https://simplecast.com Kintsugi - The Art of Personal Reconstruction Kintsugi, also known as kintsukuroi is the Japanese art of reconstructing broken pottery and ceramics. In its essential form, it is the art of making better that which has been broken. This concept though usually applied to ceramics, can be applied to our personal lives also. This podcast is about the journey we all take (in one way or another); falling flat, breaking apart, and rebuilding ourselves many times over, each time building with the lessons we've learned. I like to think of these lessons as the 'golden glue' that rebinds the broken pieces and contributes to the beauty of the reconstructed object. Through my journey, I’ve come across stories of others who have traveled the path before I did. Their stories often renewed my own sense of motivation and provided a sense or feeling of not being alone. This podcast is a mix of personal accounts of my experiences and an intent to pay forward what I have learned from others so that you might also benefit from it in the same way I have. On this journey, you drop in during the late stages of transition from the person I used to be to the person I am emerging into. Taking you with me during this process is the goal and my hope is that by talking about these experiences they leave you with something you can apply in yours making it more engaging and fulfilling. This is in summary a personal account of my experience leading up to and just after what feels like a significant transformation in the process of completing itself, with the goal of helping, inspiring, and/or leading you to undertake your own journey to a more fulfilled existence. 2021 tijanicharles en Thu, 15 Apr 2021 21:36:15 +0000 Thu, 15 Apr 2021 21:36:25 +0000 https://kintsugi.simplecast.com Kintsugi - The Art of Personal Reconstruction https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/8e017188-6664-4a89-8a68-3b60ea8d0ec1/dc23f79c-c3d8-4553-a61a-71873675345e/3000x3000/kintsugi-visual-2-white.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://kintsugi.simplecast.com episodic Kintsugi, also known as kintsukuroi is the Japanese art of reconstructing broken pottery and ceramics. In its essential form, it is the art of making better that which has been broken. This concept though usually applied to ceramics, can be applied to our personal lives also. This podcast is about the journey we all take (in one way or another); falling flat, breaking apart, and rebuilding ourselves many times over, each time building with the lessons we've learned. I like to think of these lessons as the 'golden glue' that rebinds the broken pieces and contributes to the beauty of the reconstructed object. Through my journey, I’ve come across stories of others who have traveled the path before I did. Their stories often renewed my own sense of motivation and provided a sense or feeling of not being alone. This podcast is a mix of personal accounts of my experiences and an intent to pay forward what I have learned from others so that you might also benefit from it in the same way I have. On this journey, you drop in during the late stages of transition from the person I used to be to the person I am emerging into. Taking you with me during this process is the goal and my hope is that by talking about these experiences they leave you with something you can apply in yours making it more engaging and fulfilling. This is in summary a personal account of my experience leading up to and just after what feels like a significant transformation in the process of completing itself, with the goal of helping, inspiring, and/or leading you to undertake your own journey to a more fulfilled existence. Tijani Ogunlende yes https://feeds.simplecast.com/qPgKRHTX addiction, example, growth, journey, overcoming, personal, self_love, sobriety, truth Tijani Ogunlende tijanicharles@protonmail.com 8ab564b3-24da-4ef6-a3e3-af67d6d8c3a8 To the Future Wow, we've come a long way in this introduction to the 'Art of Personal Reconstruction'. Thank you all so much for embarking on this journey with me. It's been a long rad road with some bumps along the way. Each episode less scary to put out than the last, it took a lot to first face myself and then face you with as much of my truth as I had access to with what level of consciousness and self awareness I had at the time. Through that, you stuck with me, and for that you have my gratitude. 

What I can do at this point in the process is to turn to you and project what I learned, in hopes that it impacts you or someone you know in a positive way. This is a goodbye, yes, but only for now. 

I'll be ready with Season Two come June 15th 2021. Be well, heal, and journey well. Take this as a map and use the parts of it that are relevant to what you may be going though and know that no matter how dark it gets there is always a light on the other side of that shadow, don't be afraid of it and dot be afraid of yourself, your deep inner self. 

]]> Thu, 15 Apr 2021 21:36:15 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/to-the-future-gco49hlp Wow, we've come a long way in this introduction to the 'Art of Personal Reconstruction'. Thank you all so much for embarking on this journey with me. It's been a long rad road with some bumps along the way. Each episode less scary to put out than the last, it took a lot to first face myself and then face you with as much of my truth as I had access to with what level of consciousness and self awareness I had at the time. Through that, you stuck with me, and for that you have my gratitude. 

What I can do at this point in the process is to turn to you and project what I learned, in hopes that it impacts you or someone you know in a positive way. This is a goodbye, yes, but only for now. 

I'll be ready with Season Two come June 15th 2021. Be well, heal, and journey well. Take this as a map and use the parts of it that are relevant to what you may be going though and know that no matter how dark it gets there is always a light on the other side of that shadow, don't be afraid of it and dot be afraid of yourself, your deep inner self. 

]]> To the Future Tijani Ogunlende 00:48:40 In this episode, I bring the first Season of 'Personal Reconstruction' to a close. In this episode, I bring the first Season of 'Personal Reconstruction' to a close. personal, experience, documentation, self_love, learning, light, growth, recovery, awakening, self_aware, example, journey, addiction, art, truth, recover, overcoming, self_care, map, god, reconstruction yes full 12 1 73fda15c-9e7c-43ef-a686-cd9d40dca3ae Progression We're approaching the end of the first season (One more episode to go). This episode - also a shorter one is just catching you up to where things are currently, not in the recorded past as they've been coming to you. The next episode will constitute a recap of the podcast itself and the content followed up by some more detail about what direction we'll go in season 2.

]]> Wed, 7 Apr 2021 08:42:04 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/progression-qOYYLl__ We're approaching the end of the first season (One more episode to go). This episode - also a shorter one is just catching you up to where things are currently, not in the recorded past as they've been coming to you. The next episode will constitute a recap of the podcast itself and the content followed up by some more detail about what direction we'll go in season 2.

]]> Progression Tijani Ogunlende 00:12:39 Progression is slow, and steady. The wound must remain in a non-agitated state for the duration of it's healing. So to our minds, bodies, and emotions need to be in a kind of stasis in order to heal properly. This episode talks about the early stages of recovering from the relapse bubble and gives a semi-roadmap for the next couple of weeks/months leading into Season 2. Progression is slow, and steady. The wound must remain in a non-agitated state for the duration of it's healing. So to our minds, bodies, and emotions need to be in a kind of stasis in order to heal properly. This episode talks about the early stages of recovering from the relapse bubble and gives a semi-roadmap for the next couple of weeks/months leading into Season 2. personal, experience, documentation, progress, self_love, emotion, learning, growth, recovery, awakening, self_aware, journey, truth, recover, overcoming, self_care, map, spirituality yes full 11 1 a94347f5-a359-4363-90b3-cc460e3fbc47 Progress not Perfection Though I introduce this as Episode 9, it is actually Episode 10 and it exists within the context of the last two, documenting the experience of a relapse bubble. 

This is a really short episode relative to the others, and putting it up has been difficult process... Until now. There is also something poetic about this process seeing as it was recorded months ago. As each episode comes out, so too do the events play out in my own experience right after uploading them. So while I've been uploading episodes about relapses and the bubble, I've experienced just that in the last couple of weeks. 

]]> Thu, 1 Apr 2021 14:57:30 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/progress-not-perfection-vf2HRXu2 Though I introduce this as Episode 9, it is actually Episode 10 and it exists within the context of the last two, documenting the experience of a relapse bubble. 

This is a really short episode relative to the others, and putting it up has been difficult process... Until now. There is also something poetic about this process seeing as it was recorded months ago. As each episode comes out, so too do the events play out in my own experience right after uploading them. So while I've been uploading episodes about relapses and the bubble, I've experienced just that in the last couple of weeks. 

]]> Progress not Perfection Tijani Ogunlende 00:07:12 Talking about staying on task, despite having failed a couple of times. A lot changed when I realized I had to keep moving forward, especially if I felt the cause was justified. I learned what I needed to stick with and what to let go of, and most importantly the realization that failing at something did not mean the end of working at doing a better job of it. There also is a counterpoint to this, some things are not meant to be overcome, but rather, avoided. Cultivating this wisdom has been a huge part of what I've learned on this journey. We may not always get it right, but we can always orient ourselves and give it our best shot. Sometimes the goal is to progress, not to be perfect. Talking about staying on task, despite having failed a couple of times. A lot changed when I realized I had to keep moving forward, especially if I felt the cause was justified. I learned what I needed to stick with and what to let go of, and most importantly the realization that failing at something did not mean the end of working at doing a better job of it. There also is a counterpoint to this, some things are not meant to be overcome, but rather, avoided. Cultivating this wisdom has been a huge part of what I've learned on this journey. We may not always get it right, but we can always orient ourselves and give it our best shot. Sometimes the goal is to progress, not to be perfect. personal, experience, documentation, progress, self_love, learning, growth, recovery, relapse, self_aware, journey, self_care, map, path yes full 10 1 89c63a7d-5706-4ba3-9daf-32e9c032d5e6 ...Another (The Bubble: A documentation) Before you listen...

In light of the sensitive/raw nature of the series overall, and particularly this episode. I'm urging care in listening or moving forward. For anyone who decides to skip, part 3 serves a recap and reorientation and leaves things on a positive note. Much of this will also be referenced in the next episode.

The Episode is divided into three parts, separated by a brief pause.

  • Part 1: From the Future (Current) Commentary
  • Part 2: From the  Relapse Bubble 
  • Part 3: Reconstruction Reorientation, Resourcing
]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2021 07:48:27 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/another-the-bubble-a-documentation-atxgX7HK Before you listen...

In light of the sensitive/raw nature of the series overall, and particularly this episode. I'm urging care in listening or moving forward. For anyone who decides to skip, part 3 serves a recap and reorientation and leaves things on a positive note. Much of this will also be referenced in the next episode.

The Episode is divided into three parts, separated by a brief pause.

  • Part 1: From the Future (Current) Commentary
  • Part 2: From the  Relapse Bubble 
  • Part 3: Reconstruction Reorientation, Resourcing
]]> ...Another (The Bubble: A documentation) Tijani Ogunlende 00:59:53 This is a three part episode with an overarching theme of passing through a time period of recurring relapses, often referred to as the bubble. It's partly a commentary (from the present), a documentation of 'state-of-mind' (the past - Sept 2020), a positively reflective look at what happened and finally orientation towards the future and what it holds. This is a three part episode with an overarching theme of passing through a time period of recurring relapses, often referred to as the bubble. It's partly a commentary (from the present), a documentation of 'state-of-mind' (the past - Sept 2020), a positively reflective look at what happened and finally orientation towards the future and what it holds. documentation, self_love, emotion, learning, recovery, relapse, struggle, self_aware, journey, the_bubble, addiction, self_care yes full 9 1 6b8ae3f1-db61-4727-8155-5f79a3178f95 A fall... then... Also in this episode, I teleport in ‘from the future that is now’ to talk and provide a little more structure and guidance so you can better understand whats going on and why it’s happening. That way no matter how rocky the boat gets, you - like me, will remain steadfast and oriented towards a better outcome. It may not look like what you imagine, but that's how you make it out. Actions speak louder than words - yes, but thoughts (especially when they persist) speak louder than Actions and Words ;)

 

]]> Mon, 15 Mar 2021 02:32:07 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/a-fall-then-CachgnPh Also in this episode, I teleport in ‘from the future that is now’ to talk and provide a little more structure and guidance so you can better understand whats going on and why it’s happening. That way no matter how rocky the boat gets, you - like me, will remain steadfast and oriented towards a better outcome. It may not look like what you imagine, but that's how you make it out. Actions speak louder than words - yes, but thoughts (especially when they persist) speak louder than Actions and Words ;)

 

]]> A fall... then... Tijani Ogunlende 00:47:18 This was a difficult and emotionally wrangling one to put up, nonetheless, I thought it was worth doing, if nothing else but for what we can gain from watching perseverance through a cycle of rising and falling. One of the many truths in life is that we will all face forms of adversity at various points in our lives, whether they are at ours, or at the hands of others and as the saying goes; Its not how many times you fall, its how many times you get up. You can't trust claims to perfection, there is always something disingenuous about them you can, however, trust commitment to a goal ‘regardless’ of circumstance. Progress, not Perfection. This was a difficult and emotionally wrangling one to put up, nonetheless, I thought it was worth doing, if nothing else but for what we can gain from watching perseverance through a cycle of rising and falling. One of the many truths in life is that we will all face forms of adversity at various points in our lives, whether they are at ours, or at the hands of others and as the saying goes; Its not how many times you fall, its how many times you get up. You can't trust claims to perfection, there is always something disingenuous about them you can, however, trust commitment to a goal ‘regardless’ of circumstance. Progress, not Perfection. experience, documentation, growth, recovery, relapse, journey, addiction, map, path yes full 8 1 e90aac73-01e7-4d5f-bcef-b23857f19cb4 Stuggle 2 - Wobble When experiencing this seemingly unusual euphoric state (perhaps a symptom of the brain returning more balance chemically - my best guess). It can seem everything is working out just fine. In my experience of this, it has become a sign, a warning even, to be careful. This euphoric state often leads to early complacency that can land you right back in the place you're feeling so good about having just left and in the case of the next two episodes - relapse.

]]> Sun, 7 Mar 2021 22:49:42 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/stuggle-2-podcast-update-z9fFUY1E When experiencing this seemingly unusual euphoric state (perhaps a symptom of the brain returning more balance chemically - my best guess). It can seem everything is working out just fine. In my experience of this, it has become a sign, a warning even, to be careful. This euphoric state often leads to early complacency that can land you right back in the place you're feeling so good about having just left and in the case of the next two episodes - relapse.

]]> Stuggle 2 - Wobble Tijani Ogunlende 00:17:17 This is a bit of a hybrid series; one part documenting the other side of the struggle - the euphoric 'I think I just beat it' side, and the other talking a little bit more about the series and some of the places I want to take thing. There is also a saying - "Pride goes before a fall", in this case "Euphoria goes before a fall". This is a bit of a hybrid series; one part documenting the other side of the struggle - the euphoric 'I think I just beat it' side, and the other talking a little bit more about the series and some of the places I want to take thing. There is also a saying - "Pride goes before a fall", in this case "Euphoria goes before a fall". self_love, learning, recovery, struggle, truth, self_care, path, trails yes full 7 1 b61bf726-c24c-44bf-b70b-6253d9d4d872 The Struggle Progress, not Perfection

]]> Sun, 28 Feb 2021 23:23:19 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/the-struggle-rqhifbEa Progress, not Perfection

]]> The Struggle Tijani Ogunlende 00:10:31 This is a shorter episode and the first of a two-part, post-introduction series. It's been a few days since the recording of episode 5, and though unexpected. I began to experience the first signs of 'withdrawal', at least knowing and understanding whats going on, I document my experience of the struggle, the conflicting urges and the understanding that no matter what transpired afterward, there would be another episode after this. This is a shorter episode and the first of a two-part, post-introduction series. It's been a few days since the recording of episode 5, and though unexpected. I began to experience the first signs of 'withdrawal', at least knowing and understanding whats going on, I document my experience of the struggle, the conflicting urges and the understanding that no matter what transpired afterward, there would be another episode after this. personal, experience, raw, self_love, sobriety, recovery, journey, addiction, self_care, path, stuggle yes full 6 1 65b48a50-6a4a-45a9-b39e-dae109d1f29c Trails and a path to the Light Coming in episode 6, "The Struggle"

]]> Sun, 21 Feb 2021 19:38:16 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/trails-and-a-path-to-awakening-pYXhmzSq Coming in episode 6, "The Struggle"

]]> Trails and a path to the Light Tijani Ogunlende 00:46:38 In this episode, I talk about my efforts to turn things around and how they failed. Sometimes, they just didn't work, or I didn't have the right mindset at the time. I did with each avenue I 'walked' down, learn something new that helped in the long term. Some of those things were new habits, but more profoundly - a shift in perspective and an embrace of the quiet. Despite the struggle of wrestling myself away from using porn, I found ways and tools to improve myself and my experience. I set out on a different path, the one that has led me here, to you. In this episode, I talk about my efforts to turn things around and how they failed. Sometimes, they just didn't work, or I didn't have the right mindset at the time. I did with each avenue I 'walked' down, learn something new that helped in the long term. Some of those things were new habits, but more profoundly - a shift in perspective and an embrace of the quiet. Despite the struggle of wrestling myself away from using porn, I found ways and tools to improve myself and my experience. I set out on a different path, the one that has led me here, to you. personal, experience, self_love, learning, light, growth, recovery, awakening, addiction, truth, self_care, path, trails, spirituality yes full 5 1 0be57fc9-9144-4c56-91f1-120092a76989 A Dark Path Describing the darker aspects behind what we look at, the feel of it, beyond our immediate pleasure-seeking.

Experiences with it.

Impressions upon the soul.

Outside of the core activity.

A brief note on 'Experience Altering Substances'.

What it does and what it did.

The spiritual side of things.

Recognizing the hurt.

]]> Sun, 14 Feb 2021 16:08:28 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/a-dark-path-n798xKri Describing the darker aspects behind what we look at, the feel of it, beyond our immediate pleasure-seeking.

Experiences with it.

Impressions upon the soul.

Outside of the core activity.

A brief note on 'Experience Altering Substances'.

What it does and what it did.

The spiritual side of things.

Recognizing the hurt.

]]> A Dark Path Tijani Ogunlende 00:53:53 In this episode (just a few hours after the 'act') I get into some of the darker experiences I had with porn and my attempts to cover up the behaviors I engaged in. I talk about the qualia of that experience and the activities I engaged in that facilitated that. While giving more context to some of the events, the series begins to focus in more detail the nature of what fueled my decision and yearning for an alternate set of experience. In this episode (just a few hours after the 'act') I get into some of the darker experiences I had with porn and my attempts to cover up the behaviors I engaged in. I talk about the qualia of that experience and the activities I engaged in that facilitated that. While giving more context to some of the events, the series begins to focus in more detail the nature of what fueled my decision and yearning for an alternate set of experience. personal, experience, documentation, raw, self_love, recovery, addiction, self_care yes full 4 1 2f962c8c-de9a-4dcc-b984-1da208878c2d Context 2 We're picking up just moments after recording episode two, which brings the introduction to this podcast to a close. This episode is meant to give you a more contextual view into the situations, scenarios, and characteristics of mine that greatly increased the potential that I would live the kind of life I did, and influenced how I thought about things.

]]> Sun, 7 Feb 2021 19:12:13 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/context-2-eg8Jjpxs We're picking up just moments after recording episode two, which brings the introduction to this podcast to a close. This episode is meant to give you a more contextual view into the situations, scenarios, and characteristics of mine that greatly increased the potential that I would live the kind of life I did, and influenced how I thought about things.

]]> Context 2 Tijani Ogunlende 00:46:30 We often lose track of things as we go about our daily existence, then one day, we wake up and we ask ourselves "How did 'we' get here?". In this episode, I provide more context with oriented towards the question - How did I get here? We often lose track of things as we go about our daily existence, then one day, we wake up and we ask ourselves "How did 'we' get here?". In this episode, I provide more context with oriented towards the question - How did I get here? yes full 3 1 4daeb1ac-c587-473d-ae31-8e21ebc9c51d Context... For anyone who wants to reference the older videos. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcScvPb8csPG7aS-tNDDpww

]]> Sun, 31 Jan 2021 15:26:58 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/context-ClFOr6Iz For anyone who wants to reference the older videos. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcScvPb8csPG7aS-tNDDpww

]]> Context... Tijani Ogunlende 00:51:33 So, you are still here. This is episode two and it's evident in the title what this ones about - context. It's a mix of broad strokes and detailed areas that help frame the situations and circumstances to help with getting how things got to this point. Knowing full well there will be more to flesh out later, we can begin to orient ourselves towards a more balanced state of being. So, you are still here. This is episode two and it's evident in the title what this ones about - context. It's a mix of broad strokes and detailed areas that help frame the situations and circumstances to help with getting how things got to this point. Knowing full well there will be more to flesh out later, we can begin to orient ourselves towards a more balanced state of being. self_love, sobriety, growth, journey, addiction, truth, overcoming yes full 2 1 73025d11-cd2e-4b06-929f-d87f6d9b7705 Up! Sun, 24 Jan 2021 08:39:04 +0000 tijanicharles@protonmail.com (Tijani Ogunlende) https://kintsugi.simplecast.com/episodes/up-Ztze7Rwr Up! Tijani Ogunlende 00:22:36 I bear it all in this first episode, an introduction to my state of mind as of the time I decided to be more open about my life experience. I bear it all in this first episode, an introduction to my state of mind as of the time I decided to be more open about my life experience. raw, recovery, addiction, path yes full 1 1