Nikki and I have known each other for a few years now, and what makes this conversation so special is the shared community we’ve built along the way. It’s one of those rare, deeply connected circles of women that feels both grounding and expansive at the same time, where growth, intuition, and honest conversations are always at the center. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…
Coming home to yourself
Living a soul led life
Mind, body, & soul
Self-mediation
Hearing yourself & your truth
Expanding identities
If not now, when?

Quotes

“My work is helping people and making spaces for people to hear themselves and hear the truth.” - Nikki Novo

“Be the change you're WILLING and WANT to see.” - Nikki Novo

“We need friction. Our lives require friction because that's where you grow.” - Nikki Spo

“Your intuition, the voice of your soul, is not going to scream over your busy calendar.” - Nikki Novo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:05 | Intro
2:05 - 5:25 | Coming home to yourself
5:25 -11:25 | Living a soul-led life with others
11:25 - 16:15 | Wanting to control
16:15 - 22:45 | Identity
22:45 - 29:35 | If not now, when?
28:35 - 36:00 | Knowing where to begin
36:00 - 39:50 | Your inner child
41:40 - 46:45 | Men are waking up
46:45 - 51:40 | Waking up everyone else
51:40 - 57:35 | Resentment of people in their light
57:35 - 59:57 | Outro

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Connect with Nikki Novo
nikkinovo.com / nikkinovo.com/podcast
@nikkinovo

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Tune in as we talk about what it really looks like to pivot, build something new, and balance it all along the way.

In this episode…
Survival into strategy
Addiction of being needed
Zone of genius
Burnout
Zone of excellence vs. zone of genius
When is it time to LET GO?!

Quotes

“You have to understand that overfunctioning and being the most capable person in the room is an addiction and a dopamine hit. A lot of us are addicted to being needed.” - Lacey Newman

“Other people see our strengths with a lot more clarity than we do sometimes because we are just too close to it.” - Lacey Newman

“I always say I reserve the right to change my mind.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:45 | Intro
2:45 - 8:20 | Survival into strategy
8:20 - 11:30 | Finding that zone of genius
11:30 - 20:20 | Figuring out when it's time to LET GO
20:20 - 23:50 | Reclaiming your life
23:50 - 27:25 | Content creation
27:25 - 32:00 | Reflection points
32:00 - 40:35 | Permission to mute, unfollow, & block
40:35 - 45:35 | The people that get it, get it
45:35 - 52:30 | How business affects money beliefs

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Lacey Newman
@alignedwithlacey

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this episode…
No such thing as overnight success
GO FOR IT
Courage to talk about the things…
Pain into purpose
Storytelling
Being unapologetic
Playing the “what if” game
Being a DREAMER

Quotes

“With every dream, I saw my parents believe in me more and more, but I think it wasn’t just them believing in me, it was them believing that these things were in the realm of possibility.” - Diana Marti

“Sometimes the biggest ‘I’m sorry’ is for yourself.” - Diana Marti

“The shortcut is going through the muck.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:00 | Intro
3:00 - 11:15 | Diana’s journey & What it means to actually go for it
11:15 - 15:50 | Being unapologetic
15:50 - 23:20 | Breaking the barriers
23:20 - 31:00 | Making amends
31:00 - 34:10 | No such thing as a shortcut
34:10 - 39:05 | Practice, practice, practice
39:05 - 43:05 | Manifesting into the present
43:05 - 46:20 | Being on the lookout for the signs
46:20 - 52:55 | Legacy over likes
52:55 - 55:10 | Outro

Connect with Diana Marti
@pinkgroveagency
@iamdianamarti

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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To our listeners: if you’re in a rut, a transition, or just a moment of uncertainty, I hope Jamie’s words give you permission to slow down, shift your perspective, and trust the process. Share this episode with a friend who’s navigating change and could use some encouragement, because we all need reminders that we’re not walking through these seasons alone.

In this episode…
In a RUT
Identify shifts
Authentic alignment
Plot twists
Pouring into people
Leveling up
Marrying the magic
It's not too late
Goal friend

Quotes

“Can you receive for the sake of receiving just because someone wants to pour into you, not because you’re doing anything for them?” - Jamie Ruiz

“I want a teacher who is still a student.” - Nikki Spo

“I wholeheartedly believe that the answer to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:35 | Intro
2:35 - 9:50 | Food poisoning
9:50 - 18:10 | Receiving
18:10 - 21:05 | The lessons keep coming
21:05 - 28:15 | Upwards spiral
28:15 - 33:30 | It's not too late
33:30 - 36:45 | Individual words
36:45 - 43:10 | Manifesting
43:10 - 47:10 | Being of service
47:10 - 50:39 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

If you loved today’s episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join us next time for more honest, heartfelt conversations. And as you move through your own transitions, remember—you can hold both the depth and the lightness, both the challenge and the joy. That’s where growth lives.

Connect with Jamie Ruiz
@jameslee4
jamieleeruiz.com

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this episode…
How Katie rebuilt her top-rated app into KA Daily
The inspiration behind Katie’s first-ever subscriber retreat
Why Katie’s Midwest Move Tour is bringing her community closer than ever
The lessons Katie learned growing up in the fitness world with her mom, Denise Austin
How Katie bridges wellness for women in every generation
Why confidence comes from movement — not perfection

Quotes

“I love being in control and I love for my brand to come across in a specific way because my product is me.” - Katie Austin

“It is SO important to be passionate about your business because that will shine through.” - Katie Austin

“A lot of people think that becoming HER is the destination, but the becoming is in the now.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:35 | Intro
2:35 - 4:40 | The heart of a new era
4:40 - 8:30 | Expanding & rebranding
8:30 - 13:10 | Putting a team together
13:10 - 18:25 | Core values to bridge generations
18:25 - 22:35 | Wellness
22:35 - 23:45 | Doom scrolling
23:45 - 27:45 | Falling victim to the comparison game
27:45 - 31:30 | Katie’s app & in person events
31:30 - 33:40 | Where to connect with Katie
33:40 - 35:54 | What it means to Katie to become HER

Connect with Katie Austin
kadaily.app
@katieaustin

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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She shares the truth about licensing, how to read your data, and what it actually takes to turn influence into a lasting business. If you’re a creator or entrepreneur looking for more stability, more scalability, and more you in your business, this episode is full of clarity and next steps.

Whether you’re a creator, entrepreneur, or someone with a vision for something bigger, this episode will change the way you think about your potential.

In this episode…
How Jennifer spotted the creator economy before it existed
Why licensing is the next frontier for creators
Turning audience trust into long-term wealth
How to read your analytics and choose the right product
The trap of relying only on brand deals — and how to break out of it
What creators need to know to scale into sustainable, real businesses
The mindset shift required to go from influencer to CEO

Quotes:

“As corny as it sounds, the authentic way you show up is what your brand is.” - Jennifer Powell

“Life is all about trying things and not getting attached to the outcome.” - Jennifer Powell

“I see a lot of people sticking around doing something they don’t like because they think others want them to be doing it.” - Nikki Spo

“People aren’t just investing in the concept, they’re investing in who you are.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:50 | Intro
2:50 - 5:25 | The future of content creating
5:25 - 9:15 | Sincerely Jules
9:15 - 12:20 | Licensing
12:20 - 16:40 | Creator comparison
16:40 - 22:15 | Consistency
22:15 - 25:40 | Pivoting
25:40 - 29:50 | Giving guidance
29:50 - 31:45 | Spotting talent
31:45 - 34:00 | Younger generations trying to cut corners
34:00 - 39:30 | Fundamental tips to get the ball rolling
39:30 - 43:50 | Getting your feet wet
43:50 - 49:40 | Misconceptions
49:40 - 54:10 | Going beyond the algorithm
54:10 - 56:08 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Jennifer Powell
@jennpowell14
woowooworkingwomen.com

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Welcome back to Becoming: HER - this week’s guest is Jourdann Lubliner — founder & CEO of the newly-launched app and community for couples: Doubles Social. Jourdann has built a platform aimed at intentional connection between couples, helping them build friendships and explore their cities together.

But while her app is a fascinating vehicle, today’s episode is about a deeper cultural shift: the changing nature of friendship, connection, and community.

According to recent research, the percentage of U.S. adults who report having 10 or more close friends has dropped from about 33 % in 1990 to just 13 % today which a recent piece from Harvard’s Leadership & Happiness Laboratory has called a “Friendship Recession,” meaning not just less time with friends, but a fundamental erosion of the ability to form, maintain, and prioritise friendships. Friendships have been paramount in my life so this is a topic I’m really interested in. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…
Effort
Two-way street
Doom scrolling
Doubles social
Making friends vs. making friends as couples
Maintaining sense of individuality
New friends
Loneliness
Networking

Quotes

“Building intimacy and vulnerability within your couple is crucial.” - Nikki Spo

“Little movements to stay connected with friends will help you feel less lonely like enhancing existing modes of communication.” - Jourdann Lubliner

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:50 | Intro
3:50 -7:15 | The app
8:10 - 11:35 | The friendship recession
11:35 - 13:40 | Our own fault
13:40 - 15:40 | Maintaining sense of individuality vs. making friends as couples
15:40 - 18:35 | New friends
18:35 - 19:25 | Double dates
19:25 - 25:30 | Loneliness
25:30 - 29:50 | Addressing loneliness to an introvert
29:50 - 32:10 | Helping people get active
32:10 - 35:50 | Couple friendships
35:50 - 38:45 | Digital friendships
38:45 - 45:10 | Real vs. online connections
45:10 - | What is next for Doubles Social

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doubles.social
@doubles.social

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www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Unni shares her journey of reinvention after major life changes and breaks down how strength training, nutrition, and mindset can support you through aging, menopause, divorce, overwhelm, and identity shifts.

Let’s get started!

In this episode…
Why strength training is essential during life transitions
How lifting weights impacts hormones, inflammation, metabolism, and confidence
The truth about eating “more” to lose fat and build lean mass
How to approach menopause and midlife shifts with clarity instead of fear
Daily rituals to help you feel strong, radiant, and calm
How fitness helps you regain control and redefine your identity

Quotes

“I always sought to surround myself with women who were older than me because I wanted their wisdom.” - Nikki Spo

“It shouldn’t be more stressful to handle stress.” - Unni Greene Feder

If you’re not important to yourself and you don’t hold yourself in high esteem, why do you expect others to respect you and hold you in high esteem.” - Unni Greene Feder

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:35 | Intro
3:35 - 8:15 | Unni’s background
8:15 - 11:00 | Transitions
11:00 - 13:35 | Male vs. female trainers
13:35 - 14:50 | Women wisdom
14:40 - 19:00 | Coaching women in different phases
19:00 - 28:55 | Women having the permission to evolve over time
28:55 - 35:15 | Self-pity
35:35 - 38:55 | Feeling emotions rather than feeling nothing
38:55 - 51:45 | Body mechanics & body awareness
51:45 - 57:45 | Brain health
57:45 - 1:01:10 | Tangible everyday steps to get to the space of strong, calm, & radiant
1:01:10 - 1:04:40 | Self-care
1:04:40 - 1:07:20 | Admirable women
1:07:20 - 1:07:50 | What it means to Unni to become her
1:07:50 - 1:10:35 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Unni Greene Feder
https://unnifit.com/ / Eat More to Lose More
@unnigreene

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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At just nine years old, Jenisbel left Cuba on a handmade raft built by her father — a journey that taught her to face change with faith and to hold onto her dreams through uncertainty. Her new book, Un Barco de Sueños — A Raft of Dreams — captures that same spirit of resilience and reminds us that it’s never too late to chase what calls your heart.

Jenisbel, welcome to Becoming HER.

In this episode…
The power of courage and faith in the face of adversity
How to hold onto your dreams even when the odds feel impossible
What it means to start again — and chase purpose later in life
The story behind Un Barco de Sueños and its message of hope
How the Acevedo Foundation is creating impact and changing lives

Quotes

“The antidote to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo

“Life is about taking chances because if you don’t you will never realize what's on the other side.” - Jensibel Acevedo

“It’s okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be afraid. Just don’t allow anyone to tell you who you have to be. No one can tell you, only you know.” - Jensibel Acevedo

Connect with Jensibel Acevedo
Un Barco de Sueños (A Raft of Dreams)
@jenisbelacevedo | @acevedofoundation

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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What started as a project tied to her upcoming parenting book has evolved into a movement, one that invites women to have real conversations about motherhood, marriage, sobriety, identity, and the messy middle of becoming who we’re meant to be.

Keesha opens up about her personal journey, from early struggles and single motherhood to finding purpose through healing, faith, and self-awareness. She shares how we can release perfectionism, reconnect with who we are in this season, and raise our kids (and ourselves) with more grace and truth.

If you’ve ever felt lost in the roles you play as mom, partner, professional, friend, this episode will remind you that becoming her isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about showing up as your truest self, one imperfect day at a time. Tune in.

In this episode…
The real reason Keesha created Cake for Dinner — and how it grew beyond a book launch.
Why women lose their sense of identity in motherhood (and how to reclaim it).
The truth about balancing marriage, motherhood, and self.
What authenticity really looks like — and how to stop chasing “perfect.”
How to strengthen connection and communication with your kids.
The mindset shifts that help us thrive in every season of life.

Quotes

“You can’t outparent genetics.” - Keesha Scott

“People don’t connect with perfection. They connect with reality.” - Keesha Scott

“Resentment is like drinking the poison but expecting someone else to die.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:05 | Intro
3:05 - 6:50 | Paths shifting
6:50 - 11:00 | Addiction in young people
11:00 - 15:25 | Parenting from a pure space
15:25 - 17:55 | Coming out the other side
17:55 - 20:55 | Turning point
20:55 - 23:15 | Staying sober through the hardships
23:15 - 26:15 | Rise of the community
26:15 - 37:00 | Resentment
37:00 - 43:30 | The gift of being a mom
43:30 - 45:15 | Different experiences
45:15 - 50:15 | Giving life meaning
50:15 - 51:50 | The desire to be of service
51:50 - 53:00 | Women coming together
53:00 - 56:05 | Cake for Dinner
56:05 - 56:30 | Single mom
56:30 - 58:59 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Keesha Scott
keeshascott.com
@keeshascottparentcoach

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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You’ll hear a candid conversation about legacy, blended families, and finding grace through change, plus, Lauren offers a peek behind the curtain of the Miami real estate world with practical insights for buyers, sellers, and dreamers alike. Tune in!

In this episode…
Being a facilitator
Relationships
Sales industry
Thrill
Fulfilling a legacy
Energy exchange
Self- awareness/ finding yourself
Grove vs. Gables
Blending families
Accountability & humility

Quotes

“My mom taught me that real estate isn’t about houses, it’s about people, relationships, and trust.” - Lauren Allen

“My parents were very good at letting me be me, and that was a gift and an honor.” - Lauren Allen

“The level of your peace comes down to your ability to face change with grace.” - Nikki Spo

“Every birthday I ask myself, do I like myself more now than I did last year?” - Lauren Allen

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:30 | Intro
2:30 - 6:50 | Lauren’s journey
6:50 - 11:15 | Facilitator
11:15 - 14:55 | Relationship-centric
14:55 - 19:50 | Legacy
19:50 - 24:00 | Energetic exchange
24:30 - 33:15 | Lauren’s favorite neighborhood
33:15 - 35:35 | South Miami
35:35 - 40:40 | Staying grounded
40:40 - 43:55 | Cash offer
43:55 - 46:45 | Condo market
46:45 - 53:10 | Lauren’s personal life
53:10 - 57:55 | Dating after divorce
57:55 - 58:55 | Accountability & humility
58:55 - 1:01:00 | What does becoming her mean to Lauren
1:01:00 - 1:03:30 | Outro

Connect with Lauren Allen
https://www.joannforsterteam.com/
@laurengallan / @joannforsterteam

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Today, I’m joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom, attorney, ADHD-er, and autism mom coach whose work is changing the narrative around resilience, motherhood, and self-regulation.

Lisa is the host of The Autism Mom Podcast, which ranks in the top 2%, and her upcoming book dives deep into what it means to be a “solid object” for your child, not fixing, not co-escalating, but standing steady in the storm.

In a world that tells moms to “tough it out,” Lisa is helping women rewrite that story, to find peace not through pushing harder, but through accepting change and regulating ourselves first.

We’re going to talk about the myths that keep autism moms stuck in guilt and shame, the “tough it out” mentality that’s quietly burning women out, and what real strength and peace can look like when we lead from self-awareness and compassion. Tune in! 

In this episode…

• Hope to parents 
• Toughing it out vs. not toughing it out 
• Being a GOOD human being 
• Labels 
• The evolvement of autism 
• Support groups 
• The autism umbrella 
• Toolbox 

Quotes 

“It really takes self-aware adults to raise self-aware children.” - Nikki Spo 

“The first step is to understand what your triggers are as a parent. It's never the behavior, it's always so much underneath that.” - Lisa Candera 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 4:00 | Intro 

4:00 - 4:50 | Bottle lessons up & deliver them 

4:50 - 8:40 | Lisa’s perspective on resilience 

8:40 - 10:45 | The labels…

10:45 - 12:10 | Self-regulation as an adult 

12:10 - 20:25 | How autism has evolved 

20:25 - 23:35 | Community 

23:35 - 28:10 | Thinking its a “phase” 

28:10 - 33:20 | Mothers instinct 

33:20 - 38:05 | Being held captive by your self 

38:05 - 40:20 | A crisis point 

40:20 - 42:35 | Pausing before reacting 

42:35 - 48:05 | Toolbox for parents 

48:05 - 52:40 | Assigning meaning 

52:40 - 53:50 | Difference between our closet & our brain 

53:50 - 57:35 | Qualities that make autism special 

57:35 - 1:00:46 | Outro 

To every mom listening: You are doing your best in circumstances that don’t always make space for softness, and that’s exactly why conversations like this matter.

If today’s episode resonated with you, go follow Lisa and listen to The Autism Mom Podcast, her work is a lifeline for any parent walking this journey.

And as always, thank you for tuning in to Becoming: HER. I’m Nikki Spoelstra, and I’ll see you next week as we continue learning, growing, and becoming, together.

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Connect with Lisa Candera 

theautismmomcoach.com

@theautismmomcoach  

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Simone Knego is the award-winning author of The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You and co-host of Her Unshakeable Confidence, the hit intergenerational podcast she hosts with her daughter. She’s climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, raised six children in a beautifully blended, multicultural family, and built a global platform around one truth—that confidence isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up real, raw, and unapologetically you.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to lead from the inside out, stop waiting for permission, and find your voice—even when the world tells you to shrink. Let’s dive in with the extraordinary, unordinary Simone Knego.

In this episode…

• Learning from your children 
• Adoption 
• Crohn's 
• If its mentionable, its manageable 
• Book of life 
• Family unit 
• Business of being married
• The kitchen table leadership  

Quotes

“When you have some sort of struggle it doesn’t define you, it’s just a piece of who you are.” - Simone Knego

“Self-care is NEVER selfish.” - Simone Knego 

“I often call it the business of being married because it is more than just love, it is a lot of work that goes into keeping and sustaining a relationship.” - Nikki Spo 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:40 | Intro

2:40 - 4:00 | Simone’s story 

4:00 - 4:50 | Six children 

4:50 - 6:25 | Crohn's disease 

6:25 - 11:00 | How your children shape your identity 

11:00 - 13:15 | Equal attention for your children 

13:15 - 16:50 | Subconscious assigned role in a family unit 

16:50 - 19:40 | Mom’s taking time for themselves 

19:40 - 21:50 | Husband involvement 

21:50 - 26:35 | The kitchen table leadership 

26:35 - 29:55 | Extraordinary 

29:55 - 36:20 | Mindset shift  

36:20 - 38:35 | Moving forward 

38:35 - 41:45 | Living up to others expectations

41:45 - 49:45 | You don’t need permission to be yourself   

49:45 - 1:04:36 | REAL  

If this conversation spoke to you in the audience, take a moment today to reflect on where you might still be waiting for a green light or for your own permission slip to get moving. 

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. 

Connect with Simone Knego 

https://simoneknego.com/

@simoneknego

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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If you’ve been doing everything right, eating clean, moving your body, getting your sleep, but still feeling tired, anxious, bloated, or just not like yourself, this episode is going to speak straight to your soul. 

This week on Becoming: HER, I sat down with Lauren Papanos, MS, RD, CSSD, a board-certified sports dietitian and hormone expert who helps high-performing women uncover the hidden thyroid and hormone imbalances quietly draining their energy.

Lauren and I dive deep into why so many ambitious women are running on empty, what your labs might be missing, and how to finally restore your energy and confidence from the inside out. She shares real, practical tools you can start using today. No restrictive diets, no guilt, just aligned, sustainable healing.

Tune in and learn how to reconnect with your body, honor your hormones, and step into the vibrant energy that’s been waiting for you all along. 

In this episode…

• PCOS 
• Feminine frustration 
• Healthy isn’t enough 
• Fatigue 
• Many layers of PCOS 
• leveling up
• Changing perspective 
• Mental & physical health

Quotes

“Healthy looks different for everybody.” - Lauren Papanos 

“When you have the financial stability, you have the freedom to make certain choices.” - Nikki Spo

“We put pressure on ourselves to do the most all of the time when in reality the solution lies with doing less.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 

2:50 - 5:20 | PCOS

5:20 - 8:45 | Medical history 

8:45 - 13:10 | Healthy isn’t enough 

13:10 - 15:45 | Mental health & physical health working together

15:45 - 18:15 | Financial freedom 

18:15 - 25:15 | Energy crisis

25:15 - 26:50 | Self-assessments 

26:50 - 30:35 | Signs 

30:35 - 34:10 | Thyroid & gut 

34:10 - 41:15 | Being an advocate for your own health 

41:15 - 47:45 | Obstacles & solutions 

47:45 - 53:45 | Being TOO busy 

53:45 - 55:25 | A small shift  

55:25 - 57:52 | Outro

If this episode spoke to you, I’d love for you to take a moment to share it with another woman who needs to hear it. These conversations are meant to remind us that we’re not alone, and that healing and alignment are possible for every one of us.

Make sure you’re subscribed to Becoming: HER wherever you listen to podcasts and if you haven’t yet, come connect with me on Instagram @nikkisappspo.

Until next time, remember: you are powerful, you are capable, and you are becoming her. 💛

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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment! 

Connect with Lauren Papanos 

https://functionalfueling.com/

@functional.fueling

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this episode…

• Marriage is a team 
• True forgiveness 
• Deifying 
• Us against the problem  
• Honor & humility 
• Success 
• Having a mission together 
• Being seen, heard, & understood 
•  Being feminine is beautiful 

Quotes

“Without God in your marriage, it is impossible.” - Ashley Arguello

“True forgiveness is SO important in marriage.” - Ashley Arguello

“I think that there is room for all of us at the top and that there is more that can happen when we collaborate rather than compete.” - Nikki Spo

“The most successful men are the ones who lift their female partner up with them.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 

2:10 - 7:10 | What it means to be married 

7:10 - 11:15 | Forgiveness 

11:15 - 15:55 | Canwe app 

15:55 - 18:40 | Sustaining the faith to follow your passion 

18:40 - 19:55 | Collaboration over competition 

19:55 - 22:00 | Working with your mans 

22:00 - 25:55 | Honoring each other in a marriage   

25:55 - 29:05 | Recognition & appreciation 

29:05 - 31:45 | Projection 

31:45 - 37:25 | Faith based marriage 

37:24 - 42:35 | Motherhood & working 

42:35 - 46:40 | Wanting stability 

46:40 - 47:35 | Jealousy 

47:35 - 49:40 | Being feminine is beautiful 

49:40 - 51:46 | How Ashely and Ernesto have influenced others 

51:46 - 54:55 | Integrity  

54:55 - 1:01:15 | Friendships 

1:01:15 - 1:04:50 | Growth, connection, or transformation 

1:04:50 - 1:07:05 | Outro 

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Connect with Ashley Arguello 

canwe.app

@ashleytaylorarguello

@canwe_app

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this episode…

• Parenting plan
• Involvement in ex’s life 
• “Daddy” and “Mommy” clauses
• Right of first refusal 
• Radical acceptance & detachment
• Freedom 
• Rediscovering yourself 
• Non-disclosure agreements
• Infidelity clauses
• Sunset clauses

Quotes

“When one parent vacates a space, the other one can step into it.” - Rachel Kipnis 

“We all have roles in a marriage, but when you aren’t married anymore you are going to have different roles.” - Rachel Kipnis 

“You can still be who you are and practice radical acceptance. Practicing radical acceptance and radical detachment is SO important.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:

0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 

2:15 - 5:40 | “Daddy clause”

5:40 - 10:10 | Right of first refusal 

10:10 - 11:30 | Roles 

11:30 - 13:00 | Radical acceptance & detachment

13:00 - 15:30 | Freedom

15:30 - 23:30 | Non-disclosure agreements 

23:30 - 34:15 | Infidelity clauses 

34:15 - 36:50 | Sunset clause 

36:50 - 38:05 | Advice 

38:05 - 40:03 | Outro 

Connect with Rachel 

@thesplitstrategist 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her 

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In this episode… 

• Divorce rings 
• Strategy 
• The RIGHT attorney 
• Non-negotiables 
• Marriage roles 
• Qualities in an attorney 
• Asking WHY
• High net worth divorce 

Quotes

“The person that you choose to represent you not only because of their abilities and strategy, but it will change how you feel about the experience. If you have the right person, they will have a lasting effect on your life.” - Rachel Kipnis 

“You want someone who is in your corner, but I can be in your corner and still say no to you.” - Rachel Kipnis 

Timetamps: 

0:00 - 1:40 | Intro 

1:40 - 3:00 | Divorce rings 

3:00 - 5:10 | Explaining divorce to kids 

5:10 - 6:20 | Choosing the right attorney 

6:20 - 10:15 | Not wanting a yes-attorney 

10:15 - 15:20 | What are the questions to ask

15:20 - 17:00 | Consult more than one attorney 

17:00 - 18:50 | Bitter feelings 

18:50 - 22:30 | Types of divorce processes  

22:30 - 24:20 | Qualities to look for in an attorney as a woman 

24:20 - 27:30 | Asking WHY 

27:30 - 31:10 | Knowing yourself 

31:10 - 39:10 | High net worth divorce 

39:10 - 40:30 | Don’t hire a friend 

40:30 - 47:40 | Weighing strategy with personality 

47:40 - 43:40 | Emotional support 

43:40 - | Things CAN and WILL get better 

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@thesplitstrategist 

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www.nikkispo.com  

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Rachel is a powerhouse family law attorney who specializes in high net worth prenups, post-nups, divorces, and parenting plans. She has seen it ALLL when it comes to love, marriage, and what happens when things don’t go as planned. Rachel is here today to give us the knowledge, tools, and the confidence to navigate these often intimidating conversations. 

Over the next three episodes we are breaking it down; Part One - How to approach a prenup with clarity and confidence, Part Two - How to choose the right attorney if you are facing a divorce, and Part Three - Speciality clauses like NDAs, infidelity clauses, and more, what they mean and why they matter. This series is about empowerment, awareness, and protecting yourself without losing sight of love. Lets dive in!

In this episode… 

• Clarity
• Prenups 
• Privacy  
• Mindset 
• Knowing what it looks like when you leave 
• Financial disclosure 
• Business of marriage 
• Energy exchange 
• Study the documents 

Quotes

“I knew what I was doing was important work, but I didn't feel like my soul was satisfied by it.” - Rachel Kipnis 

“Prenups can be kind.” - Rachel Kipnis 

“There have been successful men who have built their success on the backs of women.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:

0:00 - 3:05 | Intro

3:05 - 4:40 | Clarity 

4:40 - 11:15 | Prenups 

11:15 - 17:50 | Mindset shift 

17:50 - 18:45 | Financials 

18:45 - 22:15 | Breaking the document stigma 

22:15 - 31:40 | Red flags in a prenup  

31:40 - 36:25 | Key provisions to include in a prenup

36:25 - 38:45 | Homemakers  

38:45 - 42:40 | How to ensure both parties do what they are supposed to 

42:40 - 46:00 | Myths to debunk about prenups 

46:00 - 47:41 | Outro 

–

Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!

Connect with Rachel 

@thesplitstrategist 

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her 

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Tanya is a powerhouse mindset coach who helps high-achieving women 10x their lives, businesses, and bank accounts without falling into the trap of constant hustle. She believes in building success from the inside out, and her work is all about creating alignment freedom and abundance without the burnout. 

Get ready because this conversation is going to be packed with tools that you can apply right away to elevate every area of your life!

In this episode… 

• The hustle 
• 10x your life 
• Success energetics 
• Persistence 
• What lights YOU up 
• Mindset 

Quotes

“The mentality is hustle, struggle, sacrifice to get you to the success that you desire.” - Tanya Jane 

“Those dopamine hits keep you around longer than they should. You gotta know when to leave.” - Nikki Spo 

“If you want to begin to 10x your life, you have to be open to changing the way you do things. Breaking patterns.” - Nikki Spo 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:40 | Intro 

2:40 - 8:15 | Without the hustle 

8:15 - 17:25 | What lights YOU up 

17:25 - 21:05 | What the f**k do you like?!

21:05 - 25:05 | Happiness 

25:05 - 25:55 | Comfort in familiarity 

25:55 - 30:40 | Attaching meaning 

30:40 - 34:10 | Act how you wanna feel vs. fake it till you make it 

34:10 - 39:15 | Commitment to the misery 

39:15 - 46:30 | Glowing UP  

46:30 - 53:00 | Mindset 

53:00 - 55:00 | Fear as fuel 

55:00 - | 3 action steps 

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@thetanyajane 

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her 

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She is a devoted mother, a woman who walked through unimaginable challenges, and someone who has had to redefine herself in the face of heartbreak, in the face of change and reinvention, all while being in the public eye. Tune in to find out more! 

In this episode… 

• Resilience 
• Courage 
• Having to buck UP 
• Speaking your truth  
• Faith 
• A mothers instinct 
• Keeping the stars in your eyes 

Quotes

“I don’t think people can invest enough in their health, their body, and their brain.” - Nikki Spo 

“It is never too late to rebuild. You have to rebuild first internally and find yourself again.” - Alexia Echavarria

“I am enjoying just being me and choosing peace over chaos.” - Alexia Echavarria

“Marriage is a business of life.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 3:05 | Intro

3:05 - 4:20 | Courageousness vs. fearlessness   

4:20 - 7:20 | Resilience 

7:20 - 9:45 | Mourning your old life 

9:45 - 12:45 | Moving through the trauma 

12:45 - 18:35 | A mothers instinct 

18:35 - 22:15 | Mental health in kids 

22:15 - 24:45 | A family breakup 

24:45 - 27:30 | Reinventing yourself 

27:30 - 36:05 | Falling in love again 

36:05 - 42:30 | Public eye 

42:30 - 44:45 | The housewives 

44:45 - 50:30 | Long-standing friends 

50:30 - 57:55 | Jealous men 

57:55 - 59:10 | Ignorance 

59:10 - 1:01:35 | Objectively funny 

1:01:35 - 1:03:30 | Legacy 

1:03:30 - 1:06:05 | Shame

1:06:05 - 1:07:50 | Girls girl 

1:07:50 - 1:09:13 | Outro 

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Connect with Alexia 

@alexiae_says 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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In this episode… 

• Demographics 
• Binge drinking 
• SoberCURIOUS 
• Mocktails 
• Controlled drinking 
• Habits 
• Changing the people, places, & things 
• Urge surfing 

Quotes

“People like that feeling of being drunk. I always say that you can have that without the substances.” - Silivia Subriana

“People are looking for festivity when they are drinking.” - Nikki Spo 

“Being sober curious is way more different than pursuing sobriety.” - Silivia Subriana

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 

2:00 - 3:55 | Demographics 

3:55 - 6:20 | Generations 

6:20 - 9:00 | Mocktail culture 

9:50 - 12:40 | Reconnecting with self 

12:40 - 17:10 | Stop & think 

17:10 - 20:45 | Changing the people, places, & things 

20:45 - 27:10 | Resources 

27:10 - 30:35 | Turning to a higher power  

30:35 - 33:55 | Urge surfing 

33:55 - 36:05 | Control 

36:05 - 39:40 | Unprocessed emotions 

39:40 - 42:10 | Making a change 

42:10 - 45:45 | Outro

Join Becoming Her

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Connect with Silvia Subriana

https://um.app/ 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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In this episode…

• Submission 
• Alpha women 
• Feminism 
• A strong man (mentally) 
• Feeling lonely but not alone 
• Trusting yourself 

Quotes

“True submission is not a man stepping on your head.” - Yuri Cordero 

“I think there are a lot of men who grew up and now they’re looking for their mom as a partner.” - Nikki Spo

“I am not gonna ignore it. I am going to hold up a mirror for humanity.” - Nikki Spo

“If you don’t go through the process, you will not make progress.” - Yuri Cordero 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 4:10 | Submission 

4:10 - 6:10 | Feminism 

6:10 - 10:10 | A non-threatening partner 

10:10 - 14:00 | Having a human experience 

14:00 - 17:30 | Trusting yourself 

17:30 - 22:30 | Mental health  

22:30 - 25:10 | Empathy 

25:10 - 28:00 | Going through the process  

28:00 - 31:45 | Outro 

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https://yuricordero.com/ 

https://yuricordero.com/librosycursos/p/the-virtue-of-the-process 

@yuri_cordero  

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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With kids going back to school in the next few weeks, I've been thinking a lot about how I want to show up as a parent, especially as my kids become more and more exposed to tech. That includes having tough conversations that maybe make me as a parent uncomfortable. 

This week's guest Erin Williamson is the chief programs and strategy officer at love146 where she leads efforts to prevent child trafficking and exploitation. With over 20 years of experience in social services and child protection, Erin has developed trauma informed programs that have reached thousands of vulnerable youth across the U.S. 

In this episode…

• Lightness with heavy topics 
• Warning signs 
• Seeking survival 
• Shame
• Being informed 
• Vulnerability 
• High-level psychological manipulation  

Quotes

“Everybody has been seeking some sort of survival since the beginning of humankind.” - Nikki Spo 

“An informed parent is always going to be in a better position even if it's hard to hear the information.” - Nikki Spo 

“We have to figure out how to raise children with the knowledge that we have without raising them to be scared of the world.” - Erin Williamson 

“If you’re old enough to have a phone, you’re old enough to have these conversations.” 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:35 | Intro 

2:35 - 4:35 | Lightness with heavy topics 

4:35 - 8:55 | Erin’s journey 

8:55 - 11:45 | Seeking survival

11:45 - 13:20 | Being informed 

13:20 - 18:15 | How this is happening 

18:15 - 23:55 | Rule breaking 

23:55 - 26:00 | Being believed 

26:00 - 33:10 | When we know better, we do better 

33:10 - 35:00 | A safe adult 

35:00 - 39:00 | Internet 

39:00 - 44:35 | Age restrictions 

44:35 - 47:40 | Making an impact 

47:40 - 49:28 | Outro 

Resources

To Raise a Boy  

Wait Until 8th 

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Connect with Erin Williamson 

https://love146.org/team_member/erin-williamson/ 

@love146 

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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This week's conversation is one that I truly believe that every single woman needs to hear. Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or even in your 20s, you need to hear this. We know that a lot of the women in their 50s are already tackling some of these topics head on, but I am really REALLY interested in my target demographic. All the listeners that keep coming here week after week to hear these conversations, THIS IS FOR YOU! We want to talk about what to do when something starts to feel… a little bit off. 

Joining me this week is the brilliant and compassionate Dr. Jila Senemar. She is a Miami based OBGYN and a hormone and wellness expert who is changing the game for women navigating perimenopause and menopause. You are NOT alone and you are NOT broken. Tune in to learn more!  

In this episode… 

• Destigmatizing
• Hormone therapy
• You are STILL relevant 
• Reinventing & restarting 
• Education 
• Perimenopause
• A woman's intuition

Quotes

“With maturity comes a sense of grace, comes a sense of confidence, and a state of presence of mind you just simply don’t have in your 20s, and sometimes even in your 30s.” - Nikki Spo

“What I want the younger generation to be ready for is what it is, why it's happening, that it's natural, there are lots of things that we can do to have a smooth transition.” - Dr. Jila Senemar 

“I am going to take everything back, start from scratch, and learn better.”  - Dr. Jila Senemar 

Timestamps:

0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 

2:50 - 6:30 | Reinventing & restarting 

6:30 - 9:20 | Dr. Jila Senemar’s journey 

9:20 - 11:45 | Being educated on your body 

11:45 - 17:15 | Perimenopause 

17:15 - 19:45 | A woman's intuition

19:45 - 23:50 | Where to start… 

23:50 - 28:08 | Estrogen 

28:08 - 34:10 | It’s sexy to be educated 

34:10 - 37:15 | Normal aging 

37:15 - 39:25 | PCOS

39:25 - 44:10 | Holistic approach

44:10 - 48:40 | Regulating hormones  

48:40 - 50:30 | Becoming the voice & face for this cause 

50:30 - 52:16 | Outro 

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Connect with Dr. Jila Senemar 

https://jilamd.com/ 

@drjilasenemar 

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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In this episode… 

• Risking it all
• Fears 
• Entrepreneurship
• Desires  
• Speaking up 
• Foundational plan 

Quotes:

“I do find a tremendous amount of freedom in being able to run my own business.” - Nikki Spo

“Entrepreneurship is actually a very natural thing if you think about it, we have been entrepreneurs since the very beginning creating things of value and receiving value in return.” - Jana Boyko  

“Allowing ourselves to sit in that place of desire is where the best business comes from.” - Jana Boyko 

“In many ways, our businesses will tell us what they want to become.” - Jana Boyko 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 

2:15 - 5:00 | Jana’s journey 

5:00 - 6:55 | Fears of risking it all

6:55 - 9:30 | Rooted in service 

9:30 - 11:25 | Speaking up 

11:25 - 12:55 | Agility 

12:55 - 17:20 | First steps to transition from employee to entrepreneur 

17:20 - 19:30 | Narrowing yourself down 

19:30 - 21:40 | Jobs are not meant to be stable 

21:40 - 23:15 | Needing a boost 

23:15 - 26:05 | How essential is a business plan 

26:05 - 28:50 | Developing a business plan 

28:50 - 29:55 | Journaling 

29:55 - 32:05 | How do women approach an entrepreneurial lifestyle 

32:05 - 37:40 | Obstacles 

37:40 - 40:30 | Having the grit 

40:30 - 41:20 | Activating the child mindset 

41:20 - 42:35 | Actionable advice 

42:35 - 44:23 | Outro 

Join Becoming Her

https://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about 

Connect with Jana Boyko 

https://www.janaboyko.com/ 

@bedsidebusinessplan / @janaboyko 

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher 

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Welcome back to the Becoming: HER podcast where we are stepping into the HER of our highest desires. This week we are joined by a woman whose story is a masterclass in grace, grit, and growth, Yuri Cordero. 

Yuri is the Vice President and Executive Producer of Univision and has been a leading force in the Spanish language media for over 27 years. Beyond these titles, Yuri is a woman who has walked through fire and come out stronger, softer, and more certain of who she is. Tune in to find out more! 

In this episode…

• Imposter syndrome 
• Being tough 
• Hardships 
• Being good to yourself 
• Slowing down 
• Blocking our blessings 

Quotes

“We need to believe that we are supposed to be there because if that door wasn’t for you to open and walk in, it would never have let you go inside in the first place. It wouldn't have opened.” - Yuri Cordero 

“Your hardship is not more significant than mine. Everything can be subjective. The worst thing that ever happened in your life is what happened in YOUR life.” - Nikki Spo

“We are all going through very different and difficult things in life but they are all just packaged differently.” - Nikki Spo 

“Even though the man is the head, we are the neck.” - Yuri Cordero & Nikki Spo

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 

2:50 - 5:45 | Imposter syndrome 

5:45 - 7:55 | Tired of being tough 

7:55 - 11:10 | Hardships 

11:10 - 12:20 | Being good to yourself 

12:20 - 13:20 | The virtue of the process 

13:20 - 16:16 | What makes a strong marriage 

16:16 - 17:40 | Everything is for a reason 

17:40 - 20:05 | How does the head (the man) come into play

20:05 - 22:25  | Prioritizing your marriage 

22:25 - 25:20 | Energy & decisions

25:20 - 26:30 | Relationships are NOT one-sided  

26:30 - 29:25 | Being a provider 

29:25 - 30:40 | Outro 

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.

Join Becoming Her

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Connect with Yuri Cordero 

https://yuricordero.com/ 

https://yuricordero.com/librosycursos/p/the-virtue-of-the-process 

@yuri_cordero  

Connect with Nikki 

www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo 

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BTW. Are you looking for deeper connection? You know what I say. “Come sit with us.” But for real. Join my EXCLUSIVE online women’s community for Becoming: HER today.

Xoxo, 

Nikki Spo 

In this episode… 

• Gottman Method 
• Fight or flight 
• Nervous system reactions 
• Coming back to self
• Moving through & beyond 
• Unconditional vs. conditional love  

Quotes

“As humans, when we go into fight or flight we have been wired to run away from danger.” - Jaime Morgan 

“You can’t change your past but you can allow yourself to forgive yourself.” - Jaime Morgan 

“It’s very hard to exist in a world where we think that romantic love is unconditional yet self-love is conditional, like what the eff is that.” - Nikki Spo 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:05 | Intro 

2:05 - 7:15 | Overview of the Gottman Method 

7:15 - 9:55 | Homecoming 

9:55 - 12:00 | Changing perspectives 

12:00 - 15:05 | Moving through post-divorce life

15:05 - 18:00 | Unlearning habits 

18:00 - 22:48 | Unconditional vs. conditional love 

22:48 - 25:40 | Trying to control the controllable 

25:40 - 28:30 | Moving through an identity shift

28:30 - 36:00 | Letting go 

36:00 - 39:40 | Pain management 

39:40 - 45:25 | Biggest fears in women post-divorce 

45:25 - 47:21 | Outro 

Revisit Episode 81: 

Revamping Your Relationships with The Gottman Method and Jaime Morgan 

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In this episode, we talk about building grit, embracing accountability, and the power of learning through life’s lessons. Nikki and Ayana open up about raising kids with empathy, the importance of recognizing that we all have choices, and how shifting our lens can shape the way we show up for ourselves and our children.

We also take a closer look at her mission behind itavi, and why it's more than just a childcare brand–it’s a movement rooted in purpose. Tune in!

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Xoxo,

Nikki Spo

In this episode…

• Building Grit
• Accountability
• Instant Gratification
• Shaping the Next Generation of Men
• Learning Lessons
• Having Zero Expectations
• Seeing Through a New Lens
• About itavi



Quotes

“As my children are getting older I am trying to always acknowledge; thank you for being the person who you are choosing to show to be.” - Ayana Rodriguez

“They might find themselves in that situation once, but it's being able to learn from that lesson so that they don't find themselves in that situation 2, 3, 4 times over again.” - Ayana Rodriguez

“God gives you the lesson as long as you need to learn it” - Nikki Spo

“I think there's a moment in time, when you can take a step back and reflect and say: I don't quite have the right lens, but I know that there is a different lens.” - Ayana Rodriguez

Timestamps:

0:00 - 0:37 | Empathy is Huge.

0:37 - 0:56 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO

0:56 - 1:28 | Intro

1:28 - 3:11 | Building Grit

3:11 - 4:45 | Nikki’s Experience Teaching 7th Grade

4:45 - 7:37 | Accountability is What Leads Us to Resiliency

7:37 - 9:40 | Using Social Media For Good

9:40 - 12:40 | Instant Gratification 

12:40 - 14:35 | “You’re Participating in the Locker Room Talk”

14:35 - 15:53 | Empathy is the Key

15:53 - 16:50 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO

16:50 - 17:16 | Join the Becoming: HER Online Community

17:16 - 19:30 | “God Gives You the Lesson As Long As You Need to Learn It”

19:30 - 21:20 | “At the Top People Are Collaborating”/Competitiveness

2120 - 22:50 | Do No Harm, Take No Sh*t

22:50 - 25:33 | The Power of Choice/Changing the Lens

25:33 - 26:19 | Everyone Has Choices

26:19 - 31:17 | About itavi

31:17 - 31:35 | Message from SANA SKIN STUDIO

31:35 - 32:32 | Outro

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Itavi

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In this episode…

• Having a turning point 
• Becoming the best version of yourself 
• Defining self love  
• Becoming the HER of your highest desires 
• Making ME proud of ME 
• Writing your own story 

Quotes

“If we become our favorite version of ourselves then we will start to feel that way about us.” - Alethea Crimmins

“From a young age we have been seeking out worth in the eyes of others.” - Nikki Spo

“I believe that our spirits are born pure and beautiful but our humanity is homed and shaped overtime.” - Nikki Spo  

“I can love you without you having access to me and I can love you without you having access to my space.” - Alethea Crimmins

“When somebody tells you something and it makes you feel some type of way, you take that in, you internalize it, and then that becomes your identity and that becomes who you say that you are.” - Alethea Crimmins

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 4:20 | Intro 

4:20 - 8:10 | Becoming: HER 

8:10 - 10:40 | Turning point 

10:40 - | Being LOUD with your message 

17:25 - 25:35 | Identity 

25:35 - | Being the hero of your own story 

27:15 - 31:15 | Making the change 

31:15 - 34:00 | Doubling down on yourself 

34:00 - 37:10 | Being your true self 

37:10 - 39:05 | Becoming the butterfly 

39:05 - 42:30 | How long do we stay in unhealthy relationships 

42:30 - 45:40 | Showing up how you want to show up 

45:40 - 59:12 | Haters 

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Ladies and gentlemen, have you ever looked around at your success and thought, why doesn’t this feel better? This week's episode is for YOU. Joining us is Keren Eldad, better known as Coach Keren. She is the executive coach to fortune 500 leaders, olympic athletes, and high achievers who are outwardly crushing it. She is the expert that leaders did not know they needed until they realized that ambition alone is NOT the answer. As the founder of With Enthusiasm and author of Gilded, Keren is reshaping what it means to lead and succeed…tune in to find out more!  

In this episode…

• Feeling how you are supposed to feel 
• Feeling & being stuck 
• Gilded cage 
• Loss aversion 
• Playing to win 
• Recognition & vulnerability 
• How good it feels to FEEL GOOD

Quotes

“Becoming her to me means I have become free to deserve everything I have ever wanted. I have become free to be who I really am.” - Keren Eldad 

“Success without fulfillment is ultimate failure.” - Keren Eldad 

“All of our brains are designed as a survival tool and not a happiness seeking tool.” - Keren Eldad 

“Most superstars LOOK like superstars and LOOK like they’re playing to win, but in fact, they’re playing not to lose.” - Keren Eldad 

Timestamps:

0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 

2:00 - 3:45 | What does Becoming Her mean to Keren 

3:45 - 5:40 | Symptoms of the stuckness  

5:40 - 8:30 | Loss aversion 

8:30 - 12:20 | Integrity 

12:20 - 13:00 | Being complacent 

13:00 - 17:20 | Psychological reasonings 

17:20 - 21:00 | Steps out of the gilded cage 

21:00 - 22:50 | Climbing the ladder vs. genuine ambition 

22:50 - 24:20 | Feeling RIGHT 

24:20 - 29:30 | Sacrifice 

29:30 - 32:15 | The feeling of hope

32:15 - 36:10 | Unlearning perfectionism

36:10 - 39:20 | Mercy

39:20 - 42:40 | Emotional intelligence 

42:40 - 45:40 | The mental health boom   

45:40 - 46:20 | Trust 

46:20 - 48:21 | Outro

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@coachkeren

https://breakfreewithgilded.com/ 

https://www.withenthusiasmcoaching.com/inspire 

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@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo 

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In this episode…

• Power couples 
• Head trash 
• Lost confidence 
• THRIVING 
• Non-negotiables 
• Triggers 
• CATCH (Consistency, Awareness, Time, Communicate, Honor Your Agreements) 

Quotes 

“I was never meant to be the wind beneath someone's wings, but actually a woman who flies alongside her partner.” - Nikki Spo 

“In a romantic relationship, I am NOT your mother.” - Nikki Spo

“In order to be in a successful relationship, you have to have non-negotiables.” - Naketa Ren Thigpen 

“People talk about sex before they are talking about money in relationships.” - Naketa Ren Thigpen 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 

2:00 - 9:25 |  Naketa’s journey 

9:25 - 11:25 | Real relationships 

11:25 - 16:20 | Creating an environment to thrive in 

16:20 - 19:05 | Safety 

19:05 - 21:20 | Triggers 

21:20 - 22:45 | Particles of truth 

22:45 - 26:30 | Curiosity

26:30 - 30:45 | Rewriting your story  

30:45 - 33:15 | Freeing yourself  

33:15 - 39:50 | Finding a way to grow together

39:50 - 45:45 | Power couples 

45:45 - 47:50 | Philanthropic mindset 

47:50 - 49:48 | Outro

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Xoxo, 

Nikki Spo 

In this episode… 

• Leaning OUT of the boss bitch energy 
• Mindsets 
• Soft girl era
• Small shifts, big change
• Having FUN 
• Setting goals 
• Reparetning 

Quotes

“Everyone is always saying ‘go big or go home,’ but how about ‘stay home and start small’.” - Erin Morrison

“Your soft girl era is NOT your little b*tch era.” - Erin Morrison 

“I think that the best thing we can do for our kids is showing them that you are excited about your own life.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 0:50 | Intro 

0:50 - 2:50 | Soft girl era  

2:50 - 6:30 | Authenticity 

6:30 - 8:10 | Honesty with kids 

8:10 - 11:00 | Setting goals  

11:00 -  14:45 | Three Minutes for Mom 

14:45 - 16:45 | Gratitude 

16:45 - 18:50 | Accountability 

18:50 - 22:00 | Be more YOU 

22:00 - 23:30| Reparenting ourselves while we are parenting our kids 

23:30 - 25:28 | Outro  

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Connect with Erin Morrison 

https://theconsciousmom.com/ 

@itstheconsciousmom

threeminutesformom   

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www.nikkispo.com  

@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo 

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Xoxo, 

Nikki Spo 

In this episode… 

• Masculine & feminine energy 
• Accepting change 
• Moving through life 
• Peace & acceptance 
• Teaching resilience 
• Buying into fear 
• Changing the algorithm 
• Apparotate honesty 

Quotes

“I would rather feel something than nothing.” - Nikki Spo

“Sometimes you just need to allow it and you don’t always have to be the fighter.” - Erin Morrison  

“I really do think that I was born with a gift and also a curse that I want to live. I really want to live.” - Nikki Spo

“Where I am at right now is allowing my kids to struggle but being there to walk through it with them.” - Erin Morrison 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 1:10 | Intro 

1:10 - 3:30 | Living & experiencing 

3:30 - 4:50 | Allowing rather than accepting 

4:50 - 5:30 | Masculine & feminine energy

5:30 - 6:50 | Moving through life rather than persevering 

6:50 - 10:00 | Teaching kids resilience 

10:00 - 13:15 | Accessible information & misinformation 

13:15 - 17:40 | Doing the work to achieve the goal 

17:40 - 19:30 | Tapping into the good 

19:30 - 22:00 | The noise of others 

22:00 - 25:05 | De-deifying ourselves a parents 

25:05 - 29:55 | Not trusting yourself 

29:55 - 32:25 | Authenticity 

32:25 - 33:10 | How moms can come home to themselves 

33:10 - 34:27 | Outro 

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In Part TWO, we’re talking all about how movement is healing for the body—not just physically, but emotionally too. Dr. Kat shares how reconnecting with your body can shift your entire mindset and help you feel more grounded and empowered. We also get real about the power of being your own hero—because no one knows what you need better than you. 

This episode is a reminder that you are capable of rising, healing, and creating your own change—one step, one breath, and one movement at a time. Tune in!

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Xoxo,

Nikki Spo

In this episode…

• Leveling Up
• Thanking Your Body
• Movement is Healing for the Body
• You Are the Best Person to Save Yourself.

Quotes

 “Sitting in your own truth and honoring your intuition is the only way to live.” - Kat Vigo 

“Lean into it, and listen.” - Kat Vigo 

“You are so much more than the disaster that is your circumstance right now.” - Kat Vigo 

“Nobody is better equipped to come save you than yourself.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:

0:00 - 0:26 | “You Will Never Question Running Toward Your Crying Baby”

0:26 - 0:59 | Intro

0:59 - 3:23 | Thanking Your Body When Something is Off

3:23 - 6:37 | About the Podcast Rebrand

6:37 - 12:30 | Movement is Healing for the Body

12:30 - 13:03 | Join the Becoming: HER Online Women’s Community

13:03 - 16:21 | Movement is Healing for the Body (cont.)

16:21 - 18:30 | You Are So Much More Than Your Circumstances

18:30 - 20:12 | You Saving You

20:12 - 22:29 | Painless Pregnancy Making Waves

22:29 - 23:26 | Outro

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Painless Pregnancy

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In Part One, Sarah got real about resilience, spirituality, and self-worth. In this conversation, we’re talking money, mindset, relationships, and how to unapologetically grow into the version of yourself that leads to a yummy, delicious life.

Whether you’re craving more purpose, more self-love, or the confidence to outgrow what no longer fits—this one’s for you. Tune in!

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BTW. Are you looking for deeper connection? You know what I say. “Come sit with us.” But for real. Join my EXCLUSIVE online women’s community for Becoming: HER today.

Xoxo,

Nikki Spo

In this episode…

• What it Means to Have A Full Life
• When Money Blocks Growth
• Importance of Storytelling
• Accepting Yourself
• Financial Freedom
• Living a ‘Yummy Delicious’ Life
• Outgrowing Your Environment

Quotes

“You can take everything away from me, I’ll build it again.” - Sarah Akiba

“The definition of a ‘big life’ is changing for people. What makes your life big and full has a much different definition in today's world than it once did.” - Nikki Spo

“I’ve never been worried about me.” - Nikki Spo

“There is a desire for a man in your life, but not a need for one.” - Sarah Akiba

Timestamps:

0:00 - 0:21 | “Now I Can Slow Down”

0:21 - 0:40 | SANA SKIN STUDIO

0:40 - 1:13 | Intro

1:13 - 2:50 | “I’m Not Perfect & I Think That’s Why People Relate To Me”

2:50 - 4:30 | What Makes Up a Full Life

4:30 - 6:42 | The Power & Limits of Money

6:42 - 9:09 | “Attached to Nothing & Connected to Everything”

9:09 - 11:00 | Build It Back & Build It Better

11:00 - 13:37 | Sarah’s Story With Losing it All & Starting Over

13:37 - 14:06 | “You Chose the Life That You Want”

14:06 - 15:32 | “Always Have Your Own Money”

15:32 - 16:53 | “There is a Desire For a Man in Your Life, But Not a Need For One” 

16:53 -  17:49 | SANA SKIN STUDIO

17:49 - 18:14 | Join the Becoming: HER Online Community

18:14 - 26:45 | How Sarah Met Her Husband

26:45 - 29:03 | Highly Successful Women Need Supportive Partners

29:03 - 31:32 | Finally Accepting Yourself

31:32 - 34:40 | “Guys Want Princess Treatment”

34:40 -  36:37 | “What's Going on With Book the Spaces?”

36:37 - 38:50 | “Allowing Yourself to Outgrow Your Pot”