Dad Without Borders

Dad Diaries: Leading With Love From Across An Ocean

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 11 Dec 2025 20:52:56 +0000

In this final Dad Diaries episode of Season 3, Blue is winding down for Christmas and gearing up for a precious visit from his eldest son, who has lived in the UK for almost eight years. From his little trailer studio in the Canadian winter, he talks about why he is pausing the podcast, where his energy is going next, and how he keeps showing up as a dad from afar.

In this episode, Blue talks about:

Why this is the last episode of Season 3 and what the winter break will look like

A quick recap of the relocation case, joint guardianship, and life as a long distance dad

How he stays plugged into school life from overseas by being on email lists, contacting teachers, and watching the calendar

The Christmas jumper story and using small, thoughtful gestures to stay present in a child’s day to day life

Creating physical photo albums after visits so kids have something tangible to hold onto

Letting go, trusting the universe, and teaching kids to make good choices when you cannot be there in person

Using outdoor adventure and risk management as a framework for leadership in parenting

Growing his platform through Instagram reels, TikTok, and YouTube Shorts, and why he is focusing there for now

Navigating spicy comment sections, old friction with his ex, and choosing to lead with love instead of resentment

The joy and chaos of blending families, planning the airport hotel adventure, and looking ahead to Christmas on the slopes

A message for dads and parents who are not with their kids this Christmas and ideas for making connection anyway

If you are a dad facing separation, distance, or complicated co parenting, Blue’s hope is that this episode reminds you that you can still have a deep, loving relationship with your child, even when you are not there as much as you want. Lead with love, keep showing up in whatever ways you can, and create your own version of “Christmas day” when it works for you.

Connect with Blue

Instagram: @dadwithoutborders

TikTok: @dadwithoutborders

YouTube Shorts: Dad Without Borders

Website and writing: bluenetherclift.com

If this episode or this season helped you, the best way to support the show is to share an episode or a reel with another dad who needs it, leave a rating or review, and connect with Blue on social. Season 4 is planned for the spring, so stay tuned.

Dad Diaries - How To Lose Custody Without Losing Your Kid’s Heart

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 29 Nov 2025 21:55:22 +0000

In this episode, I unpack what it is like to be labelled a dad who “lost custody” after years of giving everything to my son. I walk through my work story, how my flexible career and time with him were framed as a weakness in court, and why that judgement left such a deep feeling of shame. From there, I talk about the choice to stop feeding resentment, to step away from online drama, and to focus instead on love, presence and long term connection.

I also share one of the biggest turning points in my journey, taking my son and my partner off grid while we waited for an appeal decision, and how those days by the lake became a template for how I cope with stress as a long distance dad. I close with some simple ideas for staying connected across distance, from consistent FaceTime rituals to making small, memorable adventures when you are finally together.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

What it actually feels like to “lose custody” and carry that label

How my work history and time with my son were used against me in court

Why holding on to bitterness gives your power away to the system

The story of going off grid with my son while we waited for an appeal decision

How nature, adventure and simple rituals help me stay grounded as a long distance dad

Practical ideas for staying close through FaceTime, shared interests and small adventures

A reminder to get support, keep showing up and let your love for your child lead the way

Dad Diaries - How I Stayed Connected Through an Eight Month Separation

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 20 Nov 2025 16:55:38 +0000

In this episode, I open up about a period when I lost my final appeal, my son had already relocated overseas, my partner was heavily pregnant, and I simply could not travel. With the help of attachment focussed social worker Catherine Williams, I built a plan to stay in my son’s daily life through predictable calls, creative rituals, and a neutral story that explained the court decisions without blame. I share the moment we finally reunited in the UK and how that first hug confirmed that all the effort to stay connected had been worth it.

I also push back on the idea that backing off contact somehow makes things easier for a child who misses you. Drawing on attachment principles and my own experience, I talk about why consistency beats perfection, how kids experience long silences, and why it is kinder to keep showing up even when goodbyes are hard. To close, I encourage dads to get both solid legal advice and seasoned counselling support early, so they can protect their parenting time while staying grounded and connected for their kids.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

A tribute to Judson, a former guest and ski guide who died suddenly of a heart attack

The “fitness paradox” and why very active middle aged dads still need to think about heart health

How an eight month separation unfolded after losing a final appeal on relocation

The daily Skype routine that helped my son feel I was still part of his everyday life

How I used a child friendly “life story” book to explain court decisions without blaming his mum

The emotional first reunion in the UK and what it revealed about secure attachment

Why pulling back to “make it easier” usually hurts kids more than regular goodbyes

Simple, realistic ways to stay present from afar, even with time zones and busy schedules

The importance of outdoor, screen free time together when you do reunite

Dad Diaries - How to Deal with Holidays Apart, Parenting Rights & Discipline

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 3 Nov 2025 23:13:18 +0000

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical realities of long-distance fatherhood and co-parenting after separation. I share lessons from Halloween traditions and holiday rituals, the challenges of discipline with a sensitive three-year-old, and how those lessons carry over into parenting my twelve-year-old who lives overseas. With insight from a top UK family lawyer on the Hague Convention and advice from psychologists Sean Larsen and Todd Kettner, I explore how to focus on your child’s wellbeing, manage emotions, and nurture connection across borders.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Understanding the Hague Convention and international parenting rights

How to keep your child at the centre during legal or co-parenting conflict

Simple rituals and creative ways to stay connected through holidays

Balancing firmness and sensitivity in discipline near and far

The value of quiet presence and emotional steadiness with older kids

Dad Diaries - How To Nurture Healthy Attachment In Separation

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 25 Oct 2025 00:05:55 +0000

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical realities of long-distance fatherhood and how to nurture a balanced bond between parents after separation. With insights from counsellor Catherine Williams and research on the Kelly & Johnston Continuum, I discuss healthy attachment, the difference between affinity and alienation, and why a child’s best outcome depends on both parents being supported.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why self-care and emotional health come first for separated parents

How to stay connected through letters, FaceTime, and shared rituals

The Kelly & Johnston Continuum explained — from balance to alienation

Language that fosters security instead of division

Simple activities that reconnect families across distance

Professional insight and practical tools for parents navigating separation

Dad Diaries: How to Deal With High Anxiety in Young Children

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 15 Oct 2025 03:21:50 +0000

In this episode, I open up about the emotional and practical work of supporting a young child through high anxiety — and what it means to stay grounded as a parent when your child’s fear takes over. With thanks and insight from psychologist Sean Larsen, hypnotherapist Catherine Williams, and family counsellor Erica Spink, I explore how “bottom-up” fear works in a child’s nervous system, why storytelling can be more powerful than reassurance, and how gentle exposure and family balance helped our son heal.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Simple family moments that restore connection — nature play, empathy, and advocacy

How a mild infection triggered deep anxiety in a six-year-old

Why logic doesn’t calm body-based fear

How storytelling can re-train a child’s brain

The emotional load of co-regulation and the need for parental balance

The small daily shifts that made a difference: softer mornings, more play, less pressure

Dad Diaries: How to Navigate Handovers, Big Goodbyes & Daycare Drop-Offs

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 6 Oct 2025 05:18:15 +0000

This episode explores the emotional terrain of letting go and showing up. I reflect on the early days of co-parenting — the handovers, the tension, and the quiet rituals that helped my son feel safe — and how those lessons continue to shape the way I parent today.

From the big goodbyes of long-distance fatherhood to the daily drop-offs at daycare, I’ve learned that transitions are where connection is built — if we stay present and consistent through them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The power of predictable handovers and simple goodbye rituals

Why short, steady transitions work best for kids

Lessons from co-parenting through conflict with compassion

How long-distance parenting shaped my approach to daily connection

A reminder that presence matters more than perfection

Dad Diary — The Father the Moment Demands

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 04:49:06 +0000

In this Dad Diary, I reflect on the dual challenges of fatherhood across distance and at home. Saying goodbye to my eldest son after a summer visit — complete with a broken arm and his first solo flight — pushed me to hold space for his sadness while staying steady. At the same time, helping my three-year-old navigate daycare transitions has reminded me that even small daily goodbyes ask for presence, consistency, and soft strength.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The emotional goodbye of my son’s first solo flight back to the UK
Rituals our family uses to anchor connection through goodbyes
How daycare transitions mirror the bigger separations
Reflections on Jason Wilson’s idea of being “the man the moment demands”

The Journey Continues: Coming Soon – Introducing Dad Diaries

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 7 Jul 2025 21:47:56 +0000

In This Episode:

Blue's podcast journey from 2020 pandemic start to present
How a brutal custody battle became a gift for better parenting
The inspiration behind returning after a 2-year break
Season 3 announcement: Dad Diaries format launching September 2025

Upcoming Season 3 Topics:

Handling anxiety in young children
Navigating germ phobia
Raising a highly sensitive child
Managing distance parenting as children approach teenage years
Staying connected from afar - and should we?
Time as a gift, not a sacrifice

Connect with Blue:

Visit bluenetherclift.com for more resources on international parenting
Find all episodes at dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com
Connect with Blue on Instagram @dadwithoutborders
Season 3: Dad Diaries launches September 2025 - subscribe wherever you get your podcasts

Resources Mentioned:

International parenting challenges and solutions
Blended family dynamics across continents
Professional consultation for parenting struggles

Community: Whether you're tuning in from Toronto or Tokyo, Manchester or the Middle East, if you're a parent trying to figure it all out, you're part of this community. Remember - there are no borders when it comes to a parent's love.

Archetypes, Leadership & the Power of Men’s Circles

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 21 Feb 2025 06:39:13 +0000

David Stegman's offerings include:

The Courageous Way - Business and Mindset coaching

https://www.thecourageousway.com/

The Rad Dad Collective

https://www.raddadcollective.org/

Fatherhood After Divorce: Staying Connected

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 7 Feb 2025 00:03:41 +0000

In this episode of Staying Connected: Fatherhood After Separation, we dive deep into the challenges and opportunities fathers face in maintaining a strong bond with their children after divorce, separation, or limited parenting time. No matter your circumstances, you can build a powerful connection with your child. So, whether you have limited time, live far away, or are adjusting to co-parenting, this episode offers hope and practical ways to make every moment count. ❤️ Parenting norms are shifting, but traditional stereotypes still paint fathers as mere providers and protectors. In reality, modern dads are stepping into both nurturing and leadership roles, proving that emotional intelligence, empathy, and presence are just as important as financial stability. Drawing from my own journey of co-parenting across borders, I share practical strategies for staying connected, from adjusting expectations to embracing shared activities that strengthen attachment. Whether you're a single dad navigating separation, a co-parent trying to redefine your role, or even a mother looking to understand the father’s perspective, this episode is for you. Key Topics Covered: ✅ Redefining Fatherhood: Moving beyond the outdated "breadwinner" model to embrace a holistic parenting approach. ✅ The Power of Shared Activities: How playing, learning, and adventuring together builds deep, lasting bonds. ✅ The Science of Connection: Exploring how dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins strengthen the parent-child relationship. ✅ The Role of Nature: Why spending time outdoors (hiking, canoeing, biking, or simply throwing stones on a beach) can create powerful emotional anchors. ✅ Navigating Emotional Challenges: How fathers can show up authentically and consistently, even when facing court battles, distance, or personal struggles. ✅ Resilience & Adaptability: Embracing both traditional strength and nurturing care without sacrificing masculinity. Why This Episode Matters: 💡 Fatherhood is evolving, and men are stepping into deeper, more emotionally present roles in their children's lives. 💡 Small moments matter. From baking and watching shows together to skateboarding and camping, it’s about being present and engaged. 💡 Dads have permission to nurture. Leaning into both masculine and feminine traits is a strength, not a weakness.

Everything Will Be Okay - Facing Your Fears

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 31 Jan 2025 19:30:46 +0000

In this episode, I open up about navigating fear, fatherhood, and maintaining a deep connection with my son despite the challenges of an international blended family. After my first wife was granted full custody and relocated overseas with our child, I had to redefine my role as a father - challenging the traditional archetype of being a provider and protector when my child was an ocean away. I share my personal journey of overcoming fear - fear of the unknown, financial instability, losing my connection with my son, and the stigma of failure. Through trial, error, professional guidance, and leaning into love over fear, I’ve learned what truly matters in co-parenting and long-distance fatherhood. This episode is for any parent - especially fathers - facing separation, uncertainty, or the struggle of maintaining a strong bond with their children. You are not alone. Join the conversation! DM me on Instagram @DadWithoutBorders or email me at dadwithoutborders@gmail.com to share your story.

Navigating the Challenges and Personal Growth as a Father - Part 2. Raw Conversations

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 22 Jan 2025 14:00:00 +0000

This is part 2 of a conversation with fellow dad Jasper as we build support for each other through our friendship. Topics we touch on: Staying engaged with your child's school timetable activities and teachers Advocating for therapy for the kids Honesty and openness with our kids Being a safe and trusted space for your kid The importance of being present Meditating with kids Importance of nature for connecting with children and as a family Renovations vs quality time with family Focusing on how our children feel in their home Investing time in our partners and meeting their needs Understanding our partners love language The importance of personal growth

Navigating Anger and Emotions as a Father – Part 1. Raw Conversations

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 14:00:00 +0000

Navigating Fatherhood with Heart and Grit In this raw and honest episode, your host Blue sits down with Jasper, a local dad and close friend, for a deep dive into the realities of modern fatherhood. This episode marks the first part of an ongoing conversation about the ups and downs of being a dedicated and present father. Together, they explore the challenges that many dads face, from dealing with anxiety around being “worthy” as a parent, to the importance of seeking professional help through counselling. Jasper shares his personal journey, and the two discuss how our children often become our teachers, offering valuable insights into our own emotional growth. A key theme of the episode is the struggle with anger, and the impact it can have on our relationships with our children. They also touch on the responsibility we have as fathers to not burden our children with our emotions, and how to maintain a healthy emotional environment in the family. This episode is a must-listen for any dad—or parent—navigating the complexities of fatherhood. Whether you’re dealing with separation, blended families, or simply looking to grow in your parenting journey, this conversation will offer perspective, support, and practical advice. Stay tuned for future episodes as Blue continues to share his personal experiences, offer solo reflections, and invite professionals to weigh in on the important topics shaping fatherhood today.

Reclaiming Fatherhood: Navigating Loss, Rediscovering Strength, and Redefining Modern Parenthood

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 9 Jan 2025 22:40:36 +0000

In this episode, I aim to reintroduce myself as the host and a father who has embarked on a tumultuous journey through separation and divorce from the mother of my first child. Throughout this turbulent period, I encountered immense challenges within the court system, grappled with a sense of isolation and lack of support within the community, and felt unfairly represented in society as a father. The absence of relatable role models further exacerbated my struggles, leaving me feeling adrift in a sea of societal expectations and stereotypes that did not align with my experiences and values. The challenges I have faced and ultimately losing custody of my first child, who then moved overseas with his mother - has been actually been a gift, allowing me to discover a deeper side of myself and develop a more mindful and creative approach to parenting as a father with an international blended family, and a long distance relationship with my eldest son. Despite the separation and distance my role and presence is integral to his well being. I just find ways of showing up in his home, his school and everyday life. So stay positive, listen and know that there is another way.

Hot Tips and Winning As a Long Distant Parent

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 9 Feb 2023 23:14:44 +0000

This is a chance to share some recent "wins" as a long-distance parent and offer some hot tips to anyone that might need some advice in navigating long-distance relationships with their kids. It is not easy to be away from your kids, even for a week. I have to deal with many months separated from my oldest son who lives in the UK, and making him feel like a part of my family here in Canada is not an easy task. But my three young sons are incredibly close and this it the result of thoughtful, creative parenting. I hope this short episode provides some hope for other dads that might be struggling.

My EMDR Therapy & Effective Parenting (from a Distance)

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 03:35:01 +0000

This week I share my recent experience with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) - dealing with the trauma of a child custody trial - as an effective way to deal with any residue impact on the mind and body. It was a really interesting and productive experience for me and I want to encourage other Dads to consider seeking therapy in some form if they have not already done so. As part of the parenting journey, we need to own our own shit and confront our demons to become the best parents we can be - in my opinion. Kids are our best teachers, so it's a great opportunity for personal development. This leads to a reflection on parenting from a distance with a child overseas, and actually how it's possible to be as connected as any day-to-day parent, if not more so. I then touch on current challenges with our three-year-old boy that anyone with young kids might be able to relate to - and how we are dealing with it.

Parenting for a Peaceful Home with Life Coach and Author Drew Tupper

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 1 Oct 2022 04:15:45 +0000

A great conversation about how to show up as a parent with the author of Parenting for a Peaceful Home. Drew Tupper is an Author, life coach, husband, and father of two. He has dedicated his life to seeking truth and creating purpose. He practices these intentions by examining and analyzing questions such as: Why are we here? How should we live? What matters? And how can we BE so that our lives are an outward projection of our being? He has overcome struggle and knows what it feels like to feel stuck, angry, and lost. His life is a testament to the adage that growth is not always a straightforward path, but that it is always a worthwhile pursuit. In his words, he “found liberation in loving himself unconditionally,” which “allows him to create his life, rather than react.” Now, this is what he helps his clients do. Do you have to try really hard to be successful? Or do you need to tune into your self and act from a place of calm, so you can co regulate with your kids. Energy is everything when you are parenting. If you want to find a way to calm your child, this is a good episode for you. Do you ever had a bad reaction to your child crying? Like me, have you been obsessed by nap times and do you know how to regulate yourself so you don't freak out? We also talk about acceptance and forgiving yourself. Consider the impact of your tone with your kids. How were we impacted by our upbringing. What happens to adults that were raised with a negative tone? What kind of tone do we need to have? The key takeaway could be that we all need to 'do the work' and seek professional guidance as we navigate parenting. Or maybe just subscribe and listen to all these episodes.

Kids Are Not Responsible for Your Emotions

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 15 Sep 2022 22:47:02 +0000

I was in a counselling session yesterday with Catherine Williams, a registered social worker. A friend of the show and someone who has been a great source of inspiration and support over the years. One of the topics that was discussed was the fact that it is important that kids don't feel responsible for their parent's emotions. This had me reflecting on some of the situation I have been in as a parent, when I am being triggered or I voice my frustrations. It was a great reminder for me to watch my language and actions around my three children to make sure I am taking ownership of how I feel and not putting expectations on them to show up in a certain was to appease me. I also share a brief update of how things are going for our family with a new baby, and the relationship of the siblings.

Tech Intentional Parenting with Consultant Emily Cherkin

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Resources:

The article Emily wrote that mentioned a fake Snapchat account: https://emilycherkin.medium.com/im-43-i-made-a-fake-snapchat-account-pretending-to-be-a-15-year-old-3c7e7a7e1786
Everyschool.org is where you can find the EdTech Triangle
My YouTube channel with Tech-Intentional Tips videos: YouTube

Brief Bio:

Emily Cherkin, MA Ed, is The Screentime Consultant, an internationally recognized consultant who has worked with families and schools over the last fifteen years. A former classroom teacher and current parent, Emily helps families go from tech-overwhelmed to tech-intentional. She's been featured on The Today Show (twice), Good Morning, America, and in The New York Times. She can be found on the major social media platforms and at www.thescreentimeconsultant.com.

Social Media handles:

www.facebook.com/thescreentimeconsultant

www.facebook.com/groups/techintentionalfamiliesunited

www.instagram.com/thescreentimeconsultant

www.linkedin.com/in/emily-cherkin

YouTube channel

Twitter

Welcoming A New Baby to the World

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 14:00:00 +0000

We have a new baby boy! Dad Without Borders is back after a summer break enjoying family time as we transition into life with a new baby and juggling the needs of three sons aged 0, 3 and 9. I have lots more to say about this, but in this episode I focus on sharing my experience of welcoming our baby boy into the world.

Waiting for the New Baby and Trying to Stay Calm

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 16 May 2022 23:22:36 +0000

So the baby is now several days over due. We are waiting patiently for labour to start. We are all feeling calm but are we ready? I am sharing some post labour thoughts as we get ready for the big event. Is it time to head to the hospital? Will the mid wife make it on time? Is it time to leave the home and head to the hospital. We are an hour drive from the hospital and the mid wife is even further away. Do we pull the trigger and leave our toddler with family and friends? As we prepare ourselves for a huge family shift, I am looking forward to sharing the adventures of a new born and an international blended family. As if life was not already complicated enough but I am really looking forward to the next phase of our family. Please enjoy! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Ex Military Policeman & Inspired Father Supporting Dads

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 11 May 2022 14:00:00 +0000

This episode starts with a brief update as today is the due date of our baby boy (my third son). I then get into conversation with Eric Taylor aka The Breastfeeding Father, an ex military man who is now studying clinical psychology with a focus on children and adolescents. Eric is based in Canada with his wife and baby, but it also has a young daughter living in the USA. Covid has been incredibly challenging for them with a long period of separation between him and his daughter. We talk about international parenting, the role of the father with new borns and babies, supporting Mothers breastfeeding, the importance of understanding and forgiving his father, engaging with a child in a long distance relationship, the need for more information for Dads in their role in the child and parent relationship, and more. This is a great conversation for any Dads (or Moms), wondering about their role as fathers, especially with young children. There were some great reminders for me, as I prepare to welcome our son to the world and get ready to support the Mom in child birth and postpartum. Please enjoy! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

The Challenges of Becoming a Dad & Supporting Other Men To Be Better Fathers

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 28 Apr 2022 04:19:25 +0000

This is a great conversation with Curt Storring from Dad.Work. We share the struggles of becoming a father. The episode starts with some personal updates, including the fact that we are about to have a baby (boy number 3!) and gearing up for that reality. In this episode we learn about Curt who lives in an authentic way as a father after a difficult transition to parenting left him feeling "overwhelmed, angry and lonely" ultimately not being the father that he wanted to be. "The first few years of fatherhood were hard for me. I was so overwhelmed, angry, and lonely, that it caused chaos in every other part of my life. My suffering was so great that I finally had to face the problem head-on and do something about it, or risk losing everything. My marriage, my family, my business…" Curt decided to dive deep when he realized that... "To become a better father, I needed to go one step deeper and learn how to truly become a better man." He now runs a platform supporting men and fathers become better versions of themselves and I highly recommend that you check out Dad.Work to find out more. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Winning Custody & Setting Up Dad Advocates to Support Fathers

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 9 Apr 2022 21:51:51 +0000

A conversation with Nathan, founder of Dads Advocate. There are a couple of personal parenting thoughts at the start of this podcast. First, I encourage all parents to take their young children to their local skatepark. This may well be the main theme of a future episode. There are so many reasons to visit your local skatepark with your young children. Second, I receive a heart warming message from my eldest boy (8 years old) who lives overseas (when he isn't visiting for his holidays). This week I am in conversation with is Nathan from Dad Advocates who is juggling a household of 5 young children after winning custody of his 3 biological children. As a result of his experience in court and the ups and downs of dealing with access and child custody issues he has decided to set up Dad Advocates, which is now a registered charity, to support other fathers. He has some good advice for any parent going through a separation with kids and the often inevitable day in court. For further information: https://dadsadvocates.com/ Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Conscious Stories for Kids & Connecting Deeper as Parents

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 23:37:13 +0000

A great episode with author Andrew Newman, writer of Conscious Stories for children. This is a wonderful conversation about the importance of connecting with our children on a deeper level and becoming more aware as parents of our own triggers. Andrew is an author of 18 conscious story books for children that are a wonderful opportunity to connect with your kids on a deeper level at bedtime. Andrew has spent many years in mens groups around the world and is very aware of the struggles of both men and fathers. He has also been on his own healing journey and understands the importance of connecting with children from a young age. These stories are a gateway to raising more mindful and connected children. "Conscious Stories are a collection of stories with wise and lovable characters who teach core life values to your children. Each of the books invites its readers to engage in mindfulness practices, beginning with Snuggle Breathing, which helps parents and children alike to share an experience of relaxation, presence and connection to each other and to the story. Each story ends with reflective activities and exercises to help children assimilate the lessons the stories have presented. Because the last 20 minutes of each day are precious, these books use this important time to help children and parents grow consciously together in mind, body and spirit." For more information go to https://consciousstories.com/ Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Skiing with Kids and Learning to Parent on the Mountain

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 18 Mar 2022 04:40:32 +0000

I have successfully introduced both my boys (now 3 and 8) to skiing at a young age. So how did I do it? I want to share some tips and tricks and some thoughts about the bigger lessons of parenting that are a byproduct of the experience we both share as father and son(s) (but of course it relates to any parent/child relationship). Skiing with young kids is a lesson in patience and trust. Building my boys confidence and testing their boundaries are skills that can be transferred to everyday life. And the bond that builds between parent and child is the ultimate reward. I also share a random thought about dreaming. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Dealing with Grief as a Dad & Falling in Love Again

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 12 Mar 2022 02:19:16 +0000

A conversation with Dylan from @betterwithadventure Dylan was faced with tragic loss when his wife was pregnant with their son. He shares the experience of grieving while having to show up every day as a parent to his new born child. It's a heartbreaking story but it's also inspiring how Dylan was able to process the grief and successfully manage his life as a new father. The key to his success was taking care of his mental health and ultimately it's a happy ending with a blended family and a new wife. It was a real pleasure connecting to Dylan who is a great positive role model to any father, any parent, that might be struggling with any challenges. I hope you enjoy listening to his incredible story, which is sure to offer hope to anyone going through a hard time. And be sure to follow Dylan on Instagram @betterwithadventure Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Rebuilding Life as a Dad & Saving the Marriage

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 04:26:53 +0000

Stu is a father, husband, entrepreneur, author, angle investor, board member and volunteer. He worked on the International Equity Trading Desk at Morgan Stanley in NYC, co-founded TIX China, a Shanghai-based trading company and served as Orange County’s President of Tech Coast Angels, the largest angels investment group. He now has a book:

Entrepreneur in Texas, Juggling 5 kids and Maintaining a Healthy Marriage

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 9 Feb 2022 22:28:08 +0000

Check out DJohns podcast!

Website: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast/

Jamie - Healing Trauma in the Jungles of Peru with Ayahuasca then Becoming Dad to Twin Boys

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 21 Jan 2022 01:15:01 +0000

Jamie shares a fascinating story about traveling to the Peruvian jungle to take part in an Ayahuasca Ceremony to help him heal from his childhood trauma. The experience helps him to get sober and be the Dad that he wants to be and he's now the father of two 3 year old twin boys. It's an incredible story about death of ego and meeting the higher power of love which leads Jamie to purge addiction and substance abuse. A wild ride! Inspired by his Mother and Grandmother, Jamie has been cooking from an early age. As a Dad he has high standards when it comes to the family diet with 'low gluten' and no processed sugar. We both reflect on related behaviour of children after eating sugary foods...and a couple of ideas on how to deal with Halloween. Jamie is also very positive about embracing the process that his family is currently going through with assessments to see if his boys are on the autism spectrum.

Teaching Your Kids How to Love and Giving them Permission Cry

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 13 Jan 2022 00:30:43 +0000

This week is a solocast with my reflections on the challenges of being a long distance parent and the importance of teaching your kid(s) how to show and express love in a healthy relationship by leading by example. I am also talking about the positive aspects of a kid(s) experiencing different lifestyles and as a parent being able to share with them, the life you want for them. The other topic that comes up this week is giving boys (in particular) permission to cry and express emotion. We have become resilient as a father and son with a long distance relationship, while learning to feel and express our emotions. Please enjoy! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Sean Larsen PhD - Military Dads, Long Distance Dadding, Teenagers, Time Outs, Santa Claus & More

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 05:45:44 +0000

Following on from our recent episode when Sean talks about his PhD dissertation "Becoming a Father and Being a Man", Sean talks about his Masters thesis exploring the experience of Military Dads which including the challenges of long distance relationships and the Mother as the gate keeper of the home. Our conversation meanders through some interesting topics which includes: -the transition between military service and family time; -shutting off emotions to cope; -attachment years and how this changes over time; -dealing with teenagers and their decision making process with risk vs reward; -parenting a 12 year old daughter, which is much like diffusing a bomb; -does the "go to your room!" tactic that works? Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Sex & Relationship Therapist Talks Life After Child Birth & What Dads Need to Know

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 9 Dec 2021 05:11:54 +0000

Tabitha's Blog Supporting Teenage Boys:

https://theboysarealright.substack.com/p/the-boys-are-alrightwith-me-writing?r=pnvee&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&utm_source=twitter

My Kid Got Covid & Reflecting on The Power of Your Thoughts as a Dad

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 2 Dec 2021 04:59:01 +0000

Dealing with my kid getting Covid and not being able to catch his scheduled flight to Canada for Christmas, this is a reflection about how our thoughts can have impacts on our feelings which in turn in the process our kids. We choose how we show up in the world, and how we react to unexpected events and challenges. So can we use our thoughts to parent in a more effective way with better outcomes? Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Mike - Dealing with Long Distance Parenting Challenges & Supporting Men's Health

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 25 Nov 2021 19:30:34 +0000

It's another content rich show with two parts! Part 1. Mike is a London UK Dad that in the midst of the Covid 19 pandemic has recently had to cope with the challenges of his young son moving overseas to Mallorca. After a disappointing experience in UK court, Mike talks positively about moving forward. Part 2. The pro debrief is with Sean, with over 17 years working as a therapist with families and children and a PhD in counselling psychology with his dissertation looking at the experiences of men transitioning to fatherhood, he has a wealth of knowledge to share and some interesting reflections to share about children and how our relationships with them will shift and change over the years. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Sean - Dad and Therapist with MA & PhD in Counselling Psychology, Discusses the Transition of Men to Fatherhood

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 23:54:00 +0000

This is a rich conversation that really dives into the experience of being a Dad. Sean really has done his homework over the last few years. He has an MA and PhD in Counselling Psychology from the University of Victoria in Canada with over 15 years experience as a therapist working with families and teenagers. He's also a father to two young children. Sean's Masters study looked at "Being a Father in the Military" and his dissertation was on "Becoming a father and Being as Man", so he really has done his homework for this episode. Topics include: transitioning to fatherhood; society's attitude to the role of the Dad; the historic role of the father; male sexuality as a Dad; the neuro chemical reaction to kids; masculine and feminine roles in rearing kids, and more! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Tips and Tricks for Avoiding and Dealing with Meltdowns

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 9 Nov 2021 01:11:41 +0000

This episode is a 'solocast' offering direct parenting advice for Dads on a particular topic based on personal experience with guidance from professionals. This episode covers the toddler meltdown and how to use Jedi mind tricks to deal with or avoid meltdowns. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Adam - Dealing with Depression as a Dad & Becoming a Conscious Parent

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 28 Oct 2021 04:57:26 +0000

Find out more about becoming a Conscious Dad: https://www.consciousdads.com/

The Parenting Journal & How To Co-Parent with Smoother Handovers

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sat, 23 Oct 2021 21:51:40 +0000

This episode is a 'solocast' offering direct parenting advice for Dads on a particular topic based on personal experience with guidance from professionals. This episode covers the topic journaling as an integral of part of handover, also known as changeover, when co parenting. It is also a great tool for any parent. You will find this episode useful if: You are you a co-parenting Dad trying to navigate handovers? If you are trying to find effective ways of communicating with the other parent? Or maybe you are a Dad that is feeling the strains of raising young kids and trying to strike the perfect work/life balance and need another tool to help with your coping strategy. In this episode I will share one of the most invaluable lessons when it came to smoother co-parenting and peaceful handovers. It's not the sexiest topic when it comes to parenting but journaling is a powerful tool.

Eric - Being Dad as Adventurous Social Media Influencer and Real Life Captain Fantastic

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 17:58:53 +0000

Eric is a Dad that trusts his instincts and dives into adventures with his family, often based out of an old school bus. He really is the modern day Captain Fantastic (a film I encourage you to watch). Living in the shadow of the Rocky Mountains in Western Canada, as a ski patroller and paramedic Eric found that he had a growing following on social media as he documented his kids skiing, sharing the edits on YouTube and Instagram. Find out how his social media blew up and how he navigates life as a parent. A refreshing and interesting perspective and a Dad I always enjoy connecting with! It's another content rich show with two parts: Part 1: insightful conversation with another special guest Dad, Eric, talking about risk, adventure, building a social media business with his free-range adventurous lifestyle, homeschooling the kids, forests schools and learning to see his partner as a woman and not just as the Mother of his children, to nurture that relationship too. Part 2: the debrief with professional feedback is provided by one of our in-house specialists, psychologist Todd Kettner, about the topic of trust when it comes to parenting. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Gerry - Being a Dad as Fire Chief, Indigenous Elder and Chaplain with Mennonite Roots

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 14:00:00 +0000

Seth - Dad as Nelson Tiny Homes Master Carpenter & the Challenges of Adulting

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 20:53:32 +0000

It's another content rich show with two parts: Part 1: insightful conversation with another special guest Dad, Seth from Nelson Tiny Houses discusses the challenges of communicating, the flood of emotions as a parent, anger management, the financial stress of parenting, finding a perfect lifestyle for the kids, challenges of being a Dad and a business owner, screen time (or not?) for kids and much more...read more below Part 2: the debrief with professional feedback is provided by one of our in-house specialists, psychologist Todd Kettner, about how to deal with anger and the benefits of counselling...read more below Part 1: Seth talks honestly about transitioning into parenthood after many years travelling around the world as a free spirit with his partner and now wife and Mother Katie, the "main parent" to their two young children. Not that Seth isn't parenting but he's often working 7 days a week running his Nelson Tiny Houses business with over 40,000 followers on Youtube (check it out: https://www.youtube.com/c/nelsontinyhouses). Seth is starting to find balance, spending more time camping with the family but it's not always been easy. Like so many Dads (and Moms) jumping into the ocean of parenthood, Seth has been treading water while dealing with a fountain of emotions that have tested his relationships and his cool exterior. He freely admits to not being the best planner and the real life struggles of keeping on top of finances while building a successful business, while running from the bureaucracy of it all! Overall, Seth is a passionate Dad who, with his wife, has managed to carve out a beautiful wholesome life for his kids and he (and his wife) are shining examples that all the hard work pays off! Part 2: Todd opens up and shares some personal history as we discuss the stigma around men seeking professional help when dealing with anger issues and other parenting or challenges that Dads may face! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Judson - Dad as a Ski Guide, Dealing with Fertility Clinics, Pandemic Challenges & Tackling Forest Fires

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 28 Jul 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Judson didn't always want a kid but when he and his partner decided they wanted to start a family they struggled to get pregnant. After a few dark years which included consulting with Doctors, dealing with fertility clinics, and ultimately finding out about embryo adoption, they finally found a path to becoming parents. Judson talks frankly about the challenges of IVF, the high costs and the difficulties and their journey to adopting an embryo. A fascinating story that leads us into talking about the challenges of Dadding in a pandemic, going back to forest fire fighting to make money after losing work. Survival as a parent and doing what you have to do to feed the family. Being a provider through the pandemic...making the best of a challenging situation. Topics include: struggling with work during a pandemic, the separation of work and parenting, risk management, sleep training issues, IVF and embryo adoption, working away from home, and Dad fashion, amongst other things...

Brendan - Dad Creates the Ultimate Substitute for Coffee & Launches New Business with Young Kids

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 12:00:00 +0000

It's another content rich show with two parts: Part 1 insightful conversation with another special guest Dad, Brendan discusses finding balance with young kids as their new business takes off and their second child is about to be born...read more below Part 2 the debrief with professional feedback provided by one of our in-house specialists, psychologist Todd Kettner, about how your emotional connection to your work can impact your kids...read more below Part 1: Baby number two is on the way! How does Brendan balance family life as his new business takes off, as demand for his alternative coffee grows. Rich in flavour and full of goodness it has all the ingredients of his parenting style but this family of three (plus dogs!) is about to become a family of four. The clock is ticking as the birth of their new child grows closer. Brendan maintains his calm exterior but inside is he panicking? Perhaps his new product Raven Roast really is the secret to calming the nerves? He's just "in the pocket" so why not have another kid? The first kid might break you but once you are "in the pocket" the second kid doesn't seem so scary. Right? Brendan talks about transitioning into parenting and accepting the grief of giving up your old life. What happens if you resist the transition and what impact will this have on your relationship with your partner? Topics include: building a career, valuing the non-paid work in the home, and finding the right location to have kids, timing is everything, the importance of therapy for the mind and the body, environmental concerns when choosing where to raise your family, amongst other things... Part 2: Emotional connection to our work and the impact that has on our kids - a great discussion with Todd Kettner our in house psychologist. Career vs Job, finding your passion and the portfolio of life. Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Nelson - Punk Rock Dad, the Importance of Maintaining Healthy Relationships & How to Talk to Teenagers

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Jeremy - Being Dad in Canada's Adventure Capital and Sleeping as a Family

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 01:14:23 +0000

It's another content rich show with two parts: Part 1 insightful conversation with another special guest Dad Part 2 the debrief with professional feedback provided by one of our in-house specialists Part 1: Location, location, location. Living in Squamish, Canada's climbing mecca in the Sea to Sky corridor, just north of Vancouver, means that Jeremy gets to climb 3 or 4 times a week. Not bad for a full time Dad that works as a teacher. Nestled between the Coastal Mountains and the Pacific Ocean with easy access to endless mountain and ocean pursuits, this is prime real estate which means a busy life to pay the bills and keep up with the family while Jeremy and his wife-ish person Mandoline, work conflicting schedules. Sometimes. As more people escape the city in search of a better quality of life, the lure of the mountains means a sea of newcomers which has increased the cost of living. Jeremy reflects on the question of affordability and he expresses gratitude that they can juggle the life they have to create a great experience for their young daughter while also pursuing their passions. Topics include: falling into parenting without a plan; learning to let go of expectations; balancing family life with a busy schedule; affordability as the cost of living increases; sleeping as a family (the dog is invited too); early morning training rituals; amongst other things... Part 2: An educated discussion with Clinical Social Worker Catherine Williams about the essential topic for parents with babies and young children - sleep! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Guy - English Dad Surviving a Pandemic and Adulting as a Parent in his 50s

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 2 Jun 2021 19:21:58 +0000

An Englishman living on the borders of Wales raising two young boys with his wife, reflects on parenting through a pandemic with both parents working full time. Guy is the Executive Director of Mountain Training England and as an ex teacher, Guy is ready for any challenge involving teenagers but he's no expert with babies. While his wife runs a tight ship with the young kids, Guy is all hands on deck but has a different attitude with a more laidback approach and can't wait for the dreaded teenage years. It does just get better (and easier?) right? Guy has some wisdom to share becoming a Dad later in life and also shares insights with his background in teaching when it comes to introducing children to learning. It's a fun and thoughtful conversation with an old friend and colleague. Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Kirkland - Health & Wellness Expert, Life Coach, Elder & Granddaddy

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 21 May 2021 02:47:22 +0000

As a certified guide and life coach, directing one of the world's top fitness retreats and health spas, Kirkland is an engaged Grandaddy to 5 young children and he is now in his third marriage while maintaining a close relationship with all his adult kids that he raised in the eclectic mountain town of Nelson, British Columbia. Kirkland has wisdom to share. Practicing meditation since he was 17, with a reverence for nature and a community oriented parent who has been involved in a local men's group for the last 30 years, I could have talked to Kirkland and listened to his mindful reflections of parenting for the rest of the day. There is so much to learn from the elders in our community as they reflect on their parenting stories, and their triumphs as Dads. I am very happy that Kirkland is the first Grandaddy to join the podcast and he wont be the last! Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Secure Attachment, Long Distance Parenting & Raising Healthy Kids

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 7 May 2021 18:52:53 +0000

This is a great episode for Dads that face separation from their kids due to work or life situations. Great news - you can successfully parent from a distance and build and/or maintain a secure attachment! In fact any parent will find this episode useful no matter what age your kids are...and great news for any parents that weren't able to establish a secure attachment when your kids were young, it is never too late! I am talking with Catherine who is a Master of Social Work and a Registered Clinical Social Worker with over 20 years experience working with children and families. I have worked with Catherine and she has been a great resource in helping me support and maintain secure attachment with my young son when he transitioned to a new home overseas as well as working with my wife to help our toddler transition to day care which is not always an easy thing for child or parent. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Steve O - Cyclist, Podcaster, Endurance Athlete and a Work in Progress

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 16:26:44 +0000

Parenting is an endurance test and Steve O has been training all his life. He's an amateur endurance athlete and dedicated cyclist with a passion for long distance rides and he's built a community around his related podcast MyBack40. It's not easy being a parent. If anybody tells you different they are lying or they aren't trying hard enough. Or maybe it comes more naturally to some? Steve feels like he's flailing, struggles with anger management issues and finds himself weeping in the corner after altercations with his young kids. Truth is that Steve is human and he isn't perfect but he shows up everyday for his kids, makes pancake breakfasts every weekend and spends hours jumping on the trampoline. He's actually the Dad we all want, because he shows up and he cares. By the end we are in tears. Straight from the heart this is about as honest a conversation about being a Dad (a parent!) as you could have and I encourage you to dive in and enjoy the conversation in full. There are some great tips from 'the professionals' at the end. Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Asif - Tech Worker Trading the City for the Mountain Lifestyle

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 17:52:08 +0000

Asif is originally from Tanzania, raised in an Indian family but when he is 7 years old his Father dies suddenly and Asif finds himself immigrating to Vancouver in Western Canada, adjusting to life without a male role model. Years later Asif finds himself in Toronto stumbling into a career as a "tech worker" embracing the rat race of city living. When his second child arrives he and his partner make the conscious effort to secure a quieter lifestyle in a remote mountain community in Western Canada, so they can embrace a slower pace of life and focus on raising their kids. Asif stumbled into a career as a tech worker but consciously stepped into his role as a Dad. As a thoughtful and engaged Dad it was interesting to hear some of his life experiences as a parent and the incredible story of immigrating to Canada as a young boy with his Indian family from Tanzania and the impact his Mom had on his upbringing. We also talk about life as an older Dad and are we better parents or partners when child number two comes along? Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Paul - International Dad Working Overseas, Moonlighting as a Ski Bum

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Wed, 14 Apr 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Is the money worth it? Paul was an international Dad working in oil and gas, moonlighting as a ski bum. Looking back was the money and the extended time away from the family worth it? In the end the career and extended periods away from the family cost him his marriage but as a Dad, Paul has developed a strong bond with his teenage girls and maintains a positive outlook. So with the experience of an extended international divorce and child custody battle, what has Paul learnt looking back? Originally from Australia Paul now lives in Western Canada with his kids and has some wisdom to share. It was great to hear from another Dad that has experienced extended periods of separation from his kids with the positive outlook that he offers. Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Jacob - City Slicker to Farming Dad, Reconnecting with Indigenous Roots

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 8 Apr 2021 21:09:12 +0000

Jacob is an award winning business man living in the city but when he becomes a Dad it's not long before he and his wife decide to sell everything and head north to homestead and raise his two boys, while reconnecting to his indigenous roots. In the early 2000s he won Young Male Entrepreneur of the Year at the Indigenous Business Awards, enjoying a comfortable life in Victoria on the West Coast of Canada. Reflecting on his tough childhood, when Jacob became a Dad he and his wife decided to leave their comfortable city life, sell everything, downsize and invest in property in a remote rural community so they could focus on parenting, raising a farm and homeschool the two boys. Jacob shares his vision as a Dad and how his tough childhood has impacted his parenting style and talks about down sizing and shifting gears as a family, the benefits (and challenges) of homeschooling, teaching kids to drive aged 7, navigating 'screen time', trying to motivate pre teen boys, giving your child a voice in the home and much more! with some great learning points shared! Jacob is a natural story teller and will make you feel like you are sitting around the campfire on his farm. Please enjoy! For more information about the family farm check out www.teacreek.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Pablo - Spanish Dad in England, Traveling the World and Finding Adventure

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 12:00:00 +0000

I invite you to listen to this fun and inspirational conversation with Pablo, an expat Spaniard, husband and father of 3 kids ages 10 - 14 now living in south west England. Pablo talks openly about early struggles of adjusting to life in a foreign country, feeling disconnected to his first born and a thoughtful reflection about taking the kids out of school and travelling overseas for extended trips. His lovely wife Rebecca plays a cameo role and we have lots of open discussion about engaging as Dads and the challenges of finding fun and adventure in the day to day life of raising kids. And breaking news - crying is sexy! We have an expert, psychologist Todd Kettner, joining us at the end of the show to discuss reflecting on the importance of communication and connection as a Dad. Fun times - please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

David - Parenting as a Teacher and Nurturing Curiosity

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 15:46:56 +0000

David shares his wisdom of Dadding as a teacher and discusses how this influences his parenting style with the benefits of being a teacher raising his own kids. We talk about engaging in activities with kids and encouraging their curiosity. Other hot topics include: problem solving and fixing stuff; raising boys with an age gap; keeping the magic of Santa alive; finding time for Dad; and that old topic, dealing with sleeping issues. Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Greg - Stand Up Comedian to Step Dadding

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 15 Mar 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Greg shares his experience of transitioning from stand up comedian to husband and Step Dad. After finding stable work in sales he has now blended his passion for comedy and as an entrepreneur runs a successful coaching business "Work Happy". Greg shares some great insight about parenting and admits his challenges in selling golf to his teenage daughter. We talk about how to be a successful parent, navigating the challenges of teenage years, screen time, the importance of humour and the benefits of being present with your kid, amongst other things. Top tip, it all comes down to monkeys. As ever, our resident practicing psychologist Todd Kettner offers some insight at the end of the episode for some educated take aways. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Moe - Stay At Home Dad & Heavy Machine Operator

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Sun, 7 Mar 2021 14:05:01 +0000

A multi talented mountain biking Dad and master diaper changer, Moe has put his career in mechanical engineer on hold so that he can focus on raising his kids through the covid pandemic. Moe is a big kid at heart and currently working as a heavy machine operator, he has converted his backyard into a mini bike park to inspire his kids and give them the best life he can dream of. We talk about his experience as a stay at home Dad, baby land, stealing food in the maternity ward, the importance of bonding with your kids when they are young, managing expectations as a parent and leading by example. Moe offers some great insights as a husband and Dad. Please enjoy! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Carl - Extreme Kayaker Adjusting to Life as a Dad

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Thu, 25 Feb 2021 17:01:57 +0000

Carl is an extreme kayaker and nurse now raising two young boys in the Kootenay Rockies of British Columbia. In this fun conversation Carl talks about adjusting to life as a parent turning his back on the sport he loves and finding new interests as he rekindles his passion for music. We talk about the importance of remembering who you are and the significance of the so called 'man cave'...We share stories and discuss safety and risk in raising kids, the reality of the 'tiny home', training your kids to be ready for an emergency and the joy of berry picking. Carl has some words of wisdom to share and I discuss the man cave and dealing with risk as a parent with my favourite psychologist, husband and father of two, Todd Kettner Ph.D.

Jason - Single Dad and International Custody

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Fri, 19 Feb 2021 03:20:43 +0000

Big hearted Jason throws everything into single Dadding and endures a 10 year legal battle as he puts the best interests of his son first. As a single parent Jason commits fully to the journey of raising his son aka the Ginger Ninja. Jason opens up to share some insight into the struggles and challenges of being a single Dad. An authentic and honest conversation about the importance of taking the high road, challenges of long distance parenting, not taking things personally and much more. Jason's son became a gifted kayaker and now has his pilot licence! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Vince - Climbing and Balancing Life with Young Kids

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 8 Feb 2021 21:15:24 +0000

A great conversation with an old friend and climbing buddy Vince Hempsall about transitioning to life as Dads. How did we get here and will we ever climb 5.13 again? And what does that even mean? Vince is a content provider, magazine editor, marketer, book author, adventurer, videographer, newspaper reporter, publisher, rock climber, social media communicator, mountain biker and writer. But most of all he is DAD and husband to an amazing wife. We discuss life with two young kids, the downside of not being sponsored climbers, the importance of the outdoors in raising healthy kids, compromised climbing, sleep coaching, skateboarding in your 40s and training our kids to take care of us when we break a hip. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Introducing Dad Without Borders

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 8 Feb 2021 21:07:32 +0000

In this opening episode I share my story of being a Long Distance parent and adjusting to life with a child overseas. It is an insightful conversation with practicing psychologist Todd Kettner Ph.D, as we reflect on the need for Dads to seek help and support each other, embracing our emotions and tackling the challenges of everyday life as a parent. Todd Kettner Ph.D, a practicing psychologist and fellow Dad who will be a regular guest on the show to offer his wisdom and insight on the topic of parenting. Todd is a college lecturer and runs a private practice working exclusively with men. He also has a wealth of experience working with children and families. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/

Dad Without Borders Trailer

dadwithoutborders@gmail.com (Blue Netherclift) — Mon, 8 Feb 2021 16:12:19 +0000

As Dads, we aren't always very good at taking the time to go for a walk down by the river, to talk about our feelings. This podcast adventure is my journey in reaching out to other Dads to share their stories of parenting, in the hope we can inspire, motivate and support each other. I have a unique and messy modern dadding situation. I am raising two young boys that live in different countries - Canada and the UK. However, as a resilient Dad I have managed to maintain a strong attachment with both my sons and I want to share the positives of my experience through conversations with other Dads. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/