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Quotes:

“The things that we want the most in our lives will require our greatest healing, and that means that they’re going to require us to experience and to tolerate discomfort along the way.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:18]

“The feelings you might be having at any given moment are a truth to a part of you, they just may not be the truth to your adult self.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:33]

“A competent protector or adult self needs to have two qualities: you are soft and attuned, and you are ferociously protective. When you are both of those things, you are in the trust of the protector, and they are able to rest.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:09]

“Just because stepping into your purpose is a lot of work [doesn’t mean it’s] wrong. It’s the healing of the past that is taking all that energy, and it’s supposed to. And the more you do it, the easier it becomes.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:43:41]

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Infatuation, Idealizing Romantic Partners, and Putting Others on a Pedestal

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 7 Apr 2026 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the origins of idealization and infatuation, showing how these patterns are rooted in unresolved experiences and protective strategies. She explains why infatuation is not love, but a survival response that pulls you out of your adult self and into fantasy. Sarah shares what it takes to shift these dynamics through reparenting and parts work, so you can move from survival-based patterns into grounded, mutual connection.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[00:42] Why you idealize partners and become infatuated
[04:28] How your threat detector drives attraction
[08:03] The internal dynamics of “pedestal” relationships
[11:03] Origins of idealization: fantasizing as a way to escape and self-protect
[14:11] What infatuation feels like (and why it’s not love)
[22:39] Reparenting, parts work, and accessing “adult you” in relationships
[25:51] What healthy love looks like
[29:35] Asking yourself what you’re actually looking for
[31:15] Other areas where we put people on a pedestal (and learning to love yourself)
[34:06] Question 1 - What is limerence in relationships, and why does it happen?
[38:03] Question 2 - How do I stay authentic around people I admire without belittling myself?
[43:16] Question 3 - What's the difference between narcissism and an avoidant attachment?

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Quotes:

“Our system is essentially saying: If I can be chosen by the best person, or the most perfect person, or the shiniest penny, then maybe that means I’m lovable.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:38]

“[Idealization and infatuation] occurs when we've had a younger part of us who wasn't chosen, who was abandoned, or who experienced love from a conditional place.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:54]

“Someone who has done their work and is healthy in a relationship—they don't want to be put on a pedestal. Because when you're put on a pedestal, you are not actually seen and known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:39]

“Adult love is not infatuation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:46]

“When you actually love from Adult you, you are deeply able to take in the wholeness of that person.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:27]

Why Creating Internal Safety is the Foundation for the Life You Want

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Perceiving danger when we’re actually safe is one of the most prominent drivers of human suffering and the reason many of us are chronically dysregulated. Sarah will walk you through how to create internal safety by harnessing the power of your nervous system and discharging stored trauma, so the past can finally be resolved. Listen in to discover how to work with your nervous system to begin building the life you want.

Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point

[00:00] Introduction
[02:04] Experiencing regulation through safety
[05:06] How unresolved trauma creates a lack of safety
[12:53] Examples of over-coupling and what it means
[17:24] Showing your nervous system that it’s safe
[21:06] How childhood experiences affect romantic partnerships
[26:38] A spiritual view of the freedom regulation brings
[32:39] The antidote to lacking internal safety
[37:13] Question 1 – When do I know if I should leave an overwhelming work situation?
[47:54] Questions 2 – How can I make my home feel safe after a traumatic experience?
[59:08] Questions 3 – Is it possible to feel safe during big life upheavals like divorce or betrayal?

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Quotes:

“The experience of time becomes stunted when we experience those traumatic things, and it’s almost as if that experience is lodged in that moment in time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:46]

“Trauma is not a thing of the past, everyone. And overwhelming things aren’t a thing of the past either. They’re a thing of the perpetual present until they are resolved.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:40]

“The language of the nervous system is show, not tell.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:47]

“Anything that is not resolved from your earliest childhood experiences will be projected onto your adult romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:48]

Reparenting Your Parts: How to Release the Outcome and Build Internal Trust

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Sarah walks through the foundations of somatic parts work, including the importance of nervous system regulation, differentiating from our parts, and anchoring into adult self. When we’re able to meet these young parts with empathy, safety, and genuine love, the protective roles you’ve likely carried for years can finally begin to soften. Listen in to discover why falling in love with your parts is a powerful path toward lasting healing.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:03] Focusing on the root issue, not symptoms
[05:35] Tending to your parts without an agenda
[12:53] An overview of parts work
[16:17] How to differentiate from your parts
[18:01] Getting to know your parts and falling in love with them
[20:16] Unburdening protective parts from their role
[24:30] Self-like parts and why they sound like adult you
[29:27] Question 1 - What if I’m too anxious to have children?
[34:55] Question 2 - Can I heal my nervous system while playing a new sport?
[39:12] Question 3 - Why do physical symptoms return during trauma healing?
[44:17] Question 4 - Why can I orgasm alone but not with a partner?

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Quotes:

“If you try to continually treat symptoms without getting to what's underneath it, the symptom will just continue to arise.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:30]

“The issue here is not that symptom, it's the protective part of you or the vulnerable part of you, [who] is suffering and struggling and doesn't feel that they are safe.” Sarah Baldwin [0:03:10]

“In order to effectively do parts work, you have to be in the driver's seat of your nervous system. Not all the time, but you have to be able to access adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:42]

“By differentiating from our parts, we can fall in love with them. And that is the foundation of parts work. It doesn't work if you don't fall in love with these versions of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:17]

“Love is the most powerful tool. It's the most powerful weapon that there is, and it is stronger than anything else.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:19]

“My deepest wish for you isn't that those symptoms go away. My deepest wish for you is that you fall so deeply in love with these parts, that you set them free and that you see who you are as the parent to them, which is a miraculous, amazing being.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:21]

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Your Partner Isn’t Your Enemy: How to Build More Fulfilling Relationships by Becoming a Team

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 17 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Sarah explains why we choose partners who poke at what still needs to be resolved. She breaks down how we unknowingly hold each other accountable for pain from the past, why conflict intensifies as love grows, and how to shift from opposing sides to the same team. When you understand what is actually happening in your nervous system, relationship struggles become an invitation to deeper repair and lasting connection.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[00:40] What it really means to become a team with our partner
[01:53] Why early-stage relationships often feel easier
[04:51] How the nervous system begins linking your partner to family
[05:49] Ways we hold partners accountable for pain they did not cause
[07:11] Relationship conflict is not always a sign that something is wrong
[07:57] Why safe, loving relationships can feel threatening
[12:55] How we end up on different teams
[14:22] Healing the last 20% of unresolved wounds inside partnership
[19:24] Why you marry your unfinished business
[22:26] From swords of protection to swords of love
[28:42] Pausing when triggered and turning toward younger parts
[30:59] Advocating for younger parts and inviting your partner into repair
[33:45] Question 1 - Is feeling guilt about sharing relationship struggles a trauma response?
[43:44] Question 2 - How do I process ending a relationship driven by my protective parts?
[54:45] Question 3 - How do I let go of fantasy and reconnect with my spouse?

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Quotes:

“Once we've done enough internal healing, we draw in a safe person, and you have to build your capacity for receiving the good.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:11:11]

“Neuroscience confirms it for us that we are traveling [in] time anytime we're triggered, and in healing, what we're doing is we're becoming the warrior for the parts of us that are waiting for that resolution.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:17:36]

“[Relationships are] supposed to be the fertile ground where together we can heal up the last 20% of both of our wounding. And that is a beautiful love story. That is what love is supposed to be.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:21:43]

“The work that we're doing is about looking within, not pointing the finger out. So when I was able to do that, look within, that clued me into all this is hurting part, and without him poking at it, I would never be able to address that part.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:30:10]

“What's not talked about enough is what actually happens in relationships. And because it's not talked about enough, we think that there's something very, very wrong; that we're struggling or having a problem in our relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:36]

“Every unresolved thing from your childhood attachment gets resolved in relationship. So the more that we can see we're not alone and normalize this, the more that we stop avoiding it in our relationships, and we can actually address it.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:49]

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Who Gets to Know All of You?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 10 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000

This conversation unpacks why relationships feel so exposing, why discomfort isn’t a sign that something is wrong, and how true healing happens first within you. You’ll learn why feeling ‘unknown’ is often a protective strategy, how parts of you get siloed to survive connection, and how the gentle integration of your protective parts creates secure, intimate relationships. Sarah touches on powerful therapeutic tools that will help you to show up as your most authentic self.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[02:28] How nature embodies its wholeness
[06:06] The feeling of being unknown in relationships
[11:32] Why the nervous system silos us
[13:05] How our caregivers pass on their unresolved trauma
[18:20] The nervous system’s reaction to being contorted by caregivers
[21:06] How siloing yourself disconnects you from who you are
[23:36] Why romantic relationships are the hardest place to be ‘all of you’
[26:03] What getting into a safe relationship after trauma looks like
[30:11] Leaning into the discomfort of growth
[33:23] How to integrate your siloed parts in your romantic relationship
[37:19] Healing within relationships and the power of interdependence
[42:56] Why the healing process is the greatest love story
[44:16] Question 1 – Why do I feel safer being myself with friends than with my partner?
[50:00] Question 2 – Why do I struggle with rejection in romantic relationships?
[55:13] Question 3 – How can I handle difficult and traumatic experiences somatically?

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Quotes:

“The really cool thing about the nervous system – [is] that it functions without you having to do much or think about much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:51]

“If I silo myself, what happens is [that] no one gets to know all of me. And that means that if they hurt me or if they abandon me or they choose not to be my partner, it will never feel the same as the excruciating pain of being a baby who’s not chosen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:03]

“In many ways, healing is coming back to this beautiful, embodied experience of what it is like to have that child-like wonder and innocence.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:16]

“Romantic relationships are the hardest place to be all of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:53]

“If you are with a safe person [who] loves you, they want to see you, they want to see more of you. Because that’s what safe, loving people do.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:38]

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The Science of Manifestation and Rewiring for Possibility

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 3 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Through a grounded, somatic lens, Sarah explores how regulation expands our capacity, why safety must be communicated in a language your nervous system understands, and how slow, tolerable steps retrain your system to tangibly move toward your desires. If you’re ready to stop forcing change and start living the life meant for you, this conversation offers a practical path forward that is backed by science.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[00:58] The science of manifestation and rewiring for possibility
[02:37] Chronic dysregulation can block manifestation
[06:38] Regulation is the key to unlocking the life you desire
[10:36] Why you can fantasize safely but struggle to take action
[16:07] The hardest thing to step towards is often the thing you want most
[21:24] Who is in the driver’s seat of your nervous system?
[23:39] Roads of safety, familiarity, and deepest desires
[30:29] Why affirmations and vision boards fail without somatic work
[32:20] Show, not tell is the language of the nervous system
[37:20] Working with your protective parts
[38:58] Building capacity through slow, tolerable steps
[43:49] Manifestation as incremental nervous system expansion
[45:59] Question 1 - Why do I keep attracting unavailable or unsafe partners?
[01:00:40] Question 2 - How do I feel safe being seen in my purpose?
[01:07:29] Question 3 - Why doesn’t money seem to stick, even when I work hard?

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Quotes:

“If you are chronically dysregulated, there is no amount of desire or praying or meditating or positive thinking that's ever going to create the life that you're wanting.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:41]

“The things that you want the most in life, the things that you're desiring to manifest the most, usually, are going to be the hardest things to step towards in your life.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:15]

“The language of the nervous system is show, not tell, or somatics, you can think ‘the felt sense.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:33]

“When you are in safety, your nervous system rests. And if a nervous system can work very hard, it most certainly can rest. We just have to show [our nervous system] that it is safe to rest.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:56]

“Everything we're talking about is based in science. So, if you want to manifest, you have to use science. And the more that I've done this work, personally and professionally, [I’ve seen] the overlap of science and spirituality. They're best buddies.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:43]

“You know [that] you're onto something when it's the hardest thing to step towards.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:01:07]

“The desire of your soul is meant for you. It's your healing that gets you there.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:06:16]

Completing the Stress Response: How to Resolve Shame, Anger, and Unworthiness

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Sarah explains how unhealthy shame forms, why unresolved anger resurfaces in safe relationships, and how we unknowingly build our lives around avoiding what once felt intolerable. She breaks down what it truly means to complete the stress response by building regulation, reconnecting with younger parts, and allowing the body to express the appropriate response it once inhibited. When the stress cycle is resolved, the lie of unworthiness dissolves. What remains is your innate capacity for strength and self-trust.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:16] Shame, anger, and unworthiness
[04:57] Protective strategies we use to avoid shame and unworthiness
[06:34] How “I am not enough” gets internalized in childhood
[11:48] Shame as the internalization of trauma
[13:45] Healthy shame versus unhealthy shame
[22:52] How unresolved shame distorts your reactions
[25:13] Healthy anger versus unhealthy anger
[28:17] Why suppressed anger resurfaces in safe relationships
[30:27] Key steps to resolving shame
[33:53] Completing the incomplete experience
[41:42] Question 1 - Why does rage from past assault still feel stuck in my body?
[48:13] Question 2 - How do I know when a trauma cycle is truly complete?
[52:50] Question 3 - Why does setting boundaries make me feel unloving?
[57:00] Question 4 - What is the healthiest way to release anger toward my family?

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Quotes:

“We have a primal human need for our caregivers, who brought us into the world, to love us, to choose us, and when they don't, it feels to that child like annihilation. Annihilation is worse than death. It feels like a fragmenting of us in a million pieces.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:04]

“Shame is the internalization of what happened to us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:54]

“What does the internalization mean? It means I am taking the thing that they are projecting at me, and I am putting it, effectively, inside of my own body.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:19]

“The meaning that I make is not that this thing that happens to me is bad, this abuse is bad, or this neglect is bad, or your criticism is bad; [it’s that] I’m bad. That's the meaning that is made from internalization.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:31]

“We need to bring regulation to our nervous system. That's always the beginning of everything. Why? Because we have to build our capacity to hold the shame that was once too much for us to hold.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:42]

“When we love our parts, we fall in love with them, that lie of unworthiness dissolves, and all that's left is what is actually true, that we are worthy and good and whole.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:01]

Why You Feel Unseen in Love: Understanding Emotional Absence and Relational Loneliness

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 17 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0000

She explains how childhood roles such as becoming invisible, emotionally self-reliant, or overly responsible don’t just affect behavior; they shape attraction itself, quietly guiding who we choose and the dynamics we recreate. When these internal blueprints remain unchanged, relationships tend to repeat familiar dynamics rather than support true closeness. This conversation offers a grounded look at why feeling unseen persists in love and what it takes to change the pattern at its root.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:46] Why no single partner can meet every need
[04:23] The importance of fullness of relationships beyond romantic partnership
[07:46] Childhood experiences as the blueprint for adult relationships
[09:01] The nervous system as the driver of attraction and partner selection
[10:54] Early relational roles learned to maintain safety within the family system
[12:30] How childhood invisibility becomes the script for adult relationships
[19:19] Why insight alone does not change relational patterns
[21:30] Rewriting the internal blueprint through reparenting younger parts
[29:27] What healthy relationships require once healing begins
[35:45] Loneliness, grief, and outgrowing familiar relational dynamics
[38:39] Question 1 - How does childhood neglect lead to emotional emptiness?
[44:55] Question 2 - Why do I keep feeling drawn to partners who are bad for me?
[48:53] Question 3 - Why can healing feel lonely as relationships change?

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Quotes:

“We need a variety of people in our lives to feel fully seen and fully known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:23]

“The goal is that, whomever you choose as your life partner, that they have the ability to meet your primary needs, and [that] they want to meet them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:56]

“Our childhood experiences lay the blueprint for how we experience romantic relationships and how we show up in them, meaning what we think we have to be or what we have to do in order to be safe in relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:54]

“However your caregivers showed up with you, that is going to be the type of person that you pick in romantic relationship, until you do the internal healing work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:12]

“If you're not in the driver's seat of your nervous system, if you haven't done stuff to resolve the past, do you know who's actually picking your relationships? Your nervous system. That threat detector and your parts are picking.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:07]

“You are powerful. You are not powerless. – But that young part that is stuck back in that experience, they were powerless, they were a victim. And your job is to travel back to them and give them what they never got. That is really empowering.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:40]

“When I say healthy, it doesn't mean your partner's perfect. It doesn't mean that they are getting everything right. It means that they're willing and safe. That's really all we need. Somebody who's willing and safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:57]

“In healing, you can't unsee what you see. You can't unknow what you know. And so as you see more the beauty of it, you can't unsee it, meaning you can't go backwards. And that's when grief comes up.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:53:57]

“You are transforming when you heal, not into anything new, but you're coming back into who you actually are.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:10]

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The Real Reason Healing Requires Action in Safety, Not Just Awareness

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0000

She introduces the concept of disconfirming experiences: small, embodied moments that gently teach the nervous system that the past is over and we’re free to embody a more full, expansive life. Through key nervous system tools and somatic principles, Sarah explores how safety is rebuilt and how freedom becomes possible as the body is shown, again and again, that it no longer has to protect in the same ways.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:50] Why healing requires lived experience, not just understanding
[06:30] Your nervous system holds the blueprint for how you navigate life
[10:25] Unresolved experiences live in the body, not the prefrontal cortex
[14:07] Using disconfirming experiences to teach your nervous system safety
[22:14] How healing expands your capacity to receive
[27:05] Becoming best friends with your autonomic nervous system
[33:16] Aligning growth and healing with the season of life you’re in
[37:54] How disconfirming experiences differ from exposure therapy
[42:16] Question 1 - Why do I still feel dysregulated after years of nervous system work?
[45:33] Question 2 - Why am I attracting unsafe or unsupportive partners?
[51:46] Question 3 - How do I process trapped energy using somatic practices?

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Quotes:

“All of the hard things we experienced in our lives were not things we read in a book. They were lived experiences. So, do you know what that means? In order to heal the past, we have to have lived experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:51]

“Only when we are in our state of regulation do we have full access to our prefrontal cortex and reason, logic, and rationalization. So did you know that when you experience hard things or traumatic things, you are not in your ventral vagal complex, or state of regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:52]

“It is not physiologically possible to resolve hard things and traumatic things when we experienced them in our bodies in the first place. We can't resolve them through talking them out.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:54]

“A disconfirming experience is where we show, not tell, our nervous system and our younger parts, that the things that were once dangerous are safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:38]

“Your autonomic nervous system is the best friend you never knew you had. – Because what neuroscience shows us is [that] this nervous system, it has never left your side. It has never stopped working for you. It will do everything in its power to make sure that you stay safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:57]

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Why We Lose Ourselves in Relationships and How to Reclaim a Sense of Self

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 3 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +0000

She goes on to explain the differences between codependency, enmeshment, attunement, and interdependence. Sarah also discusses how fear of conflict can lead to self-abandonment, what it takes to feel safe during moments of disconnection or disagreement, and how to support children through distress in ways that build resilience. Tune in to better understand your relational patterns and learn how reclaiming a sense of self supports healthier, more sustainable relationships.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:23] Today’s topic: how not to lose yourself in a relationship
[04:53] How childhood experiences shape our adult lives
[08:39] What does it mean to have a codependent part?
[11:48] Why your primary needs are essential and how to build capacity for them
[15:10] How caretaking can create a false sense of safety
[16:58] Signs you might be in a codependent dynamic
[19:16] Other protective parts of codependency: the rescuer
[22:13] Avoidance can show up in the form of caretaking
[23:24] Diffuse boundaries and how they also impact parenting
[26:41] The ramifications of and antidote to survival-based relationships
[32:13] Characteristics of a healthy relationship
[33:51] How to step toward interdependence
[39:05] Question 1 - The difference between codependency, enmeshment, and attunement.
[49:12] Question 2 - How to overcome the fear of conflict
[58:08] Question 3 - Supporting a child through distress or challenging situations

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“The thing that reminds your nervous system the most of [a] romantic relationship is your earliest childhood experiences. That lays the blueprint, or foundation, or map for how you had to navigate relationships.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:22]

“You cannot rescue anybody else. Only they, their adult self, can rescue the younger parts of [themselves].” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:43]

“The amount of hard you experience in your childhood relationally is going to be reflected in the amount of hard that needs to get resolved in your romantic partnership.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:39]

“If you want to avoid burnout, if you want to avoid getting overwhelmed by your client load and the work that you do, it is very important that you are functioning not from a place of codependency but interdependence.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:26]

What Are Limiting Beliefs: The Science of Shifting Your Thinking

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 27 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Limiting beliefs are often not representative of who you are today but are self-protective mechanisms that formed as a result of past traumas or experiences. The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to shift this! Sarah will guide you through how to anchor into regulation and your adult self so that you can find more ease, peace, and confidence. Tune in for a somatic approach on how to change unwanted thought patterns.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:11] Origins of limiting beliefs
[04:45] The 2 reasons limiting beliefs exist: unresolved trauma and fragmented parts
[10:17] The stories your fragmented parts tell you and how they fuel your limiting beliefs
[14:00] Why mindset work and traditional therapy alone can’t change your thoughts
[15:03] The four states of your autonomic nervous system
[20:32] How coming into a state of regulation changes limiting beliefs
[24:15] Why you also need to work with your parts to change your thoughts
[30:50] Question 1 - Understanding the link between your parts and nervous system
[33:51] Question 2 - Why protective parts can block us from success
[37:51] Question 3 - The connection between dreaming and your parts

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Quotes:

“Human beings clock something as true if we can feel it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:57]

“I cannot believe something to be true if there isn’t the appropriate affect attached to it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:08]

“Your autonomic state within your nervous system creates your story or the thoughts that you are having.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:33]

“When you’re in regulation, this is the fertile ground for creating new neural pathways for what’s actually true [and for] positive thinking.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:01]

The Other Side of Trauma: Post-Traumatic Growth and Discovering New Possibilities

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 20 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:25] Today’s topic: post-traumatic growth
[03:45] Why you may struggle to navigate healing through living
[11:46] Building your ‘house of healing’
[14:59] What to expect as you start to live fully
[21:26] Why suffering isn’t necessary to receive abundance
[23:59] The importance of having support through healing
[25:28] Question 1 - How do I take action once I know my truth?
[29:24] Question 2 - Why has it been so challenging to start my business?
[35:15] Question 3 - How do I tend to my parts as I take steps in my purpose?

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Quotes:

“A lot of our healing comes from our living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:01]

“Good things don’t always feel good at first because our nervous system doesn’t know them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:40]

“Transforming into anything new means a loss of something else. So, really [take] the time to be with that and not rush the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:06]

“The depths of your suffering equate to the depths of aliveness you get to experience in life, and so, the deeper the suffering, when you heal that, the deeper the ecstasy of just breathing is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:41]

“Your learning was in and through [your] suffering, and now your learning is in your living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:49]

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Moving Beyond Blame and Becoming Relationally-Focused in Your Romantic Partnerships

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.

This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] The myth that romantic relationships should feel effortless
[05:26] Moving from self-focus to being relationally-focused
[07:46] The role of willingness and self-growth in partnerships
[09:20] Tending the relationship as a shared garden instead of a battlefield
[15:38] How the nervous system projects childhood experiences onto our partner
[17:51] Why we are drawn to partners who mirror our unfinished business
[22:46] How understanding our parts and reparenting them supports relational repair
[27:49] Building empathy by recognizing our partner’s parts and core wounds
[31:02] Honoring difference and celebrating stretching
[40:23] What becomes possible in relationships when both people are willing
[43:15] Question 1 - Differentiating anxiety from truth in romantic relationships
[55:59] Question 2 - Working with longing, loneliness, and unmet needs for connection
[01:02:14] Question 3 - Learning to approach connection slowly

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Quotes:

“Romantic relationships are where so much of our growth and healing happen, and that means that they aren't just filled with ease, they're filled with work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:48]

“Any garden can be transformed if both people are willing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:33]

“We marry our unfinished business, or we get into relationship with our unfinished business.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:28]

“We are punishing our partner for everything our caregivers got wrong, and our partner wasn't there for any of it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:49]

“The only person that can rescue your parts is you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:45]

“Romantic relationships are supposed to be an invitation into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:39]

“Our protective parts won't be open to letting us love again if they don't think that we can hold the aftermath of losing love.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:40]

Your Nervous System Shapes Your Sense of Time

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 6 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:30] Understanding how we orient to time
[02:37] Anchoring in regulation helps us perceive what’s actually true
[06:30] Time from your sympathetic nervous system
[12:35] Time from your dorsal vagal complex
[14:24] Time from your blended state of freeze
[14:55] Our experience of time when aligned vs. misaligned
[21:31] Why we compare ourselves to others
[28:55] Connecting to presence and the truth of our unfolding
[31:15] Question 1: Muscling through versus getting out of your comfort zone
[36:29] Question 2: How to start healing even when you’re in chronic stress
[41:13] Question 3: Being patient while you are healing

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Quotes:

“Our nervous system is creating our entire experience, including how [we] perceive the movement of time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:47]

“None of us pick [the] right life when we are choosing from survival.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:33]

“No one is on the path of life that you are on besides you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:33]

“Living happens only in this moment in time, and that means it only happens when we’re in regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:59]

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Living the Life You Long For: Capacity Building in the Nervous System

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 30 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Sarah breaks down how the autonomic nervous system shapes your entire lived experience, using clear metaphors to explain why you may feel blocked from the relationships, purpose, and opportunities you long for. She shares why the nervous system responds to what you show it (somatically), not what you tell it, and how regulation helps create the internal conditions for growth and fulfillment.

The episode closes with questions about finding purpose, knowing when to push versus pause, and navigating fear during big transitions. Join Sarah to learn how small, steady capacity-building steps can help you move toward the life you long for with more trust, clarity, and ease.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:11] Why effort and willpower alone aren’t enough
[05:03] Your nervous system creates your entire experience
[11:29] Healing unresolved experiences is how we create the life we desire
[15:04] Why our deepest desires are often an invitation into our healing
[20:47] The power of nervous system regulation
[25:23] Simple ways to build the capacity in your nervous system
[31:00] Using parts work to build trust with your younger parts
[0:36:27] The importance of walking, and not sprinting, toward the life you want
[0:43:06] Question 1: Tools for how to figure out your purpose
[0:56:05] Question 2: Pushing through discomfort versus slowing down
[1:03:03] Question 3: Consistent regulation during fear or uncertainty at work

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Quotes:

“No amount of energy, no amount of focus, of pushing, of grinding is going to get us the life we’re desiring. It can work to a degree, but we do reach a point where the fullness of life that we want cannot be found on that treadmill.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:46]

“What we have to do is we have to learn to speak the language of our nervous system and begin letting it know in a way that it understands that the life we want is actually safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:16]

“Your nervous system does not want to be working so hard. When you are in dysregulation, it is working very hard; it wants to rest. Resting is the doors opening, but it needs to know you're safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:33]

“What we have to do is begin becoming the primary protector of our vulnerable parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:04]

The Truth About Boundaries: Why They're Hard and How to Hold Them

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 23 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

She explores the difference between embodied boundaries and self-protective boundaries, which form as a result of unmet needs and misattunement in childhood. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your adult self, identify the protective parts that might be informing the way you set limits, and communicate your needs without reverting to old patterns.

Through practical guidance and compassionate teaching, Sarah offers a path back to boundaries that reflect who we are now, not who we once had to be. Tune in to hear how a somatic approach can support healing, authenticity, and deeper connection!

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:10] Why family dynamics pull us back into younger roles
[04:48] How early nervous system development shapes regulation
[06:50] The importance of honoring a child’s boundaries
[11:16] Ways that childhood boundary violations impact adult patterns
[15:50] The 3 boundary styles: diffuse, rigid, and embodied
[21:45] Learning to anchor in the adult self around family of origin
[26:23] Preparing for resistance when shifting long-term dynamics
[28:50] Working with protective parts who fear boundary setting
[32:34] What to expect from internal and external resistance
[37:06] Leading with the adult self when communicating boundaries
[39:34] Applying embodied boundaries in family and holiday settings
[42:27] Question 1: Staying regulated when younger parts panic
[45:54] Question 2: Naming needs in relationships when anxious attachment shows up
[51:24] Question 3: Navigating boundaries with unsafe or traumatic family systems

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Quotes:

“[Setting boundaries] is what allows us to navigate life as our authentic self. And this is also what allows us to navigate life in a way that gets our needs met in a multitude of ways. So it is really vital that we are able to come into this experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:40]

“Even with loving parents, most of them did not know how to parent, and that meant that they didn't realize the imperative nature of honoring and validating your embodied boundary.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:27]

“Whatever we need to do that makes it tolerable to set the boundary, that's what we want to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:29]

“The more that you're doing parts work on a regular basis, the more these parts are going to trust you as you begin setting these boundaries. [It’s] really important that we're engaging in that regularly.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:55]

“[When you’re] re-parenting [your parts], what actually happens is you become the parent they never had. You become their home internally. And now the parts are no longer looking for your caregivers to be their mom and dad.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:24]

“Accessing our ability to set healthy boundaries is good. It is a gift for everyone. It's an invitation to them into their own healing, and it's not our business whether they take the invitation or not. So how do we do this? As always, one tolerable step at a time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:39]

The Secret to Actually Loving Yourself: Falling in Love with Your Younger Parts

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 16 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

You’ll learn about the importance of consistency in reparenting your parts, why this process is about relationship-building, and how to find love for the protective parts of you that are often responsible for challenging behaviors or patterns. When you do this work, without having an agenda, it’s possible to feel self-love in a way that lasts and transforms every area of your life.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:12] You can’t “talk” yourself into self-love
[05:00] An overview of Parts Work (Internal Family Systems)
[12:37] An explanation of how to reparent your younger parts
[19:15] The importance of building trust with your parts
[21:39] Loving both your vulnerable and protective parts
[35:31] The integration process and making your parts whole with you
[38:26] Question 1: Deciphering if choices come from truth or trauma
[49:33] Question 2: Parts work when you’ve disconnected from memories
[56:51] Question 3: The root of being self-critical about our bodies

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Quotes:

“We have to fall in love with all parts of ourselves; not just some of the parts of ourselves, all parts of ourselves.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:45]

“Whatever part that you’re working [with] is going to need something really different.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:49]

“We have to teach our parts what love is if they didn’t fully get to receive it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:01]

“Everything you feel is a truth to a version of you, it just might not be a truth to adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:56]

The Path to Authentic Leadership Through Parts Work

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 9 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Drawing on parts work and nervous system science, she explains how striving, control, burnout, micromanaging, and difficulty slowing down are often signs that old survival strategies are running the show. This episode will give you a tangible path toward embodied leadership, so that you can lead from your most authentic self and build more capacity for rest, joy, and fulfillment.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction
[01:05] Tackling the belief that success requires sacrificing a full life
[03:10] Signs you are leading from dysregulation
[05:59] What embodied, regulated leadership looks like
[08:21] Why we might lead from dysregulation and protective parts
[12:03] Key protective parts that might be running the show
[18:02] How our nervous systems impact those around us
[19:43] The power of nervous system regulation in leadership
[22:04] Accessing your adult self as the foundation for change
[24:15] Inviting protective parts into collaboration
[26:52] Practical steps for rest, nourishment, and building capacity
[29:52] Question 1: Staying regulated with dysregulated clients
[36:00] Question 2: Working with parts that feel undeserving
[42:06] Question 3: Understanding triggers around client cancellations

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Quotes:

“If you want the highest level of success as a leader, the state of your nervous system is the most important thing to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:00:43]

“If you find yourself having a really imbalanced life, that is a clue that you're likely leading from dysregulation and protective parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:26]

“When you're dysregulated, your full brain isn't working, which means you don't have access to [your] highest levels of creativity, critical thinking, and, of course, feeling good in your bodies. So the more regulated you are, the more regulated everybody around you becomes.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:13]

“It is our thriving that allows others to thrive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:39:05]

“Every single person, I believe, is a leader in some particular way. – And the more you regulate your nervous system and reparent your parts, the more you lead from your wholeness, the more you help the world heal, and the more, most importantly, you enjoy the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:42]

Building Real Intimacy and Deeper Connection in a Romantic Relationship

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 2 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

She breaks down the core elements of intimacy, including vulnerability, presence, play, touch, and verbal connection, and shows how each one can become inhibited when childhood environments did not allow those needs to be expressed safely. This episode offers a compassionate, practical path forward by reconnecting with the walled-off parts of ourselves, taking small steps toward openness, and learning to differentiate past fears from present-day safety.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Intro
[01:30] Intimacy as a primal human need
[04:33] Why intimacy feels difficult and is rooted in early attachment
[11:25] Siloing ourselves as a way to avoid the pain of being fully seen
[17:56] Complaining, withdrawing, or avoiding as protector responses to vulnerability.
[23:26] Intimacy is being fully ourselves and deeply witnessed
[26:28] Key forms of intimacy and how childhood environments inhibit them
[32:12] Your nervous system applies past experiences to adult relationships
[34:00] Why we choose partners who mirror or caregiver’s traits
[38:57] Reconnecting with walled-off parts to build inner intimacy
[42:05] Taking small, tolerable steps toward intimacy with a safe partner
[46:12] Seeing a partner’s inhibited intimacy with compassion
[47:50] Question 1 - How our protectors misinterpret healthy partners as unsafe
[1:00:03] Question 2 - Differentiating adult needs from younger parts seeking reassurance
[1:10:46] Question 3 - Healing low sexual desire shaped by past trauma

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Quotes:

“If someone only gets 25% of me, or a portion of me, and then they choose they don't want me, or they don't want to be in my life, I can tolerate that because they haven't witnessed or experienced all of me.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:51]

“The result of being siloed is that no one actually ever fully knows you. And one of the primary places that we will silo ourselves, or feel inhibited in being in our fullness, is [in] our romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:39]

“Complaining is a form of self-protection.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:07]

“The thing that we all want, perhaps the most, in a romantic relationship is to be deeply seen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:36]

“We all pick partners that mirror for us the good qualities of our childhood caregivers and also the not-so-good qualities of our childhood caregivers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:02]

“Sexual pleasure is simply the embodied practice of intimacy.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:15:40]

Why We Feel the Need to Control and How to Actually Let Go

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 25 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Sarah explains how experiences of chaos, misattunement, and trauma leave the nervous system feeling unsafe, and how control becomes a brilliant survival strategy. She delves into the more subtle versions of control that go unnoticed because they look “responsible” on the surface, and what is actually needed to begin relaxing your grip.

She also explores how regulating the nervous system and connecting with our adult self changes our relationship to our homes, bodies, partners, work, and timelines, and why true surrender is never about “just let go,” but about having somewhere safe inside to land. Join Sarah for tangible tools to experience your life with more freedom and ease.

Episode Highlights:

[01:49] Everyday examples of control that often go unnoticed
[04:13] Why lacking internal safety puts the nervous system into “autopilot”
[06:19] Sarah’s personal story of over-achievement and OCD as forms of control
[09:30] The link between controlling our environment and trying to manage internal chaos
[12:00] Discover the obvious and subtle ways people try to self-control
[14:15] How controlling behaviors show up in relationships
[17:50] The ways in which we try to control our purpose
[20:01] Tools to help you let go and actually surrender
[28:00] Question 1 - Overcoming chaos as a new parent
[34:15] Question 2 - Rescuing others as a means of avoidance
[37:15] Question 3 - Health anxiety and the nervous system

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Quotes:

“The level of protection that [the nervous system] will do, in terms of controlling, will be dependent on the level of out of control we experience inside.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:33]

“I cannot let go if I don’t have safety inside, so what we have to do is to create internal safety. We do this through regulation of our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:39]

“Your external world is a representation of your internal world.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:24]

“We have to show, not tell, our nervous system and our protective parts that it is safe to let go. It is safe to surrender.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:37]

How to Have Tough Conversations, Make Amends, and Heal Through Repair

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Drawing on attachment, parts work, and Polyvagal Theory, Sarah breaks down why romantic relationships often become the most powerful containers for our healing. She explores how conflict, rupture, and repair invite us to meet the last of our unresolved pain, differentiate old wounds from present-day needs, and open with vulnerability rather than protection. With practical guidance on regulation, communication, and navigating tough conversations, she shows how turning toward discomfort can deepen intimacy instead of threatening it.

Listen in to learn how to make sense of these patterns and how healthy repair can become a pathway to more ease, authenticity, and connection in your relationships.

Episode Highlights:

[01:26] How deeper intimacy activates old attachment wounds
[05:12] Why unresolved pain arises in our closest relationships
[11:00] Romantic relationships are a container for healing and resolution
[15:10] Why relationships feel easy at first and harder with closeness
[17:12] What happens when conflict triggers a protective part
[21:30] What healthy rupture and repair look like in childhood
[24:31] Common protective responses like blaming or fawning
[26:33] Why repair deepens intimacy and builds ease
[30:11] What did rupture represent for you in childhood?
[32:51] The ways many of us attempt to repair
[36:40] Steps for healthy repair after rupture
[42:50] Question 1 - Forgiving ourselves for past relational harm
[48:27] Question 2 - The healing process in unsafe environments
[53:19] Question 3 - The connection between Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work

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“In many ways, one of the biggest purposes of a romantic relationship is so that it can provide the conditions necessary for us to come into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:11]

“If you're somebody that tends to jump from relationship to relationship, or from friendship to friendship when things get hard, thinking, ‘If I just find a friend who gets me more, if I just find a relationship that is more aligned,’ you’re going to be on that adventure forever.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:19]

“When we can do this brave thing and go towards this experience of tough conversations and make it different, it brings the most beautiful healing to the past and a deepening of a relationship, and our system begins to see that ‘I can be all of me and still be loved.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:20]

“Your needs are not too much. Your partner's needs aren't too much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:38]

“You cannot repair when you're in dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:05]

“If we're in disconnection with someone we care about, what do we really want? We want to feel loved by them, and we want to love them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:33]

“Ruptures are a natural, normal part of relationships, and the outcome of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of ruptures that you experience or arguments or fights. ” — Sarah Baldwin [0:41:48]

The Nervous System’s Bias for Negativity and How to Rewire It

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 11 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Real transformation begins not with willpower but with a felt sense of internal safety. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Parts Work, Sarah shares tangible tools to help you shift from survival mode to genuine ease. Join Sarah to discover how regulation transforms not only your mindset but your entire lived experience, one safe, grounded moment at a time.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] The connection between dysregulation and negativity

[02:11] Understanding the six states of the nervous system

[04:13] Why the nervous system is hardwired for survival

[06:26] Neuroception and your orientation to the world

[09:58] Your nervous system shapes your thinking

[15:14] Working with your parts to find more ease and inner peace

[25:44] Somatic tools to begin orienting toward the positive

[35:45] Question 1: Understanding what regulation really means.

[44:16] Question 2: Why feedback triggers negative responses.

[52:34] Question 3: Healing the scarcity mindset surrounding money.

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Quotes:

“All human beings as a whole are negatively inclined creatures.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:14]

“The more that we heal, the more our systems see that we are safe, and when it sees it is safe, we naturally begin [to] orient more towards the positive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:28]

“When you come into partnership, it is very common that the protective parts that we have, we project onto our partner.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:37]

“Life is hard enough as it is. So, when we have all this unresolved stuff, like every human on the planet, it just makes life hard, and when we are just responding to what is, life is filled with so much more ease.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:51:08]

“It is not biological for anything in nature to want to be meek. It wants to be the full expression of itself. Everything wants that.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:56:06]

Grief as a Pathway to Love, Safety, and New Possibilities

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 4 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

You’ll learn why grief isn’t just about death or heartbreak; it’s woven into every transition we experience. Whether it’s aging, changing relationships, or healing from the pain of our childhood, Sarah offers a compassionate roadmap to help you meet your grief with safety, embodiment, and compassion.

Episode Highlights

[00:00] What grief really is, and why everything in nature experiences it
[02:32] Why humans resist grief more than any other species
[06:30] Our culture avoids endings and celebrates beginnings
[08:22] The link between safety, surrender, and emotional processing
[10:46] How grief shows up in everyday transitions (marriage, growth, aging)
[17:30] Why unresolved trauma keeps us stuck in survival
[25:25] How protective parts keep us from experiencing grief
[31:47] Sarah’s story of losing her dog Jerry, and finding love through grief
[34:54] Somatic steps to gently access your grief without overwhelm
[37:33] How to titrate, pendulate, and discharge emotion safely
[41:51] Question 1 - Grieving estrangement from our family of origin

[45:37] Question 2 - How do I stop getting overwhelmed by grief?

[50:10] Question 3 - The healing process and finding others on this journey

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Quotes:

“So much of our suffering isn’t about grief itself, it’s about our resistance to grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:01:46]

“The bigger the love, the bigger the grief. Great love means great grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:32:14]

“Grief is aliveness. It is the result of your bravery in living and loving fully.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:34:23]

Why We Numb: Self-Sabotage, Coping Strategies, and "Bad" Habits

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 28 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Do you find yourself using things to cope like doom scrolling, eating late at night, or drinking in excess? If so, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks the science behind why we numb and engage in “bad” habits. Whether it’s excessive social media, food, sex, alcohol, or work, these are all intelligent survival responses to unresolved trauma or pain.

You’ll learn how to tell the difference between coping strategies and regulating resources, why you can’t just “stop” addictive behaviors, and the steps to begin bringing regulation to your nervous system. Sarah also shares her personal journey of healing from OCD, over-eating, and workaholism, proving that true freedom comes from befriending — not battling — your nervous system and protective parts.

Episode Highlights

[00:00] The truth about coping strategies, and why we all use them
[02:11] The role trauma plays in our need to numb
[03:12] Why shame perpetuates the coping cycle
[05:27] How society normalizes certain numbing behaviors
[09:29] You can’t just “stop” a coping behavior
[10:52] Coping strategies from a Parts Work lens
[15:54] Why battling your protective parts never works
[21:04] How to replace coping with regulating resources
[24:48] Question 1 - Why quitting smoking can feel worse before it feels better

[30:24] Question 2 - Why does my addiction cause more dysregulation?

[43:28] Question 3 - Am I using coffee to regulate or cope?

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Quotes:

“You can’t battle a protector. They will always win because they love your vulnerable part too much to stop.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:14:14]

“Forward doesn’t always look like forward in healing. Sometimes it looks like finally facing what’s been waiting to be held.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:29:47]

Understanding Internal Confusion & Building Self-Trust: Is this Me or a Part of Me?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 21 Oct 2025 07:03:20 +0000

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the science of Parts Work and how trauma shapes the different “selves” we embody. You’ll learn why these parts develop, how to begin differentiating between the truth of a part and the truth of your adult self, and the steps necessary to finally resolve old wounds. This episode will empower you to find clarity within, build trust with your younger parts, and come home to the authentic you you’ve always been.

Episode Highlights:

[01:19 ] Why we feel like different versions of ourselves in different settings

[03:40] What “Parts Work” means and how parts develop

[06:00] How your nervous system reverts to old protective patterns

[09:50] The difference between vulnerable and protective parts

[11:10] Examples of protectors: achiever, fawner, caretaker, perfectionist

[16:35] Somatic exercise: embodying your adult self

[20:30] Recognizing truths from adult self vs. your parts

[23:40] How romantic relationships trigger childhood parts

[26:30] Why protectors often sabotage love and purpose

[30:00] The beauty of becoming your own “internal archeologist”

[33:30] How to identify your truth and stop oscillating between versions of self

[40:00] The importance of marinating in your truth

[43:012] Q&A - How can I learn to trust myself and know my truth?

[49:157] Q&A - How do I overcoming abuse and self doubt?

[55:501] Q&A - How can I know what is the “real me” and what is the traumatized me?

[1:00:008] Q&A - How can I create deep and genuine conversations?

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Quotes:

“Anything you think or feel at any given moment is the truth to a part of you, it just might not be the truth to your adult self.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:40:40]

“We end up living lives that our protective parts decided are safe for us, not the lives that are actually meant for us.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:47:21]

“The life you are here to live is not meant to feel comfortable. It will stretch you, grow you, and invite you into healing.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:48:26]

The Path to Regulation: How to Find Consistent Presence, Joy, and Aliveness

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Your nervous system creates your entire experience. Everything from your thoughts and feelings to your behaviors and perception of self, others, and the world around you are all determined by what’s happening in this self-protective system. In this episode, Sarah will guide you through the fundamentals of nervous system regulation and equip you with tangible somatic tools to help you gain control over your experience.

Many traditional models of healing focus only on treating the “symptoms” — like anxiety, depression, stress, fear, burnout, or panic — rather than addressing the root cause. But much of our pain and stuckness is actually a result of unresolved trauma or chronic dysregulation. When you learn how to befriend your nervous system and gently walk it toward safety, it’s possible to feel better, move through the world with more ease, and step toward all that you desire.

Episode Highlights:

[00:25] Nervous system regulation is the foundation of all healing
[02:00] Understanding your Autonomic Nervous System
[07:44] What makes regulation so powerful and freeing
[10:30] The symptoms of dysregulation
[24:28] How we can regulate our nervous systems
[29:04] What to expect as you come into regulation
[34:35] Question 1: How to resolve anxiety through nervous system regulation
[39:37] Question 2: The “expand and contract” experience of healing
[42:25] Question 3: Why you might “freeze” or have a startle response
[46:33] Question 4: Staying regulated in difficult work environments

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The Relationship Between Your Nervous System & Food: How Dysregulation Shapes Our Eating Patterns

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 7 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

So many of us use food as a strategy to numb, disconnect from our emotions, or even as a companion. So how do we heal this unhealthy relationship with food? Today on You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down how unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system can impact the way you eat, your biological functions, and your overall sense of well-being.

You’ll learn why you might have developed a difficult relationship with food, the role diets or restriction play in maintaining control, how intuitive eating can be inhibited by trauma, and more. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body and find more ease around eating, this episode will give you tangible science-backed tools to help you to transform your relationship to food and with yourself.

[00:24] Today’s topic: how to have a healthy relationship with food
[01:27] Why we develop unhealthy relationships with food
[06:09] Food restriction and how it’s used for control
[10:53] How being disembodied affects your food intuition
[14:41] What food habits create a dysregulated nervous system
[18:31] Fueling regulation and building a healthy relationship with food
[35:00] Question 1: How blood sugar spikes affect your nervous system
[36:45] Question 2: Combatting emotional eating by reparenting your young parts
[41:01] Question 3: Anchoring in your adult self when working with younger parts

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From Fragmented to Whole: Tools to Tangibly Reparent Your Younger Parts

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

What if the key to living more fully isn’t “fixing” yourself, but learning to meet every part of you with compassion? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how reparenting our younger parts helps us move from fragmentation back into wholeness. She explains the role of vulnerable parts, protective parts, and the adult self, and how trauma can leave those younger parts stuck in the perpetual pain of the past.

Sarah shares practical steps for recognizing, differentiating, and building trust with these parts so they no longer run our lives from the shadows. From learning to anchor in your adult self, to showing up consistently for your inner child, to offering both softness and fierce protection, she outlines a tangible process of reparenting that paves the way for more freedom, safety, and authentic self-expression.

Episode Highlights:

[00:24] The importance of reparenting your younger parts
[01:23] How trauma fragments us into vulnerable parts
[05:38] The role of protectors in guarding against pain
[08:14] Self vs. Self-like parts
[11:55] Signs protectors are limiting your life
[14:05] Reparenting your parts to end suffering and live fully
[17:10] Anchoring in adult you through regulation
[20:22] Differentiating Self from younger parts
[22:30] Meeting, introducing, and building a relationship with your parts
[27:26] Becoming the internal parent and safe home for your parts
[31:05] Question 1: What you need to know about the age of your parts
[38:12] Question 2: Overcoming resentment and anger after childhood trauma
[52:53] Question 3: Why we might struggle with basic self-care

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Reclaiming Your Sexuality: A Conversation About Pleasure, Intimacy, and Safety

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 23 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience.

You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person.

Episode Highlight:

[00:25] Human beings are inherently sexual beings
[01:25] Sexuality has very little to do with the act of sex itself
[02:50] 2 reasons we struggle to have the sexual aliveness we want
[04:12] How society affects how we show up in our sexual life
[09:10] Why it’s important to resolve trauma
[10:50] How childhood trauma impacts adult sexual dynamics
[18:00] What healthy sexuality requires of us
[24:40] Parenting our parts to connect to our internal value
[26:10] How we can begin stepping toward healthy sexuality
[31:06] The importance of having agency
[32:55] Being present in the natural unfolding
[33:30] Ridding ourselves of the idea of it being a performative act
[34:50] Sexuality should have an element of play
[35:37] Question 1: How to fully explore yourself in moments of intimacy
[40:40] Question 2: How to deal with past trauma that comes up during intimate moments
[46:43] Question 3: Why we might use our sexuality to gain love

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Connecting to Your Inner Masculine and Feminine: How to Embody Both Your Soft and Protective Energies

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We are all created with the ability to access both our inner masculine and feminine energies. These energies shape how we move through the world, but are not confined to gender or societal expectations. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the science behind these polarities, how nature reveals that they’re universal and designed for survival, and why we all carry both within us.

You’ll learn about what causes us to disconnect from one of these energies, how society distorts them from the moment you’re born, and why you might identify with one more than the other depending on the area of life. Sarah also unpacks how each of these energies plays out in romantic relationships and steps to begin leaning more into your true self. Finally, Rachel joins Sarah to answer questions from listeners that touch on healing protective parts, staying in the present, and joining instead of merging.

Episode Highlights:

[00:25] The science behind masculine and feminine energy
[01:57] How nature teaches us that masculine and feminine energy are not gender specific
[08:36] Why we all have both energetic qualities and how we oscillate between them
[09:27] What causes us to disconnect from one of these energies
[23:00] How to access both of these energetic qualities within ourselves
[26:05] Leaning into feminine energy within a romantic relationship
[29:17] Leaning into masculine energy within a romantic relationship
[38:47] Question 1: Healing protective parts that refuse to let you receive help
[52:23] Question 2: The power of orienting yourself to the present moment
[1:01:47] Question 3: The concept of joining rather than merging

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The Physical Symptoms of Trauma: Chronic Illness, Chronic Pain, & More

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 9 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

What if your chronic illness, pain, or fatigue is not random but a reflection of unresolved trauma stored in your body? In this episode, Sarah unpacks the powerful link between trauma, the nervous system, and physical health. Drawing on her own lived experience with autoimmune disease and chronic illness, she explains why time alone does not heal all, how unresolved experiences live on in our bodies, and why nervous system regulation is the most effective medicine.

You’ll get tangible somatic tools for how to process unresolved trauma and emotions by doing what’s called “completing the incomplete experience,” along with steps for reconnecting with your body, validating your pain, and restoring safety and resilience to your system. Later in the episode, Sarah is joined by Rachel to answer listener questions about menstrual cycles, fertility struggles, and navigating chronic pain. Tune in for clarity, reassurance, and hope that healing is always possible.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00:00] The physical symptoms of trauma, chronic illness, and pain
[0:01:25] An overview of trauma and how it overwhelms the nervous system
[0:03:31] Learn about the process of ‘completing the incomplete experience’
[0:08:41] How chronic dysregulation can lead to long-term illness
[0:14:40] Sarah shares her story of autoimmune disease
[0:18:52] Moment-to-moment psychosomatic symptoms and how they manifest
[0:22:52] Anticipatory anxiety, its impacts, and the drivers behind burnout
[0:27:16] Find out how recovery time is affected by chronic dysregulation
[0:31:01] Practical steps to overcoming chronic pain and illness
[0:39:32] Question 1: Why women tend to suffer more from autoimmune conditions
[0:53:06] Question 2: How we become disconnected from our bodies and how to fix it
[1:05:20] Question 3: Ways to overcome physical pain and discomfort

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Finding the Right Therapist or Practitioner for You

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 2 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Have you struggled with where to begin when looking for a therapist? Or maybe you’ve started working with a mental health professional, but you’re worried they might not be the best fit? Finding support is a vital part of healing, but it can often be a confusing or even daunting process. This episode of You Make Sense was created as a trauma-informed guide to help you know what to look for in a therapist or practitioner.

Sarah explains the two most important qualities a professional needs to embody in order to support others. You’ll learn what truly sets a practitioner apart, the red flags that signal caution, and the qualities you should look for when selecting someone. Sarah reminds us how deeply complex healing work is and the importance of finding a practitioner who is trauma-trained. If you’re feeling lost when it comes to seeking support, this episode will empower you with the tools and knowledge to find the right person for you.

Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point

[00:00] Healing starts with finding the right support
[02:08] 2 things that make a practitioner good at what they do
[07:33] Red flags to look out for in practitioners
[21:23] The concept of energy wells and what it means
[23:43] What to look for in a therapist or practitioner
[36:55] Question 1: Knowing when you’ve hit your trauma vortex
[42:58] Question 2: Tending to your nervous system in parts
[47:07] Question 3: Plant medicine in therapeutic work

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When the Past Shows Up in Your Relationships: Identifying Younger Parts in Romantic Partnerships

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Romantic love has a way of poking at our deepest wounding. Even when life feels steady elsewhere, intimacy can trigger reactions that don’t feel like our true selves. Sarah explains that this is often the work of our parts — younger versions of ourselves that carry past trauma and coping strategies — and that these parts can show up most strongly in our closest relationships.

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how vulnerable, protective, and self-like parts shape the roles we play with partners, from caretaking to perfectionism. She shares how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and why they can make intimacy feel both desirable and threatening. With somatic insights and practical tools, Sarah shows how to reparent younger parts, anchor into the adult self, and create relationships that feel authentic and safe.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Identifying the parts of us that show up in romantic relationships
[01:41] How parts form through overwhelming or traumatic experiences
[06:08] Why parts show up most strongly in romantic partnerships
[09:51] Three categories of parts: vulnerable, protective, and self-like
[10:48] How protective parts protect vulnerable parts
[14:23] Self-like parts: how they mimic adult selves and feel rational
[17:25] Learning to distinguish your adult self from younger parts
[28:19] Tools to anchor into your adult self in relationships
[29:50] Exercises to see your partner clearly and take in the good
[34:21] The importance of reparenting your parts
[34:51] How to repair after conflict and name adult vs. younger needs
[37:48] Question 1: Working with caretaker protector parts in relationships
[53:15] Question 2: Attraction challenges when seeing your partner’s child parts
[01:08:07] Question 3: The role of your nervous system in letting go of long relationships

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Understanding Healthy Aggression and How Unprocessed Anger Becomes Internalized

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 19 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Have you ever been told you're "too nice" or found yourself saying "I'm fine" even when you're really not? For so many of us, anger can feel scary or wrong, like something we should push down or avoid entirely. But Sarah explains that there's a difference between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, and that healthy aggression—your natural ability to protect yourself and speak up when something isn't right—is actually essential for feeling safe and alive in your body.

In this episode, Sarah explores why so many of us learned to inhibit this vital, life-force energy, often as a way to survive difficult experiences. If you've ever found yourself being chronically agreeable, struggling to set boundaries, or getting angry about small things while staying silent about the big ones, this episode is for you. You’ll learn gentle, somatic tools to reconnect with this protective energy so that you can access the full spectrum of who you are.

Episode Highlights:

00:30 Healthy Aggression

10:45 Unhealthy Aggression

17:23 Different Versions of Unhealthy Aggression

21:19 What Happens When We Inhibit Healthy Aggression?

24:58 How to Access Healthy Aggression

38:06 Question #1 - How Do You Overcome Self-Hatred?

47:15 Question #2 - Tending to a Younger Part’s Anger and Resentment

56:36 Question #3 - Why Do I Get So Irritated with My Children?

01:02:47 Question #4 - Releasing Stored Anger From the Jaw

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Summer Somatic Reset: Finding Your Community and Building Authentic Connection

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Have you ever struggled to build or maintain meaningful friendships, felt isolated despite doing the inner work, or wondered why community can feel so hard to create? In the final episode of the Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores one of the most essential yet misunderstood human needs – connection.

You’ll learn how your attachment style and nervous system influence your ability to connect, and why experiences of trauma can lead to patterns of fawning, isolation, or forming unhealthy relationships. This episode will also equip you with tangible somatic tools to build your capacity for connection, recognize the types of relationships you desire, and begin cultivating community from a place of authenticity.

Join Sarah to discover the power of creating internal safety and belonging to navigate social anxiety, shift inner dialogue, and find your chosen family.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Why community and safe connection are essential
[01:46] How trauma impacts creating authentic connection
[04:14] Sarah shares her experience of fawning and isolation
[06:59] Masking, dysregulation, and misconceptions surrounding anxiety
[10:34] What it means to be the ‘different one’ in your family or community
[13:18] Attachment styles and how they influence connection
[19:18] Examples of secure attachment and healthy connection
[21:59] The healing journey and finding your chosen family
[25:39] How to cultivate inner belonging and relational authenticity
[28:48] Learn how to find and form the right connections for you
[32:56] Reciprocity and the evolving nature of relationships
[34:57] Question 1: Healing past relational wounds to form friendship and trust
[41:14] Question 2: How to find an aligned community and build a chosen family
[45:17] Question 3: Why it’s hard to reenter a community after healing

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Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle Culture

Summer Somatic Reset: Healing the Scarcity Wound: A Nervous System Approach to

Trauma & Finances

Understanding Social Anxiety: Are you Actually an Introvert/Extrovert or Is It Trauma?

Summer Somatic Reset: Healing the Scarcity Wound: A Nervous System Approach to Trauma & Finances

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 5 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Many of us carry deep-seated wounds of scarcity rooted in our early attachment patterns, and without realizing it, we continue to recreate those patterns in our adult lives. In this third episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah delves into the intricate relationship between trauma, finances, and the nervous system.

Through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation, Sarah unpacks how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized money attachments develop and how they influence our beliefs about worth, safety, and abundance. Learn how to identify your own patterns, understand the protective role your body has played, and how to begin cultivating a secure, embodied relationship with money.

Want to effectively navigate financial anxiety, expand your capacity to receive, and embrace abundance? This is the episode for you! It’s not just a money conversation; it is a pathway to healing, wholeness, and freedom.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00:00] Today’s focus on money and abundance.
[0:01:14] Where struggles around money might originate from.
[0:07:49] Attachment theory and how it relates to finances.
[0:11:53] How the body protects itself from anxious attachment around money.
[0:17:05] Avoidant attachment and how it develops.
[0:21:17] Examples of how the body copes with avoidant attachment.
[0:23:32] What it looks like to have a disorganized attachment with money.
[0:25:50] What a secure relationship with money looks like.
[0:31:09] Reasons why people struggle with the concept of abundance.
[0:33:00] How to create a healthy relationship with money.
[0:41:20] Question 1: Overcoming the body’s conditioning to wealth.
[1:00:14] Question 2: The impact of attachment style on relationships.
[1:07:10] Question 3: How long will the healing journey take.

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Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In episode two of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores how high-performing leaders can shift from leading through scarcity and fear to embodying leadership rooted in safety and abundance. She unpacks the common traits of many high achievers, how the drive to succeed often stems from survival instincts formed in childhood, the toll this can take over time, and how parts work and nervous system regulation can pave the way for sustainable leadership.

Through practical somatic tools and real-life examples, Sarah offers a path to more life-giving leadership rooted in nervous system regulation, nourishment, and the steady presence of your adult self. Whether you’re leading a company or your own healing journey, this episode will help you shift from striving to thriving so you can lead without sacrificing your wellbeing!

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] The journey to life-giving high-performance leadership
[01:25] What it looks like to be a high achiever
[06:01] How striving protective parts drive high achievers
[12:44] What happens when protective parts become problematic
[14:17] How constant striving adversely impacts ourselves and others
[18:45] Learning to lead from our adult selves, not our younger parts
[22:44] How to reparent our younger parts and retrain our nervous systems
[25:45] The importance of prioritizing nourishment, even when it’s challenging
[32:33] Other focus areas for high achievers, like learning to rely on others
[35:26] Why people are drawn to regulated leaders
[40:00] Question 1: Feeling in your power and not getting derailed
[45:19] Question 2: Starting, running, and sustaining a successful business
[50:54] Question 3: Navigating imposter syndrome from a somatic perspective

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Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 12:43:22 +0000

In this first episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions in relationships: Is this person wrong for me, or is it my nervous system? Sarah shares how attachment wounds, protective parts, and nervous system patterns shape our experience of love, and why good things don’t always feel good at first.

Through guided practices and personal insights, Sarah invites you to explore how to differentiate between old protective patterns and present-day truth, empowering you to build relational capacity, deepen self-trust, and recognize what truly supports growth and connection.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] The truth behind relationship confusion
[01:43] Why good things often don’t feel good at first
[03:59] Cultural myths that keep us stuck in romantic uncertainty
[06:23] How neuroception links past wounding to present experience
[10:05] The importance of building capacity inside a relationship
[13:06] A guided practice to access your adult self and discern relationship truth
[23:19] The mirror effect: How relationships reveal our growth edges
[26:12] Recognizing when you’re in a protective part versus your adult self
[30:35] What it feels like when a relationship is right (and why it may still feel uncomfortable)
[35:23] When is a relationship wrong? Growth, safety, values, and relational polarity
[41:59] Understanding boredom as a relational signal
[44:49] Question 1: Building capacity and checking in with your truth daily
[48:41] Question 2: Breaking patterns by giving your younger parts the love they lacked
[51:49] Question 3: Reparenting our parts to build attraction and receive healthy love

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Getting to Know Freeze: How This Self-Protective State Shows Up in Dating, at Work, and More

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 15 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Many of us know what it feels like to be stuck, wanting to move forward in life but somehow unable to. This is often an indication we’re in freeze—one of the most misunderstood forms of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the freeze response: what it is, why it happens, and how it shows up in everything from our relationships to our purpose.

Freeze is not laziness or weakness, but a deeply adaptive survival response. Drawing on neuroscience and compassionate insight, Sarah offers powerful somatic tools to gently help you come out of dysregulation and into safety. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of overthinking, avoidance, or self-doubt—this episode will give you a roadmap for stepping toward the life you desire.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

00:24 Freeze & The Autonomic Nervous System

03:25 Chronic Dysregulation Takes A Lot of Energy

06:21 Characteristics of Freeze

12:50 How We Experience Freeze In Our Relationships

17:32 Tools to Heal Your Relationships

22:44 How Younger Parts Show Up in Relationships

25:08 How We Experience Freeze in Our Purpose

31:01 Coming Closer to Regulation

36:30 Question 1 - “Why Can’t I Step Toward Dating?”

41:26 Question 2 - “How Do I Get Out of a Deep State of Freeze?”

47:06 Question 3 - “Why Am I Dysregulated So Often?”

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How Childhood Trauma Impacts Our Present Lives

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 8 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Our early childhood experiences leave a lasting imprint on how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us—often in ways we don’t even realize. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how childhood trauma can shape our nervous system, attachment style, and even our health, and why the self-protective patterns we developed early on often leave us feeling stuck in our adult lives.

Using neuroscience and real-life examples, Sarah will guide you toward tangible tools to address your nervous system and come to the aid of younger parts. Whether you had loving parents who didn’t always get it right or caregivers who were harmful or dangerous, this episode will help you to heal the past and step toward your future with more ease and empowerment.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 Childhood Shapes Who You Become

01:36 How Adverse Childhood Experiences Affect Our Adult Lives

07:53 Understanding Adaptive Attachment Styles

11:50 The Origin of Our Younger Parts

16:03 How Childhood Parts Show Up in Adult Life

20:22 Your Nervous System Picks Your Romantic Partners

24:02 How Our Deepest Desires Become the Path to Healing

31:55 Question 1 - Why Do I Feel More Activation As I Heal?

36:25 Question 2 - Are My Struggles with Dating Rooted in the Past?

41:11 Question 3 - Why Don’t I Feel Anything About a Past Trauma?

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Getting Your Needs Met: Shifting from Codependency and Hyper-Independence to Interdependence

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 1 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We all have needs. But what happens when we stop listening to them, or never learned how to in the first place? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us through the heart of relational healing: learning how to get our needs met.

With tenderness and clarity, she unpacks how early attachment wounds shape our ability to express, feel, or even recognize our needs, leading many of us into cycles of codependency, hyper-independence, or invisible exhaustion. From the helpers who give too much to the ones who learned to stay small and silent, Sarah explores the nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in survival, disconnected from true intimacy.

Through the lens of somatics and parts work, she introduces a compassionate roadmap toward interdependence: a relational experience where we can be fully ourselves and fully connected. It's not about being needy, it’s about being human.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 We All Have Needs

03:25 Understanding Codependency

08:42 Different Roles of Codependency

12:41 Hyper-Independence

20:31 Unseen and Unknown

22:07 Interdependence

26:10 Getting Your Needs Met

39:33 Question #1 - How to Reshape the Nervous System

48:08 Question #2 - Hypervigilant Younger Parts with Deep Wounding

57:15 Question #3 - Loving Inquiry

01:04:49 Question #4 - Young Part Bargain

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What is Burnout? And How Do We Break the Cycle?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight—it’s what happens when we chronically override our nervous system. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah draws upon both Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work to explain what burnout really is, and how our protective parts often push us to keep going, even when our body is begging us to pause.

Packed with tangible somatic tools, this episode will guide you toward healing through small, tolerable steps and simple lifestyle changes. If you’re experiencing burnout, please know you are not broken. This is simply a sign your system is being pushed beyond its limits, and with the right care, it’s absolutely possible to heal.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Hierarchy of Your Autonomic Nervous System

08:55 3 Primary Reasons for Burnout

15:47 What We Neglect in Burnout

22:07 Chronic Fatigue & Shutdown

24:27 The Healing Power of Walking

26:33 Building a Supportive Nighttime Routine

30:11 Why Lifestyle Change Is Essential

38:34 Question #1: How to Find Your Community

43:31 Question #2: When Work Becomes Your Whole Life

48:47 Question #3: Does Your Reaction Match the Circumstance?

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Heartbreak, Grief and Moving On Using Parts Work

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 17 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Breakups aren’t just hard—they can feel completely disorienting, terrifying, or even impossible. That’s because we’re often not only grieving the end of a relationship as our adult self, we’re also navigating the pain, fear, and longing of our younger parts.

In this episode of You Make Sense, we’ll explore why it can feel so difficult to leave or let go, even when we know deep down that a relationship is no longer right for us. Together, we’ll walk through how heartbreak reactivates old wounds, why love can feel confusing or even threatening to our protective parts, and how to begin creating the safety necessary to take our next right step.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Signs It May Be Time to End a Relationship

07:32 How Dysregulation Can Keep You Stuck

13:36 How Do I Know If This Relationship Is Right for Me?

17:03 Anchoring Into Our Adult Selves

26:26 Your Partner Can’t Be a Perfect Parent to Your Parts

31:21 Why It's So Hard to Let Go of a Relationship That's Ended

35:14 Processing Grief

41:11 Question 1 - Healing in the Midst of Grief and Dysregulation

46:59 Question 2 - Accessing Healthy Aggression After Betrayal

50:57 Question 3 - Why It Can Feel So Hard to Leave

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From Confusion to Clarity: A Path Back to Your Internal Knowing and Truth

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Do you ever feel like you’ve lost touch with what’s true for you? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us back to our internal truth—the quiet, steady knowing that lives within the body. She explores why so many of us lose contact with our truth and instead outsource decisions to others. Through powerful stories and somatic insights, she offers a compassionate roadmap for reconnecting with the wisdom that has always been there, waiting to be heard.

You’ll learn how to begin distinguishing between intuition and a trauma response, while also getting tangible tools to help guide you back toward your truth based in the present moment. Whether you're questioning a relationship, your career path, or simply wanting to feel more at home in your life and body, this conversation will help you transform confusion into clarity.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:47 Your Internal Truth and Knowing

04:40 2 Reasons We Lose Contact with Our Truth

15:31 Distinguishing Between Intuition and A Trauma Response

22:45 What’s True in This Moment?

25:38 Truth from Adult Self vs. A Younger Part

31:09 How to Come Back into Your Embodied Experience

36:41 Question #1 - 2 Things to Remember About Intuition

51:26 Question #2 - Identifying Your Parts

59:13 Question #3 - Is This Job Right For Me?

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When You Stop Choosing Yourself: How Self-Abandonment Turns into Resentment

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 3 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

What if the key to thriving isn’t in pushing harder, but in understanding the ways your nervous system brilliantly learned to protect you? In this episode, we will explore how self-abandonment is an adaptive response many of us found, often in early childhood, to maintain safety, belonging, or connection. Sarah unpacks why this pattern, while protective, can also lead to resentment in our relationships, work, and sense of self.

Through the lens of the nervous system and attachment, she shares how chronic giving without receiving can disrupt our internal balance and impact our emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Drawing parallels from nature's rhythm of give-and-receive, Sarah reminds us that honoring our needs isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When we stop abandoning ourselves, we start making space for deeper connection, creativity, and vitality.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 What Is Self-Abandonment?

03:34 Receiving Is a Natural Part of a Child’s Development

06:10 Having Needs is Not a Weakness

07:58 How Self-Abandonment Shows Up in Our Adult Life

13:15 Long-Term Effects of Self-Abandonment

15:37 The “As If” Tool

17:24 Identify and Connect with Your Resentment

21:02 Communicate Your Needs in a Tolerable Way

23:20 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

24:48 Question #1 - Rescuing Others Isn't Your Job

28:31 Question #2 - Self-Care and Nourishing Yourself

32:01 Question #3 - Getting to Know Your Doer Part

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What To Do When Life Doesn't Happen on Your Timeline

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 27 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

What if you’re not behind at all, but right on time for the life that’s uniquely yours? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the emotional weight of unmet timelines and how grief, comparison, and trauma can leave us feeling stuck or wondering if we’ll ever get “there”. She guides you through why things might not be unfolding as quickly—or in the exact order—you might have hoped for, and how to begin finding purpose and power right here in the waiting.

Together we’ll explore how to work at the level of your nervous system to create the internal safety that makes expansion possible so you can meet your life with more trust, presence, and ease. This episode is a loving reminder that your path isn’t linear, and it’s certainly not a race. You’re right on time.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:16 When Life Doesn't Happen On Our Timeline

05:51 6 Reasons Why Where We Are Feels Like “Not Enough”

06:06 #1 - Unresolved Grief

09:14 #2 - A “Striving” Protective Part

10:46 #3 - Unrealistic Expectations

12:52 #4 - Comparison

14:39 #5 - Struggling to Take in the Good

17:24 #6 - Needing to Control

23:56 Your Nervous System Informs Your Relationship With Time

25:36 Changing Your Orientation to Your Timeline

32:50 “How Do You Keep the Faith on Your Healing Journey?”

48:02 “How Do I Find People Who Are on a Similar Path?”

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Enrollment closes May 29th — join us!

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The Art of Repair: Moving Through Conflict with Safety and Connection

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 20 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Do you find conflict overwhelming in your relationships? Fights or moments of disconnection are actually a normal part of any relationship, but many of us were never taught how to navigate these ruptures in a way that facilitates healing. In this episode, Sarah breaks down the rupture and repair process through a multi-faceted approach, incorporating Polyvagal Theory, Parts Work, and Attachment Theory.

You’ll learn how to recognize when you're being driven by younger parts, the importance of pausing to regulate during a rupture, and how to communicate from a place of vulnerability. Whether you're in the thick of a tough dynamic or simply want to deepen your emotional fluency, you'll walk away with tools to foster resilience, build stronger bonds, and create more safety, within yourself and your relationships.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 Why Ruptures Feel So Hard

04:02 Understanding Conflict Through Parts Work

13:56 No One Taught Us How to Repair

16:48 Steps to Healthy Repair: Pause & Regulate

18:06 Steps to Healthy Repair: Anchor in Adult Self

25:40 Steps to Healthy Repair: Communicate

30:00 “Do We Have to Be Completely Regulated to Repair?”

36:16 “Why Do I Over-Focus On Others in Relationships?”

42:27 “How Do I Speak Up Before It’s Too Much?”

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Important Keywords:

Rupture - A rupture is a moment of disconnection, conflict, or emotional break. While a normal part of any relationship, ruptures can also activate old wounding or past traumas that have yet to be resolved.

Repair - Repair is the process of reconnecting after a rupture through empathy, communication, and vulnerability. True repair fosters deeper intimacy, trust, and resilience in the relationship.

Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.

Protector Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield a vulnerable part from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed

Vulnerable Parts - Younger versions of ourselves that fragment off when we experience trauma, harm, or overwhelm and essentially get “stuck” in that painful experience until we can come to their aid as our adult self.

Adult Self - The adult self is our most confident, capable, and able self, which is also sometimes referred to as the “Self” or our “highest self.” We can only fully embody this version of ourselves when closer to regulation.

Parenting That Heals: How to Support Your Child’s Nervous System and Your Own

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 13 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Your child needs your regulated nervous system. Whether you're raising little ones, guiding teens, or showing up as a leader in any area of life, this episode is all about learning how to embody your own healing so you can support others with calm, confidence, and care. With her signature mix of compassion and clarity, Sarah breaks down how our past often informs our parenting style, and how we can begin doing it differently.

You'll walk away with a fresh perspective on what children actually need to thrive. Plus, you’ll also get simple, practical tools for nervous system regulation and addressing your younger parts. It’s never too late to begin cultivating deeper levels of safety, attunement, and connection in your home.

Episode Highlights

01:10 Be Gentle with Yourself

05:16 4 Things Your Child Needs to Thrive

05:35 #1 - Safety

09:06 #2 - Regulation

11:10 #3 - Attunement

13:37 #4 - Be Seen As A Unique Individual

15:53 Only Need to Securely Attach 30% of the Time

19:59 Adversity Builds Resiliency

22:30 It’s Never Too Late

25:03 Parenting Through A Parts Work Lens

29:04 Nourishing Yourself

32:12 “How Do I Parent When I’m Dysregulated?”

43:53 “How Can I Get My Family On Board with This Work?”

57:00 “How Do I Manage Anticipatory Anxiety?"

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state after stress. It’s essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in relationships, and allows you to respond to life from choice rather than survival.

Co-Regulation - This is the process where one person’s regulated nervous system helps another person return to a calmer state. For children (and adults), co-regulation is essential because it teaches the body how to feel safe and soothed in connection with others.

Somatic Healing - A body-based approach that involves releasing trapped activation/energy stored in the body, regulating the nervous system, completing the incomplete response to past trauma, and reconnecting with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Attachment - The way we connect and relate to others, shaped by our early childhood experiences. A secure attachment allows us to feel safe in relationships, while insecure attachment styles can lead to patterns of anxiety, avoidance, or confusion.

Attunement - The ability to deeply connect with and understand another person’s emotional state, beyond just their words.

Resiliency - The capacity to recover and bounce back after stress or adversity. It’s built through safe, supportive relationships and repeated experiences of navigating challenges while feeling seen and supported.

Understanding Social Anxiety: Are you Actually an Introvert/Extrovert or Is It Trauma?

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 6 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Many of us are quick to label ourselves as an “introvert” or “extrovert” — but have you ever wondered if this is actually representative of your most authentic self? In this episode, Sarah explores the role trauma plays in shaping our relational identity. Whether you fawn, withdraw, feel drained by connection, or are known as the “life of the party,” this episode will help you to begin distinguishing what patterns might actually be a result of unresolved trauma.

Through a powerful blend of science-backed modalities, Sarah breaks down what it really means to connect from regulation, not self-protection. She shares how to begin listening to your own internal rhythm of connection and solitude, how to recognize protective parts when they show up, and how to gently guide your system back to safety, so that you can experience deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:24 Connection Is a Primary Human Need

08:23 Being an Introvert from Past Relational Trauma

12:26 Why We Find Some Connection Exhausting

18:19 Being an Extrovert from Past Relational Trauma

21:31 Connection Coming from Survival

23:21 How to Become Your Most Authentic Self

26:17 Who Do You Enjoy Connecting With?

28:06 Finding Safe Environments

30:02 Anchoring in Your Adult Self

32:09 Disconfirming Experiences & Leaning Into Discomfort

34:22 “I Become a Verbal Firehouse in Social Settings”

38:30 “Why Do I Constantly Blush?”

42:04 “How Do I Navigate Awkward Silences?”

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state. This is essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in your life and relationships.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical, or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection, and/or hypervigilance.

Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.

Fawning - This is not a state in the nervous system but a self-protective behavioral response that can happen in any state of dysregulation. It often looks like over-agreeing, over-giving, avoiding conflict, or becoming what you think others want you to be in order to feel safe or loved.

Dysregulation - Active self-protection that occurs when the nervous system believes we are in danger, whether it is a real or perceived threat. Chronic dysregulation is often a result of unresolved trauma and can significantly impact daily functioning.

Attachment - The emotional bonds we form in early life and carry into adulthood that influence how we relate to others. Sarah references the insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) that lead us to seek or push away connection as a way to maintain safety.

Somatic Healing - A body-based approach to healing that works with the nervous system to discharge stored trauma and create internal safety. Sarah’s entire approach is rooted in this method, helping people heal through embodiment and felt experience.

Procrastination and Self-Sabotage: Understanding Self-Protective Behaviors

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

There can be so much shame around the ways we procrastinate and self-sabotage. But these behaviors aren’t just “bad habits” — they’re actually forms of self-protection. In this episode, Sarah uncovers the hidden roles our nervous system and parts play in keeping us stuck around the things we desire most.

You’ll learn how to work with your nervous system and parts, rather than against them, using practical somatic tools to help shift these patterns. Plus, Sarah answers listener questions on discipline, self-care, and why some of us freeze when it comes to responding to text messages, emails, and other correspondence. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of avoidance and frustration, this episode will show you why it makes so much sense.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:42 Self-Sabotage Is a Form of Self-Protection

03:30 Understanding the Experience of Procastination

09:10 The Habitual Process of Procastination

14:09 Why Do We Self Sabotage?

17:41 Protective Parts at Work When We Self Sabotage

19:31 How to Befriend Your Nervous System

27:53 “Why Can’t I Stay Disciplined?”

41:31 “Why Do I Feel So Much Resistance Around Self-Care?”

50:48 “Why Do I Struggle to Respond to People?”

53:53 Relationships Are About Messiness

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Important Keywords:

Procrastination – The act of delaying or avoiding tasks, often due to underlying fears or protective mechanisms in the nervous system. Sarah explains that procrastination is not laziness but a way the body tries to keep us safe from perceived danger.

“Self-Sabotage” - This term can often feel shaming, but it is simply a way our nervous system and parts protect us from what they don’t yet know is safe, often by pushing away or leaving things we might actually deeply desire.

Autonomic Nervous System - The body’s internal network that controls responses to stimuli and regulates our experiences of safety, fear, and connection. In the context of self-sabotage, it drives automatic reactions based on past experiences stored in our internal "database."

Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.

Regulation - Regulation refers to the ability to maintain or return to a state of safety, presence, and connection within the nervous system. A regulated nervous system promotes calmness, focus, and the capacity to handle life's challenges effectively. Building regulation involves consistent neural exercises and creating disconfirming experiences that show your system it’s safe to come into a state of rest.

Parts Work - A therapeutic process that involves connecting with and healing younger parts of yourself that hold onto past wounds. It’s a core tool for building internal safety and reshaping how you show up in relationships and life.

How to Set and Maintain Boundaries From a Somatic Perspective

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Do you struggle to know what kind of boundaries to set? Many of us are taught to intellectualize our approach to boundary setting, which can leave us feeling confused or overwhelmed. In this episode, Sarah explores the embodied nature of boundaries and why unresolved trauma can leave us setting self-protective boundaries that aren’t actually aligned with our highest truth.

You’ll learn about three styles of boundary setting — diffuse, rigid, and embodied — and how to somatically begin coming back in contact with your truth. During the Q&A with Rachel, Sarah will also tackle real-life boundary challenges in work, relationships, and beyond. If you feel caught in cycles of over-giving, reflexively saying “yes” or “no,” or sacrificing your own needs, this episode will help you understand why — and how to create boundaries that truly serve you.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction

00:15 What Are Embodied Boundaries?

04:46 Why We Struggle With Boundaries

09:22 Self-Protective Boundaries: Diffuse

18:01 Self-Protective Boundaries: Rigid

25:01 Embodied Boundaries

28:33 Steps to Begin Setting Embodied Boundaries

35:17 Q&A Segment With Rachel

35:58 “Can I Stay in a High-Pressure Work Environment?”

43:25 “How Can I Stop Over-Giving and Being Resentful?”

56:20 “Am I Going Backward in My Healing Journey?”

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Important Keywords:

Embodied Boundaries – A behavioral response that is rooted in one’s internal truth, limits, and needs. These boundaries are usually accessed when close to or in regulation and allow for deep levels of connectivity and autonomy.

Self-Protective Boundaries – When we’ve experienced trauma or our truth was chronically taken away, we learn to adapt and set self-protective boundaries. These boundaries are typically rooted in survival or a younger part that is seeking safety.

Diffuse Boundaries – An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive “yes” response. Think of these as “Swiss cheese” boundaries, where it is a boundary of sorts but it is permeable.

Rigid Boundaries – An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive “no” response. Think of these as “steel wall” boundaries, where nothing is able to permeate the boundary.

Autonomic Nervous System: The self-protective system within the body that is responsible for our thoughts, feelings, sensations, behaviors, and perception of self, others, and the world around us, as well as regulating involuntary functions, such as your heart rate and digestion, and playing a central role in how you react to stress or calm.

Creating an Aligned Life and Finding Purpose in the Work You Do

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

What if the work you do isn’t just a paycheck but a path to alignment and fulfillment? In this episode, Sarah breaks down how our nervous system influences career choices and why so many of us end up in survival-based jobs rather than roles that truly inspire us. She explores the impact being misaligned in our work has on our nervous system, relationships, health, and overall well-being.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re meant for more, this episode will teach you how to step into a career (and life) that truly aligns with your gifts. You’ll learn how to create congruency in your current role, identify your true calling, and take tangible steps toward your desires. When you’re aligned with your purpose, it not only allows for deeper personal fulfillment — it also lights up the world around you.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:27 Choosing a Career or Job From Survival

06:45 Human Beings Thrive When Purposeful

08:39 Finding Your Unique Gifts

11:03 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Relationships

13:53 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Health

14:51 Tools For Becoming More Aligned

22:50 Changing Your Role As You Heal

25:12 Our Systems Deeply Desire Alignment

26:47 Transitioning Careers and Finding Fulfillment

32:51 Work Environments Can Replicate Dynamics From Childhood

37:55 Why Self-Like Parts Keep Us From Our Purpose

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation – Techniques and strategies used to calm and stabilize the nervous system. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down responses and into a balanced state of presence and connection.

Internal Safety – The feeling of stability and security that comes from within, rather than external circumstances. Sarah emphasizes that without internal safety, change can feel terrifying or overwhelming for our system and parts, making it difficult to step into a fulfilling career.

“Self-Like” Parts – These protective parts often sound like adult you but are in fact a protective part that is coming online to keep us safe. This often looks like self-doubt, avoidance, hesitation, retreating, or seemingly “rational” arguments that are based in fear.

Alignment – The state of living in accordance or congruency with one’s purpose, values, and natural gifts. Sarah explains that when we are aligned with our work, it energizes us rather than drains us, creating a ripple effect of positive impact.

Disconfirming Experiences – New, positive experiences that challenge and override old self-protective beliefs. For example, if it was unsafe in the past to use our voice, any time we tolerably step toward using our voice in the present, that is a disconfirming experience, showing our nervous system the past is over and it’s now safe to speak up.

Family of Origin: Navigating Difficult Family Dynamics in Adulthood

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 8 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah dives into the complex layers of family dynamics, personal boundaries, and healing from past experiences. You'll learn how the dynamics within your family of origin created the roles you had to play, how those roles shape your adult relationships, and how to begin breaking free from those roles to step into your most fully-expressed self.

Through personal insights and therapeutic wisdom, Sarah discusses why our family of origin often triggers or activates us the most—and why we often see our caregivers as an extension of ourselves. If you’ve ever dreaded going home or struggle to set boundaries with your family, this episode will equip you with the somatic tools necessary to release the pain of the past and move forward with more ease.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction

00:15 Why We Struggle with Our Family of Origin

12:57 Becoming the Primary Parent to Your Parts

22:45 Access Healthy Aggression

27:41 Finding Belonging Through Chosen Family

30:58 Differentiating From Our Caregivers

37:37 Creating Safety & Setting Boundaries

49:40 Processing Recent Traumatic Experiences

56:58 Healing From Abuse

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Important Keywords:

Family of Origin – The family system you were born into or raised in that shaped how you relate to others, your sense of belonging, and your identity. This dynamic then informs the way you show up in your adult life.

Boundaries – Boundaries are not a cognitive process but a somatic one that is informed by our internal truth, limits, and needs. We are all born with an innate ability to know our internal truth, but many of us become disconnected from that truth as a result of trauma.

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system, complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Healthy Aggression - A term coined by Peter Levine, this is our lifeforce energy, which is needed to set boundaries, protect oneself, and assert personal needs. It’s also the energy that allows us to experience full aliveness, connection, wonder, and awe. When suppressed, it can lead to unresolved anger, resentment, and even physical symptoms, but when expressed appropriately, it helps complete past emotional responses.

Resolving Sleep Issues Through Nervous System Regulation

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 1 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

If you’ve ever tossed and turned at night, wondering why you just can’t seem to get the rest you need, you’re not alone. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah Baldwin breaks down how insomnia, struggling to stay asleep, and other sleep disorders are often deeply connected to what’s happening in your nervous system.

Sarah explains why stress, unresolved trauma, and even daily overwhelm can keep you stuck in fight-or-flight, making deep sleep and rest nearly impossible. From easy, science-backed strategies like movement and time in nature to simple bedtime routines and setting boundaries, this episode is packed with practical tools to help you experience better quality sleep.

Episode Highlight:

00:00 Intro

00:35 Why Do We Struggle with Sleep?

04:31 7 Things You Need to Achieve Deep Rest

12:36 Effects of Chronic Lack of Sleep

16:50 The Epidemic of Sleep Disorders

21:24 3 Categories of Sleep Struggles

30:02 Why Nervous System Regulation is Needed for Deep Sleep

32:57 Creating a Nighttime Routine

39:00 Finding Relief From Insomnia

43:30 Unresolved Emotions or Grief Can Impact Sleep

46:58 What To Do When You Wake Up During the Night

48:40 Setting Boundaries Around Sleep

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation – Techniques used to discharge activation and bring the nervous system back into a state of rest. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down response and into a balanced state of presence and connection.

Dysregulation – A state of active self-protection where the nervous system perceives danger. This can either be caused by a real threat based in the present moment or stem from past trauma, danger, or hardship, causing our system to superimpose a past experience onto the present.

Sympathetic Nervous System – When our system believes there is something we can do about the threat, it will send us into this mobilized state of dysregulation, often sometimes referred to as “fight or flight.” This is where we experience things like anxiety, terror, rage, panic, fear, agitation, or irritation.

Freeze State – A blended state of dysregulation experienced as tonic immobility. It is made up of equal parts mobilizing sympathetic energy and immobilizing dorsal energy, rendering us stuck. This state of dysregulation can make it difficult to fall or stay asleep..

Circadian Rhythm – The body’s internal clock that regulates sleep-wake cycles. Exposure to natural light in the morning and evening helps align this rhythm, making it easier to fall and stay asleep.

Restorative Rest – True rest that recharges the nervous system, which is different from passive activities like watching TV or scrolling on your phone. Practices like meditation, sound baths, and deep breathing help bring the body into a relaxed state before sleep.

Processing Endings and Making Space for New Beginnings

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound shifts that occur as we heal—both within ourselves and in our relationships. She delves into the challenges of evolving while being in partnerships, the difficulty of letting go when growth outpaces connection, and the natural distance that can emerge between those on different healing journeys.

Sarah also answers listener questions about navigating major life transitions. From unfulfilling marriages and moving forward when a partner is unwilling to grow, to forgiveness and releasing resentment following a betrayal, these questions spark a powerful conversation about trauma, self-protection, and reclaiming life after pain.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction

00:15 Processing Endings

03:26 Internal Safety and Connectivity

06:42 Unwritten Contracts and Change in Our Relationships

09:59 Healing Decreases Our Toleration for Suffering

12:15 Giving Ourselves the Things We Never Got

13:21 Healing Invites Space for Change

18:58 Meeting New Parts of Ourselves

28:14 Leaving A Stagnant Relationship

32:13 Navigating Betrayal and Resentment

36:41 Forgiveness and Resolving Past Trauma

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Important Keywords:

Resentment – Resentment often signals unmet needs or unprocessed emotions. Nervous system regulation helps in addressing these feelings by discharging the underlying dysregulation.

Forgiveness – True forgiveness can only happen when a person has processed the appropriate response and emotions related to their trauma, by accessing what’s called healthy aggression.

Relational Shifts in Healing – As healing progresses, people may feel disconnected from past relationships, social circles, or roles. This is a natural part of transformation, signaling new growth and self-awareness.

Somatic Experiencing – Created by Dr. Peter Levine, this therapeutic modality uses body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to release and resolve stored trauma. By building capacity to be in our embodied experience, we can teach our nervous system how to pendulate, resulting in the discharge of stored trauma and overall regulation of the nervous system.

A Trauma-Informed Understanding of Forgiveness and Letting Go

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

There can be a lot of talk around forgiveness in the self-help space, but what does it actually mean to forgive? Forgiveness is not just a mindset shift or something we can “think” our way into—it is a somatic process that requires addressing the nervous system and accessing our healthy aggression.

Using the latest neuroscience research, Sarah explains how unresolved trauma gets stored in our bodies until we are able to “complete the incomplete experience” or access the appropriate response to what occurred. If you’ve struggled to let go and move forward in life, this episode will give you a step-by-step guide to somatically resolve these wounds, so that you can find freedom from the past and release feelings of shame and resentment.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:46 Time Does Not Heal All

04:36 We Must First Process What Occurred

08:01 What is Healthy Aggression?

11:20 What is Unhealthy Aggression?

12:36 Building Your Capacity for Healthy Aggression

15:56 Practical Applications for Somatic Forgiveness

21:31 Accessing Your Unmet Needs

24:09 Struggling to Move On After a Betrayal

27:21 Healing Shame and Anger from Childhood Trauma

32:48 How to Overcome Parental Guilt

42:07 Spiritual Bypassing Around Forgiveness

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Important Keywords:

Polyvagal Theory - This theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how the autonomic nervous system regulates our responses to stress, danger, and safety. It highlights the role of the vagus nerve in shifting between survival states (fight, flight, freeze, and shut down) and social engagement, which is crucial for emotional healing.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system and complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Titration of Trauma - This refers to the body's natural process of releasing stored energy from past trauma or stress. It can happen through movement, sound, breathwork, or other somatic practices that allow the body to complete an unfinished emotional cycle and pendulate through stress responses.

How to Actualize the Life You're Wanting

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Do you ever feel like there’s an invisible wall holding you back from the life you desire? In this episode, Sarah explores why achieving our goals can feel so difficult—even when we’re putting in the effort. The key to unlocking our full potential lies in understanding and befriending our autonomic nervous system, which shapes our entire experience and the ease in which we’re able to take steps forward.

By viewing the nervous system as a vehicle, Sarah shares practical strategies for how to guide your nervous system down roads that lead to your deepest desires. Through the power of nervous system regulation, parts work, and safe connection, it’s possible to get unstuck and tangibly move toward a more full, expansive life.

Episode Highlight:

00:00 Intro

01:35 The Vehicle Inside You (Your Nervous System)

07:31 The Roads of Your Deepest Desires

19:02 What Determines the Size of Your Life

23:52 Building Capacity in Your Nervous System

26:48: 4 Things That Don’t Actually Work

27:46 #1 - “Muscling Through”

30:08 #2 - Setting Unattainable Goals

32:43 #3 - Taking Steps in Isolation

34:52 #4 - Comparing Our Self to Others

36:28 Building a Bridge to Where You Want to Go

40:48 Cultivating Safe Community and Connection

42:07 Start Honoring Your ‘NO’

44:58 “What About Taking the Big, Scary Step?”

49:44 “How to Take Tolerable Steps in Dating?”

53:27 “Why Is It So Hard to Take Steps Forward?”

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Important Keywords:

Autonomic Nervous System - The body's command center for automatic functions like breathing, heart rate, and digestion. It also plays a vital role in how we respond to stress and perceived threats, as well as our ability to feel safe, connected, and regulated.

Roads of Safety - The pathways our nervous system recognizes as safe and predictable, often shaped by past experiences. While they provide comfort and stability, they may not always align with our true desires or highest potential.

Roads of Familiarity - The patterns and dynamics we've learned to navigate—whether healthy or not. Our nervous system tends to gravitate toward familiar routes because they offer a sense of control, even if they don’t always serve our well-being.

Safe Connection - The deep sense of being seen, heard, and understood by others, fostering a feeling of belonging and security. Safe connection is essential for regulating the nervous system and expanding our capacity for growth, healing, and change.

Relationships: The Intersection Between Polyvagal Theory, Attachment Theory, and Parts Work

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 4 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the science behind relationships using Polyvagal Theory, Attachment Theory, and Parts Work. She explains how these frameworks complement each other and shape our ability to connect, feel safe inside our relational containers, and navigate emotional intimacy.

Sarah highlights the importance of understanding how our nervous system and parts inform the people we choose in our lives, emphasizing that much of what we experience in adult connections is rooted in early life experiences. By combining these three approaches, it’s possible to heal the past in the present, navigate challenges with more ease, and attract the kinds of partners we truly desire.

Episode Highlight:

00:00 Introduction

00:15 Understanding Our Relationships

02:00 The Nervous System & Attachment Theory

09:02 How Attachments Form

16:04 How We Connect In Our Adult Lives

21:24 How to Regulate Based On Your Attachment Style

22:12 The Nervous System & Parts Work

32:58 How “Self-Like Parts” Show Up

39:07 Why Moving On Can Be So Challenging

49:29 Avoidant Attachment & Healing Shame

53:03 Panic In Relationships

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Important Keywords:

Polyvagal Theory – A framework explaining how the autonomic nervous system governs safety, connection, and self-protective responses in our relationships and lives.

Attachment Theory – A psychological model describing how early childhood experiences shape relational patterns, emotional bonds, and the way we connect with others.

Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.

Nervous System Regulation – Techniques and practices that help manage stress responses, promoting emotional balance and internal safety.

Avoidant Attachment – A self-protective relational pattern where connection can often feel overwhelming and individuals subconsciously withdraw from intimacy due to past emotional wounds.

Anxious Attachment – A self-protective relational pattern where we feel less safe on our own and often sacrifice our own needs in order to maintain connection with another.

Disorganized Attachment – A self-protective relational pattern where we tend to feel comfortable in chaos and want others close, but when they come close, we push them away.

Shame & Internalization – The process of internalizing negative beliefs about oneself, often rooted in childhood experiences of criticism or neglect.

Blended States: The Power of Adding More Play and Stillness to Your Life

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

What if there was a way to find more lightness and joy in your healing journey along the way? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound impact of two transformative states within the autonomic nervous system: play and stillness. These states aren’t just about fun and quiet—they’re the keys to unlocking creativity, emotional regulation, and deeper connections.

Sarah shares practical tips to help you embrace these vital states, from finding freedom through dance and movement to building rituals that invite inner peace. Whether you’re using play to resolve conflict in your relationships or creating a nighttime stillness routine for better sleep, this episode offers a roadmap to navigate life with greater ease and aliveness.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:17 Play and Stillness

02:03 3 States of Dysregulation

03:00 Getting to Know Your Blended State of Play

11:06 Why Do We Struggle to Experience Play?

15:09 Tools to Begin Stepping Toward Play

19:20 Getting to Know Your Blended State of Stillness

26:40 Why Do We Struggle to Experience Stillness?

30:02 Tools to Begin Stepping Toward Stillness

38:18 “How Do I Feel More Playful and Free While Dancing?”

50:41 “Why Doesn’t Meditation Work For Me?”

59:42 “How Can Play Help Improve My Relationship?”

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Important Keywords:

Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) - The autonomic nervous system is a part of the nervous system that operates unconsciously to regulate vital bodily functions such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It has two primary branches: the sympathetic (activates fight-or-flight responses) and parasympathetic (promotes our rest-and-digest state along with our dorsal vagal complex), which are integral in supporting us to experience both regulation and dysregulation.

Play - Play is a blended state within the autonomic nervous system, made primarily of regulation (ventral vagal complex) with a touch of mobilizing sympathetic energy (sympathetic nervous system). It fosters creativity, learning, and bonding by bringing joy and aliveness into life experiences.

Stillness - Stillness is a state predominantly rooted in regulation (ventral vagal complex) with a subtle influence of the dorsal vagal complex. It encourages deep presence, better sleep, intimacy and emotional connection, and rejuvenation, allowing individuals to fully embrace quiet, restorative moments.

Ventral Vagal Complex - The ventral vagal complex is part of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with safety and regulation. It governs states of connection, calm, and engagement with others, enabling social bonding and overall well-being.

Sympathetic Nervous System - The sympathetic nervous system is responsible for activating the fight-or-flight response, preparing the body to react to real or perceived threats. It increases energy and alertness, mobilizing the body for action when needed.

Dorsal Vagal Complex - The dorsal vagal complex is a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system linked to immobilization and shutdown responses. It becomes active in extreme stress or trauma and helps us to leave our bodies, resulting in feelings of disconnection or dissociation.

The Antidote to Shame and Feelings of Unworthiness

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Shame often keeps us from living the full, expansive life we’re desiring. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explains the difference between “healthy” and “unhealthy” shame, and why unresolved trauma can often leave us feeling unworthy or like there is something inherently wrong with us.

While shame can affect every area of our lives, from our relationships to our purpose, the good news is that it’s absolutely possible to heal. Sarah will walk you through tangible somatic steps to bring your nervous system back into internal safety and access your healthy aggression or “life force energy,” both of which are imperative to releasing shame and finding freedom in your everyday life.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:26 What is Healthy Shame?

04:29 What is Unhealthy Shame?

11:55 How the Internalization of Shame Occurs

13:59 How to Resolve Unhealthy Shame

18:43 Accessing Healthy Aggression

21:25 Parts Work & Embodying Your Creativity

27:10 Processing the Underlying Activation of Panic Attacks

33:17 Being Ferociously Protective of Your Own Story

37:52 Shame Around Experiencing Setbacks

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Important Keywords:

Healthy Shame - Healthy shame teaches individuals about boundaries, consequences, and experiencing health in relationships and life. It begins to occur during early developmental stages and builds resilience to navigate stress and be with affect in our bodies. In the process, we are not made to feel like we are inherently bad or unlovable.

Unhealthy Shame - Unhealthy shame is the internalization of what happened to us (or what was said to us) making one feel inherently bad and unworthy. This type of shame is often rooted in traumatic experiences and can result in long-lasting psychological distress.

Nervous System Regulation - Nervous system regulation involves managing the body's response to stress and stimuli through various techniques that help maintain or restore a state of balance. It is crucial for emotional resilience and overall mental health.

Somatic Experiencing - Somatic Experiencing is a modality developed by Peter Levine that uses the body to release stored trauma and activation. This approach is grounded in science that confirms the body holds past trauma, and that through somatic healing and completing the incomplete experience, we can release the stored traumatic energy and consequently, the past becomes the past rather than the perpetual present.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.

Internalization - Internalization is a psychological process where individuals unconsciously integrate the beliefs, values, and norms of others into their own self-view. In the context of shame, it often refers to the absorption of negative beliefs about oneself that are derived from critical or dismissive messaging and treatment by others.

How Trauma Can Keep Us From Our Embodied Spirituality

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Diving into the often overlooked but deeply interconnected realms of science and spirituality, Sarah guides listeners through a transformative exploration. She underscores how both domains intertwine, particularly in the context of trauma and healing. Many of us desire to embody the core elements of spirituality—connectivity, presence, love, and surrender—but struggle to actually do so.

This episode will address the common misconceptions and challenges associated with spirituality, including the impact of trauma on our capacity to experience deep levels of connectivity. She critiques the prevalent shaming in spiritual contexts, advocating for a more empathetic and inclusive approach.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:36 What is Spirituality?

07:56 Most Trauma is Relational

15:58 Processing Your Anger Toward the Universe

22:53 Unlocking Connectivity to Your Spirituality

31:51 Spiritual Journey and Nervous System Work

33:19 Healing is Spiritual Work

41:54 “How Does Plant Medicine Relate to the Nervous System?”

49:35 “Why Do I Feel Like I Have No Spiritual Connection?”

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Important Keywords:

Trauma Resolution - A process aimed at addressing and healing from traumatic experiences. Trauma resolution involves somatic therapeutic techniques that help individuals process and discharge stored traumatic energy from their bodies, reducing the ongoing impact on their mental and physical health.

Nervous System Regulation - Refers to the practices and techniques used to maintain or return the nervous system to a state of balance. Effective regulation helps individuals manage their responses to stress and recover from experiences of chronic dysregulation, such as anxiety, depression, overwhelm, panic, or other trauma-related symptoms.

Interconnectivity - A key concept in spirituality that denotes the interconnected nature of all things in the universe, including the self, others, and the environment. It suggests that everything is linked, and leaning into these connections can lead to deeper levels of regulation and support overall wellbeing.

Spirituality - Often defined broadly as a sense of connection to something bigger than oneself, which can involve a search for meaning in life. Spirituality is personal and can encompass religious beliefs, personal values, and practices aimed at cultivating inner peace, deeper connectivity, love, and surrender.

Somatic Experiencing - A therapeutic modality developed by Dr. Peter Levine aimed at resolving the mental, emotional, and physical symptoms of stored trauma by focusing on the body.

The State of Your Nervous System Creates Your Thoughts

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 4 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

The secret to changing your thoughts isn’t in your mind—it’s in your body. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah uses Polyvagal Theory to unravel the fascinating science behind how our nervous system shapes our story and why just telling ourselves to “think” differently doesn’t actually work.

In order to change our thinking, we must first address the underlying dysregulation in our system. Sarah will walk you through tangible somatic practices to shift toward regulation, create new neural pathways for more “positive” thoughts, and find clarity on your truth. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to transform your inner world.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:49 Our Autonomic State Creates Our Story

07:29 Thoughts in Dorsal (Immobilization)

09:19 Thoughts in Sympathetic (Mobilization)

11:15 Thoughts in Freeze (Tonic Immobility)

12:38 Thoughts in Ventral (Regulation)

15:09 Projecting Your Past Onto the Present

17:03 We Cannot Change Our Thinking in Dysregulation

20:20 Limitations of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

28:09 “Why Do Thoughts I Know To Be Wrong Feel So True?”

36:58 How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

44:29 Mindset Work & Manifestation From A Somatic Lens

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System - The nervous system regulates bodily functions and responses to stress, consisting of the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) systems, comprised of our ventral vagal complex (rest and digest) and our dorsal vagal complex (shutdown/energy conservation). A well-regulated nervous system supports emotional balance, overall well-being, and supportive thoughts.

Polyvagal Theory - A theory developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explaining how the autonomic nervous system responds to safety or threat through three primary states: Ventral Vagal Complex (regulation and connection), Sympathetic Nervous System (mobilization), and Dorsal Vagal Complex (immobilization). This framework helps understand how our physiological state influences thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and perception.

Dysregulation - Active self-protection in response to real or perceived threats, leading to physiological and emotional imbalance. It can manifest as anxiety, depression, apathy, or other distressing emotions and can hinder clear thinking or positive actions.

Sympathetic Nervous System - The branch of the autonomic nervous system associated with mobilization or the fight-or-flight response. When activated, it increases energy, heart rate, and alertness to prepare for action.

Dorsal Vagal Complex - A part of the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for immobilization or the shutdown response. It activates in extreme situations of perceived danger, leading to feelings of numbness, dissociation, or hopelessness.

Ventral Vagal Complex - The branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with regulation, safety, connection, and presence. It supports social engagement, calmness, and the ability to rest and recover.

Freeze Response - A blended state made of equal parts mobilizing Sympathetic energy and immobilizing Dorsal energy, creating a sense of urgency to act but an inability to do so. It often feels like being "stuck" or overwhelmed.

Perceived Threat - A situation or stimulus that the nervous system interprets as dangerous, even if it is not an immediate danger in reality. It often stems from past trauma being projected onto the present.

Slowing Down to Receive More

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

If slowing down feels impossible or like a luxury you can’t afford, this episode is for you. Sarah unpacks why so many of us stay trapped in a cycle of constant “doing,” where rest feels risky and burnout becomes inevitable. Drawing on her expertise in Somatic Experiencing, Polyvagal Theory, and Parts Work, she explains how your past, trauma, and societal expectations can all keep you stuck on the hamster wheel.

You’ll get simple, actionable steps to show your nervous system that slowing down isn’t just safe—it’s powerful. Whether it’s finding joy in a quiet walk, saying no to one more email, or unburdening your protective parts, this episode will help you reconnect with your body and bring regulation to your nervous system. Slowing down isn’t giving up—it’s the key to embodying the life and abundance you’re desiring.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Your Environment Influences Your Nervous System

03:13 The Sympathetic Nervous System

06:44 The Origin of Our Protective Parts

11:55 Building Your Capacity to Slow Down

17:01 Somatic Tool: Disconfirming Experiences

19:31 Somatic Tool: Taking Tolerable Steps

21:25 Get to Know Your Protective Parts

24:04 “I Feel Like I’m Constantly in a Dysregulated State”

30:04 The Expand/Contract Experience of Healing

34:34 Somatic Support for Difficult Life, Political, or World Events

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Important Keywords:

Sympathetic Nervous System - The sympathetic nervous system is part of the autonomic nervous system responsible for mobilizing energy in response to perceived threats. By activating the HPA axis, cortisol and adrenaline levels are increased in the body, preparing our system to respond to danger and stress. Chronic activation of this system can lead to anxiety, burnout, and health issues.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system and complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Body Image, Aging, and Self-Acceptance from a Somatic Lens

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

How often do we hear, “Just love your body,” only to feel more disconnected than ever? In this thoughtful episode of You Make Sense, Sarah tackles the complexities of body image, aging, appearance, and the journey to genuine self-acceptance. With her signature mix of science, storytelling, and somatic wisdom, she unpacks why conventional approaches to self-love often miss the mark—and what truly works.

Sarah shares relatable personal stories and actionable tools to help you heal your relationship with your body, process past trauma, and embrace your unique self. From reframing societal pressures to building a compassionate connection with your body, this episode offers practical steps for feeling more at home in your own skin.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

02:45 Society’s Messaging About Body Image

11:15 Befriending Your Body

13:54 Why Do We Hide in Our Body?

19:57 Trauma & Changing Our Appearance

22:18 The Origin of Our Negative Orientation to Aging

26:18 Somatic Tools to Build Self-Love and Acceptance

31:09 Replace Coping Strategies with Regulating Resources

38:01 “Why Am I Suddenly Negatively Fixated on My Height?”

43:16 Somatically Healing Your Relationship with Your Body

51:56 Binge-Eating and Sugar

01:02:14 Weight Gain Can Be a Response to Trauma

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Important Keywords:

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing is an approach to healing that focuses on addressing the nervous system and stored trauma within the body. It uses practices like body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to support emotional and physical well-being.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.

Self-Compassion - Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and care, especially during difficult times. It replaces self-criticism with empathy, fostering emotional resilience and self-acceptance.

Dissociation - Dissociation is a coping mechanism where a person disconnects from their physical or emotional experiences, often in response to trauma or stress. It can manifest as a sense of detachment from reality, feeling "numb," or being "out of body."

Parts Work - Parts work is a therapeutic approach that identifies and works with different "parts" of the self, often associated with distinct emotions, behaviors, or events from childhood. It helps individuals address internal conflicts and foster self-integration.

How to Thrive in Your Relationships

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 14 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Ever wonder why the relationships with the most potential sometimes feel the hardest? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks the ways in which romantic partnerships often trigger our deepest wounds—and how they can also become the most powerful spaces for healing.

Sarah dives into the role our nervous system and parts play in unconsciously shaping the way we show up in love, and what we can do to begin building more safety, intimacy and trust in our partnerships. Backed by the latest neuroscience and trauma research, this episode will help you step toward deeper connection and transform your relationships.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:09 Why We Struggle in Our Relationships

05:59 How Do We Choose the People We Choose?

06:52 Ways Safe, Healthy Partnerships Support Us

12:32 The “Good” Doesn’t Always Feel Good At First

17:28 Parts Work and Leaning into Exposure

20:53 Understanding Resistance to Vulnerability

24:35 Tools to Step Toward Vulnerability & Intimacy

29:28 The Rupture and Repair Process

35:38 Navigating Different Perceptions in Relationships

48:10 Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Attachment Dynamic

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Important Keywords:

Neuroception - Neuroception is the subconscious process through which our nervous system detects safety or danger in our environment. It operates automatically, scanning both internal and external cues to determine if a situation is safe, dangerous, or life-threatening, which deeply influences our emotional and relational responses.

Autonomic Nervous System - The nervous system is our body’s command center, regulating everything from basic functions to complex emotional states. In relationships, its state determines how we perceive safety, connection, and danger, impacting our ability to connect.

Vulnerability - Vulnerability is the act of allowing ourselves to be seen fully, including our fears, emotions, and imperfections. It is essential for building intimacy and trust, but it often feels risky because it exposes parts of us we’ve learned to protect.

Attachment Styles - Attachment styles are relational patterns shaped often in early childhood that dictate how we connect with others. The common styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized—impact our ability to feel safe, express needs, and navigate intimacy in adult relationships.

Intimacy - Intimacy refers to deep emotional or physical closeness, where two people allow themselves to be fully seen and known. It goes beyond surface-level connection, requiring trust, presence, and a willingness to share vulnerable parts of ourselves.

Rupture and Repair - Rupture and repair describe the natural process of disconnection and reconnection in relationships. While ruptures are moments of conflict or disconnection, repair involves addressing the issue, rebuilding trust, and deepening the relationship’s safety.

Safety - Safety in relationships means feeling emotionally and physically secure with another person. It creates a foundation for vulnerability, intimacy, and trust, allowing individuals to show up fully without fear of judgment or harm.

Healing - Healing is the process of addressing unresolved wounds and past traumas that influence our current behaviors and perceptions. In relationships, healing occurs when we create safe spaces to experience love, trust, and connection that our past may have lacked.

Leading in Business and in Life

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 7 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

This episode unpacks the vital connection between our nervous system and how we lead—in business, at home, and in life. Sarah dives into the science of regulation, exploring how dysregulated states like fight/flight, freeze, or shut down often drive our decisions, keeping us stuck in survival mode. These patterns, rooted in past experiences of stress or trauma, influence how we show up as leaders, parents, and creators.

With clear explanations and actionable tools, Sarah offers a roadmap for recognizing when we’re leading from dysregulation. She shares how to cultivate a regulated nervous system, unlocking creativity, connection, and clarity. Whether you're looking to grow a business, nurture your family, or simply lead yourself with more purpose, this episode offers the practical steps to create the life—and leadership—you desire.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:26 Leading from a State of Regulation

01:20 Entrepreneurs Have Higher Stress Levels

04:28 The Most Important Thing Parents Should Focus on

06:43 Your Nervous System Affects Everyone Else

08:23 Leading from Sympathetic (fight/flight)

11:05 Leading from Regulation (safety)

13:36 Leading from Dorsal (shut down)

15:27 Leading from Freeze (tonic immobility)

17:42 Consistent Neural Exercises

20:41 How to Reshape Your Nervous System

23:02 The Key to Somatic Manifestation

26:57 Anchoring in Your Adult Self

32:30 Trust Your Own Pacing

38:19 Embodying Your Purpose

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - The practice of bringing your system into safety in presence, which supports effective leadership, whether in business, parenting, or personal growth. Being in regulation allows for more creativity, clarity, and connection while reducing the reactive tendencies of stress and overwhelm.
Ventral Vagal Complex - Your state of presence, safety, and connection where creativity, connection, and problem-solving thrive. It’s the optimal state for leadership and decision-making, allowing leaders to see possibilities and act with confidence.
Co-Regulation - The process of connecting with another person in safety where each person's nervous system positively influences the others’. In leadership and parenting, co-regulation can set the tone for calm and productivity, creating a ripple effect in teams or families.
Dysregulation - When your nervous system senses a threat (whether real or perceived), it sends you into dysregulation or active self-protection. Leading from this place can often result in stress, burnout, or stagnation.
Capacity Building - Capacity building involves gradually increasing our ability to handle new or challenging situations. It’s about expanding the nervous system's tolerance and adaptability through small, intentional experiences of growth.

4 Reasons Why New Year Resolutions Don’t Work

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

In this special New Year’s episode, Sarah invites listeners to reimagine the way they approach goals and resolutions. Kicking off the five-part Somatic Starter Kit series, Sarah dives into four reasons why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and offers transformative science-backed tools to use instead. You’ll learn how unresolved past experiences and traumas can keep you stuck in cycles of unmet goals.

Listeners will learn the importance of taking tolerable steps, building nervous system regulation, and fostering safe connection to support personal growth. Sarah also shares actionable insights on cultivating self-compassion, replacing coping strategies with healthier habits, and understanding the deeper desires that drive us. The episode is both a manual for self-discovery and a compassionate reminder that you make sense, just as you are.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

02:26 Reason 1: We Aren’t Addressing Our Nervous System

05:05 Do You Feel Like You’re Behind in Life?

07:03 Connecting to What You Truly Desire

09:41 Reason 2: Our Desires Often Have Flavorings of Past Danger

14:03 Reason 3: We Aren’t Addressing Our Parts

19:07 Reason 4: Lack of Support and Connection

24:19 Safe Support and Connection is Crucial

25:21 Take Tolerable Steps Towards Your Desires

30:17 Consistent Regulation of Your Nervous System

31:37 Work at the Rate of Your Most Apprehensive Part

37:39 Relation Between Money and the Nervous System

46:00 What is a Coping Strategy?

53:54 How Do You Know Your Life’s Purpose?

01:01:36 Trying Something New Can Feel Overwhelming

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - This refers to practices that help balance the body's stress response, promoting a state of calm and safety. By regulating the nervous system, we can better handle challenges, make intentional choices, and build resilience in the face of discomfort or fear.
Coping Strategies - These are habits or behaviors developed to manage discomfort or stress, often unconsciously. While they can serve as short-term relief, understanding and replacing maladaptive strategies with healthier alternatives promotes long-term well-being.
Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on reconnecting with the body to release tension and process trauma. This approach integrates physical sensations, emotions, and thoughts to foster self-awareness and recovery.
Parts Work - This therapeutic concept involves recognizing and addressing different "parts" or aspects of ourselves, often tied to past experiences or emotional wounds. By understanding and integrating these parts, we can move toward greater wholeness and self-compassion.
Safe Connection - Safe connection refers to relationships where we feel seen, valued, and accepted without judgment. These connections are essential for emotional and nervous system regulation, providing a foundation for personal growth.
Capacity Building - Capacity building involves gradually increasing our ability to handle new or challenging situations. It’s about expanding the nervous system's tolerance and adaptability through small, intentional experiences of growth.
Dysregulation - Dysregulation occurs when the nervous system is stuck in states of fight, flight, freeze, or shutdown. It manifests as heightened anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or disconnection and requires mindful practices to return to a balanced state.

When We Feel Like We're Going Backward in Our Healing

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 24 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

This episode dives into the ups and downs of healing and why it can sometimes feel like you’re moving backward instead of forward. Sarah breaks down how coming back into our bodies is a marker of progress — but that it can also feel overwhelming at first. Experiencing grief, anger, or other deep emotions can all be signs of the work you’ve done.

With real-life examples and simple, science-backed advice, Sarah shares how to move beyond just “knowing” about your patterns and into healing in a way that actually creates change. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, work with your younger parts, and create space for more connection and joy.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Why Healing Can Feel Like You’re Going Backward

05:34 Information Gathering is Not Enough

07:29 Why We Become Disembodied

11:03 Healing is the Hero’s Journey

15:31 Trauma & Energy Wells

21:33 What To Look For in a Therapist or Practitioner

31:20 Receiving & Working With Young Parts

38:00 Why Do We Experience Chronic Dysregulation?

42:56 Sarah’s Journey

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Important Keywords:

Nervous system - The nervous system is a self-protective system that determines your emotions, behaviors, and overall experience. It responds to safety, real threats, and perceived threats, influencing how you react and regulate in different situations.
Regulation - We can only experience regulation when our nervous system believes we are safe. Our primary state of regulation is our Ventral Vagal Complex, where we experience things like joy, connection, presence, groundedness, and feeling “here.”
Trauma - Trauma refers to overwhelming experiences that the body and mind were unable to process fully at the time they occurred. These unresolved energies get stuck and stored in the body, impacting mental and physical well-being until they are resolved.
Healing - Healing is the journey of addressing past wounds—both physical and emotional—to achieve greater freedom and alignment in life. It involves learning to regulate the nervous system, release stored trauma, and tending to younger parts of ourselves.
Dysregulation - Dysregulation occurs when the nervous system believes we are in danger, whether it is a real or perceived threat. Chronic dysregulation is often a result of unresolved trauma and can significantly impact daily functioning.
Internal Safety - Creating safety within our bodies and nervous system is the foundation of healing. This is what we are working toward when we take steps to regulate our nervous system.

Navigating Loneliness and Grief During the Holidays

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

In this heartfelt episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the often-overlooked emotional complexities of the holiday season. While the holidays are often painted as a time of joy and togetherness, Sarah acknowledges the undercurrent of loneliness, grief, and stress that many experience. She unpacks how societal expectations and past experiences can amplify these emotions, offering relatable insights and actionable tools to help listeners navigate this season with more ease.

Sarah delves into the somatic roots of grief and loneliness, using Parts Work to differentiate between our adult self and younger parts. From tending to these younger parts to finding solace in music, nature, and intentional connection, this episode offers a blueprint for transforming holiday challenges into opportunities for healing and self-discovery.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

02:09 Reasons the Holidays Can Be Challenging

06:58 Connecting to the Unmet Need

09:05 Why We Struggle to Process Grief

13:34 Step 1: Grief is Best Processed Through Connection

15:06 Step 2: What Parts of You Are Struggling?

15:45 Step 3: Focus on Nourishing Yourself

17:03 Step 4: Connection

19:42 Identify Which Part of You is Feeling Sad

30:46 How to Process Death and Loss

39:50 Coupling Dynamics & the Holidays

49:42 “Why Do I Drink More Around My Family?”

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Important Keywords:

Loneliness - Loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected or isolated from others, often heightened during the holidays when societal messages emphasize togetherness. Sarah highlights how loneliness can stem from unmet needs, relational trauma, or past experiences and encourages using somatic tools and Parts Work to address it.
Grief - Grief is the emotional response to loss, encompassing not only what happened but also what never was. Sarah explains how grief surfaces when we feel safe enough to process it and encourages gentle, titrated processing of these emotions to create space for healing and growth.
Connection - Connection is a fundamental human need that fosters a sense of belonging and emotional safety. Sarah emphasizes the importance of cultivating meaningful connections with others, nature, and ourselves, as these relationships are key to navigating emotional challenges.
Parts work - Parts work is a therapeutic approach that acknowledges and tends to different aspects of the self, particularly younger parts carrying past wounds. Sarah discusses how identifying and comforting these parts can bring clarity and healing during emotionally challenging times.
Regulation - Regulation is the process of bringing the nervous system into safety and balance, allowing us to respond to situations from a calm, grounded place. Sarah suggests somatic practices such as mindfulness, movement, and connection to achieve regulation and build emotional resilience.
Healing - Healing is the process of addressing past traumas, unmet needs, and emotional pain to create space for growth and well-being. Sarah frames healing as an ongoing journey of self-compassion, connection, and transformation, particularly relevant during challenging emotional periods.

Experiencing Healthy Love for the First Time

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Do you find romantic partnerships challenging, confusing, or overwhelming? Sarah is going to walk you through what is necessary to heal your attachment wounds and come toward more secure, healthy relationships. Although it might seem counterintuitive, the kind of connection we’re desiring often doesn’t “feel good” at first. In fact, our first experience of a secure attachment can range from being boring — to completely terrifying.

The good news is that this doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is wrong for you! In this episode, you’ll learn the neuroscience behind why healthy love can initially feel overwhelming or unexciting. But the more that we step toward safe connection, the deeper and more intimate our relationships become, giving us a container where we can truly be seen, known, and chosen.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:01 Earned Secure Attachment

06:12 The Good Doesn’t Feel Good at First

08:45 Why A Secure Attachment Can Feel Boring

10:08 Love from Choice vs Love from Survival

16:33 Why A Secure Attachment Can Feel Terrifying

24:00 Leaning into a Secure Attachment

29:40 “Why Do I Feel Like I’m Going Backwards?”

30:52 Building Capacity for Vulnerability and Exposure

35:06 The Beautiful Orphaned Parts of Us

39:43 How to Know if the Lack of Attraction is Normal

46:37 Regret Is an Opportunity for Self-Compassion & Learning

52:01 Perceived Threats in Relationships

01:06:01 Even with Loving Parents, Relationships Can Be Hard

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Important Keywords:

Secure Attachment - A safe, stable way of attaching and relating to others in our relationships that forms in our early childhood from having caregivers who could consistently meet our needs for love, safety, attunement, and connection.
Earned Secure Attachment - A secure attachment that develops through intentional self-work and healing from past patterns. It reflects personal growth and the ability to attract healthier relationships by creating internal safety for yourself and your younger parts.
Neuroception - Your body's internal threat detector that is constantly assessing whether you’re in safety, danger, or life-threatening danger. It decides this by looking to a database of past information that holds all your lived experiences.
Parts Work - A therapeutic process that involves connecting with and healing younger parts of yourself that hold onto past wounds. It’s a core tool for building internal safety and reshaping how you show up in relationships.
Trauma Bond - A strong emotional connection formed through cycles of highs and lows in an unstable relationship. Often mistaken for love, trauma bonds are rooted in survival instincts and unresolved past pain.
Protective Parts - Younger parts that learned to keep you from past emotional harm by creating walls, avoidance, control, or sabotage. Even if the past is over, these well-intentioned parts can keep you from fully engaging in healthy relationships.
Capacity Building - The process of gradually expanding your emotional tolerance for safety, love, and connection. It involves learning to sit with discomfort as you adjust to the steady, healthy love you’ve always wanted.

Getting to Know Your Protector Parts: Perfectionist, Procrastinator & More

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 3 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

This episode pulls back the curtain on how our “younger selves” often influence the way we show up in our adult lives. From the perfectionist to the procrastinator, these protective parts develop in response to early or past experiences of feeling unsafe or overwhelmed. If we have yet to come to the aid of these parts, they will continue to show up in an effort to keep our vulnerable parts safe, often keeping us stuck in cycles that no longer serve us.

Using science-backed concepts and practical tools, Sarah guides listeners on how to recognize and calm these parts so that our adult selves can take charge. By differentiating ourselves from these parts, unburdening these protectors, and coming to the aid of the vulnerable part they are protecting, it’s possible to start living in alignment with our highest self—and navigate the world with more freedom.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:16 Are Your Young Parts Running the Show?

01:10 Understanding Somatic Parts Work

06:10 The Power of Internal Coregulation

07:43 What is a Protector Part?

09:08 The Doer Part

15:23 The Perfectionist Part

21:21 The Procastinator Part

28:18 Adult Life Can Be Overwhelming

30:18 Building Capacity to Be in Your Adult Self

32:24 Unburdening the Protector Parts

35:07 Supporting the Most Vulnerable Part

37:52 “How Do We Know How Many Parts There Are?”

44:36 Learning to Differentiate From Your Parts

51:29 Why Do We Experience Roadblocks?

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Important Keywords:

Parts Work - A therapeutic approach that involves understanding and working with different “parts” of oneself, especially those that have been influenced by past experiences or trauma.
Most Vulnerable Parts - Younger versions of ourselves that fragment off when we experience trauma, harm, or overwhelm and essentially get “stuck” in that painful experience until we can come to their aid as our adult self.
Protector Parts - These are also younger versions of ourselves that develop as a way to keep the most vulnerable part safe, often through controlling behaviors, avoiding risks, or overachieving to make sure the vulnerable part never has to feel that pain again.
Internal Co-Regulation - A process of self-soothing, where the adult self learns to comfort and integrate these young parts, providing them with the care and safety they lacked in the past.
Neuroception - The brain’s subconscious detection of safety or threat, which shapes how we react to situations based on internal “safety” signals and past memories.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) - A therapeutic model often referenced in Parts Work, which sees the self as made up of multiple parts, each with its own role, memory, and emotional state.

Family Systems and the Roles We Play

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

This episode uncovers the hidden roles we carry in relationships—roles that often date back to our earliest experiences and shape how we connect with others. From being the “caretaker” to the “perfectionist,” these familiar patterns tend to influence our choices and interactions long after childhood, even if that role no longer serves us.

With tools grounded in neuroscience and practical guidance, this conversation dives into what it takes to rewrite those outdated scripts. Listeners will learn simple steps to heal the past, break free from conditioned reactions, and start building relationships that align with who they truly are. It’s absolutely possible to embody a new role and make room for the connections that genuinely feel right.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:33 Why Do We Play the Roles We Play?

02:19 Family Systems & the Origin of Our Roles

07:13 Secure Attachment & Healthy Family Plays

10:19 Many of Us Did Not Have a Healthy Family System

13:57 Choosing Partners & “Compatability”

17:21 Healing Allows us to Write a New Role

21:45 The Bumpy Road of Healing

27:59 “How Can You Get Comfortable in Receiving When You’re a Giver?”

39:06 Being of Service vs. Being of Sacrifice

46:44 Why We Disconnect from Our Emotions

54:16 “How Do You Forgive?”

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System - The nervous system is central to understanding our emotional and relational patterns. It holds the embodied experience of past memories and influences how we respond to others, shaping the roles we play in our lives.
Roles - The patterns we adopt in relationships, often influenced by early family dynamics. Common roles include caretaker, perfectionist, scapegoat, and the helpless one, which define how we interact with others. Changing these roles allows us to step out of limiting patterns and embrace more fulfilling connections.
Family System - The family system is the foundation of our relational blueprint. It establishes our initial roles and influences how we navigate social dynamics, often carrying over into adult relationships.
Attachment - Attachment refers to the emotional bonds formed with primary caregivers, impacting how we relate to others. Secure attachment fosters healthier relationships, while insecure attachment can lead to self-protective behaviors and dynamics. Healing attachment wounds enables us to build stable, supportive connections.
Healing - Healing is the process of releasing old roles and expanding the nervous system’s capacity for change. It involves recognizing and shedding survival patterns and replacing them with practices that honor our true selves. Healing is an empowering journey toward self-discovery and authentic relationships.
Patterns - Patterns are recurring behaviors that shape how we interact with others. These automatic responses often stem from unresolved past experiences and can hold us back. Using a somatic approach to transform these patterns is key to stepping into new roles and fostering growth.

How to Tangibly Step Toward Your Purpose

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Ever feel like stepping into a bigger life is tougher than it should be? In this episode, Sarah breaks down why we get stuck in old patterns and how our nervous system shapes the life we’re currently living. You’ll learn why even good changes—like deeper relationships or exciting career moves—can feel overwhelming or lead to self-sabotage.

Using science-backed concepts and tools, Sarah will teach you how to practically build your nervous system’s capacity to hold the life you’re really wanting. By taking small, tolerable steps and working at the rate of your most apprehensive part, it’s possible to work with your nervous system to move toward a life full of connection and joy.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:32 Living the Bigger Life

06:19 The Process of Building Our Capacity

13:42 Our Purpose Often Leads to Our Healing

17:39 What Lights You Up?

19:36 How to Begin Working with Your Nervous System

23:38 We Must Embody Where We Are Going

28:05 One Tolerable Step at a Time

30:49 There’s Always Room to Expand and Grow

36:45 What to do When Good Opportunities Overwhelm Us

41:29 Tangible Steps Toward Being Seen

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Important Keywords:

“Self-Sabotage” - This term can often feel shaming, but it is simply the nervous system’s way of protecting us from what it doesn’t yet know is safe by pushing away or leaving things we might actually deeply desire.
Building Capacity - The gradual process of training the nervous system to hold more of the “good” in life and tolerate changes or stressors without triggering overwhelm. This is done by gently stepping toward new, safe experiences of what was once dangerous or inhibited in the past (like: being seen, taking up space, making mistakes, etc.).
Nervous System Regulation - Techniques and strategies used to calm and stabilize the nervous system. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down responses and into a balanced state of presence and connection.
“The Invisible Wall” - A term coined by Sarah used to describe what it feels like when we try to step toward what we’re wanting but are met with resistance and dysregulation within our nervous system.
Parts Work - This approach seeks to integrate the fragmented younger parts of ourselves by coming to their aid and giving them love, safety, attunement, and connection. Under the umbrella of Parts Work, Internal Family Systems is the most well-known modality.
Tolerable Steps - Small, bite-sized actions taken to gradually introduce new experiences and reduce the nervous system's stress response. These steps are essential for building internal safety and making sustainable progress toward larger goals.

Parts Work: How Different Parts of Us Show Up in Our Lives

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Although we may look our numeric age on the outside, we actually have many different parts or versions of ourselves within us. Using somatic Parts Work, also known as IFS or inner child healing, Sarah is going to show you how these different parts can inhabit our experience to influence the way we show up in our daily lives.

When we come to the aid of these younger parts and give them the love, safety, attunement, and protection they didn’t receive in the past, it creates what Sarah calls internal co-regulation, so that we can begin spending more time moving through the world as our confident, capable adult self.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:23 What is Parts Work?

04:37 Holistic Healing is Like a Web

09:35 Each Part Has a Different Autonomic Tone

16:17 Vulnerable Parts and Protective Parts

22:44 Real Life Examples of Parts Show Up in Our Lives

28:21 The Difference Between Young Parts and Adult Self

33:34 How Do We Bring Together Fragmented Parts?

37:20 All Parts of You Make Sense

39:49 Focus on the Loudest Part First

43:11 How to Deal with Multiple Parts Without Feeling Overwhelmed

49:41 Two Ways to Create Internal Safety

01:00:12 A Common Misconception About Real Love

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Important Keywords:

Parts Work - The therapeutic practice of differentiating from and coming to the aid of the younger parts of ourselves that fragment off of us and develop when we’ve experienced a trauma or overwhelm in the past. Under the umbrella of Parts Work, Internal Family Systems is the most well-known modality.
Younger Part - This is any part that is younger than what our current numeric age is now. It can be a vulnerable part or a protective part.
Most Vulnerable Part - This is a younger part that experienced a trauma or overwhelming event(s) where they were left helpless, unsupported and unsafe and remain stuck in the perpetual pain of that experience.
Protective Part - This is often a younger part of us that developed in order to protect the most vulnerable parts from that pain, and might look like being “the do-er,” perfectionism, procrastination, etc.
Nervous System Regulation - The process of managing the body's stress response and guiding your self-protective system to internal safety, which helps to resolve trauma, promote balance and wellbeing, and navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
Regulating Resource: Tools or activities that discharge or get rid of activation in the body, helping to bring our system back into safety, rest, and regulation.
Trauma Resolution: The process of healing from past trauma by addressing and releasing trapped energy and incomplete physical responses from the body.
Embodiment: The practice of being fully present in and connected to your body and the sensations and feelings present within it, which is crucial for nervous system regulation and emotional healing.

Why We Choose the Partners We Choose

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 5 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Ever wonder why you keep choosing the same kind of partners? Sarah breaks it all down in this episode. She’s going to teach you how your nervous system is the one doing the matchmaking, drawing on your early childhood experiences to inform the way you show up in your adult relationships. Whether it’s romantic partnerships, friendships, or work dynamics, you’ll learn how to begin changing old patterns that no longer serve you.

Many of us choose our partners out of a need for survival rather than from a place of choice. Sarah will give you powerful somatic tools to begin creating a new internal baseline for what love is, so that you can transform your relationships and step toward the secure attachments you’re desiring.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:17 Why We Choose the Partners that We Choose

03:30 Your Early Childhood Experiences Lay the Blueprint

07:30 The Threat Detector Picks Up On Subtle Cues

10:16 Love From Choice or Love From Survival?

14:39 Healthy Love Isn’t Infatuation

19:21 Creating an Internal Secure Attachment

21:25 Our Reactions Always Match Some Circumstance

27:29 Developing the Ability for Self-Regulation

31:43 We Can be a Combination of Different Attachment Styles

37:00 Building Connection When Feeling Isolated

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Important Keywords:

Autonomic Nervous System - The body’s internal network that controls responses to stimuli and regulates our experiences of safety, fear, and connection. In the context of relationships, it drives automatic reactions based on past experiences stored in our internal "database."
Neuroception - A subconscious process through which the nervous system detects safety or threats in our environment. It plays a key role in determining who we are drawn to in relationships, often based on past relational patterns.
Attachment - Refers to the emotional bond we form with others, shaped by early relationships, particularly with caregivers. Our attachment style influences how we relate to others.
Parts Work - A therapeutic process focused on identifying and healing the different "parts" of ourselves that were wounded in the past. It helps us reparent those parts and create internal safety, allowing us to make healthier relationship choices.
Internal Safety - The feeling of security and stability that comes from within, rather than from external validation or relationships. Cultivating internal safety helps reduce anxiety and allows for more balanced, healthy relationships.
Healing Work - The ongoing process of addressing past traumas and emotional wounds to create lasting change in our relational patterns and lives.
Relationship Patterns - Recurring behaviors and dynamics that emerge in our relationships, often based on unresolved past experiences. Recognizing and changing these patterns is key to fostering healthier connections.

Understanding Your Relationships: The Connection Between Attachment Theory & Polyvagal Theory

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ready to take a deep dive into understanding your relationships? Sarah breaks down the connection between Polyvagal Theory and Attachment Theory, explaining how your autonomic nervous system shapes the way you show up in your romantic partnerships, friendships, family, job, finances, and more. Healing attachment wounds isn’t something you can simply “talk” your way into—it must be addressed somatically at the nervous system level.

Through relatable examples, you’ll learn about the different attachment styles—anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how each one is a brilliant, adaptive response to our early childhood experiences. Whether you're stuck in difficult patterns or seeking a deeper understanding of your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable tools to guide you toward an earned secure attachment and healthier, more meaningful connections.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 The Connection Between Polyvagal Theory and Attachment Theory

03:53 The Origin of How We Relate to Others

09:44 Anxious Attachment Style

19:58 Avoidant Attachment Style

25:58 Disorganized Attachment Style

31:08 Secure Attachment Style

38:47 What Attachment Style Does the Flight Response Connect To?

44:19 How Do Somatic Practices Help in Healing Attachment Wounds?

49:03 Some Things Can Only Be Healed in a Relational Dynamic

56:04 Growing Up with Narcissistic Family Members

01:02:43 The Process of Healthy Aggression

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Important Keywords:

Polyvagal Theory - A scientific theory coined by Stephen Porges that explains how the autonomic nervous system controls our reactions to stress and connection.
Attachment Theory - A psychological model that explains how early relationships with caregivers shape our ability to form healthy emotional bonds.
Nervous System Regulation - The process of calming or balancing the nervous system to achieve emotional and physical stability. This is crucial for managing stress and maintaining healthy relationships.
Anxious Attachment Style - An “insecure” or adaptive attachment style where we feel safer when others are close and less safe when we’re alone.
Avoidant Attachment Style - An “insecure” or adaptive attachment style where connection or closeness may feel overwhelming, even though a part of us deeply desires connection.
Disorganized Attachment Style - An “insecure” or adaptive attachment style where we may want people close, but when they are close, we will reflexively push them away and then desire closeness again.
Somatics - Therapeutic tools used to address emotional struggles and trauma by healing it in the body, aiming to restore balance to the nervous system.

How To Regulate Your Nervous System

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ready to start feeling better every day? Sarah is going to teach you the practical steps to regulating your nervous system, so that you can gain control over your experience and navigate life with more ease. Whether you’re feeling anxious, stuck, or overwhelmed, this science-backed process can help you make real, lasting change and improve your health, relationships, and overall sense of wellbeing.

This is not just a “magic pill” that works for some people. Everything in this episode is backed by the latest neuroscience and trauma research; engaging in consistent neural exercises is the key to reshaping your nervous system and spending more of your time in regulation (where we experience much of the “good” in life).

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:01 The Benefits of Regulating Your Nervous System

04:35 You Can Reshape Your Nervous System

09:43 Regulating Resources Versus Coping Strategies

15:52 How to Create a Regulating Toolbox

19:23 Tool: Setting Reminders in Your Phone For Regulation

25:53 The Power of Befriending Your Nervous System

29:48 The Expand/Contract Process

32:28 How to Create Safe Connection

40:29 What are Energy Wells?

48:34 How Chronic Dysregulation Leads to Chronic Illness

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation: The process of managing the body's stress response and guiding your self-protective system to experiencing and noticing safety in order to resolve trauma, promote balance and wellbeing, and help you navigate challenges with greater ease.
Coping Strategy: Temporary methods people use to cover up or numb underlying activation (dysregulation).
Regulating Resource: Tools or activities that actually discharge or get rid of activation in the body (rather than covering up), helping to bring our system back into safety, rest, and regulation.
Freeze: The blended state of tonic immobility, made up of equal parts mobilizing Sympathetic energy and immobilizing Dorsal energy, leading to feelings of being stuck or trapped.
Trauma Resolution: The process of healing from past trauma by addressing and releasing the stored emotional and incomplete physical responses from the body.
Embodiment: The practice of being fully present in and connected to your body and the sensations and feelings present within it, which is crucial for nervous system regulation and emotional healing.

Resolving Trauma to Step Into the Life Meant for You

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Sarah explains how trauma is something we all experience to varying degrees and the impact it has on our lives. When we have yet to resolve past trauma, it actually gets stuck and stored in our bodies, meaning our system essentially thinks it is still happening or could happen again at any moment. For many of us, this unresolved trauma is what keeps us stuck in chronic dysregulation and unable to step toward the life we’re wanting.

Sarah is going to guide you through the latest neuroscience and trauma research in a way that’s easy to understand and applicable to our everyday lives. You’ll learn how we can teach our bodies to regulate again and gently begin releasing that stuck energy, so that you can heal in a way that lasts.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:48 What Causes Trauma?

06:25 Unprocessed Trauma Gets Stuck and Stored

08:01 Overcoupling or Over-Association

09:28 Undercoupling or Disconnection

11:33 What You Need to Understand About Trauma

17:04 Not All Clinicians and Therapists are Trauma Trained

20:53 Trauma Isn’t the Only Reason for Chronic Dysregulation

22:23 How Do You Facilitate Regulation in Your Life?

26:51 The Pendulation Process

32:10 Healing My Own Trauma

35:24 The Titration Process

38:27 The Eye of the Needle Work

42:33 Trauma Work is Complex

45:06 Do You Have to Resolve All Trauma?

54:01 The Starting Off Point in Life Isn’t Equal

56:32 There’s No Blueprint for Parenting

01:03:37 Internal Co-Regulation

01:08:52 The Desires of Our Soul Are Meant for Us

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Important Keywords:

Trauma: Not about the event itself but how an experience overwhelms our system's capacity to process what’s happening.
Regulation: Our state of safety, presence, and connection.
Attunement: Connecting with someone on an autonomic level, not just through words, to provide empathetic support.
Pendulation: The process of moving between dysregulation and regulation, helping the body to naturally discharge traumatic energy.
Titration: Taking small amounts of activation (traumatic energy) and supporting it to leave the body without overwhelming the nervous system.
Discharging Activation: The process of letting the traumatic energy leave the body, often through physical movement, such as shaking.
Healing: Resolving trauma by re-teaching the nervous system to process and release stored energy, allowing the past to truly be in the past.

The Roadmap to Somatic Healing: Using Science to Heal in a Way That Works

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 8 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Did you know there is an order to which we heal? When we use the right tools, in the right order, our systems respond and it expedites our healing. Sarah will guide you through the somatic roadmap necessary to facilitate deep, lasting change, using somatic modalities that speak directly to your nervous system.

Discover how Polyvagal Theory, Attachment Theory, Parts Work, and more are all connected and play a crucial role in our healing. Whether you're just starting or well into your healing journey, this episode offers invaluable tools to help you cultivate the life you desire.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

05:01 The Roadmap for Holistic Healing

06:04 Phase #1: Nervous System Regulation

09:47 Phase #2: Somatic Attachment Theory

11:28 Phase #3: Parts Work (IFS)

18:51 Phase #4: Using Your Truth to Set Boundaries

21:57 Phase #5: Thoughts from a Somatic Vantage Point

24:07 Phase #6: Purpose and Manifestation

30:19 Q&A with Rachel Andrews

33:08 What to Do if A Younger Parts Reject Our Support

42:19 Anger Is Not a Bad Emotion

44:23 How Does Secondary Trauma Happen?

57:01 How Can I Tell if Someone Wants to Be a Genuine Friend or Has Hidden Motives?

1:03:37 How Manifestation Really Happens

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Feeling stuck or stagnant? Join Sarah inside Expansion for 3 days of live support and science-backed tools. You’ll learn how to harness the power of your nervous system to take tangible steps toward the life you're desiring.

The first call starts on October 14th. Replays available through November 7.

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Important Keywords:

Holistic Healing: A comprehensive approach to healing that addresses physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects to achieve overall well-being.
Somatic Healing Roadmap: The necessary approach that requires specific actions to be taken in a particular sequence for the best results in healing.
Nervous System Regulation: The process of calming and reshaping the nervous system to maintain a state of emotional and physical stability.
Trauma: Any overwhelming experience that exceeds an individual’s ability to cope and process what’s occurring, often resulting in long-term emotional and psychological effects.
Parts Work: A therapeutic approach that involves identifying and working with different aspects or "parts" of oneself, often representing different ages, experiences, or emotions.
Attachment: The way individuals connect and form relationships with others, which is influenced by early childhood experiences and affects how they relate to others throughout life.
Somatic Boundaries: Physical and energetic boundaries that protect one’s personal space, ensuring a sense of safety and autonomy in interactions with others.
Manifestation: The process of bringing one's desires or goals into reality by aligning thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, often requiring inner healing work.
Mirror Neurons: Specialized neurons that allow individuals to feel and experience what others are feeling, playing a key role in empathy and connection.
Polyvagal Theory: A theory that explains how the nervous system affects emotions, behavior, and social connections, emphasizing the role of the vagus nerve in regulating responses to stress and safety.

Understanding Why You’re Stuck: Using Polyvagal Theory to Unlock the Life You Desire

support@sarahbaldwincoaching.com (Sarah Baldwin Coaching) — Tue, 1 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Sarah takes you through the different states in your Autonomic Nervous System, likening it to a special ops team constantly working to protect you. She explains how, through a process called neuroception, the system is constantly monitoring for internal and external threats. Sarah then delves into the three states of dysregulation—Sympathetic, Dorsal, and Freeze—and how each state has brilliantly adapted to protect you, as well as your primary state of regulation—Ventral—which is where we experience much of the “good” in life.

You’ll also go through practical steps to begin creating a “toolbox for regulation” and learn about the importance of consistently engaging in neural exercises, which is the key to rewiring the nervous system and improving your overall quality of life. Whether you're dealing with anxiety, depression, or everyday stress, this episode is filled with actionable tools to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and gain control over how you feel.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:33 Neuroception - The Threat Detector

04:33 3 States of Dysregulation

11:46 Long-Term Dysregulation

13:21 Mirror Neurons - Nervous Systems Affect Each Other

15:58 #1: Sympathetic: Your Mobilized State of Fight/Flight

20:50 #2: Dorsal: Your Immobilized State of Shutdown

29:24 #3: Freeze: Your Blended State of Tonic Immobility

36:38 Ventral: Your Primary State of Regulation

40:51 Vagal Tone

46:35 The Connection Between Your Nervous System and Sleep

56:30 Your Pace is Exactly Right

01:04:10 Healing Shame

Free Workbook:
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This downloadable PDF will equip you with somatic tools to get into the driver’s seat of your experience so that you can step toward a life filled with more freedom and ease.

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