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Introducing: Asian American Youth Ministry Roundtable

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 20:53:33 +0000

Rooted introduces a new podcast focused on youth ministry in an Asian American context. It features a rotating panel of youth ministers who will talk about issues affecting Asian American youth and anyone ministering to them, whether in the home or in the church. This episode is a sample of what you will hear. The first full episode is available now at RootedMinistry.com/Podcasts. Or subscribe to the Asian American Youth Ministry Roundtable wherever you listen to podcasts.

Bios of Panelists

Dorothy Lau

Dorothy is the youth director at the Chinese Bible Church of Maryland (Rockville, MD) in the Washington D.C. metropolitan. She is passionate to serve the Lord through discipleship, musical worship, administration, and multimedia. Dorothy is a massive foodie, enjoys cooking for loved ones, and delights in trips to her home city of Chicago.

Huey Lee

Huey Lee has been serving the local church in the youth ministry context for over 15 years, and holds a Masters of Divinity from Biblical Theological Seminary. He currently serves as a Pastor of Youth Ministry at Christ Central Presbyterian Church in Centreville, VA. He is married to his beautiful wife, Alice, and they are parents to 4 sons: Matthew, Ethan, Christian, and Lucas. He loves reading, Korean food, a good cup of coffee, and the growing pains that come with learning to play golf.

Justin Wong

Justin serves as the Pastor of Youth at Chinese Baptist Church in Houston, Texas. He has worked with students, parents, and families for the past 23 years. He graduated from Houston Baptist University with a biology degree and later received his Masters of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently finishing his Masters of Theology and Doctorate of Education from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is married Tina and they have two girls, Ella and Mia.

Terrence Shay

Terrence serves as the Family Pastor at First Chinese Baptist Church, Walnut, located in Los Angeles County with the largest Asian population in the US. He has grown up in the immigrant church and believes unashamedly in its role to fulfill Jesus’ call to make disciples across all cultures and generations. He is gladly married to Regina and forever growing as a father of three children from middle school to college. He will go out of his way to cheer on LA sports (Lakers, Dodgers, UCLA Bruins) and to engage in a meaningful conversation.

Ask Alice: Celebrating Greatest Hits from Fifty Episodes

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Anna Meade Harris) — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Join licensed counselor (and boy mom) Alice Churnock for the 50th episode of Ask Alice. Alice and guest Anna Meade Harris talk about their favorite- and most helpful- episodes. You'll want to listen all the way through for an exciting announcement at the end!

"I appreciated hearing, especially from someone in education, who was adamant about letting kids fail."

Resources:

Join us for Rooted 2024 in Dallas October 24-26!
Follow us @rootedministry
Purchase Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today!
Sissy Goff on Mothers, Daughters, and Female Friendships
What Teens Hear When Parents Talk, with author David Thomas
Silver Linings in the Midst of a Pandemic
Divorce and Coparenting During the Holidays – Practical Ways to Help Kids Transition Between Homes and Traditions
Let’s Talk About Pornography with Tal Prince
Heather Holleman on Lunchroom Rejection and Acceptance in Christ
How to hold Christian Values in a Public Education Setting, with Dr. Dicky Barlow
Fathers Raising Daughters- A Father’s Day Interview With Dr. Langston Haygood

Helping Your Child Navigate Transitions with Kaila Thomas

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Kaila Thomas, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 3 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

“Transition is good and it’s right. And it may feel uncomfortable because it’s unknown, but that’s exactly how we were made to experience that transition and throughout all of our transitions, we have a God that doesn’t change.”

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice sits down with Kaila Thomas, a Licensed Master Social Worker, to discuss how parents can help their children navigate transitions, both big and small. Alice and Kaila discuss the most common transitions children face, how parents can engage with their child’s emotions regarding transitions, practical tips for helping your child through a transition, and much more. As Summer ends and we make the transition to a new school year, parents will not want to miss this informative and grace-filled conversation.

Show Notes:

Kaila Thomas is a Licensed Master Social Worker practicing on Galveston Island, a barrier island off the coast of Texas. She works as a school-based therapist at an elementary school. Kaila graduated from Baylor University with both a Bachelor and Master of Social Work. Kaila enjoys running, visiting friends and family, and going to concerts.

Check out Kaila’s articles on the Rooted blog!

Order Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today!

Interested in learning more about gospel-centered parenting? Join us for the 2023 Rooted Conference in Nashville, TN November 2-4.

Follow @therootedministry on Social Media!

Heather Holleman on Lunchroom Rejection and Acceptance in Christ

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Heather Holleman, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 6 Jul 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Alice interviews best-selling author and speaker, Heather Holleman on her upcoming fictional book for tweens, This Seat's Saved. Heather and Alice discuss the feeling of lunchroom rejection that commonly occurs in middle school, and how to encourage our kids with the truth that they already have a seat at the table with Christ. Alice discusses the emerging diagnosis, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and explains its common characteristics. Parents will be encouraged to see how the gospel is good news for both parents and teenagers who struggle with the hurt of rejection.

Dr. Heather Holleman is an associate teaching professor at Penn State, speaker, and author. She has written eight books, including the bestseller Seated With Christ: Living Freely in a Culture of Comparison.Heather also serves with Faculty Commons in the professor and graduate student ministry of Cru. She has two daughters and three cats, and she blogs daily at www.heatherholleman.com. When she's not writing or teaching, Heather is growing a plum orchard, looking for turtles in the woods, or gathering with friends for dinner and a movie.

References:

Rejection sensitive dysphoria definition from Cleveland clinic

This Seat’s Saved by Heather Holleman is out on June 6th and is available for pre-order now.

“Seated With Christ: Living Freely in a Culture of Comparison” by Heather Holleman

Adolescent Anxiety: Finding a Better Story with Liz Edrington

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Liz Edrington) — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews author and mental health counselor, Liz Edrington on her 31-day teen devotional: Anxiety: Finding the Better Story. Listen in as these two experts in teenage anxiety discuss common misconceptions of anxiety, how to spot patterns of anxious behavior in your child, and how to walk with a child or teenager who is struggling with anxiety. Using her own story with anxiety, Liz invites us to consider how Jesus invites both us and our children into wholeness in the face of anxiety.

Resources:

Pre-order Anxiety: Finding the Better Story by Liz Edrington today!

Subscribe to Ask Alice and check out all the other Rooted podcasts!

Follow @therootedministry on Instagram!

Check out our YouTube Channel!

How to hold Christian Values in a Public Education Setting, with Dr. Dicky Barlow

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Dicky Barlow, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 6 Apr 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews longtime superintendent and former principal, Dr. Dicky Barlow, on being a Christian in public education. Dr. Barlow speaks as both an administrator and as a Christian parent. He understands the concerns parents have with the public school system, yet he underscores the excitement of having a child growing up in the age of accessible technology. He addresses ways that parents can partner with teachers so that their values systems are more aligned, as well as the standards to which he holds the teachers in his school system.

Dicky Barlow serves as the superintendent of a public school system in Alabama. Dr. Barlow earned his doctorate at Samford University.

Resources:

Subscribe to Ask Alice!

Follow @therootedministry on Instagram

Family Discussion Questions by Dr. Barlow

Talking to Your Teenager about Underage Drinking

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Suzanne Jones, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 2 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews mom Suzanne Jones on how she addresses drinking with her own teenage children. As someone who has been sober for years, Suzanne candidly and wisely offers insight to teenage drinking after being in the depths herself. She and Alice discuss the driving factors of underaged drinking, as well as warning signs for parents to look for. Their conversation includes practical methods for parents to openly discuss the dangers and consequences of drinking and ways to provide teenagers with in-the-moment excuses when they are offered alcohol. Suzanne encourages parents to offer grace without shame while still enforcing consequences for illegal behavior. You’ll learn that there is hope for the teenager who drinks to fit in, escape, or numb— all found in Jesus.

Resources:

Suzanne Jones is a jewelry designer based in Birmingham, Alabama. She and her husband have four children, and she loves sharing her experience of walking away from alcohol in early 2000’s and the transformation of her life and marriage.

Subscribe to Ask Alice!

Follow @therootedministry on Instagram

Sign up to join us for our 2023 conference in Nashville, TN!

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

National Center on Substance Abuse and Child Welfare

To Drink or Not to Drink: Is That Really the Question? By Liz Edrington

Underage Drinking: Just Say YES! (Sort Of) by Cameron Cole

Sharon Hersh on the Anatomy of Addiction

Safeguarding our Kids

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Julie Lowe, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 2 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews counselor and author, Julie Lowe about her newest book, SafeGuards: Shielding Our Homes and Equipping our Kids. Julie teaches parents how to guide our children into discerning the behavior of another, not merely evaluating their character. She and Alice detail their thoughts about spend-the-night parties, and the better alternative to 'stranger danger.' Julie concludes with practical role-playing conversations to guide critical thinking in our children, as well as compassionately addressing those parents who have already experienced unsafe people in their children's lives.

Resources:

Safe Guards: Shielding Our Homes and Equipping our Kids by Julie Lowe

Rooted Reservoir

Sissy Goff on Mothers, Daughters, and Female Friendships

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Sissy Goff, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 5 Jan 2023 12:00:00 +0000

For our daughters, relationships with other women are often the most important aspect of their lives. In this new year's episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews author, speaker and counselor, Sissy Goff, on how to nurture healthy relationships between moms and daughters, and daughters with friends. She provides practical tips on deescalating emotionally intense conflicts, as well as addressing the balance between being a mom and being a friend to your daughter. Sissy addresses the growing sense of anxiety that both moms and daughters experience in our pre- and post-Covid world. She also discusses the change that social media has brought to adolescent relationships and how to help our daughters identify unhealthy friendships.

Resources:

The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff Lpc-Mhsp MEd Lpc-Mhsp

Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World by Sissy Goff and Carlos Whittaker

Brave: A Teen Girl's Guide to Beating Worry and Anxiety by Sissy Goff

Braver, Stronger, Smarter: A Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety by Sissy Goff and Alena Pitts

Are My Kids on Track?: The 12 Emotional, Social, and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach by Sissy Goff, Melissa Trevathan MRE, et al.

www.raisingboysandgirls.com

Divorce and Coparenting During the Holidays: Practical Ways to Help Kids Transition Between Homes and Traditions

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Sara Hadgraft, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 1 Dec 2022 12:00:00 +0000

For those families dealing with divorce, the holidays bring an extra layer of complexity. In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews Divorce and Family Mediation and Licensed Marriage and Family therapist, Sara Hadgraft, on how to help both parents and children enjoy the Christmas season - even if it looks different from years past. She addresses visitation schedules and gift giving, as well as providing parents with the language to address both the emotional and spiritual questions about divorce that may arise as children adjust to a new normal.

Resources:

www.sparrowcounsel.com

Coparent Dilemmas podcast hosted by Diane Dierks

BIFF for CoParent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts (Conflict Communication Series, 3) by Bill Eddy, Annette Burns, et al.

Dinosaurs Divorce (Dino Tales: Life Guides for Families) by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown

Two Homes by Claire Masurel

My 2 Homes: A Game to Help Kids Understand and Accept Divorce manufactured by Childswork/Childsplay

Save Stuffing for the Turkey: Helping Kids Manage Holiday Foods

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Melissa Powell, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 3 Nov 2022 11:00:00 +0000

With the season of food and fullness upon us, in this episode of Ask Alice, she interviews Registered Dietitian and Professor, Dr. Melissa Powell, on ways that parents can help kids - and themselves - survive the season of sweets and stuffed. She explains the notion of mindfulness and intuitive eating, as opposed to the "anything goes" or "forbidden fruit" mentality. While Alice approaches the emotional component of holiday foods, Melissa provides insight on balancing food choices. She also encourages the notion of hospitality by teaching kids a spirit of gratitude and appreciating foods from other cultures and families.

Resources:

Children Just Like Me: A New Celebration of Children Around the World by DK

The Harvard Nutrition Source

Melissa-Powell [at] utc.edu

Biblical Wisdom for Teenagers' Eating Habits by Melissa Powell

Bring It On Home: Everyday Ways to Incorporate the Gospel at Home with Younger Kids

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Joel Busby, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 6 Oct 2022 18:23:41 +0000

While this episode of Ask Alice is geared toward younger children, the wisdom that her guest, Joel Busby, brings is applicable to kids of all ages. Alice and Joel discuss conveying the Gospel through everything from our beautiful world to discipline to allowing kids to appreciate silence. In his thoughtful and kind manner, Joel tackles the tough questions kids often ask such as "Why does God allow bad things to happen?" and "How do I know that my faith is right when my friends worship with other religions?"

Resources:

Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing by Sally-Lloyd Jones

How Great is Our God by Louie Giglio

The Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally-Lloyd Jones

What if My Child Doesn't Like Youth Group?

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Davis Lacey) — Thu, 1 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Alice is joined by Davis Lacey, a former youth pastor who now leads a young church plant in Ellijay, GA (Autumn Ridge Community Church). Drawing from personal experience, Davis shares how churches which take intergenerational integration seriously are great assets for family discipleship and growing faith in teenagers - even if those churches don't have formal "youth groups." Then, he and Alice dive into this week's questions, including, "Should I force my child to go to youth group?", "Is it OK for my child to attend another church's youth group?", "How can I support my child's youth leaders while respecting my child's space?", and more.

Show notes:

Rooted's 3-Part "Church Planting as Youth Ministry" series of articles, available using the links at the top of article #3 (https://rootedministry.com/blog/church-planting-and-youth-ministry-three-steps-to-help-teenagers-serve-your-church/)
Take you pick of other articles from Rooted's "Intergenerational Integration" tab. https://rootedministry.com/?tag=intergenerational-integration&post_types&author_id&s

We Are Family: Biological Siblings Adjusting to Adopted Siblings

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Jennifer Phillips, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 4 Aug 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice addresses what is, in her opinion, one of the most underserved populations among kids today: biological siblings in adoption homes. She interviews author, counselor, and mother of an adopted daughter Jennifer Phillips on the joys and trials of bringing an adopted child into the home. She discusses common issues that biological children experience during the adjustment stage, including their own trauma and feelings of displacement. Jennifer gently encourages parents to let go of the pressure to "do it right" and provides beautiful, gospel-filled language on explaining adoption to children.

Resources:

Social media handles: FB - Jennifer Phillips / Insta - @jennifer_leigh_phillips

Bringing Lucy Home by Jennifer Phillips

Hope When it's Hard by Jennifer Phillips

Unhitching from the Crazy Train: Finding Rest in a World You Can't Control by Julie Sparkman and Jennifer Phillips

How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen; How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Anna Meade Harris, Alice Churnock, Cameron Cole) — Thu, 7 Jul 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice welcomes the hosts of another Rooted podcast you will want to subscribe to. The Rooted Parent Podcast, hosted by Cameron Cole and Anna Meade Harris, aims to equip and encourage parents as they disciple their children to lifelong faith in Jesus Christ. Rooted Parent is a part of the Rooted Family of Podcasts.

Resources:

The Rooted Parent Podcast

John chapter 4

Drowning in Mom Guilt

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Thu, 2 Jun 2022 05:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice discusses the post-Mother's Day reality that often consumes our daily thoughts - mom guilt. She answers questions from our listeners but also uses her own mom-fail moment to discuss the dangerous, slippery slope that guilt leads to. She distinguishes between Mom-guilt and Mom-shame, and processes the idols that these can expose in our parenting. Using Gospel-centered truths, she illustrates how grace toward ourselves and other struggling moms can end the spiral of unhealthy lies.

Resources:

14 Gospel Principles that can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp

"Surface Pressure" from Encanto by Lin-Manuel Miranda

Too Much of a Good Thing: Screen Time Overload

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Betsy Childs Howard) — Thu, 5 May 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, Alice interviews editor and author Betsy Childs Howard on her newest children's book, Polly and the Screen Time Overload. The two discuss the updated recommendations for screen time use in children, as well as the differences in technology from a decade ago. In her gentle and humble way, Betsy provides excellent dialog opportunities for parents to have with kids on what Scripture says - without saying - on screen time usage and the necessary why's behind screen time boundaries.

Resources:

Polly and the Screen Time Overload by Betsy Childs Howard

Learning to Fly: College Application Process and Decisions

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Brian Kennedy) — Thu, 7 Apr 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Resources:

College Data point comparisons and rankings:

https://collegescorecard.ed.gov/

https://www.wsj.com/articles/college-rankings-list-2022-11632246093

https://www.usnews.com/best-colleges

College Search Platforms

https://www.niche.com/

https://www.collegexpress.com

https://www.scoir.com/

https://www.naviance.com/

Stuck On You: Attachment Disorders within Adoption and Biological Homes

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Christy Harmon) — Thu, 3 Mar 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Resources:

The God Attachment by Clinton and Straub

Empowered to Connect - www.empoweredtoconnect.org

The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karyn B. Purvis

The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment by Karyn B. Purvis

Good Lovin' Gone Bad: Teens and Relationship Addiction

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Kristen Hatton) — Thu, 3 Feb 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Resources:

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture by Meg Meeker

Codependent No More by Melanie Beattie

Get Your Story Straight by Kristen Hatton

Establishing a Growth Mindset in our New Year's Resolutions

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Thu, 6 Jan 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Resources:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

Big Life Journal Teen Edition

The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran and Michael Lennington

How A Muppet Christmas Carol Teaches Us the Love Languages of our Kids

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Thu, 2 Dec 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Resources:

The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

Love Like Jesus by Kurt Bennett

The Precious Present by Spencer Johnson

What Teens Hear When Parents Talk, with author David Thomas

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, David Thomas) — Thu, 4 Nov 2021 14:39:10 +0000

For more about David and the books he has authored, visit https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com

Ask Alice: A Healthy Approach to Athletics for Teenagers (with football coach Mark Rector)

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Mark Rector) — Thu, 7 Oct 2021 11:00:00 +0000

For further reading: The Matheny Manifesto: A Young Manager’s Old-School Views on Success in Sports and Life

Ask Alice: Children and Teens with ADHD with Dr. Dale Wisely

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Dr. Dale Wisely, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 2 Sep 2021 11:00:00 +0000

BOOKS:

The Whole Brained Child

ADHD Workbook for Kids

Smart but Scattered

Taking Charge of ADHD

Understanding Girls with ADHD: How they Feel and Why They Do What They Do

WEBSITES:

Differential Efficacy of Neurofeedback in Children with ADHD Presentations: Journal of Clinical Medicine

In-School Neurofeedback Training for ADHD: Sustained Improvements From a Randomized Control Trial: Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics

What Are the Top ADHD Resources?

Resources for Enfolding Youth with Disabilities Into Your Ministry

Ask Alice: Preparing Your Child (and Yourself) for the First Year of College

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Anna Harris, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 5 Aug 2021 11:00:00 +0000

Preparing Teenagers for Homesickness in College by Alice Churnock

A Letter to Teenagers Beginning Sorority Recruitment by Cameron Cole

Why We Don't Have to Fear Sending a Child off to College by Carolyn Lankford

God's Goodness in Parenting Transitions: From High School to College by Carolyn Lankford

The Strength Gen Z Christians Need by Chris Colquitt

You Are Special by Max Lucado

Ask Alice: Helping Children and Families Process and Navigate Divorce

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Thu, 1 Jul 2021 11:00:00 +0000

More from Alice on the topic of divorce:

Interview with Melody Lovvorn on Parenting Children Through a Divorce

Ask Alice: Let's Talk About Pornography with Tal Prince

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Thu, 3 Jun 2021 13:06:59 +0000

More about Tal Prince:

https://insightscc.com/

More Resources:

Ask Rooted: How Does the Gospel Comfort and Guide My Student Who is Struggling with Porn?

I Just Caught My Kid Looking at Porn

Six Dangers of Porn to Teach Your Kids

Ask Alice: The Enneagram and Parenting - An Interview with John Fooshee (Part 2)

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 15:34:51 +0000

Check out part one of the interview where John gives an overview of the Enneagram and how it can be used in relationships with others and ministry.

Check out all of the free resources and tools that Gospel Enneagram has to offer at https://www.gospelenneagram.com/

Ask Alice: The Gospel and The Enneagram- An Interview with John Fooshee (Part 1)

rootedoperations@gmail.com (John Fooshee, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 1 Apr 2021 12:00:00 +0000

Listen to part two of Alice Churnock's interview with John Fooshee, co-founder of Gospel Enneagram, as they discuss how knowledge of the enneagram can advise your parenting and help you learn more about your children.

Check out all of the free resources and tools that Gospel Enneagram has to offer at https://www.gospelenneagram.com/

Ask Alice: Fostering Healthy Relationships With Food In Our Children- An Interview with Suzanne Pirkle

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Thu, 4 Mar 2021 17:25:19 +0000

Listen and be encouraged as Alice Churnock speaks with Suzanne Pirkle, licensed dietitian and nutritional counselor, discuss the importance of fostering healthy relationships with food in our children. Suzanne and Alice give practical advice on staying neutral when discussing food as well as debunk the glorifying and demonization of certain food groups. They also share practical advice on raising a child to grow in their relationship with food in a healthy manner.

Ask Alice: SAD (Seasonal Affect Disorder)

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Davis Lacey, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 4 Feb 2021 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, host Alice Churnock discusses Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD): what it is, what causes it, and how to spot its onset in the lives of the teenagers you know and love. She also provides insight into the routines, structures, foods, etc. that help manage the negative impacts of seasonal depression. Whether you're listening for your own sake, or whether you're wanting ideas on how to care for someone who experiences SAD, we hope that you'll be served well by this episode of Ask Alice.

Ask Alice: Talking to Your Kids About Current Events

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Sun, 10 Jan 2021 00:59:43 +0000

Rooted article by Cameron Cole: What Do We Tell Our Children About the Storming of the Capitol?

Ask Alice: Screen Protection for Youth

Thu, 3 Dec 2020 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Alice is joined by Tray and Melody Lovvorn to discuss the important topic of screen protections for young people. As Christmas approaches, and as many families plan to give internet-accessible devices as gifts, don't miss this vitally important conversation!

Ask Alice: Gospel Hope for Body Dysmorphia and Gender Dysphoria

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Davis Lacey, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 5 Nov 2020 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, host Alice Churnock discusses two important struggles which many teenagers encounter. The first is body dysmorphia, in which a person can't stop obsessing about a perceived flaw in his/her appearance. The second is gender dysphoria: the anxiety that besets a person who perceives a conflict between his/her inner-identity and his/her biological sex. Alice explains how parents can walk alongside of teenagers who struggle with these sensations. Above all, she reminds listeners of the hope of the gospel - a source of supernatural transformation that impacts the whole person, not merely outer appearance.

Ask Alice: Navigating Dysfunctional Family Dynamics

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Davis Lacey, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 1 Oct 2020 12:00:00 +0000

In his book "Getting Love Right," Terence Gorski estimates that 70%-80% of people grow up in dysfunctional families. Citing the biblical doctrine of original sin, host Alice Churnock states that we all grow up in some form of a dysfunctional family - we all grow up as sinners who are raised by sinners! Alice identifies the different ways that broken and dysfunctional home-life impacts young children and adolescents. After equipping listeners with the knowledge to recognize depression and anxiety in teenagers, Alice then gives practical advice on how to care for the souls of young people whose homes are broken/dysfunctional.

Ask Alice: "Loving Her Well" (An Interview with Author Kari Kampakis)

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Kari Kampakis, Alice Churnock, Davis Lacey) — Thu, 3 Sep 2020 12:00:14 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, host Alice Churnock interviews her good friend Kari Kampakis regarding the release of Kari's new book, "Loving Her Well: 10 Ways to Find Joy and Connection with Your Teenage Daughter." Kari discusses a number of topics of interest: the difference between being an "authority figure" and an "influencer" of teen daughters, how to grow with grace as the mother/daughter relationship morphs over time, and practical methods to love teenage daughters in ways that reflect the way Jesus loves His people. We hope that you are equipped and encouraged by this grace-filled resource from the Rooted Family of Podcasts.

Ask Alice: How Parents can Help Children Recover Social Skills amidst COVID-19

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Davis Lacey, Alice Churnock) — Thu, 6 Aug 2020 12:00:03 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, licensed professional counselor Alice Churnock discusses social anxiety by highlighting the many ways that COVID-19 has exacerbated it among children and teenagers. She then provides good words of gospel hope that will be of encouragement to parents and children alike. Finally, she outlines a number of practical ways to overcome social anxiety amidst the ongoing coronavirus pandemic.

Ask Alice: Fathers Raising Daughters- A Father’s Day Interview With Dr. Langston Haygood

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Langston Haygood) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:01:03 +0000

In this very special Father’s Day episode of Ask Alice, Alice Churnock interviews her father, Dr. Langston Haygood, a counselor and pastor who raised three daughters (who, in Alice’s words, are all “amazing!”). Listen in as father and daughter have a candid conversation on the joys and trials of raising daughters. Hear his wisdom on meeting the needs of a daughter at various developmental stages, relating to her in the teen years, and opening the lines of communication. Dr. Haygood shares all sorts of gospel-rich wisdom for fathers who seek to parent daughters with wisdom and grace. This heartwarming interview is both endearing and informative – be sure to give it a listen to encourage the fathers and daughters in your life!

Ask Alice: Boys and Eating Disorders

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:00:51 +0000

Please also see Boys, Body Image, and A Better Story.

Ask Alice: The Impact of Birth Order and Family Roles on Sibling Dynamics

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:00:39 +0000

Ask Alice: Silver Linings in the Midst of a Pandemic

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:00:15 +0000

In this episode of “Ask Alice,” Alice Churnock reached out to many of her friends in search of COVID-19 “silver linings.” Be encouraged by the responses she reads in this episode … and be equipped to go find some silver linings of your own. This podcast is made available to you by the Rooted Ministry for educational purposes only, not to provide specific therapeutic advice. The views expressed are the personal perspectives of the author and do not represent the views of all counselors or the profession. This podcast does not create a counselor-client relationship and should not be used as a substitute for competent therapeutic counsel from a licensed professional in your state.

Ask Alice: Helping Teenagers Deal With Fear in Frightening Times

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 18:00:04 +0000

War. Cancer. Kidnapping. Terrorism. Pandemic. Our world is scary and unsure at best. The ongoing list of fears can be never-ending, and with the rates of childhood anxiety increasing rapidly, its proof that our kids are not immune to fear either. In this episode, Alice hears from a parent whose child is struggling with the fear of death following Kobe Bryant’s passing. She discusses the mindset of a fearful child and their natural tendency to avoid talking about it, which unfortunately leads to additional fear and anxiety. Alice provides practical advice on approaching difficult circumstances with a child, as well as how to convey the peace and comfort that comes from the solid foundation of the Gospel.

Questions for Youth Groups:

What are the fearful events that affect you the most – globally and locally?
What are ways that you respond to these potentially uncertain circumstances?
If you could visibly see God in these events, would it change how you reacted? If so, how?
In Philippians 4, Paul speaks of the “peace of God which surpasses all understanding” – what does that mean for how we can live our lives and help those who may be overwhelmed with fears?

Ask Alice: Interview With Melody Lovvorn on Parenting Children Through a Divorce

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Melody Lovvorn) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:49 +0000

Questions for Reflection:

Melody discussed being an “elder brother” as part of her own sin. What are areas of sin that the Lord has revealed to you as you have walked through your own trauma?
How did you explain the divorce to your children? Has it been difficult for you to refrain from slandering your ex?
How can you use your painful experience to further the kingdom of God?

Resources:

Undoneredone.com – Melody and Traylor Lovvorn’s website and organization. The Lovvorns have an excellent podcast that you will find here, as well as on iTunes. Their podcast guests have included Elyse Fitzpatrick, Jackie Hill Perry, Dan Allender, and David Zahl, among many others.

The Smart Step-Family: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family by Ron L. Deal.

Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown. An excellent resource for parents of young children, this picture book works to answer the many questions children will have when they find out their parents are divorcing.

Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars by Marsha Means. For women whose husbands are caught in a web of sexual sin.

This podcast is made available to you by the Rooted Ministry for educational purposes only, not to provide specific therapeutic advice. The views expressed are the personal perspectives of the author and do not represent the views of all counselors or the profession. This podcast does not create a counselor-client relationship and should not be used as a substitute for competent therapeutic counsel from a licensed professional in your state.

Ask Alice: Lonely Teens During the Holidays

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:38 +0000

Ask Alice: On the Topic of Suicide

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:27 +0000

Suicide affects millions of Americans; it will affect nearly all of us directly or indirectly through the course of our lifetime. Our teens desperately for need for the adults in their lives to be equipped to share Biblical truth and hope whenever the topic comes up. We highly recommend Randy Alcorn’s beautiful piece, Suicide, Heaven, and Jesus- the Final Answer to Our Sorrow. Prompted by the recent suicide of beloved young pastor Jarrid Wilson, this article offers biblical consolation and hope for those grieving a suicide as well as those suffering from suicidal thoughts. Alcorn also links other resources you may find helpful, including biblical counselor Dave Powlison’s helpful booklet, Grieving a Suicide: Help for the Aftershock.

In the podcast Alice recommends the resources at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention; click here.

We also encourage you to check out youth ministry leader Walt Mueller’s articles: Adolescent Suicide: Number, Prayer, and a Helpful Handout… as well as Responding to Kids Who “Can’t Handle This Sucky World Any Longer.”

Resources from Rooted:

Alice Churnock’s extremely helpful article: If My Dad Loved Me, Why Did He Commit Suicide?

Articles about Thirteen Reasons Why, the Netflix series Alice references on the podcast.

Thirteen Reasons Why We Need to Have Conversations With Our Kids by Kristen Hatton

Hope This Helps: Responding to Thirteen Reasons Why by Charlotte Getz

For the issue of self-harm, which Alice discusses but differentiates from the desire to commit suicide, please see:

Understanding Self-Injury by Liz Edrington

A Call to Incarnational Ministry in the Face of Teen Self-Harm by Taylor Mendoza

The number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1-800-273-8255.

Ask Alice: A Conversation with Dr. Stacey Gilbert on Teenagers Struggling with Anxiety and Depression

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Alice Churnock, Stacey Stephenson Gilbert) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:15 +0000

In this episode of Ask Alice, licensed professional counselor Alice Churnock speaks with veteran pediatrician Stacey Gilbert, who answers questions from parents who are exploring medication as an option for their children. Dr. Gilbert dispels myths and encourages a balanced perspective on meds. With so many confusing and conflicting reports about medication, this episode of Ask Alice allows parents to hear the truth directly from a professional.

Dr. Gilbert addresses the following questions:

How young is too young to put a child on medication?

What would cause you to start a child on meds ? What symptoms are you looking for?

How long do most kids take meds and are they addictive?

What is a black box warning and should that deter us from starting a kid on meds?

How do medications work – what do they do for the brain?

As a Christian, how can I justify placing my child on medication?

On the Rooted blog , we work to address teen depression through the lens of the Gospel. Here are some articles and podcasts we hope you and the parents of your students will find helpful:

Only the Gospel Will Save Teens From Their Anxiety by Seth Stewart

To the Parent Struggling With a Struggling Teen by Kristen Hatton

Parenting A Child With Major Depressive Disorder by Ingram Link

Rooted Podcast: Dave Thomas on Adolescent Anxiety

Rooted Podcast: Gospel Contextualization of Anxiety and Academic Pressure in Affluent Suburban and Asian American Contexts with Cameron Cole and Clark Fobes

In addition, check out the Special Challenges section of our Resources tab for more Rooted articles and other resources on topics such as depression, grief, and perfectionism.

Ask Alice: Dealing With Disappointment

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:00 +0000

From Alice: The past week has been up and down in my office as the thought of heading back to school is starting to slap us all in the face. Where we live school starts in very early August. Just about every kid I’ve talked to has wanted to process their upcoming school schedule. So while the kids are dealing with disappointment, we’ve had some excellent parent questions this week on how to handle the let-downs our kids are facing.

Here are a couple of the questions Alice will be addressing in this month’s episode:

Riley Reed, a mom of three in Nashville: “My oldest daughter is 12 years old and she’s dedicated her time and energy to an incredible theater group in town. She’s put in long hours, paid for extra training and received high scores in the placement levels. However, for some unknown reason, she was not asked to advance to the upper level ensemble when a lot of her friends did. She’s sad, but honestly, I’m mad. How can I walk rightly with her through this disappointment, while I’m still hurt and frustrated too?”

Virginia in Virginia: “My son is going into 3rdgrade this year and several of his friends have moved away or are going to a different school. He’s so upset that he’s already made up his mind that its going to be a horrible year. How can I help him push past his disappointment and make the most of a hard situation?”

Ask Alice: Understanding Developmental Needs of Children Beyond the Classroom

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:58:39 +0000

Ask Alice: Liked but Still Lonely, the Realities of iGen Relationships with Technology

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:58:20 +0000

Ask Alice: On Spring Break and Bathing Suit Season

rootedoperations@gmail.com (Rooted Ministry) — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 18:12:22 +0000