https://simplecast.com It's All About Connection! NVC With Dr. B! Want to learn how to deepen or create better connection in your life? It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. will show you how. Join Dr. B and her co-host Heather each week as they share the art of Nonviolent Communication, creating concrete, real peace in our world! 2020 NVC With Dr. B en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:00:00 +0000 Wed, 22 Apr 2026 00:00:11 +0000 https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com It's All About Connection! NVC With Dr. B! https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/ff9c062d-a6eb-462b-8bc8-15e67384fb9a/d0dc03db-c713-4b02-bcda-ecc214133339/3000x3000/nvc-cover.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com episodic Want to learn how to deepen or create better connection in your life? It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. will show you how. Join Dr. B and her co-host Heather each week as they share the art of Nonviolent Communication, creating concrete, real peace in our world! Cindy Bigbie, Heather Claypoole false https://feeds.simplecast.com/nKaxsGBm Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole jodycolvard@gmail.com 64e81fe1-44d7-4a04-877f-b59483a34af4 288-NVC Guidelines for Responding in Crises
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    ]]>     288-NVC Guidelines for Responding in Crises Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:07 Imagine of friend of yours is going through some "hard times." What can you possible say or do to really support this person? What are some pitfalls to avoid so as not to make their pain worse? These are some of the things that Dr. B and Juliana unpack in Episode 288. Imagine of friend of yours is going through some "hard times." What can you possible say or do to really support this person? What are some pitfalls to avoid so as not to make their pain worse? These are some of the things that Dr. B and Juliana unpack in Episode 288. false full 290     1cb2da02-f0d8-4b62-a7a7-8122e9f9c4cb 287-Staying Present During Hard Conversations  

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    ]]>     287-Staying Present During Hard Conversations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:13 Have you ever been in a conversation with a friend, or family member or colleague and they are sharing some hard things with you and you notice that you are not fully present because you have your own response to their situation? What to do in these moments? Presence is the key component to NVC empathy - and, therefore, this could be considered an important question. Listen in to hear Dr. B and Juliana's response. Have you ever been in a conversation with a friend, or family member or colleague and they are sharing some hard things with you and you notice that you are not fully present because you have your own response to their situation? What to do in these moments? Presence is the key component to NVC empathy - and, therefore, this could be considered an important question. Listen in to hear Dr. B and Juliana's response. false full 289     14bc1181-364e-46ee-be83-74441647da0d 286-Needs: The Missing Piece of the Puzzle Wed, 1 Apr 2026 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/286-needs-the-missing-piece-of-the-puzzle-gTPPNDyM 286-Needs: The Missing Piece of the Puzzle Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:21:13 NVC is based on the idea that "all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need." We know something is a need if it's something that everyone in the world wants. Universal human needs are many and include things like love, safety, connection, trust, fun, and more. However, the idea that all conflict is based upon needs is usually a new concept for folks and learning this can be revolutionary in how individuals move through their world - with a lot more ease and clarity. Episode 286 is all about this. We hope you enjoy. NVC is based on the idea that "all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need." We know something is a need if it's something that everyone in the world wants. Universal human needs are many and include things like love, safety, connection, trust, fun, and more. However, the idea that all conflict is based upon needs is usually a new concept for folks and learning this can be revolutionary in how individuals move through their world - with a lot more ease and clarity. Episode 286 is all about this. We hope you enjoy. false full 288 7285d74a-7f0e-4b2a-bfe3-9d4c40f072aa 285-Don't Just Say "Yes"
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    ]]>     285-Don't Just Say "Yes" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:37 Do you find yourself saying "yes" to things and then having resentment? In this episode, Dr. B and Juliana discuss Marshall Rosenberg's guideline of only saying "yes" when it brings you joy - like a child feeding ducks! We might not always get to that joy - but the idea of using this guideline can come in quite handy to help us move in situations with less resentment. Do you find yourself saying "yes" to things and then having resentment? In this episode, Dr. B and Juliana discuss Marshall Rosenberg's guideline of only saying "yes" when it brings you joy - like a child feeding ducks! We might not always get to that joy - but the idea of using this guideline can come in quite handy to help us move in situations with less resentment. false full 287     b86a327c-1900-496c-9912-c416f1a43e62 284-Listener Question About Raising a Newborn with NVC
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    ]]>     284-Listener Question About Raising a Newborn with NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:56 In this episode, Dr. B and Juliana respond to one of their listener's question about raising a newborn with NVC. How does one do so and stay in integrity with the process, especially when one parent knows NVC and the other does not? Something to ponder for sure! While they don't have all the absolute answers on the topic, we think there was a juicy enough discussion to share. In this episode, Dr. B and Juliana respond to one of their listener's question about raising a newborn with NVC. How does one do so and stay in integrity with the process, especially when one parent knows NVC and the other does not? Something to ponder for sure! While they don't have all the absolute answers on the topic, we think there was a juicy enough discussion to share. false full 286     8a9b9a2a-a815-445a-bff6-5fdde9405567 283-NVC and Knee-Jerk Responses
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    ]]>     283-NVC and Knee-Jerk Responses Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:12 Can you imagine a world where people's first response in most situations is empathy? Neither can we, but we like imagining it. In this Episode, Dr. B and Juliana ponder that question and begin to unpack some of the reasons why that is not typical. They also go into some teaching about Other Conversational Responses in comparison to empathy. Can you imagine a world where people's first response in most situations is empathy? Neither can we, but we like imagining it. In this Episode, Dr. B and Juliana ponder that question and begin to unpack some of the reasons why that is not typical. They also go into some teaching about Other Conversational Responses in comparison to empathy. false full 285     b569b775-eb98-434a-a76c-72bbf3a4c34e 282-NVC in the Workplace
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    ]]>     282-NVC in the Workplace Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:46 Do you dread going to work - not because of work but because of "drama?" Listen in while Dr. B and Juliana discuss all the benefits of having a workforce trained up in NVC. Do you dread going to work - not because of work but because of "drama?" Listen in while Dr. B and Juliana discuss all the benefits of having a workforce trained up in NVC. false full 284     199b20ef-2907-4c0c-a193-9faf521f15f3 281-NVC is Boring - There's No Drama!
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    ]]>     281-NVC is Boring - There's No Drama! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:51 We think this is a fun episode. Dr. B and and Juliana talk about some common scenarios and compare and contrast how these could play out using NVC or not. The conclusion is that using NVC leads to a whole lot less drama in our every day interactions. It's something worth considering. We think this is a fun episode. Dr. B and and Juliana talk about some common scenarios and compare and contrast how these could play out using NVC or not. The conclusion is that using NVC leads to a whole lot less drama in our every day interactions. It's something worth considering. false full 283     0fe63836-fd7e-41eb-ad0d-63cb21c3fd45 280-A Real Life Story of NVC Between a Parent and Teen Episode Notes

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    ]]>     280-A Real Life Story of NVC Between a Parent and Teen Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:48 One of Dr. B's long time students was in the midst of sharing a story of how NVC was so helpful in a hard interaction between he and his teenage daughter. Though this content was not intended as a podcast episode, Dr. B thought it might be useful to capture it - since people tend to really appreciate real live "wins" with NVC. We think it is an inspiring story of NVC in the life of real folks. Hope you enjoy it. One of Dr. B's long time students was in the midst of sharing a story of how NVC was so helpful in a hard interaction between he and his teenage daughter. Though this content was not intended as a podcast episode, Dr. B thought it might be useful to capture it - since people tend to really appreciate real live "wins" with NVC. We think it is an inspiring story of NVC in the life of real folks. Hope you enjoy it. false full 282     c8bf9bf7-16b4-4e57-9cd2-e5a49726b03a 279-NVC is Hard with Loved Ones Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Feb 2026 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/279-nvc-is-hard-with-loved-ones-bpWwRNDd Episode Notes

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    ]]>     279-NVC is Hard with Loved Ones Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:21:07 Have you ever tried to use your NVC skills while in a hard conversation with a loved one and had thoughts that you "failed miserably?" If you answered "yes," then this is just the episode for you. Dr. B and Juliana discuss some theories around why this is a common experience and provide some hints on how to move through such moments with grace. Have you ever tried to use your NVC skills while in a hard conversation with a loved one and had thoughts that you "failed miserably?" If you answered "yes," then this is just the episode for you. Dr. B and Juliana discuss some theories around why this is a common experience and provide some hints on how to move through such moments with grace. false full 281     778b9d61-16fb-4b07-be69-ca9f0d11ba0f 278-Polyvagal Theory and NVC
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    ]]>     278-Polyvagal Theory and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:38 Polyvagal Theory, co-regulation... ever heard of these? Well in Episode 278, Dr. B and Juliana take a rather deep dive and they link up the information on how our brains operate, especially for those with trauma, and how/why being skilled in NVC can be very helpful - to individuals and society. We hope you enjoy. Polyvagal Theory, co-regulation... ever heard of these? Well in Episode 278, Dr. B and Juliana take a rather deep dive and they link up the information on how our brains operate, especially for those with trauma, and how/why being skilled in NVC can be very helpful - to individuals and society. We hope you enjoy. false full 280     8c023c2e-c79b-41d7-afc2-71a01c35c4ee 277-The Argument About Temperature In Our Homes Episode Notes

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    ]]>     277-The Argument About Temperature In Our Homes Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:33 Do you live with someone? And do you tend to be hot when the other person is cold and visa versa? Dr. B and Juliana have some thoughts that this is a common occurrence and that it is often the catalyst for some squabbles. Listen in as they have a "playful" conversation about this dilemma. Do you live with someone? And do you tend to be hot when the other person is cold and visa versa? Dr. B and Juliana have some thoughts that this is a common occurrence and that it is often the catalyst for some squabbles. Listen in as they have a "playful" conversation about this dilemma. false full 279     12e10bf7-e73f-4150-8fd8-a00df7228855 276-You Are Not Responsible for Others' Feelings - Part 2
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    ]]>     276-You Are Not Responsible for Others' Feelings - Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:13 In response to our last episode (275), we heard from a listener who had some thoughts and a question. We thought it would be fun to unpack it on the podcast - and that is the content for today's show. In response to our last episode (275), we heard from a listener who had some thoughts and a question. We thought it would be fun to unpack it on the podcast - and that is the content for today's show. false full 278     7579eaf6-8060-4d6f-bd3b-ed495219947d 275-You Are Not Responsible For Others' Feelings
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    ]]>     275-You Are Not Responsible For Others' Feelings Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:50 Dr. B and her new co-host Juliana Rodrigues take some time to unpack the notion that we are not responsible for other people's feelings. This can be a big aha for many and our hope is that understanding this allows for greater internal and external peace. Dr. B and her new co-host Juliana Rodrigues take some time to unpack the notion that we are not responsible for other people's feelings. This can be a big aha for many and our hope is that understanding this allows for greater internal and external peace. false full 277     df5d8435-a3ae-4483-bebb-2cad03638f91 274-Happy New Year and Some NVC Processes...
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    ]]>     274-Happy New Year and Some NVC Processes... Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:46 Dr. B is back - with a new co-host Juliana Rodrigues. Before 2025 ends and the new one begins - they discover that they share a common ritual of ending/beginning the year. In this episode, they share about that and also ponder how NVC awareness can be a more intentional part of the process. We hope you enjoy and Happy New Year. Dr. B is back - with a new co-host Juliana Rodrigues. Before 2025 ends and the new one begins - they discover that they share a common ritual of ending/beginning the year. In this episode, they share about that and also ponder how NVC awareness can be a more intentional part of the process. We hope you enjoy and Happy New Year. false full 276     83a51fd4-54dc-4ffb-84c8-29ad3eb86f8b 273-Goodbye for Now Episode Notes

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    ]]>     273-Goodbye for Now Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:23 This is Ryan and Dr. B's last episode together. In it, they explain what is going on with The Bigbie Method and the podcast. There is also an offering to folks to help keep it going - for those interested. This is Ryan and Dr. B's last episode together. In it, they explain what is going on with The Bigbie Method and the podcast. There is also an offering to folks to help keep it going - for those interested. false full 275     b2ea7e36-7efd-4d1e-9053-a4959fc719ed 272-F NVC Moments
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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Dec 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/272-f-nvc-moments-T3JKyfmp
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    ]]>     272-F NVC Moments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:17 For those of you on the NVC journey - do you ever get frustrated with the learning or with the process? Welcome to the F NVC Club! Seems like it is a common phenomenon to have moments when you want to give up on NVC and revert back to previous and easier communication patterns. Episode 272 is all about those moments. For those of you on the NVC journey - do you ever get frustrated with the learning or with the process? Welcome to the F NVC Club! Seems like it is a common phenomenon to have moments when you want to give up on NVC and revert back to previous and easier communication patterns. Episode 272 is all about those moments. false full 274     b6361ea3-a306-444e-a3dc-d34a960c565c 271-Testing Out Reflecting In Our Conversations
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    ]]>     Wed, 3 Dec 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/271-testing-out-reflecting-in-our-conversations-8viGMOLj
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    ]]>     271-Testing Out Reflecting In Our Conversations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:26:40 Episode 271 was a fun one for Dr. B and Ryan to record. In it, they model the reflecting part of NVC empathy and they do it consistently throughout the episode. As they do so, they talk about why this may be helpful in our conversations. They also go into some of the nuances of using this in our speech - what does or doesn't work and did into the why of that. We hope you enjoy listening and challenge yourself to reflecting a bit more in your conversations. Episode 271 was a fun one for Dr. B and Ryan to record. In it, they model the reflecting part of NVC empathy and they do it consistently throughout the episode. As they do so, they talk about why this may be helpful in our conversations. They also go into some of the nuances of using this in our speech - what does or doesn't work and did into the why of that. We hope you enjoy listening and challenge yourself to reflecting a bit more in your conversations. false full 273     d923ac1a-d905-4a3c-974d-a5428f212e34 270-The Importance of Asking Permission to Discuss Something
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    ]]>     Wed, 26 Nov 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/270-the-importance-of-asking-permission-to-discuss-something-PyDDEp1q
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    ]]>     270-The Importance of Asking Permission to Discuss Something Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:48 In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan discuss one of the "easy" practices of NVC - asking permission before launching into a discussion (especially if it's going to be a difficult conversation.) Dr. B recently forgot to do what she preaches - and it was immediately apparent how this was the stimulus for some disconnection. Our hope is that you have an easy takeaway of one piece of the NVC process that you can start practicing with relative ease quickly. In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan discuss one of the "easy" practices of NVC - asking permission before launching into a discussion (especially if it's going to be a difficult conversation.) Dr. B recently forgot to do what she preaches - and it was immediately apparent how this was the stimulus for some disconnection. Our hope is that you have an easy takeaway of one piece of the NVC process that you can start practicing with relative ease quickly. false full 272     8fa6e82a-1803-435c-86ff-79f6ff89bab2 269-Listening vs. Waiting to Speak
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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Nov 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/269-listening-vs-waiting-to-speak-g2G05VCG
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    ]]>     269-Listening vs. Waiting to Speak Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:59 What is the difference between listening and waiting to speak? Why does this distinction matter? And how does NVC help with all of this? In Episode 269, Dr. B and discuss all of this and more. What is the difference between listening and waiting to speak? Why does this distinction matter? And how does NVC help with all of this? In Episode 269, Dr. B and discuss all of this and more. false full 271     56973414-cac3-4a45-9a3b-ee310402c99c 268-NVC to the Rescue!
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    ]]>     Wed, 12 Nov 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/268-nvc-to-the-rescue-BZX_5Sjb
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    ]]>     268-NVC to the Rescue! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:40 One of Dr. B's very first students recently reminded her of a "success" story with NVC and we thought it might be helpful sharing it here. Through this story, you can hear how one person worked through the NVC process in a "sticky" situation and ended up with a very connecting outcome as a result. One of Dr. B's very first students recently reminded her of a "success" story with NVC and we thought it might be helpful sharing it here. Through this story, you can hear how one person worked through the NVC process in a "sticky" situation and ended up with a very connecting outcome as a result. false full 270     54765063-123e-4d1d-a65c-4dc67c810a80 267-NVC Ponderings - Do Feelings Come From Thoughts?
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    ]]>     267-NVC Ponderings - Do Feelings Come From Thoughts? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:22 Do feelings come from thoughts? Who cares anyway? And how is all this connected to NVC? Listen in to Episode 267, where Dr. B and Ryan discuss all of this and more. Do feelings come from thoughts? Who cares anyway? And how is all this connected to NVC? Listen in to Episode 267, where Dr. B and Ryan discuss all of this and more. false full 269     44c803de-57c5-4e85-b748-b130e42be52e 266-The Empathy Dojo!
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    ]]>     Wed, 29 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/266-the-empathy-dojo-UcGfNZuk
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    ]]>     266-The Empathy Dojo! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:55 In Episode 266, Ryan and Dr. B discuss the similarities between practicing NVC and working out at a gym. In the end, they decide the analogy might be better framed as being an empathy dojo. Listen in and learn why. In Episode 266, Ryan and Dr. B discuss the similarities between practicing NVC and working out at a gym. In the end, they decide the analogy might be better framed as being an empathy dojo. Listen in and learn why. false full 268     581c2853-3725-4ea8-b161-4030098dd770 265-NVC and Who is Responsible for Your Experience?
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    ]]>     265-NVC and Who is Responsible for Your Experience? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:24 In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan talk about stimulus and response. What is the difference and how does it pertain to NVC. Ultimately, our thinking is responsible for how one experiences any situation and, thus, in all kinds of scenarios (even the really hard ones) we have the ultimate power and responsibility. Is this true? Tune in as we mull this around. In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan talk about stimulus and response. What is the difference and how does it pertain to NVC. Ultimately, our thinking is responsible for how one experiences any situation and, thus, in all kinds of scenarios (even the really hard ones) we have the ultimate power and responsibility. Is this true? Tune in as we mull this around. false full 267     21e19225-5fec-47f3-819c-23663dbf06f2 264-NVC and Family
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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/264-nvc-and-family-6ktR8G1x
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    ]]>     264-NVC and Family Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:43 Why is it that the people with whom we are closest are also the ones with whom we forget to use our NVC skills? What on earth can we do about this? Dr. B and Ryan go into this topic that seems to resonate with so many. Why is it that the people with whom we are closest are also the ones with whom we forget to use our NVC skills? What on earth can we do about this? Dr. B and Ryan go into this topic that seems to resonate with so many. false full 266     353f0e9b-92fb-4d1c-8f94-7fe549857663 263-The Gold Nugget
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    ]]>     Wed, 8 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/263-the-gold-nugget-qDH2VNNc
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    ]]>     263-The Gold Nugget Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:42 Though they have talked about Connecting Requests on previous episodes, here Dr. B and Ryan look at the usefulness of one particular Request when it comes to the issue of sharing intentions versus impact. As it turns out, the NVC Connecting Request, "How was that for you to hear?" can be a very simple way of ensuring that our communications address impact. Listen in to learn more. Though they have talked about Connecting Requests on previous episodes, here Dr. B and Ryan look at the usefulness of one particular Request when it comes to the issue of sharing intentions versus impact. As it turns out, the NVC Connecting Request, "How was that for you to hear?" can be a very simple way of ensuring that our communications address impact. Listen in to learn more. false full 265     67e71bbc-a121-48c6-bb2b-b3cae8d41698 262-Using Curiosity As A Parameter in NVC-Based Conversations
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    ]]>     262-Using Curiosity As A Parameter in NVC-Based Conversations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:27 What if we could enter into all difficult conversations with a sense of curiosity? Even if we don't have NVC skills or knowledge, by just setting the stage with this idea of curiosity - could that be enough to help create connection - even in hard interactions? Join Dr. B and Ryan as they discuss this idea. What if we could enter into all difficult conversations with a sense of curiosity? Even if we don't have NVC skills or knowledge, by just setting the stage with this idea of curiosity - could that be enough to help create connection - even in hard interactions? Join Dr. B and Ryan as they discuss this idea. false full 264     b93e6c57-9904-4aeb-b8dd-489ee7f4758c 261-Feeling Fat and Old, Are These Feelings? Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 24 Sep 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/261-feeling-fat-and-old-are-these-feelings-sFsHuFlu Episode Notes

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    ]]>     261-Feeling Fat and Old, Are These Feelings? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:10 Can you actually feel fat or feel old? Are these actual feelings or thoughts/judgments? Dr. B and Ryan take a deep dive into this question in Episode 261. Can you actually feel fat or feel old? Are these actual feelings or thoughts/judgments? Dr. B and Ryan take a deep dive into this question in Episode 261. false full 263     3c5f5662-0b56-4fc3-9fa9-a8cd46b9667a 260-Humanity, Presence and Proximity
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    ]]>     260-Humanity, Presence and Proximity Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:31 In this episode, Ryan shares about a situation where he had some mournings about how he responded and Dr. B models a bit of empathy. But, the larger discussion has to do with things that shape our views and how staying close and present to people and viewing from primarily and observational lens can create more connection for ourselves and others. In this episode, Ryan shares about a situation where he had some mournings about how he responded and Dr. B models a bit of empathy. But, the larger discussion has to do with things that shape our views and how staying close and present to people and viewing from primarily and observational lens can create more connection for ourselves and others. false full 262     a5353385-2abd-4acd-a184-dcf8e970613a 259-Empathy versus Other Conversational Responses
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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Sep 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/259-empathy-versus-other-conversational-responses-iio_CvUf
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    ]]>     259-Empathy versus Other Conversational Responses Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:24:03 We don't mean to make this a competition between empathy and other ways of responding. In fact, there are times when relating, giving advice, commiserating, championing, etc. might be helpful and connecting. However, in this episode, Dr. B shares some recent experiences where empathy was much in need and "Other Conversational Responses" would have only brought about more harm and disconnection. The point here is not to do away with our responses but to use them with awareness and for the intention towards connection. Most of the time, empathy does bring us to that. We don't mean to make this a competition between empathy and other ways of responding. In fact, there are times when relating, giving advice, commiserating, championing, etc. might be helpful and connecting. However, in this episode, Dr. B shares some recent experiences where empathy was much in need and "Other Conversational Responses" would have only brought about more harm and disconnection. The point here is not to do away with our responses but to use them with awareness and for the intention towards connection. Most of the time, empathy does bring us to that. false full 261     e6143e04-5dbf-4332-85a3-88edf53d53c1 258-Modeling NVC Empathy! Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/258-modeling-nvc-empathy-1Jp8K_cF Episode Notes

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    ]]>     258-Modeling NVC Empathy! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:55 We find it helps to model and practice NVC empathy over and over again. So, that's what we are doing for Episode 258. Ryan was feeling a bit overwhelmed, so Dr. B steps into hearing him deeply and without using those "Other Conversational Responses." Listen in and see what Dr. B is and is not doing so that a sense of connection can occur within Ryan and between Ryan and Dr. B. We find it helps to model and practice NVC empathy over and over again. So, that's what we are doing for Episode 258. Ryan was feeling a bit overwhelmed, so Dr. B steps into hearing him deeply and without using those "Other Conversational Responses." Listen in and see what Dr. B is and is not doing so that a sense of connection can occur within Ryan and between Ryan and Dr. B. false full 260     ac57a6bb-144d-4034-8d82-a8d86fdea467 257-Expressing with Honesty
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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/257-expressing-with-honesty-CN_RgU_L
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    ]]>     257-Expressing with Honesty Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:33 In the NVC world, there tends to be a lot of emphasis on giving empathy and hearing other deeply. However, there is a whole other part of the NVC process that is equally as important - and that is the expressing piece. Listen in to Episode 257, when Dr. B and Ryan discuss how to express in a way that can land a bit easier for the other person involved in the communication. In the NVC world, there tends to be a lot of emphasis on giving empathy and hearing other deeply. However, there is a whole other part of the NVC process that is equally as important - and that is the expressing piece. Listen in to Episode 257, when Dr. B and Ryan discuss how to express in a way that can land a bit easier for the other person involved in the communication. false full 259     da2b243c-da16-4021-8b46-87c762b693a0 256-Start with Empathy
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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/256-start-with-empathy-YglRdvtj
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    ]]>     256-Start with Empathy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:32 At The Bigbie Method, we advocate for starting with empathy first when in conflict. This usually allows for more openness when one goes to express their side of the equation. However, this seems to be a stumbling block for many. Why and how to get around it? Listen in for some ideas and examples to help with this. At The Bigbie Method, we advocate for starting with empathy first when in conflict. This usually allows for more openness when one goes to express their side of the equation. However, this seems to be a stumbling block for many. Why and how to get around it? Listen in for some ideas and examples to help with this. false full 258     3d157e4d-4368-4f07-a177-428c745781f8 255-Parenting and NVC
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    ]]>     Wed, 6 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/255-parenting-and-nvc-q5BGvDqg
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    ]]>     255-Parenting and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:23:55 In this week's episode, Dr. B interviews a longtime student on his application of NVC in the world of parenting. Parenting can bring about so many challenges and just the strategy of listening first (by the parents) can be a game changer. In this week's episode, Dr. B interviews a longtime student on his application of NVC in the world of parenting. Parenting can bring about so many challenges and just the strategy of listening first (by the parents) can be a game changer. false full 257     cff00868-12ac-49ff-b888-6b6adaff259c 254-An Activity for NVC Appreciations
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    ]]>     Wed, 30 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/254-an-activity-for-nvc-appreciations-e4uqHVks
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    ]]>     254-An Activity for NVC Appreciations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:36 One of Dr. B's students emailed her with an activity he created to bolster his NVC skills and it's all around giving appreciations. Dr. B enjoyed hearing about the idea so much, she decided to share it here. We hope it inspires you to try giving appreciations NVC style - out there in the wild wild world. One of Dr. B's students emailed her with an activity he created to bolster his NVC skills and it's all around giving appreciations. Dr. B enjoyed hearing about the idea so much, she decided to share it here. We hope it inspires you to try giving appreciations NVC style - out there in the wild wild world. false full 256     790da55b-c2e5-49ae-8df0-2c299924341e 253-NVC and Reactive vs. Reactive Actions
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    ]]>     Wed, 23 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/253-nvc-and-reactive-vs-reactive-actions-xk6pN_FO
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    ]]>     253-NVC and Reactive vs. Reactive Actions Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:20 In Episode 253, Dr. B takes some time to share about a recent incident where she was both reactive and responsive. Then she draws some parallels to NVC processes and being responsive. Her hope is that in sharing about this, people will take away a deeper understanding of the inner workings of NVC process and how to use the process as a process - instead of merely an intellectual understanding. In Episode 253, Dr. B takes some time to share about a recent incident where she was both reactive and responsive. Then she draws some parallels to NVC processes and being responsive. Her hope is that in sharing about this, people will take away a deeper understanding of the inner workings of NVC process and how to use the process as a process - instead of merely an intellectual understanding. false full 255     277d49da-a2c5-4e55-a75c-36a3de4e4ad8 252-Evaluation in Politics
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    ]]>     Wed, 16 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/252-evaluation-in-politics-X_415uxX
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    ]]>     252-Evaluation in Politics Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:07 In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan give some examples of how evaluations play out in politics and dream about another way - using NVC! Join us here to envision a different way of moving in our political world. Dreaming meets our needs for fun and hope! In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan give some examples of how evaluations play out in politics and dream about another way - using NVC! Join us here to envision a different way of moving in our political world. Dreaming meets our needs for fun and hope! false full 254     39fe2493-33ce-465b-8254-bf6d4da6e067 251-Getting Empathy from People with Different Political Views - Part 2
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    ]]>     Wed, 9 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/251-getting-empathy-from-people-with-different-political-views-part-2-xYAEXX6U
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    ]]>     251-Getting Empathy from People with Different Political Views - Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:31 A few weeks ago, Dr. B shared about a being heard from a friend, with different political views, about a heated political topic. That interaction was set up to be completely one-sided, in that only Dr. B was heard and not the friend. However, it was discussed and agreed upon that if her friend needed to be heard, Dr. B would be willing to hear her within the week. In this episode, Dr. B shares about the second part of the conversation when her friend got to speak and Dr. B listened and leaned in with empathy. Also, in this episode, Dr. B and Ryan discuss experience in its totality and the needs celebrated as a result of having this kind of an interaction. A template is laid out so that others may try the format if they are called to do so. A few weeks ago, Dr. B shared about a being heard from a friend, with different political views, about a heated political topic. That interaction was set up to be completely one-sided, in that only Dr. B was heard and not the friend. However, it was discussed and agreed upon that if her friend needed to be heard, Dr. B would be willing to hear her within the week. In this episode, Dr. B shares about the second part of the conversation when her friend got to speak and Dr. B listened and leaned in with empathy. Also, in this episode, Dr. B and Ryan discuss experience in its totality and the needs celebrated as a result of having this kind of an interaction. A template is laid out so that others may try the format if they are called to do so. false full 253     573d44e5-42e5-4d31-a142-1a67e40b8aaa 250 - Beyond Right and Wrong in NVC
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    ]]>     Wed, 2 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/250-beyond-right-and-wrong-in-nvc-aUzc8wLk
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    ]]>     250 - Beyond Right and Wrong in NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:00 Is it possible to live in a world where we don't look at or label things as good/bad, right/wrong? How and why would this serve us in humanity in any way? Dr. B and Ryan discuss this and more in Episode 250. Is it possible to live in a world where we don't look at or label things as good/bad, right/wrong? How and why would this serve us in humanity in any way? Dr. B and Ryan discuss this and more in Episode 250. false full 252     b21f99f3-668e-4781-bc40-865794f983a7 249-"Sneaky" Judgments
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    ]]>     Wed, 25 Jun 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/249-sneaky-judgments-ftZjuHnF
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    ]]>     249-"Sneaky" Judgments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:21:54 If connection is the "energy that exists within and among people when they experience being seen, heard, and valued without judgment," that begs the question: What is judgment? Dr. B and Ryan take some time here to highlight some of those sneaky judgments that may come into our conversations - even without us knowing it. If connection is the "energy that exists within and among people when they experience being seen, heard, and valued without judgment," that begs the question: What is judgment? Dr. B and Ryan take some time here to highlight some of those sneaky judgments that may come into our conversations - even without us knowing it. false full 251     8019e1fb-10eb-41af-9563-d94bc3449df6 248-About Empathy - Words AND Intention Matter! On Wednesday, June 18th at 12:00 pm EST, join Dr. B in a live virtual session where she will be sharing about the Connect First program and her partnership with Florida State University Resilience Institute for Strength and Empowerment (RISE).  In this live session, we will discuss how the Connect First program targets the development of communication systems and processes so that individuals within those workplaces and organizations have the skills and structures to interact with optimal effectiveness.   To join, please sign up here:  https://fsu.zoom.us/meeting/register/jscul-NeQo2aknvEHCuk7w

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Jun 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/248-about-empathy-words-and-intention-matter-yhc3p9hy-zqyOqiwO On Wednesday, June 18th at 12:00 pm EST, join Dr. B in a live virtual session where she will be sharing about the Connect First program and her partnership with Florida State University Resilience Institute for Strength and Empowerment (RISE).  In this live session, we will discuss how the Connect First program targets the development of communication systems and processes so that individuals within those workplaces and organizations have the skills and structures to interact with optimal effectiveness.   To join, please sign up here:  https://fsu.zoom.us/meeting/register/jscul-NeQo2aknvEHCuk7w

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    ]]>     248-About Empathy - Words AND Intention Matter! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:04 Have you ever tried to use the NVC process - bringing to bear your observations, feelings, needs and request and, still, fall short of the connections for which you are striving? In Episode 248, Dr. B and Ryan discuss the difference between using all the mechanics of NVC towards some end goal (like being right or being heard) versus having a clear intention towards connection and letting the process be secondary. Intention is the key towards connection or not. Listen here to learn more. Have you ever tried to use the NVC process - bringing to bear your observations, feelings, needs and request and, still, fall short of the connections for which you are striving? In Episode 248, Dr. B and Ryan discuss the difference between using all the mechanics of NVC towards some end goal (like being right or being heard) versus having a clear intention towards connection and letting the process be secondary. Intention is the key towards connection or not. Listen here to learn more. false full 250     3ee0796c-5095-4b04-af17-749264ca8f52 247-NVC and AI
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    ]]>     Wed, 11 Jun 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/247-nvc-and-ai-yHNzJ1jG
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    ]]>     247-NVC and AI Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:24:25 In her new partnership with FSU, Dr. B has been in some discussions about developing an AI bot for NVC. Is it possible? What would it be like? What purpose could it serve? Could this possibly replace human beings in the NVC world? All of this and more are explored in Episode 247. In her new partnership with FSU, Dr. B has been in some discussions about developing an AI bot for NVC. Is it possible? What would it be like? What purpose could it serve? Could this possibly replace human beings in the NVC world? All of this and more are explored in Episode 247. false full 248     46878f5c-944e-4f6b-b8d6-336f78b6971c 246-Getting Empathy from People with Different Political Views
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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Jun 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/246-getting-empathy-from-people-with-different-political-views-VXMzOZs_
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    ]]>     246-Getting Empathy from People with Different Political Views Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:22:18 This episode is both a real-time example of Ryan giving Dr. B some empathy on a recent trigger and also some musings on the possibility of arranging conversations where people with different political stances can hear one another. During this recent trigger, Dr. B noticed a strong desire to be heard from somebody, anybody, that has a different perspective. She was very curious about the need behind this particular strategy - so she and Ryan take some time to chat about it. For those interested in bridging the political divide, perhaps there are some ideas brewing here. This episode is both a real-time example of Ryan giving Dr. B some empathy on a recent trigger and also some musings on the possibility of arranging conversations where people with different political stances can hear one another. During this recent trigger, Dr. B noticed a strong desire to be heard from somebody, anybody, that has a different perspective. She was very curious about the need behind this particular strategy - so she and Ryan take some time to chat about it. For those interested in bridging the political divide, perhaps there are some ideas brewing here. false full 247     1b93cee1-0f79-4722-829a-58a8b7a052d7 245 - NVC and Stoicism
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    ]]>     Wed, 28 May 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/245-nvc-and-stoicism-Vmk9F8we
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    ]]>     245 - NVC and Stoicism Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:30 For those of you interested in ancient wisdom and philosophy and it's connection to NVC, Episode 245 might be a special treat for you. Dr. Jeremiah Murphy, Ryan Bonhardt and Dr. B take on Stoicism - what is it and how is it connected to our modern day NVC? For those of you interested in ancient wisdom and philosophy and it's connection to NVC, Episode 245 might be a special treat for you. Dr. Jeremiah Murphy, Ryan Bonhardt and Dr. B take on Stoicism - what is it and how is it connected to our modern day NVC? false full 246     f991ae82-0a68-4c0a-a5a1-b521f1d7c86a 244-Can NVC Show Up on the Pickleball Court?
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    ]]>     Wed, 21 May 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/244-can-nvc-show-up-on-the-pickleball-court-W2C7D1Sp
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    ]]>     244-Can NVC Show Up on the Pickleball Court? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:21:29 This is a random conversation amongst friends partly about pickleball, the emotions that occur in competition and how to use them productively. But it's also an example of how to use NVC while just having a casual, fun conversation with some buddies. And, on top of all that, you get to hear some realness from Dr. B about both her pickleball struggles and how NVC tends to go out the window in competitive situations. So, those of you who still struggle to bring NVC into sticky situations, guess what - you are in good company! Enjoy. This is a random conversation amongst friends partly about pickleball, the emotions that occur in competition and how to use them productively. But it's also an example of how to use NVC while just having a casual, fun conversation with some buddies. And, on top of all that, you get to hear some realness from Dr. B about both her pickleball struggles and how NVC tends to go out the window in competitive situations. So, those of you who still struggle to bring NVC into sticky situations, guess what - you are in good company! Enjoy. false full 245     cd73e2ba-6b55-4716-97a4-8d5035eadff2 243-The Power of Empathy
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    ]]>     Wed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/243-the-power-of-empathy-TneIC1dd
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    ]]>     243-The Power of Empathy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:47 How simple... presence, understanding, needs guesses - that's NVC empathy. When people receive it, all kinds of miraculous things can occur and yet, it's the thing we tend not to do in all kinds of communications. In Episode 243, Dr. B and Ryan discuss this and a few recent personal experiences with the power of empathy. How simple... presence, understanding, needs guesses - that's NVC empathy. When people receive it, all kinds of miraculous things can occur and yet, it's the thing we tend not to do in all kinds of communications. In Episode 243, Dr. B and Ryan discuss this and a few recent personal experiences with the power of empathy. false full 244     74e91f92-b407-4ebf-802d-689f93b04848 242-First World Problem
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    ]]>     Wed, 7 May 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/242-first-world-problem-1TW6PFfi
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    ]]>     242-First World Problem Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:15 Episode 242 is about a recent interaction that Dr. B had while stuck on a plane for 3.5 hours. The interaction did not include empathy and that had Dr. B thinking about what it would have been like to get an empathetic response in that circumstance. For those interested in the contrast between NVC empathy and, what we call, Other Conversational Responses, listen in! Episode 242 is about a recent interaction that Dr. B had while stuck on a plane for 3.5 hours. The interaction did not include empathy and that had Dr. B thinking about what it would have been like to get an empathetic response in that circumstance. For those interested in the contrast between NVC empathy and, what we call, Other Conversational Responses, listen in! false full 243     eadac8b9-3d96-40a6-b3f3-4482c783c829 241-NVC and Havening
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    ]]>     Wed, 30 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/241-nvc-and-havening-pTO9hqkM
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    ]]>     241-NVC and Havening Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:59 Recently Dr. B came across this process called Havening... which is essentially learning how to be your own "safe haven." She has been merging it with the NVC self-empathy process and really enjoying the results. Listen in to learn more. Recently Dr. B came across this process called Havening... which is essentially learning how to be your own "safe haven." She has been merging it with the NVC self-empathy process and really enjoying the results. Listen in to learn more. false full 242     4e878580-3988-4d8d-aa70-bfc227ea9a33 240-Taking on Another Hard Political Issue - Part Two
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    ]]>     Wed, 23 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/240-taking-on-another-hard-political-issue-HJVDdqpQ
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    ]]>     240-Taking on Another Hard Political Issue - Part Two Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:25:05 In Episode 240, we continue on with our conflict between a trans person and the folks backing and/or making a law in Florida where people must use the bathroom of their gender identified at birth. Specifically, Ryan and Dr. B model something called the Enemy Image Process to help all sides humanize one another in the hope of moving towards strategies that can work for all. In Episode 240, we continue on with our conflict between a trans person and the folks backing and/or making a law in Florida where people must use the bathroom of their gender identified at birth. Specifically, Ryan and Dr. B model something called the Enemy Image Process to help all sides humanize one another in the hope of moving towards strategies that can work for all. false full 241     55cbafc2-6750-4df6-a753-175994fc809c 239-NVC Taking on Another Hard Political Issue - Part 1
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    ]]>     Wed, 16 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/239-nvc-taking-on-another-hard-political-issue-part-1-_BsmOPF_
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    ]]>     239-NVC Taking on Another Hard Political Issue - Part 1 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:19 Recently a trans person was arrested in Florida for using the ladies bathroom. We have thoughts there is a lot of emotion around this topic - for people for the new bathroom law and for those against it. Let's take a look at the needs going on for both sides and see what strategies could result when people actually learn how to hear one another. We can at least dream!!! Recently a trans person was arrested in Florida for using the ladies bathroom. We have thoughts there is a lot of emotion around this topic - for people for the new bathroom law and for those against it. Let's take a look at the needs going on for both sides and see what strategies could result when people actually learn how to hear one another. We can at least dream!!! false full 240     be91d5e0-f3dd-4595-b9a4-05e742a9ae28 238-Empathy for Individuals Angry About Our Elon Musk Episode
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    ]]>     Wed, 9 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/238-empathy-for-individuals-angry-about-our-elon-musk-episode-obFkJUax
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    ]]>     238-Empathy for Individuals Angry About Our Elon Musk Episode Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:42 A few weeks ago we did an episode where we gave empathy for Elon Musk about his views on empathy. We heard from several people; some were very grateful for the piece and others were angry. In this episode, we wanted to take some time to give empathy to those of you that might have been triggered by the Elon Musk episode. Also, please be forewarned, we do provide some explanations as well as the empathy - but we also direct people when this occurs and give space for people to choose to hear the explanation or not. We hope, if nothing else, we meet some needs for an attempt at consideration and also that we model the process for those of you listening in. A few weeks ago we did an episode where we gave empathy for Elon Musk about his views on empathy. We heard from several people; some were very grateful for the piece and others were angry. In this episode, we wanted to take some time to give empathy to those of you that might have been triggered by the Elon Musk episode. Also, please be forewarned, we do provide some explanations as well as the empathy - but we also direct people when this occurs and give space for people to choose to hear the explanation or not. We hope, if nothing else, we meet some needs for an attempt at consideration and also that we model the process for those of you listening in. false full 238     5f2b5dc7-fcf4-4373-8cef-3764b25e2097 237-Ryan Ponders Some Things About NVC!
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    ]]>     237-Ryan Ponders Some Things About NVC! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:27 Usually Dr. B comes up with the topics of the day, however in this episode, we change it up. Ryan, our co-host, has some things he's been wondering about and exploring regarding NVC and how it shows up in his life. In Episode 237, we take some time to hear about his musings. Usually Dr. B comes up with the topics of the day, however in this episode, we change it up. Ryan, our co-host, has some things he's been wondering about and exploring regarding NVC and how it shows up in his life. In Episode 237, we take some time to hear about his musings. false full 237     bddb3c31-5abb-4c55-a775-b7a5051dde0b 236-Empathy for Dr. B! Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 26 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/236-empathy-for-dr-b-8kUA1ZvR Episode Notes

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    ]]>     236-Empathy for Dr. B! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:23:28 Dr. Bigbie and Ryan offer this episode to show an example of how to listen with empathy. There is a lot shared regarding a difficult evening for Dr. B and there is a lot of listening from Ryan, but there are also several nuggets of information offered about the nuances of the NVC empathy process. Dr. Bigbie and Ryan offer this episode to show an example of how to listen with empathy. There is a lot shared regarding a difficult evening for Dr. B and there is a lot of listening from Ryan, but there are also several nuggets of information offered about the nuances of the NVC empathy process. false full 236     563fb69f-b6a1-4a49-b029-648937958919 235-Empathy for Elon Musk and His Comment about Empathy!
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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/235-empathy-for-elon-musk-and-his-comment-about-empathy-xeiJjv9t
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    ]]>     235-Empathy for Elon Musk and His Comment about Empathy! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:24:25 There is a recent quote by Elon Musk going around ""The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy." Since one of NVC's major components is empathy, we thought it might be fun and useful to model empathy related to this comment. If under everything, there is a need, we are curious about the need underlying this quote. Let's explore this together in Episode 235. There is a recent quote by Elon Musk going around ""The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy." Since one of NVC's major components is empathy, we thought it might be fun and useful to model empathy related to this comment. If under everything, there is a need, we are curious about the need underlying this quote. Let's explore this together in Episode 235. false full 235     a629bd19-7d29-4009-a989-6fc8daa0227c 234-Three Practices to Remember When in Conflict Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 12 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/234-three-practices-to-remember-when-in-conflict-6PJNhzG2 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     234-Three Practices to Remember When in Conflict Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:14 In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan go through three practices to use when in conflict to help people be heard and, hopefully, have greater connection. These include: using empathy first, using Connecting Requests, and expressing using the OFNR template. Listen in to learn more. In this episode, Dr. B and Ryan go through three practices to use when in conflict to help people be heard and, hopefully, have greater connection. These include: using empathy first, using Connecting Requests, and expressing using the OFNR template. Listen in to learn more. false full 234     19d8fd83-e191-4615-aabd-8b481fe66966 233-NVC with a Toddler Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 5 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/233-nvc-with-a-toddler-ntq1k5ZM Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     233-NVC with a Toddler Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:25:29 This is a judgement, but we think this episode is quite adorable and filled with a lot of wisdom. Dr. B interviews a married couple, both with many years of using NVC. They share about their journey of parenting and some of the strategies they've used and insights they have gained as a result of knowing and embodying NVC principles. This is a judgement, but we think this episode is quite adorable and filled with a lot of wisdom. Dr. B interviews a married couple, both with many years of using NVC. They share about their journey of parenting and some of the strategies they've used and insights they have gained as a result of knowing and embodying NVC principles. false full 233     abba92e2-c9ad-44d7-a8fc-4fdec18bd761 232-Listeners Having a Conflict ABOUT NVC - What to do? Episode Notes

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    ]]>     232-Listeners Having a Conflict ABOUT NVC - What to do? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:38:28 This episode is a bit longer than usual. Dr. B had an inquiry from two of her listeners who were in a conflict about the NVC process and requested some clarity. This is a recording about that conflict and the guidance provided by Dr. B. Hope you enjoy. This episode is a bit longer than usual. Dr. B had an inquiry from two of her listeners who were in a conflict about the NVC process and requested some clarity. This is a recording about that conflict and the guidance provided by Dr. B. Hope you enjoy. false full 232     264d727a-3a31-4600-84af-8b5b27c2f6d2 231-Getting Out of Storyland - How and Why? Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Feb 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/231-getting-out-of-storyland-how-and-why-GVZ9J_XB Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     231-Getting Out of Storyland - How and Why? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:10 How aware are you of the thoughts that you have throughout your day that are not based in observational reality? Do you have any sense of how these thoughts support you or mess you up? Also, are you aware of how these thoughts play out in the midst of a conflict? And what exactly can you do to reroute these thoughts if you notice them and find they are not helpful? Episode 231 with Ryan and Dr. B addresses this topic and more. How aware are you of the thoughts that you have throughout your day that are not based in observational reality? Do you have any sense of how these thoughts support you or mess you up? Also, are you aware of how these thoughts play out in the midst of a conflict? And what exactly can you do to reroute these thoughts if you notice them and find they are not helpful? Episode 231 with Ryan and Dr. B addresses this topic and more. false full 231     1f567463-f5ee-4882-97ba-8afeb8e195c3 230-Connecting Requests - Use Them for Greater Clarity & Emotional Safety Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     230-Connecting Requests - Use Them for Greater Clarity & Emotional Safety Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:04 In this Episode, Dr. B and Ryan share two requests that can be used to forge greater connections in your communications. First, there is a quick review of what NVC connecting requests are - and then they discuss why they tend to be very helpful, especially in hard conversations. In this Episode, Dr. B and Ryan share two requests that can be used to forge greater connections in your communications. First, there is a quick review of what NVC connecting requests are - and then they discuss why they tend to be very helpful, especially in hard conversations. false full 230     df2274da-7c5e-4ea2-a8c0-a2ec5a7e47dc 229-A Template for When to Express Episode Notes

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    ]]>     229-A Template for When to Express Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:17 Do you ever wonder if it's a good time to say something when you are upset about a situation? Or maybe you do express whatever is going on for you and you tend to create disconnection in those moments? Well, in this episode, Dr. B and her colleague Ryan discuss an algorithm that might be helpful when choosing whether to communicate or not. Do you ever wonder if it's a good time to say something when you are upset about a situation? Or maybe you do express whatever is going on for you and you tend to create disconnection in those moments? Well, in this episode, Dr. B and her colleague Ryan discuss an algorithm that might be helpful when choosing whether to communicate or not. false full 229     40eb78e9-a845-4f99-9978-70479e16a78e 228-Why Ryan Loves NVC! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 29 Jan 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/228-why-ryan-loves-nvc-TfBfas8Q Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     228-Why Ryan Loves NVC! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:41 In Episode 228, Dr. B introduces her colleague Ryan Bonhardt and encourages him to share how NVC has impacted his life. While he didn't know exactly what he was stepping into when he and Dr. B first met several years ago, he has reaped many benefits in learning and living the NVC process. Listen in and you might even walk away with a tip or two. In Episode 228, Dr. B introduces her colleague Ryan Bonhardt and encourages him to share how NVC has impacted his life. While he didn't know exactly what he was stepping into when he and Dr. B first met several years ago, he has reaped many benefits in learning and living the NVC process. Listen in and you might even walk away with a tip or two. false full 228     e3a267b5-3ffe-443e-bc78-e3f1d57b21fb 227-Merging NVC and Pickleball Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 22 Jan 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/227-merging-nvc-and-pickleball-7ALCqAUq Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     227-Merging NVC and Pickleball Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:31 Dr. B had some recent epiphanies related to her communication experiences on the pickleball court. Episode 227 shares some of these celebrations and mournings and has some "playful," "creative" ideas on how to merge NVC with pickleball. If you don't play pickleball, much of what is discussed could likely be carried over into other life scenarios. Dr. B had some recent epiphanies related to her communication experiences on the pickleball court. Episode 227 shares some of these celebrations and mournings and has some "playful," "creative" ideas on how to merge NVC with pickleball. If you don't play pickleball, much of what is discussed could likely be carried over into other life scenarios. false full 227     87a7d9f4-7169-41f1-ab2e-8ce3d9b7492a 226-Modeling Empathy Once Again Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Jan 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/226-modeling-empathy-once-again-5g2QMw8u Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     226-Modeling Empathy Once Again Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:14 In Episode 226, Heather models empathy while giving it to Dr. B about her holiday experience. By listening in, you can hear Heather providing presence, reflecting and taking needs guesses. During the episode, the hosts also go over the things that Heather did not do while giving empathy. In Episode 226, Heather models empathy while giving it to Dr. B about her holiday experience. By listening in, you can hear Heather providing presence, reflecting and taking needs guesses. During the episode, the hosts also go over the things that Heather did not do while giving empathy. false full 226     f9823c13-4a29-4a96-81bd-c56e8123fc66 225-Sharing NVC in a Prison Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 8 Jan 2025 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/225-sharing-nvc-in-a-prison-Oul8CPGN Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     225-Sharing NVC in a Prison Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:06 Recently Dr. B spent a day in prison sharing NVC with about 80 inmates. In Episode 225, Dr. B and Heather talk about this experience. We hope you find it interesting and inspiring while listening. Recently Dr. B spent a day in prison sharing NVC with about 80 inmates. In Episode 225, Dr. B and Heather talk about this experience. We hope you find it interesting and inspiring while listening. false full 225     b452f7e4-f1b4-42b1-90a8-0572df492395 224-Comparing Businesses With and Without NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 25 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/224-comparing-businesses-with-and-without-nvc-_saZ9fFR Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     224-Comparing Businesses With and Without NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:23:10 In Episode 224, Dr. B talks with two individuals about their experiences working for organizations with and without NVC. The differences are quite startling and lend to some evidence for why NVC can be helpful in any business or organization. We often hear folks in the business world say that they like the idea of training their folks in NVC but that time is a factor. This episode also sheds some intimate light on why/how NVC can be a time saver in our companies. In Episode 224, Dr. B talks with two individuals about their experiences working for organizations with and without NVC. The differences are quite startling and lend to some evidence for why NVC can be helpful in any business or organization. We often hear folks in the business world say that they like the idea of training their folks in NVC but that time is a factor. This episode also sheds some intimate light on why/how NVC can be a time saver in our companies. false full 224     58a81873-a826-4171-8c0e-322843b96410 223-The Power of Connection Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/223-the-power-of-connection-1NaDMCeq Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     223-The Power of Connection Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:50 In this Episode, Dr. B shares about a sweet experience around the definition of connection that she usually shares with students. She often finds people are quite moved to learn it's not just a definition but a living, breathing experience that can be learned and replicated. This story is about just that! In this Episode, Dr. B shares about a sweet experience around the definition of connection that she usually shares with students. She often finds people are quite moved to learn it's not just a definition but a living, breathing experience that can be learned and replicated. This story is about just that! false full 223     e55de0f9-27d8-436f-b5d9-21a1508b07bb 222-The Connection between Breathing and Presence Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 11 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/222-the-connection-between-breathing-and-presence-OW2s5jHv Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     222-The Connection between Breathing and Presence Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:45 While presence is a key component of NVC, it's hard to come by - especially in trigger situations. So, in Episode 222, Dr. B and Heather explore how intentional breathing may, in fact, help assist in the ever elusive presence that plagues so many of us. While presence is a key component of NVC, it's hard to come by - especially in trigger situations. So, in Episode 222, Dr. B and Heather explore how intentional breathing may, in fact, help assist in the ever elusive presence that plagues so many of us. false full 222     cd911e6a-190a-48cb-84c4-221986a01e96 221-Be the Translator Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/221-be-the-translator-n3_ZqJnA Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     221-Be the Translator Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:04 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss some recent comments of course students regarding the thoughts vs. feelings distinction. Once again, the hosts talk about the importance of this distinction and they share different ideas on how to make knowledge and use of the thought/feeling distinction more automatic and widespread. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss some recent comments of course students regarding the thoughts vs. feelings distinction. Once again, the hosts talk about the importance of this distinction and they share different ideas on how to make knowledge and use of the thought/feeling distinction more automatic and widespread. false full 221     a6bca8cf-c4c3-4335-92fe-3fd1b6f839d0 220-What To Do and Not To Do in Post Election Conversations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Nov 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/220-what-to-do-and-not-to-do-in-post-election-conversations-Blhlzzmw Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     220-What To Do and Not To Do in Post Election Conversations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:43 In a country where so many people don't see eye to eye on issues and candidates, many are struggling with how to have conversations that move folks towards connection instead of the opposite. In Episode 220, Dr. B and some of her Empathy Gym attendees talk about this issue and provide some insight on the things we tend to do that cause more disconnection and what we can do while in conversations to help promote more connection and understanding. In a country where so many people don't see eye to eye on issues and candidates, many are struggling with how to have conversations that move folks towards connection instead of the opposite. In Episode 220, Dr. B and some of her Empathy Gym attendees talk about this issue and provide some insight on the things we tend to do that cause more disconnection and what we can do while in conversations to help promote more connection and understanding. false full 220     c590092a-2df6-4124-b069-644b251cb0b6 219-Needs Met and Unmet by Gossiping Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Nov 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/219-needs-met-and-unmet-by-gossiping-rY43s0Ls Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     219-Needs Met and Unmet by Gossiping Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:16 Dr. B had an interesting conversation with a friend where some learnings were unpacked about the needs met and unmet when someone talks about someone behind their back. Dr. B got permission to share about this interaction and some of the takeaways about it. Listen in to learn more... Dr. B had an interesting conversation with a friend where some learnings were unpacked about the needs met and unmet when someone talks about someone behind their back. Dr. B got permission to share about this interaction and some of the takeaways about it. Listen in to learn more... false full 219     05b9ffc1-db49-4315-97d5-4d99dc228bcc 218-No More "Othering!" Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Nov 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/218-no-more-othering-JNS8l0HI Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     218-No More "Othering!" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:32 Fresh off the 2024 Election - Dr. B and Heather share about a strategy to create a bit more connection in our country. It all starts with a baseball cap... Listen in as Dr. B shares her idea about a movement to stop the "Othering." Fresh off the 2024 Election - Dr. B and Heather share about a strategy to create a bit more connection in our country. It all starts with a baseball cap... Listen in as Dr. B shares her idea about a movement to stop the "Othering." false full 218     dcd95cf4-9418-416c-8682-830674ae2aab 217-NVC in the Hood, Part 2 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 6 Nov 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/217-nvc-in-the-hood-part-2-Epr7Hclf Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     217-NVC in the Hood, Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:30 Back for another Episode, Dr. B's long time friend and colleague shares some more stories of showing up with his NVC skills on the streets of Houston. Listen in as you hear about the magic being sprinkled about as Te'Von goes about his day. Back for another Episode, Dr. B's long time friend and colleague shares some more stories of showing up with his NVC skills on the streets of Houston. Listen in as you hear about the magic being sprinkled about as Te'Von goes about his day. false full 217     16009a5a-1377-483d-8181-87d94adb0e01 216-NVC in the Hood Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 30 Oct 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/216-nvc-in-the-hood-Z_9nYfvA Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     216-NVC in the Hood Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:29 In Episode 216, Dr. B talks with a long-time friend and colleague about his experiences using NVC throughout his life - both for internal process as well as day-to-day interactions with folks in his neighborhood. Te'Von Patterson started with NVC by wandering into Dr. B's restorative justice program over 10 years ago - and it has quite literally changed his life. Listen in to hear some interesting stories of NVC in the hood! In Episode 216, Dr. B talks with a long-time friend and colleague about his experiences using NVC throughout his life - both for internal process as well as day-to-day interactions with folks in his neighborhood. Te'Von Patterson started with NVC by wandering into Dr. B's restorative justice program over 10 years ago - and it has quite literally changed his life. Listen in to hear some interesting stories of NVC in the hood! false full 216     bf7f479b-a5b3-440c-9406-9e29962bfaa0 215-Rerouting Judgments Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 23 Oct 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/215-rerouting-judgments-0t_SLlGo Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     215-Rerouting Judgments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:24 Do you ever have big reactions or emotions to things that occur in life? And do you find your inner talk to be supportive in these situations? Dr. B and Heather use this episode to model a short exercise that folks can do to help shift their interpretations and judgments into what they think is something that provides more clarity and inner peace. We hope you enjoy. Do you ever have big reactions or emotions to things that occur in life? And do you find your inner talk to be supportive in these situations? Dr. B and Heather use this episode to model a short exercise that folks can do to help shift their interpretations and judgments into what they think is something that provides more clarity and inner peace. We hope you enjoy. false full 215     4a96d0ef-1943-48e3-bf2e-f7f18a255dea 214-Reflections on Responses During a Cat 4 Hurricane Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     214-Reflections on Responses During a Cat 4 Hurricane Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:19 In Episode 214, Dr. B shares about her recent experience with Hurricane Helene. She reflects upon the kinds of things that people often say during crises and what tends to be more connecting for her in these circumstances. She also has some mournings around her own presence and ability to stay with her NVC skills while preparing emotionally and physically for a Cat 4 storm. Lots to learn and lots to redo! In Episode 214, Dr. B shares about her recent experience with Hurricane Helene. She reflects upon the kinds of things that people often say during crises and what tends to be more connecting for her in these circumstances. She also has some mournings around her own presence and ability to stay with her NVC skills while preparing emotionally and physically for a Cat 4 storm. Lots to learn and lots to redo! false full 214     23350a05-d4c7-4ff8-9586-c700ffba90ad 213-The Freeze Game Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 9 Oct 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/213-the-freeze-game-Bdj6QzJr Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     213-The Freeze Game Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:52 During Episode 213, Dr. B and Heather embark upon a game of "Freeze" where anyone, at any point, can call freeze and then they each have to stop and self-connect. There is a ton of laughter and, we hope, learning in this piece. With some aha moments around our feelings. We tend to place a lot of attention on our daily feelings and this Freeze game may help listeners experience feelings in a different light. We hope you enjoy! During Episode 213, Dr. B and Heather embark upon a game of "Freeze" where anyone, at any point, can call freeze and then they each have to stop and self-connect. There is a ton of laughter and, we hope, learning in this piece. With some aha moments around our feelings. We tend to place a lot of attention on our daily feelings and this Freeze game may help listeners experience feelings in a different light. We hope you enjoy! false full 213     23aa04b9-1be7-4718-a7c2-e970d62908f7 212-Jackal Your Ass Off! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 2 Oct 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/212-jackal-your-ass-off-pYBFO9_9 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     212-Jackal Your Ass Off! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:07 In the NVC world, Jackal refers to blame. That might sound "bad," but in NVC, we learn to honor and listen to our jackals. They have valuable information and are trying to get our attention regarding needs not met in the moment. Dr. B and Heather have a lot of fun with this topic. Hope you enjoy. In the NVC world, Jackal refers to blame. That might sound "bad," but in NVC, we learn to honor and listen to our jackals. They have valuable information and are trying to get our attention regarding needs not met in the moment. Dr. B and Heather have a lot of fun with this topic. Hope you enjoy. false full 212     fd80765a-73ad-4365-a444-e3f379bbb3e9 211-The BEST Podcast on the Face of the Earth Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     211-The BEST Podcast on the Face of the Earth Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:18 The title of this week's episode is used to grab your attention. In fact, the content discussed by Dr. B and Heather is about the use of judgments when paying someone a compliment. Together, the hosts discuss some of the needs not met by compliments and they also model how compliments can be handled in NVC fashion. The title of this week's episode is used to grab your attention. In fact, the content discussed by Dr. B and Heather is about the use of judgments when paying someone a compliment. Together, the hosts discuss some of the needs not met by compliments and they also model how compliments can be handled in NVC fashion. false full 211     e66a8c59-21c5-4263-bf76-81ee8adbbcf5 210-A Real Time NVC Conversation... Modeled Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Sep 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/210-a-real-time-nvc-conversation-modeled-8eGOU5dK Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     210-A Real Time NVC Conversation... Modeled Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:31 Dr. B and Heather had a hard time coming up with a topic for this episode, so they decided to just talk about what was alive for them around this and model using the NVC structure while doing so. Let's say, the episode takes on a rather organic flavor - but through it empathy, expression, connecting requests and use of Other Conversational Responses are shown. Dr. B and Heather had a hard time coming up with a topic for this episode, so they decided to just talk about what was alive for them around this and model using the NVC structure while doing so. Let's say, the episode takes on a rather organic flavor - but through it empathy, expression, connecting requests and use of Other Conversational Responses are shown. false full 210     1d5d5e49-fee6-4df5-9f95-9b9e3dd5dbae 209- Fantasizing About NVC in Politics Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     209- Fantasizing About NVC in Politics Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:56 Are you fed up with politics today? Well, Dr. B and Heather play around with the idea of seeing NVC in a political campaign. Yes, this is probably a great big dream, a fantasy, but listen in so you can dream along with us - or at least laugh. Are you fed up with politics today? Well, Dr. B and Heather play around with the idea of seeing NVC in a political campaign. Yes, this is probably a great big dream, a fantasy, but listen in so you can dream along with us - or at least laugh. false full 209     669f49a4-a182-477f-90c8-09320eefb05b 208-The Need Behind the No! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Sep 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/208-the-need-behind-the-no-kYuvwvCi Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     208-The Need Behind the No! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:06 Hearing a "no" or saying "no" can be hard and uncomfortable. But, when using NVC, a "no" message carries with it a deeper meaning. Every "no" is someone trying to express about a need that they have in play. This is a radically different way of experiencing "no" Dr. B and Heather discuss all of this and more in Episode 208. Hearing a "no" or saying "no" can be hard and uncomfortable. But, when using NVC, a "no" message carries with it a deeper meaning. Every "no" is someone trying to express about a need that they have in play. This is a radically different way of experiencing "no" Dr. B and Heather discuss all of this and more in Episode 208. false full 208     ee5f1a23-d025-464b-95c1-8316ec0ec4a0 207-Four Ways to Hear a Hard Message Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Aug 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/207-four-ways-to-hear-a-hard-message-sxN3ftoF Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     207-Four Ways to Hear a Hard Message Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:48 In Episode 207, Dr. B and Heather go back to the basics of NVC. Ever heard NVC referred to as "Giraffe Language?" Ever wonder why? This is one of the things discussed along with contrasting giraffe with jackal language and giving some examples of how these might sound in conversations. In Episode 207, Dr. B and Heather go back to the basics of NVC. Ever heard NVC referred to as "Giraffe Language?" Ever wonder why? This is one of the things discussed along with contrasting giraffe with jackal language and giving some examples of how these might sound in conversations. false full 207     826549d8-cc31-4c2b-9df2-4b80ffdb3e64 206- Rerun of Three Main Takeaways From Our Intro to NVC Class Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Aug 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/155-three-main-takeaways-from-our-intro-to-nvc-class-cwkaddtv-wilneS9j Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     206- Rerun of Three Main Takeaways From Our Intro to NVC Class Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:01 There is so much to the NVC model and it can often be very overwhelming for people in the learning process. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather attempt to simplify it a bit by sharing about three key components that, individually, are very useful and, combined, can be revolutionary in our communications. There is so much to the NVC model and it can often be very overwhelming for people in the learning process. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather attempt to simplify it a bit by sharing about three key components that, individually, are very useful and, combined, can be revolutionary in our communications. false full 206     f9de91b8-3c38-4e9c-9abd-f1d91024f274 205-When Someone Says "Don't Use that NVC Stuff on Me!" Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Aug 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/205-when-someone-says-dont-use-that-nvc-stuff-on-me-IYhS3Xc_ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     205-When Someone Says "Don't Use that NVC Stuff on Me!" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:48 Have you ever been in a situation where you are trying to have connection by using your NVC language and the recipient doesn't like and doesn't want you to use it? It's a pickle! What does one do? How does one stay in integrity with the values they hold in conversations and connections and uses NVC as a strategy to do just that - but then can't use it? Dr. B and Heather discuss the confusion and other difficult emotions that occur in such a situation and they model how the conversation might go. We hope you find it useful. Have you ever been in a situation where you are trying to have connection by using your NVC language and the recipient doesn't like and doesn't want you to use it? It's a pickle! What does one do? How does one stay in integrity with the values they hold in conversations and connections and uses NVC as a strategy to do just that - but then can't use it? Dr. B and Heather discuss the confusion and other difficult emotions that occur in such a situation and they model how the conversation might go. We hope you find it useful. false full 205     17e4b1f1-5250-4153-a647-d0b82fdd16dc 204-Abolishing Adverbs and Adjectives Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 7 Aug 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/204-abolishing-adverbs-and-adjectives-EkSX6WKJ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     204-Abolishing Adverbs and Adjectives Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:08 This Episode really meets our needs for fun and playfulness. Dr. B and Heather explore the possibility of speaking without using adverbs and adjectives. It proved to meet needs for lots of challenge. They laugh a bunch throughout the recording and hope it will bring you some joy and laughter as well. This Episode really meets our needs for fun and playfulness. Dr. B and Heather explore the possibility of speaking without using adverbs and adjectives. It proved to meet needs for lots of challenge. They laugh a bunch throughout the recording and hope it will bring you some joy and laughter as well. false full 204     f3ace954-470b-41f8-a038-38b2249cc4ec 203-Sometime Being Heard IS the Solution! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 31 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/203-sometime-being-heard-is-the-solution-02aWllGM Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     203-Sometime Being Heard IS the Solution! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:04 In our society when conflicts and difficult situations arise, we are quick to look for solutions - sometimes with success and sometimes not. In Episode 203, Dr B shares a personal recent story where she had the epiphany that JUST being heard was actually the solution. Join us to learn more. In our society when conflicts and difficult situations arise, we are quick to look for solutions - sometimes with success and sometimes not. In Episode 203, Dr B shares a personal recent story where she had the epiphany that JUST being heard was actually the solution. Join us to learn more. false full 203     9fe1252e-2a0c-4d49-80c0-b6a265193c4b 202-Getting Mystical! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 24 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/202-getting-mystical-mci_70Zo Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     202-Getting Mystical! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:24 A recent book read by Heather and Dr. B spurred this conversations about the overlap between seeing past someone's physical format and how that relates to NVC. We have thoughts that this topic may be a bit mystical and out there for some folks - but hang with it because there are some tips/ideas at the end that we believe may be useful. Enjoy! A recent book read by Heather and Dr. B spurred this conversations about the overlap between seeing past someone's physical format and how that relates to NVC. We have thoughts that this topic may be a bit mystical and out there for some folks - but hang with it because there are some tips/ideas at the end that we believe may be useful. Enjoy! false full 202     db1dfb72-aa9e-4183-bfed-728fa8776283 201-Is Hurt a Feeling or Thought? Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/201-is-hurt-a-feeling-or-thought-5v4worfG Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     201-Is Hurt a Feeling or Thought? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:57 Dr, B and Heather explore using the word "hurt" when trying to express ones feelings. Sometimes when people use this word to express what is going on with them, it has the potential to cause more disconnection. Why is that and what are some alternatives that can be used to avoid creating more disconnection in a conflict situation. Join us in Episode 201 to explore this word! Dr, B and Heather explore using the word "hurt" when trying to express ones feelings. Sometimes when people use this word to express what is going on with them, it has the potential to cause more disconnection. Why is that and what are some alternatives that can be used to avoid creating more disconnection in a conflict situation. Join us in Episode 201 to explore this word! false full 201     6db69f95-119e-49ac-8320-9fc2ad252aff 200-Being Heard Rocks! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/200-being-heard-rocks-ExWYldI_ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     200-Being Heard Rocks! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:35 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss how beneficial it is to be heard - especially when upset or in a funk! It seems like such a simple thing to have in life, yet many of us don't have it. Dr. B shares about some recent experiences when she was just heard and the inner response she had as a result of that gift. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss how beneficial it is to be heard - especially when upset or in a funk! It seems like such a simple thing to have in life, yet many of us don't have it. Dr. B shares about some recent experiences when she was just heard and the inner response she had as a result of that gift. false full 200     74764948-005b-4f36-8139-a5c27c8ddaa9 199-I'm An Asshole vs. I'm Mourning Awareness! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 3 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/199-im-an-asshole-vs-im-mourning-awareness-VKlcviu4 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     199-I'm An Asshole vs. I'm Mourning Awareness! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:31 Episode 199 is Dr. B going solo and sharing a recent "mourning." First she goes over the concepts of Mournings and Celebrations for those new to them. Then she shares out about a recent experience and models the difference of using jackal or blame vs. giraffe or empathy/needs guesses. The situation she shares also provides an example of how using evaluations instead of observations can lead us down the disconnected path.! Episode 199 is Dr. B going solo and sharing a recent "mourning." First she goes over the concepts of Mournings and Celebrations for those new to them. Then she shares out about a recent experience and models the difference of using jackal or blame vs. giraffe or empathy/needs guesses. The situation she shares also provides an example of how using evaluations instead of observations can lead us down the disconnected path.! false full 199     89470b06-2f02-4438-9e6e-f212acdb6b3e 198-Time Constraints and Listening Deeply Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 26 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/198-time-constraints-and-listening-deeply-9Efr8ANk Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     198-Time Constraints and Listening Deeply Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:16 Ever get into a situation where someone needs to be heard and you don't have time or aren't well resourced yourself? What to do? What to do? Well, this is exactly what Heather and Dr. B discuss at length in this episode. Ever get into a situation where someone needs to be heard and you don't have time or aren't well resourced yourself? What to do? What to do? Well, this is exactly what Heather and Dr. B discuss at length in this episode. false full 198     8856d0cb-62a1-47fb-ae94-e7e609e10082 197-One Simple Solution for Less Conflict! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/197-one-simple-solution-for-less-conflict-_1qsA_CC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     197-One Simple Solution for Less Conflict! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:58 Do you feel like you want to listen to this Episode? No you don't "feel like" it! You might THINK you want to listen and feel excited by that thought but Heather and Dr. B explain why you don't feel like you want to listen to this. All joking aside though... in this recording, there is lengthy discussion on the difference between thoughts and feelings and why knowing and applying this distinction can be a game changer when moving through conflict. Do you feel like you want to listen to this Episode? No you don't "feel like" it! You might THINK you want to listen and feel excited by that thought but Heather and Dr. B explain why you don't feel like you want to listen to this. All joking aside though... in this recording, there is lengthy discussion on the difference between thoughts and feelings and why knowing and applying this distinction can be a game changer when moving through conflict. false full 197     d1ecf5af-d32c-4d0d-a547-b897a9465496 196-Ping Pong Relating Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 12 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/196-ping-pong-relating-GMW_w4_L Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     196-Ping Pong Relating Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:59 Many people get interested in NVC in order to be able to navigate conflict situations with more ease. However, on the NVC journey, we often see how our everyday communication may not be the most effective for connecting, even in relatively neutral situations. In this episode, Heather and Dr. B have some playful commentary and fun related to this topic. Many people get interested in NVC in order to be able to navigate conflict situations with more ease. However, on the NVC journey, we often see how our everyday communication may not be the most effective for connecting, even in relatively neutral situations. In this episode, Heather and Dr. B have some playful commentary and fun related to this topic. false full 196     542021ca-9bcd-45f4-bf74-5e4479851b23 195-NVC on a College Campus Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 5 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/195-nvc-on-a-college-campus-goE5wWyH Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     195-NVC on a College Campus Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:27:20 In this Episode, Dr. B has a discussion with Dr. Berg Miller from Buffalo State University. Dr. Berg has participated in The Bigbie Method consistently for the past year with an intent on embodying Social Work process while teaching about it. She has found The Bigbie Method to be invaluable on many fronts. Listen in to learn more. In this Episode, Dr. B has a discussion with Dr. Berg Miller from Buffalo State University. Dr. Berg has participated in The Bigbie Method consistently for the past year with an intent on embodying Social Work process while teaching about it. She has found The Bigbie Method to be invaluable on many fronts. Listen in to learn more. false full 195     302cd1bd-78a9-4aab-bdba-946c92fc8879 194-NVC in the Sports World Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 29 May 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/193-nvc-in-the-sports-world-HVNHrVv9 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     194-NVC in the Sports World Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:01 In Episode 194, Dr. B interviews her colleague, Ryan Bonhardt, regarding his work as a college soccer coach and the role that NVC plays for him. They also discuss various coaching styles and what seems to work and be up and coming in the sports/coaching world. Guess what? NVC fits right in! Listen in to be inspired about yet another place where NVC can be very helpful. In Episode 194, Dr. B interviews her colleague, Ryan Bonhardt, regarding his work as a college soccer coach and the role that NVC plays for him. They also discuss various coaching styles and what seems to work and be up and coming in the sports/coaching world. Guess what? NVC fits right in! Listen in to be inspired about yet another place where NVC can be very helpful. false full 193     0d1d5b5b-6277-4259-b63a-c7787be79c24 193-Heather and Dr. B Have It Out - NVC Style! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 22 May 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/192-heather-and-dr-b-have-it-out-nvc-style-jkU6_Wqu Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     193-Heather and Dr. B Have It Out - NVC Style! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:40 In this episode, Heather and Dr. B do a role play where two people are in conflict and one person has NVC skills. This is one of those tricky moments, with which many NVC folks struggle. So, how does it sound in conflict when one person has "giraffe ears" and the other doesn't. Listen in to hear the potential for this kind of communication. In this episode, Heather and Dr. B do a role play where two people are in conflict and one person has NVC skills. This is one of those tricky moments, with which many NVC folks struggle. So, how does it sound in conflict when one person has "giraffe ears" and the other doesn't. Listen in to hear the potential for this kind of communication. false full 192     d99c6ff7-f488-4883-8944-a803d41012c1 191-The Parrot Person Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 May 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/191-the-parrot-person-SJyedhS4 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     191-The Parrot Person Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:37 We this Episode 191 is a playful piece where Dr. B and Heather joke around about the reflecting component of NVC empathy. In between the joking, they share some insights on why reflecting too much may be counterproductive for connection and ways to make the process land with a little more authenticity. We this Episode 191 is a playful piece where Dr. B and Heather joke around about the reflecting component of NVC empathy. In between the joking, they share some insights on why reflecting too much may be counterproductive for connection and ways to make the process land with a little more authenticity. false full 191     4397964b-acdf-415d-90ec-35e7d8f11822 191-Modeling Empathy Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 8 May 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/191-modeling-empathy-I8gQUaFI Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     191-Modeling Empathy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:28 It's been a while but, every now and then, Heather and Dr. B like to model empathy so that people have an idea how it actually sounds. In this episode, Dr. B takes some time to give Heather some empathy on a real life situation. As you listen, see if you can pick out the three components of presence, reflection and needs guesses. Notice, also, what usual responses are not part of the conversation. Building awareness is a big part of the NVC journey. We hope you enjoy. It's been a while but, every now and then, Heather and Dr. B like to model empathy so that people have an idea how it actually sounds. In this episode, Dr. B takes some time to give Heather some empathy on a real life situation. As you listen, see if you can pick out the three components of presence, reflection and needs guesses. Notice, also, what usual responses are not part of the conversation. Building awareness is a big part of the NVC journey. We hope you enjoy. false full 190     aa68cc33-e901-406e-8b41-1c57b5a2c3df 190-Dan's Story Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 1 May 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/190-dans-story-WrXoxntk Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     190-Dan's Story Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:51 In Episode 190, Dr. B talks with one of her recent students about a quick interaction with a stranger that highlights the power and potential of NVC. In Episode 190, Dr. B talks with one of her recent students about a quick interaction with a stranger that highlights the power and potential of NVC. false full 189     c48840af-c9ce-4427-be12-52ce6dd2c614 189-Back to the Basics Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 24 Apr 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/189-back-to-the-basics-AXmKzRB5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     189-Back to the Basics Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:34 It's been a while since Heather and Dr. B talked only about the NVC model ala The Bigbie Method, so in Episode 189 they do just that. If you are a beginner or have been listening for a while, we think you will gain some insights and gentle reminders about how all of this works. It's been a while since Heather and Dr. B talked only about the NVC model ala The Bigbie Method, so in Episode 189 they do just that. If you are a beginner or have been listening for a while, we think you will gain some insights and gentle reminders about how all of this works. false full 188     04f73269-5a1e-457d-a0d2-7bf66dddd496 188-NVC Done Differently! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 Apr 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/188-nvc-done-differently-2cESg2mh Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     188-NVC Done Differently! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:08 Why is The Bigbie Method unique when it comes to its curriculum and process of teaching and scaling NVC? Episode 188 reveals what sets The Bigbie Method apart from other kinds of trainings. Why is The Bigbie Method unique when it comes to its curriculum and process of teaching and scaling NVC? Episode 188 reveals what sets The Bigbie Method apart from other kinds of trainings. false full 187     81d5420e-5737-4abd-b487-5ef47eeb9ab0 187-The Sound of Silence Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Apr 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/187-the-sound-of-silence-fo_g07M5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     187-The Sound of Silence Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:10 Silence can be quite awkward in interactions; whether it be in everyday conversations, when listening to a friend in need or during a conflict. There is a tendency to fill in our silence with words. In Episode 187, Heather and Dr. B explore some of the reasons for this and also explain the gifts that silence allows for when we are brave enough to invite it into our conversations. Silence can be quite awkward in interactions; whether it be in everyday conversations, when listening to a friend in need or during a conflict. There is a tendency to fill in our silence with words. In Episode 187, Heather and Dr. B explore some of the reasons for this and also explain the gifts that silence allows for when we are brave enough to invite it into our conversations. false full 186     8326938d-6873-4a1a-ba3a-1ada1da44927 186-The Impossibility of Presence Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 3 Apr 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/186-the-impossibility-of-presence-kwscf1Zc Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     186-The Impossibility of Presence Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:57 In Episode 186 Dr. B and Heather talk about Dr. B's recent experience with the Presence Process and how hard it is to stay present in all kinds of circumstances. They also discuss how and why all of this relates to the NVC process. We hope you enjoy! In Episode 186 Dr. B and Heather talk about Dr. B's recent experience with the Presence Process and how hard it is to stay present in all kinds of circumstances. They also discuss how and why all of this relates to the NVC process. We hope you enjoy! false full 185     7d2ac8a9-0789-4122-bf84-cd8b6d137060 185-Dr. B's Mournings and Celebrations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Mar 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/185-dr-bs-mournings-and-celebrations-Ie3FAC_H Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     185-Dr. B's Mournings and Celebrations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:24 In Episode 185, Dr. B shares directly to her audience about her own inner dialogue and process of Mournings and Celebrations. While going through her morning routine and using the Mournings and Celebrations process it occurred to Dr. B that some folks might find it helpful to hear her own processing. How does this stuff work in "real life?" This Episode gives you some insight into the Mournings and Celebrations process through Dr. B's sharing of her own thought process. We hope you find it useful. In Episode 185, Dr. B shares directly to her audience about her own inner dialogue and process of Mournings and Celebrations. While going through her morning routine and using the Mournings and Celebrations process it occurred to Dr. B that some folks might find it helpful to hear her own processing. How does this stuff work in "real life?" This Episode gives you some insight into the Mournings and Celebrations process through Dr. B's sharing of her own thought process. We hope you find it useful. false full 184     009d6def-aa4f-45d1-a3f5-42c9c6ff32d4 184-A Discussion on Praise, Encouragement, Feedback and NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Mar 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/184-a-discussion-on-praise-encouragement-feedback-and-nvc-aS9A5_bf Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     184-A Discussion on Praise, Encouragement, Feedback and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:21 In Episode 184, Dr. B and Heather address a listener's questions about praise, encouragement, and feedback and how NVC fits with these concepts. Is there a place for praise, encouragement and feedback in NVC and what exactly does that look like? Also, in NVC many folks use the terms Mournings and Celebrations; how do these fit into the discussion. Tune in to Episode 184 to learn! In Episode 184, Dr. B and Heather address a listener's questions about praise, encouragement, and feedback and how NVC fits with these concepts. Is there a place for praise, encouragement and feedback in NVC and what exactly does that look like? Also, in NVC many folks use the terms Mournings and Celebrations; how do these fit into the discussion. Tune in to Episode 184 to learn! false full 183     17951d06-1b3b-4598-a3ba-c74d1972650d 183-Getting Literal - NVC and Parenting on the Autism Spectrum Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Mar 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/183-getting-literal-nvc-and-parenting-on-the-autism-spectrum-CjJ49uOv Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     183-Getting Literal - NVC and Parenting on the Autism Spectrum Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:49 In Episode 183, Dr. B interviews a special guest who also is one of her facilitators and who has some very personal and upfront experiences with NVC and Autism. There are many reasons why NVC can be useful for folks on the Spectrum - listen in and learn why. In Episode 183, Dr. B interviews a special guest who also is one of her facilitators and who has some very personal and upfront experiences with NVC and Autism. There are many reasons why NVC can be useful for folks on the Spectrum - listen in and learn why. false full 182     333cfcb8-31aa-4824-b6b9-8b11004acb63 182-Jackal and Giraffe Duke it Out! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 6 Mar 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/182-jackal-and-giraffe-duke-it-out-kC4d5Yb_ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     182-Jackal and Giraffe Duke it Out! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:12 What happens when you are in a conflict and one person brings their NVC skills (giraffe) and the other doesn't (jackal)? Have you ever been in a conflict where you are trying to use NVC and the other person is saying things about you that are not true for you and painful for you to hear? What on earth does one do in those kinds of situations? It's tricky! It's hard! In Episode 182, Dr. B and Heather discuss this and more. What happens when you are in a conflict and one person brings their NVC skills (giraffe) and the other doesn't (jackal)? Have you ever been in a conflict where you are trying to use NVC and the other person is saying things about you that are not true for you and painful for you to hear? What on earth does one do in those kinds of situations? It's tricky! It's hard! In Episode 182, Dr. B and Heather discuss this and more. false full 181     93dee0a2-4064-4ac6-a12a-2190cec2e192 181-There's No Crying in Pickleball - Emotions and NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Feb 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/181-theres-no-crying-in-pickleball-emotions-and-nvc-sJZI5DgV Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     181-There's No Crying in Pickleball - Emotions and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:03 Dr. B gets a little personal and vulnerable when she shares about her Pickleball woes in Episode 181. The reason for the share is to explore the conundrum of allowing for emotions (for optimal health, well being and self connection) yet being in a world where emotionality is sometimes frowned upon or not accepted. How does one balance all of this? Listen in to Episode 181 for some honest sharing and musings on this subject. Dr. B gets a little personal and vulnerable when she shares about her Pickleball woes in Episode 181. The reason for the share is to explore the conundrum of allowing for emotions (for optimal health, well being and self connection) yet being in a world where emotionality is sometimes frowned upon or not accepted. How does one balance all of this? Listen in to Episode 181 for some honest sharing and musings on this subject. false full 180     2a2809de-a4a3-444c-a041-b9a3bd56c191 180-Using NVC for Movement in Movements Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Feb 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/180-using-nvc-for-movement-in-movements-zpEVBrSW Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     180-Using NVC for Movement in Movements Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:20 In Episode 180, Dr. B meets with Dr. Jeremiah Murphy, President of Connection First which is a non-profit with the mission of "build peace and repair harm in Tallahassee/Leon County." Connection First was recently awarded a contract with the Tallahassee for a restorative justice program. In this episode, Dr. Murphy discusses how he used NVC to help steer conversations with many governmental entities over the course of several years to see the vision of restorative justice come to fruition. The episode can be helpful for individuals having challenging conversations in the midst of social change initiatives. In Episode 180, Dr. B meets with Dr. Jeremiah Murphy, President of Connection First which is a non-profit with the mission of "build peace and repair harm in Tallahassee/Leon County." Connection First was recently awarded a contract with the Tallahassee for a restorative justice program. In this episode, Dr. Murphy discusses how he used NVC to help steer conversations with many governmental entities over the course of several years to see the vision of restorative justice come to fruition. The episode can be helpful for individuals having challenging conversations in the midst of social change initiatives. false full 179     51452ac3-8ec9-43c1-a6fd-92898a6afb7e 179-Intentionally Not Hearing What Someone Is Saying Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Feb 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/179-intentionally-not-hearing-what-someone-is-saying-8CIow_kQ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     179-Intentionally Not Hearing What Someone Is Saying Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:34 A listener called in with a question about Marshall's quote regarding "not hearing what someone is saying." Better late than never, Dr. B and Heather do their best in taking on this subject. Listen in to Episode 179 to learn more. A listener called in with a question about Marshall's quote regarding "not hearing what someone is saying." Better late than never, Dr. B and Heather do their best in taking on this subject. Listen in to Episode 179 to learn more. false full 178     1d700505-dca8-416a-b8da-7d09e032bdad 178-Mastering NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 7 Feb 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/178-mastering-nvc-_xcOaHOR Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     178-Mastering NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:33 Episode 178 is all about the elusive "mastery" of NVC. We find it's not really attainable - but that we can all get closer to it by putting in place several strategies. Dr. B and Heather talk about all of this and more in our current episode. Episode 178 is all about the elusive "mastery" of NVC. We find it's not really attainable - but that we can all get closer to it by putting in place several strategies. Dr. B and Heather talk about all of this and more in our current episode. false full 177     2d139aa1-7d8d-46e3-b449-98e4edaf5f7a 176-NVC and Parenting Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 31 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/176-nvc-and-parenting-9Evmqw0v Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     176-NVC and Parenting Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:35 Dr. B interviews her colleague, friend, and Bigbie Method facilitator, Juliana, during this episode. Juliana has a 14 month child and has lots to share about how NVC is shaping her parenting journey. Listen in to hear some of her insights, learnings, and gratitude for NVC as relatively new parent. Dr. B interviews her colleague, friend, and Bigbie Method facilitator, Juliana, during this episode. Juliana has a 14 month child and has lots to share about how NVC is shaping her parenting journey. Listen in to hear some of her insights, learnings, and gratitude for NVC as relatively new parent. false full 175     e71f8720-e92a-4d9f-83ef-8637e2e45f54 177-NVC on the Trail - Surviving the Holiday Season Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 24 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/177-nvc-on-the-trail-surviving-the-holiday-season-_z_Vk_a0 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     177-NVC on the Trail - Surviving the Holiday Season Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:09 Join Dr. B and her good friend Anne on their morning walk in the wood where they often discuss NVC-related topics. This week, they were reflecting on the empathy they shared with one another over the holiday season and how powerful and useful it was for both of them. They also talk about the difference in hearing one another with empathy around a person or situation versus how people usually show support in those kinds of circumstances. Join Dr. B and her good friend Anne on their morning walk in the wood where they often discuss NVC-related topics. This week, they were reflecting on the empathy they shared with one another over the holiday season and how powerful and useful it was for both of them. They also talk about the difference in hearing one another with empathy around a person or situation versus how people usually show support in those kinds of circumstances. false full 176     3545d624-c868-4856-9710-412dcf781d53 175-Questions from a Listener Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/175-questions-from-a-listener-L4z2xBw5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     175-Questions from a Listener Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:52 One of The Bigbie Method participants emailed a couple of questions to Dr. B about how to hold emotional safety using NVC in a different circumstances. In Episode 175, Dr. B and Heather go over these questions and attempt to answer them as best as possible. One of The Bigbie Method participants emailed a couple of questions to Dr. B about how to hold emotional safety using NVC in a different circumstances. In Episode 175, Dr. B and Heather go over these questions and attempt to answer them as best as possible. false full 174     169e113f-a711-4b36-b0ce-b53f13fe3b57 174-Felt Sense and Its Connection to NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/174-felt-sense-and-its-connection-to-nvc-ixOVZGdf Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     174-Felt Sense and Its Connection to NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:29 Dr. B has been reading a book called The Presence Process and it has her thinking quite a bit about the concept of "felt sense" and its connection to NVC. In Episode 174, she shares hers musings with Heather about all of this. Dr. B has been reading a book called The Presence Process and it has her thinking quite a bit about the concept of "felt sense" and its connection to NVC. In Episode 174, she shares hers musings with Heather about all of this. false full 173     6a8595f9-084b-4bbd-b72b-4517ba4a5577 173-Resistance to Needs Guesses Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 3 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/173-resistance-to-needs-guesses-2eYEBY1M Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     173-Resistance to Needs Guesses Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:02 Do you ever experience more disconnection instead of greater connection when giving someone empathy.... taking needs guesses? Join Dr. B and Heather as they explore this phenomenon and share some strategies to move you towards the connection you desire. Do you ever experience more disconnection instead of greater connection when giving someone empathy.... taking needs guesses? Join Dr. B and Heather as they explore this phenomenon and share some strategies to move you towards the connection you desire. false full 172     d761d345-4119-4114-b536-df9918da7c2d 172-How to Be With Your Jackal Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Dec 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/172-how-to-be-with-your-jackal-EgB0_jmA Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     172-How to Be With Your Jackal Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:10 Join Heather and Dr. B in Episode 172 when they share some laughs and information on the NVC jackal. There is a place for jackal in NVC - learn where and how to use it so that it's productive in your hard conversations and leads to connection instead of the opposite. Join Heather and Dr. B in Episode 172 when they share some laughs and information on the NVC jackal. There is a place for jackal in NVC - learn where and how to use it so that it's productive in your hard conversations and leads to connection instead of the opposite. false full 171     7ac00edc-3fe1-4b21-8a0f-50be9f689f4f 171-Top 3 Tips to Survive the Holidays Peacefully Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Dec 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/171-top-3-tips-to-survive-the-holidays-peacefully-PKGNLZjK Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     171-Top 3 Tips to Survive the Holidays Peacefully Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:07 Welcome to the holiday season and all the "good" and "bad" that comes along with it. During this time of the year, we tend to be out of our normal routines and, while the holidays are all about connection - we, sometimes, end up in circumstances with more disconnection. Dr. B and Heather have a discussion in Episode 171 on how to navigate these difficult moments with NVC in your back pocket. Welcome to the holiday season and all the "good" and "bad" that comes along with it. During this time of the year, we tend to be out of our normal routines and, while the holidays are all about connection - we, sometimes, end up in circumstances with more disconnection. Dr. B and Heather have a discussion in Episode 171 on how to navigate these difficult moments with NVC in your back pocket. false full 170     013d1e92-9ceb-443b-80ae-98d9e0423008 170-Getting Needs Guesses Wrong Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Dec 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/170-getting-needs-guesses-wrong-yRaQwSsB Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     170-Getting Needs Guesses Wrong Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:57 Taking needs guesses is one of the three components of empathy as taught in The Bigbie Method's version of NVC. Based on Marshall Rosenberg's idea that "All conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need," taking a needs guess can help individuals get more clarity within the context of their conflicts. However, as we learn to give empathy in this manner, many of us get stuck on having to get the needs guess correct. In Episode 170, Heather and Dr. B discuss why this isn't necessary at all!! Taking needs guesses is one of the three components of empathy as taught in The Bigbie Method's version of NVC. Based on Marshall Rosenberg's idea that "All conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need," taking a needs guess can help individuals get more clarity within the context of their conflicts. However, as we learn to give empathy in this manner, many of us get stuck on having to get the needs guess correct. In Episode 170, Heather and Dr. B discuss why this isn't necessary at all!! false full 169     400a4bab-d7a8-492a-94c8-51cd9d3ec6f5 169-The Power of Sticking with Observations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     169-The Power of Sticking with Observations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:29 We think it can't be emphasized enough... the power of using observations when in conflict as opposed to evaluations and thoughts. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather draw the connection between using observations and keeping people safe in conversations, especially heated ones. Basically, getting clear on the observations is "step 1" in the process; it's that important. We think it can't be emphasized enough... the power of using observations when in conflict as opposed to evaluations and thoughts. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather draw the connection between using observations and keeping people safe in conversations, especially heated ones. Basically, getting clear on the observations is "step 1" in the process; it's that important. false full 168     8b34ce3a-6454-4cf0-ac8a-f662616b9e1b 168-NVC in Business - An Interview with Devan Kline of Burn Bootcamp Additional Resources:

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 29 Nov 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/168-nvc-in-business-an-interview-with-devan-kline-of-burn-bootcamp-O8Nczg88 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     168-NVC in Business - An Interview with Devan Kline of Burn Bootcamp Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:59 Burn Bootcamp is a large franchise company with over 335 operating locations in 41 states and NVC is one of the foundational components in place helping to grow its success. Listen in as Dr. B interviews Devan Kline the founder and CEO of Burn Bootcamp in Episode 168! Burn Bootcamp is a large franchise company with over 335 operating locations in 41 states and NVC is one of the foundational components in place helping to grow its success. Listen in as Dr. B interviews Devan Kline the founder and CEO of Burn Bootcamp in Episode 168! false full 167     426f0fb1-9c99-4404-9dca-36a935bcc082 167-NVC in a Business Setting: An Interview with Farrah Sonnenberg Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 22 Nov 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/167-nvc-in-a-business-setting-an-interview-with-farrah-sonnenberg-VVuBpRK3 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     167-NVC in a Business Setting: An Interview with Farrah Sonnenberg Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:24 This episode is a bit different because we are missing Heather. Instead, Dr. B interviews Farrah Sonnenberg, the President and Founder of Sonnenberg Consultants which provides individualized treatment for Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) using the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). Sonnenberg provides comprehensive services include standardized testing and therapy at multiple, convenient locations. This midsized company has 200+ employees and Farrah has been learning and applying NVC with her leadership team and seeing some very exciting results. In this interview, she shares about the NVC journey, her company, and how The Bigbie Method has been very helpful in growing NVC in her organization. This episode is a bit different because we are missing Heather. Instead, Dr. B interviews Farrah Sonnenberg, the President and Founder of Sonnenberg Consultants which provides individualized treatment for Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) using the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). Sonnenberg provides comprehensive services include standardized testing and therapy at multiple, convenient locations. This midsized company has 200+ employees and Farrah has been learning and applying NVC with her leadership team and seeing some very exciting results. In this interview, she shares about the NVC journey, her company, and how The Bigbie Method has been very helpful in growing NVC in her organization. false full 166     e6734a54-46da-49e7-98ca-404c541b7687 166-There'sGotta Be a Good Reason Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Nov 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/166-theresgotta-be-a-good-reason-Wyt4Iwn0 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     166-There'sGotta Be a Good Reason Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:07 Right and wrong, good and bad... why do we pivot here when in conflict? Wouldn't it be revolutionary to pivot to "the good reason" behind what anyone does? In NVC, that "good reason" is the need. In Episode 166, Dr. B and Heather talk about this idea and more! Right and wrong, good and bad... why do we pivot here when in conflict? Wouldn't it be revolutionary to pivot to "the good reason" behind what anyone does? In NVC, that "good reason" is the need. In Episode 166, Dr. B and Heather talk about this idea and more! false full 165     1c89caea-f104-4dbe-b023-f7f319b6a741 165-Faux Feelings Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 8 Nov 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/165-faux-feelings-gbtChssm Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     165-Faux Feelings Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:12 Though Dr. B and Heather have touched on faux feelings or thought feelings in the past, here they go deeper into the subject. In this Episode, Dr. B goes over a long list of these faux feelings. Then the two discuss the difficulties that often ensue when confusing thoughts with feelings. Though Dr. B and Heather have touched on faux feelings or thought feelings in the past, here they go deeper into the subject. In this Episode, Dr. B goes over a long list of these faux feelings. Then the two discuss the difficulties that often ensue when confusing thoughts with feelings. false full 164     7549fdfe-8fe1-47d6-b203-ca8693707b9d 164-Pondering... People as Strategies? Additional Resources:

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 1 Nov 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/164-pondering-people-as-strategies-Mtyc2uG6 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     164-Pondering... People as Strategies? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:40 We really like this episode... where Dr. B and Heather ponder the whole concept of strategies and how people are merely strategies for meeting our needs. When looked at in this way, this idea can lead to more ease and, ultimately, connection in our relationships. Join us to learn more. We really like this episode... where Dr. B and Heather ponder the whole concept of strategies and how people are merely strategies for meeting our needs. When looked at in this way, this idea can lead to more ease and, ultimately, connection in our relationships. Join us to learn more. false full 163     c0346f78-a09e-4572-9983-f9224c7e90dd 163-Loving Your Needs Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 25 Oct 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/163-loving-your-needs-6KspoKk5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     163-Loving Your Needs Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:16 Join Dr. B and Heather in Episode 163 where they share about the practice of Emergency Self Empathy and making a subtle tweak in how you think or talk about needs that aren't being met that can make a big difference in your internal experience. Join Dr. B and Heather in Episode 163 where they share about the practice of Emergency Self Empathy and making a subtle tweak in how you think or talk about needs that aren't being met that can make a big difference in your internal experience. false full 162     8a51effb-12d0-44cb-890a-34dbeba061f1 162-It's All About Stimulus Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Oct 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/162-its-all-about-stimulus-jSuiy5KX Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     162-It's All About Stimulus Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:47 What is the difference between stimulus and cause and how does this relate to the NVC process? These are two of the big questions that Dr. B and Heather take on in Episode 162! What is the difference between stimulus and cause and how does this relate to the NVC process? These are two of the big questions that Dr. B and Heather take on in Episode 162! false full 161     feccb650-07e7-4dbe-b125-d51a65096d2e 161-Can TBM and Empathy Gym Address Loneliness - especially for 20 year olds? Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 11 Oct 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/161-can-tbm-and-empathy-gym-address-loneliness-especially-for-20-year-olds-QNDQwcK1 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     161-Can TBM and Empathy Gym Address Loneliness - especially for 20 year olds? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:09 There seems to be a loneliness dilemma for people in our country and, particularly, for individuals in their 20s. In Episode 161, Dr. B and Heather envision the possibilities that could come if that age demographic would embrace The Bigbie Method and, mostly, the Empathy Gym. There seems to be a loneliness dilemma for people in our country and, particularly, for individuals in their 20s. In Episode 161, Dr. B and Heather envision the possibilities that could come if that age demographic would embrace The Bigbie Method and, mostly, the Empathy Gym. false full 160     06360ea1-0145-487d-90d6-31d086705609 160-Room for Judgments Additional Resources:

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 4 Oct 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/160-room-for-judgments-AddAI31z Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     160-Room for Judgments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:36 One of Dr. B's participants in her Intro to NVC course emailed her with a question about only sticking with Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests and how that potentially means that much of what we share with one another is off the table. Listen in as Dr. B and Heather address this concern. One of Dr. B's participants in her Intro to NVC course emailed her with a question about only sticking with Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests and how that potentially means that much of what we share with one another is off the table. Listen in as Dr. B and Heather address this concern. false full 159     30e1f669-6651-41b6-aa8e-dc1dd9aeb390 159-Getting Clear on Evaluations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Sep 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/159-getting-clear-on-evaluations-tnQ6aX5L Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     159-Getting Clear on Evaluations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:31 Dr. B and Heather have a conversation about evaluations in Episode 159. What are judgments? What are the impact of evaluations when you are in a conversation? How to speak honestly about your thoughts and own them as your thoughts and why that is helpful to do, especially in conflict. Listen in on this episode to learn more! Dr. B and Heather have a conversation about evaluations in Episode 159. What are judgments? What are the impact of evaluations when you are in a conversation? How to speak honestly about your thoughts and own them as your thoughts and why that is helpful to do, especially in conflict. Listen in on this episode to learn more! false full 158     1e4e7ed4-76f4-42bb-9cc5-bae778f1aed2 158+NVC is Just a Tool! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Sep 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/158nvc-is-just-a-tool-muQx5su5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     158+NVC is Just a Tool! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:59 Dr. B and Heather shed some light on the idea that NVC is a strategy. It's used primarily for connection but sometimes it doesn't work towards connection and, in that case, one might consider some other strategies. Dr. B and Heather shed some light on the idea that NVC is a strategy. It's used primarily for connection but sometimes it doesn't work towards connection and, in that case, one might consider some other strategies. false full 157     27aa599d-df73-4ac9-bb1d-44b78ede1030 157-NVC to the Rescue! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Sep 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/157-nvc-to-the-rescue-N2ZXv5d7 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     157-NVC to the Rescue! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:05 In this episode, Dr. B shares with Heather and our listeners about a recent interaction with her daughter where they both put on their "giraffe" ears and had all the sweet connection that often comes with the NVC process. In this episode, Dr. B shares with Heather and our listeners about a recent interaction with her daughter where they both put on their "giraffe" ears and had all the sweet connection that often comes with the NVC process. false full 156     c23fe983-e86f-4038-b547-c51a691e29f9 156-A Question from a Listener in Poland Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 6 Sep 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/156-a-question-from-a-listener-in-poland-URVdTHHT Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     156-A Question from a Listener in Poland Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:53 Episode 156 is our best attempt at answering a question mailed in from one of our dedicated listeners. In it, he asks about boundaries and the "appropriateness" of setting boundaries as an "NVC person" who is attempting to hear everything as a "please" or "thank you." How does one balance curiosity around the other's needs and letting that person know when they have "crossed a line." Come learn and laugh with Heather and Dr. B as they dive into this question. Episode 156 is our best attempt at answering a question mailed in from one of our dedicated listeners. In it, he asks about boundaries and the "appropriateness" of setting boundaries as an "NVC person" who is attempting to hear everything as a "please" or "thank you." How does one balance curiosity around the other's needs and letting that person know when they have "crossed a line." Come learn and laugh with Heather and Dr. B as they dive into this question. false full 155     c2f365e8-fa80-455f-b1fa-044e2f3e9c7b 155-Three Main Takeaways From Our Intro to NVC Class Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 30 Aug 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/155-three-main-takeaways-from-our-intro-to-nvc-class-vxmnDP1S Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     155-Three Main Takeaways From Our Intro to NVC Class Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:04 There is so much to the NVC model and it can often be very overwhelming for people in the learning process. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather attempt to simplify it a bit by sharing about three key components that, individually, are very useful and, combined, can be revolutionary in our communications. There is so much to the NVC model and it can often be very overwhelming for people in the learning process. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather attempt to simplify it a bit by sharing about three key components that, individually, are very useful and, combined, can be revolutionary in our communications. false full 154     2526f1ff-52a0-4533-b3a7-5356357d31d7 154-The First Day of School... And NVC is Front and Center Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 23 Aug 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/154-the-first-day-of-school-and-nvc-is-front-and-center-FJMVoUIM Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     154-The First Day of School... And NVC is Front and Center Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:53 Dr. B shares about a local school in Tallahassee that is considered a fully-immersed NVC school. Listen in to hear all the exciting things happening at the school and to envision the possibilities everywhere. Dr. B shares about a local school in Tallahassee that is considered a fully-immersed NVC school. Listen in to hear all the exciting things happening at the school and to envision the possibilities everywhere. false full 153     8f5867bf-b4da-4ca5-b389-60ec28f15910 153-Using Empathy to Patch up a Relationship Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     153-Using Empathy to Patch up a Relationship Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:22 Episode 153 is, basically, a story that Dr. B shares about a recent event where she pulled on her empathy skills to help come back into connection with a neighbor. We hope you enjoy! Episode 153 is, basically, a story that Dr. B shares about a recent event where she pulled on her empathy skills to help come back into connection with a neighbor. We hope you enjoy! false full 152     d8ec817c-4997-45ed-a3ca-301b1a0c3baa 152-Whose Needs are Your Responsible For? Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 9 Aug 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/152-whose-needs-are-your-responsible-for-Q0peWchC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     152-Whose Needs are Your Responsible For? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:20 It can be a bit hard to take in the idea that we are not responsible for anyone's needs but our own, especially in long-term relationships like between spouses. However, in this episode, Dr. B and Heather explore this idea. One of the key take-aways is the idea that people are basically "strategies" that we use to help meet our needs. But, with the understanding that needs are universal and strategies are individualized ways of meeting our needs - we can begin to explore the idea of many different ways of getting needs met and, in so doing, loosen our grip on certain strategies or people. This can have the strange impact of allowing greater connection in a relationship because everyone is operating with choice instead of obligation or fear. These are just some of the themes discussed in Episode 152. It can be a bit hard to take in the idea that we are not responsible for anyone's needs but our own, especially in long-term relationships like between spouses. However, in this episode, Dr. B and Heather explore this idea. One of the key take-aways is the idea that people are basically "strategies" that we use to help meet our needs. But, with the understanding that needs are universal and strategies are individualized ways of meeting our needs - we can begin to explore the idea of many different ways of getting needs met and, in so doing, loosen our grip on certain strategies or people. This can have the strange impact of allowing greater connection in a relationship because everyone is operating with choice instead of obligation or fear. These are just some of the themes discussed in Episode 152. false full 151     213f8889-753e-480a-96ab-32a079f79ef9 151-Call in Question - Reflection isn't Agreement! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 2 Aug 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/151-call-in-question-reflection-isnt-agreement-tU8lKkCk Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     151-Call in Question - Reflection isn't Agreement! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:35 Episode 151 is in response to a listener question about the difficulties of giving empathy when charged and not wanting the other person to take it as agreement. There is much to this question and this kind of situation. Listen in as Heather and Dr. B explore this topic. Episode 151 is in response to a listener question about the difficulties of giving empathy when charged and not wanting the other person to take it as agreement. There is much to this question and this kind of situation. Listen in as Heather and Dr. B explore this topic. false full 150     f30f3219-36b5-40ca-8b28-154edc5a5e35 150-Presence is Important! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 26 Jul 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/150-presence-is-important-Gmq_VF13 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     150-Presence is Important! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:20 In Episode 50, Heather and Dr. B explore presence. What it is? Why it's so important for connection? What it's like when you don't have it in an interaction. In Episode 50, Heather and Dr. B explore presence. What it is? Why it's so important for connection? What it's like when you don't have it in an interaction. false full 149     c1204ef1-6df7-45dd-8cab-dd6bf37630a5 149-Self-Connection Practice to Start Meetings Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Jul 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/149-self-connection-practice-to-start-meetings-ZsqiWjPC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     149-Self-Connection Practice to Start Meetings Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:42 In Episode 149, Heather and Dr. B explore the idea of starting out professional meetings using the NVC Self-Connection Practice (SCP). In many work circumstances, people are focused on getting down to business and there is little time to know what is going on for someone presently. There is an unstated thought that sharing personal stuff can take business off track. Heather and Dr. B talk through some of these ideas and juxtapose them against their experiences of using SCP in all kinds of circumstances and how the process can add to productivity. In Episode 149, Heather and Dr. B explore the idea of starting out professional meetings using the NVC Self-Connection Practice (SCP). In many work circumstances, people are focused on getting down to business and there is little time to know what is going on for someone presently. There is an unstated thought that sharing personal stuff can take business off track. Heather and Dr. B talk through some of these ideas and juxtapose them against their experiences of using SCP in all kinds of circumstances and how the process can add to productivity. false full 148     2354c26d-ed29-4f99-9547-b7fc01d61011 148-Does Kicking the Shit Out of Someone Work? Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 12 Jul 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/148-does-kicking-the-shit-out-of-someone-work-MH1z0DDL Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     148-Does Kicking the Shit Out of Someone Work? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:26 The sound quality on Episode 148 is a bit wonky - but if you can stick through it - you might find some interesting nuggets about power over dynamics - do they work, in sports, in life? And what kind of an alternative can NVC be? There is also discussion about vulnerability and how men, in particular, have had it schooled out of them in service to a need for emotional safety. Dr. B, her brother, "Timmy," and colleague, Ryan have a fluid conversation about all of these things in this episode. The sound quality on Episode 148 is a bit wonky - but if you can stick through it - you might find some interesting nuggets about power over dynamics - do they work, in sports, in life? And what kind of an alternative can NVC be? There is also discussion about vulnerability and how men, in particular, have had it schooled out of them in service to a need for emotional safety. Dr. B, her brother, "Timmy," and colleague, Ryan have a fluid conversation about all of these things in this episode. false full 147     44896067-9647-4451-b9fb-ea7e46d98968 147-Steps 2-5 in the NVC Process Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 5 Jul 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/147-steps-2-5-in-the-nvc-process-PQW3EPKW Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     147-Steps 2-5 in the NVC Process Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:53 Episode 147 will hopefully meet your needs for learning and fun. In it, Heather and Dr. B attempt to simplify what really can't be simplified - and state, and then discuss, the main steps of the NVC process. This is not a process that one learns just by knowing about it, however. So, that's where joining The Bigbie Method - starting with the Intro class can be key. Check out www.thebigbiemethod.com to learn about and join the class. Episode 147 will hopefully meet your needs for learning and fun. In it, Heather and Dr. B attempt to simplify what really can't be simplified - and state, and then discuss, the main steps of the NVC process. This is not a process that one learns just by knowing about it, however. So, that's where joining The Bigbie Method - starting with the Intro class can be key. Check out www.thebigbiemethod.com to learn about and join the class. false full 146     388be08f-147f-44fa-a35c-05007be046c1 146-NVC for "Dummies!" Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Jun 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/146-nvc-for-dummies-atwWnH_E Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     146-NVC for "Dummies!" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:51 Our bodies are these magnificent machines that are trying to communicate to us at all times. When you notice feelings that you enjoy, it's because needs are being met. If you have feelings you don't enjoy, it's because needs are not being met. Feelings are just your body's way of saying whether or not your needs are met or not. Step 1 of NVC, notice your feelings and see if they are pointing towards needs met or not met - and then use an NVC Needs list to figure out what need is up for you. This is an episode on a simple first step of using NVC. Our bodies are these magnificent machines that are trying to communicate to us at all times. When you notice feelings that you enjoy, it's because needs are being met. If you have feelings you don't enjoy, it's because needs are not being met. Feelings are just your body's way of saying whether or not your needs are met or not. Step 1 of NVC, notice your feelings and see if they are pointing towards needs met or not met - and then use an NVC Needs list to figure out what need is up for you. This is an episode on a simple first step of using NVC. false full 145     e47f55ef-3d81-4c2e-afe7-287993233a57 145-More on Needs and Strategies Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Jun 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/145-more-on-needs-and-strategies-qBO7EFpZ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     145-More on Needs and Strategies Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:15 In Episode 145, Dr. B and Heather discuss a recent situation in which Dr. B heavily leaned on the distinction between needs and strategies to have greater connection and peace within. They start with a quick review of the difference between these two concepts and then Dr. B shares about a situation in which she was reminded, once again, in the power of remembering and applying these distinctions as she moves in and processes the world's happenings. In Episode 145, Dr. B and Heather discuss a recent situation in which Dr. B heavily leaned on the distinction between needs and strategies to have greater connection and peace within. They start with a quick review of the difference between these two concepts and then Dr. B shares about a situation in which she was reminded, once again, in the power of remembering and applying these distinctions as she moves in and processes the world's happenings. false full 144     6a4bcbc3-b4b9-4bc3-bf64-0efb8cbd81ee 144-Heather's Review of Dr. B's Book on NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Jun 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/144-heathers-review-of-dr-bs-book-on-nvc-OxUw5Mhc Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     144-Heather's Review of Dr. B's Book on NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:47 Dr. B's book - My Link to Mildred: Interrupting the Epidemic of Trauma via Nonviolent Communication was published in early May 2023. In this episode, Heather takes some time to talk about the book with Dr. B and to give her "unbiased" impressions of why it's a good read. For those interested, the book can be purchased on Amazon. Dr. B's book - My Link to Mildred: Interrupting the Epidemic of Trauma via Nonviolent Communication was published in early May 2023. In this episode, Heather takes some time to talk about the book with Dr. B and to give her "unbiased" impressions of why it's a good read. For those interested, the book can be purchased on Amazon. false full 143     38f8df2f-9ad2-4d62-97c7-c09cdb66e9f1 143-Requests and Demands in Group Situations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 7 Jun 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/143-requests-and-demands-in-group-situations-bTAdFDGr Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     143-Requests and Demands in Group Situations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:50 Dr. B and Heather have a conversation about getting stuff to happen in a business or school environment. How does NVC apply in these circumstances? Are there situations when "demands' may be warranted? How does a leader deal with all the "needs" going on in a group situation? They talk about the different types of needs: my needs, your needs, and we needs. They also touch on other topics like a governance structure called Sociocracy and fair process. Dr. B and Heather have a conversation about getting stuff to happen in a business or school environment. How does NVC apply in these circumstances? Are there situations when "demands' may be warranted? How does a leader deal with all the "needs" going on in a group situation? They talk about the different types of needs: my needs, your needs, and we needs. They also touch on other topics like a governance structure called Sociocracy and fair process. false full 142     f4c4a400-8ef5-40c6-ad8d-bbb469e242f6 142-"Misusing" NVC! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 31 May 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/142-misusing-nvc-i8cUn0ad Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     142-"Misusing" NVC! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:59 In this episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about how easy it is to "screw things up" when practicing NVC - especially in the early stages. There is so much to learn and understand and apply that it's very hard to remember it all and apply it in particular when one is in a heated moment. During their conversation, Heather and Dr. B talk about the iterative nature of the process and how so much is learned when people don't get it right initially and then have a do-over. They also discuss how important practice and community (with people who know the process) are to taking NVC from an intellectual process to a living process. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about how easy it is to "screw things up" when practicing NVC - especially in the early stages. There is so much to learn and understand and apply that it's very hard to remember it all and apply it in particular when one is in a heated moment. During their conversation, Heather and Dr. B talk about the iterative nature of the process and how so much is learned when people don't get it right initially and then have a do-over. They also discuss how important practice and community (with people who know the process) are to taking NVC from an intellectual process to a living process. false full 141     8d6ccce7-a965-41d1-86d6-91b310814297 141-An Exploration on Politically Incorrect Conversations - Part 2 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 24 May 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/141-an-exploration-on-politically-incorrect-conversations-part-2-rmpiGyD1 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     141-An Exploration on Politically Incorrect Conversations - Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:31 In Episode 141, Dr. B and Heather continue their conversation about how to move in conversations when two people do not have a shared reality around the various political issues of the day. Is it possible to still have connection? In Episode 141, Dr. B and Heather continue their conversation about how to move in conversations when two people do not have a shared reality around the various political issues of the day. Is it possible to still have connection? false full 140     13cd3b47-5502-4f28-8a84-a7f9d8e170dc 140-Dr. B Wrote a Book - My Link to Mildred Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 May 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/140-dr-b-wrote-a-book-my-link-to-mildred-7UOpek0W Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     140-Dr. B Wrote a Book - My Link to Mildred Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:52 Dr. B published her book on May 2, 2023, in honor of her mother who passed away exactly one year earlier. In it's first week, it was designated an "Amazon Best Seller" in several categories. The book is My Link to Mildred: Interrupting the Epidemic of Trauma via Nonviolent Communication and can be purchased on Amazon. In this episode, Dr. B explains the inspiration for the book and a little about the contents. Dr. B published her book on May 2, 2023, in honor of her mother who passed away exactly one year earlier. In it's first week, it was designated an "Amazon Best Seller" in several categories. The book is My Link to Mildred: Interrupting the Epidemic of Trauma via Nonviolent Communication and can be purchased on Amazon. In this episode, Dr. B explains the inspiration for the book and a little about the contents. false full 139     ce2163c5-e85e-4398-bed4-cf01ca9b2204 139-An Exploration on Politically Incorrect Conversations Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 10 May 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/139-an-exploration-on-politically-incorrect-conversations-qIWm_4_1 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     139-An Exploration on Politically Incorrect Conversations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:35 For people struggling in our politically divided world, Dr. B and Heather have a "thought-provoking" conversation on how to respond when in uncomfortable political conversations. Episode 139 doesn't hold all the answers to this difficult topic - but it will definitely give you some food for thought and some actions to try out the next time you find yourself in an awkward political interaction. For people struggling in our politically divided world, Dr. B and Heather have a "thought-provoking" conversation on how to respond when in uncomfortable political conversations. Episode 139 doesn't hold all the answers to this difficult topic - but it will definitely give you some food for thought and some actions to try out the next time you find yourself in an awkward political interaction. false full 138     e32b56f3-31c3-480a-976a-f0dc7dae8759 138-Conflicts are Painful, Even with NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 3 May 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/138-conflicts-are-painful-even-with-nvc-sjJElacK Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     138-Conflicts are Painful, Even with NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:06 Episode 138 is all about the painful experiences we have while in conflict and how knowing and trying to use NVC while in the midst of a conflict can be doubly painful. So, why do it? Dr. B and Heather discuss the difference in outcomes when using NVC versus doing all the old habitual stuff we tend to do in conflicts. Even with the discomfort, both hosts agree NVC is worth the pain. Episode 138 is all about the painful experiences we have while in conflict and how knowing and trying to use NVC while in the midst of a conflict can be doubly painful. So, why do it? Dr. B and Heather discuss the difference in outcomes when using NVC versus doing all the old habitual stuff we tend to do in conflicts. Even with the discomfort, both hosts agree NVC is worth the pain. false full 137     dc689a70-93c1-4548-ada4-76284a549717 137-Pitfalls Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 26 Apr 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/137-pitfalls-spzxMQpC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     137-Pitfalls Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:56 There are some common pitfalls people tend to fall into when learning and applying NVC. Join Dr. B and Heather on Episode 137 where they discuss some of these. There are some common pitfalls people tend to fall into when learning and applying NVC. Join Dr. B and Heather on Episode 137 where they discuss some of these. false full 136     1bac33a0-6aa0-46c5-bf13-989fbe017489 136-A Teacher's Story Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Apr 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/136-a-teachers-story-7Xl6DNrZ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     136-A Teacher's Story Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:12 Dr. B recently had a conversation with a teacher who shared a story of the impact of NVC in her personal life and how it spilled over into the class. Dr. B was so excited to hear this story she asked if she could capture it for the podcast so that others could hear it as well. Their conversation happened over the phone, so consequently, the audio quality of this episode is a bit off. However, the content of the conversation was important enough to share, even with the technical glitches. We hope our listeners will understand and still enjoy the recording. Dr. B recently had a conversation with a teacher who shared a story of the impact of NVC in her personal life and how it spilled over into the class. Dr. B was so excited to hear this story she asked if she could capture it for the podcast so that others could hear it as well. Their conversation happened over the phone, so consequently, the audio quality of this episode is a bit off. However, the content of the conversation was important enough to share, even with the technical glitches. We hope our listeners will understand and still enjoy the recording. false full 135     1287e567-76bf-41f8-a4ea-f76d461c7920 135-The NVC Robot Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 12 Apr 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/135-the-nvc-robot-Y5SthX7q Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     135-The NVC Robot Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:44 Episode 135 focuses on the reflection piece of the empathy process taught at The Bigbie Method. Dr. B delve in deeper to that piece and discuss what it is and what we are attempting to avoid while reflecting. Ultimately, the NVC process is built upon real presence and void of the presence, our conversations can be experienced as "robotic" and lead away from the goal of connection. Listen in to learn more. Episode 135 focuses on the reflection piece of the empathy process taught at The Bigbie Method. Dr. B delve in deeper to that piece and discuss what it is and what we are attempting to avoid while reflecting. Ultimately, the NVC process is built upon real presence and void of the presence, our conversations can be experienced as "robotic" and lead away from the goal of connection. Listen in to learn more. false full 134     955f4bf2-01e6-4704-af0a-48ffc2b6d35f 134-The Do Over! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 5 Apr 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/134-the-do-over-RsLatcUg Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     134-The Do Over! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:47 Have you ever experienced a disconnecting communication - maybe even if you are attempting to use the NVC process? Well, the good news is that there is always the opportunity for a do-over. In fact, in Episode 134, Heather and Dr. B discuss how the do-over is actually part of the NVC process. We hope listening to this episode provides listeners with a sense of comfort in knowing that you can't "go wrong" with NVC, because even missing the mark will move you towards connection when, and if, you stay with the process. Have you ever experienced a disconnecting communication - maybe even if you are attempting to use the NVC process? Well, the good news is that there is always the opportunity for a do-over. In fact, in Episode 134, Heather and Dr. B discuss how the do-over is actually part of the NVC process. We hope listening to this episode provides listeners with a sense of comfort in knowing that you can't "go wrong" with NVC, because even missing the mark will move you towards connection when, and if, you stay with the process. false full 133     f65644f9-9f1f-4f73-a0b4-75de4a1d249b 133-Interrupting is Great! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 29 Mar 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/133-interrupting-is-great-B1Yc6ut5 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     133-Interrupting is Great! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:15 Most of us have been taught that interrupting is rude! In Episode 133, Dr. B and Heather discuss how interrupting can actually serve to connect rather than be off-putting. They talk much about the advantages to interrupting, some nuanced ways of approaching it and then encourage their listeners to play around with it. Most of us have been taught that interrupting is rude! In Episode 133, Dr. B and Heather discuss how interrupting can actually serve to connect rather than be off-putting. They talk much about the advantages to interrupting, some nuanced ways of approaching it and then encourage their listeners to play around with it. false full 132     9fec6865-6696-4311-b258-44bcb41fd53e 132-Talking to a Brick Wall Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 22 Mar 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/132-talking-to-a-brick-wall-5kG0HvMu Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     132-Talking to a Brick Wall Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:31 In Episode 132, Dr. B and Heather discuss the various ways in which people do not hear one another. Heather begins by sharing about a recent flight she took and overhearing the way people talk with one another - which was a scarring experience for her, lol! Then Dr. B continues the conversation to shed light on where things tend to go south especially when people are in a conflict and all the things they do instead of listening. In Episode 132, Dr. B and Heather discuss the various ways in which people do not hear one another. Heather begins by sharing about a recent flight she took and overhearing the way people talk with one another - which was a scarring experience for her, lol! Then Dr. B continues the conversation to shed light on where things tend to go south especially when people are in a conflict and all the things they do instead of listening. false full 131     9ca7718f-1280-43b7-aa2d-c8f237d6ceaa 131-True Story Showing Demands vs. Requests & Needs vs. Strategies Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Mar 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/131-true-story-showing-demands-vs-requests-needs-vs-strategies-DXH1iaL_ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     131-True Story Showing Demands vs. Requests & Needs vs. Strategies Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:15 Dr. B and Heather take some time to discuss a recent real life situation in which Dr. B had to draw heavily on her NVC practice to get through with some grace and connection. Episode 131 goes more deeply into the concepts of Requests vs. Demands and Needs vs. Strategies and does so with a current and live example of how this stuff works in real life. Dr. B and Heather take some time to discuss a recent real life situation in which Dr. B had to draw heavily on her NVC practice to get through with some grace and connection. Episode 131 goes more deeply into the concepts of Requests vs. Demands and Needs vs. Strategies and does so with a current and live example of how this stuff works in real life. false full 130     4f2fab69-8f24-4bdf-9759-1d3d2ec8af94 130-Loving Your Mourning Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     130-Loving Your Mourning Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:07 Mourning in NVC is all about when you don't get a need met in a particular situation, maybe with a particular person. What on earth does one do then? In Episode 130, Dr. B and Heather dive into this subject. They go over the NVC Dance Floor, how it works, and why Mourning is critical to the process and our well-being. Mourning in NVC is all about when you don't get a need met in a particular situation, maybe with a particular person. What on earth does one do then? In Episode 130, Dr. B and Heather dive into this subject. They go over the NVC Dance Floor, how it works, and why Mourning is critical to the process and our well-being. false full 129     c12123ab-2107-4e43-a449-0ac736f52c73 129-We might be "bad" communicators! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 1 Mar 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/129-we-might-be-bad-communicators-dzeVeJPt Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     129-We might be "bad" communicators! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:32 In Episode 129, Dr. B and Heather talk about judgments and how to state things without judgment. This episode is filled with some laughter and playful conversation about the use of NVC and the widespread use of evaluations in our every day language. In Episode 129, Dr. B and Heather talk about judgments and how to state things without judgment. This episode is filled with some laughter and playful conversation about the use of NVC and the widespread use of evaluations in our every day language. false full 128     a4cd35ea-fd1d-419f-b24e-a3e00e2f35c6 128-OCRs Oh My! Wed, 22 Feb 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/128-ocrs-oh-my-sXeAZXuX 128-OCRs Oh My! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:31 Other Conversational Responses (OCRs) are all the ways people tend to respond that are not empathy. In this Episode, Dr. B shares about a recent situation where someone was upset and all the folks around her responded in those OCRs. Dr. B and Heather discuss why this was not connecting and the unconscious fallout that often occurs from these habitual ways of responding. Other Conversational Responses (OCRs) are all the ways people tend to respond that are not empathy. In this Episode, Dr. B shares about a recent situation where someone was upset and all the folks around her responded in those OCRs. Dr. B and Heather discuss why this was not connecting and the unconscious fallout that often occurs from these habitual ways of responding. false full 127 206f7925-b8cb-4a11-a824-f08b5cb62097 127-NVC on the Trail - Finding the Time! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/127-nvc-on-the-trail-finding-the-time-qaYmqmRZ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     127-NVC on the Trail - Finding the Time! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:52 In Episode 127, join Dr. B and her good friend, Anne, on their morning walk. Oftentimes, the subject of NVC comes up while they are on the trail. Here they capture a conversation about the conundrum of time. How most people really believe they don't have time to fit in this work and how, by doing the work, the whole time concept shifts and so many needs are met like ease, connection, presence, balance. So listen in and then join us in the Empathy Gym at http://learn.thebigbiemethod.com/ In Episode 127, join Dr. B and her good friend, Anne, on their morning walk. Oftentimes, the subject of NVC comes up while they are on the trail. Here they capture a conversation about the conundrum of time. How most people really believe they don't have time to fit in this work and how, by doing the work, the whole time concept shifts and so many needs are met like ease, connection, presence, balance. So listen in and then join us in the Empathy Gym at http://learn.thebigbiemethod.com/ false full 126     11a1733d-1d0e-49cf-b24e-7afb3b2eafcd 126-Self Connection Practice Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 8 Feb 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/126-self-connection-practice-4cvXLfkZ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     126-Self Connection Practice Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:50 In Episode 126, Heather and Dr. B model the Self-Connection Practice and then discuss it at length - where you can use it and why use it. They also share a twist on the typical practice as Dr. B shares some insight she learned from NVC trainer John Kinyon. In Episode 126, Heather and Dr. B model the Self-Connection Practice and then discuss it at length - where you can use it and why use it. They also share a twist on the typical practice as Dr. B shares some insight she learned from NVC trainer John Kinyon. false full 125     40a7dbbc-c2b8-40bb-8680-e207bd41f19e 125-The Birthday Cry - Part 2 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 1 Feb 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/125-the-birthday-cry-part-2-dmvEDVVH Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     125-The Birthday Cry - Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:39 Episode 125 is a continuation of last week's podcast episode which started all because Heather, one of the co-hosts, was having a birthday. This week's recording is filled with information on needs versus strategies and requests versus demands and other topics as well. Also, Heather and Dr. B flow in a conversation that models many parts of the NVC process like reflecting, using connecting requests and asking before one launches into Other Conversational Responses, like giving advice. Episode 125 is a continuation of last week's podcast episode which started all because Heather, one of the co-hosts, was having a birthday. This week's recording is filled with information on needs versus strategies and requests versus demands and other topics as well. Also, Heather and Dr. B flow in a conversation that models many parts of the NVC process like reflecting, using connecting requests and asking before one launches into Other Conversational Responses, like giving advice. false full 124     2598c6af-ddc2-49e4-b34b-ba46a6b99ea4 124-The Birthday Cry - Part 1 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 25 Jan 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/124-the-birthday-cry-part-1-7X28J7zh Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     124-The Birthday Cry - Part 1 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:30 Episode 124 starts out with Dr. B singing a birthday song to Heather. And, from there, they pivot into a conversation about birthdays and the difficulties connected to them. In the interaction, they model what a back and forth dialogue sounds like when employing reflection, needs guesses, connecting requests and expression using observations, feelings, and needs. Listen in and see if you can follow along and note the NVC-based practices in the conversation. We hope this episode meets your needs for authenticity, learning, and some fun! Episode 124 starts out with Dr. B singing a birthday song to Heather. And, from there, they pivot into a conversation about birthdays and the difficulties connected to them. In the interaction, they model what a back and forth dialogue sounds like when employing reflection, needs guesses, connecting requests and expression using observations, feelings, and needs. Listen in and see if you can follow along and note the NVC-based practices in the conversation. We hope this episode meets your needs for authenticity, learning, and some fun! false full 123     ef88bbaa-1d09-47db-b41e-a19576cfef84 123-Reflection is Not Agreeing! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Jan 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/123-reflection-is-not-agreeing-YPDejglV Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     123-Reflection is Not Agreeing! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:00 This week's episode starts with a reminder about the three components of empathy and then goes into greater detail about the reflection component. Dr. B and Heather talk about the ways in which reflection can go astray and gives the listeners many tips and aha's about this empathy component. This week's episode starts with a reminder about the three components of empathy and then goes into greater detail about the reflection component. Dr. B and Heather talk about the ways in which reflection can go astray and gives the listeners many tips and aha's about this empathy component. false full 122     fec2ddb2-d18a-47b9-978c-4c7c8e7b3a4a 122-NVC Gone Wrong! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 11 Jan 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/122-nvc-gone-wrong-z96THa9w Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     122-NVC Gone Wrong! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:42 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about a recent incident Dr. B had where she used a "connecting request" - to make sure the person was open to hearing her and, even though, the other person said "yes," his response to Dr. B's offering indicated otherwise. So, here is a discussion about how there is more to a connecting request than just getting a "yes." Also, they discuss the importance of empathy first! In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about a recent incident Dr. B had where she used a "connecting request" - to make sure the person was open to hearing her and, even though, the other person said "yes," his response to Dr. B's offering indicated otherwise. So, here is a discussion about how there is more to a connecting request than just getting a "yes." Also, they discuss the importance of empathy first! false full 121     85815fa2-79f4-40d1-ace0-14f05b808f30 121-The TBM Intro Course - A Work of Art! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Jan 2023 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/121-the-tbm-intro-course-a-work-of-art-LydLQy2H Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     121-The TBM Intro Course - A Work of Art! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:42 In Episode 121 - Dr. B and Heather go into detail about The Bigbie Method's newly revised format for the Intro to NVC course. To sign up, please visit our website (www.thebigbiemethod.com) and look under the "Individuals" tab for the Intro Course. We are very excited to be able to offer this to people in a more time flexible format. In Episode 121 - Dr. B and Heather go into detail about The Bigbie Method's newly revised format for the Intro to NVC course. To sign up, please visit our website (www.thebigbiemethod.com) and look under the "Individuals" tab for the Intro Course. We are very excited to be able to offer this to people in a more time flexible format. false full 120     bbfe5953-9399-4d02-ac27-ca79ebe44224 120-Cindy Has it Out with Heather - NVC Style! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Dec 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/120-cindy-has-it-out-with-heather-nvc-style-W_MPOzEa Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     120-Cindy Has it Out with Heather - NVC Style! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:42 Listen in to Episode 120 when Heather and Dr. B do empathy in real time. As explained in the podcast, Dr. B got a little triggered when learning about Heather's plans for the holidays. They thought it might be fruitful for their listeners to hear a "real, " organic, conversation when there is a bit of disharmony to work out. And no, no one gets clobbered - in fact, just the opposite. Enjoy! Listen in to Episode 120 when Heather and Dr. B do empathy in real time. As explained in the podcast, Dr. B got a little triggered when learning about Heather's plans for the holidays. They thought it might be fruitful for their listeners to hear a "real, " organic, conversation when there is a bit of disharmony to work out. And no, no one gets clobbered - in fact, just the opposite. Enjoy! false full 119     f2ff6ee8-32f9-4a4c-beac-2ec1ea0c61e6 119-How to Get Your Partner to Give You Empathy! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Dec 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/119-how-to-get-your-partner-to-give-you-empathy-BGX1pkva Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     119-How to Get Your Partner to Give You Empathy! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:23 Join Heather on Dr. B on this engaging episode where they talk about how you can't really "get" anyone to do anything - at least without a cost. Then they go on to discuss the herculean effort it takes to stay in integrity with NVC and model it, rather than teach it or force it - and, in so doing - get the thing you want... connection. Join Heather on Dr. B on this engaging episode where they talk about how you can't really "get" anyone to do anything - at least without a cost. Then they go on to discuss the herculean effort it takes to stay in integrity with NVC and model it, rather than teach it or force it - and, in so doing - get the thing you want... connection. false full 118     ab110d6c-3df6-41fe-9e61-eb34d589ad73 118-Thanks for Nothing on Thanksgiving Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Dec 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/118-thanks-for-nothing-on-thanksgiving-3gHdrU90 Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     118-Thanks for Nothing on Thanksgiving Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:18 The name of this episode comes from an experience that Heather had over Thanksgiving watching some of the communications around her. Listen in as she and Dr. B discuss topics such as what empathy can look like in sad moments around discussions of death and aging. They compare using NVC processes in such moments to using some of the other conversational responses we tend to choose from our communication repertoire. The name of this episode comes from an experience that Heather had over Thanksgiving watching some of the communications around her. Listen in as she and Dr. B discuss topics such as what empathy can look like in sad moments around discussions of death and aging. They compare using NVC processes in such moments to using some of the other conversational responses we tend to choose from our communication repertoire. false full 117     6e5a452f-702a-4fc6-9559-985fe44b2093 117-Slowing Down Our Misunderstanding Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 7 Dec 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/117-slowing-down-our-misunderstanding-l84c7BDY Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     117-Slowing Down Our Misunderstanding Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:27 In Episode 117, Dr. B and Heather go "live" with a misunderstanding they had one day when they were scheduled to record a podcast episode. Listen in and see if you can pick out empathy responses, expressing using Observations, Feelings, and Needs - and see, also, how they use Connecting Requests. If you are new to NVC, and don't know these terms/concepts yet - just listen in and see if you can determine how this conversation is different than how many conflicts go. In Episode 117, Dr. B and Heather go "live" with a misunderstanding they had one day when they were scheduled to record a podcast episode. Listen in and see if you can pick out empathy responses, expressing using Observations, Feelings, and Needs - and see, also, how they use Connecting Requests. If you are new to NVC, and don't know these terms/concepts yet - just listen in and see if you can determine how this conversation is different than how many conflicts go. false full 116     ceca61e2-07ee-4c84-8319-d9132e28f7fe 116-The Magic of Presence Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 30 Nov 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/116-the-magic-of-presence-tTd1AzFn Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     116-The Magic of Presence Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:59 Oftentimes, in NVC we tend to get caught up in the mechanics of doing it "right." and we lost sight of the foundational component of NVC: presence. In this episode, Dr. B shares a recent example of receiving pure presence and the impact that it had on her. Then she and Heather discuss presence, what it is, how to cultivate it and various other topics. Oftentimes, in NVC we tend to get caught up in the mechanics of doing it "right." and we lost sight of the foundational component of NVC: presence. In this episode, Dr. B shares a recent example of receiving pure presence and the impact that it had on her. Then she and Heather discuss presence, what it is, how to cultivate it and various other topics. false full 115     e3d9eba4-8512-4ff7-ac87-c7423439f557 115-Judgments are Judgments Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     115-Judgments are Judgments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:01 In Episode 115, Heather and Dr. B have a "playful" discussion about judgments being judgments. As part of the conversation, they also play around with how to turn around the statement, "that's a judgment" into something more in integrity with NVC's intention and language. We hope you enjoy. In Episode 115, Heather and Dr. B have a "playful" discussion about judgments being judgments. As part of the conversation, they also play around with how to turn around the statement, "that's a judgment" into something more in integrity with NVC's intention and language. We hope you enjoy. false full 114     57e8e839-953b-4564-a123-d37e48b0fcdc 114-No one Listens!! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 16 Nov 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/114-no-one-listens-DRi8pqEQ Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     114-No one Listens!! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:20 Episode 114 provides some humor and deep discussion about the typical ways we respond in day-to-day interactions and in conflict. Heather shares about her experience of hearing discussions and how they are more like a ping-pong experience of individuals saying what they want to say rather than slowing down to truly hear. Dr. B and Heather play around with giving examples this kind of interaction and contrast it with using NVC skills throughout the conversation. Episode 114 provides some humor and deep discussion about the typical ways we respond in day-to-day interactions and in conflict. Heather shares about her experience of hearing discussions and how they are more like a ping-pong experience of individuals saying what they want to say rather than slowing down to truly hear. Dr. B and Heather play around with giving examples this kind of interaction and contrast it with using NVC skills throughout the conversation. false full 113     480770a9-dc0e-4c32-b74e-36958c797bd4 113-Compassion for the Contractor Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     113-Compassion for the Contractor Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:39 In Episode 113, Dr. B tells a personal story of coming back into compassion after struggling with some jackle thoughts. It's a good reminder that NVC is a process and one that requires constant vigilance to feel the joy of connection to self and others. In Episode 113, Dr. B tells a personal story of coming back into compassion after struggling with some jackle thoughts. It's a good reminder that NVC is a process and one that requires constant vigilance to feel the joy of connection to self and others. false full 112     70106a95-6d60-4978-a16e-4d47ec11eb3d 112-A Rerun of "How our Responses Get Us in Trouble!" People tend to have a typical way that they respond in circumstances, we call this in NVC, other conversational responses. Here are a list of them; there's giving advice, consoling, relating one-upping, if you're in the fight, you might use other conversational responses like blaming, judging, correcting, explaining. We also do things in general, claiming playing devil's advocate, sarcastic humor, all of which are the more subtle ones.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • You have ways that you respond when you're just having a conversation with someone or friends coming and you're sharing to some time together, and what's going on in my life? What's going on in your life? We have ways of talking in those moments, kind of like we're doing right now, there are also certain ways that we respond habitually when we're in conflict, and some of these what I call other conversation responses. (1:41)
    • As you grow in your NVC process, you start to have more of an awareness of what you do in conversation and what other people do in conversation, and then you start to pay more attention to what works, like what do you like, what's annoying for you. Before you might have felt annoyed but weren't able to pinpoint it, now that you have this contrast of all the different ways that a person can respond and then the empathy, saying that we tend to practice a lot while you're really learning in NVC, practicing it and noticing, trying it on and seeing what that is like to have that as a response.  (4:23)
    • It feels like you're yet learning a whole new language and you're like pausing, it feels almost robotic. You know what, the empathy process, it becomes smoother and maybe you're not repeating verbatim what the other person has said, you can put it into your own words and it has more flow and ease. (5:50)
    • What happens is you're relating, so now the conversation has turned back on you, not on the other person that was just talking. So this idea of being seen, heard and valued, and you might have just taken away from that person experience and being seen heard and valued when you relate... no right or wrong with relating, but again, you might want to ask, or if you give advice to somebody, we all want to help. When we see somebody in a situation, we want to help, and so we tend to give advice unsolicited, and there's nothing wrong with giving advice, but let's put it in the context of that definition of connection, which is being seen, heard and valued without judgment. (12:23)

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    ]]>     Wed, 2 Nov 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/112-a-rerun-of-how-our-responses-get-us-in-trouble-zqkvydju People tend to have a typical way that they respond in circumstances, we call this in NVC, other conversational responses. Here are a list of them; there's giving advice, consoling, relating one-upping, if you're in the fight, you might use other conversational responses like blaming, judging, correcting, explaining. We also do things in general, claiming playing devil's advocate, sarcastic humor, all of which are the more subtle ones.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • You have ways that you respond when you're just having a conversation with someone or friends coming and you're sharing to some time together, and what's going on in my life? What's going on in your life? We have ways of talking in those moments, kind of like we're doing right now, there are also certain ways that we respond habitually when we're in conflict, and some of these what I call other conversation responses. (1:41)
    • As you grow in your NVC process, you start to have more of an awareness of what you do in conversation and what other people do in conversation, and then you start to pay more attention to what works, like what do you like, what's annoying for you. Before you might have felt annoyed but weren't able to pinpoint it, now that you have this contrast of all the different ways that a person can respond and then the empathy, saying that we tend to practice a lot while you're really learning in NVC, practicing it and noticing, trying it on and seeing what that is like to have that as a response.  (4:23)
    • It feels like you're yet learning a whole new language and you're like pausing, it feels almost robotic. You know what, the empathy process, it becomes smoother and maybe you're not repeating verbatim what the other person has said, you can put it into your own words and it has more flow and ease. (5:50)
    • What happens is you're relating, so now the conversation has turned back on you, not on the other person that was just talking. So this idea of being seen, heard and valued, and you might have just taken away from that person experience and being seen heard and valued when you relate... no right or wrong with relating, but again, you might want to ask, or if you give advice to somebody, we all want to help. When we see somebody in a situation, we want to help, and so we tend to give advice unsolicited, and there's nothing wrong with giving advice, but let's put it in the context of that definition of connection, which is being seen, heard and valued without judgment. (12:23)

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    ]]>     112-A Rerun of "How our Responses Get Us in Trouble!" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:11 Today's episode is a rerun about how our responses get us in trouble, I think we've all been there, I certainly have. Just reacting to someone without thinking, which causes something to be triggered for the other person. The other thing to think about is, not only do our responses get us in trouble, but also start paying attention to the way people respond to you and what you don't like. Today's episode is a rerun about how our responses get us in trouble, I think we've all been there, I certainly have. Just reacting to someone without thinking, which causes something to be triggered for the other person. The other thing to think about is, not only do our responses get us in trouble, but also start paying attention to the way people respond to you and what you don't like. false full 111     8cabcda6-0ad2-4f12-8c94-7752afe1c0d1 111-Neural Pathways and Toilet Paper!
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    ]]>     111-Neural Pathways and Toilet Paper! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:42 Episode 111 is a "fun" conversation between Dr. B and Heather about habits and why we have to practice NVC to build new neural pathways. Episode 111 is a "fun" conversation between Dr. B and Heather about habits and why we have to practice NVC to build new neural pathways. true full 110     860b4893-c92d-40e5-b338-3dbc6f678656 110-Ghosting
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    ]]>     Wed, 19 Oct 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/110-ghosting-kmcjgshL
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    ]]>     110-Ghosting Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:32 How does NVC fit or help when you are in a situation when someone in your life doesn't want to connect or talk with you? This is the content in Episode 110. Join Dr. B as she shares with Heather about a real life situation of "being ghosted" and her own journey with the NVC process while reckoning with loss of a relationship. Spoiler alert: using Observation, Feeling, Needs, and Requests instead of story can be very useful. How does NVC fit or help when you are in a situation when someone in your life doesn't want to connect or talk with you? This is the content in Episode 110. Join Dr. B as she shares with Heather about a real life situation of "being ghosted" and her own journey with the NVC process while reckoning with loss of a relationship. Spoiler alert: using Observation, Feeling, Needs, and Requests instead of story can be very useful. false full 109     7a0b2096-7a60-46f4-9ae6-3916538bf6ca 109-NVC on the Trail - Peace on the Homefront
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    ]]>     109-NVC on the Trail - Peace on the Homefront Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:59 Episode 109 is with Dr. B and her good friend Anne as they discuss NVC on their morning walk. Please forgive the sound quality as the recording was done, off the cuff, while walking along the trail. We thought the content was worth putting out there - even with the less than perfect sound quality. One of the things discussed was how much better things have been with Anne and her daughter just by using the simple process of reflecting rather than trying to strong arm her daughter into doing things. Anne has found that usually by just listening, a level of cooperation will occur naturally. Another topic shared was about a recent disconnection that Anne had with her husband and how, by sticking with NVC process, they ended up being able to really hear and understand one another and come back into connection! Episode 109 is with Dr. B and her good friend Anne as they discuss NVC on their morning walk. Please forgive the sound quality as the recording was done, off the cuff, while walking along the trail. We thought the content was worth putting out there - even with the less than perfect sound quality. One of the things discussed was how much better things have been with Anne and her daughter just by using the simple process of reflecting rather than trying to strong arm her daughter into doing things. Anne has found that usually by just listening, a level of cooperation will occur naturally. Another topic shared was about a recent disconnection that Anne had with her husband and how, by sticking with NVC process, they ended up being able to really hear and understand one another and come back into connection! false full 108     6d4b7229-d947-417b-a7a5-e47139796707 108-Thoughts on the Testosterone Episode Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 5 Oct 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/108-thoughts-on-the-testosterone-episode-oCDKhuvw Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     108-Thoughts on the Testosterone Episode Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:14 In Episode 108, Dr. B and Heather model an NVC conversation about last week's episode on Testosterone and NVC. Listen in to track empathy (presence, reflection, needs guesses), connecting requests, and expressing using Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests. In Episode 108, Dr. B and Heather model an NVC conversation about last week's episode on Testosterone and NVC. Listen in to track empathy (presence, reflection, needs guesses), connecting requests, and expressing using Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests. false full 107     7a306812-4005-4d9f-aba4-090f4f36fc39 107-Testosterone and NVC Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Sep 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/107-testosterone-and-nvc-70ecYgqD Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     107-Testosterone and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:27:20 Dr. B interviews Dr. Jeremiah Murphy and Ryan Bonhardt in Episode 107. Their conversation goes into how they got into NVC and the impact that it has had on their lives. They also delve into a discussion on why NVC seems to be heavily populated by individuals who identify as female and not as much by males. Dr. B interviews Dr. Jeremiah Murphy and Ryan Bonhardt in Episode 107. Their conversation goes into how they got into NVC and the impact that it has had on their lives. They also delve into a discussion on why NVC seems to be heavily populated by individuals who identify as female and not as much by males. false full 106     28c38f94-f89d-438f-b462-778ff8ca1db7 106-Modeling an NVC Conversation Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Sep 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/106-modeling-an-nvc-conversation-hAS44QZV Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     106-Modeling an NVC Conversation Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:40 In this episode, Dr. B and Heather start out in a mock conversation to model the NVC process - but it turns real. Listen in to hear how an NVC-based conversation can flow. While doing so, see if you can hear the use of connecting requests, reflection, needs guesses and how they handle when they pivot away from empathy and use "Other Conversational Responses." In this episode, Dr. B and Heather start out in a mock conversation to model the NVC process - but it turns real. Listen in to hear how an NVC-based conversation can flow. While doing so, see if you can hear the use of connecting requests, reflection, needs guesses and how they handle when they pivot away from empathy and use "Other Conversational Responses." false full 105     f4ba61ed-0aac-4019-a44b-21261e47d06e 105-Emotional Safety for Newcomers Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Sep 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/105-emotional-safety-for-newcomers-3tpyLnvb Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     105-Emotional Safety for Newcomers Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:01 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss how to build in intentional connection and emotional safety when new people come into a group discussion. How do we ensure they experience being welcomed and that their voice matters? By employing some awareness and NVC-based processes, there is a possibility to create the intentional acceptance that most people want when entering a new space. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss how to build in intentional connection and emotional safety when new people come into a group discussion. How do we ensure they experience being welcomed and that their voice matters? By employing some awareness and NVC-based processes, there is a possibility to create the intentional acceptance that most people want when entering a new space. false full 104     e00c3dc1-36f7-4636-987b-cbc1c270ad9c 104-There is No There There! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     104-There is No There There! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:57 There is no end goal in NVC! Once you dedicate time for an Intro training or reading a book, one usually believes there will be significant learning and behavior change. And, yet, NVC is an ongoing evolution. Dr. B and Heather discuss the ongoing learning and dedication necessary to own NVC skills. This Episode is dedicated to inspire people to stay with the continued learning necessary to allow NVC to come alive in ones life. Perfection is not the end goal; living the process is a goal unto itself and allows one to have more of their needs met over time. There is no end goal in NVC! Once you dedicate time for an Intro training or reading a book, one usually believes there will be significant learning and behavior change. And, yet, NVC is an ongoing evolution. Dr. B and Heather discuss the ongoing learning and dedication necessary to own NVC skills. This Episode is dedicated to inspire people to stay with the continued learning necessary to allow NVC to come alive in ones life. Perfection is not the end goal; living the process is a goal unto itself and allows one to have more of their needs met over time. false full 103     9aca3d20-1175-4e87-a0a1-2423369a0f19 103-How to Shift Demand Energy Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     103-How to Shift Demand Energy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:24 Episode 102 is an extension of last week's show on Demands. This week Dr. B and Heather go a bit more in-depth about what to do when you notice you have demand energy and want to shift it to a request. It's not an easy thing, but it is possible. The co-hosts chat about the WAIT portion of the NVC Dance Floor and how WAIT time is not merely a cool-down time but an active time where one can employ several processes to shift from having to have something a particular way and having greater ability to ask for what you want without creating disconnection in the relationship. Lots to learn this week. Episode 102 is an extension of last week's show on Demands. This week Dr. B and Heather go a bit more in-depth about what to do when you notice you have demand energy and want to shift it to a request. It's not an easy thing, but it is possible. The co-hosts chat about the WAIT portion of the NVC Dance Floor and how WAIT time is not merely a cool-down time but an active time where one can employ several processes to shift from having to have something a particular way and having greater ability to ask for what you want without creating disconnection in the relationship. Lots to learn this week. false full 102     d4621650-603f-4eb0-9dd0-ca917edf2a26 102-A Conversation about Demand Energy Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     102-A Conversation about Demand Energy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:52 In this Episode, the co-hosts talk about "Demand Energy:" what it is and what it's not. Also, there is an explanation of "Dogging for your needs" and how that is different from demanding. Lastly, Heather and Dr. B talk about receiving a request and not necessarily loving it but being willing to contribute to someone because you are connected to his/her needs - and how that can make all the difference. Lots to discuss about demands...so much here that there will be another episode to follow on what to do when you notice you have demand energy. In this Episode, the co-hosts talk about "Demand Energy:" what it is and what it's not. Also, there is an explanation of "Dogging for your needs" and how that is different from demanding. Lastly, Heather and Dr. B talk about receiving a request and not necessarily loving it but being willing to contribute to someone because you are connected to his/her needs - and how that can make all the difference. Lots to discuss about demands...so much here that there will be another episode to follow on what to do when you notice you have demand energy. false full 101     4e27c92a-4c4b-4b8a-849c-cab41ed0780d 101-NVC is Frustrating Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     101-NVC is Frustrating Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:55 Make no bones about it... NVC can be quite frustrating at times, especially in the beginning stages of learning it. In this episode, the hosts discuss that frustration, why it occurs and the value of sticking with the process in spite of the difficult moments. Make no bones about it... NVC can be quite frustrating at times, especially in the beginning stages of learning it. In this episode, the hosts discuss that frustration, why it occurs and the value of sticking with the process in spite of the difficult moments. true full 100     a6e9a71d-59db-4773-b7e1-a7522dfbad4a 100-Message Sent - Message Received Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     100-Message Sent - Message Received Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:18 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about Other Conversational Responses. They go over what is meant by the term and contrast OCRs to NVC Empathy process. They also dig into some typical ways that OCRs occur and why, oftentimes, they might not be the greatest response to bring about connection. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather talk about Other Conversational Responses. They go over what is meant by the term and contrast OCRs to NVC Empathy process. They also dig into some typical ways that OCRs occur and why, oftentimes, they might not be the greatest response to bring about connection. false full 99     eb998a3a-175d-4638-bd08-6970e95c4c6c 099-Workplace Hostility From a Listener Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     099-Workplace Hostility From a Listener Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:18 In Episode 99, Dr. B and Heather respond to a caller who left a message about a difficult work interaction. Some of the topics discussed include Intensity Practice, WAITing is an active process, how to guide someone to give you empathy if they don't know NVC and screwing up NVC and having a do-over. They also talk about how there is no failing NVC because it all serves one's learning. In Episode 99, Dr. B and Heather respond to a caller who left a message about a difficult work interaction. Some of the topics discussed include Intensity Practice, WAITing is an active process, how to guide someone to give you empathy if they don't know NVC and screwing up NVC and having a do-over. They also talk about how there is no failing NVC because it all serves one's learning. false full 98     52897158-ac8e-4534-ad9f-1b3e40480bce 098-Big Win with the Lawn Man Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     098-Big Win with the Lawn Man Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:35 Ever have a small, inconvenient conversation that you might avoid because you have thoughts that it's not worth it? In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss an issue that arose with Dr. B's lawn service and how she decided to apply her NVC skills and, consequently, reaped the benefits. We hope this playful episode will give the listener some inspiration to take on some of those scary interactions. Ever have a small, inconvenient conversation that you might avoid because you have thoughts that it's not worth it? In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss an issue that arose with Dr. B's lawn service and how she decided to apply her NVC skills and, consequently, reaped the benefits. We hope this playful episode will give the listener some inspiration to take on some of those scary interactions. false full 97     226cf3a2-61a2-45fe-ae63-65d1a9c3eef2 097-A Rerun of "The Epidemic of Trauma and Why NVC is the Cure!" Episode Notes

    The ACE Study is from the early 1990s, where they sampled about 17,000 people, having them take a survey that asked them, "From the ages of 0 to 17, how many of these things happened to you?" And they listed out 10 indicators things like sexual abuse, physical abuse, did you grow up in a household where there was mental illness, did you grow up in a household where there was drug abuse, did you grow up in a household where your parents were separated or divorced, where you saw a mom being treated violently? 

    There were 10 of these, and they would have folks say yes or no to that, and then they would walk away with a score from 0 to 10, 0 meaning no trauma. 10 meaning the most. And what they found, after giving that survey to 17,000-plus people is two-thirds of the people said that they had had at least one of those things, and many of them said many of those things happen to them when they were between the ages of 0 and 17.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • People that have had trauma tend to respond in a very particular way because they need to create safety for themselves. (2:30)
    • In the program that I ran,  my friend looked at me and she said, Well, that's great, but how are you going to transfer that behavior? And I was stopped in my tracks by that statement, in fact, it kept me awake for two weeks. I was waking up in the middle of the night trying to think to myself, she's right, what if we can't transfer that behavior, what good is the work that we're doing. After two weeks of thinking about that question, the answer came to mind, and I think I literally woke up, sat up in bed with the answer, and that's my cliffhanger right there. (3:28)
    • When people have had trauma, they need safety, their brains are actually wired to be on this heightened alert for safety because they haven't had safety. And we see a lot of these behaviors where people fight by yelling or raising their voice or saying obscenities. Or flight, running away. Or freezing. And this is all in service to get people safe. There's a part of the brain called the amygdala. And that's what it does. It's on this alert. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. (4:06)
    • I ran this program for eight years with kids from the juvenile justice system, and talk about trauma, you're talking about some of the deepest trauma. Lots of people dying, lots of situations where folks are starving, seeing their parents be very physically abused over and over again, I mean all kinds of stuff. And yet, we had this amazing level of cooperation and connection with the youth. (8:50)

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Jul 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/097-a-rerun-of-the-epidemic-of-trauma-and-why-nvc-is-the-cure-WrV6aYLy Episode Notes

    The ACE Study is from the early 1990s, where they sampled about 17,000 people, having them take a survey that asked them, "From the ages of 0 to 17, how many of these things happened to you?" And they listed out 10 indicators things like sexual abuse, physical abuse, did you grow up in a household where there was mental illness, did you grow up in a household where there was drug abuse, did you grow up in a household where your parents were separated or divorced, where you saw a mom being treated violently? 

    There were 10 of these, and they would have folks say yes or no to that, and then they would walk away with a score from 0 to 10, 0 meaning no trauma. 10 meaning the most. And what they found, after giving that survey to 17,000-plus people is two-thirds of the people said that they had had at least one of those things, and many of them said many of those things happen to them when they were between the ages of 0 and 17.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • People that have had trauma tend to respond in a very particular way because they need to create safety for themselves. (2:30)
    • In the program that I ran,  my friend looked at me and she said, Well, that's great, but how are you going to transfer that behavior? And I was stopped in my tracks by that statement, in fact, it kept me awake for two weeks. I was waking up in the middle of the night trying to think to myself, she's right, what if we can't transfer that behavior, what good is the work that we're doing. After two weeks of thinking about that question, the answer came to mind, and I think I literally woke up, sat up in bed with the answer, and that's my cliffhanger right there. (3:28)
    • When people have had trauma, they need safety, their brains are actually wired to be on this heightened alert for safety because they haven't had safety. And we see a lot of these behaviors where people fight by yelling or raising their voice or saying obscenities. Or flight, running away. Or freezing. And this is all in service to get people safe. There's a part of the brain called the amygdala. And that's what it does. It's on this alert. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. (4:06)
    • I ran this program for eight years with kids from the juvenile justice system, and talk about trauma, you're talking about some of the deepest trauma. Lots of people dying, lots of situations where folks are starving, seeing their parents be very physically abused over and over again, I mean all kinds of stuff. And yet, we had this amazing level of cooperation and connection with the youth. (8:50)

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    ]]>     097-A Rerun of "The Epidemic of Trauma and Why NVC is the Cure!" Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:39 Today on It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, we're talking about the epidemic of trauma. In the 1990s, there was a landmark study done called the adverse childhood experience study, and it's only been in recent years that it's gained any traction. Many people now in education and in the mental health field know of this as the ACE Study. We are going to talk about this study and how we think that the technique of NVC is the cure. Ready? Let's get started... Today on It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, we're talking about the epidemic of trauma. In the 1990s, there was a landmark study done called the adverse childhood experience study, and it's only been in recent years that it's gained any traction. Many people now in education and in the mental health field know of this as the ACE Study. We are going to talk about this study and how we think that the technique of NVC is the cure. Ready? Let's get started... false full 96     696dff65-f57a-4ec9-be5d-08d54557027a 096-Our Early Programming, Self Love and NVC Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 13 Jul 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/096-our-early-programming-self-love-and-nvc-8y6pwOz4 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     096-Our Early Programming, Self Love and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:40 In Episode 96, Dr. B and Heather go deep with their discussion of how our early programming and trauma often shows up in our internal dialogue keeping us from love of self and others. They also talk about why NVC is so powerful in helping to reroute these old and engrained patterns. In Episode 96, Dr. B and Heather go deep with their discussion of how our early programming and trauma often shows up in our internal dialogue keeping us from love of self and others. They also talk about why NVC is so powerful in helping to reroute these old and engrained patterns. false full 95     3527f0aa-ecae-472a-8700-6d6a0417606e 095-The Power of Connecting Requests Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 6 Jul 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/095-the-power-of-connecting-requests-CJ6MQAAj Additional Resources:

    ]]>     095-The Power of Connecting Requests Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:19 Episode 96 provides some fun and information while the co-hosts share about Connecting Requests. Dr. B and Heather discuss the various forms of Connecting Requests and then Dr. B shares a recent story of using them in a communication that might have gone south otherwise. Episode 96 provides some fun and information while the co-hosts share about Connecting Requests. Dr. B and Heather discuss the various forms of Connecting Requests and then Dr. B shares a recent story of using them in a communication that might have gone south otherwise. false full 94     e37820fa-b281-47a6-ba77-cbaf8a14dbff 094-The Stages of Learning a New Skill - Like NVC! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     094-The Stages of Learning a New Skill - Like NVC! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:06 The journey of NVC is truly a journey. In this episode, Heather and Dr. B discuss the different levels of attaining a skill and how their experience in learning and applying NVC more or less mirrors these different stages. The recording is designed to give people some solidarity and hope as they muddle through the difficulties of applying the simple NVC concepts in real life. The journey of NVC is truly a journey. In this episode, Heather and Dr. B discuss the different levels of attaining a skill and how their experience in learning and applying NVC more or less mirrors these different stages. The recording is designed to give people some solidarity and hope as they muddle through the difficulties of applying the simple NVC concepts in real life. false full 93     fac630ac-90bc-4d46-ad3c-d6f2ffa3b8c0 093-Words Smords Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 22 Jun 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/093-words-smords-Q88wh0Rs Additional Resources:

    ]]>     093-Words Smords Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:06:56 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather start out by sharing about a fun miscommunication they had between them and delving into the complexity of most human communications. They then break the interaction down into Observation, Feeling, Needs to provide clarity on how using the NVC template minimizes miscommunications. We hope you enjoy! In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather start out by sharing about a fun miscommunication they had between them and delving into the complexity of most human communications. They then break the interaction down into Observation, Feeling, Needs to provide clarity on how using the NVC template minimizes miscommunications. We hope you enjoy! false full 92     444e6561-f9e1-462e-ae52-1e5ff83b4bef 092-Holding Space in a Group Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 15 Jun 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/092-holding-space-in-a-group-r44l1EJH Additional Resources:

    ]]>     092-Holding Space in a Group Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:20 Have you ever been in a group where people are encouraged to share their thoughts and opinions, but you notice something is amiss? Oftentimes at public meetings or conferences, we encourage a format where people get to stand up and express but there is little in the process to ensure that the person speaking experiences being heard. Unfortunately, in these circumstances, oftentimes people leave feeling frustrated and, perhaps, can't even figure out why. In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B discuss a simple solution. Have you ever been in a group where people are encouraged to share their thoughts and opinions, but you notice something is amiss? Oftentimes at public meetings or conferences, we encourage a format where people get to stand up and express but there is little in the process to ensure that the person speaking experiences being heard. Unfortunately, in these circumstances, oftentimes people leave feeling frustrated and, perhaps, can't even figure out why. In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B discuss a simple solution. false full 91     164cf7ab-d053-4af3-a794-b4d222113e32 091-Mass Shootings, Social Emotional Learning, and NVC! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 8 Jun 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/091-mass-shootings-social-emotional-learning-and-nvc-876OTSZp Additional Resources:

    ]]>     091-Mass Shootings, Social Emotional Learning, and NVC! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:58 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather have an in-depth discussion about the violence we see in schools and it's connection to the lack of learning focused on how we interact and communicate with one another. Dr. B basically make a plea for change and also talks about how learning these new social emotional skills is not a quick fix; there must be commitment and openness to new learning in this area so our systems can see change for the better. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather have an in-depth discussion about the violence we see in schools and it's connection to the lack of learning focused on how we interact and communicate with one another. Dr. B basically make a plea for change and also talks about how learning these new social emotional skills is not a quick fix; there must be commitment and openness to new learning in this area so our systems can see change for the better. false full 90     e551a6f7-c9ab-4948-a8bd-54fba66aaa21 090-Having Closure Thanks to NVC Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 1 Jun 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/090-having-closure-thanks-to-nvc-LpEcYYp6 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     090-Having Closure Thanks to NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:08 In Episode 90, Dr. B reflects on the last conflict she had with her mother, just a few months before her mother passed away. Listen in as she explains how, in the "do-over', NVC allowed them to have a lot of connection and healing related to long-term wounds. In Episode 90, Dr. B reflects on the last conflict she had with her mother, just a few months before her mother passed away. Listen in as she explains how, in the "do-over', NVC allowed them to have a lot of connection and healing related to long-term wounds. false full 89     a8c04805-2be6-493d-a8df-eb2bb733248f 089-A Discussion About Feelings Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 25 May 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/089-a-discussion-about-feelings-1wTl250g Additional Resources:

    ]]>     089-A Discussion About Feelings Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:27 In this episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss a couple of topics around feelings. Specifically, they discuss the term "disappointment" and whether or not it's a true feeling as well as why they are talking about this in the first place. They also discuss the statement "that made me feel...." and how to ensure that, no matter the words or statements used, your expressions are connecting and not the opposite. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss a couple of topics around feelings. Specifically, they discuss the term "disappointment" and whether or not it's a true feeling as well as why they are talking about this in the first place. They also discuss the statement "that made me feel...." and how to ensure that, no matter the words or statements used, your expressions are connecting and not the opposite. false full 88     fb80bd75-e45c-4ab2-99d9-cd520dcc7f5c 087-More About Trauma and NVC Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 18 May 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/087-more-about-trauma-and-nvc-TmoTZ6IH Additional Resources:

    ]]>     087-More About Trauma and NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:44 In this episode, Dr. B shares about an experience where her own trauma was triggered and some epiphanies she had about the way we communicate with one another. She and Heather talk about how even comments with no harm intended, if not observational, can open up old wounds. In this episode, Dr. B shares about an experience where her own trauma was triggered and some epiphanies she had about the way we communicate with one another. She and Heather talk about how even comments with no harm intended, if not observational, can open up old wounds. false full 87     44d8e2c5-e7c3-4662-a83c-b21c28210426 086- Dr. B Gets Empathy!
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    • ]]>     086- Dr. B Gets Empathy! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:26 When Dr. B and Heather met to record this Episode, Dr. B was going through a family health crisis - as they had just learned that her mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. Given that, she was not able to think, easily, about content for the podcast. That is often the case for people in general. When we are stimulated by life's circumstances, it can be very helpful to get empathy and get more fully connected to the needs in the circumstance and, oftentimes, this will help people become more able to be present and able to function in trying circumstances. So, Dr. B and Heather decided to use this episode to give empathy to Dr. B and model what that sounds like for the listening audience. And, our listeners may be interested to know that Dr. B's mother did pass on May 5th - only a few weeks after being diagnosed with her illness. When Dr. B and Heather met to record this Episode, Dr. B was going through a family health crisis - as they had just learned that her mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. Given that, she was not able to think, easily, about content for the podcast. That is often the case for people in general. When we are stimulated by life's circumstances, it can be very helpful to get empathy and get more fully connected to the needs in the circumstance and, oftentimes, this will help people become more able to be present and able to function in trying circumstances. So, Dr. B and Heather decided to use this episode to give empathy to Dr. B and model what that sounds like for the listening audience. And, our listeners may be interested to know that Dr. B's mother did pass on May 5th - only a few weeks after being diagnosed with her illness. false full 86     e1e16390-95eb-4149-ae96-8f3d6c81de15 085-NVC and a Growth Mindset
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    • ]]>     085-NVC and a Growth Mindset Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:18 What is a growth mindset? How does it differ from a fixed mindset, and how is NVC related to this topic? All of this and more is discussed by Dr. B and Heather in Episode 85. We hope you enjoy. What is a growth mindset? How does it differ from a fixed mindset, and how is NVC related to this topic? All of this and more is discussed by Dr. B and Heather in Episode 85. We hope you enjoy. false full 85     e5220611-5b65-4970-8d5e-fbdd69ccd089 084-A Little about Someone's NVC Journey Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 27 Apr 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/084-a-little-about-someones-nvc-journey-vlt7_Ngk Additional Resources:

    ]]>     084-A Little about Someone's NVC Journey Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:02 Dr. B. is missing on this episode due to a difficult family matter. So, in Episode 84, Heather takes the liberty of interviewing her friend Tamara who sheds some light about her NVC journey. Dr. B. is missing on this episode due to a difficult family matter. So, in Episode 84, Heather takes the liberty of interviewing her friend Tamara who sheds some light about her NVC journey. false full 84     eb301408-0156-4dc0-9d86-8ce048685c9a 083-NVC During Life's Hard Moments Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 20 Apr 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/083-nvc-during-lifes-hard-moments-DiMvygIL Additional Resources:

    ]]>     083-NVC During Life's Hard Moments Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:43 NVC can come in handy not just in conflict situations where you would like to communicate in a way that is connecting. It can also be very helpful in some of life's very difficult moments - like when a family member becomes extremely sick and emotions and exhaustion are high. In this episode, Dr. B shares about a rather personal event where the gift of NVC has provided very useful perspective and fortification. NVC can come in handy not just in conflict situations where you would like to communicate in a way that is connecting. It can also be very helpful in some of life's very difficult moments - like when a family member becomes extremely sick and emotions and exhaustion are high. In this episode, Dr. B shares about a rather personal event where the gift of NVC has provided very useful perspective and fortification. false full 83     b6ae904d-1963-4c47-8045-807dbd9b2ef4 082-Using Other Conversational Responses Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 13 Apr 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/082-using-other-conversational-responses-_Q7MSU_u Additional Resources:

    ]]>     082-Using Other Conversational Responses Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:11 What are Other Conversational Responses or OCRs? How are they different than empathy? When might someone choose to use and OCR as opposed to empathy? All of these questions and more are discussed by Heather and Dr. B in Episode 82! What are Other Conversational Responses or OCRs? How are they different than empathy? When might someone choose to use and OCR as opposed to empathy? All of these questions and more are discussed by Heather and Dr. B in Episode 82! false full 82     e867b8db-faaf-4bb6-9ccf-baca5e50fdc8 081-NVC on the Trail - A Success Story! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 6 Apr 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/081-nvc-on-the-trail-a-success-story-2sjIl1FI Additional Resources:

    ]]>     081-NVC on the Trail - A Success Story! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:15 Join Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walk in Episode 81. Today they share a personal success story of Anne's and discuss many things NVC related: Expression and the various components; the difficulty of using Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests; Connecting Requests and Action Requests; plus lots more. Join Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walk in Episode 81. Today they share a personal success story of Anne's and discuss many things NVC related: Expression and the various components; the difficulty of using Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests; Connecting Requests and Action Requests; plus lots more. false full 81     a3dccee8-5660-4df8-92ef-3fd3738b17a2 080-NVC on the Trail - All About Empathy Gym and Why it Works Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 30 Mar 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/080-nvc-on-the-trail-all-about-empathy-gym-and-why-it-works-dZw2PUzB Additional Resources:

    ]]>     080-NVC on the Trail - All About Empathy Gym and Why it Works Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:19 Join Dr. B and her good friend Anne on their morning walk where they discuss The Bigbie Method's Empathy Gym. In Episode 80, Dr. B reflects on her excitement around "the Gym" because she is actually seeing people really up their NVC game. This is a big deal because NVC skills don't happen over night, so it's rather thrilling to see a system that has been designed to help people become more proficient - and that it's actually working. Learn more here about Empathy Gym and how it helps increase NVC skill. Join Dr. B and her good friend Anne on their morning walk where they discuss The Bigbie Method's Empathy Gym. In Episode 80, Dr. B reflects on her excitement around "the Gym" because she is actually seeing people really up their NVC game. This is a big deal because NVC skills don't happen over night, so it's rather thrilling to see a system that has been designed to help people become more proficient - and that it's actually working. Learn more here about Empathy Gym and how it helps increase NVC skill. false full 80     6396b9fe-d62d-49b9-81b1-68322396ac91 079-NVC On the Trail - Using NVC in a Community Discussion Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     079-NVC On the Trail - Using NVC in a Community Discussion Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:39 Episode 79 is another glimpse at the conversations that happen between Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walks. This morning on the trail, Anne shares about a community conversation that she "held" amongst parents that had all the potential of being edgy - but, instead, turned out to be very connecting thanks to Anne's intentional preparation and use of NVC. Episode 79 is another glimpse at the conversations that happen between Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walks. This morning on the trail, Anne shares about a community conversation that she "held" amongst parents that had all the potential of being edgy - but, instead, turned out to be very connecting thanks to Anne's intentional preparation and use of NVC. false full 79     f57f33b9-3c1f-4c53-9de3-1fe6501c8b22 078-NVC is not a Process Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     078-NVC is not a Process Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:15 Dr. B and Heather talk about many things in Episode 78. To get to connection... it ultimately doesn't matter what words or processes you use. NVC does give us some helpful guidelines to move individuals towards connection. However, the energy of what your intention is will come through no matter what. So, it's important to make sure that your words match your internal experience. Given that, the NVC template will not be very useful unless you do the hard internal work required for connection - if that is truly your intention. NVC as an embodiment; throw the template aside - the embodiment is the end goal. Dr. B and Heather talk about many things in Episode 78. To get to connection... it ultimately doesn't matter what words or processes you use. NVC does give us some helpful guidelines to move individuals towards connection. However, the energy of what your intention is will come through no matter what. So, it's important to make sure that your words match your internal experience. Given that, the NVC template will not be very useful unless you do the hard internal work required for connection - if that is truly your intention. NVC as an embodiment; throw the template aside - the embodiment is the end goal. false full 78     a56d3890-be2c-4092-9cca-87fa2a1d7e14 076-The Importance of Expressing Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     076-The Importance of Expressing Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:45 NVC is not just about giving empathy and listening to other. Of equal importance is expressing what is going on for you. Void of expression, there can be a great strain on the relationship because connection is about all people being seen, heard, and valued without judgment. In Episode 77, Dr. B and Heather discuss the importance of expressing and some indicators that may be helpful in determining when to express so that you have a better chance of being hear. NVC is not just about giving empathy and listening to other. Of equal importance is expressing what is going on for you. Void of expression, there can be a great strain on the relationship because connection is about all people being seen, heard, and valued without judgment. In Episode 77, Dr. B and Heather discuss the importance of expressing and some indicators that may be helpful in determining when to express so that you have a better chance of being hear. false full 77     1770c714-3700-4e7f-a513-ed7e206ae52a 075-Know Where You Are! Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     075-Know Where You Are! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:22 Episode 75 is all about using Extended Self-Empathy. Dr. B. shares how she recently put down a version of the NVC Self-Empathy Dance Floor and used it to deeply process some difficult anger she was experiencing. Join Dr. B and Heather as they go more deeply into the self-empathy, the different components, the power of the process and where it fits in the NVC model. Episode 75 is all about using Extended Self-Empathy. Dr. B. shares how she recently put down a version of the NVC Self-Empathy Dance Floor and used it to deeply process some difficult anger she was experiencing. Join Dr. B and Heather as they go more deeply into the self-empathy, the different components, the power of the process and where it fits in the NVC model. false full 76     2d18601a-ce24-408b-a61e-61ef3a391399 074-NVC on the Trail - Building a New Brain, the Importance of Practice, & Other Parts of a Meandering Conversation Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 23 Feb 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/074-nvc-on-the-trail-building-a-new-brain-the-importance-of-practice-other-parts-of-a-meandering-conversation-vWxEVSZJ Additional Resources:

    ]]>     074-NVC on the Trail - Building a New Brain, the Importance of Practice, & Other Parts of a Meandering Conversation Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:10 We hope you enjoy this Episode where Dr. B and her friend Anne continue to give you a glimpse of their morning walks and the NVC-based conversation that often arises. This week, they discuss the importance of practice and reflection to build new connections in the brain. They also provide a bunch of examples of NVC in real life and just in the conversation they have as they get their morning exercise. We hope you enjoy this Episode where Dr. B and her friend Anne continue to give you a glimpse of their morning walks and the NVC-based conversation that often arises. This week, they discuss the importance of practice and reflection to build new connections in the brain. They also provide a bunch of examples of NVC in real life and just in the conversation they have as they get their morning exercise. true full 75     ad53de6e-0549-44db-a8f9-07329669a484 074-NVC on the Trail - All About Feelings & Thoughts Additional Resources:

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    ]]>     074-NVC on the Trail - All About Feelings & Thoughts Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:07:54 Join Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walk - where they have a discussion about separating out one's thoughts from their feelings. Why it's important and how to possibly break the habit. Join Dr. B and her friend Anne on their morning walk - where they have a discussion about separating out one's thoughts from their feelings. Why it's important and how to possibly break the habit. false full 74     f66819fd-632c-441c-96b9-e50f4139a55b 073-Talking NVC on the Trail Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 9 Feb 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/073-talking-nvc-on-the-trail-jyDQVpfw Additional Resources:

    ]]>     073-Talking NVC on the Trail Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:07:43 In this Episode, Dr. B and her good friend, Anne, discover they can capture their NVC conversations that happen quite often on their morning walk. Listen in on this episode when they talk about Anne's use of Connecting Requests with her daughter. In this Episode, Dr. B and her good friend, Anne, discover they can capture their NVC conversations that happen quite often on their morning walk. Listen in on this episode when they talk about Anne's use of Connecting Requests with her daughter. false full 73     2a6292c0-89db-464d-b0c5-f8e1d70bb8d0 072-A Work of Art Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 2 Feb 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/072-a-work-of-art-tuI5UQPG Additional Resources:

    ]]>     072-A Work of Art Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:55 In Episode 72, Dr. B interviews Heather about a recent conflict that she had, where NVC saved the day. This particular recording highlights the steps taken before the actual NVC conversation, what happened when the conversation to talk about the conflict finally occurred, and then Heather's reflections on the process and outcomes. The episode is named, "A Work of Art" because Dr. B mentions how it was like viewing a work of art when watching two young women use their NVC skills to truly complete their conflict and forge an even deeper connection. In Episode 72, Dr. B interviews Heather about a recent conflict that she had, where NVC saved the day. This particular recording highlights the steps taken before the actual NVC conversation, what happened when the conversation to talk about the conflict finally occurred, and then Heather's reflections on the process and outcomes. The episode is named, "A Work of Art" because Dr. B mentions how it was like viewing a work of art when watching two young women use their NVC skills to truly complete their conflict and forge an even deeper connection. false full 72     7a23c1dc-107a-4e1f-92c4-3e9168d36e36 071-Indicators that Empathy Might Be Useful Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 26 Jan 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/071-indicators-that-empathy-might-be-useful-VwnPhco5 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     071-Indicators that Empathy Might Be Useful Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:58 Though Dr. B believes that empathy is underused and often much wanted, there are definitely situations when empathy may not serve connection. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss some indicators that may help people feel more confident in using empathy for themselves and/or others. What are some signals that one may pick up on that are a clue that empathy could be useful? Though Dr. B believes that empathy is underused and often much wanted, there are definitely situations when empathy may not serve connection. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss some indicators that may help people feel more confident in using empathy for themselves and/or others. What are some signals that one may pick up on that are a clue that empathy could be useful? false full 71     115dfa7e-0eff-4737-a370-f1740d54f062 070-ABC + NVC Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 19 Jan 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/070-abc-nvc-HPDHqzy4 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     070-ABC + NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:29 This this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss and idea from Positive Psychology guru Martin Seligman - ABCs - "Beliefs about an adversity, and not the adversity itself, causes the consequence, or the feelings." During this discussion, they go into the connection of this idea to NVC and cultivating awareness of one's judgments and, in so doing, keep painful situations from escalating to a state of suffering. Lots to unpack here. This this Episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss and idea from Positive Psychology guru Martin Seligman - ABCs - "Beliefs about an adversity, and not the adversity itself, causes the consequence, or the feelings." During this discussion, they go into the connection of this idea to NVC and cultivating awareness of one's judgments and, in so doing, keep painful situations from escalating to a state of suffering. Lots to unpack here. false full 70     7e15f9ed-f77f-4f84-8245-f20f832c0c9d 069-Judging Judgements Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 12 Jan 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/069-judging-judgements-RvmvCdHO Additional Resources:

    ]]>     069-Judging Judgements Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:34 Did you ever think about how when you tell someone or think "that's judgmental" or "that's a judgment" - that you are making a judgment yourself? Dr. B and Heather unpack this idea in Episode 69 and also talk a bit about how it's our unconscious judgements at the root of so much conflict in the world. Did you ever think about how when you tell someone or think "that's judgmental" or "that's a judgment" - that you are making a judgment yourself? Dr. B and Heather unpack this idea in Episode 69 and also talk a bit about how it's our unconscious judgements at the root of so much conflict in the world. false full 69     cd4b63d8-76d4-485f-b6fd-0e98147c01a6 068-I'm an F'ing Unicorn Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 5 Jan 2022 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/068-im-an-fing-unicorn-_S0hR_ei Additional Resources:

    ]]>     068-I'm an F'ing Unicorn Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:13 In this Episode, Dr. B shares a story where she was able to model NVC process on the spot in a school situation. It's so easy to forget the empathy component, especially when things get edgy. And, in schools there is so much going on in every minute, that it's super hard to remember how effective a little empathy can be to turn around situations and help youth hear what you'd like to share. This was a just-in-time situation when empathy de-escalated a situation seemingly magically - but really it was all about just learning how to listen. In this Episode, Dr. B shares a story where she was able to model NVC process on the spot in a school situation. It's so easy to forget the empathy component, especially when things get edgy. And, in schools there is so much going on in every minute, that it's super hard to remember how effective a little empathy can be to turn around situations and help youth hear what you'd like to share. This was a just-in-time situation when empathy de-escalated a situation seemingly magically - but really it was all about just learning how to listen. false full 68     c5868451-bdd7-4fd1-a38b-801293667f7d 067-Celebrating Bringing NVC into Schools
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    • ]]>     067-Celebrating Bringing NVC into Schools Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:45 NVC going into the schools... in a big way! That's what this episode is all about. The Bigbie Method has recently secured contracts in school districts and will be launching it's revolutionary system in 21 schools in the next couple of years. Listen in to learn more about this exciting opportunity and to hear how, you too, can bring The Bigbie Method to your schools and businesses. NVC going into the schools... in a big way! That's what this episode is all about. The Bigbie Method has recently secured contracts in school districts and will be launching it's revolutionary system in 21 schools in the next couple of years. Listen in to learn more about this exciting opportunity and to hear how, you too, can bring The Bigbie Method to your schools and businesses. false full 67     3e3a6737-8c9f-40b3-8b7b-f7d7db30a050 066-Accountability and a Badge System for NVC - Oh My! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 22 Dec 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/066-accountability-and-a-badge-system-for-nvc-oh-my-Grqd18xr Additional Resources:

    ]]>     066-Accountability and a Badge System for NVC - Oh My! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:45 Accountability and Nonviolent Communication - is this an oxymoron? Learn how The Bigbie Method has designed a system to help people "skill up" in their NVC skills AND keep the NVC consciousness that is so essential to the work. How do we hold on to the essence and depth of NVC while helping people strengthen their NVC skills. Dr. B used to think this wasn't possible. But, working with a talented instructional designer and friend - she has been proven wrong. This gives her a lot of hope as it provides a way to get these valuable skills to the masses. Accountability and Nonviolent Communication - is this an oxymoron? Learn how The Bigbie Method has designed a system to help people "skill up" in their NVC skills AND keep the NVC consciousness that is so essential to the work. How do we hold on to the essence and depth of NVC while helping people strengthen their NVC skills. Dr. B used to think this wasn't possible. But, working with a talented instructional designer and friend - she has been proven wrong. This gives her a lot of hope as it provides a way to get these valuable skills to the masses. false full 66     8c92df31-7018-4f7b-91f7-a2bc6904e7b6 065-Listener Question - I want to give empathy to my kid - but we need to get to school!! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 15 Dec 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/065-listener-question-i-want-to-give-empathy-to-my-kid-but-we-need-to-get-to-school-jUFaeGJ8 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     065-Listener Question - I want to give empathy to my kid - but we need to get to school!! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:10 In this episode, Dr. B and Heather take another listener's question. Many parents can probably relate to this. You are in a rush to get out the door in the morning and your child won't get out of bed or move quick enough. There is no real time for empathy in one of those moments.... so what does one do? In this episode, Dr. B and Heather take another listener's question. Many parents can probably relate to this. You are in a rush to get out the door in the morning and your child won't get out of bed or move quick enough. There is no real time for empathy in one of those moments.... so what does one do? false full 65     bc2d4913-55b8-4e04-ba29-46b81b20b5ae 064-Listener Question - NVC and Family Stuff Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 8 Dec 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/064-listener-question-nvc-and-family-stuff-bRlzzF5L Additional Resources:

    ]]>     064-Listener Question - NVC and Family Stuff Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:07:30 In Episode 64, Dr. B and Heather answer the following listener question. How do you use your NVC skills when you have family members that don't talk with one another and you are close to both of them - and they "jackal" to you about the other person? In Episode 64, Dr. B and Heather answer the following listener question. How do you use your NVC skills when you have family members that don't talk with one another and you are close to both of them - and they "jackal" to you about the other person? false full 64     0860b09b-b64c-477e-92dc-645476e7d494 063-When Someone is "Shut-Down" - What To Do? Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 1 Dec 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/063-when-someone-is-shut-down-what-to-do-IaoRISJ1 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     063-When Someone is "Shut-Down" - What To Do? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:01 In Episode 63, Dr. B and Heather roleplay a situation between a student and teacher, where the student really doesn't want to be in the conversation. What does one do then? Note... even when someone doesn't say something, he/she is actually saying something - and needs guesses can be made even in those situations. Listen in and hear how Heather handles this. In Episode 63, Dr. B and Heather roleplay a situation between a student and teacher, where the student really doesn't want to be in the conversation. What does one do then? Note... even when someone doesn't say something, he/she is actually saying something - and needs guesses can be made even in those situations. Listen in and hear how Heather handles this. true full 63     39aebc51-6f7c-48d2-bc9f-fb8741d3e33a 062-In Memory of Trent Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 24 Nov 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/062-in-memory-of-trent-ljwKZzgC Additional Resources:

    ]]>     062-In Memory of Trent Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:11 Episode 62 was recorded on November 17 - two years after the tragic shooting of Trent - one of Dr. Bigbie's students from her restorative justice program. This episode connects the dots between that very sad event and how The Bigbie Method came into being. The mission of The Bigbie Method is to help individuals create connection through their communication even in conflict. It is our hope that the more people learn and implement NVC, the less violence we are apt to see in the world. Episode 62 was recorded on November 17 - two years after the tragic shooting of Trent - one of Dr. Bigbie's students from her restorative justice program. This episode connects the dots between that very sad event and how The Bigbie Method came into being. The mission of The Bigbie Method is to help individuals create connection through their communication even in conflict. It is our hope that the more people learn and implement NVC, the less violence we are apt to see in the world. false full 62     b73ca164-551b-4fa3-a9cd-a053187baa9b 061-We Love Screwing Up! Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 Nov 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/061-we-love-screwing-up-gUfjUX2b Episode Notes

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    ]]>     061-We Love Screwing Up! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:29 "Mistakes" in the NVC process can actually be very informative and helpful. Listen to Heather and Dr. B in Episode 61 sharing about why screwing up can meet needs for learning, connection -and, ultimately - effectiveness. "Mistakes" in the NVC process can actually be very informative and helpful. Listen to Heather and Dr. B in Episode 61 sharing about why screwing up can meet needs for learning, connection -and, ultimately - effectiveness. false full 61     2f010ca0-acc2-4b6b-b8e6-ac215b59203c 060-Shit-talking Role Play Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 10 Nov 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/060-shit-talking-role-play-IhkHSS_U Additional Resources:

    ]]>     060-Shit-talking Role Play Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:20 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather roleplay a situation where a friend comes to talk to you and is "bad-mouthing" a mutual friend. How does one handle a moment like this - keeping connection and integrity all at the same time? Tune in to learn. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather roleplay a situation where a friend comes to talk to you and is "bad-mouthing" a mutual friend. How does one handle a moment like this - keeping connection and integrity all at the same time? Tune in to learn. false full 60     dd2e625a-511d-417e-9e72-b2862b34726c 059-NVC and Spirituality Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 3 Nov 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/059-nvc-and-spirituality-Ezo4na7_ Additional Resources:

    ]]>     059-NVC and Spirituality Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:51 In this Episode... Heather and Dr. B get "deep" in this discussion on how spirituality and NVC are connected. How does spirituality support NVC? How does NVC help deepen spirituality? Some of the topics talked about include using the self-empathy process, presence, and how mourning one's needs can be supported by one's spiritual connection/process. In this Episode... Heather and Dr. B get "deep" in this discussion on how spirituality and NVC are connected. How does spirituality support NVC? How does NVC help deepen spirituality? Some of the topics talked about include using the self-empathy process, presence, and how mourning one's needs can be supported by one's spiritual connection/process. false full 59     89262aa4-ccbf-4ff6-94cb-6359bb43b12f 058-When Empathy May Not Be Best! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 27 Oct 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/058-when-empathy-may-not-be-best-o4MZtHAq Additional Resources:

    ]]>     058-When Empathy May Not Be Best! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:26 Empathy may not be the most connecting response in a circumstance. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather go through a list of situations where giving and/or receiving empathy may not be the most "life serving" in the moment. Empathy may not be the most connecting response in a circumstance. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather go through a list of situations where giving and/or receiving empathy may not be the most "life serving" in the moment. false full 58     e69b06c2-531e-4bca-91e7-6f52e9fec5d4 057-Moving Towards Conflict Part 2 Episode Notes

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Oct 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/057-moving-towards-conflict-part-2-Q2ujIjDI Episode Notes

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    ]]>     057-Moving Towards Conflict Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:41 In Episode 57, Dr. B and Heather continue the conversation around moving towards conflict to have more safety - with a specific focus on doing this in our systems - schools, organizations, criminal justice, etc. How do we actually use conflict to create more connection - instead of the opposite? This is unpacked during this episode. In Episode 57, Dr. B and Heather continue the conversation around moving towards conflict to have more safety - with a specific focus on doing this in our systems - schools, organizations, criminal justice, etc. How do we actually use conflict to create more connection - instead of the opposite? This is unpacked during this episode. false full 57     a50cbe40-b308-430f-aafe-ffbb41203b2b 056-Moving Towards Conflict Part 1 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 13 Oct 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/056-moving-towards-conflict-part-1-eT5eLKR9 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     056-Moving Towards Conflict Part 1 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:53 What if we create more safety in our world by walking towards conflict instead of avoiding it or shutting it out? In Episode 56, Dr. B and Heather talk about the current state of affairs where there seems to be this great divide amongst people and their views and how we might navigate those difficult conflicts differently and undo the hate that seems to be bubbling up in all corners of life. What if we create more safety in our world by walking towards conflict instead of avoiding it or shutting it out? In Episode 56, Dr. B and Heather talk about the current state of affairs where there seems to be this great divide amongst people and their views and how we might navigate those difficult conflicts differently and undo the hate that seems to be bubbling up in all corners of life. false full 56     1efdfed6-4bb5-487c-b45d-1cc6a26abfb9 055-Asking for What You Need in Communication Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 6 Oct 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/055-asking-for-what-you-need-in-communication-duGRuez2 Additional Resources:

    ]]>     055-Asking for What You Need in Communication Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:52 Episode 55 - in this week's podcast, Heather and Dr. B discuss various strategies to use when people in your life have a way of responding that is not satisfying for you. There are often situations when we speak to people and find that we are uncomfortable and/or unhappy with the way the other person responds. It can be so discouraging that some folks may go to a default of not fully expressing the things they'd like to be heard about. What if there was a different way of moving in such circumstances. This is all part of the discussion in Episode 55. Episode 55 - in this week's podcast, Heather and Dr. B discuss various strategies to use when people in your life have a way of responding that is not satisfying for you. There are often situations when we speak to people and find that we are uncomfortable and/or unhappy with the way the other person responds. It can be so discouraging that some folks may go to a default of not fully expressing the things they'd like to be heard about. What if there was a different way of moving in such circumstances. This is all part of the discussion in Episode 55. false full 55     e4b34a43-bc31-4ecd-867f-9a84b35e8e57 054-Protective Use of Force Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 29 Sep 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/054-protective-use-of-force-5qLQpNhz Additional Resources:

    ]]>     054-Protective Use of Force Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:24 In Episode 54, Dr. B and Heather discuss the concept of Protective Use of Force. Sometimes, there isn't time to "use your words" and safety is at hand. In those instances, it may be warranted to use force. However, the co-hosts discuss how protective use of force is different from punishment and how it may fit into the NVC paradigm. In Episode 54, Dr. B and Heather discuss the concept of Protective Use of Force. Sometimes, there isn't time to "use your words" and safety is at hand. In those instances, it may be warranted to use force. However, the co-hosts discuss how protective use of force is different from punishment and how it may fit into the NVC paradigm. false full 54     d2d82701-88cc-4860-9b98-fa8e6e1e9c99 053-I Know That's A Judgment Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 22 Sep 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/053-i-know-thats-a-judgment-8aikqeMn Additional Resources:

    ]]>     053-I Know That's A Judgment Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:36 So, you're learning NVC and you realize that it's hard to talk because you are worried about saying judgmental things and not super confident that you can gauge them or what else to say. Thus, you are rendered speechless or, at least, nervous to talk - especially when there are other NVC folks around. Join us in Episode 53, where Dr. B and Heather unpack this topic a bit. So, you're learning NVC and you realize that it's hard to talk because you are worried about saying judgmental things and not super confident that you can gauge them or what else to say. Thus, you are rendered speechless or, at least, nervous to talk - especially when there are other NVC folks around. Join us in Episode 53, where Dr. B and Heather unpack this topic a bit. false full 53     dcd56a00-2162-411f-809e-4608bad9ec48 052-Sharing Power with Youth Some of the topics discussed in this week's episode include:

    • Community Connections - what it was and who participated
    • How to work with kids in a group setting and build trust and emotional safety for all
    • Setting up Agreements with youth
    • What to do when Agreements are broken
    • Using a talking piece as a strategy for respect and emotional safety
    • Sticking with empathy first in all circumstances
    • And more...

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 15 Sep 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/052-sharing-power-with-youth-xJ_tG2WM Some of the topics discussed in this week's episode include:

    • Community Connections - what it was and who participated
    • How to work with kids in a group setting and build trust and emotional safety for all
    • Setting up Agreements with youth
    • What to do when Agreements are broken
    • Using a talking piece as a strategy for respect and emotional safety
    • Sticking with empathy first in all circumstances
    • And more...

     

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    ]]>     052-Sharing Power with Youth Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:23 In Episode 52, Dr B shares about her experience running the Restorative Justice program: Community Connections. For anyone involved with youth, this episode will likely meet needs for learning and inspiration. Listen here to learn how to share power in a group environment and have connection and cooperation. In Episode 52, Dr B shares about her experience running the Restorative Justice program: Community Connections. For anyone involved with youth, this episode will likely meet needs for learning and inspiration. Listen here to learn how to share power in a group environment and have connection and cooperation. true full 52     96ea0d0b-3f75-4b07-aa2c-4d044ecdfdc7 051-Deepening the Self Empathy Process with Guest Dr. Jeremiah Murphy In this Episode:

    • What to do in moments of intensity?
    • Thinking about your intention - what does that mean and how can it inform your self-empathy process?
    • Going beyond intellectual understanding of your feelings:  an example of what this looks like

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 8 Sep 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/051-deepening-the-self-empathy-process-with-guest-dr-jeremiah-murphy-Uq98HHyl In this Episode:

    • What to do in moments of intensity?
    • Thinking about your intention - what does that mean and how can it inform your self-empathy process?
    • Going beyond intellectual understanding of your feelings:  an example of what this looks like

     

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    ]]>     051-Deepening the Self Empathy Process with Guest Dr. Jeremiah Murphy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:20 In Episode 51, Dr. B has a special guest. Dr. Jeremiah Murphy is a professor of Astrophysics at Florida State University. However, beyond his day job, he is an avid proponent and student of Nonviolent Communication. Listen here as he shares about a moment that was quite informative to his own practice of self-empathy. In Episode 51, Dr. B has a special guest. Dr. Jeremiah Murphy is a professor of Astrophysics at Florida State University. However, beyond his day job, he is an avid proponent and student of Nonviolent Communication. Listen here as he shares about a moment that was quite informative to his own practice of self-empathy. false full 51     6631a977-30fe-4f9b-a15b-a95de6fbb30b 050-Common NVC Pain Points Are you struggling with NVC and how to make it come alive in your everyday interactions?  The good news is that you are in good company.  NVC is simple in concept but quite challenging to make come alive in your life. Join us to hear some of the Common Pain Points people tend to experience including:

    1.  Feeling resistant to the process
    2. Thinking NVC is the only way to communicate
    3. Thinking the NVC process is too mechanical
    4. Feeling too overwhelmed or unsure to practice

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 1 Sep 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/050-common-nvc-pain-points-QwQFWUHM Are you struggling with NVC and how to make it come alive in your everyday interactions?  The good news is that you are in good company.  NVC is simple in concept but quite challenging to make come alive in your life. Join us to hear some of the Common Pain Points people tend to experience including:

    1.  Feeling resistant to the process
    2. Thinking NVC is the only way to communicate
    3. Thinking the NVC process is too mechanical
    4. Feeling too overwhelmed or unsure to practice

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     050-Common NVC Pain Points Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:50 NVC can be rather tough to learn and use. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather review some of the challenges that people seem to experience on this journey. NVC can be rather tough to learn and use. In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather review some of the challenges that people seem to experience on this journey. false full 50     c4665e33-8663-4666-b4b2-a7214f32fd50 049-I'm Sorry! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 25 Aug 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/049-im-sorry-VTPwN_Qx Additional Resources:

    ]]>     049-I'm Sorry! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:51 Check out this Episode when Dr. B and Heather discuss how to apologize in NVC without using evaluations or judgments and why an NVC apology can provide more accountability and understanding that the typical "I'm sorry" statement. Check out this Episode when Dr. B and Heather discuss how to apologize in NVC without using evaluations or judgments and why an NVC apology can provide more accountability and understanding that the typical "I'm sorry" statement. false full 49     926df484-cafe-4533-9641-64f8c37b692b 048-How to "Handle" Other People's Drama or Not! Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 18 Aug 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/048-how-to-handle-other-peoples-drama-or-not-wgxal3iZ Additional Resources:

    ]]>     048-How to "Handle" Other People's Drama or Not! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:08:43 Perhaps, you are all skilled up in NVC. And now you have this newfound awareness of the judgment playing out in people's conflicts. In Episode 48, Dr. B and Heather discuss this dilemma and what to do. Perhaps, you are all skilled up in NVC. And now you have this newfound awareness of the judgment playing out in people's conflicts. In Episode 48, Dr. B and Heather discuss this dilemma and what to do. false full 48     7c084f94-7e7c-40ad-9f78-82995895d4c9 047-Are you here now? There are a number of topics we discuss all in service to greater understanding around presence. 

    Self Connection - this is modeled on the show

    5-4-3-2-1 - a cool activity you can do to get yourself back to presence, especially in a heated moment

    Having patience with presence and how it is similar to a meditation process.

    How NVC is mostly about presence, so is it useful to use NVC language without presence?

    Join us for this show to learn about all of this and more.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 11 Aug 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/047-are-you-here-now-rz3vvM0i There are a number of topics we discuss all in service to greater understanding around presence. 

    Self Connection - this is modeled on the show

    5-4-3-2-1 - a cool activity you can do to get yourself back to presence, especially in a heated moment

    Having patience with presence and how it is similar to a meditation process.

    How NVC is mostly about presence, so is it useful to use NVC language without presence?

    Join us for this show to learn about all of this and more.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     047-Are you here now? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:22 This episode starts out with Heather not hearing what Dr. B is saying; her mind was in a different place. Has that ever happened to you? Where does your mind go when you are in the midst of a difficult conversation? Lots to talk about with regard to presence - and that's what we do in this episode. This episode starts out with Heather not hearing what Dr. B is saying; her mind was in a different place. Has that ever happened to you? Where does your mind go when you are in the midst of a difficult conversation? Lots to talk about with regard to presence - and that's what we do in this episode. false full 47     3f4a47a8-504e-45bd-be08-61d89ea34dae 046-The Empathy Gym Imagine having a place to go to practice, on the regular, your NVC skills and where you can get very specific feedback on your skill level.  TBM Empathy Gym is a membership based program where people can go to be in an NVC community, practice their NVC skills, and get performance-based feedback on their progress in learning and implementing NVC.  This episode goes into the details of The Empathy Gym and tells you how you can join from anywhere in the world.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 4 Aug 2021 18:10:57 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/046-the-empathy-gym-xK79jt7A Imagine having a place to go to practice, on the regular, your NVC skills and where you can get very specific feedback on your skill level.  TBM Empathy Gym is a membership based program where people can go to be in an NVC community, practice their NVC skills, and get performance-based feedback on their progress in learning and implementing NVC.  This episode goes into the details of The Empathy Gym and tells you how you can join from anywhere in the world.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     046-The Empathy Gym Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:40 In Episode 46, Dr. B and Heather discuss The Bigbie Method Empathy Gym: What is it? How can you join? What are the benefits? What sets it apart? In Episode 46, Dr. B and Heather discuss The Bigbie Method Empathy Gym: What is it? How can you join? What are the benefits? What sets it apart? false full 46     32c23fb7-4f13-4359-b201-23425183f9db 045-Appreciations Part 2 and Some Other Topics... Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 28 Jul 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/045-appreciations-part-2-and-some-other-topics-anysfy2K Additional Resources:

    ]]>     045-Appreciations Part 2 and Some Other Topics... Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:28 In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B cover a number of different topics. They start with a continuation of the episode on Appreciations and then go on to talk about making NVC more natural sounding, allowing for silence in the space, and returning to the original reason for NVC - which is connection. In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B cover a number of different topics. They start with a continuation of the episode on Appreciations and then go on to talk about making NVC more natural sounding, allowing for silence in the space, and returning to the original reason for NVC - which is connection. false full 45     ccf9c603-1763-4a1b-ae65-e17ed64c9ebd 044-Appreciations ala NVC We've talked a lot, in past Episodes, about evaluative language and how it is tied to the trauma epidemic which tends to have a dominoes effect of one person (often unconsciously) triggering another.  If this is so, than where do appreciations come into play?  Is it in service to connection to tell someone they are great or they did a great job?  Dr. B and Heather unpack this topic a bit.  They talk about the NVC way of expressing appreciations and why it may be help to create greater emotional safety and clarity than the way we oftentimes provide "positive" feedback.

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 21 Jul 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/044-appreciations-ala-nvc-nYPJRwCy We've talked a lot, in past Episodes, about evaluative language and how it is tied to the trauma epidemic which tends to have a dominoes effect of one person (often unconsciously) triggering another.  If this is so, than where do appreciations come into play?  Is it in service to connection to tell someone they are great or they did a great job?  Dr. B and Heather unpack this topic a bit.  They talk about the NVC way of expressing appreciations and why it may be help to create greater emotional safety and clarity than the way we oftentimes provide "positive" feedback.

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     044-Appreciations ala NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:34 How does one express appreciation without using judgmental/evaluative language? Episode 44 is all about this. How does one express appreciation without using judgmental/evaluative language? Episode 44 is all about this. false full 44     4bcf8f9e-1c13-43d7-b135-5bebd7e33bc1 043-Expression ala NVC Expressing is just as important as giving empathy in the NVC model, and yet it is the component that is sometimes overlooked.  In this Episode, we discuss why it's important to express and how to do so using Observation (O), Feelings (F), Needs (N), and Request (R).

    We debated using this recording, because we got a "little silly and raw" - meaning we were concerned about effectiveness and acceptance.  However, we believe the topic is an important one and most of the examples and non examples, we think, can help listeners gain some clarity on this topic - at least, that is our hope.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 14 Jul 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/043-expression-ala-nvc-FLLIs0xh Expressing is just as important as giving empathy in the NVC model, and yet it is the component that is sometimes overlooked.  In this Episode, we discuss why it's important to express and how to do so using Observation (O), Feelings (F), Needs (N), and Request (R).

    We debated using this recording, because we got a "little silly and raw" - meaning we were concerned about effectiveness and acceptance.  However, we believe the topic is an important one and most of the examples and non examples, we think, can help listeners gain some clarity on this topic - at least, that is our hope.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     043-Expression ala NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:19 In this Episode, the hosts go over examples and non-examples of expressing honestly using the NVC training wheels of OFNR. In this Episode, the hosts go over examples and non-examples of expressing honestly using the NVC training wheels of OFNR. false full 43     636e9450-2f89-4405-8bfa-f2383f727e2b 042-NVC Tips There tend to be some patterns that occur, especially when people just start learning NVC and then want to share it with others.  In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather address to questions and provide a bunch of tips and insights:

    1.  What to do when you first learn NVC and want to share it with others?
    2. How to give empathy to someone who is jackaling without agreeing or reaffirming their judgments?

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 7 Jul 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/042-nvc-tips-GC265HH6 There tend to be some patterns that occur, especially when people just start learning NVC and then want to share it with others.  In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather address to questions and provide a bunch of tips and insights:

    1.  What to do when you first learn NVC and want to share it with others?
    2. How to give empathy to someone who is jackaling without agreeing or reaffirming their judgments?

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     042-NVC Tips Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:31 In Episode 42, Dr. B and Heather go into a couple of tips to help NVC end in connection and not the opposite. In Episode 42, Dr. B and Heather go into a couple of tips to help NVC end in connection and not the opposite. false full 42     40521d9e-3472-48cd-9778-dcce050fa7f0 041-When Needs Are Not Met... What To Do? If giving empathy and expression in NVC is based in connecting around needs, what is one to do when the other person involved is not interested in contributing to your needs?  This is a very tough topic to explain and Dr. B shares a bit about her own process when this sort of thing happens in her life.  It tends to be helpful to do deep self-empathy and "meet"  your own needs but not in the way that most people would think.  Take some time to listen here to learn more.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     Wed, 30 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/041-when-needs-are-not-met-what-to-do-DCAUrITo If giving empathy and expression in NVC is based in connecting around needs, what is one to do when the other person involved is not interested in contributing to your needs?  This is a very tough topic to explain and Dr. B shares a bit about her own process when this sort of thing happens in her life.  It tends to be helpful to do deep self-empathy and "meet"  your own needs but not in the way that most people would think.  Take some time to listen here to learn more.

     

    Additional Resources:

    ]]>     041-When Needs Are Not Met... What To Do? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:21 Episode 41 goes into a hard topic to pin down... what to do when your needs are not met in a circumstance or with a particular person? Episode 41 goes into a hard topic to pin down... what to do when your needs are not met in a circumstance or with a particular person? false full 41     677b4424-a1c3-40e5-b17a-330ae00f1656 040-A Lawyer who Uses NVC Kelly McGrath worked for 20+ years in the General Counsel's office at the Florida Department of Children and Families.  After learning NVC from Dr. Bigbie, she was inspired to take her work in a different direction and now has a private law firm with the focus on communication first.  

    In this Episode, she shares a bit more about her own personal practices to support herself in her career and she also shares what it looks like to integrate NVC into the legal field.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 23 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/040-a-lawyer-who-uses-nvc-n2Eu_NqR Kelly McGrath worked for 20+ years in the General Counsel's office at the Florida Department of Children and Families.  After learning NVC from Dr. Bigbie, she was inspired to take her work in a different direction and now has a private law firm with the focus on communication first.  

    In this Episode, she shares a bit more about her own personal practices to support herself in her career and she also shares what it looks like to integrate NVC into the legal field.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     040-A Lawyer who Uses NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:14 Kelly McGrath is a "Peacebuilding Lawyer." Learn a little more about what this means and how NVC plays a role in this week's episode. Kelly McGrath is a "Peacebuilding Lawyer." Learn a little more about what this means and how NVC plays a role in this week's episode. false full 40     e5d6a14a-90c5-4b25-a413-54c9ea64cab2 039-Examples of Empathy and Non-Empathy In this episode, we quickly go over the components of empathy:  presence, reflection, and needs guesses.   Then, you will hear Dr. B going through a list of "mock" statements and Heather responding - first with reflection, then Other Conversational Responses, and then taking needs guesses.  The contrast is done to help people experience, side-by-side, the different kinds of responses.  We, especially, would like the listeners to come away with some imaginings of how empathy could sound in a conflict situation.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 16 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/039-examples-of-empathy-and-non-empathy-i9g0MFmd In this episode, we quickly go over the components of empathy:  presence, reflection, and needs guesses.   Then, you will hear Dr. B going through a list of "mock" statements and Heather responding - first with reflection, then Other Conversational Responses, and then taking needs guesses.  The contrast is done to help people experience, side-by-side, the different kinds of responses.  We, especially, would like the listeners to come away with some imaginings of how empathy could sound in a conflict situation.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     039-Examples of Empathy and Non-Empathy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:03 What is NVC empathy? How does it sound? In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather go through a whole bunch of examples and non-examples to help the listeners gain greater clarity. What is NVC empathy? How does it sound? In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather go through a whole bunch of examples and non-examples to help the listeners gain greater clarity. false full 39     ecc09efc-2ad5-4287-8232-b1b9d64ff620 038-"Clean" Pain and "Dirty" Pain In his book, "My Grandmother's Hands:  Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending our Hearts and Bodies," Resmaa Menakem shares about historical and generational trauma and how it lives in our bodies.  Dr. B believes this work is significant and very much aligned with the ability to move or not with NVC skills in the world  - to disrupt the trauma epidemic we see playing out around us.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 9 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/038-clean-pain-and-dirty-pain-K2WzuH8B In his book, "My Grandmother's Hands:  Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending our Hearts and Bodies," Resmaa Menakem shares about historical and generational trauma and how it lives in our bodies.  Dr. B believes this work is significant and very much aligned with the ability to move or not with NVC skills in the world  - to disrupt the trauma epidemic we see playing out around us.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     038-"Clean" Pain and "Dirty" Pain Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:45 In this episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss the concepts of "clean" pain and "dirty" pain, and the connection to NVC. In this episode, Dr. B and Heather discuss the concepts of "clean" pain and "dirty" pain, and the connection to NVC. false full 38     37b91055-5b63-427e-8e36-ee67b60cf0e6 037-Mother's Day Brawl After a conflict that started on Mother's Day, Dr. B and her daughter had a conversation using their NVC skills and it was "quickly" and "sweetly" resolved.  Afterwards, Dr. B wished she had recorded the whole thing so that her listeners could hear how this process works in real life situations.  Luckily, her daughter was game to come on the show and recreate the conversation so that listeners could hear and, hopefully, learn.

    It may see odd to hear this and folks may think it sounds "weird" or "inauthentic" or "rehearsed."  But, this was really how the conversation went and it really ended with connection for all.  We hope you enjoy a little window into our world.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

    ]]>     Wed, 2 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/037-mothers-day-brawl-1_yhjcB_ After a conflict that started on Mother's Day, Dr. B and her daughter had a conversation using their NVC skills and it was "quickly" and "sweetly" resolved.  Afterwards, Dr. B wished she had recorded the whole thing so that her listeners could hear how this process works in real life situations.  Luckily, her daughter was game to come on the show and recreate the conversation so that listeners could hear and, hopefully, learn.

    It may see odd to hear this and folks may think it sounds "weird" or "inauthentic" or "rehearsed."  But, this was really how the conversation went and it really ended with connection for all.  We hope you enjoy a little window into our world.

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

    ]]>     037-Mother's Day Brawl Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:18:44 In Episode 37, Dr. B brings on a guest speaker... her daughter, Tylre Bigbie, to recreate a recent conflict conversation and model how NVC works in "real life." In Episode 37, Dr. B brings on a guest speaker... her daughter, Tylre Bigbie, to recreate a recent conflict conversation and model how NVC works in "real life." false full 37     a077261f-4451-4866-b8c0-768e066f0564 036-Silent Empathy Sometime out loud empathy may not be connecting and, in those circumstances, silent empathy may be just the ticket.  

    What is silent empathy?  How is it different than just getting quiet in a moment?  When is the best time to use silent empathy?  When might you want to try a different strategy?  All of this is discussed during this week's episode.  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

    ]]>     Wed, 26 May 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/036-silent-empathy-Uf96sP1P Sometime out loud empathy may not be connecting and, in those circumstances, silent empathy may be just the ticket.  

    What is silent empathy?  How is it different than just getting quiet in a moment?  When is the best time to use silent empathy?  When might you want to try a different strategy?  All of this is discussed during this week's episode.  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

    ]]>     036-Silent Empathy Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:09:31 In Episode 36, Dr. B and Heather discuss the how and the why of giving silent empathy. In Episode 36, Dr. B and Heather discuss the how and the why of giving silent empathy. false full 36     97fc3752-baa0-47e8-a705-af5d85bc9871 035-The Three States of Mind According to author, Steve Taylor, humans have three different states of mind:  Abstraction, Absorption, and Attention.  

    Abstraction is the busy mind, consumed with thoughts about past and future.  Our minds are so consumed that we are not plugged into the present moment at all.  This is, primarily, where most of us live.

    Absorption occurs when we are sucked into some kind of activity and it takes over our mind.  Playing a sport, reading a book, watching TV...our minds are so absorbed in the task that we are not present with our immediate experience.

    Attention is the state of mind that is most akin to the presence that is so important to the NVC process.  It's hard to come by - especially when in conflict and, yet, it can be built.  

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 19 May 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/035-the-three-states-of-mind-pJpDnCGw According to author, Steve Taylor, humans have three different states of mind:  Abstraction, Absorption, and Attention.  

    Abstraction is the busy mind, consumed with thoughts about past and future.  Our minds are so consumed that we are not plugged into the present moment at all.  This is, primarily, where most of us live.

    Absorption occurs when we are sucked into some kind of activity and it takes over our mind.  Playing a sport, reading a book, watching TV...our minds are so absorbed in the task that we are not present with our immediate experience.

    Attention is the state of mind that is most akin to the presence that is so important to the NVC process.  It's hard to come by - especially when in conflict and, yet, it can be built.  

     

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     035-The Three States of Mind Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:36 In Episode 35, Dr. B and Heather delve a little deeper into our "crazy-ass" mind, where it tends to go, and the place that is optimal for the NVC process. In Episode 35, Dr. B and Heather delve a little deeper into our "crazy-ass" mind, where it tends to go, and the place that is optimal for the NVC process. false full 35     1e4e4dbc-10e6-4a1e-a669-cee09f56d90c 034-Letting Other Know You're in WAIT
  • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking or What Am I Thinking?  Both are important and serve different roles in the NVC process.
  • It's important to let the other know that you are WAITING - otherwise there is a lot of room for making up stories and causing further disconnection.
  • There are a number of ways to share that you are WAITING.  Dr. B gives several examples on how to do so.

    •  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 12 May 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/034-letting-other-know-youre-in-wait-X47PPshU
  • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking or What Am I Thinking?  Both are important and serve different roles in the NVC process.
  • It's important to let the other know that you are WAITING - otherwise there is a lot of room for making up stories and causing further disconnection.
  • There are a number of ways to share that you are WAITING.  Dr. B gives several examples on how to do so.

    •  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     034-Letting Other Know You're in WAIT Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:31 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather revisit the WAIT process a bit and talk about the importance of letting the other person, in the conflict, know that you are WAITING! In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather revisit the WAIT process a bit and talk about the importance of letting the other person, in the conflict, know that you are WAITING! false full 34     6500ced6-e0e0-4a02-9423-6f2565daab72 033-Doing It Differently - Part 2 "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created them." Dr. B ends this episode with quote from Albert Einstein.  This week's guest provides a perfect example of addressing conflict at a very different level of thinking.  

    By providing this week's example as well as the one on Episode 32, it is our hope to inspire others to try doing conflict in a totally different way. 

    Of course, if you need support, you can always contact us and/or take a course through The Bigbie Method.  Please see contact information below. 

    Additional Resources:

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    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 5 May 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/033-doing-it-differently-part-2-8XxowBQX "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created them." Dr. B ends this episode with quote from Albert Einstein.  This week's guest provides a perfect example of addressing conflict at a very different level of thinking.  

    By providing this week's example as well as the one on Episode 32, it is our hope to inspire others to try doing conflict in a totally different way. 

    Of course, if you need support, you can always contact us and/or take a course through The Bigbie Method.  Please see contact information below. 

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     033-Doing It Differently - Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:42 What do you do in a moment when someone says something triggering for you? Do you respond by fighting back, running away, and/or freezing up? In this Episode, Dr. B invites guest, Janelle King, to share about a very funny story when Janelle tried conflict the NVC way. We are sure you will learn a bunch and find Janelle's story quite intriguing. What do you do in a moment when someone says something triggering for you? Do you respond by fighting back, running away, and/or freezing up? In this Episode, Dr. B invites guest, Janelle King, to share about a very funny story when Janelle tried conflict the NVC way. We are sure you will learn a bunch and find Janelle's story quite intriguing. false full 33     65c738c4-e226-4778-86e3-7904a440359f 032-Doing It Differently - Part 1 Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 28 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/032-doing-it-differently-part-1-SCPhekKu Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     032-Doing It Differently - Part 1 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:56 In Episode 32, Dr. B shares a story about doing conflict differently in her early years of NVC. This story provides listeners with a concrete example of working through a conflict very much outside of how it is normally done. It is hoped that the example will inspire others to do conflict differently. In Episode 32, Dr. B shares a story about doing conflict differently in her early years of NVC. This story provides listeners with a concrete example of working through a conflict very much outside of how it is normally done. It is hoped that the example will inspire others to do conflict differently. false full 32     50cd58af-8f11-4e90-bb23-63463e9201c6 031-I can't hear you!
  • This episode starts out with some lamenting and some empathy regarding the technical problems with the podcast's audio quality - which were pointed out by a listener.
  • Dr. B. is a bit frustrated and perplexed about how to go forward and receives empathy from Heather - thus giving our audience an example and reminder of the NVC empathy process.
  • NVC empathy combines presence, reflecting, and needs guesses.
  • A listener's email is shared and broken down to show all the places where NVC process was  used to share about the technical difficulties.   This is done to provide a real-world example on how to write in NVC language. 

    •  

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    Show Less

     

    ]]>     Wed, 21 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/031-i-cant-hear-you-S_xld7hR
  • This episode starts out with some lamenting and some empathy regarding the technical problems with the podcast's audio quality - which were pointed out by a listener.
  • Dr. B. is a bit frustrated and perplexed about how to go forward and receives empathy from Heather - thus giving our audience an example and reminder of the NVC empathy process.
  • NVC empathy combines presence, reflecting, and needs guesses.
  • A listener's email is shared and broken down to show all the places where NVC process was  used to share about the technical difficulties.   This is done to provide a real-world example on how to write in NVC language. 

    •  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    Show Less

     

    ]]>     031-I can't hear you! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:27 Dr. B and Heather go over an email from a listener that was written in "perfect" NVC language. Sometimes our communications are in written format and this can, also, be a good place to practice our NVC skills. In this episode, an example is given on how to do so. Dr. B and Heather go over an email from a listener that was written in "perfect" NVC language. Sometimes our communications are in written format and this can, also, be a good place to practice our NVC skills. In this episode, an example is given on how to do so. false full 31     21f6f400-815d-451d-bfd9-88258cf63800 030-To be (Empathy) or not to be (Empathy)!
  • On self-connection..."... It's a good habit to get into. I recommend people start doing this when you start a meeting, when you're beginning a class, before you get out of your car in the morning to go to work, just pausing and getting connected with self because often we don't even know what the heck is going on inside there, so then we certainly can't speak from that place,"  (00:36.6)
  • "Yeah, I guess I think of NVC is like a super power you can wield and sometimes you can misuse it..."(06:36:0)
  • "I guess that's what I'm wondering. Is it more harmful to do it in a way that's not in alignment with the process or... I guess anything helps. "  (07:55:8)
  • "It always comes back to connection, is it getting you connection, and if it's not, then that's a place to pause and self-connect and figure out and take a look at what you did or what you didn't do... It's a hard question. I think I'm hearing you ask me, which is, do people need to get it a 100% right, or should you point it out to people?  You're just wanting to know, Is it dangerous if people think that they have it and think that they're applying it and they're not actually applying it. And what do you do in those kinds of circumstances?"  (08:11:1)
  • "Often, I have my greatest gains in the process and my greatest learning in the process has to do with when I screw up the process, I don't have the level of connection that I want."  (10:41:6)
  • ",, one thing I would love to talk about, since you brought it up, is just to remind people what empathy is and what it's not."  (11:41:8)
  • "but let's just do a couple of minutes of empathy just so people can be reminded of what it is in case you're out there in the world thinking I got this down. We wanna just make sure that you're really truly getting what we're talking about when we're saying NVC empathy, which is staying present, reflecting back what you're hearing someone say, taking needs guesses, and you can do this either out loud or you can do it silently."  (13:30:4)

    •  

    Additional Resources:

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 14 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/030-to-be-empathy-or-not-to-be-empathy-St7oUmrA
  • On self-connection..."... It's a good habit to get into. I recommend people start doing this when you start a meeting, when you're beginning a class, before you get out of your car in the morning to go to work, just pausing and getting connected with self because often we don't even know what the heck is going on inside there, so then we certainly can't speak from that place,"  (00:36.6)
  • "Yeah, I guess I think of NVC is like a super power you can wield and sometimes you can misuse it..."(06:36:0)
  • "I guess that's what I'm wondering. Is it more harmful to do it in a way that's not in alignment with the process or... I guess anything helps. "  (07:55:8)
  • "It always comes back to connection, is it getting you connection, and if it's not, then that's a place to pause and self-connect and figure out and take a look at what you did or what you didn't do... It's a hard question. I think I'm hearing you ask me, which is, do people need to get it a 100% right, or should you point it out to people?  You're just wanting to know, Is it dangerous if people think that they have it and think that they're applying it and they're not actually applying it. And what do you do in those kinds of circumstances?"  (08:11:1)
  • "Often, I have my greatest gains in the process and my greatest learning in the process has to do with when I screw up the process, I don't have the level of connection that I want."  (10:41:6)
  • ",, one thing I would love to talk about, since you brought it up, is just to remind people what empathy is and what it's not."  (11:41:8)
  • "but let's just do a couple of minutes of empathy just so people can be reminded of what it is in case you're out there in the world thinking I got this down. We wanna just make sure that you're really truly getting what we're talking about when we're saying NVC empathy, which is staying present, reflecting back what you're hearing someone say, taking needs guesses, and you can do this either out loud or you can do it silently."  (13:30:4)

    •  

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     030-To be (Empathy) or not to be (Empathy)! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:21:33 In Episode 30, Dr. B and Heather talk a bit more about empathy and, specifically the phenomenon of when some folks think they are doing empathy but are actually doing something other than empathy and whether that is more "harmful" than "good," or in other words if it's service to needs or not? What to do about that? The two also model the empathy process to remind folks how this sounds. In Episode 30, Dr. B and Heather talk a bit more about empathy and, specifically the phenomenon of when some folks think they are doing empathy but are actually doing something other than empathy and whether that is more "harmful" than "good," or in other words if it's service to needs or not? What to do about that? The two also model the empathy process to remind folks how this sounds. false full 30     9b0a17d3-5500-4264-856d-4cb22d2b7d80 029-Mournings and Celebrations Mournings and Celebrations are a way of talking about things that have occurred while keeping our language judgment free.

    NVC groups tend to use this kind of language during check in and check outs to help people talk about the NVC process while using the NVC process.  We go more into detail about what this means in this episode. 

    Some folks really struggle with the concepts of Mourings and Celebrations, so we provide several examples throughout the recording.

     

    Additional Resources:

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    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 7 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/029-mournings-and-celebrations-zDR52A41 Mournings and Celebrations are a way of talking about things that have occurred while keeping our language judgment free.

    NVC groups tend to use this kind of language during check in and check outs to help people talk about the NVC process while using the NVC process.  We go more into detail about what this means in this episode. 

    Some folks really struggle with the concepts of Mourings and Celebrations, so we provide several examples throughout the recording.

     

    Additional Resources:

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     029-Mournings and Celebrations Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:07 In Episode 29, Heather and Dr. B share about Mournings and Celebrations - what they are, in the world of NVC, and they model a few examples. In Episode 29, Heather and Dr. B share about Mournings and Celebrations - what they are, in the world of NVC, and they model a few examples. false full 29     341fa1c3-b289-4e96-ae9e-db809493dc36 028-We "Feel Like" You Should Listen to This!
  • Dr. B discusses why she thinks making this "simple" distinction, between thoughts and feelings,  in our communication can bring about more peace in our world.
  • It's important to practice in neutral situations to form a habit that can show up in the midst of conflict and help the conflict end in greater connection.
  • Stating thoughts as thoughts, as opposed to couching them in feelings, provides more accountability and clarity for all involved in the communication.

    • Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 31 Mar 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/028-we-feel-like-you-should-listen-to-this-J6CMSolS
  • Dr. B discusses why she thinks making this "simple" distinction, between thoughts and feelings,  in our communication can bring about more peace in our world.
  • It's important to practice in neutral situations to form a habit that can show up in the midst of conflict and help the conflict end in greater connection.
  • Stating thoughts as thoughts, as opposed to couching them in feelings, provides more accountability and clarity for all involved in the communication.

    • Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     028-We "Feel Like" You Should Listen to This! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:04 In Episode 28, Dr. B and Heather play around with the distinction between thoughts and feelings and share some about the importance in practicing this distinction when we communicate. In Episode 28, Dr. B and Heather play around with the distinction between thoughts and feelings and share some about the importance in practicing this distinction when we communicate. false full 28     47b6cc61-fa26-4171-b764-6e54b45defc4 027-The Bigbie Method - Operationalizing Peace, Part 2 In this Episode, you will learn about the various components of The Bigbie Method (TBM):

    1. The Intro Course  - a foundational course to learn the basics of Nonviolent Communication
    2. The Empathy Gym - a membership style gym where you workout your empathy and NVC muscles instead of biceps.  "Just sit and click" and let your NVC skills come to life in your daily life.
    3. The TBM Certification process - for people interested in making this your life's work.  Not everyone will qualify to do this work in schools and organizations but TBM will need help in scaling up to the level necessary in this world.  The Intro Course and Empathy Gym are helpful enough in that they will make a difference in how you move in  your world.  But, some may be interested and asked to help further the mission of TBM to Operationalize Peace and join the TBM team of Certified Guides.

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

     

    ]]>     Wed, 24 Mar 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/027-the-bigbie-method-operationalizing-peace-part-2-8hlfS1Ax In this Episode, you will learn about the various components of The Bigbie Method (TBM):

    1. The Intro Course  - a foundational course to learn the basics of Nonviolent Communication
    2. The Empathy Gym - a membership style gym where you workout your empathy and NVC muscles instead of biceps.  "Just sit and click" and let your NVC skills come to life in your daily life.
    3. The TBM Certification process - for people interested in making this your life's work.  Not everyone will qualify to do this work in schools and organizations but TBM will need help in scaling up to the level necessary in this world.  The Intro Course and Empathy Gym are helpful enough in that they will make a difference in how you move in  your world.  But, some may be interested and asked to help further the mission of TBM to Operationalize Peace and join the TBM team of Certified Guides.

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

     

     

    ]]>     027-The Bigbie Method - Operationalizing Peace, Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:15 In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather continue to talk about The Bigbie Method (TBM), which is Dr. B's newly launched and organically grown business to take peace from an abstract concept to a concrete thing that people can do! In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather continue to talk about The Bigbie Method (TBM), which is Dr. B's newly launched and organically grown business to take peace from an abstract concept to a concrete thing that people can do! false full 27     1ac34d14-b4c1-4738-9c02-832d7894906e 026-The Bigbie Method - Operationalizing Peace! In this Episode, we share the following information

    1. What is The Bigbie Method?
    2. How did The Bigbie Method come to be?
    3. A little about the Community Connections Restorative Justice Program that was the "testing ground" for The Bigbie Method.
    4. The various services provided by The Bigbie Method
    5. Information on the upcoming Intro to NVC course offered by The Bigbie Method (learn.thebigbiemethod.com)

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 17 Mar 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/026-the-bigbie-method-operationalizing-peace-bAIyv6lO In this Episode, we share the following information

    1. What is The Bigbie Method?
    2. How did The Bigbie Method come to be?
    3. A little about the Community Connections Restorative Justice Program that was the "testing ground" for The Bigbie Method.
    4. The various services provided by The Bigbie Method
    5. Information on the upcoming Intro to NVC course offered by The Bigbie Method (learn.thebigbiemethod.com)

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     026-The Bigbie Method - Operationalizing Peace! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:54 In Episode 26, Dr. B and Heather share about how The Bigbie Method came to be. How do you take peace from this abstract utopia to a concrete, doable, replicable process? The Bigbie Method is Dr. B's newly launched business with the intention of "Operationalizing Peace" everywhere. To learn what this means...please tune in. In Episode 26, Dr. B and Heather share about how The Bigbie Method came to be. How do you take peace from this abstract utopia to a concrete, doable, replicable process? The Bigbie Method is Dr. B's newly launched business with the intention of "Operationalizing Peace" everywhere. To learn what this means...please tune in. false full 26     882f0c59-7eaa-4195-8026-8ec2241d0b95 025-You've Got Questions? We've Got Answers! Here are some of the questions answered on this episode.

    1. What do you do when you have to have a difficult conversation with your child?  Heather and Dr. B roleplay a situation between mom and 9-year old.
    2. Where do feelings guesses fit into the empathy process?
    3. Does taking feelings guesses when in jackal talk help you or someone move more towards understanding their needs?

    Listen in to find out!

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Tue, 9 Mar 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/025-youve-got-questions-weve-got-answers-vJC240Fx Here are some of the questions answered on this episode.

    1. What do you do when you have to have a difficult conversation with your child?  Heather and Dr. B roleplay a situation between mom and 9-year old.
    2. Where do feelings guesses fit into the empathy process?
    3. Does taking feelings guesses when in jackal talk help you or someone move more towards understanding their needs?

    Listen in to find out!

    Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     025-You've Got Questions? We've Got Answers! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:19 Finally, the questions come! In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B are hard at work answering listener questions. Finally, the questions come! In this Episode, Heather and Dr. B are hard at work answering listener questions. false full 25     6d148456-c254-44b6-a985-d3155a9dbb13 024-NVC Happy Hour!
  • "Would you say one of our greatest freedoms is in our ability to choose how we react to things? ."  (00:43.2)
  • "How did you get involved and what kind of an impact or what changes have you seen since you've been using NVC? "  (05:28:7)
  • "...if you're speaking in observational terms, then you have a common place to start the conversation, you're not getting caught up in judgments that start the conversation about on the wrong foot. So that's all true, but what we're talking about here is the other real huge benefit of being able to distinguish between observations and evaluations has to do with what kind of internal space, what kind of internal environment do you end up cultivating for yourself when you're operating in evaluation internally, and especially if you don't even realize you're doing it. It just adds a whole level of suffering that is not necessary, "  (08:15:7)
  • "Which of your relationships has transformed the most?"  (09:42:1)
  • "You know what I realized recently, someone was telling me about a conflict and I gave them the option of responding with empathy or giving advice, and they chose giving advice, and I find that more often than not, people who aren't  well-versed in NVC will always choose advice."  (11:04:5)
  • "Do you think there is such a thing as perfectionism and NVC... Have you trained people? And people get really bogged down in the details of getting it right yet." (17:14:4)

    • Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 3 Mar 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/024-nvc-happy-hour-8qW8qqfs
  • "Would you say one of our greatest freedoms is in our ability to choose how we react to things? ."  (00:43.2)
  • "How did you get involved and what kind of an impact or what changes have you seen since you've been using NVC? "  (05:28:7)
  • "...if you're speaking in observational terms, then you have a common place to start the conversation, you're not getting caught up in judgments that start the conversation about on the wrong foot. So that's all true, but what we're talking about here is the other real huge benefit of being able to distinguish between observations and evaluations has to do with what kind of internal space, what kind of internal environment do you end up cultivating for yourself when you're operating in evaluation internally, and especially if you don't even realize you're doing it. It just adds a whole level of suffering that is not necessary, "  (08:15:7)
  • "Which of your relationships has transformed the most?"  (09:42:1)
  • "You know what I realized recently, someone was telling me about a conflict and I gave them the option of responding with empathy or giving advice, and they chose giving advice, and I find that more often than not, people who aren't  well-versed in NVC will always choose advice."  (11:04:5)
  • "Do you think there is such a thing as perfectionism and NVC... Have you trained people? And people get really bogged down in the details of getting it right yet." (17:14:4)

    • Additional Resources:

    Be sure to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend that would get some value!

    The Bigbie Method website: 
    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     024-NVC Happy Hour! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:56 This episode was recorded on Friday night, when some folks might be enjoying Happy Hour - thus the name. Plus, Dr. B. and Heather decided to keep in loose - just having an "organic" conversation that covers several topics. We hope you enjoy. This episode was recorded on Friday night, when some folks might be enjoying Happy Hour - thus the name. Plus, Dr. B. and Heather decided to keep in loose - just having an "organic" conversation that covers several topics. We hope you enjoy. false full 24     092bd2ef-fb6e-47b4-a19a-d5a6dbfe6a72 023-Loving Your Jackal!
  • "Jackaling is using the language of blame as opposed to Nonviolent Communication which is known as Giraffe language, the giraffe is the symbol of NVC."  (00:23.7)
  • " Sometimes it's painful to be in jack mode, but I also want people to note that the jackal can be very productive... Can be actually very helpful. We should embrace our jackals."  (03:32:7)
  • "Can you just stay with that? The pain of it [your jackal]. The frustration with it. Can you meet that need? So to speak, not meeting it, by having it be handled in that moment, having it have expressed outwardly towards it, when I'm saying, meet your own need, you're meeting it fully embracing, oh, that's what all this energy is inside."  (05:43:0)
  • "I do think there is something to jackaling with awareness."  It can be productive.  (08:15:2)
  • "Learn to love our jackals, love the jackal. Don't jackal to someone directly, jackal away, jackal fully have an awareness that you are jacking when you're jackaling."  (10:31:0)

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

    ]]>     Wed, 24 Feb 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/023-loving-your-jackal-DXbA3wGl
  • "Jackaling is using the language of blame as opposed to Nonviolent Communication which is known as Giraffe language, the giraffe is the symbol of NVC."  (00:23.7)
  • " Sometimes it's painful to be in jack mode, but I also want people to note that the jackal can be very productive... Can be actually very helpful. We should embrace our jackals."  (03:32:7)
  • "Can you just stay with that? The pain of it [your jackal]. The frustration with it. Can you meet that need? So to speak, not meeting it, by having it be handled in that moment, having it have expressed outwardly towards it, when I'm saying, meet your own need, you're meeting it fully embracing, oh, that's what all this energy is inside."  (05:43:0)
  • "I do think there is something to jackaling with awareness."  It can be productive.  (08:15:2)
  • "Learn to love our jackals, love the jackal. Don't jackal to someone directly, jackal away, jackal fully have an awareness that you are jacking when you're jackaling."  (10:31:0)

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    ]]>     023-Loving Your Jackal! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:23 In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather have a lot of fun discussing jackals - why we "should" love our jackals and how to use our jackals productively. Enjoy! In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather have a lot of fun discussing jackals - why we "should" love our jackals and how to use our jackals productively. Enjoy! false full 23     1916bfbc-73c7-4bd2-8542-9ea2bee56571 022-Enemy Image Process Episode Notes
    • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking or What Am I Thinking?  (01:14.4)
    • "There's nothing passive about the WAIT process." (03:12.4)
    • "Sometimes you're just like, you're at your wits end. You don't care anymore, you have no capacity to try to hear or take guesses about what's going on with the other, and that's when you go on and wait, and that's when you might wanna do some things, to be able to gain that capacity back to be able to gain some level of compassion for what is happening with the other person, and that's where the enemy image thing comes in." (5:08.7)
    • This is the point where we start to explain the Enemy Image Process.  (06:50.1)

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    ]]>     Wed, 17 Feb 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/022-enemy-image-process-59ocXpA7 Episode Notes
    • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking or What Am I Thinking?  (01:14.4)
    • "There's nothing passive about the WAIT process." (03:12.4)
    • "Sometimes you're just like, you're at your wits end. You don't care anymore, you have no capacity to try to hear or take guesses about what's going on with the other, and that's when you go on and wait, and that's when you might wanna do some things, to be able to gain that capacity back to be able to gain some level of compassion for what is happening with the other person, and that's where the enemy image thing comes in." (5:08.7)
    • This is the point where we start to explain the Enemy Image Process.  (06:50.1)

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    ]]>     022-Enemy Image Process Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:22 Sometimes in conflict we end up in a place of extreme dislike and/or distrust of the "other." This is a painful place to be and it is also very difficult to have effective and connecting communication when one is stuck having this "enemy image" of other. When this occurs, there are some things you can do to help you shift from seeing the "other" as the "enemy" or "problem." In NVC, we try to move past these judgments, no matter how "right" they may seem because, ultimately they do not serve connection. In this episode, we share a bit about one of the things you can do when you are stuck seeing the other as an enemy. Sometimes in conflict we end up in a place of extreme dislike and/or distrust of the "other." This is a painful place to be and it is also very difficult to have effective and connecting communication when one is stuck having this "enemy image" of other. When this occurs, there are some things you can do to help you shift from seeing the "other" as the "enemy" or "problem." In NVC, we try to move past these judgments, no matter how "right" they may seem because, ultimately they do not serve connection. In this episode, we share a bit about one of the things you can do when you are stuck seeing the other as an enemy. false full 22     b93bd203-c0bf-4c89-9841-d5c7eff6b3e6 021-Roleplaying A Difficult Conversation ala NVC
  • And I do wanna go back to the first part of the role play when you didn't wanna go into any of the strategies with me, like the conversation... couldn't go any further. It was too triggering, and I want our listeners to know that probably what I would do in a couple of days before I met with Heather again would be that I... would I be in what's called WAIT.  We've talked about that in previous episodes. WAIT stands for, Why am I talking? Or what am I thinking? Wait is an active time in normal communication, it's not just a cooling down time, at least for the person that's applying the NVC process, (13:17:3)
  • There's more to this than what actually happens in the back and forth part of the conversation, there's a lot of work that can be done outside of the conversation in service to the connection in the conversation. (14:30:8)
  • Okay, so we're going to just do a little debrief for a minute or two (15:16:4)

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    ]]>     Wed, 10 Feb 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/021-roleplaying-a-difficult-conversation-ala-nvc-YajRsVcM
  • And I do wanna go back to the first part of the role play when you didn't wanna go into any of the strategies with me, like the conversation... couldn't go any further. It was too triggering, and I want our listeners to know that probably what I would do in a couple of days before I met with Heather again would be that I... would I be in what's called WAIT.  We've talked about that in previous episodes. WAIT stands for, Why am I talking? Or what am I thinking? Wait is an active time in normal communication, it's not just a cooling down time, at least for the person that's applying the NVC process, (13:17:3)
  • There's more to this than what actually happens in the back and forth part of the conversation, there's a lot of work that can be done outside of the conversation in service to the connection in the conversation. (14:30:8)
  • Okay, so we're going to just do a little debrief for a minute or two (15:16:4)

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    ]]>     021-Roleplaying A Difficult Conversation ala NVC Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:01 One of Heather's friends had an idea of us doing a roleplay of a dicey conversation and showing how it would go if, at least, one of us pulled out our NVC skills (or put on our "giraffe ears." This episode shows two examples of how a difficult Co-Vid conversation could go between two friends. Enjoy! One of Heather's friends had an idea of us doing a roleplay of a dicey conversation and showing how it would go if, at least, one of us pulled out our NVC skills (or put on our "giraffe ears." This episode shows two examples of how a difficult Co-Vid conversation could go between two friends. Enjoy! false full 21     fff97516-fd60-4c6d-bb09-f6387a3122d6 020-Pissing Off Our Listeners!
  • How do we tackle racism? That is a big question. That's a very big question, and my answer might not be something that people want to hear, but the first thing that comes to my mind is, can we stop calling it racism .  (01.57)
  • The main point here is, if you really want to enact change, which is I think what the caller said, she wants to enact change, it starts with yourself, start to pay attention where you are having some evaluative language, also if you're so upset, it's a huge indication that you are needing empathy. (03:54.0)
  • There seems to be this idea that if you're not actively disagreeing with someone, then you are allowing... If you're passive, then you are permissive... Yeah, I think there are a lot of people that believe that. And yet, if you are actively saying something back to somebody in a moment like that, you're not getting heard anyways, you're not penetrating in that moment.  ((07:04:1)
  • Discussion of the paradox of intolerance (10:41.4)

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    ]]>     Wed, 3 Feb 2021 18:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/020-pissing-off-our-listeners-lf4vz0Dm
  • How do we tackle racism? That is a big question. That's a very big question, and my answer might not be something that people want to hear, but the first thing that comes to my mind is, can we stop calling it racism .  (01.57)
  • The main point here is, if you really want to enact change, which is I think what the caller said, she wants to enact change, it starts with yourself, start to pay attention where you are having some evaluative language, also if you're so upset, it's a huge indication that you are needing empathy. (03:54.0)
  • There seems to be this idea that if you're not actively disagreeing with someone, then you are allowing... If you're passive, then you are permissive... Yeah, I think there are a lot of people that believe that. And yet, if you are actively saying something back to somebody in a moment like that, you're not getting heard anyways, you're not penetrating in that moment.  ((07:04:1)
  • Discussion of the paradox of intolerance (10:41.4)

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    ]]>     020-Pissing Off Our Listeners! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:19:18 In this Episode, a listener asks a question that, we think, many folks are wondering about these days... "How to communicate with people who are expressing 'racist' viewpoints?" We truly hope our answer does not piss people off as much as shed some light on another way of handling these painful situations. In this Episode, a listener asks a question that, we think, many folks are wondering about these days... "How to communicate with people who are expressing 'racist' viewpoints?" We truly hope our answer does not piss people off as much as shed some light on another way of handling these painful situations. false full 20     2bf5e3f5-ad08-46d0-bc23-429c1f0232b2 019 -NVC for Non-Listeners Key Points Discussed:

    • "...{This episode is for people who may not be interested in NVC or know people who are resistant because they  have] ideas about it being really prescribed and it not seeming or feeling natural "(0:11:9)
    • "...how do you convert someone... You don't convert someone, you model and you give empathy and yes, sometimes the empathy can be too much, especially early on when people are learning it and it can sound very robotic or maybe people experience needing more authenticity with it. And what you do in those circumstances is silent empathy, because it's not even about what comes out of your mouth, this is not so much about what comes out of your mouth, as much as what goes through your mind first, you can give someone full silent empathy...  "(1:47)
    • "You're saying silent empathy can be just as powerful as vocalizing empathy... " (6:36)
    • "the OFNR, observations, feelings, needs, request template, it's like your training wheels on a bicycle.(8:06)
    • "when you first learn Spanish and you're an English speaker, does it sound like cool and easy or is it clunky? It's clunky. This is a new language."  (10:13)

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    ]]>     Wed, 27 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/019-nvc-for-non-listeners-wuJrvk4D Key Points Discussed:

    • "...{This episode is for people who may not be interested in NVC or know people who are resistant because they  have] ideas about it being really prescribed and it not seeming or feeling natural "(0:11:9)
    • "...how do you convert someone... You don't convert someone, you model and you give empathy and yes, sometimes the empathy can be too much, especially early on when people are learning it and it can sound very robotic or maybe people experience needing more authenticity with it. And what you do in those circumstances is silent empathy, because it's not even about what comes out of your mouth, this is not so much about what comes out of your mouth, as much as what goes through your mind first, you can give someone full silent empathy...  "(1:47)
    • "You're saying silent empathy can be just as powerful as vocalizing empathy... " (6:36)
    • "the OFNR, observations, feelings, needs, request template, it's like your training wheels on a bicycle.(8:06)
    • "when you first learn Spanish and you're an English speaker, does it sound like cool and easy or is it clunky? It's clunky. This is a new language."  (10:13)

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    ]]>     019 -NVC for Non-Listeners Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:11:55 Some people get turned off to NVC because it may sound "scripted." In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss this issue and Dr. B. gives some tips to get around this issue. Some people get turned off to NVC because it may sound "scripted." In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss this issue and Dr. B. gives some tips to get around this issue. false full 19     a1f77115-8daf-445f-b3c0-f46a1d2884ad 018-Self-Connection Key Points Discussed:

    • "...what self-connection does, it gets you connected with what's there, which is what we tend to not want to do very often, pay attention, especially when there's some discomfort, and yet it can be very helpful ."(3:21)
    • "So there's a lot of emphasis in NVC around meeting your need, well, this is a different way of meeting your needs, it's not necessarily like getting your needs handled, it's really like greeting your need, like, Oh, hello there."(5:03)
    • "There's this idea of with Nonviolent Communication, that all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need. Right underneath any conflict that's happening, it's about a need. Well, the more you do self-connection practice, the more you have an idea of what's going on for you internally, the feelings that is coming up is really just a pointer towards, do you have a need that's being met or not being met." (8:10)
    • "So you're having these communications and they're not productive, it's because you're not actually talking about the problem that is there, the need that you're wanting.   (9:37)  Self-connection allows you to get clear on the need and then you can communicate from there and with a level of clarity.

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    ]]>     Wed, 20 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/018-self-connection-csCbDzqe Key Points Discussed:

    • "...what self-connection does, it gets you connected with what's there, which is what we tend to not want to do very often, pay attention, especially when there's some discomfort, and yet it can be very helpful ."(3:21)
    • "So there's a lot of emphasis in NVC around meeting your need, well, this is a different way of meeting your needs, it's not necessarily like getting your needs handled, it's really like greeting your need, like, Oh, hello there."(5:03)
    • "There's this idea of with Nonviolent Communication, that all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need. Right underneath any conflict that's happening, it's about a need. Well, the more you do self-connection practice, the more you have an idea of what's going on for you internally, the feelings that is coming up is really just a pointer towards, do you have a need that's being met or not being met." (8:10)
    • "So you're having these communications and they're not productive, it's because you're not actually talking about the problem that is there, the need that you're wanting.   (9:37)  Self-connection allows you to get clear on the need and then you can communicate from there and with a level of clarity.

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    ]]>     018-Self-Connection Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:35 In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss "self-connection" - what it is, why it's important especially for communication, and how to incorporate it into many aspects of your life. In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss "self-connection" - what it is, why it's important especially for communication, and how to incorporate it into many aspects of your life. false full 18     32fef9ba-9ec5-4477-bde4-1555aa1ce5d5 017 - NVC and What Happened at the U.S. Capital! We recorded Part 2 of this Episode first and then Heather was a bit triggered by the conversation and Dr. B. was also concerned that some folks might take offense to the "education" being offered during the program.  So, we followed what we teach and decided to record another Episode and give empathy to Heather (and, perhaps, our audience as well) on her upset about the conversation.

    Politics and NVC - it's an edgy subject.  This Episode attempts to highlight the  problem with labels and non-observational language and entertains the idea that many people, even those with the greatest intentions, feed the political fuel and disconnection by unconsciously using blame and judgments.  

    Our sharing here is in service to greater peace and connection and we are open to discussion and to hearing.  If you are triggered by the content, feel free to request empathy on our call-in line:  850-706-0488.  You may be chosen as a guest of the program to receive empathy and so we can model what we teach.

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 13 Jan 2021 00:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/017-nvc-and-what-happened-at-the-us-capital-MGaNjMVD We recorded Part 2 of this Episode first and then Heather was a bit triggered by the conversation and Dr. B. was also concerned that some folks might take offense to the "education" being offered during the program.  So, we followed what we teach and decided to record another Episode and give empathy to Heather (and, perhaps, our audience as well) on her upset about the conversation.

    Politics and NVC - it's an edgy subject.  This Episode attempts to highlight the  problem with labels and non-observational language and entertains the idea that many people, even those with the greatest intentions, feed the political fuel and disconnection by unconsciously using blame and judgments.  

    Our sharing here is in service to greater peace and connection and we are open to discussion and to hearing.  If you are triggered by the content, feel free to request empathy on our call-in line:  850-706-0488.  You may be chosen as a guest of the program to receive empathy and so we can model what we teach.

     

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    ]]>     017 - NVC and What Happened at the U.S. Capital! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:20:35 January 6, 2021 was a hard day for many Americans. This episode may be difficult for some to hear because it asks us to all take a look at the part we may be playing, unconsciously, in perpetuating disconnection. January 6, 2021 was a hard day for many Americans. This episode may be difficult for some to hear because it asks us to all take a look at the part we may be playing, unconsciously, in perpetuating disconnection. false full 17     3059df5c-5207-4c9d-97a4-41d1b3f4cc0a 016-Connecting Requests- The Thing We Don't Do! Key Points Discussed:

    • I wanna speak about connecting requests because they're revolutionary. I really do believe they are revolutionary, and partly why they are revolutionary is because we don't do them, they're just a whole new concept of what you do when you're in dialogue with someone in conflict.(2:00)
    • "I'm wondering if you're open to hearing some of my thoughts on this..." is a connecting request. (3:50)
    • "I'm wondering what you are hearing in terms of my feelings and needs?"  Which FYI, guess what folks... that last little piece was a CONNECTING REQUEST... Exactly, I'm leading her to give me empathy, so even if the person doesn't know empathy, you can end your statement with, "Hey, what are you taking away from that in terms of my feelings and my needs or something along those lines" (4:44)
    • Yeah, imagine being in an argument and you just expressed, granted, you kept it judgment free by using of OFNR, but still you're in a conflict. So when you ask someone, how was that for you to hear? We don't usually ask that question because more than likely, the person is gonna respond with a can of whoop ass on you in that moment, they're probably gonna say some things back that you don't like, but the thing is, is they're thinking it anyways, thus the Connecting... You wanna know what really is going on for them, so it could be like a tennis game, just volleying constantly. How is that for you to hear? Can you tell me what you heard?  (6:22)

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    ]]>     Tue, 5 Jan 2021 11:07:41 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/016-connecting-requests-the-thing-we-dont-do-j8zpo9_2 Key Points Discussed:

    • I wanna speak about connecting requests because they're revolutionary. I really do believe they are revolutionary, and partly why they are revolutionary is because we don't do them, they're just a whole new concept of what you do when you're in dialogue with someone in conflict.(2:00)
    • "I'm wondering if you're open to hearing some of my thoughts on this..." is a connecting request. (3:50)
    • "I'm wondering what you are hearing in terms of my feelings and needs?"  Which FYI, guess what folks... that last little piece was a CONNECTING REQUEST... Exactly, I'm leading her to give me empathy, so even if the person doesn't know empathy, you can end your statement with, "Hey, what are you taking away from that in terms of my feelings and my needs or something along those lines" (4:44)
    • Yeah, imagine being in an argument and you just expressed, granted, you kept it judgment free by using of OFNR, but still you're in a conflict. So when you ask someone, how was that for you to hear? We don't usually ask that question because more than likely, the person is gonna respond with a can of whoop ass on you in that moment, they're probably gonna say some things back that you don't like, but the thing is, is they're thinking it anyways, thus the Connecting... You wanna know what really is going on for them, so it could be like a tennis game, just volleying constantly. How is that for you to hear? Can you tell me what you heard?  (6:22)

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    ]]>     016-Connecting Requests- The Thing We Don't Do! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:58 In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss the very important concept of Connecting Requests. They talk about why Connecting Requests are invaluable, why most people don't do them, and what they are. Connecting Requests can be a game-changer in your difficult communications - so listen in and learn! In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather discuss the very important concept of Connecting Requests. They talk about why Connecting Requests are invaluable, why most people don't do them, and what they are. Connecting Requests can be a game-changer in your difficult communications - so listen in and learn! false full 16     449e57fc-538c-479e-a9f1-c9bfd4d6abcb 015-Encore Presentation of What the Heck is NVC? Key Points Discussed:

    • I've been training youth and community volunteers in the NVC process, and I'm getting ready to launch my business called The Bigbie Method to operationalize peace in America schools by using NVC as the backbone.(1:20)
    • There's a lot of people that hear the term Non-Violent Communication and they think this isn't for me,  I'm not violent. When in fact, the term Non-Violent Communication comes from Gandhi's term of non-violence, and it's kind of based in this idea that anything that disconnects you from another human being is actually a form of violence. (2:01)
    • Over the evolution of this podcast that we're going to go over the key NVC concepts, we're going to talk with people who are struggling with NVC. Because that's a real thing, people, whether you have a lot of experience or a little experience, people really struggle with this. It's like learning a whole new language because it's hard, we are so habituated when we're in conflict. (4:11)
    • Most people come in and have a mental model of empathy and think, Oh, I know empathy, but empathy and NVC is a very specific process that can be taught and learned and replicated. Yeah, so our objective with this podcast is to inform, inspire and support.  (4:56)

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    ]]>     Tue, 29 Dec 2020 09:51:16 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/015-encore-presentation-of-what-the-heck-is-nvc-tZgsuUSH Key Points Discussed:

    • I've been training youth and community volunteers in the NVC process, and I'm getting ready to launch my business called The Bigbie Method to operationalize peace in America schools by using NVC as the backbone.(1:20)
    • There's a lot of people that hear the term Non-Violent Communication and they think this isn't for me,  I'm not violent. When in fact, the term Non-Violent Communication comes from Gandhi's term of non-violence, and it's kind of based in this idea that anything that disconnects you from another human being is actually a form of violence. (2:01)
    • Over the evolution of this podcast that we're going to go over the key NVC concepts, we're going to talk with people who are struggling with NVC. Because that's a real thing, people, whether you have a lot of experience or a little experience, people really struggle with this. It's like learning a whole new language because it's hard, we are so habituated when we're in conflict. (4:11)
    • Most people come in and have a mental model of empathy and think, Oh, I know empathy, but empathy and NVC is a very specific process that can be taught and learned and replicated. Yeah, so our objective with this podcast is to inform, inspire and support.  (4:56)

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    ]]>     015-Encore Presentation of What the Heck is NVC? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:05:49 Thank you for joining us today. To close out 2020, we want to first wish you a wonderful 2021, and secondly, since we are enjoying the holidays with our families, we wanted to play an encore presentation of our very first episode of It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. Dr. B, an expert in NVC (Nonviolent Communication), and Heather, the co-host of this show, share with you what exactly NVC is. Ready? Let's get started... Thank you for joining us today. To close out 2020, we want to first wish you a wonderful 2021, and secondly, since we are enjoying the holidays with our families, we wanted to play an encore presentation of our very first episode of It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. Dr. B, an expert in NVC (Nonviolent Communication), and Heather, the co-host of this show, share with you what exactly NVC is. Ready? Let's get started... false full 15     af4d1344-b9cc-414b-bcd4-8a29987b66a6 014-The Riff  So I want to give you a little background on how we even came up with us. I want you to really meet my good friend and co-host, and my daughter from another mother, Heather. So what happened was Heather came over for dinner tonight, we were supposed to be talking about some podcast-related stuff, and what you need know about Heather is she meets my needs hugely for laughter and fun. In fact, she has done and really loves to do comedy, she likes to make people laugh, and this podcast is more about information than laughing, so she asked me, do you enjoy doing the podcast? And I responded Well, yeah, I kinda do. But it is work. And then she came clean. And what she came clean with... I'm going to leave that as a cliffhanger for you to find out for yourself in this episode.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    • Today, we're going to do something just a little different because Heather really needs to be heard tonight, and we thought it would be kind of fun to set the alarm for 10 minutes and just riff like have no agenda, other than let Heather get heard. And if you've been following our podcast, you know it's all about connection, and connection is about the empathy process, and the empathy process all at NVC is making sure people are seen, heard and valued. (04.22)
    • Coming into this house usually brings me joy, great joy, just the sheer magnitude of the joy is unreal. And then when I have to come over for this, I think about it, I want to be like, Yeah, that's exciting, it meets my needs for creativity and fun and play. I'm like, Oh God, I'm going to have to sit in the chair. I'm going to have to be present and then I'm going to have to edit the unintelligible gables that comes out of our mouths. So yes, you want me to know that you really love to come over to my house typically, but since we've been doing the podcast, you're having a little bit of aversion to coming here and thinking about sitting in that hard chair and then editing all the stuff that we say so that it can sound professional to everybody. (05:53)
    •  Anyways, back to your empathy, because that was a side bar, not empathy for those of you that are...a conversational response, that was another conversation response. I don't know which one. Refuting, trying to distract from my suffering. (08:46)
    • So maybe just feeling a little bit perplexed on how to go forward and make sure that you get some fairness around your finances in the circumstance... Yeah, integrity was really a big one, and you know what's interesting to me, as much as we've been laughing, you sound different in your voice, and I don't know if the listeners can pick up on that, but there's something that has changed in your tone of voice, and I'm wondering, I just want people to know that that's what happens with empathy. (16:31)

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    ]]>     Wed, 23 Dec 2020 10:39:51 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/14-the-riff-_iuhvqMF  So I want to give you a little background on how we even came up with us. I want you to really meet my good friend and co-host, and my daughter from another mother, Heather. So what happened was Heather came over for dinner tonight, we were supposed to be talking about some podcast-related stuff, and what you need know about Heather is she meets my needs hugely for laughter and fun. In fact, she has done and really loves to do comedy, she likes to make people laugh, and this podcast is more about information than laughing, so she asked me, do you enjoy doing the podcast? And I responded Well, yeah, I kinda do. But it is work. And then she came clean. And what she came clean with... I'm going to leave that as a cliffhanger for you to find out for yourself in this episode.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    • Today, we're going to do something just a little different because Heather really needs to be heard tonight, and we thought it would be kind of fun to set the alarm for 10 minutes and just riff like have no agenda, other than let Heather get heard. And if you've been following our podcast, you know it's all about connection, and connection is about the empathy process, and the empathy process all at NVC is making sure people are seen, heard and valued. (04.22)
    • Coming into this house usually brings me joy, great joy, just the sheer magnitude of the joy is unreal. And then when I have to come over for this, I think about it, I want to be like, Yeah, that's exciting, it meets my needs for creativity and fun and play. I'm like, Oh God, I'm going to have to sit in the chair. I'm going to have to be present and then I'm going to have to edit the unintelligible gables that comes out of our mouths. So yes, you want me to know that you really love to come over to my house typically, but since we've been doing the podcast, you're having a little bit of aversion to coming here and thinking about sitting in that hard chair and then editing all the stuff that we say so that it can sound professional to everybody. (05:53)
    •  Anyways, back to your empathy, because that was a side bar, not empathy for those of you that are...a conversational response, that was another conversation response. I don't know which one. Refuting, trying to distract from my suffering. (08:46)
    • So maybe just feeling a little bit perplexed on how to go forward and make sure that you get some fairness around your finances in the circumstance... Yeah, integrity was really a big one, and you know what's interesting to me, as much as we've been laughing, you sound different in your voice, and I don't know if the listeners can pick up on that, but there's something that has changed in your tone of voice, and I'm wondering, I just want people to know that that's what happens with empathy. (16:31)

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    ]]>     014-The Riff Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:17:56 In Episode 14, this particular episode is very different from anything we've done thus far, this episode is called The Riff. If you've been following us along, you might wonder what the heck are these girls doing? So we weren't even sure if we were going to air this particular episode, but we thought it through and we think it could be very useful to listeners who stick through it in its entirety and hear how it ends. In Episode 14, this particular episode is very different from anything we've done thus far, this episode is called The Riff. If you've been following us along, you might wonder what the heck are these girls doing? So we weren't even sure if we were going to air this particular episode, but we thought it through and we think it could be very useful to listeners who stick through it in its entirety and hear how it ends. false full 14     57427ebe-d2a6-4200-ab01-dc2536eeaec3 013 - WAIT - When Triggered! Key Points Discussed:

    • I think many people venturing into NVC, just the name of it, Non-Violent Communication. I think some folks might think that means that there's no place for getting angry or there's no place for dropping the F-bomb, but that's not true, there is a place for it in NVC and it  happens to be during the WAIT period. (00.31)
    • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking?  In other words, be quiet now.  (01:07)
    • WAIT also stands for What am I thinking? What am I telling myself? Am I staying only in observation, or  am I spiraling out into a whole lot of evaluation? Often when in conflict, you tend to go into that story, go into that blame mode, and so WAIT is just a reminder to start to pay attention to what are you thinking.  (01:50)
    • WAIT is a very active time.  (04:45)
    • Do you need to have NVC training in order to give someone empathy?  Absolutely not.  (06:02)

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    ]]>     Wed, 16 Dec 2020 11:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/013-wait-when-triggered-NrqR6AJO Key Points Discussed:

    • I think many people venturing into NVC, just the name of it, Non-Violent Communication. I think some folks might think that means that there's no place for getting angry or there's no place for dropping the F-bomb, but that's not true, there is a place for it in NVC and it  happens to be during the WAIT period. (00.31)
    • WAIT stands for Why Am I Talking?  In other words, be quiet now.  (01:07)
    • WAIT also stands for What am I thinking? What am I telling myself? Am I staying only in observation, or  am I spiraling out into a whole lot of evaluation? Often when in conflict, you tend to go into that story, go into that blame mode, and so WAIT is just a reminder to start to pay attention to what are you thinking.  (01:50)
    • WAIT is a very active time.  (04:45)
    • Do you need to have NVC training in order to give someone empathy?  Absolutely not.  (06:02)

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    ]]>     013 - WAIT - When Triggered! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:04 In Episode 13, Dr. B. and Heather discuss the NVC concept of WAIT. What do you do when you are too triggered to even begin to care about the needs of the other. This is a very real experience for most of us. Here you will learn that WAIT is an active process with the intention of bringing you back into connection. In Episode 13, Dr. B. and Heather discuss the NVC concept of WAIT. What do you do when you are too triggered to even begin to care about the needs of the other. This is a very real experience for most of us. Here you will learn that WAIT is an active process with the intention of bringing you back into connection. false full 13     b60942a8-919f-425c-b80b-bcf5c2af9ce4 012-Needs vs. Strategies In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather  go over the difference between needs and strategies.  They discuss why it's important, in conflict, to first identify the needs in play and then move to solutions/strategies.  Most of us have a pattern of moving towards strategies as soon as a conflict arises.  Slowing down, hearing one another at the need level is key to moving towards connection - then strategies and solutions will naturally arise.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    • Hold your needs  tightly and your strategies lightly.  (00.43)
    • NVC strategies are not bad if that's what you're getting at, however, most of us when we're in conflict, we start out advocating for our strategies, we fight at a strategy level, we talk about the strategies and often we don't even know the needs underneath them (01:50)
    • How do you know something is a need as opposed to the strategy (06:24)
    • A need is something that everyone in the world wants, and strategies or preferences for getting needs met (06:29)

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    ]]>     Wed, 9 Dec 2020 03:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/012-needs-vs-strategies-ZojXCSla In this episode, Dr. B. and Heather  go over the difference between needs and strategies.  They discuss why it's important, in conflict, to first identify the needs in play and then move to solutions/strategies.  Most of us have a pattern of moving towards strategies as soon as a conflict arises.  Slowing down, hearing one another at the need level is key to moving towards connection - then strategies and solutions will naturally arise.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    • Hold your needs  tightly and your strategies lightly.  (00.43)
    • NVC strategies are not bad if that's what you're getting at, however, most of us when we're in conflict, we start out advocating for our strategies, we fight at a strategy level, we talk about the strategies and often we don't even know the needs underneath them (01:50)
    • How do you know something is a need as opposed to the strategy (06:24)
    • A need is something that everyone in the world wants, and strategies or preferences for getting needs met (06:29)

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    ]]>     012-Needs vs. Strategies Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:37 false full 12     67e234e6-9e76-4bd9-8b81-ecc5e07b689b 011-Requests vs. Demands How do you know something is a request?  Perhaps, we have been taught a bit wrong about  this because it's not necessarily how you say something and/or if it's preceded with "please."  There is more to it.

    Learn more about what makes a request a request and why it's so much better for connecting than a demand, listen in…

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 2 Dec 2020 06:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/011-requests-vs-demands-EFRgLIy4 How do you know something is a request?  Perhaps, we have been taught a bit wrong about  this because it's not necessarily how you say something and/or if it's preceded with "please."  There is more to it.

    Learn more about what makes a request a request and why it's so much better for connecting than a demand, listen in…

     

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    ]]>     011-Requests vs. Demands Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:09 This episode of It's All About Connection - NVC with Dr. B. goes over the difference between requests and demands - and details why it's important to use requests, especially when in conflict. This episode of It's All About Connection - NVC with Dr. B. goes over the difference between requests and demands - and details why it's important to use requests, especially when in conflict. false full 11     888f756b-4ce8-48ff-bc20-c2d1db886f0e 010-Giving Thanks NVC Style What do we mean by empathy? For those people that are new to our podcasts and new to NVC, we mean presence, reflection, and taking guesses about the needs the person is trying to communicate. Non-Violent Communication is based on this idea that all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need, and by needs we mean things like love, courage, things everyone wants. Things like beauty, play, stability, security, there's lots of needs, lots of universal human needs, we often get caught up in strategies when we're fighting strategies to get needs met, and most of us don't even have an awareness of what the need is that we're actually fighting about in the first place. When we're trying to deeply hear somebody with empathy, we're taking needs guesses, and one thing that we're not doing is keeping from using what I call other conversational responses.

    Learn more about these responses and much more, listen in…

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  I used to think that NVC was pretty strictly used when people were fighting with one another. It's really helpful in those situations, but honestly, I think judgment, even in relatively benign situations, is the root of all the violence that we see around us. It's a lot to go into here, and we did a whole episode on trauma and the epidemic and cycle of trauma, but I will try and state this quickly, is to help people understand why even stating appreciations without judgment can help us have more safety in our world. (5:32) 

    •   So, language becomes very important, if someone hears judgment in their conversations, that fight, flight or freeze could be easily activated. And even if someone's making a compliment like, Oh, you're so considerate, you're so sweet, a positive judgment, then there's a chance that that person may make another not so good feeling judgment and safeties out the window. So, it's helpful to provide an appreciation free of judgment, or at least to become more mindful of this and strive for it. (6:20)

    •    It provides a lot more communication, which is what this is all about. At the Community Connections Restorative Justice Program that ran for years with teens, we would have a class near the end of each session where people gave appreciations using this format of stating their observations and then the needs met, and it was really something to experience that there was so much connection across people of all types, a mini version of the world that we want. (9:07)

    •   And one of the things that you can do in the way period, is find a friend or another relative that you're not angry with, and give them the needs list and ask them to help you figure out what your need is in that moment, even if they don't know NVC, you could just give someone that needs list and then you direct them, you ask them not to do those other conversational responses. (11:55)

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 25 Nov 2020 10:45:18 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/010-giving-thanks-nvc-style-H3L_dl18 What do we mean by empathy? For those people that are new to our podcasts and new to NVC, we mean presence, reflection, and taking guesses about the needs the person is trying to communicate. Non-Violent Communication is based on this idea that all conflict is a tragic expression of an unmet need, and by needs we mean things like love, courage, things everyone wants. Things like beauty, play, stability, security, there's lots of needs, lots of universal human needs, we often get caught up in strategies when we're fighting strategies to get needs met, and most of us don't even have an awareness of what the need is that we're actually fighting about in the first place. When we're trying to deeply hear somebody with empathy, we're taking needs guesses, and one thing that we're not doing is keeping from using what I call other conversational responses.

    Learn more about these responses and much more, listen in…

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  I used to think that NVC was pretty strictly used when people were fighting with one another. It's really helpful in those situations, but honestly, I think judgment, even in relatively benign situations, is the root of all the violence that we see around us. It's a lot to go into here, and we did a whole episode on trauma and the epidemic and cycle of trauma, but I will try and state this quickly, is to help people understand why even stating appreciations without judgment can help us have more safety in our world. (5:32) 

    •   So, language becomes very important, if someone hears judgment in their conversations, that fight, flight or freeze could be easily activated. And even if someone's making a compliment like, Oh, you're so considerate, you're so sweet, a positive judgment, then there's a chance that that person may make another not so good feeling judgment and safeties out the window. So, it's helpful to provide an appreciation free of judgment, or at least to become more mindful of this and strive for it. (6:20)

    •    It provides a lot more communication, which is what this is all about. At the Community Connections Restorative Justice Program that ran for years with teens, we would have a class near the end of each session where people gave appreciations using this format of stating their observations and then the needs met, and it was really something to experience that there was so much connection across people of all types, a mini version of the world that we want. (9:07)

    •   And one of the things that you can do in the way period, is find a friend or another relative that you're not angry with, and give them the needs list and ask them to help you figure out what your need is in that moment, even if they don't know NVC, you could just give someone that needs list and then you direct them, you ask them not to do those other conversational responses. (11:55)

     

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    ]]>     010-Giving Thanks NVC Style Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:55 Hello, listeners, the turkey holiday is upon us, meaning typically a holiday of gratitude, appreciations, Turkey and the complexities of family. We’re going to cover a little bit of all of that on today’s episode. First, let's model a bit of empathy around the things we love, and maybe don't love so much about the holidays. Hello, listeners, the turkey holiday is upon us, meaning typically a holiday of gratitude, appreciations, Turkey and the complexities of family. We’re going to cover a little bit of all of that on today’s episode. First, let's model a bit of empathy around the things we love, and maybe don't love so much about the holidays. false full 10     75e073be-3938-40d7-b906-007833c3a850 009-Jackals and Giraffes Giraffes are tall, so they have far vision, and when you're using the Non-Violent Communication process, you have to have a long vision. It's not about being right or wrong, good or bad, it's like this longer view of what you're wanting in life. This might seem corny to some, but it's the truth, it's very much based in love.

    Key Points Discussed:

    •   So with jackal out, somebody says something you don't like, somebody blames you and you blame them back. That's what you do when you have jackal out. And if you're the type of person that when someone says something that you don't enjoy, you blame them back, what emotion do you get to live from? Anger, right? (3:02)

    •    Sadness and fear. Maybe sadness, fear, depression. So before most of us knew NVC, that's all we had, we have the jacket in and jackal out. So we either were living from anger or depression, or Marshall Rosenberg, the guy that developed in NVC, he used to say, we're ambidextrous, which means that, oftentimes, somebody says something that you don't like and you blame the other person and then you get down on yourself. (4:22)

    •    First, I gave myself empathy, which was, I feel scared and I have a need for safety. I didn't say that out loud, but I remember very clearly telling myself that like, Wow, in this moment, I really need safety, and then I just launched into really listening to what her needs were. (10:19)

    •   Ease and connection. I mean, it was really sweet, we all walked out of that room really connected as opposed to upset and disconnected. And man, It would have just sucked so bad, had it not gone that way. And I want to say it's not an easy thing. What we're talking about here. It's not like, Oh yeah, I get it. But my giraffe ears on. No, no, we have lifetimes of undoing the habit of blaming one another, and I usually like to tell people to carry around a needs and feelings list. (12:43)

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    ]]>     Wed, 18 Nov 2020 03:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/009-jackals-and-giraffes-XgRh8PWM Giraffes are tall, so they have far vision, and when you're using the Non-Violent Communication process, you have to have a long vision. It's not about being right or wrong, good or bad, it's like this longer view of what you're wanting in life. This might seem corny to some, but it's the truth, it's very much based in love.

    Key Points Discussed:

    •   So with jackal out, somebody says something you don't like, somebody blames you and you blame them back. That's what you do when you have jackal out. And if you're the type of person that when someone says something that you don't enjoy, you blame them back, what emotion do you get to live from? Anger, right? (3:02)

    •    Sadness and fear. Maybe sadness, fear, depression. So before most of us knew NVC, that's all we had, we have the jacket in and jackal out. So we either were living from anger or depression, or Marshall Rosenberg, the guy that developed in NVC, he used to say, we're ambidextrous, which means that, oftentimes, somebody says something that you don't like and you blame the other person and then you get down on yourself. (4:22)

    •    First, I gave myself empathy, which was, I feel scared and I have a need for safety. I didn't say that out loud, but I remember very clearly telling myself that like, Wow, in this moment, I really need safety, and then I just launched into really listening to what her needs were. (10:19)

    •   Ease and connection. I mean, it was really sweet, we all walked out of that room really connected as opposed to upset and disconnected. And man, It would have just sucked so bad, had it not gone that way. And I want to say it's not an easy thing. What we're talking about here. It's not like, Oh yeah, I get it. But my giraffe ears on. No, no, we have lifetimes of undoing the habit of blaming one another, and I usually like to tell people to carry around a needs and feelings list. (12:43)

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    ]]>     009-Jackals and Giraffes Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:44 Hello, listeners. Today we're talking about jackals and giraffes. Giraffes are apparently the NVC animal. Well, let's back up a little bit. Which one would you rather be, a jackal or a giraffe? When I think of jackals, the picture that I have of the jackal is not very nice, kind of like these predatory animals, they're close to the ground. They always have to travel in packs. Giraffes seem pretty majestic, they have a grace about them and the way that they walk, they're very tall and are supposedly the land mammal with the largest heart. They happen to be the symbol of Non-Violent Communication, because NVC is heart based. Listen in as we explain a little more about why the jackal on the giraffe are used as models for NVC. Hello, listeners. Today we're talking about jackals and giraffes. Giraffes are apparently the NVC animal. Well, let's back up a little bit. Which one would you rather be, a jackal or a giraffe? When I think of jackals, the picture that I have of the jackal is not very nice, kind of like these predatory animals, they're close to the ground. They always have to travel in packs. Giraffes seem pretty majestic, they have a grace about them and the way that they walk, they're very tall and are supposedly the land mammal with the largest heart. They happen to be the symbol of Non-Violent Communication, because NVC is heart based. Listen in as we explain a little more about why the jackal on the giraffe are used as models for NVC. false full 9     b600d2e2-6dee-4e08-83ca-9529fffd2650 008-Making Connection a Real Thing: Part 2 The definition of connection that I like to use is that connection is the flow and ease that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  When we say things like, I feel manipulated, the person that is on the other side of that message is probably not going to see it very well because it's actually a judgment that's being couched by, and I feel on the front end of it, instead, if you were to say, I feel scared because I have a need for clarity and safety. That's a lot different than saying, I feel manipulated. (3:02)

    •  So now that we've gone over why it's important, kind of keeping you in connection with other people, how do you practice it? You just have to watch yourself, I guess, you have to be very mindful. Now that I've been doing this a long time, I just notice, I feel and what follows, so often, not a feeling, pay attention, people say, I feel like, or I feel that I can't say I feel like uncomfortable. (5:53)

    •  Well, and here's the thing, just like with the observation versus evaluation, I am really exaggerating the point here, you can't catch that in everything, it's very unlikely unless you've been doing it a long time and it matters that much to you, it's going to be a part of how you speak more than likely, the whole point here is that when you are in an argument, to be very mindful of the distinction, to be mindful of not saying things like, I feel like you don't care at all about me, or I feel disrespected. (9:13)

    •  If I were to say this to someone or someone were to say it to me, would I take offence if you're going to take offense, it's probably because it's really more of a judgment, you can come up with another feeling that will work, that's a true inner feeling sensation that's going to be received and easier way from the person. (12:17)

     

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    ]]>     Wed, 11 Nov 2020 03:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/008-making-connection-a-real-thing-part-2-iyAEMbgc The definition of connection that I like to use is that connection is the flow and ease that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment.

     

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  When we say things like, I feel manipulated, the person that is on the other side of that message is probably not going to see it very well because it's actually a judgment that's being couched by, and I feel on the front end of it, instead, if you were to say, I feel scared because I have a need for clarity and safety. That's a lot different than saying, I feel manipulated. (3:02)

    •  So now that we've gone over why it's important, kind of keeping you in connection with other people, how do you practice it? You just have to watch yourself, I guess, you have to be very mindful. Now that I've been doing this a long time, I just notice, I feel and what follows, so often, not a feeling, pay attention, people say, I feel like, or I feel that I can't say I feel like uncomfortable. (5:53)

    •  Well, and here's the thing, just like with the observation versus evaluation, I am really exaggerating the point here, you can't catch that in everything, it's very unlikely unless you've been doing it a long time and it matters that much to you, it's going to be a part of how you speak more than likely, the whole point here is that when you are in an argument, to be very mindful of the distinction, to be mindful of not saying things like, I feel like you don't care at all about me, or I feel disrespected. (9:13)

    •  If I were to say this to someone or someone were to say it to me, would I take offence if you're going to take offense, it's probably because it's really more of a judgment, you can come up with another feeling that will work, that's a true inner feeling sensation that's going to be received and easier way from the person. (12:17)

     

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    ]]>     008-Making Connection a Real Thing: Part 2 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:24 Hello, all you non-violent people or people striving to be non-violent, welcome to part 2 of Making a Real Connection. In this episode we talk about this idea of connection as the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when you experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment. The beautiful thing about non-violent communication is it allows us to really take the judgment out of the interaction, the communication, and last week, we made the distinction between speaking in observational terms versus evaluative terms, and why that's very helpful, especially when you're in conflict. This week we make the distinction between thoughts and feelings. Ready to learn more? Let's get started... Hello, all you non-violent people or people striving to be non-violent, welcome to part 2 of Making a Real Connection. In this episode we talk about this idea of connection as the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when you experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment. The beautiful thing about non-violent communication is it allows us to really take the judgment out of the interaction, the communication, and last week, we made the distinction between speaking in observational terms versus evaluative terms, and why that's very helpful, especially when you're in conflict. This week we make the distinction between thoughts and feelings. Ready to learn more? Let's get started... false full 8     021497d1-72fa-4c71-8460-8374d4ac1854 007-Making Connection a Real Thing: Part 1 The definition of connection that I like to use is that connection is the flow and ease that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • When I'm teaching NVC, I like to bring up this difference between observations and evaluations and let people become very clear on them, and it's not necessary to make that distinction, and every time you open up your mouth and when you're in a casual conversation with someone (2:42)
    • What happens is we see something and often we have another layer of thought that happens over the thing that we say, so for instance, a dog crosses the road and we have an idea of that dog went really fast across the road, or that's such a cute dog crossing the road. So the fast part and the cute part are all this layer of evaluation, and it happens throughout our conversations, throughout our thinking over and over again, and again, it's not that big of a deal when... It's just a neutral conversation, but when you are in the midst of a conflict, it's really helpful just to stick to observation. (4:13)
    • Absolute terms, any time you say things like, you never listen to anything that I say, never is an absolute term, more than likely, something isn't always... never or always. When you use those absolute terms, especially when you're in conflict, more than likely that it's going to cause more disconnection. (6:28). 
    • When you were in the midst of a conflict with somebody, it's probably going to cause more disconnection in the connection. Now that we know all of this, why is it so important when you want connection. I think there's one obvious reason why it's important, which is when you say something evaluative to somebody, it's going to be off-putting to them, they're not going to hear you, especially if somebody has had trauma. (9:02)

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    ]]>     Wed, 4 Nov 2020 10:09:21 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/007-making-connection-a-real-thing-part-1-odM5eYe1 The definition of connection that I like to use is that connection is the flow and ease that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • When I'm teaching NVC, I like to bring up this difference between observations and evaluations and let people become very clear on them, and it's not necessary to make that distinction, and every time you open up your mouth and when you're in a casual conversation with someone (2:42)
    • What happens is we see something and often we have another layer of thought that happens over the thing that we say, so for instance, a dog crosses the road and we have an idea of that dog went really fast across the road, or that's such a cute dog crossing the road. So the fast part and the cute part are all this layer of evaluation, and it happens throughout our conversations, throughout our thinking over and over again, and again, it's not that big of a deal when... It's just a neutral conversation, but when you are in the midst of a conflict, it's really helpful just to stick to observation. (4:13)
    • Absolute terms, any time you say things like, you never listen to anything that I say, never is an absolute term, more than likely, something isn't always... never or always. When you use those absolute terms, especially when you're in conflict, more than likely that it's going to cause more disconnection. (6:28). 
    • When you were in the midst of a conflict with somebody, it's probably going to cause more disconnection in the connection. Now that we know all of this, why is it so important when you want connection. I think there's one obvious reason why it's important, which is when you say something evaluative to somebody, it's going to be off-putting to them, they're not going to hear you, especially if somebody has had trauma. (9:02)

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    ]]>     007-Making Connection a Real Thing: Part 1 Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:41 Hello, all you non-violent people or people striving to be non-violent, today's episode is about making connection a real thing. How do you do that? I believe that connection for most is this very abstract concept, what is connection? How do you know when you have connection? Non-violent communication is a process that you use when you want connection, it's not a process that you use when you want to be right and you make the other person wrong. Ready to learn more? Let's get started... Hello, all you non-violent people or people striving to be non-violent, today's episode is about making connection a real thing. How do you do that? I believe that connection for most is this very abstract concept, what is connection? How do you know when you have connection? Non-violent communication is a process that you use when you want connection, it's not a process that you use when you want to be right and you make the other person wrong. Ready to learn more? Let's get started... false full 7     3be0586a-1d1f-4301-9b4b-c3851fdbcb9e Bonus: Election Night 2020 - No Matter Who Wins We All Lose I'd say about 50% of our population is going to be really, really upset. There's something about that that does not sit right for me at all, I want the disconnection to go away, I'm mourning connection hugely. And I just think no matter what happens, we must figure out a way to move towards connection in our society. I think the root of a lot of our issues has to do with language.

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  Much of the way that we're talking to one another today, especially on the political level, we could say all of it and still hold our truth without having all the judgment, and there just seems to be that on steroids right now. (2:12)
    • That's the person's feelings, so that's a real thing. It is what it is, and the need there is wanting people to see things similarly as you. (4:50)
    • You put a group of people together in a room, inevitably they're not going to see eye to eye on things. But when that would happen, what we would do is, we would slow everyone down and make sure that everyone would reflect on the other person's needs before they comment. (6:22)
    • When you can do that, then miraculously strategies, ideas that maybe never surfaced before, can actually rise up. I've seen it happen many times, it all starts though, with hearing one another. (8:23)

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    ]]>     Mon, 2 Nov 2020 03:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/bonus-election-night-2020-no-matter-who-wins-we-all-lose-q5afakSy I'd say about 50% of our population is going to be really, really upset. There's something about that that does not sit right for me at all, I want the disconnection to go away, I'm mourning connection hugely. And I just think no matter what happens, we must figure out a way to move towards connection in our society. I think the root of a lot of our issues has to do with language.

    Key Points Discussed:

    •  Much of the way that we're talking to one another today, especially on the political level, we could say all of it and still hold our truth without having all the judgment, and there just seems to be that on steroids right now. (2:12)
    • That's the person's feelings, so that's a real thing. It is what it is, and the need there is wanting people to see things similarly as you. (4:50)
    • You put a group of people together in a room, inevitably they're not going to see eye to eye on things. But when that would happen, what we would do is, we would slow everyone down and make sure that everyone would reflect on the other person's needs before they comment. (6:22)
    • When you can do that, then miraculously strategies, ideas that maybe never surfaced before, can actually rise up. I've seen it happen many times, it all starts though, with hearing one another. (8:23)

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    ]]>     Bonus: Election Night 2020 - No Matter Who Wins We All Lose Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:10:21 Welcome to It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, Election Night 2020. And you thought that Halloween was spooky. November 3rd is actually the scariest night this year. I'm so glad that we can giggle about it. The name of this episode is No Matter Who Wins, We All Lose, which is a bit of a debbie downer. But this doesn't have to be a zero-sum game. There is a way that we could all win. Whoever wins, some people will be breathing a sigh of relief and others will be holding their breath for the next four years, which is not ideal, and it doesn't have to be that way. Let's dive deeper into this... Welcome to It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, Election Night 2020. And you thought that Halloween was spooky. November 3rd is actually the scariest night this year. I'm so glad that we can giggle about it. The name of this episode is No Matter Who Wins, We All Lose, which is a bit of a debbie downer. But this doesn't have to be a zero-sum game. There is a way that we could all win. Whoever wins, some people will be breathing a sigh of relief and others will be holding their breath for the next four years, which is not ideal, and it doesn't have to be that way. Let's dive deeper into this... false bonus     dc44c2f3-44c6-46de-96ad-92780ebb221b Episode 006: How Our Responses Get Us in Trouble! Comparing Our Responses to NVC Responses People tend to have a typical way that they respond in circumstances, we call this in NVC, other conversational responses. Here are a list of them; there's giving advice, consoling, relating one-upping, if you're in the fight, you might use other conversational responses like blaming, judging, correcting, explaining. We also do things in general, claiming playing devil's advocate, sarcastic humor, all of which are the more subtle ones.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • You have ways that you respond when you're just having a conversation with someone or friends coming and you're sharing to some time together, and what's going on in my life? What's going on in your life? We have ways of talking in those moments, kind of like we're doing right now, there are also certain ways that we respond habitually when we're in conflict, and some of these what I call other conversation responses. (1:41)
    • As you grow in your NVC process, you start to have more of an awareness of what you do in conversation and what other people do in conversation, and then you start to pay more attention to what works, like what do you like, what's annoying for you. Before you might have felt annoyed but weren't able to pinpoint it, now that you have this contrast of all the different ways that a person can respond and then the empathy, saying that we tend to practice a lot while you're really learning in NVC, practicing it and noticing, trying it on and seeing what that is like to have that as a response.  (4:23)
    • It feels like you're yet learning a whole new language and you're like pausing, it feels almost robotic. You know what, the empathy process, it becomes smoother and maybe you're not repeating verbatim what the other person has said, you can put it into your own words and it has more flow and ease. (5:50)
    • What happens is you're relating, so now the conversation has turned back on you, not on the other person that was just talking. So this idea of being seen, heard and valued, and you might have just taken away from that person experience and being seen heard and valued when you relate... no right or wrong with relating, but again, you might want to ask, or if you give advice to somebody, we all want to help. When we see somebody in a situation, we want to help, and so we tend to give advice unsolicited, and there's nothing wrong with giving advice, but let's put it in the context of that definition of connection, which is being seen, heard and valued without judgment. (12:23)

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    ]]>     Wed, 28 Oct 2020 08:48:30 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-006-how-our-responses-get-us-in-trouble-comparing-our-responses-to-nvc-responses-NqzrudB3 People tend to have a typical way that they respond in circumstances, we call this in NVC, other conversational responses. Here are a list of them; there's giving advice, consoling, relating one-upping, if you're in the fight, you might use other conversational responses like blaming, judging, correcting, explaining. We also do things in general, claiming playing devil's advocate, sarcastic humor, all of which are the more subtle ones.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • You have ways that you respond when you're just having a conversation with someone or friends coming and you're sharing to some time together, and what's going on in my life? What's going on in your life? We have ways of talking in those moments, kind of like we're doing right now, there are also certain ways that we respond habitually when we're in conflict, and some of these what I call other conversation responses. (1:41)
    • As you grow in your NVC process, you start to have more of an awareness of what you do in conversation and what other people do in conversation, and then you start to pay more attention to what works, like what do you like, what's annoying for you. Before you might have felt annoyed but weren't able to pinpoint it, now that you have this contrast of all the different ways that a person can respond and then the empathy, saying that we tend to practice a lot while you're really learning in NVC, practicing it and noticing, trying it on and seeing what that is like to have that as a response.  (4:23)
    • It feels like you're yet learning a whole new language and you're like pausing, it feels almost robotic. You know what, the empathy process, it becomes smoother and maybe you're not repeating verbatim what the other person has said, you can put it into your own words and it has more flow and ease. (5:50)
    • What happens is you're relating, so now the conversation has turned back on you, not on the other person that was just talking. So this idea of being seen, heard and valued, and you might have just taken away from that person experience and being seen heard and valued when you relate... no right or wrong with relating, but again, you might want to ask, or if you give advice to somebody, we all want to help. When we see somebody in a situation, we want to help, and so we tend to give advice unsolicited, and there's nothing wrong with giving advice, but let's put it in the context of that definition of connection, which is being seen, heard and valued without judgment. (12:23)

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    ]]>     Episode 006: How Our Responses Get Us in Trouble! Comparing Our Responses to NVC Responses Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:15:12 Today's episode is about how our responses get us in trouble, I think we've all been there, I certainly have. Just reacting to someone without thinking, which causes something to be triggered for the other person. The other thing to think about is, not only do our responses get us in trouble, but also start paying attention to the way people respond to you and what you don't like. Today's episode is about how our responses get us in trouble, I think we've all been there, I certainly have. Just reacting to someone without thinking, which causes something to be triggered for the other person. The other thing to think about is, not only do our responses get us in trouble, but also start paying attention to the way people respond to you and what you don't like. false full 6     dbd9e388-6b9b-4810-ba3e-81da29391eee Episode 005: What is Connection? And How to Have It! Key Points Discussed:

    • Empathy process is the backbone of NVC, and I hesitate to even use the term empathy because most people, when they hear empathy, they think they know what empathy is, and empathy in non-violent communication is different than how people think of empathy. (2:38)
    • And truth be told, most of us are not present with one another, our minds are often lost and never, never land, especially when we're in a conflict. When we're in conflict with someone, it's extremely hard to just stay fully with that person because we're typically caught up in our minds, what we're going to say next, or how we're thinking about how that person is a sense of blame or judgment.(3:57)
    • I might lose my presence for a second and I'm not hearing fully what they say, so one way of kind of getting myself back on track again is reflecting what I'm hearing somebody say. That can be extremely helpful to know... Okay, yeah, I am hearing you and the way you want to be heard. (6:25)
    • Are you feeling complete enough in the moment? I feel very heard. Thank you. That was the little example of what NVC empathy is. Why is this better than how we usually talk... It's not so much about it being better, but it's about it being connecting. So if you remember the definition of connection that we started this episode with, the ease and the flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued. (11:14)

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Oct 2020 17:32:22 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-005-what-is-connection-and-how-to-have-it-rqMI6Qrq Key Points Discussed:

    • Empathy process is the backbone of NVC, and I hesitate to even use the term empathy because most people, when they hear empathy, they think they know what empathy is, and empathy in non-violent communication is different than how people think of empathy. (2:38)
    • And truth be told, most of us are not present with one another, our minds are often lost and never, never land, especially when we're in a conflict. When we're in conflict with someone, it's extremely hard to just stay fully with that person because we're typically caught up in our minds, what we're going to say next, or how we're thinking about how that person is a sense of blame or judgment.(3:57)
    • I might lose my presence for a second and I'm not hearing fully what they say, so one way of kind of getting myself back on track again is reflecting what I'm hearing somebody say. That can be extremely helpful to know... Okay, yeah, I am hearing you and the way you want to be heard. (6:25)
    • Are you feeling complete enough in the moment? I feel very heard. Thank you. That was the little example of what NVC empathy is. Why is this better than how we usually talk... It's not so much about it being better, but it's about it being connecting. So if you remember the definition of connection that we started this episode with, the ease and the flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued. (11:14)

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    ]]>     Episode 005: What is Connection? And How to Have It! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:14:42 Hello, folks. Today we'll be talking about connection and how to have it... We all probably want more connection in our lives, and this episode is about just that. It's about connection. And to put it in proper context, connection is really important all the time, but it's particularly important when you are in a conflict and you're trying to get back to connection, so let's just start with, what do we mean by connection? Connection is the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued. Ready to have connection in your life? Let's get started... Hello, folks. Today we'll be talking about connection and how to have it... We all probably want more connection in our lives, and this episode is about just that. It's about connection. And to put it in proper context, connection is really important all the time, but it's particularly important when you are in a conflict and you're trying to get back to connection, so let's just start with, what do we mean by connection? Connection is the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued. Ready to have connection in your life? Let's get started... false full 5     a61485e4-c582-4081-a867-743d6aa110b9 Episode 004: The Epidemic of Trauma and Why NVC is the Cure! The ACE Study is from the early 1990s, where they sampled about 17,000 people, having them take a survey that asked them, "From the ages of 0 to 17, how many of these things happened to you?" And they listed out 10 indicators things like sexual abuse, physical abuse, did you grow up in a household where there was mental illness, did you grow up in a household where there was drug abuse, did you grow up in a household where your parents were separated or divorced, where you saw a mom being treated violently? 

    There were 10 of these, and they would have folks say yes or no to that, and then they would walk away with a score from 0 to 10, 0 meaning no trauma. 10 meaning the most. And what they found, after giving that survey to 17,000-plus people is two-thirds of the people said that they had had at least one of those things, and many of them said many of those things happen to them when they were between the ages of 0 and 17.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • People that have had trauma tend to respond in a very particular way because they need to create safety for themselves. (2:30)
    • In the program that I ran,  my friend looked at me and she said, Well, that's great, but how are you going to transfer that behavior? And I was stopped in my tracks by that statement, in fact, it kept me awake for two weeks. I was waking up in the middle of the night trying to think to myself, she's right, what if we can't transfer that behavior, what good is the work that we're doing. After two weeks of thinking about that question, the answer came to mind, and I think I literally woke up, sat up in bed with the answer, and that's my cliffhanger right there. (3:28)
    • When people have had trauma, they need safety, their brains are actually wired to be on this heightened alert for safety because they haven't had safety. And we see a lot of these behaviors where people fight by yelling or raising their voice or saying obscenities. Or flight, running away. Or freezing. And this is all in service to get people safe. There's a part of the brain called the amygdala. And that's what it does. It's on this alert. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. (4:06)
    • I ran this program for eight years with kids from the juvenile justice system, and talk about trauma, you're talking about some of the deepest trauma. Lots of people dying, lots of situations where folks are starving, seeing their parents be very physically abused over and over again, I mean all kinds of stuff. And yet, we had this amazing level of cooperation and connection with the youth. (8:50)

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Oct 2020 05:03:06 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-004-the-epidemic-of-trauma-and-why-nvc-is-the-cure-0eC_BDvi The ACE Study is from the early 1990s, where they sampled about 17,000 people, having them take a survey that asked them, "From the ages of 0 to 17, how many of these things happened to you?" And they listed out 10 indicators things like sexual abuse, physical abuse, did you grow up in a household where there was mental illness, did you grow up in a household where there was drug abuse, did you grow up in a household where your parents were separated or divorced, where you saw a mom being treated violently? 

    There were 10 of these, and they would have folks say yes or no to that, and then they would walk away with a score from 0 to 10, 0 meaning no trauma. 10 meaning the most. And what they found, after giving that survey to 17,000-plus people is two-thirds of the people said that they had had at least one of those things, and many of them said many of those things happen to them when they were between the ages of 0 and 17.

    Key Points Discussed:

    • People that have had trauma tend to respond in a very particular way because they need to create safety for themselves. (2:30)
    • In the program that I ran,  my friend looked at me and she said, Well, that's great, but how are you going to transfer that behavior? And I was stopped in my tracks by that statement, in fact, it kept me awake for two weeks. I was waking up in the middle of the night trying to think to myself, she's right, what if we can't transfer that behavior, what good is the work that we're doing. After two weeks of thinking about that question, the answer came to mind, and I think I literally woke up, sat up in bed with the answer, and that's my cliffhanger right there. (3:28)
    • When people have had trauma, they need safety, their brains are actually wired to be on this heightened alert for safety because they haven't had safety. And we see a lot of these behaviors where people fight by yelling or raising their voice or saying obscenities. Or flight, running away. Or freezing. And this is all in service to get people safe. There's a part of the brain called the amygdala. And that's what it does. It's on this alert. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. Keep me safe. (4:06)
    • I ran this program for eight years with kids from the juvenile justice system, and talk about trauma, you're talking about some of the deepest trauma. Lots of people dying, lots of situations where folks are starving, seeing their parents be very physically abused over and over again, I mean all kinds of stuff. And yet, we had this amazing level of cooperation and connection with the youth. (8:50)

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    ]]>     Episode 004: The Epidemic of Trauma and Why NVC is the Cure! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:12:40 Today on It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, we're talking about the epidemic of trauma. In the 1990s, there was a landmark study done called the adverse childhood experience study, and it's only been in recent years that it's gained any traction. Many people now in education and in the mental health field know of this as the ACE Study. We are going to talk about this study and how we feel that the technique of NVC is the cure. Ready? Let's get started... Today on It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B, we're talking about the epidemic of trauma. In the 1990s, there was a landmark study done called the adverse childhood experience study, and it's only been in recent years that it's gained any traction. Many people now in education and in the mental health field know of this as the ACE Study. We are going to talk about this study and how we feel that the technique of NVC is the cure. Ready? Let's get started... false full 4     8db8ef22-895b-467d-9ba3-4948eafc044d Episode 003: You Judge - Oh Yes You Do! Key Points Discussed:

    • Some people when they hear non-violent communication, they're turned off right from the get-go because they're thinking, well, I'm not violent with my communication, and non-violent communication came out of Gandhi's understanding of non-violence., and this idea that anything that disconnects us from another human being is a form of violence. (0:58)
    • It's an extreme form, obviously of judgment and how it can play out and be disconnecting between people, for sure. And I think most of us can relate to it. Most of us have been in a situation where you're in conflict, and so then you go and you talk crap about a person either directly to them or away from them, and it's usually not very helpful. (5:54)
    • So beware of these absolute terms. There's also just so many people who get confused between feelings and thoughts. This is a big thing in NVC, that we start to get really clear about feelings or internal sensations, thoughts or what goes on in your mind, but we say things like, I feel abandoned, I feel disrespected. Those are not internal sensations, those are actually judgments of something you think somebody is doing to you. (8:41)
    • We are so habituated to judgments and they are very, very dangerous. That's a judgment too. But they are, they do not typically lead towards connection. Remember, connection is the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment, it's this concrete thing that we could start being very mindful of, especially when we are in conflict. (11:51)

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    ]]>     Wed, 21 Oct 2020 05:02:44 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-003-you-judge-oh-yes-you-do-MsHjmidJ Key Points Discussed:

    • Some people when they hear non-violent communication, they're turned off right from the get-go because they're thinking, well, I'm not violent with my communication, and non-violent communication came out of Gandhi's understanding of non-violence., and this idea that anything that disconnects us from another human being is a form of violence. (0:58)
    • It's an extreme form, obviously of judgment and how it can play out and be disconnecting between people, for sure. And I think most of us can relate to it. Most of us have been in a situation where you're in conflict, and so then you go and you talk crap about a person either directly to them or away from them, and it's usually not very helpful. (5:54)
    • So beware of these absolute terms. There's also just so many people who get confused between feelings and thoughts. This is a big thing in NVC, that we start to get really clear about feelings or internal sensations, thoughts or what goes on in your mind, but we say things like, I feel abandoned, I feel disrespected. Those are not internal sensations, those are actually judgments of something you think somebody is doing to you. (8:41)
    • We are so habituated to judgments and they are very, very dangerous. That's a judgment too. But they are, they do not typically lead towards connection. Remember, connection is the ease and flow that occurs within you and between people when they experience being seen, heard and valued without judgment, it's this concrete thing that we could start being very mindful of, especially when we are in conflict. (11:51)

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    ]]>     Episode 003: You Judge - Oh Yes You Do! Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:13:52 Hello fellow judgers. Judge, judge and judge all the time. Today, we'll be talking about judgment in its various forms and the outcome of judgment. The whole point of today's title, You Judge - Oh Yes You Do, is a play on words, and we want to start bringing some awareness to this idea that judgments are everywhere. They're everywhere in and around our lives. Hello fellow judgers. Judge, judge and judge all the time. Today, we'll be talking about judgment in its various forms and the outcome of judgment. The whole point of today's title, You Judge - Oh Yes You Do, is a play on words, and we want to start bringing some awareness to this idea that judgments are everywhere. They're everywhere in and around our lives. false full 3     bc8aa9b9-4763-487c-8824-1dd226955c47 Episode 002-Who We Are and Why We Can Teach You a Little Something about NVC? Key Points Discussed:

    • The folks in Washington that were running the whole thing, they wanted those of us on the forefront to do peace differently, because they had said back in the 60s, when people were trying to make peace come about, they were kind of often out of integrity with the piece that they wanted to bring. (1:43)
    • And a note, mind you, this had not even been 24 hours to receive that said, this is a high price to pay, you've seen nothing yet. (6:40)
    • My daughter was a senior in high school and I had been trying to think about what I could do to give her a special gift, and all of her friends a special gift for their graduation, and it dawned on me, what I could do would be to teach them in NVC, if I could give them that before they got out into the world,  it could be the greatest gift that I ever gave to them. (10:25)
    • I think that's when I gained more interest in it and have slowly, I guess, over the last eight years, started implementing it more and more into my life, deeply listening, giving empathy and it's really strengthened my own sensibilities and skills, communication and how to communicate. (15:10)

     

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    ]]>     Thu, 15 Oct 2020 06:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-002-who-we-are-and-why-we-can-teach-you-a-little-something-about-nvc-ryp2HnrK Key Points Discussed:

    • The folks in Washington that were running the whole thing, they wanted those of us on the forefront to do peace differently, because they had said back in the 60s, when people were trying to make peace come about, they were kind of often out of integrity with the piece that they wanted to bring. (1:43)
    • And a note, mind you, this had not even been 24 hours to receive that said, this is a high price to pay, you've seen nothing yet. (6:40)
    • My daughter was a senior in high school and I had been trying to think about what I could do to give her a special gift, and all of her friends a special gift for their graduation, and it dawned on me, what I could do would be to teach them in NVC, if I could give them that before they got out into the world,  it could be the greatest gift that I ever gave to them. (10:25)
    • I think that's when I gained more interest in it and have slowly, I guess, over the last eight years, started implementing it more and more into my life, deeply listening, giving empathy and it's really strengthened my own sensibilities and skills, communication and how to communicate. (15:10)

     

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    ]]>     Episode 002-Who We Are and Why We Can Teach You a Little Something about NVC? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:16:53 Thanks for joining us on our second episode of it's all about connection, NVC with Dr. B. Today, we will be talking about how we got into NVC (Nonviolent Communication), involvement with the Department of Peace and sharing NVC with students in local high schools. Ready? Let's get started... Thanks for joining us on our second episode of it's all about connection, NVC with Dr. B. Today, we will be talking about how we got into NVC (Nonviolent Communication), involvement with the Department of Peace and sharing NVC with students in local high schools. Ready? Let's get started... false full 2     c18be1c8-99e2-4b8b-803d-797258f2f663 Episode 001: What the Heck is NVC? Key Points Discussed:

    •  I've been training youth and community volunteers in the NVC process, and I'm getting ready to launch my business called The Bigbie Method to operationalize peace in America schools by using NVC as the backbone.(1:20)
    • There's a lot of people that hear the term Non-Violent Communication and they think this isn't for me,  I'm not violent. When in fact, the term Non-Violent Communication comes from Gandhi's term of non-violence, and it's kind of based in this idea that anything that disconnects you from another human being is actually a form of violence. (2:01)
    • Over the evolution of this podcast that we're going to go over the key NVC concepts, we're going to talk with people who are struggling with NVC. Because that's a real thing, people, whether you have a lot of experience or a little experience, people really struggle with this. It's like learning a whole new language because it's hard, we are so habituated when we're in conflict. (4:11)
    • Most people come in and have a mental model of empathy and think, Oh, I know empathy, but empathy and NVC is a very specific process that can be taught and learned and replicated. Yeah, so our objective with this podcast is to inform, inspire and support.  (4:56)

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    ]]>     Wed, 14 Oct 2020 06:00:00 +0000 jodycolvard@gmail.com (Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole) https://nvcwithdrb.simplecast.com/episodes/episode-001-what-the-heck-is-nvc-RzlgJ8b7 Key Points Discussed:

    •  I've been training youth and community volunteers in the NVC process, and I'm getting ready to launch my business called The Bigbie Method to operationalize peace in America schools by using NVC as the backbone.(1:20)
    • There's a lot of people that hear the term Non-Violent Communication and they think this isn't for me,  I'm not violent. When in fact, the term Non-Violent Communication comes from Gandhi's term of non-violence, and it's kind of based in this idea that anything that disconnects you from another human being is actually a form of violence. (2:01)
    • Over the evolution of this podcast that we're going to go over the key NVC concepts, we're going to talk with people who are struggling with NVC. Because that's a real thing, people, whether you have a lot of experience or a little experience, people really struggle with this. It's like learning a whole new language because it's hard, we are so habituated when we're in conflict. (4:11)
    • Most people come in and have a mental model of empathy and think, Oh, I know empathy, but empathy and NVC is a very specific process that can be taught and learned and replicated. Yeah, so our objective with this podcast is to inform, inspire and support.  (4:56)

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    https://www.thebigbiemethod.com

     

    ]]>     Episode 001: What the Heck is NVC? Cindy Bigbie and Heather Claypoole 00:05:49 Thank you for joining us today on our first episode of It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. To be honest, neither of us have ever made a podcast before, so we're still finding our way, but stick with us because we'll have fun and learn. Dr. B is an expert in NVC (Nonviolent Communication), and I'm brushing up on it. So I'll be learning also. Hi, I'm Heather, the co-host of this show, and with me as always is Dr. B. Ready? Let's get started... Thank you for joining us today on our first episode of It's All About Connection, NVC with Dr. B. To be honest, neither of us have ever made a podcast before, so we're still finding our way, but stick with us because we'll have fun and learn. Dr. B is an expert in NVC (Nonviolent Communication), and I'm brushing up on it. So I'll be learning also. Hi, I'm Heather, the co-host of this show, and with me as always is Dr. B. Ready? Let's get started... false full 1