How To! with Mike Pesca

How to Hire Someone and Be a Good Boss

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 14 Jul 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Comedian and Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me! panelist Paula Poundstone splits her time among a grueling tour schedule and a chaotic home life, but she wants to find the focus necessary to manage her household staff and stop letting her deep aversion to conflict ruin her business. Enter Nedra Glover Tawwab, relationship expert and author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, who advocates for establishing extreme clarity and asserting direct workplace rules rather than falling into the trap of passive-aggressive avoidance. She introduces Paula to an evaluation rubric for vetting potential employees, advising her to utilize trial workdays and custom hiring assessmentsShe exposes the traps of management neglect that trick empathetic bosses into prioritizing an applicant's personal hardships over their actual ability to complete high-stakes tasks.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

Booking by Ben Astaire

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How To Keep Cool in a Crisis

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 7 Jul 2026 19:48:00 +0000

Originally Aired on Oct 12, 2021 On this episode of How To!, the second in a two part-series, Dan Christensen, a bus driver in Portland, Oregon, and Matt Smith, a crisis intervention trainer and the co-founder of Aegis Training Solutions, are back to teach you what to do when a fight is already underway. Dan talks about his experience with the 2017 Portland train attack that left two people dead. How do you stay safe? What is your responsibility to those around you? In short, how can you be a better bystander?

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship."

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Podcast production by Derek John and Rosemary Belson.

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How Constraints Make Us More Creative

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 30 Jun 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Ofra splits her time among a number of hobbies in her retirement, but she wants to stop feeling rudderless and find the focus necessary to write a book of observational humor based on her twenty-year career as a psychotherapist. Enter David Epstein, workplace researcher and author of Inside the Box, who advocates for creating artificial structure and imposing concrete deadlines rather than falling into the trap of endless optionality. He introduces Ofra to an evaluation rubric for vetting creative output, advising her to write a mock press release before starting her project to define her audience and clarify the exact parenting misconceptions she wants to target. He exposes the traps of subtraction neglect that trick retirees into adding too many low-stakes activities to their daily routines.

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Edited by Geoff Craig

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Should I Choose Passion or a Stable Job?

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 23 Jun 2026 17:29:00 +0000

India splits her time between contract production and agency work, but she wants to stop prioritizing other people's projects to scale her personal brand. Enter Simone Stolzoff, workplace researcher and author of The Good Enough Job, who advocates for building a multi-pronged freelance career rather than recklessly burning your ships. He introduces India to an evaluation rubric for vetting new business, advising her to decline any corporate opportunity that does not offer either a premium payout or a clear brand-building advantage. He exposes the traps of vocational awe that trick creatives into accepting less than they deserve, warns her about the exhausting grind of narrow algorithmic niches, and hands her a data-driven framework to prototype and prune her various income streams as her professional goals evolve.

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How To Make New Friends as an Adult

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 16 Jun 2026 17:37:00 +0000

Steven racks up acquaintances on group mountain bike rides, but he cannot turn a casual trailhead hello into a real friendship. For decades he coasted on the built-in connections of being in a band, working in a lab, and having a wife who did the social legwork. But now he needs to make some new friends. Enter Dr. Marisa G. Franco, University of Maryland professor and New York Times bestselling author, who studies adult connection for a living. She walks Steven through the "liking gap," the trap where you assume people like you less than they actually do. She exposes the covert avoidance that keeps him safe and alone. And she hands him a "repotting" strategy for converting trail buddies into a genuine community.

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Beating Yourself Up? The 10-Second Play That Outsmarts Your Inner Critic

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000

This week we're sharing a special episode from our friends at Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin — the Webby Award–winning podcast hosted by psychotherapist and mental strength trainer Amy Morin, whose TEDx talk has been viewed more than 25 million times and whose books have sold over a million copies in more than fifty languages.

Every week, Amy shares a practical, research-backed mental strength strategy you can use right away. Think of it as a therapy session you don't have to book: all of the strategy, none of the small talk.

Today we're sharing her episode on outsmarting your inner critic. Amy introduces the anxious voice in her own head that tries to keep her from taking risks, and walks through a simple three-step play — backed by research on self-distancing — for taking that voice's power away so it stops running your life. This play is one of the fifty tools in her brand-new book, The Mental Strength Playbook.

For more strategies like this, follow Mentally Stronger on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. And tell her Mike sent you.

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How To Ditch Your Distractions Once and For All

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 9 Jun 2026 17:46:00 +0000

There's one thing that all of Helena's personal projects have in common: they remain unfinished. The family photo album is empty, as is her mom's recipe book. And the lavender garden is still unplanted. Helena is not lazy. In fact, she's a busy lawyer who has no problem finishing tasks at the office. But she's also a busy mother raising a family, and free time is hard to come by. So how can Helena banish her distractions? On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series on time management, we talk to Nir Eyal, author of Indistractable: How To Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. Nir used to be just as distracted as Helena, but then he figured out some tricks to break free from his stray thoughts. He explains why procrastination isn't a sign of laziness, it's a sign of discomfort. And why it's more important to address your feelings than silence your push notifications.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stop Procrastinating" and make sure to tune in next week to learn how to set the perfect deadline.

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How To Get Into Wine

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 2 Jun 2026 17:00:00 +0000

Today on How To!, Ross, a TV director who enjoys a drink but feels intimidated by the pretension of the wine world, levels up his wine knowledge. Mike brings on journalist and The Corrupt Wine Writer Substack author Joel Stein to cut through the snobbery, explain why you shouldn't be afraid to ask for help at a wine shop, and offer practical tips on how to order confidently at restaurants without overspending. They discuss why "drinking what you like" is only half the battle and how to navigate restaurant markups. Plus, is wine knowledge actually a gateway to sophistication, or just another way to get stuck in the status-seeking trap?

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

Booking by Ben Astaire

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How To Connect With An Audience

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 26 May 2026 16:19:00 +0000

Guitarist and orchestrator Dillon Kondor knows his way around a stage. It's everything in between the songs that trips him up. Speaking to a crowd, filling the silence, not coming off stiff or defensive, that's where his confidence disappears. After too many gigs derailed by awkward pauses and self-protective sarcasm, Dylan reaches out to Mike for help. On this episode of How To!, Mike brings in the perfect guide: singer-songwriter Sharon Van Etten, who knows firsthand what it's like to freeze in front of an audience. Sharon opens up about her own early battles with social anxiety and makes the case that great stage presence has nothing to do with rehearsed jokes or arena-ready charisma. She walks Dylan through how to think about a crowd, not as people to impress, but as friends you're about to grab a drink with, and shares practical strategies for pacing a set list, turning nervous energy into something the audience can feel good about, and letting go of the armor that self-deprecation can become. Then fast-forward to 2026 to check back in with Dylan and find out how those lessons on connection and worthiness actually changed his relationship with performing.

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Edited by Geoff Craig

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How to Coach Your Kid

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 19 May 2026 16:30:00 +0000

Brian stepped up to coach his 7-year-old daughter's soccer team to save their season, but there's one major catch: he's never actually played the sport. Now battling imposter syndrome and the pressure of intense parental expectations, he feels completely overwhelmed. On this episode of How To!, we bring on former Major League Soccer goalkeeper Jeff Attinella to demystify the art of youth coaching. They discuss the growing problem of early sports specialization and why keeping kids moving is far more important than mastering complex rules. Jeff walks Brian through a foolproof 45-minute practice structure, explains why faking your confidence is essential on the sidelines, and shares a genius "Simon Says" hack for regaining the attention of easily distracted seven-year-olds.

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Edited by Geoff Craig

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How To Maximize Your Credit Card Points

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 12 May 2026 16:03:00 +0000

Al has over a million American Express points and dreams of booking another once-in-a-lifetime luxury vacation for his family. But the opaque, frustrating system of transferring and redeeming rewards has him completely paralyzed. On this episode of How To!, Mike brings on Elliot Rosenberg, founder of the luxury points concierge Stratys, to demystify the credit card game. They discuss how airlines secretly devalue their miles and why hoarding points is a massive financial mistake. Elliott walks Al through the "earn and burn" philosophy, explains why you shouldn't put everyday spending on premium cards, and shares a simple hack for turning Amex points into five-night stays at elite hotels. Stratys - http://stratystravel.com/

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How To Bounce Back From Burnout

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 5 May 2026 14:38:00 +0000

When Betsy joined her last workplace, she thought it was a perfect fit. It was on a list of Best Places to Work and she got to be creative while helping people. But as the startup rapidly grew, the company culture changed and Betsy started to lose herself amid the stress. Then she got laid off. Honestly, Betsy was relieved, but now she's gotta figure out what's next. On this episode of How To!, we bring on James Altucher, author, podcaster, and all-around interesting person. He's both created successful companies and failed a number of times. He has some funny, frank advice for taking the sting out of rejection, reviving your passions, and making sure your next move is right for you.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job."

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How To Manage Your Anger

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 28 Apr 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Tyler holds himself to high expectations, placing a deep value on self-sufficiency and the social contract. But as a science teacher and dad to a blended family, he gets incredibly frustrated when others do not hold themselves to those same standards. On this episode of How To!, Mike brings on psychologist Dr. Ryan Martin, known as the Anger Professor, to talk through the realities of male anger and why our closest relationships trigger us the most. He walks Tyler through assertive communication, the "grounding" technique, and why keeping your cool is less about burying your feelings and more about understanding the core principles that spark them.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

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ENCORE How To Make a Huge Decision In 60 Minutes... Or Less

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 21 Apr 2026 14:37:00 +0000

To move or not to move? That is the question for Tiffani. She is desperate to get out of her hometown in rural Oregon and find a place with affordable housing, better dating prospects, and a ballroom dance studio nearby… or at least a P.F. Chang's closer than a four hour drive away. The problem? Her preferred destination would mean moving clear across the country. On this episode of How To!, decision coach Nell McShane Wulfhart sits down with Tiffani and helps her make this life-changing decision in under 60 minutes. It's true! Nell shows us how we can all uncover what we truly want and then write ourselves permission slips to actually pursue it.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Have Happy Regrets."

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How To Solve a Mystery

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 14 Apr 2026 23:04:00 +0000

Brett has spent her career in foreign policy — shaping strategy, advising governments, moving pieces on a board whose outcomes she may never live to fully see. It's meaningful work. It just never feels finished. So she's started thinking about a different kind of problem: the kind with a beginning, a middle, and an answer. Oh, also, and these mysteries keep presenting themselves in her workplace, and Brett loves mysteries! On this episode of How To!, Mike brings on Christian, a private investigator to talk through the realities of being a PI. He walks Brett through the subtle art of "elicitation," the unglamorous realities of tailing cars and tracing skips, and why cracking a case in the real world is less about lurking in shadows and more about being the kind of person people want to talk to. Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

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How To Communicate with Your Pet

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 7 Apr 2026 15:20:00 +0000

Living with a cat often feels like a game of high-stakes interpretation, especially when an 18-pound Maine Coon is performing a 4:30 AM tap dance on your head. Today on How To!, Mike Pesca is joined by cat owner Steve, who shares the reality of navigating the vocal demands of his feline companions, Mr. Bad and Vincent Then, cat behavior consultant Dr. Mikel Delgado steps in to debunk the "alpha" dominance myth and the false promise of AI-powered cat translators, explaining how felines actually use subtle body language and house-specific "dialects" to communicate with and occasionally exploit their human caretakers. Delgado offers a scientific look at the "mouse bouche" caloric needs of a predator and provides actionable strategies to help owners reclaim their sleep and treat their cats like the solitary hunters they truly are.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

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How to Not Say "Um"

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:45:00 +0000

Relying on filler words like "um," "like," and "you know" is a universal habit that clutters our speech and betrays our nerves, but simply willing yourself to stop only makes the problem worse. Today on How To!, Mike Pesca is joined by renowned data journalist and author Nate Silver, who bravely steps up as the guinea pig to have his own fast-talking, filler-heavy conversational style diagnosed in real-time. Then, communications coach Michael Chad Hoeppner, author of Don't Say Um, steps in to break down the physical mechanics of communication—treating speaking as an athletic act—and offers actionable, kinesthetic strategies like "catching the ball" and "walking the fingers" to help anyone slow down, pause, and speak with confident precision.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

Booking by Ben Astaire

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How To Protect The Elderly From Scammers

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 16:16:00 +0000

Getting older brings new vulnerabilities, especially when navigating the sophisticated, ever-evolving world of financial scams targeting seniors. Today on How To!, Mike Pesca is joined by journalist Nancy Rommelmann, who shares the harrowing personal reality of watching her mother fall prey to predatory phone calls and a corrupt accountant. Then, AARP's Senior Director of Fraud Victim Support, Amy Nofziger, steps in to break down the DNA of modern elder fraud—from "pig butchering" crypto schemes to celebrity romance catfishing—and offers actionable, team-based strategies like credit freezes, call blockers, and family "admin nights" to keep your loved ones, and their life savings, safe.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

Booking by Ben Astaire

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How To Take Psychedelics for Your Mental Health with Dr. Will Van Derveer

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 17 Mar 2026 17:45:00 +0000

Stand-up comedian and philosopher Myq Kaplan has built a successful career exploring the human condition, but navigating his own underlying anxiety presents a very different challenge. He knows how to handle recreational and spiritual psychedelic trips in the jungles of Peru, but the leap to "crossing the streams" and using these substances in a formal, clinical therapeutic setting feels uncertain. On this episode: How To!'s Mike Pesca brings on Dr. Will Van Derveer, a veteran psychiatrist, co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute, and author of Psychedelic Therapy. Dr. Will Van Derveer offers Myq guidance on using medicines like ketamine and psilocybin to "shake the snow globe" of the brain's default mode network, the importance of treating the therapy like a psychological tow truck rather than a permanent ride—and why you really need to stop bothering the Sonoran Desert toads.

Executive Producer Corey Wara

Edited by Geoff Craig

Booking by Ben Astaire

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How To Make A How To Podcast

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 10 Mar 2026 17:26:00 +0000

Mike Pesca has built a long career as a news analyst and podcaster, but taking over the How To! franchise presents a very different challenge: learning the ropes of the advice show genre. He knows how to dissect complex political events, but the leap to solving eccentric listener dilemmas while maximizing entertainment value feels new. On this episode: How To!'s Mike Pesca turns the microphone on himself and brings on Ian Chillag and Mike Danforth, the veteran co-hosts of NPR's How to Do Everything and producers for Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me! Ian and Mike offer Mike guidance on bypassing straightforward answers to find weirdly perpendicular solutions, the importance of providing "nutritious" conversational facts—and why you should never, under any circumstances, climb inside a refrigerator with Jesse Eisenberg. Executive Producer Corey Wara Edited by Geoff Craig Booking by Lya Yanne Do you have a burning question or a problem you need help with? Email us at howto@mikepesca.com and we will consider your topic for the show. For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To receive ad-free content, become a Pesca Plus subscriber at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily takes on Substack, subscribe to The Gist List https://mikepesca.substack.com/ Follow us on Social Media:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pescagist/ X https://x.com/pescami YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@pescagist⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@pescagist To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/howto

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How To Ghostbust The Old Fashioned Way

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 3 Mar 2026 17:59:00 +0000

Enid Baxter Ryce has built a fascinating career as an artist and university professor, but her unique living situation presents a very different challenge: navigating life on a massive, decommissioned, and potentially haunted military base. She knows how to uncover the historical art left behind in the empty barracks, but the leap to understanding and confronting the supernatural entities that might linger there feels intimidating and out of reach. On this episode: How To!'s Mike Pesca brings on Dr. Irving Finkel, a renowned British Museum curator, Assyriologist, and author of The First Ghosts. Irving offers Enid guidance on bypassing modern skepticism to view hauntings through an ancient Mesopotamian lens, the power of using precise incantations to address spirits—and why dealing with a ghost should be treated as practically as catching a mouse in the kitchen.

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Edited by Geoff Craig

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How to Emigrate as a Throuple

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 17:33:00 +0000

Dan Savage has built a legendary career giving sex and relationship advice, but as the U.S. political climate shifts, he's yearning to chase a very different dream: relocating his polyamorous family to Europe. He knows how to navigate complex relationship dynamics, but the leap to untangling international immigration law feels intimidating and technically out of reach. On this episode: How To! with Mike Pesca consults Charley Nieuwesteeg, a Dutch immigration lawyer specializing in the Dutch-American Friendship Treaty (DAFT). Charley offers Dan guidance on bypassing the bureaucratic hurdles to establish residency, navigating the logistics of "daisy-chain" migration—and why proving a romantic relationship to the Dutch government is surprisingly straightforward.

Executive Producer Corey Wara Edited by Geoff Craig Booking by Lya Yanne Do you have a burning question or a problem you need help with? Email us at howto@mikepesca.com and we will consider your topic for the show. For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To receive ad-free content, become a Pesca Plus subscriber at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily takes on Substack, subscribe to The Gist List https://mikepesca.substack.com/ Follow us on Social Media:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pescagist/ X https://x.com/pescami YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@pescagist⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@pescagist To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/howto

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How To Be a DJ, Not a Playlist with Tom Nash

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 17 Feb 2026 16:54:00 +0000

Stewart has built a respectable career as a lawyer in Montreal, but he's yearning to chase a very different dream: becoming a club DJ. He knows how to curate a killer playlist, but the leap to commanding a live room feels intimidating and technically out of reach. On this episode: How To!'s Mike Pesca brings on Tom Nash, a former top Sydney club DJ (known as DJ Hookie) who spins using prosthetic hooks. Tom offers Stewart guidance on bypassing the technical hurdles to truly read a crowd, building a music brand from "scratch"—and why the DJ's one true job is to delight the audience. Executive Producer Corey Wara Edited by Geoff Craig Booking by Lya Yanne Do you have a burning question or a problem you need help with? Email us at howto@mikepesca.com and we will consider your topic for the show. For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To receive ad-free content, become a Pesca Plus subscriber at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily takes on Substack, subscribe to The Gist List https://mikepesca.substack.com/ Follow us on Social Media:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pescagist/ X https://x.com/pescami YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@pescagist⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@pescagist To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/howto

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Announcing: How To! with Mike Pesca

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Fri, 13 Feb 2026 15:28:00 +0000

How To! has a new host - veteran journalist and podcaster Mike Pesca, host of The Gist, Not Even Mad, and Funny You Should Mention podcasts. It's the same great Ambie Award nominated show, covering new topics, with new experts, and Mike's signature humor.

You've got questions. We find answers.

We all need advice, but it's not always clear who to ask. Each week, Mike Pesca invites a listener on the show to tackle a real problem, like protecting our elderly loved ones from scammers, emigrating as a throuple, and speaking without saying "um" - all with help from world-class experts: attorneys, doctors, entrepreneurs, authors, researchers - who actually know what they're talking about. Think of it as eavesdropping on someone else's therapy session, without the co-pay or awkward silence.

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How To Start Writing (w/ Anna Quindlen & John Dickerson) Encore

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 23:16:00 +0000

You've probably heard about the importance of journaling, putting thoughts on paper to help process the daily vicissitudes of life. But it's easy to stall once you see a blank page or get self conscious about what exactly you're writing. On this episode of How To!, we bring together Anna Quindlen, bestselling novelist and author of the new book Write For Your Life, and John Dickerson, co-host of Slate's Political Gabfest, CBS News reporter, author and veteran journaler. They share their wit and wisdom on how to start writing about your personal life — and how to keep it going amid all the distractions. (And stay tuned after the credits for an exclusive sneak peek of Anna Quindlen's next novel).

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Write a Bestseller" and "How To Get Your Book Published."

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Now Is the Time to Escape Your Bad Relationship. Here's How. (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 3 Feb 2026 23:09:00 +0000

Dating is always tough, but during a pandemic it can feel downright impossible. "I'm incredibly lonely, and it's impossible to meet anybody my age right now," our listener Sarah said. Feeling isolated, Sarah has clung to a friends-with-benefit situation with Matthew, her friend and dance partner. But at 36, Sarah knows the relationship isn't meant to last. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Logan Ury, director of relationship science at Hinge, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love, to help Sarah break up with Matthew and move on. And moving on, Logan says, doesn't necessarily mean just dating. What Sarah might really be missing is a community—and so she ought to search for not only a romantic partner but also friends who function as "other significant others."

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How To Rob a Bank (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 27 Jan 2026 23:00:00 +0000

Joe Loya robbed over 30 banks during an 18-month span before going to jail. In this episode of How To! Charles wants to rob one bank on a Saturday afternoon, and get away scot-free. Can Joe teach Charles the tricks of the trade? Or will he shatter his dreams, and a few stereotypes along the way? Also, is it a good idea to carry a microphone while attempting a robbery?

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How To Never Miss a Deadline (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Wed, 21 Jan 2026 00:01:00 +0000

Avalon is driven, creative, and… can't meet a deadline to save her life. In her defense, she's a card-carrying member of the gig economy, juggling a complicated schedule as a DJ and visual artist. Avalon's tried to organize her life using a bullet journal, but procrastination keeps getting in the way of her career pursuits. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series on time management, we talk to Christopher Cox, author of The Deadline Effect: How To Work Like It's the Last Minute Before the Last Minute. He explains why concrete deadlines, the shorter the better, can actually help Avalon's creativity. And he gives all of us tips on how to set the perfect deadline—and never miss it.

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How To Know When to Quit Your Job (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 21:00:00 +0000

Victor's job—at its core—is to change the world. But he feels like he's plateaued within his large humanitarian and development organization, and is now on the verge of jumping ship. On this episode of How To!, Annie Duke, author of Quit: The Power Of Knowing When to Walk Away, helps Victor decide if he should recommit to his current job or move on to something else. She explains the cognitive biases that prevent us from quitting and reveals why most of us quit things far too late.

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How To Confront a Vindictive Neighbor with Tig Notaro (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Peach Fish Projects) — Tue, 6 Jan 2026 23:25:00 +0000

The trouble began when Sarah put a fern in front of her new condo. Nice, right? The woman who lives in the unit above didn't think so, and without warning sent Sarah a slew of passive-aggressive notes. Sarah thinks it's all a big misunderstanding, but now her neighbor refuses to even speak to her. Sarah is wracked with anxiety, struggling to sleep, and contemplating moving out. On this episode of How To!, we turn to stand-up comedian Tig Notaro, a cancer survivor and host of the new advice podcast Don't Ask Tig, to help Sarah approach the situation with humor and clarity. When things don't go your way, Tig says, you have to take back control of your own story. What would the hero in your favorite movie do? For Sarah, this means gardening with headphones and the Rocky theme on the soundtrack.

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Our Favorite Advice of 2025

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In 2025, our listeners contacted How To! for advice about outsmarting student loans, moving to a new city, hosting a low-key gathering, living with chronic pain, quitting a dream job, letting go of ADHD shame, and yes, losing your virginity in your 40s. Today on the show: Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin get updates from some of those advice-seekers—and they check in with Jeff, whose family narrowly escaped an L.A. wildfire this year. Plus, what's ahead for How To! in 2026.

How To! is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our senior supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Date Night Done Right

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Dec 2025 08:05:00 +0000

Tired of being the project manager for date night? On this bonus episode of How To!, Jackie Kelley explains how to make logistics equitable and easy—so your partner can help. Plus: a tip for quickly finding restaurants when date night is spontaneous.

Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Create 'Marriage Rules' as a Couple

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Cohabitation can be bliss—except when it comes to your partner's incompatible approach to household tasks. Bonnie likes things clean, organized, and prompt. Vince, on the other hand, is a classic procrastinator. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on self-described "human glitterbomb" Jackie Kelley to offer up some practical "marriage rules" designed to improve everyday communication with the love of your life.

If you liked this episode check out:

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Quick Fix: Sexual Fawning

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Dec 2025 08:05:00 +0000

In this bonus episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton discusses another aspect of everyday life where fawning can show up and take over: sex. Ingrid tells How To!'s Courtney Martin about the ways we lose ourselves during sex—and how we can reconnect with our needs.

How To!'s Quick Fix is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Stop Fawning

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth "F" after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Sing in Front of Other People

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Slate staff writer Rebecca Onion wants to improve her singing voice, but she's unsure about belting it out in public. On this episode, How To!'s Carvell Wallace introduces her to G. Phillip Shoultz III, associate director of VocalEssence, for advice on strengthening her voice, performing with confidence, and (gasp!) auditioning for a vocal group.

If you liked this episode check out How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song With Ben Folds.

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How To Give to a Good Cause—and Make It Count

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

With the year-end giving season underway, you might be wondering how much to donate and where you can make the biggest impact. On this Giving Tuesday, How To!'s Courtney Martin brings on Grace Chiang Nicolette of the Center for Effective Philanthropy to explain how to pick the right organizations and ensure your dollar goes as far as possible—regardless of how much you're giving.

You can hear more of Grace on her podcast, Giving Done Right. If you liked this episode, check out How To Harness Your Citizen Superpowers and How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Learn to Love Your City

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 08:05:00 +0000

It wasn't long after Melody Warnick moved to Blacksburg, Va., that she realized its nickname—"Bleaksburg"—wasn't a joke. Feeling stuck, she devised a research-based experiment to acclimate to her new city. On this episode: Melody explains how she went from hating Blacksburg to loving it (and how you can deepen your connection to the place where you live).

Listen to part one of our conversation here: How to Move to a New City.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Survive a Disaster and Quick Fix: Meet Your Neighbors

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How To Move to a New City

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Kerry is ready to leave rural Virginia and move to a walkable, vibrant city. The only problem? She can't decide which walkable, vibrant city is right for her. On this episode, How To!'s Courtney Martin brings on Melody Warnick, author of This Is Where You Belong and If You Could Live Anywhere. Melody asks Kerry what she's really seeking in a new place—and introduces a process that can help make such an important decision.

Next week, we'll talk with Melody about learning to love where you live. Can't wait for part two? Slate Plus members can listen to that episode in their feeds right now!

If you liked this episode check out: Moving Stories from Slate's Death, Sex & Money.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: The Reality of Owning a Home

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Nov 2025 08:05:00 +0000

In this Quick Fix bonus episode, Carvell Wallace talks with home improvement expert Mercury Stardust about her first year of homeownership. The ups and downs of that experience are the subject of Mercury's upcoming book.

How To!'s Quick Fix is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Take Charge of Home Repair (with Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Nov 2025 08:03:00 +0000

In the second half of How To!'s wide-ranging conversation about home improvement, gender, sexuality, and much more, journalist Sam Sanders and author Mercury Stardust (aka The Trans Handy Ma'am) talk with co-host Carvell Wallace about a truly daunting idea: skipping the contractors—and doing the work yourself.

This episode is available to Slate Plus members now. Non-members will be able to listen on Nov. 11, 2025. If you missed the first half of this conversation, check out How To Talk to Contractors (With Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust).

Mercury's latest book is Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair. And, check out the latest episodes of The Sam Sanders Show.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Talk to Contractors (With Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Sam Sanders is many things: journalist, podcaster, pop-culture obsessive, and a familiar voice from public radio. He's also "quite possibly the world's most hesitant homeowner." Sam wants to fix up the house he recently bought, but three things are holding him back: First, he doesn't have a clue where to start. Second, he's not very handy. And third, he's intimidated by the thought of talking with contractors (who might discover the first two things about him). In the first episode of a two-part series, Carvell Wallace brings on home improvement expert and bestselling author Mercury Stardust (aka The Trans Handy Ma'am) to guide Sam in conquering his fears.

Mercury's latest book is Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair. Check out the latest episodes of The Sam Sanders Show.

Next week: How To Take Charge of Home Repair (with Sam Sanders and Mercury Stardust). Can't wait for part 2? Slate Plus members can listen to that episode in their feeds right now!

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How To Stop Snoring

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Andrew Zaleski couldn't stop snoring. Fed up, he did what any good journalist would do: He started digging. On this episode of How To!, Andrew tells Courtney Martin about his investigation into sawing logs, his experiments with anti-snoring devices, and what he learned from sleep experts while reporting his recent story for Slate.

Episodes Mentioned:

How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier)

How To Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship

How To Sleep Like a Champ

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How To Survive Getting Fired

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

If you recently lost your job—or think you might lose it soon—Laura Brown and Kristina O'Neill are here to help! On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace talks to the authors of All the Cool Girls Get Fired about what to do when you get the ax—and how to turn termination into a real opportunity.

If you liked this conversation, check out the Slate podcast Death, Sex & Money's recent episode on "Why Job Hunting Feels So Grim Lately, Especially for Gen Z."

Looking for a different kind of career advice? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Dismantling Male Supremacy

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 07:05:00 +0000

Journalist and activist Soraya Chemaly decided to write her new book All We Want Is Everything: How We Dismantle Male Supremacy before the 2024 election. No matter the result, "there was going to be a huge backlash," she says. "I thought we should talk about this problem, which I define as a problem of male supremacy being invisible." Soraya breaks down how male supremacy operates, our hopes for beating it, and why it's bad for everyone—including men.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Harness Your Anger

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Contemporary women are primal-screaming and hitting rage rooms, but are these really the solutions to our personal and political anger? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with Soraya Chemaly, journalist and author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, about her own recent upsurge of anger. Soraya explains how to identify, understand, and harness what's bottled up inside you—and use it for change.

If you liked this episode check out How To Make Imposter Syndrome Your Superpower and How To Be Lonely.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Starting Conversations About Identity

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Oct 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this special bonus episode, youth mentor Ashanti Branch talks with our listener Jen about her son's early observation about his skin color—and how to sustain conversations with young kids about race and identity.

If you liked this episode check out: How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Raise a Boy

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Jen is raising a pretty stellar 9-year-old son. With his tween and teen years on the horizon, she wants to steer him toward kindness, acceptance, and openness—and away from the pitfalls of toxic masculinity. On this episode, How To!'s Carvell Wallace brings on Ashanti Branch, founder of The Ever Forward Club and host of unMASKing with Male Educators. Ashanti offers his advice on talking with boys about their emotions, understanding the "mask" that young men present to the world, and building trust and confidence—by acknowledging that adults don't have all the answers.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Parent Less and How To Make Friends … Like a Man

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Quit IVF (and Start a New Chapter)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

After seven years of trying to conceive, Lauren is ending fertility treatments and starting a new journey: adoption. She's excited about this unexpected detour into parenthood—but she's also grieving the loss of something deeply personal that she desired for so long. On this episode: How To!'s Courtney Martin brings on Ada Limón, author of the new book Startlement and the current U.S. poet laureate. Ada offers Lauren guidance on finding strength and joy in this unplanned chapter of her life—and on rethinking our own expectations for our bodies and our lives.

If you liked this episode check out How To Become a Parent Overnight and How To Build a Marriage That Lasts.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: The Afterword

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Sep 2025 07:15:00 +0000

In our latest mailbag episode, Courtney and Carvell had so much to say about books that we're bringing you even more in this Quick Fix bonus chat about audiobooks, cozy mysteries, and romance novels.

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Update: Losing Your 'Virginity' at 43

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In this mailbag episode of How To!, we get an update from Elizabeth, the 43-year-old listener who contacted us for advice on her plan to have sex for the first time. Then, co-hosts Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace get listeners' takes on our most talked-about episodes of the year—and the staff holds an impromptu idea meeting for upcoming episodes.

Links Mentioned:

My Old Books

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Quick Fix: Carvell's Take on Hypnosis

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 07:15:00 +0000

Two days after his experience with hypnosis, Carvell answers his How To! coworkers' burning questions: What does he remember (and not remember)? Does he feel any different? And most important: Would he do it again?

How To! is produced by Rosie Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad, who produced this Quick Fix episode. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Use Hypnosis

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Much of our common understanding of hypnosis has been gleaned from mind-control plots in Hollywood movies or hokey on-stage demonstrations. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Stanford University psychiatrist and researcher Dr. David Spiegel to talk about what hypnosis is (and isn't), as well as its potential to address stress, pain, and even athletic performance. Plus, with Carvell wrestling with an ongoing major project, Dr. Spiegel tests our host's hypnotizability—then leads him through an exercise aimed at confronting procrastination.

Learn more about Dr. Spiegel and his self-hypnosis app, Reveri. If you liked this episode, check out How To Stop Being Anxious and How To Quiet the Chatter in Your Head.

How To! is produced by Rosie Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad, who produced this episode. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: How to Be an Atheist Chaplain

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Sep 2025 07:05:00 +0000

Vanessa Zoltan's decision to enroll at Harvard Divinity School as an avowed atheist might seem unusual—at first. In this Quick Fix bonus episode for Slate Plus members, Zoltan talks with Carvell Wallace about becoming an atheist chaplain and why operating outside of organized religion helps her connect with people in times of need, regardless of what they believe.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Quit Your Dream Job

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Alice has an objectively cool job. She programs film festivals and gets to watch documentaries for a living. But that living is also stressful: It's low-paying, seasonal work that provides some status, sure, but not much stability. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on atheist chaplain and author Vanessa Zoltan, who spent two years helping countless people decide whether to quit (or not) on her podcast The Real Question. Vanessa shares what she learned from those conversations—and helps Alice figure out how to reimagine her life (with job security).

If you liked this episode check out How To Switch Careers in Midlife, How To Take a Sabbatical, and How To Know When to Quit Your Job.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Meet Your Neighbors

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Sep 2025 07:05:00 +0000

When was the last time you said more than "hello" to your neighbors? On this installment of How To!'s Quick Fix, Katherine Goldstein shares advice from her How To Find Your People Club project and helps us break the ice with bubbles, stoop coffee, and a dash of courage.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Host With Ease

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Krystina used to host gatherings all the time. Then came kids and the pandemic, and the parties ground to a halt. She's feeling a renewed urge to bring people together—specifically her inspiring, badass female friends—but every time she starts to plan something meaningful, she balks. On this episode: How To!'s Courtney Martin connects Krystina with Katherine Goldstein of the Substack and podcast The Double Shift. Katherine shares what she's learned from her new project, The How To Find Your People Club, including a guiding principle: Don't overthink it.

More from The How to Find Your People Club: 8 Ways to Embrace "Deep Casual Hosting" (So You'll Actually Do It)

More Advice for the "Deep Casual" Hosting Movement!

A Research-Backed Method to Ramp Up Our Social Skills

A Nitty-Gritty Guide to Finding a Community That's Right for You

If you liked this episode, check out How To Throw a Party They'll Remember and How To Find Friends in Unexpected Places.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Be a Better Coach (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

When Kelly volunteered to be the head coach for his son's baseball team, he was nervous. He had no formal training, but he knew he wanted his players to have equal playing time—and have fun. Which they did, until the yelling started and the season ended in a stunning loss (and quite a few tears). What can Kelly do better next season? In this encore episode of How To! from 2021, Amanda Ripley connects Kelly with Doug Lemov, author of Teach Like a Champion and The Coach's Guide to Teaching. Doug shares some fantastic advice for commanding attention (and managing failure) that we can all learn from, on or off the field.

If you liked this episode, check out Congrats, You Won the Olympics. Now What?

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This episode was produced by Derek John and Rosemary Belson.

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How To Declutter Your Digital Life

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Safiya is one clumsy coffee spill away from catastrophe. A Gen Xer who hasn't yet embraced the cloud, she stores thousands of digital files, documents, and photos on devices with maxed-out storage limits. On today's episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Caitlin McGarry, senior editor at Wirecutter. Caitlin talks with Safiya about practical ways to delete and organize—and how we can all build healthier habits in our digital lives.

Ready to dive even deeper? Explore these resources:

How to Organize Your Digital Files

Digital Clutter Can Be Overwhelming. Here's How to Clean Up.

Your Phone's Camera Roll Is a Mess. Here's How to Clean It Up.

How to Organize Desktop Apps

Don't Be a Digital Hoarder

If you liked this episode, check out How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Rethink Screen Time

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Three Pillars of Parenting

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 07:05:00 +0000

When working on her new book, Hello, Cruel World!, science journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer interviewed a wide variety of researchers about raising resilient kids. On this episode of How To!'s Quick Fix, Melinda shares the top three pieces of advice she heard from them.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Raise a Kid in a Polarized Family

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Sat, 9 Aug 2025 07:05:00 +0000

Sarah loves her in-laws, even though their politics send her running for the exits. Now, her daughter is starting to ask questions about her grandparents' patriarchal, conservative views. How can Sarah raise her kid to be self-assured, justice-oriented, and open-minded—without spoiling the connection between her in-laws and the grandchild they adore? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Melinda Wenner Moyer, science journalist and author of the new book Hello, Cruel World! Science-based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. Melinda gives Sarah strategies for talking to all parties, reinforcing values in her daughter, and avoiding an irreparable break with her relatives.

If you want more Melinda, check out: How To Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Let Go of ADHD Shame

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Jessi navigates life with ADHD using a complex web of coping strategies. She used to strive for absolute perfection, but feels overwhelming guilt when she forgets something or loses focus at work or at home. On this episode, How To! co-host Carvell Wallace introduces Jessi to Dr. Sarah Wheeler, an educational psychologist who specializes in ADHD. Dr. Wheeler shares her own experience with ADHD and helps Jessi chart a sustainable path forward to self-acceptance, minus the anxiety and shame.

Dr. Wheeler's Resources and Recommendations

- ⁠Sarah's ADHD story⁠

- Sarah's⁠ Substack⁠ and⁠ podcast⁠

- More about ⁠Sarah and her work⁠

- Joan Wilder's site ⁠Help for Women with ADHD⁠

- Salif Muhamane's Ted Talk,⁠ "ADHD Sucks, But Not Really⁠"

- Kate Weber's⁠ Women & ADHD podcast⁠

- You've Always Been This Way: ⁠"Hello, I'm New Here,"⁠ by McSweeney's columnist Taylor Harris

Check out: How To Navigate Adult Autism and our discussion of ADHD and organizing in How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

How can How To! help you?? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

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How To Gossip for Good

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Psssst. You didn't hear this from me, but gossiping—can be good for you! Our series on embracing your inner antihero wraps—for now—with a guilty pleasure: gossiping. Normal Gossip host (and beloved former Slatester) Rachelle Hampton sits down with How To!'s Carvell Wallace to dish on the right way to gossip, the link between whisper networks and safety, and the importance of leaving no receipts.

This conversation concludes—for now!—our miniseries on embracing your inner antihero. Check out our episodes on How To Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge and How To Be an Ethical Hater.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. This episode was produced by Sophie Summergrad.

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How To Be an Ethical Hater

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Our series on embracing your inner antihero continues with a look at superheroes who definitely don't wear capes: ethical haters. Slate culture writer Scaachi Koul sits down with How To!'s Carvell Wallace for a conversation about the power of haterade—and why "hating up" distinguishes ethical haters from run-of-the-mill, establishment negativity.

Links Mentioned:

Sucker Punch by Scaachi Koul

Scaachi's Substack, Hater Nation

Banal Nightmare by Halle Butler

Scamfluencers

Missed our first installment? Check out How To Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge. Next week: How to gossip! (But we didn't tell you that...)

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The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. This episode was produced by Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: The Let Them Theory

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Jul 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this Quick Fix bonus episode, our conversation about how to get revenge continues. Writer and comedian Matthew Dicks weighs in on the "let them" mindset popularized by podcaster Mel Robbins. "I don't understand why we would let terrible people continue to be terrible," he says. And, Matt explains the tiny moment of social-media comeuppance he delivered to Donald Trump.

Links Mentioned:

Mel Robbins explains the idea that became her bestselling book The Let Them Theory.

More about Matthew Dicks

How To!'s Quick Fix is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Special thanks to Sophie Summergrad.

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How To Get Sweet, Sweet Revenge

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Jordan is mired in a bitter war over off-leash pups at an unofficial dog park. With pro-leash forces deploying fake signage, ambush videos, and questionable zip-tie tactics in a campaign of shame aimed at her fellow dog owners, Jordan is ready to take matters into her own hands. In this first installment of How To's guide to becoming an antihero, Courtney Martin brings on writer, storyteller, and comedian Matthew Dicks to counsel Jordan in the art of getting even. (Read Slate's Revenge Week spectacular.)

A little treat: Jordan's pup, Ziggy!

Next week: How To Be an Ethical Hater. (Can't wait for antihero guidance? Check out How To Be the Next Erin Brockovich and How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor (Featuring Tig Notaro).

Are you carrying a petty grudge? Don't get over it—we want to hear your story! Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

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Quick Fix: Slow Down (and Try This Art Exercise)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Jul 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this bonus episode for Slate Plus members, two How To! producers follow Oliver Burkeman's advice and head to the art museum to stare at some art. The challenge originates from Harvard professor Jennifer L. Roberts, who assigned her students a task in deep observation… and patience.

Leland Bell, "Temma in Orange Dress"

Wendell Castle, "Walking Cabinet"

Tony Oursler, "MMPI (Self-Portrait in Yellow)"

Stuart Davis, "The Outside"

New York Times, Test Your Focus: Can You Spend 10 Minutes With One Painting?

If you liked this episode check out: How To Draw Outside the Lines

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Stop Giving 110%

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a '90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Start Reading Books Again (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Kate stopped reading in 2016. Since then, she's tried to find her way back to it but something's not clicking, and it's left a book-shaped hole in her heart. Reading used to be something she really enjoyed, took pride in, and loved connecting with people over. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Maryanne Wolf, director of ⁠UCLA's Center For Dyslexia, Diverse Learners, and Social Justice⁠ and author of the book, ⁠Reader, Come Home⁠. Maryanne explains the science behind the reading brain as well as how to deeply engage with books and make reading a habit again.

If you liked this episode, check out: "⁠How To Put Down Your Phone⁠"

Do you wonder how best to use your time? Send us a note at ⁠howto@slate.com⁠ or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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How To Balance Mind, Body—and iPhone

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Mary is juggling a busy career and family life and, like many of us, she feels guilty about the time she spends on her phone. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with author and teacher Molly Caro May about how she's helping others rethink—and rewire—their dependency on devices with an approach that's focused on the mind-body connection.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Manage Your Kids' Screen Time.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Drawing as Stress Relief

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Jun 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this bonus episode for Slate Plus members, our conversation about harnessing the power of drawing continues as Wendy MacNaughton walks Courtney through a drawing meditation that helps people relax and refocus.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Draw Outside the Lines

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Drawing isn't just child's play. It's a shortcut to joy, presence, and connection—all things we could use a lot more of these days. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on artist, graphic journalist, and founder of DrawTogether Wendy MacNaughton to explain how everyone at the grown-ups table can start drawing, too.

Courtney's blind contour drawing

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be an Artist and Not Starve

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Live With Chronic Pain

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Mavi was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis more than 15 years ago. Since then, she's managed her symptoms and myriad life changes—but the past several months have been dominated by intense, chronic pain. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Toni Bernhard, author of How to Be Sick and How to Live Well With Chronic Pain and Illness, to talk with Mavi about making peace with this new normal.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Withstand Pain.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Siblings Get the Freshman Blues, Too

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Jun 2025 07:05:00 +0000

Our conversation about families and college life continues in this special bonus episode for Slate Plus members. Carvell Wallace talks with our listener Jennifer and Texas Tech administrator Christine Self about how to help younger siblings when an older brother or sister heads off to school.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Send Your Kid to College (and Keep Your Distance)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Jennifer is about to send her oldest child off to college in the fall—and her kid isn't the only one who's anxious about the transition. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace and Jennifer talk with Christine Self, director of parent and family relations at Texas Tech University, about navigating a huge change, making the most of campus visits, talking about alcohol, and how much access you actually need to your kid's life.

Resources mentioned:

You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me) by Marjorie Savage

College Ready

Grown and Flown

If you liked this episode check out: How To Take a Gap Year and How To Pick a College (and Actually Afford It).

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Repair Your Stuff

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Think of all the broken stuff you're storing in your home. A blender that won't blend? A bike without brakes? A buttonless blouse? Resist the urge to buy new stuff—and listen to this How To! episode instead! Courtney Martin brings together Phoebe Schenker, executive director of Reuse Alliance and founder of The Mending Library, and Sue-Jean, a reuse enthusiast, to talk about breathing new life into old items.

Links Mentioned:

Reuse Alliance

iFixIt

WikiHow

Tool Lending Libraries

If you liked this episode check out: How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk and How To Let Go of Kid Clutter

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Discover Your Kink

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others.

If you liked this episode check out:

How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life

How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy

How To Orgasm

How To Lose Your 'Virginity' at 43

How To Have an Open Relationship

Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix | Challenge #4: Spring Cleaning

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 May 2025 07:05:00 +0000

Can advice from a podcast actually make your life better? How To! producer Rosie Belson is putting previous advice to the test. This month: How to make cleaning a breeze—or a little less awful, at least.

Featured How To! episodes:

How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

How To Be a Lazy Genius

How To Tame a Chaotic Household

How To Get Your Dog to Stop Eating Your Daughters' Underwear With Jenny Slate

Tell us about a piece of How To! advice that stuck with you. ? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001—and Rosie might just try out that advice for herself.. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. How To's supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Get a Great Haircut

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Are you stuck in a hair rut? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Alana Lucia Balestrino, hairstylist, barber, and founder of the Brooklyn-based studio Baddies. Alana explains how to work with a stylist or barber to get a haircut you love.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Dress with Confidence. Also: Decoder Ring's Mystery of the Mullet.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Parent With a Disability

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

At least 10 percent of parents in the U.S. are disabled, but Andrea can't seem to find parenting advice on disability and accessibility. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice, author of the new book Unfit Parent: A Disabled Mother Challenges an Inaccessible World, to help Andrea reimagine parenthood.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Date With a Disability and How To Become a Parent Overnight.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Living at Odds | 4. A Quiet Fight for LGBTQ Rights

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Our series Living at Odds concludes with a special episode of Slate's ⁠Death, Sex & Money⁠. Host Anna Sale returns to her native West Virginia to talk with the state's only full-time lobbyist for LGBTQ rights. Andrew Schneider of ⁠Fairness West Virginia⁠ has spent years cultivating working relationships with conservative allies in state and local government. Aided by those relationships, Andrew helped pass 20 local anti-discrimination ordinances across the conservative-leaning state. Now, those policy victories—and Andrew's alliances—are facing dire challenges in an increasingly hostile political landscape.

Plus: How To!'s Courtney Martin looks back at ⁠Living at Odds⁠, a series about what holds us together when so much threatens to break us apart.

If you enjoyed this series, check out: ⁠How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power⁠ or ⁠How To Harness Your Citizen Superpowers⁠.

Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at ⁠howto@slate.com⁠ or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on ⁠Apple⁠, ⁠Spotify⁠, or wherever you listen.

This episode was produced by Anna Sale, with the Death, Sex & Money team: Zoe Azulay, Cameron Drews, Andrew Dunn, and Daisy Rosario. This series was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. How To's technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

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Living at Odds | Bonus: How To Find an Ancestor

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this exclusive Living at Odds bonus episode: Kellie Farrish tells Courtney Martin about the research tools and techniques she uses while helping people uncover information about ancestors lost to history. Farrish, a restorative genealogist, brings together descendants of people who were involved in American chattel slavery for conversations about family pain, generational trauma, dignity, and belonging.

This episode was produced by Rosie Belson and Maura Currie. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Living at Odds | 3. Making Amends for Ancestors

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In the third installment of our series Living at Odds, How To!'s Courtney Martin examines what it's like being in conflict with your family history. She talks with ancestors of the famous names in Plessy v. Ferguson, the Supreme Court decision that affirmed racial segregation in the U.S. as "separate but equal." Later, researcher Kellie Farrish explains how reparative genealogy can unlock family history that's been lost or erased—and bring together descendants of enslaved people and their enslavers into conversations about the past, present, and future.

If you're enjoying Living at Odds, check out this How To! episode: How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice.

This episode was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Dahlia Lithwick of Amicus and Sophie Summergrad for their help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

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Living at Odds | 2. An Education in Opposition

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In the second installment of our series Living at Odds, former How To! host Amanda Ripley returns to talk with two public school officials in Tulsa, Oklahoma, who found themselves at loggerheads upon their very first meeting. Deborah and Stacey's difficult working relationship continued until COVID-19 sparked some solidarity—and the two began to learn more about each other. Later, Stacey would find herself defending the colleague she once wanted to oust.

If you're enjoying Living at Odds, check out these How To! episodes: How To Build Trust With Co-Workers and How To Help Teachers Thrive. Also check out Good Conflict for additional resources.

This episode was produced by Rosie Belson and Maura Currie. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob, who composed original music for this series. Our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Sophie Summergrad for her help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for Living at Odds.

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Living at Odds | 1. Two Partisans, One Corner

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Living at Odds is a new How To! series about what's holding us together when so much threatens to break us apart. In our first episode, host Courtney Martin talks with two street vendors who operated rivaling merch tents at the same busy intersection during the 2024 election. Steve hawked MAGA caps and Trump-branded pool floaties just a few feet away from Sandra, who sweetened her sales of Harris-Walz campaign shirts with free "Kamala candy." After so many weeks on the same street corner, the pair negotiated an easy friendship—and even talked about politics. Then came Election Day.

If you're enjoying Living at Odds, check out these How To! episodes: How To Run for Office Without Being an A**hole and How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1

This episode was produced by Maura Currie and Rosie Belson. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Thank you to Sophie Summergrad for her help with this episode.

Special thanks to The Hearthland Foundation, which provided funding for this series.

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Quick Fix | Challenge #3: Social Media Cleanse

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Apr 2025 22:15:00 +0000

Can advice from a podcast actually make your life better? How To! producer Rosie Belson is putting sage wisdom from past episodes to the test. This month: How to reevaluate your social media usage!

Featured How To! episodes:

How To Put Down Your Phone

How To Break the Spell of Social Media

How To Rethink Screen Time

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. How To's supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Replace Your Tesla

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Tesla owners are dumping their vehicles in protest of CEO Elon Musk—and driving down resale prices. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin talks with two soon-to-be-former owners—and with Patrick George, editor-in-chief of InsideEVs and co-host of the Plugged-In podcast. Patrick helps them figure out how to sell their Model Ys and find a ride that aligns with their practical and ideological needs.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Cope With Climate Anxiety

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Writing a Great Sex Scene

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 07:05:00 +0000

On this Slate Plus episode, Carvell Wallace continues his conversation with award-winning author and memoirist Melissa Febos. They discuss the "unrules" of writing about sex—and Melissa shares advice for new writers on how to make a sex scene come alive.

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Write Your Memoir

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

To some, the act of writing a memoir might seem daunting, invasive, or navel-gazing. But excavating memories, noticing patterns, and revisiting events from other points of view can lead to healing—regardless of whether your work gets published.

On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Melissa Febos. Melissa is the bestselling author of five books, including Girlhood—winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award in Criticism—and a forthcoming memoir, The Dry Season. She teaches us how to create our own narrative in ways that are safe for you and empathetic of others.

If you liked this episode check out: Carvell Wallace on Another Word for Love, How To Start Writing (with Anna Quindlen and John Dickerson), and How To Get Your Book Published

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Discover Music You'll Love

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Music streaming services like Spotify offer huge libraries of songs and albums—with recommendation engines that can feel unadventurous and repetitive. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace welcomes online tastemaker and podcast host Derrick Gee to discuss the shortcomings of music streaming algorithms. And, they sit down with R.J. and Brie—two music fans from different generations—to offer up tips for finding hidden gems and obscure jams that might reinvigorate your own music-seeking journey.

Recommendations from this episode:

Internet radio: KEXP (Seattle), KALX (UC-Berkeley), NTS Radio (UK), and KVRX, "None of the Hits, All of the Time" (Austin, Texas)

Podcasts and online features: Speaks Volumes With Derrick Gee, Bandsplain, NPR's Song of the Day

Derrick G's playlists

If you liked this episode check out How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song (with special guest Ben Folds).

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Supercommunicators | 3. How to Have the Hardest Conversations

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Wed, 12 Mar 2025 23:15:00 +0000

The final installment of our series explores the conversations that most of us dread, like frank discussions of our differences or a negative performance review at work. We often anticipate that these chats will go badly—and end in hurt feelings or embarrassment—but there are proven ways to make them easier to navigate.

Host Charles Duhigg talks with psychologist Jay Van Bavel about strategies for having the hardest conversations. And: Vernā Myers, Netflix's former vice president for inclusion strategy, tells the story of what happened inside the company after an executive was fired for using a racial slur.

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators. The guides we mention in this episode can be found at charlesduhigg.com/tools/

Supercommunicators was produced by Sophie Summergrad and Derek John, who also did the sound design. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix: Moving 575 Books

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 07:05:00 +0000

In this exclusive Quick Fix bonus episode: Co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin both moved to new homes recently. Ahead of peak moving season, they sit down to share the lessons learned from moving hundreds of books, sharing the responsibility of home decor, and taking the plunge into a major renovation. Plus, Courtney and Carvell share recommendations based on what they're loving right now.

Links Mentioned:

KALX 90.7FM live stream (UC-Berkeley)

WKCR 89.9FM live stream (Columbia University)

WSUM 91.7FM live stream (University of Wisconsin-Madison)

WBAR (Barnard College)

Anora

Heartstopper

How To! is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Lose Your 'Virginity' at 43

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

For most of her life, Elizabeth was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which forbids having sex outside of marriage. But she recently left the Mormon faith, and now she's ready to have sex for the first time—at age 43. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Nicole Hardy, author of Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin to offer Elizabeth advice that's relevant to anyone who's ready to tap into their sexuality later in life—but unsure how (or where! or with whom!) to start.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Orgasm, How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy, and How To Be Free of Body Shame

The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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How To Interview Someone

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Interviews are a time-honored way to elicit intimate insights from public figures and people in power. But at a moment when so much history is being denied or even deleted, interviewing family members and elders can be an important way to document their lives—and understand more about ourselves. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Sam Fragoso, host of the podcast Talk Easy. Sam explains what he's learned from hundreds of longform celebrity interviews, and how he applied those lessons to sit-downs with his parents.

If you liked this episode check out: The Art of the On-Mic Interview or How To Ace an Interview

How To is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Supercommunicators | 2. How to Communicate Without Words

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Sat, 1 Mar 2025 20:00:00 +0000

Why is it that we can tell someone "I'm totally fine!" and they instantly know we're not? Gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice, and other subtle nonverbal cues play a huge role in how we connect with one another.

In this episode, host Charles Duhigg explores how we communicate without words, including a deep dive into the visual and tonal cues embedded in one of the biggest sitcoms of all time, The Big Bang Theory.

He talks with Dr. Dustin York, a professor at Maryville University who studies nonverbal communication and worked in public relations for Barack Obama's 2008 presidential campaign. He also sits down with Dave Goetsch, a co-executive producer and longtime writer for The Big Bang Theory, and journalist Jessica Radloff, who wrote an exhaustive book about the show.

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.

Supercommunicators was produced by Sophie Summergrad and Derek John, who also did the sound design. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

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Quick Fix | Challenge #2: Sleep Hacks

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 08:05:00 +0000

Can you actually make your life better? Every month, How To! producer Rosie Belson will put some of our best advice to the test. This month: optimizing sleep!

Featured How To! episodes:

Next month we'll be breaking up with our phones—with advice heard on these episodes:

How To's supervising producer is Joel Meyer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Protect Your Parents From Fraud

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

May's father nearly lost $4,000 to an online scam. How can she protect him from future fraud? On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Kathy Stokes, director of fraud prevention programs at AARP. She also runs their Fraud Watch Network. Kathy helps May rethink how she's talking to her parents about cyber scams—she explains steps that everyone can take to avoid becoming a crime victim.

If you or someone you know has been the victim of cyber fraud, you can contact AARP's helpline at 877-908-3360.

Liked this episode? heck out: How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game and How To Steal Back Your Identity

How To's supervising producer is Joel Meyer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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Supercommunicators | 1. How to Talk to Anyone

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Sat, 22 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here…

In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life.

He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article "The 36 Questions That Lead to Love."

This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.

Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.

Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.

Joel Meyer is our supervising producer.

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How To Outsmart Your Student Loans

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

At nearly 40, Valerie is itching to pay off her student loans and finally become debt-free. But… how? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Yanely Espinal, financial educator, author of Mind Your Money, and host of the Marketplace podcast Financially Inclined. Yanely breaks down the best ways to pay off your education debt without putting the rest of your life on hiatus.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make a Big Purchase Without Panicking

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Ever since she started taking a new medication a few years ago, Meme is worried that she's lost her sex drive. She still has a great relationship with her husband, but she isn't interested in sex the way that she used to be, and she's worried it's hurting her marriage. On this episode of How To!, we bring on sex educator Emily Nagoski, author of Come as You Are, to coach Meme through how to revamp her sex life. For busy couples, you should actually schedule a time on your calendar to be intimate. "Think of like when you were dating…that was date sex," Emily reminds us. She then breaks down the myths that so many of us have internalized about sex, and shares surprising tips to help anyone—no matter their age or relationship status—have better sex.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Save Your Marriage."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.

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Quick Fix: Letting Go of Guilt

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Feb 2025 08:05:00 +0000

In this exclusive Quick Fix bonus episode: Laurel Braitman reads a passage from her book What Looks Like Bravery: An Epic Journey Through Loss to Love. She talks about journeying up to Alaska to learn about guilt from some badly behaved birds.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Rebuild Your Life After a Wildfire

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Jeff and his family lost their home last month in the L.A. wildfires. Since then, he's been hyperfocused on insurance claims, an epic to-do list, and finding a "temporary" place to live for the next several years. But Jeff hasn't experienced the emotional punch of the devastation yet. In fact… he just feels numb. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Laurel Braitman, author of What Looks Like Bravery: An Epic Journey Through Loss to Love. In a moving (and sometimes funny) conversation, Laurel tells Jeff how she's still processing what she lost in a 2017 wildfire, and they talk about the heartbreak, grief—and glimmers of hope—that follow the sudden loss of your family's home.

Artwork mentioned: It's Going Down Like a House on Fire by Nyx Coker.

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If you liked this episode check out: How To Survive a Disaster.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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Quick Fix | Challenge #1: Make Every Day Exciting

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 08:05:00 +0000

Can you actually make your life better? Every month How To! producer, Rosie Belson, will be putting some of our best advice to the test. This month: combating the mundane with novelty. The advice was from this 2021 episode: How To Fill an Empty Nest

Next month we'll be stress-testing sleeping tips from these How To! episodes:

How To Sleep

How To Sleep Like a Champ

How To Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship

How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier)

How To Beat the Dreaded Midday Slump

How To!'s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Set Limits With an Ex

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Guillermo and his ex-wife divorced nearly a decade ago. They share custody of their son which, Guillermo says, lets her continue meddling in his life. He recently started dating someone and it's getting serious, but he's worried that his ex is going to destroy his new relationship. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Bill Eddy, author and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. Bill explains how to set limits and impose consequences in truly difficult situations to preserve your peace of mind and foster happiness.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Save a Friend from a Bad Relationship

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Harness Your Citizen Superpowers

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Connie is feeling compelled to get involved in her local community, but she's never even attended a PTA meeting. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin enlists Eric Liu of Citizen University to explain how busy parents, introverts, and first-timers like Connie can test the waters of civic engagement in the Trump 2.0 era—without getting sucked under.

Eric is the author of You're More Powerful Than You Think: A Citizen's Guide to Making Change Happen.

If you liked this episode, check out our companion episode, How To Become an Expat, or this recent conversation: How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit.

For an upcoming episode, we want to hear from listeners affected by the disastrous wildfires in the Los Angeles area. If you're able to do so during this stressful time, tell us about the questions and challenges you're facing as you rebuild your home and your life. Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Switch Careers in Midlife

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Jan 2025 08:00:00 +0000

For three decades, Mike has worked in a field with an uncertain future: journalism. He loves the stability of his current job mentoring student reporters, but he can't stop thinking about starting a new career—in his 50s—in astrophysics, architecture, or law. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin enlists career coach and psychologist Dr. Dawn Graham to help Mike think through his midlife career crisis, especially his urge to go back to school.

Dawn's book is Switchers: How Smart Professionals Change Careers—and Seize Success.

If you liked this episode check out: Find a New Career Before It's Too Late and How To Advance Your Career By Quitting Your Job.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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Quick Fix: Moving to Portugal 101

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Jan 2025 08:05:00 +0000

In this exclusive Quick Fix bonus episode, learn more about what it takes to move to Portugal. In this extended conversation from our How To Become an Expat episode, Jen Barnett of Expatsi talks with Maureen and Jayna, a couple that's planning to move to the European nation later this year. They discuss the application process for becoming a resident, including the challenges of leasing an apartment, obtaining a bank account, scheduling a consulate appointment—and deciding where to live in a country with so much to offer.

Links Mentioned:

Mindful Migrant on TikTok

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 2 - Encore

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Today we're going to see if one American family can flip the usual, tortured and tedious script for arguing about politics and do something more interesting. Jenn and Todd Brandel sit down with their dad, Bruce, to see if they can come to a better understanding about what has shaped their different political views. Mónica Guzmán, senior fellow for public practice at Braver Angels and author of I Never Thought Of It That Way: How To Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times, is back to provide some insightful post-game analysis. In this second episode of our special two-part series, she breaks down what went well, what got a little messy, and what we can all apply to our own conversations with loved ones.

Listen to the first part of our series: "How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1"

If you liked this episode, you might also like: "How To Rescue Someone From a Conspiracy Theory."

Do you have a question without an answer? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1 - Encore

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Jenn and Todd Brandel have a close, loving relationship with their father, Bruce. But one thing makes their blood boil: his political chain emails. The messages are often forwarded commentary written in a provocative tone, and are an unwelcome reminder of just how far apart the family is politically. On this episode of How To!, we're joined by Mónica Guzmán, senior fellow for public practice at Braver Angels and author of I Never Thought Of It That Way: How To Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times. In the first of a special two-part episode on talking politics with our parents, Mónica teaches Jenn and Todd how to aim for understanding with their dad, not agreement. Next week, Jenn, Todd, and their dad Bruce will put these tips into practice—on mic—around the kitchen table, as Mónica provides post-game analysis. We'll dive into what worked, what got a little messy, and how to keep making progress.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Embrace Your Anti-Vax Family This Holiday Season" and "How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships."

Do you have a question without an answer? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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Quick Fix: Stuff We Loved in 2024

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 08:05:00 +0000

Amid the hectic lives they lead as writers, parents, caregivers, and swashbuckling co-hosts of America's foremost advice podcast, Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin somehow found time to read books and Substacks. (They even watched a movie or two.) In this year-end edition of Quick Fix, Carvell and Courtney offer up their favorite things of 2024—and reveal how they're thinking about 2025.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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Our Favorite Advice of 2024

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

How will you remember 2024? Here at How To! Headquarters, this will be the year when a bunch of very smart and insightful guests taught us how to flirt with confidence, be a mindful drinker, make bank at a yard sale, and cope with forever parenting. On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin break down their favorite advice of the year and share some heart-warming updates from listeners who joined us on the show.

Did we forget to mention your favorite advice of the year? Let us know with a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Exorcise Your Fitness Demons

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Sandy is a former college athlete who knows how to exercise—at least, she used to. These days, she's feeling lost without a coach, a workout plan, or much free time. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Danielle Friedman, author of Let's Get Physical and a contributor to the New York Times Well section. Danielle explains how to embrace movement that you love, make it fit into your life—and actually stick with it.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Start Strength Training and How To Stick to Your New Year's Resolutions.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Plan an Estate (Before It's Too Late)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

André has known for years that they have to execute the estate when their parents pass. They feel wholly unprepared for the task, especially since their parents are reluctant to share any important information. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on M.P. Dunleavey, journalist, author of the Squished Substack, and contributor to Next Avenue where she covers aging, caregiving, and money. M.P. walks André through the important paperwork that needs to be in place and gives them guidance for working with stubborn family members.

Additional resources:

M.P.'s follow-up story on Next Avenue

Area Agencies on Aging

Benefits check up

Estate planning checklist

Creating a financial roadmap

Easing family burdens

Writing a will

If you liked this episode check out: How To Care for an Aging Parent and How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Throw a Party They'll Remember (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

'Tis the season of gathering with friends and family. It's also a time where some of us yearn for a closer community, like this week's listener. Morgan is looking for a way to hang out with friends in a consistent, meaningful manner. On this episode of How To!, Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, explains how to transform a lackluster hang-out where people just sit around drinking beer into a party with a purpose where guests want to come back. She tells us how to create an event that meets a need with the right rules and the right guest list. She even has tips for sprucing up your next holiday party.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Cook One Perfect Meal.

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.

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Quick Fix: Finding the Perfect Mattress

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 08:05:00 +0000

It's time for another Quick Fix! In our latest monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members, Carvell Wallace talks with How To! producer Sara McCrea about shopping for one of life's most important and overwhelming purchases: a mattress. Should Sara shop online or spend some quality time at one of the many (many!) brick-and-mortar mattress stores in town? (And does a green-tea mattress contain caffeine?)

This episode was produced by Sara McRae. How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Face the Future (Gen Z Edition)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Ezra is adrift in his early 20s. He craves a life of meaning, community, and love. But he's struggling to find those things in a world that seems increasingly uncertain and discouraging for young people. On this existential episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Andrew McPeak, author, podcast host, and vice president of Growing Leaders. He tackles Ezra's big questions and explains how Gen Z (and everyone else) can make life more meaningful.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Man Up About Male Birth Control

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Contraception is a huge burden for women and people with uteruses to bear. What would it look like—on a personal, cultural, and medical level—if more men took on that responsibility? Today on How To!, a conversation about gender equity for reproductive care, from changes in sexual education to more accessible vasectomies to the development of new contraception methods. Carvell Wallace welcomes two guests: Dr. Sarah Miller, a board-certified family physician and family planning specialist at Northeast Vasectomy and Family Planning, where she provides many vasectomies. And: Dr. Brian Nguyen, associate professor of clinical obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Southern California, sub-investigator for a network of male-contraceptive clinical trials, and director of The EMERGE Lab.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy and How To Orgasm.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis.

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How To Lead Your Local Nonprofit

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Heather recently joined the board of her local library, a beloved institution from her childhood. While continuing to balance her day job, she is excited to be an active and engaged member of this community-led organization. But she's also grappling with time management and effective communication with her fellow board members. How can she express her ideas and opinions without overstepping boundaries? In this episode of How To!, host Courtney Martin welcomes nonprofit consultant Malini Sridharan who offers expert advice on navigating the challenges of community leadership and the intricacies of board dynamics.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Build Trust With Co-Workers

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Face Your Fear of Dying (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Katie is terrified of dying. As the youngest in a big family, she can't stop thinking about the fact that all her loved ones may die before she does. Katie is a comedy writer who knows how to get laughs, but her obsession with death is real, and getting in the way of living. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Rachel Menzies, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Sydney and author of Tales from the Valley of Death, to share what she's learned about death anxiety. Exposure therapy is often the most effective way to overcome your fears, but how do you expose yourself to death? Rachel has some unusual ideas for Katie—and all of us—to take control of these intrusive thoughts, starting with lying in a body bag. Focusing deliberately on death, Rachel says, can actually help us appreciate life.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Not Be Scared."

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How To Cope With Forever Parenting

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

As the parent of five kids, Sadie is no stranger to feeling overwhelmed. Most of her kids have left the nest, but one adult daughter has severe autism and can't live or work on her own. Facing the end of school-based support services, Sadie has to figure out what comes next for her daughter—and for herself. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Sarah Wayland, the founder of Guiding Exceptional Parents, to talk about parenting two autistic young adults and how to ask for help.

Links mentioned:

If you liked this episode check out: How To Hack Any Bureaucracy, How To Date With a Disability, or How To Fill an Empty Nest.

How To!'s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Be Less Judgy

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Erica judges other people by default. Whether they are acquaintances, co-workers, or new arrivals in a club, her first impression is often negative. "I would like to learn how to quash that part of myself," she says, because those judgments might be ruling out potential friendships. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Dr. Terri Apter, psychologist and author of Passing Judgment: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life. Terri explains that Erica's initial reactions are more useful than she thinks—and can help her better understand herself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Say What You're Thinking

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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Quick Fix: Pick the Perfect Plant

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Oct 2024 07:05:00 +0000

Quick Fix is How To!'s new monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members where we dive deeper into our latest episode. (Not a member? Here's how to join!) Today: Carvell Wallace continues his conversation with Growing Joy author and podcaster Maria Failla. They do a not-so-rapid-fire round of "plant superlatives" to help you select the plant that's right for you.

Take the plant personality quiz that Maria mentioned in the show.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Save the Planet, Starting With Your Yard and How To Restore Nature in the Heart of a City.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. This episode was produced by Sara McCrea and Rosemary Belson.

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How To Stop Killing Your Plants

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

At a new job, Jenna was put in charge of some beautiful plants that are imbued with deep significance to their co-workers. But despite Jenna's best efforts, the plants aren't doing so hot. Can the browning leaves, flopping stems, and dry soil be nursed back to health before it's too late? On this episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Maria Failla, host of the Growing Joy podcast and author of Growing Joy: The Plant Lover's Guide to Cultivating Happiness (and Plants). Maria addresses Jenna and other listeners' questions on the How To! hotline, breaking down plant care basics and offering up practical tips to make growing houseplants fun!

If you liked this episode check out: How To Save the Planet, Starting With Your Yard and How To Restore Nature in the Heart of a City.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. This episode was produced by Sara McCrea and Rosemary Belson.

Correction, Oct. 9, 2024: This episode originally called Duotone Audio Group a podcast studio. Duotone is a music and sound production company.

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How To Care for an Aging Parent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

The How To! hosts love helping listeners find the answers they need. But sometimes a host needs help, too. On this episode, Courtney Martin and her brother, Chris, open up about how their father's dementia has led them to upend their own lives in order to become his caregivers. To help Courtney and Chris talk through what comes next, Carvell Wallace welcomes Dr. Allison Applebaum, whose book Stand by Me chronicles her own caregiving journey and her work at Memorial Sloan Kettering's Caregivers Clinic.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Help a Loved One With Dementia and How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Grow Your Podcast

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ari always dreamed of starting his own podcast. When he started interviewing fellow academics for the Taylor Swift class he's teaching, Ari suddenly had the perfect opportunity to turn those conversations into something called ¿What Are Taylor Swift Studies Anyways? Now he just needs to find an audience. On this meta episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Lauren Passell, founder of Tink Media and author of Podcast the Newsletter. Lauren shares creative ways to find new listeners and connect with your audience; tips that apply to all kinds of passion projects.

Resources Mentioned:

If you liked this episode check out: How To Succeed at Social Media

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Rethink Screen Time

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ben has two sons in the fourth grade. Like a lot of kids, they love YouTube videos, gaming, movies, and other online entertainment. Before his sons begin using social media, Ben wants to ensure they develop a good relationship with tech—and he's ready to recruit other families at their school to agree upon some rules of engagement. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Richard Culatta, CEO of the International Society for Technology in Education and ASCD. He's also the author of Digital for Good: Raising Kids to Thrive in an Online World. He shares his refreshingly practical approach to tech, screen time, and social media.

Resources Mentioned:

Guide to create healthy conditions in schools

If you liked this episode check out: How To Face the A.I. Revolution and How To Help Teachers Thrive

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sara McCrae.

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Quick Fix: Building Trust in an Emergency

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 07:05:00 +0000

Quick Fix is How To!'s new monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members where we dive deeper into our latest episode. (Not a member? Here's how to join!) Today: Courtney Martin continues her conversation with journalist (and former How To! host) Amanda Ripley about her newly revised book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why. They discuss a key component to emergency response: trust. When disasters strike communities with low trust in government agencies and officials, it's up to leaders to respond in ways that build trust, as well as serve and protect. Amanda reveals how some officials got it right.

If you missed the main episode, listen here: How To Survive a Disaster

If you liked this episode check out: How To Stop a Fight Before It Starts, How To Keep Cool in a Crisis, and How To Cope With Climate Anxiety.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Survive a Disaster

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000

After a tree destroyed Tucker's roof during a tornado, he felt lucky to be alive—and underprepared for the next disaster his family might face. On this episode, Courtney Martin welcomes back author and former How To! host Amanda Ripley to discuss emergency preparedness and how regular citizens can react smarter during a devastating event. Amanda's newly updated book is The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why.

After listening to this conversation, seek out (and save) this information:

CERT Training
Your state's homeland security website
Your county's emergency management agency
Local emergency alerts

If you liked this episode check out: How To Keep Cool in a Crisis and How To Cope With Climate Anxiety. Also mentioned: How To Pick a College (and Actually Afford It) and How To Take a Gap Year

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Cook at Home Like Sohla El-Waylly

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000

With takeout prices on the rise, Josh wants to sharpen his home-cooking chops so he can whip up delicious dinners for himself and his wife. But this empty nester doesn't want to spend all day in the kitchen. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin consults award-winning chef, food writer, and New York Times Cooking pro Sohla El-Waylly for advice on meal prep, next-level seasoning, and preparing the best rice and beans. Sohla's new cookbook is Start Here: Instructions for Becoming a Better Cook.

If you liked this episode, check out How To 'Chaos Cook' With Samin Nosrat or How To Cook One Perfect Meal.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae. Production for this episode by Sara McCrea.

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How To Fall Out of Love (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Several months ago, Sarah told her best friend John she's in love with him—but he doesn't love her back. Now Sarah can't get John out of her head, especially because they still talk all the time. How can Sarah move on from John? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and the author of Anatomy of Love, to help Sarah train her heart—and her brain—to fall out of love. The first thing Sarah needs to do, Helen says, is cut off contact with John. Every time she sees him, it reactivates her brain circuitry for romantic love. And as beautiful as their friendship may be, it's holding Sarah back from finding her true love.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Propose (to a Man)."

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How To Be a Family (and Still Be You)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Kate's entire family loves to go on intense, day-long hikes. Kate does not. It's just one of many differences that makes her feel like a black sheep. But Kate desperately wants to be close to her family—without disregarding her own desires or compromising on parts of her life. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Lucy Blake, author of No Family Is Perfect: A Guide to Embracing the Messy Reality. Lucy helps Kate find her way to a family unity that works for everyone, while also learning to celebrate their differences.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Deal With a Difficult Parent

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Do Housework (and Not Hate It)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Cooper feels like they're constantly falling behind on their to-do list. Life is busy and household chores are the last thing they want to do. Cooper tracks everything in a detailed spreadsheet—but that spreadsheet isn't going to take care of the dirty dishes in the sink. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dale Aucoin of Clean & Queer, a professional organizing business based in New York City. Dale explains how to prioritize tasks, make chores easier, and find a routine that works for you.

Links Mentioned:

Clean & Queer

The Trans Guide

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Put a Toxic Job Behind You

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

When Elle started a new career as a therapist, she never imagined she would be the one in need of help. After just a few months, her position at a group practice became untenable amid a lack of support from colleagues. Now she's looking for a new job and wants to avoid a similar scenario. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Elle to leadership coach Rudhir Krishtel, who helps us rethink our relationships to co-workers—and work itself.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Be Funny (5th Anniversary Edition)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? In this special edition of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg joins Courtney and Carvell to mark five years of life-changing advice with a look back at our very first episode. It features a pastor from Oklahoma who wants to spice up his sermons. We introduce him to Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian who makes jokes about his clinical depression. They workshop the pastor's new joke about the New Testament, and Gary reveals "what might be the most important rule of being funny."

Charles Duhigg's favorite episode: How To Stop Being Anxious

Courtney Martin's favorite episode: How To Be Lonely

Carvell Wallace's favorite episode: How To Grieve an Estranged Parent

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Date With a Disability

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Todd is looking for love, but he's unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. With symptoms that are increasingly visible, Todd feels compelled to be upfront about his disability with potential dates—but he doesn't know when or how to discuss it. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp, authors of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down While Chronically Ill and Disabled. They give Todd guidance on having that talk, navigating ableism, and managing his own internal expectations.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Flirt With Confidence

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

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How To Be a Mindful Grandparent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Shirley Showalter and Marilyn McEntyre know that grandparenting is more than just cookies and Play-Doh. Don't get us wrong, those things are fun! But the art of contemporary grandparenting requires mindfulness, intentionality, and navigating boundaries. On today's episode, Courtney Martin talks with Marilyn and Shirley about their book, The Mindful Grandparent, and the wisdom they've gained as elders to 12 grandchildren.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Face Your Kid's Future

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Take a Sabbatical

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Trisha is craving a break from her job, but she doesn't want to drain her bank account. On today's episode, Courtney Martin connects Trisha to DJ DiDonna, founder of The Sabbatical Project, who's on a quest to make extended breaks accessible to all. DJ explains how to plan for a sabbatical that is both meaningful and manageable.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Hit "Reset" On Your Career.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrea.

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How To Survive a Shark Attack (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

David was in the ocean in Hawaii when the unthinkable happened—a shark attacked him and bit off his leg. "I don't think you're gonna make it," a medic told the 25-year-old on the helicopter ride to the hospital. But David did make it, and soon he learned that surviving the shark wasn't the hardest part—it was what came after. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, psychiatrist and author of The Body Keeps the Score, to help David understand and deal with the lasting psychological trauma of the attack. For anyone suffering from severe trauma, Bessel says, it's okay to grieve the person you were before. Accepting the loss of the "old you" will allow you to better embrace who you are now, both in your mind and body.

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How To Make Bank at a Yard Sale

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

How To!'s senior editor Joel Meyer recently experienced a yard sale fail and wants to know what went wrong. He spent hours planning and organizing the items on his lawn, but when it was all said and done he barely made enough to cover the cost of lunch. Enter this week's expert, Ava Seavey, a self-described master of garage-sale-ology and author of Ava's Guide to Garage Sale Gold. Seavey tells host Courtney Martin some hilarious stories and insider tips for how to cash in on all your old stuff.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk"

Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, Rosemary Belson, and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Start Strength Training

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Meg once was a terror in the world of roller derby. But these days, her sedentary lifestyle is making everyday physical activities a tad daunting. (We're looking at you, groceries that need to be carried up four flights of stairs!). She wants to start lifting weights, but she's unsure where to start—and whether she can avoid the bro-culture of many weight rooms. On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin brings in writer and powerlifter Mikala Jamison, who was in Meg's shoes not that long ago. She shares how she got started, why lifting is a lifelong journey, and what we can learn from the current zeitgeist for women's strength training.

Resources mentioned:

Mikala's Substack, Body Type

Book with simple lifting guide

Fitness trainer Meg Gallagher on Instagram

If you liked this episode check out: How To Be Free Of Body Shame or How To Stick to Your New Year's Resolutions

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Move Past Your Toxic Ex

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

After Lin met Dave, their lives quickly became entangled. Lin joined Dave's small business, made much-needed improvements, and charmed Dave's family. The two also began a romantic relationship that lasted years. When it fizzled, Lin continued working at the company—and eventually uncovered Dave's lies, deceit, and infidelity. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace welcomes Nina Renata Aron, author of Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls, to share her own experience exiting a toxic, codependent relationship and explain how she came to terms with it.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Forgive Someone Who Isn't Sorry

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Be Lonely

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Paula has a big family, lots of friends, and a girlfriend she adores. For most of her life, however, she has experienced an underlying and unshakeable sense of loneliness. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Kristen Radtke, the writer and illustrator behind Seek You: A Journey Through American Loneliness, to talk with Paula about an emotion that's hard to talk about—and even harder to confront.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Find Your People and How To Survive a Silent Retreat.

How To! is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. Derek John is our executive producer.

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How To Take a Gap Year

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Leo is a high-achieving high school senior on the cusp of graduation. Growing up in a rigorous school environment he faced endless pressure to follow the expected track of attending an elite university and eventually securing a good job. Yet, Leo feels slightly unfulfilled and is curious what an alternative path might look like. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace is joined by Abby Falik, founder of the The Flight School, and organization dedicate to helping students and parents rethink and reshape their education. Abby shares her insights and experience guiding students through gap years so they find their own way.

If you liked this episode check out: "How To Parent Less"

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Confront a Vindictive Neighbor with Tig Notaro (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Do you have a problem that could use some humorous advice? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Talk to Strangers."

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How To Handle Feedback at Work

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Leigh is a stellar employee by all accounts. She deeply cares about the company's mission. She gets along with her coworkers. She delivers great work. So why does every critique cut deep and leave her questioning her worth? On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin consults the columnist Alison Green, who answers tricky workplace questions at the advice site, Ask a Manager. Alison helps Leigh figure out what to do with criticism, forge better relationships with higher-ups, and even give better feedback.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Imposter Syndrome Your Superpower and How To Build Trust With Co-Workers

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Flirt With Confidence

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

When Allen's gym crush asked him—point blank—if he liked someone, he panicked. Should he tell her? What should he do if she wasn't actually flirting with him? On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin finds out what happened and brings in Jeff Guenther, therapist and author of the new book Big Dating Energy. (You might know him as TherapyJeff from TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube.) Jeff gives Allen the tools to flirt more authentically, stick to his non-negotiables, and lean into his self-confidence.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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Carvell Wallace on Another Word for Love

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

On this episode of How To!: co-hosts Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace sit down to talk about his new memoir, Another Word for Love. In the book, Carvell's examination of his own journey becomes a reflection on how so many of us spend our lives trying to become whole again. He and Courtney discuss his approach to writing and interviewing, what it means to be seen as good (versus actually being good), and why it's often so hard to forgive yourself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Find Genuine Happiness

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Find Your People After a Mental Health Diagnosis

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

A few years ago, Leah was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Her condition has posed many serious challenges, including how to start and maintain friendships. She wants to build a rich social life, but her symptoms—and the stigmas surrounding mental health—often get in the way. When Leah does meet a new person, she struggles with how (and when) to talk about her diagnosis and feels intense pressure to be "the perfect friend." On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on psychotherapist Dr. Aleksandra Rayska for a frank conversation about managing expectations, celebrating new achievements, and just going easy on yourself.

If you liked this episode check out: How to Navigate Adult Autism.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To 'Do the Work' of Racial Justice

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

"Doing the work" is a phrase often heard when talking about racial justice. We heard it a lot after the death of George Floyd in 2020. And we need to continue talking about it—but there's an important aspect of "the work" that's been missing. On this episode of How To!: Courtney Martin brings in Garrett Bucks, author of The Right Kind of White and founder of The Barnraisers Project, to help Elizabeth Doerr talk to fellow white parents about the implications of opting out of their kids' public school.

If you liked this episode check out: "How To Fight Racism in Your Town"

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How To Bring a Big Idea to Life

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Mia is a professional violinist. She's played in symphonies. She's played in improv groups. She's played as a form of personal exploration. But now she's taking on a big, conceptual project that may have nothing to do with music. Instead, she wants to create a piece rooted in connection. The only problem? She doesn't know what she wants to create. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings in storyteller extraordinaire Michaela Leslie-Rule. Michaela talks Mia through the process of bringing a potentially overwhelming idea to life. Check out Michaela's work with Spiritual Technologies Project, the group we mention in the episode.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Put Your Town on the Map or How To Be an Artist and Not Starve.

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How To Crack Up Your Coworkers (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Last week we learned about using the four different styles of humor to your advantage, and who makes a good target for a joke. But what if you read the room wrong and absolutely bomb? On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, we resume our conversation with Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, the most hilarious hedge fund guy we've ever met. They swap stories about office jokes that fell flat, how to navigate a suddenly tense situation and what to do if your humor accidentally offends someone (especially your boss).

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Be Funny" with comedian Gary Gulman.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer's website.

Do you have a joke that killed at the office, or totally bombed? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001.

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How To Make Humor Your Superpower (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Did you know that we, as a society, have fallen off a comedy cliff? No joke. Studies have shown that we largely stop laughing when we enter our mid-twenties, which is a shame because delighting in humor has a ton of health benefits. Plus, being perceived as funny can actually make people think you're more intelligent, more competent, and even better looking! So on this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we bring on Naomi Bagdonas, co-author of Humor, Seriously!, and Michael Terry, an amateur comedian who is working in the funniest of places: high finance. Combined, they have decades of experience harnessing the power humor and applying it to the workplace.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor" with Tig Notaro.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer's website.

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How To Help a Loved One With Dementia

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Forgetfulness. Repetitiveness. Confusion. Dementia is a long, painful road for both the person living with it, caregivers, and their additional loved ones. Mara's mom just received her diagnosis and Mara is wondering what is next for their family. She turned to our host Courtney Martin for guidance—since Courtney is going through the same thing with her father.

On this episode of How To!: Courtney and Mara are joined by Tami Anastasia, author of Essential Strategies for the Dementia Caregiver. As a dementia consultant, Tami helps families support each other and find the beautiful moments in this painful journey.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson.

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How To Say What You're Thinking

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Shannon is set to become an ordained minister—but she has always struggled with public speaking. Here's the thing: She's fine in front of large gatherings. In smaller gatherings, however, she mentally "freezes up" and rambles until she regains her train of thought. As Shannon prepares to start interacting with a congregation, Courtney Martin sits her down with former How To! host Charles Duhigg, author of Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. Charles gives Shannon the tools to understand others and be understood herself.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Speak Up So Others Listen

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Rethink Retirement

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Mar 2024 08:00:00 +0000

When Patti retired a few months ago, everyone told her she would love the freedom and flexibility that came with leaving the workforce. Not so. The transition has left Patti grieving the loss of her routine and sense of purpose—and she's wondering how to find fulfillment in life's (gulp!) third act. On today's episode, Courtney Martin welcomes Brad Stulberg, author of Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing—Including You. Brad helps Patti rethink this massive transformation and emerge from it stronger.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Start Over at 60.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Let Go of a Friendship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Our series about friendship ends with a look at, well, how friendships end.

Alice and Grace connected when their kids started dating. They became fast friends whose family lives were intertwined—in a good way. They even joked that they might end up raising grandchildren together. When the kids broke up, Alice and Grace broke apart, too. Now, Alice is wondering whether she should fight for her cherished relationship or just move on. On today's episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Carissa Potter, an author and artist who founded People I've Loved and hosts the podcast Bad at Keeping Secrets.

Miss last week's episode? Learn how to evolve your friendships. If you're enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Evolve a Friendship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

In part two of our series on friendship, we're looking at how to revitalize a relationship that began in a previous phase of life.

Michelle and Blair became fast friends in grad school. That bond survived graduation, marriages, and even a cross-country move. They now live just a short drive from one another—but things have never felt so distant. Michelle wants to know how to evolve their friendship to be more compatible with the present day. On today's episode, Courtney Martin brings on Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Rhaina will help Michelle—and all of us—prepare for a daunting conversation.

Miss last week's episode? Learn how to expand your horizons with new, cross-generational friendships. If you're enjoying this series, check out our other friendship episodes:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Find Friends in Unexpected Places

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Love typically reigns in February. But, here at How To!, we are giving friendship its due. For the next three episodes, we're going to teach you how to find friends in surprising places, how to grow and change in your friendship during life transitions, and even how to recover from a friendship breakup.

So today we're starting with a potential cure for our epidemic of loneliness: intergenerational friendships. Emily is in her early 20s and has been rethinking who she considers to be potential friends. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Marci Alboher, a friend and VP at CoGenerate, an organization that brings generations together. She's got some amazing tips for finding connections across ages.

Make sure to tune in next week to learn how to evolve your friendship. In the meantime, check out:

How To Find Your People

How To Make Friends as an Adult

How To Make Friends… Like a Man

How To Talk to Strangers

How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Be a Mindful Drinker

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Dry January has come and gone, but the conversation about alcohol—and rethinking our relationship with it—is still very much with us. This week's listener, Natalie, wants to move past the abundance vs. abstinence debate and talk about a third option: thoughtful moderation. In this episode, Courtney Martin brings on journalist Rosamund Dean, author of Mindful Drinking: How Cutting Down Can Change Your Life and Well, Well, Well, a Substack about living better, for longer. She shares how she found moderation through mindfulness—and how you can too.

If you or someone you know is struggling with excessive drinking, consider contacting SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP. You can also find a local Alcoholics Anonymous meeting by visiting aa.org.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stick to Your New Year's Resolutions

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How To Plan Your Next Adventure

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Sat, 3 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Travel can be thrilling, relaxing, even life-changing. But planning for your big trip? Not so much. There are so many unknowns: Where to go? When is the best time? How much do you want to spend? In this special episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Brady Binstadt, owner and CEO of the adventure travel company Geographic Expeditions. Brady explains how to pick the right destination, when to splurge, and how to make sure everyone will have an amazing time.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Live Anywhere in the World

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How To Be Free Of Body Shame

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

We're constantly getting bombarded with messages about our bodies: They're too big. They're too small. They're not muscular enough, not curvy enough, and so on and so on. Rebecca has lived in a bigger body all her life and she wants the messaging to stop. She's done all the things—followed plus-size influencers, deemphasized weight from her health goals, tried to rewire how she thinks about weight. But it's just not working. In this episode, Carvell Wallace brings in Ronald Young Jr., host of Weight For It. Ronald challenges the notion that we need to love our bodies and helps Rebecca navigate away from stigmatized "fixes" and toward a place of acceptance.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Eat Whatever You Want and How To Love Your Face.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson. Special thanks to Kevin Bendis.

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How To Stop Snoring and Breathe Easier (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Andrew snores so badly that his cats won't sleep in the same room as him. He's desperate to sleep better at night, and breathe more easily during the day. On this episode of How To!, we bring on James Nestor, author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, to share the history of why we breathe the way we do. Turns out being a "mouth-breather" is more than just an insult, it's harmful to our health. James gives Andrew some nasal breathing exercises to improve his snoring, anxiety, and overall wellness.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Sleep."

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.

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How To Make Small Talk Feel Big

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Small talk has a bad reputation. It's boring, shallow, and awkward. Who really wants to talk about the weather, again? But, when done right, it can be a cornerstone of connection. In this episode, Carvell Wallace is joined by Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. Susan is going to help our listener, Bee, navigate the uncomfortable small talk that she endures everyday at school pickup. Along the way, we'll learn what questions to have in our back pocket, how to turn small talk into big talk, and even how to extract ourselves from conversations that are going on too long.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Talk to Strangers and How To Make Humor Your Superpower

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson.

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How To Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Sometimes reading our news feeds can feel like getting hit by a semi-truck of devastating information, without really knowing how to respond. We can't always tune the world out, which means we need to figure out how to be an empathetic person within the chaos. In this episode, Courtney Martin is joined by public theologian and best-selling author, Nadia Bolz-Weber, as well as artist and activist, Jen Bloomer. Together they explore what it means to actually respond to tragedy and injustice.

LINKS:

Jen Bloomer's artwork

Valerie Kaur's book See No Strangers

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Have a Healthier News Diet: Part 1 and Part 2.

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How To Age Like an Elite Athlete

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

When he's not working on How To! or coaching his daughter's basketball team, our producer Derek John loves to play in pickup games with friends. But a serious on-court injury has kept him on the sidelines for months. Now, as he prepares to return to the sport he loves, Derek is seeking tips on how to prolong his playing days while avoiding another injury. In this episode, author Jeff Bercovici joins Carvell Wallace and Derek to share insights from his book, Play On: The New Science of Elite Performance at Any Age.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Trick Your Brain Into Running Longer.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer and our producer is Rosemary Belson. This episode was produced by Kevin Bendis.

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How To Cook One Perfect Meal (Rerun)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Jonny is a 26 year-old bachelor whose cooking often leads to heartache (and for one ex-girlfriend, a stomach ache). Jonny admits he's a klutz in the kitchen, so we hooked him up with Sam Sifton, cookbook raconteur and head of the New York Times's Cooking section. In this episode of How To! we see if we can teach our love-lorn Millennial to cook one perfect meal. Is romantic bliss just a well-browned chicken thigh away? (Recipe included!)

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Our Favorite Advice of 2023

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we learned to love our faces, started reading again, aced an interview, dealt with difficult parents, said goodbye to our pets, cooked chaotically, moved to a new country, navigated adult autism, and breathed like Navy SEALs. On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin are joined by former host Amanda Ripley. They break down their favorite advice of the year and share some surprising updates from folks who were on the show.

Did we forget to mention your favorite advice of the year? Let us know with a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Transition From Soldier to Civilian

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Dan enlisted in the Army in 2003 during the early phase of the U.S. wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. He just retired after 20 years of service—and is adjusting to myriad challenges of civilian life while also managing PTSD, ADHD and new sobriety. On this episode of How To!, Bob Beard of Arizona State University's Center for Science and the Imagination joins us to talk about a new program that's helping veterans like Dan plan for the distant future using science fiction, conceptual art, and strategies employed by Fortune 500 companies.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Breathe Like a Navy SEAL.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Carve Out Creative Time

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Allison is on the hunt for her next hobby. One that's satisfying. One that she can stick with. One that will fit into her family's very busy schedule. Except…maybe she's thinking about that last part all wrong. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space. Eve argues that drawing—and defending—boundaries for individual, creative pursuits is necessary for living a fulfilled life. She'll share how to balance domestic labor in order to carve out creative space and pick something that makes your soul sing.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stop "Having It All" (Before You End Up With Nothing)

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis.

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How To Grieve an Estranged Parent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

A parent's main job is to protect. But what happens when your parent doesn't protect you? What happens when they not only let bad things happen to you, but they doubt and dismiss you when you ask them for help? Our listener, Haylie, decided to go no-contact with her father after multiple attempts to reconcile their relationship. Now she wants to know how to grieve the death of the relationship. On this episode of How To!, Patrick Teahan, licensed clinical social worker and childhood trauma therapist, joins us to explain why cutting off a parent is so difficult, why we grieve these relationships, and how to start healing.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away from an Impossible Parent

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler.

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How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

On a recent phone call Shannon's mom didn't mince words: The only way she'd vote for Joe Biden is if Jesus himself comes down and tells her to. Growing up in a conservative household, Shannon understands her parents' support for Trump. But she no longer sees eye-to-eye with them and every time they talk about politics it turns into a fight. The result is a complete fraying of their relationship. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Bill Doherty, professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota, and co-founder of the non-profit Braver Angels, to help Shannon and her parents navigate this heated election season. The most important thing to remember, Bill says, is that you can't change your parents' minds. But you can still save your relationship by recognizing shared values and treating each other as people, not political opponents.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get a Stubborn Parent to Listen."

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How To Get Through Menopause

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Hot flashes, fatigue, and vaginal dryness were some of Katie's first clues that her body was changing. Half the population will experience menopause, yet misinformation still abounds—with doctors ill-prepared to talk to patients about this major life transition. On this episode of How To!, journalist Susan Dominus joins us to share the knowledge she gained from working on her viral magazine piece, "Women Have Been Misled About Menopause." She explains why women's pain has been ignored for so long, where to look for information, and how to connect with others during this confusing phase of life.

Resources mentioned:

"If Men Could Menstruate" by Gloria Steinem

What Fresh Hell Is This?: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You by Heather Corinna

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jen Gunter

Hot Flash Sonnets by Moira Egan

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Midi

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How To Build a Marriage That Lasts

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

To celebrate their third wedding anniversary, Anjali and Rahul are each selecting a surprise activity to do together. This happy couple loves spontaneity, so they're concerned about someday growing bored in their relationship. They're also feeling pressure to mark the traditional milestones of marriage, including having kids. On this episode of How To!, authors Caryl and Jay Casbon join us to share the wisdom they gained from interviewing other married couples for their book Side by Side. The Casbons draw upon their own 22-year marriage to urge Anjali and Rahul to face conflict with openness and focus on individual "inner work"—in order to grow together.

Learn more about Caryl and Jay Casbon here. If you liked this episode, check out an episode that Anjali loved: How To Decide Whether to Have a Baby with Wild author Cheryl Strayed.

How To's executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Jabari Butler.

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How To Hit "Reset" on Your Career

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Our listener Abdullah has reached a plateau. A mid-career manager at a large electronics engineering corporation, he feels intellectually unstimulated. Even though Abdullah has a stable job with seniority, he dreams of going back to school and pursuing his true passion: economics. But with a family to support, should Abdullah make a risky leap? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace is joined by Freakonomics co-author and University of Chicago economist Steven Levitt. Well-known for out-of-the-box thinking, Levitt shares surprising tips (including a simple coin flip strategy) that can help anyone on the edge of a huge decision.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Know When to Quit Your Job

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How To Let Go of Kid Clutter

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There's no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode of How To!, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin bring in Nonnahs Driskill, professional organizer and founder of Get Organized Already. She has lots of insight into why we value certain items, what it means to have an organizing mindset, and how to archive your child's life in a way that works for you.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Be a Lazy Genius and How To Style Your Home Like a Pro.

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How To Build Trust With Co-Workers

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

The beginning of the school year is a gauntlet for Andrea, who coaches teachers for a living. She needs to get to know the 52 educators she'll work with in the coming months. All of them are new faces to her. Which means she's starting from scratch. Time is tight, so Andrea is wondering how to make every interaction count. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin brings in Marlon Styles, who has been in Andrea's shoes. As an educator and motivational speaker, Marlon is a pro at making connections. His wisdom will resonate with anyone who is looking to build trust, work together on goals, and connect in a more meaningful way with your colleagues.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Help Teachers Thrive.

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How To Find Love Where You Least Expect It

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Camila is torn. She wants a partner. Someone who is ambitious. Someone who is financially secure. Someone who checks in with her at the end of the day. But most of her dates have turned out to be duds and she's starting to think she'll never find real romance. Should she keep searching for 'the one,' or should she focus on being happy on her own? On this episode of How To!, new co-host Courtney Martin brings in Samhita Mukhopadhyay to guide Camila. Samhita is an author and feminist. She was the executive editor of Teen Vogue and her first book was about dating. She has a ton of smart advice for understanding the narratives we have around dating, expanding where we find love, and ultimately healing our hearts.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date

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How To Get Out of Debt Faster Than You Think (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Irina and her husband are more than $100,000 in debt. They're working to pay it off, but between monthly credit card bills, student loan payments, 401k contributions and spending on their new baby, their money is spread too thin. In this episode of How To!, Charles Duhigg bring on Rachel Cruze, a personal finance expert and author of Know Yourself, Know Your Money, to help Irina create a budget that she can actually follow. It will seem hard at first, Rachel says, but if you cut up your credit cards and pause your retirement investments, you can get out of debt much sooner.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get That Promotion You Deserve."

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How To Say Goodbye to Your Pet

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Like many pet parents, Zak Rosen and his wife lived for years in a state of denial about their beloved dog, Rumi. Then they learned that Rottweilers only tend to live about eight to 12 years, and there was no denying it: Rumi is already in her twilight years. In the not-so-distant future, they'll have to make some truly tough decisions.

On this episode of How To!, Zak seeks out advice about end-of-life pet care from Dr. Ellen LaFramboise, owner of Crossroads Veterinary Hospice, and fellow pet parent Gabby Santos, who shares how she prepared for the death of her 18-year-old miniature pinscher, Bob'i. Their conversation might change the way you think about your furry pal's final days (and maybe even your own).

Zak Rosen is the host and creator of The Best Advice Show, and co-host of Slate's parenting podcast Mom and Dad Are Fighting.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get Your Dog To Stop Barking (Without Barking Back)."

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How To Follow Your Small Business Dream

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Sarah is a part-time pet groomer who dreams of opening up her own business. Having worked long hours for low wages, she can't help thinking that she could earn more money and control her schedule if she starts her own pet salon. The only problem? Sarah has no idea where to start. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in Mae Chan to guide Sarah. Mae is a business alignment coach who helps entrepreneurs figure out their dreams and scale their businesses. Her questions for Sarah will help anyone considering a leap into self-employment think more about what they really want—and how to achieve it with minimal risk.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Advance Your Career By Quitting Your Job

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How To Learn Any Language Fast

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Niky just isn't jibing with Spanish. She's tried courses, podcasts, apps, and even private tutors in order to make a connection with Spanish speakers around Toronto, at her job, and while traveling. But years into her language-learning journey, she's not even close to being fluent. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Niky to Luca Lampariello. A speaker of 14 languages, Luca is a teacher and the founder of the Smart Language Learning Academy. He offers up tons of insight into why we learn the way we do, making what we learn actually stick, and how to have fun along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Remember Everything

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How To Find Your People

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Sep 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Katie was ready to graduate from college when the pandemic interrupted everything. Unceremoniously cut-off from her group of friends, she's now in a new chapter of her life but struggling more than ever to find her people. Katie's friendships at work feel surface-level and she's anxious about opening up too much for fear of rejection. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings in friendship coach Danielle Bayard Jackson. Don't worry about finding your next BFF, Jackson says. Instead if we focus on making deeper, more lasting human connections with those around us, genuine friendships will naturally occur.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Make Friends as an Adult

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How To Navigate Adult Autism

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

It's a family joke that Dave and his 13 year-old son are the same person. So when his son found out he is autistic, Dave realized that he, too, is on the autism spectrum. The label is a comfort—a reassurance that his personality "quirks" have an explanation. But, at the same time, it's led to all of these questions like should he tell people? What does this change, if anything? And how does he learn to navigate a neurotypical world? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in journalist and podcast host, Lauren Ober. Lauren documented her own autism journey on The Loudest Girl In the World. She has lots of advice for living life as a newly diagnosed neurodivergent person.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Love Your Face

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How To Fill an Empty Nest (Encore)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Susan never really got over saying goodbye to her eldest daughter, who left for college four years ago. She knew it would be sad, but she didn't expect to be nauseous. Now her youngest is applying to college, and she's already dreading drop-off next fall which makes her feel like a "pathetic loser." What can Susan do to prep herself for more heartbreak and a completely empty nest? On this episode of How To!, Amanda Ripley brings on Kelly Corrigan, best-selling author and host of the podcast Kelly Corrigan Wonders. She recently dropped her youngest daughter off at college, which she wrote about in an essay for the New York Times called "How to Let Go of Your Irreplaceable, Unstoppable Daughter." She shares some hard-earned wisdom about how to handle major life transitions with grace.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get Your Kid to Finally Grow Up"

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How To Live Anywhere in the World

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Have you ever wanted to move to a new country? Picking up and starting over internationally can be rewarding, but also nerve-wracking. Our listener Sara has lived overseas for more than a decade, but she recently moved to Switzerland and is struggling to fit in. On this episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Dr. Nassim Assefi who, amongst all of her interesting professional accomplishments, is a self-identified "global nomad." She's lived in over 10 countries and draws on her extensive personal experience to help Sara—and anyone thinking about moving abroad—make a smooth transition.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Uproot Your Life

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How To Cope With Climate Anxiety

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

As the massive Caldor fire blazed towards South Lake Tahoe in 2021, Joyce knew she had to get out. "The sky was red. It was like hell on earth," she remembers. Her family got to safety and her house was miraculously spared. But, even now, it can be jarring to remember the fire. Climate-related extreme weather events are on the rise and another disaster is seemingly right around the corner. Especially with freakish flash floods, a scorching heatwave and wildfire smoke blanketing much of the country. On this episode of How To!, guest-host Cheyna Roth brings on Dr. Britt Wray, author of Generation Dread: Finding Purpose In an Age of Climate Crisis. Dr. Wray explains why we need to treat climate anxiety differently and how we can create resilience both internally and within our communities as we face climate change, together.

Resources Mentioned:

Climate Psychology Alliance

Climate Psychiatry Alliance

Good Grief Network

Climate Awakening

Gen Dread Substack

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Save the Planet (And Still Use a Plastic Straw)

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How To Show Up For a Friend With Cancer

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

When Gwendolyn found out her friend was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she wanted to help. She just didn't know how. Her friend lives hundreds of miles away. How can she help in a way that's more meaningful than sending a meal and a few encouraging texts? On this episode of How To!, guest-host Courtney Martin brings on Mia Birdsong, author of the book How We Show Up. Mia went through her own cancer journey and figured out structures of support that not only helped her but made supporting easier for her friends.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Solve Your Own Medical Mystery

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How To Deal With a Difficult Parent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Every year J. and her parents fly thousands of miles, meeting in the middle for their family vacation. A vacation that often leads to shouting and tears. J. and her father have a rocky relationship. Little disagreements often lead to her dad yelling and dredging up the past. It would be easy, in theory, to cut off the relationship before it got even more toxic. But J. wants to make it work. The question is, how? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Nibarna Kannathasan, a psychotherapist who has helped people navigate tricky intergenerational conflict, especially when factoring migration and differing cultural expectations. She helps J. parse what she really wants from her father and figure out a way to start down that road while protecting herself along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent.

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How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Caregivers provide an estimated 600 billion dollars in free labor each year, according to the AARP. This week's listener, Dani is one such caregiver. She and her partner found themselves navigating the confusing world of Medicare and Medicaid, estate planning, powers of attorney, etc. All in the hope of helping their loved ones stay healthy and comfortable until they need an end-of-life plan. This experience has her worried—who is going to look after her when the time comes? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Amy Goyer, AARP's family and caregiving expert and has quite a bit of personal experience. She cuts through the confusion on how to caregive, how to care for caregivers, and how to prepare to be cared for yourself. Because we're all going to need it, sooner or later.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight With Your Parents, which is about parenting your parents.

Resources mentioned:

Caregiving Guides

Livable Communities

Local Resource Connections

National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys

Five Wishes Document

Aging Life Care Association

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How To Hack Any Bureaucracy

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

When Gwen applied for unemployment during the early days of the pandemic, she never thought she'd still be waiting for her benefits years later. Despite hours on the phone, countless emails and even a court appearance, Gwen is haunted by her inability to get the money she was approved for. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Marina Nitze, author of Hack Your Bureaucracy. Not only does Marina help Gwen find shortcuts in her state's unemployment system, but she has useful advice for untangling any bureaucratic nightmare.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight Outrageous Medical Bills.

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How To Stop Finding Your Self-worth Through Your Job (w/ Gloria Chan Packer)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

On this bonus episode from our friends at the How To Be A Better Human podcast: For some of us it's easy to lose ourselves in our work. But a lack of boundaries between your personal and work life is something mental wellness educator Gloria Chan Packer would warn you twice about. Gloria speaks about the perils of gaining your sense of self-worth from your job, discusses her experience with burnout and stress and shares empowering insights on how to shift our perspectives to create – and maintain – a healthy distance. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

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How To Find Genuine Happiness

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

The last few years have been overwhelming for Tracy. Her career was demanding and she experienced multiple deaths in her family. Recently, she changed jobs and is in a better place with her mental health, but something is still missing from her life. She's just not sure what. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings on Samantha Clarke, happiness consultant, speaker, and author of Love it Or Leave It: How To Be Happy At Work. Samantha will help Tracy (and all of us) design a plan to find fulfillment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Style Your Home Like a Pro."

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How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Most people have something they're holding on to. For Lesley and Alex, that's some old baseball and basketball cards that are collecting dust in their attic. For Kathy, that's a house full of antiques. They've all been wanting to pare it down. But the big question is: how much is it worth? On this episode of How To! co-host Carvell Wallace is joined by Leila Dunbar, a veteran appraiser and frequent expert on Antiques Roadshow. Leila knows the stories and the value behind all kinds of collectibles and memorabilia. She'll break down why we hold on to certain items and let go of others…and how to make money along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Put Your Town on the Map."

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How To Quit Your Calling

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Amy and Sarah are high school English teachers who both want to quit the classroom, but for very different reasons. Amy has over 200 students, and tensions between teachers and parents are on the rise so she's "beyond burned out." Whereas Sarah has been teaching for over a decade and is itching for a change. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley is joined by Daphne Gomez, a former teacher who's now CEO of Teacher Career Coach. (She also hosts the Teacher Career Coach podcast.) Daphne has some wonderful advice for Sarah and Amy—and anyone else who has no choice but to leave a job they once loved.

If you liked this episode, check out Part 1: "How To Help Teachers Thrive."

More career change episodes:

How To Bounce Back From a Layoff

How To Know When to Quit Your Job

How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

How To Bounce Back From Burnout

How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job

How To Find a New Career Before It's Too Late

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How To Help Teachers Thrive

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Today there are about four million teachers in America, and nearly a third of them are thinking about leaving their jobs. It has become harder to be a teacher in the U.S. due to a lack of resources, political meddling, and teacher shortages, to name a few reasons. On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley talks with two teachers, Sarah and Amy, and Daphne Gomez, a former teacher and now the founder and CEO of Teacher Career Coach. They discuss challenges in and out of the classroom as well as changes that would actually support teachers.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Succeed When Everyone's Mad at You"

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How To Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Sleep is objectively worse when splitting a bed. Yet that's the default for most couples. But that doesn't mean sharing the covers is easy. Especially when one person is having trouble falling or staying asleep. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Carvell Wallace continues the conversation with Dr. Wendy Troxel, author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. Dr. Troxel explains how couples can experiment with sleeping arrangements in a way that makes everyone feel safe, and why sleeping apart might be the key to saving your relationship.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier)."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Sleep Like a Champ

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Vanessa isn't a night owl. Yet, often, you can find her lying awake desperately trying to turn off her brain. When her partner stays over she often resorts to the couch just to get some rest. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Dr. Wendy Troxel. She is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in sleep medicine and the author of the book, Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. On part one of a two part series—Dr. Troxel explains how insomnia disrupts sleep, how to avoid it, and why a good night's rest starts with your environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Beat the Dreaded Midday Slump."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Deliver Bad News Better

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

'I've got bad news' is a sentence no one wants to hear. But at some point, all of us will either have to deliver bad news or will be on the receiving end. So what can make these gut-wrenching conversations go less horribly? On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Dr. Robert Arnold, co-founder of Vital Talk, and Maura, a social worker at a level one trauma center to talk about how to better communicate serious news. Because just about all of us can get a lot better at it — once we learn how.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Solve Your Own Medical Mystery."

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Dear Prudie: My Husband Wants Our 9-Year-Old Son to Play Tackle Football. Help!

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's Dear Prudence podcast—Bomani Jones (host of HBO's Game Theory With Bomani Jones and The Right Time With Bomani Jones) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer questions from letter writers about workplace socializing, friends who are no longer likable people, and youth football.

Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.

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How To Raise Kids in a Nation Full of Guns

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Guns are now the leading cause of death for children in America. Each tragedy can be visceral, whether it's in your community or across the country. And it's especially heartbreaking when your kid voices that fear directly, as our listener Allison recently experienced. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Melinda Wenner Moyer. Melinda is an author and science journalist with years covering gun violence and parenting issues. She's also the author of the substack, Is My Kid the Asshole? where she shares science-based approaches to lower the possibility of gun violence, help kids feel safe, and, ultimately, change the environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "My Kid's Anxiety Is Giving ME Anxiety! How Do I Fix This?"

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How To Face the A.I. Revolution

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

If you haven't heard of ChatGPT, chances are you will soon. Maybe you've tried casually playing with the artificial intelligent chatbot. Maybe you've tried avoiding it. Or maybe ChatGPT is the new host of this podcast and you haven't realized it yet. Either way, we're on the precipice of a new, powerful technology. On this episode of How To!, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Amanda Ripley join forces to talk through all things artificial intelligence. They bring on Kevin Roose, tech columnist for the New York Times and co-host of the Times' podcast, Hard Fork. He will explain how A.I. chatbots work, how to use them for good, how they may be used for, well, not so good, and what you should do if it starts hitting on you.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game."

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How To Start Reading Books Again

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Kate stopped reading in 2016. Since then, she's tried to find her way back to it but something's not clicking, and it's left a book-shaped hole in her heart. Reading used to be something she really enjoyed, took pride in, and loved connecting with people over. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Maryanne Wolf, director of UCLA's Center For Dyslexia, Diverse Learners, and Social Justice and author of the book, Reader, Come Home. Maryanne explains the science behind the reading brain as well as how to deeply engage with books and make reading a habit again.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Put Down Your Phone"

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How To Breathe Like a Navy SEAL

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

John has spent years training to become a Pararescueman, a member of Air Force Special Warfare tasked with recovering downed military personnel around the globe. He has pushed himself past countless obstacles and trials, except one — holding his breath in the pool. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace is joined by free diving expert and founder of the Performance Free Dive Academy Kirk Krack. Kirk has spent decades mastering the art of lowering his heart rate and increasing his capacity to hold his breath. He has advised everyone from Navy SEALs to the cast members of Avatar 2: The Way of Water. He even helped Sigourney Weaver go without a gulp of air for over 6 minutes! Kirk gives John tips for extending his breathholds under water and explains why all of us should be more conscious of how we breathe.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Withstand Pain"

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How To Succeed at Social Media

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Emily is a successful career and executive coach in Ohio, who has done well finding clients through word-of-mouth. But in order to expand her business she knows she has to up her online marketing game. The only catch? She is terrified of social media. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Suzy Wagner, president of Brand & Buzz. Suzy has some surprising advice for creating a social media strategy that cuts through the noise while being realistic and authentic to yourself.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game."

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How To Bounce Back From a Layoff

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Mar 2023 07:00:00 +0000

On a recent workday, Pauline woke up and logged into her computer from home … only to find an email saying she was being laid off — effective immediately. She and her entire team, many of them working remotely, instantly lost access to all of their company accounts. Pauline was shell-shocked, hurt, and wondering what to do next. In the wake of massive tech layoffs, it's a story that's now all-too familiar. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings in Susan Peppercorn, a career coach who writes for the Harvard Business Review and is the author of Ditch Your Inner Critic At Work. She has some tried-and-true tactical tips for making the most of a sudden job loss.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job."

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The Upside of Stress: A Slight Change of Plans with Dr. Maya Shankar

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Mar 2023 07:00:00 +0000

This week we present a special episode from A Slight Change of Plans hosted by Dr. Maya Shankar, a cognitive scientist who studies human behavior and was our featured expert on How To Stick To Your New Year's Resolutions. Maya's podcast examines who we are and who we become in the face of a big change.

In this episode, Maya looks at a feeling most of us are familiar with: stress. We're all familiar with the ways stress can make us feel bad, but can we use it as a helpful resource? Maya's joined by Columbia professor and stress expert Modupe Akinola, who argues that a simple change in our mindset can turn short-term stress into a force for good. Modupe shares strategies for how to better tolerate and understand our stress, and gives us tools for coping when a small "mindset shift" isn't enough.

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How To Make Imposter Syndrome Your Superpower

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 07:00:00 +0000

When Leslie landed her dream engineering job right out of college, she was elated but also worried she was a tad unqualified—even though she has the skills and expertise. Since then imposter syndrome has reared its ugly head on a regular basis. Besides being the youngest in her department, she's one of the only women and the only person of color, which has made things even more isolating. On this episode of How To!, host Amanda Ripley brings on Dr. Jessica Esquivel, physicist, advocate for marginalized communities in STEAM, and author of Our Queer Universe. Dr. Esquivel has some wise, hard-earned advice for shifting the burden of being enough, learning to fail, and making systemic changes so people don't feel imposter syndrome so acutely.

If you liked this episode, check out: "I'm Great at My Job. So Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud?"

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How To 'Chaos Cook' With Samin Nosrat

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Mar 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Cooking is one of the most basic human activities. We've probably been doing it since the discovery of fire and, yet, it's more than just fuel. It's culture. It's comfort. It's increasingly content. The problem is when we have such high expectations for something so simple and vital, we can find ourselves, well…paralyzed with doubt. Not to mention hungry. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Samin Nosrat, author of Salt Fat Acid Heat, who talks with food writer, Rachel Baron, about managing emotions in the kitchen. They dive deep on what it means to manage (and harness) feelings of chaos, how to stop comparing yourself to Instagram chefs, and how to feed not just yourself, but your soul.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stress-Bake with Claire Saffitz" and "How To Cook One Perfect Meal."

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How To Style Your Home Like a Pro

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Feb 2023 08:00:00 +0000

This summer, Hillary and her fiancé will be moving into their first home together. It's an upgrade from their apartment, and they get to design it from scratch. Hillary is really looking forward to entertaining friends and even growing their family in the space. She wants to design the interior of the house so it feels like a home, but she has no idea where to start, style-wise. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on award-winning interior designer Corey Damen Jenkins. Corey runs a design firm, teaches, and is the author of Design Remix. He breaks down everything from how to find your style (hint: look in your closet) to creating mood boards to balancing color so it doesn't become overwhelming. No matter if you're on a shoestring budget or can splurge on the space—Corey's advice will help you love where you live.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Dress with Confidence."

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How To Manage Your Precious Time

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Feb 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Joey is a young creative living in Australia who can't decide which hat to wear. Should it be songwriting, skateboarding, acting, or should he focus more on his day job as a retail clerk? Fitting everything in during the week seems impossible and he feels guilty when he can't cross everything off his checklist. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in journalist Oliver Burkeman, the author of 4000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals. He explains how he too once wanted to do it all, but eventually realized that it's just not feasible. As Joey learns, letting go of some things and focusing on what really matters can actually lead to the 'joy of missing out.'

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Never Miss a Deadline"

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Encore: How To Find Your First Kiss at 38

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Sharon is 38 and never been kissed. This, as she acknowledges, is "a bit weird." As a nurse who loves ballroom dancing, Sharon is smart, funny, and attractive. At the same time, she's deeply religious and has been waiting so long for the perfect man she worries that she'll never find "The One." In this classic How To! episode, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in one of New York City's finest matchmakers, Lisa Clampitt, for some tough love. Lisa believes Sharon has a lot going for her, but in order to find her first kiss she needs to go on a lot more second dates. This is no fairytale, but sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.

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How To Face Your Kid's Future

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Feb 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Keith prides himself on being a good dad to his three sons. But in a post-pandemic world with looming student debt and uncertain opportunities, the future can be really scary. He's especially worried about his middle son Ben, an introvert who doesn't know what to do after he graduates high school this year. On this episode of How To! host Carvell Wallace brings on Rebecca Lavoie. She's a versatile podcaster and former co-host on Slate's parenting show Mom and Dad are Fighting. She's also a recent empty nester, and has some tough love for Keith about how he can stop fretting and find more joy in his own life.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Fill an Empty Nest"

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How To Command a Room

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Yuzuha has been interviewing people for six years. She's a journalist based in Japan who writes about business and technology but has dreamed of working in broadcast, interviewing people for an audience. Her first challenge is coming sooner than she expected. Yuzuha was asked to moderate a panel at a big conference in Tokyo. She wants to know how to speak with confidence, capture an audience, and ensure her questions get answered without putting on a fake persona. On this episode of How To!, Amanda Ripley brings on journalist Meghna Chakrabarti. Meghna is the host of On Point, a public radio show, where she is known for her artful live interviews that help her audience make sense of the world. Meghna has some wonderful advice for Yuzuha (and all of us) on how to harness your voice and ensure you're advocating for your audience.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Speak Up So Others Listen."

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How To Love Your Face

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Earlier this year, our listener, Rell, nearly failed a promotion. Not because she was unprepared or unqualified, but because she didn't maintain enough eye contact with the interviewers. Rell's eye hasn't been fully receiving information since she was born, a condition that's outwardly visible and known colloquially as a "lazy eye." It's beginning to affect her self-confidence and is this "ugly thing [she] can't let go of." On this episode of How To!, new co-host Carvell Wallace brings on Sarah Ruhl. Sarah is an award-winning playwright, and author who wrote about her experience with Bell's palsy in her recent book, Smile: The Story of a Face. Sarah has some wonderful advice for letting go of your inner rage, making interactions with strangers less painful, and even finding people who light up your mirror neurons.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Dress with Confidence."

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How To Stick to Your New Year's Resolutions

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Jan 2023 08:00:00 +0000

January is barely two weeks old and already some of our ambitious New Year's resolutions may be starting to fade. No shame! Approximately 90% of resolution makers don't reach their goal. Which means there's gotta be a better way. Our listener this week, Emily, is discouraged about her unhealthy eating and lack of exercise and wants to form better habits that last long after the new year. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Maya Shankar. Maya is a cognitive scientist and host of the award-winning podcast, A Slight Change of Plans. Relying on decades of research, she helps Emily (and all of us) set ourselves up for success based on what works for actual humans.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Eat Whatever You Want" and "How To Lose Weight and Keep It Off"

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How To End Political Violence (From an Ex-Gang Leader)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 08:00:00 +0000

In the wake of the anniversary of the January 6th insurrection, and now similar riots in Brazil's capital, we're picking up our conversation about how to reduce political violence. In the first episode of our two-part series, we heard from Dr. Rachel Kleinfeld, senior fellow at the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace. This week, we're talking with Curtis Toler, director of outreach at Chicago CRED. After joining his first street organization at the age of 9, Curtis went from a gang leader to a violence interrupter. He talks about how to reach people entrenched in cycles of conflict, how to get to the peace table, and what Congress (and all of us) can learn from his success on the streets of Chicago.

Resources:

Chicago CRED

A Savage Order: How the World's Deadliest Countries Can Forge a Path to Security by Rachel Kleinfeld

An Ex-Gang Leader's Advice for Deescalating Violence in Politics by Amanda Ripley

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Part 1 and Part 2."

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How To Prevent Another Jan. 6

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Jan 2023 09:00:00 +0000

It's been two years since the January 6th riot at the US Capitol in Washington DC. Over 900 people have been criminally charged, but political violence continues to be a threat. Well, here at How To!, we are not content to just marinate in fear and blame so we're dedicating two episodes to see how we can prevent more tragedies like January 6. In our first episode, we bring on Dr. Rachel Kleinfeld, senior fellow at the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace where she focuses on the intersection of democracy and security. She explains how the US has gotten to this point, how we should productively grapple with January 6, and why we're not as close to the brink of civil war as it may seem. Next week, we'll hear from Curtis Toler, a former Chicago gang member who is now a violence interrupter.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power."

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Our Favorite Advice of 2022

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Dec 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we saved the planet, unbroke the news, discovered our style, sat in silence, found pleasure, put a small town on the map, learned to laugh, ran for office (without being an a**hole), and talked politics with our parents. On this episode of How To!, the team gathers 'round the mic to round up our favorite advice of the year. We talk about how we applied that advice to our own lives, share some surprising updates from folks who were on the show, and give a behind-the-scenes look at how the podcast is made each week.

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How To Forgive Someone Who Isn't Sorry

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Dec 2022 08:00:00 +0000

TJ has spent years trying to heal herself and put her childhood behind her. Both of her parents struggled with addiction, which made for a very complicated, unstable upbringing. After sacrificing her own childhood to raise her siblings—TJ feels deeply wounded by her mother in particular. She really wants to let it go. The only question is how. On this episode of How To!, we bring on journalist Marina Cantacuzino. Marina is the founder of The Forgiveness Project, a charity that shares stories of victims, survivors, and perpetrators of "crime and conflict who have rebuilt their lives following hurt and trauma." She's also the author of a new book called Forgiveness: An Exploration. Marina shares some powerful stories about others who have opened their hearts to forgiveness—even if it took awhile—and began to free themselves from resentment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Forgive the Unforgivable."

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How To House Everyone in Your City

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 08:00:00 +0000

This week, Los Angeles' newly elected mayor Karen Bass declared a state of emergency to help address the city's homelessness crisis. It's an overwhelming issue that has left a lot of Angelenos wondering how they can help, including this week's listener Alex. On this episode, host Amanda Ripley brings on two people who have experience fighting housing insecurity. Theo Henderson is an activist and host of the podcast, We the Unhoused, which sheds light on the struggles faced by the unhoused community in Los Angeles. Larry Morrissey is the former mayor of Rockford, Illinois. During his tenure, the city functionally ended veteran and chronic homelessness – by doing something altogether different than what most cities have tried. Together Theo and Larry explain what needs to change in order to properly address this crisis.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How to (Really) Help Refugees."

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How To Throw a Party They'll Remember

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Cook One Perfect Meal."

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How To Know When to Quit Your Job

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Uproot Your Life."

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Encore: How To Write a Bestseller

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Lauren already knows the plot of her bestselling novel—the problem is she hasn't written a word. Paralyzed by self-criticism and an earlier rejection, this former English major has spent years journaling instead of attempting the scary, difficult work of creative writing. On this episode of How To!, we turn to writer Taffy Brodesser-Akner, whose debut novel Fleishman Is in Trouble, was one of the hottest books of the year. Can she help Lauren finally put pen to paper? The first thing Lauren needs to do, Taffy says, is stop journaling, and start writing. And then keep writing: "You can't get to the good sentences if you don't write the bad ones first." Next, find a trusted reader, not a cheerleader, to give you honest feedback. And when doubt begins to creep in again, look at the writers you admire and simply ask, "Why them and not me?"

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How To Make a Huge Decision In 60 Minutes... Or Less

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Have Happy Regrets."

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How To Parent Your Depressed Teen

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +0000

As Kate's teenage son, Sam, approached college she noticed him withdrawing. He wasn't excited about his future and started to show symptoms of major depression. It came to a crisis point one summer night before Sam was set to leave for school. In the weeks and months that followed, Sam struggled to navigate the mental health system in search of care. And Kate? Kate was left wondering how she could help her son without being overbearing. On this episode of How To!, guest host Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Christine Moutier, psychiatrist and the chief medical officer for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. She advises Kate and all of us on how to be appropriately supportive, especially when things get to a scary place. She also reveals how she coped when her own teenager experienced a mental health crisis.

Resources:

If you or anyone you know is in crisis, dial 988 or text TALK to 741741.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

AFSP's Real Conversation Guides

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stop Being Anxious"

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How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 2

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Listen to the first part of our series: "How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1"

If you liked this episode, you might also like: "How To Rescue Someone From a Conspiracy Theory."

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How To Talk Politics With Your Dad (Without Yelling) Pt 1

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Embrace Your Anti-Vax Family This Holiday Season" and "How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships."

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Encore: How To Not Be Scared

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Becca is 6-feet tall, bold and strong-willed. She's also easily startled and paralyzed by fear — even a children's haunted house can reduce her to tears. In this episode of How To!, we bring in sociologist Margee Kerr, author of Scream: Chilling Adventures in the Science of Fear, to give us the lowdown on surviving scary situations. Can making fear more fun help Becca overcome her startle reflex in time for Halloween?

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How To Put Your Town on the Map

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you've ever vacationed on the beaches of Delaware, chances are you drove right by Smyrna. It's a small but charming town that's been bypassed by the main highways. Which is why Mike, a small business owner on the town council, wants to create a spectacular, engaging roadside attraction to tempt tourists into town. The only snag? He doesn't know what to actually build.

On this episode of How To!, we bring on roadside attraction aficionado Erika Nelson. She's the creator of The World's Largest Collection of the World's Smallest Versions of the World's Largest Things. She's also an artist who helps towns like Smyrna develop their own car-stopping attractions. She decodes the magic of the most wondrous roadside attractions and explains why hosting a Guinness world record-holding object is not the only key to success. You also have to tell a good story.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Convince People to Give You Money."

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How To Do Divorce Right

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +0000

After three decades of marriage, Bernadette wasn't exactly blindsided when Rodney asked for a divorce. Things had been rocky for awhile, but she always assumed they'd live the rest of their lives "unhappily ever after." Now Bernadette is facing an uncertain future, wondering how she's going to navigate her new life socially, emotionally, and financially. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, author of Light on the Other Side Of Divorce: Discovering the New You, and host of the podcast The Divorce Doctor. She helps Bernadette formulate a plan for keeping things civil, and handling everything from personal finances to awkward inquiries from well-meaning friends.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Save Your Marriage," "How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship," and "How To Reconnect With Your Kid After a Nasty Divorce."

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How To Be Yourself in an Interracial Relationship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Dana and Luke first started dating at the office they kept their relationship a secret. Most of their colleagues didn't know they were a couple until they got engaged. They didn't want any undue pressure or outside judgment. That's because Dana is a proud Black, Ghanaian woman from central Florida and Luke is a white man from Kansas. Dana's wondering how she can preserve her identity while they absorb each others' family traditions. On this episode of How To!, guest host Hélène Biandudi Hofer brings on Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out. All three discuss the struggles and joys in their respective interracial marriages.

If you want to learn more about Dana's work, check out AfroLA.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Beat Your Hidden Biases."

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How To Pick a College (And Actually Afford It)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Sep 2022 07:00:00 +0000

College application season is approaching fast—too fast—for 16-yr old Maya and her mother, Melissa. The problem? Maya has no idea where to go or what to study. It doesn't help that there are thousands of schools to choose from, and little transparency about their true cost. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Ron Lieber, New York Times money columnist and author of The Price You Pay for College. He shows Maya how to narrow down the list of potential colleges by asking insightful questions of the schools and, ultimately, yourself. Then he talks to Melissa about how to pay for it without harming the rest of the family's finances.

Ron's questions for parents:

What do you remember your parent or parents saying to you the first time they talked about what college would cost and what, if anything, they would pay?
Or if there was silence around the topic of paying for college, what did it speak?
How much was your parent or your parents willing to pay for your education? How did you feel about that?
If your parents paid your way, is it possible that you should not feel obligated to do the same, given how much the world has changed?
And if your parents paid nothing, have you asked yourself whether 15 years of extreme thrift starting now (or going deep into debt 15 years from now to pay for your child's first-choice college) may not erase whatever pain lingers from that period long ago -- or may create new conflict with your spouse and kids?
How much might you be willing to borrow -- or delay repayment of your own student loans?
How long are you willing to delay retirement to meet this goal?

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Raise a Future College Athlete."

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How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Trish first started working in corporate recruiting, she had wonderful co-workers, a supportive manager, opportunities for growth—it was "bliss." But the bliss evaporated in 2020 when she got laid off during the pandemic. She's since found a different job in the same field, but also decided to try her hand at teaching pilates part-time. Now, after burning the candle at both ends, Trish is burned out and unsure of the best path forward. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Nathan and Susannah Furr, authors of The Upside of Uncertainty. They have some useful tools to help Trish—and all of us—find our footing in uncertain times.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Bounce Back From Burnout" and "How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job."

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How To Have a Healthier News Diet

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Sep 2022 07:00:00 +0000

In the second of a two-part episode on reimagining the news we continue our conversation with Nicole Lewis, Senior Editor of Jurisprudence at Slate, and a longtime reporter on the criminal justice beat; and David Bornstein, co-founder/CEO of the Solutions Journalism Network, and former contributor to the New York Times' Fixes column. The discussion picks up where we left off on how journalists can regain the trust of their audience, and how news consumers can find stories that inspire hope, agency and dignity — our democracy may depend on it.

Resources:

https://trustingnews.org

https://wearehearken.com

https://results.org

If you liked this episode, check out Part 1: "How To Unbreak the News"

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How To Unbreak the News

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 08:00:00 +0000

About five or six years ago, host Amanda Ripley started noticing that her normal news diet left her feeling depleted and depressed. She tried mixing up her news habits, even avoiding it for awhile, but nothing helped. It felt like a shameful secret. Shouldn't journalists love consuming the news? She began to wonder, is it me....or is it the news itself? On this episode of How To!, the first of two parts, we'll hear from several of our listeners who feel the same way. We'll also talk with Nicole Lewis, Senior Editor of Jurisprudence at Slate, and a longtime reporter on the criminal justice beat; and David Bornstein, co-founder/CEO of the Solutions Journalism Network, and former contributor to the New York Times' Fixes column. Together they'll discuss how the news became so broken, and how we can put it back together again.

Resources:

Solutions Story Tracker®

Fear of Rampant Crime Is Derailing New York City's Recovery by Fola Akinnibi and Raeedah Wahid

I stopped reading the news. Is the problem me — or the product? by Amanda Ripley

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How To Survive a Silent Retreat

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Aug 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Clare decided on a resolution for the year, she was looking for a new challenge. Instead of running a marathon like her partner, Clare—who "talks for a living"—decided to go completely silent. She signed up for a silent retreat. But as it approached, she wondered how she could possibly go an entire week without speaking. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Daniel Thorson of the Monastic Academy in Vermont and host of the podcast, Emerge. Daniel has spent over a year of his life in silent meditation, including a 75 day silent retreat at the beginning of the pandemic. He says his first silent retreat was the worst experience of his life — just what Clare wanted to hear — but there's a reason he kept going back.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Quiet the Chatter in Your Head and How To Sleep with Headspace's Andy Puddicombe.

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How To Restore Nature in the Heart of a City

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Swiss Ambassador Jacques Pitteloud moved to Washington DC, his residence was perfect. Too perfect. The Swiss ambassador's residence sits on six acres on a hill with an awesome view of the Washington Monument. "I was amazed by the beauty of the whole setting…It looked like a golf course and I don't like golf courses… they are ecological disasters," Ambassador Pitteloud reflected. Together with his gardening team, the Ambassador has transformed the residence into a native oasis. On this episode of How To!, we're taking a field trip to the Swiss Ambassador's residence. Ambassador Pitteloud reveals how he brought back his beloved birds and even gave diplomatic immunity to local colonies of bees.

We talked last week with Doug Tallamy, who gave some wonderfully concrete advice on how you can revitalize your local ecosystem with just your yard. Ambassador Pitteloud is a living testament that you can have a meaningful impact with just your yard and he's impoloring others to follow suit. "Environmental protection has become ideological and politicized. This is not a political question… It's 5 minutes before midnight."

Resources:

Homegrown National Park

Nature's Best Hope: A New Approach to Conservation That Starts in Your Yard

Audubon Native Plants Database

National Wildlife Federation Native Plant Finder

SEEK by iNaturalist

If you liked this episode, check out part one: "How To Save the Planet, Starting With Your Yard." Also check out our episode "How to (Really) Help Refugees," as mentioned at the end of the show.

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How To Save the Planet, Starting With Your Yard

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Aug 2022 07:00:00 +0000

In the last 24 years, Judy has moved approximately 16 times for her husband's military career. But her family has finally settled down in a lovely house with a yard near Annapolis, Maryland. Now Judy is hoping to transform her outdoor space into something that's beautiful and environmentally friendly. On this episode of How To!, Doug Tallamy explains why, now more than ever, we need people like Judy to plant native species in order to revive our ecosystem. He has some surprisingly easy tips for replacing your grass (take that, lawn mower!), finding plants that pollinators will love, and even getting rid of those pesky mosquitoes.

Resources:

Homegrown National Park

Nature's Best Hope: A New Approach to Conservation That Starts in Your Yard

Audubon Native Plants Database

National Wildlife Federation Native Plant Finder

SEEK by iNaturalist

The Life and Death of the American Lawn

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Squash Your Fear of Bugs (and Other Phobias)"

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How To Be an Artist and Not Starve

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Aug 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Elaine picked up watercolor painting during her two year, cross country RV adventure with her family. She quickly fell in love with gorgeous nature scenes and found the creative process meditative and healing. But now she's wondering if her art could be something more. On this episode of How To!, multitalented artist Aaron Dworkin has tips for Elaine and other aspiring artists on how to live a 'portfolio life' by finding your signature style, following your passions and ultimately getting paid. He also shares insights for unlocking your creativity even if you don't fancy yourself an artist.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song with Ben Folds."

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How To Stop Being an Emotional ATM

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Last week, our expert Arthur Brooks gave us some surefire advice for resetting the parent-child relationship so your kids don't treat you like an emotional ATM. On this episode of How To!, he's going to teach our listener, Karen, how to balance the books, so to speak, by taking some withdrawals of her own. He has some surprising tips for how to restrain yourself from swooping in to save the day when it would be better to let them figure it out. Starting with a hilarious story of the time Arthur's adult son called him—pantsless—from Las Vegas.

If you liked this episode, check out part one: "How To Parent Less."

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How To Parent Less

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Jul 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Every time Karen gets a phone call from her adult children her heart sinks. Even at age 23 and 21, they're usually calling with a problem. She's received calls for everything from flat tires to mental health emergencies. While she loves her kids and wants to always be a safe place for them to land, she really wants them to gain more independence. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Arthur Brooks, a Harvard University professor who studies the science of happiness and writes a column for the Atlantic called How to Build a Life. He also is the father to three adult children. He has some surprising tips and tough love for Karen to help her rebalance her relationship with her kids.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get Your Kid to Finally Grow Up" and "How To Fill an Empty Nest."

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How To Become a Parent Overnight

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 07:00:00 +0000

For a lot of would-be parents, adoption isn't the first path that comes to mind. But that's how Victoria, a PhD student, is leaning right now. Even though she's not planning to have a family for a few more years, it's never too early to start preparing for what can be a long, arduous process. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Marcia Chatelain, Pulitzer Prize winning author, professor of history and African-American studies at Georgetown, and former co-host of The Waves. Marcia spent five years jumping through hoops before she and her husband finally adopted their son last year. Now Marcia is looking back on that journey and sharing what she learned to help Victoria smoothly navigate the process.

If you liked this episode, check out "The Single Most Important Thing to Know Before Becoming a Single Parent."

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How To Orgasm

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Jul 2022 07:00:00 +0000

In 2019, Brenda took a year off from their PhD program to try to feel pleasure again…with anything. Brenda has come a long way since then but there's one thing that's still elusive—they've never experienced an orgasm. Whenever they try, anxiety kicks in and they're left feeling frustrated and, in their words "broken." On this episode of How To!, we bring in Ev'Yan Whitney, sex educator, author, and host of the podcast Sensual Self. Ev'Yan has some wonderful wisdom for learning about your body and reconnecting with pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual, in a way that feels safe.

Additional Reading:

The Tyranny Of the Female-Orgasm Industrial Complex by Katharine Smyth

Ace by Angela Chen

Sensual Self by Ev'Yan Whitney

Understanding Asexuality by The Trevor Project

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life"

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Encore: How To Get Your Dog to Stop Eating Your Daughters' Underwear With Jenny Slate

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Erin thinks her dog Chief has the most embarrassing habit—he keeps eating her daughters' underwear. This has happened several times, resulting in multiple costly surgeries. If she doesn't put a stop to it, it could eventually kill Chief. How can she get her dog to behave and, more importantly, get her teenage daughters to put their underwear in the hamper? On this episode of How To!, Jenny Slate, comedian, actress, author of Little Weirds and voice of Marcel the Shell with Shoes On, opens up about the time her dog ate something he shouldn't have—and let's just say it's worse than underwear. But Jenny adores dogs and believes they have something important to teach us. You have to accept your loved ones' limitations, Jenny says, and when problems arise, tailor your solution to what suits them best—advice that applies to both dogs and teenagers.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor with Tig Notaro."

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How To Dress with Confidence

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Coming out of the worst of the pandemic, a lot of us need to relearn how to socialize, from what to say to what to wear. Our listener, Kristen, is headed back to the office and wants to feel like a boss. The only problem? She looks at her wardrobe and doesn't know where to begin. On this episode of How To!, we bring in celebrity stylist Leesa Evans to give her a crash course in clothing. Leesa has helped some famous clients (i.e. Amy Schumer) discover fashion that is both functional and flattering. The key? Finding pieces that make you feel confident.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Look Like a Superhero."

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How To Run for Office Without Being an A**hole

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +0000

We all know the country is deeply fractured right now, and that's especially true in our politics. There is vitriol, bitter partisanship and an expectation that in order to succeed you need to beat up on your opponent. So is it possible to fight for your beliefs, remain civil and still win elections? On this episode of How To!, we brought together two politicians from either side of the aisle who are living proof that we can practice politics with humanity. Utah Governor Spencer Cox and Vermont State Senator Becca Balint share how they resist negativity, meaningfully work with the other side, and stick to their values even when they are forced to stand up to their own party.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power"

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Encore: How To Stand Up for Your Kid When Society Won't

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Karin always thought of herself as the mom of two boys—that is, until last year when her oldest child told her they were nonbinary, meaning they don't identify as either male or female. Karin loves her kid deeply, but she's struggling to get used to their new name and pronouns, especially because her town—and husband—aren't very accepting. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Lisa DelCol, a fellow mom of a nonbinary child and former president of PFLAG Oklahoma City, to help Karin come to terms with her child's gender identity. Parents are going to make mistakes along the way, Lisa says, but it's important to share what you learn with others. The more you advocate for them, the more accepting the world becomes.

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How To Raise a Future College Athlete

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 May 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Elizabeth's son Lucas is a talented athlete who wants to compete in track and field at an NCAA Division One school. But so far he's been running away from doing any research or planning. His mother, Elizabeth, wants to help him be recruited and maybe even get a scholarship. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Steve Magness, performance expert, former track coach for the University of Houston, and author of Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness. He's navigated both sides of the recruitment process and has some hard-earned wisdom about what it takes to be noticed by college recruiters and why the system itself needs to be reformed.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Coach Squirrelly Kids (and Screaming Parents)."

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How To Ditch the Apps & Actually Find a Date

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 May 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Daniel seems to be the whole package. He's smart, social, and has lots of friends. He even organizes a beach volleyball league in Berlin. But he can't seem to land a date despite his best efforts. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Andrea Silenzi, dating aficionado and host of the acclaimed dating podcast Why Oh Why. She knows what it's like to put a ton of effort into dating and not land the relationship she wants. Now married, she shares how she broke through a decade of bad dates and has some hard-earned wisdom to help Daniel, and all of us, make a move that actually works.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Find Your First Kiss at 38."

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How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 May 2022 07:00:00 +0000

After experiencing multiple instances of sexual assault, Julia often feels sexually disconnected from her own body. She wants to be aware of her boundaries and find pleasure in new relationships going forward. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, and August McLaughlin, health and sexuality journalist and host of Girl Boner Radio. Together they wrote With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. They share candid, tangible advice about navigating consent and how to turn awkward conversations into something empowering — even sexy.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Talk to Your Son About Sex".

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How To Be a Lazy Genius

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 May 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Samantha and her husband moved from a condo to a fairly large house, they knew they'd have a lot of updating and upkeep to do. But they had no idea how much time their new chores would gobble up. Or even what chores to do. (If only there was a guide to adulting!) Even when they weren't holding themselves to picture-perfect standards, it still felt like they were barely keeping their heads above water. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Kendra Adachi, she's a best-selling author, podcaster, and professional permission giver. She has tangible, easy steps that you can do right now to help you prioritize and organize your mess—and ultimately, your life.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Stop "Having It All" (Before You End Up With Nothing)"

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How To Bounce Back From Burnout

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 May 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job."

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How To (Really) Help Refugees

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When the Taliban took over Afghanistan in August, the Female Tactical Platoon, a unit of elite Afghan soldiers, knew they had to evacuate. "If they were captured, they would be killed," according to a Green Beret who worked alongside them because they were "an affront to everything the Taliban stood for." Ellie, a U.S. Army Captain, moved earth and heaven to get them to America. But navigating the U.S. refugee resettlement system proved much more difficult than they expected. On this episode of How To!, we introduce Ellie to Luma Mufleh, founder and CEO of Fugee Families, to discuss how the system can and should be improved. They share practical tips for how all of us can help in the most useful way possible.

To read more about the Female Tactical Platoon check out The Untold Story of the Afghan Women Who Hunted the Taliban.

Here is Ellie's organization: Sisters of Service.

Here is Luma's organization: Fugee Families.

Check out Luma's new book, Learning America.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Beat Your Hidden Biases"

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How To Change a Mascot Without Tearing Apart Your School

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 07:00:00 +0000

The town of Dartmouth, Massachusetts is in the middle of a mascot debate that's escalated quickly. Our listener Keith grew up there and his kids attend the high school in question. He's been vocal about his support for changing the school's Indian warrior logo but is wondering if there's a better way to solve this issue than trading barbs with the opposition. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Maulian Dana, Penobscot Nation tribal ambassador, one of the four federally recognized indigenous tribes in Maine. Maulian helped lead a decades-long effort that resulted in Maine banning all state schools and colleges from using Native American mascots in 2019. She has some practical tips to help Keith, and all of us, fight for what we believe in — without tearing our community apart.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Stop a Fight Before It Starts."

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How To Solve Your Own Medical Mystery

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When Mike was wracked with a series of unexplained headaches in 2017, he initially chalked it up to being a stressed out grad student. But the pain became debilitating and his symptoms only multiplied from there. His doctors are stumped and Mike doesn't know where to turn next. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Meghan O'Rourke, author of The Invisible Kingdom: Reimagining Chronic Illness. Meghan has been on her own medical journey for years and has some extremely helpful advice for finding the right doctors, regaining a sense of normalcy, and supporting those who are currently searching for answers.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Fight Outrageous Medical Bills."

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How To Start Writing (w/ Anna Quindlen & John Dickerson)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Apr 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Write a Bestseller" and "How To Get Your Book Published."

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How To Speak Up So Others Listen

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you were to pop by Mary Ann's PhD discussion group, you'd most likely find her quietly, but intently, listening to the debate going on around her. But when it comes time to actually throw in her two cents, she comes up short. She feels nervous. Her mind goes blank. And she leaves the session feeling frustrated that she didn't voice her thoughts. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Amy Cuddy, author of Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenge. Amy has done a great deal of research on how to carve out your own space — physically and mentally — and has some practical tips to help Mary Ann, and all of us, speak with more confidence.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Give a Killer Speech."

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How To Stand Up To a Workplace Bully

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 07:00:00 +0000

When a fellow employee started bullying Christy at her workplace she took the situation to her supervisor, Human Resources, and even filed grievances with her union. But the situation never improved. In fact, it got worse to the point where Christy had no choice but to walk away from her job of over 30 years. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Megan Hunter – co-founder and CEO of High Conflict Institute and author of BIFF at Work: Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication. She offers insight into the bullying Christy experienced and shares advice for anyone who might be in a similar situation. "We just have to know the rules and then we can manage that relationship instead of having that person and their fear-driven operating system manage us," Megan says. With input from Christy, Megan sheds light on how to handle a toxic work environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fire a Bad Employee

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How To Make Friends... Like a Man

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Mar 2022 07:00:00 +0000

After Zach heard our "How To Make Friends as an Adult" episode, which coincidentally featured all women, he and a few other male listeners wrote in questioning how useful it was for men. He wondered if we could address the unique challenges men face when it comes to making new friends. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Slate staff writers Dan Kois, author of How to Be a Family, and Aymann Ismail, former host of the podcast Man Up, to coach Zach through a few easy tips. "You just gotta be shameless about it," says Dan. Whether it's balancing parenthood or playing the numbers game, Dan and Aymann share practical ways to put yourself out there, even if it means being a little bit vulnerable.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Put Your Wife's Career First.

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, and Katie Shepherd.

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How To Have Happy Regrets

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Mar 2022 09:00:00 +0000

Courtenay has more than a few regrets, starting with her career. Despite her accomplishments as an opera singer, she wishes she'd prioritized her professional goals, become more proficient on the piano and with foreign languages. Then there are the personal regrets, like the elderly friend Courteney lost touch with — who then passed away. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Daniel H. Pink, author of The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, to coach Courtenay through reclaiming her regrets. "We haven't taught people how to properly deal with negative emotions," Pink reminds us. We'll learn about the four core regrets that most of us share and how to turn them into wisdom.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Uproot Your Life."

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How To Stop 'Having It All' (Before You End Up With Nothing)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Mar 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Janey is the very definition of a woman trying to "have it all." She's an occupational therapist by day, a ghost writer for influencers by night and in between co-hosts a podcast. On top of that, she has two sons who play travel sports and a husband who works long hours. It's left Janey wondering if she'll ever catch her breath. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Amy Westervelt, who's no slouch herself. She's a journalist, host of the award-winning podcast Drilled, a busy mom and author of the book Forget "Having It All": How America Messed Up Motherhood, and How to Fix It. She shares with Janey how trying to "have it all" almost left her with nothing. It's advice that all of us can use to rebalance our lives and reprioritize what's important.

Check out Amy's invisible labor calculator.

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Encore: How To Win Gold Without Losing Yourself

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Winning the Olympics is everything Steve Mesler ever wanted. So when he and his U.S. bobsled teammates stood atop the podium at the 2010 Vancouver Games, his life seemed golden in every way. But soon after his triumph, Steve began to experience a period of extended mourning. Even though he won a gold medal, he lost his identity and sense of purpose. And he wasn't the only one. On this episode of How To!, the former Olympian, co-founder of Classroom Champions, and current United States Olympic and Paralympic Committee board member talks about the complicated aftermath of achieving an all-consuming pursuit. He discusses his struggles with depression, losing teammates to suicide and what the USOPC is doing to destigmatize mental health treatment. (This episode originally aired July 20, 2021)

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Be a Badass On and Off the Court."

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How To Fight With Your Parents

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Feb 2022 08:00:00 +0000

It's been two decades since Maggie's mom has gone to the doctor and her health is incredibly….shaky. Maggie's mom has severe asthma and allergies which has basically isolated her from the world. With isolation has come anger and bitterness. Maggie is at a loss. She's tried everything she can think of yet her mother refuses to get help. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Elizabeth Berg, a nurse-turned-bestselling novelist who has penned some 30 books, many focusing on family drama. Her latest is a touching memoir called I'll Be Seeing You, which follows her perfectly imperfect parents as they've gotten older. Elizabeth has some hard-earned wisdom for Maggie, and all of us, about navigating a contentious relationship with our aging parents.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Embrace Your Anti-Vax Family This Holiday Season" and "How To Get a Stubborn Parent to Listen."

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How To Beat Hackers at Their Own Game

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Feb 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Susan was concerned when she first learned that someone was impersonating her on Facebook, but that soon turned to anger when she realized the imposter had sent inappropriate photos to her real life friends. Susan tried and failed to get the account taken down. Then came the extortion letter...and now she's freaking out a bit. On this episode of How To!, Jack Rhysider, host of Darknet Diaries and cybersecurity veteran, talks about the time he was stalked on the internet. Jack no longer shares much online — he won't even show his face. You don't have to go that far, but there are things you can do to protect your online data and your emotions in real life. If you're worried about being exposed, Jack has some great resources for battling stalkers and online harassment.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Steal Back Your Identity."

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How To Crack Up Your Coworkers (Without Being Offensive)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Feb 2022 08:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Be Funny" with comedian Gary Gulman.

If you want to discover your own humor style, take the test on Naomi and Jennifer's website.

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How To Make Humor Your Superpower

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Jan 2022 08:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor" with Tig Notaro.

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Encore: How To Succeed When Everyone's Mad at You

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Jan 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Have you ever had to make an impossible decision? One that doesn't have an obvious "right" answer. One that someone will inevitably hate. John knows this feeling all too well. He's the superintendent for a mid-size school district in California. To say the last school year was difficult is a major understatement… John tried to ensure the safety of his students, teachers, and faculty while balancing the reality of students struggling in their virtual classes. Throughout the school year, John's relationship with his teachers and the teachers union deteriorated. Now, classes are back in session and he's hoping to find common ground as soon as possible. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Gary Friedman, a world-renowned conflict mediator. He has some tips on how all of us can mend a fraught relationship before it's too late.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Stand Up to Your Terrible Manager—Without Getting Fired."

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This episode originally ran on August 31, 2021.

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How To Squash Your Fear of Bugs (and Other Phobias)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Jan 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Every year, around the same time, Peter's apartment comes alive. The shadows begin to scuttle and the pipes creak with creepy crawlies. At least that's how it feels. Peter is freaked out by Israel's large flying cockroaches. Logically, he knows they don't pose a threat. But he can't control his visceral disgust at encountering one and his panicked vigilance in the days that follow. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Dr. Elizabeth McMahon, a clinical psychologist who has been treating phobias like these for the last 30 years. She has some very practical advice for Peter, and anyone else with an irrational fear they'd like to overcome. Elizabeth often uses virtual reality therapy with her clients, most recently to treat needle phobias. She's made this needle phobia training available for licensed therapists or supervised trainees.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Not Be Scared."

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How To Eat Whatever You Want

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Jan 2022 08:00:00 +0000

Every January nearly 75 percent of Americans resolve to make their lives better by losing weight. But this year we're breaking free from the cycle of restrictive eating and spiraling shame. Journalist Virginia Sole-Smith, host and author of Burnt Toast and The Eating Instinct, has some eye-opening tips for our listener Tori that will help her ditch the scale, become more comfortable with her body, and even learn to control sugar cravings—by eating as many sweets as she wants.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily"

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How To Break the Spell of Social Media

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 08:00:00 +0000

James is head over heels in love with his wife. But there's one thing that keeps getting in between them … the glow of her smartphone. His wife is constantly scrolling social media or staging photo ops with James and their kids to create a picture perfect life online. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Dr. David Greenfield, the founder of The Center for Internet and Technology Addiction, to help James understand why it's so hard for his wife to log off. He has some fascinating advice for how to wean yourself off social media and reconnect IRL without creating a bigger rift in the relationship.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Put Down Your Phone."

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How To Save a Friend from a Bad Relationship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Dec 2021 08:00:00 +0000

One night a few months ago Elaine got a phone call out of the blue from a co-worker. She and her 12-year old daughter had checked herself into a hotel after she was beaten by husband. Elaine took her co-worker to the hospital and encouraged her to leave her husband, but a couple weeks later she was back at home. Now Elaine can't stop worrying about her friend and wondering if (and how) she should help. On this episode of How To!, we're joined by Suzanne Dubus, advocate, survivor and CEO of the Jeanne Geiger Crisis Center. Suzanne says one in five women (and one in seven men) will be the victims of severe physical violence during their lifetime. She understands all too well why it takes so long for victims of domestic violence to leave their abusers, and gives us some practical advice for what to do if we ever find ourselves in Elaine's shoes.

If you or someone you love is struggling with intimate partner violence, visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline's website or call 1-800-799-SAFE.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Say the Right Thing at the Worst Time."

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Our Favorite Advice of 2021

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 08:00:00 +0000

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we ran faster, kept cool in a crisis, had the best sex of our lives, stopped snoring, and even won the Olympics. The How To! team, including former host David Epstein, gathers 'round the mic to round up our favorite advice of the year. We talk about how we applied that advice to our own lives, share some surprising updates from folks who were on the show, and give a behind-the-scenes look at how the podcast is made each week.

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When To Say Goodbye to a Difficult Dog

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Dec 2021 08:00:00 +0000

Deciding to give up your dog is not something we talk about much, especially now when our pets are more like family members. But what do you do when your dog has behavioral problems that threaten the safety of others? On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series on difficult dogs, we hear more from renowned trainer Denise Fenzi and inventor and YouTuber Simone Giertz. They open up about their traumatic experiences with previous dogs and how they eventually had to give them up despite trying everything. And they share advice for how to regain trust in dogs and yourself as a dog owner.

If you liked this episode, check out Part One: "How To Get Your Dog to Stop Barking (Without Barking Back)"

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How To Get Your Dog to Stop Barking (Without Barking Back)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Nov 2021 08:00:00 +0000

Approximately 23 million families in the US got a pet during the pandemic, many of them puppies. At their best, dogs truly are "man's best friend," providing real comfort and companionship. But it can be tough when your new dog isn't adapting as well as you'd hoped. Whether it's excessive barking, aggression towards strangers or just not getting along with family members—a difficult dog can rock your confidence and make you feel resentful. On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series on difficult dogs, we meet famous inventor and YouTuber, Simone Giertz, and her yap-happy pup, Scraps. Simone shares her triumphs and failures with renowned dog trainer Denise Fenzi and they commiserate on the best way to teach a dog some much-needed new tricks.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get Your Dog to Stop Eating Your Daughters' Underwear With Jenny Slate."

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How To Embrace Your Anti-Vax Family This Holiday Season

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Nov 2021 08:00:00 +0000

Jackie is newly engaged, but thoughts about her big day fill her with dread, not excitement. Jackie and her fiance want to have only vaccinated people at their wedding to protect some vulnerable family members from COVID-19. However, requiring vaccination means Jackie's parents and sister likely won't attend, which would break Jackie's heart. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Nwandi Lawson, a former journalist who now runs a communications firm specializing in difficult conversations. She's had her own challenging family discussions during the pandemic, and has some surprising tips for how to speak truth to power while keeping your relationships intact, and maybe even change a few minds.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships."

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How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Nov 2021 08:00:00 +0000

For nearly a decade, Jono devoted all his time and energy to creating and running a customized shoe company. But, unfortunately, his start-up didn't survive the pandemic. Now Jono is in the tricky position of transitioning from CEO to working for someone else. He's wondering how to brand his non-linear career path and transform himself into an ideal job candidate. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Joseph Liu, a consultant who has made a career out of changing careers, and host of the podcast Career Relaunch. Joseph has some practical tips for finding the right job opportunities, rewriting your resume, and creating a compelling cover letter that will land you an interview in no time.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Find a New Career Before It's Too Late".

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How To Get Your Book Published

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Nov 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Shanimarie has a story in her heart, one she believes the world needs to hear. It's a story of immigration, sacrifice and a mother's love that this first-grade teacher wishes she had read as a young girl who moved from Jamaica to the U.S. Shanimarie has been working on the idea for a couple of years now. She's submitted a manuscript to several publishers, but is making the rookie mistakes that most aspiring authors make. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Denene Millner, a New York Times best selling author of over 30 books who runs a children's book imprint at Simon & Schuster. Denene focuses on stories about the humanity of Black children and shares some insider knowledge with Shanimarie about telling your story in a way that publishers, and children, can't ignore.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Write a Bestseller" with author Taffy Brodesser-Akner.

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What To Do When Your Husband Becomes Your Boss

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Nov 2021 10:00:00 +0000

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Bethany was ecstatic when her husband Travis got a promotion. They've been co-workers for over a decade and Bethany really valued being on equal footing. But that power balance has since gone topsy turvy. Travis is now her boss (technically her boss's boss) and things are suddenly not equal at home or at work. Her coworkers are treating her differently, and she feels like her career identity is being overshadowed. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Carley Roney, co-founder of the wedding and lifestyle company, The Knot. Carley worked with, and for, her husband for years. She has some hard-won advice for maintaining your independence while keeping the marriage intact.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Fire Your Daughter."

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How To Beat the Dreaded Midday Slump

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 10:00:00 +0000

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Every day around 2:00 p.m. Rob hits a brick wall. A busy job and two young children have zapped all of his energy, and he's desperate to do something—anything—to make it through the rest of the workday. Enter the elusive and often guilt-ridden midday nap. But there too Rob struggles to really rest and then wake up without making things worse. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Dr. Sara Mednick, author of Take a Nap! Change Your Life and the forthcoming book The Hidden Power of the Downstate. Sara draws on years of research at her sleep lab to advise Rob, and all of us, how to stay energized during a long day (Hint: It might not involve napping at all).

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Sleep" with Andy Puddicombe, co-founder of Headspace.

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How To Make Friends as an Adult

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Grace and Nikki both need more friends. Grace is an ICU nurse whose best friends have moved away. Nikki is an electrical engineer who worked remotely for the last year and is now moving to a new city. Making friends as an adult is hard, but not impossible. You just have to do things differently than when you were in 6th grade. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Elizabeth Newcamp, co-host of Slate's Mom and Dad are Fighting and the author of Dutch, Dutch, Goose, a parenting and travel blog. Elizabeth's husband is in the military so they're constantly moving to new places. She's figured out a playbook for transforming casual acquaintances into close friends, even if you're an introvert.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Talk to Strangers" with expert Susan Cain.

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How To Keep Cool in a Crisis

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Oct 2021 09:00:00 +0000

Last week we learned how to stop a public fight before it starts. But despite our best intentions, ugly confrontations still happen—sometimes with tragic consequences. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two part-series, Dan Christensen, a bus driver in Portland, Oregon, and Matt Smith, a crisis intervention trainer and the co-founder of Aegis Training Solutions, are back to teach you what to do when a fight is already underway. Dan talks about his experience with the 2017 Portland train attack that left two people dead. How do you stay safe? What is your responsibility to those around you? In short, how can you be a better bystander?

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship."

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How To Stop a Fight Before It Starts

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Oct 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Things are a little more tense than usual these days. Stress and anxiety levels are up and so are fights in public. We've all heard stories of bad behavior in restaurants, airports, hospitals, school board meetings, etc. So on this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we bring on Dan Christensen, a bus driver in Portland, Oregon, and Matt Smith, a crisis intervention trainer and the co-founder of Aegis Training Solutions. They both have years of experience defusing ugly confrontations, and a bevy of surprising tips to keep yourself safe while calming down those around you.

If you liked this episode, check out: "After a Year of Survival, How to Start Living Again."

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How To Coach Squirrelly Kids (and Screaming Parents)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 10:00:00 +0000

When Kelly volunteered to be the head coach for his son's baseball team, he was nervous. He had no formal training, but he knew he wanted his players to have equal playing time and, more importantly, have fun. Which they did….until the yelling started and the season ended in a surprising loss (and quite a few tears). What can Kelly do better next season? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Doug Lemov, author of the books, Teach Like a Champion and The Coach's Guide to Teaching. Doug has some fantastic advice for commanding attention, and managing failure, that we can all learn from—on or off the field.

If you liked this episode, check out: "Congrats, You Won the Olympics. Now What?"

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How To Fill an Empty Nest

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Susan never really got over saying goodbye to her eldest daughter, who left for college four years ago. She knew it would be sad, but she didn't expect to be nauseous. Now her youngest is applying to college, and she's already dreading drop-off next fall which makes her feel like a "pathetic loser." What can Susan do to prep herself for more heartbreak and a completely empty nest? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Kelly Corrigan, best-selling author and host of the podcast Kelly Corrigan Wonders. She recently dropped her youngest daughter off at college, which she wrote about in an essay for the New York Times called "How to Let Go of Your Irreplaceable, Unstoppable Daughter." She shares some hard-earned wisdom about how to handle major life transitions with grace.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get Your Kid to Finally Grow Up"

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How To Crack Your Kid Like a CIA Operative

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Every kid sneaks a cookie from the cookie jar, but Jamie's 8 year-old daughter Simone has taken it to the next level. If you look under her pillow or in the back of her closet, you'll find stashes of candy wrappers and other illicit items. When confronted, Simone never cracks under pressure. Jamie is worried that if this behavior isn't stopped soon, Simone will grow up to be a "supervillain." On this episode of How To!, we bring on Christina and Ryan Hillsberg, authors of License to Parent: How My Career As a Spy Helped Me Raise Resourceful, Self-Sufficient Kids. They draw on their years of experience at the CIA to help Jamie figure out how to handle Simone's sly behavior. Is there any way to harness it for good? Christina and Ryan give Jamie a crash course in building trust and influencing people without them realizing it.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Convince People to Give You Money."

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How To Live With a Dirty Family Secret

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Sep 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Usually when something enters Rachel's parents' home, it never leaves. Growing up, Rachel and her siblings tried to clean out the growing piles of junk, but her mom would often dig into the trash to retrieve whatever was tossed. Rachel finally escaped her parent's over-stuffed house but she still worries about their safety and quality of life. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Jessie Sholl, author of Dirty Secret: A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother's Compulsive Hoarding. She knows what it's like to spend hours decluttering a house teeming with stuff, only to have it come back with a vengeance. Many of us will eventually have to parent our parents, but how do you handle such an extreme case? Jessie explains that hoarding is a mental illness and advises Rachel on how to find agency in a situation that feels so helpless.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Avoid Becoming Your Mother."

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How To Succeed When Everyone's Mad at You

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Stand Up to Your Terrible Manager—Without Getting Fired."

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How To Beat Your Hidden Biases

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Do you think of yourself as a "good" person? Most of us do. You probably show others kindness and respect—no matter their age, gender, sexuality, or race, right? But our unconscious biases are often more powerful than we realize. In fact, mountains of evidence show the extent to which implicit bias is ingrained in our police departments, doctor's offices and hiring committees, often to the detriment of marginalized groups. Our listener this week, Tim, has spent a lot of time thinking about his privilege as a cisgender white man and how it affects his work and his community. While he believes he no longer harbors any conscious prejudice, he's still struggling to uncover and combat his implicit biases. On this episode of How To!, guest host Celeste Headlee talks with Mahzarin Banaji, a psychologist at Harvard and the author of Blindspot: Hidden Biases of Good People. She has some tips on how to interrogate our gut feelings and consciously change the way we see people who are different from us.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Fight Racism in Your Town."

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How To Repair a Broken Relationship Before It's Too Late

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000

It's painful for Barbara to think back on her son Ethan's childhood. For years Ethan was caught between feuding parents until, one day, Ethan went to live with his dad and never came back. Barbara regrets not fighting harder for her son or at least communicating better. Now she wants to ask for a second chance before it's too late—but isn't sure how to go about it. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, we continue with Amy Baker, a developmental psychologist who specializes in restoring family connections between parents and adult children. Amy helps Barbara recall specific memories as she writes a letter of amends, paragraph by paragraph, in an attempt to open Ethan's heart.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Reconnect with Your Kid After a Nasty Divorce," the first in our two-part series.

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How To Reconnect with Your Kid After a Nasty Divorce

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Barbara survived a divorce so brutal that she refers to it as 'The War of the Roses.' Perhaps the most painful casualty was the severing of her relationship with her son, Ethan. Decades have passed and Ethan is now married with kids of his own, who Barbara adores. But due to their chilly, distant relationship, Barbara doesn't get to see them as much as she'd like. Can Barbara repair their broken relationship before it's too late? On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we bring on Amy Baker, a developmental psychologist who specializes in restoring family connections between parents and adult children. She has a specific method for writing a letter of amends that, more often than not, can lead to a breakthrough.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent."

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How To Never Miss a Deadline

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out the first in our series: "How To Ditch Your Distractions Once and For All."

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How To Ditch Your Distractions Once and For All

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Jul 2021 10:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stop Procrastinating" and make sure to tune in next week to learn how to set the perfect deadline.

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Congrats, You Won the Olympics. Now What?

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 10:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Be a Badass On and Off the Court."

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How To Make a Big Purchase Without Panicking

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Alexandra and her boyfriend want to buy a house, but they're looking in one of the hottest housing markets in the U.S. So when they got outbid for their dream home, Alexandra was secretly relieved. Spending money, even if it's something she can afford, is absolutely terrifying to her. Alexandra grew up homeless and even though she's now a lawyer, she has a hard time ever feeling financially secure. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Athena Lent, founder of Money Smart Latina and financial advice columnist for Slate's "Pay Dirt." Athena had a similar upbringing to Alexandra and learned the hard way how to revise her beliefs around money. If you figure out your net worth and plan for the unthinkable, you'll be free to make big purchases without feeling panicked or guilty.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get Out of Debt Faster Than You Think."

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How To Fight Outrageous Medical Bills

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Wed, 7 Jul 2021 09:00:00 +0000

Rich thought nothing of going to the hospital for a routine colonoscopy—until he got the bill. Even with insurance, Rich is on the hook for nearly $2,000, way more than he ever expected. It's particularly painful because Rich was planning to finally pay off his credit card debt before getting married. So what can he do? Our expert this week has a suggestion—don't pay the bill, at least, not at first. On this episode of How To!, we bring on investigative reporter Marshall Allen, author of Never Pay the First Bill: And Other Ways to Fight the Health Care System and Win, to walk Rich through his options. While most of us pay our hospital bills without thinking twice, Marshall says there are several surprisingly easy steps we can all take to make sure we're not being overcharged. High healthcare costs may be inevitable, but we can still fight back.

If you liked this episode, check out How To Give Your Mom a Kidney.

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How To Trick Your Brain Into Running Longer

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Have you ever thought about running but been too intimidated to start? Or maybe you've already got an after-work jogging routine and need tips on how to increase your endurance? On this episode of How To!, we reveal the game-changing, unexpected running tips you didn't know you needed with the help of Alex Hutchinson, author of Endure: Mind, Body, and the Curiously Elastic Limits of Human Performance, and Shannon Palus, a Slate senior editor and marathon runner. Our experts say the key to running well isn't how fast you go or how many times a week you hit the pavement—instead focus on training your mind to push past your limits. In the process you'll ease your anxiety and build your confidence.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily" and "How To Withstand Pain"

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I'm a Recovering Alcoholic. I'm Afraid My Kids Will End Up Like Me.

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Jun 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Lee is worried that one day soon her 25-year-old adopted daughter, who is pregnant and struggling with a drug addiction, will show up on her doorstep with a baby in tow. How will she be able to explain the situation to her other daughter, who's only 6 years old? And how can she prepare her for the day she'll confront drugs and alcohol herself? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Jessica Lahey, a teacher and the author of The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. As a recovering alcoholic herself—and the mother of two kids—Jess knows firsthand how hard it is to talk to your kids about substance use in an effective way, especially when addiction runs in the family. "If you tell kids drugs and alcohol are just bad, they know we're hedging or lying because people wouldn't do drugs and alcohol if they were all bad," Jess says. "So a very important part of substance use prevention is being really honest and giving kids real information about consequences."

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Kick a Meth Habit."

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After a Year of Survival, How to Start Living Again

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Jun 2021 10:00:00 +0000

For the past year, Brandon has been terrified of leaving his apartment. And so he's settled into an extreme pandemic routine. He cooks all of his own meals, has yet to see his parents, and on the rare occasion he takes the trash out, still wears double masks, rubber gloves and safety goggles. Brandon has been fully vaccinated for weeks now but the very low risk of a breakthrough Covid case seems like a grave danger because a few years ago he suffered another incredibly rare viral infection. On this episode of How To!, we bring on economist Tim Harford, author of The Data Detective and host of the podcast Cautionary Tales, and clinical psychologist and Stanford professor Debra Kaysen to help Brandon work through his anxiety—from a statistical and an emotional perspective. Most of us feel varying levels of anxiety about getting back to "normal," but Tim and Debra's advice can help us reframe risk and find coping strategies to get back out there.

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How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Jun 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Ever since she started taking a new medication a few years ago, Meme is worried that she's lost her sex drive. She still has a great relationship with her husband, but she isn't interested in sex the way that she used to be, and she's worried it's hurting her marriage. On this episode of How To!, we bring on sex educator Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, to coach Meme through how to revamp her sex life. For busy couples, you should actually schedule a time on your calendar to be intimate. "Think of like when you were dating...that was date sex," Emily reminds us. She then breaks down the myths that so many of us have internalized about sex, and shares surprising tips to help anyone—no matter their age or relationship status—have better sex.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Save Your Marriage."

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My Kid's Anxiety Is Giving ME Anxiety! How Do I Fix This?

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Jun 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Michaela is worried that her son, Asher, is constantly worried. At 8 years old, Asher is already dealing with some pretty intense anxiety. For example, he cried every day at school last year. Now that he's being home schooled during the pandemic, Michaela has seen how much pressure Asher puts on himself to do well. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Dr. Krystal Lewis, a clinical psychologist at the National Institute of Mental Health who works with kids with anxiety disorders. Krystal knows how hard—and how common—it is when kids struggle with anxiety early on, and she suggests some helpful coping mechanisms. But even more than these techniques, Krystal urges parents to learn how to manage their own anxiety. Instead of trying to hide your struggles, be a model for your kids as you work through difficult emotions.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Stop Being Anxious."

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The Single Most Important Thing to Know Before Becoming a Single Parent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 May 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Stacie is in her early 30s and is ready to have a baby. There's just one problem—she doesn't have a partner. As much as she wants to be a mom, Stacie is worried about being a single parent by choice. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Lori Gottlieb, therapist, author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and solo mom herself. Lori opens about her own experience having her son on her own, navigating people's judgment, and finding ways to consider herself "enough" as a single parent. The hardest part? "Every decision you make is ultimately yours. On the one hand, that might seem liberating, but on the other hand, it's very paralzying because there's so much pressure," Lori says. What does Stacie ultimately decide?

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Decide Whether to have a Baby" and "How To Talk to Your Son About Sex."

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How To Stand Up to Your Terrible Manager—Without Getting Fired

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 May 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Shirley loves her job as a product manager for a startup, but she can't stand her manager. He's inefficient, old-fashioned, and entirely unsupportive of her work. "Just so you know, you don't deserve this," he told Shirley when she recently got promoted. Is there anything Shirley can do to make her work situation better? On this episode of How To, we bring on Patty McCord, former chief talent officer for Netflix and author of Powerful: Building a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility, to give Shirley some tips. Shirley ought to approach the situation the same way she would any product she works on: "Be the person that is the problem fixer, not the problem finder," says Patty. Complaining or staging a coup will go nowhere, but approaching your manager with tangible solutions for improving your relationship could make a difference.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Get That Promotion You Deserve."

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How To Have a Fight That Actually Helps Your Relationship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 May 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Diane feels like she's constantly picking fights with her partner Mohammed—when he forgets to grab tomatoes from the grocery store or drops the ball on planning their son's birthday party. Their conflicts are complicated by layers of cultural differences: Mohammed is a Syrian refugee, Diane is an American, and they live in the Netherlands. "He lived through a war, so I can't win any argument," says Diane, who is increasingly desperate to find a solution. On this episode of How To!, we bring on investigative journalist Amanda Ripley, author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. Amanda reveals that conflict can actually be good—as long as anger, and not contempt, is at its core. Drawing from her research on astronauts, gang members and politicians, Amanda coaches Diane through techniques that can help all of us have better fights.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator."

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Now Is the Time To Escape Your Bad Relationship. Here's How.

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 May 2021 09:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Find Your First Kiss at 38."

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I'm Great at My Job. So Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud?

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 09:00:00 +0000

When Shellye Archambeau walked into her first meeting as a board member of Verizon, she felt a moment of panic. "Do I actually belong at this table?" she remembers thinking. Shellye, one of the first Black women to work as the CEO of a tech company in Silicon Valley, has struggled over the years with what's commonly known as "imposter syndrome"—the feeling that you are a phony, despite all evidence to the contrary. On this episode of How To!, Shellye, the author of Unapologetically Ambitious, gives advice to Hannah, a medical student who is struggling with the same feelings of self-doubt, particularly as she's about to treat patients for the first time. Can Shellye help Hannah tame her imposter syndrome so she can be an effective physician? "I can't tell people how to get over it," Shellye says. "But I can tell you how to deal with it."

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Be a Badass On and Off the Court."

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How To Give a Killer Speech

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Apr 2021 10:00:00 +0000

We're all have to give a presentation at some point in our lives — on a stage, in a conference room, and, these days, on Zoom. So what makes a good speech? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Chris Anderson, the head of TED Talks and author of TED Talks: The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking. Chris gives us the inside scoop on the famous speaking series and breaks down some of the greatest speeches of all time. Then we present Chris with an unusual challenge from a 6th-grader named Lucy. She wrote in asking for help with a speech she is planning to give to her school board about improving her school. Can the head of TED help our 6th-grade listener with the biggest speech of her young life?

If you liked this episode, check out our episode featuring Guy Raz, the former host of TED Radio Hour: "How To Become Your Own Boss With Guy Raz."

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I Was Lost at Sea for 438 Days. Here's How I Survived.

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Apr 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Imagine you're floating in the middle of the Pacific Ocean on a boat the size of an SUV. You have no working electronics, no food or water, and only a styrofoam box to shade you from the sun. Your only companion is a 22-year-old who has little seafaring experience. How would you survive? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Jonathan Franklin, author of 438 Days, to tell us the incredible story of José Salvador Alvarenga, a shark fisherman who survived at sea for over 14 months. Jonathan says that Alvarenga was a pro at being resourceful—surviving on bird meat, shark livers, and sea turtle blood—but the real key to his survival was mental. For much of his journey, Alvarenga took care of his younger companion, Jonathan says, and it was this caregiving motivation more than anything else that kept Alvarenga alive.

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How To Fight Rattlesnakes and Polar Bears

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Apr 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Have you ever wondered how you'd fare in the wild? What you'd do when facing off against a rattlesnake or staring down a polar bear? On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, we dive into two extreme scenarios worthy of their own action movies. First, Kyle Dickman, author of On the Burning Edge and a former hotshot firefighter, opens up about the time he truly feared for his life—not when fighting wildfires, but when crossing paths with a rattlesnake on a family hike. Next, we'll bring on Jill Fredston, author of Snow Sense and Rowing to Latitude who has fought avalanches for decades only to realize the mountain doesn't care about our sense of self-confidence. Though their experiences may seem remote, they can teach all of us something about risk, luck, and how to coexist with nature.

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How To Write the Perfect Obituary

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Laura's dad lived an unusual life. He raised 12 children on a farm without running water in the Texas countryside while also programming his own website that connected families, for free, with help when they were going through difficult times. Ever since he passed away this January, Laura has been searching for a way to tell his story, hoping to ultimately post what she writes about her father on Facebook. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Glenn Rifkin, author of Future Forward and veteran obituary writer at the New York Times, to help Laura craft the perfect remembrance. A good place for Laura to start, Glenn says, is to interview the many members of her family, acting as a reporter to gather as many stories about her dad as she can.

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How To Make an Exit Like Mary Poppins

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 10:00:00 +0000

For years, Stella helped raise twin girls whom she loved deeply. She potty trained them, read bedtime stories and made sure they ate their veggies. But then, one day with little warning, she was asked to leave them. Stella isn't a parent—she's a nanny. And though it's been years, she's still heartbroken over being let go from her old job, especially the way it ended. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Tasha Blaine, author of Becoming a Social Worker and Just Like Family. Tasha spent years interviewing nannies for Just Like Family and she's here to help Stella process her loss. When you're getting paid to raise someone else's kids, how do you navigate that messy work-life divide? And for couples, how can you establish a better, more professional relationship with this "third parent"? Listen in for the secrets of a real-life Mary Poppins.

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How To Stop Snoring (And Breathe Easier)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Mar 2021 09:00:00 +0000

Andrew snores so badly that his cats won't sleep in the same room as him. He's desperate to sleep better at night, and breathe more easily during the day. As a trans man, Andrew spent most of his life training to be a soprano opera singer only to become a baritone when he transitioned in his early 20s. On this episode of How To!, we bring on James Nestor, author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, to share the history of why we breathe the way we do. Turns out being a "mouth-breather" is more than just an insult, it's harmful to our health. James gives Andrew some nasal breathing exercises to improve his snoring, anxiety, and overall wellness.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Sleep."

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How To Quiet the Chatter in Your Head

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Mar 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Emilia can't stop thinking about a long-ago love affair with Ivan, a man she met in Mexico in her early 20s and dated for several years. Now, a decade later, Emilia is newly married, but thoughts of her time with Ivan pop into her mind daily, a fact she's never shared with her husband. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Ethan Kross, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan and the author of Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters, and How To Harness It. Whether thinking about a past experience or worrying about the present, we all get stuck in negative cycles of thought, and Ethan has the tools to help us form a better relationship with our thoughts.

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How To Survive a Doomsday Cult

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Mar 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Michael grew up terrified that the world was going to end. This wasn't your typical childhood anxiety, but something he was taught while being raised in the Children of God cult. Michael left the cult years ago, but now in his 30s he's struggling to heal the scars it left on his parents and 11 siblings. How do you go on living when the world doesn't actually come to an end? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Rebecca Stott, author of In the Days of Rain, a memoir about her childhood in a cult called the Exclusive Brethren. "Whenever I have an interview like this, I can feel the frog in my throat," Rebecca tells us. "It's like there's something still censoring me...in my own head." Rebecca knows what it's like to feel ashamed of her childhood, but she's also learned to find what was useful in her experience and apply it to her life today. She says Michael can do the same thing by opening himself up to his loved ones and in future relationships.

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How To Fall Out of Love

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Feb 2021 11:00:00 +0000

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How To Start Over at 60

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Feb 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Age may just be a number but turning 60 is a big deal—at least, according to three listeners who recently wrote us about the challenges they're facing in their later years. Joy can't decide whether to retire from her job as a high school Spanish teacher. Doug is trying to figure out where to channel his energy after a career in the military. And Kim needs to find a way to support herself for the first time in her life after a devastating divorce. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Herminia Ibarra, a professor at the London Business School and author of Working Identity. Herminia has studied life transitions extensively, discovering that we make changes by running small experiments rather than taking one flying leap into the unknown. And since our identities are so closely linked to our professional life, Herminia says, it's important to surround yourself with new people as you conduct these experiments, testing out different possible selves and imagining what new identities may be out there for you, at any age.

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How To Leave the Church When Your Dad's the Pastor

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Feb 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Chris's childhood was defined by the Pentecostal church, where his father is a minister and his siblings are following the same path. But when Chris went to college, his views on the church changed, and now at age 23, he no longer identifies as religious. That's caused a major rift with his parents, and Chris can't stand the tension anymore. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Patricia Lockwood, a poet and writer who chronicled her own experience leaving the church in her memoir Priestdaddy. Raised in a strict Catholic family with a father for a priest (thanks to a rare loophole), Patricia thought she was done with religion by the time she was in her early 30s. But when an unexpected financial crisis prompted her and her husband to move back in with her parents, Patricia learned a new way to bridge the gap between them. Reflecting on your shared values, Patricia says, is key to connecting with your parents, even if you're still leaving their religion behind.

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How To Steal Back Your Identity

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Feb 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Ever since Casey's husband had his identity stolen, Casey hasn't been able to relax. She spends late nights and weekends obsessively checking their family bank accounts and scouring the web for information on the thieves who live just 15 minutes from her house. The police told Casey that an arrest is unlikely, so how can she find closure and move on with her life? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Abby Ellin, journalist and the author of Duped, who experienced a personal betrayal of her own—almost marrying a con man. Abby shares what she learned about getting over a breach of trust when there's no resolution in sight. The bottom line: You have to create your own kind of closure. Don't let the thief steal any more of your time.

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How To Be a Badass On and Off the Court

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Juliet knows she's one of the best tennis players in her community league, but whenever she gets on the court, she's paralyzed by self-consciousness. Did the crowd notice how bad that shot was? With all eyes on her, Juliet keeps bungling big points and losing matches she should win. On this episode of How To!, new host David Epstein brings on Sian Beilock, president of Barnard College and the author of Choke, to walk us through the science of why sometimes we play our worst when it matters the most. For Juliet to ace her game, Sian says, she needs to practice being self-conscious and then learn to push past it. It's all too common for women to shy away from natural competition for fear of "not being nice," but playing to win doesn't mean you have to be a jerk—advice that applies to Juliet's life off the court as well.

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How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 10:00:00 +0000

Samantha Power knows what it's like to arrive in Washington, D.C. and feel a little lost—literally. She once couldn't find the oval office. But more than that, as a Pulitzer Prize-winning human rights activist and former UN Ambassador under President Barack Obama, Samantha had to learn to balance her beliefs with actually getting things done. On this episode of How To!, Samantha, the author of The Education of an Idealist and President Joe Biden's pick for a post on the National Security Council, gives advice to new Congresswoman Marilyn Strickland, a Democrat from Washington. Marilyn has big plans for her first term in Washington, but isn't sure how to navigate this fraught period of American politics. In this conversation, the two women discuss how to stay true to your ideals and still make a difference, while sharing lessons in leadership that all of us can use.

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Our Favorite Advice of 2020

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we learned how to talk politics without wrecking relationships, lose weight and keep it off, confront a crazy neighbor, and even survive a shark attack. As 2020 draws to a close and we look ahead to the New Year, the How To! team comes together to round up our favorite advice of the year. We talk about how we applied that advice to our own lives, share some surprising updates from folks who were on the show, and give a behind-the-scenes look at how the podcast is made each week.

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How To Stress-Bake with Claire Saffitz

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Are you sick of sourdough? Stress-baking the same chocolate chip cookies every week? Our listener Daniel understands—he's been baking like crazy during this pandemic, but is feeling tired and uninspired lately. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Claire Saffitz, pastry chef, beloved host of Bon Appétit's "Gourmet Makes" series, and author of the new cookbook Dessert Person, to hack Daniel's kitchen pantry and find new ways to use familiar ingredients. As Claire and Daniel make miso buttermilk biscuits together over Zoom, Claire not only shares tips for all the amateur chefs out there, but also opens up about how baking helped her learn to manage her anxiety and adapt to difficult situations. These days, we need the biscuits and the lessons. Check out the full recipe.

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How To Get Your Dog to Stop Eating Your Daughters' Underwear With Jenny Slate

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Erin thinks her dog Chief has the most embarrassing habit—he keeps eating her daughters' underwear. This has happened several times, resulting in multiple costly surgeries. If she can't put a stop to it, it could eventually kill Chief. How can she get her dog to behave and, more importantly, get her teenage daughters to put their underwear in the hamper? On this episode of How To!, Jenny Slate, comedian, actress, and author of Little Weirds, opens up about the time her dog ate something he shouldn't have—and let's just say it's worse than underwear. But Jenny adores dogs and believes they have something important to teach us. You have to accept your loved ones' limitations, Jenny says, and when problems arise, tailor your solution to what suits them best—advice that applies to both dogs and teenagers.

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Bonus Ep - How To Get Out of Debt Faster Than You Think

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Fri, 11 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Irina and her husband are more than $100,000 in debt. They're working to pay it off, but between monthly credit card bills, student loan payments, 401k contributions and spending on their new baby, their money is spread too thin. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Rachel Cruze, a personal finance expert and author of Know Yourself, Know Your Money, to help Irina create a budget that she can actually follow. It will seem hard at first, Rachel says, but if you cut up your credit cards and pause your retirement investments, you can get out of debt much sooner.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Get That Promotion You Deserve."

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How To Face Your Fear of Dying

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Not Be Scared."

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How To Save Your Marriage

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Dec 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Lauren and Carlos are afraid their marriage is at a breaking point. With Carlos out of work, an active toddler to care for, and another child on the way, Lauren and Carlos are feeling pressures familiar to many newlyweds—and the pandemic has only made it worse. Can we help this couple find their way back to each other? On this episode of How To!, we bring on John and Julie Gottman, who are not only co-founders of The Gottman Institute and co-authors of Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, but also have been married to each other for more than three decades. They help Lauren and Carlos begin to heal their relationship with tips that can apply to all couples. For starters, you are not your partner's therapist, Julie says. Looking for patterns in their behavior will only drive you further away from understanding each other.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Tame a Chaotic Household."

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How To Rescue Someone From a Conspiracy Theory

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Matt's dad believes some crazy conspiracy theories—that the moon landing was faked, that JFK's assassination was an inside job, and that QAnon is real. Matt can't stand talking about politics—or really anything—with his dad these days, but he's desperate to preserve their relationship. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Colin Dickey, cultural historian and author of The Unidentified, to explain why conspiracy theories are more popular than ever. To get through to a loved one, Colin says, don't dismiss the conspiracy theory outright. If you want any hope of changing someone's mind you have to first understand the void that it may be filling in their life.

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How To Have an Open Relationship

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Nov 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Abe's girlfriend wants to try something different—sleeping with other people. In other words, she wants an open relationship. Abe could be on board, but he has some questions. How does that work exactly? What are the ground rules? And what if it ultimately causes them to break up? After all, they've been a couple for the better part of 10 years, and just moved back in together after some time apart. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Rich Juzwiak and Stoya, columnists for Slate's How To Do It sex advice column. Rich and Stoya have the expert tips—and the personal experience—to help Abe navigate this brave new world and decide whether an open relationship is right for him.

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How To Be the Next Erin Brockovich

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Nov 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Mike is an average guy on a mission to change the state of Florida—specifically, to convince the Fish and Wildlife Conservation Commission to stop overspraying the rivers and lakes with herbicides. As a fisherman, Mike cares deeply about the waterways in his state, but he's struggling to break into the conversation and make a real impact. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Erin Brockovich, the citizen activist and inspiration for the Oscar-winning film Erin Brockovich starring Julia Roberts. Drawing on her new book Superman's Not Coming, she has tips for how Mike can follow in her footsteps to enact environmental change. As much as Mike may want to keep shouting about his cause until someone listens, he may need to switch tactics to actually get people to hear him.

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How To End a Sibling Rivalry With Kate & Oliver Hudson

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Nov 2020 11:00:00 +0000

Sam and his sister used to be close, but lately their relationship feels strained. Years of favoritism toward Sam by their parents has taken its toll and now, after one disastrous family celebration, Sam worries he may lose his sister entirely. Can Sam save their relationship before it's too late? In this episode of How To!, we bring on a pair of famous siblings who have navigated everything from an estranged father to Hollywood drama: Kate and Oliver Hudson, actors and the hosts of Sibling Revelry. The Hudsons know how hard it can be to redefine your relationship in adulthood. To start, separate your own struggles from your sibling's and bring the focus back to your shared experience. You don't need to sort out a lifetime of baggage in one conversation, but try to remember the original bond you had as siblings growing up.

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How To Avoid Becoming Your Mother

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Oct 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Have you ever had a moment where you realized… I'm becoming like my parents? For many of us that can be a funny realization, but for Michelle it was a wakeup call. Her mother can be a bit of a drama queen, and as time has gone on, Michelle feels like the way she reacts to stressful situations mirrors that of her mother. In fact, Michelle's boyfriend once told her she was turning into her mother, which, according to Michelle, was "the worst thing anyone could ever say to me." In this episode of How To!, we bring on Susan David, a professor at Harvard Medical School, and the author of Emotional Agility. She has tips for how Michelle can recognize the patterns she's falling into and turn her emotional fragility into emotional agility.

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Bonus Ep - How To Get People to Vote

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Fri, 23 Oct 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Isabelle decided to spend her gap year as a political volunteer campaigning on behalf of Joe Biden. She's been writing postcards, making phone calls, and even posting on social media. But she worries she's not making enough of an impact, and is surprised by how many people are convinced their vote doesn't matter. In this special bonus episode of How To!, we bring on Don Green, professor of political science at Columbia and co-author of the book Get Out the Vote: How to Increase Voter Turnout. He recommends the most effective way to connect with potential voters and convince them to actually cast their ballot. It turns out yard signs are overrated.

If you liked this episode, check out "How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships."

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How To Survive a Public Shaming With Katie Hill

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Oct 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Back in 2018, newly elected U.S. Representative Katie Hill was a rising star in the Democratic Party. Then unauthorized nude photos of her were leaked to a right-wing blog by her estranged husband, triggering a House Ethics investigation. Katie denied the worst allegations but admitted to a relationship with a female subordinate on her campaign, and, amid immense pressure, resigned her seat. Since then she has written a new memoir She Will Rise, and continues to fight for her reputation. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Jon Ronson, the author of So You've Been Publicly Shamed, to help Katie understand what she went through and put it behind her. They discuss other examples of public shaming and how gender factors into the equation. Who determines the appropriate level of accountability and how do you know when you've apologized enough? No matter what happened, Jon says, we should all think twice before piling on to a public shaming.

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How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Oct 2020 10:00:00 +0000

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How To Lose Weight and Keep It Off

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Oct 2020 09:00:00 +0000

John needs to shed 15-20 pounds. At age 72, on the cusp of retirement, he wants to reduce his blood pressure medication and have more energy to travel. John knows how to lose weight—at an earlier point in his life he lost more than 50 pounds! But now he's gained much of it back, and with his wife baking him more sweets during the pandemic, he can't motivate himself to keep the weight off. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Katy Milkman, a behavioral economist at the University of Pennsylvania to help John try some new mental tricks to achieve his goals. Start by reengineering your environment, Katy says, then create a concrete plan with loved ones who can hold you accountable. John can use a turning point, like his impending retirement, to kickstart a new weight-loss regimen that sticks.

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How To Get Away With Murder

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Sep 2020 09:00:00 +0000

One day in 1987, a young girl in a small town in upstate New York disappeared and then turned up dead. For seven years her murder went unsolved, until police finally caught the killer, a local man whom everyone knew. The town would never be the same, according to our listener Jen who grew up there. She's a true crime fanatic and first-time podcaster who wants to investigate how the murderer got away with it for so long. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Jessica Garrison, a BuzzFeed News senior editor of investigations and author of the book The Devil's Harvest. She shares the story of a notorious California contract killer who got away with more than 30 murders over 3 decades before he was brought to justice. In order to understand how that could happen, Jessica says, you need to look at the victims, who are often powerless and overlooked by society because of their class, race or immigration status. The ways in which we tell their stories can have outsized consequences on the entire criminal justice system.

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How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Shayne defuses bombs for the military, but in his personal life he's terrified of confrontation. Take, for example, the time his kids' babysitter cleaned out a week's worth of groceries from his fridge and he never said anything. Shayne wants to be understanding and give people the benefit of the doubt, but he ends up feeling taken advantage of time and time again. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator and author of Never Split the Difference, to help Shayne stand up for himself. No matter how conflict-averse you are there are a few key ways you can persuade people to give you what you want—whether you're arguing at home with your spouse, trying to get a free upgrade at a hotel, or, in Chris's case, negotiating with terrorists. Empathy can be a powerful tool, Chris says, if you know how to use it.

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Cheat Sheet: How To Survive High School & Whatever Comes Next

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Sep 2020 09:00:00 +0000

College application season is here and Aria, a 17 year-old senior, is stressing—even more than usual. At her high school in Chicago's south suburbs, she gets good grades, is on the cheer team, in multiple honor societies, leads the choral ensemble, and hosts her own feminist podcast. But now that Aria's learning remotely during a pandemic, her anxiety is off the charts. How can she possibly choose a college, much less a career, amid such uncertainty? In this episode of How To!, we bring in Eve Ewing, a multi-talented poet, author, and sociologist, to help Aria work through her worries about the future. Like Aria, Eve spent time in Chicago-area public schools—first as a student and then, to her own surprise, as a teacher. Eve knows you can't plan your exact path from Point A to Z. Instead, just focus on taking the next best step forward, Eve says, and trust that when you do, you'll be getting that much closer to the person you're destined to become.

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Cheat Sheet: How To Talk to Your Son About Sex

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Sep 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Thirteen-year-old Henry seems like a model son. He gets good grades, plays on the hockey team, and has a solid group of friends. But Henry's been spending a lot more time on the Internet during the pandemic, and recently brought up something that troubled his parents—that a woman could ruin a man's career by accusing him of sexual harassment. Now his parents wonder what other forms of toxic masculinity Henry is learning online and in the locker room. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Peggy Orenstein, author of Boys & Sex, to share what she's learned about how to raise a boy into a modern man. When it comes to sex and consent, Peggy says, this shouldn't be one single talk. Instead, over the course of many conversations, help your kids understand that most media—and especially porn—does not portray sex realistically. Try to talk about intimacy in a positive way, rather than just warning your son what to avoid or how things can go wrong.

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Cheat Sheet: How To Ace Zoom School

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Sep 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Anna is sure the amount of time her two children spend on YouTube or Roblox cannot be good for them. With remote learning this fall, Anna is worried their addiction to screens is only going to worsen, stunting their imagination and exposing them to dangers online. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World, to help Anna figure out the most constructive ways to monitor and guide her children's screen time. The first step, Devorah says, is to realize not all screen time is created equal. Stop thinking of technology as the enemy. Instead, how can you help your kids translate their obsession with video games or social media into real-world skills?

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How To Become Your Own Boss with Guy Raz

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Aug 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Mitchell is a physical therapy student who dreams of revolutionizing the industry. What if physical therapists and their patients weren't so constrained by insurance companies? His classmates and professors think he's crazy, but Mitchell thinks disrupting the status quo could help a lot of people—if only he knew how to get started. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Guy Raz, the host of NPR's How I Built This and author of the new book of the same title, to share what he's learned from the hundreds of entrepreneurs who have come on his podcast. When calculating risk vs. reward, Guy says, think about the difference between something being scary vs. dangerous. It's scary to build a startup and potentially fail, but think how dangerous it would be to have a boring job always wondering "what if"?

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How To! Presents: "Cheat Sheet"

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Aug 2020 01:23:56 +0000

Expert tips for navigating a most unusual back-to-school season. A special three-part series coming September 1st!

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How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor with Tig Notaro

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Aug 2020 09:00:00 +0000

And a special birthday we'd like to celebrate...

It's been a year since we started solving guests' problems, and we recently called a few of them to see how their lives have changed since they came on the show. Check out our article "Can a Podcast Change Your Life?" to read some of the surprising and inspiring things that happened!

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How To Get That Promotion You Deserve

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Jul 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Johnny is worried about being stuck in the same job forever. He's been trying to climb the corporate ladder of his software company for years but has had little success. He knows he deserves a promotion, but he doesn't want to be pushy, especially during a pandemic. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Alex Carter, author of Ask for More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything, to help Johnny assert himself and convince his higher-ups that promoting him would, in fact, benefit everyone at the company. Getting what you want, Alex says, is not so much about pitching yourself the perfect way as it is about asking the right questions. This is a time for companies to spend every dollar wisely, so why not invest in a proven performer?

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How To Survive a Shark Attack

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Jul 2020 09:00:00 +0000

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Bonus Episode - 'Hello Monday' with Jessi Hempel

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Jul 2020 10:00:00 +0000

This bonus episode features Charles's recent appearance on the podcast Hello Monday, where host Jessi Hempel discusses the relationship between work and meaning. Charles tells the story of his experience attending Harvard Business School and all that followed after. It turns out that a paycheck - even a fat one - doesn't buy a meaningful life. Charles and Jessi dig deep on the perks and pitfalls of business school, point up the importance of perseverance, outline the space between a job description and the job itself, and challenge listeners to make meaning in any job.

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How To Write a Bestseller

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jun 2020 09:00:00 +0000

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How To Fight Racism in Your Town

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Chris has always considered himself "on the right side of things," but as Black Lives Matter protests sweep across the country, he's starting to realize he needs to do a lot more. As a white man living in Austin, Texas, he says he has a responsibility to educate himself and make real change—but where to start? On this episode of How To!, we bring in Ijeoma Oluo, author of So You Want to Talk About Race, to walk Chris through some tangible steps he can take to harness this moment. Start by opening your eyes to the systems of injustice at the local level, in your neighborhood or your school, that affect people of color. Then, Ijeoma says, add your voice to those organizations that have already thought long and hard about how to make them more fair and equitable. Chris has more power than he realizes, but it's crucial that he amplify Black-led efforts already in place in his community.

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How To Stand Up for Your Kid When Society Won't

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 09:00:00 +0000

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How To Walk Away from an Impossible Parent

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 9 Jun 2020 09:00:00 +0000

When Sydney's dad texted her, "Do me a favor and lose my number," she was crushed. At 27, Sydney has always had a rocky relationship with her dad, but she held out hope he could still be a part of her life. Now she's starting to think it's a lost cause. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Joshua Coleman, a psychologist and author of the upcoming book Rules of Estrangement, who had his own yearslong standoff with his daughter. Before Sydney figures out if she should reconcile with her dad, Josh says, she has to stop internalizing how he treats her. It's the parent's job to be mature and if they can't do that, you shouldn't beat yourself up over their failings. In the end, the best thing may be to just move on without them.

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How To Find a New Career Before it's Too Late

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 2 Jun 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Donny is ready to leave the restaurant industry once and for all. As a recovering alcoholic, he was already looking for a new career before COVID-19 upended his life. But at 38 years old, Donny has held 30 different jobs, and without a bachelor's degree, he worries that he doesn't have what employers are looking for. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Jessi Hempel, host of the LinkedIn podcast Hello Monday, to help Donny kickstart a new career...during a pandemic. According to Jessi, now is actually a great time to do informational interviews—virtually, if necessary—to expand your network and broaden your horizons. She says it's important to realize that experience comes in many forms. People skills, not perfect resumes, can ultimately help you get hired.

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How To Get a Stubborn Parent to Listen

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 May 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Alan's 86-year-old dad will not stop driving—even after an incident where he drove off the road and totaled his car. Feeling guilty and worried, Alan has tried to convince his dad to hand over the keys, even enlisting the support of his father's doctor, but everything Alan does seems to backfire. In this episode of How To!, Saturday Night Live comedian Jim Breuer shares his own experience dealing with a curmudgeonly father as chronicled in the documentary More Than Me. Jim says to reach an aging parent who is set in their ways, don't try to replace them as the parent. Instead, realize they're facing their own mortality and give them a sense of control. Let your dad be a dad, then ask for some fatherly advice: "What would you do if you were me?"

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How To Say the Right Thing at the Worst Time

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 May 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Ann's sister just lost her husband and Ann doesn't know how to console her. Ann lives in a different state and, having experienced loss herself, knows saying the wrong thing can only add to the hurt. What can Ann do from a distance to make her sister feel better? In this episode of How To!, Megan Devine, a psychotherapist and author of It's OK That You're Not OK, says first of all don't try to cheer them up. Simply acknowledge their pain. Megan learned this the hard way after the sudden loss of her partner in a tragic accident. The classic five stages of grief are problematic, Megan says, because grief doesn't progress in an orderly fashion. To help a loved one, don't put the burden on them to figure out how you can help. Instead, anticipate and act on what they need to get by day-to-day.

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How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 May 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Ashley thought by now she'd be on top of the world. Once severely overweight, Ashley lost 155 pounds and recently ran her first half-marathon. But when she looks in the mirror all she sees are the imperfections. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Brittany O'Neill, the real-life inspiration for the hit movie Brittany Runs a Marathon. Having undergone a major transformation herself, Brittany knows what it's like to feel unhappy after you've crossed the finish line. Constant self-improvement doesn't necessarily lead to self-acceptance, Brittany says. Instead, learn to view yourself through your loved ones' eyes—even say their praises aloud—and soon, you'll see what they see.

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How To Talk to Strangers

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 May 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Every other Friday, Amy's calendar reminds her to make the rounds of her office and say "hello" to her colleagues. As an introvert, Amy deeply struggles with small talk, but as a manager of 55 people she's been told she needs to be more approachable. In this episode of How To!, Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking, helps Amy learn how to use her reserved nature to her advantage. Whether you're anxious about networking at conferences or wondering how to talk to your neighbors—from six feet away—Susan has some tips for how all of us can have better conversations. It takes practice, Susan says, so don't be afraid to have a few opening lines in your back pocket.

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How To Actually Enjoy Working from Home

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Apr 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Joanna really misses her office. Taking Zoom calls from the kitchen in her dimly lit Brooklyn apartment doesn't compare to her bright, open office filled with friendly co-workers. In this episode of How To!, Ben Waber, an organizational scientist, co-founder of Humanyze, and author of People Analytics, tells us how to use our home office to our advantage. It's easy to spend all day chained to your computer, but Ben says we need to find ways to take breaks and foster human interaction. After all, chats around the water cooler—or virtual coffee dates—actually boost productivity. And if you're Joanna, a midday bath might be where you come up with your best ideas.

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How To Save the Planet (And Still Use a Plastic Straw)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Caleb tries to be good to the planet by recycling, biking to work and living a minimalist lifestyle in his small Ohio town. But he still feels guilty about using disposable diapers and buying a minivan for his growing family. How can he fight climate change without driving himself crazy? In this episode of How To!, Emma Marris, an environmental writer and author of Rambunctious Garden, warns us not to fall into the trap of individual guilt. In other words, don't feel too bad about using that plastic straw. Emma says that plays into the hands of the fossil fuel industry. Instead, reallocate your time and energy toward collective action that works to make large-scale systems more eco-friendly.

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How To Stop Procrastinating

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Apr 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Marie trains dogs for a living, but she's struggling to teach herself a new trick—overcoming procrastination. For a year, she's been ready to launch a new dog training app....just as soon as she makes the training videos for it. The delay is hurting business so why can't she cross this task off her to-do list? In this episode of How To!, Dan Ariely, professor at Duke University and author of Predictably Irrational, shares some procrastination tips that got him through a tough time in his own life. When a difficult task looms in front of you, Dan says, reward yourself for the effort, not the outcome. Otherwise, you may never get started.

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Quarantine Q&A: Masks

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Apr 2020 09:00:00 +0000

Margit from Denver, Colorado writes in with a question about how to encourage people to wear masks to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. Charles offers advice on how to incentivize people to form new habits, and draws lessons from past efforts to change behavior during World War II.

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How To Tame a Chaotic Household

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Mar 2020 09:30:00 +0000

Sarah feels like she's drowning in the clutter of her tiny Brooklyn apartment where she lives with a messy husband and two-year-old daughter. Now that her family is under quarantine together, the chaos seems destined to only get worse. In this episode of How To!, Bruce Feiler, author of The Secrets of Happy Families, drops by to give Sarah a home makeover. But Bruce has more than a Marie Kondo-style cleanup in mind. Instead, he suggests that Sarah first declutter her mind and then call a family meeting to reorganize responsibilities.

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How To Not Go Crazy Under Quarantine

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Mar 2020 09:00:00 +0000

This week, we're struggling with the same problem as our listeners: self-quarantine. As news of the coronavirus pandemic intensifies, how do we stay sane while staying home? How do we reduce stress and remain healthy while juggling remote work and rambunctious kids? In this episode of How To!, we bring in Celeste Headlee, author of Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving. Long before the pandemic, Headlee spent a lot of time thinking about how to slow down while practicing her own kind of social distancing—in her case from a hectic life and career. Headlee's first tip? Pick up the phone and call someone. "It can't be underestimated how powerful the voice is," she says. "It gives you a feeling of belonging…the most important need that a human being has after survival."

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How To Forgive the Unforgivable

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Mar 2020 10:34:16 +0000

For years Claire has been holding on to a terrible family secret: Her mom physically abused Claire's brother when he was young. How could her mom have done that? Now, over a decade later, both Claire's mother and brother have passed away, but Claire still grapples daily with feelings of anger and deep resentment toward her mom. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Reverend Mpho Tutu van Furth, the daughter of Archbishop Desmond Tutu and author of The Book of Forgiving. Mpho struggled with forgiveness herself after experiencing an awful tragedy in her South African home. The first step to forgiveness, Mpho says, is telling the story of the hurt—whether that means writing it down or, in Claire's case, coming on a podcast.

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How To Find Your First Kiss at 38

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Mar 2020 10:52:51 +0000

Sharon is 38 and never been kissed. This, as she acknowledges, is "a bit weird." As a nurse who loves ballroom dancing, Sharon is smart, funny, and attractive. At the same time, she's deeply religious and has been waiting so long for the perfect man she worries that she'll never find "The One." In this episode of How To!, we bring in one of New York City's finest matchmakers, Lisa Clampitt, for some tough love. Lisa believes Sharon has a lot going for her, but in order to find her first kiss she needs to go on a lot more second dates. This is no fairytale, but sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.

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How To Get Your Mom to Accept You

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Mar 2020 10:00:00 +0000

When Hema first realized she was gay a few years ago after immigrating to the U.S., she knew she had to tell her mom. But the conversation didn't go well. Hema's mom lives in India and is convinced being gay is a Western phenomenon. So how does Hema help her mom accept her for who she is? In this episode of How To!, we bring in Sonali Gulati, a professor, filmmaker and queer rights activist who made a documentary about the parents of LGBTQ people in India. Drawing from her own personal experience, Sonali helps Hema figure out the best way to frame the conversation with her mom. One tip? Speak your parents' language to explain how your life fits their definition of success.

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How To Vote for the Next President

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Anthony is that rarest of things in American politics—a swing voter who is up for grabs in 2020. Caught between his Republican voting history and his current dislike of President Trump, Anthony is now registered as an Independent. But does he follow his head or his heart? In this episode of How To!, we bring in veteran political advisors David Axelrod, chief strategist for Barack Obama's presidential campaigns, and Mike Murphy, a Republican consultant, who co-host the podcast Hacks on Tap. David and Mike discuss how to weigh ideology vs. electability and rank the issues that really matter. Can their advice help Anthony—and all of us—make sure our vote counts?

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How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song with Ben Folds

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 18 Feb 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Lorenzo is a dental student with big dreams—of becoming a rock star. Lorenzo plays a mean guitar at open mic night, but there's one thing holding him back: He doesn't know how to write his own songs. In this episode of How To!, we bring in master songwriter Ben Folds, former frontman of Ben Folds Five, and author of A Dream About Lightning Bugs: A Life of Music and Cheap Lessons. Many of those lessons are about how anyone can unlock their creativity. Ben breaks down his own music, and tinkers with Lorenzo's attempt at writing a break-up song. He tells him to embrace cliché, then slip in something unexpected. Also, switch the first lyric with the second. Will it work?

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How To Convince People to Give You Money

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Shannon runs a nonprofit in Aspen, Colorado — a place filled with wealthy donors, but also stiff competition. With nearly 500 nonprofits vying for money, how does Shannon help her organization stick out? Some of the best advice may come from an unlikely source: con artists. In this episode of How To!, Maria Konnikova, author of The Confidence Game, shares con artists' surprisingly similar tricks of the trade: Identify your mark, listen carefully, then tell them a story they want to hear. Can Shannon use these same techniques for a good cause?

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How To Protect Yourself Against the Coronavirus

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 4 Feb 2020 10:00:00 +0000

The coronavirus outbreak in China is causing panic worldwide. The World Health Organization has declared it a global health emergency and all we hear about are doubling infection rates, massive quarantines, and drugstores running out of masks. In this episode of How To!, we ask Dr. Elisabeth Rosenthal, former New York Times reporter and author of An American Sickness, how she and her family survived the previous SARS epidemic in Beijing. We also revisit our conversation with Dr. Tom Inglesby, Director of the Johns Hopkins Center for Health Security, about what to do—and what not to do—if the coronavirus becomes a full-blown pandemic and spreads to where you live.

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How To Put Your Wife's Career First

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 28 Jan 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Andy would do anything for his girlfriend Cassie. Well, almost anything. As Cassie looks to move away for vet school, Andy has to decide if he's going with her, leaving his job, family and friends, and two bands behind in Austin, TX. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Rachel Hollis, author of Girl, Wash Your Face and her husband Dave, author of Get Out of Your Own Way. The Hollises have a lot of experience navigating this question, because for most of their marriage, Dave's job as a Disney executive took priority—until he quit to support Rachel's career. He tells Andy the first step in making this decision is to treat it like a choice, not an obligation.

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How To Kick a Meth Habit

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 21 Jan 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Jason has been addicted to meth for the past 15 years, which is not uncommon in his small Illinois town. Every time Jason stopped using he would relapse, until last year when the state took custody of his two kids. Since then he's sobered up, but is worried about making it last. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Fred Muench, a clinical psychologist and recovering heroin addict who is now the president of Center on Addiction/Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. Muench knows how hard it is to beat the stigma of addiction. To convince people he's changed, Fred says, Jason must first convince himself.

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How To Rob a Bank

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 14 Jan 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Joe Loya robbed over 30 banks during an 18-month span before going to jail. Charles wants to rob one bank on a Saturday afternoon, and get away scot-free. Can Joe teach Charles the tricks of the trade? Or will he shatter his dreams, and a few stereotypes along the way? Also, is it a good idea to carry a microphone while attempting a robbery?

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This episode originally aired July 30, 2019.

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How To Propose (to a Man)

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 7 Jan 2020 10:00:00 +0000

Once upon a time, Ashley met a man and fell in love. Now, she's ready to get down on one knee and pop the question. But with so few women proposing to men, she's not sure how to go about it. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Caroline Kitchener, staff writer for The Washington Post's The Lily, to share her own unlikely proposal story. She tells Ashley not to worry about stealing a man's thunder. As for planning the perfect engagement, forget flash mobs and diamond rings — Kitchener says a relationship contract is the first step for a successful marriage.

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How To Make Your New Year's Resolutions Stick

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 31 Dec 2019 10:00:00 +0000

How To! gave dozens of people advice this year about solving their problems. Now, we track a few of them down to see how our experts' suggestions transformed their lives. We follow up with an actor trying to get buff to play a superhero, a bachelor hoping to cook one perfect meal, a therapist who can't fall asleep, an American expat who can't decide where to live and a former cop who suffers anxiety attacks. We discover a bunch of useful tips for achieving change that sticks — just in time for 2020.

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How To Give a REALLY Big Gift

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Dec 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Mary's mother needs a new kidney — as long as it doesn't come from Mary. What's a daughter to do? In this episode of How To!, Mary hears from Larissa MacFarquhar, author of a book on extreme altruism, to learn how to convince ourselves — and others — to do the most generous things.

(This episode originally aired on July 30, 2019)

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How To Remember Everything

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Dec 2019 10:52:54 +0000

Jessica is only 26, but says her memory is 'worse than my mother's.' She forgets friends' birthdays, important details at work and worries that life is passing her by. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Joshua Foer, a former U.S.A. Memory Champion who wrote Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything, to help Jessica train her brain. Josh says you don't have to be a memory champion to have a superhuman ability to remember — you just have to pay attention and let your imagination run wild (the raunchier the better).

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How To Sleep

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Dec 2019 10:46:26 +0000

Ben aka 'Sleepless in San Francisco' hasn't been able to get a good night's rest for over a decade. He's tried noise machines, medication, vodka, even eating cheese -- but nothing has worked. It's harming his health, his career and his dating life. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Andy Puddicombe, a former Buddhist monk and co-founder of the meditation app Headspace, to help Ben hit the hay. Andy's first tip to get more sleep at night? Start with ten minutes of meditation in the morning.

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How To Get Your Kid To Finally Grow Up

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Dec 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Owen is about to graduate from high school and has no idea what he wants to do next. Owen doesn't seem worried, but his mom, Lisa, is freaking out. In this episode of How To!, we get help from Julie Lythcott-Haims, former Stanford dean and author of How to Raise an Adult. Julie regrets dragging her own son off to college before he was ready. Pushing your child into adulthood, she says, means asking the right questions — and then getting out of the way.

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How To Cook One Perfect Meal

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 26 Nov 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Jonny is a 26-year-old bachelor whose cooking often leads to heartache (and for one ex-girlfriend, a stomachache). Jonny admits he's a klutz in the kitchen, so we hooked him up with Sam Sifton, cookbook raconteur and head of the New York Times' Cooking section, to see if we can teach our lovelorn millennial to cook one perfect meal. Is romantic bliss just a well-browned chicken thigh away?

(This episode first aired on August 13, 2019)

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How To Win At Online Dating

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 19 Nov 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Traci is a single, professional woman looking for love. She builds furniture in her spare time, enjoys dancing and can't believe she has to devote an hour each day to swiping through photos and sending flirty texts. Traci's quest for romance is made harder by the fact that, as a black woman, she has to put up with more nonsense than usual. In this episode of How To! we ask Thirst Aid Kit hosts Nichole Perkins and Bim Adewunmi to share their insights on modern desire. They revamp Traci's profile, swap stories and share tips about how to thrive at online dating.

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How To Perform Under Pressure

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Mike's dream job of playing bass in a Chicago orchestra is within reach — if only he can conquer his nerves and master the audition. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Dr. Don Greene, a peak performance psychologist who's worked with Wall Street traders and Olympic athletes, to see if he can help Mike perform his best under the spotlight. The secret? Jumping jacks, extra sleep, and watching reruns of The Office.

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How To Withstand Pain

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 5 Nov 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Sophie is a typical mom … who runs ultramarathons in her spare time. She's pretty tough but an upcoming 268-mile race across the loneliest parts of England is freaking her out. So we turned to Wim Hof, aka "The Iceman" for advice. Because when you are worried about pain, you should definitely consult a Dutch extreme athlete who sits in freezing water for fun. (Really!)

(This episode first aired on July 30, 2019)

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How To Not Be Scared

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 29 Oct 2019 09:00:00 +0000

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How To Fire Your Daughter

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 22 Oct 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Kyle wants to sell his 50-year old family insurance business so he can finally retire. But a troublesome employee is holding him back: his daughter. In this episode of How To!, Harvard Business School professor Christina Wing tries to help Kyle figure out how to sell his company without sabotaging their relationship. But if you have to fire your daughter, is it ever strictly business?

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How To Put Down Your Phone

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 09:00:00 +0000

How many times have you looked at your phone so far today? Do you feel like you're choosing to look, or automatically craving it when you ought to be enjoying life? In this episode of How To! we get advice from Jia Tolentino, New Yorker writer and author of Trick Mirror, who spends hours on the phone every day for her job. And Cal Newport, author of Digital Minimalism, whose 30-day 'digital declutter' helps us think more deeply, be more present, and control our devices so they don't control us.

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How To Be Funny

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 8 Oct 2019 09:00:00 +0000

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? A pastor from Oklahoma wants to spice up his sermons from the pulpit. So we introduce him to Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian who makes jokes about his clinical depression in the new HBO comedy special The Great Depresh. The lesson? "Man plans, and God laughs." But only if you nail the delivery.

(This episode first aired on July 30, 2019)

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How To Decide To Have a Baby

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 1 Oct 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Megan is 35 years old, a lawyer, happily married — and suddenly not sure if she wants to be a mom. She always figured one day the maternal urge would kick in, but so far she's only felt ambivalence. Does that mean that she shouldn't have a baby? We asked Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, how she juggled this question. She tells us the secret to approaching situations where there is no going back, and how regret — regardless of what we choose — is always part of the equation.

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How To Go On a Family Adventure

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 24 Sep 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Can a family travel around the world for a year without killing each other? Dan Kois spent a year in New Zealand, The Netherlands, Costa Rica and Kansas with his wife Alia and their two young daughters, learning how other cultures parent. The result is How to Be A Family: The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World. What's the secret to traveling together for that long? And what do you do when everyone is tired and whiny and wants to go home?

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How To Look Like a Superhero

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:30:00 +0000

How did Ryan Reynolds and Hugh Jackman get so buff to play Deadpool and Wolverine? An up-and-coming Hollywood actor wants to know so he can land his own superhero role. We turn to Reynolds' and Jackman's trainer, Don Saladino, who says the key to six-pack abs and bulging biceps is not what you think. In fact, it's something we can all do.

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How To Stress Your Kid the Right Way

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 10 Sep 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Is there a right way to let kids struggle and fail? How do you raise resilient children? And most important, when should you help out, and when should you chill out? We ask Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee to advise a Portland, Oregon couple who worry about their son getting wet in a squirt gun fight.

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How To Survive a Pandemic

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 3 Sep 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Have you ever wondered how you would fare in the apocalypse? Perhaps you have envisioned yourself, shotgun loaded, prepared to mete out kindhearted justice and tough-love defense in equal measure. It turns out, though, that when the next pandemic comes, it might not be exactly like the movies. We get tips from a public health expert at Johns Hopkins — and a member of the Zombie Squad. Their advice isn't quite the same.

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How To Stop Being Anxious

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Matt has anxiety attacks. Every day. When he gets too many texts, when he starts worrying about his family, when the unexpected occurs: that's when the sweat starts and his mind begins racing. He's a strong guy — he was a cop — but he thinks today's problem is connected to a tragic event in the past, and he doesn't know what to do. We introduce him to Dr. Ben Michaelis, a clinical psychologist and habit expert, to help Matt figure out what's triggering his anxiety attacks and how he can get back control over his head — and his life.

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How To Uproot Your Life

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 09:49:17 +0000

A decade after Elizabeth's family left the U.S. to live in Portugal, they're wondering if it's time to move back. So, we turn to professional poker player, Annie Duke, who treats every decision like it's a bet. She says think of each choice as a wager on your future self. But how do you go all in when you're uncertain about the odds?

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How To Cook One Perfect Meal

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 13 Aug 2019 11:06:58 +0000

Jonny is a 26 year-old bachelor whose cooking often leads to heartache (and for one ex-girlfriend, a stomach ache). Jonny admits he's a klutz in the kitchen, so we hooked him up with Sam Sifton, cookbook raconteur and head of the New York Times's Cooking section, to see if we can teach our love-lorn Millennial to cook one perfect meal. Is romantic bliss just a well-browned chicken thigh away? (Recipe included!)

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How To Fire a Bad Employee

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 6 Aug 2019 09:00:00 +0000

Gabe wants to fire a bad employee, but still be a good boss. We turn to Stanford professor of management science, Bob Sutton (The No Asshole Rule and Good Boss, Bad Boss) for help. First, Sutton says, Gabe has to act like a boss, not a friend. Then he should write a letter, focus on compassion and hide the box of tissues.

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How To Withstand Pain

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Wed, 31 Jul 2019 03:24:27 +0000

Sophie Power once breastfed her newborn during an ultramarathon, but an upcoming 268-mile race across a remote stretch of Great Britain is freaking her out. We turn to Wim Hof, aka "The Iceman," for advice. Because when you are worried about pain, you should definitely consult a Dutch extreme athlete who sits in freezing water for fun. (Really!)

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How To Rob a Bank

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 10:00:00 +0000

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How To Be Funny

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 10:00:00 +0000

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? A pastor from Oklahoma wants to spice up his sermons. So we introduce him to Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian who makes jokes about his clinical depression. The lesson? "Man plans, and God laughs." But only if you nail the delivery.

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How To Give Your Mom a Kidney

michelle@mikepesca.com (Slate Podcasts) — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 10:00:00 +0000

Mary's mother needs a new kidney — as long as it doesn't come from Mary. What's a good daughter to do? With the clock ticking, Mary hears from Larissa MacFarquhar, author of a book on extreme altruism, to learn how to convince ourselves — and others — to do the most generous things.

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