The Fresh Approach Podcast: skills & strategies to live your healthiest & happiest life!

My terrifying BACK ON TRACK story!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 6 Jun 2019 17:45:04 +0000

Today I’m telling you all about my harrowing BACK ON TRACK experience which illustrates once again the whole "back on track" idea is a huge misconception. But the experience taught me it was clearly time for a MINDSET upgrade!

Plus we’re challenging some popular motivational quotes and putting a FRESH APPROACH twist on them. A healthy dose of "Adjust, Adapt, and Pivot" always works! Try these out!

And cue the trumpets!

The Fresh Approach SUMMER COACHING SESSION is open now!

CLICK HERE FOR ALL THE DETAILS!

When you register by June 14, 2019, you have your choice of bonuses!

When you choose to work with me for SIX WEEKS and make your payment in full (or your first of two payments) by June 14, 2019, you can choose your BONUS!

30-minute MIND-BODY session where I’ll teach you effective tools for stress management... so you can get clear on what's really bugging you at 10 p.m. instead of rummaging through the kitchen for cookies.
Or a 30-minute "Get Clear On Your WHY" session where I'll guide you through a series of questions and scenarios to help you discover your true motivation... so you're empowered from within to take the best care of yourself each day!

When you decide to work with me for THREE MONTHS and make your payment in full (or your first of three payments) by June 14, 2019, you can choose your BONUS!

30-minute MIND-BODY session + a 30-minute "GET CLEAR ON YOUR WHY" session.
Or, a 60-minute IDEAL DAY session where I’ll guide you through a powerful visualization exercise as we walk through a day in your ideal life. This is a truly amazing experience!

Also in this episode, I mention three videos I created recently:

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My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life by cultivating healthy practices with a peaceful, Fresh Approach. I’m a Life Coach. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast, the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, my social media, and email community - means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

HOW Game of Thrones got me more peace...and apple pie!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Mon, 20 May 2019 00:08:06 +0000

In this episode, we’re talking about a HABIT you might have (I know I do!) that gets in the way of YOU taking the best care of yourself...and WHAT you can do about it! I'm giving you TWO
stories from my own life - being real vulnerable here - and how I'm taking steps to transform this unfortunate habit into a kinder practice...and you can too!

Plus, my brilliant client Monica is GETTING CLEAR and SHOWING UP for herself in the BEST way possible! She's baking an apple pie! WHY is that the best thing she can do for herself right now? Find out how Monica is using her tools, skills, and strategies to continually move herself forward and create an awesome life for herself!

Please HELP me...to help YOU! And yes, that's a JERRY MAGUIRE reference. Tell me what you'd like to hear me talk about more - what you'd like to learn more about...on this podcast! CLICK HERE for the 2-question survey. Seriously, it'll take you like 30 seconds. Thank you!

The Fresh Approach SUMMER COACHING session begins soon! You can cultivate the same tools, skills, and strategies Monica is using to make consistent progress on her lifelong journey! And YOU can make the progress you’ve been wishing for too! We’ll work together to create your personalized plan that covers all the essential healthy living practices - and I personally check in with you - yep, I’m your accountability partner - and we'll work through the things that get in the way of you following through with your daily plan! That’s where most of us get stuck
anyway, right? You know what to do, and basically how to do it, but then life happens. But NO WORRIES...we'll work together on the LIFE HAPPENING part! This summer you can work with me one-on-one. More details are coming soon, but if you’d like the info early - or to reserve your seat for the summer session - just email me: mary@maryeclark.com.

If you'd like to join us in the Fresh Approach Facebook Group - first you need to know a couple things. There are a few questions to answer before you can be invited in (after you click the link), you will be included in my email community, AND I do tag members in the group to see how they're doing - if they're taking the best care of themselves. If you're good with all of this, then CLICK THIS LINK to join us!

HOW to use your mistakes to solve future problems before they happen!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 28 Apr 2019 13:15:00 +0000

In this episode, I'm sharing my own "I CAN'T BELIEVE I DID THAT" story...which includes really weird choices at the HAPPIEST place on earth...and HOW I turned that experience into a way I solve my future problems - and you can do this too!

And we're talking about HYDRATION because so many people find it a REAL challenge! Let's talk about what YOU can do to stay HYDRATED!

Plus you'll meet Stephanie and find out WHY it may not be the best idea for her to follow through with her next workout...NO exercise! That's right, I said it! You'll follow our conversation and learn HOW Stephanie arrived at the alternative step she could make and STILL take the best care of herself!

Remember, everything we're talking about here is ACTIONABLE for you!

CLICK HERE to watch my VIDEO on RESILIENCE, highlighting the points I made about this wholehearted living practice in episode #44.

CLICK HERE to join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group - there are questions to answer before you can be added and you'll be part of my email community. Plus, you may occasionally be "tagged" in the group to see how you're doing with hydration, nutrition, exercise and more! So if you're okay with that, I'd love to welcome you!

Practical "forever" solutions, delightful food, and filling up your JOY jar!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 14 Apr 2019 13:15:00 +0000

"I'm dealing with a slight regain...looking for a long term solution." Well, let's talk about long term solutions - not only for your healthy weight but for ALL your healthy living practices. Is there REALLY something out there that can work forever? Yes, there is.

And you may be able to relate to Shannon’s tough situation...because, in one way or another, my hunch is it's happened to you too...mindset matters here.

Plus, it's super important to keep your food choices interesting - lest you get stuck in a rut! And how's your sleep? We'll talk about both.

And HOW can you prepare yourself for HARD things coming your way? You fill up your JOY jar...so when hard things happen, your joy-reservoir is filled and ready to go!

Let’s get started!

CLICK HERE to watch Brené Brown's TED Talk, "The Power of Vulnerability".

CLICK HERE to watch her TED Talk, "Listening to Shame".

CLICK HERE for her awesome audiobook, although it's really a LIVE talk and it's soooooo good, "The Power of Vulnerability".*

CLICK HERE to join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group! There are 2-3 questions to answer before you can be added. And heads up! From time to time I do tag members in the group to check on how they're doing with their healthy practices...accountability! If you're good with that, then join us!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life by cultivating healthy practices with a peaceful, Fresh Approach. I’m a Life Coach. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

*affiliate link

This is BULL-SH...Baloney AND the 1000+ calories EXIT Strategy Part 2!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Tue, 2 Apr 2019 13:30:00 +0000

First, I've gotta speak about this BULL-SH...baloney, because there is NO WAY I will let you think you deserve this kind of message - I don't care who it's from.

NO WAY! I want you to see it for the BALONEY it is, and leave it out of your life.

And, I'm taking you back into another scene from my life when I used the Burrito Exit Strategy and HOW I once again avoided pulling into the drive-thru! I put on my detective hat and within a few steps I figured out what was REALLY going on! I didn't try to cover up what I was feeling with food, shopping, or anything else.

And when I finally GOT CLEAR on what was making me want to pull into the drive-thru...I did THIS instead.

No drive-thru. No burrito. No McGriddle.

WOW, how many calories have I saved myself in the last week???? At least 1000!

Ready to do this? Let's get started...

For more information on The Fresh Approach SPRING COACHING session, CLICK HERE!

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In the episode, I talk about HOW doing aerobics with Jane Fonda got me through my dad's death and my divorce when I was 22. CLICK HERE to read it!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life by cultivating healthy practices with a peaceful, fresh approach. I’m a Life Coach. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

HOW to save yourself from eating 1000+ calories every week...The Exit Strategy!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Tue, 26 Mar 2019 14:34:00 +0000

Willpower, self-discipline, and self-control are NOT the winning solutions for lifelong health they’re alleged to be…and they won’t help you break those so-called “bad habits”.

Today we’re talking REAL STRATEGY! My Burrito Exit Strategy!

Today we're going back in time to when I was driving down the street CRAVING a burrito. The problem is - it was only 9 a.m. and I had already had breakfast and two bottles of water! So why did I want a burrito SOOOOO BADLY?!!! Well, I'm gonna tell you HOW I figured out what was REALLY going on, and how I stopped myself from eating that burrito...and you can do it too!

In this episode, I announce the Fresh Approach SPRING COACHING session is open! Now it’s your turn to experience what it’s like to wake up every morning with confidence – knowing you have a personalized plan for your day all laid out! No second-guessing or worrying necessary! And, you can go to bed each night feeling good about the choices you made, knowing you took THE BEST care of yourself throughout the day.

You can choose the date & time for your [FREE 30-minute Get Clear session by CLICKING RIGHT HERE!][1]
We’ll GET CLEAR on the goals you’d like to achieve.
Your challenges and the things that keep getting in your way.
You’ll leave our conversation with clear & simple steps to begin moving in the direction of your goals.
You can ask me all your questions, and if it feels like a fit we’ll talk about working together.

[What’s your financial investment? CLICK HERE for all the details!][2] I hope we’ll be talking soon!

Would you like to join us in the Fresh Approach Facebook Group? There are 3 questions to complete before you can be added. And...Heads Up! I occasionally "tag" members in the group to "check in"and see if they're taking steps to take the best care of themselves...ACCOUNTABILITY! [If you're good with all of this, then CLICK HERE to join us!][3]

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[3]: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FreshApproachSupportGroup/

When you're NOT where you WANT to be on your WLS journey.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 8 Mar 2019 15:00:00 +0000

"All that you said is so true...thank you for the reminder." ~Liz

Liz needed to hear this message, and you may need it too. In this episode, we're tackling what could be GETTING IN THE WAY of you achieving your goals. And this isn't me calling you out and saying it's because you don't have enough willpower, self-discipline, blah, blah, blah. Actually, we're going COMPLETELY in the other direction!

Just this week I heard from a new client, "I haven’t done quite as well as I hoped." Even though, after not exercising for the past four months, she went for a walk 3 out of the last 5 days!

What do you expect from yourself?

What are you missing?

Well, I'm pointing it out in this episode..so let's get started.

To WATCH the video I mention in this episode, CLICK HERE.

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group...

Heads up! I occasionally "tag" members of the group to "check in"and see if they're taking steps to take the best care of themselves...ACCOUNTABILITY! There are 3 quick questions to answer BEFORE you can be added to the group. ALL questions MUST be answered including providing your email address. Thank you.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE GROUP!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

If you're COMPARING your WLS journey to other WLS patients...

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 17:30:00 +0000

In this episode, we’re talking about the slippery slope of comparison, and how a seemingly 'general interest' in checking how you’re doing compared to other weight loss surgery patients with similar stats - can turn into a downward spiral of comparison shame.

The LAST thing you need for your WLS journey is unnecessary baggage! We're working on releasing extra weight, right?!!

But let's talk about how YOU CAN get information from fellow WLS patients that CAN help you along your journey!

Let's get started.

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group...

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE GROUP!

HOW to SHOW UP for yourself...and why we need you to.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 15 Feb 2019 14:30:00 +0000

In this episode, we're talking about what it means to SHOW UP for yourself EVERY day! Yes, there's a lot you need to do to take care of yourself - and you may think if you skip a few things or even give up on something...that it's only YOU who "suffers the consequences".

But when you don't SHOW UP, when you're not at your BEST...it affects your whole life and everybody in it.

So the opposite must be true too, right?

Good news...IT IS TRUE! When you SHOW UP for yourself there's a ripple-effect and your whole life expands! You'll really be living your BEST LIFE!

Whether you're creating your healthiest & happiest life with or without weight loss surgery, this message is for you!

So let's get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group...

Everybody is welcome...but heads up! I occasionally "tag" members of the group to "check in"and see if they're taking steps to take the best care of themselves...ACCOUNTABILITY! There are questions to answer BEFORE you can be added to the group. ALL questions MUST be answered including providing your email address. Thank you.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE GROUP!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with or without weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental healthy living practices. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

The February Fresh Start! AHHHHHMAZING by April!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Tue, 5 Feb 2019 15:00:00 +0000

February is FRESH START month! But this year we're doing it a new way.

Imagine it’s APRIL and you’re feeling AHHHHHMAZING about the progress you’ve made in your WLS journey!

You finally figured out a meal planning + prepping system that works for you, and as a result you feel more in control of your nutrition, your confidence has increased…and you’ve released weight.

You’re exercising consistently. You tried some new workouts and created fitness backup plans! As a result you feel stronger physically, mentally, and emotionally…and you’ve released weight.

You’ve been managing unplanned eating. Now, you’re not eating because of stress, boredom, frustration or for other non-hunger reasons. As a result you feel happier, you’re looking forward to creating new goals for your life…and you’ve released weight.

Sounds good, right?

Well, let's get started with this SPECIAL EDITION of the Fresh Approach Podcast!

The "February Fresh Start" is all filled up now! For other coaching options, contact Mary! mary@maryeclark.com

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, CLICK HERE. There are 3 quick questions to answer BEFORE you can be added to the group.

WHY you need to make peace with your pre-surgery self IF you want long-term WLS success.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Wed, 30 Jan 2019 21:30:00 +0000

This is one of those "me getting real honest with you about my life" episodes...a few tears were shed during this recording.

But it was important for me to be real with you and let my emotions flow, because THIS is so often the missing link to long-term weight loss surgery success.

What I hear too often is, "I can't stand who I was before I had surgery...I was a loser...I was a failure...I had no self-discipline or self-control..."

If you don't get clear on who you were and WHY, pre-surgery, and make peace with yourself...you'll be at odds with yourself and your weight loss surgery journey until you do.

This comes down to self-compassion, understanding who you were before surgery, and sending a big hug to your pre-surgery self for all you were going through then.

You can't do anything good for yourself - for an extended period of time - when you're feeling bad about yourself, when you're beating yourself up.

Let's work on sustainable practices - heart & mindset shifts - to get you on the road to living your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery.

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group CLICK HERE! There are three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group. ALL questions must be answered, thank you.

You can always email me: mary@maryeclark.com

You can visit my Facebook page by CLICKING HERE and clicking the LIKE PAGE button once you're there - so you can see my posts!

And yes, I have a book, which is really a journal of what I was going through, thinking about and noticing, my first year after surgery. "NOW IT'S MARY'S TURN - Year One" is available in paperback, CLICK HERE to purchase on AMAZON. Or you can get the Audiobook + eBook + eWorkbook by CLICKING HERE!

Heads up! The Amazon link is an affiliate link.

SENSATIONAL Success Strategies for 2019!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Tue, 15 Jan 2019 15:15:00 +0000

Happy New Year - and let's make this an AMAZING 2019!

But wait! We're already halfway through the month??? Well, not a moment too soon for THIS episode!

Today, I'm responding to THREE new members of the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, when I asked them...

"What are your challenges right now? What kind of support are you looking for?"

We're talking about snacking & grazing at night, getting back on track, sticking to a plan, getting SUPER clear on your WHY so you have INTRINSIC MOTIVATION, and HOW to maintain your weight once the "honeymoon" is over!

So let's get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

You can always email me! mary@maryeclark.com

Holiday fears? How to make your WLS plans sweet, simple & sustainable!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Mon, 3 Dec 2018 14:00:00 +0000

This episode is from my recent Facebook LIVE. And because it was BURSTING with so much good stuff, I didn't want you to miss out!

If you want to watch the video on my Facebook page, CLICK HERE!

We're talking about...

WHAT to do about holiday fears... "Oh no! It’s December!"

WHY some WLS friends told me they weren’t ready for accountability.

HOW to keep your WLS plans SWEET, SIMPLE & SUSTAINABLE during the holidays!

HOW to set a holiday intention and WHY this can make a profound impact on your WLS journey.

Plus, what I think about the pouch reset.

So let’s get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group CLICK HERE! There are three questions to answer BEFORE you can be added to the group.

If you're not on Facebook and you rather be part of my email community only, just EMAIL ME! mary@maryeclark.com. Introduce yourself and let me know what you'd like to hear about in future podcasts!

Get your WLS "mojo" back with a BLAST from the PAST!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sat, 17 Nov 2018 00:50:00 +0000

Remember those early days after surgery when you weren't having thoughts like...

"I’ve gained 35 pounds and I feel like my tool isn’t working anymore!
I’m stuck because I struggle with motivation!
I'm just trying to get my head back in the game!
I've regained 35 pounds and I'm fighting to get it back off!"

No, you weren't thinking those thoughts then - because those were the days of confidence, empowerment, control, excitement, and anticipation!

But NEVER FEAR!

Because we're going to take a step back in time and find your missing weight loss surgery MOJO!

We're not traipsing back in time so you can land yourself in a place where you’re just feeling nostalgic for the good old "early post-op" days - that wouldn't be helpful!

Instead, we're heading back to locate the feelings, emotions, and physical sensations of your MISSING MOJO!

AND...you get to sit back as I read "A Tale of Two Thanksgivings!" Yes, the stories of my first two Thanksgiving celebrations after surgery.

SO MUCH GOOD STUFF HERE!

Come on...it's time to go!

In this episode you'll hear about my book, "Now It's Mary's Turn - Year one!" Want to learn more about it? Just CLICK HERE!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group: there are THREE questions to answer before you can be added. #1. Your email address. #2. What are your challenges, what kind of support are you hoping for? #3. When did you have surgery, what type, or are you pre-op? CLICK HERE TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS AND JOIN THE GROUP!

If you're not on Facebook and you rather be part of my email community only, just EMAIL ME! mary@maryeclark.com. Introduce yourself and let me know what you'd like to hear about in future podcasts!

Sweetheart, STOP doing that...if you want to achieve your goals!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 1 Nov 2018 23:00:00 +0000

Today we're talking about OBVIOUS changes you can make in your life - so you can achieve your goals!

Sounds great, right?

But the only problem is, these changes aren't OBVIOUS to you.

You can't see your way through a problem.
You've pretty much given up on trying to make a situation...better.

But YOU KNOW I'm not going to leave you hanging there!

I've got a story for you, when I INSISTED that I should be able to keep doing something, no matter how much it hurt!

However, my doctor...did not agree with me.

I'm going to walk you through my stubbornness and unwillingness to see my situation differently...

And you may see a little of yourself, in me.

PLUS I'm going to walk you through the steps to FIND YOUR WAY around your problem!

Or we can go THROUGH it, UNDERNEATH it, or ON TOP of it...

whatever works for you.

But the point is...you're not going to let this situation stand in your way - anymore.

Because...everything is FIGUREOUTABLE!

So let's get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group: there are THREE questions to answer before you can be added. #1. Your email address. #2. What are your challenges, what kind of support are you hoping for? #3. When did you have surgery, what type, or are you pre-op? CLICK HERE TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS AND JOIN THE GROUP!

If you're not on Facebook and you rather be part of my email community only, just EMAIL ME! mary@maryeclark.com. Introduce yourself and let me know what you'd like to hear about in future podcasts!

When lizards, squirrels & bees get in the way of your GOALS...do this!!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 19 Oct 2018 19:30:00 +0000

In this episode, we’re talking about life - what to do when those metaphorical or REAL lizards, squirrels, and bees show up and get in the way of you achieving your goals + TWO proven ways to help your follow-through be way easier and less stressful!

I’m always looking for new ways to explain to you how you can live a more peaceful life and have a not-so-stressful weight loss surgery journey.

I want you to know that it doesn't all have to be so hard...it doesn’t need to feel like such stressful, frustrating work all the time!

I'm going to show you how you can collect evidence from your OWN life, show you REAL PROOF that you have what it takes to manage this weight loss surgery journey, and that you CAN be successful with it!

PLUS, I've got TWO time-tested practices you can begin using TODAY, so your life and weight loss surgery journey flow a little easier, and become more enjoyable.

A Fresh Approach is all about creating a weight loss surgery journey that's less stressful, more peaceful - so you can live your healthiest & happiest life, your BEST life!

In this episode, I reference the work of Dr. Brené Brown. If you're not familiar with her work yet, get ready because it's life-changing. And I don't say this lightly. In my family she's referred to as "Aunty Brené" because of the meaningful impact she's made in HOW we approach life.

Favorite audiobooks, books, and videos...but really, ALL her work is amazing!

{The audiobooks & books are affiliate links}

"The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage" Audible Audiobook – Original recording (LOVE this one because she's pretty much speaking freestyle!)

"The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are." (You'll learn the essential steps for wholehearted living!)

"Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone." (This is one in a series, but I just listened to it again, and it's SO relevant to the times we're living in right now.)

Have you seen her TED Talks? If not, CLICK HERE!!! That's how it all began for me!

Click here to join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group - there are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added.

AND, if you'd like to cast your vote for the kind of support and help you need NEXT in your weight loss surgery journey...CLICK HERE!

HOW asking the RIGHT questions about what's getting in your way...can open up your path to success!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 14:00:00 +0000

Before we get started, I told you I’d have news for you about HOW we can work together, one-on-one, this fall!

If you’re ready to wake up every morning feeling inspired by your goals…motivated to take the very best care of yourself…with the confidence that you know how to manage emotional eating, cravings, mindset issues, and prevent yourself from going “off track”…then it's time for us to talk!

[CLICK HERE to watch my video so I can tell you how it all works and how you can set up your FREE 30-minute Get Clear Strategy session with me!][1]

In this podcast, we're talking about how YOU can begin asking YOURself the questions that matter, so you can turn that roadblock into your path to success!

Too many WLS friends get caught up in the “I haven’t been able to exercise,” and let it go at that - which leads to no progress toward their goals, which leads to them feeling bad about themselves...but we've already decided we're DONE WITH THAT!

We're asking more questions, getting more curious, more observant about what’s really happening - what’s truly getting in the way of making progress toward our goals and questioning if our reasoning about WHY we can’t do something - if it’s really true?

Let's get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, [CLICK HERE.][2] There are three quick questions to answer before you can be added.

HOW to Avoid the Brick Wall of OVERWHELM!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 21 Sep 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Okay, you know you want to improve something in your life, AND you're ready to make the necessary changes to get there. AWESOME!

So you make a big list of goals and you set out to do them all. But what happens within a few days, or at the most - a few weeks?

You hit the BRICK WALL of OVERWHELM.

You took on too much, too fast, and probably without enough information to create an effective plan.

And once again, you're left feeling like you failed. NO more of that. There's a better way.

We're gonna get you clear on your goals AND the important "pre" steps you need to take to CREATE your effective, PERSONALIZED plan!

Ready?

Let's get started!

If you're not in the Fresh Approach Facebook group yet, CLICK HERE to join! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added.

And coming soon are some new opportunities to work with me one-on-one! You and me, together! Make this FALL your SEASON to take steps so you can live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery. More information to come in this Podcast, in the Fresh Approach Group, and in my email community.

You can always email me at mary@maryeclark.com.

Become the EXPERT on YOU...and turn your hopes into reality!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 13 Sep 2018 20:15:00 +0000

It can be hard to trust yourself after spending years struggling - wondering, “How the heck did I end up here?” Whether that means years living with obesity, or too much time spent in a relationship you knew wasn’t working, or a decade in a job that was wearing you out and going nowhere. But I'm going to show you HOW to find the evidence from your own life that proves you are the EXPERT on YOU, so you can turn your hopes and wishes...into your reality!

When you're dissatisfied with something in your life, when you're feeling BLAH, when you're thinking about making a change - you may begin asking friends and coworkers if they know what you should do - how you should handle your "situation".

But the thing is, those friends and coworkers are the experts on themselves - not on you or your life. So while they may have some good information, you're going to want to take all those opinions, perspectives, and points of view - and create your own PERSONALIZED plan...based on your life, your schedule, likes & dislikes, how you want to do things!

PLUS... you're going to create this plan based on incredible evidence from YOUR LIFE that proves you are the ULTIMATE EXPERT on you!

Let's get started!

If you're already a member of the Fresh Approach Facebook Group - CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE VIDEOS from Episode #28!

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Cindy's getting REAL honest with herself after gaining 30 pounds in 7 months...how about you?

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Mon, 3 Sep 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Daily trips to Starbucks, butter on your vegetables, or extra big handfuls of almonds can all contribute to putting on 30 pounds in 7 months.

But what about when your spouse loses their job and you're worried about the future?
When there's a family crisis and you can't sleep at night?

Gaining weight after bariatric surgery IS NOT a simple equation of "too much food and not enough exercise", it's just not.

Today, we're getting REAL...real honest.

You'll meet Cindy and find out how she got REAL honest with herself. PLUS you'll hear about the new practices she's put into place that have resulted in a satisfying weight loss over the last couple months.

But what Cindy has GAINED over the last couple months is what will REALLY sustain her each and every day as she walks the path to living her best life!

To join The Fresh Approach Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

How to stop your "sleepy thinking" from holding you back...so you can live your best life!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 26 Aug 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Not too long ago, you decided you were unwilling to settle for a life of obesity...and you chose to have weight loss surgery. There were a lot of bold moves you had to make before you could have surgery, so many courageous actions. You did it because you believed in a healthier, happier life for yourself.

But now, there are things in your life that need attention, that need improvement, but you're telling yourself, "There's nothing I can do...it's just the way it is...it'll never change."

WHAT?

It's time to talk about your "sleepy thinking" AND what you can do about it THIS WEEK so you CAN live your best life!

You'll meet Sonia, and find out what was going on with her "sleepy thinking" a couple months ago, and what she did to make big improvements!

In this episode, I mention an excellent resource from Harvard. CLICK HERE to check it out.

I also encourage you to check out this short video with Steven Pressfield and Oprah. CLICK HERE to watch!

And if you're not a member of the Fresh Approach Facebook Group yet, wait no longer! CLICK HERE to join! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added.

If you're looking for a REGAIN solution "out there"...I'll tell you where to find it.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 19 Aug 2018 13:00:00 +0000

As humans, we're always looking for the latest and greatest - and sometimes that's a reasonable thing to do.

But if you've had weight loss surgery, you've ALREADY HAD the latest and greatest for weight loss.

So WHY is it then, when WLS patients are trying to deal with REGAIN, they keep looking for another solution "out there"?!!

Just what do they think they're going to find "out there"?

They're looking in the WRONG place. For most WLS patients, the answer isn't "out there". Let's talk about WHERE the answer for REGAIN is, and what to do once you find it!

In this episode I mention TWO special videos I made for you earlier this week:

To watch Video #1 - where I mention the lizards, squirrels, and bees, CLICK HERE!

To watch Video #2 - where I mention the WLS coaching secret, CLICK HERE!

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook group, CLICK HERE. There are 3 questions to answer before you're added to the group.

The RISK you can't afford to take after weight loss surgery.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 12 Aug 2018 14:30:00 +0000

You CANNOT afford to take this RISK after weight loss surgery! I'm on my soapbox today with this one - and bariatric surgery outcome studies support me!

We all did so many diets before surgery, joined so many weight loss programs. But having weight loss surgery IS NOT THE SAME as being a member of Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Lindora, or other weight loss program.

Do you REALLY want to live your healthiest and happiest life? I know you do - that's WHY you had weight loss surgery...to live your best life to the fullest!

THIS bariatric surgery guideline, if avoided, can land you in the hospital with irreversible damage. I know that's not what you want for your life. And even if you're feeling good and looking good, that doesn't mean all is well.

I'm staying on my soapbox until you HEAR ME OUT! Because I care about you and want the best for you.

So, let's get started.

If you're not in the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook group, it's time to join me! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added. Click here to join me!

In this episode, I refer to the American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery, click here to visit their site.

WHAT to do when there's TOO much going on to take care of yourself after WLS.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sat, 4 Aug 2018 13:00:00 +0000

I want you to meet our WLS friend Kelly, who was carrying around 65 pounds of regain- 6 years after her surgery.

And heads up pre-op and early post-op WLS patients...this episode is for you too!

Kelly told me WHY she believed she had regained 65 pounds over the last few years, AND what she thought she needed in her life so she could take the weight off.

Maybe this is what you think you need in your life too!

"If I only had XXXXXX, I could deal with this regain / reach my goal weight!"

But it's not true.

That traditional method for dealing with your excess weight, it's not the answer to your weight loss problem.

Your answer isn't "out there".

So let's get started!

And if you're not in the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook group, it's time to join me! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added. Click here to join the group!

How to RE-ENTER life after "an event" and NOT set yourself up for WLS disappointment!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 27 Jul 2018 19:00:00 +0000

We're doing away with the thought, "What's wrong with me? Why can't I get back on track after.....?" and replacing it with the skill of PLANNING for RE-ENTRY! Because there's NOTHING wrong with you. You just need a little more time to ease back into life after situations and events.

Returning to work after vacation.
Returning to work and life after caring for an ill family member.
Returning to life after your own illness.
Returning to work & life after moving to a new home.

Let's PLAN for re-entry.

Let's not get caught up in the old negative thinking like...

"I can't get this right!"
"What's wrong with me?"
"I am not enough."

Nope - no more!

Let's turn those negative thoughts around and make a plan for re-entry instead!

In this episode, I mention the brilliant work on self-compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff. Check out her resources here!

Also, if you're not a member of the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook group, what are you waiting for?

Click here to join!

There are THREE quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

Got questions for me? Email me at: mary@maryeclark.com

Love, light and grace to you.

Getting comfortable with your WLS groove!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 19 Jul 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Instead of "back on track" when you're stuck at a plateau, trying to deal with regain, or worried you'll NEVER reach your healthy weight...how about finding your weight loss surgery groove!

Sounds better, even feels better just thinking about it, right?

Because SERIOUSLY, I think "I have to get back on track!" is the phrase I hear from WLS patients more than any other.

But it doesn't exist.

Did you hear that? "Back on track" after weight loss surgery doesn't exist.

Instead, a better long-term solution is for you to discover your own WLS groove!

I'm discovering my own groove right now, not only with my weight loss surgery - but ALSO with my new life as a.....

Well, let's get started.

[To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, CLICK HERE!][1] There are three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

Has losing weight become your "project"? Episode #5 "Bumps in the road" after WLS series!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 12 Jul 2018 13:01:00 +0000

What happens when the process of losing weight becomes the PROJECT you've spent YEARS and YEARS focusing on? Is it hard to let that PROJECT go?

Could THIS be one of the puzzle-piece reasons for your WLS regain or plateau?

How attached are YOU to your WEIGHT LOSS PROJECT?

I may just blow your mind with this one - and I'm sharing two of my own experiences with this BUMP in my weight loss road!

I've been consumed with the WEIGHT LOSS PROCESS...and I turned it into a PROJECT!

Researching the latest and greatest diets and exercise plans.
Checking to see what everybody else is doing.
Waking up every morning thinking about it.
Worrying about it throughout the day.
Going to bed every night trying to figure out what to do tomorrow.

I learned that I've repeated this BUMP in my weight loss road again and again.

But WHY was I so attached to the PROJECT of losing weight?

I'm telling you all about it in this PODCAST - and it may be one of the puzzle-piece reasons for your regain or plateau.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There are three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

You're on the ELLEN show! Episode #4 "Bumps in the road" after WLS series!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 5 Jul 2018 14:00:00 +0000

In this episode, I'm talking about YOU being a guest on the ELLEN show! Super cool, right? She's got an amazing gift for you, and I'm curious about what you're going to do with it!

This visualization exercise will help you get clear on what your INTRINSIC MOTIVATION may be, so when you're faced with following through on EACH of the bariatric surgery guidelines EVERY DAY, you have YOUR reasons in your heart and mind.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There are three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

How to handle WLS summer struggles!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 28 Jun 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Ahhhhhh...summertime and the living is easy!

But how quickly we're reminded that winter holidays aren't the only time of year when you can get caught up in the fun of the season and somehow find yourself eating a little more of this and that, or not finding enough time to exercise.

And then...weight gain.
And then...not feeling too good about yourself.

NOT THIS SUMMER MY FRIEND, NOT THIS SUMMER!

How can you do summertime and summer vacations better?

What I hear from clients and WLS friends who've had weight loss surgery summer struggles:

They don't have a plan.
They have a plan but it's not well thought out – it’s not realistic based on their schedule and life.
They have a plan, it's well thought out, but then BUMPS IN THE ROAD show up and they lose control of their plan.

I've got a lot to share with you so let's get started!

And here's the "How to make yourself a priority" blog post link I mention in the podcast!

If you're not in the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group yet...why not? There are just 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN US!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this podcast means you agree and understand that what I’m sharing is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other healthcare provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

We NEED to talk about THIS after WLS.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 14:00:00 +0000

In talking with hundreds of weight loss surgery patients over the last 17 years I've learned that most believe surgery allows them a fresh start, a way to begin again. Not only with their health and appearance, but somehow they believe along with losing the pounds, the rest of their troubled pasts will be swept away too.

It's not true.

And what's more, is that while it seems like the "old troubles" are wiped away during that honeymoon period of the first 12 months - once the compliments stop, and it's not such a big deal to shop in regular stores, and your doctor isn't high-five-ing you about your labs anymore because your results have been normal for months now...reality begins to creep back in.

And this is when "old troubles" can sweep back in too. But surgery CANNOT wipe away your "old troubles".

Let's talk about this.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, CLICK HERE!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this class means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other healthcare provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

"Bumps in the road" after WLS: Episode #3. When to piddle-paddle.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 3 May 2018 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode, I'm talking about a social media post I saw with "Weight Loss Surgery Goals" but I'll tell you what they really were, and weren't.

And I'm sharing what I encouraged my new client Sally to do when she found herself opening mail and texting her cousin instead of exercising as she had planned.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There's three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this class means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional healthcare care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

"Bumps in the road" after WLS: Episode #2. The stories you tell yourself.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 12:23:00 +0000

In this episode, I'm sharing TWO situations from my own life - and the stories I told myself about them. One story led to years of anger and sadness, the other story led to peace.

PLUS for a fun bonus...there's a little talk about Downton Abbey too!

It'll all make sense once you hear it!

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group - CLICK HERE! There's three quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

Click here to read this blog post and see me at the Downton Abbey exhibit in NYC!

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this class means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional health care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

"Bumps in the road" after WLS: Episode #1. All or Nothing Thinking.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Wed, 11 Apr 2018 21:03:00 +0000

In this podcast you'll learn:

What “ALL or NOTHING” thinking looks like.
How “ALL or NOTHING” thinking affects you negatively, and sabotages your WLS progress!
How to coach yourself through “ALL or NOTHING” thinking so you can get the weight loss surgery results you want.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group click here!

There are 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this class means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always speak to your doctor or other professional health care provider before undertaking or making changes to any health program.

Day 7 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Mon, 26 Mar 2018 09:00:00 +0000

It's our last day of the SPRING Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge! But I'll have one more Fresh Start message for you tomorrow.

Fundamental Focus: MENTAL HEALTH

"...You will not have a healthy body if you don't also take care of your mind...Good mental health helps you enjoy life and cope with problems. It offers a feeling of well-being and inner strength...You don't automatically have good mental health just because you don't have mental health illness. You have to work to keep your mind healthy." -Office on Women's Health, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

"Mental health is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community." -World Health Organization

“...when a person goes through major lifestyle and body changes after surgery, major adjustments occur in how we think about ourselves and how others think of us. Some patients gain much more confidence…Others struggle…Marriages and relationships can be strained...access to an experienced mental health professional can be an important part of postoperative recovery. Above all, each patient should be prepared for “bumps in the road” along the journey, whether it’s interpersonal conflict, marriage stress, a surgical complication, or a plateau in weight-loss.” -ASMBS

Today, there's no Mental Health “challenge” per se, but rather a plea.

Here's the short and sweet of it.

I believe Mental Heath is the most important of all the bariatric surgery guidelines, and also the most ignored.

I don't believe you can have long-term success with...

Nutrition

Fitness

Vitamins

Medical Follow-Up

Sleep

Hydration

...without taking care of your Mental Health.

This week we've talked about the importance of...

Play

Cultivating Gratitude & Joy

Making Yourself a Priority & Setting Boundaries

Cultivating Calm & Stillness

Self-Compassion

Creativity

...approaches that can lead to less stress and more peace in your life.

WHY do you want more peace in your life?

So you can focus clearly and wholeheartedly on...

Creating effective meal plans.

Carrying your water bottle with you.

Sorting your vitamins & supplements on Sunday evenings.

Developing a strong, trusting relationship with your bariatric surgery team.

Creating a practical pre-sleep plan.

Developing a well-balanced fitness routine that you enjoy.

I have a Fresh Start Master Challenge wrap-up message for you tomorrow with a special announcement on what you can look forward to in the Fresh Approach Facebook group over the next couple weeks. CLICK HERE TO JOIN!

For more information about Dr. Brené Brown's grounded theory qualitative research, click here.

To check out her book, "The Gifts of Imperfection," where the concept of wholehearted living comes from, click here. (affiliate link)

IMPORTANT: My goal is to help you live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery by cultivating a peaceful, fresh approach to following the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines. I’m a Life Coach and Weight Loss Surgery advocate. I’m not a medical or mental health care professional. Your participation in this “challenge” means you agree and understand that what I’m teaching is intended to complement your current medical and mental health care, not replace it in any way, and that you will continue to follow-up with and adhere to your doctor's instructions, and seek medical and/or mental health care as prescribed and whenever necessary. Copyright © Mary E. Clark, LLC * 2018 * All rights reserved.

Day 6 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sun, 25 Mar 2018 14:00:00 +0000

We're taking steps to GET CLEAR & GET GOING in the Fresh Start SPRING WLS Master Challenge!

It's DAY 6!

Fundamental Bariatric Surgery Focus: NUTRITION

What does the ASMBS have to say about Nutrition?

“Healthy lifestyle choices give the best results for health and Quality of Life after surgery. Protein-rich foods are important, with patients advised to take in 60-100g of protein daily, depending on their medical conditions, type of operation and activity level. The ASMBS warns patients to avoid excessive carbohydrate intake, such as starchy foods (breads, pastas, crackers, refined cereals) and sweetened foods (cookies, cakes, candy, or other sweets). Limiting carbohydrates to 50 grams per day or less helps avoid rebound hunger problems which can lead to weight regain.”
“Keep in mind there are no standardized dietary guidelines following weight loss surgery, like there are for other disease states…shocking, isn’t it? I am pointing this out to you because patients often don’t understand why there are so many different dietary approaches following surgery. Each surgeon and health care team typically provides a diet plan for their patients after surgery, FOLLOW THAT.” -Cassie Story, RDN,

Your bariatric surgery professional will have specific nutrition parameters for you.

So when you call, ask about…

Protein

Calories

Sugars & Carbohydrates

Fiber

Sodium

Fat

Specific recommendations when eating out.

What about processed foods?

Get clear on YOUR nutrition guidelines.

Your Nutrition Challenge:

Today, my goal is to get clear on my daily nutrition requirements (which may include: protein, calories, carbohydrates, sugars, fat, fiber, sodium, more whole foods, less processed foods).

I’ll know my numbers so I’ll be clear on my daily goals. Once I’m clear on my daily nutrition goals, I can create daily meal and snack plans.

I want to reach my nutrition goal because {insight} _____________________________________________________.

  I will achieve my goal by {actions}

• _____________________________

Fresh Start Focus: CREATIVITY

“I’m not very creative” doesn’t work. There’s no such thing as creative people and non-creative people. There are only people who use their creativity and people who don’t. And Unused creativity doesn’t just disappear. It lives within us until it’s expressed, neglected to death, or suffocated by resentment and fear. We need to make art.
Cook, write, draw, doodle, paint, scrapbook, take pictures, collage, knit, rebuild an engine, sculpt, dance, decorate, act, sing—it doesn’t matter. As long as we’re creating, we’re cultivating meaning.” -Dr. Brené Brown

Your Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, my goal is to acknowledge I am a creative person, and consider (if you’re not already doing something creative) how not spending time in creativity may be affecting me negatively.

I will spend ________ (how many minutes) being creative today by ______________ (what you’ll do!).

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ___________________________________________________.  

I will achieve my goal by {actions}:

• ____________________________

“A creative life is an amplified life. It’s a bigger life, a happier life, an expanded life, and a hell of a lot more interesting life. Living in this manner—continually and stubbornly bringing forth the jewels that are hidden within you—is a fine art, in and of itself.” -Elizabeth Gilbert 

Make it a beautiful, nutritious, creative day!

Love light and grace to you.

To join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group, click here! There are 3 quick questions to answer before being added to the group.

Day 5 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sat, 24 Mar 2018 09:00:00 +0000

We're getting INSIGHT and taking ACTIONS to support our best lives with weight loss surgery!

It's DAY 5 of our Fresh Start!

Fundamental Focus: FITNESS

Click here to join the Fresh Start Challenge! March 20-26, 2018
Click here to join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group!

“As you progress in your fitness program, your body becomes more efficient at the same activity, which means that you tend to burn fewer calories. As you lose weight, the number of calories burned per hour tends to decrease as well. And so, throughout time, it is necessary to gradually increase the intensity or length of your fitness activities.” -ASMBS (American Society for Metabolic & Bariatric Surgery)

For more information on "When to check with your doctor fist..." before beginning EXERCISE, click here.

The Cleveland Clinic and Mayo Clinic both recommend a well-rounded fitness routine that includes…

Aerobic / Cardio Activity

Strength Training

Core Exercise

Flexibility / Stretching

Jessica Smith on You Tube!
Yoga with Adrienne on You Tube!

Your FITNESS Challenge:

Today, my goal is to spend ___________ minutes doing ________________ and ________________. (optional)

I want to reach my Fitness goal today because {insight} _____________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: ______________________________________________________.

Fresh Start Focus: SELF-COMPASSION

"Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy." -Brené Brown

When your son, granddaughter, best friend, favorite coworker, or cherished cousin - tells you about a "huge mistake" or that they're "struggling" in an area of their life...what do you say to them?

Is it something like, "Hey, we've all made mistakes, you'll come through this."

Or, "I know you've got what it takes, just give it some more time - you'll get there."

But what happens when YOU are the one who made a mistake? What if YOU are the one struggling?

What do you say to yourself?

"I will talk to myself the same way I talk to the people I love." -Brené Brown

Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, my goal is to notice unsupportive thoughts I have, or unkind statements I make about myself, and replace them with gentle, compassionate ones...as I would when speaking to someone I love.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ___________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: _________________________________________________.

Click here for Dr. Kristin Neff's Self-Compassion Quiz & awesome resources!

Guided Meditation - Practicing CALM & STILLNESS after WLS

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 23 Mar 2018 12:05:00 +0000

You deserve to live your healthiest and happiest life with weight loss surgery.

With a Fresh Approach - we not only focus on the fundamental bariatric surgery guidelines, but also essential components for wholehearted living, like Calm & Stillness.

Join us in the Fresh Approach Facebook Group. There's 3 quick questions to answer before you can be added.

Day 4 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Fri, 23 Mar 2018 12:00:00 +0000

We're getting INSIGHT and taking ACTION so we can live out BEST lives with weight loss surgery.

Join us in the SPRING Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge! (March 20 - 26, 2018)

Fundamental Focus: SLEEP

“A healthy sleep pattern (called “sleep hygiene”) is another key to successful weight management...Inadequate sleep has been identified as one contributing factor in weight gain...techniques that can help: avoiding evening caffeine, exercising earlier in the day...creating a peaceful bedroom environment that is quiet, not too bright, and comfortable." -ASMBS (American Society for Metabolic & Bariatric Surgery)

Lack of sleep can…

Perpetuate serious health conditions

Negatively affect your mood and temperament

Influence what and how much you eat

Throw your hunger hormones out of whack

Keep your brain from sorting information for long-term memory

Lead to weight gain, diabetes, high blood pressure, depression, and other health risks

Lead to an increase in body aches and pains

Your SLEEP Challenge:

Today, my goal is to get a good night's sleep by going to bed at __________ (time) allowing __________ (#) hours of high quality sleep time.

I want to reach my Sleep goal today because {insight} _____________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: ____________________________________________________.

Fresh Start Focus: CALM & STILLNESS

"I realized anxiety was not something I was experiencing, it was something I was living - anxiety had become a lifestyle. When we're anxious all the time, and we don't balance that with some calm and stillness in our lives, that's when anxiety becomes a lifestyle." ~Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW
A calm practice can open our hearts, and open our minds, and free us up for some clarity and some refueling. And if you're starting to think "this sounds a little WOO-HOO, HOKEY-POKEY for me" I want you to remember the chaotic, stressful times you've had in your home life or in your office...and what it would mean for all of us...if we could bring that calm with us (to the situation.)" -Brené Brown

Click here for my Guided Meditation.

Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, I will commit to __________ (#) minutes of STILLNESS by opening up a clearing or "white space" at __________ (time).

I will also be aware of my uneasiness, and practice CALM by _______________ {method} and/or _______________ {method}.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ___________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: ________________________________________________.

Join us in the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group! There's 3 quick questions to complete before you can be added to the group.

Day 3 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Thu, 22 Mar 2018 13:00:00 +0000

Ready to live your best life with weight loss surgery?

Then it's time for a Fresh Approach!

Let's get going with Day 3 of the Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge!

To join the Challenge (March 20 - 26, 2018) click here.

Fundamental Focus: MEDICAL FOLLOW-UP

“…most bariatric surgery programs plan for long-term follow-up visits with a healthcare provider experienced with obesity management...surgeon, a physician assistant or nurse practitioner, dietitian, mental health professional, exercise specialist, or a medical weight-loss specialist (bariatrician). The most important thing is that you find a bariatric surgery program that provides for this long-term care, so that any problems or concerns that develop over time can be addressed by an experienced team." -ASMBS

“Nutritional problems actually become more common throughout time. This is both because it can take time for nutrient stores to run down but also because, throughout time, people may become more lax in their eating and in taking recommended supplements.” -Dr. Jacqueline Jacques

Your MEDICAL FOLLOW-UP Challenge:

Today, my goal is to call and confirm the date for my next bariatric surgery visit.

I'll also ask for my lab orders so my bariatric surgery team will have my latest results for my visit.

I want to reach my MEDICAL FOLLOW-UP goal today because {insight} __________________________________________________.

(If you do not have a bariatric surgery provider, click here to visit ASMBS for a referral in your area.)

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: ______________________

Fresh Start Focus: MAKING MYSELF A PRIORITY & SETTING BOUNDARIES

"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." -Brené Brown

"The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability. "Yes!" often seems like the easiest way out. But it comes at a price...feeling angry and resentful. For women, there's a myth that we're supposed to do it all...Saying NO cues a chorus of inner shame gremlins: "Who do you think you are?" "You're not a very caring [mother / wife / friend / colleague]." -Brené Brown

I have a Podcast episode that focuses exclusively on this topic! Just click here to listen!

Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, _____________ and _____________ are important priorities in my life. I will choose discomfort over resentment and protect my priorities by setting and holding my boundaries.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ___________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}: _________________________________________________________.

If you've reached this challenge past March 26, 2018 but you'd like to join us in the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group - click here! There are 3 quick questions to answer before you're added to the group.

After WLS, How to make yourself a priority.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Wed, 21 Mar 2018 19:30:00 +0000

Life with weight loss surgery requires planning and making yourself a priority.

And I don’t mean…“Sure, I plan on exercising at some point,” or “If everything else gets done I might read for a while.”

I’m asking if you have specific things listed as priorities to take care of yourself today.

What are your boundaries around those priorities?

Have you practiced what you’ll do or say if your boundaries are challenged?

In today's Podcast I give you THREE examples of my boundaries being challenged, and how I STAYED STRONG and made myself a priority!

And YOU can do it too!

Day 2 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Wed, 21 Mar 2018 14:00:00 +0000

Welcome to Day 2!

It's time for a Fresh Approach to health and happiness with weight loss surgery!

So let's get started!

Click here to join the Challenge! (March 20 - 26, 2018)

Fundamental Focus: VITAMINS & SUPPLEMENTS

“...if you don’t take your vitamins, they won’t work. Many people become overly concerned about what they should take, but don’t necessarily do a great job at taking the nutrients they need on a daily basis. It’s also not uncommon for people to do a great job taking their vitamins for a year or two after surgery, but they may stop taking them over time. Most nutritional deficiencies are easier to prevent than to treat, and once you have had surgery, your risk for developing a problem never goes away." - Dr. Jacqueline Jacques

Your VITAMINS & SUPPLEMENTS Challenge:

Today, my goal is to take __________ multivitamins at this / these times: __________ , __________.

And to take __________ (mg) __________ # calcium at this / these times: __________ , __________ , __________.

And to take __________ at this / these times: __________ , __________ , __________.

And to take ___________ at this / these times: __________ , __________ , _________.
{Continue to fill out as many more Vitamin & Supplement goals as you need.}

I want to reach my goals because {insight} _____________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}:

Fresh Start Focus: GRATITUDE & JOY

"Before I did this research I thought joyful people were grateful people...But what I've learned unequivocally is that it's not having wonderful experiences that make us grateful, it's practicing gratitude that leads to wonderful, joyful experiences." -Dr. Brené Brown

Sometimes, are you so busy that you overlook the joy of ordinary moments?

Brené Brown spoke with people who'd experience extreme tragedy and learned that it wasn't the extraordinary moments they missed as much as the small ordinary moments they had overlooked every day. "I didn't realize the meaning they held until they were gone."

"There's a difference in feeling grateful and practicing gratitude. And it's during our darkest times when we don't feel grateful that practicing gratitude makes the difference. Joy collected over time, fuels resilience - so when bad, crappy things happen...we've got a reserve to lean into to soften the fall." -Brené Brown

Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, my goal is to practice GRATITUDE, to be grateful for {the ordinary moments} _____________________________.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ___________________________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}:

And there they are, your CHALLENGES...and I hope you choose to accept them!

Stay tuned for more in the Fresh Approach Facebook group today!

Day 1 - Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 14:00:00 +0000

Welcome to Day 1!

It’s time for a Fresh Approach to Health & Happiness with Weight Loss Surgery if…

You’re struggling with regain or a plateau, and looking for new inspiration and motivation

You’ve been worrying about maintaining your weight, and hoping for fresh encouragement.

Click here to join the challenge! (March 20 - 26, 2018)

Fundamental Focus: HYDRATION

“Drinking fluids is crucial to staying healthy and maintaining the function of every system in your body, including your heart, brain, and muscles. Fluids carry nutrients to your cells, flush bacteria from your bladder, and prevent constipation." – Harvard Health

“Most patients receive a goal of 64oz or more of fluids daily to avoid dehydration, constipation, and kidney stones.” –ASMBS (American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery)

Your HYDRATION Challenge:

Today, my water goal is _____ ounces.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ______________________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}:

Fresh Start Focus: PLAY

“The opposite of play is not work. The opposite of play is depression.” – Dr. Brené Brown

“…if you think about life without play -- no humor, no flirtation, no movies, no games, no fantasy…Try and imagine a culture or a life, adult or otherwise without play. And the thing that's so unique about our species is that we're really designed to play through our whole lifetime…" – Dr. Stuart Brown

So what is PLAY?

Researcher, Dr. Stuart Brown, describes play as time spent without purpose… anything that makes us lose track of time and self-consciousness.

Ideas include…

Scrapbooking

Bike riding

Knitting

Painting

Solving crossword puzzles

Calligraphy

Dancing

Hiking

Singing

Fresh Start Challenge:

Today, my goal is to PLAY __________ (what you'll do) for __________ minutes.

I want to reach my goal because {insight} ________________________.

I will achieve my goal by {actions}:

And there they are, your CHALLENGES...should you choose to accept them.

And of course I hope you do!

Stay tuned for more in the Fresh Approach Facebook group today!

(Challenge dates March 20 - 26, 2018)

Click here to join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group! There's 3 quick questions to answer before you're approved.

Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge - GET READY!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Mon, 19 Mar 2018 16:29:00 +0000

You made a big commitment when you decided to have weight loss surgery…a lifelong commitment.

But the daily planning and tracking for Nutrition, Vitamins, Hydration, Fitness, Medical Follow-Up, Mental Health, and Sleep…can become overwhelming, and maybe a little bit discouraging.

It’s time for a Fresh Approach if…

You’re struggling with regain or a plateau, and looking for new inspiration and motivation

You’ve been worrying about maintaining your weight, and hoping for fresh encouragement.

Click here to join the challenge!

Each day, over the next 7 days (this challenge runs from March 20 - 26, 2018) you'll receive an email with a link to the Podcast where I'll talk about..

One bariatric surgery guideline, and I'll share information on WHY this guideline is fundamental to your long-term health.
And we'll focus on one essential component for wholehearted living, along with information on WHY it's important.
I'll ask you to set a GOAL related to each.
I'll ask you to get clear on WHY you want to achieve your goals {insight}.
I'll ask you HOW you'll achieve your goals {actions}.

But it's not enough just to think about your GOALS.

For best results, you've got to write them down.

For BETTER RESULTS, I'm asking you to post your GOALS, WHY & HOW in the Fresh Approach Facebook group.

Click here to join the Fresh Approach WLS Facebook Group! There's 3 quick questions to answer before you're approved to join.

Here's WHY!

The American Society of Training and Development did a study on accountability and found the following statistics.

You have the probability of completing a goal if...

You have an idea or a goal: 10%
You consciously decide you will do it: 25%
You decide when you will do it: 40%
You plan how you will do it: 50%
You commit to someone you will do it: 65%
You have a specific accountability appointment with a person you’ve committed to: 95%

But of course I want you to be comfortable posting too - so if you'd prefer to post part of your challenge or even post a picture of yourself following through with the challenge...you're still making a HUGE commitment and setting yourself up for RESULTS.

INSIGHT + ACTION = RESULTS

And I'll have some other suggestions on how you can "accountability post" in the group with the different challenges, coming up in the Podcasts!

I hope you're as excited about this SPRING Fresh Start WLS Master Challenge as I am!

Get more time for yourself with 3 simple steps.

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Wed, 6 Sep 2017 19:14:00 +0000

Is a busy to-do list making it hard for you to find enough time to take care of yourself OR do things you've always wanted to? Well that's all about to change! You're about to get MORE time for yourself by learning a really unique method for making your to-do list shorter, manageable, and even (cue the gasp) a little more fun! AND...there's an awesome FREE download to guide you through every step of the process!

HOW to handle the return of "BAD HABITS" after Weight Loss Surgery!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sat, 5 Aug 2017 17:09:00 +0000

I hear it all the time..."The BAD HABITS have come back!" Let's talk about WHY they come back, and what YOU can do about those nasty BAD HABIT GREMLINS! And my hunch is, what I'm going to tell you, isn't at all what you're expecting! No WILLPOWER or SELF-DISCIPLINE or FAILURE talk here! So let's get started!

To join the Fresh Approach Facebook Group, CLICK HERE! There are 3 questions to answer before you can be added to the group.

You NEED a Weight Loss Surgery Backup Plan!

mary@maryeclark.com (Mary E. Clark) — Sat, 29 Jul 2017 17:14:00 +0000

Once you have weight loss surgery, you've taken an oath to never "wing-it" with your health...ever again. LIFE happens. You need a Backup Plan! Track includes link to awesome FREE GIFT to help you create your own Backup Plan!