→ The reframe that changes everything: stop saying you "lost" someone—they're not lost, they're on the other side of a very thin veil, still here, still sending signs (and once you start looking, you'll see them everywhere)

→ Why kids are naturally more connected to the other side than adults—and how honest conversations about death (even when we're crying and fumbling through it) prevent the fear of the unknown from taking root the way it did for Jenny as a child

→ The signs Jenny's mom sends: owls, ladybugs, rainbows appearing out of nowhere—and the Costco parking lot story where a stranger tapped Jenny's shoulder to tell her about a ladybug on her back right when she needed her mom most

→ Why grief isn't linear (it comes in waves, and that's okay) and how riding the wave instead of resisting it opens you up to healing and creativity you didn't know you needed—plus the power of sign tracking (the more you pay attention, the more signs show up)

→ The mistake parents make when trying to "perform" the right answer instead of being honest—kids end up carrying the burden alone because they think bringing it up hurts us, so they stop talking about it

Resources & Links:

Connect with Jenny Robinson Clark:

→ Website: www.jennyrobinsonclark.com

→ Instagram: @jennyrobinsonclark

→ Book: Are You Here? (available wherever books are sold and on Jenny's website)

Bio:

Jenny Robinson Clark makes her author debut with Are You Here?, a heartfelt children's book about the magical signs all around us, releasing March 17, 2026. She lives in Nashville with her husband and their four children. A former dancer and actress, Jenny has always been a creative at heart. When she's not writing, she's homeschooling and baking with her kids, taking hip-hop class with her husband, and exploring the outdoors. She believes that when you open your heart, ask for a sign, and are willing to receive, loved ones send messages in the most unexpected ways.

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynn Jackson

→ The Source: The Secrets of the Universe, the Science of the Brain by Tara Swart (neuroscientist's perspective on signs, intuition, and connection after loss)

→ A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

→ Maybe: A Story About the Endless Potential in All of Us by Kobi Yamada (the book gifted to Jenny at the Dr. Joe Dispenza retreat)

→ Dr. Joe Dispenza retreats (linking spirituality and science)

→ Bashar (B-A-S-H-A-R on Instagram) - teachings on reframing "loss"

→ Sign tracking practice: using your phone's notes app to document synchronicities, signs, and moments of connection

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent navigating grief with their kids, a mom who lost a parent and doesn't know how to talk about it, or anyone struggling with loss and looking for signs their loved one is still near.

Because here's the truth: death isn't the end. It's just different. Our loved ones are still here, still sending love, still guiding us. We just have to stay open enough to see the signs.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ What stretching is—and why intentionally letting kids struggle through slightly uncomfortable situations builds resilience, frustration tolerance, and confidence (the opposite of helicopter parenting or overprotective parenting)

→ The critical question to ask when kids engage in undesired behavior (transition tantrums, meltdowns, refusal): what skill are they missing that would reduce this behavior's frequency or intensity?

→ How scaffolding works in real life: meeting kids where they are (the task feels too hard, they're overwhelmed) while still stretching them toward mastery—with examples from speech therapy sessions and everyday moments like zipping a coat or handling sibling conflict

→ Why letting kids struggle through hard things without rescuing them is one of the most loving things you can do—and how to support them without fixing it or taking the discomfort away

→ The real-life coaching example: a child making unsafe choices at school and using manipulation ("you're not listening to me!") to avoid consequences—and why the parents had to hold the boundary even when the child was upset, because stretch moments teach kids they have the power to make good choices no matter their environment

→ How to stretch yourself as an adult if you're a people-pleaser or overgiver: setting boundaries with loved ones without over-explaining, saying no without guilt, negotiating your worth, and getting comfortable being uncomfortable—because staying small to keep others comfortable is exhausting

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Scaffolding: meeting kids where they are developmentally while stretching them toward growth and skill-building

→ Life coaching with Albiona (focused on unblocking patterns, setting boundaries, and building resilience for parents and individuals)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching - Parent or Life Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Follow Albiona on TikTok - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly rescuing their kids from discomfort, a helicopter parent ready to let their child struggle and grow, a people-pleaser who can't say no without guilt, or anyone ready to stop staying small and start stretching into growth.

Because the truth is: resilience isn't built in the easy moments. It's built when things feel hard and we do them anyway—and then we realize we're stronger than we thought. And our kids? They're stronger than we give them credit for.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ What compensatory parenting is—and why disagreements about parenting styles push you into more extreme versions of yourself (the permissive parent becomes too passive, the harsh parent becomes too critical and controlling)

→ The real-life example: one parent over-explains, talks too much, and eventually gives in when kids protest; the other explodes with punishments that don't fit the crime—and neither is actually responding to what the child needs

→ The simple 3-step framework that works for both parenting styles: state the boundary clearly, express empathy without over-explaining, restate the boundary—then allow the child space to self-regulate

→ How to talk to your partner about co-parenting disagreements without it turning into a fight: come from a place of connection, not correction—stay child-focused, remain open, and ask "where can I give a little and where do you need to give a little?"

→ Why the more consistent and predictable your responses are as a team, the safer your child feels—and how getting on the same page transforms not just your parenting, but your partnership and your home

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step regulation process for managing parenting disagreements)

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (the reset/break concept for helping kids self-regulate)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's constantly butting heads with their partner about how to handle meltdowns, a couple stuck in the good cop/bad cop cycle, or anyone who feels like they're parenting alone even when their spouse or partner is right there.

Because the truth is: you don't have to parent the exact same way. You just have to stop compensating for each other and start focusing on what your child actually needs. And when you do that—when you parent as a team instead of against each other—everything shifts.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate

→ The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it)

→ Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and why taking away quality time when teens struggle backfires completely

→ How boundaries actually work with strong-willed teens: you can't control what they do, but you CAN control what you do—and that's where your real power lives

→ Why letting them make mistakes (even when you're terrified) builds trust and safety—because the tighter you hold on, the less you're actually able to protect them from poor choices, risky behavior, or shutting you out completely

This episode will challenge every assumption you have about what it means to parent difficult teenagers—and give you the tools to build the kind of relationship where they actually come to you when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell:

→ Website: www.askdrcam.com

→ Instagram: @drcamcaswell (275K+ parent community)

→ Podcast: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam - https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast

→ Parenting Teens Academy (programs and courses for parents) - https://www.askdrcam.com/offers/4LbJPqXt/checkout

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (Albiona's 4-step process)

→ Dr. Will Dobadan's book Kids These Days

→ Dr. Lisa Miller's book The Awakened Brain

→ Kirk Martin (previous guest on The Parenting Reframe)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a defiant teen, a mom who feels like she's losing her kid to attitude and shut-downs, or anyone who's been told their teenager is "just going through a phase" and needs real tools instead of empty reassurance.

Because the truth is: teens aren't the problem. Our outdated beliefs about what they need from us are. And when we shift how we see them, everything changes.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)

→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work

→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding your feet, cold water on your hands, ice cubes

→ The PARR framework mapped to regulation: Pause and Acknowledge are nervous system work, Respond and Reflect are emotion regulation work

→ Why kids regulate faster when we stay steady—they need to see the boundary held consistently to feel safe, and our calm nervous system teaches theirs how to co-regulate

This episode is packed with actionable strategies, real examples, and the kind of clarity that makes you think, "Oh, THAT'S why nothing else was working."

Resources & Links:

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ The Bundle: Four most popular courses (Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time, Tackling Tantrums Masterclass, How to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Kids, Managing Your Reactions) + brand new bonuses including scripts for emotional dysregulation - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/albiona-the-bundle

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ The mantra: "I am safe and so are they"

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

→ Email Albiona: albiona@theparentingreframe.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who's struggling with reactivity, a mom who keeps losing it in the moment, or anyone who wants to understand why they can't seem to access the "right" parenting response when they need it most.

Because the truth is: you can't think your way out of a nervous system response. You have to regulate your body first—and then everything else becomes possible.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity

→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)

→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments

→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)

→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connection

This episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Mary Van Geffen:

→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook

→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)

→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso 

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")

→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)

→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)

→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)

→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.

Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love

→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)

→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead

→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough

→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?

Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.

This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.

If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.

We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"

→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life

→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth

→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not"

→ How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them

→ The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last"

→ Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be)

→ What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission)

→ How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves

→ The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values

→ Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work

→ How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters)

→ The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable

Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles.

This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons:

→ Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com

→ Instagram: @rewritethemothercode

→ Instagram: @drgertrudelyons

→ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rewritethemothercode

→ Book: Decoding the Mother Code (available wherever books are sold, including audiobook)

→ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ9ZF8JKIDY

→ Substack: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://gertrudelyons.substack.com/) 

→ Podcast: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast) 

→ Oprah Daily Article by Kristen McGinnis: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/wholeness/a68888423/self-mothering-reparenting/

→ Complimentary 30-Minute Coaching Discovery Call (for listeners): https://calendly.com/drgertrudelyons/complimentary-free-coaching-session

Mentioned in This Episode:

→ Nicole Sachs's work on nervous system regulation and pain

→ Dr. Lyons's immersive experiences and retreats in Mexico and Ireland

Connect with Albiona:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a mom who's struggling to prioritize herself, a woman who's questioning her choices, or anyone learning to mother themselves first.
 

We're all unlearning the codes we inherited and discovering what it means to truly care for ourselves—so we can show up whole for everything and everyone we love.

Until next time,

Albiona 🤎

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→ Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work

→ The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself"

→ How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse")

→ Why trusting your intuition is a skill you can develop—and how it's helped Judith make decisions for 30 years

→ The Kitchen Sink Story: How being baptized over a kitchen sink on a farm led to making Pope Francis laugh

→ What it means to be a "doula for stories"—and how publishing mirrors the parenting process

→ Why releasing attachment to outcome is essential (and how to celebrate milestones along the way)

→ The village it takes to publish a book—and raise a child

→ How to hold the tension between mystery and structure, passion and pragmatism

→ Why aunts and mentors matter more than we celebrate them

→ The physical nature of intuition: goosebumps, tingles, and the 39 senses we forget we have

Judith also shares the six questions every HarperOne editor must answer before acquiring a book, her approach to "publishing for the world we want to live in," and why she paints calming animal pictures for mental health on Instagram.

This episode is for you if you're nurturing any kind of creative work—whether that's raising children, building a business, writing a book, or bringing any passion project to life. It's about permission, intuition, structure, and the art of parenting what matters most into the world.

Resources & Links:

Connect with Judith: 

→ Instagram: @judithcurr (calming animal art + occasional publishing news) 

→ HarperOne: @harperonebooks 

→ HarperCollins: www.harpercollins.com

Mentioned in This Episode: 

→ Girls Write Now: www.girlswritenow.org (mentoring organization for young writers) 

→ Pope Francis's upcoming book: Peace Be With You (February 2026) 

→ The Source by Dr. Tara Swart 

→ The Secret by Rhonda Byrne 

→ The Gut by Julia Enders 

→ Breast Advice by Dr. Liza Port

Connect with Albiona: 

→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching 

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe 

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's nurturing a creative project, raising kids, or learning to trust their intuition in business and life.

We're all learning how to parent what matters—with structure, with heart, and with the courage to let it become what it's meant to be.

Until next time, 

Albiona 🤎

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→ Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments

→ The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider

→ Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it)

→ How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself

→ What it looks like to parent yourself back home while parenting your children forward

→ Why discomfort doesn't mean unsafe, and how to ground yourself when everything feels shaky

She also gets honest about her own journey away from perfectionism and achievement, the spaciousness she's choosing in 2026, and why slowing down has become one of her most important practices.

This episode is for you if you've ever set a boundary and then immediately wanted to take it back. If you've felt the pull to adjust, explain, or rescue your child (or yourself) from discomfort. If you know what you need to do but struggle to stay there when things get hard.

Resources & Links:

→ Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe

→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a parent who needs permission to hold their boundaries without needing everyone's approval first.

We're all learning how to stay—in our power, in our knowing, in the slowness—even when it feels uncomfortable.

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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• Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking
• What to say when your child spirals after a choice
• Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence
• Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down
• How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead
• What it looks like to guide without rescuing

She also shares stories from her own classroom teaching days and real coaching conversations with parents—and gets honest about the discomfort that comes with letting our kids struggle a little (while we stay close).

Resources & Links:

• Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching 
  She’s accepting new clients in 2026 — book before Dec 31st to lock in 2025 pricing.
• Follow Albiona on Instagram - https://instagram.com/theparentingreframe
• Join Albiona on Substack for reflections on parenting, inner growth, and nervous system tools - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com/

Loved this episode?

Please rate, review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear: it’s okay not to have all the answers.

We’re all learning how to parent others—and ourselves—with more grace and less shame.

Until next time,

The Parenting Reframe Team 🤎

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This conversation weaves through:

• What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture
• How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher
• Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm—and how HERO Diapers is leading the charge
• What she teaches her son about resilience, creativity, and emotional strength
• The 3 key questions she asks before starting any new idea
• And how she's learned that true leadership means owning your humanness

Whether you're raising a child, launching a product, or reimagining how you move through the world… this one will stay with you.

Resources & Links:

• Follow Hero Diapers on Instagram - https://instagram.com/herodiapers
• Learn more about the Hero Diaper + “New Paradigm Parenting” movement - https://herodiapers.com/
• Get Miki’s books: Do Cool Sht and Disrupt-Her* - https://www.mikiagrawal.com/books
• Follow Miki on Instagram - https://instagram.com/mikiagrawal

Loved this episode?

Don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with a fellow parent or creative. You never know who’s one reframe away from a massive life shift.

Want ongoing parenting support from Albiona?

Book a free discovery call (https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching) to see if 1:1 coaching is your next best step.

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“They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?”
...this episode is for you.

Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It’s keeping you stuck in a pattern that exhausts everyone involved.

In this episode, Albiona uncovers one of the most common reframes she shares with parents of tweens and teens—and why learning to anchor yourself (instead of arguing back) is the shift that creates real change.

She covers:

• What to do when your child’s behavior feels deliberate
• How “they should know better by now” becomes a parenting trap
• Why many parents escalate with their kids (and how to step out of the spiral)
• The phrase to stop saying (and what to do instead when emotions run high)
• How to set boundaries and hold compassion (without giving in again)

Plus:

• Why overexplaining and lecturing rarely work
• How small shifts—like setting limits quietly and clearly—change everything
• A concrete example of how one parent solved morning chaos without yelling

Whether your child is 9 or 16, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of your role as the anchor, not the mirror, when emotions rise.

Resources & Links:

• Book a Free Discovery Call with Albiona → https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call 
  Want real-time parenting strategies personalized to your child and your triggers? Albiona’s currently enrolling for 1:1 coaching in early 2026. This 12-week container gives you the tools, support, and calm you’ve truly needed.
  Learn more + schedule your free call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call
• Follow Albiona on Instagram → @theparentingreframe
• Watch the viral video this episode was based on → https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTrNwRwbV/

If this episode hit home:

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• Why your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication.
• How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first.
• The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything.
• How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead.
• Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive.
• How to reframe strong-willed behavior as a sign of strength and leadership in development.
• Why connection — not compliance — is the foundation of real discipline.

Key Takeaways

• Calm isn’t passive; it’s anchored leadership.
• Your child’s behavior is not a reflection of your worth.
• Connection before correction always creates more cooperation.
• Every strong-willed child is asking: “Can I trust you to stay calm when I’m not?”

About Kirk Martin

• Founder of Celebrate Calm and host of The Calm Parenting Podcast
• Has helped over 1 million families bring peace and connection into their homes
• Known for his practical tools, humor, and grounded wisdom

👉 Learn more at celebratecalm.com
👉 Follow Kirk on Instagram @calmparentingpodcast

Continue the Work with Albiona

• Purchase The PARR Journal — a guided tool to help you pause, acknowledge, respond, and reflect.
• Join Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom when you purchase your journal.
• Learn more at theparentingreframe.com
• Follow on Instagram @theparentingreframe

👉 Click here to purchase your journal and save your workshop spot.

Favorite Quote

“I realized I needed my son to behave so that I could behave. Once I learned to control myself, everything changed.” – 

Kirk Martin

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Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more presence and connection.

She also shares how journaling transformed her parenting and how the PARR Journal can help you do the same.

✨ Purchase The PARR Journal and save your spot for Albiona’s free live PARR Workshop over Zoom.

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You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even when you mean well.

Most importantly, this episode gives you practical, loving strategies to help your child build self-trust, navigate hard feelings, and develop resilience, while giving yourself full permission to live a full, joyful life.

Whether you’re heading to work or heading to dinner with friends, this episode reminds you: your joy is not selfish—it’s vital.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why separation anxiety is not “bad behavior,” but a growth edge
• The #1 mistake parents make when saying goodbye (and how to fix it)
• What your child actually needs in those tough emotional moments
• How to build a "bridge" between separation and safety
• Why your self-trust is the foundation for your child’s regulation
• How to reframe “mom guilt” when you choose something just for you
• The link between predictability and reduced anxiety in kids
• The critical difference between empathy and enmeshment
• Real-life scripts and object-leaving strategies to ease transitions
• Why calm isn’t the opposite of anxiety—self-trust is

Quotes to Remember:

• “The opposite of anxiety isn’t calm—it’s self-trust.”
• “Every time you go back in a panic, you’re telling your child they can’t handle hard things.”
• “Your child doesn’t need you to sacrifice everything—they need you to model wholeness.”
• “Joy begets joy. When you honor your needs, your kids benefit too.”

Resources Mentioned:

• Substack Paid Parenting Community: https://albiona.substack.com/subscribe
• Book a 1:1 Coaching Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call

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• The key differences between consequences and punishments
• Why kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundaries
• How punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulation
• The role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses)
• Why the boundary itself often is the consequence
• How to implement breaks/resets (instead of timeouts) to help kids regulate
• The importance of creating safe struggles to build resilience
• When redirection works best (and why it backfires with older kids)
• Scripts and phrases you can use to give your kids autonomy while holding limits

Resources & Links

• Explore coaching and parenting support at The Parenting Reframe
• Book a free discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for your family

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• How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. (Simon & Schuster)
• What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. (People.com)
• The creative process Tembi uses: listening, journaling, & exploring different art forms; writing as a practice to slow down and make meaning. (tembilocke.com)
• Concrete ideas listeners can use right away: short daily rituals (15–45 min), journaling prompts, scheduling “pre-planned joy,” somatic self-care, and negotiating new family rhythms like weekly check-ins.
• A deep look at Someday, Now — why Tembi created an immersive audio experience (ambient Sicily soundscapes plus narration), and what she hopes listeners will feel after they finish it: that there is possibility, love, and room for transformation even in endings. (Audible.com)

Resources & links

• Tembi Locke — official site / about & book resources. (tembilocke.com)
• From Scratch — publisher page (Simon & Schuster). (Simon & Schuster)
• Someday, Now — Simon & Schuster audio page (audio edition/details). (Simon & Schuster)
• Someday, Now — Audible audio listing/preorder. (Narrated by Tembi Locke; release details & preorder.) (Audible.com)

Tembi Locke on Instagram (announcements & behind-the-scenes). (Instagram)

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• The inspiration behind Kids These Days and why Dr. Dobud and Dr. Harper felt compelled to write it.
• The three frameworks of the book: interference, intervention, and ideology—and how they’re shaping modern childhood.
• Why blaming phones and social media is an oversimplification of a much bigger picture.
• The concept of digital integration vs. digital interference—and how parents can approach technology more thoughtfully.
• How to foster resilience and mastery in kids without overstepping or over-fixing.
• The overlooked power of gratitude, generosity, and noticing what’s working in our kids.
• Why boundaries paired with empathy create the conditions for true growth.
• A reframe for parents: shifting from control and fear to presence, connection, and curiosity.

Resources & Links

• 🌟 Preorder Kids These Days by Dr. Will Dobud & Dr. Nevin Harper: kidsthesedaysbook.com
• Connect with Dr. Will Dobud on social media and at outdoortherapycentre.com
• Learn more about my work with parents: The Parenting Reframe
• Follow me on Instagram and TikTok for more parenting information

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Kids Who Don’t Like Losing

• There are a lot of triggers for parents that come along with having a child who doesn’t like to lose which can cause eggshell parenting.
• When your child struggles to deal with something like disappointment or frustration, the answer is always that they need to experience it more often.
• Your reaction to their emotions as a parent is so important. Staying regulated in the moment will help deescalate the situation.
• Lectures don’t work. You’re helping them learn the life skill of tolerating frustration and managing the emotions that come with the frustration. 

Public Outbursts

• We sense all of the people in a public situation and it usually feels much more judgmental in our minds than it actually is because of insecurities. 
• When our ability to parent is tethered to our child’s behavior, it makes things very difficult.
• Make an action plan and practice getting cooperation at home so your child is prepared when you do a test run in public. 
• Set your kids up for success so you aren’t trying to complete tasks when they’re already over tired, hungry, etc.

PARR 

• This was created for anyone who needs to work through managing their own emotions and reactions. 
• Pausing is an important reminder that we can take the time to slow down and not make rapid fire decisions in the moment.
• Always reflect on “what does my child need at this moment?” You know your child best and can better understand their needs when you have paused.

When Your Kids Don’t Listen

• We rely on the idea that if our kids have the knowledge, they will react or behave appropriately. This simply isn’t true because their brains aren’t developed in this way yet.
• Kids are wondering “what happens when…” and they are curious what the outcome will be on the other side of their behavior. 
• Once they know the action that is paired with your language is consistent, they will start listening better.
• We need to remember kids are simple and we usually overcomplicate things.

Resources: 

Getting Your Kids to Listen the First Time You Ask Workshop: https://www.theparentingreframe.com/shop/p/getting-your-kids-to-listen-the-first-time-you-ask 

Four Reaction Types Podcast Episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parental-reaction-blueprints

Schedule a free call about my 1:1 coaching, Reclaim Your Calm - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching

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• Gain the ability to wait
  • Waiting will elicit frustration in kids, but if they want it badly enough, they will wait it out.
  • How often do we quickly accommodate simple tasks for our child when we could weave in a wait time?
  • By doing this, we are delaying gratification.
• Play a game with your child
  • Make sure you go first and they go second.
  • Find the longest amount of time they can wait, and then allow them to take their turn. 
  • Meet them where they’re at no matter how short the amount of time they can wait is.
• Let them struggle through a task
  • Kids will often feign an ability to do something on their own even though they’re capable.
  • The whining that happens with a task they don’t want to do is because they can’t tolerate the frustration of struggling with a task.
  • Encourage them to keep trying, assuming you have the time.

Resources: 

Paid Substack Community - https://albiona.substack.com/

Schedule a free call about my 1:1 coaching, Reclaim Your Calm - https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

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Here are the three books I mentioned:

The Tools and True and False Magic. The Tools is by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, and True and False Magic is written by Phil Stutz and Elise Loehnen (I spoke with Elise about this book on the podcast; you can listen here).

Awaken Your Genius by Ozan Varol (He is one of my favorite writers)

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron (Morning pages changed my life)

If the messages I’m sharing in this series resonate with you, I’d like to dive deeper to help you break free from what's holding you back.

My transformation sessions are designed to help you move through fear, release blocks, and embrace change, guiding you to unleash the greatest version of yourself. Through a unique inner-parenting approach, you'll gain the tools to navigate any adversity.

Email me at albiona@theparentingreframe.com to start your transformative journey.

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1. Hyper-Reactor or the Punisher 

• The parent who will go from zero to 100 instantly and doesn’t have the tools to regulate themselves.
• They feel discomfort because of their child’s reaction to something they don’t like. 
• This may be rooted in an association from their own childhood, where they didn’t feel safe expressing their own emotions. 
• Sometimes this can feel like the child is being disrespectful to the parent. 

2. Panicked Parent

• The parent who knows to control their big emotions around their child who is struggling but they are terribly uncomfortable with the situation.
• This parent over explains the boundary or tries to justify the decision or offer other choices to make the situation better.
• This isn’t perceived as a good thing by the dysregulated child, it just feels like more input and they cannot tolerate it. 

3. The Adjustor

• The parent who is an overthinker and is second guessing their boundaries all the time.
• When they go to hold a boundary and their child pushes back against it, they make adjustments to their boundary to avoid or stop dysregulation. 
• This is a band aid approach to parenting because it doesn’t teach kids how to tolerate frustration. 

Bonus Type: Avoidant Parent

• The parent who doesn’t have a hard time staying calm, but struggles so much to set a boundary, and avoids it at all costs. 
• They are eggshell parenting and have crafted a perfect environment so their kids don’t have to experience any sort of hardship. 
• Avoidant parents shut down when their kids become dysregulated.

Resources: 

Substack newsletter - Beyond ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’: The 3 Parental Reaction Blueprints: https://albiona.substack.com/p/beyond-good-or-bad-the-3-parental

PARR Workshop: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/parrworkshop

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In this 6-minute video, I will help you shift from a fear-based mindset to welcoming more faith and trust into your process.

What I cover:

• Growing an audience on social media when it feels daunting
• Addressing limiting beliefs
• Making career pivots
• Taking Chances
• My two-step process for choosing faith over fear

Enjoy, and feel free to leave a comment or share it with a friend.

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Elise is the author of On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good, True and False Magic, a collaboration with Phil Stutz, and her workbook coming out soon, Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness. There are so many things we talk about in this episode from the creative process to parenting, the social context of her books to the ways women feel in their own bodies, and so much more. It’s always a pleasure to talk with Elise and get her perspective on so many different topics.

Here’s what we talk about with Elise: 

• Elise’s writing processes and how she uncovers societal norms and expectations through her work.
• An overview of her book On Our Best Behavior and how society forces women to be inherently good through the lens of the seven deadly sins. 
• Her companion workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness and how it helps individuals work through their own beliefs and change the negative narratives. 
• How the stories you tell about yourself are almost always rooted in lack. 
• What we can learn about compassion and patience from neurodivergent children.
• Recognizing as parents we need to relinquish control over our children and be a safe place for them to land. 
• Letting go of micromanaging our kids to allow them to develop their own roadmap to reach their goals.
• The amount of energy and self monitoring it takes to stay a certain size or weight as a woman and the mental toll it takes over time. 
• An overview of True and False Magic and how life is an ongoing evolution of feelings and emotions to work through.

Resources: 

Elise’s first Parenting Reframe podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen

Elise’s podcast, “Pulling the Thread”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pulling-the-thread-with-elise-loehnen/id1585015034

On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior

True and False Magic: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/778182/true-and-false-magic-by-phil-stutz-with-elise-loehnen/

Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/771811/choosing-wholeness-over-goodness-by-elise-loehnen-and-courtney-smith/

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Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Hovington: 

• How The Reflective Parenting Club was created to help parents find best practices while effectively managing emotions and stress.
• Acknowledging when we as parents are not sitting in the most calm emotional space and being able to pause and communicate these feelings to others.
• Parenting and changing behaviors takes time and does not change overnight.
• Using boundaries and discipline as a way to teach our kids what to do or not to do in order to set them up for success.
• Creating awareness around your own physical state can help calm stressful situations.
• How emotional states and stress can affect the overall state of your home and the way your child reacts in certain situations.
• Resetting challenging moments throughout your day to create moments of joy.
• Sharing your emotions with your kids can help create connection and evolve trust.

Resources: 

The Curious Neuron website: https://curiousneuron.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curious_neuron

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/curiousneuron

The Reflective Parent Club: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/

Reflective Parenting Podcast: https://curiousneuron.com/podcasts/

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Here’s what we talk about with Joe: 

• Why play deprivation is a problem today and why kids need more time to play independently.
• Kids need to experience struggle in social situations to create change and learn how to better manage their experience on their own. 
• Providing all the answers for kids takes away an “I do it” moment and creates kids who identify as incapable and want things done for them. 
• The nature of attachment between parent and child changes over time and the parent has to allow it to happen in an open and supportive way. 
• How to reframe the negative perception of tantrums and child’s behavior.
• Why Joe and I disagree about whether or not to hold your child during a tantrum.
• Using a break as a self regulation tool to help kids get through a difficult moment and become more resilient. 
• Allowing kids to experience deprivation and challenges on their own without judgment creates more independent, resilient, and happy individuals. 
• Kids act as scientists to figure out their way around a situation so it’s incredibly important to hold your boundaries. 
• Practicing holding boundaries at home will make doing it in public easier and reduce your feelings of anxiety in the situation. 

Resources:

Joe Newman’s website to set up a consultation or discovery call: https://www.raisinglions.com/

Joe Newman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinglions/

Joe Newman on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinglions1

Raising Lions by Joe Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Lions-Joe-Newman/dp/1453639683/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1686055923&sr=1-1

Raising Lions with Joe Newman podcast episode:  https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-lions-with-joe-newman

A Raising Lions Q+A with Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/a-raising-lions-qa-with-joe-newman

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Here’s what we talk about with Neha: 

• How the question of “What do you do?” has become intertwined in the fabric of who we are as individuals. 
• Ways to change the language surrounding each chapter of your life to a more expansive view.
• A career pause makes room to chart out other ways you want to grow personally.
• How “The Mommy Wars” started and the way the narrative has shifted and become more fluid over time. 
• The ways the COVID pandemic caused an examination of work and family balance.
• Tools to consider for a career pause when there are concerns about finances, work/life balance, and household contributions.
• Shifting the view of taking a step down from a career to gaining a collection of experiences.

Resources:

The Power Pause: How to Plan a Career Break After Kids--and Come Back Stronger Than Ever: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Pause-Career-Kids-Stronger/dp/0593716183

Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte: https://www.brigidschulte.com/overwhelmed

Ellse Loehnen podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-40-on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen/

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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A few updates for 2025 that I’m excited to share with you:

• New model for one-on-one coaching: I’m moving to a 12-week model, where you get 12 weekly calls with me. You’ll have me create scripts and plans to use in your home and answer questions as they arise. Only 1 spot is available for January!
• Group coaching is returning in February! This more affordable option offers the added benefit of gaining support from others in your situation.
• I’m launching a membership! I’ve been working on a membership and I want to make it as interactive as possible. It will be a hybrid of courses and live video calls. Stay tuned for more information! 

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting

When we adopt a martyr parent mindframe, it doesn’t benefit your children in the way you think it does.

We pride ourselves on being really busy, but when we burn out, what happens to your family? 

A Process to Help Interparent Yourself

• Parenting is a process full of wisdom and transformation that we can apply to moments in our adult lives like loss and growth. 
• Using PARR to help us understand what our triggers are and cause us to have big reactions towards our kids. 
• There’s always something we can change instead of resigning to being too tired or too busy while having a reactionary response. 
• The five pillars of parenting yourself: master pausing, practice stillness, honoring simplicity, honoring change, trusting your intuition.

Create an Environment Conducive to Connection

• Showing our kids we are the ones in control of our lives and priorities. 
• There are moments when we can create meaningful connections with our kids but we need to be present and intentional about it. 
• It’s healthy for kids to spend time alone, and being mindful of the time we spend with them makes it more impactful. 

Honoring Your Ability to Process Complex Emotions

• It’s likely many of us learned to suppress or bypass complex emotions due to our upbringing. 
• Our discomfort when our own kids are having a complex emotion is something very foreign to us so we need to learn how to sit with it instead of trying to change or cover it up. 
• In moments of dysregulation you can say “I am safe and so are they.” 

Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/the-3-pillars-to-connected-parenting?r=dan8y

The Busyness Trap article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/spotting-the-busyness-trap

Self Regulation Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

PARR Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-parr-workshop-download

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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If this episode resonates with you, consider signing up for my group coaching program all about raising strong willed kids and emotional regulation for kids and parents starting November 21! The link to register is in the Resources. 

Does Your Kid Value Approval or Power? 

• We set up an expectation and kids usually comply.
• Strong-willed kids don’t seek or value approval from authority or parents. It’s not important enough for them.
• Instead they value power but they don’t have the capacity to hold all of it. 
• They try to find out how much power they can have until they start to lose control.
• Strong-willed kids will then look for an anchor to keep them in a safe state when they start to lose control.

Explanations Don’t Work 

• We try to give kids the tools and the choices to understand why things are happening. 
• Explanations don’t deter a strong-willed kid from their actions.
• An explanation gives information but they are not lacking information. It may be a bigger issue of impulse control, tolerating frustration, sensory overload, or something else.
• If there is a lack of information, the next time they face something similar the outcome will be different. 
• Get to the root of what skills they need to develop to reduce the behavior you don’t want to see. 

Self Regulate Yourself

• It’s incredibly triggering for parents when a strong-willed kid is emotionally out of control. It’s important for the parent to self regulate themselves when the child is unable to.
• They are looking for someone to be calm in the storm.
• We have to create a really consistent, predictable structure through boundaries. 
• This structuring takes time and will take a while to set the expectations and make changes where needed. 
• Teaching them how to regulate their emotions is an important step to help your child foster their inner free spirit and communicate their needs and emotions.

Resources: 

Sign up for my Group Coaching Program starting November 21: stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/group-coaching-raising-strong-willed-kids-51n42

Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-49-a-raising-lions-q-a-with-joe-newman/

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

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All Feelings are Welcome. All Behaviors are Not

• What is the emotion or feeling your child is experiencing? 
• What is the behavior you don’t want to see? What is the behavior you do want to see?
• As you are calm and steady as the parent, you set clear boundaries for behavioral expectations.
• You need a game plan to address these situations and avoid reacting in an escalated way toward your child and each other. 
• How can you validate the feeling your child is experiencing while still holding your boundary? 
• How can you lean on each other in these stressful moments to help each other out?
• When you parent consistently on the same team, you will see a reduction of your child’s challenging behaviors.

Be Reflective of the Language You Use with Each Other

• Connect, don’t correct.
• Connective language is focused on yourself, your emotions, and your feelings, and finding a way to connect on a similar level with your partner.
• Have these discussions in moments of calm so you can both approach the conversation from a regulated place.

A Dysregulated Adult Cannot Help a Dysregulated Child

• If your immediate reaction is to become dysregulated when your child behaves a certain way, it will not help the situation. 
• You need to work through what the triggers are that cause you to feel dysregulated in stressful moments. 
• Using breathing and physical redirection can help you to calm down and pause. 
• Use PARR to become a more responsive parent.

Resources: 

- I have three one-on-one coaching spots left for 2024! If you sign up for coaching with me, I’m offering a free, 60 minute bonus session called “Optimizing Your Schedule” that helps you create a schedule that works for you and find your balance.

- Dr. Aliza Pressman, The 5 Principles of Parenting: https://draliza.com/ 

- Free Self Regulation Workshop download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

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Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Diamond: 

• Why the toddler phase is so challenging for so many parents on a daily basis in relation to the advice being given.
• Parenting advice can be helpful but you can take the pieces that feel good for your own parenting and leave the rest. 
• Parental efficacy, or parental confidence, will directly translate to positive parenting for your child. 
• Different parenting styles and how parents can create their own parenting philosophy to tune into what you and your child need.
• The reasons why toddlers have tantrums and how to navigate these emotional episodes using different strategies.
• Setting realistic and developmentally appropriate boundaries and consequences for toddlers. 
• Balancing rewards and external motivators to help toddlers learn about life skills.
• The importance of a consistent bedtime routine with toddlers and how to implement it in your home.
• Viewing parenting issues from the stance from whether or not there is an actual problem and determining if you need to take action.
• Why separation anxiety is developmentally normal in kids and how parents can work through their emotions related to it. 

Resources:

You can find Dr. Diamond on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentlikeapediatrician/?hl=en

Parent Like a Pediatrician: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636

Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat: https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Like-Pediatrician-Facts-None/dp/0806541636

Dr. Shefali podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-54-conscious-parenting-with-dr-shefali/

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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Mastering the Pause

• Where are the moments of reactivity in your life?
• The more you pause, the less reactive you become and you can reflect on your fears surrounding your child’s behaviors.
• When you slow down, your child will also be able to slow down. 
• Overreacting in a moment usually escalates the situation rather than calming it down or stopping it.
• Pausing helps you stay calm and steady in a stressful moment. 

Practicing Stillness 

• Stillness does not mean sitting in meditation for a long time.
• It could be one minute of deep breathing, taking a few minutes to write in a journal, or taking a walk outside.
• When we practice stillness we are releasing our emotions and thoughts and giving it a space to go. 

Honoring Simplicity

• Try reframing your perspective to include gratitude when you feel stressed or overwhelmed. 
• Parenting is full of transient phases - what moment of joy are you missing out on by sitting in stress.
• How can you shift your schedule or routines to honor your needs rather than add to the irritation?

Embrace Change 

• Think about where you can embrace change to help take the pressure off of yourself. 
• There can be a lot of fear around change, but working through that fear can have wonderful outcomes. 

Trusting Your Intuition 

• The moment you’re in will get better. 
• Everything will always work out the way it’s supposed to work out.
• Release the feelings of doubt and trust what your intuition is saying.

Resources: 

FREE Workshop - Parenting YOURSELF: A personal process to Inner Peace

Wednesday, September 25, 2024 at 12pm EST

https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-workshop-parenting-yourself

Surgeon General’s Advisory on Parental Stress: https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2024/08/28/us-surgeon-general-issues-advisory-mental-health-well-being-parents.html

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When our kids end up making us late: 

• Being late can be very triggering for parents.
• When our kids can perceive we are stressed, they end up more stressed as well. 
• Practice being late while keeping yourself calm.
• Say to yourself, “I am safe if I am late today.”
• When you let go of the control and the power struggle to get out the door, things become easier for both you and your kids. 

Put the autonomy back on your child: 

• This is for kids who waste time doing other things instead of progressing through the morning routine. 
• The idea was created by Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions.
• Using your timer or stopwatch, allot a specific number of minutes to a morning task. Any time that your child goes over that allotment is totaled up and taken away at the end of the day from their free time.
• Always present yourself as “team kid,” not as punitive or that this is a punishment. It’s an opportunity to learn and grow about cause and effect.
• The child’s behavior changes on the second or third day because they want their free time to be theirs. 

Find out what things you can let go: 

• Think about all the things that go wrong in the morning from start to finish and decide where you can let go and give them more autonomy. 
• When we give strong willed kids some independence, they enjoy the feeling that they matter.
• Giving them a specific task and asking them for help is a great way for them to feel important and get them invested in what you need them to do. 
• Let go of things that cause struggles like clothing or breakfast choices. 

Give yourself enough time: 

• Even if your morning routine is taking longer than normal, having extra time will allow you to feel more calm. 
• You can always shift the time you allot as routines get easier and more fluid throughout the year. 

My upcoming offerings: 

• Make sure you are signed up for my email list for a free workshop in September all about The Time Conundrum - the feeling we don’t have enough time. We will talk about ruminating on anxious thoughts and the stress of parenting to reframe the way we think about time. My email list will be the first to know about this workshop! 
• I have opened up spots for my self-parenting program where you’ll get to work one-on-one with me to discover what is in your way to get to where you want to be the most. I give you a step by step plan to know exactly what to do when you start to feel lost, confused, or need a reframe. Three spots are available in September. 

https://theparentingreframe.com/application/

• I’m still doing child-centered parent coaching and have two spots available in September. If you have trouble with tantrums, behavior issues, or other parenting challenges, reach out! 

https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

Resources: 

Joe Newman - Raising Lions: https://www.raisinglions.com/about-joe

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infant loss and grief as Lauryn describes her journey through losing her son and learning to heal. 

Here’s what we talk about with Lauryn: 

• The duality of loving your children on Earth while allowing the space and grace to honor and grieve a child that has been lost. 
• How grief and joy can coexist in the same place at the same time and how the losses form who we are as individuals.
• Feelings of shame and guilt many women feel throughout their lives and the ways you can learn to move past those feelings.
• Giving yourself permission to be still and slow down to cultivate intentionality in your life.
• How small mindset shifts and moments of consistent changes can help us to find more love, fun, and freedom in our lives.
• Being still and slowing down can look different for everyone and might include movement, using your voice, or being in certain spaces to enter a place of calm.
• How slow living forces us to protect our energy and allows our children to match the state we are in.
• Modeling and communicating boundaries and needs to your children reinforces caring for yourself as well as teaching them important life lessons.

Resources:

You can find Lauryn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam_lauryn

And at her website: www.laurynlaszczak.com

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Life Update:

• I recently stopped working my conventional 9-5 speech and language pathologist job to focus my energy full time on The Parenting Reframe.
• While I loved my time at Kaufman Children’s Center, I realized it was time to move forward and pursue coaching and writing.
• I am so grateful for my time there and for all the people who supported me along the way. I learned so much during my time at Kaufman and wish that everyone could experience a work environment like the one I was a part of for so many years.

A New Coaching Offering:

• I am excited to announce that I will now be offering life coaching sessions utilizing a parenting process. The process is very specific, and also the topic of my book, which includes 5 critical tenets of living a more peaceful life.
• These tenets are meant to help you with reparenting, healing, transforming, embarking on a new way of being, and so many other things.
• This life coaching looks at you as an individual and you do not need to be a parent to work with me as a life coach.
• In life coaching, I will give you the tools to address these challenges through the lens of parenting. Parenting is a life skill and you can use the processes of parenting to help you through many different life events.
• What are the ways we can parent ourselves back to a place of peace and joy?
• You can work with me in two ways: either in a one-time session for a singular burning question or over a longer period of time, where we can work to more deeply transform your life, by identifying the patterns and seeds that keep you stuck.
• I am only opening four spots for life coaching.
• You can book a free 20-minute discovery call to find out more about life coaching and if it’s a good fit for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-life-coaching-discovery-call

5 Tenets to Return to a Place of Peace:

• How to Master the Pause: pausing can change the trajectory of your relationships, your perspective on things, and help you to be less reactive
• Practicing Stillness: meditation, breathwork, and finding ways to ground yourself help you practice stillness and quieting the noise.
• Honoring Simplicity: when you recognize what is most important physically and mentally everything gets more clear and you can find an easier way through.
• Embracing Change: honoring the idea that you need to keep growing, learning, and finding new arenas to challenge yourself.
• Trusting Your Intuition: when the other four tenets fall into place, you are more able to listen to your intuition and trust yourself.

Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call to see if life coaching is right for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-life-coaching-discovery-call

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

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Slowing Down

• Creating awareness around the pattern of over filling your schedule and recognizing when it’s happening and why. 
• Being more intentional about saying yes to things.
• Slowing down forces you to look at your inner self and what your needs are rather than constantly serving others. 
• In parenting, slowing down allows us to be more thoughtful and present rather than emotional and reactive. 

Express Empathy Towards Your Kids 

• Empathy is the ability to sit with another and allow them to express their feeling or emotion without the desire to change it. 
• Wanting your kids to calm down or change their emotions is not helping them learn the life skill of regulation. 
• We don’t have to fix or change anything, we can just let it be. Being held by someone who is just listening and supporting is the most comforting thing.

Inviting Moments of Discomfort

• The real way you learn about ourselves is through struggle. When we are in uncomfortable moments we learn things like resilience and flexibility. 
• Uncomfortable moments build a foundation of self trust that is an incredible life skill. 
• You never know what leaning into discomfort might bring your way and what doors might open because of it. 
• Encouraging your kids to try something that will put them in a slightly uncomfortable situation helps them grow their confidence.

Resources: 

My article about slowing down in parenting: https://theeverymom.com/parenting-coach-wellness-advice/

Listen to the Dr. Shefali podcast episode here: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-54-conscious-parenting-with-dr-shefali/

Elise Loehnen’s podcast episode with Nicole Avant: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes/h1mjtwhv3bo2nddnd6ikmoj8ogsbzf-nkwfb-lpty8

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Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Shefali: 

• The reasons behind choosing to talk with real parents in real time on her new podcast rather than speaking with experts.
• How to navigate the internal need to find all the “right answers” in parenting scenarios and shift to see how parents’ internal struggles are reflected onto their children.
• Tools for parents who struggle to regulate their own emotions in stressful parenting situations. 
• Recognizing what your personal triggers are in relation to your past experiences to create a more relaxed parenting experience. 
• Why some parenting advice or strategies might not immediately work for every child or family.
• Dr. Shefali’s perspective on how to respond and work with young children who have tantrums in the moment and how to stay regulated. 
• How to gain more cooperation from your children by building connections and partnerships with them.

Resources:

You can find Dr. Shefali on her Website - https://www.drshefali.com/

Parenting & You with Dr. Shefali Podcast: https://www.drshefali.com/podcast/

- Parenting Courses: 

Conscious Parenting 2.0 - https://courses.drshefali.com/thecp2method-full

Conscious Parenting Institute - https://institute.drshefali.com/

For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.com

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What we talk about with Julie Anne and Darren: 

• The method of writing used to create a story specifically for children to help them best understand different scenarios and emotions they will encounter.  
• How the illustrations on the page help a child pick up on subtle changes in character emotions and reactions throughout the story.
• How they came up with the first four book topics to help kids with the most prevalent challenges they face today. 
• Providing validation for a kid's emotions by naming the feeling and creating awareness about what causes these thoughts.
• Using the characters to show how the powers we all have within us can help us feel a sense of control in an uncontrollable world. 

Be on the lookout for Team Supercrew books 5-8 coming soon! 

You can learn more about Team Supercrew and buy their books on their website: https://www.teamsupercrew.com/

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1. Co-Regulation: The idea we are working on regulating ourselves while our child is working on regulating himself/herself. When your child starts to exhibit a negative behavior, you might become uncomfortable or triggered by their actions. Co-regulation happens when we remain calm, when we recognize our own triggers, and we keep our boundaries. 
2. Boundaries: Boundaries are a structure that is predictable and consistent. Children are looking for things that are predictable in nature to keep themselves regulated. Boundaries help teach our children how to self-regulate while experiencing dysregulation. 
3. Validation: Validation is when we can understand why our child feels a certain way, not giving them a pass for that emotion or behavior. There is so much power in practicing validation in the long-term. 
4. Breathwork: Breathwork is a great way to practice self-regulation in times where your child is completely regulated. Then they can utilize this tool when they are feeling dysregulated. Blowing out candle breathwork, fire hose breathing, and other things that help the nervous system calm down are great ways to help with self-regulation. 
5. Sensory Toys: There are so many different sensory toys that can help kids while they are regulated and dysregulated. It’s a calming mechanism that can help people of all ages. Having sensory toys available such as fidget spinners or expanding tubes available at all times is a great go-to as children continue to learn more about how to self-regulate. 
6. Work on Regulation while They’re Regulated: Working on self-regulation during a tantrum won’t work 9 out of 10 times. Co-regulation is the best way to help work on self-regulation at the moment. 

What can you do in the moment when a tantrum is happening? 

1. Boundary-Empathy Sandwich - state your boundary, note your empathy (it’s hard to not get the thing you want), restate your boundary.
2. Remind yourself “I am safe and so are they.” - Many of us learned that showing sadness or other “negative” emotions as a child was met with reactions like “stop crying” or “don’t be upset.” This likely caused us to feel unsafe. Now, as parents, when our children have similar emotions, we have a strong response and want to remedy it as quickly as possible. This mantra will help you to steady yourself and stay calm. 
3. Take a break if you really have to - Give yourself a no-demands day to reset as you fatigue. This looks like loosening boundaries, not engaging in high-stress times, and relaxing. 
4. Say less - Don’t over explain your boundary and feel confident in your boundary. 
5. If they become physical, keep them and others safe - Stand up in a neutral position with your hands at your sides. Sometimes you need to pick them up and move them to another location to keep them safe. Other times you need to hold onto them. Remind them they are safe and physically calm their body. Tell them they are not allowed to hit you. 

Resources: 

Free Emotional Regulation Webinar: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

If you would like to do my 2 month 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit:  https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

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I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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A few years ago I read her bestseller, A Map to Your Soul, and completely fell in love with my introduction to astrology through her book. She is a wise soul who knows exactly how to integrate astrology into your everyday life. She has a new product called “Cosmic Parenting” that is a birth chart for kids, adults, and families to learn about each other. We talk through a lot of different topics on this episode and you won’t want to miss it! 

Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Freed: 

• How psychology and astrology are a practical blending of healing and transformation. 
• The process of creating the “Cosmic Parenting” card deck to help families have a neutral and enjoyable way to learn about each other. 
• Using the cards to be a conversation starter with curiosity as the spark.
• How to utilize the “Cosmic Parenting” card deck as a tool to look at the different parts of yourself and have a playful investigation with the ones you love. 
• The necessity of constructive criticism to grow strong kids and families.
• Dr. Freed helps Albiona understand her birth chart.
• Feeling the freedom in parenting when you can say “I made a mistake.” 
• Teaching kids that failure and losing is a part of the process of getting better and more resilient in all aspects of life. 

You can find Dr. Jennifer Freed on her Website - https://www.jenniferfreed.com/

And on her Substack - https://substack.com/@drjenniferfreed

Feel free to send an email via her website: https://www.jenniferfreed.com/contact

Get the “Cosmic Parenting” card deck here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/712663/cosmic-parenting-by-jennifer-freed-phd/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

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1. What does your regulation look like? 

• Emotional dysregulation is really simple - it’s when your child can’t tolerate the emotional response that occurs. 
• There’s nothing wrong with your child when they have a big emotional reaction to something. 
• Your ability to regulate your own emotions as a parent while your child is dysregulated is incredibly important for managing the situation. 
• Using PARR when your child starts to have an emotional reaction so that you can stay grounded and calm and co-regulate your own emotions

2. Self regulation is a skill kids need to learn.

• Self regulation is a skill and something that needs to be taught. It’s not something kids inherently have within them. 
• It’s not realistic or fair to expect kids to be happy all the time.
• We often place our value as a parent on how happy our kids are but this can be a harmful cycle for both you and your kids.
• Giving your children the tools they need to self regulate is important, especially the older they get. 

3. You need a plan. 

• Dealing with strong willed children can feel unpredictable and like nothing works to change the situation or make it better. 
• Every time a child has a big reaction, we might change the way we handle the situation (yelling, being silent, escalating the situation, etc.).
• Kids seek out predictability to help them feel more comfortable and in control in these situations. 
• When you have a plan, you usually won’t overreact when there is a tantrum or big emotion happening. 
• Setting a boundary and restating the boundary can help reinforce your choices and allows your child to see consistency. 

Emotion Regulation Group Coaching

• I’m offering a group coaching program in mid-April all about emotional regulation. 
• This five-week program includes weekly meetings where I coach about different topics. The final week is a Q+A session to answer all of your questions about emotion regulation. 
• You get real-time access to me via Voxer during the five weeks to ask questions and seek advice.  
• The group is limited to 10 people to ensure I can have a great connection with each person in the group. 

Resources: 

Sign up for the Emotion Regulation Group Coaching waitlist: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe

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What we go over with Joe:

• Approaching challenging behaviors with older kids, such as using language that isn’t approved of or being disrespectful.
• Stepping away from scenarios to where you don’t know what to do in the moment but you don't like the interaction.
• How Joe’s Break method and Albiona’s PARR method lean into pausing or breaking in a heated situation for parents to be able to change their thinking. 
• Why over explaining things to kids can lead to feelings of “it’s not fair” or other behaviors that are challenging. 
• Teaching kids to self regulate, be respectful of others while expressing agency, and problem solve as they grow up in the world.
• How parents can help build autonomy for their kids without steering their thinking.
• Defiance and passive tantrums are a natural response when kids feel like they have lost autonomy
• The three steps of what to do when you’re in a time pressure situation, driving, or outside of the house and you need a break.
• Advice for teachers and parapros helping students at school who are defiant. 

You can find more information about Raising Lions at Joe’s website: https://www.raisinglions.com/

Joe Newman on The Parenting Reframe Podcast: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-29-raising-lions-with-joe-newman/

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• The connection between allergies of all kinds and eczema.
• How gut flora can trigger eczema in individuals. 
• Changing nutrition options for more digestible and seasonal foods.
• Methods of treating the skin in a holistic way to provide relief.
• Identifying what triggers eczema flare ups within your environment and how to make changes.
• Practicing moderation to keep eczema flare ups to a minimum.
• Things to avoid and stop using in your home to help prevent eczema flare ups.
• Inflammatory responses to foods and drinks.
• Advice about parenting picky eaters when it comes to nutritious foods.

You can find Andra on her website https://eczemakids.com/

You can also check out her podcast, Eczema Kids: https://eczemakids.com/podcast

Sign up for my Emotion Regulation Workshop here: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/emotion-regulation-essentials

Check out the Team Supercrew book set: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BZZ1938R/

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What we go over with Robin: 

• The ways mothers usually feel the shift from pregnancy being all about supporting mom to all about baby after birth.
• How many moms feel unprepared to bring a baby home and care for themselves in the weeks following giving birth.
• The disparities in maternal care for different demographics and the variety of ways health care providers pass along mothers who voice their concerns to other providers.
• The difference in anxiety levels mothers experience depending on their maternity or parental leave from their jobs.
• How the United States differs from other countries in terms of maternity leave and parental leave.
• What to look and ask for when it comes to employment and maternity leave and how to advocate for yourself and your rights.
• Where moms can find connection with other moms for support and resources.
• Ways the child care crisis is affecting moms as they carry the burden of finding care for their children.
• The “Childcare Cliff” and how it has affected child care centers when funding is removed.
• Ways you can advocate for the change you want to see in regards to affordable child care and other systemic issues.
• New and changing social trends with pregnancy and motherhood.

You can download the BabyCenter App from the App Store on both iOS and Google or visit the BabyCenter website at https://www.babycenter.com 

Resources: 

Postpartum Support Survey: https://www.babycenter.com/presscenter/babycenter-emily-oster-postpartum-support-survey-press-release_41001496

Chamber of Mothers - https://www.chamberofmothers.com/

Check out the Team Supercrew book set: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BZZ1938R/

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What we go over with Mikki: 

• Moving out of the role as a fix-it parent and being able to sit in your own discomfort when it comes to challenges.
• Using the 3 A’s (Awareness, Agency, and Aligned Action) to help put a stop to the blame game when dealing with an ex.
• Stepping out of reactivity and stepping into response-ability to settle in and learn how to deal with feeling triggered.
• Not “should-ing” the situation to avoid assumptions or expectations from ourselves or others including our kids and co-parents.
• How to reframe our beliefs that our way is the right way to do things, especially in the context of co-parenting.
• The focus of many co-parents on what they have to do in comparison to what their co-parent does or does not do and shifting to what you want your home and relationship with your children to look like.
• Recognizing patterns to create a plan for a more peaceful co-parenting.
• Realizing divorce has a grief process attached to it that requires compassion, time, and reflection.
• Ways to calm your nervous system down in times of heightened stress or conflict.
• How over- or under-functioning can occur because of a lack of trust in ourselves and how to build back that confidence in ourselves.

You can find Mikki on Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/mikkigardner

And on her website https://www.mikkigardner.com/

You can also check out her podcast, Co-Parenting With Confidence: https://www.mikkigardner.com/podcast

Check out the Team Supercrew book set: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BZZ1938R/

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Giving Choices

• There’s nothing wrong with giving choices but the advice is over-given to the point where it isn’t useful anymore. 
• Too many choices is the opposite of what a strong willed child wants. 
• Strong willed kids want to feel like they’re the ones in charge. 
• When there are too many options, they begin to feel scared, out of control, and everything feels overwhelming. 
• Who is the safe person? Where is the boundary? 
• They are looking for stability and for someone else to be in power with them. 
• Strong willed kids value power over approval. 

Setting Boundaries

• With strong willed kids, boundaries have to be clear with clear actions or consequences when the boundary is broken. 
• We cannot rely on a lot of language or explanations because strong willed kids are smart. Explanations won’t change the outcome or the behavior. 
• You must hold the boundary for an extended period of time. On average, we give up trying after three attempts at a new method without a “positive” result.
• We associate dysregulation with something not working in our parenting and change our method or use fear-based tactics. 

Staying Calm

• A dysregulated child will not calm down with a dysregulated adult. The biggest thing you can do is stay calm when your child is struggling or having a big outburst. 
• A calm parent will help a child calm down ten times faster than a dysregulated parent.
• When the parent is dysregulated, the strong willed child’s negative emotions are either rewarded or completely shut down and do not learn how to process hard emotions. 
• We want to help our kids be able to sit with their emotions. 

Here are the details on January Group Coaching: 

• Group coaching is limited to a small group of only 10 people to help build connection and lean on one another. The goal is to grow a community where you feel supported and connected to other parents going through the same things as you. 
• I’ll give you real tools to implement in your home. It’s a hands-on approach to help you learn new methods for parenting your strong willed child.  
• There will be four sessions that meet once a week for one month. 

Resources: 

Sign up for the January Group Coaching waitlist: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

If you would like to do my 2 month 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

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What one-on-one coaching looks like:

• Over a two-month period, you receive 5, one hour calls over Zoom.
• Calls are every other week so you have the opportunity to practice the tools we talk about. 
• You have full texting access to me in real time over the course of 2 months. I can walk you through scenarios that come up between calls in real time. 
• This process is very hands-on. I want you to be fully supported throughout our two months together. 
• This is a completely judgment-free zone. It’s a safe space; don’t hold back on your thoughts and feelings. 

Some of the things we cover in one-on-one coaching:

• Unpacking the root causes and looking at the strategies we will put in place. 
• How do we move from a reactive place to a responsive place? 
• How to meet our kids' needs while working on ourselves. 
• Things you don’t find in a parenting book like reparenting tools and mindfulness.
• Working on dismantling societal and cultural expectations to make the best choices for yourself and your family. 

Group coaching is returning in January! Here are some of the benefits of group coaching:

• More affordable pricing
• Meets once a week for a month - four sessions total.
• Themed sessions like gaining cooperation while simultaneously gaining connection.
• You’re surrounded by other parents who are in your shoes.
• Groups are capped at 10 people to create a small, well-connected group where I can offer the most support.

Coming up in 2024:

• Group coaching for parents of teens and tweens. How to connect, how to parent, and how to reparent yourself if you’re struggling with your teen or tween. 
• More webinars coming in 2024 as well! 

As always, I offer a free 20-minute discovery call to see if coaching is right for you. If you’re not quite ready to sign up for a group or one-on-one coaching, set up a time to talk with me about your needs and find out how I can help you. 

Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

Check out my free PARR Workshop download with tons of great tools and resources: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-parr-workshop-download

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The 3 Pillars for Combatting The Fear of Making Mistakes: 

1. How do you as an adult feel when you make a mistake? 

• Kids sense and feel more than they see and hear. 
• Think of the way your energy changes when you hear you’ve done something incorrectly. 
• Kids pick up on this and are tuned into your energy - tone of voice changes, lack of excitement, etc. This is especially true when they are a deeply feeling or highly empathetic child.
• Talk through it out loud with your child to see the positive end to the mistake and walk them through the process of how you’re feeling in the moment and how to feel better. 
• Don’t be afraid to admit you don’t have all the answers in the moment! 

2. How much space do you leave for your kids to make a mistake? 

• This is really important for kids who don’t like making mistakes and have an adverse reaction to it. 
• We as parents try to save our kids from making mistakes because we don’t like to see our kids struggling. 
• When you see the struggle happening, let it happen even though it’s hard. 
• Your kids need the experience of making mistakes. By doing this, they will be able to feel what it’s like to make the mistake, learn how to work through it, and ultimately learn that it’s okay to make mistakes. 
• Consider this: where is the perception of being right all the time getting in the way? Do you feel your child always has to be correct at school, a sport, etc.?

3. You want to be cognizant of how you treat other people when they make mistakes. 

• The way you behave in public situations like at a store or restaurant when someone makes a mistake is incredibly important. Your kids are perceiving the way you react to people making mistakes. 
• Many times it happens the most between couples with everyday tasks. Sighing, rolling your eyes, and how we communicate between each other when mistakes happen can signal to your child how they might be treated when they make a mistake. 
• You are their safety net and where they learn morals and values. Even in the safest environment, what does it look like when mistakes happen and how does the reaction come out? 
• It’s in the subtle ways we react that kids notice the most. 

It won’t happen overnight, but with small changes over time to the way you perceive and make mistakes as the parent, you will see sustainable and lasting change with your kids in the way they view mistakes as well.

Resources: 

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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What we talk about with Kelsey: 

• Balancing motherhood with your personal and/or career interests.
• Reflecting on your own expectations and comparing them to what you want and need in your present season of life. 
• How to get over the hurdle of deciding how to start a business while managing the mental load of motherhood.
• Shifting your mindset from “I can’t” to “I can.”
• Holding boundaries and being intentional about your time. 
• Leaning into the excitement you feel for certain ideas and building it into your long-term future and values. 
• Managing feelings of mom guilt in the midst of working towards your own goals and fostering excitement for things you want to do.
• Reframing our ideas of what motherhood looks like for ourselves in the present moment as compared to how we were parented. 

Where to find Kelsey: 

Her website: www.Kelseymurphy.com

Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelseymurphy/

Resources mentioned in this episode:

To Be Magnetic by Lacy Phillips - https://tobemagnetic.com/

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What we go over with Faten: 

• The overwhelm of parenting and how it’s attributed to nervous system dysregulation.
• How trauma presents in a parent’s journey and how to reframe those thoughts. 
• Reflecting on the way we were parented and how generational trauma can be passed down and affect the way we parent today. 
• Creating awareness around intergenerational trauma and realizing smaller events may have caused trauma. 
• Having compassion for yourself when you’re reparenting yourself.
• Taking feelings of blame and shame and looking at them from a place of curiosity rather than judgment in order to feel validation for your emotions.  
• Grounding yourself as a parent when your child’s behaviors or emotions make you uncomfortable and allowing them the space and support to work through those feelings.
• Labeling children’s attributes limits the ways we can parent them “terrible twos” 
• What setting boundaries look like for different types of parents and finding a middle ground.
• Common cognitive behavioral therapy tools parents can use in their everyday lives.

Faten’s resources: 

• Dr. Gabor Matte - https://drgabormate.com/
• Dr. Nicole LePera - https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/?hl=en
• Dr. Shefali - The Conscious Parent - https://www.drshefali.com/the-conscious-parent/
• Patrick Teahan Therapy - https://www.instagram.com/patrickteahantherapy/?hl=en

You can find Faten on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@authenticallyatpeace

and on Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/authentically_atpeace/ 

She provides resources to positively impact moms through their parenting journey.

For more information about reframing parenting, check out my free PARR Webinar https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-parr-workshop-download

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What we talk about with Elise Loehnen on On Our Best Behavior:

• The reasons why women are coded for niceness and men are coded for power.
• How women use high achievement to try and attain a place of security.
• Patriarchy and how it shows up depending on gender in different ways.
• What are the codes of goodness? 
• Why the seven deadly sins cause women to conform to the societal requirement for niceness.
• How envy comes up in subtle ways when talking about other women and is the gateway to all of the other sins. 
• The ties between the different sins and how they can compound issues or feelings towards others. 
• Scarcity and the feelings of anxiety when others have or do what we want.
• Denying our wants and desires instead of owning them.
• What goodness looks like as a mom and how many moms get in their own way as a parent while trying to reach an unattainable goal.
• How we parent kids is affecting their ability to be creative, imaginative, manage being lonely or bored
• Why girls are more likely to mask and conform at young ages compared to boys of the same age.
• Raising daughters with the duality of good work ethic and being gentle and kind with yourself. 

Learn more about Elise Loehnen - https://www.eliseloehnen.com/

Get the book - On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen

Follow Elise on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/eliseloehnen/

Subscribe to Elise’s newsletter, Pulling the Thread, on Substack - https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/

Pulling the Thread Podcast - https://chartable.com/podcasts/pulling-the-thread-with-elise-loehnen

About Elise: 

Elise Loehnen Fissmer is a writer and editor living in Los Angeles with her husband, Rob, and their sons, Max and Sam. She is the host of Pulling the Thread podcast, where she interviews cultural luminaries on the big questions of the day. She’s co-written 12 books, including five New York Times Best Sellers. Her first book under her own name, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, was also an instant New York Times bestseller. She’s held many other titles including the chief content officer of goop, editorial projects director of Condé Nast Travelereditor, and deputy editor of Lucky Magazine. These days, she spends her time writing, reading, consulting, doing board work, and fundraising for causes and politicians focused on environmental action, social justice, women and children’s health, and a more equitable world.

Resources:

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If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

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Ways to Help Separation Anxiety

• Create a goodbye ritual. This could be something as simple as giving your child a hug, kiss, and telling them you'll be back soon.
• Practice short separations. Start by leaving your child for a few minutes at a time and gradually increase the length of the separations.
• Talk to your child about their fears. Let them know that it's okay to feel anxious, and that you'll be there for them when they need you.
• Reassure your child that you'll always come back.
• Make sure your child has a trusted caregiver when you're away.
• Be patient and understanding. Separation anxiety can be difficult for both parents and children. It's important to remember that your child is not trying to be difficult. They are simply expressing their love for you and their fear of being away from you.
• Be consistent. Try to stick to the same goodbye ritual and separation schedule each day. This will help your child to feel more secure and predictable.
• Be positive. Try to focus on the positive aspects of separation, such as the fun things your child will do while you're away.
• This is a way to teach your children that you, as a parent, have a life of your own as well. You shouldn’t feel guilty for this.

Resources:

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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What we go over with Ana on Reframing Education:

• The traditional school system is not preparing kids for the future.
• Kids need to learn how to think critically, solve problems, and be creative.
• Parents can help their kids learn by providing them with opportunities to explore their interests and by being their biggest cheerleaders.
• There are many alternative educational options available, such as homeschooling, online learning, and microschools.
• Talk to your kids about their interests and how you can help them learn.
• Find an alternative educational option that is right for your family.

Bio:

Ana Lorena Fabrega is an  edupreneur, writer, and Chief Evangelist at Synthesis. Growing up, she attended ten schools in seven different countries. She then earned her BS in Childhood Education and Special Education from New York University and taught elementary school in New York, Boston, and Panama. Today, Ana Lorena, known by her students as Ms. Fab, writes online to over 200,000 readers about the promise of alternative education. You can follow her on Twitter at @anafabrega11

Read Ana's book "The Learning Game" https://afabrega.com/

Visit the Synthesis website to learn more about their online school.

https://www.synthesis

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

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What I cover on the parenting tools to be a better parent

- The importance of recognizing why you’re reactive
- Identifying your triggers will help you to stay calm
- The first step of PARR, pausing, will look different depending on the phase of parenting you’re in
- How to decide the best way to pause
- Pausing and then acknowledging your state will shift the way you respond
- Reflecting is critical and you want to do it when you’ve had time away from the event
- PARR is effective with all communication partners not just your kids
- It can help you to become a better listener and more thoughtful in the way you show up not just for your kids but others

Link’s mentioned in the show:
You can book a free call here to learn more about coaching and how PARR can help you
The Free PARR download
Other Parenting Resources
Subscribe to my Substack Newsletter

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Back-school-tips to help parents and kids

#1 Tip: Take some time to check in with yourself and acknowledge your stress during this chaotic time of year. Your kids sense and feel your emotions. 

• When you have the kid that doesn’t like school, you tend to be more reactive. Instead learn ways to listen to your kids using empathy.
• Try to think of times when you have to do things you really don’t want to do so you can understand how your child is feeling.
• Give yourself a few moments a day to really see what’s coming up for you and how you are feeling.
• Use storytelling to help. Let your kids know how it felt when you went through it as a kid or how you feel when you’re starting something new. It’s a great way to connect.
• Talk to your kids about how they feel in general about going back to school.

#2 Tip:  Get back on your sleep schedule

• If you can, start 10 days before the first day of school and start shifting their bed time back in small increments so it’s not detected by your kiddos.
• If you weren’t able to do the shift, adjust your mindset to know that the first week back is going to be a little rough.
• Be prepared for big emotions until they adjust to their new sleep schedule. Use PARR, Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect to help with this.

# 3 Tip: Letting Go when you are feeling overwhelmed

• Going back to school can be a stressful time for both parents and children. Dealing with all the emails and meet the teachers, and buying all the supplies can be so overwhelming.
• I wrote an article for Detroit that goes over how to let go when life gets overwhelming, linked below. Here are some tips from it.
  • Really get clear on your priorities.
  • Do a rear view mirror test, Author Light Watkins has a test where you envision yourself 10 years from now and ask yourself what do you really want to remember about right now in this day.
  • This helps to really ask what do I need, which most mothers don’t sit with or ask themselves. It is so important for mothers to do this.
• Give yourself permission to break the rules when routines change, it’s hard for everyone.
• Don’t make it the week to set rules about screentime, it’s ok to break some rules for this week.
• Plan check-ins with yourself on how things are going. Go over what worked and what didn’t, what is really important.
• Take the time to see what is really a priority in your week, and say no when things don’t work with your schedule.
• When you do this and become really intentional about your time, you will really show up for what you commit to.
• I hope everyone adjusts quickly to going back to school and also has a great school year!

Resources:

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

My article referenced in the podcast. https://www.hourdetroit.com/fitness-wellness/learn-to-let-go-when-life-is-overwhelming/

Here is the link to Light Watkins site to check out his challenge that I talked about. https://www.lightwatkins.com/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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What we go over on ask me anything about parenting:

How to help with your child when they run away when you try to do a “break,” per Joe Newman’s process in helping strong-willed kids to help correct or improve a behavior.  

A break is a way to help your child reset - it is not a punishment. This is to help teach self-regulation.  

How to stop the fighting between siblings.  

We go over my view on sibling battles and how it is very triggering to parents.  

How we have to teach siblings to disagree calmly and correctly.  

Why you don’t want to blame anyone and have questions to ask to help to understand why the fighting is happening.  

How to stop an inappropriate behavior immediately when they are not listening.  

Why whining is so triggering to parents, it can bring up thoughts of bad parenting.  

How to explain behaviors to my 18-month-old when they don’t have the language skills yet to understand it?  

Why explanations are not consequences  

How children learn through actions and experiences

We review an example of how to handle a tantrum without a lengthy explanation.  

Redirecting an 18-month-old is a helpful tool, and staying calm will help with these situations.  

How to get your child to stop headbanging or other behaviors when they are having a tantrum.

This is a normal behavior for children and does mean that something is always wrong.  

3 must-dos when they are in the middle of this behavior to help.  

Using PARR, Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect is essential in these situations to help your child regulate their emotions and yours.

My favorite Proteins for my smoothies: Be Well by Kelly & Garden of Life  

I was asked if I watch tv, and I love to watch tv! The Bear is my new favorite. Make sure to check it out.

My favorite Podcasts: Pulling the Thread, Raising Good Humans, Cathy Heller, We Can Do Hard Things  

Resources:  

We go over breaks from episode 29  with Joe Newman. Make sure to check it out if you haven’t. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-lions-with-joe-newman/id1608790325?i=1000612430664

Podcasts that I reference:

Pulling the Thread https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes

Raising Good Humans https://draliza.com/

Cathy Heller https://www.cathyheller.com/blog/

We Can Do Hard Things https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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What we go over on:

• Emily’s exciting journey to where she is now.
• The high expectations we put on ourselves as mothers.
• What balance really looks like as a mother. 
• We discuss the book ‘On Our Best Behaviour’ by Elise Loehnen - she goes over how are value is rooted in our productivity.
• How to handle the writing without letting your head get in the way.
• Just keep doing what you are passionate about and you will get better as you go.
• You have to have a lot of courage and heart, there will always be critics but you just show up and keep doing what you are doing. 
• The only way to get better is to get comfortable with being green at one point and know that you will get better. 
• We need more mothers doing what they love with work and having a family to pave th way for other mothers to do the same. 
• The good of one is the good of the whole, every mother has their own personal story and there is room for everyone. Women need to get out of the competition and envious mindset of each other.
• Emily talks about the positives and negatives of Social media, especially after being a part of the original team with Social media management and ads. 
• We go over about sharing your children on social media. 
• Finding your balance on what works for you when using social media and which platform works best for you and your niche. 
• How having one main hub for your content is important. 
• Elizabeth Gilbert book ‘Big Magic’ - she believes that ideas are a living breathing thing.
• How mothers are the unsung heroes with the work they do every day.
• Emily’s journey of writing her fiction book. 

More about Emily Kay 

Emily Kay is a creative consultant who specializes in digital marketing and content creation for brands, and is also a professional writer who is currently working on her debut novel. 

She currently lives in metro Detroit with her husband and their three children, with their 4th and final baby due in October. 

LINKS:

Website: http://isntthatcharming.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/isntthatcharming/

Resources:

Here is the link to find out more about the book we discuss by Elise Loehnen https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehavior

Here is the link to find out more about what we discussed on Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Big Magic. https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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What we go over on tips for parents of strong-willed kids:

• Strong-willed kids don’t value approval; they value power. This really stood out to me from my talks with Joe Newman.
• A strong-willed child may be having significant behaviors, tantrums, and meltdowns. This means they need even stronger boundaries.
• When you have a first child who seeks approval and then a second child who wants power, you have to approach each child differently, which can be challenging.
• Most parenting models are based on the child who seeks approval, not power.
• When your child is acting up, they are asking you to help them anchor and calm down.
• Don’t talk in the moment. Set the boundary, show empathy, and then let them regulate their emotions.
• The longer you wait to set boundaries for strong-willed children, the harder it will be.
• Teach self-regulation practices when a child is calm.
• Joe Newman teaches breaks, where you let your child take a break for a minute so they can calm down. This helps teach them how to regulate their emotions.
• Coaching can be so helpful in navigating strong-willed children to get all the pieces of the puzzle to help your child and you out.

Resources:

Check out Episode 29 to hear the whole conversation with Joe Newman. This is not an episode to miss if you have a strong-willed kiddo! https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-29-raising-lions-with-joe-newman/

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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What we go over on how to respond to rude behaviour:

• How rude talk is very triggering as a parent.
• If you don’t have a process to stay calm as a parent, this can lead to energy matching from your child.
• Why my method PARR is such an important practice to help stay calm in these situations. See below for the free training.
• Using PARR does not mean not holding boundaries; it is there to help you respond with a more positive response.
• Your kids are not in trouble for the way they feel. Having feelings doesn’t yield punishments. But there are consequences for their actions.
• We want to have consequences for our children, not punishments that feel punitive in nature.
• Dr. Becky says when you say your child is not respecting me, what you are really saying is my child doesn’t fear me.
• Using fear will work in the short term but has consequences in the long term.
• How using fear affects the child who is seeking approval.
• If you have a strong-willed child, fear-based methods will not work.
• Why over-explaining to your children does not help.
• 9 out of 10 times, when a parent says they didn’t get an explanation, you really needed to be seen and not ashamed.
• Make sure to sign up for my  webinar on how to help with your strong willed child, link below.

Resources:

You can grab the free recording here and learn what PARR is, how it can be implemented in your home, and what tools you need to transform from yelling, overwhelmed, and exhausted to responsive, connected and joyful.

My webinar on How to respond to strong willed kids will be on June 29th, at 5 pm EST/ 2 pm PST. Make sure you are signed up for my newsletter for all the information and here is the link to sign up for it. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/live-webinar-raising-a-strongwilled-child.  

I reference Dr. Becky’s quote in this podcast, make sure to check out her Website, IG page and book for more helpful information on parenting. https://www.goodinside.com/

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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What we go over on how to regulate your child’s emotions:

• What is self-regulation for a child?
• What are signs that a child has good or bad self-regulations skills.
• The core of why most children are having tantrums and issues is that they are needing to gain the ability to regulate their emotions.
• Joe Newman talks about how when a child has too much power, they don’t know what to do with it. They are really reaching their hand out to their parent when they have too much power and asking who is going to meet my hand, by enforcing a firm boundary and staying consistent. Check out Episode 29 for more about this. 
• Why children need strong boundaries. 
• How the different ways parents grew up affect parenting styles. 
• How suppressed emotions affect your parenting. 
• How being inconsistent with your child confuses your child.
• Why explaining during a tantrum is not helpful. 
• Make sure to validate and show empathy when your child is having big emotions. 
• If you are feeling anxious when you know a tantrum is coming, your child will feel this as well. This is when you have to stay calm and anchored. 
• What to do when your child is hitting you. 
• Know that the tantrums will get bigger when you start to let them regulate and be prepared to be calm to help them through it. 
• It is ok to walk away during a tantrum, as long as it’s not a punishment. 
• Why using my method PARR is so important to help stay calm when handling tantrums and hard emotions. PARR is Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect
• Really pinpoint what is coming up for you so you can navigate stressful situations more effectively. 
• It does get easier when your child learns to self-regulate, I promise you. 
• You have to let your child do the hard part, let them go through the emotions. 
• I am opening up more spots for my 8-week 1:1 coaching so make sure to book your free call, link in the resources below. 

Resources:

I reference Episode 29 - Raising Lion with Joe Newman, make sure to check out this episode for tips on how to set boundaries for your strong-willed child. https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-29-raising-lions-with-joe-newman/

If you would like to do my 8-week 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child’s needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit. https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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What we go over about stuttering:

• How stuttering is misunderstood in our society with so much misinformation
• The definition of stuttering.
• There are some kids outgrow it, and some don’t.
• What is the best course if your child is stuttering?
• Why making space for the child to talk is so important.
• Don’t correct your child’s speech and let them enjoy talking.
• Watch how you are handling the stress and reactions in front of your child.
• Stuttering is not brain damage when we talk about neurological. Nothing is wrong. The brain is just more vulnerable.
• The aspects of stuttering that Dr. Daniels works on are stigma, acceptance, and advocacy.
• There are common microaggressions where people who stutter feel they need to defend themselves.
• Dr. Daniels tells his story of stuttering and what brought him to do his incredible work.
• Hiding and concealing were a big part of his life.
• The biggest takeaway from a child to an adult, it’s going to be ok.
• Just having conversations about stuttering is so essential to help break down the stigmas around stuttering.

Resources:

Learn more about Dr. Derek Daniels and resource for stuttering

Derek E. Daniels, Ph.D., CCC-SLP (he/him/his) dedaniels@wayne.edu

https://clasprofiles.wayne.edu/profile/dx5074

Associate Professor and Director of Graduate Studies (Graduate Officer)

Department of Communication Sciences and Disorders

Wayne State University

Vice President (V.P.) for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion

Michigan Speech-Language-Hearing Association (MSHA)

Links of interest

American Speech-Language-Hearing Association-http://www.asha.org/

National Black Association for Speech-Language and Hearing (NBASLH)-http://www.nbaslh.org/

National Stuttering Association - http://www.westutter.org/

Camp Shout Out for Youth Who Stutter- http://www.campshoutout.org/

FRIENDS: The National Association for Young People Who Stutter-https://www.friendswhostutter.org/

MySpeech- https://myspeechapp.org/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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What we go over with Joe Newman on Raising Lions:

• Joe’s story about how he wrote his book Raising Lions and the work he does.
• Why it is so important to understand connection and power with your child.
• Why eggshell parenting isn’t helping with behavior - when the parent backs away from challenges and does anything not to have a tantrum.
• The reason why strong-willed children need stronger boundaries.
• Why you need to take parts of old school and new school parenting to actually make it work.
• How giving too many choices is not helpful.
• Why doing less is more helpful.
• How Joe reframed timeouts to breaks.
• Breaks - what they really are and how and when to use them.
• Why no doesn’t mean no when you don’t set boundaries.
• How to get kids to take breaks when they aren’t listening.
• It takes time to undo children’s behaviors. It can sometimes take multiple experiences.
• It’s always us, as parents, it’s so critical to understand the dynamic of how you are dealing with your child.
• We are still at the beginning of understanding children. This requires stepping out of old paradigms and looking for what works for you and your child.
• Ask yourself, is what you are currently doing working? And if not, what can you do to shift the lens on what you are doing?
• Why ADHD children usually have sleep struggles.
• Kids need different things, some need approval, and others need power.
• Your child is not always seeking attention from you.
• Look at your behavior and past experiences as a parent. This affects your child.
• Children don’t learn cognitively first. They learn from experiences.

Learn more about Joe Newman - Raising Lions https://www.raisinglions.com/

Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@raising_lions

Bio - Joe Newman likes kids with attitude because he was one. In 1970 he was diagnosed with ADHD & medicated.  His book, Raising Lions, is the culmination of a 30-year journey working with the most difficult kids and a desire to bring a new, more effective perspective to our educational institutions and families.  He teaches parents and teachers simple, practical methods to understand and motivate all our children.  In 2018 UCSB conducted a year-long study on how his method improved student behavior, motivation, and engagement in Pre-K through 6th-grade classrooms.  He’s been a guest on Radio Andy (Andy Cohen), goop podcast, The Tools with Barry Michels, and many other podcasts.  He’s spoken to audiences across the U.S., in Canada, Europe, Hong Kong, Bahrain, and Saudi Arabia. In 2020, Raising Lions reached number one in its category on Amazon. 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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What we go over in the live Parent Coaching Session:

• Sleeping challenges with a 3-year-old 
• Do what is best for your family, co-sleeping or in their room.
• Tip from Joe Newman, Raising Lions, how to handle “One more book.”
• Dr. Becky from Good Inside says when kids struggle to sleep independently, it’s another part of separation anxiety.
• Use of timers and limitations of what they are asking before bed.
• Use baby steps when trying to get your child to go to bed by themself.
• An unpopular opinion - for some kiddos, tv before bed is helpful. 
• Tips on setting the mood for bedtime.
• How having a game plan is essential for success. 
• Why taking away nap time might help. 
• Look at how baths affect your kiddo; sometimes, they are more stimulating than relaxing.
• How power struggles before bed can give kids more energy.
• How to handle an older sibling struggling with the attention the younger sibling is getting. 
• Ways to make special connections with your kiddo needing more attention.

Resources:

Joe Newman - Raising Lions https://www.raisinglions.com/

Dr. Becky - https://www.goodinside.com/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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We discuss why my child’s different behaviors are happening, home vs. school:

• Guides to help with the different behaviors between home and school
• Every child is different, so this is just a guide.
• We go over children that don’t have tantrums at home but do at school.
• Question to ask, what is your child’s school learning environment and teaching style? What challenges are there for your child, and are they being challenged enough?
• Get the data on how they act at school; name it. And then see when it’s happening. This will require sitting with their teacher to better understand where it’s coming from.
• Find out if your kiddo is having issues sharing closer to lunchtime or when they are more tired at the end of the day.
• Consider adjusting bedtimes, adding more to their lunches, or maybe a snack is needed.
• Get a plan in place to see about changing this behavior before labeling them bad.
• Remember that kiddos are very accommodated at home; they don’t deal with wait times like at school.
• I remind parents that the issues children are dealing with are challenging for them to communicate with us.
• We must help our children build resilience, help them tolerate frustration, and develop problem-solving skills.
• Question to ask, especially for parents of neurodivergent children, are they in a place where they will thrive, or are they just trying to survive?
• Make sure to dig deeper into why the behavior is happening before putting all the blame on the school.
• Remember that school, in general, is designed for kids to conform.
• Why kids are acting up at home and not at school.
• Kids see other kids conforming, which can be overwhelming for your kiddos to follow, so when they get home to their safe place, they feel safe to express what they need and let their guard down. This results in tantrums and bad behaviors.
• It might be a good idea to see if there is a different class to help where it’s more your child’s speed.
• It’s a compliment to you as a parent when your child has tantrums or expresses hard emotions. It indicates they feel comfortable at home to do this.
• When a child acts up at home and not at school, it’s usually because they know the structure there. They can’t get away with it.
• Think about your boundaries in your home. Are you setting them and holding them, or are you repeating yourself repeatedly?
• Is there an agreement on parenting styles with your partner? If not, your child can be lost on what to do.
• Kids need a predictable outcome from both parents, even if they don’t like it.
• How are you connecting with your child throughout the day? Are you on your phone or computer when answering them? Are you asking them questions, being curious, and paying your full attention to them?
• Make sure you are validating their feelings about the boundaries you are setting for them.
• Look at the structure and routine of your home structure. If you have hectic mornings daily, this is setting your day up that way. Too much scheduled, too much snacking before bedtime, need to adjust bedtimes. Look at all these routines to see what you can help adjust to make it easier.
• Every family’s situation is so different. You should not be overwhelmed every day. If you are, reach out for help; 1:1 coaching, check with your doctor, mom groups, or carve out time for yourself.

Resources:

I have 2 -  1: 1 coaching spots opening up at the end of April. You can book a free 15 min call to see if this would be a good fit for you and your family.https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information.  https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

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If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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We discuss how to get your children to cooperate :

• Why repeating ourselves is not helpful.
• How being triggered affects our frustration. 
• Understanding how you are responding to the situation is helpful in changing it. 
• Why you end up yelling to get your children to listen. 
• Why constantly repeating yourself leads to your kiddos realize you are not following through on what you are saying. 
• Pinpoint what it is that you keep repeating over and over, then come up with an action to assign with the direction you are giving. 
• The difference between time out and taking a break. 
• We go over an example of how to practice being consistent with your words. 
• A parent’s biggest superpower is staying calm. 
• Why validating their emotion is important, from toddlers to teenagers. 
• The problem with inconsistent responses. 
• Why it’s ok if your child is not happy all the time. 
• Reasons why having a coach is so helpful. 
• It can take a few times to help shift behaviors, being consistent is key.
• There is a different framework for helping each child, this goes all the way up to teenagers. 
• Why you have to have a game plan. 
• Boundaries are love! Get off the repeat and warning train!

Resources:

Make sure to sign up for the 45 min Stop the Whining, and start connecting Workshop on April 4th https://theparentingreframe.com/whining-workshop/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

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If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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We discuss how to deal with whining:

• How whining is so triggering, myself included!
• How whining is two-fold, we get triggered but still have to deal with the behavior. 
• Why we need to pay attention to our own triggers and how we respond. 
• How to move from reactive to responsible parenting.
• You are not separate from your child; it’s always an interaction resulting in some type of behavior. 
• We don’t want to place blame, just the recognition that we all play a part. How understanding this will help your family grow for the better. 
• How to use PARR (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect) to help with whining. 
• Name your behavior when your child starts to whine. 
• Why not giving a consistent response isn’t helping.
• Why having a tool is essential to help you pause in stressful moments. 
• How I thought of whining kids before I had children; spoiled, bratty, or entitled.
• Once I realized my trigger, how I was able to change how I responded to whining. 
• You will make mistakes when dealing with triggers; just reset and try again.
• Whining is a secondary behavior to something else. 
• How to do a parenting audit.
  • When does the whining happen: time of day, near nap time, are they hungry, etc.?
  • Is it in response to something?
  • Find out the context of what is causing the whining.
• I will have a 60-minute workshop on whining at the end of March. Make sure you are on my email list so you will be the first to know when registration opens. 
• 3 different activities to help practice to help deal with whining when it’s not happening. 

Books referenced in the episode:

• Raising Lions - Joe Newman - https://www.raisinglions.com/
• Good Inside - Dr. Becky - https://www.goodinside.com/book/

Resources:

Make sure to sign up for my newsletter so you will be the first to be able to register for my 60-minute Whining Workshop at the end of March!

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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Megan’s Journey with IVF and adoption:

• Megan talks about her 9-year journey with IVF and infertility. 
• She talks about her health journey along the way.
• How it was harder not knowing why she couldn’t get pregnant. 
• The practice she did to handle not being able to carry a child. 
• How it came down to 2 choices for motherhood.
• Her journey with the adoption process and the stresses of getting there.
• The stress of the 10-day grace period for final adoption. 
• The exciting homecoming of baby Kylee
• Do you have a baby shower when you adopt, and other questions?
• How important it is to have a community. 
• The transition of going back to work with a baby. 
• Megan gives some advice to anyone who is going through the same things. 
• How can you let go of how it was supposed to be.

Learn more about Megan:

Power Your Purpose Podcast: https://www.meganaccardo.com/poweryourpurpose

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meganaccardo

Website: https://www.meganaccardo.com/

Pod Party: https://coaching.meganaccardo.com/pod-party

Resources:

Friday March 3rd at 1 pm EST is my first live workshop - The Taming Tantrums Workshop. It will be 90 mins where you get answers to your tantrum questions and learn how to get through this incredibly challenging phase of parenting. If you can’t make it live, don’t worry…you will have access to the full recording afterward! Plus time for Q&As, Copy of Tacking Tantrums and Challenging Behaviours E-Book along with 2 bonuses. You don’t want to miss it! 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options

 https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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How to Respond to Tantrums:

• 3 things not to do during a tantrum and why.
• Why we want to hold space for our kiddo during a tantrum.
• Why it’s important for kiddos to regulate their emotions and the effects it has on them.
• Ways to help during a tantrum.
• Make sure you are on my email list so that you can sign up for my first-ever Live workshop on tantrums, the information comes out this week!
• How to handle tantrums around 15 months. A little different than when they are 3.
• How framing the situation before a tantrum is helpful.
• How using PARR (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect) during tantrums can help cope with the situation easier.
• Why keeping your calm is essential for your kiddo during a tantrum.
• Advice for a teacher on how to handle tantrums in the classroom.
• How I handled tantrums in the classroom in my past years of teaching.
• Great quote from Dr. Becky Kennedy, author of Good Inside, Don't necessarily parent to be fair, parent the needs of your child.
• Techniques to calm down during a tantrum.
• The Starfish breathing to help stay calm during a tantrum or after.
• Why I don’t like the saying “Use your words”.

Resources:

Make sure you are on my email list so that you can sign up for my first-ever Live workshop on tantrums, the information comes out this week! 

Check out Episode 7 with how to use the starfish method with my good friend Harmony Slater. 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Tips to help picky eaters:

• Why kids around 18 months - 2 years usually become picky.
• When picky eating becomes more of a problem.
• Sensory can be a big part of picky eating: different textures of foods, choking issues from certain foods, etc.
• How parents' reactions can help kids be picky.
• Why letting your baby be messy while eating is helpful.
• Some tips on spoon feeding to make it easier.
• When to start feeding meats and the foods you eat.
• Why do kids like crunchy carb food so much?
• How bringing some fun and silliness in helping kids understand different food is helpful.
• Ways to help bring new foods to your kiddos with play, little changes at a time.
• Tips on introducing new foods to a picky eater.
• Kids like predictability, so that can be harder with fruits and vegetables.
• When should the sippy cups go away, and tips on how to do it?

Resources:

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Reasons why you don’t want your children to always be happy:

• Ask yourself what’s wrong with not being happy all the time?
• We teach kids to avoid and run away from hard things. 
• Why it’s not helpful to not process the hard things
• The reasons why I want my kids to learn how to deal with the hard things. 
• Why we want our kids to look at hard situations and see what they can take from the problems to grow from it
• Ways that you can reframe how to talk about challenging situations with your kids, even when you are as upset as they are
• Help them learn the lesson they can take from the situation, and reframe it positively 
• When we just want to make our kids, we are creating a co-dependency. 
• What happens when they aren’t having a good time, they won’t want to tell you to make you feel bad.
• Why coming from a place of neutrality is vital for our kids and how it can help them work through the struggle.
• Why we can’t make bad feelings the bad guy.
• One of the hardest parts of being a parent is the restraint to let your kids go through hard times, but they need to sit with it and learn from it.
• Take the time to see how you handle hard emotions as an adult.

Resources:

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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Tips for handling tantrums in public:

• The difference between tantrums in public vs tantrums at home. 
• Parents feel very exposed when tantrums happen in public, the reactions will change compared to at home. 
• Why your energy level is heightened in a public setting and how your child notices this.
• Why asking yourself how you handle tantrums at home will help when you are in public.  
• The difference between secondary re-enforcement vs. redirecting.
• The reasons why you want your kiddos to have tantrums at home; make sure you have empathy and are holding space for the tantrums. 
• There are certain times when it’s good to redirect your child’s behavior. 
• Tips on how to handle situations when you know that a tantrum will happen. 
• Frame the situation ahead of time with scripts to help avoid a tantrum, grab my freebie, How to Get your kids to listen, to help with this. 
• How to handle your kids from not hitting or throwing, why time outs aren’t my favorite for this. 
• Why talking during a tantrum does not help. 

Resources: 

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start on January 13th, there are only two spots left.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Tips for a less stressful holiday:

• Adjust your expectations of how the holidays should look.
• Don’t force the thank you. They do not understand why.
• Let them know why they should be thankful, and model it for them.
• Tips on how you can say thank you after the fact.
• Consider where and what you are saying yes to.
• Check in with yourself on what really matters, not trying to have everything perfect. Make a list of have-to’s and then what you tell yourself has to be done but doesn’t. 
• Try to stick to a schedule. It’s ok if you can’t. Don’t beat yourself up. 
• Have a grounding practice to help stay calm. Check out Ep 7 for more tips on this from my friend Harmony Slater.
• Don’t add more to your plate; look to simplify things. Even a 2 min meditation can help. Whatever works best for you. 
• Starfish breathing benefits kids when they need to relax or start the day. 
• At the end of the day, anchor yourself and look back at 3 things that were wins that day. 

Resources: 

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start on January 13th, there are only a few spots left.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

Check out Episode 7 with Harmony Slater on how to help stay calm. This is a good one to listen to this time of year. 

https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-7-tools-to-help-parents-and-kids-manage-stress-with-harmony-slater/

Here is the app I use for mediation.

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-breathing-app/id1285982210

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach:

• Why I don’t make kiddos apologize for their behaviors.
• We go over why this is not teaching your children empathy.
• Even though your child’s behavior is not always great, this does not mean you have a bad kid or are doing a bad job as a parent.
• Why I will never feel afraid of making mistakes as a parent.
• How to use the 80/20 rule when you feel bad for yelling at your child.
• Why using the moments when you aren’t doing your best parenting is the perfect time to help teach your child about how to reset and repair the situation. 
• Why giving yourself grace is so essential for you and your kiddo.
• Why confidence is gained through competence.
• It’s hard, but we must let our kids go through struggles. 
• What experience stacking is and why it’s important.
• 5 - 6-year-olds should have better coping skills and fewer tantrums; if not, they just need extra help dealing with difficult situations.
• How I still have a hard time not stepping in to help with my grown children.
• Why I never try to control the outcome. 
• Your child’s path may be very different from what you expected. Pay attention to the reasons why.
• I tell a story from a professor from my college days about why giving our kids the space to learn works and is important for the learning process. 
• Why I would never parent from a rigid place.

Resources: 

MetroParent article - The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach - https://www.metroparent.com/parenting/advice/what-a-parenting-coach-would-never-do/

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start in January.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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What we cover on why it’s hard to stay calm as a parent:

• Why understanding your parenting triggers is so important in helping to stay calm.
• What my trigger was when my children were young and how I reframed it.
• How using my PARR method helps with dealing with your parenting trigger.
• Question yourself about how you stay calm when triggered; this will help how you address the behavior
• Work on identifying your parenting block, the things you tell yourself about how to be a good parent.
• Having a demanding job does not mean you are doing a bad job as a parent.
• Get clear on what you and your family really need.
• Why I do what I do as a parenting coach.
• There have been two very different parent camps, very judgemental and list to follow or the free-spirited, with no structure.
• Why you shouldn’t be ashamed that your child is lying.
• Why being able to get a handle on your ability to stay calm helps you to be a better parent.
• You can only work on how you respond to what you can’t control.

Resources: 

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start in January.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options

 https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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What we cover on mompreneur, grief, community, and redefining mom life:

• We go over Elizabeth’s incredible journey and her multiple businesses.
• Stepping away from a 9-5 job and promotion to pursue her dreams with her business.
• How she dealt with the loss of both of her parents.
• Dealing with the grieving process.
• How she started Detriot Mom and the importance of community.
• Why finding your tribe is so important.
• Entrepreneurial life can be lonely, and ways to support yourself.
• Why done is better than perfect.
• Reasons why we need to have boundaries and stop people pleasing.
• Why Elizabeth has a coach and how it is essential to her success.
• Why focusing on yourself first is NOT selfish.
• Reframing “life balance” and how it is not always an even balance.
• Why independent play is essential for your children and you.
• Giving the right tools to your children that you didn’t get.
• Why changing societal norms is needed.
• Why expressing your needs is so important.

Learn more about Elizabeth:

Detroit Mom: https://detroitmom.com/

Lansing Mom: https://lansing.momcollective.com/

Retreat to Reclaim: https://pepper-hen-n7dc.squarespace.com/

Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamelizabethlewis/

Detroit Mom Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/detroitmoms/

Lansing Mom Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/retreattoreclaim/

Retreat to Reclaim Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/retreattoreclaim/

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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What we cover on entrepreneurship and motherhood:

• Juggling maternity leave as an entrepreneur.
• How to delegate while on maternity leave.
• How to navigate your work schedule with a newborn at home.
• The struggles with the formula shortage and not being able to feed your baby.
• We talk about how Stephanie created The Detroit Writing Room.
• The shift in The Detroit Writing Room due to Covid.
• What is next for Stephanie.
• What is Coaching Detroit Forward, and how it came about.

Learn more about Stephanie:

Stephanie Steinberg is the founder and CEO of The Detroit Writing Room, which offers professional writing coaches, workshops, book talks and more. She’s also the executive director of the nonprofit arm Coaching Detroit Forward, which organizes free writing and photography programs for Detroit high school students. Stephanie has been a journalist for over a decade and was previously the managing editor of SEEN Magazine. She also served as a features reporter at The Detroit News and a health and finance editor at U.S. News & World Report in Washington D.C. Stephanie is a University of Michigan alum, where she majored in Communication Studies and was the editor-in-chief of The Michigan Daily student newspaper. She is the editor of the book “In the Name of Editorial Freedom: 125 Years at the Michigan Daily” that was published by the University of Michigan Press in 2015. Throughout her career, she's contributed to various publications, including The New York Times, The Boston Globe, USA Today, CNN.com, The Huffington Post and others. 

Website:http://www.stephaniesteinberg.com/

Detroit Writing Room: https://www.detroitwritingroom.com/

Coaching Detroit Forward: https://www.coachingdetroitforward.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_steinberg/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DetroitWritingRoom/

Resources:

I hope you found this episode helpful, for more parenting tips check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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Anxiety can be incredibly hard to navigate. We want our kids to have the tools to work through challenging moments, but we also want to validate each experience. Kate weighs in and explains how parents need their own support system and framework so they can be the anchor for their child.

What we cover on ways to parent an anxious child:

• At what point is anxiety considered a disorder, where specialized support is needed?
• How can parents help their child work through anxious thoughts.
• How can parents reflect and examine their own anxiety and how it impacts their children.
• Why parents need their own framework and support to navigate anxious thoughts.
• Tips and tricks to help the whole family work through anxiety rather than being consumed by it.

Learn more about Kate:

Her mission is to help parents overcome their stress, frustration, and overwhelm, and instead become the calm, connected, confident parent they hoped to be. 

For more information, or to find out about working with Kate, you can visit her website at www.katecornish.com or find her on Instagram @mskatecornish. 

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful, for more parenting tips check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options

 https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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What We Cover on Enneagrams & Parenting

• What exactly is an enneagram.
• Can your enneagram number change over time.
• How health and stress can give you a different number.
• We go over my enneagram results and how accurate they are.
• How parenting can affect your enneagram number.
• The tool that Nicole uses to help with challenging moments with her kiddos.
• How PARR was a tool that helped me with challenging moments.
• How long do you need to use the enneagram tool to get the best results.
• Nicole discusses if we should use the  enneagram on children.
• How enneagram comes into play with partners in parenting.
• Why having two different enneagram types as parents is a good thing.
• Why letting your children make mistakes is so important.

Find out more about Nicole: 

Free Guide:

Unlock Your Leadership Superpowers

https://myleadershipsuperpowers.com/

Enneagram Typing Sessions:

https://nicolemcdonoughcoaching.com/enneagramtyping

Website:

https://nicolemcdonoughcoaching.com/

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/nicoledianemcdonough/

FB:

https://www.facebook.com/nicole.mcdonough.925/

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.