The Codependent Perfectionist

People Pleasing and More with Diane Sorensen

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (diane sorensen, alana carvalho) — Fri, 24 Oct 2025 13:00:00 +0000

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High Functioning Codependents with Terri Cole

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (terri cole, alana carvalho) — Fri, 15 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Alana Carvalho, The Codependent Perfectionist, is discussing High Functioning Codependents (HFC) with Terri Cole - how to identify if you are one and steps you can take towards healing.

Chronic Pain & Codependency with Dr. Tawny Kross

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (tawny kross, alana carvalho) — Mon, 14 Apr 2025 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we're exploring the connection between chronic pain, people pleasing, and perfectionism.

Principles of Recovery with Kim Gross

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (kim gross, alana carvalho) — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 13:15:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore some key principles of recovery that Kim Gross talks about in her new book - Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation. Specifically, we touch on the importance of healing the inner child and also taking responsibility in recovery.

Body Image, Perfectionism and Joy with Alana VanDerSluys

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana vandersluys, alana carvalho) — Mon, 26 Aug 2024 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we have special guest, Alana VanDerSluys, talking about body image, eating disorder recovery and the connection with perfectionism. Alana shares about her own recovery journey and talks about her book Freedom with Food and Fitness.

Understanding Narcissistic Abuse with Sheri Heller LCSW, RSW

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (sheri heller, alana carvalho) — Mon, 1 Jul 2024 13:15:00 +0000

In this episode, Alana and Sheri are exploring narcissistic abuse and how to support someone who may be in a narcissistic relationship.

Supporting a Loved One with Mental Illness

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Fri, 7 Jun 2024 13:15:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss the difference between support and enabling when it comes to a loved one struggling with a mental health issue.

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents & Coping with Mother's/Father's Day

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (taylor damiani, alana carvalho) — Fri, 10 May 2024 13:15:00 +0000

In this episode, we have special guest Taylor Damiani. We're talking about how to cope with the holidays if you're an adult child of a narcissistic parents.

Working on Anxiety and Making Changes with Sabrina Zohar

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (sabrina zohar, alana carvalho) — Mon, 29 Apr 2024 13:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we have dating coach Sabrina Zohar from Do The Work Podcast discussing her own journey working through anxiety, learning how to depersonalize and make changes to support herself.

Repeated Patterns in Codependency Recovery

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we're talking all about how we tend to get repeated people and situations in our life and there's an important reason why!

Thoughtful Communication in Codependency Recovery

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Mon, 29 Jan 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we're talking about the importance of being thoughtful in how we communicate. Alana also shares on the difference of thinking through what we want to share versus walking on eggshells in relationships.

Talking About Relationships, Recovery, and Intimacy with Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (elizabeth fedrick, alana carvalho) — Fri, 14 Jul 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Alana and Dr. Liz chat about codependency recovery and how early child dynamics impact our adult relationships.

Understanding How Childhood with a Narcissistic Parent Impacts Codependency

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 23 Jun 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Alana speaks to how improper mirroring in childhood can impact our identity formation in our adulthood.

Talking All About "The Work" with Jacqueline Hurst

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Jacqueline Hurst, alana carvalho) — Fri, 12 May 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we're talking all about doing "the work" with Jacqueline Hurst and the willingness needed to go through the ups and downs of the therapeutic process. We chat about the difficulty of taking risks, putting up boundaries, and the benefits of getting to a place of peace.

Codependency Recovery, Self Love and the Importance of Presence with Candy Washington

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (candy washington, Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 24 Feb 2023 14:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we're chatting with Candy Washington on all things codependency recovery. Candy shares how she moved from a place of codependency to self love, presence and peace.

Perfectionism & Mental Health with Young Adults & Teens with Megan Gallagher

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (megan gallagher, alana carvalho) — Fri, 27 Jan 2023 14:00:00 +0000

In today's episode we're talking about mental health issues with young adults & teens. Megan shares her journey from discovering her own mental health issues to working on her recovery.

Understanding the Shadow

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we’re exploring the Jungian concept of the Shadow and how to relate it to recovery.

Parenting Spicy Children with Heidi Rogers

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Heidi rogers, Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 1 Jul 2022 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we’re talking with Heidi Rogers about parenting “spicy” children and how this differs from parenting neurotypical kids. We talk about what it’s like to be a codependent perfectionist parents of these kids and offer parenting strategies to help you navigate it more effectively.

Talking all about the True Self & Our Inner Voices with a Podcast Listener

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Tue, 7 Jun 2022 13:00:00 +0000

In today's discussion, we are talking all about inner voices. Specifically, we're explaining the difference between negative self talk and the inner self, how we distinguish between the 2 and how to show love to ourselves in recovery. *Please excuse the technical issues*

A Candid Chat on Parenting with a Podcast Listener

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Mon, 16 May 2022 15:08:15 +0000

In today's episode, I chat with a listener named Susan all about parenting. We discuss topics including making space for ourselves as mothers, how to navigate issues around codependency and perfectionism and much more!

Understanding Love Addiction with Sherry Gaba, LCSW

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (sherry gaba, alana carvalho) — Thu, 24 Mar 2022 14:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we're talking all about love addiction and codependency with Sherry Gaba, author of Love Smacked! We explore what love addiction looks like, trauma bonding, boundaries and more. You can find out more about Sherry and her online e-book & quiz here: https://sherrygaba.com/npquiz.

Clearing Up Misconceptions in Codependency

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 13:37:46 +0000

Today we're talking about some common questions people have when they're working on recovering from codependency. We'll clear up what codependency is not and consider where the line is between caring and codependency.

Truth, Stories, & Oracle Cards!

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Thu, 3 Feb 2022 17:43:35 +0000

In this episode, we explore the use or Oracle Cards and how to use them in the healing process. We also discuss the concept of Truth and the different ways this relates to the recovery process.

The Mindset of Victim in Recovery

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 14:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore how the mindset of victim can impact our recovery and ability to heal. We discuss what victim mindset means and how to go from disempowered to empowered!

Trauma Bonding & Recreating Relationship Patterns

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Tue, 30 Nov 2021 17:37:07 +0000

In today's episode, we discuss trauma bonding and why it's important for us to recreate relationship patterns in order to heal.

Parenting & Self-Care with Heather Chauvin

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho, heather chauvin) — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 14:45:20 +0000

In today's episode, we chat with Heather Chauvin, author of Dying to Be A Good Mother. We discuss issues around balance as a parent, codependency, perfectionism and Heather's journey through cancer recovery that helped her learn to take care of herself.

The Importance of Language in Recovery

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 3 Sep 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this episode we'll explore how language is an essential piece to improving relationships in the recovery process.

Spirituality in the Healing Process

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 17:37:29 +0000

In this episode we discuss how spirituality can play an important role in recovery from codependency and perfectionism.

Gaslighting with Children

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 13:00:00 +0000

In today's episode we explore what the concept of gaslighting looks like in our interactions with children. We'll identify terminology that could lead children to feel less trust in themselves and how to change it.

Depersonalizing Other’s Behavior

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana carvalho) — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 01:08:27 +0000

In this episode, we’re talking depersonalizing and learning how to separate out what’s about us vs. what’s about someone else.

Using Oracle Cards for Healing

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Fri, 23 Apr 2021 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, I explain what oracle cards are, how they came about and how they can be used to strengthen one's healing journey and relationship to Spirit!

Codependency & Coping with Food with Dani Bryant

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (dani bryant, alana carvalho) — Fri, 16 Apr 2021 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Dani Bryant and I take a look at the connection between food as a coping mechanism and codependency. We tackle the Karpman's drama triangle, what it really means to binge eat, and having compassion for ourselves in how we deal with our emotional struggles.

Prevention Parenting Strategies for Young Children with Polina Shkadron

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (polina shkadron, alana carvalho) — Fri, 2 Apr 2021 13:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, Polina Shkadron and I explore the importance of prevention with children and what it looks like. Polina gives some practical tools that parents can implement to help their children learn coping skills.

The Mother-Daughter Relationship Part 2

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 13:02:25 +0000

In this episode, I explore how the daughter can go about healing a codependent relationship with their parent. We're talking taking risks and learning to stand in our power!

The Mother-Daughter Relationship

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Thu, 18 Mar 2021 12:41:46 +0000

In todays episode I explore the mother-daughter dynamic. Specifically, I tackle how codependency and perfectionism can easily creep into the relationship and what we can do to begin to move out of the dysfunction.

Codependency & Couples with Christie Kim

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho, christie kim) — Tue, 23 Feb 2021 20:49:55 +0000

In this episode, we're chatting with Christie Kim, LMHC on how healing can happen in a codependent relationship especially through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Moving from Enmeshment to Empathy through Nuance Thinking

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana carvalho) — Sat, 6 Feb 2021 00:22:24 +0000

Today we’re talking about how changing how we think can influence our ability to experience empathy rather than enmeshment.

Codependency & Perfectionism in the Black Community with Ariel Emmanuel & Camille Lester

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho, camille lester, ariel emmanuel) — Wed, 30 Dec 2020 13:59:13 +0000

In this episode, we explore the cultural context of codependency and perfectionism in the Black community with mental health therapists Ariel Emmanuel & Camille Lester.

Codependency, Women & the Holidays with Johannah Bogart

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho, johannah bogart) — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 23:00:00 +0000

Today we're talking codependency and perfectionism in women, especially people pleasing with Johannah Bogart! We also dive into the holidays and gives some thoughts on how we can work on people pleasing over the holiday time.

Codependency & Relationships with Robert Sullivan

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (robert sullivan, alana carvalho) — Fri, 13 Nov 2020 14:00:00 +0000

Today Robert and I are discussing relationships based on codependency, how we can make changes to support ourselves and our sense of self-worth.

Perfectionism & Body Image with Dani Bryant

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (dani bryant, alana carvalho) — Fri, 6 Nov 2020 20:00:00 +0000

Today we're talking all about body image with Dani Bryant! Especially it's connection with perfectionism, where this comes from and how we can work on healing it.

Codependency & Alcohol with the Discerning Drinker

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (lindsey pratt, alana carvalho) — Wed, 12 Aug 2020 16:30:45 +0000

In this episode, Alana chats with Lindsey Pratt, the Discerning Drinker, discussing out of balance alcohol usage and it's connection with codependency.

Spirituality, Codependency, & Perfectionism

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Wed, 22 Jul 2020 15:00:17 +0000

Today we're talking about spirituality and it's connection to codependency & perfectionism. Codependency can be thought of as a lack of faith and perfectionism as a lack of trust. Listen to find out more about how to work through these spiritual issues!

Parenting Advice with Dr. Sarah Bren - Episode 17

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho, sarah bren) — Sat, 27 Jun 2020 13:43:19 +0000

In this episode, Dr. Sarah Bren and I discuss attachment, the good enough parent, attending to your child's emotions, postpartum anxiety and more!

Your Relationship with Your Codependent Parent - Episode 16

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 13:53:58 +0000

In this episode, we're discussing the issues with your codependent parent. What it looks like, emotions that are often present, and why it's often dysfunctional.

Codependency & Narcissism - Episode 15

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Lindsey Pratt, Alana Barlia, Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 8 May 2020 17:05:25 +0000

In this episode we have 2 special guests: Alana Barlia and Lindsey Pratt! Together, we talk about narcissism, personality disorders and codependency, especially common narcissistic traits, relationship patterns, and what to do if you're in one!

Parenting & COVID-19 - Episode 14

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Wed, 25 Mar 2020 00:11:24 +0000

Today I'm talking about parenting during the COVID-19 epidemic. Giving some support and tips on how to manage!

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 13

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana carvalho) — Fri, 21 Feb 2020 11:00:09 +0000

Today I interview 2 wonderful parents who have done some great work on their own codependency issues! Listen to them share their story of why they came into the support group and how they worked towards a new relationship with their children.

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 12

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alana carvalho) — Fri, 17 Jan 2020 17:00:11 +0000

It's all about Karpman's drama triangle today! We're discussing and identifying the different roles codependents take on in relationships.

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 11

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Wed, 8 Jan 2020 16:40:30 +0000

Today we're discussing codependency with siblings, adult and child! If you have this dynamic with any siblings or are concerned you're doing this as a parent, this episode is for you!

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 10

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Thu, 12 Dec 2019 11:00:13 +0000

Today we're talking friendship & codependency! In this episode, you will hear some of the ways codependency can show up in a friendship. From putting in more than the other person to not saying no, we cover some big relational issues.

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 9

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Wed, 4 Dec 2019 20:00:12 +0000

Today we're talking codependency in parenting with adult children. In this podcast, I explore what to do when you find yourself in an enabling dynamic with your adult child.

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 8

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Fri, 25 Oct 2019 17:12:53 +0000

We're talking stages of change in the recovery process today! Learn how it looks and where you may be at. As well as common issues that come up when we're working on our codependency and perfectionism!

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 7

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:33:25 +0000

Today we're talking about parenting! Especially parenting "sensitive," "hyperactive" or children with mental health issues. We speak about how not to bring too much fear into your parenting as well as how to separate from codependency in your child's recovery process.

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 6

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (alanacarvalhotherapy) — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 00:41:56 +0000

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The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 5

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Fri, 28 Jun 2019 14:21:43 +0000

Today is examples day! As requested, we go through 4 different examples of codependency in action at different ages. As always, feel free to e-mail your questions and comments to alana@acarvalhotherapy.com. Thanks!

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 4

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Wed, 29 May 2019 00:48:26 +0000

It's time for Q&A! In this episode, we take some time to answer listeners' questions regarding codependency in relationships. Hope you enjoy!

The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 3

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:58:45 +0000

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The Codependent Perfectionist Episode 2

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho, Lauren Talcott) — Mon, 8 Apr 2019 19:18:20 +0000

Episode 2 of The Codependent Perfectionist is here! Today, Lauren and I explore codependency and perfectionism in relation to both where it comes from and how it can play out in our romantic relationships. We also share some stories and tips on how to identify codependency in a relationship! We have so much more to discuss on these topics too!!

The Codependent Perfectionist Podcast Episode 1

alana@acarvalhotherapy.com (Alana Carvalho) — Tue, 26 Mar 2019 13:55:06 +0000

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