https://simplecast.com Blue Wives Tribe A podcast dedicated to police wife/police girlfriend mental health and wellness issues hosted by fellow police wife and California based psychologist, Nicole Vienna. 2020 Blue Wives Tribe en Mon, 25 Oct 2021 13:00:00 +0000 Mon, 25 Oct 2021 13:00:11 +0000 https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com Blue Wives Tribe https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/6201822e-2380-490c-b412-a3c1b56bb7ad/4cf45085-d8d7-4814-944d-2e34e52bf077/3000x3000/bwt-badge-solid-white-blue.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com episodic A podcast dedicated to police wife/police girlfriend mental health and wellness issues hosted by fellow police wife and California based psychologist, Nicole Vienna. Nicole M. Vienna yes https://feeds.simplecast.com/j5Ts4VJE police wife life, police wife mental health, police wife, law enforcement officer wife, leow, mental health, police, police girlfriend, wellness Nicole M. Vienna nvienna@bluewivestribe.com 2621f9f5-0209-4a48-9d35-fcb8a1bc97fd Armor of God for Police WIves About JJ:

JJ is a corporate-career-woman turned homeschool mom, writer, girls Bible teacher, and LEOW ministry leader. She’s passionate about caring for the hearts of law enforcement wives. As a LE wife for over 20 years, JJ understands these brides are often forgotten in our culture today. To provide a safe and trusted environment for law enforcement wives, JJ co-founded a local ministry called Blue Line Brides - a place for police wives to connect, feel known, receive encouragement in the Lord and laugh a little too! Most days you can find JJ sipping ice tea, writing words and spoiling her German Shepherd, Bella. JJ is the author of Armor of God for Police Wives and Chickening IN- from FEAR to Courageous FAITH.

Website: http://www.jjgutierrezauthor.com

Amazon link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Armor-God-Police-Wives-Gutierrez/dp/B09FS5BF51/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=armor+of+god+for+police+wives&qid=1631773254&sr=8-1

Instagram Link: https://www.instagram.com/jjgutierrezauthor/

]]> Mon, 25 Oct 2021 13:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (JJ Gutierrez, Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/armor-of-god-for-police-wives-l2SsNN4H About JJ:

JJ is a corporate-career-woman turned homeschool mom, writer, girls Bible teacher, and LEOW ministry leader. She’s passionate about caring for the hearts of law enforcement wives. As a LE wife for over 20 years, JJ understands these brides are often forgotten in our culture today. To provide a safe and trusted environment for law enforcement wives, JJ co-founded a local ministry called Blue Line Brides - a place for police wives to connect, feel known, receive encouragement in the Lord and laugh a little too! Most days you can find JJ sipping ice tea, writing words and spoiling her German Shepherd, Bella. JJ is the author of Armor of God for Police Wives and Chickening IN- from FEAR to Courageous FAITH.

Website: http://www.jjgutierrezauthor.com

Amazon link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Armor-God-Police-Wives-Gutierrez/dp/B09FS5BF51/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=armor+of+god+for+police+wives&qid=1631773254&sr=8-1

Instagram Link: https://www.instagram.com/jjgutierrezauthor/

]]> Armor of God for Police WIves JJ Gutierrez, Nicole Vienna 00:34:53 Today, I talked with JJ, author of a new bible study book specifically for police wives and girlfriends called Armor of God for Police Wives. Link to her book here - Amazon link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Armor-God-Police-Wives-Gutierrez/dp/B09FS5BF51/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=armor+of+god+for+police+wives&qid=1631773254&sr=8-1 Today, I talked with JJ, author of a new bible study book specifically for police wives and girlfriends called Armor of God for Police Wives. Link to her book here - Amazon link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Armor-God-Police-Wives-Gutierrez/dp/B09FS5BF51/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=armor+of+god+for+police+wives&qid=1631773254&sr=8-1 police wife, god, law enforcement, thin blue line, bible, police girlfriend, leow yes full 19 6af4b27a-6afa-4728-80be-c50459dc4beb Overeating & Overdrinking: Changing Your Relationship with Food & Alcohol About Ashley: 

Ashley is a certified life coach and weight loss coach. Her husband is a k9 handler and they have been together for 12 years.They have a 6 year old son who keeps them very busy.  Ashley is passionate about helping her clients experience less stress and anxiety in their daily lives by changing their thought patterns. She uses thought adaptation techniques to help clients rewire their brains and create new thoughts, beliefs and habits. 

Contact Ashley: 

https://www.thinbluelinelifecoach.com

Instagram @thinbluelinelifecoach

Gmail: thinbluelinelifecoach@gmail.com

Linked In : Ashley Dunnwald 

]]> Fri, 22 Oct 2021 11:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Ashley Dunwald, Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/overeating-overdrinking-changing-your-relationship-with-food-alcohol-1Ev6ZMyW About Ashley: 

Ashley is a certified life coach and weight loss coach. Her husband is a k9 handler and they have been together for 12 years.They have a 6 year old son who keeps them very busy.  Ashley is passionate about helping her clients experience less stress and anxiety in their daily lives by changing their thought patterns. She uses thought adaptation techniques to help clients rewire their brains and create new thoughts, beliefs and habits. 

Contact Ashley: 

https://www.thinbluelinelifecoach.com

Instagram @thinbluelinelifecoach

Gmail: thinbluelinelifecoach@gmail.com

Linked In : Ashley Dunnwald 

]]> Overeating & Overdrinking: Changing Your Relationship with Food & Alcohol Ashley Dunwald, Nicole Vienna 00:31:31 Today, our special guest talked to us about changing thinking patterns related to overeating and over drinking. We discussed how to change your relationship with food and alcohol! Today, our special guest talked to us about changing thinking patterns related to overeating and over drinking. We discussed how to change your relationship with food and alcohol! police wife, thin blue line, police girlfriend, leow yes full 18 5566d6a5-ff6f-4bc3-85ea-bf02015a10b0 Strong Police Wife Society Find Lauren and The Strong Police Wife Society on IG here 

@strongpolicewifesociety

Join The Strong Police Wife Society by clicking here

 

]]> Wed, 25 Aug 2021 11:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Blue Wives, Lauren, Strong Police Wife Society, Nicole, Blue Wives Tribe) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/strong-police-wife-society-tHY9Jn7W Find Lauren and The Strong Police Wife Society on IG here 

@strongpolicewifesociety

Join The Strong Police Wife Society by clicking here

 

]]> Strong Police Wife Society Blue Wives, Lauren, Strong Police Wife Society, Nicole, Blue Wives Tribe 00:33:03 I know I may say this a lot, but this was one of my fav guest interviews.I chat with Lauren, founder of The Strong Police Wife Society about her struggles as a LEOW and balancing marriage + kids. And how she came to form Strong Police Wife Society and details on how to join (hint- doors just opened yesterday!). This was such a real, honest, and open discussion LE marriages. A little about Lauren: She is a mom of four. She has been with her LEO for 10 years, married for 6. He is an officer in a major city in MN. Lauren is a certified health and life coach who specifically works with LEOW. She empower LEOW to ditch stress and survival mode to be stronger in their relationships with themselves, their officers, and God. I know I may say this a lot, but this was one of my fav guest interviews.I chat with Lauren, founder of The Strong Police Wife Society about her struggles as a LEOW and balancing marriage + kids. And how she came to form Strong Police Wife Society and details on how to join (hint- doors just opened yesterday!). This was such a real, honest, and open discussion LE marriages. A little about Lauren: She is a mom of four. She has been with her LEO for 10 years, married for 6. He is an officer in a major city in MN. Lauren is a certified health and life coach who specifically works with LEOW. She empower LEOW to ditch stress and survival mode to be stronger in their relationships with themselves, their officers, and God. police wife, mental health, leow, back the blue yes full 17 558b5150-287f-4833-9078-296192031d12 Heels and Holsters Find Kristen's merch and free preview of her book,  Be a Happy Police wife in Motherhood  here

Be a Happy Police Wife in Motherhood Audio Book here 

 

]]> Tue, 24 Aug 2021 15:50:29 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Heels and Holsters, Nicole, Blue Wives Tribe, Kristen) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/heels-and-holsters-SmXhWvBA Find Kristen's merch and free preview of her book,  Be a Happy Police wife in Motherhood  here

Be a Happy Police Wife in Motherhood Audio Book here 

 

]]> Heels and Holsters Heels and Holsters, Nicole, Blue Wives Tribe, Kristen 00:33:09 This is an interview with Kristen from Heels and Holsters. Find her on IG @heelsandholsters Some cool things we talked about: * Her no-excuses, practical guide that you can read in five minutes a day for 10 days * Topics in her guide: 1. Acceptance (A) 2. Self-Care Physical Activity (S) 3. Self-Care Sleep or Lack or It 4. Self-Care The Way You Look 5. Self-Care Nutrition 6. Self-Care Spiritual/Emotional 7. Self-Care Social 8. Independence- Solitude (I) 9. Independence- Motherhood Help 10. Planning for You (P) This is an interview with Kristen from Heels and Holsters. Find her on IG @heelsandholsters Some cool things we talked about: * Her no-excuses, practical guide that you can read in five minutes a day for 10 days * Topics in her guide: 1. Acceptance (A) 2. Self-Care Physical Activity (S) 3. Self-Care Sleep or Lack or It 4. Self-Care The Way You Look 5. Self-Care Nutrition 6. Self-Care Spiritual/Emotional 7. Self-Care Social 8. Independence- Solitude (I) 9. Independence- Motherhood Help 10. Planning for You (P) police wife, mental health, police girlfriend, leow, back the blue no full 16 2da234b7-074f-4e7f-87ae-45a975200aaf First Responders First Treatment Program with Eric and Elizabeth Rivas https://www.firstrespondersfirst.com/

Contact Eric (Admissions Director): 

(888) 252-5767

admissions@firstrespondersfirst.com

Intensive Outpatient Program Video 

 

Residential Treatment Program aka The Ranch Video 

]]> Sun, 18 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/first-responders-first-treatment-program-with-eric-and-elizabeth-rivas-6ziZJwF6 https://www.firstrespondersfirst.com/

Contact Eric (Admissions Director): 

(888) 252-5767

admissions@firstrespondersfirst.com

Intensive Outpatient Program Video 

 

Residential Treatment Program aka The Ranch Video 

]]> First Responders First Treatment Program with Eric and Elizabeth Rivas Nicole M. Vienna 01:07:36 In this episode, I sat down and talked with Eric and Elizabeth Rivas from First Responders First Treatment Program. They are a husband-wife LE Family Duo! Eric is recently retired LEO and Elizabeth is longtime LEOW, licensed marriage and family therapist, and former correctional officer. They talk to us about the treatment program offerings, common struggles of first responders, and the steps they can take to get help. In this episode, I sat down and talked with Eric and Elizabeth Rivas from First Responders First Treatment Program. They are a husband-wife LE Family Duo! Eric is recently retired LEO and Elizabeth is longtime LEOW, licensed marriage and family therapist, and former correctional officer. They talk to us about the treatment program offerings, common struggles of first responders, and the steps they can take to get help. yes full 15 d60f00ef-5f25-4f01-b92a-00d4bb283c0c Four Ways to Maintain your Mental Health as a LEOW Resources

Safe Call Now  (Referral Source for First Responder Families)

Psychology Today (Therapist Search)

Therapy Tribe

1-800-273-8255 (National Suicide Hotline)

Call your department’s EAP (Employer Assistance Program)

Contact Nicole

Email: nvienna@bluewivestribe.com 

]]> Tue, 22 Jun 2021 13:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/four-ways-to-maintain-your-mental-health-as-a-leow-IjIXLkYD Resources

Safe Call Now  (Referral Source for First Responder Families)

Psychology Today (Therapist Search)

Therapy Tribe

1-800-273-8255 (National Suicide Hotline)

Call your department’s EAP (Employer Assistance Program)

Contact Nicole

Email: nvienna@bluewivestribe.com 

]]> Four Ways to Maintain your Mental Health as a LEOW Nicole Vienna 00:21:22 Being a police wife or police girlfriend has its challenges. How you respond to those challenges is what colors your experience. Do you want to just get by, or do you want to thrive through this journey? You hold all the power. In this episode I cover 4 ways to maintain your mental wellness as a LEOW or LEO GF. 1.Reframe Negative Thoughts 2. Have a Favorite Hobby 3. Practice Gratitude 4. Radical Acceptance Being a police wife or police girlfriend has its challenges. How you respond to those challenges is what colors your experience. Do you want to just get by, or do you want to thrive through this journey? You hold all the power. In this episode I cover 4 ways to maintain your mental wellness as a LEOW or LEO GF. 1.Reframe Negative Thoughts 2. Have a Favorite Hobby 3. Practice Gratitude 4. Radical Acceptance police wife, mental health, coping skills, anxiety, police girlfriend, ptsd, leow, depression no full 14 69331190-55b5-4510-a440-282cbc0749ca A Review: The Perceived Impact of Police Work on Marital Relationships Mon, 14 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/a-review-the-perceived-impact-of-police-work-on-marital-relationships-6VFTs__C A Review: The Perceived Impact of Police Work on Marital Relationships Nicole M. Vienna 00:19:16 In this episode, I overview a research article about how police work creates unique stressors in marital relationships. Karaffa et al. 2015 conducted a research study wherein they administered a needs assessment (a questionnaire asking LEOs and their spouses about the kinds of difficulties they faced in their marriage) to 82 officers and 89 officer spouses. The average age of the officer completing the survey was 39. The average number of years the LEOs and their spouses were married was 1-5 years when they took the survey. The results showed LEOs and their spouses agreed upon the kind of stressors they faced and the kind of support they sought out. The researchers found that while spouses were proud to be married to their LEOs, concerns still existed about finances, work-family conflict, and law enforcement-specific stressors, such as negative attitudes toward police. Both officers and their spouses relied heavily on support from their family and friends (including other police families) than professional support. I also give my fav tips on increasing communication in your relationship with your LEO. In this episode, I overview a research article about how police work creates unique stressors in marital relationships. Karaffa et al. 2015 conducted a research study wherein they administered a needs assessment (a questionnaire asking LEOs and their spouses about the kinds of difficulties they faced in their marriage) to 82 officers and 89 officer spouses. The average age of the officer completing the survey was 39. The average number of years the LEOs and their spouses were married was 1-5 years when they took the survey. The results showed LEOs and their spouses agreed upon the kind of stressors they faced and the kind of support they sought out. The researchers found that while spouses were proud to be married to their LEOs, concerns still existed about finances, work-family conflict, and law enforcement-specific stressors, such as negative attitudes toward police. Both officers and their spouses relied heavily on support from their family and friends (including other police families) than professional support. I also give my fav tips on increasing communication in your relationship with your LEO. marraige, police, police wife, mental health, leo, stress, leow yes full 13 784518e8-e916-4227-b3b7-2c650dab1714 Season 2: Moving Forward from 2020 Sun, 6 Jun 2021 15:41:48 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/season-2-moving-forward-from-2020-8Sw8PGiG Season 2: Moving Forward from 2020 Nicole M. Vienna 00:21:17 In this episode, Nicole reviews some quick tips on moving forward from the Floyd issue. She goes over some personal steps her and her husband have taken to maintain balance and wellness. In this episode, Nicole reviews some quick tips on moving forward from the Floyd issue. She goes over some personal steps her and her husband have taken to maintain balance and wellness. yes full 12 13804cfa-b0c1-4798-97d8-92885c10381a LEOW Alisha and Code 3 Counseling In this episode, Nicole interviews Alisha, fellow LEOW and licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a certified First Responder Therapist. She grew up the daughter of a police officer in the Central Valley. After her husband and her were married, he went to the academy and is now a LEO in the Monterey Bay. However, this WAS NOT part of their plan. Listen to the episode to learn how her LEO decided on his career. Alisha and her LEO have two young kiddos, have been married for almost 8 years, and are actively involved in our church community (more so when not in quarantine). She is also the co-founder and owner of Code 3 Counseling in California where she works with her dad (now retired LEO) on providing mental health and educational services to first responders. 

In the interview, Alisha discusses the mindset to have as a LEOW in difficult times - that this is a season and it will pass. She also talks about focusing on "what we are going to get from it [tough times]" and how to grow from it. In addition, you will hear about how to hold space during trauma or sadness. 

Most notably, she shares her journey with getting her husband hired and settled into a department. They struggled with the political aftermath of issues at his department, which caused problems with him getting hired. And then when he got hired in the Monterey Bay, they did a “long-distance-ish” thing where he would commute to the Monterey Bay from Stockton (3 hours) for his work week and then come home on his days off. They did that for about 18 months before the kids and her moved out when he got off of probation (also, he started the department work when their second child was 14 days old). And then moving out the Monterey Bay, they had absolutely no support system when they moved. Thus, they had to work hard to build for them and have an "us." 

LEOW advice from Alisha. "It would be to understand how responders react to the trauma they are exposed to. When we understand the impact of trauma, we can recognize it more easily, and the respond in grace to the problems these responses cause in our marriage/relationship with our responder. This is not to excuse their inappropriate behavior. When we understand that our spouse is responding to the trauma their brain experienced, we can respond in a helpful and constructive way than a shameful and hurtful way. "

Other cool things mentioned in the episode: 

Its not about the nail video

Code 3 Counseling  (Alisha's counseling practice)

]]> Tue, 2 Feb 2021 13:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna, Alisha Sweyd, Code 3 Counseling) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/leow-alisha-and-code-3-counseling-XmU2d1JM In this episode, Nicole interviews Alisha, fellow LEOW and licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a certified First Responder Therapist. She grew up the daughter of a police officer in the Central Valley. After her husband and her were married, he went to the academy and is now a LEO in the Monterey Bay. However, this WAS NOT part of their plan. Listen to the episode to learn how her LEO decided on his career. Alisha and her LEO have two young kiddos, have been married for almost 8 years, and are actively involved in our church community (more so when not in quarantine). She is also the co-founder and owner of Code 3 Counseling in California where she works with her dad (now retired LEO) on providing mental health and educational services to first responders. 

In the interview, Alisha discusses the mindset to have as a LEOW in difficult times - that this is a season and it will pass. She also talks about focusing on "what we are going to get from it [tough times]" and how to grow from it. In addition, you will hear about how to hold space during trauma or sadness. 

Most notably, she shares her journey with getting her husband hired and settled into a department. They struggled with the political aftermath of issues at his department, which caused problems with him getting hired. And then when he got hired in the Monterey Bay, they did a “long-distance-ish” thing where he would commute to the Monterey Bay from Stockton (3 hours) for his work week and then come home on his days off. They did that for about 18 months before the kids and her moved out when he got off of probation (also, he started the department work when their second child was 14 days old). And then moving out the Monterey Bay, they had absolutely no support system when they moved. Thus, they had to work hard to build for them and have an "us." 

LEOW advice from Alisha. "It would be to understand how responders react to the trauma they are exposed to. When we understand the impact of trauma, we can recognize it more easily, and the respond in grace to the problems these responses cause in our marriage/relationship with our responder. This is not to excuse their inappropriate behavior. When we understand that our spouse is responding to the trauma their brain experienced, we can respond in a helpful and constructive way than a shameful and hurtful way. "

Other cool things mentioned in the episode: 

Its not about the nail video

Code 3 Counseling  (Alisha's counseling practice)

]]> LEOW Alisha and Code 3 Counseling Nicole Vienna, Alisha Sweyd, Code 3 Counseling 00:54:31 police wife, mental health, anxiety, stress, ptsd, leow, true crime, code 3 counseling no full 11 430ae935-de4f-419e-840c-e6e8eac53bf7 Coping with a Critical Incident - The Journey of LEOW Emma About Emma: 

Emma grew up in the suburbia of New Jersey. From a young age she had a love for all things blue because her grandfather had been a State Trooper. When she was old enough she attended the New Jersey State Police week-long academy experience. Throughout high school she worked at a farmer’s market and alongside her friend and mentor, Barbara, rapidly developing a love for all things agriculture. After graduating high school, she moved down south to pursue farming in a hands-on internship, during which she also dated her now husband, who is a country police officer. They were married in January of this year, and enjoy life on their small homestead startup. 

A piece of advice from LEOW Emma: 

Remember that your strength can’t come from a finite source, a store that can be depleted. I’ve definitely tried to do everything on my own before, hold everything together by myself, and every time I just end up burnt out. My strength truly comes from Christ, reading the word of God and prayer. When I don’t have to rely on myself to “keep it all together”, it frees me up to do the second most important thing, whether you’re a police wife or not: just enjoy the little things. The little moments in life. Focus on the here and now. In the words of Jim Elliot, “Live to the hilt”. 

 

Cool things mentioned:

The 5 Love Languages

Brene Brown's Empathy vs Sympathy video

Emma's IG: @forget_me_knotbond

 

 

]]> Tue, 15 Dec 2020 13:00:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/coping-with-a-critical-incident-the-journey-of-leow-emma-Q0oScX9I About Emma: 

Emma grew up in the suburbia of New Jersey. From a young age she had a love for all things blue because her grandfather had been a State Trooper. When she was old enough she attended the New Jersey State Police week-long academy experience. Throughout high school she worked at a farmer’s market and alongside her friend and mentor, Barbara, rapidly developing a love for all things agriculture. After graduating high school, she moved down south to pursue farming in a hands-on internship, during which she also dated her now husband, who is a country police officer. They were married in January of this year, and enjoy life on their small homestead startup. 

A piece of advice from LEOW Emma: 

Remember that your strength can’t come from a finite source, a store that can be depleted. I’ve definitely tried to do everything on my own before, hold everything together by myself, and every time I just end up burnt out. My strength truly comes from Christ, reading the word of God and prayer. When I don’t have to rely on myself to “keep it all together”, it frees me up to do the second most important thing, whether you’re a police wife or not: just enjoy the little things. The little moments in life. Focus on the here and now. In the words of Jim Elliot, “Live to the hilt”. 

 

Cool things mentioned:

The 5 Love Languages

Brene Brown's Empathy vs Sympathy video

Emma's IG: @forget_me_knotbond

 

 

]]> Coping with a Critical Incident - The Journey of LEOW Emma Nicole Vienna 00:35:26 Today starts our series on LEOW journeys! We open with an interview from our very own social media admin, Emma! Emma shares her story about coping with her LEO being in a critical incident shortly after they were married and very early on in his career. Her husband has almost died twice this year already (barely a week after they got home from our honeymoon!). He was severely injured on duty in January, and will have symptoms for the rest of his life due to it. In some ways it changed the man she married weeks after they said I do, but through it all they’ve both learned a lot about commitment, patience, and love. Today starts our series on LEOW journeys! We open with an interview from our very own social media admin, Emma! Emma shares her story about coping with her LEO being in a critical incident shortly after they were married and very early on in his career. Her husband has almost died twice this year already (barely a week after they got home from our honeymoon!). He was severely injured on duty in January, and will have symptoms for the rest of his life due to it. In some ways it changed the man she married weeks after they said I do, but through it all they’ve both learned a lot about commitment, patience, and love. police, police wife, mental health, critical incident, police girlfriend, leow no full 10 1cc200c5-599a-4c9c-892d-3281a1d073aa Depression with Dr. Vicky Places to find a therapist:

https://www.life-giver.org/find-a-counselor/

www.Psychologytoday.com 

Disclaimer: Episodes and content covered on episodes by the host and guests are not a substitute for medical or psychiatric advice. They are not intended to diagnose or treat anyone or any condition. Episodes and content are for educational purposes only. 

]]> Mon, 30 Nov 2020 17:33:39 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Dr. Nicole Vienna, Dr. Vicky Lomay) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/depression-ynl36N_J Places to find a therapist:

https://www.life-giver.org/find-a-counselor/

www.Psychologytoday.com 

Disclaimer: Episodes and content covered on episodes by the host and guests are not a substitute for medical or psychiatric advice. They are not intended to diagnose or treat anyone or any condition. Episodes and content are for educational purposes only. 

]]> Depression with Dr. Vicky Dr. Nicole Vienna, Dr. Vicky Lomay 00:52:56 In this episode talk with Dr. Vicky, one of our peer support group leaders and fellow LEOW. We talk about: -Her ah ha moment as a police wife (how she knew, oh, this is what it’s like to be a police wife) -Coping as a new LEOW -Dr. Vicky’s background as psychologist -How to ask your therapist or potential therapist about their training and background -How common depression is -Typical symptoms of depression - How Postpartum Depression (PPD) is different from Clinical Depression -Coping tips for PPD In this episode talk with Dr. Vicky, one of our peer support group leaders and fellow LEOW. We talk about: -Her ah ha moment as a police wife (how she knew, oh, this is what it’s like to be a police wife) -Coping as a new LEOW -Dr. Vicky’s background as psychologist -How to ask your therapist or potential therapist about their training and background -How common depression is -Typical symptoms of depression - How Postpartum Depression (PPD) is different from Clinical Depression -Coping tips for PPD police mental health, police, police wife, mental health, police girlfriend, leow, depression yes full 9 812efc88-3b96-47bc-9b31-76ebcf21cd2d Blue Wife Life Podcast - Becky and Mary Blue Wives Tribe Community Updates!! 

Email Nicole your name and address if you want a challenge coin: nvienna@vpg-corp.com - ($25) – you will get a QR code to send your money (to Nicole’s account). Once payment is received, coin will ship out!

Subscribe to the Newsletter: https://linktr.ee/bluewivestribe

Peer support Meeting 11/11 (Led by Ashley) -- please download ring central meetings app. and then click here.

Email Nicole, Message us on FB or IG for the password! 

11/18  LEOW Peer support meeting (Led by Vicky)  

No meeting on 11/25 (Thanksgiving) 

Quarterly Wellness Webinar (Nicole & Kaleigh)- News Years Resolution and Setting Goals for 2021!  December 2020 (TBD exact date)

LEOW and Lattes – every Friday at 9am PST – join me LIVE for LEOW conversations! 

Blue Wife Life Podcast 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blue-wife-life/id1434574527

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blue-wife-life/id1434574527?i=1000429197359

Yardfetti 

https://www.yardfetti.com/

]]> Tue, 10 Nov 2020 06:13:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/blue-wife-life-podcast-becky-and-mary-ZmdFYRF1 Blue Wives Tribe Community Updates!! 

Email Nicole your name and address if you want a challenge coin: nvienna@vpg-corp.com - ($25) – you will get a QR code to send your money (to Nicole’s account). Once payment is received, coin will ship out!

Subscribe to the Newsletter: https://linktr.ee/bluewivestribe

Peer support Meeting 11/11 (Led by Ashley) -- please download ring central meetings app. and then click here.

Email Nicole, Message us on FB or IG for the password! 

11/18  LEOW Peer support meeting (Led by Vicky)  

No meeting on 11/25 (Thanksgiving) 

Quarterly Wellness Webinar (Nicole & Kaleigh)- News Years Resolution and Setting Goals for 2021!  December 2020 (TBD exact date)

LEOW and Lattes – every Friday at 9am PST – join me LIVE for LEOW conversations! 

Blue Wife Life Podcast 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blue-wife-life/id1434574527

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blue-wife-life/id1434574527?i=1000429197359

Yardfetti 

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]]> Blue Wife Life Podcast - Becky and Mary Nicole M. Vienna 00:57:07 Today’s episode is an interview with the ladies from Blue Wife Life podcast!! We talked about: • Reasons why Becky and Mary started Blue Wife Life Podcast and how one of them handled a family member who talked badly about law enforcement! • Federal Law Enforcement Academy – some things to expect as a LEOW such as your spouse possibly moving away for the academy months. • How to support your officer during their time away (on assignment or in the academy) • Self-Care Routines (Be intentional. Doesn’t have to be long. Can be as short as 2 minutes!) Examples are: Quiet Time (intentional), Devotional, Prayer, Meditation, Exercise (walk/run/yoga/bike), Eating Breakfast! Today’s episode is an interview with the ladies from Blue Wife Life podcast!! We talked about: • Reasons why Becky and Mary started Blue Wife Life Podcast and how one of them handled a family member who talked badly about law enforcement! • Federal Law Enforcement Academy – some things to expect as a LEOW such as your spouse possibly moving away for the academy months. • How to support your officer during their time away (on assignment or in the academy) • Self-Care Routines (Be intentional. Doesn’t have to be long. Can be as short as 2 minutes!) Examples are: Quiet Time (intentional), Devotional, Prayer, Meditation, Exercise (walk/run/yoga/bike), Eating Breakfast! yes full 8 034e91ff-5e6f-42bb-83e3-9aa6265900f7 Wives On-Duty Find Allison’s Cuffs and Coffee Devotional Here:

https://www.amazon.com/Cuffs-Coffee-Devotional-Wives-Enforcement/dp/1542371953

 

]]> Tue, 20 Oct 2020 07:02:10 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna, Allison P. Uribe) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/wives-on-duty-IQhPNCyI Find Allison’s Cuffs and Coffee Devotional Here:

https://www.amazon.com/Cuffs-Coffee-Devotional-Wives-Enforcement/dp/1542371953

 

]]> Wives On-Duty Nicole Vienna, Allison P. Uribe 01:13:04 On this episode, I interview Alison P. Uribe. Allison is a chaplain, conference speaker, and author. In 2008, she and her husband - a San Antonio, Texas, police officer - founded Wives on Duty Ministries with a mission to support, encourage, and inspire the spouses of first responders through God's word. Allison has authored two books, Because I'm Suitable:  The Journey of a Wife on Duty which now has a Revised Edition and Cuffs and Coffee :  A Devotional for wives of America's Law Enforcement  Officers. She shares a bit about her personal story of how she almost left my husband 3 times until she decided to cling to her faith and her marriage was saved. She is real, honest, and raw about the seasons of struggle and how she overcame it. On this episode, I interview Alison P. Uribe. Allison is a chaplain, conference speaker, and author. In 2008, she and her husband - a San Antonio, Texas, police officer - founded Wives on Duty Ministries with a mission to support, encourage, and inspire the spouses of first responders through God's word. Allison has authored two books, Because I'm Suitable:  The Journey of a Wife on Duty which now has a Revised Edition and Cuffs and Coffee :  A Devotional for wives of America's Law Enforcement  Officers. She shares a bit about her personal story of how she almost left my husband 3 times until she decided to cling to her faith and her marriage was saved. She is real, honest, and raw about the seasons of struggle and how she overcame it. police, police wife, law enforcement, leo, wives on duty, police girlfriend, leow, law enforcement officer wife, deputy sheriff yes full 7 069e64fe-7e6a-4495-9de8-5c1d936c0123 Proud Police Wife & Common LEOW Struggles: Interview with Rebecca Lynn https://proudpolicewife.com/

Article: How to stay positive when it feels like the world is against police officers.

Police Wife Binder

Printable Love Notes for a Police Officer

The Peacemaker's wife: A journal for encouragement and reflection for police wives and girlfriends

]]> Mon, 5 Oct 2020 07:36:00 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Proud Police Wife, Nicole Vienna, Rebecca Lynn, Blue Wives Tribe) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/proud-police-wife-common-leow-struggles-interview-with-rebecca-lynn-A0L6LKU0 https://proudpolicewife.com/

Article: How to stay positive when it feels like the world is against police officers.

Police Wife Binder

Printable Love Notes for a Police Officer

The Peacemaker's wife: A journal for encouragement and reflection for police wives and girlfriends

]]> Proud Police Wife & Common LEOW Struggles: Interview with Rebecca Lynn Proud Police Wife, Nicole Vienna, Rebecca Lynn, Blue Wives Tribe 01:26:44 In this episode, I talk with Rebecca, owner of Proud Police Police, about some common LEOW struggles and strategies on how to tackle them. Proud Police Wife a website dedicated to providing resources and support for law enforcement families. Rebecca is also the author of the Peacemaker's wife: A journal for encouragement and reflection for police wives and girlfriends which is available on Amazon or click the link in the show notes. Check out some other cool products from Proud Police Wife below! In this episode, I talk with Rebecca, owner of Proud Police Police, about some common LEOW struggles and strategies on how to tackle them. Proud Police Wife a website dedicated to providing resources and support for law enforcement families. Rebecca is also the author of the Peacemaker's wife: A journal for encouragement and reflection for police wives and girlfriends which is available on Amazon or click the link in the show notes. Check out some other cool products from Proud Police Wife below! lasd, police, peace officer, police wife, law enforcement, police girlfriend, leow, deputy, sheriff, lapd, deputy sheriff yes full 6 93039a9f-4400-428d-83dd-0197ab43030d Diving Deeper into Anxiety Website: https://fwhcounseling.com/

Email: therapy@fwhcounseling.com 

Self-Worth & Self-Care: https://fwhcounseling.com/self-worth/

Featured in Voyage Dallas: http://voyagedallas.com/interview/meet-flourish-hope-fort-worth/

Journal Your Way to Self-Care by Claudia:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08G9L6YQC

For the Wife Behind the Badge: A Brief Guide to Calming the Anxious Mind: http://bluewivestribe.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/FOR-THE-WIFE-BEHIND-THE-BADGE.pdf

]]> Mon, 21 Sep 2020 06:20:36 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Claudia Stanley, Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/diving-deeper-into-anxiety-76tomalU Website: https://fwhcounseling.com/

Email: therapy@fwhcounseling.com 

Self-Worth & Self-Care: https://fwhcounseling.com/self-worth/

Featured in Voyage Dallas: http://voyagedallas.com/interview/meet-flourish-hope-fort-worth/

Journal Your Way to Self-Care by Claudia:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08G9L6YQC

For the Wife Behind the Badge: A Brief Guide to Calming the Anxious Mind: http://bluewivestribe.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/FOR-THE-WIFE-BEHIND-THE-BADGE.pdf

]]> Diving Deeper into Anxiety Claudia Stanley, Nicole Vienna 00:47:19 On this episode, I talked with Claudia Stanley, fellow LEOW, and licensed clinical social worker in Texas. Her LEO is a veteran, has served on patrol, heat, and narcotics teams. In our interview, we delved a bit deeper into the topic of anxiety as it relates to LEOW and GF’s. This is a nice follow up to episode 4- overview of anxiety. Claudia reviewed common anxiety symptoms her go to coping techniques: -Grounding technique-present and disrupt panic -STOP technique for rumination -Yoga-movement -Belly breathing-regulating -PMR-tension -Body Scan-sensations -Affirmations-thoughts -Boundaries-tv, social media, environment/people -Faith/Spirituality- prayer, verses, reading, connecting to nature. We also talk about the kinds of anxiety a police wife/gf can expect during the course of a LEO career, tips how to manage the worry about your LEO and his job (hint: we can’t control it, but we can roll with it!), and overview education around medication and therapies for anxiety. On this episode, I talked with Claudia Stanley, fellow LEOW, and licensed clinical social worker in Texas. Her LEO is a veteran, has served on patrol, heat, and narcotics teams. In our interview, we delved a bit deeper into the topic of anxiety as it relates to LEOW and GF’s. This is a nice follow up to episode 4- overview of anxiety. Claudia reviewed common anxiety symptoms her go to coping techniques: -Grounding technique-present and disrupt panic -STOP technique for rumination -Yoga-movement -Belly breathing-regulating -PMR-tension -Body Scan-sensations -Affirmations-thoughts -Boundaries-tv, social media, environment/people -Faith/Spirituality- prayer, verses, reading, connecting to nature. We also talk about the kinds of anxiety a police wife/gf can expect during the course of a LEO career, tips how to manage the worry about your LEO and his job (hint: we can’t control it, but we can roll with it!), and overview education around medication and therapies for anxiety. police, cops, law enforcement, mental health, anxiety, leow, law enforcement officer wife, deputy sheriff no full 5 9a75eab8-b234-4e0d-ba42-4d63720aff26 Creating Change and Overcoming Prejudice Natalie's take-away pieces of advice: 

  • Be watchful for social media accounts that are telling you how to think instead of encouraging you to learn.
  • We shouldn't be forced to pick a side. Be wary of those telling you it's one or the other.
  • Identify. Challenge. Replace.
  • Be the change.
  • Protect your mental health. As hard as it is, try to stay away from the media. Or unfollow/mute accounts that are causing pain during this time. Be present with those around you. If every post you see is negative towards the police, you'll start to think and believe everyone thinks that way (guilty!) but is it really the case? I've noticed that once I did a fair bit of unfollowing, the support started to shine through. And remember there are a lot of silent supporters. Seek out accounts that are sharing the good things.

Find Natalie's blog article on creating change and overcoming prejudice here: https://familymakescents.com/overcoming-prejudice/

Visit Natalie's blog- Family Makes Cents (frugal living and intentional motherhood): http://familymakescents.com/

 

 

]]> Tue, 25 Aug 2020 03:59:43 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Natalie, Family Makes Cents, Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/creatingchange-R65_z_qu Natalie's take-away pieces of advice: 

  • Be watchful for social media accounts that are telling you how to think instead of encouraging you to learn.
  • We shouldn't be forced to pick a side. Be wary of those telling you it's one or the other.
  • Identify. Challenge. Replace.
  • Be the change.
  • Protect your mental health. As hard as it is, try to stay away from the media. Or unfollow/mute accounts that are causing pain during this time. Be present with those around you. If every post you see is negative towards the police, you'll start to think and believe everyone thinks that way (guilty!) but is it really the case? I've noticed that once I did a fair bit of unfollowing, the support started to shine through. And remember there are a lot of silent supporters. Seek out accounts that are sharing the good things.

Find Natalie's blog article on creating change and overcoming prejudice here: https://familymakescents.com/overcoming-prejudice/

Visit Natalie's blog- Family Makes Cents (frugal living and intentional motherhood): http://familymakescents.com/

 

 

]]> Creating Change and Overcoming Prejudice Natalie, Family Makes Cents, Nicole Vienna 00:51:53 On today's show, I interview Natalie from Family Makes Cents. Family Makes Cents is frugal living and intentional motherhood blog focused around sharing how to live with less so you can make room for the things you want. Natalie's top loves consist of Jesus, family, and traveling. At 3 months pregnant, Natalie graduated summa cum laude with her bachelor’s degree but none of her studies or travels prepared her for the hardest job yet: being a stay at home mom and the wife of a police officer. She is a black woman married to a police officer and identifies with both the law enforcement and the black communities. In the interview she talks about ways to start to address bias and overcoming prejudice. She shares pieces of her own journey of being caught between fearing assumptions based on the color of her skin and based on what her husband does for a living. She shares that it is important in this time, right now, because the world is beginning to identify long standing prejudice that runs deep in our country. She cautions to not make the mistake of overcorrecting and much more including some mental health tips on how to challenge your thoughts or bias! On today's show, I interview Natalie from Family Makes Cents. Family Makes Cents is frugal living and intentional motherhood blog focused around sharing how to live with less so you can make room for the things you want. Natalie's top loves consist of Jesus, family, and traveling. At 3 months pregnant, Natalie graduated summa cum laude with her bachelor’s degree but none of her studies or travels prepared her for the hardest job yet: being a stay at home mom and the wife of a police officer. She is a black woman married to a police officer and identifies with both the law enforcement and the black communities. In the interview she talks about ways to start to address bias and overcoming prejudice. She shares pieces of her own journey of being caught between fearing assumptions based on the color of her skin and based on what her husband does for a living. She shares that it is important in this time, right now, because the world is beginning to identify long standing prejudice that runs deep in our country. She cautions to not make the mistake of overcorrecting and much more including some mental health tips on how to challenge your thoughts or bias! police, motherhood, creating change, leow, blue wives tribe, family makes cents, sheriff, law enforcement officer wife no full 4 a81e73a2-d4f1-4382-ae5d-56870f863dc6 Brief Overview on Anxiety Link to several EMDR studies: https://emdrfoundation.org/research-grants/current-research-listing/

Life Giver: First responder and family therapist finder https://www.life-giver.org/cliniciandirectory/

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml

Anxiety and Depression Association of America: https://adaa.org/

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]]> Tue, 11 Aug 2020 01:23:56 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/brief-overview-on-anxiety-ggPJiByc Link to several EMDR studies: https://emdrfoundation.org/research-grants/current-research-listing/

Life Giver: First responder and family therapist finder https://www.life-giver.org/cliniciandirectory/

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml

Anxiety and Depression Association of America: https://adaa.org/

nvienna@bluewivestribe.com 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

]]> Brief Overview on Anxiety Nicole Vienna 00:42:16 Today I give a brief overview of anxiety. I share the common symptoms, coping techniques that help, questions to ask a potential new therapist, and a little bit about my own journey in therapy. Not everyone who experiences symptoms of anxiety has an anxiety disorder. It is important that we talk about this openly so we can normalize our mental health and destigmatize going to treatment/therapy if needed or desired. Today I give a brief overview of anxiety. I share the common symptoms, coping techniques that help, questions to ask a potential new therapist, and a little bit about my own journey in therapy. Not everyone who experiences symptoms of anxiety has an anxiety disorder. It is important that we talk about this openly so we can normalize our mental health and destigmatize going to treatment/therapy if needed or desired. police wife, law enforcement, mental health, anxiety, health, leow, wellness yes full 3 31120b90-99ee-43a7-b08b-5bc2cc67490b Law Enforcement: Fight On! Chief Thomas Bio 

USC Public Safety Chief Thomas Addresses the Death of George Floyd

The President's (Obama) Task Force on 21st Century Policing  (referenced in the interview)

]]> Mon, 3 Aug 2020 07:00:16 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole Vienna, Chief John Thomas) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/law-enforcement-fight-on-ptmbvAXc Chief Thomas Bio 

USC Public Safety Chief Thomas Addresses the Death of George Floyd

The President's (Obama) Task Force on 21st Century Policing  (referenced in the interview)

]]> Law Enforcement: Fight On! Nicole Vienna, Chief John Thomas 01:03:01 A timely discussion with Chief John Thomas, the Chief of Department of Public Safety at the University of Southern California (USC) regarding his experience in law enforcement, the Black Lives Matter movement, and thoughts on how we move forward as a society. A timely discussion with Chief John Thomas, the Chief of Department of Public Safety at the University of Southern California (USC) regarding his experience in law enforcement, the Black Lives Matter movement, and thoughts on how we move forward as a society. police, university of southern california, 21st century policing, law enforcement, law enforcement officer wives, law enforcement officers, leow, usc, black lives matter, los angeles police department, lapd yes full 2 efc4049d-0227-4b55-acbb-da13688b2f39 Peaks and Valleys- Retired LEOW Linda Seitz Peaks and Valleys Website Here

Link to Officer Involved Spouse Book Here.

Contact Linda: linda@peaksandvalleys.life

Life Giver Therapist Finder Website Here

5 Love Languages Book Linda referenced Here

The Counseling Team International website (first responder counseling in Southern California) 

]]> Thu, 30 Jul 2020 07:28:29 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna, Linda Seitz) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/peaks-and-valleys-linda-seitz-lbkWC9Ba Peaks and Valleys Website Here

Link to Officer Involved Spouse Book Here.

Contact Linda: linda@peaksandvalleys.life

Life Giver Therapist Finder Website Here

5 Love Languages Book Linda referenced Here

The Counseling Team International website (first responder counseling in Southern California) 

]]> Peaks and Valleys- Retired LEOW Linda Seitz Nicole M. Vienna, Linda Seitz 01:03:01 On today's show, I interview Linda Spietz, veteran law enforcement officer and marriage mentor. We discuss her new book, "Officer Involved Spouse" - 7 week study designed complete with journal-type questions and guidance to help bring up the difficult topics that occur in a law enforcement ​marriage. I overview my favorite parts and Linda shares some key insights into how and why to have those difficult conversations with your officer. On today's show, I interview Linda Spietz, veteran law enforcement officer and marriage mentor. We discuss her new book, "Officer Involved Spouse" - 7 week study designed complete with journal-type questions and guidance to help bring up the difficult topics that occur in a law enforcement ​marriage. I overview my favorite parts and Linda shares some key insights into how and why to have those difficult conversations with your officer. police, marriage, officer involved spouse, leow, law enforcement officer, deputy, officer involved, sheriff, law enforcement officer wife yes full 1 d31f0958-2ca6-4280-b1c4-35bdfa3f27b0 Introduction to the Blue Wives Tribe Podcast Mon, 27 Jul 2020 06:48:43 +0000 nvienna@bluewivestribe.com (Nicole M. Vienna) https://bluewivestribe.simplecast.com/episodes/introduction-to-the-blue-wives-tribe-podcast-JSAGIiwX Introduction to the Blue Wives Tribe Podcast Nicole M. Vienna 00:02:01 Join us for the Blue Wives Tribe podcast! A podcast for the global community of law enforcement wives and girlfriends, also known as Blue Wives. Join us for the Blue Wives Tribe podcast! A podcast for the global community of law enforcement wives and girlfriends, also known as Blue Wives. police, police wife, law enforcement, mental health, law enforcement wife, leo, thin blue line, blue wives, leow, police family, sheriff, law enforcement officer wife, deputy sheriff no trailer