship between therapist and client (especially when ADHD is in the mix). Host Cate Osborn and Elizabeth dig into how different types of therapy work, how to tell if therapy is actually helping, and what kinds of conversations are and aren’t fair game in the therapy room. Whether you’re starting therapy for the first time or reevaluating a long-term fit, this conversation will help you trust your instincts and advocate for what you need. dr. elizabeth kilmer, adhd podcast, what do i do in therapy, adhd and therapy, cate osborn false full 31 e910a37b-e5a0-4218-9c10-3f7f48767aa1 ADHD and destigmatizing your desires Forget what you’ve seen in movies: BDSM isn’t one-size-fits-all. As Dr. Leann Borneman explains, it’s more of an à la carte menu where consent, communication, and personal boundaries come first. You can take what works for you and leave the rest.

Host Cate Osborn talks with clinical sexologist Dr. Borneman about the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence, and executive function. They explore how some people with ADHD use parts of BDSM, like structure, sensory input, and clearly defined roles. These can help support attention, reduce overwhelm, and build emotional regulation.

Listen as Cate and Leann challenge outdated assumptions, and learn how destigmatizing your desires can help you show up more fully in your life.

Related resources

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(00:48) A comment from Cate on stigma

(02:35) BDSM as a coping strategy, not just a preference

(03:58) Society’s stigma versus the scientific research

(06:37) Pick and choose what works for you, you don’t have to label yourself

(10:53) ADHD and sexuality: Incapability versus lack of access

(13:10) What is causing this lack of access to good sex?

(17:27) Unmasking is key to authenticity and figuring out what you like

(19:11) BDSM creates space for safety through it’s collaborative and consentful nature

(21:54) Leann’s advice for those curious about BDSM and kink

(24:33) Outro and credits

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Leann Borneman) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this Forget what you’ve seen in movies: BDSM isn’t one-size-fits-all. As Dr. Leann Borneman explains, it’s more of an à la carte menu where consent, communication, and personal boundaries come first. You can take what works for you and leave the rest.

Host Cate Osborn talks with clinical sexologist Dr. Borneman about the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence, and executive function. They explore how some people with ADHD use parts of BDSM, like structure, sensory input, and clearly defined roles. These can help support attention, reduce overwhelm, and build emotional regulation.

Listen as Cate and Leann challenge outdated assumptions, and learn how destigmatizing your desires can help you show up more fully in your life.

Related resources

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(00:48) A comment from Cate on stigma

(02:35) BDSM as a coping strategy, not just a preference

(03:58) Society’s stigma versus the scientific research

(06:37) Pick and choose what works for you, you don’t have to label yourself

(10:53) ADHD and sexuality: Incapability versus lack of access

(13:10) What is causing this lack of access to good sex?

(17:27) Unmasking is key to authenticity and figuring out what you like

(19:11) BDSM creates space for safety through it’s collaborative and consentful nature

(21:54) Leann’s advice for those curious about BDSM and kink

(24:33) Outro and credits

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD and destigmatizing your desires Leann Borneman 00:25:53 Forget what you’ve seen in movies: BDSM isn’t one-size-fits-all. As Dr.Leann Borneman explains, it’s more of an à la carte menu where consent, communication, and personal boundaries come first. You can take what works for you and leave the rest. Host Cate Osborn talks with clinical sexologist Dr. Borneman about the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence, and executive function. They explore how some people with ADHD use parts of BDSM, like structure, sensory input, and clearly defined roles. These can help support attention, reduce overwhelm, and build emotional regulation. Listen as Cate and Leann challenge outdated assumptions, and learn how destigmatizing your desires can help you show up more fully in your life. Forget what you’ve seen in movies: BDSM isn’t one-size-fits-all. As Dr.Leann Borneman explains, it’s more of an à la carte menu where consent, communication, and personal boundaries come first. You can take what works for you and leave the rest. Host Cate Osborn talks with clinical sexologist Dr. Borneman about the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence, and executive function. They explore how some people with ADHD use parts of BDSM, like structure, sensory input, and clearly defined roles. These can help support attention, reduce overwhelm, and build emotional regulation. Listen as Cate and Leann challenge outdated assumptions, and learn how destigmatizing your desires can help you show up more fully in your life. adhd and shame, adhd and sex, adhd podcast, bdsm and adhd, dr. leann borneman false full 30 db897f6d-4c62-47ef-974e-ad418d96fab8 ADHD grief isn’t linear — and that’s totally normal Grief can be overwhelming for anyone — but for people with ADHD, it can show up in surprising ways.

Therapist Rachel Hopkins joins host Cate Osborn to unpack the intersection of ADHD and grief. They discuss how time blindness, emotional intensity, and memory challenges can shape the grieving process — and how ADHDers might mourn in nonlinear, unconventional ways. Rachel also offers some insights for anyone struggling to grieve “the right way” while living with a neurodivergent brain.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:48) A word from Cate on ADHD and grief

(03:05) Nonlinear ADHD grief

(06:11) Executive function challenges and grief

(09:34) Emotional regulation and planning immediately following a loss

(11:03) Time perception challenges and processing grief

(15:34) Rejection sensitivity and worrying about others’ judgement of our grieving

(20:19) Balancing distraction and avoidance

(26:24) The importance of acknowledging that your ADHD will affect your grief, and celebrating your wins

(27:29) ADHD and delayed grief reactions

(29:30) Advice for neurotypical people supporting an ADHDer through grief

(30:44) Rachel’s last thoughts and advice for any ADHDer going through grief right now

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 1 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Rachel Hopkins) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-grief-loss Grief can be overwhelming for anyone — but for people with ADHD, it can show up in surprising ways.

Therapist Rachel Hopkins joins host Cate Osborn to unpack the intersection of ADHD and grief. They discuss how time blindness, emotional intensity, and memory challenges can shape the grieving process — and how ADHDers might mourn in nonlinear, unconventional ways. Rachel also offers some insights for anyone struggling to grieve “the right way” while living with a neurodivergent brain.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:48) A word from Cate on ADHD and grief

(03:05) Nonlinear ADHD grief

(06:11) Executive function challenges and grief

(09:34) Emotional regulation and planning immediately following a loss

(11:03) Time perception challenges and processing grief

(15:34) Rejection sensitivity and worrying about others’ judgement of our grieving

(20:19) Balancing distraction and avoidance

(26:24) The importance of acknowledging that your ADHD will affect your grief, and celebrating your wins

(27:29) ADHD and delayed grief reactions

(29:30) Advice for neurotypical people supporting an ADHDer through grief

(30:44) Rachel’s last thoughts and advice for any ADHDer going through grief right now

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD grief isn’t linear — and that’s totally normal Rachel Hopkins 00:34:39 Grief can be overwhelming for anyone — but for people with ADHD, it can show up in surprising ways. Therapist Rachel Hopkins joins host Cate Osborn to unpack the intersection of ADHD and grief. They discuss how time blindness, emotional intensity, and memory challenges can shape the grieving process — and how ADHDers might mourn in nonlinear, unconventional ways. Rachel also offers some insights for anyone struggling to grieve “the right way” while living with a neurodivergent brain. Grief can be overwhelming for anyone — but for people with ADHD, it can show up in surprising ways. Therapist Rachel Hopkins joins host Cate Osborn to unpack the intersection of ADHD and grief. They discuss how time blindness, emotional intensity, and memory challenges can shape the grieving process — and how ADHDers might mourn in nonlinear, unconventional ways. Rachel also offers some insights for anyone struggling to grieve “the right way” while living with a neurodivergent brain. neurodivergent brains and loss, death and adhd, adhd podcast, adhd and bereavement, adhd and grief false full 29 e2ef1a50-6026-4c63-abce-03484ad431d4 How hormones hijack focus, mood, and energy ADHD in women is often misunderstood, even by ourselves — and hormones are a big part of the story. 

This week, host Cate Osborn chats with psychiatrist and researcher Dr. Lotta Borg Skoglund about how hormone cycles affect ADHD in women. From PMS to perimenopause, we explore how shifting hormones can change how ADHD shows up — and how that impacts mood, focus, and relationships.

Dr. Borg Skoglund shares what the research says, what often gets overlooked in diagnosis and treatment, and how understanding the patterns in your cycle can make everyday life a little easier.

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:42) The changes in hormones during the menstrual cycle, and how they can affect ADHD symptoms

(04:57) ADHD symptoms across hormonal life milestones like puberty, pregnancy, and menopause

(10:21) The formation of Lotta’s research group GODDESS ADHD

(14:25) The importance of this overdue research, and the constant dismissal of women’s hormonal challenges

(17:12) Mapping your cycle to help understand your ADHD symptom fluctuations

(21:10) How do we track these things if our cycles are non-traditional?

(24:06) How do hormones connect to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 17 Jun 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Lotta Borg Skoglund) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/how-hormones-hijack-focus-mood-and-energy ADHD in women is often misunderstood, even by ourselves — and hormones are a big part of the story. 

This week, host Cate Osborn chats with psychiatrist and researcher Dr. Lotta Borg Skoglund about how hormone cycles affect ADHD in women. From PMS to perimenopause, we explore how shifting hormones can change how ADHD shows up — and how that impacts mood, focus, and relationships.

Dr. Borg Skoglund shares what the research says, what often gets overlooked in diagnosis and treatment, and how understanding the patterns in your cycle can make everyday life a little easier.

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:42) The changes in hormones during the menstrual cycle, and how they can affect ADHD symptoms

(04:57) ADHD symptoms across hormonal life milestones like puberty, pregnancy, and menopause

(10:21) The formation of Lotta’s research group GODDESS ADHD

(14:25) The importance of this overdue research, and the constant dismissal of women’s hormonal challenges

(17:12) Mapping your cycle to help understand your ADHD symptom fluctuations

(21:10) How do we track these things if our cycles are non-traditional?

(24:06) How do hormones connect to Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> How hormones hijack focus, mood, and energy Lotta Borg Skoglund 00:28:23 ADHD in women is often misunderstood, even by ourselves — and hormones are a big part of the story. This week, host Cate Osborn chats with psychiatrist and researcher Dr. Lotta Borg Skoglund about how hormone cycles affect ADHD in women. From PMS to perimenopause, we explore how shifting hormones can change how ADHD shows up — and how that impacts mood, focus, and relationships. Dr. Borg Skoglund shares what the research says, what often gets overlooked in diagnosis and treatment, and how understanding the patterns in your cycle can make everyday life a little easier. ADHD in women is often misunderstood, even by ourselves — and hormones are a big part of the story. This week, host Cate Osborn chats with psychiatrist and researcher Dr. Lotta Borg Skoglund about how hormone cycles affect ADHD in women. From PMS to perimenopause, we explore how shifting hormones can change how ADHD shows up — and how that impacts mood, focus, and relationships. Dr. Borg Skoglund shares what the research says, what often gets overlooked in diagnosis and treatment, and how understanding the patterns in your cycle can make everyday life a little easier. adhd hormone research, adhd women, adhd podcast, dr. lotta borg skoglund, adhd and the menstrual cycle false full 28 0278eccd-4dca-485f-b8f0-ef8c1f5b27a4 Too much or not enough: ADHD sensory challenges and sex If sex sometimes feels confusing, overstimulating, or just... a lot, you’re not alone. ADHD and sensory issues can show up during sex and in our physical relationships. 

This week, psychologist Dr. Lyne Piché joins us to discuss how ADHD and sensory challenges can shape our sex lives, and how to talk about it. From touch sensitivity to struggling to focus, we dive into why things might feel like “too much” one minute and “not enough” the next—and how to figure it all out.

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Timestamps

(2:07) What is a sensory issue? 

(05:16) How do we build awareness and language about our sensory issues in the bedroom? 

(09:45) How do we tell the difference between sensory overload and just not being in the mood for sex? 

(12:15) The importance of trust in your partner, and not “enduring” something just for someone else

(15:22) How kink can help with sensory issues in sex

(16:42) Letting go of the shame over not liking the things that you’re “supposed” to like

(19:07) How can we talk to our partners about our sensory needs if we’re scared of hurting their feelings or disappointing them?

(22:47) Building “yes” spaces and talking to our partners about our sexy sensory dos and don’ts—without feeling unsexy

(27:44) Trying things out more than once to determine whether it’s a sensory issue or a preference

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 3 Jun 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/too-much-or-not-enough-adhd-sensory-challenges-and-sex If sex sometimes feels confusing, overstimulating, or just... a lot, you’re not alone. ADHD and sensory issues can show up during sex and in our physical relationships. 

This week, psychologist Dr. Lyne Piché joins us to discuss how ADHD and sensory challenges can shape our sex lives, and how to talk about it. From touch sensitivity to struggling to focus, we dive into why things might feel like “too much” one minute and “not enough” the next—and how to figure it all out.

Related resources

Timestamps

(2:07) What is a sensory issue? 

(05:16) How do we build awareness and language about our sensory issues in the bedroom? 

(09:45) How do we tell the difference between sensory overload and just not being in the mood for sex? 

(12:15) The importance of trust in your partner, and not “enduring” something just for someone else

(15:22) How kink can help with sensory issues in sex

(16:42) Letting go of the shame over not liking the things that you’re “supposed” to like

(19:07) How can we talk to our partners about our sensory needs if we’re scared of hurting their feelings or disappointing them?

(22:47) Building “yes” spaces and talking to our partners about our sexy sensory dos and don’ts—without feeling unsexy

(27:44) Trying things out more than once to determine whether it’s a sensory issue or a preference

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Too much or not enough: ADHD sensory challenges and sex Understood.org 00:30:45 If sex sometimes feels confusing, overstimulating, or just... a lot, you’re not alone. ADHD and sensory issues can show up during sex and in our physical relationships.  This week, psychologist Dr. Lyne Piché joins us to discuss how ADHD and sensory challenges can shape our sex lives, and how to talk about it. From touch sensitivity to struggling to focus, we dive into why things might feel like “too much” one minute and “not enough” the next—and how to figure it all out. If sex sometimes feels confusing, overstimulating, or just... a lot, you’re not alone. ADHD and sensory issues can show up during sex and in our physical relationships.  This week, psychologist Dr. Lyne Piché joins us to discuss how ADHD and sensory challenges can shape our sex lives, and how to talk about it. From touch sensitivity to struggling to focus, we dive into why things might feel like “too much” one minute and “not enough” the next—and how to figure it all out. dr. lyne piché, adhd sex and sensory challenges, adhd podcast, cate osborn, adhd and sensory overload false full 27 4975ab15-f3f5-499e-9b63-4c0097cb830a ADHD and caregiving: Helping others when you’re struggling Being a caregiver to a friend or loved one is hard—add ADHD to the mix, and it’s a whole different challenge.

Self-care and ADHD Coach Stephanie Antoine joins us to talk about what it’s like caring for our loved ones while managing executive dysfunction, burnout, and more. She also offers a few mindfulness practices to help us recenter when the stress feels like too much. If you’ve ever struggled to care for someone else while trying to keep yourself afloat, this one’s for you.

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Timestamps

(02:59) Why did Stephanie start helping others in caregiving roles?

(04:52) Executive function and caregiving, and beating yourself up

(07:51) How do we manage big feelings like frustration and resentment while caregiving?

(12:33) Perfectionism and caregiving

(17:14) The one thing Stephanie wants you to hear today

(19:09) A short guided meditation exercise from Stephanie

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 20 May 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-caregiving-loved-ones Being a caregiver to a friend or loved one is hard—add ADHD to the mix, and it’s a whole different challenge.

Self-care and ADHD Coach Stephanie Antoine joins us to talk about what it’s like caring for our loved ones while managing executive dysfunction, burnout, and more. She also offers a few mindfulness practices to help us recenter when the stress feels like too much. If you’ve ever struggled to care for someone else while trying to keep yourself afloat, this one’s for you.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:59) Why did Stephanie start helping others in caregiving roles?

(04:52) Executive function and caregiving, and beating yourself up

(07:51) How do we manage big feelings like frustration and resentment while caregiving?

(12:33) Perfectionism and caregiving

(17:14) The one thing Stephanie wants you to hear today

(19:09) A short guided meditation exercise from Stephanie

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD and caregiving: Helping others when you’re struggling Understood.org 00:23:25 Being a caregiver to a friend or loved one is hard—add ADHD to the mix, and it’s a whole different challenge. Self-care and ADHD Coach Stephanie Antoine joins us to talk about what it’s like caring for our loved ones while managing executive dysfunction, burnout, and more. She also offers a few mindfulness practices to help us recenter when the stress feels like too much. If you’ve ever struggled to care for someone else while trying to keep yourself afloat, this one’s for you. Being a caregiver to a friend or loved one is hard—add ADHD to the mix, and it’s a whole different challenge. Self-care and ADHD Coach Stephanie Antoine joins us to talk about what it’s like caring for our loved ones while managing executive dysfunction, burnout, and more. She also offers a few mindfulness practices to help us recenter when the stress feels like too much. If you’ve ever struggled to care for someone else while trying to keep yourself afloat, this one’s for you. adhd burnout, adhd podcast, adhd and caregiving, cate osborn, stephanie antoine false full 26 0c4eedcf-799e-4af7-8563-aad98c49123f Kink, BDSM, and ADHD Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.

ADHD and kink might seem like an unexpected pairing, but for a lot of people, they go hand in hand. From rituals that help with focus to play that taps into the need for stimulation, BDSM can be more than just fun — it can be a real tool for regulation and connection.

In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with author and forensic sexologist Stefani Goerlich about how BDSM can actually support ADHD brains by offering structure, sensory input, and clear communication. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:46) The broad umbrella of ‘kink’

(04:16) Focusing on BDSM in particular, and breaking down the acronym

(08:38) Kink is always relational, only sometimes sexual

(09:48) Why might someone gravitate towards kink/BDSM?

(12:30) Common kink myths

(15:44) Power exchange, and consent as foreplay

(16:32) The benefits of BDSM/kink

(18:24) How kink can help with claiming agency

(21:10) How negotiated arrangements can take some of the strain off executive function challenges

(23:39) What to do when one partner is kinky, and one is not so much

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 6 May 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/kink-bdsm-adhd Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.

ADHD and kink might seem like an unexpected pairing, but for a lot of people, they go hand in hand. From rituals that help with focus to play that taps into the need for stimulation, BDSM can be more than just fun — it can be a real tool for regulation and connection.

In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with author and forensic sexologist Stefani Goerlich about how BDSM can actually support ADHD brains by offering structure, sensory input, and clear communication. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:46) The broad umbrella of ‘kink’

(04:16) Focusing on BDSM in particular, and breaking down the acronym

(08:38) Kink is always relational, only sometimes sexual

(09:48) Why might someone gravitate towards kink/BDSM?

(12:30) Common kink myths

(15:44) Power exchange, and consent as foreplay

(16:32) The benefits of BDSM/kink

(18:24) How kink can help with claiming agency

(21:10) How negotiated arrangements can take some of the strain off executive function challenges

(23:39) What to do when one partner is kinky, and one is not so much

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Kink, BDSM, and ADHD Understood.org 00:29:15 ADHD and kink might seem like an unexpected pairing, but for a lot of people, they go hand in hand. From rituals that help with focus to play that taps into the need for stimulation, BDSM can be more than just fun — it can be a real tool for regulation and connection. In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with author and forensic sexologist Stefani Goerlich about how BDSM can actually support ADHD brains by offering structure, sensory input, and clear communication. ADHD and kink might seem like an unexpected pairing, but for a lot of people, they go hand in hand. From rituals that help with focus to play that taps into the need for stimulation, BDSM can be more than just fun — it can be a real tool for regulation and connection. In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with author and forensic sexologist Stefani Goerlich about how BDSM can actually support ADHD brains by offering structure, sensory input, and clear communication. false full 25 578cfae8-8fdd-4052-9367-343c1d3e9d19 Online dating with ADHD In theory, online dating can feel like an easy, low-stakes solution to meeting people. But in practice, there are a few pitfalls that many fall into. With ADHD, dating apps can pose even more challenges and be an additional drag on your attention. 

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard visits the show to talk about what she’s noticed while working with ADHDers on online dating. Join this conversation on the dopamine chase that can happen while using dating apps, and setting boundaries with yourself. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:58) ADHD and online dating challenges

(09:17) Hyperfocusing on dating, and how to slow down

(11:41) “Marketing yourself” on online dating, and how to show the whole picture of who you are

(14:01) Figure out your “filter” for online matches, and include offline dating in addition to online

(17:03) Snap judgements, biases, and discrimination

(19:02) Feeling overwhelmed? Do what feels best for you

(20:02) ADHD disclosure on dating profiles

(22:42) Best practices for ADHDers to build meaningful relationships

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 22 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/online-dating-with-adhd In theory, online dating can feel like an easy, low-stakes solution to meeting people. But in practice, there are a few pitfalls that many fall into. With ADHD, dating apps can pose even more challenges and be an additional drag on your attention. 

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard visits the show to talk about what she’s noticed while working with ADHDers on online dating. Join this conversation on the dopamine chase that can happen while using dating apps, and setting boundaries with yourself. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:58) ADHD and online dating challenges

(09:17) Hyperfocusing on dating, and how to slow down

(11:41) “Marketing yourself” on online dating, and how to show the whole picture of who you are

(14:01) Figure out your “filter” for online matches, and include offline dating in addition to online

(17:03) Snap judgements, biases, and discrimination

(19:02) Feeling overwhelmed? Do what feels best for you

(20:02) ADHD disclosure on dating profiles

(22:42) Best practices for ADHDers to build meaningful relationships

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org. 

We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Online dating with ADHD Understood.org 00:27:47 In theory, online dating can feel like an easy, low-stakes solution to meeting people. But in practice, there are a few pitfalls that many fall into. With ADHD, dating apps can pose even more challenges and be an additional drag on your attention.  Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard visits the show to talk about what she’s noticed while working with ADHDers on online dating. Join this conversation on the dopamine chase that can happen while using dating apps, and setting boundaries with yourself.  In theory, online dating can feel like an easy, low-stakes solution to meeting people. But in practice, there are a few pitfalls that many fall into. With ADHD, dating apps can pose even more challenges and be an additional drag on your attention.  Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard visits the show to talk about what she’s noticed while working with ADHDers on online dating. Join this conversation on the dopamine chase that can happen while using dating apps, and setting boundaries with yourself.  false full 24 1b8ca028-3d9a-4b7e-97e1-bd70a5ea7409 Reddit reactions: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence Are ADHD and cheating related? What about weaponized incompetence and ADHD? These are a few questions that surround the ADHD community.

Producer Margie visits the podcast for another round of ‘Reddit reactions’ with more posts from the ADHD women subreddit. Listen for host Cate Osborn’s reactions on a few different scenarios related to cheating and weaponized incompetence.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:00) Post #1 “ADHD and cheating/Adrenaline and dopamine”

(09:24) Post #2 “Narcissist cheater and ADHD”

(15:30) Post #3 “Does anyone else sometimes identify with those ‘weaponized incompetence’ guys you hear about?”

(21:22) Post #4 “I’m so tired of trying to compensate for myself AND my partner”

(27:51) ADHD can be challenging, and you’re not alone

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 8 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Margie DeSantis) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/reddit-adhd-cheating-weaponized-incompetence Are ADHD and cheating related? What about weaponized incompetence and ADHD? These are a few questions that surround the ADHD community.

Producer Margie visits the podcast for another round of ‘Reddit reactions’ with more posts from the ADHD women subreddit. Listen for host Cate Osborn’s reactions on a few different scenarios related to cheating and weaponized incompetence.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:00) Post #1 “ADHD and cheating/Adrenaline and dopamine”

(09:24) Post #2 “Narcissist cheater and ADHD”

(15:30) Post #3 “Does anyone else sometimes identify with those ‘weaponized incompetence’ guys you hear about?”

(21:22) Post #4 “I’m so tired of trying to compensate for myself AND my partner”

(27:51) ADHD can be challenging, and you’re not alone

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Reddit reactions: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence Margie DeSantis 00:30:47 Are ADHD and cheating related? What about weaponized incompetence and ADHD? These are a few questions that surround the ADHD community. Producer Margie visits the podcast for another round of ‘Reddit reactions’ with more posts from the ADHD women subreddit. Listen for host Cate Osborn’s reactions on a few different scenarios related to cheating and weaponized incompetence. Are ADHD and cheating related? What about weaponized incompetence and ADHD? These are a few questions that surround the ADHD community. Producer Margie visits the podcast for another round of ‘Reddit reactions’ with more posts from the ADHD women subreddit. Listen for host Cate Osborn’s reactions on a few different scenarios related to cheating and weaponized incompetence. adhd and weaponized incompetence, adhd podcast, adhd reddit reactions, adhd and cheating, adhd in women subreddit false full 23 6cdccf44-4112-444b-a7d8-f3a8cb3aa911 What makes a ‘good listener’ with ADHD? People with ADHD can often get a bad rap for being “bad listeners.” So, instead of actually listening, we’re often focusing on: Do they know I'm listening? Am I making enough eye contact? Do I look engaged?

Host Cate Osborn chats with Understood.org Vice President of Expertise and licensed therapist Sarah Greenberg about  the listening strengths and weaknesses that can come with ADHD. They also unpack different modes of listening like listening to understand, listening to solve, and listening to connect.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:41) Feeling self-conscious about our ability to listen with ADHD

(05:56) Different modes of listening

(07:40) Figuring out our listening strengths and weaknesses

(14:32) Anecdotal communication

(16:48) Asking what a person needs out of a conversation

(21:47) What can we do?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 25 Mar 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/what-makes-a-good-listener-with-adhd People with ADHD can often get a bad rap for being “bad listeners.” So, instead of actually listening, we’re often focusing on: Do they know I'm listening? Am I making enough eye contact? Do I look engaged?

Host Cate Osborn chats with Understood.org Vice President of Expertise and licensed therapist Sarah Greenberg about  the listening strengths and weaknesses that can come with ADHD. They also unpack different modes of listening like listening to understand, listening to solve, and listening to connect.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:41) Feeling self-conscious about our ability to listen with ADHD

(05:56) Different modes of listening

(07:40) Figuring out our listening strengths and weaknesses

(14:32) Anecdotal communication

(16:48) Asking what a person needs out of a conversation

(21:47) What can we do?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> What makes a ‘good listener’ with ADHD? Understood.org 00:27:24 People with ADHD can often get a bad rap for being “bad listeners.” So, instead of actually listening, we’re often focusing on: Am I making enough eye contact? Do I look engaged? Host Cate Osborn chats with Understood.org Vice President of Expertise and licensed therapist Sarah Greenberg about the listening strengths and weaknesses that can come with ADHD. They also unpack different modes of listening like listening to understand, listening to solve, and listening to connect. People with ADHD can often get a bad rap for being “bad listeners.” So, instead of actually listening, we’re often focusing on: Am I making enough eye contact? Do I look engaged? Host Cate Osborn chats with Understood.org Vice President of Expertise and licensed therapist Sarah Greenberg about the listening strengths and weaknesses that can come with ADHD. They also unpack different modes of listening like listening to understand, listening to solve, and listening to connect. adhd and social cues, adhd podcast, adhd and anecdotal communication, adhd and listening, why are people with adhd bad at listening? false full 22 ab45b847-4858-499e-89e6-5378f345c74e Building ADHD community Without community, ADHD can feel isolating and shameful. Like you’re the only one facing these challenges and “can’t get it together.” Community provides a space to share the wins and the embarrassing moments. And it can be especially helpful for women processing late diagnoses.

Host of the ADHDAF podcast and UK ADHD community builder, Laura Mears-Reynolds, visits the show to talk about how sharing experiences with others can ease shame, and create support. 

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Timestamps

(00:57) How do we find value in a community with ADHD?

(03:58) How did Laura get started building the ADHDAF community?

(09:39) Feeling alone in what you’re facing without community

(14:36) Being compassionate with others helps us be compassionate with ourselves

(18:14) Feeling isolated with ADHD

(19:56) How do I find community? How do I build it myself?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 11 Mar 2025 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Laura Mears Reynolds) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/building-adhd-community Without community, ADHD can feel isolating and shameful. Like you’re the only one facing these challenges and “can’t get it together.” Community provides a space to share the wins and the embarrassing moments. And it can be especially helpful for women processing late diagnoses.

Host of the ADHDAF podcast and UK ADHD community builder, Laura Mears-Reynolds, visits the show to talk about how sharing experiences with others can ease shame, and create support. 

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Timestamps

(00:57) How do we find value in a community with ADHD?

(03:58) How did Laura get started building the ADHDAF community?

(09:39) Feeling alone in what you’re facing without community

(14:36) Being compassionate with others helps us be compassionate with ourselves

(18:14) Feeling isolated with ADHD

(19:56) How do I find community? How do I build it myself?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Building ADHD community Laura Mears Reynolds 00:27:04 Without community, ADHD can feel isolating and shameful. Like you’re the only one facing these challenges and “can’t get it together.” Community provides a space to share the wins and the embarrassing moments. And it can be especially helpful for women processing late diagnoses. Host of the ADHDAF podcast and UK ADHD community builder, Laura Mears-Reynolds, visits the show to talk about how sharing experiences with others can ease shame, and create support.  Without community, ADHD can feel isolating and shameful. Like you’re the only one facing these challenges and “can’t get it together.” Community provides a space to share the wins and the embarrassing moments. And it can be especially helpful for women processing late diagnoses. Host of the ADHDAF podcast and UK ADHD community builder, Laura Mears-Reynolds, visits the show to talk about how sharing experiences with others can ease shame, and create support.  adhd podcast, laura mears-reynolds, adhd af podcast, cate osborn, adhd community false full 21 6793e052-e315-43b3-9ad1-ba5417d8b3fc The ADHD shame spiral from making mistakes in relationships A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.

Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the MissUnderstood podcast channel, Tips from an ADHD Coach. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:41) Being scared of making mistakes or showing ADHD traits

(04:38) “Reversing the train” instead of spiraling when someone brings up a mistake we’ve made

(08:23) Slipping into the shame spiral easily

(11:28) Directly addressing the damage caused by your actions, intentional or not

(15:51) The element of repair

(16:30) Perfectionism and internalized judgement

(20:28) Rejection sensitivity and how we react to things

(23:19) The “scary moment” when someone brings up your mistake

(25:55) Jaye’s last piece of advice

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 25 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Jaye Lin, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-shame-making-mistakes A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.

Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the MissUnderstood podcast channel, Tips from an ADHD Coach. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:41) Being scared of making mistakes or showing ADHD traits

(04:38) “Reversing the train” instead of spiraling when someone brings up a mistake we’ve made

(08:23) Slipping into the shame spiral easily

(11:28) Directly addressing the damage caused by your actions, intentional or not

(15:51) The element of repair

(16:30) Perfectionism and internalized judgement

(20:28) Rejection sensitivity and how we react to things

(23:19) The “scary moment” when someone brings up your mistake

(25:55) Jaye’s last piece of advice

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> The ADHD shame spiral from making mistakes in relationships Jaye Lin, Cate Osborn 00:27:56 A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond. Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the “MissUnderstood” podcast channel, “Tips from an ADHD Coach.”  A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond. Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the “MissUnderstood” podcast channel, “Tips from an ADHD Coach.”  adhd coach, adhd and relationships, missunderstood: the podcast channel, jaye lin, making mistakes false full 20 48373f9e-1746-4e6c-9e13-38a7e8ac66f5 Navigating emotional intimacy with ADHD Emotional intimacy is about sharing an emotional connection and presence with yourself and other people. But a lot of ADHD traits, and lived experiences, can get in the way. This could be due to trouble with emotional regulation, the emotional labor it takes to feel believed, masking, and more.

Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist and the co-author of A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD. Listen to this conversation exploring how shame can be a roadblock to emotional intimacy, and how this intimacy can look different within every relationship.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:46) What is emotional intimacy?

(04:14) Barriers to emotional intimacy with ADHD

(09:33) Shame and ADHD

(15:29) What steps can we take to build emotional intimacy?

(17:28) Sitting in uncomfortable feelings, and rejection sensitivity

(20:48) People pleasing versus building authentic connections

(22:36) What about when we’re in a relationship without emotional intimacy?

(28:41) Where can you find Michelle? 

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 11 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Michelle Frank, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/emotional-intimacy-adhd Emotional intimacy is about sharing an emotional connection and presence with yourself and other people. But a lot of ADHD traits, and lived experiences, can get in the way. This could be due to trouble with emotional regulation, the emotional labor it takes to feel believed, masking, and more.

Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist and the co-author of A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD. Listen to this conversation exploring how shame can be a roadblock to emotional intimacy, and how this intimacy can look different within every relationship.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:46) What is emotional intimacy?

(04:14) Barriers to emotional intimacy with ADHD

(09:33) Shame and ADHD

(15:29) What steps can we take to build emotional intimacy?

(17:28) Sitting in uncomfortable feelings, and rejection sensitivity

(20:48) People pleasing versus building authentic connections

(22:36) What about when we’re in a relationship without emotional intimacy?

(28:41) Where can you find Michelle? 

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Navigating emotional intimacy with ADHD Michelle Frank, Cate Osborn 00:31:45 Emotional intimacy is about sharing an emotional connection and presence with yourself and other people. But a lot of ADHD traits, and lived experiences, can get in the way. This could be due to trouble with emotional regulation, the emotional labor it takes to feel believed, masking, and more. Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist and the co-author of “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD.” Listen to this conversation exploring how shame can be a roadblock to emotional intimacy, and how this intimacy can look different within every relationship. Emotional intimacy is about sharing an emotional connection and presence with yourself and other people. But a lot of ADHD traits, and lived experiences, can get in the way. This could be due to trouble with emotional regulation, the emotional labor it takes to feel believed, masking, and more. Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist and the co-author of “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD.” Listen to this conversation exploring how shame can be a roadblock to emotional intimacy, and how this intimacy can look different within every relationship. adhd and shame, adhd and emotional labor, emotional intimacy and adhd, michelle frank, a radical guide for women with adhd false full 19 45382f28-b84a-4907-b8fb-b4708becc2f9 Help! I’m in a parentified relationship! Romantic partners often support and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you?

Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) visits the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:03) What is a parentified relationship?

(05:37) When an ADHD partner is the “parent” in the relationship or takes on too much responsibility

(07:33) Are parentified relationships typically gendered?

(08:48) Fairness versus equity in relationships

(11:44) Weaponized incompetence

(14:49) What happens to a relationship when it’s parentified for too long?

(17:19) Notice, shift, repair

(18:45) What to do when you notice yourself taking on too much responsibility for your partner

(21:08) People pleasing, and the need to fix things

(22:46) How to ask the right questions to your partner

(24:07) Noticing your ADHD at play, and using it as an explanation, not an excuse

(28:02) Setting an example as a parent to kids

(32:24) Lesley’s parting advice

(33:00) Where you can find Lesley and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 28 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Lesley Cook, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/parentified-romantic-relationships-adhd Romantic partners often support and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you?

Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) visits the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:03) What is a parentified relationship?

(05:37) When an ADHD partner is the “parent” in the relationship or takes on too much responsibility

(07:33) Are parentified relationships typically gendered?

(08:48) Fairness versus equity in relationships

(11:44) Weaponized incompetence

(14:49) What happens to a relationship when it’s parentified for too long?

(17:19) Notice, shift, repair

(18:45) What to do when you notice yourself taking on too much responsibility for your partner

(21:08) People pleasing, and the need to fix things

(22:46) How to ask the right questions to your partner

(24:07) Noticing your ADHD at play, and using it as an explanation, not an excuse

(28:02) Setting an example as a parent to kids

(32:24) Lesley’s parting advice

(33:00) Where you can find Lesley and credits

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Help! I’m in a parentified relationship! Lesley Cook, Cate Osborn 00:34:49 Romantic partners often support and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you? Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) visits the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed.  Romantic partners often support and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you? Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) visits the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed.  adhd and parentified relationships, lesley cook, lesleypsyd, is my relationship parentified?, feeling like a parent to my partner false full 18 28f078f2-ca3f-4bd0-9ee2-a98f341f3706 Consensual non-monogamy and ADHD relationships Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They’re the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous!

Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients). Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:55) Why learn about consensual non-monogamy?

(04:04) What is consensual non-monogamy?

(05:36) What is the biggest misconception about non-monogamy?

(08:40) Building a relationship that works for you, not just what you see in the media

(11:46) Viewing non-monogamy as an option in life

(15:42) Moving toward consensual non-monogamy in a relational way

(21:03) How would you start a conversation about opening your currently monogamous relationship?

(24:20) Tips for working through jealousy 

(25:35) What is compersion?

(30:13) It’s OK if non-monogamy isn’t for you! 

(32:10) Where can you find Martha? 

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 14 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/consensual-non-monogamy-relationships-adhd Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They’re the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous!

Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients). Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:55) Why learn about consensual non-monogamy?

(04:04) What is consensual non-monogamy?

(05:36) What is the biggest misconception about non-monogamy?

(08:40) Building a relationship that works for you, not just what you see in the media

(11:46) Viewing non-monogamy as an option in life

(15:42) Moving toward consensual non-monogamy in a relational way

(21:03) How would you start a conversation about opening your currently monogamous relationship?

(24:20) Tips for working through jealousy 

(25:35) What is compersion?

(30:13) It’s OK if non-monogamy isn’t for you! 

(32:10) Where can you find Martha? 

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Consensual non-monogamy and ADHD relationships Understood.org 00:34:45 Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They’re the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous! Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book “Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients).” Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is. Monogamous romantic relationships have been seen as the norm for a long time. They’re the kind most commonly represented in the media, often as the only “right” kind of relationship. However, open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-monogamous relationships are more common than you might think. People with ADHD often find ways of living life outside of the typical standard. This could include being non-monogamous! Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She is the author of the book “Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (And Their Clients).” Listen to this conversation on jealousy, reaching agreements with your partner, and what consensual non-monogamy really is. polyamory and adhd, polyamory: a clinical toolkit for therapists (and their clients), martha kauppi, open relationships and adhd, consensual non-monogamy and adhd false full 17 29afa3bd-e272-4399-af01-981f7c35b3e4 ADHD and: Rejection sensitivity (From the “ADHD and” podcast) This week, host Cate Osborn shares an episode from ADHD and, another podcast on the MissUnderstood podcast channel.  

Imagine receiving a “no” to an idea you’ve shared in a meeting. Instead of brushing it off, you become overwhelmed with thoughts of self-doubt and a deep sense of rejection.  

This intense emotional reaction is known as rejection sensitivity. And many women with ADHD experience it. In this episode, Dr. J explains how ADHD can amplify fears of rejection. Listen in to learn strategies women with ADHD can use to navigate these feelings.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction from Cate

(01:43) Start of ADHD and episode

(02:32) What is rejection sensitivity?

(04:33) How can rejection sensitivity impact women with ADHD?

(05:14) Helpful ways to manage rejection

(06:31) What is cognitive reframing?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the MissUnderstood page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 31 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this This week, host Cate Osborn shares an episode from ADHD and, another podcast on the MissUnderstood podcast channel.  

Imagine receiving a “no” to an idea you’ve shared in a meeting. Instead of brushing it off, you become overwhelmed with thoughts of self-doubt and a deep sense of rejection.  

This intense emotional reaction is known as rejection sensitivity. And many women with ADHD experience it. In this episode, Dr. J explains how ADHD can amplify fears of rejection. Listen in to learn strategies women with ADHD can use to navigate these feelings.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction from Cate

(01:43) Start of ADHD and episode

(02:32) What is rejection sensitivity?

(04:33) How can rejection sensitivity impact women with ADHD?

(05:14) Helpful ways to manage rejection

(06:31) What is cognitive reframing?

For a transcript and more resources, visit the MissUnderstood page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD and: Rejection sensitivity (From the “ADHD and” podcast) Understood.org 00:11:07 This week, host Cate Osborn shares an episode from “ADHD and,” another podcast on the MissUnderstood podcast channel. Imagine receiving a “no” to an idea you’ve shared in a meeting. Instead of brushing it off, you become overwhelmed with thoughts of self-doubt and a deep sense of rejection. This intense emotional reaction is known as rejection sensitivity. And many women with ADHD experience it. In this episode, Dr. J explains how ADHD can amplify fears of rejection. Listen in to learn strategies women with ADHD can use to navigate these feelings. This week, host Cate Osborn shares an episode from “ADHD and,” another podcast on the MissUnderstood podcast channel. Imagine receiving a “no” to an idea you’ve shared in a meeting. Instead of brushing it off, you become overwhelmed with thoughts of self-doubt and a deep sense of rejection. This intense emotional reaction is known as rejection sensitivity. And many women with ADHD experience it. In this episode, Dr. J explains how ADHD can amplify fears of rejection. Listen in to learn strategies women with ADHD can use to navigate these feelings. adhd and women, reframing rejection, adhd women podcast, adhd and rejection sensitivity, adhd and rsd false full 16 dfeedea1-0f3f-4439-8587-6cbc3c275251 Reddit reactions: ADHD and romantic relationships! Have you ever been called a “manic pixie dream girl” by someone you were dating? Is it hard to remember your partner when they’re not with you? ADHD can bring its own set of challenges to dating, and romantic relationships.

Producer Margie visits the podcast to share what she’s found on the ADHD Women subreddit, where women with ADHD ask questions and share their challenges and wins. Listen for Cate’s reactions and a chat about common romantic dilemmas for women with ADHD!

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Women with ADHD communities, and common dating tropes

(03:46) Post #1 “I was too much for him”

(06:37) Post #2 “I did 12 loads of laundry to avoid writing a dating profile”

(11:56) Post #3 “Anyone else chronically feel like they’re not in a place where they’re ready to date?”

(16:27) Post #4 “Having ADHD as a woman and still having to carry the mental load”

(22:20) Post #5 “The ADHD struggle of falling in love after every good date”

(27:04) Post #6 “Does anyone else struggle with accidentally ignoring their partner or friends?”

(34:28) Talking about what gives us shame helps everyone

For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 17 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-women-relationships-reddit-reactions Have you ever been called a “manic pixie dream girl” by someone you were dating? Is it hard to remember your partner when they’re not with you? ADHD can bring its own set of challenges to dating, and romantic relationships.

Producer Margie visits the podcast to share what she’s found on the ADHD Women subreddit, where women with ADHD ask questions and share their challenges and wins. Listen for Cate’s reactions and a chat about common romantic dilemmas for women with ADHD!

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Women with ADHD communities, and common dating tropes

(03:46) Post #1 “I was too much for him”

(06:37) Post #2 “I did 12 loads of laundry to avoid writing a dating profile”

(11:56) Post #3 “Anyone else chronically feel like they’re not in a place where they’re ready to date?”

(16:27) Post #4 “Having ADHD as a woman and still having to carry the mental load”

(22:20) Post #5 “The ADHD struggle of falling in love after every good date”

(27:04) Post #6 “Does anyone else struggle with accidentally ignoring their partner or friends?”

(34:28) Talking about what gives us shame helps everyone

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Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Reddit reactions: ADHD and romantic relationships! Understood.org 00:37:29 Have you ever been called a “manic pixie dream girl” by someone you were dating? Is it hard to remember your partner when they’re not with you? ADHD can bring its own set of challenges to dating, and romantic relationships. Producer Margie visits the podcast to share what she’s found on the ADHD Women subreddit, where women with ADHD ask questions and share their challenges and wins. Listen for Cate’s reactions and a chat about common romantic dilemmas for women with ADHD! Have you ever been called a “manic pixie dream girl” by someone you were dating? Is it hard to remember your partner when they’re not with you? ADHD can bring its own set of challenges to dating, and romantic relationships. Producer Margie visits the podcast to share what she’s found on the ADHD Women subreddit, where women with ADHD ask questions and share their challenges and wins. Listen for Cate’s reactions and a chat about common romantic dilemmas for women with ADHD! adhd and dating, adhd manic pixie dream girl, adhd and being too much, reddit reactions, adhd women subreddit false full 15 4591ff62-4a17-4e6c-a39a-7cbf41e2dbc9 Oh, Baby! It’s an ADHD pregnancy! ADHD can impact pregnancy in a number of ways: Higher rate of postpartum depression, hormone surges that affect the brain’s functioning, increased demands on our executive function, and so much more. 

Our guest this week, Dusty Chipura, is an ADHD and pregnancy expert, ADHD coach, and doula in training. Dusty takes us through pregnancy with ADHD, what you might expect, and what conversations are important to have with your support network ahead of welcoming a baby. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:27) Some ways ADHD affects pregnancy

(02:25) How did Dusty become an expert in ADHD and pregnancy?

(04:21) First trimester/early pregnancy and ADHD

(05:57) Sensory sensitivities and pregnancy

(08:44) Second trimester

(13:23) What conversations should we be having with our support system during this time?

(17:20) Third trimester

(20:04) What happens after the baby is born?

(22:33) ADHD and the postpartum period

(25:55) Best practices and tools

(28:41) Dusty’s top tips

(30:35) Dealing with parental guilt

(31:59) Where you can find Dusty

For a transcript and more resources visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 3 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Dusty Chipura, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-and-pregnancy ADHD can impact pregnancy in a number of ways: Higher rate of postpartum depression, hormone surges that affect the brain’s functioning, increased demands on our executive function, and so much more. 

Our guest this week, Dusty Chipura, is an ADHD and pregnancy expert, ADHD coach, and doula in training. Dusty takes us through pregnancy with ADHD, what you might expect, and what conversations are important to have with your support network ahead of welcoming a baby. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(01:27) Some ways ADHD affects pregnancy

(02:25) How did Dusty become an expert in ADHD and pregnancy?

(04:21) First trimester/early pregnancy and ADHD

(05:57) Sensory sensitivities and pregnancy

(08:44) Second trimester

(13:23) What conversations should we be having with our support system during this time?

(17:20) Third trimester

(20:04) What happens after the baby is born?

(22:33) ADHD and the postpartum period

(25:55) Best practices and tools

(28:41) Dusty’s top tips

(30:35) Dealing with parental guilt

(31:59) Where you can find Dusty

For a transcript and more resources visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Oh, Baby! It’s an ADHD pregnancy! Dusty Chipura, Cate Osborn 00:34:48 ADHD can impact pregnancy in a number of ways: Higher rate of postpartum depression, hormone surges that affect the brain’s functioning, increased demands on our executive function, and so much more.  Our guest this week, Dusty Chipura, is an ADHD and pregnancy expert, ADHD coach, and doula in training. Dusty takes us through pregnancy with ADHD, what you might expect, and what conversations are important to have with your support network ahead of welcoming a baby.  ADHD can impact pregnancy in a number of ways: Higher rate of postpartum depression, hormone surges that affect the brain’s functioning, increased demands on our executive function, and so much more.  Our guest this week, Dusty Chipura, is an ADHD and pregnancy expert, ADHD coach, and doula in training. Dusty takes us through pregnancy with ADHD, what you might expect, and what conversations are important to have with your support network ahead of welcoming a baby.  adhd and hormones, adhd and pregnancy, adhd and family planning, dusty chipura, conversations to have with your partner while pregnant false full 14 e9335f3b-c672-4ed2-afd7-afa7fedaae9b ADHD breakups: Impulsive texts and overthinking regrets Sometimes, romantic relationships just don’t work out. And breaking up with someone can be really tough — including having the breakup conversation. With ADHD, overthinking, people-pleasing, and rejection sensitivity can make it even harder. 

This week, ADHD coach and author of I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband Jess DuBose visits Sorry, I Missed This. Listen to learn how to check in with yourself about your relationship, and some tips to help you through a breakup conversation. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:08) Why did Jess write her book?

(04:13) How does ADHD impact breaking up?

(05:19) Staying in a relationship because of people-pleasing

(07:42) Jess’ growth process: ASPIRE

(10:22) Guided meditation exercise about whether or not to break up with someone

(14:08) What can help you through a breakup

(19:32) Initiating the conversation to end a relationship

(24:10) How to avoid the impulse to backpedal during the breakup conversation

(27:37) Jess’ parting advice

(29:14) Where you can find Jess

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 19 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Jess DuBose, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-breakups-impulsive-texts-and-overthinking-regrets Sometimes, romantic relationships just don’t work out. And breaking up with someone can be really tough — including having the breakup conversation. With ADHD, overthinking, people-pleasing, and rejection sensitivity can make it even harder. 

This week, ADHD coach and author of I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband Jess DuBose visits Sorry, I Missed This. Listen to learn how to check in with yourself about your relationship, and some tips to help you through a breakup conversation. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:08) Why did Jess write her book?

(04:13) How does ADHD impact breaking up?

(05:19) Staying in a relationship because of people-pleasing

(07:42) Jess’ growth process: ASPIRE

(10:22) Guided meditation exercise about whether or not to break up with someone

(14:08) What can help you through a breakup

(19:32) Initiating the conversation to end a relationship

(24:10) How to avoid the impulse to backpedal during the breakup conversation

(27:37) Jess’ parting advice

(29:14) Where you can find Jess

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD breakups: Impulsive texts and overthinking regrets Jess DuBose, Cate Osborn 00:31:05 Sometimes, romantic relationships just don’t work out. And breaking up with someone can be really tough — including having the breakup conversation. With ADHD, overthinking, people-pleasing, and rejection sensitivity can make it even harder.  This week, ADHD coach and author of “I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband” Jess DuBose visits “Sorry, I Missed This.” Listen to learn how to check in with yourself about your relationship, and some tips to help you through a breakup conversation.  Sometimes, romantic relationships just don’t work out. And breaking up with someone can be really tough — including having the breakup conversation. With ADHD, overthinking, people-pleasing, and rejection sensitivity can make it even harder.  This week, ADHD coach and author of “I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband” Jess DuBose visits “Sorry, I Missed This.” Listen to learn how to check in with yourself about your relationship, and some tips to help you through a breakup conversation.  adhd and ending relationship, jess dubose, adhd and people pleasing, adhd and empathy, adhd and overthinking false full 13 550c488a-3487-4ec0-a5d9-fcbddc170c13 ADHD and self-advocacy at work Self-advocacy and ADHD workplace disclosure come together in a package. It’s important to know yourself and your values in order to be the best self-advocate you can be. 

In this week’s episode, ADHD at Work founder Meghan Brown-Enyia answers the question: What is a good self-advocate? And, gives her recipe for advocating for yourself.  

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:05) Why did Meghan create ADHD at Work?

(06:59) Am I ready to be an ADHD self-advocate?

(09:37) Meghan’s recipe for self-advocacy

(13:19) Self-advocacy and emotional regulation

(16:08) How do you figure out your ADHD needs in the workplace?

(19:33) Best practices for asking for supports

(24:00) Am I a bad self-advocate if I choose not to disclose my ADHD?

(26:36) Where you can find Meghan

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 5 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Meghan Brown-Enyia, Cate Osborn) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-self-advocacy-at-work Self-advocacy and ADHD workplace disclosure come together in a package. It’s important to know yourself and your values in order to be the best self-advocate you can be. 

In this week’s episode, ADHD at Work founder Meghan Brown-Enyia answers the question: What is a good self-advocate? And, gives her recipe for advocating for yourself.  

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:05) Why did Meghan create ADHD at Work?

(06:59) Am I ready to be an ADHD self-advocate?

(09:37) Meghan’s recipe for self-advocacy

(13:19) Self-advocacy and emotional regulation

(16:08) How do you figure out your ADHD needs in the workplace?

(19:33) Best practices for asking for supports

(24:00) Am I a bad self-advocate if I choose not to disclose my ADHD?

(26:36) Where you can find Meghan

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD and self-advocacy at work Meghan Brown-Enyia, Cate Osborn 00:29:39 Self-advocacy and ADHD workplace disclosure come together in a package. It’s important to know yourself and your values in order to be the best self-advocate you can be.  In this week’s episode, ADHD at Work founder Meghan Brown-Enyia answers the question: What is a good self-advocate? And, gives her recipe for advocating for yourself.  Self-advocacy and ADHD workplace disclosure come together in a package. It’s important to know yourself and your values in order to be the best self-advocate you can be.  In this week’s episode, ADHD at Work founder Meghan Brown-Enyia answers the question: What is a good self-advocate? And, gives her recipe for advocating for yourself.  adhd at work, meghan brown-enyia, adhd and self advocacy, adhd workplace disclosure, adhd workplace accommodations false full 12 5257eb81-8287-4634-8aa8-5a91decdcc3e Using the Wheel of Consent to understand and express desire with Betty Martin Consent is an agreement that people reach together. It can get a bit tricky with people-pleasing and black and white thinking — two things that can often come up with ADHD. The Wheel of Consent can help.

This week, host Cate Osborn welcomes Betty Martin to the show. Betty is the author of The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent. Join Betty and Cate as they break down the Wheel of Consent and why it can be a great tool for ADHDers.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction to the Wheel of Consent

(03:08) What is consent? 

(08:25) What does the Wheel of Consent do? 

(10:25) Redefining “receiving” and “giving” 

(12:21) ADHD, and talking about consent

(17:34) How to figure out what you actually want

(23:14) The 3-minute game

(29:26) “Putting up with” touch

(31:26) The “shadow sides” of the Wheel of Consent

(35:17) Where you can find Betty and more Wheel of Consent resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/understanding-consent-adhd Consent is an agreement that people reach together. It can get a bit tricky with people-pleasing and black and white thinking — two things that can often come up with ADHD. The Wheel of Consent can help.

This week, host Cate Osborn welcomes Betty Martin to the show. Betty is the author of The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent. Join Betty and Cate as they break down the Wheel of Consent and why it can be a great tool for ADHDers.

Related resources

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction to the Wheel of Consent

(03:08) What is consent? 

(08:25) What does the Wheel of Consent do? 

(10:25) Redefining “receiving” and “giving” 

(12:21) ADHD, and talking about consent

(17:34) How to figure out what you actually want

(23:14) The 3-minute game

(29:26) “Putting up with” touch

(31:26) The “shadow sides” of the Wheel of Consent

(35:17) Where you can find Betty and more Wheel of Consent resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Using the Wheel of Consent to understand and express desire with Betty Martin Understood.org 00:37:51 Consent is an agreement that people reach together. It can get a bit tricky with people-pleasing and black and white thinking — two things that can often come up with ADHD. The Wheel of Consent can help. This week, host Cate Osborn welcomes Betty Martin to the show. Betty is the author of “The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.” Join Betty and Cate as they break down the Wheel of Consent and why it can be a great tool for ADHDers. Consent is an agreement that people reach together. It can get a bit tricky with people-pleasing and black and white thinking — two things that can often come up with ADHD. The Wheel of Consent can help. This week, host Cate Osborn welcomes Betty Martin to the show. Betty is the author of “The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.” Join Betty and Cate as they break down the Wheel of Consent and why it can be a great tool for ADHDers. consent and neurodiversity, people pleasing, betty martin, consent and adhd, wheel of consent false full 11 9e4a798c-4d1f-48cf-82d4-278c568be3e6 ADHD, sensory systems, and communication Do you not notice that you’re hungry until you’re raging? Do you bump into things constantly? These are just two examples of how our sensory systems can affect those of us with ADHD. And they have a lot more to do with communication than you might think.

This week, author of ADHD & Us and licensed clinical social worker Anita Robertson breaks down the three hidden sensory systems. Join Anita and Cate as they talk about how these can affect relationships with ADHD, and share some tools that can help. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(04:19) What is a sensory difference?

(08:21) What are the 3 hidden sensory systems?

(11:05) How does interoception impact ADHD?

(14:47) The vestibular system and ADHD

(20:28) Proprioception and ADHD

(23:05) Sensory systems and communication with ADHD

(26:56) How do we start identifying our sensory needs?

(30:21) Where you can find Anita

 

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 8 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-sensory-systems-communication Do you not notice that you’re hungry until you’re raging? Do you bump into things constantly? These are just two examples of how our sensory systems can affect those of us with ADHD. And they have a lot more to do with communication than you might think.

This week, author of ADHD & Us and licensed clinical social worker Anita Robertson breaks down the three hidden sensory systems. Join Anita and Cate as they talk about how these can affect relationships with ADHD, and share some tools that can help. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(04:19) What is a sensory difference?

(08:21) What are the 3 hidden sensory systems?

(11:05) How does interoception impact ADHD?

(14:47) The vestibular system and ADHD

(20:28) Proprioception and ADHD

(23:05) Sensory systems and communication with ADHD

(26:56) How do we start identifying our sensory needs?

(30:21) Where you can find Anita

 

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD, sensory systems, and communication Understood.org 00:32:16 Do you not notice that you’re hungry until you’re raging? Do you bump into things constantly? These are just two examples of how our sensory systems can affect those of us with ADHD. And they have a lot more to do with communication than you might think. This week, author of “ADHD & Us” and licensed clinical social worker Anita Robertson breaks down the three hidden sensory systems. Join Anita and Cate as they talk about how these can affect relationships with ADHD, and share some tools that can help.  Do you not notice that you’re hungry until you’re raging? Do you bump into things constantly? These are just two examples of how our sensory systems can affect those of us with ADHD. And they have a lot more to do with communication than you might think. This week, author of “ADHD & Us” and licensed clinical social worker Anita Robertson breaks down the three hidden sensory systems. Join Anita and Cate as they talk about how these can affect relationships with ADHD, and share some tools that can help.  false full 10 4cb4c515-1872-4246-a894-1653b36dc052 Is it love or is it dopamine? (from “Tips from an ADHD Coach” podcast) Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the "Tips from an ADHD Coach" podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want.  

ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. Explore more episodes of "Tips from an ADHD Coach" and check out other podcasts on MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel.

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:28) Ange’s quote

(04:51) Jaye’s reaction

(06:25) What is dopamine?

(09:57) What happens once we get into the relationship we wanted?

(11:47) What can we do to help?

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 1 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/missunderstood/adhd-coach-tips-love-or-dopamine Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the "Tips from an ADHD Coach" podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want.  

ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. Explore more episodes of "Tips from an ADHD Coach" and check out other podcasts on MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel.

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(02:28) Ange’s quote

(04:51) Jaye’s reaction

(06:25) What is dopamine?

(09:57) What happens once we get into the relationship we wanted?

(11:47) What can we do to help?

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Is it love or is it dopamine? (from “Tips from an ADHD Coach” podcast) Understood.org 00:18:49 Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the “Tips from an ADHD Coach” podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the “Tips from an ADHD Coach” podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. adhd coach, adhd and dating, adhd masking in dating, jaye lin, adhd and relationship hopping false full 9 3f2c68ef-a6ba-4375-937c-3a7a5e67d199 Managing conflict with a partner with ADHD Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face. 

Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships.

Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote.

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:34) What is the Gottman Method?

(06:00) The research the Gottman Method is based on

(09:42) ADHD and the Gottman Method

(12:54) Executive function and conflict

(15:22) Time perception and conflict

(16:20) What is “turning away and turning towards”?

(19:13) The four horsemen of divorce

(20:32) The first horseman: Criticism

(23:26) The second horseman: Defensiveness

(24:50) The third horseman: Contempt

(27:48) The fourth horseman: Stonewalling

(29:11) Where you can find Michael

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 24 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/resolving-conflict-with-a-partner-with-adhd Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face. 

Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships.

Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote.

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:34) What is the Gottman Method?

(06:00) The research the Gottman Method is based on

(09:42) ADHD and the Gottman Method

(12:54) Executive function and conflict

(15:22) Time perception and conflict

(16:20) What is “turning away and turning towards”?

(19:13) The four horsemen of divorce

(20:32) The first horseman: Criticism

(23:26) The second horseman: Defensiveness

(24:50) The third horseman: Contempt

(27:48) The fourth horseman: Stonewalling

(29:11) Where you can find Michael

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Managing conflict with a partner with ADHD Understood.org 00:32:18 Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face.  Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships. Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote. Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face.  Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships. Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote. executive function and conflict, adhd marriage, the gottman institute, adhd relationships, adhd and conflict false full 8 888abe2c-b549-43f3-9d66-bc0917e66677 Dating with ADHD Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run. 

Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:59) What does a dating coach do?

(08:07) How ADHD can affect dating

(09:29) ADHD and “love bombing”

(12:56) What is “screening”?

(14:04) Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”

(17:50) How to ask good questions

(19:45) What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want

(21:37) How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?

(23:42) When do we disclose that we have ADHD?

(25:21) Trouble with time perception and texting

(26:20) Trouble with impulse control and dating

(27:30) Amie’s question suggestions

(29:00) ADHD and oversharing

(30:54) Amie on a dating timeline

(33:10) ADHD and kink

(34:24) Where you can find Amie

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 10 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/dating-with-adhd Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run. 

Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top. 

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:59) What does a dating coach do?

(08:07) How ADHD can affect dating

(09:29) ADHD and “love bombing”

(12:56) What is “screening”?

(14:04) Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”

(17:50) How to ask good questions

(19:45) What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want

(21:37) How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?

(23:42) When do we disclose that we have ADHD?

(25:21) Trouble with time perception and texting

(26:20) Trouble with impulse control and dating

(27:30) Amie’s question suggestions

(29:00) ADHD and oversharing

(30:54) Amie on a dating timeline

(33:10) ADHD and kink

(34:24) Where you can find Amie

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Dating with ADHD Understood.org 00:36:46 Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run.  Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top.  Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run.  Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top.  adhd and dating, adhd love bombing, adhd and dating coaches, adhd masking, amie leadingham false full 7 7690edb0-ff10-483c-bced-2cb3cb2472ea The impact of ADHD on workplace relationships Workplace relationships can be challenging for anyone. But for people with ADHD, trouble with working memory, self-control, emotions, and more can make professionalism even more confusing.

Executive and ADHD coach Farah Jamil visits the show to clear up some common mysteries, like, how do I speak up for myself? And, what do I do when I’ve made a mistake? Listen for her answers, and some great tips to keep in your back pocket.  

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:38) What does Farah do as an executive coach and ADHD coach?

(06:57) Recognizing that it’s OK not to have all of the answers at work

(09:40) How can ADHD affect collaboration in the workplace?

(11:01) The What, the How, and the Why

(13:03) How can ADHD affect communication in the workplace?

(14:56) Feeling socially awkward at work

(17:15) How to start identifying your needs

(19:36) Conflict in the workplace

(21:43) Communication strategies

(25:28) How can we take ownership of our mistakes?

(31:12) Fear of success

(34:37) Where you can find Farah

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/the-impact-of-adhd-on-workplace-relationships Workplace relationships can be challenging for anyone. But for people with ADHD, trouble with working memory, self-control, emotions, and more can make professionalism even more confusing.

Executive and ADHD coach Farah Jamil visits the show to clear up some common mysteries, like, how do I speak up for myself? And, what do I do when I’ve made a mistake? Listen for her answers, and some great tips to keep in your back pocket.  

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:38) What does Farah do as an executive coach and ADHD coach?

(06:57) Recognizing that it’s OK not to have all of the answers at work

(09:40) How can ADHD affect collaboration in the workplace?

(11:01) The What, the How, and the Why

(13:03) How can ADHD affect communication in the workplace?

(14:56) Feeling socially awkward at work

(17:15) How to start identifying your needs

(19:36) Conflict in the workplace

(21:43) Communication strategies

(25:28) How can we take ownership of our mistakes?

(31:12) Fear of success

(34:37) Where you can find Farah

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> The impact of ADHD on workplace relationships Understood.org 00:37:12 Workplace relationships can be challenging for anyone. But for people with ADHD, trouble with working memory, self-control, emotions, and more can make professionalism even more confusing. Executive and ADHD coach Farah Jamil visits the show to clear up some common mysteries, like, “how do I speak up for myself?” And, “what do I do when I’ve made a mistake?” Listen for her answers, and some great tips to keep in your back pocket.  Workplace relationships can be challenging for anyone. But for people with ADHD, trouble with working memory, self-control, emotions, and more can make professionalism even more confusing. Executive and ADHD coach Farah Jamil visits the show to clear up some common mysteries, like, “how do I speak up for myself?” And, “what do I do when I’ve made a mistake?” Listen for her answers, and some great tips to keep in your back pocket.  adhd and coworker relationships, adhd and work, adhd and self advocacy, adhd and conflict in the workplace, farah jamil false full 6 1e46372d-d269-4b4c-84ea-42fe5fddc9e4 ADHD and sex When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too. 

ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes. 

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:45) Why is ADHD and sex an important topic?

(07:24) What Ari learned from research for his book, ADHD After Dark

(10:33) ADHD and responsibility 

(12:47) Avoiding a transactional sexual relationship

(14:55) Intentionality and ADHD

(17:39) What can we do to help?

(25:10) Ari’s main takeaways

(26:45) What do I do if me or my partner is really excited about sex, but one or the other of us struggles to remember it exists?

(29:54) What do I do if I get distracted during sex?

 

 

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 13 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-and-sex When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too. 

ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes. 

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(03:45) Why is ADHD and sex an important topic?

(07:24) What Ari learned from research for his book, ADHD After Dark

(10:33) ADHD and responsibility 

(12:47) Avoiding a transactional sexual relationship

(14:55) Intentionality and ADHD

(17:39) What can we do to help?

(25:10) Ari’s main takeaways

(26:45) What do I do if me or my partner is really excited about sex, but one or the other of us struggles to remember it exists?

(29:54) What do I do if I get distracted during sex?

 

 

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> ADHD and sex Understood.org 00:33:42 When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too.  ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes.  When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too.  ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes.  adhd after dark, ari tuckman, adhd and sex, adhd and relationships, adhd and intimacy false full 5 576936f0-8d6c-4f45-8a85-00e601b1da9a Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHD Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships. 

ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships.

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(04:28) What is a boundary?

(10:20) How do we figure out what our boundaries are?

(14:51) People pleasing

(20:45) How do we work on creating and evolving boundaries with a partner?

(22:16) Top three things to know, and some activities to get started

(24:42) Cate's Comment Corner

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 30 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/setting-boundaries-with-adhd-melissa-orlov Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships. 

ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships.

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Timestamps

(04:28) What is a boundary?

(10:20) How do we figure out what our boundaries are?

(14:51) People pleasing

(20:45) How do we work on creating and evolving boundaries with a partner?

(22:16) Top three things to know, and some activities to get started

(24:42) Cate's Comment Corner

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHD Understood.org 00:35:40 Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships.  ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships. Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships.  ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships. melissa orlov, adhd and women, boundaries, adhd and relationships, setting boundaries with adhd false full 4 dc14c681-20b8-4e9f-a3f8-bc2bc5efb80f ADHD and the art of friendship Juggling everything that ADHD throws at us can make us struggle in our friendships. Trouble with executive function affects our ability to communicate and remember things. And the shame that comes with ADHD can lead to us hiding our challenges and pretending to be someone we’re not. 

In this episode, host Cate Osborn welcomes a good friend of hers, Elizabeth Kilmer. Elizabeth is a clinical psychologist and researcher in game studies. Join Cate and Elizabeth as they talk about what it means to be friends with ADHD and how having friends who “get it” can be a lifesaver.

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 16 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/adhd-and-the-art-of-friendship Juggling everything that ADHD throws at us can make us struggle in our friendships. Trouble with executive function affects our ability to communicate and remember things. And the shame that comes with ADHD can lead to us hiding our challenges and pretending to be someone we’re not. 

In this episode, host Cate Osborn welcomes a good friend of hers, Elizabeth Kilmer. Elizabeth is a clinical psychologist and researcher in game studies. Join Cate and Elizabeth as they talk about what it means to be friends with ADHD and how having friends who “get it” can be a lifesaver.

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> ADHD and the art of friendship Understood.org 00:33:50 Juggling everything that ADHD throws at us can make us struggle in our friendships. Trouble with executive function affects our ability to communicate and remember things. And the shame that comes with ADHD can lead to us hiding our challenges and pretending to be someone we’re not.  In this episode, host Cate Osborn welcomes a good friend of hers, Elizabeth Kilmer. Elizabeth is a clinical psychologist and researcher in game studies. Join Cate and Elizabeth as they talk about what it means to be friends with ADHD and how having friends who “get it” can be a lifesaver. Juggling everything that ADHD throws at us can make us struggle in our friendships. Trouble with executive function affects our ability to communicate and remember things. And the shame that comes with ADHD can lead to us hiding our challenges and pretending to be someone we’re not.  In this episode, host Cate Osborn welcomes a good friend of hers, Elizabeth Kilmer. Elizabeth is a clinical psychologist and researcher in game studies. Join Cate and Elizabeth as they talk about what it means to be friends with ADHD and how having friends who “get it” can be a lifesaver. elizabeth kilmer, adhd and keeping friends, adhd and social skills, adhd and communicating with friends, adhd and friendship false full 3 92df4504-3721-4c82-856b-4b4f28f88424 Managing expectations in relationships with ADHD It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there’s even more room for miscommunication. It’s important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you’d like to. 

KC Davis wrote the book How to Keep House While Drowning, and hosts the podcast Struggle Care. KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of Sorry, I Missed This to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page. 

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Tue, 2 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/managing-expectations-in-relationships-with-adhd It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there’s even more room for miscommunication. It’s important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you’d like to. 

KC Davis wrote the book How to Keep House While Drowning, and hosts the podcast Struggle Care. KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of Sorry, I Missed This to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page. 

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Managing expectations in relationships with ADHD Understood.org 00:34:50 It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there’s even more room for miscommunication. It’s important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you’d like to.  KC Davis wrote the book “How to Keep House While Drowning,” and hosts the podcast “Struggle Care.” KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of “Sorry, I Missed This” to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page.  It can be a struggle to balance chores in a relationship. When one or more people in the relationship have ADHD, there’s even more room for miscommunication. It’s important to be on the same page about expectations, or you may end up with resentment, and more fights than you’d like to.  KC Davis wrote the book “How to Keep House While Drowning,” and hosts the podcast “Struggle Care.” KC joins host Cate Osborn in this episode of “Sorry, I Missed This” to talk about care tasks, sharing the load, and getting on the same page.  false full 2 b805444e-633f-4399-9ce5-cf0c70d155ef The influence of ADHD on social skills Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up questions like Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold onto friendships? What do I even like to do?  

In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills and what we can do to help.

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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]]> Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Caroline Maguire) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/the-influence-of-adhd-on-social-skills Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up questions like Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold onto friendships? What do I even like to do?  

In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach and author of the book Why Will No One Play With Me? Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills and what we can do to help.

Related resources

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> The influence of ADHD on social skills Caroline Maguire 00:39:22 Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up questions like “Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold onto friendships? What do I even like to do?” In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach and author of the book “Why Will No One Play With Me?” Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills and what we can do to help. Social skills can be challenging for people with ADHD. Whether it’s trouble with executive function or anxiety from past situations, socializing can come with a lot of emotions. It can also be really confusing and bring up questions like “Why does it seem so much easier for everyone else? Why can’t I hold onto friendships? What do I even like to do?” In this episode, host Cate Osborn chats with Caroline Maguire, MEd. Caroline is an ADHD coach and author of the book “Why Will No One Play With Me?” Join Cate and Caroline as they talk about how ADHD affects social skills and what we can do to help. adhd and socializing, executive function and social skills, caroline maguire, adhd and social skills, making friends with adhd false full 1 776435f6-66a1-4d46-a9c5-e8bf53fa71f2 Introducing Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Here’s a podcast that can help!

Welcome to Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn.

Your host Cate has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?”

Tune in to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. First episode drops 6/18/24.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Mon, 10 Jun 2024 14:11:51 +0000 sorryimissedthis@understood.org (Understood.org) https://www.understood.org/en/podcasts/sorry-i-missed-this/introducing-sorry-i-missed-this It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Here’s a podcast that can help!

Welcome to Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn.

Your host Cate has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?”

Tune in to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. First episode drops 6/18/24.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give


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]]> Introducing Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn Understood.org 00:00:54 It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Here’s a podcast that can help! Welcome to “Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships” with Cate Osborn. Your host Cate has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?” Tune in to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. First episode drops 6/18/24. It can be hard to navigate relationships when you have ADHD. Here’s a podcast that can help! Welcome to “Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships” with Cate Osborn. Your host Cate has ADHD, a background in sex education, and a whole lot of questions like “How do I know what I want out of a relationship? How do I remember my friends exist? What can I do to handle conflict better?” Tune in to learn about topics like social skills, boundaries, communication, intimacy, and sex. Join Cate in unpacking the taboo, painful, and often hilarious challenges of being in a relationship when you have ADHD. First episode drops 6/18/24. catieosaurus, adhd and relationships, adhd and communication, cate osborn, adhd and intimacy false trailer