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“Am I living my life in fear of dying or am I living my life because I want to live?” 4:49

“The goal is to change our culture and how we view ourselves, how we view life, how we view our reality, essentially consciousness.” 8:46

“You feel it.  The consciousness of the planet is rising.” - Wendy @ 9:03

“There needs to be a way for us to have some type of signaling system to know when to adapt and when to rest.” 11:02

“The first thing is changing the narrative of not looking outside of ourselves at all.” 19:57

“Could is compassion.  Should is shame.”  30:48

“That’s why mindfulness is so key, non-judgemental, observation, moment to moment awareness with love, compassion, and appreciation.” 38:44

“The key to longevity, resilience is curiosity, love, being present, joy, and creativity.” 41:47

“Doctors are doing the best they can given what they know.  They just don’t know.” 46:47

“Given what is, what am I to do?” 49:09 

Guest Bio - 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Eva Selhub

0:23 - My First Book ‘Love Response’ & Exposure to HIV

5:09 - Volunteering at the Mind Body Medical Institute at Harvard

9:47 - How Does the Nervous System Intersect with Spirituality?

14:58 - Self-Awareness & Nervous System Safety

22:23 - Youth Mentorship & Media Influence on Mental Health 

25:14 - Building Discernment,  Trusting Your Intuition and Changing Your Language

31:47 - The Process of Self-Inquiry

34:17 - How to Use Mindfulness to Calm A Traumatized Chaotic Brain

42:45 - Mind Body Connection in Athletics

46:04 - The Biggest Issue in Medicine is Divisiveness

49:55 - How to Connect with Dr. Eva 

Links & Where to Find Eva - 

www.drselhub.com

“It is the primal force.  Scalar energy, scalar light is the light of the sun, the light of the stars.” 1:36

“Some people just can't grasp that there’s something beyond and above that physical domain.” 5:08

“The light influences the chemical level.” - Wendy @ 10:37

“I have God on my side, and that’s all I need.” 15:25

“This is a new branch of science where we work with information, intelligence.” 23:17

“We create our environment.  The way we think, the way we feel, that’s what we create, and ultimately in life you’re going to inherit that” 25:48

“If people sign up for the 15-day session, everyday you’ll have your chakras balanced, you’ll have, if you will, microbe eradication, and vitamin antioxidant nutrient program.” 35:30

“Trust in God, trust in yourself.” 38:10

Guest Bio - Tom Paladino is a Scalar Light Researcher & humanitarian with over 50 years experience in Scalar Light research and development. Tom has developed Scalar Light instruments capable of administering beneficial Scalar Light intelligence to photographs of people, animals, plants and objects. In so doing, people express an improvement in their general well-being.

Scalar Light is the fundamental life force that originates from the Sun and stars that brings order and harmony to the universe. Tom theorized that all energy in the universe initiates as Scalar light and that the Sun and the stars are the points of origin, or “the storehouses,” for Scalar Light. 

Divine Intelligence, chi, prana, OM, plasma energy, life force, the Creative Strength and zero-point energy are synonymous terms for Scalar Light. Scalar Light is instructive energy, as the entire universe is instructed by this Divine Light. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional and physical action in the universe is initiated and maintained by Scalar Light instructions. Scalar Light is a new and emerging branch of physics. The acceptance of Scalar Light will benefit humanity and improve the social order on a global scale.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Tom Paladino

1:27 - What is Scalar Energy & How Does it Heal?

5:30 - Divine Intelligence

9:23 - How Can Scalar Energy Improve Mental Health?

11:53 - The Work of Nikola Tesla

15:15 - Maintaining A Resilient Mindset Against the Odds

16:15 - How Are People Coming to You and Being Changed?

24:55 - A Discussion on the Subconscious  

26:48 - Why Isn’t This Information More Widely Known?

33:55 - How Do People Find You?

37:48 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

39:29 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Tom - 

Website - https://www.scalarlight.com/

Free 15 Day Scalar Light Trial - https://www.scalarlight.com/free-trials

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/TomPaladinoScalar

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/experiencescalar/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scalarlight/

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Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Be ready to jump on any opportunity you can to help out or impact your team in a positive way.” 4:07

“Team leadership is such a component to winning.” -Wendy @ 6:25

“If you’re a parent out there, the ability to really read your kid’s desire and let them lead that charge, rather than having it be a goal that you have.” -Wendy @ 19:50

“What does the athlete want out of their journey, and how can you support that?” -Wendy @ 20:55

“You have to try to find a way to remove yourself from the issue.” 23:33

“Persistency gets people a lot of places.” 24:38

“Don’t let the experiences of others shape the way you make your own decisions.” 33:40

“Understanding that failure is an opportunity for growth and learning.” 34:59

Guest Bio - Al Roderigues Assistant Men's Volleyball Coach 

USA Volleyball National Training Development Program (NTDP) Coach 

Graduate Assistant - University of Nebraska Lincoln 

Student Athlete - Pepperdine Men's Volleyball

Rochester Pacebootlegger Volleyball Club - McQuaid Jesuit High School 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Spencer Wickens

1:14 - The Joy of Coaching

3:42 - Libero to Outside Hitter at Pepperdine

6:30 - Building Team Leadership in the New NIL Driven Era

12:57 - Do You See A Regional Difference in Athletes?

16:16 - Pain Point Between Parents & Coaches

23:02 - Advice to Players Struggling with Playing Time

26:43 - Balancing Competition with Authenticity

33:06 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

36:14 - What Are Your Coaching Goals?

37:34 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Spencer - 

IG - @swickens7

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes 

“So much of that relates with my mom is because I had watched her grow with me as I was growing up doing everything.  I didn’t know there were options of asking for help, you know, asking other people to, it just didn’t occur to me because I had never seen that.  My mom was like, ‘you figure it out, you do it yourself, whatever you need to do, you figure out how to do it.’” 6:17

Guest Bio

Dr. Natacha Nelson is known for her work as a Life Doctor; Speaker, Author, Entrepreneur & creator of The Untamed Heart System and events. Her journey into entrepreneurship began at the young age of 16 and she has been building businesses ever since.

A 22 year South Bay resident, Dr. Natacha has been a consistent leader delivering Health and Wellness services to all ages in the community. She has a long list of client success stories ranging from Corporate Executives, Professional Athletes, Medical Professionals, coaches to stay-at-mom homes. She has defied all the odds both personally and professionally and has mastered the ability to turn adversities into advantages. She has coached Businessmen & women nationwide.

Show Notes  

0:00 - What I Meant to Say Podcast Intro

0:18 - Introducing Natacha Nelson

0:43 - Introducing Natacha Nelson Connection

2:29 - Journaling and Inspiration for the Book

Links & Where to Find Natacha

Book - Finding Courage to Let You Out by Natacha Nelson

Website - www.theuntamedheart.com

Facebook - @NatachaNelson

IG - @natacha_lifedoctor

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Marcus Aurelius Higgs

1:10 - The Love for Conversation

2:26 - Is There An Anti-Resilience Message Out There to Kids?

6:56 - Journey from English Teacher to Preteen Presence Coach

12:02 - The Road to Independence and Interdependence 

16:32 - Kids Need A Community of Parents

22:06 - ‘SHOW UP’ Framework

35:30 - The Relationship Between Consequences and Parenting

39:08 - How to Create Calm in Parenting

48:15 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

50:03 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Marcus - 

www.marcushiggs.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcushiggs/

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes 

“I just wanted to keep playing and get better for me.” 12:46

“It’s more than a game, it’s beyond the game and what you’re learning in sport applies to everything in your life.” 16:51

“How you do one thing is how you do everything.” 17:04

“Sports exposes who you are and allows you the chance to change it.” 21:00

“I think to get to an elite status you have to have this sort of obsession with it.” 33:22

“What is success for you?” 39:54

Guest Bio 

 Audrey Baldwin is a recently retired professional goalkeeper, with 10 years of experience, in 9 different countries. Besides her playing career, she has a bachelors in Kinesiology and Masters in Sport and Exercise Psychology. She is currently using her experience and education to mentor youth athletes of all ages and sports in mental skills and mental performance. It is her goal to spread proper education at the correct time.  

Show Notes  

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Audrey Baldwin

1:00 - Soccer Background

4:52 - Climbing that Ladder

7:06 - A Conversation on Perfection & Pressure

12:46 - Intrinsic Motivation

15:50 - How to Manage Stress in Sports & Life

22:22 - A Go with the Flow & Hormone Cycle Discussion for Athletes

32:52 - Feeling Over Thinking Using A Mindfulness Practice

39:13 - A Story with Advice for Younger Girls on Perfectionism

43:57 - The Injury Reserve: A Group for Injured Athletes

53:17 - How Do Athletes Find You?

55:27 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

56:08 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Audrey 

Website: www.beyond-the-game.net

IG - @audball_00 & @quamludum 

The Power of Injury Journal

“How much can we teach them and how much do they have to learn through experience?” - Wendy @ 0:48

“None of this journey we’re on is linear.” 3:25

“When we feel good, are we recognizing what we are doing to feel good? 7:39

“You are going to feel every feeling and that’s a good thing because that means you are alive.” 13:04

“Your intuition, arguably, builds off of experience that you’ve had both good and bad.” 21:10

“You will be more ‘perfect’ if you let yourself breathe.”  26:02

“I’m going to stop wearing my shoulders as earrings.” 26:48

“Everybody is recovering from something.” 50:05

“We are all allowed to be. We’re all allowed to feel.” 51:48

“In those differences, we can still enhance each other.” 53:24

Guest Bio - Dr. Malasri Chaudhery-Malgeri (Dr. Mala) is an expert in TBI, PTSD, Military Psychology, Marriage & Family Psychology, Rehabilitative Therapy, Integrative & Collaborative Program Development, Industrial/Organizational Psychology, and more. She has helped individuals of diverse age ranges and backgrounds, including the military, executives and business professionals, political figures, rural communities, native populations, LGBTQ+ populations, athletes, and couples and families. She is also a motivational speaker and presenter.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Mala

0:55 - How Did You Get into Psychology?

6:32 - Understanding the Integration of Physical & Mental Health

12:29 - How to Help Your Kids Navigate Human Feelings

15:37 - How to Parent from a Grounded & Calm Place

19:53 - What’s the Difference Between Intuition & Anxiety?

22:24 - Learning to Have the Tough Conversations with Your Kids

25:05 - A Discussion on Perfectionism

33:24 - Teaching Kids About the Collective Nervous System

38:10 - Advice to Empaths & HSPs for Setting Boundaries

40:51 - Bridging the Gap Between Mental & Physical Wellness

45:59 - Taking the First Step Towards Healing

50:48 - The Meaning of ‘Kindness is Inclusive’

53:56 - Where Can People Find You?

54:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Dr. Mala - 

www.drmala.net

Social Media Handles - @TheOfficialDrMala

“I think journaling is an incredibly healing thing that we can undertake.” 4:57

“Deal with things as they are, not as we’d like them to be.” -Ann @ 7:54

“Addiction is really just a disconnection with ourself.” 8:57

“People are doing the best they can with what they know, but it’s our responsibility to know more so you have to keep learning.” 10:51

“The financial part is scary no matter what.” 20:10

“Parenting them through the hard stuff is actually what makes parenting great.” 25:58

“Two houses, they can be different and it can be okay.” 37:26

“You don’t have to be so worried about controlling or losing power in these situations with your children.  They are going to go where the love is.” -Ann @ 40:19

“Don’t make it about yourself.” 41:48

“Let your kids be who they are.” 44:11

Guest Bio - Wendy Jones is the founder of Be Better Media and host of her

own podcast, What I Meant to Say.  As a mother of four, she is

passionate about generational healing--so that we can connect

with each other and create families and communities from a place

of strength. The stories told through her work at Be Better Media

encourage each of us to listen more and judge less on our path to

self-awareness. In her spare time, you will find her at the beach

playing volleyball and enjoying her yoga practice.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - This Week on What I Meant to Say

0:50 - Ann Grant, the Divorce Hacker, Introduces Wendy Jones

1:32 - What is Generational Healing?

3:06 - Tools to Implement During Divorce

8:50 - How Addiction Can Impact Generational Healing

13:42 - Support Systems & Therapy

18:20 - Single Motherhood with Four Children

26:06 - How Are Your Kids Now?

31:17 - People Pleasing Discussion

37:59 - The Art of Letting Go of Control 

44:19 - Social Media & Battling Outside Opinions

50:54 - Helping Your Kids Find & Connect to Their Passions

56:58 - Three Questions

58:48 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find The Divorce Hacker:

FULL episodes - https://www.youtube.com/@divorcehacker 

Youtube Shorts

For more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

“Unlearning everything that you think you know about how you function and what society’s told you because the mind isn’t the dominant operating system, the heart is.” 

“Your body is not gonna lie to you.”

“We’re so afraid of feeling.”

“Don’t tell a man how he’s feeling.” 

“I think that we don’t take enough time to just contemplate at the end of the day or maybe we haven’t taken enough time to just pause throughout your day.” 

“You can’t escape duality.” 

Guest Bio - Torin Jefferys calls himself a divine being and is a 30 year old beach volleyball athlete.  He works as a wellness and spiritual practitioner in Southern California.

Show Notes - 

Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Torin Jefferys

What Makes You Open to the Healing Journey?

Let’s Talk Music 

We Are Made of Light

A Discussion on Human Design

Your Path to A Simple Life is Your Responsibility

Traditional Masculine

Opening A Healing Space Called ‘A Fix’

Break Ups, Animal Totems & Dream Space

The Concept of Control 

Embrace the Duality of Life & the Healing Collective

How to Encourage People to Start Asking the Questions

1:03:19 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Torin - 

IG - @beachy_t888

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“Self talk is huge, replacing should with could is huge.” 3:12

“Free Will is an illusion.  We’re all conditioned to make decisions.” 4:56

“The moments of clarity that happen, if you’re aware of them, are staggering.” 19:16

“Surround yourself with the right people.” 25:00 

“The loneliness out there is tragic.” - Wendy @ 31:27

“We attract to our level of healing.” - Wendy @ 33:00

“You are the sum total of the five people you hang with.” 34:17

“For every ten minutes you talk or listen, you should encourage an interaction, something that inquires or causes further insight into the conversation.” 36:00

Guest Bio

Jake is a pioneer in conversational dynamics and a highly regarded fractional Chief Learning Officer. He is revolutionizing sales through his ‘Adaptive Conversational Blueprint,’ turning sales professionals into relational architects capable of forging profound connections with prospects. Integral to his approach is the 2/10 Rule, which challenges traditional perspectives on conversation and emphasizes the importance of rhythm and cadence. With a rich background spanning 30 years, Jake has shared his expertise in training and development across six countries, impacting over 10,000 individuals. A doting husband and father of four, Jake seamlessly blends practical experience and insightful wisdom in his pursuit of the perfect conversation.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Jake Stahl

0:34 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

2:31 - Starting Inner Child Work

4:32 - How Do You Bring Life Lessons into the Corporate World?

8:39 - Take Us Back to the Root of Your Transformation

14:44 - Making the Decision to Change 

19:11 - Moments of Clarity

20:34 - A Discussion on the Loss of Identity 

24:02 - How to Support Someone Struggling with Addiction

28:05 - Holistics Ways to Calm Yourself & Connect

35:23 - What New Book Are You Writing?

39:31 - What is A Fractional Chief Learning Officer?

43:09 - Advice to A New & Young Salesperson

47:30 - Thank You 

49:19 - Where Can People Find You to Connect?

49:48 - What I Meant to Say Closing

Links & Where to Find Jake

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakestahl

www.jakestahlconsulting.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“Is it me in this relationship that is causing this problem?” 7:43

“If they ask for advice, I can offer advice, but they have to ask or I have to be given permission.” 15:59

“Whatever you send out, eventually is going to come right back to you.” 18:44

“Instead of having something to be angry about, and holding onto that, hold on to the things that are good about people.” 21:19

“You’re not going to make any progress by blaming someone else.” 30:24

“Love in the way that’s going to light people up.” 35:25

“These women will take care of you if you take care of them.” 41:53

Guest Bio

Paul Zolman is the international bestselling author of the Role of Love, but the true author of love is God. In His wisdom, He placed us in a variety of circumstances that require us to find our way back to His pure love. So, what qualifies me to speak about love? My childhood experience of the opposite of love. From that austere beginning, and the distaste it formed inside me, I searched for and eventually created a method that transformed my life from anger to loving everyone. Growing up in a family of abuse, physical touch became my preferred love style, only because of the regularity. I could almost count on it. It was consistent. I came to think that was the way to express love. But deep inside, I knew that was a twisted belief. I wanted a better life for myself, which is why I created a paradigm shift that works. In this book, you’ll find what helped me move from a childhood boot camp of abuse to being a person who loves everyone and can find good about anyone in any circumstance. This is truly the role of love. I hope you join me.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcoming Paul Zolman to What I Meant to Say

0:19 - Becoming a Love Language Linguist from An Angry Household

9:35 - How to Play Paul’s Love Language Game

16:26 - What Have You Learned from First to Second Marriage?

19:59 - Practical Ways You Relate to Your Kids & Grandkids

23:44 - Are There Ways to Protect Yourself from Being Taken Advantage Of?

27:46 - Best Ways to Have a Generational Healing Conversation with Kids

33:48 - The Purpose of the Love Language Game

40:06 - Advice for Men to Be Love in the World

42:43 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

46:27 - Where Can People Find You?

47:14 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Paul 

www.roleoflove.com

Youtube

FB - https://www.facebook.com/roleoflovedice

IG - https://www.instagram.com/roleoflovedice/

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/company/roleoflovedice/

Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@roleoflovedice

Twitter/X - https://twitter.com/roleoflovedice

Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/roleoflovedice/

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

“If you’re under a lot of stress, you can really wreck your gut health.” 12:09

“If I can’t find them organic, let’s say we’re traveling, I just buy something else that I can find organic.” 18:39 

“I’m going to, you know, be teaching her from an early age, about health, about how things, how the food becomes us.”56:18

“Health takes time to augment or to change.” 1:01:46

Guest Bio

Christian Yordanov is an author and certified Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner who helps people of all ages restore their health, optimize it, and increase their performance and longevity. His latest book, How to Actually Live Longer, Vol. 1, is the first in his series on slowing the aging process and increasing longevity. He is also author of the book Autism Wellbeing Plan: How to Get Your Child Healthy — a comprehensive resource for parents to understand the most common health problems from which autistic children suffer, and how to address them.

In his clinical work, Christian uses functional lab testing to identify hidden metabolic and health imbalances, and teaches clients how to use diet, supplementation, detoxification, stress reduction, sleep optimisation, and other strategies to address chronic health issues and transform their health.

Christian is a certified Buteyko breathing instructor, Pn1 Nutrition Coach, GrowBaby practitioner, and is also certified in personal training, fitness instruction, and sports and event massage therapy.

He is also host of two podcasts, Connecting Minds and Children’s Health Podcast.

Show Notes 

0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro

0:09 - Welcome to Christian Yordanov

0:23 - What Does A Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner Do? 

3:09 - Will You Share Your Backstory?

8:39 - Why is the Gut Microbiome Important?

12:42 - Invest in Quality Food & Water

20:55 - A Discussion on Your Client Trends

25:00 - Connecting to Self Discipline for Weight Loss

30:54 - Sleep

39:40 - How To Implement These Tools with Children

45:28 - How to Actually Live Longer Volume One

49:17  - What It’s Like to Work with You?

57:25 - Where Can People Find you?

57:47 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Christian 

http://christianyordanov.com/

Book - How to Actually Live Longer, Vol.1

Book - Autism Wellbeing: How to Get Your Child Healthy 

“I’m attracting this, like, I am intentionally creating these scenarios in order to relive this childhood trauma because that’s what I know.” 4:07

“Step forward, create your own reality, and leave this stuff in the past.” 4:47

“They dedicate their time and energy to some many other things, other than themselves, without realizing that those other things are not going to exist if they’re not here, if they’re not happy, if they’re not healthy.” 7:02

“When you can access who you are and be the best version of yourself and create your own reality, that is what changes the external world.” 7:57

“Even if you have kids, you still have to put yourself first.” 8:15

“You are lonelier in an unhealthy relationship, then you will ever be on your own.” - Wendy @ 11:20

“How about just be a human and be a decent one!” 13:41

“I can see what they were, and who I don’t want to be, and move on and let that be in peace.” 24:54

“There are certain genetic mutations that through diet alone can actually set off a cascade of emotional responses and outbursts.” 28:36

“What do I actually need versus what do I think I need?” 34:43

“If five years from now, if you are living the same life that you are living right now or it gets worse, are you going to be happy?” 35:33

“The actions that you take today are going to be the future that you move into.” 35:48

“Everyone is on the path to insulin resistance at this point.” 40:23

“The trouble is you think you have time.” 48:54 

Guest Bio

Linn is able to connect with people on a wide range of traumatic events that she herself has overcome, such as: death of family members and a partner, abandonment, neglect, sexuality, growing up with an alcoholic, relationship trauma, homelessness, career challenges, lack of direction, feelings of hopelessness, gender identity, anger and fear, addiction, illness, and near death experiences. Rather these events took place as a child or later in life, Linn has the tools to assist you in moving forward to create a new reality and to live the life you absolutely deserve.

Show Notes 

0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro

0:09 - Welcome to Linn Rivers

0:43 - Generational Healing through Functional Health & Wellness Education

5:58 - From Your Perspective, What Are We Up Against As A Society?

9:18 - How to Learn the Art of Sitting & Being Alone

12:02 - The Power of Authenticity 

14:26 - Navigating the Ability to Sit with Yourself

18:20 - Anxiously Tracking Our Kids

21:11 - How to Trust Your Intuition & Unlearn Conditioning through Compassion

27:24 - Understanding Genetic Markers & Mutations

33:53 - Practical Tips for Heal Ourselves

36:46 - A Crucial Discussion on Insulin Resistance

40:30 - Healing with Keto Diet & Nutrition

44:12 - Chronic Illness to Vibrant Wellness Online Course

47:25 - Share Your Tattoo Stories with Us

51:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Linn 

www.linnrivers.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/linn-rivers-6a21327a/

https://www.youtube.com/linnrivers

“You really do have to take stock in the relationships you’ve built, but also why you’ve built them.” - Wendy @ 2:32

“Everything you go through is not everybody’s business.” - Wendy @ 6:12

“How else are they going to respect and trust you in other situations, if you don’t follow through?” - Ashley @ 10:59

“Whatever thing they’ve gotten tangled up in, that is not who they are, it’s just something they did.” - Wendy @ 11:37

“It’s how I connect in the moments that are great so that I build that capital for them to trust me when the chips are down.” - Wendy @ 19:40

“The effect and the connection I’m having on these kids is really what freaking matters.” - Ashley @ 29:14

“When you fight, you’re gonna be able to find success more than the other people that don’t know how to fight.” - Ashley @ 41:13

“You have to know when to strive for that perfection, but be okay when you don’t attain it.” - Ashley @ 47:06 

Guest Bio

Ashley currently serves as the Chief Operating Officer, a Producer, and Coach at Be Better Life and Be Better Media. She is a Southern California native and is the oldest of five siblings.  Ashley is a natural leader who leads by creating a safe environment through communication, honesty, compassion, and inclusion.  She played NCAA Division II indoor volleyball at Cal State Dominguez Hills where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Liberal Studies, including a concentration in Mathematics.  Later, she obtained a Master’s Degree in Coaching and Athletic Administration from Concordia University Irvine.  Ashley loves the sport of volleyball, but her passion lies in teaching and coaching the life lessons that are gleaned through sport’s participation. 

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say

0:09 - Let’s Recap Falyn’s Interview

2:11 - Wendy’s Parenting Journey

6:33 - Ashley’s Shame Based Story

11:16 - Balancing Discipline & Acceptance in Parenting

17:40 - Managing Different Child Personalities As a Parent

19:59 - Tools for Managing Kid’s Personalities

25:38 - Lean into Your Strengths

41:21 - Understanding the When & Why Behind the Fight

45:41 - A Discussion on Perfectionism

51:07 - Social Media, Mental Health, & Relationships

1:08:32 - Becoming A Lifelong Learner

1:12:20 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Ashley 

Ashley - @ashley.a.clark.10 & @coachashleyc 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-clark-143543255/

Facebook 

Twitter/X - @AshleyAnneC10

Tiktok - @ashleyannec10 

Be Better Life

Be Better Media

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“You can’t teach having a competitive nature.” 1:28

“There’s not one way of doing anything.” 4:16

“Is this about my child or is this about what I think is best or what I think should happen?” 15:20

“Be who you are and give them what they need at that moment.” 19:41

“If you really want to make a difference, you can not fit into the norm.” 22:17

“If you’ve gone through anything traumatic, your trauma stores in your body.” 38:54

Guest Bio

4 year all American at Mira costa high school

Number 1 recruit going into University of Southern California

AVCA freshman of the year

Pac 10 freshman of the year

Regional finals MVP

Played on the Indoor USA national team for 6 years 

Won a gold medal at the Pan American games 2015

Played indoor overseas and won two championships 

Won 2018 Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament in Dominican Republic 

Won 2019 Silver and Bronze Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament 

2019 3rd place finish in AVP Austin, Texas 

Top 10 player on the AVP

Top 20 player in Athletes Unlimited 2022-2023

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcoming Falyn to What I Meant to Say

0:58 - Lessons Learned through Volleyball

4:57 - How Has Your Coaching Evolved Over the Years?

12:22 - Differences of Coaching Girls & Boys

21:07 - Keeping Your Mind Right in the World We Live In

28:45 - A Discussion on People & Environments

34:00 - People & Relationships with Your Body

41:15 - What’s Next?

48:59 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Falyn 

IG - @falynfonoimoana 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“I knew somehow that it could be better.” 4:59

“The tools I used to get good at volleyball were not healthy, and they were not sustainable.” 9:01 

“A coach that has the ability to really sit back and evaluate what they’re dealing with and know that there’s more than one way in is a gift.” - Wendy @ 15:06

“Who am I as this coach?  I’m gonna go be that person because that’s where I’m going to be the strongest.” 16:26

“I don’t think our children need coaching from as parents.” 20:22

“Does the coach sort of understand the developmental needs of the child?” 23:27 

“We’ve learned quite a bit watching our kids choose.” 34:07

“We know our values, we can make better decisions, and when we make better decisions, we are more confident in what we’re doing.” 36:00

“When you can build a habit somewhere, you can build it somewhere else.” 36:22

“Facebook shows me who I would be friends with if miles didn’t make any difference.”  -Wendy @ 46:10

Guest Bio

Priscilla Tallman has been involved in high performance sports all her life. As an athlete, Priscilla played at the University of Georgia and earned 1st team All-Conference for all four years, including SEC Freshman of the Year and SEC Player of the Year. She also earned 1st Team All-America honors her junior and senior years at UGA. She went on to play on the USA National team, USA World University Games and professionally in Europe. In 2006, she was inducted into the prestigious Georgia Athletics Circle of Honor for excellence in representing her sport and the University. As a coach, she has coached at every level from high school to NCAA DI. Tallman is a Mental Performance Coach and Consultant to collegiate and professional athletes; helping them navigate and overcome performance blocks on the court as well as facilitating important breakthroughs off the court due to the challenges they face performing at an elite level. She has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from The University of Georgia and a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Vanguard University. She has authored two mental performance and wellness resources for athletes and sports teams: “30 Day Champions” Journal, and "30 Day Return to Play" Journal. "30 Day Champions" was studied and researched by graduate students from The College of Health Solutions at Arizona State University in Spring, 2022 and has been used by over 1,500 athletes, coaches and parents. Tallman lives in the Phoenix area and is married and has two children.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:20 - Welcome to Priscilla Tallman

1:11 - Sports Background & Texas Volleyball

4:08 - What Are You Up to Now?

7:21 - Working with Athletes Today

9:08 - Identifying Unhealthy Tools & Healing Through Coaching

17:24 - A Discussion on Vicarious Coaching & Parenting

22:37 - Learning How to Trust A Coach As A Parent

26:49 - Reflecting on Club Volleyball & How It’s Changed

32:49 - Homeschooling is Practical for Us

34:34 - 30 Day Champion’s Journal

39:30 - Life of the Aging Athlete

44:30 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

46:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Priscilla 

Website: spikedr.com

IG - @spikedr3

Key Points & Memorable Quotes

“There’s something to be said for two different people with different perspectives and different ways that they would do it to be there to help rear a child.” 8:25

“Eyeball to eyeball.” 14:01

“They’re watching your every move, and even how we speak to them.” 16:35

“My job is to love them and be the best example I can and listen when I’m needed.” 18:58

“We’re wounded in a very specific way, each of us, and it’s our job to heal those wounds and that is part of the deal.” 22:47

“Hey, what you think of me is really none of my business.” - Gabby quoting Byron Katie @ 37:49

“Nobody works for me.” 42:35

Guest Bio

GABRIELLE REECE is not only a volleyball legend, but an inspirational leader, New York Times bestselling author, wife, and mother. The former professional beach volleyball player and Nike’s first female  spokeswoman is the definition of both athleticism and beauty. 

At 6’3” and a lean 170 pounds, Gabby is a force to be reckoned with in the gym and on a microphone. Over the last decade Gabby has transcended from sport to becoming an international fitness and wellness  expert. 

With the release of her new podcast The Gabby Reece Show Gabby gets leading health, wellness, sport,  psychology, and business experts to share their most valuable and actionable information to her audience.  

As co-founder and co-Innovator of Laird Superfood, she has been able to take her nutrition expertise and  help create delicious, plant-based better for you food products that are accessible to all. 

Many of today’s top professional athletes and celebrities look to Gabby for training guidance. Partnering  with her husband, big wave surfer Laird Hamilton, Gabby helped create Extreme Performance Training (XPT). XPT is a unique and powerful fitness training and lifestyle program featuring their unique water  workouts, trademarked performance breathing, recovery methods, high-intensity and endurance training  for people of all fitness levels and backgrounds. She created her own trademarked high-intensity workout  called HIGHX that can accommodate small groups up to 100’s of people in one workout. 

Show Notes

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:29 - Welcome to Gabby Reece

1:34 - The Concept of Toxic Masculinity 

7:19 - Applying Your Family Values to the World

10:14 - A Discussion on Labels

15:28 - People Pleasing Girls

17:07 - Parental Disappointment

21:07 - Everything is Connected

24:21 - Health & Wellness Considerations

29:22 - Mindfulness of Slowing Down

31:26 - Lessons on the Hormone Cycle for Female Athletes

35:29 - Generational Learning through One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

39:42 - 2023 Women’s Indoor Volleyball NCAA Finals: Texas Longhorns Vs. Nebraska Cornhuskers 

41:44 - Where Can People Connect with You?

42:51 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Gabby

Laird Superfood

IG - @gabbyreece

The Gabby Reece Show

Email: info@gabbyreece.com

Book Recommendations:

Power Versus Force

Career Forward

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“We radiate light like the sun.” 7:41

“What the GHK copper peptide does by activating your stem cells is it calls on your stem cells to start repairing you again as if you were young.”  11:22

“I am just so happy to be alive and to be of service.” 16:20

“The product just does what you want it to do.” 19:32

“This network is something amazing to latch onto both for your health and your financial freedom.” Wendy @ 31:58

“For women, we just work together because we like to build community.” 41:04

Guest Bio 

Marci found network marketing a decade ago when she realized she could work for herself to build residual income and create true wealth. But then Life took a turn and she found herself on a journey of healing from Fast Growing Cells!!  Her life was tumbling down, when a good friend shared a  life changing technology which allowed her to begin again!  

She has now  been working with this company for 4 years and is the highest rank in it! She has over 80,000 brand partners in her organization of which 100 have ranked advanced to the top three positions in the company.  She loves to create systems and tools for brand partners and train the processes needed to help people become financially safe to financially free.  

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:36 - Welcome to Marci Preble

1:22 - Tell Us the Backstory that Led You to Lifewave

5:10 - The X39

8:47 - What is the GHK Copper Peptide?

13:36 - There’s Only One Rule

16:34 - Network of Innate Healers

19:38 - Background on Founder, David Schmidt

25:40 - Fast Forward to 2018

27:41 - Your Team Evolve Business Structure

35:56 - Turning Fear into Fun with My Friend Sue

37:57 - The Man Story

42:40 - Check Out the Product at www.bebetter.life/lifewave  

45:06 - Office Gifting Program

47:39 - Share the Wealth Companies

50:07 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Marci 

www.startx39now.com

www.start333biz.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“That bridge between academia and regular life is so beautiful, and it’s so important.” - Wendy @ 4:19

 “Grow older, not get older.” - Wendy @ 7:17

“My parents were very loving and they really emphasized on paying attention to other people, paying attention to their feelings, not being obsessed with yourself and your own little story, but trying to figure out you fit into a wider context of society.” 7:53

“When you age, you have to accept your new situation.” 9:30

“If you put your mind to it, you can achieve whatever you want and age is not a barrier.” 11:17

“What do we do with these feelings of regret? 15:44

“Our life is about stories.” 19:08 

“Japan is the second biggest music market in the World.” 22:55

“It’s incredibly important to remain engaged with life, continue to learn, and honor your relationships.” 33:34

“Language is all about meaning.  You have to communicate with the other person.” 39:10 

Guest Bio

ROB SCHWARTZ (Waltham, Mass, near Boston) is the Son and Editor of his fathers’ book on aging titled “The Wisdom of Morrie” (Blackstone Publishing, April 2023). He has many years of experience as a journalist, music/film producer, and entrepreneur. Rob has founded a number of companies, both in Japan and the US, and held executive positions in others. He’s produced numerous film and music projects with international teams. His areas of expertise include the entertainment industries in Asia, the US, and Europe. His projects often have a special emphasis on music, film, online business development, developing musical artists careers. In addition, he has been reporting for Billboard magazine on Asia since 2007. Rob is one of the producers of Onetopia, a benefit music festival slated for 2024 to support mental health charities. Rob has recently appeared on Good Morning America, Nightline, PBS NewsHour, NBC10 Boston, Good Day Sacramento, and in People, Reader's Digest, WebMD, VoyageLA and many more about this new book.

Show Notes

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:37 - Welcome to Rob Schwartz

1:35 - Finding the ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ Manuscript

4:36 - The Wisdom Of Morrie

6:08 - What Was Growing Up Like in That Household?

9:11 - Aches & Pains of Aging & Ageism

14:12 - The Concepts of Loneliness, Regret, and LifeLong Learning

18:24 - Life As A Journalist

23:26 - Music is Good for Mental Health

27:45 - Bringing ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ to Life

31:55 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

39:20 - Let’s Talk About Your Mother’s Role

44:01 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Rob 

https://wisdomofmorrie.com/

www.onetopia.com

IG - @rob_schwa

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob-schwartz-544703/

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“I continue to try to build the man I get to become.” 5:42

“SAVERS: Sleep, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, Scribing.” 7:01

“My self care was getting rid of the things that were hurting me.” 9:01

“Affirmations are affirming who you are and becoming that person.” 10:41 

“Sometimes you have to do things before you’re actually motivated to do them.” - Wendy @ 12:56

“Every experience we have is in preparation for who we get to become in the future.” 19:31

“There’s a beauty in letting the story unravel as it does.” 20:16

“Sometimes subtracting a single stimuli will help you have a little more clarity on the other stimulus that you maybe have been neglecting.” 30:10

“It’s more about finding a community of people who love you.” 45:50

Guest Bio

 When Covid hit, Ben was furloughed from work. He found himself down and out, staring at an empty handle of Jim Bean Whiskey. He was unemployed, depressed, and felt unworthy.

Hesitantly, he opened his Macbook and started reaching out to strangers on Linkedin. This spearheaded his entrepreneurial journey. 

The rest is history. 

Now Ben hosts a network of 5 podcasts called “Real Business Connections,” runs a massively successful marketing firm, Balbert Marketing, and has replaced his established sales income in just over a year. Ben found his way.

Once an underdog, now a successful entrepreneur, Ben is passionate about helping other underdogs find their way and achieve their dreams.

Ben is on a mission to actually move the needle on one million lives, one conversation at a time.

Show Notes

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:29 - Welcome to Ben Albert

1:57 - A Pandemic Growth Story

6:10 - What Ways Have You Changed Since Xanax Mondays?

9:15 - How Did You Remove the Numbing & Disconnected Behaviors?

12:43 - The Concept of Motivation Vs. Habit

15:36 - How Can We Help the Next Generation Learn to Be Their Authentic Self?

19:00 - A Discussion on the Meaning of Success

22:51 - How to Learn to Sit with Your Feelings

31:01 - Pivot to Marketing & Business

41:00 - A Conversation on the Healing Force of Music

47:23 - Where Can People Connect with You?

48:35 -  Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Ben 

About Ben + Press Appearances: https://realbusinessconnections.com/host/

Balbert Marketing LLC: http://balbertmarketing.com/alllinks

Real Business Connections Podcast: https://realbusinessconnections.com/

Email: ben@balbertmarketing.com

Free Consultation/ Meet and Greet: https://calendly.com/balbertmarketing/zoom30

​​Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/realbenalbert

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/realbusinessconnections

https://www.facebook.com/balbertmarketing

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realbenalbert/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCatiqMEYvn1CO_isUcb6pAQ/videos

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-business-connections-network/id1537115928

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6GIUXbsHXx0OSgPFED1sg8?si=5294f3445d964e25

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“Life is constantly changing.” 4:36

“Life has been nothing of what I expected, but everything that I needed.” 5:45

“It’s the reframe from I’m afraid of what might happen to the possibility of the greatness that could be.” -Wendy @ 9:41

“Coaching is such a rewarding profession because being able to pull human potential and help people see what really is already inside of them is just hugely rewarding and makes the World so much better.” - Wendy @ 11:00

“Coaches challenge you to raise the standards of your life.” 20:20

“Mentorship to me is when you’re sharing experiences.” 20:59

“If I am not a capable man, who am I to try and lead a family?” 33:20

“It comes down to what you value and who you believe yourself to be.” 34:59

“Men are meant to be protectors and providers. We feel fulfilled there. You give a man a purpose, he will feel fulfilled.” 44:20

“What you don’t heal in yourself, your child is going to have to deal with.” 49:09

“The more you’re afraid to fail, the less you’re going to accomplish.” 49:46 

Guest Bio 

Vin is a licensed psychotherapist, keynote speaker and mental performance coach. With over 13 years of experience in mental health he has worked with thousands of people and is currently on a mission to impact 1 billion people through his unique take on what it takes to help people get through a breakthrough.

“Setting goals and reaching them are important, but evolving into the person you need to become in the process of reaching those goals and then living it is the true purpose of life.” - Vin

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:13 - Welcome to Vincent Infante

1:18 - Share Your Backstory with Us

6:16 - Underlying Skills Important for Confidence in Uncertain Moments

11:15 - Intersection of Mentoring, Coaching, & Psychotherapy

21:29 - A Story from A Psychotherapist 

24:43 - Applying Your Knowledge to Parenting

34:18 - Learning Empathy through Fatherhood

43:22 - What Does it Mean to Be A Good Man?

48:19 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

50:18 - How Can People Connect with You?

51:13 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Vincent 

www.vincentinfante.life

www.tiktok.com/vin.infante

www.instagram.com/vin.infante

www.linkedin.com/in/vininfante

www.youtube.com@vininfante

Psychology Today:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/vincent-infante-staten-island-ny/821820

“Holding that athletic identity very tightly and then holding the expectations around it loosely.” 6:42

“Your hundred percent kinda looks different on different days.” - Wendy @ 10:07

“If how we are engaged in our athletic pursuits or our athletic identity isn’t adding value to our lives on a daily basis, then we have to reassess.” 11:25

“Performance at all costs actually isn’t adding value.” 11:44

“On any given day, it actually fills my cup versus drains it.” 15:52

“If I’m the smartest person in the room, I haven’t done a good enough job surrounding myself with the right people.” 23:52

“I want to build positions around people.” 29:00

“It starts with the organization understanding what is a culture that is actually in alignment with the leadership.” 35:09

“There’s a difference between leadership and management.” 39:43

“It’s a leader’s job to ultimately be that support network and to mold that failure into opportunity for growth.” 42:32

“Movement leads to movement.” 47:48

“Intensity isn’t what equates to being productive or successful.” 55:57

Guest Bio - Taylor Thomas is an entrepreneur, coach, podcast host, writer, and speaker. He's a passionate advocate for consistent movement, building impactful businesses, and putting relationships first in all areas of life. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - Welcome to Taylor

0:50 - Intersection of Movement & Mindset

3:26 - Endurance Sport Background

6:27 - Tips for the Aging Athlete

10:42 - Learned Experience into Coaching & Business

15:20 - What is Your Definition of ‘Adding Value’?

20:34 - Movement & Self-Awareness

21:02 - The Role that Movement Plays in the Evolution of Thought Patterns

25:37 - Leadership Characteristics

28:32 - Application of These Principles in Your Everyday Business

29:55 - Do You Use Personality Tests or Metrics?

33:30 - Integration of Meaning & Purpose in Team Culture

39:10 - How to Use These Philosophies in Parenting

46:33 - Advice to Start Moving Again

54:22 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:00:09 - Where Can People Connect with You?

1:01:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Taylor - 

IG - https://www.instagram.com/taylor.j.thomas/

Founder of http://www.thomasendurancecoaching.com/

Co-Founder of https://www.impactinitiative.network/

15-Day Free Trial of Impact Initiative Leadership Training - https://www.impactinitiative.network/services-1

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“You play out the unresolved trauma in your relationship.” - Wendy @ 0:40

“I don’t have to respond the same way they respond.” - Ashley @ 6:49

“If I want to take it slow, now I’m okay with it.” - Wendy @ 11:31

“Learning that creativity can be an artistic expression.” - Wendy @ 13:12

“I look for the kids who have the intangibles.” - Ashley @ 18:51

“Leadership qualities really are not something you can teach as much as you can just infuse.” - Wendy @ 23:09

“Remember, the Empress did give the King his cape to wear to pretend he could be in charge.” - Jeri @ 36:22

“So finding the balance in everything is really where it matters.” - Ashley @ 39:39

“The minute they stop making you laugh, it’s when it’s over.” - Jeri @ 43:35

“What are we still learning together?” - Jeri @ 44:29

“If you don’t have a healthy growth environment, you’re not doing your kids any favors.” 45:13

Guest Bio - Jeri Reeder is an avid tarot reader. She's been practicing the art OF tarot for more than 40 plus years. Jeri Has also been teaching yoga for the same amount of time and often combines the two modalities. Jeri teaches the art tarot along with hosting gatherings and makes any party more special.

Ashley currently serves as the Chief Operating Officer, a Producer, and Coach at Be Better Life and Be Better Media. She is a Southern California native and is the oldest of five siblings.  Ashley is a natural leader who leads by creating a safe environment through communication, honesty, compassion, and inclusion.  She played NCAA Division II indoor volleyball at Cal State Dominguez Hills where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Liberal Studies, including a concentration in Mathematics.  Later, she obtained a Master’s Degree in Coaching and Athletic Administration from Concordia University Irvine.  Ashley loves the sport of volleyball, but her passion lies in teaching and coaching the life lessons that are gleaned through sport’s participation. 

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:25 - Welcome to Jeri & Ashley

0:57 - Strong Women in Relationships

7:38 - Self Awareness in Today’s Generation

11:32 - Creativity Can Be An Athletic Expression

18:45 - Times Are Intense with Over Programming

21:04 - Road Trips & Lunches with Our Dads

34:32 - A Discussion on Generational Trauma & Healing Inward

40:11 - Growth in Relationships & Parenting 

45:27 - What is Generational Healing?

51:50 - Wrapping Up & Closing

Links & Where to Find Jeri & Ashley  

Jeri - @mothertarotreeder & @jerireeder

Ashley - @ashley.a.clark.10 & @coachashleyc 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-clark-143543255/

Facebook 

Twitter/X - @AshleyAnneC10

Tiktok - @ashleyannec10 

Be Better Life

Be Better Media

“In 1895 was the first chiropractic adjustment.” 5:28

“Healing comes from inside out.” 6:00

“There is a universal intelligence.” 6:19

“There’s not money in root cause, there’s money in keeping people sick.” 12:33

“Your body becomes efficient at what you give it over time.” 14:11

“Symptoms are a sign something’s wrong.” 17:30

“When you are unhealthy, you’re not seeking spirituality, you’re just seeking survival.” 18:57

“The more education a parent has, the less likely they’ll vaccine their kid.” 36:47

“Education banishes the fear.” - Wendy @ 38:47

“A Combat Controller is an air traffic controller, but he doesn’t do it from an air traffic control tower, he does it from out in the field.” - Kyle @ 1:51

“We turn chaos into calm.” -Kyle @ 3:09

“You’re confident because you know you’ve been trained by the best people out there.” - Kyle @ 22:37

“When in an awkward situation, admit nothing, deny everything, and make counter accusations.” - Joe @ 24:50

“I don’t have to engage.  I can evaluate first.” -Kyle @ 45:15

“Just using an alternative medicine one time, and it changed my life.” - Kyle @ 45:01

“Hey, try to be a better dad.” - Joe @ 1:02:00

“Hey, just be nicer, be more understanding, and figure out earlier how to break that combat to dad relationship,” - Kyle @ 1:03:09

“Call a friend. Do a buddy check.” - Kyle @ 1:08:34

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Psychology needs to be out front, and the next form of leadership is going to be rooted in applied psychology.” 5:38

“We really don’t want to be by ourselves, so when given time, we find ways to fill it.” 6:48

“So our brains have become highly tuned to the slightest of potential rejection.” 13:22

“F.O.P.O., Fear Of People’s Opinions is one of the mechanisms that’s right at the core of survival.” 15:26

“I’ve always wanted to celebrate the psychology of excellence, the psychology of what goes into people working to become their very best.” 23:45

“The concept of psychology being celebrated for what it brings out in people not for what it pathologizes.”  - Wendy @ 25:35 

“My wife taught me how to stop worrying.” 27:17

“Trying to be your most authentic self is a really scary thing.” -Wendy @ 30:18

“Success, for me, is having a loving and wonderful relationship with my adult son. I really want that.” 35:31

Guest Bio - Dr. Michael Gervais is a high-performance psychologist, author and one of the world’s leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. Over the course of a 20-year career working with world class performers and organizations, Dr. Gervais has developed a framework for the mental skills and practices that allow organizations, teams and individuals to thrive in pressure-packed environments. 

Gervais’ influence can be felt across many touchpoints of popular culture. His clients include the NFL’s Super Bowl Champions, Seattle Seahawks, world record holders, Olympians, MVPs from every major sport, internationally acclaimed music artists, and Fortune 50 CEO’s.

Gervais has worked across three summer Olympic Games (Tokyo, Rio, London) and two winter Olympic Games as a high-performance psychologist supporting Team USA, most recently for USA Surfing in Tokyo 2021. 

Dr. Gervais is the host of the Finding Mastery podcast that explores the psychology of the world’s most extraordinary thinkers and doers. In the top 1% of podcasts globally, Finding Mastery crossed the 25 million downloads milestone in 2021. 

Gervais has an upcoming book, The First Rule of Mastery, that’s being published by Harvard Business Review Press in November 2023. Previously, Gervais wrote an Audible Original, Compete to Create: An Approach to Living and Leading Authentically, with NFL coach Pete Carroll (2020).

Gervais created a six-week online course, Finding Your Best, to bring the principles and practices of high performance psychology and wellbeing into businesses and homes. 

Gervais is the co-creator of the Performance Science Institute at the USC Marshall School of Business, dedicated to teaching, training and researching the science, applied principles and best practices for high performance in any domain . 

A published, peer-reviewed author and nationally recognized speaker on optimal human performance, Dr. Gervais has been featured in premier media outlets including NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, ESPN, NFL Network, Red Bull TV, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Outside Magazine, WIRED, Sports Illustrated and ESPN The Magazine.

Dr. Gervais holds a doctorate degree in psychology, specializing in sport performance, and a master’s degree in kinesiology. He completed his PhD under the mentorship of Dr. Bruce Ogilvie, often referred to as the father of American applied sport psychology.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:20 - WIMTS Intro

0:42 - Welcome to Dr. Michael Gervais

3:55 - The First Rule of Mastery

19:10 - The Difference Between Worrying & Caring

21:14 - What It Feels Like to Be Called Out by Your Mentor

27:40 - What Are the Common Threads of the Greats?

30:05 - Do You See F.O.P.O. in Your Life?

35:06 - A Parenting Perspective on Success

37:05 - How To Work with Kids on Not Worrying About What Other People Think

43:01 - Pre-Party Anxiety & Public Speaking F.O.P.O.

45:53 - Response Mechanisms of F.O.P.O. 

48:07 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Dr. Michael Gervais

Dr. Michael Gervais

Finding Mastery Podcast

The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of 

You

Linkedin

IG - Dr. Michael Gervais

X/Twitter

IG - Finding Mastery

Finding Mastery Youtube

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“I teach my clients ‘You are defined by the stories that you tell yourself.’” 9:17

“The starting line is not equal, it’s not the same for everybody.” - Wendy @ 21:25

“If you can figure out how you can win in the moment at all times, then you’re going to go great places.” 23:06

“You have to forgive and take the lessons from the losses.” 32:39

“Love yourself more.” 52:53

Guest Bio -  Josh Parish is a Southern-born man of many skill sets. Currently living at the beach in Destin FL and advising people worldwide through his online fitness & life coaching business, Josh has helped hundreds of people rid their bodies of aches and pains while simultaneously transforming their physiques. He’s been called many things over the course of his life but the “Feel Good Fitness Guru” is his favorite. He’s also a Real Estate Broker & has sold nearly $40,000,000 worth of investment properties over the last 4 years.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:34 - WIMTS Intro

0:57 - Welcome to Josh Parish

1:47 - Share Your Early Life with Us

5:03 - What is Sleep Paralysis?

6:56 - Recreating Myself & the Importance of Perception

11:17 - Can You Describe the New Versions & Patterns?

13:53 - Inner Vs. Outer World 

16:08 - How Do You Manage Burnout As An Overgiver & An HSP?

19:05 - Advice for the Next Generation on Comparison & Popularity 

22:33 - Family Background & Generational Healing Discussion

31:38 - Forgiveness for Your Mind, Body, & Spirit

36:20 - Create Your Own Health & Wellness

41:20 - Lack of Masculinity in the Healing Space

43:39 - Tips & Tools for Looking Inward

51:44 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

52:31 - Where Can People Connect with You?

52:54 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Josh -

Linktree | www.TheJoshParish.com    

IG: @TheJoshParish

Tiktok: @TheJoshParish

X: @TheJoshParish

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“I think being a matriarch, to me, is an honor, and it’s also a journey and a voyage.” 6:23

“Sometimes we just have to be able to say the thing that doesn’t seem like the thing we should say, but then that’s the honest truth.” - Wendy @ 9:27

“We want families to be raised by the sun and the moon.” 12:38

“I don’t think we have flaws.” 20:02

“I think part of the matriarchy is really nurturing every aspect of humanity.” 25:06

“Having conversation is the key.” 29:10

Guest Bio - Jeri Reeder is an avid tarot reader. She's been practicing the art OF tarot for more than 40 plus years. Jeri Has also been teaching yoga for the same amount of time and often combines the two modalities. Jeri teaches the art tarot along with hosting gatherings and makes any party more special.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:17 - WIMTS Intro

0:39 - Welcome to Jeri Reeder

1:37 - What Do You Assess As A Matriarch?

7:05 - What Do You Have to Come to Terms With in Order to Arrive?

16:51 - The Art OF Tarot

20:53 - How Do We Invite Men to Join the Healing Journey?

25:36 - How to Recognize Scars to Evolve

29:13 - Raising Your Kids

32:27 - The Gift of Seeing People for Who They Are

35:22 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

36:03 - Where Can People Find You?

36:59 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Jeri -

@mothertarotreeder

@jerireeder

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“What makes people tick when it comes to money?” 2:54

“Your viewpoint of money and your relationship to money is very often already shaped by your childhood, by your parents, by whomever was in your direct social circle when you were growing up.” 4:06

“A spendthrift as the name kind of indicates, is someone who gets a lot of pleasure from spending money.” 10:13

“The tightwads, so people who have essentially the scrooges.” 10:43

“If you are on a budget, and you know what your triggers are, it’s probably best to avoid your triggers.” 14:54

“Behavioral science very often is the opposite of marketing.” 16:45

“You actually release most dopamine when you think of having the thing just before you have it, like you actually predict how much pleasure a thing is going to give you.” 20:34

“For your chance of survival, it’s not good to be in the bottom of the pack.” 38:19

“There is downward social comparison, meaning that you compare yourself to people who are worse off than you, but people tend to only really do this as a coping mechanism.” 41:03

“Find out why you have a constant need to buy things.” 44:15 

“The more that we learn to love ourselves, the better we relate to other people.” - Wendy @ 45:30

Guest Bio - Merle van den Akker, PhD is a behavioral scientist working in the financial services. Both in her work and her academic research she studies how people think about and handle their money, and why they make the (financial) choices they do. She is a frequent writer and speaker on the topic of the intersection between behavioral science and personal finance. Merle is also a strong advocate for interdisciplinary and mixed-methods research, always approaching people from a human-centered perspective.

Before moving to Australia she obtained her PhD, MA and MSc from the Warwick Business School (UK), focusing on Behavioural Science and Mixed Methods Research, respectively.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - WIMTS Intro

0:46 - Welcome to Merle

1:31 - What Interested You in Behavioral Science?

3:10 - Helping People Form a Better Relationship with Money

5:59 - Communicating with Children How to Have A Better Relationship with Money

9:31 - How Does Personality & Mindset Play into Financial Decisions?

13:09 - How Can People Find the Middle Ground in Finances?

16:39 - The Role of Behavioral Science Plays in Marketing to Consumers

19:45 - To Buy or Not to Buy, that is the Question

24:13 - Health Implications of Stress from Spending Decisions

30:34 - Discussion on the Risk of Spending Money

36:24 - What Role Does Self-Worth Play in Financial Decision-Making?

43:37 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

45:37 - Where Can People Find You?

46:38 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Merle -

twitter:https://twitter.com/MoneyMindMerle

linkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/merle-van-den-akker-phd-40a8b811b/

blog:https://www.moneyonthemind.org/

book:https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Doing-PhD-ebook/dp/B0C3RFJDGF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=309UIA99CTVPC&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+doing+a+PhD&qid=1683436249&sprefix=the+ultimate+guide+to+doing+a+phd%2Caps%2C290&sr=8-1

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“The biggest bang for the buck was spending time with the parent.” 4:56

“Preserve and protect.” 6:51

“My thoughts create my feelings and my feelings drive my actions.” 13:09

“Our actions give us the results in our life.” 14:22

“We can really learn to think on purpose.” 15:19

“It’s about progress not perfection.” 18:44

“The act of prioritizing eating together as a family is so powerful for both the parents and the kids.” 28:55

“If you can kind of model and be an example of a healthy lifestyle for them, then they don’t have to figure that out on their own.” 40:12

Guest Bio - Dr. Sheila Carroll is a board-certified pediatrician and obesity medicine physician who is dedicated to helping children achieve their best health. She does this by working exclusively with parents who are willing to focus on modifying their own behaviors to ultimately improve their child's health. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:16 - WIMTS Intro

0:38 - Welcome to Sheila

1:00 - Being A Pediatrician & A Life Coach

7:18 - Practical Ways You’re Helping Families Connect the Dots

12:09 - Increasing Mindfulness in the Home

15:27 - Ways to Guide Kids More than Criticize 

18:08 - A Discussion on Perfectionism & Balance

25:16 - How Has the Mindset Around Nutrition Changed?

27:38 - Advice to Parents with a Picky Eater

31:37 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

33:49 - Helping Parents Separate Their Vision from What Their Kids Actually Want

37:29 - Where Can People Reach Out to You?

40:55 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Sheila -

https://www.sheilacarrollmd.com/

https://www.facebook.com/sheilacarrollmd

https://www.instagram.com/sheilacarrollmd/

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Life is happening for me, not to me.” 3:48

“How can I flip this pain into fuel?” 4:05

“We just try to pinpoint where their weakness is and why that is a weakness.” 6:26

“All we want is to be heard and understood.” 27:59

“I feel like my gift was discernment.” 30:12

“The patterns of addiction and numbing really limit human potential.” -Wendy @ 32:50

“I have the power because I no longer give people the reaction that they expect.” 35:30

“Keep going and listen to your conscience and God.” 38:17 

Guest Bio - Derick Johnson is a US Army Veteran, Life Coach and Trainer that has helped over 500 clients and 50 companies go from just surviving to thriving through his coaching modalities and marketing efforts. 

Derick was awarded Soldier of the Year for his battalion 3x, received numerous Awards for PT and took his leadership skills, certifications and life experiences to help people take control of their mind and body so they can THRIVE, not just survive. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - WIMTS Intro

0:46 - Welcome to Derick

1:28 - Childhood & Military Background

5:46 - How Do You Help People Change Their Perspective?

9:26 - Being Honest with Yourself & Specific with Your Goals

13:38 - How Do You Coach People through the Loneliness of Being the Black Sheep?

17:33 - A Discussion on Social Anxiety

25:24 - A Message for Veterans Coming Out of Service

33:05 - The Concept of Forgiveness

37:58 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

40:33 - Where Can People Find You?

41:38  - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Derick -

https://fitwithderick.com/optin

https://www.linkedin.com/in/derickjohnson1/

https://www.facebook.com/fitwithderick2

https://www.instagram.com/fitwithderick2/

https://www.tiktok.com/@fitwithderick

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Not pride, but proud because every struggle I really turned into the powerful moment.” 4:24

“95% of the water products on the market are absolutely dangerous.” 9:02

“I have no intentions here except to educate people.” 31:42 

“I’m here for you to know you have the most beautiful endocannabinoid system, don’t get tricked. Empower that system.” 37:39

“When you’re healthy and strong, you can always make the right decisions in your life, so your health must be a priority.” 44:30 

Guest Bio - I am the visionary founder and CEO of Nesa's Hemp, the world’s first-ever full-spectrum CBDa oil. It is created through a unique process I developed myself which preserves all the healing compounds of the hemp plant. This brings optimal healing and restores the body to its natural state. As a renowned expert in the field of hemp and CBD as well as a caring holistic healer who is actively changing lives, my mission is to revolutionize and empower people to heal and live well by transforming our concepts of health and the healing power of pure hemp and CBDa. My journey with hemp/CBD began when I received a call from my mom telling me she had cancer and only had six months left to live. Heartbroken but determined, I traveled the world on a mission to find natural ways to overcome her health condition. That is when I discovered that the hemp plant is known to be a miracle plant. However, when I met with the highest quality hemp CBD producers in the US, I realized that none of them had a high-quality hemp product. I knew what I had to do! After facing many challenges, I was finally able to create a product for my mother, and subsequently other people in the world, an effective alternative health solution. Today, Nesa's Hemp is certified as the highest quality organic hemp product on the market. Five years ago, my mother was given 6 months to live. Today she is cancer free and enjoying a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:22 - WIMTS Intro

0:44 - Welcome to Inesa 

1:14 - How Did Your Life Story Lead to Nesa’s Hemp?

7:49 - Conversation on Hydration & Water Quality

12:21 - The Day I Found Out My Mom Had Terminal Cancer

19:25 - CBD Discussion

25:54 - Implication on the Hemp Plant

31:27 - Education is the Only Way to Change It

38:39 - What Education & Help Will People Find on Your Website?

43:20 - Where Can People Find You?

43:52 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Inesa -

www.regenesis369.com     

www.nesashemp.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Possession, not possessions.  Keeping possession of your money because anytime that you're spending money, you're giving it away to the other team.” 4:44

“How much am I thinking about where I’m putting that money?” 6:47

“You have the possibility of compounding the benefits of learning about this early.” 7:59

“Where’s my money going every single month and why is it going there?” 12:51

“How do I grow money without working more hours?” 27:09

“We think that emotions happen to us, but we are actually creating the emotion for the most part.” 37:09

“We all need to be at the guard of the gates to our minds.” 39:46

“Everything that you do comes down to choices.” 43:09

“Great information for the next generation.” - Wendy @ 44:46

Guest Bio - Pete Huryk is a long-time soccer coach, teacher, and author whose books are intended to help young people play the game of life more effectively.  In his latest book, Pete and his co-author, Chris Schaefer, use soccer as a metaphor to simplify and explain finances.  

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:22 - WIMTS Intro

0:44 - Welcome to Pete Huryk

2:17 - How Did You Connect with Your Co-Author Chris?

7:40 - Advantages of Teaching Financial Literacy to the Younger Generation

 11:28 - What Habits are Incrementally More Helpful?

14:41 - Tips for Helping People Figure What They Value

24:57 - Generational Learning Discussion

28:20 - Do You Talk to Your Kids About Finances?

31:01 - Are You A Game of Lifer?

36:23 - A Spanish Lesson: The Reflexive Verb

38:49 - The Great American Hero Metaphor 

41:13 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

43:35 - Where Can People Find You & Your Books?

44:49 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Pete -

Setting and Scoring Financial Goals book

www.Sportsfinancellc.com   

IG & Facebook - @sportsfinancellc

 www.hurykunlimited.com

 Instagram - @phuryk 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“That’s one of the great things about motocross is that it’s a family sport.” 4:14

“My generation, they’re only only seeing this one thing.” 14:23

“I look at it every day as the daily pursuit of becoming undeniable in every realm of human endeavor.” 20:14

“And then I also figured out how to really just forget about the competitors, forget about all these other things, but literally just focus.” 26:47

“If you have a really strong imagination and you know how to use it correctly, it’s literally a superpower.” 30:02

“Life is like a maze and everybody starts at a different entrance and everybody’s got a different path.” 35:34

Guest Bio - Logan Lessar is a 19-year-old National Motocross Champion, Business Owner, and online coach. He helps people develop an unbreakable mindset and become the best version of themselves, physically and mentally, so they can eliminate their vices, push through their limiting beliefs, and dominate anything they pursue in life. He’s a National Motocross racer having won numerous State & National Championships. 

Logan started his first business at 15 and traveled to South Africa alone at 17 during the peak of Covid to work with his business partner who he met online whilst continuing to compete in Motocross and complete traditional schooling with straight A’s.. 

He’s had a lot of experiences despite his young age through competing in Motocross at a national level against the best racers in the world and going through the struggles of building a business from scratch.  Through endless adversity and countless losses, Logan has learned to push through the tough times and develop a ‘never quit’ mindset which led to numerous championships in Motocross and the continuous pursuit of success with his businesses. 

Logan says he lives a life that he’s excited to wake up to every day because he’s in the daily pursuit of becoming the best version of himself and helping others do the same!

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:23 - WIMTS Intro

0:46 - Welcome to Logan

1:11 - How Did Motocross Lead to Entrepreneurial Business?

3:20 - What’s Your Family Background?

4:56 - Travels During COVID

7:22 - Let’s Talk Business & Entrepreneurship 

9:54 - Challenges Facing Logan’s Generation

15:22 - Advice for Seeking Diversity with An Open Mind

19:48 - What Does Internal Work Look Like?

24:12 - What’s Your Favorite Type of Client to Coach?

29:30 - Unlocking Flow State

34:58 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

38:02 - Connecting with You

38:25 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Logan -

https://www.instagram.com/logan_lessar/

https://www.tiktok.com/@loganlessar

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQqS5D1bp8gIpl2ljsQW-zw

The Alter Ego Effect

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Before you take that first drink, call one of us.” 13:00

“We’ll do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure.” 15:04

“The way human beings make decisions is we make them out of inspiration or desperation.” 15:13

“What doesn’t challenge you, doesn’t change you.” 33:30

“You can’t perform at a high level carrying that resentment around.” 36:54

“Life can be so simple, if we just trust the process.” 41:13

“With great wisdom comes great responsibility.” 43:46

“This, too, shall pass.” 49:27

“Just stop looking for heroes and be one.” 49:52

Guest Bio - Dave is the #1 Firewalk Instructor in America. Firewalking is a 1,000 year old rite of passage ritual where you literally walk across hot burning coals. Having worked for Tony Robbins for 19+ years and starting Firewalk Productions in 2014 Dave has firewalked hundreds of thousands of people. He and Tony Robbins set a World Record in London in 2005 walking over 12,300 people. His success has a scary and violent past. 

On June 8th, 1988 he put a gun to his head to stop the excruciating pain from both drug and alcohol addiction. 2023 will mark 35 years of sobriety. Dave's clients include Google, NASA, Notre Dame, Virginia Tech, Heineken, RE Max, Entrepreneurs Organization (EO), Chick-fil-A, CRISP Video, Mystery Hill, Y.M.C.A., Replace Your University, Tony Robbins, T Harv Eker, NATE BAILEY, The 4-Seasons, The Omni Hotel, The Waldorf Astoria, Waikoloa Hotel, and MANY others. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:35 - WIMTS Intro

0:46 - Welcome to David

1:30 - What’s Your Backstory?

7:38 - An Early Battle with Alcoholism

11:29 - Call Alcoholics Anonymous

14:28 - Buying the Personal Power Program in 1988

16:41 - FireWalking with Tony Robbins 

22:10 - One Question, One Stranger

26:51 - Day Two Gets Interesting

30:18 - The Captain's Position & Google

34:28 - What Transformation Are Companies Looking For?

39:48 - Fear Based Avoidance & Anxiety 

44:02 - Connecting with Kids & Veterans

49:12 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

50:35 - Where Can People Find You?

51:25 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find David - 

www.firewalkadventures.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dave-albin/

https://www.facebook.com/dave.albin.10

https://www.instagram.com/firebuilder2/?hl=en

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxcTJfSBSBy4OrkN5f0bfVQ

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“So, I’m basically allergic to everything, that's the diagnosis.” 3:01

“What if you could have your cake without the toxicity?” 5:49

“It’s all five pillars, it’s air, water, food, movement, medicine.” 6:24

“No two people are the same.” 9:31

“Doctors work for you.  Hire and fire as you see fit.” 10:06

“It’s okay that the genders aren’t equal because we are equally strong at different things.” 18:06

“You vote with your dollar.  When it comes to what’s in your kitchen, you choose!” 40:15

“It is not my responsibility to make my child happy all the time.” 40:43

“There’s so much falseness going on, and people just don’t know.” 45:29

“Rules without relationships lead to rebellion.” 59:20

“There’s a balance to be found.” 1:02:38

“Don’t know and not choose to do better.” 1:05:07 

Guest Bio - Kathlena has over 200 food allergies and intolerances, and can't drink most water. The members of her household also have food allergies and special diets, none of them the same. After being told she had 30 days to live, she has made it her mission to help the food allergy and special diet communities thrive. Three years from her lowest point, she and her team have published several cookbooks, ran an award winning bakery, done local and nationwide outreach, developed thousands of free recipes and resources and much more. You can learn about all of her different ventures are theallergychef.com.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - WIMTS Intro

0:46 - Welcome to Kathlena, the Allergy Chef

1:46 - What’s Your Allergy Story?

8:37 - Becoming Your Own Advocate & Radical Responsibility

12:37 - Take Your Power Back

16:55 - Hormone Disruptors & Gender Discussion  

22:20 - Parenting the Kids of Today

30:15 - Role of Food in Kid’s Behavior & Health

34:46 - Amish Living, but with the Internet

39:47 - We Have A Responsibility to Fight for the Next Generation

45:36 - Generational Healing, Conscious Capitalism, & Ag Business

54:40 - Parenting is Not A Dictatorship

58:56 - Manage and Model

1:02:32 - Teach Kids About Their Food

1:06:48 - An Experienced Message from the Allergy Chef

1:12:56 - Where Can People Find You?

1:13:25 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Kathlena, the Allergy Chef - 

theallergychef.com 

IG @theallergychef

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“When I got to the root cause, I got better.” 4:50 

“If we can’t connect with ourselves, we can’t connect with other people.” - Wendy @ 8:05

“When we partner with our body and we learn to love it instead of hate, you can’t hate yourself well.” 8:46

“Your arms, maybe they jiggle when you wave, but they’re also the arms that hug people and help your babies.” 10:30

“What you seek, you shall find.” 18:39

“Food is like medicine and medicine is thy food.” 31:43

“You’re not going to be everything every day.” 37:30

Guest Bio - Michelle Gillette, FMCHC is a purpose-driven wellness entrepreneur: a former hedge fund executive turned mom and Functional Medicine Health Coach committed to helping other to reinvigorate themselves, from the inside out, whether that be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, relationally or "all of the above." 

She still believes in love, and is passionate about helping others get unstuck from the patterns that have held them back. 

She's certified as a Life Coach, Health Coach, Brain Health Coach and Breathing Coach -- but it's her own odds-defying life of learned resilience that has truly given her the perspective, relatability, compassion and experience to support others as they go from "merely surviving to thriving." 

She was married for 23 years, and today is empty-nested, amicably divorced and co-parenting two well-adjusted 20-something humans, who she continues to learn from and adore.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:00 - WIMTS Intro

0:22 - Welcome to Michelle 

1:03 - How Did You Get into the Health & Wellness World?

8:05 - How Do You Help Clients Develop Better Relationships with Themselves?

15:33 - What are Attachment Styles?

20:50 - Family Generational Patterns & Parenting

26:24 - Life is Hard, but Do Our Choices Make Life Harder?

32:17 - How Knowing Yourself Can Help You Manage Your Energy

36:59 - Giving Yourself Love & Permission to Take a Break

46:33 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

48:57 - Where Can People Find You?

50:21 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Michelle - 

Website: www.MichelleGilletteCoaching.com

IG - @MichelleGillette_ 

“I got into this because there was a moment in my life that I will never forget.” 1:49

 “Social media, it’s not bad, but I would say it’s not good.  I would say the answer is ‘It's all, how do you use it? What are you using it for?’” 12:17

“I look at social media, there are pages that give to your life and then there are pages that take from your life.” 13:31

“The biggest thing is; the person you approach is an adult you can trust, somebody you have trust level with.” 24:21

“Less sometimes is better.” 43:37

“At some point, we have to be able to advocate for ourselves and mom and dad have to be on the sidelines.” 47:44

“Just because you made that decision in the past doesn’t mean you have to make it when it presents itself again.” 55:19

Guest Bio - Eric helps student-athletes and students see how making better life decisions now will lead to a more fulfilling life. Through stories and examples, his presentations engage and resonate with students and student-athletes, as he shows them how they can immediately change the course of their own lives and the lives of others.

Eric’s presentations are based on real-life experiences, including having witnessed a younger brother make poor decisions that ultimately led to him dying of a drug overdose and people turning their lives around through positive choices. The presentations have a beneficial effect on the youth who experience them — showing them how the decisions they make every day can have long-term consequences on their lives.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - WIMTS Intro

0:47 - Welcome to Eric Daddario

1:33 - How Did You Become A Mental Health Advocate for Students?

6:07 - What Are Students Struggling with Right Now?

10:54 - How to Balance Comparison in the World of Social Media

15:04 - It’s Hard to Ask for Help, but It’s Okay

23:13 - Tangibles of How to Ask for Help

31:35 - Creating a Trusted Culture with Open Communication

40:23 - Parents Over Identifying with Their Kids Success

45:51 - Improving the Relationship Between Parents, Coaches, and Athletes

50:58 - Helping Athletes & Students Making Healthier Choices

58:33 -  One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

59:34 - Connecting People with You

1:00:05 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Eric 

Website - http://ericdaddario.com/

FB - https://m.facebook.com/eric.daddario/

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/eric-daddario-16019753

Morgan’s Message

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“I feel really good about the way I was able to Mom right there.” 9:49

“We’re on the path to be plugged in the majority of the time.” 38:39

“I consciously handle it differently.” 51:21

“At a certain point in this life, not knowing what could be, is not an option for me.” - Wendy @ 1:00:29

“If you lose something by being your true authentic self, then you weren’t meant to have it.” 1:09:24

Guest Bio - Amber Susa is an entrepreneur, fitness expert, spiritual coach and teacher, Reiki healer, inspirational speaker and writer. She is the founder and owner of Allomi (all-of-me), a holistic health and healing space bringing together movement, meditation, and mindfulness. She currently lives in Palos Verdes with her children Dawson and Will. Growing up as an actress and dancer, Amber was naturally drawn to creative expression, storytelling and performing. She most recently performed her one-woman-show, “Waking Up To All Of Me” in the Hollywood Fringe Festival. She has spent the last two decades in the fitness and wellness business, and has been an entrepreneur for the last 12 years. After becoming a mother to two beautiful children, severe low back pain led her to a meditation practice and spiritual journey that has helped her discover her life purpose and become who she was born to be. Amber is passionate about guiding others back to their own innate and intuitive knowing, and helping them come into alignment with their most authentic self.  

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:00 - WIMTS Intro

0:22 - Welcome to Amber

1:05 - The Backstory Behind the ‘One Woman Show’

10:03 - ‘One Woman Show’ Discussion

16:46 - Addiction Struggle Stemmed from Generational Trauma

28:07 - The Balance of Telling Your Story without Outing Others

32:39 - The Story of Alcohol in My Life

41:21 - Concept of Successful Co-Parenting 

48:34 - Have Your Kids Seen Your Show?

50:03 - Parenting the Next Generation

55:26 - The Healing Journey through the Creative Process

1:01:15 - Ego Versus Soul

1:06:35 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:10:12 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Amber - 

https://www.instagram.com/ambersusa.allomi/

https://www.instagram.com/allomi_health/

https://allomi.com/

Vienna Faron - The Origins of You

“I had this light bulb come on, like, I’m better than the way that I’m living.” 8:08

“We have made it through 100% of the worst days of our life.” 44:42 

“Our goal, our mission is to bring one million Warriors home.” 49:30

“What you tell yourself upstairs does not have to define who you want to become in the here and now.” 53:15

Guest Bio - MICHAEL R. O’DELL 

Warriors Heart Admissions Director and Former US Marines Corps CPL Michael R. O’Dell was born and raised in the heart of the hill country. During his youth, Michael loved playing baseball with his brothers and skateboarding with his friends. At the age of 19, Michael left his family and the hill country behind to become a United States Marine. During his service to our country Michael was stationed in Hawaii and attached to 3rd battalion 3rd Marine AKA Americas Battalion. His unit quickly deployed and continuously rotated in and out of theater. CPLO’Dell was a part of and involved with multiple missions which were mostly executed at night. Training the Iraqi Army as well as maintaining a high level of readiness in the battalion’s motor pool. CPL O’Dell was recognized for promotion and multiple awards for his performance and dedication to the corps and was honorably discharged from service in November of 2010. Shortly after Michael’s return home to the Texas hill country, the struggle with addiction and PTSD began to take control of his life. As a Marine, Michael would refuse to admit to his problems. Michael continued to suffer from his addiction until it landed him in prison. Michael has been sober since March 2016 and has dedicated himself to helping the warrior class make the crucial decision to choose life and finally return home. Michael has been interviewed on KSAT ABC San Antonio, NPR KUT Austin, Life After Addiction and Indictment, GEMS with Genesis Amaris Kemp and more.

https://www.warriorsheart.com/my-why-michael-odell/

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:29 - WIMTS Intro

0:52 - Welcome to Michael O’Dell

1:34 - What’s Your Backstory?

6:13 - From Addiction to the Military

10:50 - Unique Marine Corp Deployment Story

16:13 - Second Deployment & First Suicide Experience

19:04 - My Addiction Got Super Dark

22:50 - Veteran’s Suicide Statistics & Warrior’s Heart Connection

26:08 - DWI Car Accident in 2010

28:43 - My Son was Born in 2013

29:38 - The Concept of Self-Worth 

31:37 - How Did You Begin to Change Your Story?

38:45 - Out of Prison in 2018 & Luckily Got A Job

43:09 - Working & Serving at Warrior’s Heart

51:17 - Generational Learning on What I Meant to Say

52:24 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

54:37 - People Need Community & Support to Heal

57:49 - Where Can We Connect with Warrior's Heart?

1:01:00 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Mike & Warrior’s Heart - 

ABOUT WARRIORS HEART – Peer-to-Peer Healing Program (Bandera, Texas near San Antonio): Warriors Heart is the first and ONLY private accredited treatment program in the U.S. exclusively for “warriors” (active duty military, veterans, first responders and EMTs/paramedics) faced with the self-medicating struggles of alcohol addiction, prescription and drug addiction, PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), mild TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury) and other co-occurring issues in a private, 60-bed facility on a 543-acre ranch. Along with a minimum 42-day peer-to-peer residential treatment program, Warriors Heart provides “warriors” with options based on a Full Continuum of Care (Detox, Day Treatment, Residential Treatment and Training, Extended Treatment and Training, Outpatient, Sober Living (60-day minimum) and Aftercare. Warriors Heart’s work has been featured on the TODAY Show, CBS Health Watch, Intervention, FOX 11 Los Angeles, National Defense Radio Show and in TIME, Forbes, The Chicago Tribune, San Antonio Business Journal, Real Leaders and many more media. There is a 24-hour Warriors Heart hotline answered by warriors. https://www.warriorsheart.com

Call Warrior Heart - (888) 438-6616

REFERENCE

New Study - Suicide Statistics for Military/Veterans Post 9/11

7,000 troops died in the Post-9/11 wars. A staggering 30,000 died by suicide

https://taskandpurpose.com/news/veteran-suicide-deaths-post-9-11/

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“My poor health doesn’t affect just me, it affects everybody else around me.” 10:13

“Living food for a living body.” 16:16

“I turned my life into a daily detox because we live in a polluted world.” 22:35

“The solution is actually you.” 23:37

“You cannot heal when you are stressed out.” 25:36

“When am I going to make my health a priority?” 33:59

“Do what you love and do it now.” 39:20

“Put yourself first.” 1:02:25

Guest Bio - Tim is one of those guys that will leave you feeling younger and more energetic just by hearing him speak. His passion flows out of him like a fresh waterfall in a dry desert. He’s turning 49 but feels like he’s 18 (with more energy!) What’s his secret?

After suffering from multiple health issues, including rectal bleeding, two separate skin issues, chronic acid indigestion and surgery to remove one of his organs due to serious digestive issues, Tim knew something had to change. But it was only after watching his closest ones die of cancer and the untimely death of his younger brother that he finally decided to take action. Tim’s journey led him to a shocking discovery which helped his friend beat cancer and transform every area of his life. Feeling charged with a duty to help others he started sharing his knowledge with anyone that would listen. This led him to producing his own chemical free food products. ‘Chemical Free Body’ was born. Tim’s inbox is constantly flooded with people singing and dancing about how his products have given them a life they couldn’t believe was possible. His story will have you laughing, crying and gasping but most importantly he will give you the recipe to a longer, happier and healthier life.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:18 - WIMTS Intro

0:41 - Welcome to Tim James

1:03 - The Need For A Chemical Free Body

17:53 - Telling the Story of Growing Sprouts

20:30 - Chemical Free Body Was Born

27:19 - A Discussion on Soil 

33:06 - Let’s Talk Solutions

40:52 - New Products

44:48 - The Digestive Tract & Colon Health

53:48 - Generational Learning & Connecting with You

1:02:11 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:06:46 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Tim - 

www.chemicalfreebody.com (Use Code: BeBetter for 5% off shop)

IG: https://www.instagram.com/chemicalfreebody/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/tim.james.9216

Podcast: 

The Health Hero Show

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“If I worried about every little thing they did, I would be a nervous wreck.” 7:38

“Not every situation deserves a reaction.” 18:50

“Live life with no regrets.” 50:00

“Sometimes things need to be said whether it’s comfortable or uncomfortable.” 54:31

“We all have the same issues, they are just packaged a little differently.” 1:07:51

Guest Bio - Cindy is a Southern California native but moved to Arizona in 2018. She is a mom of five, awesome adult children and passionate about life. After 30 years of raising her children, she completed her bachelor degree in dietetics and nutrition at Kansas State University and will be starting a master's dietetic internship at Marshall University in August of 2023.

Ashley is Cindy’s oldest daughter.  She grew up in a Christian home where family, faith, and sports were important.  Ashley ultimately fell in love with the sport of volleyball and earned an athletic scholarship to attend CSU Dominguez Hills and play collegiately.  She has a Bachelors in Liberal Studies with a concentration in Mathematics, as well as a Masters in Coaching and Athletic Administration from Concordia University Irvine.  Ashley uses her family background, sports experience, life exposure, and her education to coach volleyball and is the resident detail queen for Be Better Media.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:22 - WIMTS Intro

0:22 - Welcome to Cindy & Ashley Clark

1:35 - Starting a Family

7:02 - Balancing Boundaries & Exploration with Your Kids

9:12 - Parenting Children with Different Personalities

17:06 - The Illusion of Control

22:04 - Homeschool & Sports Discussion

27:01 - Unlearning Generational Patterns

32:02 - Impact of Divorce on Children

46:08 - Cindy, How Have You Changed?

52:19 - Evolution of the Parent-Child Relationship

1:00:09 - One Piece of Advice from Cindy

1:02:21 - One Piece of Advice from Ashley

1:08:12 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Ashley & Cindy - 

Ashley IG - @coachashleyc @ashley.a.clark.10

Cindy IG - @cyanclark86

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“What’s the point of going after success if it costs family in the process?” 2:27

“I guess one of the darker things about being in the Army is you start thinking with the end in mind, the end of your life in mind.” 16:54

“No matter what they come home with, they got to know you love them and that you’re there with them to help them navigate.” 26:28

“Don't just go and solve the problem for them.” 29:37

“Recognize, Understand, and Take Action.” 32:50

“Faith, family, fitness, finances, and future growth.” 37:51

“Listen to other people sooner.” 52:29

Guest Bio - Jerry Dugan is a public speaker, author, and the host of Beyond the Rut, a podcast about helping you achieve your dreams and thrive in your faith, family, and career to experience a life beyond the rut.

Jerry’s own life growing up through divorce, his dad’s attempted suicide, and combat have built within him resilience and the perspective that life is just too dang short to live it stuck in a rut.

His leadership framework, T.E.N.T., teaches leaders how to use proven skills to expel employee dissatisfaction and retain great talent in their teams and organizations.

Today, Jerry is a Christ follower, husband, and father living in Texas.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:20 - WIMTS Intro

0:42 - Welcome to Jerry Dugan

1:39 - Tell Us About Your Background

6:07 - How Did You Change Your Mindset?

9:17 - Served in the Army Until 27 & Met My Wife There

13:13 - First Year as a Civilian & Financial Learning

16:19 - Core Memories & Generational Learning

22:40 - Tips for Creating Trust with Teenagers

31:20 - Beyond the Rut

38:31 - Fear Means it’s Time to Prune

42:07 - Favorite Nuggets of Wisdom from Beyond the Rut

49:33 - Key to Long Term Relationships

51:37 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

53:30 - Where Can People Connect with You?

54:13 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Jerry - 

https://beyondtherut.com/audiobook

https://beyondtherut.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Swimming is not a physical sport, it’s mostly mental because everything you that you do when you’re swimming first happens in the mind, and then you do it with your body.” 7:09

“Sports is something to work on yourself mentally and physically, mostly mentally.” 10:15

“What is Michael Phelps thinking?” 18:08

“I know I will do what I have to do when I have to do it.” 21:37

Guest Bio - Born in Santa Fe, Argentina, I’ve always been passionate about sports. I’m 26 years old and I’ve been swimming for 20 of them. Swimming is a big part of my life and it has given me wonderful opportunities and friends all around the world.

I’m a two-time Olympian (Rio 2016 & Tokyo 2021), graduated in Marketing & Information System Management from Auburn University, and a dog lover who likes to take walks on the beach and make every day special in some way.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:33 - WIMTS Intro

0:50 - Welcome to Santi Grassi

1:27 - Background in Swimming

6:37 - Solitary Mindset As A Swimmer

11:19 - From Argentina to Auburn University

16:43 - Ist Olympic Experience

19:21 - 2nd Olympics After Auburn University Experience

20:27 - The Importance of Mental Training

26:39 - Self Identity & Social Media Discussion

38:03 - How Did Your Parents Support You?

42:09 - Coming Back After 15 Months Off

50:25 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

52:30 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Santi - 

Online Courses: https://dentrodelagua.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/santigrassi/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SantiGrassi

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@santigrassi

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SantiGrassiOLY/

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“We are all on, what I like to think of as, the human spectrum.” 14:28

“You meet one person with autism, you’ve met ONE person with autism. “ 22:55

“I think early diagnosis and early intervention is so crucial.” 25:55

“We don’t have rules here, we have agreements with our students.” 37:44

“I cannot stress enough the importance of the right kind of communication, active listening, and really allowing yourself to be open and flexible to life.  Life is dynamic!” 43:16

Guest Bio - Winning her first poetry contest at the tender age of 9 and her first essay contest at 10, writing and speaking have always been natural forms of expression for Gilda Evans. Her entrepreneurial spirit kicked in early and she started her first business while in college. Later, she spent many years in the entertainment media, working as a writer, producer, and director at such venues as CBS, HBO, and Warner Brothers. She also has experience in marketing and PR, as well as licensing and distribution for streaming platforms worldwide. 

Gilda has spent over 20 years researching and seeking answers for how to get her autistic son the things he requires for his education, health, and life in general. She became her son's self-taught advocate and is the creator of the Autism Resource Podcast. Designed for the neurodiverse and disabled communities and those who support them, the podcast deals with a myriad of topics; from education to government benefits to housing and almost everything in-between, and provides a one-stop knowledge and resource base for autism and much more. It is her vision to go beyond the podcast, and create a fully accessible, global resource for these populations that encompasses a broad spectrum of support and services. Following that vision, she is the founder of the Autism Resource Project. Find her at www.autismresourcepodcast.com and on many of your favorite platforms.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:33 - WIMTS Intro

0:55 - Welcome to Gilda Evans

1:46 - Passion & Inspiration Behind the Autism Resource Podcast

8:48 - The Autism Resource Project

11:58 - How to Stay Present with Small Steps

17:13 - What Are Some of the Things You’ve Learned from Your Son?

19:19 - Integrating the Sibling Connection in Your Household

22:19 - Advice for Parents Receiving the Autism Diagnosis 

26:31 - Early Intervention Discussion

33:43 - What’s Your Ideal for Kids in Special Education?

41:35 - Importance of the Challenge-Skills Balance

44:50 - What's Your Son’s Life Like Today?

47:00 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

47:58 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Gilda - 

www. Autismresourcepodcast.com 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“All of your answers lie within.” 10:21

“Whatever frequency you put out is basically a radio signal, right, and you’re going to get that back.” 21:44

“It’s never too late to be who you already are.” 23:00

“Be careful of how you use your words.” 29:04 

“Where your attention goes, energy flows.” 31:33

“It’s not up to me to try and change people’s minds.” 39:53

“I just try to meet everybody with love.” 41:18

“Things aren’t happening to me, they’re happening for me.” 48:21

“You are so much more than you ever believed you are.” 50:25

Guest Bio - Torin Jefferys calls himself a divine being and is a 30 year old beach volleyball athlete.  He works as a wellness and spiritual practitioner in Southern California.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:28 - WIMTS Intro

0:50 - Welcome to Torin Jefferys

1:39 - From the Middle of Nowhere Pennsylvania to Here

3:55 - Everything is Written in Codes

8:50 - The Process of Unlearning

12:43 - Encouraging Curiosity through Symbolism

18:02 - We’re Eternal & Connected Beings

23:44 - Fear-Based Living

28:22 - Concept of Faith in Religion

30:37 - Being Instead of Doing

36:56 - Feeling Like an Outsider 

38:52 - How Do You Contrast What You’re Learning with the World Around You?

42:46 - So Much Judgment

45:43 - Changes You’ve Experienced on Your Journey

48:29 - Generational Learning Discussion

51:11 - How Has Love Changed for You?

56:16 - The Money Block

57:45 - Shadow Work & Recognizing Truth

1:03:18 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:04:50 - Where Can People Find You?

1:05:09 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Torin - 

IG - @beachy__t

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“I think that’s the whole point, right, is to take our suffering and turn it into lessons to impact more people.” 2:08

“Human nature is to resist anything that’s uncomfortable.” 13:27

“Act your way in before you think your way out.” 13:53

“Going and doing is external, and being is internal.” 26:06 

“When you control what goes in your mouth, that is a win.” 29:00

“Oxygenate, Hydrate, Stimulate.” 46:31

“Stress contracts, okay, and meditation expands.” 54:23

Guest Bio - Mike a 25 year Firefighter “snapped” halfway through his career when he realized he didn’t have the tools to cope with his extreme stress. Over the next 17 years and with over $50,000 in coaching Mike learned not only how to cope with stress but how to build an unbreakable mindset. Mike is an online Mindset and life transformation coach. He helps people Think, Eat and Move with a Purpose. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:54 - WIMTS Intro

1:16 - Welcome to Mike Garrick

2:48 - How This Started

7:14 - What Did You Learn?

9:12 - How Long Did it Take to Make this Shift?

10:44 - Battling the Feeling of Overwhelm in the Healing Process

15:09 - Discussion on Motivation

20:20 - Helping Your Clients Find Purpose

22:37 - Mike’s Divorce Story

28:02 - Gut Brain Connection & Trusting Your Gut

31:48 - Concept of Community & Connection

36:30 - What is an Unbreakable Mindset?

45:06 - What Does A Typical Day Look Like for You?

50:15 - Frequency Discussion

57:09 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

58:58 - Thank You

59:15 - WIMTS Closing

Links & Where to Find Mike - 

IG - @mindnutritionbody 

FB - Mikegarrick

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“We just thought it was a prank without thinking about the consequences.” 5:17

“Women tend to be better at communication.” 15:51

“The relationship of fathers and daughters can be so profound.” 19:35

“We’re affected by emotion, not logic.” 25:05

“These major studies that discovered that more than 90% of decisions are made on the emotional side of the brain.” 25:10

“If I didn’t have kids, I can’t imagine what my life would be like.” 27:08

“Having kids gives you great stories.” 31:36

“Hugs are very important by the way.” 40:52

“The first thing we want to understand between dads and daughters is communication.” 45:54

“It was so strange bring in an environment where women’s voices are not heard.” 1:05:03

“They say a life played backwards makes more sense.” 1:09:13

Guest Bio - James I. Bond is one of America’s leading behavioral management specialists, and author of the award-winning book, BRAIN GLUE – How Selling Becomes Much Easier By Making Your Ideas “Sticky.”.

For thirteen years he ran one of Southern California’s leading behavioral management firms, working with a who’s who of American business.

Early in his career, he ran an advertising agency in Montreal.

He is a past workshop chairman for the resource partner of the U.S. Small Business Administration, and has been a featured guest speaker at two Southern California universities.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:33 - WIMTS Intro

0:55 - Welcome to Jim Bond

1:38 - The Father Daughter Project

17:13 - Writing Brain Glue

21:54 - Most Fathers Want a Better Relationship with Their Daughters

24:04 - Turn Off the Cell Phone & Connect with Her

27:35 - Rhymes & Metaphors

31:06 - First Story in Brain Glue Book

36:06 - Why Do Dads Want to Fix Things?

40:52 - Hugs Are Very Important

44:12 - Lessons Learned from Daughters Vs. Sons

50:07 - Generational Learning through Jim Interviewing His Mom

59:22 - A Woman from India

1:04:21 - Girl Dads are Better Managers

1:08:21 - Live a Rich Life

1:10:18 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:11:55 - Thank You

1:12:13 - Where Can People Find You?

1:13:30 - WIMTS Closing
 

Links & Where to Find Jim - 

www.BrainGlueBook.com

www.YesBrainGlueWorks.com

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“I loved the way it felt to unlock something.” 2:20

“Wisdom is pattern recognition.” -Wendy @ 5:06

“You teach what you have, and you can’t give what you don’t have.” 11:11

“When something really matters to you, you’ll do whatever it takes.” 13:18

“Fight, flight, freeze, submit are real responses to alarming acute stress.” 15:55

“The first principle in an adaptation is to build capacity.” 24:24

“The fear of people’s opinions is one of the great constrictors to one’s potential.” 29:06

“What are you doing with the time that you’re alive?” 31:26

“You need the cool kids to change just about anything.” 51:13

Guest Bio - Dr. Michael Gervais is a high-performance psychologist, author and one of the world’s leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. Over the course of a 20-year career working with world class performers and organizations, Dr. Gervais has developed a framework for the mental skills and practices that allow organizations, teams and individuals to thrive in pressure-packed environments. 

Gervais’ influence can be felt across many touchpoints of popular culture. His clients include the NFL’s Super Bowl Champions, Seattle Seahawks, world record holders, Olympians, MVPs from every major sport, internationally acclaimed music artists, and Fortune 50 CEO’s.

Gervais has worked across five Olympic Games as a high-performance psychologist supporting Team USA, most recently for USA Surfing in Tokyo 2021. 

Dr. Gervais is the host of the Finding Mastery podcast that explores the psychology of the world’s most extraordinary thinkers and doers, which crossed the 25 million downloads milestone in 2021. 

In 2020, Gervais wrote an Audible Original, Compete to Create: An Approach to Living and Leading Authentically, with NFL coach Pete Carroll. He has also authored a book being published by Harvard Business Review in the fall of 2023. 

Gervais is the co-creator of the Performance Science Institute at the USC Marshall School of Business, dedicated to teaching, training and researching the science, applied principles and best practices for high performance in any domain . 

A published, peer-reviewed author and nationally recognized speaker on optimal human performance, Dr. Gervais has been featured in premier media outlets including NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, ESPN, NFL Network, Red Bull TV, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Outside Magazine, WIRED, Sports Illustrated and ESPN The Magazine.

Dr. Gervais holds a doctorate degree in psychology, specializing in sport performance, and a master’s degree in kinesiology. He completed his PhD under the mentorship of Dr. Bruce Ogilvie, often referred to as the father of American applied sport psychology.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

1:02 - Welcome to Michael Gervais

1:43 - Origin Story of Finding Mastery

5:08 - Generational Learning through the Moments in the Middle

12:25 - Tips for Finding Quietude

14:49 - Near Drowning Moments 

18:35 - How Emotions Distract Us from Looking in the Mirror

27:14 - Best Practices for Becoming Your Very Best

36:47 - Battling the Human Energy Crisis

39:01 - Concept of Sacrifice

44:00 - Pressure Discussion

50:16 - How to Promote Kindness in a Dangerous World

57:28 - Leveling Up in Life

1:00:10 - Dinner with One Person Living or Dead

1:02:51 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

Links & Where to Find Mike 

www.findingmastery.com  

IG - @michaelgervais  @findingmastery

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“One of the things I encourage parents to do is to model the good behavior.” 

4:59

“If the parent always rescues them, the underlying message to the child is you can’t do it.” 11:27

“Sometimes the biggest lessons are when things get messy.” 11:52

“One of the principles when you’re loved based is the idea that all people are fundamentally good.” 15:23

“Peace, joy, and purpose.” 19:45

“We see what we look for.” 33:44

“Who or what do I need to forgive in this moment?”  37:12

“What do they need from me right now?” 49:13

“Don’t give unsolicited advice.” 52:09

Guest Bio - Jim White is an author, coach and founder of the Family Enrichment Academy.  He has been married for 40 years and has 6 children as well as 13 grandchildren. His background as a family enrichment coach and life experience provide a unique perspective on parenthood and personal development. His 2nd book How to Be the Parent Your Teenager Needs You to Be is available on Amazon.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:42 - WIMTS Intro

1:04 - Welcome Jim White

1:28 - Family Enrichment Academy

7:10 - What Made You so Passionate About These Principles for Your Family?

9:25 - Letting Go of Control to Build Resiliency & Resourcefulness

14:55 - Loved Based Mindset

16:32 - Conversations Build Connection at the Dinner Table

19:15 - Empowering Your Teenager to Be Their Absolute Best

24:35 - Parenting Fundamentals in An Ever Changing World

29:00 - Healthy Ways for Parents to Share Their Experience with Children

34:05 - Perspective: Respond or React?

37:50 - Family Habits, Rituals, and Traditions

41:15 - Reframing the Concept of Shame

46:33 - The Importance of Presence & Connection with Your Kids

52:38 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

59:02 - Thank You

59:36 - WIMTS Closing

Links & Where to Find Jim - 

www. familyenrichmentacademy.com

IG - @familyenrichmentacademy     

Youtube - @familyenrichmentacademy5783    

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“When there’s love, it usually turns to hate pretty quick.” 11:23

“I'd rather feel better than than less than.” 16:33

“That’s been a saving grace of mine actually, is honesty.” 24:13

“I want to give people hope that my relationships are healed now.” 32:49

“I pray to something greater than me.” 48:09

“There’s more purpose for me in this life.” 58:53

“You have to be open, honest, and willing to get help.” 1:01:09

“Addiction is a family disease.” 1:01:50

“You can only be in a healthy, loving relationship if you love yourself.” 1:04:23

Guest Bio - 
Taylor Grant is a Southern California native with a younger brother, older half-sister, and two LA litigator parents.  Taylor began dancing at 4 years old and found a passion for performance and entertaining people.  Taylor also started horseback riding, which became her favorite pastime because she found solace when her parents’ marital problems began.  At age 8, her parents separated and went to court over child custody. This chaotic atmosphere became normal and Taylor became accustomed to stuffing her emotions inwards. It wasn’t until early adulthood that she experienced the harm of emotional suppression in the form of addiction.

Taylor attended Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo as a communications major and dance minor.  The first two years of college were painful as Taylor struggled socially and suffered from severe depression and anxiety.  She developed an eating disorder that lasted for two years before she found alcohol and partying as a replacement.  Within 11 months, Taylor found herself a prisoner to lethal drug addiction.  Despite her illness, she graduated Cal Poly in 2019 with a 3.5 GPA.  Within three weeks of moving home from school, Taylor was sent to an intensive inpatient rehabilitation program.

Taylor earned 18 months of sobriety and applied to graduate school to become an LMFT in 2020 with the desire to help fellow addicts. She successfully completed the first quarter, but by the second quarter, drugs found her again. Taylor withdrew and went to a rehabilitation facility in Texas that had horses and equine therapy. She also got back into yoga and found its nurturing movement patterns to help her heal physically, mentally, and emotionally.

After 2 years of continuous sobriety, rigorous AA step work, and self-exploration, Taylor decided to go back to Antioch University where she is in school to become an LMFT.  She is eager to offer therapeutic help to fellow addicts in recovery, and is also keen to help children of divorce navigate their ways through the murky waters of a dissolving family system.  Taylor is very excited to be pursuing a career in mental health where she can learn how to help people, like herself, heal.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:23 - WIMTS Intro

0:45 - Welcome Taylor Grant

1:28 - Discovering the Addictive Pattern

4:18 - The Importance of a Father

7:28 - High School

11:31 - First Two Years of College at Cal Poly SLO

13:20 - I Found Alcohol & Partying

21:31 - Isolation Drinking & Blacking Out in College

23:46 - Summer Before Senior Year I Met a Guy

27:50 - Everyone Smokes Marijuana

29:25 - Introduced to Cocaine & Headed to Rehab within 11 Months

34:16 - Shameful Graduation

38:17 - How Were Your Parents Dealing at This Point?

46:10 - It’s A Day to Day Choice

51:35 - A God Shot

59:57 - Taylor of Today

1:02:15 - Takeaways from Daughters of Divorce Book

1:06:55 - What I Would Tell My Younger Self

1:07:29 - Thank You 

1:08:26 - WIMTS Closing

Links & Where to Find Taylor - 

IG - @tay1031

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“This is what I know.  This is what I’ve experienced.  This is what I can speak to.” 9:09

“I’ve had to look at the ugly side, and face it in order to heal, and see it for what it is.  Forgive myself.” 13:40

“You can’t think to heal, we have to feel to heal.” 23:08

“There’s a tremendous intelligence that these medicines hold.” 24:59

“It’s not going to be easy, but what you’re going to get out of it is going to be far greater than you could predict.” 44:00

Guest Bio - Kevin Vance was born in Canada, and moved to San Diego when he was 6. His love for nature and the water began. Kevin was a collegiate all American in water polo, a team captain and MVP. 

After attending UCSD, he enlisted in the navy where he was a hospital corpsman in the Special Operations community. Kevin served in the Navy from 1994-2003. From 2003 to 2009, he served with the US Government working with the intelligence community for national security interests. He has spent over 3 years in Iraq, a year and a half in Pakistan and other areas of interest in the GWOT. 

From 2009- current, Kevin has served as a First Responder in Southern California working in one of our nation's largest fire organizations - having instructed 2 academies, been active as a USAR member, a FEMA rescue specialist and currently holds the rank of Fire Captain. He has supported the build out of the behavioral wellness program while serving the needs of our veteran community. 

Kevin has spent some time in Hollywood consulting on a few films including, End of Watch, Fury, Suicide Squad, Bright, Triple Frontier, War Machine, and Sabotage.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:35 - What I Meant to Say Intro

0:57 - Welcome to Kevin

5:56 - Lifeguarding & College at UCSD, then Special Operations

10:31 - Ways You’ve Started to Heal

14:47 - How Do You Take the First Step When You’re Struggling?

18:08 - Places You’ve Had a Sense of Community

23:52 - Recreation Vs. Integrated Healing with Psychedelics 

29:11 - I Call it the Nudge

35:18 - Working from Individual Strength 

37:16 - Life Experiences that Led You to Be a Better Husband & Father

40:46 - Nature Experiences

43:06 - Managing Chronic Pain through Life Experiences

45:13 - What Are Some of Your Hopes for Your Daughter?

49:33 - Wendy’s Advice for a Father with a Daughter

52:41- Kevin’s Wife is Patient & Supportive

55:31 - One Piece of Advice 

59:18 - Thank You & WIMTS Closing

Links & Where to Find Kevin - 

IG - @kevinlvance 

Open Water

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“Sometimes stepping away is just exactly what the body needs.” 10:46

“The coach I think is important, but you can’t put all your eggs in that basket because they will leave.” 29:17

“Holidays for our family are very big.” 32:00

“But living over there, I think if you have the opportunity,, absolutely take it.” 32:14

“From a physical sandpoint, first, is to be an athlete.” 39:53

“Open communication is so important.” 42:32

“At the end of the day, if you’re not enjoying what you’re doing, it’s not worth it.” 44:03

“You are a great leader by example, but if nobody is watching, then you’re not leading anybody.” 47:06

“Hard work is going to Trump handouts.” 52:39

Guest Bio - Emily, a Colorado native, moved to California in 2014 to pursue her career in beach volleyball. After a successful indoor career at Wichita State University, where she was a 2x All American and 4 years at the professional level overseas, she decided to make the transition to beach. 

In 2015, she made the Elite DevelopmentProgram through USAV, and has since moved up to being a top ranked team in the USA and 12th ranked team in the world, with teammate Megan Kraft.

In 2016, she won her first international event at the NORCECA in St. Lucia. Since then, she has received 3 more Gold medals, a Silver, and a Bronze medal on the World Tour. In 2018, she and previous teammate, Kelley, were the first ever Queen of the Beach Champions. She was also a finalist at the 2017 AVP event in Austin, and in 2019 won her first AVP event in Seattle. Emily has finished the last 3 seasons as a top ranked defender on the AVP tour, and was nominated by volleyball magazine as a first team pick in 2019.

During the off-season Emily helps coach the boy’s and girl’s beach programs at Mira Costa High School. However, anytime she has a free weekend, her and her bulldog Gilbert seek adventure, and you will most likely find them in the mountains, camping, mountain biking, riding dirt bikes, or snowboarding.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:42 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

1:06 - Welcome to Emily

1:30 - Playing AVP New Orleans 

2:32 - Love of New Orleans Despite Poor Weather

4:50 - Mindset Adjustments 

5:40 - International Travel to Doha & Mexico with Megan Kraft

6:05 - Road to & Training for the Olympics 

8:40 - Finding Balance as a Professional Athlete

10:53 - Sports Background 

14:04 - Choosing Volleyball for College

16:31 - Club Volleyball Memories Outside of Competition

18:04 - What Was Your Parents Role in Promoting Athletic Growth?

21:41 - Played at Winthrop University Freshman Year

26:21 - Be Better Commercial

26:54 - Wichita State Experience

28:30 - What to Look for in a College Experience?

30:28 - Moved to Europe & Played Professionally for 4 Year

32:59 - Transitioned to Beach & Moved to California in 2014

33:27 - What was the Indoor to Beach Transition Like?

35:25 - Playing with Different Partners

39:11 - Teaching the Younger Athletes 

46:10 - Attributes of a Team Leader

51:37 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

54:25 - Thank You

54:57 - WIMTS Closing

Links & Where to Find Emily - 

IG - Emily @estock2 & Gilbert @cowpigdog_

Emily’s Sponsors: @ride100percent & @promix 

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“Over the period of a year, I learned how to walk again.” 9:30

“When you’re forced to be still, what, what, what you can birth without trying and it’s the most organic experience.” 19:55

“It’s your own worst.” 22:03

“Anything that affects your quality of life can be devastating.” 22:29

“90 percent of pain is inflammation.” 25:07

“It takes 28 days to build a new habit.” 27:47

“There is a direct correlation between overachievers and past trauma.” 28:31

“A health challenge is a life challenge.” 45:22

Guest Bio - As a photographer, BENSKO’s Photo Introspective, Honoring the Wounds of War, was featured at The Ronald Reagan Presidential Library & museum, and was the subject of an Emmy Award winning News segment. But it was her position of 7 years as Vice-President of Rebuilding America's Warriors, providing free reconstructive surgery to  troops returning from war, a subsequent accident, and discovering the science of stem cells, which led to Bensko establishing Veterans In Pain, VIP -  the first and only national nonprofit organization to facilitate Regenerative  medical solutions for Veterans suffering from chronic pain. Since 2018, VIP has facilitated over 450 Veterans, and developed a network of volunteer VIP Physicians, nationwide. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:31 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:55 - Welcome to Micaela

1:50 - Rebuilding America's Warriors

3:56 - Micaela’s Accident in 2011

7:42 - June 28th, 2017

11:55 - Creating a Network of Regenerative Specialists 

14:40 - Impact of Generational Learning on Families

16:20 - Dreamed of a Photography Career

18:53 - The Soldier and the Squirrel 

23:02 - What Little Motivating Things Help People Take the Next Step?

23:39 - Be Better Media Commercial

24:12 - To Take the Next Step…

31:01 - What is the Auto-Immune Response?

33:03 - Stem Cell Study on PTSD

36:13 - Degenerative Disk Disease & Platelet Rich Plasma

39:12 - Bone Marrow Aspirate Concentrate

41:29 - Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy

45:20 - Health Challenges are Life Challenges

47:47 - Thank You 

47:56 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Micaela - 

VIP Origin Story 

www.veteransinpain.org

FB - Vets in Pain

IG - @veteransinpainvip

LinkedIn

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“3.1 billion gamers on the planet.” 6:19

“What music that we listen to in our adolescence ends up being our favorite music for the rest of our lives.” 28:26

“Kids don’t consume media, they participate.” 35:45

“Not just trying to create a game, but trying to create a movement where they really feel like they are a part of.” 51:22

“I’m a big fan of people that do things for the planet.” 52:34

“We can have really important conversations through narratives.” 53:28

Guest Bio - Nate Lombardi is the STEAM Coordinator and The Child Center of New York and created Synched Studios to produce The Legion of Eccentrics, (LOE) a new collaborative superhuman universe where professionals are working with fans to create premium entertainment, comics, and video games from Hollywood to Bollywood.  As the first leg in the marketing for LOE, and in order to galvanize people from all walks of life around pop culture, Nate founded the Comic Book Curious Network (CBCN), which is an online magazine and media company that focuses on the human-interest side of nerd culture. CBCN has a staff of nine and its international channels receive 15 million hits a month from its website, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Twitch, Twitter and Facebook.

As a performer Nate has had roles on TV/Film (Blue Bloods, Sex and the City, Mercy, As The World Turns, One Life to Live, See You in September) On stage (Broadway Bares, The Firebugs, Easter Bonnet.) He has produced and created five albums and a dozen music videos as “NateKid” containing duets with Tony-winner Alan Cumming, Grammy-winners Jane Monheit and Lauren Kinhan, and Platinum selling artist Peter Gunz. Nate worked with Tony-winner Daveed Diggs and Blindspotting’s Showrunner Rafael Casal in the Public Theatre’s #BARS and is a teacher for Grammy and Tony-Winner Lin Manuel Miranda’s Hip Hop Improv Troupe Freestyle Love Supreme Academy. (FLS+)

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:52 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

1:16 - Welcome to Nate

2:14 - Life & Creative Arts Background

10:37 - Having the Want to Give Back

14:00 - A Documentary Called ‘Happy’

17:17 - Love of Creative Arts

23:27 - The First Groovy Project

27:00 - Music Provides Connection to Our Feelings & to Others

32:33 - Be Better Commercial

33:06 - Legion of Eccentrics

39:31 - Bringing Out the Authenticity in People

46:43 - How Are You Connecting with Potential Creators?

49:04 - Best Ways to Draw Imagination Out of Children

56:52 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

59:34 - Thank You

1:00:07 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Nate - 

www.comicbookcurious.com

www.thegroovyprojects.com

IG - @Groovymannate & @legionofeccentrics

All Socials - @ComicBookCurious

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“Finding that breathwork, it changed my, I would say my reaction function.” 6:24

“You’re fine, you know.  You're frustrated, insecure, neurotic, and exhausted.” 9:27

“It’s gonna hit you in your body before it hits you in your mind.” 13:29

“Once you learn a little bit more about yourself, you earn the right to be kind and alright you don’t always, it’s not always about pushing, pushing, pushing until you break.” 25:53

“Can I be humble enough to learn from it and strong enough to keep going forward in the face of the challenges?” 28:09

“We don’t breathe, we die.” 34:34

“Differences are what make the world go around.” 47:37

“Strong opinions, weekly held.” 51:06

Guest Bio - Taylor Somerville founded Symmetry in 2018 after working in the investment business for 15 years. Taylor was over-stressed, anxious, short-tempered, and felt like he was out of control. Taylor discovered breathwork and other key practices as a way to deal with the stress and anxiety in his personal and professional life. Through breathwork, Taylor was able to learn how to respond to stressful situations in a productive manner rather than reacting.

After seeing the positive changes in himself, Taylor felt a calling to help others improve their own stress management, anxiety, performance, and overall health and wellness. We all struggle with these issues at some point in our lives but there are tools we can use to better prepare ourselves to handle stress. Now, Taylor focuses on teaching you these tools. Through Symmetry, he helps busy people take back control of their lives so they have more time, more energy, and less stress!

Taylor is affiliated with XPT, founded by Laird Hamilton and Gabby Reece. Through XPT, Taylor gained extensive knowledge of breathwork, heat and ice contrast therapy, and XPT’s breath, move and recover lifestyle. In 2018, Taylor became one of the first XPT certified coaches and is one of only six XPT master coaches.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:36 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:59 - Welcome to Taylor

2:02 - What Brought You into the Breathework Space?

7:30 - Pattern of Burnout

9:50 - Breathwork for Beginners

14:58 - Grounding with My Type ‘A’ Clients

17:59 - Tools for Starting to Make Change

20:14 - Cold Exposure

26:35 - Concept of Surrender 

28:39 - Connection is the Opposite of Addiction 

29:25 - Be Better Commercial

29:58 - Habits

31:35 - Helping People Become Curious to Learn About Themselves

35:26 - Stressful Thoughts & Flipping Your Lid

39:15 - The Power of Reframing

44:14 - Collaboration in Entrepreneurship

49:13 - Have Your Relationships with People Changed?

52:28 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

54:38 - How Can We Connect with You?

55:37 - Thank You

55:59 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Taylor - 

www.symmetry.live

Offers: 1 on 1 coaching, Corporate Wellness programs, virtual breath classes, Symmetry Breath App, Online courses and journal

IG - @symmetry.live ; @taylor__somerville 

FB - 

Symmetry

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“Sierra Delta’s about service, dogs, and veterans.” 1:35

“We need our government, but we can’t rely on our government to help with these social issues.” 7:52

“Improvise, Adapt, and Overcome.” 11:18

“We’re building a wellness community around service to others, the love of dogs, and supporting our veterans.” 11:39

“Everybody I’ve ever met wants to be the good guy in their own story.” 15:01

“Be the person your dog thinks you are.” 16:08

“We’re never gonna to go backwards and be who we were, but we can be that new version of ourselves with enough investment and enough planning and just deciding in our minds that that’s who we’re gonna be no matter what it takes.” 43:56

“We all have time, talent, and treasure.” 55:51

“Have your plan A, have your plan B, have your plan C, and then prepare to think on your feet even after that.” 1:07:24

Guest Bio - BJ Ganem is the Founder and CEO of Sierra Delta, and is a natural leader whose personal experience with military-to-civilian transition influences his insight into what support veterans need when returning home.

Before becoming Sierra Delta's CEO in 2017, BJ's journey led him from the U.S. Marine Corps to nonprofit organizations such as the Semper Fi Fund. BJ joined the Marine Corps in 1996, and chose to stay in the ready reserves at the end of his first enlistment.  While on active duty, BJ worked as a District Sales Manager for Kraft Foods and was called to serve in support of operations in Iraq in May 2004.

After being injured and navigating the landscape of transition, BJ found his purpose in helping other men and women transition into society. He became an outspoken advocate for veterans, and after leaving a 10-year career at Kraft Foods, BJ worked for Semper Fi Fund as an accredited Veteran Service Officer. This role allowed him to assist veterans by helping secure their federal and state benefits. BJ also ensured veterans received accurate discharges.

BJ graduated with a B.A. in Social Work with an emphasis on military life from USC.  Additionally, he is captain of the Wounded Warrior Amputee Football team (WWAFT).  BJ and his wife Sarah live in Reedsburg, WI, with their four kids, an English bulldog named Sonora and a rescue dog named Loki. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:24 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:47 - Welcome GJ Ganem

2:06 - Difference Between Service Dogs & Other Dogs

8:31 - Civilian Membership Coming Soon to Sierra Delta

9:44 - Generational Healing through Veteran Examples

16:18 - Marine Corp Experience

23:11 - Blend of Social Worker Mindset & Military Mindset

31:39 - Service Dogs for Heroes to Sierra Delta 

37:24 - Be Better Media Commercial

37:57 - Veterans & Civilians Welcome at Sierra Delta

41:16 - Lessons in Communication

44:49 - How Does Personal Agency Spill Out to Our Communities & Relationships?

51:15 - Potential Impact of Veteran Non-Profits

58:22 - Perspective on Problems

1:00:18 - Lessons Learned from Being Around President Bush

1:02:51 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:07:32 - Breaking Goals Down by the Numbers

1:09:17 - Where Can People Connect with You?

1:10:09 - Thank You

1:10:26 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find BJ - 

Sierra Delta Website 

Donate Now

Sierra Delta Facebook Page

Sierra Delta Instagram

Sierra Delta Youtube

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“So I wanted to understand the mechanical error that was taking place within my brain.” 9:27

“As soon as I started treating that injury, my symptoms started to dissipate.” 10:36

“It takes somebody exploring it themselves to figure out what works for them.” 15:35

“CTE is like the cirrhosis of the brain if we use the comparison of the liver and the brain.” 16:04

“The depression was beyond anything I could have imagined.” 22:16

“You need other people to help you heal.” 32:06

“Physiologically our bodies and brains react to physical and emotional trauma with almost the exact same response.” 36:09

“These practices become part of your central nervous system’s reaction to the stressors that you're feeling on a daily basis.” 57:05 

“Wow, most of that anxiety began in my gut.” 1:00:08

“If I was going to tell somebody this is the most important supplement you need to be taking, it would probably be vitamin D3.” 1:03:35

“There isn’t enough focus on how important it is, what we put into our bodies.” 1:07:29

“Changing these thought patterns has been one of the most difficult parts of the process for me, right.” 1:12:35

“There are no national standards of fitness for first responders.”  1:23:55

“Trauma is the gift.”  1:28:37

Guest Bio - ​​Pete DePrez began ASM Foundation as a means of providing healing to veterans and first responders suffering from PTSD.  Pete spent over a decade working in Search & Rescue, SWAT and Sheriff's Deputy in the state of Colorado. "I believe the symptoms that are being diagnosed as PTSD are the result of injuries. When we heal the injuries, we resolve the symptoms."
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:38 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

1:02 - Welcome to Peter

1:56 - Childhood Backstory & Beginnings of Head Trauma

 7:48 - Being Diagnosed with PTSD

9:47 - Symptoms of PTSD Mirror TBI

11:00 - Founder of ASM Foundation

11:39 - The Hard Part of New Healing Tools

14:15 - How You Share Your Story Helps Other People 

17:24 - Pay Attention to Early Symptoms 

21:23 - Effects of Leaving the Sheriff’s Office in Jan 2020

27:26 - At What Point Did You Realize You Need to Tap into Yourself?

29:25 - WARNING: INTENSE Content - Did You Ask for Help During this Dark Time?

32:10 - Started Dr. Gordon’s Treatment

34:15 -  10 Days into Treatment

35:30 - Finding Grace for Yourself in the Process

40:50 - Generational Discussion on ‘Suck it Up’ Mentality

43:48 - When Did You Realize Human Connection was so Important?

43:56 - BB Commercial

44:29 - Isolation Due to Anxiety of Human Connection

48:37 - October 2021 

52:45 - Goals Behind ASM Foundation

53:33 - Stelic Ganglion Block 

55:00 - Wellness Tools & Personal Responsibility

59:57 - Back to the Anxiety Aspect

1:02:03 - Supplementation of Vitamin D3

1:08:03 - Getting to the Root Cause

1:11:26 - Look at Ice Baths

1:12:57 - Jiu Jitsu Example 

1:16:04 - Tools for the Law Enforcement World

1:20:21 - 3 Key Elements Recognized for ASM Foundation 

1:25:52 - One Piece of Advice is ‘Just Breathe’

1:27:35 - Where Can People Connect with You?

1:28:12 - Trauma is a Gift

1:29:41 - Thank You

1:30:15 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Peter -

www.asmfoundation.com

peterdeprez@asmfountain.com

IG - @asmfoundation 

Key Points, Top Takeaways, and Memorable Quotes - 

“If a patient was on the floor crying, I would sit on the floor, you know and get to that level.” 8:25 

“Powerful approach that uses storytelling and personal narratives to promote healing and well-being.” 13:05 

“Moral injury is when your values are not in alignment with your actions.” 20:41 

“I think it takes people who you trust leading by example.” 29:25 

“You have to be very proud to feel we know anything at this point.” 38:55 

“I do kind of lead with innovation, right, so I always think there's a way we can partner with where the future of the youth are going.” 41:30 

“Fail miserably.” 49:58 

“I trust that I became a nurse for a reason.” 51:23

Guest Bio - Michelle Bernabe, RN, is a Columbia University-trained nurse with over a decade of experience in the frontlines of healthcare. She is dedicated to using her values, accountability, and storytelling to bring about systemic change in the industry and is also determined to promote moral leadership as a crucial solution to the issues facing healthcare. 

As a Narrative Medicine scholar, Michelle is on a mission to collect stories from individuals from all walks of life in order to better understand the power of brave leadership in healthcare and its ability to bring about transformative change in the system. Her ultimate goal is to use these stories to advocate for policies and practices that prioritize healing, compassion, equity, and empowerment in the healthcare industry. 

In addition to her work as a healthcare professional, Michelle is actively engaged as a member of the New York Nurses Association’s Political Action Committee. She advocates for ending medical debt, healing moral injury, providing healthcare for all, and assuring safe hospital staffing and transparent pricing. With her deep understanding of the healthcare industry, specialized training, and commitment to using storytelling as a means for transformative change, Michelle Bernabe is a highly qualified expert and leader who is making a difference in the healthcare system.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’ 

0:18 - WIMTS Podcast Intro 

0:42 - Welcome to Michelle 

1:48 - Health & Wellness Field Backstory 

8:52 - Addiction is the Opposite of Connection 

10:36 - Where Did You Grow from that Emergency Room? 

12:15 - Narrative Medicine 

14:12 - What Does Narrative Medicine Look Like? 

16:24 - Becoming An Active Listener 

19:53 - Working with Combat Veterans & Healthcare Workers 

20:22 - Moral Injury 

21:21 - Be Better Commercial 

21:54 - Veterans Set An Inspiring Example 

26:59 - How to Create these Spaces for Sharing Stories 

32:25 - My Mom was a Social Worker 

34:52 - Scholar of Unlearning 

39:39 - Social Media & the Lack of Humility 

44:12 - Complimenting Michelle’s Calm Energy & Shadow Work 

48:53 - Generational Learning through One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self 

53:33 - What is Your Hope for Change in the Mental Health Crisis? 

59:45 - Thank you 

1:00:26 - WIMTS Podcast Closing 

Links & Where to Find Michelle - 

www.moral.health or https://moralhealth.substack.com/ 

Longitudinal Study on Happiness

Rihanna Vogue Cover 

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tv

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I’ve always been someone who loves to learn new things, so I think I kinda just looked at it as an opportunity to try something new.” 5:01

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” 7:07

“Just learning to set those boundaries because you are an athlete and you are a student, but you’re a person first.” 10:27

“Pressure is a privilege.” 14:14

“I’m really proud of the relationships I have in my life.  I feel like I invest a lot of time and energy into them, and I truly love people around me.” 24:45

“I absolutely love my trainer.” 30:41

“You can’t be grateful and sad at the same time.” 32:37

“You have to speak into existence what you want to happen.” 39:11

Guest Bio -  I grew up in Newport Beach, CA as the youngest of four children. I played a lot of different sports growing up and didn’t think volleyball was in the cards for me, but when I played for the first time I instantly fell in love with it and knew I’d be playing for a very long time. I now play volleyball at Stanford University where I’m studying Human Biology. I will be returning for a 5th season at Stanford, then hope to play professional volleyball overseas starting in January! Aside from volleyball, my passions include travel, cooking, reading, and nutrition.
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:30 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:54 - Welcome to Kendall

2:48 - Volleyball Beginnings

6:08 - Kendall’s View on Comparison

7:23 - Student-Athlete Mental Health Challenges

9:32 - Learning to Say No as a People Pleaser

11:20 - More than a Volleyball Athlete

13:26 - How to Handle Pressure

16:30 - Favorite Qualities in a Coach

18:50 - Parental Support & Relationship to Volleyball Growth

22:18 - Human Biology Major

23:18 - Be Better Commercial

23:51 - Understanding How Our Body Works

24:22 - Proudest Moments Outside of Sports

26:11 - Separating Real Relationships & Social Media

27:25 - Prioritizing Physical & Mental Health During Injuries

30:36 - Athletic Trainer Appreciation 

31:57 - Gratitude Discussion

33:40 - What Do You Do in Your Spare Time?

35:00 - Cooking to Fuel Your Body

35:40 - Talking Tall

38:33 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

40:25 - Awareness of Sacrifices that Come with Pursuing Goals

42:06 - Future After Stanford

44:23 - Ways People Can Connect

45:14 - Thank You

45:50 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Kendall -

IG - @kendallkipp

https://happinessproject.com/pages/our-story-1

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“When you’re in that very uncertain place, that’s really where the magic can happen.” 5:55

“I really drilled down into my meditation practice, which I combined with my prayer practice.” 9:36

“Our children, my children, your children, learn by watching what we do and how we are, not by what we say.” 21:30

“Clients that have gone through the collaborative process are by far my happiest divorced clients.” 40:57

“It’s very important to have someone giving you advice.” 42:59

“The only way through it is through it.” 50:34

“Don't be scared, everything is going to be okay.  Trust your gut, and take chances.” 56:34

Guest Bio - Ann Grant is an attorney, author, entrepreneur, a law professor—and—she is a SURVIVOR.

Ann experienced a perfect storm of loss during the 2008 financial crisis: Her 16 year marriage to the father of her children ended, the large multinational law firm where she was a partner dissolved and her Father passed away unexpectedly. Overwhelmed by these losses, she deepened her meditation practice to ground herself and to find a path through the chaos. Ann learned to follow her intuition during this time and started a support group for women contemplating divorce. She did not aspire to be a divorce attorney, but rather wanted to be of service to women facing divorce given her personal experience as the mother of three children.

What happened surprised and astounded Ann. People began to ask Ann to represent them in their divorces. Combining the legal skills she had acquired during her years as an experienced litigator with her personal experience as a mother—she was extremely effective-- both in and out of the courtroom. She brought in other experts to help along the way—including financial advisors, therapists and career counselors. This network of helping professionals was the impetus for Ann’s bestselling book, The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, which provides legal, financial, and psychological expertise to help the reader skillfully prepare and protect themself as they navigate the modern divorce—proactively, efficiently, resiliently.

Manhattan Beach Family Law has grown and has opened offices in Brentwood and Newport Beach.
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:30 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:54 - Welcome to Ann

2:28 - Tell Us Your Story

8:59 - Tools for Tapping into the Magic

19:39 - Generational Healing

23:08 - Affect on Children of Divorce

26:43 - Be Better Commercial

27:15 - Recommendations for Women in Fear and Uncertainty

29:59 - Co-Parenting Discussion

32:51 - Letting Go of the Need to Control

38:04 - Collaborative Divorce

44:43 - Navigating Codependent Relationships Across Generations

49:32 - Simple Little Things Matter

51:36 - Breaking Down the Big Picture

52:26 - Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot Commercial

52:46 - Why Wendy Started Her TOJ Blog

56:22 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

59:00 - How Old Are Your Kids?

59:48 - Thank You

59:59 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Ann - 

MBFamilyLawyers.com 

Email - admin@mbfamilylawyers.com

IG - @MBFamilyLaw

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I really believe in this entire process.” 2:52

“It works out for sport, but it really works for everything.” 4:05

“We think about our period, right?  What we don’t think about is the fact our hormones are changing over a month’s time.  5:23

“Something that I really think about in terms of training is muscle activation during my period.” 9:26

“I'm just looking at how my body works.” 11:50

“Not everyone trusts themselves to discern when they need rest or not.” 20:33

“Stress is like the bully hormone.” 34:07

Guest Bio - Kahlee is a graduate and former LSU Beach Volleyball Athlete with a quiet strength, self-assurance, and kindness about her.  She moved to California to pursue a professional beach volleyball career in 2021.  In addition to being a professional athlete, she coaches clinics for Flight School and has a passion for nutrition and wellness.  Her desire to educate and inspire others to incorporate good nutrition, hydration, and other wellness tools into their lives is what brought her to Be Better and led to the creation of Go with the Flow.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:19 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:43 - Welcome to Kahlee

1:34 - Go with the Flow Brain Child

4:41 - Four Phases of Your Cycle

5:56 - Nutrition & Movement Are Key

6:44 - Energy Levels

8:47 - Adjusting Beach Workouts Throughout Your Cycle

10:54 - Ways that Coaches Can Approach This

12:42 - More Prone to Injury at Times

17:47 - Efficiency of Energy

21:15 - Pushing the Point of Burnout

23:50 - Nutrition & Cooking in the Course

28:37 - Be Better Commercial

29:11 - Just Be a Little Bit Better

29:37 - Working with Ashley

30:36 - Community Aspect

32:25 - What is Cycle Syncing?

33:47 - Everyone’s Stressed

41:20 - Ways to Access the Course

42:02 - Reminiscing & Thank You

44:27 - Where Can We Find You?

45:28 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Kahlee - 

IG - @kahleeyork / @flowtogrow5

www.bebettermedia.tv/gwtf/

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“You can pivot.” 9:08

“These are things you can’t do, but what can you do?” 10:35

“Identify your fear, write it down, say it out loud.” 12:14

“You’re right, there is always someone better than you, so why not learn from them?” 19:06

“Learn the rules, so you can appropriately break them.” 34:00

“There is something about you sitting with your body and then it relating back to something in your life.” 48:29

“Don’t wait until you’re broken, constantly try and nourish and help yourself.” 55:16

“There’s always something we can learn from each other.” 1:01:18

“It’s okay to be sensitive.” 1:02:33

“Don’t be afraid to shine.” -Wendy @ 1:05:19

Guest Bio - Mar is a movement teacher of many types: yoga, barre, pilates for all ages and many demographics. Growing up in the sports world with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis has given her a different perspective on overcoming injuries and illnesses to continue celebrating one's body. Along with growing up playing volleyball, swimming, and water polo in high school she also obtained a degree in public health and worked on the medical staff for the University of Arizona football team. Her love of sports and healing led her to yoga where she's been able to work with so many beautiful souls and bodies. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:23 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:47 - Welcome to Marissa

2:52 - Early Sports & Family Background

11:12 - Working Through Things You are Scared Of

18:10 - There’s Always Someone Better than You

20:15 - Yoga Teachers are Humans too

22:59 - Teaching Kids Yoga & More

25:43 - How to Model the Process of Trying & Evolving

31:00 - Perspective on Generational Messaging 

35:20 - Be Better Commercial

35:53 - Find What Works and What Doesn’t

38:45 - Telling My Parents About Yoga

43:59 - Life is a Dance Between Stability & Mobility

49:40 - Journey with Rheumatoid Arthritis 

58:58 - Where I End and Other People Begin

1:02:00 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:05:05 - Wendy’s One Piece of Advice

1:07:25 - Thank You

1:08:28 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Mar -

@mrodi

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“At the age of 8, I began my personal relationship with God.” 2:48

“If there was something I wanted to do, I went for it.” 10:25

“Beat them, that go against you, beat them with success.” 18:12

“If I feel compelled to do something, I answer that and then ask questions later.” 30:12

“Alaska is considered a cheap date.” 36:01

“I’m a conservative so I can be misjudged easily.”  39:34

“I’m a humanitarian, not a politician.” 42:11

“I say, there’s no box big enough to put me in, you know? I just don’t fit in boxes.” 42:56

“Going back to that faith and determination; I was determined not to get trapped.” 46:16

“To me, it was witnessing miracles right before my very eyes.” 49:40

“Not only do I know there’s a better way, be better.  I like that; there’s a better way, there are better medicines, and it’s time to get people connected!” 51:07

“When you know better, you do better.” 51:36

Guest Bio - Sharon Jackson was born and raised in Philadelphia, PA and proudly served in the United States Army, which brought her to Alaska in 1983. Upon completing her active-duty tour with the Army in 1989, she enrolled in Charter College where she became a Certified Electronic Technician.  

In 2015, Sharon became a Constituent Liaison for US Senator Dan Sullivan specializing in Military/Veterans Affairs and found her role in assisting constituents to be extremely rewarding.  As she noticed major concerns on the state level Sharon felt compelled to run for Lieutenant Governor in 2018. Upon her defeat, Sharon was appointed by her Governor to serve in the Alaska State House of Representative for District 13 where she served with loyalty and worked with both sides on policies that best represented the people of Alaska.

Since leaving office, her primary focus is on alternative medicine where she witnessed people with debilitating, chronic illnesses now living a functional life that they thought was impossible.  As a stroke survivor, where the left side of her body was paralyzed and she lost her speech, Sharon was determined to get her independence back and recovered. She knows personally that there are different medical modalities that assist with healing. It’s time to Be Better by focusing on the health of our nation and stop managing trauma through expensive drugs and surgeries. She is determined to advocate for people to have options in their healing process.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:19 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:44 - Welcome to Sharon Jackson

1:31 - Early Life, Family, & Faith

5:55 - Dreaming of Alaska

7:20 - Leaving a Marriage Takes Courage

8:38 - Joined the Army Reserves

12:14 - Army Experience was a Culture Shock

15:05 - Welcome to Alaska

20:23 - Left the Military to Become an Electronic Technician

22:16 - What Led You into Politics?

30:20 - BB Commercial

30:51 - Campaigning for Lieutenant Governor in Alaska

34:15 - Disconnect Between the Citizens and the Government

37:53 - Left Juneau Early & Political Environment During Covid

39:44 - What Does Being a Conservative Mean to You?

43:38 - Your Passion for Our Veterans & Life Wave

53:58 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

55:59 - Thank You

56:58 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Sharon - 

https://veteransinpain.org/

Key Points, Top Takeaways, and Memorable Quotes - 

“People need to understand the difference between news and commentary.” -Wendy @ 20:07

“These are just examples from the left and the right of people learning the hard way that there are consequences.” 25:31

“False balance is giving minority opinion equal time, a platform or whatever.” 31:56

“Censorship makes everybody else think you’re pumping a conspiracy theory.” 33:50

“No one that runs a podcast is pretending to be an expert, but podcasts are important that without the podcast, no one is going to ask the question.” 36:00 

“Politically correct is knowing that the conversation requires sacrifice.” 41:11

“Be a better parent.” 58:38

“Don’t get caught up in false dichotomies.” 1:04:58

“The expert’s not gonna ask the question that they know the answer to.” 1:23:34

“Follow the math people, not the science.” 1:29:09

Guest Bio - Jason C. Dibelius is an American Beach and Indoor volleyball coach and commentator.  Dibelius served as the head and assistant coach for the men's and women's volleyball teams at New York City Technical College (1999-2001). He moved on to Baruch College to assist the men's volleyball program (2003-2005) and then later became the head men's volleyball coach at the City College of New York (2008) where his efforts earned them an invitation to the NECVA postseason tournament and runner up for coach of the year.  Jason spent the next few years coaching high school boys'

volleyball at Hunter College High School (2011-2015). He also served as the head girls' volleyball coach at the Kew Forest School during the 2014 fall season.

Dibelius moved to California where he spent five years as the Volleyball skills coach at Endless Summer Beach Volleyball Club under Daron Forbes,

Evolution indoor boy's club under Duncan Avery, and Director of Operations

at LMU for a year and a half under John Mayer. He has color commentated for BVNE (the biggest national recruiting showcase), P1440's events, home NCAA women's sand matches for Pepperdine, the Big West Championship, and the AVP next Gold Series in New Orleans. He is currently a head coach for Los Angeles Volleyball Club under the direction of Dain Blanton and Jason Olive, and hosts a popular volleyball podcast called the “Option.”  Additionally, he takes great pride in his military service and is excited for the next evolution.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:33 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:55 - Welcome to Jason 

1:17 - George Santos List of Lies

9:44 - News, Cable Networks, Politics, & Independent Journalists

14:35 - The Problem with Labels

20:42 - Censorship is Real & It’s Happening

25:59 - Discussing Joe Rogan’s Unique Approach

28:37 - Guest Selection for Interviews & the Popularity Contest

34:56 - Purpose of Podcasts Bringing it Full Circle

39:58 - Difference Between Being Polite & Politically Correct

44:00 - Bullying Discussion

44:40 - Be Better Media Commercial

45:13 - How You Raise Your Kids… Bullying Continued

48:06 - Jason’s Bullying Experience

53:36 - Standing Up Against Bullying 

56:35 - Cyber Bullying & the Solution

58:52 - Turn the Channel or Turn it Off

1:02:46 - Parents, Step Up

1:06:35 - Privilege and Parenting

1:10:26 - Kids & Sex Changes

1:12:18 - Being a Role Model

1:15:43 - Revisiting the Labels Discussion

1:18:14 - Jason’s Great Podcast Moments

1:22:15 - You Don’t Have to Be an Expert to Follow the Science 

1:27:46 - Thank You

1:29:22 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Jason - 

IG - @jdibelius 

The Option Podcast

NYVarsity Sports

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“What was interesting about this concussion compared to my last is the impact of it wasn’t as hard as previous concussions I had.” 4:54

“When you feel concussed immediately, you should step out!” 5:31

“It's a really hard thing to describe if you haven't been concussed before, but you truly feel like an alien almost.  You don’t recognize yourself, you don’t recognize your mind, you don't recognize, situations feel ten times more awkward.” 8:15

“The most impactful thing was just reaching out.” 12:22

“I got to a place where, in the fall, where I was like, ‘I just want to be better.  I don’t care about volleyball anymore, I don’t care about anything, I want to be able to recognize myself.’” 23:10

“That was the biggest struggle in the journey, you don’t feel like yourself because your mind is traumatized, but yet your mind controls everything.” 25:40

“My goal is to be free when I play volleyball now.” 31:19

“So I put on this almost, like just this mentality that everyone around me, I don’t care about your assumptions anymore, those are your assumptions.  That’s not my experience.” 34:07

“The truest and most courageous decision was to step away and that was the harder decision to be doing, not the easier decision.” 40:11

“I mean I think one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is not letting other people’s assumptions, expectations, voices become your own.” 45:30

Guest Bio - 

Jade Waskom grew up playing indoor and beach volleyball as early as age six. She pursued her Division 1 goals at Long Beach State University playing both indoor and beach volleyball. However, after freshman year and battling the pandemic, she switched to playing full-time on the beach team. Around March of 2021 Jade received her sixth concussion, which started her year and a half long struggle with post-concussion syndrome. This was an extremely tough battle, but led her to making the biggest transformations in her life. 
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Jade’s Golden Nugget

0:12 - Introducing Jade Waskom

0:47 - Welcome to Jade

2:05 - Childhood & Family Background

3:13 - March 17, 2021 & My 6th Concussion

9:57 - Dealing with Feelings

11:17 - Advice to Teammates on Being Supportive

13:36 - Feeling Unable to Advocate for Yourself

16:07 - Halfway Healing Vs. 100% Commitment to Healing

19:10 - Relaxation, Rest, & Recovery in Nature

22:02 - Fall 2021

24:54 - Cleared Spring 2022 & Starting Therapy

28:40 - BB Commercial

28:48 - Journey Back to Our True Self

30:11 - After Resting, How Did Things Start to Change For You?

354:52 - Month of Camping & Aligning with Yourself

37:47 - Hardest Part of Medical Retirement

42:53 - Where Do You Go From Here?

45:12 - One Piece of Advice 

47:02 - Where Can People Find You?

47:49 - Bringing it Full Circle

49:23 - Deleting Social Media

51:24 - Thank You

52:05 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Jade - 

IG - @jadewaskom

Book Recommendation: Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“Stop chasing the validation of someone else’s approval.  The only person who can validate you is the person in the mirror.” 6:57

“We all have the same 24 hours.” 8:48

“I’m willing to trust repeatedly.” 21:47

“An enemy is always going to separate their prey from the pack.” 23:49

“The table is a metaphor for life because that’s where faith, family, and food all happen.” 28:58

“Treat the grocery store like a racetrack and really start to focus on quality.” 34:31

“The pain that you’re feeling will eventually subside and it will be replaced with something that feels much better.” 38:42

“Keeping good mentors around you, keeping good people around you, are going to help you pick your head up, they’re going to ask you those questions.” 41:07 

“I’m not my profession.” 45:47

Guest Bio - 

Chef Brother Luck is an award-winning chef, entrepreneur, and advocate for the pursuit of self-discovery. With a childhood marked by humble beginnings, Brother is on a mission to prove to others that while our past is forever a part of who we are, it does not determine the people that we become. By drawing on his own childhood trauma, Brother uses his life as a testament to prove how pride, courage, determination, and perseverance helped him survive early life challenges and empowered him to achieve

great success in the face of adversity.

Today, Brother has earned a reputation as a celebrity chef through appearances on Chopped, Beat Bobby Flay, Top Chef, The Rachael Ray Show and the Today Show. He is also a successful business owner with the establishment of his restaurants Four by Brother Luck and Lucky Dumpling, both located in his home of Colorado Springs.  Brother Luck recently released his memoir “NO LUCKS GIVEN,” taking off the white chef’s coat and going beyond the kitchen to relive his own turbulent life story with the goal of teaching readers that even when life gets hard, there is hope.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Brother Luck

0:57 - Welcome to Brother Luck, Author of ‘No Lucks Given’

2:39 - Early Life & Background in Culinary Arts

6:12 - Early Mentors Taught Me Confidence & Showed Me Opportunity

8:36 - Advice for the Space Between Despair & Hope

10:52 - Ways for the Younger Generation to Find Their Passion

12:58 - Knowing We Are Worth It

14:40 - Normalizing the Mental Health Discussion

19:20 - The Role of Therapy

21:33 - Improving Relationships on the Journey to Self-Awareness

24:35 - BB Commercial

24:44 - Advice on Choosing Your Inner Circle

28:05 - Faith, Family, & Food

32:57 - Fitness & Finance

36:48 - Four by Brother Luck & Lucky Dumpling Restaurants

38:19 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

39:32 - The Blame Game: Who is the Villain in My Story?

41:41 - What Are You Doing With What You’ve Learned to Make the World Better?

42:57 - Competition Conversation

46:17 - This is Why

47:57 - Where Can People Connect with You?

48:37 - Thank You

49:06 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Brother - 

Chefbrotherluck.com

IG, FB, & TikTok - @chefbrotherluck 

“As they say in Brazil, like, if you want to learn how to be a lion, you have to hang out with the lions.” 2:58

“The goal is just to make people better through volleyball.” 11:12

“Who doesn’t love an underdog, you know, success story?” 12:57

 “Confidence is not loyal to you and it only comes when it wants to come.” 14:23

“Everytime that team gets one point is one more point you need to play to win.” 21:09

“Are your feelings fueling you or failing you?” 28:15

“We have this saying in Brazil that like, ‘A saint from home doesn’t make any miracles.’” 36:49

“This generation thinks that being kind means not hurting people’s feelings.” 38:40

“We’re training you to change the program, not maintain the program.” 40:42

“There should be more education, but not indoctrination.” 52:23

“Tell me the bad stuff too because I want to be better.” 59:44

Guest Bio - 

Founder of Optimum Beach

Founder of BVWCA (Beach Volleyball Women’s Coaches Alliance)

University of Louisiana at Lafayette Hall of Fame

2022 USAV Female Junior Coach of the year

2022 USAV Club of the Year

2021 FL Region Coach of the Year

USAV NTDP Coach and Scout

2009 AVP Most Improved Player

17 years - professional beach volleyball player: AVP, Banco do Brasil and FIVB for Brazil
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Pri Lima

0:52 - Welcome to Pri

1:58 - Life in Brazil & Volleyball Beginnings

4:50 - Louisiana Ties

8:12 - Optimum Beach

13:54 - Certainty, Courage, and Ballsy Over Confidence

20:22 - Work Smarter, Not Harder: Energy Management

26:32 - Mental Efficiency with Your Athletes

29:20 - Building Relationships with Your Athletes

34:01 - BB Commercial

34:10 - Mental Health Discussion

40:51 - Character, Values, and Real Inclusion

48:12 - Understanding How to Form Deep Human Connection

58:39 - One Piece of Advice

1:01:30 - Where Can People Connect with You?

1:01:53 - Thank You

1:02:13 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Pri - 

IG - @optimumbeach ; @prilima13 ; @BVWCA

FB - Optimum Beach ; BVWCA (Beach Volleyball Women’s Coaches Alliance)

https://optimumbeach.us/

“The daughter initiated and the father followed.” 8:50

“It’s hard as a parent to just sort of separate yourself from them and do what’s best for them, not what’s best for you and makes you feel good.  You have to think of their long term future.” 12:37

“You lose about one percent of your aerobic capacity per year on average at that age.” 25:25

“They are very serious researchers that claim they will eradicate what they see as the ‘disease’ of aging.” 27:29

“That’s actually how the two books tie in, right, is mortality, getting the most out of your life, if you’re mortal, and we’ll always be mortal.” 30:19

“It’s never too late to inject that into your life” 31:27

“As you get older, you actually sleep a little less.” 39:16

“I wish I had explored a little more, getting some assistance.” 51:12

Guest Bio -

Mark Ryall recently retired from teaching economics at Hillfield Strathallan College in Hamilton, Ontario. His first love in coaching was always cross country running, a sport which he felt made students stronger mentally and physically, and which promoted teamwork and mutual support. The speculative fiction Age-Decoded is Mark’s first novel. He wrote it to educate himself and the world about the imminent tsunami of genetic engineering. CRISPR-like technology will impact humans in physical and psychological ways, thus fundamentally affecting what it means to be human. The story peers 100-200 years into the future, allowing the reader to critically imagine this new scientific frontier. Mark has also just published his second book, Run Daughter, Run Father, which provides stories, anecdotes, and scientific advice on running and racing. It highlights the training adventures of him and his daughter Stephanie, whom Mark coached and ran with. The insights are targeted at younger and older age-group competitors. Mark also competes in triathlons and represented Canada in the 2019 World Age-Group Championships in Lausanne, Switzerland. He also recently qualified for the World Age-Group Championships in Spain in 2023.  As hobbies, Mark enjoys acrylic art and snooker. His education includes BSc, MBA, and PhD (University of Toronto).
 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Mark Ryall

1:03 - Welcome to Mark Run Daughter, Run Father

1:26 - Athletic Background

3:16 - Cross Country & Running Marathons

7:01 - ‘Run Daughter, Run Father’ by Mark Ryall

16:32 - Lessons from Your Book

19:35 - Running for Time

23:52 - Master’s Competitions & ‘Age-Decoded’ Book

25:53 - BB Commercial

26:02 - Interesting Research Findings

30:34 - Staying Content in a Long Term Athletic Career

33:00 - My Failure at the Last World Games in Switzerland 

38:28 - Other Pillars of Health Outside of Training for Aging Athletes

39:58 - What is Snooker?

41:32 - Swimming Discussion

45:58 - Runner’s High

50:48 - One Piece of Advice 

55:45 - Daughter’s Role in Writing the Book

56:22 - New Writing Concepts

57:27 - Where Can People Find You?

58:49 - Thank You

59:32 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Mark - 

Book:  https://books2read.com/b/4jqeVY?edit=maybe-later

Quora:  https://www.quora.com/profile/Mark-Ryall-2

Run Free

“I used humor when I was young to really mask insecurities.” 4:17

“We can be intentional about how I can help myself and how I can help others.” 17:33

“My life was my priority.” 20:20

“There’s life around you that you’re missing because you’re living in a game we played 3 hours ago.” 23:11

“The only thing we really talk about is the choices that she makes.” 24:22

“Little messes become big messes.” 29:26

“We have the ability to teach these kids more than we ever knew.  Like, we have a chance to give them so much more complex information.” 37:07

“You remember those coaches who literally just cared.” 43:41

“Winning is the byproduct of hard work and luck sometimes.” 45:59

“I think I was put on this Earth to teach kids how to win and lose respectively.” 48:27

“Coaches, we need to listen more to our players; they’ll tell us.” 56:21

“The advice I would give would literally be, you know, ‘You’re enough, you literally are enough” 57:05

Guest Bio - 

Marc Paisant is the creator and host of the Relatively Normal podcast.  In his show, he shares his experiences with ADHD, anxiety and depression.  He shows that no one is alone and there is always someone willing to listen and assist when it comes to coping and managing all kinds of stress. He is an advocate for therapy and counseling and talks about his years of therapy that he has used to manage his mental health.  

As a former collegiate athlete, Marc uses physical fitness to assist with his mental health.  He has learned that both can be combined and used to help work through any life issue.  His goal is to inspire others to ask for help and to end the stigma when it comes to mental health and awareness.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Marc Paisant

1:02 - Welcome to Marc

1:43 - Early Life & Sports Background

5:34 - Comparison Life As A Twin 

9:08 - Building the Confidence to Become a Collegiate Athlete

13:34 - Freshman Year & Realizing I Needed Therapy

21:02 - Kids Are Quitting Sports For A Reason

23:51 - Impulse Control with My Oldest Daughter

28:03 - BB Commercial

28:12 - Choices & Consistency Matter

30:31 - Social Media Challenges Facing Kids & Mental Health Implications

35:11 - Promoting a Value System 

36:18 - Understanding the Advantages Our Kids Have & Teaching them More

38:31 - Importance of Public Speaking & “Soft” Skills

41:12 - Emotionally Connected Teachers & Coaches Are Game Changers

42:24 - Coaching My Girls in Soccer & Basketball

44:07 - Advice to Parents on Keeping Sports Fun

47:27 - Positive Aspects of Coaching

50:20 - Connection Between Mental & Physical Health

56:38 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

59:17 - Where Can People Connect with You?

1:01:40 - Thank You

1:02:15 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Marc - 

IG - @relativelynormalpodcast   

@paisant_fitness 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcpaisant/

“You just need to invest in myself, and work with someone else.” 7:22

“And now I’m able to see some of this stuff a little bit more clear because I don’t have all the other external things.” 19:18

“The idea I think a little bit more is just having a little bit more thought and intention behind even small simple things that we’re doing in the morning.” 21:19

“It’s doing these two things when I didn’t even see the results and I still kept doing it, and doing it, and doing it.” 24:59

“I think having more tools in the tool box to help, like navigate all of these situations.” 30:10

“Listen to the other person a little bit more, perhaps taking a little bit more time.” 31:59

“You can't really have an opinion about something that you don’t know anything about anymore.” 49:47

“How does this serve you?” 52:40

“Feelings are not necessarily facts.” 1:02:02

“You need to create multiple versions of yourself.” 1:11:19

“Don’t listen to the other people who aren’t doing it.” 1:12:18

Guest Bio - 

Naffele has spent her entire life being curious and always asking questions. Her desire to learn has led to a colorful life starting with competitive figure skating and public speaking as a child, foreign student exchanges in high school and later in life studying martial arts. This eventually led to years of coaching Crossfit and then becoming a gym owner.

Naffele sold her gym in 2019 and since that time she has discovered a new path for herself. One that is based on conscious creating - creating a life of expression and authenticity through coaching, art and writing. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Naffele Nikita

1:03 - Welcome to Naffele

1:33 - Where Are You From & What Do You Do Everyday?

2:58 - Sports Experience

4:58 - Finding Brian McKenzie’s Work

10:59 - What Did You Figure Out During this Transition?

15:55 - Tips for Recognizing Burnout

19:58 - What Does Being A Conscious Creator Mean to You?

26:47 - Deviated Septum Discussion

29:23 - Perspective on Positive Changes from the Pandemic 

33:58 - Lockdown in Ontario, Canada

36:57 - BB Commercial

37:07 - Using Social Media to Connect & Build Relationships

40:26 - Living on the Canada/US Border During the Pandemic

48:23 - Is Canada Divided Over the Pandemic?

50:08 - Balancing Consumption of Mainstream Media & Lack of Information

53:03 - Making an Informed Opinion & Decision on Firearms

1:01:23 - Truth & Perspective are Two Sides of the Same Coin

1:08:30 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

1:12:45 - Where Can People Find You to Connect?

1:13:08 - Thank You

1:13:22 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Naffele - 

IG -  @naffelenikita 

Blog - www.lifebynikita.com

“You can offer people light in their life.” 3:00

“He had earned that leadership and I respected that.” 5:40

“Right or wrong, he would speak his mind and if he was wrong, he’d say he was wrong and if he was right he’d say he was right.” 7:21

“I view the Brian like this supercomputer.” 8:06

“Regardless, win or lose, I’m still worth something.” 10:59

“The bounceback from the failure is super important because failure’s the only way you grow.” 11:09

“It’s even cooler to watch the flow state of life.” 13:49

“To be a leader nowadays, all you have to do is stand for something, and I think it’s easy to stand for something if you’re self confident and you know your self worth.” 22:09

“Are you opening yourself up as a coach?” 27:11

“If you need me, I’ve done something seriously, seriously wrong.” 32:37

“Human beings are not fragile.  You’re one of the most resilient species in the universe that we know of.” 33:07

“Be yourself, man!” 43:53

“Spend time really knowing who yourself is.” 45:55

“You don’t need to have the best story if you can tell the best story.” 51:42

Guest Bio - Austin Jochum is a former college football player and the owner of Jochum Strength Training. He believes that every person has the ability to change their life for the better, both physically and mentally. Everyone experiences valleys and the mountains in their life, and as a Certified Strength Coach, (CSCA) he helps people of all ages bring their lives out of these valleys to accept the challenge and climb their mountains.  Through both in person and online training and life coaching, he helps people become the best versions of themselves and optimize their potential. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Austin Jochum

0:52 - Welcome to Austin

1:43 - Athletic Background & Starting this Journey

4:22 - Selfless Love in a Male Figure Created Confidence

9:33 - Framing a Mistake with Your Athletes

12:31 - Cultivating an Environment Where Learning from Mistakes in Celebrated

16:12 - Typical Age of Your Clients

17:48 - Challenges Facing Collegiate Athletes

22:19 - BB Commercial

22:28 - Learning Self-Awareness, Self-Identity, and Confidence in a Competitive Collegiate Culture

30:38 - Coaching the Concept “Don’t Be Fragile” 

36:23 - Integration of Mind, Body, & Spirit

39:47 - Connecting Your Life Story to Your Purpose

43:42 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

49:29 - Your Writing Routine

53:58 - Grateful for this Conversation, Thank You

54:19 - Where Can People Connect With You?

55:35 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

Links & Where to Find Austin - 

www.jochumstrength.com

IG - @austinjochum    

“I’m gonna make the cleanest oil and gas that we have until someone that’s smarter than me figures out another plan.” 4:07

“We have to work together and we have to honor and respect the Earth for her to provide for us too.” 6:46

“We need to cut the delusion factor out of it and we need to work together to be able to, as humans, make this work.” 7:42

“Local is sustainable.  It’s farm to table.” 17:27

“The problem is we're not looking at the full carbon life cycle of this stuff.” 18:36

“The state of California could be totally independent, energy independent, if it did it right.” 21:42

“Us pointing fingers is the problem.” 33:41

“Capitalism at its best is things that are not needed anymore will phase out.” 40:43

“Everyone should admit when they’re wrong.” 45:42

“If you can’t admit you made a mistake, like how are we supposed to be better? How are we supposed to grow?” 45:51

“You have to honor the Earth.” 58:53

Guest Bio - 

Jessica Paquette is an Environmental, Health and Safety Manager for an oil company in California.  Jessica has a chemistry degree from UCSD and is passionate about all forms of energy.  She is also a kundalini yoga teacher, sound healer, and a kitchen alchemist. She is passionate about honoring the energy of the earth and making a life better for all humanity.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Jessica Paquette

1:02 - Welcome to Jessica

2:19 - Education & Work Background

6:19 - Regulatory Aspect of Oil & Gas in California

8:18 - Visiting Oil Fields in LA County

10:10 - How Does the Corporate World Respond to You?

11:52 - Respect of Natural Resources

14:02 - Where is the Middleground in the Current Plan?

18:07 - Problems with Solar Energy

21:05 - What’s Going On with Oil Use in LA County?

25:19 - Regulators in California Vs. Another State

27:14 - Why Do You Have to Burn Excess Gas?

30:17 - We Need to Work Together to Change the Perspective on Oil & Gas

34:05 - BB Commercial

34:14 - Questioning Motives of the Rule & Law Makers

37:36 - How Do People Feel in the Oil Industry?

39:04 - Impact on Oil Companies & It’s Employees in LA County 

41:38 - Balance of Natural, Renewable, & Oil/Gas Resources 

43:38 - This is The Science

48:02 - It’s All About Educating People on the Power of the World

58:19 - Jess is in Our Climate Challenge Documentary Coming Soon

1:00:05 - One Piece of Advice

1:01:50 - Thank You

1:02:08 - WIMTS Podcast Closing

“The more you learn about fighting, the less you want to get in a fight.” 7:39

“Inside all of us is this thing called intuition.” 14:53

“I believe at our core we are creative beings.” 17:50

“There is a triple bottom line; you’re helping, you know, you’re making money, you’re helping people, you’re helping the planet.” 21:31

“There’s no losing in Jiu Jitsu, only learning.” -Case quoting Hanna Gracey @ 26:21

“Just looking at losing as learning, then you’re always winning!” 28:06

“We are expressions of the choices that we make over time.” 37:19

Guest Bio - 

Case Bradford was raised in the snowy woods of New Hampshire and moved to the sunny beaches of LA to work within conscious capitalism.  As an amateur artist, activist, and athlete - Case is exploring and sharing ideas around intuitive eating, movement practice, the power of Nature, regenerative food, cycling as transit, multi day fasting, creativity, and flow.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - WIMTS Podcast Intro

0:32 - Introducing Case Bradford

0:56 - Welcome to Case 

1:45 - Hometown & Family Background