The Later Dater Today

Pt.2 Romantic Hope: What it Looks Like and How To Look for it

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Mon, 17 Mar 2025 22:21:47 +0000

I'm offering an online talk and workshop: "How To Date Humans" (Later in Life) at the Omega Institute on 03.19.25 Click on the link to sign up!

And if you want to take the word "baggage" out of your vocabulary of think of a better way to talk about your past and dig into someone else's consider this episode in the LDT catalog.

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

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The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.

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#57 "Romantic Hope Pt.1: The Importance of Romantic Hope During Challenging Times"

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 14 Feb 2025 23:18:24 +0000

Romantic Hope - NOT hopeless romantic - It might be one of the most important ideas developed by Lakshmi and The Later Dater today as we enter a new era in dating and relationships. People aren't just deleting the apps, they are beginning to torch the idea of romantic possibilities. So what is romantic hope and how and why is it actually a form of resilience? Tune into the first of several episodes that will explore this topic and this moment in dating.

Other episodes that explore Romantic Hope indireclty:

The Death of the Crush: Episode 19
Will I Ever Feel This Way Again? Episode 40

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Season 3 Premiere: #56 A New Take on The 'Open' Relationship

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 28 Nov 2024 20:46:21 +0000

Season 3 Premiere:
There's something beyond the idea of playing the field or going on a bunch of dates that "don't' go anywhere." What if you're just in the process of opening up again? What if these are 'open ' relationships? Join Lakshmi as she returns to her lifelong mission to improve dating culture and change the conversation around dating later in life.

Referenced in this episode:
"Can Niche Dating Apps Save Us?" From Season 6 of Vox Media's Land of The Giants

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#55 Listener Question Updates and Follow-ups: Jennifer, Ranjani and Bryan

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 20 Jul 2024 17:01:57 +0000

To listen to full episodes of Jennifer, Ranjani and Bryan check out episodes 14,51 and 54!

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#54 "How am I Supposed to Find a Relationship When I Feel Dead Inside?" Listener Question from Bryan, 51

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 00:25:00 +0000

Dead inside? Emotionally Unavailable? Let's take a closer look at what people. especially Later Dater Men might actually mean when they claim emotional unavailability.

The piece I co-authored with exceptional futurists from The Institute for The Future!

https://medium.com/foresight-matters/who-is-controlling-our-romantic-futures-and-what-your-heart-can-do-about-it-the-perils-and-promise-7f44a7444817

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#53 "What If Being Single Is Actually An Orientation?" -Paul, 49

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 5 Jul 2024 21:02:36 +0000

What if being single wasn't about NOT having a relationship or even looking for one, but feeling like your truest, best self is expressed when you are single? With more and more people actively choosing to be single, this is a great question and topic for Later Daters to ponder. Listen in as Lakshmi discusses another group that is overlooked; people for whom their Later Dater years are THE best years for them to be in relationship.

This episode is a follow up to episode 50 where Paul, 49 asked about the pros and cons of staying single vs dating now as a Later Dater. Check out that episode here.

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#52 Why You Should Go to Your High School Reunion & Why Reunions Matter More Than Ever

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sun, 23 Jun 2024 22:23:09 +0000

To reunion or not to reunion? Reunions can feel like a different sort of decision as a later dater. For some reunions are exciting for others the thought can be excruciating. In this episode Lakshmi explores the value of going to reunions for Later Daters Today and why reunions in general are really important as we get older. This IS NOT about a new way to source relationship leads this is about leading yourself to places and people from another time.

#51: "Why am I glad to be divorced but sad about being single?" Listener Question from Ranjani, 47

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 14 Jun 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Glad to be divorced but sad about being single? YYes, you can be glad about something behind you and sad about something in front of you. Listen in as Lakshmi reacts and reflects on Ranjani's story of being at a dinner party as a newly divorced woman in a sea of couples. This episode explores the journey from divorcee to single and how each represents a different part in the dating journey.

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#50 "What are the Pros & Cons of Staying Single vs. Dating?" Listener Question from Paul, 49

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sun, 9 Jun 2024 02:06:29 +0000

Is It Better to Stay Single or Date and Find a Relationship? - Celebrating Our 50th Episode!In this episode, we dive into a thought-provoking question from Paul, a 49-year-old listener who wants to know: Is it better to stay single or seek out a relationship? It's a question that hits different during the Later Dater window when there is no longer societal pressure to pair up. Listen in as Lakshmi answers this question in a way that explore the subject in a whole new way.

Episodes of The Later Dater Today referenced in this episode:

The Shape of Your Heart vs. Your Relationship History

Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger

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#49 How to Rethink Long Distance Relationships Today

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 31 May 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Episodes mentioned in this episode The Afterlife Set-Up (a true story of two 80 year olds who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic.
Lakshmi's LinkedIn post on Long Distance Relationships and Remote Work

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#48 How to Move to Friendship (After Having Feelings)

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 24 May 2024 15:54:05 +0000

There's more to the "Let's Be Friends" transition in modern dating and it's often overlooked. The order of how relationships progress has changed and this switch in order explains a lot. This is a critical thing for Later Daters to consider. Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!

#47 How to Date Like an Athlete (Without Playing Games)

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 18 May 2024 22:51:22 +0000

What is dating was sport rather than a game? How would that change things and what kind of athlete are you? Lakshmi explores and develops and analogy that could change your "game". Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!

#46 How to Think About Money & Compatibility

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 10 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Premiere: Is there another way to talk about and navigate money as a topic? Could we even turn it into another way to connect? Well, yes we can. There are so many different ways to think about and explore whether you have compatible ideas around the idea of money. Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!

Season 2: Preview & Research Updates

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 3 May 2024 22:29:19 +0000

A preview of forthcoming episodes, the tone of Season 2 and what we are researching now. Expect a season full of "How To" episodes now that the foundation has been set.

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Dating Climate Change and Why Golden And Later Are Different

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Wed, 24 Apr 2024 03:31:42 +0000

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"State of Date" Meditation/Prep Talk

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 13 Apr 2024 03:00:00 +0000

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#45 How to Get Into a "State of Date"

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 5 Apr 2024 22:54:18 +0000

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Stay tuned for a Bonus Episode with the meditation pulled out for easy use.

Later Dater today episodes referenced in this meditation

Everyone's a Museum and Most of Us Stay in the Lobby

Rethinking Wasted Time In Dating

I Don't Want to Repeat My Past

Baggage Vs. Luggage : How To Think About Your Past

Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger

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#44 How to Play the "Mid-Range" Game

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 29 Mar 2024 20:26:04 +0000

We assign moral judgment to ideas of how long or short a relationship goal is. But what if distance has nothing to do with whether or not a trip is worth it? A great companion episode to this is "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger."

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#43 How To Do A "Crush Audit"

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 22 Mar 2024 17:13:42 +0000

The companion episode to this is Episode 19: The Death of The Crush

Crushes are an incredibly important part our heart's history. As a Later Dater you may not have looked closely at people at moments where you developed a crush. It's worth taking a minute to look closely as these as you embark or keep on keeping on in your dating journey. Ditch the vision board and try looking at the people and moments that already caught your attention.

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#42 How to Set Yourself Up & The Lodge Line

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 15 Mar 2024 10:00:00 +0000

This episode includes tips on how to help the people who want to set you up, describe you in way that is about more than simply how great you are. One that paints a picture that might stick with someone long before they meet you.

For more detail and color on crafting a set up story listen to Lakshmi's interview on the Pivot Podcast!

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#41 The Unlisted Approach

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 8 Mar 2024 16:27:43 +0000

It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient?

References in this episode
Episode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast

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#40 "Will I Ever Feel That Way Again?": Listener Question from Gabe, 57

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 2 Mar 2024 04:08:29 +0000

After 20 years of marriage, Gabe, 57 is a year into his dating journey and he's wondering if he'll ever feel "that way" again.

Let's get clear on all the kinds of experiences, moments and feelings that you have to look forward to as a Later Dater. Breaking these down and getting clear can change how you date.

Mentioned in this episode: "I haven't dated since 1999"

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#39 Finding Connection in Contrast and Differences

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 24 Feb 2024 01:47:39 +0000

Share this with anyone who thinks that they "must" date someone who has the same relationship history as them (divorced, kids, didn't marry, widowed) etc. The best part about Later Daters today is the diversity of choices that were made by people. Listen in as Lakshmi walks you through how you think about connecting even if you lived very different lives.

Mentioned in this episode - a whole new way to think about baggage as a Later Dater. Check out the episode Baggage or Luggage: How To Think About Your Past

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#38 Ask For Focus Instead of a Relationship

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 16 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Be sure to follow on Instagram as we begin bringing concepts from the podcast to life. https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today

In this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people.

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Valentine's Bonus: The Afterlife Set-Up

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 20:10:20 +0000

A much longer format and style than the Later Dater Today podcast, we bring you the true story of two 80 somethings who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic after 40 years apart. This is more "Golden" than "Later" but a true and hopeful story has no age. Enjoy!

To read more about the precursor podcast to The Later Dater Today, read Vanity Fair's review of Paired By The People.

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#37 The Root of Finding the Right Person

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 9 Feb 2024 10:00:00 +0000

It's been a big week and it will be a big week. Why might it be more important to think of reasons to root for someone rather than trying to figure out if they're right for you? It's time to mention the relationship of the year without having them be the central spectacle. There is honestly something to be learned from the unfolding of their relationship.

Mentioned in the episode: Lakshmi's interview with Scott Galloway on the Prof G podcast. Where she talks modern dating and reasons why we might think about height differently among other topics in modern dating.

For more question ideas to uncover why to root for someone or what they're striving towards check out Ep 36: Signs of Success vs. Signs of Striving.

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#36 Signs of Success vs Signs of Striving

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 2 Feb 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Success seems like a quality we should look for in.people we date. But what is success and what if something like the quality of striving is more important now? Maybe you're wondering what striving is. Listen in as Lakshmi talks about the difference and offers tools on how to assess the degree to which someone is striving in their life.

Mentioned in the podcast Scott Galloway and The Prof G Podcast.

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#35 Artificial Intelligence And The Later Dater

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 26 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0000

An important overview of what to expect as AI continues to unfold itself into modern dating culture. The Later Dater Today is about more than how to date today - it's also about understanding what's happening in dating and where it's headed so that you can navigate it all.

To hear more in depth coverage of AI and the Future of Dating check out the work of me and Sangeeta Singh-Kurtz is Episode 6 of Land of The Giants: Dating Games

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#34 The Issue With Dating "Goals"

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 20 Jan 2024 03:26:14 +0000

Listen in on a new way to think about the dating goals that matter today for a Later Dater. It was way less to do with how much you date but rather how you interact with the world - keeping your interaction and connection muscles strong.

A few episodes are referenced to revisit and actually apply the lesson outlined in the episode in addition to simply listening.

#3: Everyone Is A Museum And Most Of Us Stay In The Lobby

#20 The Shape Of Your Heart Vs. Your Relationship History

#19 The Death Of The Crush And Why Your Past Crushes Matter Today

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#33 Go Ahead and Age Yourself

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 12 Jan 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Let's discuss one dimension of "age" culture around the idea of what it means to "age yourself". Lakshmi dives into these common expressions that can feel more like we should hide our rage rather than use it as a point of connection; especially between Later Daters. And you'll hear a practical way to rewire whatever you think about your age as she offers new ways to talk about your past in way that is grounded in the present. And wait until you hear about the concept of a "Vintage Story".

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#32 Organic Connections Today and The Power of Tupperware

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 5 Jan 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Let's dive into the gradual decline of everyday organic moments instead of any "resolution" type content, This isn't meant to be a bummer, it's meant to remind you of things we've lost along the way. It's not just tech and the pandemic. And if we understand a bit more about what happened we can tap into some of our 20th Century wiring:)

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#31 Rethinking Wasted Time In Dating

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 29 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Conversations about modern dating can often revolve around an intense desire to "not waste time". Let's dig into it. As we get older, we might feel like time is not on our side, but maybe it's on our side in a new way.

If you have some time to think more about time, we recommend Episode 15: "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger"

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#30 The Heartbreak Plan For Later Daters

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 23 Dec 2023 03:23:02 +0000

After many conversations with Later Daters, Lakshmi heard something to the effect of "I just can't get hurt or risk having my heartbroken as I date." We get it. So let's take a look at this common concern and talk about it before, instead of after, it happens.

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#29 What Gen Z Understands About Dating, Why It Matters and Why They Love Gen X

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 15 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Between the introduction of Tinder and the 2020 pandemic we have a decade of swiping behind us. Tinder made its mark because it brought an influx of singles (20 somethings) into a dating pool that nobody ever thought they'd find themselves in. Now that same demographic but a different generation is rejecting it. What can we learn about how to better accept what dating apps have to offer by taking a closer look at why Gen Z seems to be rejecting them? Lakshmi brings her thoughts to the headlines.

More on the decline in dating app usage:
https://www.newsweek.com/dating-apps-decline-tinder-bumble-match-1842834

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#28 What Do You Find Attractive...Today?

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Mon, 11 Dec 2023 04:05:47 +0000

Listen in as Lakshmi shares how Later Daters are rethinking and revisiting what they even think is attractive. This is about more than just exploring other "types" this is about taking a look at what might be attractive today...what attributes, traits and qualities matter to you more now? They may or may not be what they used to be.

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#27 Beyond "The Gratitude" Question: A Thanksgiving Episode

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 04:16:56 +0000

Not to knock the tradition of asking "What are you grateful for?" at Thanksgiving but with all we now know about the importance of questions there's got to be something better.

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#26 The Role of Place And Space On A Date

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 10 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Ever think: I need to come up with better date ideas?

Before you begin googling "novel date ideas" first consider the role of space and how to make the circumstances around you work for you.

In this short 9 minute episode Lakshmi discusses how environment might affect your ability to get to know people and how you can make this work for you.

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#25 It's Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect: A Key Later Dater Insight

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 3 Nov 2023 08:00:00 +0000

This simple but important insight lives at the center of The Later Dater Today: It's Become Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect. Later Dater Today Host, Lakshmi walks you through the difference between meeting and connecting and how simply understand this difference can make all the difference.

Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com

And artist/new friend referenced in the episode? Right here:
https://www.gabrielleguthrie.com

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#24 Meg Ryan's New Movie and Reconnecting With Someone From Your Past

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 27 Oct 2023 08:00:00 +0000

What Happens Later Trailer, Starring Meg Ryan & David Duchovny
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zceSigCGWSQ

The Afterlife Set-up: Two 80-somethings reconnect in the pandemic after being set-up by a spirit from the beyond. Hear the incredible story here:
https://www.pairedbythepeople.com/featuredepisodes/project-three-x6djm-dz7lj

Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#23 "I've Never Been Married And Feel Like It's A Mark Against Me": Listener Question from Susanna, 46

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 20 Oct 2023 08:00:00 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Not getting married isn't and shouldn't feel like a mark against you. But it's easy to feel or think that it is. But EVERY Later Dater can potentially feel like there is a label slapped on them (divorced, never married, widowed, married multiple times). It's what we make it mean that matters.

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#22 Don't Date Someone You Like

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 13 Oct 2023 12:08:59 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Being so focused on "liking" someone might actually be getting in the way of connecting with them.

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#21 Later Dater Labels and Stigmas

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 6 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Stigmas can be ways that we label and categorize people and ourselves in the modern dating world. But what are stigmas really and how can they be something that might even bring you closer to people you meet?

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#20 The Shape of Your Heart vs. Your Relationship History

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 29 Sep 2023 06:30:00 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: As a Later Dater you might be looking for different ways and words to describe where you've been and what you're looking for now. The idea of taking a look at the "shape" of your heart might actually tell you more than the standard question "what's your relationship history?"

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#19 The Death of The Crush: And Why Your Past Crushes Matter Today

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 09:06:39 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: As a Later Dater tapping into memories of crushes can offer clues to who you were and what you found attractive before a dating culture driven by dating apps.

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#18 Top Traits of Later Daters Today

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 15 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Being a great Later Dater means way more than building a good profile. We've become a culture so obsessed with marketing ourselves that we sometimes forget what it means to actually be good at dating.

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#17 How Do I Meet Women If I Don’t Want To Use Dating Apps?: Listener Question from Graham, 56

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 8 Sep 2023 07:13:11 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: The idea of meeting people outside of the apps is being asked more and more while it feels like there are fewer and fewer options for it. But as Later Daters you might actually have the skill and experience to be less reliant on the apps.

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#16 "Being Open" as a Later Dater

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 1 Sep 2023 01:57:33 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: It's worth taking the time to think about exactly what you mean by "being open" when it comes to dating.Otherwise, "being open" can turn into concessions you're willing to make rather than possibilities you're willing to invite.

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#15 Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger: Better Ways To Measure Romantic Impact

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 24 Aug 2023 22:35:19 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Length of time doesn't always equal strength and depth. Go ahead and have a little laugh, but this is an important thing to remember as a Later Dater so that you don't project to far into the future.

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#14 "I Haven't Dated Since 1999": Listener Question from Jennifer, 48

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 17 Aug 2023 21:45:39 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: A tendency among Later Daters is to let numbers get in the way of moving forward. Numbers seem like facts and simple true statements until we kick them around a bit. Whether its age, height, weight or years, it's worth building a solid relationship with the numbers in your life.

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#13 "I Don't Want To Repeat The Past": Listener Question from Mark, 52

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 10 Aug 2023 20:40:05 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: A common thought and block among Later Daters is "Will I repeat the past?" And while this seems like a smart high level strategy, it can actually keep you in confusion, swirl and wrap you in a nice cloak of judgmental energy.

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#12 Heartbreak And The Later Dater Part 2: The Overlooked Value of Heartache

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 3 Aug 2023 21:27:42 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: In this 2nd part on heartbreak and heartache, Lakshmi goes into one of the easy-to-overlook benefits when you're moving through hurt and disappointment. Our culture talks more about heartbreak and heartache as things we must "get over" rather than things we might "get into." This refreshing perspective might have you thinking and feeling differently about how you want to use this period.

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#11 Do I Want To Deal With This? How to Listen to Someone Else's Less-Than-Perfect Past

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 28 Jul 2023 17:04:34 +0000

Why you should listen to this episode: Lakshmi shares a strategy for Later Daters on how to skillfully listen and respond to a person's less than perfect past. Discover how to best build a connection when someone opens up about their perceived "baggage" and turn it into a connective experience you can feel good about.

Who is a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days.

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#10 Heartbreak and The Later Dater Part 1: Why You Never Want To Outgrow It

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 21:46:14 +0000

In this episode, Lakshmi explores one of the most universal human experiences - heartbreak - and why it is different for a Later Dater. Whether you're currently going through heartache or have in the past, this episode will provide insight and perspective for those looking to process and own this challenging and humbling experience. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#9 Baggage or Luggage? How To Think About Your Past

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 14 Jul 2023 01:54:35 +0000

Lakshmi explores the idea of “baggage” in today’s dating culture and the sneaky way it can show up for Later Daters in particular. Sometimes weighing people like an anchor rather than filling them up with momentum and excitement about the future.

Even terms like divorce, widow, infidelity, never married; they're not just words, they can shape our experience and your ability to connect with others.

As A Later Dater it's worth figuring out how you want to talk about your past in way that give people a glimpse into who you are rather than simply reaching for the nearest available description.

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#8 The Problem With "The Numbers Game"

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 6 Jul 2023 18:06:41 +0000

You've probably heard it before..."You have to get out there and play the numbers game." Lakshmi sheds light on why this belief can actually hurt your chances in dating. Listen to learn a different numbers game worth playing that will truly help Later Daters. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#7 From Sitting To Swiping: A Quick History of The Dating Industry

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Sat, 1 Jul 2023 20:43:58 +0000

Making the most of dating today as a Later Dater means understanding how we got here...in episode 7, Lakshmi offers a short 20 minute history of key watershed moments in recent dating history and why they matter. For a much deeper look at what's happened in the past ten years, listen to episode one of Vox Media's Land of The Giants: Dating Games, which is a comprehensive history of the key players and companies of which many people are not aware.

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#6 When Dating Feels Overwhelming: Intergalactic Dating Part 2

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Fri, 23 Jun 2023 03:12:00 +0000

Dating has changed significantly in the past 10-20 years. Part 2 looks at an aspect of Intergalactic Dating that may be unique to Later Daters. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#5 Why Most Dating Advice is Sh*tty

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Wed, 14 Jun 2023 22:08:41 +0000

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#4 When Dating Feels Overwhelming: Intergalactic Dating Part 1

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 8 Jun 2023 23:46:03 +0000

In part 1 of this insightful 2-part series, Lakshmi invites Today's Later Daters to rethink the cosmic and often surreal experiences of modern dating through the lens of...Star Trek. Listen in on how lessons from voyaging in the vastness of outer space can help you better understand your own dating journey. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#3 Everyone Is a Museum and Most of Us Stay in the Lobby

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 19:40:12 +0000

Stop with the "Give People A Chance". Listen in to how this simple metaphor can change your perspective on dating. It's another foundational Later Dater insight!

Dating later in life has changed. The Later Dater Today is reimagining and rethinking what it means to date later in life. There are MANY reasons why someone might be dating later in life.

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#2 We're All Dating All The Time

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 18:00:13 +0000

Dating Later in Life has changed. We are reimagine and thinking what it means to be dating later in life today.

Learn one of the foundational concepts for Today's Later Dater, "We're All Dating All The Time". Lakshmi walks you through this key principle she brings to all her work around connection but especially when it comes to dating. Dating is not just something single people do. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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#1 The Later Dater Today: Who, Why and What To Expect

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 13:37:19 +0000

An exciting introduction to The Later Dater Today, who that is, why now and what to expect. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.

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Welcome To The Later Dater Today

info@thelaterdatertoday.com (The Later Dater Today ) — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 13:23:11 +0000

Why The Later Dater Today and Why Now. This short manifesto offers an overview and sneak peek behind the inspiration and thinking for The Later Dater Today.

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