https://simplecast.com Dot to Dot Life Connected™ Join award-winning author and psychologist Fiona Murden in the Dot to Dot Life Connected™ podcast - uncovering the vital, yet often overlooked, connections that shape our lives and success – not just our connection with ourselves but also with others. This podcast explores the Life Connected™ framework revealing how our connections - with ourselves, others, and the world around us - profoundly impact our wellbeing and achievements. We delve into the critical, frequently underestimated importance of these connections, showing how they can transform our personal and professional lives. Through engaging conversations with diverse guests - from industry leaders to inspiring individuals - we examine the science behind human behavior and relationships. Each episode features 'role models and real models' sharing their lived experiences, offering unique insights into the power of connection. Join us as we connect the dots between scientific knowledge and real-world applications, empowering you to harness the often-hidden benefits of a truly connected life. 2024 Dot to Dot en Fri, 6 Jun 2025 13:00:00 +0000 Fri, 6 Jun 2025 13:00:12 +0000 https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com Dot to Dot Life Connected™ https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/a11bbd4a-1d50-4446-9753-e3ab8d5cc535/1cde4cac-30db-455c-b11a-74a6f14ef7f8/3000x3000/podcast-final-3-copy.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com episodic Join award-winning author and psychologist Fiona Murden in the Dot to Dot Life Connected™ podcast - uncovering the vital, yet often overlooked, connections that shape our lives and success – not just our connection with ourselves but also with others. This podcast explores the Life Connected™ framework revealing how our connections - with ourselves, others, and the world around us - profoundly impact our wellbeing and achievements. We delve into the critical, frequently underestimated importance of these connections, showing how they can transform our personal and professional lives. Through engaging conversations with diverse guests - from industry leaders to inspiring individuals - we examine the science behind human behavior and relationships. Each episode features 'role models and real models' sharing their lived experiences, offering unique insights into the power of connection. Join us as we connect the dots between scientific knowledge and real-world applications, empowering you to harness the often-hidden benefits of a truly connected life. Fiona Murden false https://feeds.simplecast.com/QWL6dycR #health, #happiness, #advice, #behaviorchange, #psychology, #behaviourchange, #resilience, #connection, #inspiration, #lifestyle, #mindset, #mirrorthinking, #personalstories, #potential, #rolemodels, #success, #tipoftheday Fiona Murden fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk c64aa3cb-2786-4baa-ab65-c0657c116039 The Soundtrack to Your Potential with Frank Fitzpatrick Episode Notes

Together, Frank and Fiona explore:

– How music, neuroscience, and ancient wisdom converge to unlock human potential
– Why we confuse identity with performance and what it costs us
– The difference between peak performance and living a fully human life
– What Frank learned from burnout, breakdowns, and building himself back up
– The critical role of energy, movement, and emotional rhythm in daily life
– Why community is more powerful than we realize and more essential than ever
– The surprising truth about purpose (hint: it’s not what you do it’s who you are while doing it)
– How to reframe technology as a tool for humanity, not a substitute for it
– The overlooked magic of music — not as entertainment, but as medicine, memory, and emotional architecture

This episode is about thriving. Not by doing more, but by remembering who you are, how you connect, and what it means to be fully alive.

 

To learn more about Frank go to:
🔗 Frank’s work and writing: www.frankfitzpatrick.com
📖 Amplified: Unleash Your Potential Through the Power of Music
🎵 Explore Amplified and upcoming work on the future of music, AI, and human flourishing

For more from Fiona: www.fionamurden.com

For Fiona's substack go to: https://substack.com/@fionamurden

Frank Fitzpatrick is a Grammy-nominated music producer, best-selling author, filmmaker, and founder of Amplified and EarthTones. He is a global leader in using music and neuroscience to transform well-being, performance, and human connection across industries. Frank’s mission is simple but profound: help humanity flourish and co-create a ripple effect for good.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 6 Jun 2025 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-soundtrack-to-your-potential-with-frank-fitzpatrick-zZ4fYmHa Episode Notes

Together, Frank and Fiona explore:

– How music, neuroscience, and ancient wisdom converge to unlock human potential
– Why we confuse identity with performance and what it costs us
– The difference between peak performance and living a fully human life
– What Frank learned from burnout, breakdowns, and building himself back up
– The critical role of energy, movement, and emotional rhythm in daily life
– Why community is more powerful than we realize and more essential than ever
– The surprising truth about purpose (hint: it’s not what you do it’s who you are while doing it)
– How to reframe technology as a tool for humanity, not a substitute for it
– The overlooked magic of music — not as entertainment, but as medicine, memory, and emotional architecture

This episode is about thriving. Not by doing more, but by remembering who you are, how you connect, and what it means to be fully alive.

 

To learn more about Frank go to:
🔗 Frank’s work and writing: www.frankfitzpatrick.com
📖 Amplified: Unleash Your Potential Through the Power of Music
🎵 Explore Amplified and upcoming work on the future of music, AI, and human flourishing

For more from Fiona: www.fionamurden.com

For Fiona's substack go to: https://substack.com/@fionamurden

Frank Fitzpatrick is a Grammy-nominated music producer, best-selling author, filmmaker, and founder of Amplified and EarthTones. He is a global leader in using music and neuroscience to transform well-being, performance, and human connection across industries. Frank’s mission is simple but profound: help humanity flourish and co-create a ripple effect for good.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Soundtrack to Your Potential with Frank Fitzpatrick Fiona Murden 00:54:42 What if the key to flourishing in an AI-powered future isn’t in your tech stack but in your nervous system, your relationships, and the music you forgot you needed? In this episode of Life Connected, Fiona sits down with Grammy-nominated producer, filmmaker, best-selling author, and founder of Amplified, Frank Fitzpatrick a rare blend of creative visionary and deeply grounded human being. Over the past four decades, Frank has worked with icons from Stevie Wonder to the Dalai Lama, scored more than 100 films, and reached over a billion people with his work. But this conversation goes beyond accolades. It’s a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply human exploration of what it means to live with purpose, stay connected, and grow whole in a world that often pulls us apart. What if the key to flourishing in an AI-powered future isn’t in your tech stack but in your nervous system, your relationships, and the music you forgot you needed? In this episode of Life Connected, Fiona sits down with Grammy-nominated producer, filmmaker, best-selling author, and founder of Amplified, Frank Fitzpatrick a rare blend of creative visionary and deeply grounded human being. Over the past four decades, Frank has worked with icons from Stevie Wonder to the Dalai Lama, scored more than 100 films, and reached over a billion people with his work. But this conversation goes beyond accolades. It’s a wide-ranging, honest, and deeply human exploration of what it means to live with purpose, stay connected, and grow whole in a world that often pulls us apart. human potential, purpose, disconnection, ai impact, frank fitzpatrick, well-being, peak performance, purpose and identity, human connection, focus, connection and community, music producer, staying human in an ai world, neuroscience, marvin gaye, emotional intelligence, longevity, burnout, detroit, creativity, music and neuroscience, and the power of music to heal, energy false full 119 eef2f1b6-90f8-4bf7-aa94-54aaa8bd5c8b How to Stop Stress Before It Starts with Dr Aoife O'Donovan Together, Aoife and Fiona explore:

– How anticipatory stress affects cardiovascular, immune and cellular function, including signs of accelerated aging
– Why the brain can’t always tell the difference between real danger and imagined fear and how the body pays the price
– The often-overlooked power of social connection, even in fleeting micro-moments
– How visualisation, when used intentionally, can help the body step out of threat mode
– What Aoife’s research into a PTSD app and psychedelic therapy is revealing about trauma, healing, and personalisation

This is a conversation about stress but also about imagination, memory, connection, and the biology of feeling safe.

For more from Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com

Aoife's research can be found here UCSF Profiles

Aoife is Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and Director of THRIVE Lab at the University of California, San Francisco and San Francisco Veterans Affairs Health Care System. Dedicated to uncovering the mechanisms by which psychological stress causes ill health and developing new treatments for stress-related health conditions.

 

Here are key takeaways from the conversation:

1. Small social interactions matter. Even brief, friendly interactions can positively impact your physiological stress response.

2. Practice resilience during calm periods:

  • Build social relationships
  • Engage in physical activity
  • Try meditation and mindfulness
  • Practice visualization techniques
  • Learn breathing exercises

3. Start small with physical activity. If a full workout seems overwhelming, just start by moving a little - standing up, walking for a minute, or doing a short activity.

4. Recognize that stress is inevitable, but you can manage your response:

  • Distinguish between threat and challenge perceptions
  • Practice constraining anticipatory stress through visualization (see Fiona's book Defining You for more on how to do visualisation)
  • Understand that your body responds similarly to imagined and real stressors

5. Prioritize physiological health to support psychological interventions:

  • Exercise can help improve mental health
  • Good physical health supports learning and memory
  • Small, consistent actions can build resilience

6. Be compassionate with yourself and others:

  • Understand that mental health symptoms are normal
  • Small acts of kindness can significantly impact someone's stress response
  • Helping others can also benefit your own mental health

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sat, 19 Apr 2025 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-to-stop-stress-before-it-starts-with-dr-aoife-odonovan-RgJt786d Together, Aoife and Fiona explore:

– How anticipatory stress affects cardiovascular, immune and cellular function, including signs of accelerated aging
– Why the brain can’t always tell the difference between real danger and imagined fear and how the body pays the price
– The often-overlooked power of social connection, even in fleeting micro-moments
– How visualisation, when used intentionally, can help the body step out of threat mode
– What Aoife’s research into a PTSD app and psychedelic therapy is revealing about trauma, healing, and personalisation

This is a conversation about stress but also about imagination, memory, connection, and the biology of feeling safe.

For more from Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com

Aoife's research can be found here UCSF Profiles

Aoife is Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and Director of THRIVE Lab at the University of California, San Francisco and San Francisco Veterans Affairs Health Care System. Dedicated to uncovering the mechanisms by which psychological stress causes ill health and developing new treatments for stress-related health conditions.

 

Here are key takeaways from the conversation:

1. Small social interactions matter. Even brief, friendly interactions can positively impact your physiological stress response.

2. Practice resilience during calm periods:

  • Build social relationships
  • Engage in physical activity
  • Try meditation and mindfulness
  • Practice visualization techniques
  • Learn breathing exercises

3. Start small with physical activity. If a full workout seems overwhelming, just start by moving a little - standing up, walking for a minute, or doing a short activity.

4. Recognize that stress is inevitable, but you can manage your response:

  • Distinguish between threat and challenge perceptions
  • Practice constraining anticipatory stress through visualization (see Fiona's book Defining You for more on how to do visualisation)
  • Understand that your body responds similarly to imagined and real stressors

5. Prioritize physiological health to support psychological interventions:

  • Exercise can help improve mental health
  • Good physical health supports learning and memory
  • Small, consistent actions can build resilience

6. Be compassionate with yourself and others:

  • Understand that mental health symptoms are normal
  • Small acts of kindness can significantly impact someone's stress response
  • Helping others can also benefit your own mental health

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to Stop Stress Before It Starts with Dr Aoife O'Donovan Fiona Murden 00:54:11 What if the stress that’s harming your body isn’t the thing that happened but the thing you’re afraid might? In this episode, Fiona speaks with UCSF stress researcher Associate Professor Aoife O’Donovan, whose work reveals how simply anticipating threat can accelerate biological aging, even when the threat never arrives and what you can do to stop it. What if the stress that’s harming your body isn’t the thing that happened but the thing you’re afraid might? In this episode, Fiona speaks with UCSF stress researcher Associate Professor Aoife O’Donovan, whose work reveals how simply anticipating threat can accelerate biological aging, even when the threat never arrives and what you can do to stop it. telomere length, biological aging, social support, anticipatory threat, psychedelic therapy, psychological stress, cardiovascular reactivity, optimism vs pessimism, threat perception, mental health, resilience factors, interdisciplinary research, stressresponse, lifeconnected false full 118 949b7703-db1b-410d-815a-95ce4091d623 Radical Listening - The Art of True Connection with Professor Christian van Nieuwerburgh Christian reveals a game-changing insight most people overlook: every time we listen, we bring an intention. Maybe to fix something. Maybe to understand. Maybe just to connect. But unless our intention matches what the other person actually needs, we miss the moment.
We can be kind, empathetic - and still leave them feeling unheard.

Drawing from his book (written with psychologist Robert Biswas-Diener), Christian introduces six distinct listening intentions - learning, understanding, solving, appreciating, connecting, influencing - and shows how choosing the right one can transform relationships, trust, and connection.

This isn’t just theory. Fiona and Christian share honest stories about when they got it wrong - and what it taught them about emotional intelligence, ego, and psychological safety. From leaders in the workplace to partners at home to fleeting interactions with strangers, this episode makes a bold claim:

Radical listening - when done with the right intention - is one of the most powerful relational tools we have.
And one of the most underused.

Whether you’re leading a team, raising a family, or just trying to build better connections in a noisy world, this conversation offers something rare:

A framework for listening that doesn’t just improve communication - it changes the way we are with others.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

Christian's book is out March 25 2025 

For more from Christian go to 

www.coachonmotorcycle.com

 

Practical Take-Aways from the Podcast on Radical Listening:

Matching Listening Intentions:

Before conversations, pause and consider: What does the other person want from this interaction?

Acknowledgement Techniques:

  • Look for strengths in the other person
  • Highlight things you admire about them

Quieting Inner Dialogue:

  • Notice internal thoughts that might distract from listening
  • Focus fully on the other person
  • Minimize interrupting or thinking about your response

Practical Listening Experiments

  • Listen to appreciate someone
  • Ask "How can I be most helpful in this conversation?"
  • Track the impact: How good did the interaction feel? (1-10 scale)

Connection Strategies

  • Genuinely ask "How are you?" in everyday interactions
  • Look people in the eye
  • Show real interest in their responses
  • Be open and curious
  • Relationship Investment
  • Practice listening as a way of building future relationship networks
  • Invest time in quality interactions

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 3 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/radical-listening-the-art-of-true-connection-with-professor-christian-van-nieuwerburgh-5xWIHGdl Christian reveals a game-changing insight most people overlook: every time we listen, we bring an intention. Maybe to fix something. Maybe to understand. Maybe just to connect. But unless our intention matches what the other person actually needs, we miss the moment.
We can be kind, empathetic - and still leave them feeling unheard.

Drawing from his book (written with psychologist Robert Biswas-Diener), Christian introduces six distinct listening intentions - learning, understanding, solving, appreciating, connecting, influencing - and shows how choosing the right one can transform relationships, trust, and connection.

This isn’t just theory. Fiona and Christian share honest stories about when they got it wrong - and what it taught them about emotional intelligence, ego, and psychological safety. From leaders in the workplace to partners at home to fleeting interactions with strangers, this episode makes a bold claim:

Radical listening - when done with the right intention - is one of the most powerful relational tools we have.
And one of the most underused.

Whether you’re leading a team, raising a family, or just trying to build better connections in a noisy world, this conversation offers something rare:

A framework for listening that doesn’t just improve communication - it changes the way we are with others.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

Christian's book is out March 25 2025 

For more from Christian go to 

www.coachonmotorcycle.com

 

Practical Take-Aways from the Podcast on Radical Listening:

Matching Listening Intentions:

Before conversations, pause and consider: What does the other person want from this interaction?

Acknowledgement Techniques:

  • Look for strengths in the other person
  • Highlight things you admire about them

Quieting Inner Dialogue:

  • Notice internal thoughts that might distract from listening
  • Focus fully on the other person
  • Minimize interrupting or thinking about your response

Practical Listening Experiments

  • Listen to appreciate someone
  • Ask "How can I be most helpful in this conversation?"
  • Track the impact: How good did the interaction feel? (1-10 scale)

Connection Strategies

  • Genuinely ask "How are you?" in everyday interactions
  • Look people in the eye
  • Show real interest in their responses
  • Be open and curious
  • Relationship Investment
  • Practice listening as a way of building future relationship networks
  • Invest time in quality interactions

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Radical Listening - The Art of True Connection with Professor Christian van Nieuwerburgh Fiona Murden 00:55:55 What if the simplest way to change your relationships - and even your life - wasn’t about saying the right thing, but listening in the right way? It’s not just how we listen that matters. It’s why. In this powerful episode, Fiona sits down with Christian van Nieuwerburgh, professor of coaching and positive psychology, to explore how listening can be one of the most radical acts of human connection. Drawing from his new book Radical Listening, Christian shares how truly hearing someone - with presence, curiosity, and care - can make them feel deeply seen and valued. What if the simplest way to change your relationships - and even your life - wasn’t about saying the right thing, but listening in the right way? It’s not just how we listen that matters. It’s why. In this powerful episode, Fiona sits down with Christian van Nieuwerburgh, professor of coaching and positive psychology, to explore how listening can be one of the most radical acts of human connection. Drawing from his new book Radical Listening, Christian shares how truly hearing someone - with presence, curiosity, and care - can make them feel deeply seen and valued. positivepsychology, personalgrowth, #meaningfulconnections, newbookalert, #authorinterview, booklaunch2025, professionaldevelopment, beagoodhuman, coachingtips, #kindnessworks, mindfulcommunication, emotionalintelligence, radicallistening, connectionskills, #humanitymatters, listeningskills, humanconnection, nonfictionbooks, psychologyinaction, lifeconnected false full 117 7c04e1cc-ae86-4330-863b-ba125e7146b4 Permission to Come Home — Mental Health, Identity & Cultural Healing with Dr. Jenny Wang What We Cover in This Episode:

The Story Behind the Book

  • Jenny explains how her Instagram community sparked the writing of Permission to Come Home.
  • The book is a call to reclaim mental health, dismantle shame, and give ourselves permission—to question, feel, rage, play, and heal.

Cultural Nuance in Mental Health Care

  • Why standard psychological approaches often fail Asian American clients.
  • The importance of cultural humility, not just cultural competence, in therapy.
  • How mental health systems must be decolonized to truly support diverse communities.

A Journey of Resilience and Defiance

  • Jenny shares her path to becoming a clinical psychologist, including moments of discouragement—and the mentors who made all the difference.
  • The role of persistence, privilege, and resilience in navigating academic and professional barriers.

The 10 Permissions We All Need

  • Fiona highlights the structure of the book: ten chapters that grant “permission” to explore different aspects of mental health and identity.
  • Jenny reflects on the vulnerability required to write the book—and why modeling that vulnerability matters.

Intergenerational Trauma & Healing

  • A poignant story from Jenny’s mother’s childhood—and how those wounds are passed down, often unconsciously.
  • The power of breaking cycles and choosing new, more loving ways of relating across generations.

Why Play Matters—Especially in Adulthood

  • Jenny and Fiona explore how cultural dynamics often suppress play in favor of achievement.
  • Play as a form of fuel, joy, and self-connection—especially for those in midlife.

Grief, Migration, and Identity

  • The hidden grief of migration and the quiet loss of language, heritage, and belonging.
  • Jenny speaks movingly about the emotional complexity of existing between two cultures—and the importance of honouring that experience.

Redefining Home

  • What does it mean to truly come home to yourself?
  • Jenny introduces her four core elements of “home”: safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion—and how we can cultivate these in our relationships and communities.

Final Reflections

This episode is a heartfelt, illuminating conversation that touches on themes many of us carry but often don’t have words for. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or supporting others on their journey, Jenny’s insights offer a gentle but powerful guide.

 

Here are some practical takeaways from the conversation:

  • Practice Play: Integrate play into your daily life as a source of energy and sustainability, not just as a reward after hard work. Start with small activities that bring you joy and help you recharge.
  • Embrace Vulnerability: Be willing to share your authentic experiences and emotions. This can help break cycles of shame and silence, especially around mental health.
  • Reflect on Cultural Identity: Take time to explore your family history, understand intergenerational experiences, and appreciate the complexity of your cultural background.
  • Create Conditions of Home: Cultivate safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion in your relationships and personal spaces.
  • Challenge Achievement-Based Self-Worth: Recognize your value beyond professional achievements. Practice slowing down and tolerating the discomfort of being less productive.
  • Practice Cultural Humility: Approach different experiences and perspectives with openness, listening, and a willingness to learn.
  • Break Negative Cycles: Consciously choose to parent, communicate, and interact differently from generational patterns that may have been harmful.
  • Prioritize Mental Health: Seek support that understands your unique cultural context and validates your experiences.

These takeaways can help individuals develop more compassionate, balanced, and fulfilling lives across various cultural backgrounds.

Connect with Dr. Jenny Wang

Connect with Fiona

 

Thank You for Listening

If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might benefit from the conversation.

See you next time on Dot to Dot, where we continue to explore the patterns, insights, and human stories that connect us.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 21 Mar 2025 01:28:07 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/permission-to-come-home-with-dr-jenny-wang-y5jHg7eW What We Cover in This Episode:

The Story Behind the Book

  • Jenny explains how her Instagram community sparked the writing of Permission to Come Home.
  • The book is a call to reclaim mental health, dismantle shame, and give ourselves permission—to question, feel, rage, play, and heal.

Cultural Nuance in Mental Health Care

  • Why standard psychological approaches often fail Asian American clients.
  • The importance of cultural humility, not just cultural competence, in therapy.
  • How mental health systems must be decolonized to truly support diverse communities.

A Journey of Resilience and Defiance

  • Jenny shares her path to becoming a clinical psychologist, including moments of discouragement—and the mentors who made all the difference.
  • The role of persistence, privilege, and resilience in navigating academic and professional barriers.

The 10 Permissions We All Need

  • Fiona highlights the structure of the book: ten chapters that grant “permission” to explore different aspects of mental health and identity.
  • Jenny reflects on the vulnerability required to write the book—and why modeling that vulnerability matters.

Intergenerational Trauma & Healing

  • A poignant story from Jenny’s mother’s childhood—and how those wounds are passed down, often unconsciously.
  • The power of breaking cycles and choosing new, more loving ways of relating across generations.

Why Play Matters—Especially in Adulthood

  • Jenny and Fiona explore how cultural dynamics often suppress play in favor of achievement.
  • Play as a form of fuel, joy, and self-connection—especially for those in midlife.

Grief, Migration, and Identity

  • The hidden grief of migration and the quiet loss of language, heritage, and belonging.
  • Jenny speaks movingly about the emotional complexity of existing between two cultures—and the importance of honouring that experience.

Redefining Home

  • What does it mean to truly come home to yourself?
  • Jenny introduces her four core elements of “home”: safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion—and how we can cultivate these in our relationships and communities.

Final Reflections

This episode is a heartfelt, illuminating conversation that touches on themes many of us carry but often don’t have words for. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or supporting others on their journey, Jenny’s insights offer a gentle but powerful guide.

 

Here are some practical takeaways from the conversation:

  • Practice Play: Integrate play into your daily life as a source of energy and sustainability, not just as a reward after hard work. Start with small activities that bring you joy and help you recharge.
  • Embrace Vulnerability: Be willing to share your authentic experiences and emotions. This can help break cycles of shame and silence, especially around mental health.
  • Reflect on Cultural Identity: Take time to explore your family history, understand intergenerational experiences, and appreciate the complexity of your cultural background.
  • Create Conditions of Home: Cultivate safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion in your relationships and personal spaces.
  • Challenge Achievement-Based Self-Worth: Recognize your value beyond professional achievements. Practice slowing down and tolerating the discomfort of being less productive.
  • Practice Cultural Humility: Approach different experiences and perspectives with openness, listening, and a willingness to learn.
  • Break Negative Cycles: Consciously choose to parent, communicate, and interact differently from generational patterns that may have been harmful.
  • Prioritize Mental Health: Seek support that understands your unique cultural context and validates your experiences.

These takeaways can help individuals develop more compassionate, balanced, and fulfilling lives across various cultural backgrounds.

Connect with Dr. Jenny Wang

Connect with Fiona

 

Thank You for Listening

If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might benefit from the conversation.

See you next time on Dot to Dot, where we continue to explore the patterns, insights, and human stories that connect us.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Permission to Come Home — Mental Health, Identity & Cultural Healing with Dr. Jenny Wang Fiona Murden 00:48:20 In this episode, Fiona sits down with Dr. Jenny Wang, clinical psychologist and author of Permission to Come Home: Reclaiming Mental Health as Asian Americans — a compelling and courageous exploration of identity, healing, and mental health within the Asian American experience. Drawing from both personal experience and professional insight, Dr. Wang shares her journey through intergenerational trauma, cultural expectation, and the quiet grief of belonging in-between worlds. Through her book and her platform Asians for Mental Health, she is helping to dismantle stigma, amplify underrepresented voices, and create space for healing. For practical takeaways from the conversation, scroll down through the show notes. In this episode, Fiona sits down with Dr. Jenny Wang, clinical psychologist and author of Permission to Come Home: Reclaiming Mental Health as Asian Americans — a compelling and courageous exploration of identity, healing, and mental health within the Asian American experience. Drawing from both personal experience and professional insight, Dr. Wang shares her journey through intergenerational trauma, cultural expectation, and the quiet grief of belonging in-between worlds. Through her book and her platform Asians for Mental Health, she is helping to dismantle stigma, amplify underrepresented voices, and create space for healing. For practical takeaways from the conversation, scroll down through the show notes. therapy, belonging., play, parenting, cultural humility, community healing, resilience, asian americans, mental health, grief, vulnerability, cultural identity, intergenerational trauma, home, emotional resilience false full 116 2886b3e9-5b5a-43d6-a4c0-60ba4f2572a3 Rewind: From the jungle to Soho House the journey of creative Nabil Aliffi We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 6 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/rewind-from-singapore-to-soho-house-the-journey-of-creative-nabil-aliffi-65YkR24Y We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Rewind: From the jungle to Soho House the journey of creative Nabil Aliffi Fiona Murden 01:04:20 Episode Rewind: Harper’s Bazare described Nabil Aliffi as ‘This London-based Singaporean wunderkind’, I describe him as a friend, coachee and ‘One to Watch’ as he takes his continues to take his career as a Creative from strength to strength. Episode Rewind: Harper’s Bazare described Nabil Aliffi as ‘This London-based Singaporean wunderkind’, I describe him as a friend, coachee and ‘One to Watch’ as he takes his continues to take his career as a Creative from strength to strength. london college of fashion, creative meaning, creative defined, life story, soho house, creative director, soho house new york, fashion, chief creative officer, creative minds, creative jobs false full 115 c62a69a1-a331-4ccb-b561-bee87163aebf The Hidden Cost of Success - Jacob Nordby Reveals How Creativity Rescued His Spirit Jacob Nordby joins me to discuss his personal journey from feeling trapped in an outwardly successful entrepreneurial career to finding fulfillment through creativity and self-discovery. He reflects on how stepping back from societal definitions of success allowed him to reconnect with what truly mattered - expressing himself and helping others do the same.

We dive into:

  • Creativity as a Life Force: How creativity is not limited to art or traditional “creative” work - it’s about feeling alive and expressing who you are, whether that’s through painting, sports, problem-solving, or how you show up in everyday life.
  • Making Room for Creativity: The importance of carving out time for creative activities - even if they’re not your primary job - and how this can bring more energy and joy into every area of your life.
  • What Blocks Creativity: Jacob explains the three biggest barriers that often shut down our creativity:
  • Reconnecting with Your Creative Self: Why self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-expression are key to breaking through these blocks - and how creativity often requires us to re-learn how to trust ourselves.
  • A Balanced Approach: Jacob talks about integrating both left and right brain thinking - combining structure and logic with freedom and imagination - to nurture creativity in all aspects of life.

Jacob also shares insights from his book, The Creative Cure, which offers practical tools and exercises to help readers reconnect with their inner creative selves and find greater freedom and fulfillment.

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and follow the podcast—it helps others discover the show!

Tips to Take Away:

To apply the concept of "creating in the moment" to your daily life and work: 

  • Be present and attentive to the current moment. Notice your senses, your thoughts, your feelings. Don't get caught up in the past or future.
  • Look for opportunities to create something, even if small - a thoughtful email, a doodle, a new recipe, an engaging conversation. Focus on the process of creating, not just the end result.
  • Approach tasks and challenges with a mindset of curiosity and exploration, rather than just trying to check things off a to-do list. See each moment as a chance to bring your creativity to bear.
  • Take short breaks to reset and reconnect with your inner sense of aliveness and creativity. Even a few minutes of deep breathing or freewriting can help you tap into that energy.
  • Experiment and play. Don't get attached to perfection. Allow your creations to be imperfect and evolving.

The key is to shift from seeing creativity as something you produce to a way of being present and engaged in each moment. This can help you feel more alive and fulfilled in both your work and personal life.

Resources:

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 20 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-hidden-cost-of-success-jacob-nordby-reveals-how-creativity-rescued-his-spirit-P3HKNfsm Jacob Nordby joins me to discuss his personal journey from feeling trapped in an outwardly successful entrepreneurial career to finding fulfillment through creativity and self-discovery. He reflects on how stepping back from societal definitions of success allowed him to reconnect with what truly mattered - expressing himself and helping others do the same.

We dive into:

  • Creativity as a Life Force: How creativity is not limited to art or traditional “creative” work - it’s about feeling alive and expressing who you are, whether that’s through painting, sports, problem-solving, or how you show up in everyday life.
  • Making Room for Creativity: The importance of carving out time for creative activities - even if they’re not your primary job - and how this can bring more energy and joy into every area of your life.
  • What Blocks Creativity: Jacob explains the three biggest barriers that often shut down our creativity:
  • Reconnecting with Your Creative Self: Why self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-expression are key to breaking through these blocks - and how creativity often requires us to re-learn how to trust ourselves.
  • A Balanced Approach: Jacob talks about integrating both left and right brain thinking - combining structure and logic with freedom and imagination - to nurture creativity in all aspects of life.

Jacob also shares insights from his book, The Creative Cure, which offers practical tools and exercises to help readers reconnect with their inner creative selves and find greater freedom and fulfillment.

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and follow the podcast—it helps others discover the show!

Tips to Take Away:

To apply the concept of "creating in the moment" to your daily life and work: 

  • Be present and attentive to the current moment. Notice your senses, your thoughts, your feelings. Don't get caught up in the past or future.
  • Look for opportunities to create something, even if small - a thoughtful email, a doodle, a new recipe, an engaging conversation. Focus on the process of creating, not just the end result.
  • Approach tasks and challenges with a mindset of curiosity and exploration, rather than just trying to check things off a to-do list. See each moment as a chance to bring your creativity to bear.
  • Take short breaks to reset and reconnect with your inner sense of aliveness and creativity. Even a few minutes of deep breathing or freewriting can help you tap into that energy.
  • Experiment and play. Don't get attached to perfection. Allow your creations to be imperfect and evolving.

The key is to shift from seeing creativity as something you produce to a way of being present and engaged in each moment. This can help you feel more alive and fulfilled in both your work and personal life.

Resources:

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Hidden Cost of Success - Jacob Nordby Reveals How Creativity Rescued His Spirit Fiona Murden 00:59:19 In this episode, writer Jacob Nordby shares his journey from a successful but unfulfilling career in entrepreneurship to rediscovering his creativity and redefining his sense of purpose. He opens up about how reconnecting with his creative self transformed his values, priorities, and overall approach to life. Together, we explore how creativity is not just about art - it’s a vital spark of life that can show up in everything from writing to sport, problem-solving, or simply how we move through our day. In this episode, writer Jacob Nordby shares his journey from a successful but unfulfilling career in entrepreneurship to rediscovering his creativity and redefining his sense of purpose. He opens up about how reconnecting with his creative self transformed his values, priorities, and overall approach to life. Together, we explore how creativity is not just about art - it’s a vital spark of life that can show up in everything from writing to sport, problem-solving, or simply how we move through our day. meaning joy, human potential, creative writing, creative cure, meaning ethos, psychologist, self-discovery, personal potential, creative bug, meaning muse, life connected, creativity, freedom writers, freedom trail, creative market false full 114 26ff1b1a-6895-43a2-94e3-bc8b9f3f9cf8 Rewind: Healing trauma - with Dr. Russ Harris Fiona is joined by friend, sports psychologist Lou Jones on this episode. They talk to Russ about how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can reach aspects of trauma that are otherwise so hard to treat. Russ explains how when people have experienced trauma and it is deeply held it’s far more difficult to reach and heal through words. Although it’s not impossible, it takes a lot longer and a match with the right therapist. While words can create pain, we don’t experience pain in words. The ACT approach to trauma goes first to the body and emotions which enables a much quicker recovery leading to what is known as Post Traumatic Growth. 

 

Links to Russ's books we refer to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

Trauma Focussed ACT A Practitioner's Guide to Working with Mind, Body, and Emotion Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via the link and in all good book stores.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 6 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/rewind-how-to-heal-from-trauma-with-dr-russ-harris-Kfy9yT1g Fiona is joined by friend, sports psychologist Lou Jones on this episode. They talk to Russ about how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can reach aspects of trauma that are otherwise so hard to treat. Russ explains how when people have experienced trauma and it is deeply held it’s far more difficult to reach and heal through words. Although it’s not impossible, it takes a lot longer and a match with the right therapist. While words can create pain, we don’t experience pain in words. The ACT approach to trauma goes first to the body and emotions which enables a much quicker recovery leading to what is known as Post Traumatic Growth. 

 

Links to Russ's books we refer to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

Trauma Focussed ACT A Practitioner's Guide to Working with Mind, Body, and Emotion Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via the link and in all good book stores.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Rewind: Healing trauma - with Dr. Russ Harris Fiona Murden 00:57:36 Russ Harris is a medical doctor and author of The Happiness Trap (plus nine other books) which has sold over 1 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. Russ is hugely passionate, funny and insightful so it's well worth a listen. Russ Harris is a medical doctor and author of The Happiness Trap (plus nine other books) which has sold over 1 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. Russ is hugely passionate, funny and insightful so it's well worth a listen. therapy, emotions, dysregulation of emotions, self-worth, acceptance and commitment therapy act, trauma release, inner child work, stress post trauma, values, mental health, trauma, healing trauma, trauma informed care, psychology, somatic exercise, best selling author, russ harris false full 113 790873cd-b2ba-42d6-a34c-85ae969db8df Laughter in the Chaos Referred to: 

Humankind by Rutger Bergman

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/rutger-bregman/humankind/9780316418553/?lens=little-brown

Bill Burr on People Online Commenting on the LA Fires 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7wcU4W4tDE

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 23 Jan 2025 22:16:58 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/laughter-in-the-chaos-ZAaz_urS Referred to: 

Humankind by Rutger Bergman

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/rutger-bregman/humankind/9780316418553/?lens=little-brown

Bill Burr on People Online Commenting on the LA Fires 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7wcU4W4tDE

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Laughter in the Chaos Fiona Murden 00:29:04 In this episode, I go unscripted—much like improv itself—sharing my experience of stepping into the unpredictable world of improv classes here in Los Angeles. As wildfires rage around the city, I reflect on the parallels between life’s chaos and the lessons improv teaches us: staying present, embracing uncertainty, and connecting with others. In this episode, I go unscripted—much like improv itself—sharing my experience of stepping into the unpredictable world of improv classes here in Los Angeles. As wildfires rage around the city, I reflect on the parallels between life’s chaos and the lessons improv teaches us: staying present, embracing uncertainty, and connecting with others. bill burr, los angeles, lafires, improv, people helping people, jimmy kimmel, psychology of improv, los angeles angels, good people, shattered memories, comedy, devestation false full 112 fc2eee0d-b095-4df3-a292-a40e988061a6 Rewind: Everyday spy - with former CIA agent Andrew Bustamante Andrew explains the need for officers to know themselves really well, to know how to optimise their own recovery which is in part something helped through profiling and in part a process of self-discovery. In light of this Fiona and Andrew explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And they touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that "their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies."

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. 

For more from Fiona, her books, free resources and more go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 9 Jan 2025 19:46:07 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/rewind-everyday-spy-with-former-cia-agent-andrew-bustamante-tWA144fO Andrew explains the need for officers to know themselves really well, to know how to optimise their own recovery which is in part something helped through profiling and in part a process of self-discovery. In light of this Fiona and Andrew explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And they touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that "their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies."

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. 

For more from Fiona, her books, free resources and more go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Rewind: Everyday spy - with former CIA agent Andrew Bustamante Fiona Murden 00:55:11 On this episode – a rewind of one of THE most popular Dot to Dot episodes - Fiona speaks to Andrew Bustamante, a former ‘covert CIA intelligence officer’. They delve into the psychology of being a spy. Among other things they discuss the extreme cognitive load experienced as an officer and the need to retreat to a safe space in order to recover. Getting this wrong means “you become a major liability, not just to the operation, but to yourself and your own life.” On this episode – a rewind of one of THE most popular Dot to Dot episodes - Fiona speaks to Andrew Bustamante, a former ‘covert CIA intelligence officer’. They delve into the psychology of being a spy. Among other things they discuss the extreme cognitive load experienced as an officer and the need to retreat to a safe space in order to recover. Getting this wrong means “you become a major liability, not just to the operation, but to yourself and your own life.” mbti, psychological profiling, self awareness, intelligenceprofiling, spymindset, everyday spy, psychologist, mentalresilience, profiling, elite performance, cia agent, psychologicalassessment, personalityprofiling, psychology, mentalperformance false full 111 967d1f1a-7286-4ea5-9572-d9e7dc91e868 The “Indiana Jones of Psychology” – with Dr Robert Biswas-Diener Fiona and Robert explore the importance of intellectual curiosity, self-understanding, and the trade-offs between traditional careers and entrepreneurial pursuits. They delve into the concept of hospitality, its impact on life satisfaction, and discuss practical advice for increasing happiness and emotional resilience. Robert introduces his research on hospitality, examining its role in well-being and social trust across cultures. The conversation also covers the complex relationship between happiness and economic context, offering practical advice for increasing life satisfaction and emotional agility. Finally, they highlight the importance of connection and belonging for well-being and the need to teach social and emotional skills in schools and workplaces.

Dr Biswas-Diener is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, hospitality and happiness. His extensive research, has taken him to places like Greenland, India, and Kenya and resulted in over over 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and seven books, including The Upside of Your Dark Side. His expertise in cross-cultural psychology and well-being policy, have led to him contributing regularly to the Global Council for Happiness and Wellbeing. His work has also made a lasting impact on the coaching profession. When he’s not researching, he enjoys rock climbing and drawing, and lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

For more from Dr. Biswas Diener go to: 

www.robertdiener.com 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 12 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-indiana-jones-of-psychology-with-dr-robert-biswas-diener-OuKpZiEI Fiona and Robert explore the importance of intellectual curiosity, self-understanding, and the trade-offs between traditional careers and entrepreneurial pursuits. They delve into the concept of hospitality, its impact on life satisfaction, and discuss practical advice for increasing happiness and emotional resilience. Robert introduces his research on hospitality, examining its role in well-being and social trust across cultures. The conversation also covers the complex relationship between happiness and economic context, offering practical advice for increasing life satisfaction and emotional agility. Finally, they highlight the importance of connection and belonging for well-being and the need to teach social and emotional skills in schools and workplaces.

Dr Biswas-Diener is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, hospitality and happiness. His extensive research, has taken him to places like Greenland, India, and Kenya and resulted in over over 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and seven books, including The Upside of Your Dark Side. His expertise in cross-cultural psychology and well-being policy, have led to him contributing regularly to the Global Council for Happiness and Wellbeing. His work has also made a lasting impact on the coaching profession. When he’s not researching, he enjoys rock climbing and drawing, and lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

For more from Dr. Biswas Diener go to: 

www.robertdiener.com 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The “Indiana Jones of Psychology” – with Dr Robert Biswas-Diener Fiona Murden 00:51:35 In this episode, Fiona speaks to Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener, widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology.” In their conversation they dive into the importance of self-understanding, career choices, and emotional well-being. Robert offers some really inspiring insights with practical advice for those seeking to live more authentically and thrive both personally and professionally. In this episode, Fiona speaks to Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener, widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology.” In their conversation they dive into the importance of self-understanding, career choices, and emotional well-being. Robert offers some really inspiring insights with practical advice for those seeking to live more authentically and thrive both personally and professionally. conflict resolution, hospitality study, intellectual curiosity, positive psychology, happiness research, social emotional learning, emotional agility, emotional fitness, emotional acceptance, meaningful relationships, academic freedom, social connections, emotional resilience, cultural contexts, well-being programs false full 110 58430b3c-86cf-4c75-bdf4-0528e52607e6 The Resilience Kit - 3 of 3 In 1942, Viktor Frankl faced unimaginable adversity as he was sent to Auschwitz. Amid the horrors of a Nazi concentration camp, Frankl observed a remarkable truth: those who found meaning and purpose, even in the darkest moments, displayed an unshakable resilience.These profound insights became the foundation of his groundbreaking work,Man’s Search for Meaning.

Building on Frankl’s work and modern psychological research, this episode of Life Connected™ unpacks the third pillar of resilience: Significance. 

Significance, purpose, and meaning are integral to resilience because they provide the "why" behind our actions, helping us navigate life’s toughest moments with clarity and determination. They ground us in our values and passions, offering a sense of direction when everything feels overwhelming. These elements do more than just help us endure—they empower us to grow, adapt, and find ways to contribute to something greater than ourselves. Viktor Frankl’s experiences remind us that even in the most harrowing circumstances, a connection to meaning can transform suffering into strength and purpose, offering an anchor of hope when we need it most.

Explore the power of the 3Ss—Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance—to build your resilience muscle and create a life of deeper meaning and fulfillment.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot first episode 

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot second episode 

The Values Exercise which can be found on Fiona’s website as a free resource. 

The Connection Tips which can be found here

The Strengths Exercises can be found here

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 28 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-resilience-kit-3-of-3-PX3ex1Ww In 1942, Viktor Frankl faced unimaginable adversity as he was sent to Auschwitz. Amid the horrors of a Nazi concentration camp, Frankl observed a remarkable truth: those who found meaning and purpose, even in the darkest moments, displayed an unshakable resilience.These profound insights became the foundation of his groundbreaking work,Man’s Search for Meaning.

Building on Frankl’s work and modern psychological research, this episode of Life Connected™ unpacks the third pillar of resilience: Significance. 

Significance, purpose, and meaning are integral to resilience because they provide the "why" behind our actions, helping us navigate life’s toughest moments with clarity and determination. They ground us in our values and passions, offering a sense of direction when everything feels overwhelming. These elements do more than just help us endure—they empower us to grow, adapt, and find ways to contribute to something greater than ourselves. Viktor Frankl’s experiences remind us that even in the most harrowing circumstances, a connection to meaning can transform suffering into strength and purpose, offering an anchor of hope when we need it most.

Explore the power of the 3Ss—Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance—to build your resilience muscle and create a life of deeper meaning and fulfillment.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot first episode 

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot second episode 

The Values Exercise which can be found on Fiona’s website as a free resource. 

The Connection Tips which can be found here

The Strengths Exercises can be found here

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Resilience Kit - 3 of 3 Fiona Murden 00:31:54 In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. post traumatic growth, purpose, social support, meaning, emotional health, frankl, life and love, significance, resilience, values exercise, values, meaning and purpose, gratitude practice, wellbeing, finding what matters, connection false full 109 dca76fd5-77fa-4d4b-a5cc-f1ec3264fac3 The Resilience Kit - 2 of 3 Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Social Connection. 

 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including giving to, receiving from and growing social connection. 

 

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 14 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-resilience-kit-2-of-3-SGlDFe4r Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Social Connection. 

 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including giving to, receiving from and growing social connection. 

 

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Resilience Kit - 2 of 3 Fiona Murden 00:37:06 In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. true full 108 d5902759-9e9d-4579-b830-30a99f49a034 The Resilience Kit - 1 of 3 Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Support, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Self-Awareness. 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including self-monitoring techniques, stress relievers and mindset strategies. We’ll also discuss how creating a sense of “home” within yourself can serve as a foundation for exploring your emotional landscape.

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Tasha Eurich's podcast episode on Dot to Dot

Kelly McGonigal's Ted talk about Stress

It was Daniel Siegel who used the term Human Family

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 1 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-resilience-kit-1-of-3-uaa5_edb Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Support, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Self-Awareness. 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including self-monitoring techniques, stress relievers and mindset strategies. We’ll also discuss how creating a sense of “home” within yourself can serve as a foundation for exploring your emotional landscape.

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Tasha Eurich's podcast episode on Dot to Dot

Kelly McGonigal's Ted talk about Stress

It was Daniel Siegel who used the term Human Family

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Resilience Kit - 1 of 3 Fiona Murden 00:49:36 In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. In this mini-series, we’re delving into the critical topic of emotional resilience—how it can equip you to face life’s challenges with strength and grace. With years of experience applying resilience strategies and firsthand insights from supporting NHS frontline workers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Fiona explores how resilience isn’t just something we call upon in times of crisis but a skill we build through our everyday choices. connection to yourself, self awareness, self monitoring, coming back stronger, external stressors, stress, psychologist, emotional awareness, connect life, internal stressors, locus of control, life connected, psychology, wellbeing, stress relief, emotional resilience, stress relievers, defining you false full 107 6c8ed441-782d-4dc2-836c-b43a8a639d3e Holding it Together with Jessica Calarco Calarco shares insights from her research, highlighting how the pandemic intensified the already heavy burdens placed on women revealing how they often became the primary caregivers when formal systems fell short. She discusses the impact of structural barriers within the USA, like underfunded social support systems, and how societal norms and expectations further pressure women into these roles, leading to feelings of guilt and exhaustion.

The conversation also explores the deep-rooted issues of gender roles and economic inequality, emphasizing the need for a reimagined approach to support networks. Jessica reflects on how these challenges connect to a broader history of individualism and inadequate social policies that have left women disproportionately carrying the load, especially within the United States.

Listeners are invited to reconsider the narratives around caregiving and to think critically about the collective responsibility needed to build a fairer, more supportive society. This episode serves as both a revealing look into modern motherhood and a call for systemic change.

For Jessica Calarco's site click here

For more from Fiona click here

To connect with Fiona on social media go to:

Instagram

Linkedin 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 17 Oct 2024 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/holding-it-together-with-jessica-calarco-5C9bXX6y Calarco shares insights from her research, highlighting how the pandemic intensified the already heavy burdens placed on women revealing how they often became the primary caregivers when formal systems fell short. She discusses the impact of structural barriers within the USA, like underfunded social support systems, and how societal norms and expectations further pressure women into these roles, leading to feelings of guilt and exhaustion.

The conversation also explores the deep-rooted issues of gender roles and economic inequality, emphasizing the need for a reimagined approach to support networks. Jessica reflects on how these challenges connect to a broader history of individualism and inadequate social policies that have left women disproportionately carrying the load, especially within the United States.

Listeners are invited to reconsider the narratives around caregiving and to think critically about the collective responsibility needed to build a fairer, more supportive society. This episode serves as both a revealing look into modern motherhood and a call for systemic change.

For Jessica Calarco's site click here

For more from Fiona click here

To connect with Fiona on social media go to:

Instagram

Linkedin 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Holding it Together with Jessica Calarco Fiona Murden 00:53:55 In this episode, Fiona sits down with Sociologist and Professor at the University of Wisconsin-Madison Jessica Calarco, author of Holding It Together: How Women Became America's Social Safety Net. Together, they dive into the hidden realities that many mothers faced during the COVID-19 pandemic and explore how these experiences reveal far deeper long standing societal challenges around gender roles and economic inequality. In this episode, Fiona sits down with Sociologist and Professor at the University of Wisconsin-Madison Jessica Calarco, author of Holding It Together: How Women Became America's Social Safety Net. Together, they dive into the hidden realities that many mothers faced during the COVID-19 pandemic and explore how these experiences reveal far deeper long standing societal challenges around gender roles and economic inequality. paternity leave, structural barriers, interconnected, collective responsibility, intergenerational impact, parenting, economic inequality, neoliberalism, childcare issues, policy implications, caregiving burden, maternal guilt, gender roles, role modelling false full 106 f140f301-c731-4d5e-8ddc-73588f9f0089 Be Real: Why Faking It Drains Your Energy Fri, 4 Oct 2024 00:22:51 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/be-real-why-faking-it-drains-your-energy-UO8FgMJt Be Real: Why Faking It Drains Your Energy Fiona Murden 00:19:31 In this episode, we dive into the concept of authenticity versus emotional labor, exploring the powerful difference between "being" and "seeming." Drawing from psychology and real-world examples, we discuss the hidden costs of faking emotions, both on our mental and physical well-being. We explore how leaders and everyday interactions are impacted by emotional labor and why choosing to be authentic can lead to stronger connections, better leadership, and a healthier, more fulfilling life. Tune in to learn how embracing your true self can transform the way you work, connect, and thrive. In this episode, we dive into the concept of authenticity versus emotional labor, exploring the powerful difference between "being" and "seeming." Drawing from psychology and real-world examples, we discuss the hidden costs of faking emotions, both on our mental and physical well-being. We explore how leaders and everyday interactions are impacted by emotional labor and why choosing to be authentic can lead to stronger connections, better leadership, and a healthier, more fulfilling life. Tune in to learn how embracing your true self can transform the way you work, connect, and thrive. meaningful connections, eq, mindset, leadership, eqinaction, being, emotional labor, seeming to be, beyourself, emotional intelligence, truth, healthyconnections, emotional intelligence habits, be real, vulnerability, healthy connections, connection, authentic false full 105 b93ab3db-80ed-46c4-82bb-d07599cc3e02 Think like a coach with - Jude Sclater Fiona and Jude discuss the power of verbalizing problems, the initial awkwardness of applying coaching techniques, and the value of experimentation and feedback. Jude outlines the two main steps of her model for coaching - the coaching two-step: asking someone to tell you more and reflecting back what you hear. Jude emphasizes that coaching is a natural skill we can all benefit from, much like cooking, and shares strategies for giving effective feedback and handling difficult emotions with empathy. 

To sign up to 'The Dot' newsletter for fortnightly insights into how to live life feeling more connected to yourself and others go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Biography Jude Sclater

Jude Sclater is a coach, author, and trainer. Her book, “Think Like a Coach: How to empower your team through everyday conversations,” introduces the innovative Coaching Two-Step model that simplifies coaching down to its core principles, enabling you to swiftly adopt a coaching management style.

Over 20 years her career she has worked for companies such as Deloitte. Pearson and Penguin Books. She draws on this vast experience to coach and train managers from consulting, legal, and financial service industries, guiding them from individual contributors to great team managers. 

Find out more at www.thinkwithjude.com

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 19 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/think-like-a-coach-with-jude-sclater-dYNdcJQL Fiona and Jude discuss the power of verbalizing problems, the initial awkwardness of applying coaching techniques, and the value of experimentation and feedback. Jude outlines the two main steps of her model for coaching - the coaching two-step: asking someone to tell you more and reflecting back what you hear. Jude emphasizes that coaching is a natural skill we can all benefit from, much like cooking, and shares strategies for giving effective feedback and handling difficult emotions with empathy. 

To sign up to 'The Dot' newsletter for fortnightly insights into how to live life feeling more connected to yourself and others go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Biography Jude Sclater

Jude Sclater is a coach, author, and trainer. Her book, “Think Like a Coach: How to empower your team through everyday conversations,” introduces the innovative Coaching Two-Step model that simplifies coaching down to its core principles, enabling you to swiftly adopt a coaching management style.

Over 20 years her career she has worked for companies such as Deloitte. Pearson and Penguin Books. She draws on this vast experience to coach and train managers from consulting, legal, and financial service industries, guiding them from individual contributors to great team managers. 

Find out more at www.thinkwithjude.com

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Think like a coach with - Jude Sclater Fiona Murden 00:48:59 In this episode of Dot to Dot, Fiona speaks to Jude Sclater author of 'Think Like a Coach' to explore the practical and accessible approach to coaching through the lens of scientific insight. Throughout the conversation, they unpack the benefits of coaching, the importance of quality attention, and how simple phrases like "Tell me more" can unlock deeper thinking. Together, they emphasize the power of feedback, experimentation, and the natural flow of coaching in everyday life. In this episode of Dot to Dot, Fiona speaks to Jude Sclater author of 'Think Like a Coach' to explore the practical and accessible approach to coaching through the lens of scientific insight. Throughout the conversation, they unpack the benefits of coaching, the importance of quality attention, and how simple phrases like "Tell me more" can unlock deeper thinking. Together, they emphasize the power of feedback, experimentation, and the natural flow of coaching in everyday life. coaching meaning, experimentation, coaching for managers, opening up, coaching definition, coaching for everyone, deeper thinking, coaching relationship, feedback, benefits of coaching, thinking critically, coaching, thinking out loud, open ended question false full 104 9ab96521-bc7c-4323-9cec-8b3900fe8b70 You Plan. Life Laughs. Coping with Failure For Fiona's blog which explores how values can help reduce the 'Fear of Failure' when setting goals go to

Goals Are Great Until Life Takes a Detour

To sign up to 'The Dot' newsletter which comes out every 2 weeks go to:

FionaMurden.com 

To connect with the 'Life Connected' community on Instagram go to:

The Connected Psychologist 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 5 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/you-plan-life-laughs-coping-with-failure-0vVTvLW6 For Fiona's blog which explores how values can help reduce the 'Fear of Failure' when setting goals go to

Goals Are Great Until Life Takes a Detour

To sign up to 'The Dot' newsletter which comes out every 2 weeks go to:

FionaMurden.com 

To connect with the 'Life Connected' community on Instagram go to:

The Connected Psychologist 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> You Plan. Life Laughs. Coping with Failure Fiona Murden 00:21:25 In this episode, Fiona explores the universal 'Fear of Failure'—how it stops us from taking risks and holds us back from reaching our full potential. We dive into the psychological roots of this fear, examining how personal experiences, upbringing, societal pressures, and even biology can shape our perception of failure. She discusses strategies to overcome the fear of failure, such as redefining success, reframing failure as a “Pivot Spark,” cultivating a growth mindset, and celebrating small wins along the way. I also emphasize the importance of self-compassion and building a supportive network of people who encourage growth and much more too. In this episode, Fiona explores the universal 'Fear of Failure'—how it stops us from taking risks and holds us back from reaching our full potential. We dive into the psychological roots of this fear, examining how personal experiences, upbringing, societal pressures, and even biology can shape our perception of failure. She discusses strategies to overcome the fear of failure, such as redefining success, reframing failure as a “Pivot Spark,” cultivating a growth mindset, and celebrating small wins along the way. I also emphasize the importance of self-compassion and building a supportive network of people who encourage growth and much more too. spark, sparklosangeles, pivotpodcast, successfactors, fearoffailurequotes, failure, sparknotes, failureframe, failureeffect, pivoting, successfully, emotional intelligence, pivotpoint, performance matters, fearofbeingfailure, fearoffailure, performance false full 103 a8fcc46b-5e5a-4a5b-b4a0-d7b43f9c3073 Coaching as a Catalyst for Transformation - with coach Leila Rezaiguia In this episode, we delve into the journey of Leila Rezaiguia, a passionate advocate for equipping coaches with the skills to effectively serve both individuals and teams. With her extensive experience in corporate roles spanning learning, development, and talent management across various industries, Leila emphasizes the transformative impact of one-on-one and systemic team coaching in fostering trust, collaboration, and a shared purpose within organizations.

Leila also voices her concern about the lack of understanding and awareness around coaching in her region, highlighting the risks posed by unqualified individuals labeling themselves as coaches. She champions ethical coaching practices that empower clients and honor their resourcefulness, steering away from overly directive or prescriptive methods. Additionally, she distinguishes between mentor coaching, which develops specific coaching competencies, and coaching supervision, which deepens the coach's self-awareness and their influence on the client relationship.

With her international background, particularly in the Middle East, Leila addresses the often-taboo subject of menopause in many cultures, especially in some where the stigma can be more pronounced, and how coaching can provide crucial support for women navigating these challenges.

 

For more from Leila go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/leila-rezaiguia/

For Fiona news from The Dot newsletter go to https://www.fionamurden.com

Or Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

Bio for Leila Rezaiguia (MCIPD, PCC, ORSC, NLP, STC)

Leila is a highly sought-after multi-lingual Executive, Systemic Team Coach, ICF Mentor Coach & CSA accredited Coach Supervisor with over 24 years, in public and private sectors, working with leading organisations, and individuals to enhance productivity, maximise performance, and accelerating growth across 5 continents. 

She is renowned for her high energy, enthusiasm, passion, fun-loving nature, and love for building connections, empowering, and working with people from diverse cultures. She is passionate about 1:1 & Systemic Team Coaching, Coach Training, Coaching Supervision, and Women in Leadership. 

Leila integrates cutting-edge learning techniques to deliver the most effective evidence-based solutions to her clients and strives to help her clients from graduate to C-suite levels reach higher performance personally and professionally.

Leila is passionate about Coaching, Mentoring, Women in Leadership, and Leadership Development and has created successful performance, coaching, and mentoring cultures across different industries.

She is based between Dubai and Turkey and leads both Kompass The Coaching Company & the Academy of Executive CoachingUAE.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 22 Aug 2024 06:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/coaching-as-a-catalyst-for-transformation-with-coach-leila-rezaiguia-UxODcQgI In this episode, we delve into the journey of Leila Rezaiguia, a passionate advocate for equipping coaches with the skills to effectively serve both individuals and teams. With her extensive experience in corporate roles spanning learning, development, and talent management across various industries, Leila emphasizes the transformative impact of one-on-one and systemic team coaching in fostering trust, collaboration, and a shared purpose within organizations.

Leila also voices her concern about the lack of understanding and awareness around coaching in her region, highlighting the risks posed by unqualified individuals labeling themselves as coaches. She champions ethical coaching practices that empower clients and honor their resourcefulness, steering away from overly directive or prescriptive methods. Additionally, she distinguishes between mentor coaching, which develops specific coaching competencies, and coaching supervision, which deepens the coach's self-awareness and their influence on the client relationship.

With her international background, particularly in the Middle East, Leila addresses the often-taboo subject of menopause in many cultures, especially in some where the stigma can be more pronounced, and how coaching can provide crucial support for women navigating these challenges.

 

For more from Leila go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/leila-rezaiguia/

For Fiona news from The Dot newsletter go to https://www.fionamurden.com

Or Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

Bio for Leila Rezaiguia (MCIPD, PCC, ORSC, NLP, STC)

Leila is a highly sought-after multi-lingual Executive, Systemic Team Coach, ICF Mentor Coach & CSA accredited Coach Supervisor with over 24 years, in public and private sectors, working with leading organisations, and individuals to enhance productivity, maximise performance, and accelerating growth across 5 continents. 

She is renowned for her high energy, enthusiasm, passion, fun-loving nature, and love for building connections, empowering, and working with people from diverse cultures. She is passionate about 1:1 & Systemic Team Coaching, Coach Training, Coaching Supervision, and Women in Leadership. 

Leila integrates cutting-edge learning techniques to deliver the most effective evidence-based solutions to her clients and strives to help her clients from graduate to C-suite levels reach higher performance personally and professionally.

Leila is passionate about Coaching, Mentoring, Women in Leadership, and Leadership Development and has created successful performance, coaching, and mentoring cultures across different industries.

She is based between Dubai and Turkey and leads both Kompass The Coaching Company & the Academy of Executive CoachingUAE.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Coaching as a Catalyst for Transformation - with coach Leila Rezaiguia Fiona Murden 00:57:33 Leila Rezaiguia, is a a certified coach and accredited coach supervisor who in this episode shares her expertise in coaching. Leila is passionate about developing the next generation of executive coaches and establishing coaching cultures within organizations. In this episode she emphasizes the significance of coaching credentials, accreditations, and continuous professional development for coaches. Leila Rezaiguia, is a a certified coach and accredited coach supervisor who in this episode shares her expertise in coaching. Leila is passionate about developing the next generation of executive coaches and establishing coaching cultures within organizations. In this episode she emphasizes the significance of coaching credentials, accreditations, and continuous professional development for coaches. coaching culture podcast, international coaching federation, coaching supervision, how to build trust as a leader, mentoring and mentorship, women supporting women, education and training, women in leadership, coaching vs mentoring, coaching 101, podcast coaching for leaders, menopause taboo, menopause false full 102 4c7f34be-3d92-4742-9913-95704b0befb7 Navigating the Storm: 5 practices 5 Practices to stay grounded in tough times Thu, 8 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/navigating-the-storm-5-practices-for-building-resilience-during-hard-times-X3kpJM78 Navigating the Storm: 5 practices 5 Practices to stay grounded in tough times Fiona Murden 00:29:37 If you're feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges I'm hoping this may help. Join us on this episode as we dive into practical strategies and psychological insights to help you regain control and find calm amidst the chaos. Whether you're facing personal or professional hurdles, discover how to navigate them with resilience and grace. If you're feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges I'm hoping this may help. Join us on this episode as we dive into practical strategies and psychological insights to help you regain control and find calm amidst the chaos. Whether you're facing personal or professional hurdles, discover how to navigate them with resilience and grace. false full 101 91cfa63e-62df-4cd8-8fb3-2b6c8bc10992 Achieving the Impossible with President Tori Murden McClure Tori's journey reflects her commitment to resilience and compassion, shaped by her experiences at Smith College and Harvard Divinity School, where she learned about the importance of empathy across cultures and religions. Her work with marginalized populations, including running a shelter for homeless women, led her to pursue a law degree to advocate for change. But perhaps more notable are her personal challenges, including growing up with a brother who has developmental disabilities. It's these which have fueled her passion for social justice and healing. 

A pivotal influence in her life was Muhammad Ali, whose compassion inspired Tori to overcome her own struggles. He encouraged her to finish what she started, leading to her successful second attempt at rowing across the Atlantic Ocean. But there were other lesser known figures from a boy at school who stood up for her brother to a teacher who taught her persistence who've also played a huge role in the values she holds closely even today. 

Join us as we explore Tori's incredible story, her insights on compassion, and her mission to inspire others to rise above their challenges. This is a conversation filled with wisdom and inspiration that you won't want to miss. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 25 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/achieving-the-impossible-with-president-tori-murden-mcclure-0LpHsz0T Tori's journey reflects her commitment to resilience and compassion, shaped by her experiences at Smith College and Harvard Divinity School, where she learned about the importance of empathy across cultures and religions. Her work with marginalized populations, including running a shelter for homeless women, led her to pursue a law degree to advocate for change. But perhaps more notable are her personal challenges, including growing up with a brother who has developmental disabilities. It's these which have fueled her passion for social justice and healing. 

A pivotal influence in her life was Muhammad Ali, whose compassion inspired Tori to overcome her own struggles. He encouraged her to finish what she started, leading to her successful second attempt at rowing across the Atlantic Ocean. But there were other lesser known figures from a boy at school who stood up for her brother to a teacher who taught her persistence who've also played a huge role in the values she holds closely even today. 

Join us as we explore Tori's incredible story, her insights on compassion, and her mission to inspire others to rise above their challenges. This is a conversation filled with wisdom and inspiration that you won't want to miss. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Achieving the Impossible with President Tori Murden McClure Fiona Murden 00:56:07 Our guest this week is the extraordinary Tori Murden McClure, an athlete, adventurer, chaplain, lawyer, and university president. Tori made history in 1999 as the first woman and the first American to row solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Her impressive achievements don't stop there; she was also the first woman and American to ski to the geographic South Pole and the first woman to climb the Lewis Nunatak in the Antarctic. As if that weren’t enough, she also knew Muhammad Ali personally, adding yet another fascinating layer to her incredible story. Our guest this week is the extraordinary Tori Murden McClure, an athlete, adventurer, chaplain, lawyer, and university president. Tori made history in 1999 as the first woman and the first American to row solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Her impressive achievements don't stop there; she was also the first woman and American to ski to the geographic South Pole and the first woman to climb the Lewis Nunatak in the Antarctic. As if that weren’t enough, she also knew Muhammad Ali personally, adding yet another fascinating layer to her incredible story. lifelessons, legacyofleadership, inclusiveleadership, compassionateleadership, womeninsports, womeninleadership, trailblazers, inspiration, resilience, adventureawaits, fearlessfemales, rolemodel, perseverance, highereducation, empathyinleadership, breakingbarriers false full 100 35ef13e2-b8ee-46b9-9905-60a446de3de2 Discover the secrets to a fuller life with Dr Corey Keyes Discussion Points:

  • Psychological Vitamins: Dr. Keyes and Fiona discussing the importance of "psychological vitamins"—activities such as helping others, continuous learning, and forming meaningful connections and how these activities are crucial in fostering a healthy and fulfilling life.
  • Small Changes Big Impact: They discuss the fact that very small changes in lifestyle, if focussed on the ‘right’ things can create a significant difference in mental health. 
  • Impact of Childhood Trauma: The lasting impact of childhood trauma on mental health is explored, with Dr. Keyes sharing firsthand experiences from his own life. This personal insight highlights the long-term effects of trauma and the importance of addressing it early.
  • Mental Health in Healthcare Workers: Dr. Keyes emphasizes the critical role of mental health in supporting healthcare workers. Ensuring their mental well-being is not only vital for their own health but also for maintaining high-quality patient care.
  • Preventive Mental Health Care: A significant portion of the discussion focuses on shifting society's approach from solely treating mental illness to preventing it. Dr. Keyes' research indicates that individuals who are flourishing are less likely to develop PTSD, depression, or anxiety, especially during stressful events like the pandemic. In contrast, those who are languishing are more vulnerable.
  • Critique of Medication-Only Approaches: Dr. Keyes critiques the current approach of relying heavily on medication to treat mental health issues. While some individuals benefit from medications, many treatments are primarily placebic and expensive. He advocates for a preventive approach that promotes overall mental well-being to reduce the likelihood of relapse.
  • Promoting Flourishing: By fostering flourishing, individuals are more likely to maintain long-term recovery from mental health issues. Dr. Keyes underscores the importance of promoting positive mental health alongside treating symptoms of depression and anxiety.
  • Historical Perspective: Reflecting on his career, Dr. Keyes notes that despite recognizing depression as a major public health challenge in 1996, societal approaches to mental health have not significantly changed. He stresses the need for a proactive mental health care system to improve outcomes and reduce the overall burden of mental illness.
  • Role of Education and Societal Change: Fiona and Dr. Keyes discuss the importance of education and societal shifts in promoting mental well-being. In the UK, some doctors now prescribe social activities to improve mental health, but broader educational efforts and societal changes are needed for long-term impact.
  • Analogy with Athletes: Dr. Keyes draws an analogy with athletes who prepare their bodies and minds to withstand challenges. He suggests that individuals should adopt similar preventive measures in their daily lives to ensure long-term health and resilience.
  • Future Vision: Dr. Keyes envisions a healthcare system that monitors individuals' mental health proactively, much like a pit stop team in a car race. Such a system would detect early signs of declining mental health and provide timely interventions to prevent crises.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 11 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Dr Corey Keyes, Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/discover-the-secrets-to-a-fuller-life-with-dr-corey-keyes-UCRNHRJS Discussion Points:

  • Psychological Vitamins: Dr. Keyes and Fiona discussing the importance of "psychological vitamins"—activities such as helping others, continuous learning, and forming meaningful connections and how these activities are crucial in fostering a healthy and fulfilling life.
  • Small Changes Big Impact: They discuss the fact that very small changes in lifestyle, if focussed on the ‘right’ things can create a significant difference in mental health. 
  • Impact of Childhood Trauma: The lasting impact of childhood trauma on mental health is explored, with Dr. Keyes sharing firsthand experiences from his own life. This personal insight highlights the long-term effects of trauma and the importance of addressing it early.
  • Mental Health in Healthcare Workers: Dr. Keyes emphasizes the critical role of mental health in supporting healthcare workers. Ensuring their mental well-being is not only vital for their own health but also for maintaining high-quality patient care.
  • Preventive Mental Health Care: A significant portion of the discussion focuses on shifting society's approach from solely treating mental illness to preventing it. Dr. Keyes' research indicates that individuals who are flourishing are less likely to develop PTSD, depression, or anxiety, especially during stressful events like the pandemic. In contrast, those who are languishing are more vulnerable.
  • Critique of Medication-Only Approaches: Dr. Keyes critiques the current approach of relying heavily on medication to treat mental health issues. While some individuals benefit from medications, many treatments are primarily placebic and expensive. He advocates for a preventive approach that promotes overall mental well-being to reduce the likelihood of relapse.
  • Promoting Flourishing: By fostering flourishing, individuals are more likely to maintain long-term recovery from mental health issues. Dr. Keyes underscores the importance of promoting positive mental health alongside treating symptoms of depression and anxiety.
  • Historical Perspective: Reflecting on his career, Dr. Keyes notes that despite recognizing depression as a major public health challenge in 1996, societal approaches to mental health have not significantly changed. He stresses the need for a proactive mental health care system to improve outcomes and reduce the overall burden of mental illness.
  • Role of Education and Societal Change: Fiona and Dr. Keyes discuss the importance of education and societal shifts in promoting mental well-being. In the UK, some doctors now prescribe social activities to improve mental health, but broader educational efforts and societal changes are needed for long-term impact.
  • Analogy with Athletes: Dr. Keyes draws an analogy with athletes who prepare their bodies and minds to withstand challenges. He suggests that individuals should adopt similar preventive measures in their daily lives to ensure long-term health and resilience.
  • Future Vision: Dr. Keyes envisions a healthcare system that monitors individuals' mental health proactively, much like a pit stop team in a car race. Such a system would detect early signs of declining mental health and provide timely interventions to prevent crises.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Discover the secrets to a fuller life with Dr Corey Keyes Dr Corey Keyes, Fiona Murden 00:47:02 In this episode Dr. Corey Keyes, American sociologist and a prominent figure in the field of ‘complete mental health’ dives into the transformative power of "psychological vitamins"—key activities like helping others, continuous learning, and building meaningful connections that can significantly boost your mental well-being if focussed in the right way. They explore how these simple actions can protect against anxiety and depression, especially during stressful times like the pandemic. Dr. Keyes critiques the heavy reliance on medication for mental health treatment and advocates for a preventive approach to foster flourishing and long-term recovery. In this episode Dr. Corey Keyes, American sociologist and a prominent figure in the field of ‘complete mental health’ dives into the transformative power of "psychological vitamins"—key activities like helping others, continuous learning, and building meaningful connections that can significantly boost your mental well-being if focussed in the right way. They explore how these simple actions can protect against anxiety and depression, especially during stressful times like the pandemic. Dr. Keyes critiques the heavy reliance on medication for mental health treatment and advocates for a preventive approach to foster flourishing and long-term recovery. preventivecare, sociology, flourishinglife, flourishing, positive psychology, ptsd, mentalhealthmatters, childhoodtrauma, healthymind, mindfulliving, research, people, wellbeingjourney, depression, mental health, positivementalhealth, mentalhealtheducation, psychologicalvitamins, prescribing, mentalwellbeing, languishing, proactivecare, wellbeing false full 99 14d3901a-c779-4ffb-b955-b6e6f729aa1d From IVF to Inner Peace: Shattering Perfectionism's Chains with Jordana Confino The discussion delves deep into the paradoxical nature of perfectionism, exploring how it often leads to hiding our struggles and hopes out of fear of disappointment or perceived failure. Jordana reveals how keeping challenges secret, particularly in sensitive situations like IVF, can actually deprive us of crucial support rather than protect us from disappointment. Throughout the episode, Fiona and Jordana explore the importance of selective vulnerability, the power of social support, and the journey of overcoming perfectionist tendencies. They disxuss how society feeds us with certain beliefs that we pursue They touch on various aspects of personal growth, including empathy, creativity, and the process of changing ingrained behaviors to align more with personal well-being than societal expectations.This episode offers valuable insights for anyone grappling with perfectionism or facing personal challenges they're hesitant to share, emphasizing the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of allowing ourselves to be supported.

 

Key Takeaways:

  1. Perfectionism often leads to hiding struggles, which can prevent receiving necessary support
  2. Selective sharing with trusted allies can provide crucial emotional support
  3. Social support is vital both in pursuing goals and facing adversity
  4. Overcoming perfectionism involves embracing vulnerability and allowing support from others
  5. Changing ingrained perfectionist behaviors is possible and beneficial for personal growth

 

Why not subscribe to The Dot newsletter form Fiona and the team 

“The simplest, most impactful newsletter for personal growth and meaningful connections.”

Click here to go to the sign up page 

Every fortnight, a new edition includes:

  • One Key Insight based on science 
  • One Simple Exercise to put the insight into practice and live a ‘life connected’ 
  • One Point to Ponder over the next two weeks.  

By deepening your understanding of yourself and your relationships you’ll begin to find more joy and success. Connecting the dots on your life one step at a time.

To find Jordana Confino and the resources she offers click here 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 27 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-ivf-to-inner-peace-shattering-perfectionisms-chains-with-jordana-confino-tG9tO0j_ The discussion delves deep into the paradoxical nature of perfectionism, exploring how it often leads to hiding our struggles and hopes out of fear of disappointment or perceived failure. Jordana reveals how keeping challenges secret, particularly in sensitive situations like IVF, can actually deprive us of crucial support rather than protect us from disappointment. Throughout the episode, Fiona and Jordana explore the importance of selective vulnerability, the power of social support, and the journey of overcoming perfectionist tendencies. They disxuss how society feeds us with certain beliefs that we pursue They touch on various aspects of personal growth, including empathy, creativity, and the process of changing ingrained behaviors to align more with personal well-being than societal expectations.This episode offers valuable insights for anyone grappling with perfectionism or facing personal challenges they're hesitant to share, emphasizing the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of allowing ourselves to be supported.

 

Key Takeaways:

  1. Perfectionism often leads to hiding struggles, which can prevent receiving necessary support
  2. Selective sharing with trusted allies can provide crucial emotional support
  3. Social support is vital both in pursuing goals and facing adversity
  4. Overcoming perfectionism involves embracing vulnerability and allowing support from others
  5. Changing ingrained perfectionist behaviors is possible and beneficial for personal growth

 

Why not subscribe to The Dot newsletter form Fiona and the team 

“The simplest, most impactful newsletter for personal growth and meaningful connections.”

Click here to go to the sign up page 

Every fortnight, a new edition includes:

  • One Key Insight based on science 
  • One Simple Exercise to put the insight into practice and live a ‘life connected’ 
  • One Point to Ponder over the next two weeks.  

By deepening your understanding of yourself and your relationships you’ll begin to find more joy and success. Connecting the dots on your life one step at a time.

To find Jordana Confino and the resources she offers click here 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From IVF to Inner Peace: Shattering Perfectionism's Chains with Jordana Confino Fiona Murden 00:47:28 In this episode of the Dot to Dot podcast, Fiona sits down for a second time with Jordana Confino, a Yale Law School graduate and expert in positive psychology. This time they engage in an intimate and insightful conversation with Jordana courageously sharing her personal experiences with perfectionism, including her current IVF journey, offering a rare and honest look at the intersection of perfectionism and life's most personal challenges. In this episode of the Dot to Dot podcast, Fiona sits down for a second time with Jordana Confino, a Yale Law School graduate and expert in positive psychology. This time they engage in an intimate and insightful conversation with Jordana courageously sharing her personal experiences with perfectionism, including her current IVF journey, offering a rare and honest look at the intersection of perfectionism and life's most personal challenges. false full 98 45b0d4b0-9ea5-435d-b436-7a7e69f17fa3 From languishing to flourishing - Finding Answers in His Own Childhood Trauma with Dr. Corey Keyes At 16, Corey Keyes seemed to be thriving after a brutal childhood. He excelled in school, played quarterback on the football team, and lived with his loving grandmother in Wisconsin, USA. However, as he writes in his book, Languishing: How To Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down, he felt a "restless emptiness" whenever he slowed down. Determined to understand this feeling, he became a sociologist. 

Corey explains that languishing is a normal reaction to life's challenges but can become debilitating if not addressed. He describes it as “the absence of wellbeing…the absence of the really good things that make life meaningful and worth living.” He goes on to explain that “We all languish in a slightly different way. You may feel you don’t have purpose in life. You don’t belong. You’re not contributing. You don’t have warm relationships. You’re not growing as a person.”

Dr. Keyes identifies 11 qualities essential for well-being, including social and psychological aspects. The discussion delves into how mental illness impacts functioning and the importance of preparing for adversity. Corey highlights the significance of mental health preparation, emphasizing the need for social support.

Corey and Fiona discuss importance of social support in healthcare, encouraging professionals to acknowledge and appreciate their colleagues. They also discuss trust in high-performing teams, offering strategies like daily check-ins to build trust and openness. The conversation addresses languishing and ghosting in the workplace, stressing the need for consistent communication and connection. 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 13 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-languishing-to-flourishing-finding-answers-in-his-own-childhood-trauma-with-dr-corey-keyes-R470GhW1 At 16, Corey Keyes seemed to be thriving after a brutal childhood. He excelled in school, played quarterback on the football team, and lived with his loving grandmother in Wisconsin, USA. However, as he writes in his book, Languishing: How To Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down, he felt a "restless emptiness" whenever he slowed down. Determined to understand this feeling, he became a sociologist. 

Corey explains that languishing is a normal reaction to life's challenges but can become debilitating if not addressed. He describes it as “the absence of wellbeing…the absence of the really good things that make life meaningful and worth living.” He goes on to explain that “We all languish in a slightly different way. You may feel you don’t have purpose in life. You don’t belong. You’re not contributing. You don’t have warm relationships. You’re not growing as a person.”

Dr. Keyes identifies 11 qualities essential for well-being, including social and psychological aspects. The discussion delves into how mental illness impacts functioning and the importance of preparing for adversity. Corey highlights the significance of mental health preparation, emphasizing the need for social support.

Corey and Fiona discuss importance of social support in healthcare, encouraging professionals to acknowledge and appreciate their colleagues. They also discuss trust in high-performing teams, offering strategies like daily check-ins to build trust and openness. The conversation addresses languishing and ghosting in the workplace, stressing the need for consistent communication and connection. 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From languishing to flourishing - Finding Answers in His Own Childhood Trauma with Dr. Corey Keyes Fiona Murden 00:49:38 In this episode, Dr. Corey Keyes, a sociologist and the person who coined the terms languishing and flourishing, explores mental health, trauma, and resilience. As a survivor of childhood abuse whose journey from dissociation and delinquency to flourishing is both moving and inspiring. Dr. Keyes shares insights on the mental health continuum and the vital role of social support in overcoming adversity. In this episode, Dr. Corey Keyes, a sociologist and the person who coined the terms languishing and flourishing, explores mental health, trauma, and resilience. As a survivor of childhood abuse whose journey from dissociation and delinquency to flourishing is both moving and inspiring. Dr. Keyes shares insights on the mental health continuum and the vital role of social support in overcoming adversity. understand, team dynamics, emotions, talking, social support, mental illness, flourishing, mental health awareness, trauma recovery, childhood abuse, trust in teams, ptsd, life, resilience, ifs, happiness, mental health, trauma, healthcare support, psychology, languishing, work, wellbeing, emotional resilience false full 97 fad0c46f-1e59-439d-9742-915ad2a89ff0 The Power of Trust, Vulnerability, and Self-Compassion with Jordana Confino Jordana is full of energy, a joy to listen to and as one might expect of a Yale Law School grad she really "Knows her stuff".  She's also brutally honest explaining her own struggles through a seemingly ideal life of high achievement and how much of her perfectionism stems from a mother who herself "was a ruthless perfectionist, and she tried to perfect me." 

Jordana and Fiona also discuss the critical role of trust and vulnerability in effective mentoring and more importantly in simply being human - highlighting how these qualities are often overlooked, especially by professions where they are most needed. They debunk the idea that success requires sacrificing well-being, revealing instead that well-being fuels success. Jordana explains that positive psychology involves acknowledging negative emotions to fully experience positive ones, helping to explain the key differences between positive psychology and toxic positivity. She also explains that acknowledging negative emotions is crucial to fully experience positive ones. They also discuss the impact of positive emotions and how they enhance cognitive function, creativity, and resilience. 

Jordana is a certified positive psychology coach and the founder of JC Coaching & Consulting. She helps lawyers, doctors, and other high achievers transform their lives for the better.

To connect with Jordana go to:

Website:jordanaconfino.com

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 23 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-power-of-trust-vulnerability-and-self-compassion-with-jordana-confino-kHwEeLp2 Jordana is full of energy, a joy to listen to and as one might expect of a Yale Law School grad she really "Knows her stuff".  She's also brutally honest explaining her own struggles through a seemingly ideal life of high achievement and how much of her perfectionism stems from a mother who herself "was a ruthless perfectionist, and she tried to perfect me." 

Jordana and Fiona also discuss the critical role of trust and vulnerability in effective mentoring and more importantly in simply being human - highlighting how these qualities are often overlooked, especially by professions where they are most needed. They debunk the idea that success requires sacrificing well-being, revealing instead that well-being fuels success. Jordana explains that positive psychology involves acknowledging negative emotions to fully experience positive ones, helping to explain the key differences between positive psychology and toxic positivity. She also explains that acknowledging negative emotions is crucial to fully experience positive ones. They also discuss the impact of positive emotions and how they enhance cognitive function, creativity, and resilience. 

Jordana is a certified positive psychology coach and the founder of JC Coaching & Consulting. She helps lawyers, doctors, and other high achievers transform their lives for the better.

To connect with Jordana go to:

Website:jordanaconfino.com

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Power of Trust, Vulnerability, and Self-Compassion with Jordana Confino Fiona Murden 00:56:13 In this episode, Fiona interviews Jordana Confino, a Yale Law School graduate, who after seven years of practicing law, is now following her passion as a lifestyle coach for high-achieving professionals. In this episode, Fiona interviews Jordana Confino, a Yale Law School graduate, who after seven years of practicing law, is now following her passion as a lifestyle coach for high-achieving professionals. mentor, recognise, mindset, perfectionist, positive psychology, broke, cultivate, success, reminding, people, thinking, shows, experience, positive emotions, psychological safety, work, self compassion, realised, connection, positive false full 96 3bc007dd-0c74-43da-adae-ba6050930495 Think human Act human Be human with Thomas Gelmi Gelmi and Fiona begin the conversation with an exploration of personality development for leaders and leveraging psychometrics as a tool to uncover innate qualities and potential. Gelmi uses the analogy of nurturing plants to illustrate how individuals can flourish given the right conditions. He also emphasizes the importance of mentoring, self-reflection, and creating safe environments where people feel valued and heard, in order to drive high-performance teams.

 

The discussion examines the significance of perspective, empathy, and emotional intelligence in leadership and workplace culture. Gelmi stresses the need for consistent modelling of desired behaviours by leaders to effect change across workplace cultures. He encourages embracing human emotions rather than shying away from them, highlighting the role of authenticity, self-awareness, and effective communication in fostering trust and openness.

 

Throughout the episode, Gelmi provides practical advice and thought-provoking insights, offering listeners a roadmap for personal and professional development in today's dynamic world.

 

Gelmi’s website is a great resource for anyone wanting to explore this topic further. You can find it at:

 

https://gelmi.coach/en/

 

And to find Thomas on Linkedin go to:

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomasgelmi/

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 2 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/think-human-act-human-be-human-with-thomas-gelmi-1HRkPhcJ Gelmi and Fiona begin the conversation with an exploration of personality development for leaders and leveraging psychometrics as a tool to uncover innate qualities and potential. Gelmi uses the analogy of nurturing plants to illustrate how individuals can flourish given the right conditions. He also emphasizes the importance of mentoring, self-reflection, and creating safe environments where people feel valued and heard, in order to drive high-performance teams.

 

The discussion examines the significance of perspective, empathy, and emotional intelligence in leadership and workplace culture. Gelmi stresses the need for consistent modelling of desired behaviours by leaders to effect change across workplace cultures. He encourages embracing human emotions rather than shying away from them, highlighting the role of authenticity, self-awareness, and effective communication in fostering trust and openness.

 

Throughout the episode, Gelmi provides practical advice and thought-provoking insights, offering listeners a roadmap for personal and professional development in today's dynamic world.

 

Gelmi’s website is a great resource for anyone wanting to explore this topic further. You can find it at:

 

https://gelmi.coach/en/

 

And to find Thomas on Linkedin go to:

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomasgelmi/

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Think human Act human Be human with Thomas Gelmi Giles Paley-Phillips 00:52:06 This episode is packed with valuable insights for leaders aiming to create success-driven environments. Fiona welcomes Thomas Gelmi, an expert in leadership development who shares strategies for nurturing high-performance teams and facilitating sustainable organizational change, highlighting the transformative impact of emotional intelligence. His actionable steps offer tips to leaders wanting to cultivate cultures of growth and innovation, alongside offering universally applicable insights into personal growth and effective communication. This episode is packed with valuable insights for leaders aiming to create success-driven environments. Fiona welcomes Thomas Gelmi, an expert in leadership development who shares strategies for nurturing high-performance teams and facilitating sustainable organizational change, highlighting the transformative impact of emotional intelligence. His actionable steps offer tips to leaders wanting to cultivate cultures of growth and innovation, alongside offering universally applicable insights into personal growth and effective communication. emotions, articulating, point, leader, change, emotional, blind spots, create, thinking, perspective, helpful, decision, modelled, bit, experience, human, consistency, level, organisation, coaching false full 95 51726792-376e-42e6-91b3-c5fdc7c961da Empowering Youth Through Sports A Conversation with Alex Wallace During the podcast Alex shares her inspiring journey and the inception of the foundation. Coming from a family with a deep love of sports, Alex's early exposure to hockey instilled in her a profound love for the game. She embarked on her own sporting journey with a fervent desire to represent England in hockey. Supported by her family, coaches, and teachers, Alex pursued her dream with unwavering determination. However, her path took an unexpected turn when she faced rejection at the under-16 England trials. This setback deeply affected Alex, leading to a struggle with her mental health as she grappled with the loss of her identity as a hockey player. Reflecting on her experience, Alex realized the need for young athletes to have a holistic relationship with sports, one that goes beyond performance on the field. She recognized that while sports play a significant role in shaping individuals, they are just one aspect of a person's identity. Fueled by a desire to support young people facing similar challenges to herself, Alex founded The Mindtridge Foundation. 

The foundation aims to help young individuals develop positive relationships with sports by harnessing the power of positive role models, including Olympians and Paralympians and providing young people with the guidance needed to navigate the world of sports while maintaining a strong sense of self-worth and identity. Her vision is to ensure that no young person experiences the isolation and struggle she faced, but instead finds fulfillment and empowerment through sports in any capacity. So far the charity has helped 88,000 young people. Concluding the episode, Alex and Fiona share their shared vision for empowering youth and overcoming obstacles through preparation, determination, and a commitment to fostering inclusive and supportive environments within the sports industry. 

Fiona is lucky enough to be one of the Mintridge Squad – part of the team supporting the amazing work that Alex and the charity are doing for young people. 

To learn more about Mintridge or to donate to this worthwhile charity please go to:

https://www.mintridgefoundation.org.uk

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 18 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/empowering-youth-through-sports-a-conversation-with-alex-wallis-1ucA8MDa During the podcast Alex shares her inspiring journey and the inception of the foundation. Coming from a family with a deep love of sports, Alex's early exposure to hockey instilled in her a profound love for the game. She embarked on her own sporting journey with a fervent desire to represent England in hockey. Supported by her family, coaches, and teachers, Alex pursued her dream with unwavering determination. However, her path took an unexpected turn when she faced rejection at the under-16 England trials. This setback deeply affected Alex, leading to a struggle with her mental health as she grappled with the loss of her identity as a hockey player. Reflecting on her experience, Alex realized the need for young athletes to have a holistic relationship with sports, one that goes beyond performance on the field. She recognized that while sports play a significant role in shaping individuals, they are just one aspect of a person's identity. Fueled by a desire to support young people facing similar challenges to herself, Alex founded The Mindtridge Foundation. 

The foundation aims to help young individuals develop positive relationships with sports by harnessing the power of positive role models, including Olympians and Paralympians and providing young people with the guidance needed to navigate the world of sports while maintaining a strong sense of self-worth and identity. Her vision is to ensure that no young person experiences the isolation and struggle she faced, but instead finds fulfillment and empowerment through sports in any capacity. So far the charity has helped 88,000 young people. Concluding the episode, Alex and Fiona share their shared vision for empowering youth and overcoming obstacles through preparation, determination, and a commitment to fostering inclusive and supportive environments within the sports industry. 

Fiona is lucky enough to be one of the Mintridge Squad – part of the team supporting the amazing work that Alex and the charity are doing for young people. 

To learn more about Mintridge or to donate to this worthwhile charity please go to:

https://www.mintridgefoundation.org.uk

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Empowering Youth Through Sports A Conversation with Alex Wallace Fiona Murden 00:48:21 In this episode Fiona speaks to the truly inspiring Alex Wallace, founder of the Mintridge Foundation, about the influential role of positive sporting role models in inspiring today's youth. From personal experiences to mentoring programs, they explore how sports can shape identity, foster resilience, and support mental health in young people. In this episode Fiona speaks to the truly inspiring Alex Wallace, founder of the Mintridge Foundation, about the influential role of positive sporting role models in inspiring today's youth. From personal experiences to mentoring programs, they explore how sports can shape identity, foster resilience, and support mental health in young people. mentor, family, struggled, meaning, person, sport, community, helping, #selfesteem, role models, #personalstories, ambassadors, school, experiences, young women, #sport, team, athletes, sporting, young, rolemodel, mentors, sporty, guidance, support, belonging, positive false full 94 c121da33-7ce3-4f64-b4f8-b1c5c75789f2 Breaking Barriers: A Journey of Resilience and Inclusion in Sports with Zoiey Smale Zoiey is a trailblazing inclusion activist who has made significant contributions to the world of sports. With over 20 years of experience in the industry, she has worked her way up from being an athlete to becoming a highly respected inclusion consultant. In 2017, Grazia magazine recognized her as one of the top Black British influential figures in the UK.

Zoeiy's journey is one of unwavering determination and resilience. She shares insightful anecdotes and personal experiences, highlighting the importance of embracing one's identity and advocating for inclusivity in sports and beyond.

Throughout the episode, Zoeiy also reflects on the challenges she's faced, from childhood encounters with racism to navigating gender biases in the sports industry. Her candid insights shed light on the importance of creating inclusive spaces and challenging societal norms. Zoeiy's dedication to promoting diversity and inclusivity, her impact on the industry is undeniable. 

 

For more from Zoeiy you can find her at:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/zoiey-smale/

To find out more about Oka and how we can help to improve DEI within your work place go to:

https://www.oka.life

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 21 Mar 2024 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/breaking-barriers-a-journey-of-resilience-and-inclusion-in-sports-with-zoiey-smale-fROaFMlJ Zoiey is a trailblazing inclusion activist who has made significant contributions to the world of sports. With over 20 years of experience in the industry, she has worked her way up from being an athlete to becoming a highly respected inclusion consultant. In 2017, Grazia magazine recognized her as one of the top Black British influential figures in the UK.

Zoeiy's journey is one of unwavering determination and resilience. She shares insightful anecdotes and personal experiences, highlighting the importance of embracing one's identity and advocating for inclusivity in sports and beyond.

Throughout the episode, Zoeiy also reflects on the challenges she's faced, from childhood encounters with racism to navigating gender biases in the sports industry. Her candid insights shed light on the importance of creating inclusive spaces and challenging societal norms. Zoeiy's dedication to promoting diversity and inclusivity, her impact on the industry is undeniable. 

 

For more from Zoeiy you can find her at:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/zoiey-smale/

To find out more about Oka and how we can help to improve DEI within your work place go to:

https://www.oka.life

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Breaking Barriers: A Journey of Resilience and Inclusion in Sports with Zoiey Smale Giles Paley-Phillips 01:00:14 Join us on the latest episode of the Dot to Dot podcast as our host Fiona Murden sits down with special guest Zoeiy Smale for an enlightening discussion on intersectionality, identity, and resilience within the sports industry. Join us on the latest episode of the Dot to Dot podcast as our host Fiona Murden sits down with special guest Zoeiy Smale for an enlightening discussion on intersectionality, identity, and resilience within the sports industry. coach, called, edi, women, gave, stand, intersectionality, sport, years, talk, experiences, realise, narrative, feel, learning, needed, work, organisation, part false full 93 1d0f0d2a-f0cf-46b8-947d-58d1ad96457c Empowering Women: A Journey of Personal Growth and Social Impact with Lola Olaore Through her work with bloss.m, Lola is breaking barriers for underrepresented groups in the workplace and addressing systemic obstacles to success. She emphasizes the importance of mentorship, personal growth, and self-awareness in achieving long-term goals.

Join us as we explore Lola's impactful journey, her commitment to empowering women and girls, and the transformative power of mentorship and self-reflection. Lola radiates warmth and inspiration, illuminating every room she enters or, in this case, every airwave she graces. With her fearless approach to life's journey, she charts paths less traveled, guiding others along the way and encouraging others to discover their true potential. We can all learn from Lola's insights and be inspired to make a difference in our own life and the lives of others.


For more from Lola go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolaolaore/

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 7 Mar 2024 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/empowering-women-a-journey-of-personal-growth-and-social-impact-with-lola-olaore-rrXEc37m Through her work with bloss.m, Lola is breaking barriers for underrepresented groups in the workplace and addressing systemic obstacles to success. She emphasizes the importance of mentorship, personal growth, and self-awareness in achieving long-term goals.

Join us as we explore Lola's impactful journey, her commitment to empowering women and girls, and the transformative power of mentorship and self-reflection. Lola radiates warmth and inspiration, illuminating every room she enters or, in this case, every airwave she graces. With her fearless approach to life's journey, she charts paths less traveled, guiding others along the way and encouraging others to discover their true potential. We can all learn from Lola's insights and be inspired to make a difference in our own life and the lives of others.


For more from Lola go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolaolaore/

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Empowering Women: A Journey of Personal Growth and Social Impact with Lola Olaore Fiona Murden 00:51:52 In this episode of the Dot to Dot podcast, Fiona dives into the world of personal growth, mentorship, and social impact with Lola Olaore, the inspiring founder of bloss.m. Lola's journey, from her Harvard education focusing on Education Technology and the intersection of race and gender, to her role as a research analyst at prestigious institutions like Insper University and MIT D-Lab, showcases her dedication to empowering women and driving positive change. In this episode of the Dot to Dot podcast, Fiona dives into the world of personal growth, mentorship, and social impact with Lola Olaore, the inspiring founder of bloss.m. Lola's journey, from her Harvard education focusing on Education Technology and the intersection of race and gender, to her role as a research analyst at prestigious institutions like Insper University and MIT D-Lab, showcases her dedication to empowering women and driving positive change. called, mentor, mindset, blossom, girls, talk, put, young women, feel, question, organisations, people, barrier, career, day, work, year, speak, support, programme false full 92 d53e56ad-57c8-470a-a78f-8415bb6d3ced Want to know how to be happier? Dr. Russ Harris has the answers For more from us go to:

https://oka.life or https://fionamurden.com

 For more from Dr Russ Harris go to:

https://www.actmindfully.com.au 

Or find him on YouTube at 

@dr.russharris-acceptanceco972

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 14 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Lou Jones) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/want-to-know-how-to-be-happier-dr-russ-harris-has-the-answers-nH6PolK3 For more from us go to:

https://oka.life or https://fionamurden.com

 For more from Dr Russ Harris go to:

https://www.actmindfully.com.au 

Or find him on YouTube at 

@dr.russharris-acceptanceco972

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Want to know how to be happier? Dr. Russ Harris has the answers Lou Jones 00:50:24 Revisiting one of the most popular of all 90 Dot to Dot podcast episodes to date with the amazing Dr. Russ Harris. This is well worth a listen for anyone interested in knowing how they work, how the brain works, how it doesn't work and to have a giggle because despite Russ's brilliance he's also very funny. Revisiting one of the most popular of all 90 Dot to Dot podcast episodes to date with the amazing Dr. Russ Harris. This is well worth a listen for anyone interested in knowing how they work, how the brain works, how it doesn't work and to have a giggle because despite Russ's brilliance he's also very funny. mindfulness, model, learn, world health organisation, challenging, stress, wrote, interesting, brain, people, feelings, act, thoughts, negative thoughts, gp, book, cbt, work, anxiety false full 91 5efacd4b-3c87-47f5-b3c2-b9fdd8a0f2ca Motherhood, Innovation and Personal Growth with Garrett Wood In this episode we discuss the complexity of taking care of yourself and a newborn, and explore the unique challenges and experiences that come with motherhood. As Garrett shares her own experiences, she also delves into the products that made a difference in her life and how she and her family decided to create a company to provide solutions for other moms. Garrett shares that “The early stages of postpartum life redefined the word “comfort” for me and now I'm on a mission to help others get cozy while doing the hard things including but not limited to parenting, birthing and business building.”

 

She also touches upon the need for support and understanding in those critical moments, emphasizing the role of men as allies in this journey. This is something that we’re all too aware of at Oka, as well as matching women to mentors who have been through similar experiences (like for example returning to work after having a baby) we guide the allies (e.g. male colleagues, partners) in how to provide the best support while also looking after themselves. 

 

Prior to kozēkozē and motherhood, Garrett wrote and published a novel based-on-true events from her own life called, "Dare To Move." She also hosts the kozēkozē podcast where we bring in experts doing the hard things, like birth and business, to share their vulnerable stories on business and self-development. 


Garrett’s first career was in real estate development and she helped with the US rollout of Caffè Nero. Her love of fitness guided her to teach at Shred415 in Chicago and also Barry’s Bootcamp in Boston for 7 years.

 

Join us for this insightful episode as we explore the challenges and opportunities that come with motherhood, entrepreneurship and personal growth.

 

To find Garrett’s products go to: 

 

https://www.kozekoze.com

 

To sign up to Oka where we can help you back on your journey to fulfilling your potential in a way that fits or to support another woman through your own experience please sign up to

 

https://oka.life/waitlistpage

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 9 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/motherhood-innovation-and-personal-growth-with-garrett-wood-t1_79u__ In this episode we discuss the complexity of taking care of yourself and a newborn, and explore the unique challenges and experiences that come with motherhood. As Garrett shares her own experiences, she also delves into the products that made a difference in her life and how she and her family decided to create a company to provide solutions for other moms. Garrett shares that “The early stages of postpartum life redefined the word “comfort” for me and now I'm on a mission to help others get cozy while doing the hard things including but not limited to parenting, birthing and business building.”

 

She also touches upon the need for support and understanding in those critical moments, emphasizing the role of men as allies in this journey. This is something that we’re all too aware of at Oka, as well as matching women to mentors who have been through similar experiences (like for example returning to work after having a baby) we guide the allies (e.g. male colleagues, partners) in how to provide the best support while also looking after themselves. 

 

Prior to kozēkozē and motherhood, Garrett wrote and published a novel based-on-true events from her own life called, "Dare To Move." She also hosts the kozēkozē podcast where we bring in experts doing the hard things, like birth and business, to share their vulnerable stories on business and self-development. 


Garrett’s first career was in real estate development and she helped with the US rollout of Caffè Nero. Her love of fitness guided her to teach at Shred415 in Chicago and also Barry’s Bootcamp in Boston for 7 years.

 

Join us for this insightful episode as we explore the challenges and opportunities that come with motherhood, entrepreneurship and personal growth.

 

To find Garrett’s products go to: 

 

https://www.kozekoze.com

 

To sign up to Oka where we can help you back on your journey to fulfilling your potential in a way that fits or to support another woman through your own experience please sign up to

 

https://oka.life/waitlistpage

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Motherhood, Innovation and Personal Growth with Garrett Wood Giles Paley-Phillips 00:58:32 Garrett Wood Kusmierz is the CEO & Founder of kozēkozē. In this candid conversation, Garrett shares the challenges and joys of motherhood and the impact it’s had on her own journey. She also talks about the innovations she’s created through her company kozēkozē to make life a little easier for other women. Amongst other things we also discuss life as a female entrepreneur and the complexities of ‘doing it all at once’. Garrett Wood Kusmierz is the CEO & Founder of kozēkozē. In this candid conversation, Garrett shares the challenges and joys of motherhood and the impact it’s had on her own journey. She also talks about the innovations she’s created through her company kozēkozē to make life a little easier for other women. Amongst other things we also discuss life as a female entrepreneur and the complexities of ‘doing it all at once’. cosy, episodes, talking, self awareness, hear, connect, 4th trimester, mom, ally, son, female entrepreneur, realise, postnatal, interesting, months, steps, postpartum, people, business, podcast, listen, book, husband, intuition, super false full 90 a2901e41-e00d-4261-b0f0-77b6d1749594 Daring to Dream & Unveiling Olympians' Hidden Stories - with Michelle Griffith Robinson OLY In our conversation, we delve into the essence of Michelle’s beliefs, emphasizing the importance of seeking support when needed and shattering the stereotype that Olympians must always be infallible. At the heart of our discussion is the recognition of the 'whole person' behind every champion. Michelle's perspective is firmly rooted in the value of hard work, as she aptly puts it, "You might be a natural at languages, math, or even athletics, but beneath it all, there's still a need to put in the effort."

 

And she also acknowledges that her own story and the stories of countless other successes go far beyond mere talent and effort. Embracing vulnerability and reaching out for help when necessary is, as she believes, a hallmark of strength. She articulates this beautifully by saying, "Being strong, in my very humble opinion, is accepting the need to raise your hand and say to those closest to you, 'I need support today.'" In her own words, she humbly states, "I'm not just an Olympic medalist; I am a girl who dared to dream." Daring to dream and unwavering tenacity are the driving forces that carry champions through the toughest times, "when it's hard, when you're injured, when you stumble, when you feel you can't go on."

 

Michelle also encourages each of us to discover our unique sources of joy and pursue them with unwavering determination. She shares her own daily life as an example of what this entails.

 

This episode is a genuine wellspring of inspiration, featuring a truly remarkable woman.

 

 

To find Michelle go to: 

 

https://michellegriffithrobinsonoly.co.uk

 

To join the Oka waitlist and find a mentor or coach to support you on your journey go to

 

https://oka.life/waitlist

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 26 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/daring-to-dream-unveiling-olympians-hidden-stories-with-michelle-griffith-robinson-oly-YC5DpLBj In our conversation, we delve into the essence of Michelle’s beliefs, emphasizing the importance of seeking support when needed and shattering the stereotype that Olympians must always be infallible. At the heart of our discussion is the recognition of the 'whole person' behind every champion. Michelle's perspective is firmly rooted in the value of hard work, as she aptly puts it, "You might be a natural at languages, math, or even athletics, but beneath it all, there's still a need to put in the effort."

 

And she also acknowledges that her own story and the stories of countless other successes go far beyond mere talent and effort. Embracing vulnerability and reaching out for help when necessary is, as she believes, a hallmark of strength. She articulates this beautifully by saying, "Being strong, in my very humble opinion, is accepting the need to raise your hand and say to those closest to you, 'I need support today.'" In her own words, she humbly states, "I'm not just an Olympic medalist; I am a girl who dared to dream." Daring to dream and unwavering tenacity are the driving forces that carry champions through the toughest times, "when it's hard, when you're injured, when you stumble, when you feel you can't go on."

 

Michelle also encourages each of us to discover our unique sources of joy and pursue them with unwavering determination. She shares her own daily life as an example of what this entails.

 

This episode is a genuine wellspring of inspiration, featuring a truly remarkable woman.

 

 

To find Michelle go to: 

 

https://michellegriffithrobinsonoly.co.uk

 

To join the Oka waitlist and find a mentor or coach to support you on your journey go to

 

https://oka.life/waitlist

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Daring to Dream & Unveiling Olympians' Hidden Stories - with Michelle Griffith Robinson OLY Giles Paley-Phillips 00:49:34 On this enlightening and empowering episode I speak to the amazing woman that is Michelle Griffith Robinson OLY. Michelle's journey goes far beyond the talent and hard work of becoming an Olympian. It's about daring to dream, embracing vulnerability, and seeking support. Her mission in life is to empower women and girls to unlock their full potential, every day. On this enlightening and empowering episode I speak to the amazing woman that is Michelle Griffith Robinson OLY. Michelle's journey goes far beyond the talent and hard work of becoming an Olympian. It's about daring to dream, embracing vulnerability, and seeking support. Her mission in life is to empower women and girls to unlock their full potential, every day. female empowerment, coach, mentor, women, recognise, mentoring, kids, absolutely, mom, daughter, life, feel, mommy, people, mum, olympian, values, bit, work, coaching false full 89 6835732a-c279-476f-af3f-f67c5c7044c3 Social media's impact on children's development with Dr. Sebastian Kurten In our discussion, we delve into how social media affects adolescent well-being across diverse societies and demographics. With his background in social work, Sebastian sheds light on the intricate interplay between individual differences and societal context, offering a holistic perspective on this complex issue.

We explore the nuanced impact of social media on adolescent mental health. While research indicates a small negative impact on average, we delve into the vulnerabilities that adolescents face during the transition from childhood to adulthood, when social media's influence can be most pronounced. The discussion extends to how social media affects children's development, and we emphasize the need for empirical data to hold social media platforms accountable for hosting abusive content.

Social media regulation is a hot topic, and we explore the challenges it presents. Sebastian highlights the importance of thoughtful policy changes and societal action, especially in the global South, to address issues beyond individual control.

Workplace pressure is another pressing issue. We examine how excessive pressure can erode trust and lead to mental health strain among healthcare workers, especially in child protection services which has a broader knock on impact.

To sign up to the Oka mentoring app follow this link: https://oka.life/waitlistpage 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 12 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/social-medias-impact-on-childrens-development-with-sebastian-kurten-phd-MTkNhnzp In our discussion, we delve into how social media affects adolescent well-being across diverse societies and demographics. With his background in social work, Sebastian sheds light on the intricate interplay between individual differences and societal context, offering a holistic perspective on this complex issue.

We explore the nuanced impact of social media on adolescent mental health. While research indicates a small negative impact on average, we delve into the vulnerabilities that adolescents face during the transition from childhood to adulthood, when social media's influence can be most pronounced. The discussion extends to how social media affects children's development, and we emphasize the need for empirical data to hold social media platforms accountable for hosting abusive content.

Social media regulation is a hot topic, and we explore the challenges it presents. Sebastian highlights the importance of thoughtful policy changes and societal action, especially in the global South, to address issues beyond individual control.

Workplace pressure is another pressing issue. We examine how excessive pressure can erode trust and lead to mental health strain among healthcare workers, especially in child protection services which has a broader knock on impact.

To sign up to the Oka mentoring app follow this link: https://oka.life/waitlistpage 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Social media's impact on children's development with Dr. Sebastian Kurten Giles Paley-Phillips 00:55:48 In this episode, we are joined by Sebastian Kurten, a PhD researcher at the University of Cambridge, whose pioneering work focuses on unraveling the impact of social media on adolescent well-being. Sebastian is actively engaged in groundbreaking research, in partnership with UNICEF, aimed at identifying the risk factors affecting adolescents subjected to online abuse. Drawing from his earlier career in social work, we expand the conversation to encompass topics such as leadership, the dynamics of high-performing teams, and the crucial issue of burnout. Join us as we navigate the multifaceted world of social media and its implications for the well-being of young individuals. In this episode, we are joined by Sebastian Kurten, a PhD researcher at the University of Cambridge, whose pioneering work focuses on unraveling the impact of social media on adolescent well-being. Sebastian is actively engaged in groundbreaking research, in partnership with UNICEF, aimed at identifying the risk factors affecting adolescents subjected to online abuse. Drawing from his earlier career in social work, we expand the conversation to encompass topics such as leadership, the dynamics of high-performing teams, and the crucial issue of burnout. Join us as we navigate the multifaceted world of social media and its implications for the well-being of young individuals. studies, adolescents, social worker, data, statistics, idea, different countries, parents, research, people, content, perspective, children, child protection, bit, risk, adolescent, psychology, work, social media false full 88 6f9de2d2-bb63-44b7-b504-1b2eacf5532b Transforming Your Journey to Success with Dr. Gurnek Bains Discover practical strategies to savour every step of your personal and professional growth, no matter how big or small so that you end your working life with no regrets. Whether you're leading a global corporation or tending to your garden.  

"A series of studies have shown this….when you ask people at the end of their working lives to look back, 'What are the main regrets or lessons or advice that you would have for others?' And three things emerge, typically, and are really quite significantly ahead of all the other kinds of regrets."

  1. Embracing Risk: "I wish I'd taken more risk in my life, more risk in doing what I really wanted to do, more risk in relationships.”
  2. Enjoying the Journey: "I wish, instead of just going down tramlines on autopilot, I'd ask myself, am I enjoying this journey? Am I really being satisfied here?"
  3. Legacy and Fulfilment: "I wish I'd thought about the legacy I was going to leave behind."

Mentorship as a Catalyst: But here's the most exciting part for me. When it comes to embracing risk and crafting your legacy, mentorship is a powerful and positive way to achieve both. Mentors guide you in taking those leaps of faith, and they inspire you to envision the lasting impact you can create. And being a mentor also allows you to enjoy your own journey more and ensure that you’re passing on your learning and legacy to the next generation. Join the Oka waitlist to be part of our psychologically backed mentoring. 

Biography

Gurnek Bains was born in Bhangal, a relatively poor village in the north of India. Although his parents and three sisters slept in one room with no electric lighting, Gurnek’s father grew up believing that they shouldn’t be as poor as they were. He dedicated himself to bettering his family’s life chances and became school principle at the age of 32. When he and the rest of Gurnek’s family eventually moved to the UK, he worked multiple jobs and always encouraged his children to learn.

Watching his parents make huge sacrifices, Gurnek developed what he described as a huge “compensatory drive”. He managed to make it into grammar school and after many years of hard work went on to earn a PhD in social psychology at Oxford University.

While he first practised as a clinical psychologist, it wasn’t long until Gurnek moved into business psychology and set up Britain’s first consultancy dedicated to harnessing the power of psychology, YSC. Two decades later he and his colleagues had built YSC from a company of two to employing over 250 people in over 25 offices around the world, and were working with over half the FTSE 100. His company became known as one of the best for driving performance, improving cultures and unleashing the power of potential at work. To be “YSC’ed” became a familiar verb in business circles around the world.

Gurnek has always been interested in how psychology can serve society as well as business. While he continues his consulting work at his smaller boutique firm, Global Future, he also leads its sister think tank NOUS  and works privately with a number of senior political figures. He has written two books; ‘Meaning Inc.’, which explores how to build meaning and purpose into work, and ‘Cultural DNA’, a book dedicated to helping people empathise with different cultures. He also regularly contributes as a writer and commentator to Psychology Today.

Gurnek is hugely grateful to the UK for the opportunities it has given him, and feels a strong need to give something back. Over recent years he has become dedicated to helping people understand how we can navigate the turbulence of modern society with purpose and investment, with our mental wellbeing intact and ultimately, with optimism.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 28 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/transforming-your-journey-to-success-with-dr-gurnek-bains-JaVV5nE3 Discover practical strategies to savour every step of your personal and professional growth, no matter how big or small so that you end your working life with no regrets. Whether you're leading a global corporation or tending to your garden.  

"A series of studies have shown this….when you ask people at the end of their working lives to look back, 'What are the main regrets or lessons or advice that you would have for others?' And three things emerge, typically, and are really quite significantly ahead of all the other kinds of regrets."

  1. Embracing Risk: "I wish I'd taken more risk in my life, more risk in doing what I really wanted to do, more risk in relationships.”
  2. Enjoying the Journey: "I wish, instead of just going down tramlines on autopilot, I'd ask myself, am I enjoying this journey? Am I really being satisfied here?"
  3. Legacy and Fulfilment: "I wish I'd thought about the legacy I was going to leave behind."

Mentorship as a Catalyst: But here's the most exciting part for me. When it comes to embracing risk and crafting your legacy, mentorship is a powerful and positive way to achieve both. Mentors guide you in taking those leaps of faith, and they inspire you to envision the lasting impact you can create. And being a mentor also allows you to enjoy your own journey more and ensure that you’re passing on your learning and legacy to the next generation. Join the Oka waitlist to be part of our psychologically backed mentoring. 

Biography

Gurnek Bains was born in Bhangal, a relatively poor village in the north of India. Although his parents and three sisters slept in one room with no electric lighting, Gurnek’s father grew up believing that they shouldn’t be as poor as they were. He dedicated himself to bettering his family’s life chances and became school principle at the age of 32. When he and the rest of Gurnek’s family eventually moved to the UK, he worked multiple jobs and always encouraged his children to learn.

Watching his parents make huge sacrifices, Gurnek developed what he described as a huge “compensatory drive”. He managed to make it into grammar school and after many years of hard work went on to earn a PhD in social psychology at Oxford University.

While he first practised as a clinical psychologist, it wasn’t long until Gurnek moved into business psychology and set up Britain’s first consultancy dedicated to harnessing the power of psychology, YSC. Two decades later he and his colleagues had built YSC from a company of two to employing over 250 people in over 25 offices around the world, and were working with over half the FTSE 100. His company became known as one of the best for driving performance, improving cultures and unleashing the power of potential at work. To be “YSC’ed” became a familiar verb in business circles around the world.

Gurnek has always been interested in how psychology can serve society as well as business. While he continues his consulting work at his smaller boutique firm, Global Future, he also leads its sister think tank NOUS  and works privately with a number of senior political figures. He has written two books; ‘Meaning Inc.’, which explores how to build meaning and purpose into work, and ‘Cultural DNA’, a book dedicated to helping people empathise with different cultures. He also regularly contributes as a writer and commentator to Psychology Today.

Gurnek is hugely grateful to the UK for the opportunities it has given him, and feels a strong need to give something back. Over recent years he has become dedicated to helping people understand how we can navigate the turbulence of modern society with purpose and investment, with our mental wellbeing intact and ultimately, with optimism.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Transforming Your Journey to Success with Dr. Gurnek Bains Giles Paley-Phillips 00:44:20 In a world obsessed with achievement and success, have you ever stopped to ask yourself, "Am I truly enjoying this journey?" Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the psychology of success with renowned psychologist Gurnek Bains Ph.D. In a world obsessed with achievement and success, have you ever stopped to ask yourself, "Am I truly enjoying this journey?" Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the psychology of success with renowned psychologist Gurnek Bains Ph.D. journey, meaning, enjoy, relationships, goals, empathy, interesting, achieve, resilience, people, thinking, important, sense, etcetera, find, conversation, fulfilment, gratitude false full 87 a6f25c3a-a47e-44de-a9d5-26e5532329a2 The Art of Storytelling in Major League Baseball with Andrew Patterson and Peri Kadaster In this episode, we embark on Andrew's incredible journey into the world of social media and sports. From the fast-paced business of sports streaming to the art of storytelling in the realm of Major League Baseball, we uncover the secrets of connecting with diverse audiences.

But that's not all. We delve into the transition from professional athlete to entrepreneur and explore personal development gems. Andrew shares insights on finding the right job, the ever-evolving journey of self-awareness, and the power of learning from mistakes.

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that promises valuable takeaways for your own journey.

To find out more about progressing your personal growth with the help of a mentor or to be a mentor find us at Oka Life. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 14 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-art-of-storytelling-in-major-league-baseball-with-andrew-patterson-and-peri-kadaster-aZbOiZIP In this episode, we embark on Andrew's incredible journey into the world of social media and sports. From the fast-paced business of sports streaming to the art of storytelling in the realm of Major League Baseball, we uncover the secrets of connecting with diverse audiences.

But that's not all. We delve into the transition from professional athlete to entrepreneur and explore personal development gems. Andrew shares insights on finding the right job, the ever-evolving journey of self-awareness, and the power of learning from mistakes.

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that promises valuable takeaways for your own journey.

To find out more about progressing your personal growth with the help of a mentor or to be a mentor find us at Oka Life. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The Art of Storytelling in Major League Baseball with Andrew Patterson and Peri Kadaster Giles Paley-Phillips 00:54:07 Andrew Patterson is a media and technology strategist who was the first ever CEO at Jomboy Media, the New York-based multimedia sports and entertainment company. But that's not how Andrew’s career started out. After graduating from North Carolina, Andrew began working in finance when in his mid 20s he found himself working with Major League Baseball. Something he describes as a happy accident. At MLB (Major League Baseball) Advanced Media he built the league’s collective social media following from 3 million to more than 136 million across 11 global digital platforms. Andrew Patterson is a media and technology strategist who was the first ever CEO at Jomboy Media, the New York-based multimedia sports and entertainment company. But that's not how Andrew’s career started out. After graduating from North Carolina, Andrew began working in finance when in his mid 20s he found himself working with Major League Baseball. Something he describes as a happy accident. At MLB (Major League Baseball) Advanced Media he built the league’s collective social media following from 3 million to more than 136 million across 11 global digital platforms. personal development, family, mlb, major league baseball, peri, moments, storytelling, community, growth, talk, reflect, experiences, interesting, organisations, people, business, sports, important, professional athlete, find, fun, fortunate, psychology, day, work, social media, technology false full 86 f2accccd-1494-46ee-a9db-6b73e0fa2cf5 Cultural Alchemy: Decoding Trends, Brands, and Society with Brand Maven - Michael Schneider Schneider’s journey will resonate particularly with those navigating the entrepreneurial realm, where challenges and triumphs often intertwine. Refreshingly Schneider challenges the conventional mindset that success breeds happiness, advocating for a shift from "Have, Do, Be" to "Be, Do, Have." finding contentment within, propelling purposeful actions, and allowing rewards to naturally follow.

Schneider describes how with age, the entrepreneurial journey becomes a dance with escalating stakes. He highlights the crucial interplay between challenges and mental well-being and underscores the power of faith, whether in oneself or the universe, as a resilient foundation against life's uncertainties.

In the pursuit of success, Schneider spotlights the significance of valuing relationships. He counters the corrosive nature of comparison, advocating for a focus on authentic impact and in finding solace in outward focus. By extending kindness and support to others, he has experienced personal growth. While he acknowledges personal milestones he also underscores the profound fulfilment derived from aiding others on their journeys.

Mentorship also emerges as a guiding light in Schneider's narrative. Learning from those who've trodden similar paths mitigates avoidable missteps. He emphasizes the transformational power of translating mentorship into actionable steps.

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 31 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Peri Kadaster, Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/culturalalchemy-decodingtrends-DF6oy4o7 Schneider’s journey will resonate particularly with those navigating the entrepreneurial realm, where challenges and triumphs often intertwine. Refreshingly Schneider challenges the conventional mindset that success breeds happiness, advocating for a shift from "Have, Do, Be" to "Be, Do, Have." finding contentment within, propelling purposeful actions, and allowing rewards to naturally follow.

Schneider describes how with age, the entrepreneurial journey becomes a dance with escalating stakes. He highlights the crucial interplay between challenges and mental well-being and underscores the power of faith, whether in oneself or the universe, as a resilient foundation against life's uncertainties.

In the pursuit of success, Schneider spotlights the significance of valuing relationships. He counters the corrosive nature of comparison, advocating for a focus on authentic impact and in finding solace in outward focus. By extending kindness and support to others, he has experienced personal growth. While he acknowledges personal milestones he also underscores the profound fulfilment derived from aiding others on their journeys.

Mentorship also emerges as a guiding light in Schneider's narrative. Learning from those who've trodden similar paths mitigates avoidable missteps. He emphasizes the transformational power of translating mentorship into actionable steps.

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Cultural Alchemy: Decoding Trends, Brands, and Society with Brand Maven - Michael Schneider Peri Kadaster, Giles Paley-Phillips 00:47:23 Step into the world where trends, brands, and society collide, and experience the magic of "Cultural Alchemy." Join us for an unfiltered conversation with a visionary brand marketer Michael Schneider who's not just riding the cultural wave – but reshaping it. Schneider is an expert on pop culture, fashion, style, celebrity, niche and youth culture, and society—leveraging online communities and influencers to build and launch immersive experiences, content, and campaigns for start-up to Fortune 30 companies. Step into the world where trends, brands, and society collide, and experience the magic of "Cultural Alchemy." Join us for an unfiltered conversation with a visionary brand marketer Michael Schneider who's not just riding the cultural wave – but reshaping it. Schneider is an expert on pop culture, fashion, style, celebrity, niche and youth culture, and society—leveraging online communities and influencers to build and launch immersive experiences, content, and campaigns for start-up to Fortune 30 companies. great, wave, point, cultural, success, big, entrepreneur, culture, product, sneakers, company, chasing, life, entrepreneurship, people, zebras, psychology, realised, providing, secret sauce false full 85 85ca8daa-7e6d-4675-b0db-47f4a1a052b3 Zebras fix what unicorns break with Esme Verity Esme Verity supports founders, those who are 'Zebras'. The insights she shares throw light on to a world which favours a cookie cutter approach to success, even within the area of start-ups where our expectation may be different. Fiona explores Esme’s journey and the interesting experience she’s gained on “building a business that doesn't fit into this mainstream mould that we now have, a sort of Silicon Valley mould.” Why by investors looking only for businesses that offer a 10x return on investment leads to so many startups that are critical to the world being disregarded and left struggling to survive. 

Esme ran an antique jewellery business from the age of 18 and throughout university. When she left, she sought funding to help grow that business, and that’s when she was thrown into the world of Venture Capital. The VC world is very much focussed on finding the next unicorn business, something that’s going to grow incredibly big, very quickly. But Esme explains how she thinks that this reflects ‘a very limited definition of ambition’ and just ‘because you don't want to build a huge giant business doesn't make you not ambitious, it just means that you want something different.’ Wanting to do things differently and support the diversity of people within the start-up world, not just the unicorns, Esme has been on a mission ever since to advance her understanding of alternative approaches to growing a business that’s sustainable and to share that knowledge with others. 

Esme teaches about alternative funding and has worked with hundreds of purpose-driven start-ups, non-profits and governments to help democratise access to alternative funding sources.  Prior to founding Considered Capital, she was Director of Chapters at Zebras Unite, an international and intersectional hybrid cooperative dedicated to creating new financial instruments for the next economy. Esme is an active angel investor and was named one of the Top 100 Women in Social Enterprise by Pioneers Post. Esme is the founder of Considered Capital, a platform for start-ups and organisations seeking alternative funding. Considered Capital simplifies and speeds up the journey to finding and accessing the right funding fit through courses, community and content.  

 

To find Esme go to Linkedin or her website Considered Capital

For Zebras Unite click here 

For more from Fiona and her startup Oka click here.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sun, 26 Mar 2023 09:17:52 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/zebras-fix-what-unicorns-break-with-esme-verity-QIxJHFR0 Esme Verity supports founders, those who are 'Zebras'. The insights she shares throw light on to a world which favours a cookie cutter approach to success, even within the area of start-ups where our expectation may be different. Fiona explores Esme’s journey and the interesting experience she’s gained on “building a business that doesn't fit into this mainstream mould that we now have, a sort of Silicon Valley mould.” Why by investors looking only for businesses that offer a 10x return on investment leads to so many startups that are critical to the world being disregarded and left struggling to survive. 

Esme ran an antique jewellery business from the age of 18 and throughout university. When she left, she sought funding to help grow that business, and that’s when she was thrown into the world of Venture Capital. The VC world is very much focussed on finding the next unicorn business, something that’s going to grow incredibly big, very quickly. But Esme explains how she thinks that this reflects ‘a very limited definition of ambition’ and just ‘because you don't want to build a huge giant business doesn't make you not ambitious, it just means that you want something different.’ Wanting to do things differently and support the diversity of people within the start-up world, not just the unicorns, Esme has been on a mission ever since to advance her understanding of alternative approaches to growing a business that’s sustainable and to share that knowledge with others. 

Esme teaches about alternative funding and has worked with hundreds of purpose-driven start-ups, non-profits and governments to help democratise access to alternative funding sources.  Prior to founding Considered Capital, she was Director of Chapters at Zebras Unite, an international and intersectional hybrid cooperative dedicated to creating new financial instruments for the next economy. Esme is an active angel investor and was named one of the Top 100 Women in Social Enterprise by Pioneers Post. Esme is the founder of Considered Capital, a platform for start-ups and organisations seeking alternative funding. Considered Capital simplifies and speeds up the journey to finding and accessing the right funding fit through courses, community and content.  

 

To find Esme go to Linkedin or her website Considered Capital

For Zebras Unite click here 

For more from Fiona and her startup Oka click here.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Zebras fix what unicorns break with Esme Verity Giles Paley-Phillips 00:50:20 Taking inspiration from the article of the same name and a person who is heavily involved with those very 'Zebras', this week Fiona speaks to Esme Verity about her story and among other things her involvement with Zebras Unite. Listen in to find out more about what it means, why zebras fix what unicorns break and how magical thinking drives the startup economy, but we need a strong dose of reality. Taking inspiration from the article of the same name and a person who is heavily involved with those very 'Zebras', this week Fiona speaks to Esme Verity about her story and among other things her involvement with Zebras Unite. Listen in to find out more about what it means, why zebras fix what unicorns break and how magical thinking drives the startup economy, but we need a strong dose of reality. funding, university, investors, vc, build, raise, investing in females, zebras unite, investing in minorities, sustainable business, investment, exist, invested, interesting, people, grow, business, jewish history, money, work, venture capital, female startup, programme, unicorn false full 84 8f6495ff-f852-4890-8c8c-c7636df70c06 Reconstructing a face and the journey through medicine - with surgeon Mr Bhavin Visavadia Bhavin Visavadia is a senior and experienced Consultant Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon and Clinical Leader. He is a surgical educator teaching around the world and was a member of Council of the British Association of Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeons (BAOMS). He was also Chairman of the Consultants and Specialists Group here. Bhavin has the position of Regional Director for London (NW) at the Royal College of Surgeons of England. He is also President of the Oral Surgery Club of Great Britain

 

Bhavin qualified in medicine and dentistry at King’s College London and undertook his specialist surgical training at Queen Victoria Hospital in East Grinstead, Royal Surrey County Hospital in Guildford and Guy’s and King’s College Hospitals, London. Bhavin is highly committed to surgical training supporting mentoring and pro-actively engaging with the development of surgeons, doctors, nurses and dentists.

 

For more on opportunities to get involved in mentoring or to be mentored go to:

 

https://oka.life

 

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2023 14:04:10 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/reconstructing-a-face-and-the-journey-through-medicine-with-surgeon-mr-bhavin-visavadia-sGNTbCpN Bhavin Visavadia is a senior and experienced Consultant Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon and Clinical Leader. He is a surgical educator teaching around the world and was a member of Council of the British Association of Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeons (BAOMS). He was also Chairman of the Consultants and Specialists Group here. Bhavin has the position of Regional Director for London (NW) at the Royal College of Surgeons of England. He is also President of the Oral Surgery Club of Great Britain

 

Bhavin qualified in medicine and dentistry at King’s College London and undertook his specialist surgical training at Queen Victoria Hospital in East Grinstead, Royal Surrey County Hospital in Guildford and Guy’s and King’s College Hospitals, London. Bhavin is highly committed to surgical training supporting mentoring and pro-actively engaging with the development of surgeons, doctors, nurses and dentists.

 

For more on opportunities to get involved in mentoring or to be mentored go to:

 

https://oka.life

 

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Reconstructing a face and the journey through medicine - with surgeon Mr Bhavin Visavadia Giles Paley-Phillips 00:52:48 On this episode Fiona speaks to surgeon Bhavin Visavadia. Bhavin is a senior Consultant Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon based at Northwick Park Hospital London. He performs advanced reconstructive facial and head and neck surgery. Bhavin and Fiona talk about the very moving story of how Bhavin got into his specialism, the amazingly complex work that he and his team do to reconstruct faces, the history of re-constructive surgery dating back as far as 600BC, through to the incredible 3D imaging used today. On this episode Fiona speaks to surgeon Bhavin Visavadia. Bhavin is a senior Consultant Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon based at Northwick Park Hospital London. He performs advanced reconstructive facial and head and neck surgery. Bhavin and Fiona talk about the very moving story of how Bhavin got into his specialism, the amazingly complex work that he and his team do to reconstruct faces, the history of re-constructive surgery dating back as far as 600BC, through to the incredible 3D imaging used today. mentor, nhs, mentoring, hours, skills, absolutely, colleagues, talk, developing, people, surgery, bit, reconstruction, conversation, consultant, cancer, surgeon, psychology, work, wellbeing, doctors, patient, training false full 83 5494470f-213a-48da-90df-672184967343 Ask Fiona - What does stepping outside your comfort zone actually mean? For more on the Comfort Zone go to my book Defining You - Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sun, 26 Feb 2023 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/ask-fiona-what-does-stepping-outside-your-comfort-zone-actually-mean-ydgBJ2YI For more on the Comfort Zone go to my book Defining You - Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Ask Fiona - What does stepping outside your comfort zone actually mean? Fiona Murden 00:21:19 This week is a solo cast - I answer the question of one listener 'What does stepping outside of your comfort zone actually mean?' - I explore what this looks like, what prevents us from doing it and can help us to overcome those mental obstacles. This week is a solo cast - I answer the question of one listener 'What does stepping outside of your comfort zone actually mean?' - I explore what this looks like, what prevents us from doing it and can help us to overcome those mental obstacles. false full 82 529ee725-192c-4232-9a82-1af50468b09b Simple as Hannah - with soldier Hannah Roberts Hannah has observed the pop-culture messaging of "love yourself”, “reduce stress”, “avoid burnout”, “safe spaces”, “take it easy”, and “hack culture". All of which are promoted with good intentions. However, Hannah is passionate that these messages lead to adverse outcomes.

Because of her diverse experience and when looking through the prism of a female soldier (or those taking on demanding physical challenges) Hannah promotes tremendous success by doing the opposite.

Hannah is on a mission (pun intended) to convince people to seek out discomfort, to take a leap of faith when feeling overwhelmed by emotions and continually action their goals. Hannah’s simple strategies and lived experience can cut through some noise, helping all walks of life!

 

Hannah's Bio: 

At the tender age of 18, Hannah joined the army and has served for 12 years, including two operational tours in Afghanistan. During this time,Hannahhas lived in Germany, worked for NATO, and was also privileged to serve the late Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II on ceremonial duties, including Garden Parties, Diplomatic Receptions, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s wedding and the late Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh funeral.Hannah's versatility extends beyond military service. She is also a skilled ski instructor and has participated in various adventure training activities, including parachuting and a military competition where she carried 40 pounds of weight over 40 miles. Also, Hannah placed 2nd in her age and gender group in the military section of an Ironman competition.

Her passion for personal growth and resilience has led her to establish Simple as Hannah, where she hopes to help individuals enhance their health and well-being, build their stress tolerance, and reach their full through regular exposure to discomfort with simple and actionable protocols to help along the way. With her unique combination of military discipline and physical challenges,Hannah is well-equipped to guide others on their journey of self-discovery and growth.

 

For more about Hannah please go to: 

https://linktr.ee/simple_as_hannah

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 10 Feb 2023 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/simple-as-hannah-with-soldier-hannah-roberts-ZH_frkzq Hannah has observed the pop-culture messaging of "love yourself”, “reduce stress”, “avoid burnout”, “safe spaces”, “take it easy”, and “hack culture". All of which are promoted with good intentions. However, Hannah is passionate that these messages lead to adverse outcomes.

Because of her diverse experience and when looking through the prism of a female soldier (or those taking on demanding physical challenges) Hannah promotes tremendous success by doing the opposite.

Hannah is on a mission (pun intended) to convince people to seek out discomfort, to take a leap of faith when feeling overwhelmed by emotions and continually action their goals. Hannah’s simple strategies and lived experience can cut through some noise, helping all walks of life!

 

Hannah's Bio: 

At the tender age of 18, Hannah joined the army and has served for 12 years, including two operational tours in Afghanistan. During this time,Hannahhas lived in Germany, worked for NATO, and was also privileged to serve the late Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II on ceremonial duties, including Garden Parties, Diplomatic Receptions, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s wedding and the late Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh funeral.Hannah's versatility extends beyond military service. She is also a skilled ski instructor and has participated in various adventure training activities, including parachuting and a military competition where she carried 40 pounds of weight over 40 miles. Also, Hannah placed 2nd in her age and gender group in the military section of an Ironman competition.

Her passion for personal growth and resilience has led her to establish Simple as Hannah, where she hopes to help individuals enhance their health and well-being, build their stress tolerance, and reach their full through regular exposure to discomfort with simple and actionable protocols to help along the way. With her unique combination of military discipline and physical challenges,Hannah is well-equipped to guide others on their journey of self-discovery and growth.

 

For more about Hannah please go to: 

https://linktr.ee/simple_as_hannah

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Simple as Hannah - with soldier Hannah Roberts Fiona Murden 00:56:55 Currently a serving member of the British Armed Forces having joined at the tender age of 18, over a 12-year career, Hannah has had to learn many "life lessons" along the way, often the hard way and under high-pressured and unique circumstances. We talk about some of them including stress tolerance and endurance, the fallacy of happily ever afters, the importance of meaning in life and realising how much other people impact us in our daily lives. Currently a serving member of the British Armed Forces having joined at the tender age of 18, over a 12-year career, Hannah has had to learn many "life lessons" along the way, often the hard way and under high-pressured and unique circumstances. We talk about some of them including stress tolerance and endurance, the fallacy of happily ever afters, the importance of meaning in life and realising how much other people impact us in our daily lives. false full 81 4cff3146-cc56-438a-b756-4b4c1b3d2514 Ask Fiona - Why do I lose motivation as the day goes on?  

The books I refer to are:

 

Mirror Thinking  https://bit.ly/mirrorthink

 

Defining You https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Other references made can be found in Defining You. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sun, 5 Feb 2023 00:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/ask-fiona-maintaining-willpower-as-the-day-goes-on-zDNOsHf_  

The books I refer to are:

 

Mirror Thinking  https://bit.ly/mirrorthink

 

Defining You https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Other references made can be found in Defining You. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Ask Fiona - Why do I lose motivation as the day goes on? Fiona Murden 00:27:23 This week is a solo cast - I answer the question of one listener 'Why is it so difficult to maintain the resilience and positivity I start the day with? A solid morning routine of positive intent often degrades into something far less positive and more destructive during the day.' This week is a solo cast - I answer the question of one listener 'Why is it so difficult to maintain the resilience and positivity I start the day with? A solid morning routine of positive intent often degrades into something far less positive and more destructive during the day.' false full 80 0ba300b4-0599-4695-85aa-697132009b39 Award-winning author, podcaster and screenwriter - Giles Paley-Phillips Giles is an award-winning author, podcaster and screenwriter. Giles' first novel for adults One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days come out in March 2020. Author of several books for children and two adult novels, with a third on the way. His book One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days has been adapted by Giles and Elizabeth Morris for Arclight Films and Future Artists Entertainment. Giles is the writer of six short films for Little Angel Theatre. Giles’ children’s books include The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award, The US Forward National Literary Award and Shortlisted for The Rotherham Children's Book Award 2012. Tamara Small and the Monsters' Ball is shortlisted for The People's Book Prize 2013. He has written several picture books, including Things You Never Knew About Dinosaurs, Princess Stay Awake and a collection of nonsense poetry. 

Giles' is co-host and producer of the award-nominated Blank Podcast and regularly writes for Aquila Magazine. He’s also co-host of the ‘A Little Bit of Positive’ podcast with Julia Bradbury and co-host of ‘Things I forgot were good for me’ with Dr Radha Modgil.

Giles lives with his wife and two sons in East Sussex

To pledge for Gile’s next book go to: 

https://unbound.com/books/gigantium/

To connect with Giles on Twitter go to:

@eliistender10

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sun, 22 Jan 2023 08:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/award-winning-author-podcaster-and-screenwriter-giles-paley-phillips-31SAUvbV Giles is an award-winning author, podcaster and screenwriter. Giles' first novel for adults One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days come out in March 2020. Author of several books for children and two adult novels, with a third on the way. His book One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days has been adapted by Giles and Elizabeth Morris for Arclight Films and Future Artists Entertainment. Giles is the writer of six short films for Little Angel Theatre. Giles’ children’s books include The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award, The US Forward National Literary Award and Shortlisted for The Rotherham Children's Book Award 2012. Tamara Small and the Monsters' Ball is shortlisted for The People's Book Prize 2013. He has written several picture books, including Things You Never Knew About Dinosaurs, Princess Stay Awake and a collection of nonsense poetry. 

Giles' is co-host and producer of the award-nominated Blank Podcast and regularly writes for Aquila Magazine. He’s also co-host of the ‘A Little Bit of Positive’ podcast with Julia Bradbury and co-host of ‘Things I forgot were good for me’ with Dr Radha Modgil.

Giles lives with his wife and two sons in East Sussex

To pledge for Gile’s next book go to: 

https://unbound.com/books/gigantium/

To connect with Giles on Twitter go to:

@eliistender10

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Award-winning author, podcaster and screenwriter - Giles Paley-Phillips Giles Paley-Phillips 01:04:33 Back again, on this episode Fiona speaks to her good friend Giles Paley-Phillips. Fiona and Giles talk about Giles’s 14th book, the fascinating podcasts he’s the host of, how to spark creativity, mentoring, giving back, gardening and how important it is to reconnect with nature, Native American Indian culture, friendship, the personal impacts of trolling on social media and much more. Back again, on this episode Fiona speaks to her good friend Giles Paley-Phillips. Fiona and Giles talk about Giles’s 14th book, the fascinating podcasts he’s the host of, how to spark creativity, mentoring, giving back, gardening and how important it is to reconnect with nature, Native American Indian culture, friendship, the personal impacts of trolling on social media and much more. called, garden, nice, person, thought, extroverts, talk, lots, life, feel, gardening, conversations, people, podcast, write, guests, bit, book, monotonous, nuance false full 79 1b25b6a1-339d-4e48-a898-d4cfd844da98 Award-winning conservation & wildlife artist Sophie Green So while Sophie’s subjects are animals, her ability to watch people and question why people are doing what they're doing, whether they're doing what they should be doing, or think they should be doing, or whether they're actually being kind of authentic to themselves must have influenced her ability to so accurately reflect not just the image of the animals but the emotion that comes with that. As she says herself:

“It is impossible to admire the beauty of the natural world without also reflecting on its vulnerability.” 

Sophie has dedicated her time and artistic work to raising awareness for issues surrounding animal welfare and the environment. Her art is magical, emotive and so realistic that it’s hard to believe it’s not a photograph stepping out of the canvas toward you. Sophie says:

Throughout her career as a fine artist and since founding the online gallery and art store, Art Basket, Sophie has donated 10% of her profits to wildlife & conservation charities and has worked closely with foundations such as IFAW, The David Shepherd Wildlife Foundation and Explorers Against Extinction to help to make a difference.

In 2021, Sophie was awarded the ‘medal of excellence’ by the Artists for Conservation foundation for her outstanding work in the wildlife & conservation sphere. Sophie was also the winner of the Leisure Painter People's Choice Award 2020 and 2021, runner-up in the BBC Wildlife Magazine People’s Choice and was deemed ‘highly commended’ in prizes such as the Wildlife Artist of the Year competition, the Sketch for Survival Award and the Ashurst Emerging Artist Prize. In 2021, Sophie was selected to be one of 20 Artists to exhibit at COP26 in the Blue zone.

To see some of Sophie’s brilliant work go to:

https://www.sophiegreenfineart.com/

For more from me go to

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Thu, 5 Jan 2023 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/award-winning-conservation-wildlife-artist-sophie-green-Xi_vK_fS So while Sophie’s subjects are animals, her ability to watch people and question why people are doing what they're doing, whether they're doing what they should be doing, or think they should be doing, or whether they're actually being kind of authentic to themselves must have influenced her ability to so accurately reflect not just the image of the animals but the emotion that comes with that. As she says herself:

“It is impossible to admire the beauty of the natural world without also reflecting on its vulnerability.” 

Sophie has dedicated her time and artistic work to raising awareness for issues surrounding animal welfare and the environment. Her art is magical, emotive and so realistic that it’s hard to believe it’s not a photograph stepping out of the canvas toward you. Sophie says:

Throughout her career as a fine artist and since founding the online gallery and art store, Art Basket, Sophie has donated 10% of her profits to wildlife & conservation charities and has worked closely with foundations such as IFAW, The David Shepherd Wildlife Foundation and Explorers Against Extinction to help to make a difference.

In 2021, Sophie was awarded the ‘medal of excellence’ by the Artists for Conservation foundation for her outstanding work in the wildlife & conservation sphere. Sophie was also the winner of the Leisure Painter People's Choice Award 2020 and 2021, runner-up in the BBC Wildlife Magazine People’s Choice and was deemed ‘highly commended’ in prizes such as the Wildlife Artist of the Year competition, the Sketch for Survival Award and the Ashurst Emerging Artist Prize. In 2021, Sophie was selected to be one of 20 Artists to exhibit at COP26 in the Blue zone.

To see some of Sophie’s brilliant work go to:

https://www.sophiegreenfineart.com/

For more from me go to

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Award-winning conservation & wildlife artist Sophie Green Giles Paley-Phillips 00:45:17 On this episode I speak to the truly wonderful Sophie Green. Sophie is an award-winning conservation & wildlife artist who specialises in capturing the photorealistic details of animals and their surroundings. We talk about her journey through life including how she suffered with selective mutism as a child. This led to her being unable to speak in certain social situations meaning she developed an ability to listen and observe what people said, how they said it and what reactions that led to in others. On this episode I speak to the truly wonderful Sophie Green. Sophie is an award-winning conservation & wildlife artist who specialises in capturing the photorealistic details of animals and their surroundings. We talk about her journey through life including how she suffered with selective mutism as a child. This led to her being unable to speak in certain social situations meaning she developed an ability to listen and observe what people said, how they said it and what reactions that led to in others. artwork, project, art, animals, climate change, exhibition, innately, painting, world, people, snow leopard, enjoyed, bit, gallery, money, friends, conservation, charities, creative false full 78 80feadfc-fc74-4089-a385-6ccf15c52a51 Might Bite The Secret Life of a Gambling Addict - with Patrick Foster Fiona explores how gambling became a drug for Patrick. How the biggest thing for him was learning how to show his emotion, the importance of self-awareness. Patrick now works for Epic Risk Management which was formed in 2014, when the CEO of the company had ended up in prison, having attempted suicide, and stolen £434,000 from his employers, which was one of the world's biggest banks to fund his gambling addiction. Whilst he was in prison, he recognised that actually, he wasn't the only person who had suffered from an addiction of this kind who must have done things like he had done and ended up in the situation that he was. Patrick says that he realised that there were a lot of organisations that dealt with people once they'd kind of fallen off the cliff but that there weren't enough trying to prevent it in the first place. Patrick explains how gambling carries such stigma that what they try at his company is to try and break down those barriers and ultimately allow people to make more informed decisions, to understand how to spot signs in themselves and probably most importantly what to do if they do need help.

Patrick’s book is called - Might Bite: The Secret Life of a Gambling Addict

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 14 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/might-bite-the-secret-life-of-a-gambling-addict-with-patrick-foster-Y7r35aES Fiona explores how gambling became a drug for Patrick. How the biggest thing for him was learning how to show his emotion, the importance of self-awareness. Patrick now works for Epic Risk Management which was formed in 2014, when the CEO of the company had ended up in prison, having attempted suicide, and stolen £434,000 from his employers, which was one of the world's biggest banks to fund his gambling addiction. Whilst he was in prison, he recognised that actually, he wasn't the only person who had suffered from an addiction of this kind who must have done things like he had done and ended up in the situation that he was. Patrick says that he realised that there were a lot of organisations that dealt with people once they'd kind of fallen off the cliff but that there weren't enough trying to prevent it in the first place. Patrick explains how gambling carries such stigma that what they try at his company is to try and break down those barriers and ultimately allow people to make more informed decisions, to understand how to spot signs in themselves and probably most importantly what to do if they do need help.

Patrick’s book is called - Might Bite: The Secret Life of a Gambling Addict

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Might Bite The Secret Life of a Gambling Addict - with Patrick Foster Giles Paley-Phillips 00:51:34 On this episode Fiona speaks to Patrick Foster, former cricketer and recovering gambling addict. Gambling addiction is a dark and interesting world, one which is made yet darker still because of the social undesirability. Patrick says ‘I spent £4m on gambling and my betting addiction almost killed me, yet I told no-one’ highlighting the secrecy and shame associated with what is as much addiction as drugs or alcohol. Leading what he describes as a double life, Patrick fought a secret gambling addition for over 12 years, causing him ‘trouble and pain in ways I could never have imagined.’ Patrick explains how he gambled at every opportunity. And because he gambled, he lied, and he stole. He stole from those close to him as well as from those he barely knew. He even stole money intended for charity On this episode Fiona speaks to Patrick Foster, former cricketer and recovering gambling addict. Gambling addiction is a dark and interesting world, one which is made yet darker still because of the social undesirability. Patrick says ‘I spent £4m on gambling and my betting addiction almost killed me, yet I told no-one’ highlighting the secrecy and shame associated with what is as much addiction as drugs or alcohol. Leading what he describes as a double life, Patrick fought a secret gambling addition for over 12 years, causing him ‘trouble and pain in ways I could never have imagined.’ Patrick explains how he gambled at every opportunity. And because he gambled, he lied, and he stole. He stole from those close to him as well as from those he barely knew. He even stole money intended for charity understand, gaming, emotions, understanding, play, lost, thought, ultimately, addicted, life, problem, addiction, people, gambling, gambling addiction, drug, gambling addict, struggle, money false full 77 58db1dbd-9aaa-4144-8134-357569514488 Everyday spy - with former CIA agent Andrew Bustamante We explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And we touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that ‘their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies.’ 

 

More about Andrew

 

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. For more from Andrew go to everydayspy.com 

 

For more from Fiona go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 30 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/everyday-spy-with-former-cia-agent-andrew-bustamante-3HYYvQwJ We explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And we touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that ‘their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies.’ 

 

More about Andrew

 

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. For more from Andrew go to everydayspy.com 

 

For more from Fiona go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Everyday spy - with former CIA agent Andrew Bustamante Giles Paley-Phillips 00:55:11 On this episode I speak to Andrew Bustamante, a former ‘covert CIA intelligence officer’. We delve into the psychology of being a spy. Andrew explains the need for officers to know themselves really well, to know how to optimise their own recovery which is in part something helped through profiling and in part a process of self-discovery. We discuss the extreme cognitive load experienced as an officer and the need to retreat to a safe space in order to recover. Getting this wrong isn’t just a case of burnout, but as a spy it means ‘you become a major liability, not just to the operation, but to yourself and your own life.’ On this episode I speak to Andrew Bustamante, a former ‘covert CIA intelligence officer’. We delve into the psychology of being a spy. Andrew explains the need for officers to know themselves really well, to know how to optimise their own recovery which is in part something helped through profiling and in part a process of self-discovery. We discuss the extreme cognitive load experienced as an officer and the need to retreat to a safe space in order to recover. Getting this wrong isn’t just a case of burnout, but as a spy it means ‘you become a major liability, not just to the operation, but to yourself and your own life.’ surgeons, fiona, learn, apply, cognitive load, cia officers, tool, profile, life, myers briggs, skill, world, people, information, thinking, operation, find, cia, professional, emotional resilience false full 76 f5a08352-35e0-4235-9ded-12b42d0bc182 The real Alan Turing - with Dermot Turing Fiona and Dermot discuss what Alan was really like, from his utter brilliance through to those areas that he was less adept. The truth about his relationships with a few close friends which stands in deep contrast to the portrait drawn of him as a loner, by Hollywood and many biographers. Of course we also talk about the people who impacted Alan Turing from shaping his thinking to the decisions he made. We also cover Dermot's own incredible career and how much Alan Turing influenced the course that he took.  

Dermot Turing – like his celebrated uncle Alan Turing – was educated at Sherborne School and King’s College, Cambridge. After a doing a D.Phil in Genetics at Oxford, he concluded that scientific research was not for him, and moved into the legal profession.

Dermot worked for the Government Legal Service and then the international law firm Clifford Chance, where he was a partner until 2014. His specialism was financial sector regulation, particularly the problems associated with failed banks, and financial market infrastructure.

As well as writing and speaking, Dermot is a trustee of The Turing Trust and a Visiting Fellow at Kellogg College, Oxford. He continues his interest in the financial world.

Dermot lives in Kippen in Stirlingshire. He is married with two sons, and as well as history his interests include cooking, gardening and opera.

To read more about Dermot and find links to his books go to DermotTuring.com  

For Fiona's book that Dermot wrote an endorsement for click here Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 16 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-real-alan-turing-with-dermot-turing-bnjcWIbV Fiona and Dermot discuss what Alan was really like, from his utter brilliance through to those areas that he was less adept. The truth about his relationships with a few close friends which stands in deep contrast to the portrait drawn of him as a loner, by Hollywood and many biographers. Of course we also talk about the people who impacted Alan Turing from shaping his thinking to the decisions he made. We also cover Dermot's own incredible career and how much Alan Turing influenced the course that he took.  

Dermot Turing – like his celebrated uncle Alan Turing – was educated at Sherborne School and King’s College, Cambridge. After a doing a D.Phil in Genetics at Oxford, he concluded that scientific research was not for him, and moved into the legal profession.

Dermot worked for the Government Legal Service and then the international law firm Clifford Chance, where he was a partner until 2014. His specialism was financial sector regulation, particularly the problems associated with failed banks, and financial market infrastructure.

As well as writing and speaking, Dermot is a trustee of The Turing Trust and a Visiting Fellow at Kellogg College, Oxford. He continues his interest in the financial world.

Dermot lives in Kippen in Stirlingshire. He is married with two sons, and as well as history his interests include cooking, gardening and opera.

To read more about Dermot and find links to his books go to DermotTuring.com  

For Fiona's book that Dermot wrote an endorsement for click here Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The real Alan Turing - with Dermot Turing Giles Paley-Phillips 00:57:07 Sir Dermot Turing is the acclaimed author of 7 books including Prof, a biography of his famous uncle Alan Turing. He is brilliant in his own right but has also strived to tell the ‘real’ story of an extraordinary man. As he says himself Alan Turing ‘crammed into a life of only 42 years the careers of mathematician, codebreaker, computer scientist and biologist. He is widely regarded as a war hero grossly mistreated by his country and it has become hard to disentangle the real man from the story.’ Sir Dermot Turing is the acclaimed author of 7 books including Prof, a biography of his famous uncle Alan Turing. He is brilliant in his own right but has also strived to tell the ‘real’ story of an extraordinary man. As he says himself Alan Turing ‘crammed into a life of only 42 years the careers of mathematician, codebreaker, computer scientist and biologist. He is widely regarded as a war hero grossly mistreated by his country and it has become hard to disentangle the real man from the story.’ understand, honour, talking, alan turing, recognise, newman, alan turing's, machine, translating, alan, ai, piece, influenced, written, life, interesting, people, paper, thinking, fact, bit, machine learning false full 75 f82e5635-a8c8-4b87-a114-36adc03dc4f6 From the military to mindfulness - with Major Pat Burgess Pat’s interest in Mental Health, Resilience and more specifically Mindfulness started in 2009, whilst on operations in Afghanistan.  He completed an Open University degree in Psychology after noticing the lack of a ‘therapeutic relationship’ between soldiers returning from operations and their counsellors.  He ran weekly online Mindfulness sessions throughout the COVID-19 period and continues to do so. Currently he is leading the implementation of Physical Attention Training (PAT), an innovative approach to bringing Mindfulness based coping strategies into the existing culture of physical training. 

 

More about Major Burgess 

 

Major Burgess was brought up in Wells, Somerset, joined the Army in September 1992 and started his career at The Second Royal Tank Regiment in Fallingbostel, Germany. He served with the regiment in Germany, Northern Ireland, Canada, Poland, Iraq and Afghanistan in a career that saw him from Trooper, through Tank Commander to Regimental Sergeant Major.  He was recently promoted to Major as Officer Commanding the Combat CIS School. 

 

He was awarded an MBE in the 2020 New Year's Honours List in recognition of his tireless work in bringing mindfulness to Defence and has more recently been awarded an Honorary Degree of Doctor of Science (DSc) by Glasgow and Caledonian University. He is a member of the Defence Mindfulness Steering Group and his course content and delivery are endorsed by the Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB). 

 

For more on Major Burgess go to his website www.oneworldmindfulness.co.uk

 

For more from me go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 2 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-the-military-to-mindfulness-with-major-pat-burgess-2bhnA_J7 Pat’s interest in Mental Health, Resilience and more specifically Mindfulness started in 2009, whilst on operations in Afghanistan.  He completed an Open University degree in Psychology after noticing the lack of a ‘therapeutic relationship’ between soldiers returning from operations and their counsellors.  He ran weekly online Mindfulness sessions throughout the COVID-19 period and continues to do so. Currently he is leading the implementation of Physical Attention Training (PAT), an innovative approach to bringing Mindfulness based coping strategies into the existing culture of physical training. 

 

More about Major Burgess 

 

Major Burgess was brought up in Wells, Somerset, joined the Army in September 1992 and started his career at The Second Royal Tank Regiment in Fallingbostel, Germany. He served with the regiment in Germany, Northern Ireland, Canada, Poland, Iraq and Afghanistan in a career that saw him from Trooper, through Tank Commander to Regimental Sergeant Major.  He was recently promoted to Major as Officer Commanding the Combat CIS School. 

 

He was awarded an MBE in the 2020 New Year's Honours List in recognition of his tireless work in bringing mindfulness to Defence and has more recently been awarded an Honorary Degree of Doctor of Science (DSc) by Glasgow and Caledonian University. He is a member of the Defence Mindfulness Steering Group and his course content and delivery are endorsed by the Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB). 

 

For more on Major Burgess go to his website www.oneworldmindfulness.co.uk

 

For more from me go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From the military to mindfulness - with Major Pat Burgess Fiona Murden 00:49:45 On this episode I speak to Major Pat Burgess who has been deployed on operations to Northern Ireland, the invasion of Iraq (and subsequent tours) and a further three tours of Afghanistan. This is perhaps at a juxtaposition with what he has trained in and now advocates to thousands of military personnel – mindfulness. Listen to find out more. On this episode I speak to Major Pat Burgess who has been deployed on operations to Northern Ireland, the invasion of Iraq (and subsequent tours) and a further three tours of Afghanistan. This is perhaps at a juxtaposition with what he has trained in and now advocates to thousands of military personnel – mindfulness. Listen to find out more. mindfulness, talking, teaching, understanding, andy, defence, realise, feel, world, people, create, important, little bit, noticing, trauma, stop, experience, present moment, practice false full 74 6df328f7-5d8d-4484-87d8-3a5a57aea785 The School of Life - with Sarah Stein Lubrano We talk about having an ‘elite education’ and how when Sarah went to Harvard she ‘saw how the sausage is made’. “And by sausage, I mean, how elite people are made, and who runs the universe, so to speak.” Sarah also explains how through her studies at Oxford she has seen that “the way that political thinking is just not very much like other forms of thinking. It's deeply tied into our sense of who we are, whether we're good people. And not only that, but it's tied up in our sense that we need to kind of feel okay about the immediate opportunities for action available to us in the future.” We also discuss how the School of Life shaped Sarah’s thinking, whether there are ever any ‘new’ ideas as opposed to a reshaping of those that have existed sometimes for centuries, we explore nudges and the extent to which they are all that they are cracked up to be and many, many other topics. 

 

More about Sarah. 

Sarah is a writer, content strategist, learning designer, and researcher at Oxford University. Her academic research focuses on the role of emotion in political communication, and specifically on cognitive dissonance. Another string to her bow is that she’s the Head of Content Strategy at the Future Narratives Lab where she works on projects related to policy and politics. She also serves on the Institute of Imagination’s Global Imagination Board. For many years she was also the Head of Content at The School of Life, where she is still a faculty member and learning designer. To read more about Sarah click her to go to her website. 

For more from us go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

or www.oka.life 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 19 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-school-of-life-with-sarah-stein-lubrano-NlL9OtKs We talk about having an ‘elite education’ and how when Sarah went to Harvard she ‘saw how the sausage is made’. “And by sausage, I mean, how elite people are made, and who runs the universe, so to speak.” Sarah also explains how through her studies at Oxford she has seen that “the way that political thinking is just not very much like other forms of thinking. It's deeply tied into our sense of who we are, whether we're good people. And not only that, but it's tied up in our sense that we need to kind of feel okay about the immediate opportunities for action available to us in the future.” We also discuss how the School of Life shaped Sarah’s thinking, whether there are ever any ‘new’ ideas as opposed to a reshaping of those that have existed sometimes for centuries, we explore nudges and the extent to which they are all that they are cracked up to be and many, many other topics. 

 

More about Sarah. 

Sarah is a writer, content strategist, learning designer, and researcher at Oxford University. Her academic research focuses on the role of emotion in political communication, and specifically on cognitive dissonance. Another string to her bow is that she’s the Head of Content Strategy at the Future Narratives Lab where she works on projects related to policy and politics. She also serves on the Institute of Imagination’s Global Imagination Board. For many years she was also the Head of Content at The School of Life, where she is still a faculty member and learning designer. To read more about Sarah click her to go to her website. 

For more from us go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

or www.oka.life 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The School of Life - with Sarah Stein Lubrano Giles Paley-Phillips 00:47:21 On this episode I speak to Sarah Stern Lubrano who describes herself as “a nice American Jew from New York, who accidentally transplanted to United Kingdom.” Among other things Sarah has done a lot of work for the School of Life is a global organisation that helps people access ideas related to wisdom and resilience, and especially those sorts of qualities in times of difficulty. On this episode I speak to Sarah Stern Lubrano who describes herself as “a nice American Jew from New York, who accidentally transplanted to United Kingdom.” Among other things Sarah has done a lot of work for the School of Life is a global organisation that helps people access ideas related to wisdom and resilience, and especially those sorts of qualities in times of difficulty. articulate, talking, discomfort, ideas, point, bombing, run, political, psychologist, narrative, life, dissonance, question, economics, term, world, people, theory, thinking, psychology false full 73 19d0a92c-6273-4bff-a1d6-42c655eea147 Guys who get it - the men of the women's movement with Dr Michael Kimmel Kimmel is an Emeritus Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies at Stony Brook University. Among his many books are Manhood in America, Angry White Men, The Politics of Manhood, The Gendered Society and the best seller Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. With funding from the MacArthur Foundation, he founded the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities at Stony Brook in 2013. He has delivered the International Women’s Day annual lecture at the European Parliament, the European Commission and the Council of Europe, and has worked with the Ministers for Gender Equality of Norway, Denmark and Sweden in developing programs for boys and men. He consults widely with corporations, NGOs and public sector organizations on gender equity issues. 

For more from Michael go to www.michaelkimmel.com 

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]]> Wed, 5 Oct 2022 04:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Brenda Trenowden, Michael Kimmel, Giles Paley-Phillips, Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-michael-kimmel-hriD55SY Kimmel is an Emeritus Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies at Stony Brook University. Among his many books are Manhood in America, Angry White Men, The Politics of Manhood, The Gendered Society and the best seller Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. With funding from the MacArthur Foundation, he founded the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities at Stony Brook in 2013. He has delivered the International Women’s Day annual lecture at the European Parliament, the European Commission and the Council of Europe, and has worked with the Ministers for Gender Equality of Norway, Denmark and Sweden in developing programs for boys and men. He consults widely with corporations, NGOs and public sector organizations on gender equity issues. 

For more from Michael go to www.michaelkimmel.com 

For more from Fiona go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Guys who get it - the men of the women's movement with Dr Michael Kimmel Brenda Trenowden, Michael Kimmel, Giles Paley-Phillips, Fiona Murden 00:53:38 On this episode Fiona speaks to Michael Kimmel, one of the world’s leading experts on men and masculinities, someone who the Guardian newspaper called “the world’s most prominent male feminist” and who has also been described as a tireless advocate of engaging men to support gender equality. Among other things they discuss what being a male feminist actually means, how men judge men and what is means to be a ‘real man’ as opposed to being a ‘good man’ On this episode Fiona speaks to Michael Kimmel, one of the world’s leading experts on men and masculinities, someone who the Guardian newspaper called “the world’s most prominent male feminist” and who has also been described as a tireless advocate of engaging men to support gender equality. Among other things they discuss what being a male feminist actually means, how men judge men and what is means to be a ‘real man’ as opposed to being a ‘good man’ women, moments, men, proving, talk, psychologist, reverse mentoring, feel, organisations, people, thinking, privilege, values, friendships, gender equality, friends, speak, support, companies, masculinity false full 72 8066bfbc-ff06-4707-a3a8-4e7b9cf018c8 From Singapore to Soho House the journey of Creative Director Nabil Aliffi I’ve been wanting to record an episode with Nabil for ages, but there simply hasn’t been time. He moved from one fast paced role to another most recently holding the position of Global Chief Creative Officer at Soho House. I’m pleased to say that finally he’s taking a breather (although even that involves a course at Harvard University) so I caught him just long enough to share his story with you. 

We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 8 Jul 2022 15:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-singapore-to-soho-house-the-journey-of-creative-director-nabil-aliffi-JRm_GV7u I’ve been wanting to record an episode with Nabil for ages, but there simply hasn’t been time. He moved from one fast paced role to another most recently holding the position of Global Chief Creative Officer at Soho House. I’m pleased to say that finally he’s taking a breather (although even that involves a course at Harvard University) so I caught him just long enough to share his story with you. 

We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From Singapore to Soho House the journey of Creative Director Nabil Aliffi Fiona Murden 01:04:20 Harper’s Bazare described Nabil Aliffi as ‘This London-based Singaporean wunderkind’, I describe him as a friend, coachee and ‘One to Watch’ as he takes his continues to take his career as a Creative from strength to strength. Harper’s Bazare described Nabil Aliffi as ‘This London-based Singaporean wunderkind’, I describe him as a friend, coachee and ‘One to Watch’ as he takes his continues to take his career as a Creative from strength to strength. london college of fashion, self awareness, eq, life story, soho house, creative director, nabil aliffi, soho house london, fashion, learning and growth, emotional intelligence, brand, self reflection, urban outfitters, selfridges, creative, personal growth false full 70 652a97d2-1d48-4f2c-b316-9afe7366dfdc How much does friendship really matter - with Lydia Denworth Amongst other things we discuss the impact of having a family on friendship, the devastating outcomes associated with social isolation and the issue of avoiding the difficult conversations that could improve friendships. 

 

Denworth is a contributing editor at Scientific American and the author of Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond, which was named one of the best leadership books of 2020 by Adam Grant and called “the best of science writing” by Booklist. She is also co-author, with Dana Suskind, of the New York Times bestseller Parent Nation, and has written two other books of popular science: I Can Hear You Whisper and Toxic Truth. Her work has also appeared in The Atlantic, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, Time, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her family.

 

For more about Lydia and her work – here is the link to Lydia's books page. 

 

For more from me go to

www.fionamurden.com

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 8 Jul 2022 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-much-does-friendship-really-matter-with-lydia-denworth-frYIJTjI Amongst other things we discuss the impact of having a family on friendship, the devastating outcomes associated with social isolation and the issue of avoiding the difficult conversations that could improve friendships. 

 

Denworth is a contributing editor at Scientific American and the author of Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond, which was named one of the best leadership books of 2020 by Adam Grant and called “the best of science writing” by Booklist. She is also co-author, with Dana Suskind, of the New York Times bestseller Parent Nation, and has written two other books of popular science: I Can Hear You Whisper and Toxic Truth. Her work has also appeared in The Atlantic, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, Time, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her family.

 

For more about Lydia and her work – here is the link to Lydia's books page. 

 

For more from me go to

www.fionamurden.com

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How much does friendship really matter - with Lydia Denworth Fiona Murden 01:03:42 Is your friendship house in order? And how much does friendship really matter? On this episode I speak to Lydia Denworth, an award-winning science journalist who amongst other accomplishments wrote a book called Friendship which explores the science and the incredible power behind connection. She explains how friendship is this amazing bi-product of human evolution which impacts our health far more than we often give credit to. While we give time to other health related activities such as going for a run or watching what we eat friendship can often fall down to the bottom of our list of priorities. Is your friendship house in order? And how much does friendship really matter? On this episode I speak to Lydia Denworth, an award-winning science journalist who amongst other accomplishments wrote a book called Friendship which explores the science and the incredible power behind connection. She explains how friendship is this amazing bi-product of human evolution which impacts our health far more than we often give credit to. While we give time to other health related activities such as going for a run or watching what we eat friendship can often fall down to the bottom of our list of priorities. false full 71 825a10f1-b14a-4f06-9ab7-4463e80ea92d You are more resilient than you think with Professor George Bonanno I first came across George Bonanno’s work when I was struggling with the death of my Dad 10 years ago. His first book, the Other Side of Sadness helped me to reframe what I was experiencing in an incredibly helpful way and I have since bought it numerous times to comfort other people. One of the things I found most intriguing was how concepts such as the Kubler Ross model of the stages of grief are not actually scientifically founded. In other words we’re clinging on to a model that is made up and doesn’t actually reflect how most people respond. So, I was really excited to have the opportunity to speak to him. In this episode we talk about how resilience works and George’s most recent book The End of Trauma (which in spite of the title is relevant to anyone and everyone). We discuss how normal resilience actually is and how our expectations of traumatic responses come from studying the more severe clinical cases rather than how the ‘average’ person responds. 

George was not only in New York during the 9/11 attacks but actually went down to the site to help so he doesn’t just speak from a scientific perspective but from one lived and breathed himself. But another perhaps surprising yet true fact is that we hugely over-estimated the number of people who would suffer from trauma even as a result of that horrific event. Why, well people are overwhelmingly resilient to adversity. What we often interpret as PTSD are signs of a natural process of learning how to deal with a specific situation. We can cope far more effectively if we understand how this process works, which we also discuss. 

 

Bio - Dr. George Bonanno is a professor of psychology, chair of the department of counseling in clinical psychology, and director of the Loss, Trauma, and Emotion Lab at Teachers College Columbia University. 

Website: www.tc.columbia.edu/LTElab/

Twitter: @giorgiobee 

 

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 24 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/you-are-more-resilient-than-you-think-with-professor-george-bonanno-3CBLV4wn I first came across George Bonanno’s work when I was struggling with the death of my Dad 10 years ago. His first book, the Other Side of Sadness helped me to reframe what I was experiencing in an incredibly helpful way and I have since bought it numerous times to comfort other people. One of the things I found most intriguing was how concepts such as the Kubler Ross model of the stages of grief are not actually scientifically founded. In other words we’re clinging on to a model that is made up and doesn’t actually reflect how most people respond. So, I was really excited to have the opportunity to speak to him. In this episode we talk about how resilience works and George’s most recent book The End of Trauma (which in spite of the title is relevant to anyone and everyone). We discuss how normal resilience actually is and how our expectations of traumatic responses come from studying the more severe clinical cases rather than how the ‘average’ person responds. 

George was not only in New York during the 9/11 attacks but actually went down to the site to help so he doesn’t just speak from a scientific perspective but from one lived and breathed himself. But another perhaps surprising yet true fact is that we hugely over-estimated the number of people who would suffer from trauma even as a result of that horrific event. Why, well people are overwhelmingly resilient to adversity. What we often interpret as PTSD are signs of a natural process of learning how to deal with a specific situation. We can cope far more effectively if we understand how this process works, which we also discuss. 

 

Bio - Dr. George Bonanno is a professor of psychology, chair of the department of counseling in clinical psychology, and director of the Loss, Trauma, and Emotion Lab at Teachers College Columbia University. 

Website: www.tc.columbia.edu/LTElab/

Twitter: @giorgiobee 

 

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> You are more resilient than you think with Professor George Bonanno Fiona Murden 00:50:35 On this episode I speak to Professor George Bonanno from Columbia University, who challenges how we see many long-standing beliefs about trauma. It’s a hopeful picture that he paints. On this episode I speak to Professor George Bonanno from Columbia University, who challenges how we see many long-standing beliefs about trauma. It’s a hopeful picture that he paints. mindset, ptsd, hope, resiliency, psychologist, flexibility mindset, professor bonanno, resilience, george bonanno, grief, columbia university, psychology, tauma, recovery from trauma false full 69 b2398d4c-a67f-4034-815f-348c4b2a9a47 How to handle difficult emotions - with Dr. Anna Colton We also discuss the subtlety of understanding our mental health and emotions. Giving in too much can actually lead to a dangerous negative spiral, but how it’s equally damaging to ignore our distress or negative feeling feelings or not have any support in processing them. Psychology, the brain and behaviour are incredibly nuanced. Anna explains how being able to name our emotions and have a broad vocabulary for them can be surprisingly effective. She for example took it upon herself to find an array of words for anger (which by the way it’s OK to feel, just not to act on – another nuance we chat about) which you can find below. Anna also explains how critical it is to build our own personal toolkit so that we have the right tools for different emotional responses in different contexts. 

Dr Anna Colton, is a chartered clinical psychologist and executive coach, specialising in the Adolescence, Eating disorders, the Bar, elite performance and stage fright.

In addition to her adolescent, coaching and legal practices, Dr Anna has worked with the leads and casts of many West End shows, is the psychologist on Matilda the musical and consults to many other theatre companies. She also works with TV companies to ensure the psychological safety of participants in their shows.

She can often be seen or heard on the TV and radio discussing a range of mental health and well-being topics.

For more on Dr. Anna go to: 

www.dranna.co.uk

For more from me go to:

www.fionamurden.com

 

Anna’s list of angry words are below: 

Angry

Annoyed

Affronted

Agitated

Antagonised

Bitter 

Cantankerous

Cross

Chafed

Convulsed

Choked

Choleric

Churlish

Crotchety

Disagreeable

Displeased

Enraged 

Exasperated

Furious

Fuming

Ferocious 

Fiery 

Fractious 

Fretful 

Galled

Grumpy 

Grouchy

Huffy

Hacked off

Hot

Heated 

Impatient

Incensed

Incandescent

Indignant

Ill-humoured

Ill-tempered 

Irritable

Irate 

Irritated

Irascible

Inflamed

Infuriated 

Ireful

Irked

Livid

Mad

Maddened

Miffed

Narked

Narkey

Nettled 

Outraged 

Offended

Peeved

Petulant

Pissed

Pissed off 

Piqued

Provoked 

Put out

Raging 

Ranting

Ratty

Raving 

Resentful 

Riled 

Sore

Splenic

Snappy

Storming

Sullen

Sulky 

Stewing 

Tetchy 

Testy 

Turbulent 

Terrifying 

Tumult

Wrathful 

Vexed 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 10 Jun 2022 10:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-anna-colton-FUPye6WW We also discuss the subtlety of understanding our mental health and emotions. Giving in too much can actually lead to a dangerous negative spiral, but how it’s equally damaging to ignore our distress or negative feeling feelings or not have any support in processing them. Psychology, the brain and behaviour are incredibly nuanced. Anna explains how being able to name our emotions and have a broad vocabulary for them can be surprisingly effective. She for example took it upon herself to find an array of words for anger (which by the way it’s OK to feel, just not to act on – another nuance we chat about) which you can find below. Anna also explains how critical it is to build our own personal toolkit so that we have the right tools for different emotional responses in different contexts. 

Dr Anna Colton, is a chartered clinical psychologist and executive coach, specialising in the Adolescence, Eating disorders, the Bar, elite performance and stage fright.

In addition to her adolescent, coaching and legal practices, Dr Anna has worked with the leads and casts of many West End shows, is the psychologist on Matilda the musical and consults to many other theatre companies. She also works with TV companies to ensure the psychological safety of participants in their shows.

She can often be seen or heard on the TV and radio discussing a range of mental health and well-being topics.

For more on Dr. Anna go to: 

www.dranna.co.uk

For more from me go to:

www.fionamurden.com

 

Anna’s list of angry words are below: 

Angry

Annoyed

Affronted

Agitated

Antagonised

Bitter 

Cantankerous

Cross

Chafed

Convulsed

Choked

Choleric

Churlish

Crotchety

Disagreeable

Displeased

Enraged 

Exasperated

Furious

Fuming

Ferocious 

Fiery 

Fractious 

Fretful 

Galled

Grumpy 

Grouchy

Huffy

Hacked off

Hot

Heated 

Impatient

Incensed

Incandescent

Indignant

Ill-humoured

Ill-tempered 

Irritable

Irate 

Irritated

Irascible

Inflamed

Infuriated 

Ireful

Irked

Livid

Mad

Maddened

Miffed

Narked

Narkey

Nettled 

Outraged 

Offended

Peeved

Petulant

Pissed

Pissed off 

Piqued

Provoked 

Put out

Raging 

Ranting

Ratty

Raving 

Resentful 

Riled 

Sore

Splenic

Snappy

Storming

Sullen

Sulky 

Stewing 

Tetchy 

Testy 

Turbulent 

Terrifying 

Tumult

Wrathful 

Vexed 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to handle difficult emotions - with Dr. Anna Colton Giles Paley-Phillips 00:45:16 How do you deal with difficult emotions? On this episode I talk to clinical psychologist Dr. Anna Colton, who works across the whole spectrum of mental health to high performance. We discuss how learning to tolerate distress is one of the fundamental foundations to navigating life and living a healthy life. We look at what this actually means and how it plays out in different populations from high performance work environments to the life of teenagers. How do you deal with difficult emotions? On this episode I talk to clinical psychologist Dr. Anna Colton, who works across the whole spectrum of mental health to high performance. We discuss how learning to tolerate distress is one of the fundamental foundations to navigating life and living a healthy life. We look at what this actually means and how it plays out in different populations from high performance work environments to the life of teenagers. emotional nuance, emotions, difficult emotions, adolescents, emotional health, anger, teenagers, distress, distress tolerance, pandemic, healthy life, performance environment, navigating life, wellbeing, emotional resilience false full 68 76acc211-0bde-47ac-8dcc-d5e1a446351a The fight for gender equality - with Giulia Iannucci Founder of KnowThyBrand, Giulia is a social entrepreneur dedicated to helping women in business to build sustainable ventures and career paths. She is mother of three boys who she is bringing up to respect women and bring their attention to what women can achieve “It’s as important for boys to see women can do anything as it is to see men doing anything.” She role-models this approach in all she does and says, which is underpinned by both her drive for social justice and her ever inquisitive approach to understanding the world and her place in it. 

Giulia’s social enterprise KnowThyBrand is committed to enabling women to build sustainable businesses and career paths through strategic branding and effective gender inclusion solutions. Their values, the guiding principles that shape everything we do as a social enterprise are:

Equality – We believe in social equality and support women’s equality and empowerment as part of the solution.

Equity – We recognise that each person has different circumstances and that different resources and opportunities are needed to reach the same outcome.

Sisterhood – We believe in the collective power of women working together and consistently inspiring each other to achieve their highest potential.

 

For more from Giulia go to:

https://knowthybrand.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/giulia-iannucci/

 

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

 

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 27 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-fight-for-gender-equality-with-giulia-iannucci-ibnujFqt Founder of KnowThyBrand, Giulia is a social entrepreneur dedicated to helping women in business to build sustainable ventures and career paths. She is mother of three boys who she is bringing up to respect women and bring their attention to what women can achieve “It’s as important for boys to see women can do anything as it is to see men doing anything.” She role-models this approach in all she does and says, which is underpinned by both her drive for social justice and her ever inquisitive approach to understanding the world and her place in it. 

Giulia’s social enterprise KnowThyBrand is committed to enabling women to build sustainable businesses and career paths through strategic branding and effective gender inclusion solutions. Their values, the guiding principles that shape everything we do as a social enterprise are:

Equality – We believe in social equality and support women’s equality and empowerment as part of the solution.

Equity – We recognise that each person has different circumstances and that different resources and opportunities are needed to reach the same outcome.

Sisterhood – We believe in the collective power of women working together and consistently inspiring each other to achieve their highest potential.

 

For more from Giulia go to:

https://knowthybrand.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/giulia-iannucci/

 

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

 

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The fight for gender equality - with Giulia Iannucci Fiona Murden 00:49:08 Bringing not just awareness but solutions to the fight for gender equality this week I speak to Giulia Iannucci. Guilia is feisty, funny and fearless with a passion for life which is infectious. She brings a breadth and depth to her opinions collected through time spent working and living in Spain Belgium, Australia, Singapore, the UK and Luxembourg. Bringing not just awareness but solutions to the fight for gender equality this week I speak to Giulia Iannucci. Guilia is feisty, funny and fearless with a passion for life which is infectious. She brings a breadth and depth to her opinions collected through time spent working and living in Spain Belgium, Australia, Singapore, the UK and Luxembourg. women, social entrepreneurship, advocate, community, d&i, role model, psychologist, diversity and inclusion, vulnerability, solutions to gender equality, equity, psychology, gender equality, sisterhood, de&i false full 67 b02f0fa6-93e5-48e1-a9c8-cfd63925e8fe What neuroscience tells us about autism in children with Dr. Wu Nordahl We discuss the importance of this type of longitudinal research (i.e. research that involves repeated observations of the same variables over periods of time) in understanding how the brain develops in children who have autism and other neurodevelopmental disabilities. As well as exploring Dr. Wu Nordahl’s findings we also explore why there is less research carried out on girls and non-binary children with autism. With regard to girls this is in part because of their tendency to mask their natural tendencies and preferences socially meaning it’s less often diagnosed, as a result research has predominantly been carried out on boys with autism. Dr. Wu Nordahl has worked really hard to improve the ratio of males to females in her cohorts helping to advance our understanding of some of the neurological nuances the sex differences represent.

 

Christine’s research program at the UC Davis MIND Institute utilizes structural and functional MRI scans to study brain development in autism across the life span. Since 2006, she has led neuroimaging efforts of the Autism Phenome Project and Girls with Autism - Imaging of Neurodevelopment study, two integrated longitudinal, interdisciplinary studies aimed at identifying clinically meaningful subtypes of autism. She is particularly committed to evaluating the entire autism spectrum, including girls with autism as well as the entire range of intellectual abilities. In 2021, she and her team initiated NeuroTeens, a social support group for neurodivergent girls and non-binary teens.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 13 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/what-neuroscience-tells-us-about-autism-in-children-with-dr-wu-nordahl-y4wje_HJ We discuss the importance of this type of longitudinal research (i.e. research that involves repeated observations of the same variables over periods of time) in understanding how the brain develops in children who have autism and other neurodevelopmental disabilities. As well as exploring Dr. Wu Nordahl’s findings we also explore why there is less research carried out on girls and non-binary children with autism. With regard to girls this is in part because of their tendency to mask their natural tendencies and preferences socially meaning it’s less often diagnosed, as a result research has predominantly been carried out on boys with autism. Dr. Wu Nordahl has worked really hard to improve the ratio of males to females in her cohorts helping to advance our understanding of some of the neurological nuances the sex differences represent.

 

Christine’s research program at the UC Davis MIND Institute utilizes structural and functional MRI scans to study brain development in autism across the life span. Since 2006, she has led neuroimaging efforts of the Autism Phenome Project and Girls with Autism - Imaging of Neurodevelopment study, two integrated longitudinal, interdisciplinary studies aimed at identifying clinically meaningful subtypes of autism. She is particularly committed to evaluating the entire autism spectrum, including girls with autism as well as the entire range of intellectual abilities. In 2021, she and her team initiated NeuroTeens, a social support group for neurodivergent girls and non-binary teens.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What neuroscience tells us about autism in children with Dr. Wu Nordahl Fiona Murden 00:52:56 Autism in girls, how the autistic brain experiences anxiety differently to a typical brain and what this looks like in the developing brain - this week I speak to the incredible Dr. Christine Wu Nordahl who is a neuroscientist from University California Davis pushing the boundaries on the study of these areas. Autism in girls, how the autistic brain experiences anxiety differently to a typical brain and what this looks like in the developing brain - this week I speak to the incredible Dr. Christine Wu Nordahl who is a neuroscientist from University California Davis pushing the boundaries on the study of these areas. neuroteens, girls with autism, autism phenome project, uc davis mind, teens with autism, developing brain, neuroscience, neuro-developmental disorders, subtypes of autism, teenage girls autism, uc davis, anxiety, autism false full 66 322d03fa-d7e1-46e8-a57d-aaafc21f7308 The art of insubordination with Dr. Todd Kashdan Todd Kashdan is leading expert on the psychology of well-being, curiosity, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Forbes amongst many other publications. In 2010, he received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award at George Mason University and in 2013, he received the Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association. His latest book, The Art of Insubordination, is for anyone who wants to see more justice, creativity & innovation in the world. He is also the author of Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. 

Todd’s work is right at the front of my first book Defining You opening with how to keep your mind as open and flexible as possible in order to explore your own story. I approached Todd for permission to include his curiosity inventory and he very generously said yes. 

Todd has done some fantastic work from research to writing and his website https://toddkashdan.com/ is really worth exploring. 

We discuss ageism and how Todd says that he obsesses over social norms that are dysfunctional. Take for example Silicon Valley rebuffing the idea of giving anyone over the age of 25 a second look for job opportunities. How we don’t have a cultural respect for our elders like in Asian cultures and if we did we that maybe we’d gain wisdom from the people right there in our families rather than having to refer to books. But Todd also raises how ageism is directed both ways – the older generations can dismiss the younger or refuse to learn and be inflexible to changes that are coming through. We need more cross-pollination of intergenerational thinking. 

We discuss false information and Todd explains how “the information that we’re first exposed to is rarely right wherever that’s from” yet we tend to take the view of people we perceive as socially attractive, and dismiss those who are not. When coming to a ‘point of view’ Todd encourages us all to stop and ask ourselves these questions: 

  • What is the evidence for the position that I’m emotionally tied to right now?
  • What is the best evidence for the alternative viewpoint?
  • Why do I believe the evidence I hold near and dear?
  • Why am I dismissing evidence to a counter point?
  • What evidence would be required to change my mind?”

By doing this we show intellectual humility, curiosity and perspective taking helping to play our part in making the world a better place to be.  

Todd recently published a piece on ‘The 10 principles for having constructive conflict in organisations’. Something we need to do if we’re to ensure diversity. We discuss how important this is in boardrooms to classrooms and Todd emphasizes how important it is to “allow people to disagree even as minorities of one, not because they might be right but just because it allows everyone to see like ‘oh maybe we are prematurely closing on one viewpoint too quickly.’”

When it comes to the learning Todd comments on the strange societal attitude we have to learning. “The notion of living until you're in your 80s and 90s and yet you’re done with formal education after college at the age of around 22. So for the next 40 years you just you wing it and you go into your silo in terms of your own individual searches for books and for information online.” And poses the question to you the listener of “What is the fundamental list of life skills that everyone should learn?” I’d love to know your thoughts. 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 29 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-art-of-insubordination-with-dr-todd-kashdan-jhpvs6nE Todd Kashdan is leading expert on the psychology of well-being, curiosity, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Forbes amongst many other publications. In 2010, he received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award at George Mason University and in 2013, he received the Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association. His latest book, The Art of Insubordination, is for anyone who wants to see more justice, creativity & innovation in the world. He is also the author of Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. 

Todd’s work is right at the front of my first book Defining You opening with how to keep your mind as open and flexible as possible in order to explore your own story. I approached Todd for permission to include his curiosity inventory and he very generously said yes. 

Todd has done some fantastic work from research to writing and his website https://toddkashdan.com/ is really worth exploring. 

We discuss ageism and how Todd says that he obsesses over social norms that are dysfunctional. Take for example Silicon Valley rebuffing the idea of giving anyone over the age of 25 a second look for job opportunities. How we don’t have a cultural respect for our elders like in Asian cultures and if we did we that maybe we’d gain wisdom from the people right there in our families rather than having to refer to books. But Todd also raises how ageism is directed both ways – the older generations can dismiss the younger or refuse to learn and be inflexible to changes that are coming through. We need more cross-pollination of intergenerational thinking. 

We discuss false information and Todd explains how “the information that we’re first exposed to is rarely right wherever that’s from” yet we tend to take the view of people we perceive as socially attractive, and dismiss those who are not. When coming to a ‘point of view’ Todd encourages us all to stop and ask ourselves these questions: 

  • What is the evidence for the position that I’m emotionally tied to right now?
  • What is the best evidence for the alternative viewpoint?
  • Why do I believe the evidence I hold near and dear?
  • Why am I dismissing evidence to a counter point?
  • What evidence would be required to change my mind?”

By doing this we show intellectual humility, curiosity and perspective taking helping to play our part in making the world a better place to be.  

Todd recently published a piece on ‘The 10 principles for having constructive conflict in organisations’. Something we need to do if we’re to ensure diversity. We discuss how important this is in boardrooms to classrooms and Todd emphasizes how important it is to “allow people to disagree even as minorities of one, not because they might be right but just because it allows everyone to see like ‘oh maybe we are prematurely closing on one viewpoint too quickly.’”

When it comes to the learning Todd comments on the strange societal attitude we have to learning. “The notion of living until you're in your 80s and 90s and yet you’re done with formal education after college at the age of around 22. So for the next 40 years you just you wing it and you go into your silo in terms of your own individual searches for books and for information online.” And poses the question to you the listener of “What is the fundamental list of life skills that everyone should learn?” I’d love to know your thoughts. 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The art of insubordination with Dr. Todd Kashdan Fiona Murden 00:43:25 In this episode, I talk to psychologist Professor Todd Kashdan about a variety of topics, homing in on the subject of his latest book “The art of insubordination”. Todd explores how diverging from norms isn’t always a bad thing—especially if it’s in pursuit of positive change. But that there is a way to disagree constructively. We also discuss ageism, diversity, communication, intellectual humility and essential life skills. In this episode, I talk to psychologist Professor Todd Kashdan about a variety of topics, homing in on the subject of his latest book “The art of insubordination”. Todd explores how diverging from norms isn’t always a bad thing—especially if it’s in pursuit of positive change. But that there is a way to disagree constructively. We also discuss ageism, diversity, communication, intellectual humility and essential life skills. mental agility, diversity, fake news, relationships, psychologist, life learning, curiosity, psychology, silicon valley, wellbeing, ageism, misinformation, social psychology false full 65 ea121fea-ef69-4d05-9994-587fc52862fd Presenter and producer - Tim Lovejoy Tim has been presenting on live weekend TV for over 16 years and with over 1500 hours under his belt. He first became well known for hosting and producing Sky Sports football show Soccer AM over the course of eleven years. The show steadily grew in popularity and enjoyed cult viewing status - much is said to be much down to Tim's “dry wit and sense of humour”. After this he joined BBC Radio 5 Live as the Wednesday night host of a football show. He was on Celebrity Master Chef in 2011, has been a guest presenter on Blue Peter and co-presented the Sunday morning TV programme Something for the Weekend on BBC2. Tim also has a podcast called The Lovejoy Hour (I’ve even been a guest). The link for his podcast is below. You can tune into watch Tim on Channel4 (in the UK) 9.30am-11.30am every Sunday morning. 

 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-lovejoy-hour/

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 18 Mar 2022 11:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/tim-lovejoy-gbrJr_tx Tim has been presenting on live weekend TV for over 16 years and with over 1500 hours under his belt. He first became well known for hosting and producing Sky Sports football show Soccer AM over the course of eleven years. The show steadily grew in popularity and enjoyed cult viewing status - much is said to be much down to Tim's “dry wit and sense of humour”. After this he joined BBC Radio 5 Live as the Wednesday night host of a football show. He was on Celebrity Master Chef in 2011, has been a guest presenter on Blue Peter and co-presented the Sunday morning TV programme Something for the Weekend on BBC2. Tim also has a podcast called The Lovejoy Hour (I’ve even been a guest). The link for his podcast is below. You can tune into watch Tim on Channel4 (in the UK) 9.30am-11.30am every Sunday morning. 

 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-lovejoy-hour/

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Presenter and producer - Tim Lovejoy Fiona Murden 01:15:29 Tim Lovejoy is a television presenter who's currently on Channel 4’s 'Sunday Brunch' every weekend. That’s how I met him (when I was on talking about my second book Mirror Thinking). Three of the things I like most about Tim are: his generosity of spirit, the way in which he treats people as equals despite his fame and his curiosity to learn more about everyone he meets everything he comes across. On this episode we cover a huge range of topics from serial killers to politicians, why the education system is broken, how people end up where they do in life, social media and how Tim got into TV, including what he learnt from Chris Evans. There was so much to say – in fact listening back I realised that I didn’t do a great job of letting Tim speak I was getting so into the conversation. Tim Lovejoy is a television presenter who's currently on Channel 4’s 'Sunday Brunch' every weekend. That’s how I met him (when I was on talking about my second book Mirror Thinking). Three of the things I like most about Tim are: his generosity of spirit, the way in which he treats people as equals despite his fame and his curiosity to learn more about everyone he meets everything he comes across. On this episode we cover a huge range of topics from serial killers to politicians, why the education system is broken, how people end up where they do in life, social media and how Tim got into TV, including what he learnt from Chris Evans. There was so much to say – in fact listening back I realised that I didn’t do a great job of letting Tim speak I was getting so into the conversation. sundaybrunch, timlovejoy, bbc2, dexter, education, tvpresenter, socialmedia, soccer, tvproducer, bbc5, football, channel4, politics, breakingbad true full 64 9bf6e4aa-647a-4086-9331-c2f4f5fa815e How social media is built to be addictive - with Lou & Fi In October 2020 the total world population was 7.81 billion people, and a whopping 4.14 billion of those people were using social media. And the amount of time spent on social media is increasing, with the typical user now spending roughly 4 hours of their day (that’s a quarter of our waking life) on social platforms. 

Social media has been described as more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol. Lou and I talk about the tricks of the social media giants trades from ‘intermittent reinforcements’ such as the pull down to refresh feature to the way in which we end up relying on social media for our stored memories (known in the trade as investment). The tech giants really do steal our attention in exchange for commercial gain. We also chat about what you can do to make your own experience more positive. Part of the negative impact of social media on our well-being is that it takes us away from other activities that are essential to our brain health such as sleep and face-to-face social interaction. So the most obvious strategy to combat the impact of social media on your well-being is to give it a break or stop using it. But that’s not the only option, try monitoring how much you use social media and exactly how it’s impacting you. You may be surprised by the patterns that emerge. (For more on techniques for modifying your social media use to make it more healthy check out the Chapter 10 in the second edition of Defining You). 

Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via this link and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-social-media-is-built-to-be-addictive-with-lou-fi-BeAE5pJh In October 2020 the total world population was 7.81 billion people, and a whopping 4.14 billion of those people were using social media. And the amount of time spent on social media is increasing, with the typical user now spending roughly 4 hours of their day (that’s a quarter of our waking life) on social platforms. 

Social media has been described as more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol. Lou and I talk about the tricks of the social media giants trades from ‘intermittent reinforcements’ such as the pull down to refresh feature to the way in which we end up relying on social media for our stored memories (known in the trade as investment). The tech giants really do steal our attention in exchange for commercial gain. We also chat about what you can do to make your own experience more positive. Part of the negative impact of social media on our well-being is that it takes us away from other activities that are essential to our brain health such as sleep and face-to-face social interaction. So the most obvious strategy to combat the impact of social media on your well-being is to give it a break or stop using it. But that’s not the only option, try monitoring how much you use social media and exactly how it’s impacting you. You may be surprised by the patterns that emerge. (For more on techniques for modifying your social media use to make it more healthy check out the Chapter 10 in the second edition of Defining You). 

Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via this link and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

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Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How social media is built to be addictive - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:36:11 Have you ever looked up from your phone and wondered where the past half an hour has gone? On this week’s episode of the podcast Lou and I talk about the secret ways in which social media is built to keep you hooked. Have you ever looked up from your phone and wondered where the past half an hour has gone? On this week’s episode of the podcast Lou and I talk about the secret ways in which social media is built to keep you hooked. false full 63 59474754-565d-48b1-bb5c-f6b4f2870b95 How to heal from trauma - with Dr. Russ Harris Ahead of his new book on trauma coming out it's the main theme of our discussion with an explanation of how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can reach aspects that are otherwise so hard to treat. Russ explains how when people have experienced trauma and it is deeply held it’s far more difficult to reach and heal through words. Although it’s not impossible, it takes a lot longer and a match with the right therapist. While words can create pain, we don’t experience pain in words. The ACT approach to trauma goes first to the body and emotions which enables a much quicker recovery leading to what is known as Post Traumatic Growth. 

 

Links to Russ's books we refer to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

Trauma Focussed ACT A Practitioner's Guide to Working with Mind, Body, and Emotion Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via the link and in all good book stores.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

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Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-to-heal-from-trauma-with-dr-russ-harris-1vH3WyMd Ahead of his new book on trauma coming out it's the main theme of our discussion with an explanation of how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can reach aspects that are otherwise so hard to treat. Russ explains how when people have experienced trauma and it is deeply held it’s far more difficult to reach and heal through words. Although it’s not impossible, it takes a lot longer and a match with the right therapist. While words can create pain, we don’t experience pain in words. The ACT approach to trauma goes first to the body and emotions which enables a much quicker recovery leading to what is known as Post Traumatic Growth. 

 

Links to Russ's books we refer to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

Trauma Focussed ACT A Practitioner's Guide to Working with Mind, Body, and Emotion Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via the link and in all good book stores.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to heal from trauma - with Dr. Russ Harris Fiona Murden 00:57:08 Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus nine other books) which has sold over 1 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. Russ is hugely passionate, funny and insightful so it's well worth a listen. Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus nine other books) which has sold over 1 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. Russ is hugely passionate, funny and insightful so it's well worth a listen. therapy, post-traumatic growth, ptsd, psychologist, addiction, act, emotion, depression, happiness, trauma, acceptance and commitment therapy, happy, psychology, healing, anxiety false full 62 9c053e9e-f0e5-4f72-8ee5-02cb093c7c5a What makes a hero - with Lou & Fi We look at the different aspects relating to heroism talking about how for example psychologist Frank Farley distinguishes two types of hero - "big H" heroism and "small h heroism." How being a hero doesn’t mean being perfect in the same way that being a role-model relates to all of us in some way or another. We even consider whether you can become more heroic and if so what you need to do. Curious – take a listen to this week’s episode. 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 4 Feb 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/what-makes-a-hero-with-lou-fi-iRci6fiy We look at the different aspects relating to heroism talking about how for example psychologist Frank Farley distinguishes two types of hero - "big H" heroism and "small h heroism." How being a hero doesn’t mean being perfect in the same way that being a role-model relates to all of us in some way or another. We even consider whether you can become more heroic and if so what you need to do. Curious – take a listen to this week’s episode. 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What makes a hero - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:31:51 This week Lou and I discuss what it means to be a hero or heroine. Some of the questions we explore include: What’s the definition in psychological terms and what are the personality traits that make someone a hero or heroine? One of us is the Black Widow and the other Wonder Woman. Which character would you aspire to be? Is it fair to call front liners heroes? This week Lou and I discuss what it means to be a hero or heroine. Some of the questions we explore include: What’s the definition in psychological terms and what are the personality traits that make someone a hero or heroine? One of us is the Black Widow and the other Wonder Woman. Which character would you aspire to be? Is it fair to call front liners heroes? hero, personality, heroines, psychologist, empathy, traits, heroes, psychology, heroine, blackwidow, wonder woman, rolemodels false full 61 fd0a070d-58c8-4cb7-9477-3e26063af6a3 How to leave your psychopath - with comedian Maddy Anholt Maddy has appeared in sitcoms for BBC Three, BBC One, ITV and Channel 4. She’s had four sell-out solo comedies at Underbelly, Gilded Balloon, Latitude Festival Main Stage, and the Soho Theatre. Maddy also wrote and starred in her own comedy for BBC Radio 4.

Maddy has also been a speaker for over a decade, she was a panellist for The Guardian for International Women’s Day, for Facebook and AllBright.

She tweets @maddy_anholt.

To buy Maddy’s book go to:

https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/maddy-anholt/

 

If you are need help or refuge please go to these links:

 

UK

https://www.refuge.org.uk

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

 

USA & Canada

https://www.domesticshelters.org


Australia

https://www.womenscommunityshelters.org.au


New Zealand

https://womensrefuge.org.nz
 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 28 Jan 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (womensrefuge, womensaid, womensaidambassador, controllingrelationships, emotionalabuse, funnybutnotfunny, comedy, psychology, psychologist, gaslighting, breadcrumbing, lovebombing, negging, selfesteem, toxicrelationships, narcissist) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/leaving-your-psychopath-with-comedian-maddy-anholt-j7_0VmJs Maddy has appeared in sitcoms for BBC Three, BBC One, ITV and Channel 4. She’s had four sell-out solo comedies at Underbelly, Gilded Balloon, Latitude Festival Main Stage, and the Soho Theatre. Maddy also wrote and starred in her own comedy for BBC Radio 4.

Maddy has also been a speaker for over a decade, she was a panellist for The Guardian for International Women’s Day, for Facebook and AllBright.

She tweets @maddy_anholt.

To buy Maddy’s book go to:

https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/maddy-anholt/

 

If you are need help or refuge please go to these links:

 

UK

https://www.refuge.org.uk

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

 

USA & Canada

https://www.domesticshelters.org


Australia

https://www.womenscommunityshelters.org.au


New Zealand

https://womensrefuge.org.nz
 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to leave your psychopath - with comedian Maddy Anholt womensrefuge, womensaid, womensaidambassador, controllingrelationships, emotionalabuse, funnybutnotfunny, comedy, psychology, psychologist, gaslighting, breadcrumbing, lovebombing, negging, selfesteem, toxicrelationships, narcissist 00:56:54 On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast I speak to Maddy Anholt. Maddy is a comedian, actor, writer and Ambassador for Women's Aid. Her debut book, How to Leave Your Psychopath is published by Bluebird, Pan Macmillan and out next week (link below). While the book is comic and light hearted it also outlines a range of controlling relationships which classify as abusive in ways that often are not talked about – namely emotional abuse. It’s not uncommon to know people in these relationships, which is what makes the book so valuable - it educates and offers guidance. On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast I speak to Maddy Anholt. Maddy is a comedian, actor, writer and Ambassador for Women's Aid. Her debut book, How to Leave Your Psychopath is published by Bluebird, Pan Macmillan and out next week (link below). While the book is comic and light hearted it also outlines a range of controlling relationships which classify as abusive in ways that often are not talked about – namely emotional abuse. It’s not uncommon to know people in these relationships, which is what makes the book so valuable - it educates and offers guidance. false full 60 491b2e13-f0b2-4226-81da-73ae9f869e0a Changing the way we look at things - with Lou & Fi Well does reframing work? The answer which is so often the way with psychology (and perhaps shouldn't be surprising given how complex we are) is complicated. It can be incredibly helpful but differs from positive thinking. While we all know we can't just think differently at the drop of hat, we often led to believe that we can. In fact, this can be hugely damaging to your mental health. We discuss why, and how you can use cognitive reframing in a way that can work for you. 

For more on this go to my first book (specifically the end of chapter 3 and chapter 9 of the 2nd edition) Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/changing-the-way-we-look-at-things-with-lou-fi-eNco3NSG Well does reframing work? The answer which is so often the way with psychology (and perhaps shouldn't be surprising given how complex we are) is complicated. It can be incredibly helpful but differs from positive thinking. While we all know we can't just think differently at the drop of hat, we often led to believe that we can. In fact, this can be hugely damaging to your mental health. We discuss why, and how you can use cognitive reframing in a way that can work for you. 

For more on this go to my first book (specifically the end of chapter 3 and chapter 9 of the 2nd edition) Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Changing the way we look at things - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:37:25 It’s not about what happens to you, but how you frame it. Is this true? This week Lou and I speak about cognitive reframing - what is means, whether it actually works and how it's different from 'just thinking positive thoughts.' It’s not about what happens to you, but how you frame it. Is this true? This week Lou and I speak about cognitive reframing - what is means, whether it actually works and how it's different from 'just thinking positive thoughts.' psychologists, cognitive reframing, toxic positivity, positive thinking, reframing, psychology false full 59 7f811132-9514-40c9-a8c1-cb31082f2e06 The break up monologues - with comedian Rosie Wilby Perhaps unsurprisingly we discuss all things psychology and relationships. Well not all because there’s soooo much to cover but I try. Rosie talks about spending five years with a girlfriend who was not out to her parents and the invisibility and hurt that entailed, to taking part in an experiment at Essex University’s ‘Sex Lab’ using what she has hilariously described as a ‘techno tampon’ in order to measure her levels of sexual arousal. We also discuss the people who have influenced Rosie’s comic capabilities, her role models and how she is perhaps unintentionally a role model herself – to young gay women yes, but also to anyone who has suffered the pain of a breakup. Do take a look at her latest book, it’s well worth a read. 

 

Check out the book at https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues

 

And you can follow Rosie on Twitter @rosiewilby or Instagram @breakupmonologues 

 

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 14 Jan 2022 11:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/talking-about-breakups-with-comedian-rosie-wilby-0XLj0e7R Perhaps unsurprisingly we discuss all things psychology and relationships. Well not all because there’s soooo much to cover but I try. Rosie talks about spending five years with a girlfriend who was not out to her parents and the invisibility and hurt that entailed, to taking part in an experiment at Essex University’s ‘Sex Lab’ using what she has hilariously described as a ‘techno tampon’ in order to measure her levels of sexual arousal. We also discuss the people who have influenced Rosie’s comic capabilities, her role models and how she is perhaps unintentionally a role model herself – to young gay women yes, but also to anyone who has suffered the pain of a breakup. Do take a look at her latest book, it’s well worth a read. 

 

Check out the book at https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues

 

And you can follow Rosie on Twitter @rosiewilby or Instagram @breakupmonologues 

 

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The break up monologues - with comedian Rosie Wilby Fiona Murden 00:56:03 On this episode I chat to the fab Rosie Wilby. Rosie is an award-winning comedian, author and podcaster who has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman's Hour and Four Thought. Her new book The Breakup Monologues is based on her acclaimed podcast of the same name and I have to say it’s a fantastic read – weaving together humour and science seamlessly. Rosie says this has helped her to make sense of her own narrative, but it does far more than that. It makes sense of it for anyone who has suffered the pain of a breakup. On this episode I chat to the fab Rosie Wilby. Rosie is an award-winning comedian, author and podcaster who has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman's Hour and Four Thought. Her new book The Breakup Monologues is based on her acclaimed podcast of the same name and I have to say it’s a fantastic read – weaving together humour and science seamlessly. Rosie says this has helped her to make sense of her own narrative, but it does far more than that. It makes sense of it for anyone who has suffered the pain of a breakup. breakup, lbgtq, sex, relationships, comedian, science of sex, comedy, psychology, science of relationships true full 58 42d8e618-9fd6-4007-b973-7bf3a518bfaa How to start a start up with Zal Dordi While Zal was one of the first employees at DoorDash helping it grow to its value of the $50 billion in 2021, he remains modest, down to earth and incredibly easy company. We talk about life growing up as a child in the San Francisco Bay Area, being there from the beginning of a startup which grew to be a giant, his Zoroastrian heritage, what family means to him and married life in London.

There’s so much more to discuss that he may come back for a second episode.

 

For more from me (including info on my books) go to: 

https://fionamurden.com 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sat, 8 Jan 2022 11:39:39 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-to-start-a-start-up-with-zal-dordi-4vl4fMEN While Zal was one of the first employees at DoorDash helping it grow to its value of the $50 billion in 2021, he remains modest, down to earth and incredibly easy company. We talk about life growing up as a child in the San Francisco Bay Area, being there from the beginning of a startup which grew to be a giant, his Zoroastrian heritage, what family means to him and married life in London.

There’s so much more to discuss that he may come back for a second episode.

 

For more from me (including info on my books) go to: 

https://fionamurden.com 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to start a start up with Zal Dordi Fiona Murden 00:54:36 This week on the podcast I speak to a Silicon Valley native Zal Dordi. Aside from being a genuinely lovely person he’s also got a great business brain on his shoulders with an MBA from Insead and time spent at McKinsey. He describes himself as a startup guy at heart with a passion for building and developing human relationships. And that combination makes him a perfect fit with my future business plans (watch this space!). This week on the podcast I speak to a Silicon Valley native Zal Dordi. Aside from being a genuinely lovely person he’s also got a great business brain on his shoulders with an MBA from Insead and time spent at McKinsey. He describes himself as a startup guy at heart with a passion for building and developing human relationships. And that combination makes him a perfect fit with my future business plans (watch this space!). startup, relationships, zoroastrian, bay area, silicon valley, doordash false full 57 dc3c4faa-453f-4035-8460-fbcfa015e226 The coach of coaches in elite sport - Cody Royle Cody Royle is currently the head coach of AFL Team Canada, the men's national program for Australian Rules football. Cody is also an author, international keynote speaker, podcast host, football coach. He currently coaches 13 head coaches from seven team sports in five different countries. 

Cody is a standout voice on how pro sports teams create sustained success. His widely-acclaimed debut book, Where Others Won’t, is a go-to guide of easily-implementable leadership strategies that have been quality-tested by some of the world’s most iconic and successful teams. 

The sustained success of the book initiated a podcast of the same name, which has reached the top 100 in four countries and maintains a 5-star rating on iTunes.

Most recently, Cody has turned his attention to coach wellbeing and performance with his second book, The Tough Stuff, becoming a bestseller in Australia, Canada, the UK, and the United States. 

A native of Melbourne, Australia, Cody resides in Toronto, Canada with his wife.

 

For more from Cody go to:

https://www.codyroyle.com

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 26 Nov 2021 11:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-coach-of-coaches-in-elite-sport-cody-royale-_AK2P7Yt Cody Royle is currently the head coach of AFL Team Canada, the men's national program for Australian Rules football. Cody is also an author, international keynote speaker, podcast host, football coach. He currently coaches 13 head coaches from seven team sports in five different countries. 

Cody is a standout voice on how pro sports teams create sustained success. His widely-acclaimed debut book, Where Others Won’t, is a go-to guide of easily-implementable leadership strategies that have been quality-tested by some of the world’s most iconic and successful teams. 

The sustained success of the book initiated a podcast of the same name, which has reached the top 100 in four countries and maintains a 5-star rating on iTunes.

Most recently, Cody has turned his attention to coach wellbeing and performance with his second book, The Tough Stuff, becoming a bestseller in Australia, Canada, the UK, and the United States. 

A native of Melbourne, Australia, Cody resides in Toronto, Canada with his wife.

 

For more from Cody go to:

https://www.codyroyle.com

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The coach of coaches in elite sport - Cody Royle Fiona Murden 00:56:12 This week I speak to the coach of coaches Cody Royle. Cody is one of those people who has a good soul, you know the type of person – someone who wants the best for people. He’s empathic and he cares, which made delivering the message of losing one of his team over and over again to all of the other players all the more heart-breaking. In Cody’s book The Tough Stuff: Seven Hard Truths About Being a Head Coach he talks about the things that just aren’t spoken about – the performance not just of the team but of the coach. How for example the emotional toll of not just loss and grief impacts your ability to coach, but so many factors such as media pressure, expectations of the public even selecting and deselecting team members each week. But who coaches the coach? We talk about this and more including the role Cody himself has taken on as a coach of coaches. This week I speak to the coach of coaches Cody Royle. Cody is one of those people who has a good soul, you know the type of person – someone who wants the best for people. He’s empathic and he cares, which made delivering the message of losing one of his team over and over again to all of the other players all the more heart-breaking. In Cody’s book The Tough Stuff: Seven Hard Truths About Being a Head Coach he talks about the things that just aren’t spoken about – the performance not just of the team but of the coach. How for example the emotional toll of not just loss and grief impacts your ability to coach, but so many factors such as media pressure, expectations of the public even selecting and deselecting team members each week. But who coaches the coach? We talk about this and more including the role Cody himself has taken on as a coach of coaches. false full 56 8c90d518-3d09-4d62-bf6b-c3d38a13175e Host of the Innovation Show, author & former rugby player - Aidan McCullan Aidan is the host and founder of the Innovation Show, broadcast globally and on national radio stations in Ireland and Finland. He is author of the bestselling book "Undisruptable: A Mindset of Permanent Reinvention for Individuals, Organisations and Life" which includes a Foreword by Visa founder Dee Hock. “Aidan’s presentation is visual, story rich and full of interesting analogies to bring concepts to life.”

Aidan is a Change Consultant, Board Director and Executive Coach. He works with organisational teams to improve how they engage and innovate. He is a champion for change and has reinvented in his own career after rugby. Aidan worked in transformation for digital, innovation and now culture and leadership.

Aidan played rugby over 100 times for Europe’s most successful teams: Leinster and Toulouse and represented Ireland.

He developed the digital eco-system for Communicorp Media Group, served as Head of Innovation for Ireland's National broadcaster and worked as an innovation consultant for Global company Katawave.

Today he sits on the board of National Broadband Ireland, rolling out connectivity to the remotest parts of Ireland.

He developed and delivers a module on Emerging Technology Trends in Trinity College Business School, ranked 1st in Ireland and in the top 100 globally.

For more from Aidan go to:

https://aidanmccullen.com

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 19 Nov 2021 11:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/host-of-the-innovation-show-author-former-rugby-player-aidan-mccullan-RRV2nMR2 Aidan is the host and founder of the Innovation Show, broadcast globally and on national radio stations in Ireland and Finland. He is author of the bestselling book "Undisruptable: A Mindset of Permanent Reinvention for Individuals, Organisations and Life" which includes a Foreword by Visa founder Dee Hock. “Aidan’s presentation is visual, story rich and full of interesting analogies to bring concepts to life.”

Aidan is a Change Consultant, Board Director and Executive Coach. He works with organisational teams to improve how they engage and innovate. He is a champion for change and has reinvented in his own career after rugby. Aidan worked in transformation for digital, innovation and now culture and leadership.

Aidan played rugby over 100 times for Europe’s most successful teams: Leinster and Toulouse and represented Ireland.

He developed the digital eco-system for Communicorp Media Group, served as Head of Innovation for Ireland's National broadcaster and worked as an innovation consultant for Global company Katawave.

Today he sits on the board of National Broadband Ireland, rolling out connectivity to the remotest parts of Ireland.

He developed and delivers a module on Emerging Technology Trends in Trinity College Business School, ranked 1st in Ireland and in the top 100 globally.

For more from Aidan go to:

https://aidanmccullen.com

 

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Host of the Innovation Show, author & former rugby player - Aidan McCullan Fiona Murden 00:49:46 On this week’s episode I speak to the wonderful Aidan McCullan. If you enjoy listening to a smooth Irish voice and a fantastic storyteller – I mean who doesn’t – then this one is for you. On this week’s episode I speak to the wonderful Aidan McCullan. If you enjoy listening to a smooth Irish voice and a fantastic storyteller – I mean who doesn’t – then this one is for you. false full 55 db7e1bb2-db39-42c3-9fe9-817cac9b1ac2 Money can't buy happiness (or can it?) - with Lou & Fi For example, we discuss how psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky who wrote The How of Happiness, says that about 50% of our baseline happiness level is down to genetics, but income only accounts for 10%.  The remaining 40% is about all about the “intentional activities” we undertake, such as giving back to others. We talk about what constitutes and ‘intentional activity’ including prosocial behaviour. We even veer into a conversation about whether altruism is really about being truly good or making ourselves feel better. 

So, can money buy happiness or at least make us happy? Well, yes and no. We definitely need enough to cover our basic needs, but finding our purpose, giving back and connecting with others has a hugely powerful impact also. 

 

There's more about finding your purpose (which doesn’t require a penny of money but finding it will help you live a much more fulfilled life) in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 29 Oct 2021 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/money-cant-buy-happiness-or-can-it-with-lou-fi-bgi0UICV For example, we discuss how psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky who wrote The How of Happiness, says that about 50% of our baseline happiness level is down to genetics, but income only accounts for 10%.  The remaining 40% is about all about the “intentional activities” we undertake, such as giving back to others. We talk about what constitutes and ‘intentional activity’ including prosocial behaviour. We even veer into a conversation about whether altruism is really about being truly good or making ourselves feel better. 

So, can money buy happiness or at least make us happy? Well, yes and no. We definitely need enough to cover our basic needs, but finding our purpose, giving back and connecting with others has a hugely powerful impact also. 

 

There's more about finding your purpose (which doesn’t require a penny of money but finding it will help you live a much more fulfilled life) in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Money can't buy happiness (or can it?) - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:35:18 This week Lou and I talk about the links between money and happiness. Lou and I both share what makes us happy and whether that has anything to do with money and we chat through what some of the psychological research shows us. This week Lou and I talk about the links between money and happiness. Lou and I both share what makes us happy and whether that has anything to do with money and we chat through what some of the psychological research shows us. intentional activities, helping, altruism, prosocial behaviour, happiness, happy, basic needs, money, psychology, giving back false full 54 45cc4eca-2434-4c8b-a5c4-c5fbc839ce38 The psychology of fitness with Sarah Gorman, Lou & Fi We also discuss a whole range of other areas of health and fitness including:

  • What barriers do people face to getting fit and how can they overcome them?
  • What’s the impact of social media on our beliefs about exercise? 

While some people are inspired by what they see, many of the exercise influencers create a persona that people are unable to live up to. This can be extremely harmful and demotivating for many and from a psychological standpoint this means we don’t have a realistic context for what we’re trying to achieve for ourselves. Sarah and Lou discuss why it’s so important to understand where we’re are at personally, where our body is at and what our purpose is and keeping these front of mind as far as possible. 

  • The two types of motivation relating to exercise: intrinsic – which comes from within and extrinsic – comes from someone else motivating you. 

The trick of a trainer is to move the extrinsic to motivation to the inside so someone still has it once you’re not there. When you find someone who can do that for you you’re on to a winner. Sarah does this in more than one way but something that stands out is that her clients like her. She treats them as equals and with respect so they don’t have a need to impress or desperately clammer for approval rather are driven by a genuine desire to work with her and even to please her. 

 

About Sarah: 

Sarah Gorman is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. She qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

For more from Sarah go to: 

https://sarahgorman.fit

@sarahgormanblendfitwww.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

 

There’s a questionnaire from the Centre for Disease Control (USA) exploring what your barriers to exercise may be and how to overcome them in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 22 Oct 2021 09:36:12 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-psychology-of-fitness-with-sarah-gorman-lou-fi-y2UII_48 We also discuss a whole range of other areas of health and fitness including:

  • What barriers do people face to getting fit and how can they overcome them?
  • What’s the impact of social media on our beliefs about exercise? 

While some people are inspired by what they see, many of the exercise influencers create a persona that people are unable to live up to. This can be extremely harmful and demotivating for many and from a psychological standpoint this means we don’t have a realistic context for what we’re trying to achieve for ourselves. Sarah and Lou discuss why it’s so important to understand where we’re are at personally, where our body is at and what our purpose is and keeping these front of mind as far as possible. 

  • The two types of motivation relating to exercise: intrinsic – which comes from within and extrinsic – comes from someone else motivating you. 

The trick of a trainer is to move the extrinsic to motivation to the inside so someone still has it once you’re not there. When you find someone who can do that for you you’re on to a winner. Sarah does this in more than one way but something that stands out is that her clients like her. She treats them as equals and with respect so they don’t have a need to impress or desperately clammer for approval rather are driven by a genuine desire to work with her and even to please her. 

 

About Sarah: 

Sarah Gorman is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. She qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

For more from Sarah go to: 

https://sarahgorman.fit

@sarahgormanblendfitwww.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

 

There’s a questionnaire from the Centre for Disease Control (USA) exploring what your barriers to exercise may be and how to overcome them in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The psychology of fitness with Sarah Gorman, Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:41:56 And she’s back - on this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast both Lou and I speak to Sarah Gorman. What is the psychology behind exercise and fitness? Sarah has trained athletes but spends the majority of her time with everyday folk like me. Lou as you all know works with elite athletes. So I’m curious, are there similarities when it comes to the mindset of the two. I thought that this surely wouldn’t be the case, but Sarah and Lou disagree (with me, not with each other) – tune in for more. And she’s back - on this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast both Lou and I speak to Sarah Gorman. What is the psychology behind exercise and fitness? Sarah has trained athletes but spends the majority of her time with everyday folk like me. Lou as you all know works with elite athletes. So I’m curious, are there similarities when it comes to the mindset of the two. I thought that this surely wouldn’t be the case, but Sarah and Lou disagree (with me, not with each other) – tune in for more. psychologists, exercise psychology, fitness, sport psychology, goals, exercise, personal trainer, fitness goals, motivation false full 53 759e0f0b-328b-4ef7-9fa4-a317e9def559 In Your Shoes - a conversation with Fi The New York Times article referred to can be found here:

https://www.nytimes.com/guides/year-of-living-better/how-to-be-more-empathetic

 

A full copy of the transcript will be on my website shortly:

https://fionamurden.com

Part of this episode was taken from my book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human which can be found here. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My other book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with me here:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 15 Oct 2021 09:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/in-your-shoes-a-conversation-with-fi-b3b5G_9P The New York Times article referred to can be found here:

https://www.nytimes.com/guides/year-of-living-better/how-to-be-more-empathetic

 

A full copy of the transcript will be on my website shortly:

https://fionamurden.com

Part of this episode was taken from my book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human which can be found here. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My other book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with me here:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> In Your Shoes - a conversation with Fi Fiona Murden 00:13:03 In this bonus episode ‘In Your Shoes’ – I ask 'How empathic are you?' and explore what gets in the way of even the most empathic people showing empathy and what can you do to ensure a) you’re not too stuck in emotional empathy (where you feel others feelings so deeply, without processing more rationally that you burn out)? In this bonus episode ‘In Your Shoes’ – I ask 'How empathic are you?' and explore what gets in the way of even the most empathic people showing empathy and what can you do to ensure a) you’re not too stuck in emotional empathy (where you feel others feelings so deeply, without processing more rationally that you burn out)? false full 52 e2f51cdf-5701-47b6-a69f-8bbab8b11a34 All I wanna do is have some fun - with Lou & Fi There is no end point or goal, it’s a process which Scott Eberle editor of the American Journal of Play describes as being somewhere in between a start and an end, an “in between [where] you find surprise, pleasure, understanding – as skill and empathy – and strength of mind, body and spirit.” 

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 8 Oct 2021 10:30:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/why-it-is-a-happy-talent-to-know-how-to-play-with-lou-fi-I1IjCu4e There is no end point or goal, it’s a process which Scott Eberle editor of the American Journal of Play describes as being somewhere in between a start and an end, an “in between [where] you find surprise, pleasure, understanding – as skill and empathy – and strength of mind, body and spirit.” 

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> All I wanna do is have some fun - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:36:12 On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about why, as Ralph Waldo Emerson said “It is a happy talent to know how to play.” We discuss why play and having fun is essential to problem solving, creativity, relationships and even well-being; why finding the type of play that works for you is important (if you don’t want to cringe your way through it and gain nothing but humiliation) and why play is by definition, a moving target. On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about why, as Ralph Waldo Emerson said “It is a happy talent to know how to play.” We discuss why play and having fun is essential to problem solving, creativity, relationships and even well-being; why finding the type of play that works for you is important (if you don’t want to cringe your way through it and gain nothing but humiliation) and why play is by definition, a moving target. false full 51 f3f6e3b8-a1e1-4f0b-9da3-8844b0b8ee1b Jack of all trades and master of many with Sarah Gorman Sarah is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. Her career started on stage in physical theatre and dance. When she had her first child she returned to university to study for a second degree, this time in teacher training from where she taught at The Brit School in London for a number of years. 

But that’s not all – she had previously qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

Listen in to hear more about Sarah’s fascinating story and go to 

 

https://sarahgorman.fit

 

Follow Sarah on Instagram at:

 

@sarahgormanblendfit www.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

 

To connect with me go to:

 

@fiona_murdenwww.instagram.com/fiona_murden

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Or my how about my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’ which can be found via the link below and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sun, 3 Oct 2021 23:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/jack-of-all-trades-and-master-of-many-with-sarah-gorman-IYCc2Gf4 Sarah is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. Her career started on stage in physical theatre and dance. When she had her first child she returned to university to study for a second degree, this time in teacher training from where she taught at The Brit School in London for a number of years. 

But that’s not all – she had previously qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

Listen in to hear more about Sarah’s fascinating story and go to 

 

https://sarahgorman.fit

 

Follow Sarah on Instagram at:

 

@sarahgormanblendfit www.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

 

To connect with me go to:

 

@fiona_murdenwww.instagram.com/fiona_murden

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Or my how about my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’ which can be found via the link below and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

 

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]]> Jack of all trades and master of many with Sarah Gorman Fiona Murden 00:59:53 Sarah is such a warm, genuine person who exudes positivity and a natural ability to truly connect. I love her energy – she’s such a great person to share time with. Together with who she is, her experience and wisdom represent the magic often missing within the field of fitness. Fitness after all is about far more than physiology – it has a huge amount to do with what’s going on in our heads and Sarah gets that. She understands so much about so many different approaches and sees you for what you are and what you need, in that moment and beyond. From acting to Pilates, boxing to Barre in London to LA her depth and breadth of experience makes her more interesting and serves to add weight to her insight, knowledge and passion. Sarah is such a warm, genuine person who exudes positivity and a natural ability to truly connect. I love her energy – she’s such a great person to share time with. Together with who she is, her experience and wisdom represent the magic often missing within the field of fitness. Fitness after all is about far more than physiology – it has a huge amount to do with what’s going on in our heads and Sarah gets that. She understands so much about so many different approaches and sees you for what you are and what you need, in that moment and beyond. From acting to Pilates, boxing to Barre in London to LA her depth and breadth of experience makes her more interesting and serves to add weight to her insight, knowledge and passion. false full 50 c4c03b38-5232-43af-a8b7-0d8e0bd17528 Are you biased? What unconscious bias training gets wrong and what to do about it - with Lou & Fi We discuss the psychology of bias, why we have it and some of the impacts. We chat about the biases you may have, what impact they could have and how to really put yourself in the position of what it’s like to have those preferences toward or prejudices against you. We also discuss ways in which companies could approach conscious bias training in order to provide more lasting outcomes on behaviour. And what you can do to help turn down the volume on your own biases.

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

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To take the implicit bias test follow this link:

 

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 24 Sep 2021 08:15:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/what-unconscious-bias-training-gets-wrong-and-what-to-do-about-it-with-lou-fi-W8sAUVXX We discuss the psychology of bias, why we have it and some of the impacts. We chat about the biases you may have, what impact they could have and how to really put yourself in the position of what it’s like to have those preferences toward or prejudices against you. We also discuss ways in which companies could approach conscious bias training in order to provide more lasting outcomes on behaviour. And what you can do to help turn down the volume on your own biases.

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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To take the implicit bias test follow this link:

 

https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Are you biased? What unconscious bias training gets wrong and what to do about it - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:30:30 On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about ‘What unconscious bias training gets wrong and what to do about it’. As awareness of diversity, belonging and inclusion increases so do the number of cognitive bias training courses being run by companies, but are they just tokenism or do they actually change behaviour? On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about ‘What unconscious bias training gets wrong and what to do about it’. As awareness of diversity, belonging and inclusion increases so do the number of cognitive bias training courses being run by companies, but are they just tokenism or do they actually change behaviour? psychologists, unconscious bias, d&i, cognitive bias training, cognitive bias, psychology false full 49 4677dbd4-f80b-4740-b2b7-545e63f0885f Why rituals work - with Lou & Fi We’re used to the rituals of athletes such as tennis player Nadal, who places his hair behind his ear, pulls his nose and adjusts his shorts while bouncing the ball before every point.  People have accused him of using this as a way to break the momentum of his opponents. But Nadal says that these routines are for his psychological benefits. And the research would suggest that this is true, for many of us, not just athletes. Rituals give us a sense of control when we’re facing uncertainty. Research by Harvard psychologists Francesca Gino and Michael I. Norton suggest that engaging in rituals mitigates grief caused by both life-changing losses (e.g. such as the death of a loved one) through to the more mundane ones (e.g. losing a lottery).

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

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Read more about Why Rituals Work

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-rituals-work/

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Mon, 13 Sep 2021 18:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/why-rituals-work-with-lou-fi-w26zPvMB We’re used to the rituals of athletes such as tennis player Nadal, who places his hair behind his ear, pulls his nose and adjusts his shorts while bouncing the ball before every point.  People have accused him of using this as a way to break the momentum of his opponents. But Nadal says that these routines are for his psychological benefits. And the research would suggest that this is true, for many of us, not just athletes. Rituals give us a sense of control when we’re facing uncertainty. Research by Harvard psychologists Francesca Gino and Michael I. Norton suggest that engaging in rituals mitigates grief caused by both life-changing losses (e.g. such as the death of a loved one) through to the more mundane ones (e.g. losing a lottery).

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Read more about Why Rituals Work

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-rituals-work/

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Why rituals work - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:41:03 On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about why rituals work. It turns out that there are real, scientific benefits to rituals. Rituals are practiced in all walks of life from preparing for a job interview to playing sport – and of course in every religion. On the whole they ease our worries, concerns, grief, anxieties and give us comfort. When we take them too far they risk becoming OCD, when used in moderation they can actually benefit even people who claim not to believe that they work (Scientific American).  On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast Lou and I talk about why rituals work. It turns out that there are real, scientific benefits to rituals. Rituals are practiced in all walks of life from preparing for a job interview to playing sport – and of course in every religion. On the whole they ease our worries, concerns, grief, anxieties and give us comfort. When we take them too far they risk becoming OCD, when used in moderation they can actually benefit even people who claim not to believe that they work (Scientific American).  psychologists, control, sport, sport psychology, athletes, rituals, grief, uncertainty, comfort, psychology false full 48 e1239dbf-d9ed-4766-96f7-ecaf3d9525c8 Adulting - Psychology says you need to achieve these 3 goals to become an adult - with Lou & Fi. According to psychologist Dr Jeffrey Arnett (whose work I also refer to in Defining You) these three areas define it:

1. Taking responsibility for yourself which "generally means accepting the consequences of your actions without expecting anyone else...to protect you from those consequences."
 

2. Making independent decisions - "It's finding out who you are and how you fit into the world, and there is a range of decisions that go into that."
 

3. Having financial independence


There's a period between 18 and 29 that Arnett described as Emerging Adulthood which has since been backed by neuroscientific research showing our brain continues to develop until our late 20s. For some though being an adult never seems to come. Lou and I discuss this and much more too in this week's episode of Dot to Dot. 

 

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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Thank you to Giles Paley-Phillips for the production of this episode. 

 

Insider article referred to in this episode: https://www.businessinsider.com/the-3-things-that-make-you-an-adult-2016-1?r=US&IR=T

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Tue, 17 Aug 2021 13:10:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/adulting-psychology-says-you-need-to-achieve-these-3-goals-to-become-an-adult-with-lou-fi-UQouhETG According to psychologist Dr Jeffrey Arnett (whose work I also refer to in Defining You) these three areas define it:

1. Taking responsibility for yourself which "generally means accepting the consequences of your actions without expecting anyone else...to protect you from those consequences."
 

2. Making independent decisions - "It's finding out who you are and how you fit into the world, and there is a range of decisions that go into that."
 

3. Having financial independence


There's a period between 18 and 29 that Arnett described as Emerging Adulthood which has since been backed by neuroscientific research showing our brain continues to develop until our late 20s. For some though being an adult never seems to come. Lou and I discuss this and much more too in this week's episode of Dot to Dot. 

 

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

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Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

Thank you to Giles Paley-Phillips for the production of this episode. 

 

Insider article referred to in this episode: https://www.businessinsider.com/the-3-things-that-make-you-an-adult-2016-1?r=US&IR=T

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Adulting - Psychology says you need to achieve these 3 goals to become an adult - with Lou & Fi. Fiona Murden 00:43:19 Psychology says you need to achieve these 3 goals to become an adult. This week Lou and I discuss those three things and more. I personally have never felt like I've grown up. But what does that mean from a psychological standpoint. Psychology says you need to achieve these 3 goals to become an adult. This week Lou and I discuss those three things and more. I personally have never felt like I've grown up. But what does that mean from a psychological standpoint. psychologist, the brain, growing up, psychology, adulting, emerging adulthood false full 47 e711866f-d4dc-4960-9df3-222e1df8717e Humanity's greatest potential lies in the underrated, undiscovered underdogs of the world - with George Styles George caught my attention on twitter with his brilliant tweets (see below for his handle). Every day he posts so many questions – all so thought provoking that I often don’t even answer them - I'm just left pondering. George who lives in Philadelphia USA has a brain that won’t stop whirring which is where all of these fabulous, thought provoking posts come from. He explains how he started off just posting a few and began to love the positive and interesting comments and discussion that they provoked, bringing people together from all over the world.

 

More about George - in his own words, ‘there are not enough books on sh*t disturbers. Hence, Dr. Styles endeavours to write on this topic, which sits next to his heart. "Somebody has to go against the grain... ...what would the world look like without a 2nd opinion?" he says. 


Despite his propensity for foolery and antics, he was able to get it together and obtain his PhD in Biochemistry in 2016.  He is also an avid composer of music, and is a fan of a wide variety of music genres.’  

 

To follow George go to:

https://twitter.com/geostylegeo

 

For more from me follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with me on:

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]]> Fri, 6 Aug 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/humanities-greatest-potential-lies-in-the-underrated-undiscovered-underdogs-of-the-world-with-george-styles-NzksG9A3 George caught my attention on twitter with his brilliant tweets (see below for his handle). Every day he posts so many questions – all so thought provoking that I often don’t even answer them - I'm just left pondering. George who lives in Philadelphia USA has a brain that won’t stop whirring which is where all of these fabulous, thought provoking posts come from. He explains how he started off just posting a few and began to love the positive and interesting comments and discussion that they provoked, bringing people together from all over the world.

 

More about George - in his own words, ‘there are not enough books on sh*t disturbers. Hence, Dr. Styles endeavours to write on this topic, which sits next to his heart. "Somebody has to go against the grain... ...what would the world look like without a 2nd opinion?" he says. 


Despite his propensity for foolery and antics, he was able to get it together and obtain his PhD in Biochemistry in 2016.  He is also an avid composer of music, and is a fan of a wide variety of music genres.’  

 

To follow George go to:

https://twitter.com/geostylegeo

 

For more from me follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with me on:

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]]> Humanity's greatest potential lies in the underrated, undiscovered underdogs of the world - with George Styles Fiona Murden 01:02:20 This week on the podcast I speak to George Styles. George believes that humanities greatest potential lies in the underrated, undiscovered underdogs of the world. And anyone who knows me knows how much I believe in us all having huge untapped potential. This makes for a really fun discussion about all sorts of topics. This week on the podcast I speak to George Styles. George believes that humanities greatest potential lies in the underrated, undiscovered underdogs of the world. And anyone who knows me knows how much I believe in us all having huge untapped potential. This makes for a really fun discussion about all sorts of topics. undiscovered, contemplation, philosophy, potential, underdog, psychology, humanity, discussion false full 46 d7ef3483-09d7-42c2-a9ae-cc82e6289087 What a sports psychologists has to say about the Olympics - with Lou & Fi We discuss the parallels between Olympic preparation and organisational leadership – but how in many ways organisations often know what to do but don’t ‘walk the talk’ in the way the teams who surround athletes do.  Lou explains why it’s never a comfortable experience watching an athlete you’ve trained, why athletes have experienced and understood more things about themselves leading up to a Covid Olympics than any other and why we are set to see some incredible performances.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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]]> Sun, 1 Aug 2021 10:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/what-a-sports-psychologists-has-to-say-about-the-olympics-with-lou-fi-ZDIaIlal We discuss the parallels between Olympic preparation and organisational leadership – but how in many ways organisations often know what to do but don’t ‘walk the talk’ in the way the teams who surround athletes do.  Lou explains why it’s never a comfortable experience watching an athlete you’ve trained, why athletes have experienced and understood more things about themselves leading up to a Covid Olympics than any other and why we are set to see some incredible performances.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Fi: 

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Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What a sports psychologists has to say about the Olympics - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:36:10 This week I talk to Lou about what it feels like for athletes going to the Tokyo 2020 Olympics. Having just bid farewell to one of her Olympians Lou shares what it feels like from her side of the table, what the Olympians are facing this year and why in Lou's words it will be an Olympics like no other. This week I talk to Lou about what it feels like for athletes going to the Tokyo 2020 Olympics. Having just bid farewell to one of her Olympians Lou shares what it feels like from her side of the table, what the Olympians are facing this year and why in Lou's words it will be an Olympics like no other. psychologists, mental preparation, the olympics, sports psychologist, covid olympics, sports psychology, tokyo2020, uncertainty, the unknown, psychology, gold medal false full 45 dd0e8fa9-dd1d-47ac-ae14-27baae7be1f4 Ex-Olympian explains how embracing vulnerability saved his life - Jack Green with Lou & Fi In the UK "we look back on the 2012 Olympic Games through gold-tinted glasses, 'Super Saturday' and an inspiring celebration of British athletics uniting the country. For a then 20-year-old Green, the suffocation of 80,000 fans and personal expectations became the starter pistol to understanding and dealing with the mental health struggles he had always known were there.” 

"If one thing got past my armour, I couldn't manage it because I'd say 'I'm not meant to feel this way because I'm meant to be a superstar, I'm meant to be this robot'. That's when I'd really struggle and when I'd break down.”

"As soon as I accepted that I'm a human being and human beings feel things, as soon as I said 'OK, I can feel this way, I'm going to sit with it, embrace and accept it', it kind of took the power away from them. A big part for me that probably saved my life was accepting and embracing vulnerability,"

We talk about the pressures put on athletes across all disciplines, how it can feel like you’re not seen or supported until you’re contender for a medal, and once you’re not you’re just as quickly forgotten. Jack now coaches athletes, including Tokyo-bound Italian sprinter Gloria Hooper. He explains how he uses a different approach with every person, working hard to understand not just their physical needs but how they interact with their psychological make-up. He also held the position of Head of Wellbeing at BBC Studios before joining Champion Health UK as head of Performance, taking and using his own learnings to help others. 

“My purpose is to help as many people be the best version of themselves because that is truly what high performance is all about. My philosophy is a very simple one: a happy athlete is a fast athlete. And I use this philosophy in all of my well-being work.” 

For more on Jack:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Green_(hurdler)

 

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 16 Jul 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/ex-olympian-explains-how-embracing-vulnerability-saved-his-life-jack-green-with-lou-fi-MdchV5pk In the UK "we look back on the 2012 Olympic Games through gold-tinted glasses, 'Super Saturday' and an inspiring celebration of British athletics uniting the country. For a then 20-year-old Green, the suffocation of 80,000 fans and personal expectations became the starter pistol to understanding and dealing with the mental health struggles he had always known were there.” 

"If one thing got past my armour, I couldn't manage it because I'd say 'I'm not meant to feel this way because I'm meant to be a superstar, I'm meant to be this robot'. That's when I'd really struggle and when I'd break down.”

"As soon as I accepted that I'm a human being and human beings feel things, as soon as I said 'OK, I can feel this way, I'm going to sit with it, embrace and accept it', it kind of took the power away from them. A big part for me that probably saved my life was accepting and embracing vulnerability,"

We talk about the pressures put on athletes across all disciplines, how it can feel like you’re not seen or supported until you’re contender for a medal, and once you’re not you’re just as quickly forgotten. Jack now coaches athletes, including Tokyo-bound Italian sprinter Gloria Hooper. He explains how he uses a different approach with every person, working hard to understand not just their physical needs but how they interact with their psychological make-up. He also held the position of Head of Wellbeing at BBC Studios before joining Champion Health UK as head of Performance, taking and using his own learnings to help others. 

“My purpose is to help as many people be the best version of themselves because that is truly what high performance is all about. My philosophy is a very simple one: a happy athlete is a fast athlete. And I use this philosophy in all of my well-being work.” 

For more on Jack:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Green_(hurdler)

 

For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Ex-Olympian explains how embracing vulnerability saved his life - Jack Green with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:53:03 On this week’s episode Lou and I speak to Olympian Jack Green. Jack competed in the London 2012 and Rio 2016 Olympics. Jack has learnt about mental health the hard way, super human on so many levels – able to endure more pain, train harder, run faster coming to a point where he accepted that he was not OK and eventually to an understanding that our mental states cannot be 'fixed'. Something society inadvertently teaches us made worse still when you're heralded as invincible. On this week’s episode Lou and I speak to Olympian Jack Green. Jack competed in the London 2012 and Rio 2016 Olympics. Jack has learnt about mental health the hard way, super human on so many levels – able to endure more pain, train harder, run faster coming to a point where he accepted that he was not OK and eventually to an understanding that our mental states cannot be 'fixed'. Something society inadvertently teaches us made worse still when you're heralded as invincible. psychologists, personaldevelopment, purpose, athletics, sport, olympics, #mentalhealth, sportspsychology, mentalhealth, wellbeingatwork, #sport, learning, highperformance, olympian, athletes, depression, vulnerability, #performance, tokyogames, psychology, wellbeing, anxiety, #wellbeing false full 44 860f6e91-cd2f-49aa-b7d2-04011c143269 From humble beginnings to Non Exec Director at Coca Cola - Christine Cross On this episode among other things we explore the importance mentors and role-models and how one small comment at the right or wrong time can send a young person's life off in a completely different direction. 

We also discuss Christine's upbringing and how she chose not to go to Oxford or Cambridge despite being destined - not through her upbringing - but her academic capability to go there. She decided it wasn't what she wanted and followed her interests instead of being drawn into the expectations of those heralded institutions.  I didn't know until we did this podcast that she has 8 A levels including the sciences. And yet she is open to hearing how other people view the world, listening to their take and perspective and offering her guidance. 

Christine Cross is a Chair, Independent Non Exec Director, Business Advisor and Mentor.

She holds  Non-Executive Directorships with Coca Cola European Partners plc; Hilton food group plc; Clipper Logistics Plc and Zooplus AG and acts as Advisor to the Board of a number of  plc, private equity and private companies .  She has  served as NED on the Board of Next plc; Woolworths Limited (Australia);  Sobeys (Ca) plc; Plantasgen (Nor); Sonae plc (Portugal); Brambles plc (Australia); Kathmandu plc (New Zealand); Fenwick Ltd (UK):   Fairmont Hotels Group; Premier Foods and Taylor Wimpey. She was Chief Retail Advisor to PWC for 5 years. 

She particularly enjoys working with small growth businesses too and Chairs Oddbox, a sustainable produce business growing fast in the Uk; acts as Advisor to My First Years;  plus devotes time to being a Fellow at the RAU Enterprise Unit.

Prior to ‘going plural’  Chris had a 15 year Executive career at Tesco having carried out a number of roles at Director Level.

Latterly, as Group Business Development Director, she was involved in a programme of acquisitions. Prior to this her primary focus at Tesco was the establishment of a global direct sourcing operation  and the leadership of  Tesco’s UK and International clothing business. She was also instrumental in developing and launching  the Tesco private label product range. Recruitment to Tesco was from a successful career in academia as Principal Lecturer and Course Director  at Bath and Edinburgh Universities.

 

For more from Fiona follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with me on:

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Sat, 10 Jul 2021 13:41:21 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-humble-beginnings-to-non-exec-director-at-coca-cola-christine-cross-MYEIXEhc On this episode among other things we explore the importance mentors and role-models and how one small comment at the right or wrong time can send a young person's life off in a completely different direction. 

We also discuss Christine's upbringing and how she chose not to go to Oxford or Cambridge despite being destined - not through her upbringing - but her academic capability to go there. She decided it wasn't what she wanted and followed her interests instead of being drawn into the expectations of those heralded institutions.  I didn't know until we did this podcast that she has 8 A levels including the sciences. And yet she is open to hearing how other people view the world, listening to their take and perspective and offering her guidance. 

Christine Cross is a Chair, Independent Non Exec Director, Business Advisor and Mentor.

She holds  Non-Executive Directorships with Coca Cola European Partners plc; Hilton food group plc; Clipper Logistics Plc and Zooplus AG and acts as Advisor to the Board of a number of  plc, private equity and private companies .  She has  served as NED on the Board of Next plc; Woolworths Limited (Australia);  Sobeys (Ca) plc; Plantasgen (Nor); Sonae plc (Portugal); Brambles plc (Australia); Kathmandu plc (New Zealand); Fenwick Ltd (UK):   Fairmont Hotels Group; Premier Foods and Taylor Wimpey. She was Chief Retail Advisor to PWC for 5 years. 

She particularly enjoys working with small growth businesses too and Chairs Oddbox, a sustainable produce business growing fast in the Uk; acts as Advisor to My First Years;  plus devotes time to being a Fellow at the RAU Enterprise Unit.

Prior to ‘going plural’  Chris had a 15 year Executive career at Tesco having carried out a number of roles at Director Level.

Latterly, as Group Business Development Director, she was involved in a programme of acquisitions. Prior to this her primary focus at Tesco was the establishment of a global direct sourcing operation  and the leadership of  Tesco’s UK and International clothing business. She was also instrumental in developing and launching  the Tesco private label product range. Recruitment to Tesco was from a successful career in academia as Principal Lecturer and Course Director  at Bath and Edinburgh Universities.

 

For more from Fiona follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with me on:

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From humble beginnings to Non Exec Director at Coca Cola - Christine Cross Fiona Murden 00:48:17 Christine Cross is a non-exec director for some big brands including Coca Cola Europe. I met Chris through work when I was profiling for a CEO role at another company she was a non-exec director for. It struck me then how incredibly sharp she was and that she was someone who didn't mince her words. But she is also an amazing supporter of young people (and even older ones like me) and women mentoring a huge number of people and working on a range of initiatives to see people having a good start in life. Christine Cross is a non-exec director for some big brands including Coca Cola Europe. I met Chris through work when I was profiling for a CEO role at another company she was a non-exec director for. It struck me then how incredibly sharp she was and that she was someone who didn't mince her words. But she is also an amazing supporter of young people (and even older ones like me) and women mentoring a huge number of people and working on a range of initiatives to see people having a good start in life. mentoring, success, equality, successinlife, cocacola, businesslife, chairwoman, behaviour, goingplural, mentors, rolemodelling false full 40 61a4d42f-88ce-4d57-be24-aa993cd20610 8 Ancient rules for life we should still follow - with Lou & Fi We chat about how it’s interesting that now that we have research around psychological theory - whether it's through neuroscience or more applied research studies - we're seeing that many of these ancient approaches work.

 

But remember that every technique will not work for everybody - so definitely give them a try, practice them with an open mind and see what works for you. There will be something that does but you have to try to be able to know for sure. Here’s a summary of the 8 rules: 

 

 

 

 

1) It’s not events that cause us suffering, but our opinion about events.

2) Our opinions are often unconscious, but we can bring them to consciousness by asking ourselves questions.

3) We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we react.

4) Choose your perspective wisely.

5) Habits are powerful. 

6) Fieldwork is vital.

7) Virtue is sufficient for happiness. 

8) We have ethical obligations to our community.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/creating-in-flow/201311/8-ancient-rules-life-we-should-still-follow

 

For more from us follow these links: 

 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 2 Jul 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/8-ancient-rules-for-life-we-should-still-follow-with-lou-fi-nXrfPOI_ We chat about how it’s interesting that now that we have research around psychological theory - whether it's through neuroscience or more applied research studies - we're seeing that many of these ancient approaches work.

 

But remember that every technique will not work for everybody - so definitely give them a try, practice them with an open mind and see what works for you. There will be something that does but you have to try to be able to know for sure. Here’s a summary of the 8 rules: 

 

 

 

 

1) It’s not events that cause us suffering, but our opinion about events.

2) Our opinions are often unconscious, but we can bring them to consciousness by asking ourselves questions.

3) We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we react.

4) Choose your perspective wisely.

5) Habits are powerful. 

6) Fieldwork is vital.

7) Virtue is sufficient for happiness. 

8) We have ethical obligations to our community.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/creating-in-flow/201311/8-ancient-rules-life-we-should-still-follow

 

For more from us follow these links: 

 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

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Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> 8 Ancient rules for life we should still follow - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:51:59 Lou and I discuss a psychology today article (link below) adding our own contemplations on how they apply to the world of everyday life, sport and business. One thing we notice is how we do actually apply many of these without even being consciously aware that’s what we’re doing and how many of them are reflected in modern day psychology. Lou and I discuss a psychology today article (link below) adding our own contemplations on how they apply to the world of everyday life, sport and business. One thing we notice is how we do actually apply many of these without even being consciously aware that’s what we’re doing and how many of them are reflected in modern day psychology. false full 43 172469d7-bab4-4fdc-96cd-79a192e7f2af From Nasa to Dolph Lundgren - John Bates talks about helping people to tell their stories with impact From Utah to LA, a band member to a Silicon Valley founder, a return to Utah and becoming an extraordinary guide to leaders on public speaking and beyond John has had and continues to have such an interesting journey. This week I make a few bad jokes about my height and being the pinnacle of John's career (if you know me, you also know this is the last thing I'd ever think but it I worry it may get lost in the English sarcasm). Unlike me John tells some genuinely funny stories and even shares his brilliant impression of Snoop Doggie Dog. 

John quotes back something he was told years ago -  "John if you get up on stage and you have your attention on yourself then you have your attention on a minor ball of petty concerns that have no real interest to anyone but you. However you get up onstage and you have your attention on your audience and the difference that you're going to make for them and the difference they are going to make with the people in their lives because of it well now you have your attention on something worth thinking about." 

We chat about a wonderful guy who John works with and I've got to know a little - a Senator who has flipped his belief system following a number of years helping out in a juvenile detention centre.  Howard is now deeply passionate about enabling kids from all backgrounds with the skills to reach reading age before they come into school, helping those who are disadvantaged to start on a more even playing field. For more on this amazing initiative go to:

https://www.waterford.org

John relays the experience of not only training astronauts at NASA but also getting a 40 min phone call from space and his time spent helping Dolph Lundgren. I'm so chuffed to have met John and I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy him too. 

For John's book go to:

https://www.amazon.com or https://www.amazon.co.uk

And for more about him:

https://executivespeakingsuccess.com

 

For my book which we refer to a couple of times go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

And for my other book: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 25 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/from-nasa-astronauts-to-dolph-lungren-john-bates-talks-about-helping-people-to-tell-their-stories-with-impact-Kq_R_UUX From Utah to LA, a band member to a Silicon Valley founder, a return to Utah and becoming an extraordinary guide to leaders on public speaking and beyond John has had and continues to have such an interesting journey. This week I make a few bad jokes about my height and being the pinnacle of John's career (if you know me, you also know this is the last thing I'd ever think but it I worry it may get lost in the English sarcasm). Unlike me John tells some genuinely funny stories and even shares his brilliant impression of Snoop Doggie Dog. 

John quotes back something he was told years ago -  "John if you get up on stage and you have your attention on yourself then you have your attention on a minor ball of petty concerns that have no real interest to anyone but you. However you get up onstage and you have your attention on your audience and the difference that you're going to make for them and the difference they are going to make with the people in their lives because of it well now you have your attention on something worth thinking about." 

We chat about a wonderful guy who John works with and I've got to know a little - a Senator who has flipped his belief system following a number of years helping out in a juvenile detention centre.  Howard is now deeply passionate about enabling kids from all backgrounds with the skills to reach reading age before they come into school, helping those who are disadvantaged to start on a more even playing field. For more on this amazing initiative go to:

https://www.waterford.org

John relays the experience of not only training astronauts at NASA but also getting a 40 min phone call from space and his time spent helping Dolph Lundgren. I'm so chuffed to have met John and I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy him too. 

For John's book go to:

https://www.amazon.com or https://www.amazon.co.uk

And for more about him:

https://executivespeakingsuccess.com

 

For my book which we refer to a couple of times go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

And for my other book: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From Nasa to Dolph Lundgren - John Bates talks about helping people to tell their stories with impact Fiona Murden 00:48:46 On this episode I speak to John Bates who helped me with my Tedx for London School of Economics and through the course of that we became friends. John is a funny, lovely guy who I got a little too excited interviewing meaning I interrupt a few too many times. Hopefully that won't stop your enjoyment though because he's so worth listening to. On this episode I speak to John Bates who helped me with my Tedx for London School of Economics and through the course of that we became friends. John is a funny, lovely guy who I got a little too excited interviewing meaning I interrupt a few too many times. Hopefully that won't stop your enjoyment though because he's so worth listening to. educationreform, tedtalks, evolutionarybiology, mirroring, neurobiology, tedx, nasa, tedtalk, trump, stories, iss, neuroscience, speaking false full 42 f3665d03-a6e0-4641-b346-7f23406e3867 Common characteristics of manipulative people - with Lou & Fi For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human available at the links below and in all good book stores. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

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Or for Lou

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 18 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/common-characteristics-of-manipulative-people-with-lou-fi-hAgVae49 For more from us follow these links: 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human available at the links below and in all good book stores. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Common characteristics of manipulative people - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:44:39 What's the difference between manipulation and influence? Someone may have a tendency that fits one manipulative characteristic but that doesn't necessarily make them a manipulator. But their intent may give you some clues. This recording has some crackling on it - hopefully it won't detract too much from your enjoyment. What's the difference between manipulation and influence? Someone may have a tendency that fits one manipulative characteristic but that doesn't necessarily make them a manipulator. But their intent may give you some clues. This recording has some crackling on it - hopefully it won't detract too much from your enjoyment. false full 41 ca3e502e-d722-4a1a-95f4-0ff45e5d4415 How squiggly has your career path been? - with Sunday Times Bestselling author and CEO of 'Amazing If' Helen Tupper We talk about Helen's own squiggly career which you can hear more about in her TEDx which she recorded in In January 2021 with Sarah. Both Helen and Sarah are living proof of the title of their talk ‘Why squiggly careers are better for everyone’ and inspiring in their message. Prior to Amazing If she held leadership roles for Microsoft, Virgin and BP and was awarded the FT & 30% Club’s Women in Leadership MBA Scholarship. Before making her way back to university friend Sarah to start up their incredibly successful business. She is mum to Henry and Madeleine and lives with her husband in Buckinghamshire. Helen also works as a Trustee for Working Families, a UK charity with a mission to support families and carers with their work and life commitments.  You can find her on Instagram @amazingif. 

 

As for me – the second edition to my book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

And if you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

You can find me on:

My website: https://fionamurden.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 11 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-squiggly-has-your-career-path-been-with-sunday-times-bestselling-author-and-ceo-of-amazing-if-helen-tupper-0DyLQ_LR We talk about Helen's own squiggly career which you can hear more about in her TEDx which she recorded in In January 2021 with Sarah. Both Helen and Sarah are living proof of the title of their talk ‘Why squiggly careers are better for everyone’ and inspiring in their message. Prior to Amazing If she held leadership roles for Microsoft, Virgin and BP and was awarded the FT & 30% Club’s Women in Leadership MBA Scholarship. Before making her way back to university friend Sarah to start up their incredibly successful business. She is mum to Henry and Madeleine and lives with her husband in Buckinghamshire. Helen also works as a Trustee for Working Families, a UK charity with a mission to support families and carers with their work and life commitments.  You can find her on Instagram @amazingif. 

 

As for me – the second edition to my book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

And if you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

You can find me on:

My website: https://fionamurden.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How squiggly has your career path been? - with Sunday Times Bestselling author and CEO of 'Amazing If' Helen Tupper Fiona Murden 00:48:54 This week I speak to Helen Tupper co-founder and CEO of Amazing If, an award-winning career development company with a mission to make work better for everyone. Together with her business partner Sarah Ellis, she is the author of The Sunday Times number one bestseller The Squiggly Career (Penguin) and host of the Squiggly Careers podcast This week I speak to Helen Tupper co-founder and CEO of Amazing If, an award-winning career development company with a mission to make work better for everyone. Together with her business partner Sarah Ellis, she is the author of The Sunday Times number one bestseller The Squiggly Career (Penguin) and host of the Squiggly Careers podcast false full 39 2ac1bb38-3cf8-4539-97fc-78253677c9db Finding the psychological help you need - with Lou & Fi Lou uses the example of the physical versus the psychological in sport. When an athlete goes to a physiotherapist who doesn’t help them with a physical problem they move on to see another physiotherapist, but when they meet a psychologist that they doesn’t click with they’re likely to give up on psychology. This is common to how we all approach our physical versus our psychological health, struggling to understand how to navigate the complexities of our mind and behaviour. We scratch the surface on this complex topic and hopefully provide some useful tips for anyone not knowing where to start. 

 

Therapists may be called:

Psychotherapist

Counsellor

Counselling Psychologist 

Clinical Psychologist 

(for more on the types of therapist go to https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk and for more about the qualifications go to the bottom). 

 

Within these practitioners may use different approaches e.g 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Humanistic – which includes Gestalt, Existential and client-centered therapy

Psycho-dynamic or psycho-analytic 

Hypnotherapy

(for more on the types of therapy go to https://nationalcounsellingsociety.org/counselling-directory/types-of-therapy) 

 

A good site for searching for people in your area in the UK: 

(be sure to check their years of experience and their professional qualifications)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling

And in other countries including the USA, Canada, Australia and Sweden

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/counsellors

 

Reputed Professional Bodies (in the UK): 

British Psychological Society (BPS)

https://www.bps.org.uk/public/find-psychologist

Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC)

https://www.hcpc-uk.org

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

https://www.bacp.co.uk

National Counselling Society (NCS) 

https://nationalcounsellingsociety.org
Association for Child & Adolescent Mental Health (ACAMH)

https://www.acamh.org

 

Wording for qualifications taken from Psychology Today: 

CPsychol - British Psychological Society - Chartered Member which is the highest distinction awarded to members of the British Psychological Society. A chartered member has postgraduate training, teaching experience and has completed psychology research to the doctoral level.

MSc - Master of Science degrees are typically in science or technology. Many mental health professionals coming from a social sciences background earn a master of science degree.

MBPsS – graduate members of the British Psychological Society who have completed an accredited undergraduate degree with high marks and have been admitted as members to the society. 

N.B. This on its own does not mean someone will have completed any training in how to treat people. 

HPCP Clin Psych - Health & Care Professions Council Clinical Psychologist. The HCPC regulates practitioner psychologists in the UK. A clinical psychologist determines a treatment programme addressing behavioural needs of their clients based on close collaboration with other healthcare providers.

DCounsPsych - Doctorate in Counselling Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in counselling psychology

PsychD - Doctor of Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in clinical psychology

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 4 Jun 2021 12:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/how-to-find-help-with-lou-fi-_a7Ziqyc Lou uses the example of the physical versus the psychological in sport. When an athlete goes to a physiotherapist who doesn’t help them with a physical problem they move on to see another physiotherapist, but when they meet a psychologist that they doesn’t click with they’re likely to give up on psychology. This is common to how we all approach our physical versus our psychological health, struggling to understand how to navigate the complexities of our mind and behaviour. We scratch the surface on this complex topic and hopefully provide some useful tips for anyone not knowing where to start. 

 

Therapists may be called:

Psychotherapist

Counsellor

Counselling Psychologist 

Clinical Psychologist 

(for more on the types of therapist go to https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk and for more about the qualifications go to the bottom). 

 

Within these practitioners may use different approaches e.g 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Humanistic – which includes Gestalt, Existential and client-centered therapy

Psycho-dynamic or psycho-analytic 

Hypnotherapy

(for more on the types of therapy go to https://nationalcounsellingsociety.org/counselling-directory/types-of-therapy) 

 

A good site for searching for people in your area in the UK: 

(be sure to check their years of experience and their professional qualifications)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling

And in other countries including the USA, Canada, Australia and Sweden

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/counsellors

 

Reputed Professional Bodies (in the UK): 

British Psychological Society (BPS)

https://www.bps.org.uk/public/find-psychologist

Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC)

https://www.hcpc-uk.org

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

https://www.bacp.co.uk

National Counselling Society (NCS) 

https://nationalcounsellingsociety.org
Association for Child & Adolescent Mental Health (ACAMH)

https://www.acamh.org

 

Wording for qualifications taken from Psychology Today: 

CPsychol - British Psychological Society - Chartered Member which is the highest distinction awarded to members of the British Psychological Society. A chartered member has postgraduate training, teaching experience and has completed psychology research to the doctoral level.

MSc - Master of Science degrees are typically in science or technology. Many mental health professionals coming from a social sciences background earn a master of science degree.

MBPsS – graduate members of the British Psychological Society who have completed an accredited undergraduate degree with high marks and have been admitted as members to the society. 

N.B. This on its own does not mean someone will have completed any training in how to treat people. 

HPCP Clin Psych - Health & Care Professions Council Clinical Psychologist. The HCPC regulates practitioner psychologists in the UK. A clinical psychologist determines a treatment programme addressing behavioural needs of their clients based on close collaboration with other healthcare providers.

DCounsPsych - Doctorate in Counselling Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in counselling psychology

PsychD - Doctor of Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in clinical psychology

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Finding the psychological help you need - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:31:21 On this week’s episode Lou and I discuss how to find psychological help. It’s so confusing to know what to look for and that difficulty can be enough to put people off seeking the help they need. We discuss what to look for and we have also put some guidelines about professional bodies and what the qualifications mean in the show notes. On this week’s episode Lou and I discuss how to find psychological help. It’s so confusing to know what to look for and that difficulty can be enough to put people off seeking the help they need. We discuss what to look for and we have also put some guidelines about professional bodies and what the qualifications mean in the show notes. therapy, clinical psychologist, help, cognitive behavioural therapy, psychotherapy, psychologist, finding help, psychodynamic therapy, depression, mental health, trauma, grief, counselling, psychology, wellbeing, anxiety false full 38 16ba9d4e-b645-4b14-8f58-ae268a2f8646 Overloaded - how every aspect of your life is influenced by your brain chemicals with Ginny Smith Ginny is a neuroscience expert and science communicator. She read Natural Sciences at Cambridge, but her main passion and expertise is in psychology and neuroscience, so she focuses on helping kids and adults understand our complex minds. Ginny says that “Science is fun and fascinating and ever changing, and I want to help everyone share in the joy of curiosity and exploration.” 

  ​Some of the things that Ginny said in this week’s chat that stood out for me:

“I find it amazing how much we still don’t understand about this thing that controls everything we do”

“Science can come across as something that’s finished – it’s this body of facts that we know about the world and I think telling kids and adults that there’s so much more to be discovered can be really inspiring.”

“It’s actually behavioural change that can have a bigger impact on our lives at the moment than neuro science but it feels like neuroscience is the sexier option so anyone who is selling something tends always badge it as neuroscience.  And balance your hormones, take this supplement, we’re going to retrain your brain. Just take anything that makes big claims on neuroscience needs to have big evidence and a lot of the time if they’re trying to sell you something there’s not.”

 

The second edition to my award winning book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

Follow on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

 

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

And for Ginny: 
ginnysmithscience.com

Socials: @GinnySmithSci

braintasticscience.com

Socials: @BraintasticSci

Amazon Book link: Overloaded: How Every Aspect of Your Life is Influenced by Your Brain Chemicals: Amazon.co.uk: Smith, Ginny: Books

 

Links to non-amazon shops here: www.ginnysmithscience.com/overloaded

 

 

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 28 May 2021 11:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/overloaded-how-every-aspect-of-your-life-is-influenced-by-your-brain-chemicals-with-ginny-smith-HmC2GHwl Ginny is a neuroscience expert and science communicator. She read Natural Sciences at Cambridge, but her main passion and expertise is in psychology and neuroscience, so she focuses on helping kids and adults understand our complex minds. Ginny says that “Science is fun and fascinating and ever changing, and I want to help everyone share in the joy of curiosity and exploration.” 

  ​Some of the things that Ginny said in this week’s chat that stood out for me:

“I find it amazing how much we still don’t understand about this thing that controls everything we do”

“Science can come across as something that’s finished – it’s this body of facts that we know about the world and I think telling kids and adults that there’s so much more to be discovered can be really inspiring.”

“It’s actually behavioural change that can have a bigger impact on our lives at the moment than neuro science but it feels like neuroscience is the sexier option so anyone who is selling something tends always badge it as neuroscience.  And balance your hormones, take this supplement, we’re going to retrain your brain. Just take anything that makes big claims on neuroscience needs to have big evidence and a lot of the time if they’re trying to sell you something there’s not.”

 

The second edition to my award winning book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

Follow on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

 

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

And for Ginny: 
ginnysmithscience.com

Socials: @GinnySmithSci

braintasticscience.com

Socials: @BraintasticSci

Amazon Book link: Overloaded: How Every Aspect of Your Life is Influenced by Your Brain Chemicals: Amazon.co.uk: Smith, Ginny: Books

 

Links to non-amazon shops here: www.ginnysmithscience.com/overloaded

 

 

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Overloaded - how every aspect of your life is influenced by your brain chemicals with Ginny Smith Fiona Murden 00:44:52 This week I speak to Ginny Smith author of Overloaded – How Every Aspect of Your Life is Influenced By Your Brain Chemicals. We discuss how swearing relieves pain, depression, PTSD, sleep and neuromyths. This week I speak to Ginny Smith author of Overloaded – How Every Aspect of Your Life is Influenced By Your Brain Chemicals. We discuss how swearing relieves pain, depression, PTSD, sleep and neuromyths. mind, science, behaviour change, neuromyths, sleep, behavior change, neuroscience, brain chemicals, depression, psychology, bloomsbury false full 37 a67a31cf-b136-4bf8-81a7-8a36ec298a21 The psychology of a hug - with Lou & Fi We explore the psychological and physiological need for hugs, how hard it has been for many people not being able to hug loved ones during lockdown, the importance of touch from birth to old age and our fundamental need for touch as a means of connection. 

To pre-order the second edition of my book Defining You (out on 27th May in UK, Sept rest of world) go to:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

www.fionamurden.com 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 21 May 2021 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/the-psychology-of-a-hug-with-lou-fi-DZD0gXQ_ We explore the psychological and physiological need for hugs, how hard it has been for many people not being able to hug loved ones during lockdown, the importance of touch from birth to old age and our fundamental need for touch as a means of connection. 

To pre-order the second edition of my book Defining You (out on 27th May in UK, Sept rest of world) go to:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

www.fionamurden.com 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The psychology of a hug - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:29:45 On this week's episode we talk about why hugs matter so much. As Lou says 'A hug can speak a thousand words.' They communicate those emotions: compassion, empathy, concern, love so simply in a way that sometimes we can't get across any other way. On this week's episode we talk about why hugs matter so much. As Lou says 'A hug can speak a thousand words.' They communicate those emotions: compassion, empathy, concern, love so simply in a way that sometimes we can't get across any other way. false full 36 c76f5a16-7367-4bfc-88e9-b62f2d9173ea Models of the mind - speaking to computational neuroscientist Grace Lindsay Grace Lindsay is a computational neuroscientist currently based at University College London. She completed her PhD at the Centre for Theoretical Neuroscience at Columbia University, where her research focused on building mathematical models of how the brain controls its own sensory processing. Before that, she earned a bachelor’s degree in Neuroscience from the University of Pittsburgh and received a research fellowship to study at the Bernstein Center for Computational Neuroscience in Freiburg, Germany. She was awarded a Google PhD Fellowship in Computational Neuroscience in 2016.

 

To find out more about Grace, her book and her work click on the following link:

tinyurl.com/h9dn4bw7

 

To find out more about me, my books and my work go to:

www.fionamurden.com

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 14 May 2021 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/models-of-the-mind-speaking-to-computational-neuroscientist-grace-lindsay-q9adLa87 Grace Lindsay is a computational neuroscientist currently based at University College London. She completed her PhD at the Centre for Theoretical Neuroscience at Columbia University, where her research focused on building mathematical models of how the brain controls its own sensory processing. Before that, she earned a bachelor’s degree in Neuroscience from the University of Pittsburgh and received a research fellowship to study at the Bernstein Center for Computational Neuroscience in Freiburg, Germany. She was awarded a Google PhD Fellowship in Computational Neuroscience in 2016.

 

To find out more about Grace, her book and her work click on the following link:

tinyurl.com/h9dn4bw7

 

To find out more about me, my books and my work go to:

www.fionamurden.com

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Models of the mind - speaking to computational neuroscientist Grace Lindsay Fiona Murden 00:38:31 In this episode I speak to Grace Lindsay about what computational neuroscience is, how she reached the level she has in the field and what it feels like to be one of very few women in her area of expertise. We also talk about her book Models of the Mind. The brain is made up of 85 billion neurons which are connected by over 100 trillion synapses. The book explains how mathematical models are used to understand and describe many of the complex brain processes associated with this huge and largely unexplored network. In this episode I speak to Grace Lindsay about what computational neuroscience is, how she reached the level she has in the field and what it feels like to be one of very few women in her area of expertise. We also talk about her book Models of the Mind. The brain is made up of 85 billion neurons which are connected by over 100 trillion synapses. The book explains how mathematical models are used to understand and describe many of the complex brain processes associated with this huge and largely unexplored network. mathematical model, women in stem, computational neuroscience, female leader, biology, mind, stem, role model, sensory processing, sigma, brain, neuroscience, cutting edge, columbia university, google, university college london, neuron, psychology, neuroscientist, bloomsbury false full 35 40f9ed38-b543-4ba3-b408-620f15560030 'To do lists' why your brain loves ordered tasks - with Lou & Fi As Lou says "Some might say 'to do lists' was a boring subject but actually the more you delve into it the more interesting and fascinating it gets because they have so many benefits. Which include increased productivity, increased confidence, greater focus, being more effective because you're writing things down and warming up your brain to actually achieve them, motivation.'  

We discuss the way we use 'to do lists', individual differences, what the research tells us and how to use 'to do lists' optimally. We explore whether lists are helpful when it comes to longer ranger creative processes like writing a book, how they can be used to assist difficult conversations, using them as a mechanism to create reflective space, a reminder to look after health, well-being and relationships or simply remembering the things you need to get done.

Do you write a 'to do list'? We'd love to know. 

 

For Fiona's books - Defining You go to:

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into Fiona's more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 7 May 2021 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Lou Jones, Giles Paley-Phillips) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/to-do-lists-why-your-brain-loves-ordered-tasks-with-lou-fi-xiYasDeF As Lou says "Some might say 'to do lists' was a boring subject but actually the more you delve into it the more interesting and fascinating it gets because they have so many benefits. Which include increased productivity, increased confidence, greater focus, being more effective because you're writing things down and warming up your brain to actually achieve them, motivation.'  

We discuss the way we use 'to do lists', individual differences, what the research tells us and how to use 'to do lists' optimally. We explore whether lists are helpful when it comes to longer ranger creative processes like writing a book, how they can be used to assist difficult conversations, using them as a mechanism to create reflective space, a reminder to look after health, well-being and relationships or simply remembering the things you need to get done.

Do you write a 'to do list'? We'd love to know. 

 

For Fiona's books - Defining You go to:

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into Fiona's more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> 'To do lists' why your brain loves ordered tasks - with Lou & Fi Lou Jones, Giles Paley-Phillips 00:34:23 Why do we use 'to do lists' and do they actually help us psychologically? This week Lou and Fi talk about the multi-faceted way to-do lists can help us - from reducing daily anxiety to mental preparation in business and sport. Why do we use 'to do lists' and do they actually help us psychologically? This week Lou and Fi talk about the multi-faceted way to-do lists can help us - from reducing daily anxiety to mental preparation in business and sport. mental preparation, organisational psychology, well-being, productivity, focus, relationships, to do lists, sport psychology, psychologist, brain, psychology, confidence, anxiety, motivation false full 34 b57bfe8e-e07b-494d-8ec3-3491d569e650 Using meditation to heal trauma - Vanessa Potter Vanessa went from a high octane career as a TV producer to becoming blind and paralyzed overnight. Her journey back to health resulted in her pulling on mental resources she’d learnt previously such as techniques from hypno-birthing. Demonstrating the power of psychology in action - since then she’s been on a mission to understand more about the impact of meditation on the mind. Vanessa has worked with Cambridge University on ground breaking projects even venturing into the world of psychedelics. To hear more about Vanessa’s incredible journey tune in to this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast. 

Author, TEDx speaker & meditation advocate, Vanessa Potter used the trauma of losing her sight following a rare illness as an extraordinary visual rebirth. She became curious to understand the mechanics of her brain embarking upon a ‘meditation road trip’ exploring 10 ways to train her mind as neuroscientists recorded her brain activity. Her book, Finding My Right Mind: One Woman’s Experiment to put Meditation to the Test publishes on 29th April 2021. 

 

More info:

About my new digital courses go to: https://fionamurden.com/defining-you-digital-course/

For my books go to:

Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For my book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential 

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 30 Apr 2021 19:22:15 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/using-meditation-to-heal-trauma-vanessa-potter-04J_Cubh Vanessa went from a high octane career as a TV producer to becoming blind and paralyzed overnight. Her journey back to health resulted in her pulling on mental resources she’d learnt previously such as techniques from hypno-birthing. Demonstrating the power of psychology in action - since then she’s been on a mission to understand more about the impact of meditation on the mind. Vanessa has worked with Cambridge University on ground breaking projects even venturing into the world of psychedelics. To hear more about Vanessa’s incredible journey tune in to this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast. 

Author, TEDx speaker & meditation advocate, Vanessa Potter used the trauma of losing her sight following a rare illness as an extraordinary visual rebirth. She became curious to understand the mechanics of her brain embarking upon a ‘meditation road trip’ exploring 10 ways to train her mind as neuroscientists recorded her brain activity. Her book, Finding My Right Mind: One Woman’s Experiment to put Meditation to the Test publishes on 29th April 2021. 

 

More info:

About my new digital courses go to: https://fionamurden.com/defining-you-digital-course/

For my books go to:

Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For my book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential 

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Using meditation to heal trauma - Vanessa Potter Fiona Murden 00:59:13 Lying in a hospital bed unable to either see or move Vanessa found that the only thing she could take control of was her own thinking. And that, when you’re terrified of what’s happening to you and why is not an easy thing to do. Lying in a hospital bed unable to either see or move Vanessa found that the only thing she could take control of was her own thinking. And that, when you’re terrified of what’s happening to you and why is not an easy thing to do. mind, curious, meditation, hypnosis, tedx, author, brain, neuroscience, curiosity, psychology, visualisation false full 33 00f12437-875c-4133-8ec3-038b0febe9b6 Want to know how to be happier? Dr. Russ Harris has the answers Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus eight other books).

He started his career as a doctor back in 1989, and soon discovered that most of his patients were expressing a significant degree of dissatisfaction in life; most of what was wrong was psychologically based. He strongly related to their struggles, because he was experiencing something similar himself.

"Despite the fact that I had a successful career with a dream job, good income and high status, he was depressed, anxious, and overweight. He felt his life lacked a sense of meaning and purpose, and at times was even suicidal."

He just couldn’t understand why he felt this way. He had achieved all the goals that society says tells us will make us feel happy. But it wasn’t working. And he wanted to know why. One thing was for sure, simplistic stories that it was all due to an unhappy childhood or too much negative thinking or a chemical imbalance in my brain were definitely not the answer.

So he set off on a journey to find out a) what makes people unhappy, and b) far more importantly, what creates genuine and lasting happiness. He looked first to psychiatry - a natural stepping stone from medicine and then psychology but not wanting to study for another 5 years he continued to explore off his own back. And in his own words that journey took him down a lot of blind alleys and dead ends. But eventually, it led him to ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

The moment he discovered this therapy, he fell deeply in love with it. It had a huge and profound impact on his life. Almost instantly, he began to develop a deep sense of purpose and meaning.

He found how to enrich and enhance his life, and transform the way he dealt with painful thoughts and feelings. He built a stronger connection with himself and others, which led him to feel that sense of warmth, closeness, belonging he’d been searching for all those years.

To make use of ACT (in a non clinical / everyday manner) and find a partner to work through your own journey with go to the Oka Platform at Oka.Life

 

Links to the books referred to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

The Reality Slap 2nd Edition: How to survive and thrive when life hits hard by Russ Harris 

Defining You How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential by Fiona Murden https://amzn.to/2QbFlbh

Man’s Search for Meaning Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust by Vicktor E Frankl

Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human by Fiona Murden 

https://bit.ly/mirrorthink

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Fri, 16 Apr 2021 10:12:35 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/russ-harris-doctor-therapist-international-best-selling-author-pF2zpyAq Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus eight other books).

He started his career as a doctor back in 1989, and soon discovered that most of his patients were expressing a significant degree of dissatisfaction in life; most of what was wrong was psychologically based. He strongly related to their struggles, because he was experiencing something similar himself.

"Despite the fact that I had a successful career with a dream job, good income and high status, he was depressed, anxious, and overweight. He felt his life lacked a sense of meaning and purpose, and at times was even suicidal."

He just couldn’t understand why he felt this way. He had achieved all the goals that society says tells us will make us feel happy. But it wasn’t working. And he wanted to know why. One thing was for sure, simplistic stories that it was all due to an unhappy childhood or too much negative thinking or a chemical imbalance in my brain were definitely not the answer.

So he set off on a journey to find out a) what makes people unhappy, and b) far more importantly, what creates genuine and lasting happiness. He looked first to psychiatry - a natural stepping stone from medicine and then psychology but not wanting to study for another 5 years he continued to explore off his own back. And in his own words that journey took him down a lot of blind alleys and dead ends. But eventually, it led him to ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

The moment he discovered this therapy, he fell deeply in love with it. It had a huge and profound impact on his life. Almost instantly, he began to develop a deep sense of purpose and meaning.

He found how to enrich and enhance his life, and transform the way he dealt with painful thoughts and feelings. He built a stronger connection with himself and others, which led him to feel that sense of warmth, closeness, belonging he’d been searching for all those years.

To make use of ACT (in a non clinical / everyday manner) and find a partner to work through your own journey with go to the Oka Platform at Oka.Life

 

Links to the books referred to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

The Reality Slap 2nd Edition: How to survive and thrive when life hits hard by Russ Harris 

Defining You How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential by Fiona Murden https://amzn.to/2QbFlbh

Man’s Search for Meaning Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust by Vicktor E Frankl

Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human by Fiona Murden 

https://bit.ly/mirrorthink

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Want to know how to be happier? Dr. Russ Harris has the answers Fiona Murden 00:50:24 Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist & international best-selling author. He's also hugely passionate, funny and insightful. The approach of ACT which is Russ’s lifeblood is something I first studied and thought was utterly brilliant back in 2003 when I was doing my psychology MSc. It was however so difficult to translate the theory and concepts into something useable. That is what Harris has done – opening it up to literally thousands of people around the world. From every day folk with every day problems through to working with the World Health Organisation helping refugees in Uganda, Syria and Turkey. Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist & international best-selling author. He's also hugely passionate, funny and insightful. The approach of ACT which is Russ’s lifeblood is something I first studied and thought was utterly brilliant back in 2003 when I was doing my psychology MSc. It was however so difficult to translate the theory and concepts into something useable. That is what Harris has done – opening it up to literally thousands of people around the world. From every day folk with every day problems through to working with the World Health Organisation helping refugees in Uganda, Syria and Turkey. false full 22 09fa571f-a6aa-4774-bf68-0a505e1b311c How to let go of emotions & experiences with Lou & Fi Sports psychologist Lou Jones and I discuss how fighting with emotions just makes them worse. How it doesn't feel natural to just leave things because we're taught to 'fix things' in the outside world all of the time, but it's not the best way to deal with emotions. We will always have emotions, because it's part of being human and that's how we work so it's a life long journey to learn how we can manage those in our world in order to achieve the things we want to. We're not always going to get it right - it's about learning as we go and constantly noticing that we're on this journey. 

Lou says 'I really enjoy learning about myself, it helps me to have a more satisfying life.' I do too but it's taken a long time, even as a psychologist, to realise that's what I needed to do. How about you?

 

To learn more about 'being you' sign up to the Defining You digital course which comes out in May with the release of the 2nd edition of the book. To add your name to the wait list please contact lorna.walls@aroka.co.uk 

Here are some things that people who went on the pilot said: 

"The Defining You course made me think about past experiences (childhood, university and early career) in a new, more profound way.  It has made me reconsider scenarios from my past and has helped me see them for what they were and how they shaped my future even into my life today.  For me, it has been genuinely revelatory and I really didn't want the course to end.  I am still a work in progress but feel better equipped to look at the past, present and future."

“A brilliant and thought-provoking course and a great introduction to personal reflection and development. The group coaching sessions were welcoming, non-invasive and entirely inspirational. From a practical point of view, the learning format worked perfectly for me. The book is great for reference and the online material is broken down into really digestible and engaging videos and exercises. At no point did I feel under pressure to have completed the exercises or watch the material! It really was a case of “go at your own pace and have fun with it”. If you’re at a point in your life where you want to understand “how did I get here? And where do I go next?” I really recommend this programme.”

"It pushed me out of comfort zone and I started to feel more confident in fully participating towards the end. It has been a cathartic process because I started not to worry about what everyone else was thinking, and more about myself – not something that has ever come naturally to me. For the first time in 59 years I think I have become far more self aware and accepting of myself but also very encouraged there is still time for development!"

        

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Mon, 22 Mar 2021 17:41:09 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-letting-go-So4H7_nz Sports psychologist Lou Jones and I discuss how fighting with emotions just makes them worse. How it doesn't feel natural to just leave things because we're taught to 'fix things' in the outside world all of the time, but it's not the best way to deal with emotions. We will always have emotions, because it's part of being human and that's how we work so it's a life long journey to learn how we can manage those in our world in order to achieve the things we want to. We're not always going to get it right - it's about learning as we go and constantly noticing that we're on this journey. 

Lou says 'I really enjoy learning about myself, it helps me to have a more satisfying life.' I do too but it's taken a long time, even as a psychologist, to realise that's what I needed to do. How about you?

 

To learn more about 'being you' sign up to the Defining You digital course which comes out in May with the release of the 2nd edition of the book. To add your name to the wait list please contact lorna.walls@aroka.co.uk 

Here are some things that people who went on the pilot said: 

"The Defining You course made me think about past experiences (childhood, university and early career) in a new, more profound way.  It has made me reconsider scenarios from my past and has helped me see them for what they were and how they shaped my future even into my life today.  For me, it has been genuinely revelatory and I really didn't want the course to end.  I am still a work in progress but feel better equipped to look at the past, present and future."

“A brilliant and thought-provoking course and a great introduction to personal reflection and development. The group coaching sessions were welcoming, non-invasive and entirely inspirational. From a practical point of view, the learning format worked perfectly for me. The book is great for reference and the online material is broken down into really digestible and engaging videos and exercises. At no point did I feel under pressure to have completed the exercises or watch the material! It really was a case of “go at your own pace and have fun with it”. If you’re at a point in your life where you want to understand “how did I get here? And where do I go next?” I really recommend this programme.”

"It pushed me out of comfort zone and I started to feel more confident in fully participating towards the end. It has been a cathartic process because I started not to worry about what everyone else was thinking, and more about myself – not something that has ever come naturally to me. For the first time in 59 years I think I have become far more self aware and accepting of myself but also very encouraged there is still time for development!"

        

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to let go of emotions & experiences with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:36:56 This week we talk about letting go. How do we let go of emotions from genuine trauma to those feelings of guilt, embarrassment or other emotions relating to past actions and behaviours? This week we talk about letting go. How do we let go of emotions from genuine trauma to those feelings of guilt, embarrassment or other emotions relating to past actions and behaviours? personaldevelopment, purpose, emotionalintellegence, emotionallife, meaning, selfawareness, life, learning, emotion, trauma, psychology, insight false full 24 30390474-2cad-4ca7-9326-397ee8f5d6ab The power of visualisation & imagery with Lou & Fi Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:01:05 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-visualisation-and-imagery-XPl0sV_z The power of visualisation & imagery with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:35:07 This week Lou and I speak about how imagery and visualisation are used in sport and other areas of performance such as leadership in order to work toward success. How it's not just magic but based on science and how you can do it for yourself in your own life This week Lou and I speak about how imagery and visualisation are used in sport and other areas of performance such as leadership in order to work toward success. How it's not just magic but based on science and how you can do it for yourself in your own life false full 25 c4f92b45-bea4-4f0d-8f76-1402e6a132bd The power of mulling things over with Lou & Fi We discuss how this has applied to my work in profiling and analysing people, helping me to get clearer and more accurate judgements. And how it applies to Lou’s work in sport. Lou explains that although athletes want to do an analysis immediately after an event, leaving it a) prevents the emotional response to their performance detracting from what they may learn and b) gives the brain time to process, understand and explore it. As a result, mulling it over provides the space to provide a far more powerful experience for that athlete. 

We also talk about how it helps us all in everyday life. And how we need to give ourselves permission to mull things over.

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]]> Wed, 6 Jan 2021 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-the-power-of-mulling-things-over-ULRDuKS0 We discuss how this has applied to my work in profiling and analysing people, helping me to get clearer and more accurate judgements. And how it applies to Lou’s work in sport. Lou explains that although athletes want to do an analysis immediately after an event, leaving it a) prevents the emotional response to their performance detracting from what they may learn and b) gives the brain time to process, understand and explore it. As a result, mulling it over provides the space to provide a far more powerful experience for that athlete. 

We also talk about how it helps us all in everyday life. And how we need to give ourselves permission to mull things over.

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> The power of mulling things over with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:29:49 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about the power of mulling things over, how a bit of a break gives our brain the chance to breath, how to make good use of this and avoiding taking it in the wrong direction. This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about the power of mulling things over, how a bit of a break gives our brain the chance to breath, how to make good use of this and avoiding taking it in the wrong direction. personaldevelopment, pause, emotions, refection, success, behavior, thinkingtime, mentalhealth, performancepsychology, brain, psychlogists, thinking, thoughts, behaviour, psychology, wellbeing, performance, improvedperformance false full 21 d0d0f888-617d-4fc6-a698-ddb8a7d224aa How to live a happy and fulfilled life with Dr. Radha Modgil This week I talk to Radha about her journey including the importance of family, studying at Cambridge and Imperial, working as a hospital doctor, a GP, teaching medical students AND everything covered below. Radha shares a bit about her own level of self-awareness, learning what she likes and doesn't like and how to continually use that to navigate a healthy and fulfilling life. 

 

Radha has appeared as the medical reporter for The Sex Education Show Ch4 and Make My Body Younger BBC Three. She has been the resident GP for the daytime show Live with Gabby on CH5 and for Newsround CBBC. She has also reported on ITV’s This Morning, BBC Breakfast, ITV Tonight, Channel 5 News and ITN News.

 

Working across all platforms Dr Radha contributes to online projects including BBC Bitesize, BBC Teach, BBC Own It, BBC Advice Pages and BBC Learning. She has also been broadcast on BBC Radio1’s daytime show, BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 5 Live, BBC Asian Network, LBC and Radio 1’s Newsbeat.

 

Currently writing for Top of the Pops magazine, Radha has been a columnist for the i newspaper, Woman’s Own & MSN Lifestyle. She has written for Female First and Bliss magazine. She has also contributed to multiple books supporting young people & parents. She has a particular interest in young people’s health & supporting parents, and has worked on campaigns with BBC Children in Need, Public Health England, MIND, British Heart Foundation, JDRF, The Mix  and the NHS Youth Forum. She has spoken at many events, including the NHS Health & Care Innovation Expo, at Camp Bestival & for the BBC Children in Need Mental Health Panel Discussion.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 30 Dec 2020 14:37:50 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-radha-modgil-doctor-broadcaster-author-iL4c8ko5 This week I talk to Radha about her journey including the importance of family, studying at Cambridge and Imperial, working as a hospital doctor, a GP, teaching medical students AND everything covered below. Radha shares a bit about her own level of self-awareness, learning what she likes and doesn't like and how to continually use that to navigate a healthy and fulfilling life. 

 

Radha has appeared as the medical reporter for The Sex Education Show Ch4 and Make My Body Younger BBC Three. She has been the resident GP for the daytime show Live with Gabby on CH5 and for Newsround CBBC. She has also reported on ITV’s This Morning, BBC Breakfast, ITV Tonight, Channel 5 News and ITN News.

 

Working across all platforms Dr Radha contributes to online projects including BBC Bitesize, BBC Teach, BBC Own It, BBC Advice Pages and BBC Learning. She has also been broadcast on BBC Radio1’s daytime show, BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 5 Live, BBC Asian Network, LBC and Radio 1’s Newsbeat.

 

Currently writing for Top of the Pops magazine, Radha has been a columnist for the i newspaper, Woman’s Own & MSN Lifestyle. She has written for Female First and Bliss magazine. She has also contributed to multiple books supporting young people & parents. She has a particular interest in young people’s health & supporting parents, and has worked on campaigns with BBC Children in Need, Public Health England, MIND, British Heart Foundation, JDRF, The Mix  and the NHS Youth Forum. She has spoken at many events, including the NHS Health & Care Innovation Expo, at Camp Bestival & for the BBC Children in Need Mental Health Panel Discussion.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to live a happy and fulfilled life with Dr. Radha Modgil Fiona Murden 00:49:28 Dr. Radha is a practising NHS GP, broadcaster & campaigner for wellbeing. Radha is the medical expert for BBC Radio1’s daytime show, Life Hacks and the co-presenter of their weekly Life Hacks Podcast. She was the presenter of the CBeebies show Feeling Better, and for the BBC Bitesize series ‘Exam Survivors’ on BBC Sounds. Dr. Radha is a practising NHS GP, broadcaster & campaigner for wellbeing. Radha is the medical expert for BBC Radio1’s daytime show, Life Hacks and the co-presenter of their weekly Life Hacks Podcast. She was the presenter of the CBeebies show Feeling Better, and for the BBC Bitesize series ‘Exam Survivors’ on BBC Sounds. cbeebies, personaldevelopment, mentalhealthawareness, mind, nhsyouthforum, personalgrowth, bbcbitesize, doctor, broadcaster, cbbc, mentalhealth, radio1newsbeat, lifejourney, bbcradio1, presenter, rolemodel, wellbeing, self-awareness false full 20 53bccd53-8534-4df2-91f7-81d4d37d983f What self-awareness means to you with Lou & Fi Even if you think you’re already self-aware it’s still something that need revisiting and refreshing. It’s worth looking at your personal narrative to think through who you are, what your preferences are and what’s happening in your world. This week Lou and I talk about exploring your personal narrative, passions and strengths and making sure that they are part of who you are on a daily basis. We also how talk about how discussing these things out loud makes a world of difference in terms of how we understand them. 

We cover how your values, meaning and purpose all underpin and add to your self-awareness. And how we can lose sight of this when we become focussed on outcome orientated processes such as bonuses at work, projects we need to complete or people we’re trying to impress. How they stop us from doing what’s important to us as a person, what gives us the energy and passion to thrive in life. 

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 16 Dec 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-what-does-self-awareness-mean-to-you-_ilGfRf6 Even if you think you’re already self-aware it’s still something that need revisiting and refreshing. It’s worth looking at your personal narrative to think through who you are, what your preferences are and what’s happening in your world. This week Lou and I talk about exploring your personal narrative, passions and strengths and making sure that they are part of who you are on a daily basis. We also how talk about how discussing these things out loud makes a world of difference in terms of how we understand them. 

We cover how your values, meaning and purpose all underpin and add to your self-awareness. And how we can lose sight of this when we become focussed on outcome orientated processes such as bonuses at work, projects we need to complete or people we’re trying to impress. How they stop us from doing what’s important to us as a person, what gives us the energy and passion to thrive in life. 

For updates, news and info sign up to my newsletter at:

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Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What self-awareness means to you with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:34:27 “You don’t have to be ill to get better.” Lou ends this episode with this quote which I love. The final part of our series on self-awareness – something that you don’t have to have but life will be so much better if you do. What do you need to learn in order to not only become more self-aware but enjoy all of the benefits that brings? Being the best version of yourself. How do you get better at being you and living a more fulfilled life? “You don’t have to be ill to get better.” Lou ends this episode with this quote which I love. The final part of our series on self-awareness – something that you don’t have to have but life will be so much better if you do. What do you need to learn in order to not only become more self-aware but enjoy all of the benefits that brings? Being the best version of yourself. How do you get better at being you and living a more fulfilled life? psychologists, personaldevelopment, leadership, success, growth, selfaware, life, development, worklife, strengths, values, psychology, thrive, passions, self-awareness true full 26 60a457a1-b272-4464-802f-1c47ba0eed6e Where do you fit in your world? We talk about asking for feedback and how to do it in a way that is constructive and doesn’t make you or the person you’re asking feel awkward. That celebrating small successes through giving people feedback is really important to let them know how they’re doing and to keep them motivated. We discuss the timing of giving feedback - when should you give it for optimum impact? 

We also discuss other ways of collecting data about yourself and how you’re doing like video analysis, audio analysis or simply observing how people are responding to you and your mood. And finally we touch on fixed and growth mindset and how that matters both in terms of receiving feedback but also with regard to who is giving it to you and what you make of the information. 

 

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]]> Wed, 25 Nov 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-your-world-feedback-i6jEHtTT We talk about asking for feedback and how to do it in a way that is constructive and doesn’t make you or the person you’re asking feel awkward. That celebrating small successes through giving people feedback is really important to let them know how they’re doing and to keep them motivated. We discuss the timing of giving feedback - when should you give it for optimum impact? 

We also discuss other ways of collecting data about yourself and how you’re doing like video analysis, audio analysis or simply observing how people are responding to you and your mood. And finally we touch on fixed and growth mindset and how that matters both in terms of receiving feedback but also with regard to who is giving it to you and what you make of the information. 

 

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Where do you fit in your world? Fiona Murden 00:41:54 This week Lou Jones and I talk about the third part of our self-awareness series, feedback and how important it is for YOU. Why? Because as Lou says feedback is one of the biggest tools of increasing your self-awareness. We simply don’t know how we’re doing without it. And self-awareness brings huge benefits from greater wellbeing through to higher performance and success. This week Lou Jones and I talk about the third part of our self-awareness series, feedback and how important it is for YOU. Why? Because as Lou says feedback is one of the biggest tools of increasing your self-awareness. We simply don’t know how we’re doing without it. And self-awareness brings huge benefits from greater wellbeing through to higher performance and success. false full 23 2f182697-63b8-4709-8485-e8a03b1c511a How to stress less using neuroscience with Dr. Juna Bobby Some of the topics we explore this week:

How awareness is the basis for everything, followed by attention and motivation. Juna talks about neuroplasticity – that you can change your brain and knowing this immediately brings up your levels of attention of what you can change about yourself. That motivation has a neurochemical component to it which increases your ability to change the neuronal connections in your brain. And that knowing all of this gives people hope Juna says “when you know that something is possible you open your brain up to all these new ways of working and that’s really what learning is about – learning changes your brain.”

Dr. Juna Bobby, is a mom of two amazing kids and a physician specializing in Mind-Body Medicine. 

Juna's passion is to guide youth, at critical times in their brain development, through the science-backed skills of being happy, staying well, and having that extra edge. She founded MindBodySpace LLC to coach high potential teens, students of all ages, parents, and educators.

She is a faculty member at The Juilliard School PC in Manhattan, teaching The Science of Resilience Program. She is also a frequent guest lecturer at Manhattan School of Music. For four years, she created the Wellness program and Exam Performance Workshops at NYU School of Medicine and Columbia Law School. She holds workshops at many schools and organizations, in addition to coaching private students. 

Juna is a board-certified graduate of the NYU School of Medicine, where she also completed her residency and fellowship training. She has extensive training in mind-body practices including, completing a program at the Benson Henry Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard Medical School, to become a Certified Practitioner for Stress Management and Resiliency.

 

Connect with Juna:

Juna Bobby M.D. - Mind-Body Medicine

Listen: Rx Chill Pill Podcast: Meditate Your Brain to Resilience

Email:  podcast@mindbodyspace.com
• with questions for Juna and Guests for Q&A Thursdays 
• guest or topic you want to suggest

Stressed? Need to Focus?

Meditate with Juna over at Juna Bobby MD on Insight Timer

CONNECT WITH JUNA: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn  

Or to connect with Fiona go to: www.fionamurden.com 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 18 Nov 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-juna-bobby-mind-body-medicine-q_tcr2dF Some of the topics we explore this week:

How awareness is the basis for everything, followed by attention and motivation. Juna talks about neuroplasticity – that you can change your brain and knowing this immediately brings up your levels of attention of what you can change about yourself. That motivation has a neurochemical component to it which increases your ability to change the neuronal connections in your brain. And that knowing all of this gives people hope Juna says “when you know that something is possible you open your brain up to all these new ways of working and that’s really what learning is about – learning changes your brain.”

Dr. Juna Bobby, is a mom of two amazing kids and a physician specializing in Mind-Body Medicine. 

Juna's passion is to guide youth, at critical times in their brain development, through the science-backed skills of being happy, staying well, and having that extra edge. She founded MindBodySpace LLC to coach high potential teens, students of all ages, parents, and educators.

She is a faculty member at The Juilliard School PC in Manhattan, teaching The Science of Resilience Program. She is also a frequent guest lecturer at Manhattan School of Music. For four years, she created the Wellness program and Exam Performance Workshops at NYU School of Medicine and Columbia Law School. She holds workshops at many schools and organizations, in addition to coaching private students. 

Juna is a board-certified graduate of the NYU School of Medicine, where she also completed her residency and fellowship training. She has extensive training in mind-body practices including, completing a program at the Benson Henry Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard Medical School, to become a Certified Practitioner for Stress Management and Resiliency.

 

Connect with Juna:

Juna Bobby M.D. - Mind-Body Medicine

Listen: Rx Chill Pill Podcast: Meditate Your Brain to Resilience

Email:  podcast@mindbodyspace.com
• with questions for Juna and Guests for Q&A Thursdays 
• guest or topic you want to suggest

Stressed? Need to Focus?

Meditate with Juna over at Juna Bobby MD on Insight Timer

CONNECT WITH JUNA: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn  

Or to connect with Fiona go to: www.fionamurden.com 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> How to stress less using neuroscience with Dr. Juna Bobby Fiona Murden 00:37:43 On this week’s episode I speak to Dr. Juna Bobby whose mission it is to help you stress less and be more all through the power of neuroscience. Dr. Bobby’s podcast RX Chill Pill, Meditate Your Brain shares powerful science backed antidotes to stress that actually work, speaking to ‘the right dose of experts’, inspiring stories of resilience and positive mind shifts that you can apply to you life. And I have her right here doing the same for you. On this week’s episode I speak to Dr. Juna Bobby whose mission it is to help you stress less and be more all through the power of neuroscience. Dr. Bobby’s podcast RX Chill Pill, Meditate Your Brain shares powerful science backed antidotes to stress that actually work, speaking to ‘the right dose of experts’, inspiring stories of resilience and positive mind shifts that you can apply to you life. And I have her right here doing the same for you. meditation, meditate, selfawareness, focus, stress, awareness, resilience, neuroscience, emotion, attention, motivation false full 19 dee83085-cb32-4c1f-8ef3-7ff91ef7ee10 Self-Awareness & the Brain with Lou & Fi We discuss the fact that we are thrown so many words of advice on how to think, feel and approach things but in order to really optimise how they help us we need to understand the ‘why’. Lou says "If you’re doing something for some random reason, even if it’s helped you, you may not ever return to it again. But if you see it within the bigger picture it’s another matter entirely."

That you don’t need to be a neuroscientist to understand the basic structure of the brain in a way that’s helpful (with a word of warning – do take your advice from people who actually know what they’re talking about). We explore Dr. Russ Harris’s approach and talk about how to go about knowing more about the functioning of the brain.  I love that Harris describes our brain as a ‘don’t get killed device.’ 

That one of the biggest misconceptions about the brain is that we can control our thoughts and what we’re feeling - but we can’t. Without even realising it we are brought up to believe that we can – and should be able to control our thoughts and feelings e.g. don’t cry, pull yourself together, don’t be scared. There are some things we can control but this requires a nuanced understanding. 

Distinguishing between which of the stories that your brain tells you on a continual loop are actually helpful and which to disregard. As Harris says our thoughts are  "like a radio that never stops broadcasting" – so it’s good to be able to distinguish between different types. 

Also learning that thoughts and feelings are a bit like songs you don’t like on the radio. It’s best to accept that the song you don’t like will pass and that the best thing to do in the meantime is concentrate on what you’re doing. Before you know it music you like will be back on again. That rather than putting effort into fighting our thoughts and emotions, learning how to observe them and let them go is far more constructive. 

That while we all share the same brain structure (meaning evidence based techniques will be most helpful), you are still uniquely you. In Lou’s words “there has never been a research study on you, your brain and how you function in each of the contexts in your world.” So finding out what really works for you requires a bit of a bit of trial and error, explored in a non-judgemental way. 

That we use the neocortex, the more advanced part of our brain, to try and ‘fix’ the limbic system and that just doesn’t work. Instead it gets us tied in knots. 

But that ultimately it's all OK. If you know what to do and how to do it there are a load of strategies that really help. The most simple being just naming emotions (that evidence shows move us from the limbic system to the neocortex allowing us to take a step back), journaling and over the longer term building the capabilities taught in fantastic apps such as headspace. 

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Russ Harris’s books which are brilliant resources are as follows:

The Happiness Trap – How to Stop Struggling and Start Living

The Confidence Gap – From Fear to Freedom 

The Reality Slap – How to Survive and Thrive When Life Hits Hard

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 11 Nov 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-self-awareness-the-brain-oOEHGNFy We discuss the fact that we are thrown so many words of advice on how to think, feel and approach things but in order to really optimise how they help us we need to understand the ‘why’. Lou says "If you’re doing something for some random reason, even if it’s helped you, you may not ever return to it again. But if you see it within the bigger picture it’s another matter entirely."

That you don’t need to be a neuroscientist to understand the basic structure of the brain in a way that’s helpful (with a word of warning – do take your advice from people who actually know what they’re talking about). We explore Dr. Russ Harris’s approach and talk about how to go about knowing more about the functioning of the brain.  I love that Harris describes our brain as a ‘don’t get killed device.’ 

That one of the biggest misconceptions about the brain is that we can control our thoughts and what we’re feeling - but we can’t. Without even realising it we are brought up to believe that we can – and should be able to control our thoughts and feelings e.g. don’t cry, pull yourself together, don’t be scared. There are some things we can control but this requires a nuanced understanding. 

Distinguishing between which of the stories that your brain tells you on a continual loop are actually helpful and which to disregard. As Harris says our thoughts are  "like a radio that never stops broadcasting" – so it’s good to be able to distinguish between different types. 

Also learning that thoughts and feelings are a bit like songs you don’t like on the radio. It’s best to accept that the song you don’t like will pass and that the best thing to do in the meantime is concentrate on what you’re doing. Before you know it music you like will be back on again. That rather than putting effort into fighting our thoughts and emotions, learning how to observe them and let them go is far more constructive. 

That while we all share the same brain structure (meaning evidence based techniques will be most helpful), you are still uniquely you. In Lou’s words “there has never been a research study on you, your brain and how you function in each of the contexts in your world.” So finding out what really works for you requires a bit of a bit of trial and error, explored in a non-judgemental way. 

That we use the neocortex, the more advanced part of our brain, to try and ‘fix’ the limbic system and that just doesn’t work. Instead it gets us tied in knots. 

But that ultimately it's all OK. If you know what to do and how to do it there are a load of strategies that really help. The most simple being just naming emotions (that evidence shows move us from the limbic system to the neocortex allowing us to take a step back), journaling and over the longer term building the capabilities taught in fantastic apps such as headspace. 

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Russ Harris’s books which are brilliant resources are as follows:

The Happiness Trap – How to Stop Struggling and Start Living

The Confidence Gap – From Fear to Freedom 

The Reality Slap – How to Survive and Thrive When Life Hits Hard

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]]> Self-Awareness & the Brain with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:39:38 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about the first step to self-awareness which is understanding your brain. We also explain why we need to know how the brain works (step 1 of self-awareness), how ‘you’ fit into your world (step 2 of self-awareness) and how to explore and understand yourself (step 3 of self-awareness) in order to become really self-aware and reap all of the amazing benefits that it brings. This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about the first step to self-awareness which is understanding your brain. We also explain why we need to know how the brain works (step 1 of self-awareness), how ‘you’ fit into your world (step 2 of self-awareness) and how to explore and understand yourself (step 3 of self-awareness) in order to become really self-aware and reap all of the amazing benefits that it brings. psychologists, emotions, behavioralscience, advice, selfawareness, techniques, behaviouralscience, brain, neuroscience, brainscience, psychology false full 18 1f8488a6-60c8-4e00-9269-fd9e529d7968 Why Self-Awareness is Critical to Success with Dr. Tasha Eurich We discuss how self-awareness is a business imperative from a financial standpoint. Companies who have a higher number of self-aware people are more financially successful and have better returns. Leaders who are self-aware are more effective and promotable. Leaders who are not self-aware are 600 times more likely to derail. Also how to become more self-aware and the fact that while it does take time getting their doesn’t have to be a painful slog.  

We also explore how Tasha got to where she is today as the principal of The Eurich Group, a boutique executive development firm that helps companies— from start-ups to the Fortune 100—succeed by improving the effectiveness of their leaders and teams. Dr. Eurich has worked directly with tens of thousands of leaders and spoken live to hundreds of thousands more, on every continent but Antarctica. Her clients include Google, Salesforce, the NBA, IBM, Walmart, and the White House Leadership Development Program. 

Dr. Eurich’s first book, Bankable Leadership, debuted at #8 on The New York Times bestseller list in 2013. Her latest book, Insight, explores the connection between self-awareness and success. Brené Brown selected Insight as one of her Leadership / Business books, and famed Wharton professor Adam Grant calls it one of the three books he recommends most often. 

Dr. Eurich contributes to Harvard Business Review, and her work has been featured in outlets like The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Fast Company, and Forbes. Her TEDx talks have been viewed more than seven million times. 

For more on Tasha please go to

https://thefuturereadyleader.com/.

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www.fionamurden.com where you can sign up to my newsletter for tips, tools and updates on the latest podcast episodes. 

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]]> Wed, 4 Nov 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-tasha-eurich-new-york-times-best-selling-author-psychologist-ys6PDfHP We discuss how self-awareness is a business imperative from a financial standpoint. Companies who have a higher number of self-aware people are more financially successful and have better returns. Leaders who are self-aware are more effective and promotable. Leaders who are not self-aware are 600 times more likely to derail. Also how to become more self-aware and the fact that while it does take time getting their doesn’t have to be a painful slog.  

We also explore how Tasha got to where she is today as the principal of The Eurich Group, a boutique executive development firm that helps companies— from start-ups to the Fortune 100—succeed by improving the effectiveness of their leaders and teams. Dr. Eurich has worked directly with tens of thousands of leaders and spoken live to hundreds of thousands more, on every continent but Antarctica. Her clients include Google, Salesforce, the NBA, IBM, Walmart, and the White House Leadership Development Program. 

Dr. Eurich’s first book, Bankable Leadership, debuted at #8 on The New York Times bestseller list in 2013. Her latest book, Insight, explores the connection between self-awareness and success. Brené Brown selected Insight as one of her Leadership / Business books, and famed Wharton professor Adam Grant calls it one of the three books he recommends most often. 

Dr. Eurich contributes to Harvard Business Review, and her work has been featured in outlets like The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Fast Company, and Forbes. Her TEDx talks have been viewed more than seven million times. 

For more on Tasha please go to

https://thefuturereadyleader.com/.

And for me 

www.fionamurden.com where you can sign up to my newsletter for tips, tools and updates on the latest podcast episodes. 

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]]> Why Self-Awareness is Critical to Success with Dr. Tasha Eurich Fiona Murden 00:52:36 This week I speak to Dr. Tasha Eurich an organizational psychologist, executive coach, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author. Globally recognized as the #1 self-awareness coach Tasha says ‘There’s pretty much isn’t any positive outcome that better self-awareness doesn’t impact.’ She calls it a ‘meta skill’ for the 21st Century that’s not just about being effective at work but living and meaningful, fulfilling life. This week I speak to Dr. Tasha Eurich an organizational psychologist, executive coach, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author. Globally recognized as the #1 self-awareness coach Tasha says ‘There’s pretty much isn’t any positive outcome that better self-awareness doesn’t impact.’ She calls it a ‘meta skill’ for the 21st Century that’s not just about being effective at work but living and meaningful, fulfilling life. leadership, success, newyorktimes, selfawareness, hersuccess, bestsellingauthor, bankableleadership, meanginfullife, newyorktimesbestseller, financialsuccess, yourjourney, hissuccess, insight false full 17 1519f5ea-4b3e-4241-a68c-83108e8279d2 Understanding Self Awareness 'Knowing you, Knowing me' with Lou & Fi Some of the things we talk about. Why it’s something that most of us think we have (95% of people according to the research by the fabulous Dr. Tasha Eurich who is next week’s guest) but few of us really do (10-15% of people). Why it’s critical to performance and so many other areas of life making you both healthier and more effective. 

 

Why it isn’t just something you can put on your to do list and how Covid is getting in the way of the moments we do normally have to reflect. We talk about how self-aware leaders are, elite athletes and celebrities and what it means to each of them. Why it’s hard to really explore on your own and how a mentor can help. 

 

 

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]]> Wed, 28 Oct 2020 14:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/talking-about-knowing-you-knowing-me-self-awareness-rzUGd768 Some of the things we talk about. Why it’s something that most of us think we have (95% of people according to the research by the fabulous Dr. Tasha Eurich who is next week’s guest) but few of us really do (10-15% of people). Why it’s critical to performance and so many other areas of life making you both healthier and more effective. 

 

Why it isn’t just something you can put on your to do list and how Covid is getting in the way of the moments we do normally have to reflect. We talk about how self-aware leaders are, elite athletes and celebrities and what it means to each of them. Why it’s hard to really explore on your own and how a mentor can help. 

 

 

For more tips and tools sign up to my newsletter atwww.fionamurden.com 

Find Lou at 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Understanding Self Awareness 'Knowing you, Knowing me' with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:35:53 This week psychologist Lou Jones and I are talking about that elusive concept self-awareness. Or as I like to call it knowing you, knowing me. What exactly is self-awareness? Why does it matter and how can you improve your own levels of self-awareness? This is the first in a 4 part series in which we answer these questions. This week psychologist Lou Jones and I are talking about that elusive concept self-awareness. Or as I like to call it knowing you, knowing me. What exactly is self-awareness? Why does it matter and how can you improve your own levels of self-awareness? This is the first in a 4 part series in which we answer these questions. mentor, personaldevelopment, happier, leadership, selfawareness, psychologist, awareness, mentalhealth, personaldevelopmentjourney, psychology, wellbeing, performance false full 16 2f953b0f-7786-4959-afd1-2551e0c8f2f5 Behavioural Science in Action with Erez Yoeli - research scientist M.I.T Nudges to make better decisions but who for - whether we are manipulating people to do things that aren’t good for them or that are, there are moral implications behind nudges and behavioural norms. We also discuss interesting things like recycling being more of a problem because people recycle too much of the wrong thing and what to do about it, how social media has influenced movements like me too and making people feel like they’re living as if they were a brand. Erez has so many interesting things to share. If you’re interested in practical applications and staying up to date with the ACT’s activities follow on Facebook and Twitter. 

 

Or can subscribe to their newsletter on the role of hidden incentives in shaping our sense of rights, aesthetics, altruism, and ethics.

 

And if you’re interested in collaborating with ACT? Please email them describing yourself, your organization, and the problem you are trying to solve. 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

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]]> Wed, 21 Oct 2020 16:47:43 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/erez-yoeli-research-scientist-mit-AwB6RpjT Nudges to make better decisions but who for - whether we are manipulating people to do things that aren’t good for them or that are, there are moral implications behind nudges and behavioural norms. We also discuss interesting things like recycling being more of a problem because people recycle too much of the wrong thing and what to do about it, how social media has influenced movements like me too and making people feel like they’re living as if they were a brand. Erez has so many interesting things to share. If you’re interested in practical applications and staying up to date with the ACT’s activities follow on Facebook and Twitter. 

 

Or can subscribe to their newsletter on the role of hidden incentives in shaping our sense of rights, aesthetics, altruism, and ethics.

 

And if you’re interested in collaborating with ACT? Please email them describing yourself, your organization, and the problem you are trying to solve. 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

 

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]]> Behavioural Science in Action with Erez Yoeli - research scientist M.I.T Fiona Murden 00:34:41 Erez Yoeli is a research scientist at MIT’s Sloan School of Management, where he directs the Applied Cooperation Team (ACT). His research focuses on altruism: understanding how it works and how to promote it. He collaborates with governments, non-profits, and companies to apply the lessons of this research towards addressing real-world challenges like increasing energy conservation, improving antibiotic adherence, reducing smoking in public places, and promoting philanthropy. Erez Yoeli is a research scientist at MIT’s Sloan School of Management, where he directs the Applied Cooperation Team (ACT). His research focuses on altruism: understanding how it works and how to promote it. He collaborates with governments, non-profits, and companies to apply the lessons of this research towards addressing real-world challenges like increasing energy conservation, improving antibiotic adherence, reducing smoking in public places, and promoting philanthropy. false full 15 5f085fd1-11b9-49ee-80bd-38aa5769739d Burnout - What is it? How do you know if you're experiencing it & what should you do if you are? Burnout has three key dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism and a decline in professional efficacy – which in English means having reduced productivity. 

Exhaustion – worn out, lost energy, depleted, debilitated and fatigued.

Cynicism – negative attitude towards others, becoming irritable and withdrawn.

Reduced productivity – low morale, decreased capability and an inability to cope. 

“Basically, workers who are experiencing burnout are overwhelmed, unable to cope, and unmotivated, and they display negative attitudes and poor performance.” 

What should you do about it? One paper written specifically for those at the brunt of burnout (i.e. healthcare workers) offers some useful quick tools, aka “micro-practices.” 

Taking a moment to name your emotions (especially challenging emotions). For example, when I notice that I am feeling upset, is it anger? Concern? Exhaustion? This aids self- awareness and self-management. 

This “name it to tame it” practice as Dr Dan Siegel calls it is backed by fMRI research. Simply the process of naming shifts brain activity from the amygdala (the emotional centre of the brain) to the more advanced thinking area of the brain. This means that it can help bring a sense of calm. For a list of words to use in this practice try the following link: 

https://www.healthline.com/health/list-of-emotions

Another evidence-based technique is the simple act of writing down three things that you’re grateful for down several times a week. 

If you work in a group setting then showing gratitude in ways such as starting meetings by giving kudos for recent efforts, can also help stimulate positive emotions and positive relationships. 

Hand hygiene—now a constant routine — is an opportunity for self- awareness and self-management. A chance to focus on your breath, centre your mind and body, and visualize the kind of presence, empathy, and calmness one would like to bring to the next person you interact with. It’s also an opportunity to self-connect—Am I well hydrated? Hungry? Carrying an unreasonable emotional vestige from the last news update? 

Opportunities to engage in this type of mindfulness micro-practice are available in a myriad of other situations such as waiting at a red light, boiling the kettle or brushing your teeth. 

Making use of social support found within both the workplace and home (family, friends, neighbours) is also a very effective and incredibly important practice. 

For longer term solutions other approaches include eating more nutritious food, engaging in regular exercise building your self-awareness and understanding, time management, cognitive restructuring, relaxation strategies – such as meditation, biofeedback, naps and a longer night’s sleep and changes in work patterns - working less, taking more breaks, avoiding overtime work, and taking more time off or more holiday. 

For more tips and tools sign up to my newsletter at www.fionamurden.com 

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

References: 

Fessell, D., & Cherniss, C. (2020). Coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) and beyond: micropractices for burnout prevention and emotional wellness.Journal of the American College of Radiology,17(6), 746-748.

Maslach, C. (2017). Finding solutions to the problem of burnout. Consulting Psychology Journal: Practice and Research, 69(2), 143.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 14 Oct 2020 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/talking-about-nP4KrjOF Burnout has three key dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism and a decline in professional efficacy – which in English means having reduced productivity. 

Exhaustion – worn out, lost energy, depleted, debilitated and fatigued.

Cynicism – negative attitude towards others, becoming irritable and withdrawn.

Reduced productivity – low morale, decreased capability and an inability to cope. 

“Basically, workers who are experiencing burnout are overwhelmed, unable to cope, and unmotivated, and they display negative attitudes and poor performance.” 

What should you do about it? One paper written specifically for those at the brunt of burnout (i.e. healthcare workers) offers some useful quick tools, aka “micro-practices.” 

Taking a moment to name your emotions (especially challenging emotions). For example, when I notice that I am feeling upset, is it anger? Concern? Exhaustion? This aids self- awareness and self-management. 

This “name it to tame it” practice as Dr Dan Siegel calls it is backed by fMRI research. Simply the process of naming shifts brain activity from the amygdala (the emotional centre of the brain) to the more advanced thinking area of the brain. This means that it can help bring a sense of calm. For a list of words to use in this practice try the following link: 

https://www.healthline.com/health/list-of-emotions

Another evidence-based technique is the simple act of writing down three things that you’re grateful for down several times a week. 

If you work in a group setting then showing gratitude in ways such as starting meetings by giving kudos for recent efforts, can also help stimulate positive emotions and positive relationships. 

Hand hygiene—now a constant routine — is an opportunity for self- awareness and self-management. A chance to focus on your breath, centre your mind and body, and visualize the kind of presence, empathy, and calmness one would like to bring to the next person you interact with. It’s also an opportunity to self-connect—Am I well hydrated? Hungry? Carrying an unreasonable emotional vestige from the last news update? 

Opportunities to engage in this type of mindfulness micro-practice are available in a myriad of other situations such as waiting at a red light, boiling the kettle or brushing your teeth. 

Making use of social support found within both the workplace and home (family, friends, neighbours) is also a very effective and incredibly important practice. 

For longer term solutions other approaches include eating more nutritious food, engaging in regular exercise building your self-awareness and understanding, time management, cognitive restructuring, relaxation strategies – such as meditation, biofeedback, naps and a longer night’s sleep and changes in work patterns - working less, taking more breaks, avoiding overtime work, and taking more time off or more holiday. 

For more tips and tools sign up to my newsletter at www.fionamurden.com 

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Or for Lou

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

References: 

Fessell, D., & Cherniss, C. (2020). Coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) and beyond: micropractices for burnout prevention and emotional wellness.Journal of the American College of Radiology,17(6), 746-748.

Maslach, C. (2017). Finding solutions to the problem of burnout. Consulting Psychology Journal: Practice and Research, 69(2), 143.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Burnout - What is it? How do you know if you're experiencing it & what should you do if you are? Fiona Murden 00:44:58 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. This week we’re talking about burnout, something that is becoming way to prevalent during the pandemic. What is it? How do you know if you are experiencing it? What should you do about it? This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. This week we’re talking about burnout, something that is becoming way to prevalent during the pandemic. What is it? How do you know if you are experiencing it? What should you do about it? psychologists, mentalhealthawareness, tipsandtools, productivity, advice, stressprevention, stress, solutionstoburnout, mentalhealth, burnout, psychology, selfcare false full 27 7a8641ba-7481-461d-90be-793de2455648 Shelley Zalis - Chief Trouble Maker & founder of the Female Quotient This episode is packed full of quotes that I love from Shelley such as “It’s not going to fix itself, we have to actively close one door and open another. If we keep talking about things and admiring the problems we will continuously widen the gaps.”

 

We discuss the zig zag path that got Shelley to where she is today. The things that made her who she is, her parents who she describes as incredible role models. From a father, the adventurer who encouraged Shelley and her sisters to live in the moment and experience everyday with wonder and curiosity. To a mother who taught all of the girls to believe in themselves and to have confidence. Shelley describes her upbringing as being ‘remarkable’ and all about ‘values’. The result of which being she lives her life with a no regret policy to life – no should of, would of, could of. Believing in saying yes or no to things but never saying you don’t care about something. “Do everything you do with purpose and passion.” 

 

Zalis is an admired speaker and member of the Washington Speakers Bureau. She is a skilled moderator who has interviewed influencers such as Katie Couric, Halle Berry, Sheryl Sandberg, Gabrielle Union, and Arianna Huffington on the subject of equality and leadership. Zalis authors a Forbes column that mentors women in the “messy middle” and helps them reach the next level in their careers. She is co-founder of #SeeHer, a movement led by the Association of National Advertisers (ANA) to increase the percentage of accurate portrayals of women and girls in advertising and media, and sits on the board of directors for MAKERS and ColorComm.

 

For more about the Female Quotient and the amazing work they do go to:

https://www.thefemalequotient.com

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Or my award winning first book Defining You – How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential 

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

 

 

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]]> Wed, 7 Oct 2020 13:00:00 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/shelley-zalis-chief-trouble-maker-founder-of-the-female-quotient-8X0ZpwMv This episode is packed full of quotes that I love from Shelley such as “It’s not going to fix itself, we have to actively close one door and open another. If we keep talking about things and admiring the problems we will continuously widen the gaps.”

 

We discuss the zig zag path that got Shelley to where she is today. The things that made her who she is, her parents who she describes as incredible role models. From a father, the adventurer who encouraged Shelley and her sisters to live in the moment and experience everyday with wonder and curiosity. To a mother who taught all of the girls to believe in themselves and to have confidence. Shelley describes her upbringing as being ‘remarkable’ and all about ‘values’. The result of which being she lives her life with a no regret policy to life – no should of, would of, could of. Believing in saying yes or no to things but never saying you don’t care about something. “Do everything you do with purpose and passion.” 

 

Zalis is an admired speaker and member of the Washington Speakers Bureau. She is a skilled moderator who has interviewed influencers such as Katie Couric, Halle Berry, Sheryl Sandberg, Gabrielle Union, and Arianna Huffington on the subject of equality and leadership. Zalis authors a Forbes column that mentors women in the “messy middle” and helps them reach the next level in their careers. She is co-founder of #SeeHer, a movement led by the Association of National Advertisers (ANA) to increase the percentage of accurate portrayals of women and girls in advertising and media, and sits on the board of directors for MAKERS and ColorComm.

 

For more about the Female Quotient and the amazing work they do go to:

https://www.thefemalequotient.com

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Or my award winning first book Defining You – How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential 

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

 

 

Follow on:

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For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Shelley Zalis - Chief Trouble Maker & founder of the Female Quotient Fiona Murden 00:53:18 Shelley Zalis is a feisty, courageous, curious, rule breaker who in her own words takes on the role of Chief Trouble Maker. She says “I no longer wanted to be the exception to the rule, I wanted to create the new norm” and has devoted her career to supporting and bringing visibility to women. As founder and CEO of The Female Quotient, she unites leaders across industries to collaborate around advancing equality. Her goal is to close the gaps that continue to hold women back across parity, pathway, pipeline, and policy. Shelley Zalis is a feisty, courageous, curious, rule breaker who in her own words takes on the role of Chief Trouble Maker. She says “I no longer wanted to be the exception to the rule, I wanted to create the new norm” and has devoted her career to supporting and bringing visibility to women. As founder and CEO of The Female Quotient, she unites leaders across industries to collaborate around advancing equality. Her goal is to close the gaps that continue to hold women back across parity, pathway, pipeline, and policy. false full 14 ca50b28f-8347-4300-83d0-8fe94e0b1ead Why Curiosity Didn't Kill the Cat with Lou & Fi “Curiosity is the essence of human existence. “Who are we? Where are we? Where do we come from? Where are we going?” I don’t know. I don’t have any answers to those ques- tions. I don’t know what’s over there and around that corner. But I want to find out.” 

Eugene Cernan – American astronaut 

If you’re curious about being curious it’s something I talk about in my first book Defining You: 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

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Or for Lou

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 30 Sep 2020 11:18:26 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-curiousity-Jx5IAeUf “Curiosity is the essence of human existence. “Who are we? Where are we? Where do we come from? Where are we going?” I don’t know. I don’t have any answers to those ques- tions. I don’t know what’s over there and around that corner. But I want to find out.” 

Eugene Cernan – American astronaut 

If you’re curious about being curious it’s something I talk about in my first book Defining You: 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Why Curiosity Didn't Kill the Cat with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:34:02 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about curiosity, how to make better use of curiosity in your day to day life to help improve your relationships, understanding of yourself and your feelings, understanding of others, your problem solving and your well-being. And how curiosity has even been linked to living longer. We also explore why we lose curiosity as we get older. This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about curiosity, how to make better use of curiosity in your day to day life to help improve your relationships, understanding of yourself and your feelings, understanding of others, your problem solving and your well-being. And how curiosity has even been linked to living longer. We also explore why we lose curiosity as we get older. selfinsight, podcaster, detectivework, relationships, psychologypodcast, psychologist, podcast, understandingyourself, innovation, curiosity, psychology, creativity, wellbeing, livinglonger false full 32 54ec01c7-33e1-49a1-87e9-f926238c8083 A Chat with the Kindest Man on Twitter Giles’s story is full of twists and turns from playing in a band who toured the country and played at Glastonbury to working in a toy shop. We discuss the life of a creative looking at how the magical children’s books that he’s won so many awards for came into being through to hosting two brilliant podcasts: the Blank podcast with the fab Jim Daly and A Little Bit of Positive with the wonderful Julia Bradbury. 

Giles lives in Seaford with his wife, Michelle, and their two sons, Elijah and Sonny. His books include of The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award and The US Forward National Literary Award. He has written several picture books and a collection of nonsense poetry. I urge you to read his latest book which is for adults, One Hundred and Fifty Two Days which is incredibly moving, readable and written as free verse. I met Giles on twitter and he has transformed my experience of it from something I hated to a platform I now actually enjoy. His interactions are kind and positive, drawing an audience of people who are grateful and show their best side. 

 

You can find One Hundred and Fifty Two Days at:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hundred-Fifty-Two-Days-Giles-Paley-Phillips/dp/1783527706

The Blank podcast featuring people such as Dawn French, Kelly Holmes, Stephen Mangen & David Baddiel, is at 

https://play.acast.com/s/theblankpodcast

And a Little Bit of Positive at

https://play.acast.com/s/a-little-bit-of-positive

You can follow Giles at:

Twitter https://twitter.com/eliistender10

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/eliistender10/

 

For me and my books:

Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Defining You - How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Potential 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 23 Sep 2020 13:00:28 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/giles-paley-phillips-author-podcaster-all-around-nice-guy-7RRw052z Giles’s story is full of twists and turns from playing in a band who toured the country and played at Glastonbury to working in a toy shop. We discuss the life of a creative looking at how the magical children’s books that he’s won so many awards for came into being through to hosting two brilliant podcasts: the Blank podcast with the fab Jim Daly and A Little Bit of Positive with the wonderful Julia Bradbury. 

Giles lives in Seaford with his wife, Michelle, and their two sons, Elijah and Sonny. His books include of The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award and The US Forward National Literary Award. He has written several picture books and a collection of nonsense poetry. I urge you to read his latest book which is for adults, One Hundred and Fifty Two Days which is incredibly moving, readable and written as free verse. I met Giles on twitter and he has transformed my experience of it from something I hated to a platform I now actually enjoy. His interactions are kind and positive, drawing an audience of people who are grateful and show their best side. 

 

You can find One Hundred and Fifty Two Days at:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hundred-Fifty-Two-Days-Giles-Paley-Phillips/dp/1783527706

The Blank podcast featuring people such as Dawn French, Kelly Holmes, Stephen Mangen & David Baddiel, is at 

https://play.acast.com/s/theblankpodcast

And a Little Bit of Positive at

https://play.acast.com/s/a-little-bit-of-positive

You can follow Giles at:

Twitter https://twitter.com/eliistender10

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/eliistender10/

 

For me and my books:

Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Defining You - How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Potential 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> A Chat with the Kindest Man on Twitter Fiona Murden 01:29:31 This week's guest Giles Paley Phillips is not only an award winning author & podcaster but also the kindest person on Twitter. Some of the topics we explore this week – the background to Giles’s incredibly moving One Hundred and Fifty Two Days which tells the story of a teenage boy whose mother is terminally ill. Based on Giles’s own life he explains how he lost his mother as a young boy and grew up in a one-bedroomed flat with an alcoholic Dad and nan who gambled. Yet as an adult Giles is the kindest person I’ve ever met on social media. Where did that come from? This week's guest Giles Paley Phillips is not only an award winning author & podcaster but also the kindest person on Twitter. Some of the topics we explore this week – the background to Giles’s incredibly moving One Hundred and Fifty Two Days which tells the story of a teenage boy whose mother is terminally ill. Based on Giles’s own life he explains how he lost his mother as a young boy and grew up in a one-bedroomed flat with an alcoholic Dad and nan who gambled. Yet as an adult Giles is the kindest person I’ve ever met on social media. Where did that come from? false full 13 0e5cfd0f-51ff-4648-b57a-b35dd00d9e7f What is Imposter Syndrome & What Should You Do With It? We discuss why it’s not a ‘thing’ in the sporting profession, who suffers from it in the work environment, why and the best ways of dealing with it. The key take aways are that:

-  it’s about understanding how our achievements fit into our personal narrative

- we need to make sure that we’re talking about the worries and fears associated with imposter syndrome with someone who will understand such as a  mentor, family member or friend

- it's important to find ways in which to validate our own self-worth

- And then Lou adds her own wisdom about having ‘good sex’ too.

For more about understanding your personal narrative please take a look at my first book Defining You.

 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

If you want to know more about how we are influenced by mentors and how to find role-models and mentors who can help us then my latest book is  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.

 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 16 Sep 2020 12:39:01 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-imposter-syndrome-3_myK0GU We discuss why it’s not a ‘thing’ in the sporting profession, who suffers from it in the work environment, why and the best ways of dealing with it. The key take aways are that:

-  it’s about understanding how our achievements fit into our personal narrative

- we need to make sure that we’re talking about the worries and fears associated with imposter syndrome with someone who will understand such as a  mentor, family member or friend

- it's important to find ways in which to validate our own self-worth

- And then Lou adds her own wisdom about having ‘good sex’ too.

For more about understanding your personal narrative please take a look at my first book Defining You.

 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

If you want to know more about how we are influenced by mentors and how to find role-models and mentors who can help us then my latest book is  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.

 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What is Imposter Syndrome & What Should You Do With It? Fiona Murden 00:38:19 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about imposter syndrome ‘a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments or talents and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud".’ This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about imposter syndrome ‘a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments or talents and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud".’ false full 12 6bc0cd9a-9890-468e-b801-b2c2cd305146 What's it Really Like Running Butlins? In this discussion we cover a lot of ground from what makes a good leader in a crisis through to finding your soulmate. The difficulty of leading a team when you don’t speak the same language as them (in Prague), how certain things inevitably get ‘lost in translation’ and how to deal with that when you’re running a business. We also explore ‘What do those lost nuances in behaviour mean when it comes to conducting business over zoom in lockdown?’ 

We consider the complexity of running a business as a joint venture in China (Tesco) and the huge cultural differences in the working environment between the USA and the UK despite the shared language. 

Jon challenges the construct that ‘boys know all the answers and have to be macho’ as a leader, applauding Jacinda Ardern’s approach to leadership. We discuss how difficult it is to lead in times of uncertainty and how much more difficult that is for someone who is wholly dependent on the data for making decisions (btw: Jon is not one of these). 

The learnings taken from watching the board at Tesco’s operating and the learnings taken from being a 20 something year old who, in Jon’s own words was ‘promoted into a role that was too big.’ Something that he reflects on and still takes learning from to this day. 

 

You can find Fiona on the following: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

And her first book Defining You

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 9 Sep 2020 13:13:58 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/jon-hendry-pickup-Wb_dXPdw In this discussion we cover a lot of ground from what makes a good leader in a crisis through to finding your soulmate. The difficulty of leading a team when you don’t speak the same language as them (in Prague), how certain things inevitably get ‘lost in translation’ and how to deal with that when you’re running a business. We also explore ‘What do those lost nuances in behaviour mean when it comes to conducting business over zoom in lockdown?’ 

We consider the complexity of running a business as a joint venture in China (Tesco) and the huge cultural differences in the working environment between the USA and the UK despite the shared language. 

Jon challenges the construct that ‘boys know all the answers and have to be macho’ as a leader, applauding Jacinda Ardern’s approach to leadership. We discuss how difficult it is to lead in times of uncertainty and how much more difficult that is for someone who is wholly dependent on the data for making decisions (btw: Jon is not one of these). 

The learnings taken from watching the board at Tesco’s operating and the learnings taken from being a 20 something year old who, in Jon’s own words was ‘promoted into a role that was too big.’ Something that he reflects on and still takes learning from to this day. 

 

You can find Fiona on the following: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

And her first book Defining You

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What's it Really Like Running Butlins? Fiona Murden 01:00:54 Currently Managing Director of Butlins Jon Hendry-Pickup and I talk about his career to date, from growing up in Blackpool to living and working in Prague, China and California. Jon is incredibly honest about the highs and lows in his life and candid not only about where he approached things from the wrong direction as a 20 something year old but even how long it took him to recognise that. Recorded in lockdown over zoom there are some points of the recording where the sound needs to catch up on itself. Currently Managing Director of Butlins Jon Hendry-Pickup and I talk about his career to date, from growing up in Blackpool to living and working in Prague, China and California. Jon is incredibly honest about the highs and lows in his life and candid not only about where he approached things from the wrong direction as a 20 something year old but even how long it took him to recognise that. Recorded in lockdown over zoom there are some points of the recording where the sound needs to catch up on itself. false full 11 ca91916a-5257-49ff-b54c-06004bd00374 Back to School in Covid with Lou & Fi What can we do as adults in managing our own emotions to support them in managing their emotions? How can we check in with children in a way that elicits a real understanding of what’s going on for them? Checking in on teachers and making sure they’re OK? And understanding ourselves so that we’re not passing our own stress and anxieties onto the people we love. Finally of course remembering that we’re not perfect, we’re all human and simply doing the best that we can. Hopefully though this will serve as a reminder of how. 

If you want to know more about how we are influenced by our parents and teachers and how we influence and shape others please take a look at my book. Mirror Thinking

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us / ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 2 Sep 2020 13:00:18 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-back-to-school-epvZf9Mg What can we do as adults in managing our own emotions to support them in managing their emotions? How can we check in with children in a way that elicits a real understanding of what’s going on for them? Checking in on teachers and making sure they’re OK? And understanding ourselves so that we’re not passing our own stress and anxieties onto the people we love. Finally of course remembering that we’re not perfect, we’re all human and simply doing the best that we can. Hopefully though this will serve as a reminder of how. 

If you want to know more about how we are influenced by our parents and teachers and how we influence and shape others please take a look at my book. Mirror Thinking

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

Follow us / ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Back to School in Covid with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:40:06 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how to support kids going back to school with the knowledge that there’s going to be a lot of uncertainty ahead. This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how to support kids going back to school with the knowledge that there’s going to be a lot of uncertainty ahead. understandingyou, personaldevelopment, tipsandtools, emotionalawareness, advice, acceptance, selfawareness, teachers, awareness, backtoschool, helpingkids, psychology, anxiety false full 31 4ba78318-5218-44b9-a788-5ec621c86852 Married to an Olympian. What Happens When You Start Life Deciding to be the Best in the World? We discuss the twists and turns that took Joy Foster to the place she is today. An award-winning serial social entrepreneur whose work helping women upskill with modern technology, has seen her recognised as a ‘Rising Star’ by WeAreTheCity (one of the largest women’s networks in the whole of the UK). Joy has also been and recognised by Computer Weekly and Business Insider as one of the most influential people shaping British technology in 2019 and 2020. In 2018, she was named as one of the 100 Faces of the Vibrant Economy by Grant Thornton and won the Institute of Directors Startup Director of the Year for London and the South. 

 

Joy also hosts the Sparkle and Thrive podcast which was launched in 2019 as part of TechPixies. The podcast can be found on both apple podcasts and spotify. On 27 April 2020, the podcast hit #1 on the UK podcast charts.

 

We mention Fiona’s book Mirror Thinking in the podcast which is available at the links below in the UK, USA and rest of the world 15th Sept:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

 

You can find Joy at:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/techpixiejoy/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/techpixiejoy/

 

Tech Pixies at:

https://techpixies.com/

Instagram @TechPixies

 

And Fiona Murden at: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 26 Aug 2020 14:22:21 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/joy-foster-wGOI3q_Y We discuss the twists and turns that took Joy Foster to the place she is today. An award-winning serial social entrepreneur whose work helping women upskill with modern technology, has seen her recognised as a ‘Rising Star’ by WeAreTheCity (one of the largest women’s networks in the whole of the UK). Joy has also been and recognised by Computer Weekly and Business Insider as one of the most influential people shaping British technology in 2019 and 2020. In 2018, she was named as one of the 100 Faces of the Vibrant Economy by Grant Thornton and won the Institute of Directors Startup Director of the Year for London and the South. 

 

Joy also hosts the Sparkle and Thrive podcast which was launched in 2019 as part of TechPixies. The podcast can be found on both apple podcasts and spotify. On 27 April 2020, the podcast hit #1 on the UK podcast charts.

 

We mention Fiona’s book Mirror Thinking in the podcast which is available at the links below in the UK, USA and rest of the world 15th Sept:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

 

You can find Joy at:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/techpixiejoy/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/techpixiejoy/

 

Tech Pixies at:

https://techpixies.com/

Instagram @TechPixies

 

And Fiona Murden at: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Married to an Olympian. What Happens When You Start Life Deciding to be the Best in the World? Fiona Murden 01:15:49 Some of the topics we explore this week with Joy Foster - founder of award winning business TechPixies– deciding as a child to be the very best in the world at something and where that comes from, being the god daughter of a man running for Vice President of the USA, spotting an Olympic athlete on TV and picking him out as a future husband and the serendipitous route that lead to this being a reality. through to suffering a devastating loss in early adulthood and how that refocussed. Some of the topics we explore this week with Joy Foster - founder of award winning business TechPixies– deciding as a child to be the very best in the world at something and where that comes from, being the god daughter of a man running for Vice President of the USA, spotting an Olympic athlete on TV and picking him out as a future husband and the serendipitous route that lead to this being a reality. through to suffering a devastating loss in early adulthood and how that refocussed. wearethecity, startup, sparkle and thrive, rising star, computerweekly, femalefounder, business insider, social entrepreneur, influential people false full 10 eb68159c-46f8-496f-ba1c-fe1a459c2049 Exploring Self-Worth For Both You & Your Kids with Lou & Fi There's a section on self-worth, self-esteem and confidence in my first book Defining You. 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 19 Aug 2020 13:00:12 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-4-IcCkSY1D There's a section on self-worth, self-esteem and confidence in my first book Defining You. 

http://bit.ly/DefiningYou

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

 

Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Exploring Self-Worth For Both You & Your Kids with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:39:23 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. At the request of a listener we talk about ‘self-worth’, how can you be more than just your results or achievements and how can you help to develop that mindset in your kids. This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. At the request of a listener we talk about ‘self-worth’, how can you be more than just your results or achievements and how can you help to develop that mindset in your kids. #growthmindset, #selfesteem, #selfinsight, #definingyou, #podcast, #psychology, #confidence, #personaldevelopment, #selfawareness, #selfimprovement, #selfworth false full 30 57c17da3-0ebb-40d5-b8dc-dfa44210b1d2 From Fulfilling Potential Against the Odds to Leading Troops with PTSD - the Extraordinary Story of Jonno McMullan Currently stationed in San Diego California Wing Commander Jonathan McMullan joined the Royal Australian Air Force in 1991 as an Airborne Electronics Analyst. His journey has been marked by personal and professional challenges. For example, despite having marked on his original recruitment file ‘not Officer material’ he not only commissioned as a Navigator in 2001 but upon graduation from Officers’ Training School he received the annual Leadership Sword for the best Junior Officer. Spurred on by both a desire to prove he could but also significantly a desire to lead in a way he felt others were missing. 

 

A significant part of how he has shaken up leadership has been to openly discuss his experience of PTSD, how that has shaped him and how important it is for people coming through the ranks both within the air force and within the population at large to understand that it’s OK to experience mental ill health, whoever you are.  

 

In 2003 Jonathan served four tours flying in both Iraq and Afghanistan. He was then posted to the Air Combat Transition Office to support the introduction of the Australian Super Hornet. In 2011 he was selected to be the Detachment Commander for the Heron Remotely Piloted Aircraft rotation in Kandahar, leading a team in Afghanistan. 

 

Jonathan was awarded a Commendation for Distinguished Service in the 2012 Queens Honours List for leadership at war and his meritorious Command of the RPA detachment in Afghanistan. He then returned to Kandahar for a further two commands of the Heron RPA team. At the conclusion of a nine month tour he was awarded the US Bronze Star for meritorious and heroic leadership at war and the seamless transition of capability. 

 

To hear more from me or know about follow up conversations with Jonathan please follow me at:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 12 Aug 2020 13:00:02 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/jonathan-mcmullan-ofWVbSp2 Currently stationed in San Diego California Wing Commander Jonathan McMullan joined the Royal Australian Air Force in 1991 as an Airborne Electronics Analyst. His journey has been marked by personal and professional challenges. For example, despite having marked on his original recruitment file ‘not Officer material’ he not only commissioned as a Navigator in 2001 but upon graduation from Officers’ Training School he received the annual Leadership Sword for the best Junior Officer. Spurred on by both a desire to prove he could but also significantly a desire to lead in a way he felt others were missing. 

 

A significant part of how he has shaken up leadership has been to openly discuss his experience of PTSD, how that has shaped him and how important it is for people coming through the ranks both within the air force and within the population at large to understand that it’s OK to experience mental ill health, whoever you are.  

 

In 2003 Jonathan served four tours flying in both Iraq and Afghanistan. He was then posted to the Air Combat Transition Office to support the introduction of the Australian Super Hornet. In 2011 he was selected to be the Detachment Commander for the Heron Remotely Piloted Aircraft rotation in Kandahar, leading a team in Afghanistan. 

 

Jonathan was awarded a Commendation for Distinguished Service in the 2012 Queens Honours List for leadership at war and his meritorious Command of the RPA detachment in Afghanistan. He then returned to Kandahar for a further two commands of the Heron RPA team. At the conclusion of a nine month tour he was awarded the US Bronze Star for meritorious and heroic leadership at war and the seamless transition of capability. 

 

To hear more from me or know about follow up conversations with Jonathan please follow me at:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From Fulfilling Potential Against the Odds to Leading Troops with PTSD - the Extraordinary Story of Jonno McMullan Fiona Murden 01:16:25 Jonathan McMullan - Detachment Commander Australian Airforce is a humble, honest, brave leader who I am also honored to call a friend. This interview is deeply personal and incredibly moving. There is something in this for anyone interested in mental health, leadership or just in what it means to be human. Some of the topics we explore– overcoming the odds to fulfil potential, becoming demotivated by a mismatch of values and flipping that into something that can motivate and drive you to do things differently, leading in extreme pressure, how different people respond to trauma, how not allowing yourself to experience trauma fully or seeking help can be deeply damaging, living with PTSD and the deep power in sharing your own vulnerabilities as a leader. Jonathan McMullan - Detachment Commander Australian Airforce is a humble, honest, brave leader who I am also honored to call a friend. This interview is deeply personal and incredibly moving. There is something in this for anyone interested in mental health, leadership or just in what it means to be human. Some of the topics we explore– overcoming the odds to fulfil potential, becoming demotivated by a mismatch of values and flipping that into something that can motivate and drive you to do things differently, leading in extreme pressure, how different people respond to trauma, how not allowing yourself to experience trauma fully or seeking help can be deeply damaging, living with PTSD and the deep power in sharing your own vulnerabilities as a leader. #ptsdrecovery, #leadership, #mentalhealthawarness, #leadershipmatters, #leader, #ptsdawareness, #psychology, #australianairforce, #ptsdsurvivor, #ptsd, #airforces, #leadershipdevelopment true full 9 ebb54d01-c13f-42cf-95b1-40f3f03e039c Why Common Sense is Not So Common with Lou & Fi Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

There’s a chapter on empathy in Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

#mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 5 Aug 2020 13:00:30 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-3-mAg7JRd1 Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

 

There’s a chapter on empathy in Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

#mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Why Common Sense is Not So Common with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:40:12 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how with psychology things seem obvious as soon they’re explained yet as Voiltaire said ‘Common sense really is not that common’. We also explore the concept of empathy at the request of a listener (please let us know if there’s anything you’d like Lou and I to discuss in future episodes). Why is empathy important, what’s the difference between emotional and cognitive empathy and is empathy something you can you develop? This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how with psychology things seem obvious as soon they’re explained yet as Voiltaire said ‘Common sense really is not that common’. We also explore the concept of empathy at the request of a listener (please let us know if there’s anything you’d like Lou and I to discuss in future episodes). Why is empathy important, what’s the difference between emotional and cognitive empathy and is empathy something you can you develop? false full 29 09d72bbe-145a-45e0-b52b-c0c82bbce1b1 Walking the Boards from the Westend to the Film Studio Some of the topics we explore this week – needing to look to part to get the part and how important 'non controllables' are to whether you land a role in acting (e.g. height, hair colour, eye colour), juggling 8 shows a week in a West End production with motherhood, the stresses and strains of failure that build up resilience, the issue of youngsters not having exposure to that in today’s social media reality and how self-assurance not cockiness is the way to success. 

In November 2009 Kirsty won the TMA Award for Best Supporting Performance in a musical for playing Young Viv in Spend Spend Spend at the Watermill Theatre, directed by Craig Revel Horwood; the production went on to tour nationally in 2010. Other work includes The Secret Diary of Adrian Mole, The Three Musketeers, Arthur and George, HMS Pinafore, The Ghosts of Ruddigore and The Burglar’s Opera for Opera Della Luna (Covent Garden Festival, National Tour), The Wizard of Oz, Peter Pan, King Cotton, Jerry Springer the Opera, Ken Hill’s Phantom of the Opera, The Beggar’s Opera, Sweeney Todd, Nunsense and Barnum and the 25th Anniversary Production of Side By Side By Sondheim. She has also performed as a lead vocalist in concerts and cabarets throughout the UK and abroad, most recently soloist with the City of Birmingham Symphony Orchestra and at the Leeds Castle Classical Prom.

Kirsty also works as a session vocalist. She has recorded vocals for Warner Chappell, Disney, Sony and for numerous feature films including Mary Poppins Returns.  

For more from me and to hear about upcoming guests go to

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

And for my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 29 Jul 2020 12:25:49 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/kirsty-hoiles-W13eSQ1X Some of the topics we explore this week – needing to look to part to get the part and how important 'non controllables' are to whether you land a role in acting (e.g. height, hair colour, eye colour), juggling 8 shows a week in a West End production with motherhood, the stresses and strains of failure that build up resilience, the issue of youngsters not having exposure to that in today’s social media reality and how self-assurance not cockiness is the way to success. 

In November 2009 Kirsty won the TMA Award for Best Supporting Performance in a musical for playing Young Viv in Spend Spend Spend at the Watermill Theatre, directed by Craig Revel Horwood; the production went on to tour nationally in 2010. Other work includes The Secret Diary of Adrian Mole, The Three Musketeers, Arthur and George, HMS Pinafore, The Ghosts of Ruddigore and The Burglar’s Opera for Opera Della Luna (Covent Garden Festival, National Tour), The Wizard of Oz, Peter Pan, King Cotton, Jerry Springer the Opera, Ken Hill’s Phantom of the Opera, The Beggar’s Opera, Sweeney Todd, Nunsense and Barnum and the 25th Anniversary Production of Side By Side By Sondheim. She has also performed as a lead vocalist in concerts and cabarets throughout the UK and abroad, most recently soloist with the City of Birmingham Symphony Orchestra and at the Leeds Castle Classical Prom.

Kirsty also works as a session vocalist. She has recorded vocals for Warner Chappell, Disney, Sony and for numerous feature films including Mary Poppins Returns.  

For more from me and to hear about upcoming guests go to

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

And for my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Walking the Boards from the Westend to the Film Studio Fiona Murden 00:56:49 Kirsty Hoiles is an actress who has worked extensively in theatre and was appearing as Tanya in the West End production of Mamma Mia before lockdown. Other West End Credits include Betty Blue Eyes, Gone With the Wind and Les Miserables. She also appeared in the movie of Les Miserables. Recent television work includes Call the Midwife, Remember Me, Scandelous Lady W and Close to the Enemy all for the BBC. Kirsty Hoiles is an actress who has worked extensively in theatre and was appearing as Tanya in the West End production of Mamma Mia before lockdown. Other West End Credits include Betty Blue Eyes, Gone With the Wind and Les Miserables. She also appeared in the movie of Les Miserables. Recent television work includes Call the Midwife, Remember Me, Scandelous Lady W and Close to the Enemy all for the BBC. false full 8 61a71047-44a4-46e8-805f-e1fe0123f58d Not Forever Future - Moving Out of Lockdown with Lou & Fi The questions we leave you with:

  1. What’s worked before and what are you still doing with that?
  2. What’s not working and what do you need to change and do differently?
  3. Within this new situation what are the new skills that would actually support that?

It’s critical to remember to make time for yourself and to talk. It sounds obvious but both so often gets lost in the to do list. It’s also OK to be low and is fairly normal given the circumstances that we’re all living in currently. 

Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/therealdot2dot

Twitter: https://twitter.com/therealdot2dot

Facebook: https://facebook.com/therealdot2dot

 

Or to contact Fiona go to:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

There are lots of tools to help build resilience and self insight in Fiona’s book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential 

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

For Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

#mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #Mondaymotivation #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 22 Jul 2020 13:00:06 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-2-NdtNRVeT The questions we leave you with:

  1. What’s worked before and what are you still doing with that?
  2. What’s not working and what do you need to change and do differently?
  3. Within this new situation what are the new skills that would actually support that?

It’s critical to remember to make time for yourself and to talk. It sounds obvious but both so often gets lost in the to do list. It’s also OK to be low and is fairly normal given the circumstances that we’re all living in currently. 

Ask us any questions on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/therealdot2dot

Twitter: https://twitter.com/therealdot2dot

Facebook: https://facebook.com/therealdot2dot

 

Or to contact Fiona go to:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

 

There are lots of tools to help build resilience and self insight in Fiona’s book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential 

UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEy

USA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSA

Australia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus

 

For Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

#mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #Mondaymotivation #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Not Forever Future - Moving Out of Lockdown with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:38:09 This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how to get into good habits as we move out of lockdown, especially given that the new normal is not going to be normal as things are continually changing. Lou calls this the ‘Not Forever Future’. In that world of uncertainty what’s going to help you function most effectively? How do you balance on your own particular wobble board and what can you do to help yourself be more emotionally resilient in such a difficult time? This week is another bitesize episode with psychologist Lou Jones. We talk about how to get into good habits as we move out of lockdown, especially given that the new normal is not going to be normal as things are continually changing. Lou calls this the ‘Not Forever Future’. In that world of uncertainty what’s going to help you function most effectively? How do you balance on your own particular wobble board and what can you do to help yourself be more emotionally resilient in such a difficult time? false full 28 e62ab6fa-d605-4444-a290-f48e34a218aa Living with Passion - the Creative Industry from Journalism to Comedy Jim regularly gigs on the comedy circuit (or did before lockdown), he has written and performed for sketch shows and presented for Yahoo's The Football Show and JOE.co.uk's Friday Football Live as well as featuring on BBC 5live, BT Sport, London Live and TalkSPORT. He also has a strong social media following for his original, sports-related comedy content especially on YouTube where he posts hilarious sketches regularly (under Jim Daly Comedy). 

Jim plays down his abilities. I laughed a bit too loud at some points during the interview so had to cut my sound out. He is a great guy who has an astute understanding of what it means to be human. Something that I personally believe comedians have to be incredibly skilled at. I admire his honesty about all things Jim and I’m sure you will too. 

Laughter builds emotional resilience which is surely something we all need more than ever before currently. We can’t lose comedy. Please sign the open letter at savelivecomedy.co.uk to put pressure on the government to include live comedy in their arts funding package. Please also share the #SaveLiveComedy hashtag and dont stop making a noise until a package is sorted to help comedians and clubs to survive.

Find Jim on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimdalycomedy

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jimdalycomedy

Facebook: https://facebook.com/jimdalycomedy

Website: http://jimdalycomedy.com/

 

For my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 15 Jul 2020 13:00:06 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/jim-daly-D1fz__yp Jim regularly gigs on the comedy circuit (or did before lockdown), he has written and performed for sketch shows and presented for Yahoo's The Football Show and JOE.co.uk's Friday Football Live as well as featuring on BBC 5live, BT Sport, London Live and TalkSPORT. He also has a strong social media following for his original, sports-related comedy content especially on YouTube where he posts hilarious sketches regularly (under Jim Daly Comedy). 

Jim plays down his abilities. I laughed a bit too loud at some points during the interview so had to cut my sound out. He is a great guy who has an astute understanding of what it means to be human. Something that I personally believe comedians have to be incredibly skilled at. I admire his honesty about all things Jim and I’m sure you will too. 

Laughter builds emotional resilience which is surely something we all need more than ever before currently. We can’t lose comedy. Please sign the open letter at savelivecomedy.co.uk to put pressure on the government to include live comedy in their arts funding package. Please also share the #SaveLiveComedy hashtag and dont stop making a noise until a package is sorted to help comedians and clubs to survive.

Find Jim on:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimdalycomedy

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jimdalycomedy

Facebook: https://facebook.com/jimdalycomedy

Website: http://jimdalycomedy.com/

 

For my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Living with Passion - the Creative Industry from Journalism to Comedy Fiona Murden 00:53:34 Some of the topics we explore this week with comedian Jim Daly – growing up in Kent, the creative industry in all its glory from journalism to comedy and the uncertainty but passion that it brings. Jim shares a moving message about his Dad, his 3 best mates and how they have shaped and guided him through life. We also talk about what Jim thinks about when he’s having a bath, football, what cars we drive and how to pronounce the words pistachio, theatre and scones. Some of the topics we explore this week with comedian Jim Daly – growing up in Kent, the creative industry in all its glory from journalism to comedy and the uncertainty but passion that it brings. Jim shares a moving message about his Dad, his 3 best mates and how they have shaped and guided him through life. We also talk about what Jim thinks about when he’s having a bath, football, what cars we drive and how to pronounce the words pistachio, theatre and scones. true full 7 2ca57b3c-b585-42eb-a1eb-c9c66cd95213 What Self Care Really Means & How Understanding Your Purpose is Core to Looking After Yourself Suzy is a mother of two, an author, Chartered Psychologist and coach. She specialises in self-care, helping people manage their stress, emotions, and energetic bank balance.It was her life experience of motherhood colliding with the terminal illness of her father that sparked her passion for self-care which she now teaches to her clients, young and old, to cope during periods of stress, loss and change and to boost their resilience in the face of future challenges. Suzy is on the editorial board for Motherdom Magazine, the Psychology Expert for wellbeing brand Neom Organics and is a founding member of the ‘Nourish’ app. She figure-skated her way through her childhood, growing up on the Northern Beaches of Sydney, and now makes her home in hills of Hertfordshire, UK. Her first book ‘The Self-Care Revolution’ published by Aster came out in 2017, 'Stand Tall Like a Mountain: Mindfulness & Self-Care for Children and Parents' and 'The Little Book of Self-Care came out in 2019 and her new book ‘Self-Care for Tough Times’ is hot off the press.

 

Join Suzy’s Wellbeing Community at: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/suzyreading/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/SuzyReadingPsychologyAndYoga/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SuzyReading  

www.suzyreading.co.uk

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 1 Jul 2020 13:00:04 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/suzy-reading-_T0lgxtk Suzy is a mother of two, an author, Chartered Psychologist and coach. She specialises in self-care, helping people manage their stress, emotions, and energetic bank balance.It was her life experience of motherhood colliding with the terminal illness of her father that sparked her passion for self-care which she now teaches to her clients, young and old, to cope during periods of stress, loss and change and to boost their resilience in the face of future challenges. Suzy is on the editorial board for Motherdom Magazine, the Psychology Expert for wellbeing brand Neom Organics and is a founding member of the ‘Nourish’ app. She figure-skated her way through her childhood, growing up on the Northern Beaches of Sydney, and now makes her home in hills of Hertfordshire, UK. Her first book ‘The Self-Care Revolution’ published by Aster came out in 2017, 'Stand Tall Like a Mountain: Mindfulness & Self-Care for Children and Parents' and 'The Little Book of Self-Care came out in 2019 and her new book ‘Self-Care for Tough Times’ is hot off the press.

 

Join Suzy’s Wellbeing Community at: 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/suzyreading/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/SuzyReadingPsychologyAndYoga/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SuzyReading  

www.suzyreading.co.uk

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> What Self Care Really Means & How Understanding Your Purpose is Core to Looking After Yourself Fiona Murden 00:51:24 Some of the topics we explore this week with Suzy Reading author and psychologist – a journey through the highs and lows of life, self care and the depth of what it really means, how understanding your purpose and values are core to understanding how to look after yourself and Suzy explains her brilliant vitality wheel – something that anyone can use to help them live a healthier, happier life. Some of the topics we explore this week with Suzy Reading author and psychologist – a journey through the highs and lows of life, self care and the depth of what it really means, how understanding your purpose and values are core to understanding how to look after yourself and Suzy explains her brilliant vitality wheel – something that anyone can use to help them live a healthier, happier life. false full 6 723f0b1a-7a5c-41d0-bbb2-f2c3c5c3b10d Mindset & Why it Matters - with Lou & Fi Louise Jones has been supporting Athletes, Coaches and Performance Directors within British sport for over 18 years. Throughout this time she has supported athletes at 4 summer Olympic Games, 1 winter Olympic Games and 5 Commonwealth Games. She has worked with Olympic medalists, World Champions, European Champions, Commonwealth Games medalists, X Games medalists and other top performers across a large number and variety of sports.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 24 Jun 2020 13:00:06 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/bite-sized-chat-NXZjeWGQ Louise Jones has been supporting Athletes, Coaches and Performance Directors within British sport for over 18 years. Throughout this time she has supported athletes at 4 summer Olympic Games, 1 winter Olympic Games and 5 Commonwealth Games. She has worked with Olympic medalists, World Champions, European Champions, Commonwealth Games medalists, X Games medalists and other top performers across a large number and variety of sports.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Mindset & Why it Matters - with Lou & Fi Fiona Murden 00:28:32 A bite sized episode of two psychologist's talking. Lou Jones Chartered Sports Psychologist and Fiona Murden Chartered Occupational Psychologist. Basically two psychologists chatting. A bite sized episode of two psychologist's talking. Lou Jones Chartered Sports Psychologist and Fiona Murden Chartered Occupational Psychologist. Basically two psychologists chatting. mindset, mental health, psychology, performance false full 5 caf2acb8-c954-4692-8ec4-b6086530242d Breaking the mould with Emma Pears Emma Pears says ‘I don’t have all the answers but I want to help people find more joy in life’. She studied music, creative arts and composition at university before spending time  working in refuges for the homeless on a volunteer basis. There she saw the complexity of life on the streets, the myriad of reasons people find themselves there which can’t be fixed by simply ‘making them a cup of tea’. This sparked a desire for her to help these people move forward, if they wanted to and she went on to study for a Masters at Cambridge exploring how to do that. Emma went from that to starting ‘SingingNation’ bringing people from across generations together in community choirs.  Her choirs have allowed people to feel  that they belong, to feel a sense of connection, to feel valued and to often change mindsets. People who come afraid and faced only by psychological barriers begin to consider that change is possible. Time and again she has seen how individuals become empowered with the belief that they can make decisions that make them happy. 

We discuss giving your brain time to think and making thinking something that should be on our to-do list, especially given that it’s not something modern life gives us time for. Emma says ‘If I allow my brain time to think it will then come to the answer more quickly’.  We look at the process of writing a book and the process of writing a song ‘There’s a difference between writing a song on a whim and writing a song as a job’. Emma is an inspiration to me and to many others, I’ve no doubt that she will provide you with encouragement and curiosity simply through listening.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 17 Jun 2020 13:00:08 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/emma-pears-4XzNEqvz Emma Pears says ‘I don’t have all the answers but I want to help people find more joy in life’. She studied music, creative arts and composition at university before spending time  working in refuges for the homeless on a volunteer basis. There she saw the complexity of life on the streets, the myriad of reasons people find themselves there which can’t be fixed by simply ‘making them a cup of tea’. This sparked a desire for her to help these people move forward, if they wanted to and she went on to study for a Masters at Cambridge exploring how to do that. Emma went from that to starting ‘SingingNation’ bringing people from across generations together in community choirs.  Her choirs have allowed people to feel  that they belong, to feel a sense of connection, to feel valued and to often change mindsets. People who come afraid and faced only by psychological barriers begin to consider that change is possible. Time and again she has seen how individuals become empowered with the belief that they can make decisions that make them happy. 

We discuss giving your brain time to think and making thinking something that should be on our to-do list, especially given that it’s not something modern life gives us time for. Emma says ‘If I allow my brain time to think it will then come to the answer more quickly’.  We look at the process of writing a book and the process of writing a song ‘There’s a difference between writing a song on a whim and writing a song as a job’. Emma is an inspiration to me and to many others, I’ve no doubt that she will provide you with encouragement and curiosity simply through listening.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Breaking the mould with Emma Pears Fiona Murden 00:49:21 Emma Pears - entrepreneur, composer, author, musician, mum and much, much more. This week I’m speaking to someone who cannot be put under one title because she just doesn’t fit a mould. Amongst her repertoire she’s a published song writer, is a social entrepreneur, volunteers in prisons and works with housing associations and organisations such as the NHS, The London Fire Brigade and with leaders in HSBC. She conducts choirs at places like Wembley Arena and is currently writing a book for a major publisher. And she’s also a wife to a husband who works full time and the Mum of two gorgeous kids. Emma Pears - entrepreneur, composer, author, musician, mum and much, much more. This week I’m speaking to someone who cannot be put under one title because she just doesn’t fit a mould. Amongst her repertoire she’s a published song writer, is a social entrepreneur, volunteers in prisons and works with housing associations and organisations such as the NHS, The London Fire Brigade and with leaders in HSBC. She conducts choirs at places like Wembley Arena and is currently writing a book for a major publisher. And she’s also a wife to a husband who works full time and the Mum of two gorgeous kids. false full 4 69a42672-0b35-41e3-961c-59d8f08dbbe6 From football boots to Dr Martens with CEO Kenny Wilson Kenny spent the majority of his career working for another symbolic brand - Levi’s in roles spanning the globe, which he describes as being hugely informative in his development as a leader. He began working with a coach 20 years ago and has never stopped seeing it as essential to his growth saying that “As a leader the first step is being able to lead yourself” going on to say being a leader is about asking the right questions “You don’t need to have the right answers or to be the smartest person in the room”. Although having worked with Kenny I would wager a bet that he often is. He also describes how he prepares for each day as a leader by thinking “Not what needs to be done but how to be.” Because people will remember how you make them feel. 

In this episode Kenny describes growing up on a council estate in Aberdeen and how that didn’t make him “hard done by” but did focus his drive. He also explains how the form that his drive has taken has changed over the years. We discuss bringing up girls and how he wants his daughter who is now at university, to grow up as a strong independent woman able to make her own decisions about how to live her life. Also, how hard that is to do, far harder than any leadership role. Despite giving up a career in football Kenny has remained an avid supporter of Aberdeen and has been going to matches with his daughter since she was 7 years old. He shares how football is about his roots, where he grew up, unwinding and spending time with mates who couldn’t care less that he’s a CEO. Kenny also shares how important it is to him that people are respectful, no matter who they are talking to or where they are from. I hope you find him as interesting and motivating to listen to as I do. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 3 Jun 2020 13:00:03 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/kenny-wilson-vJCUe0_2 Kenny spent the majority of his career working for another symbolic brand - Levi’s in roles spanning the globe, which he describes as being hugely informative in his development as a leader. He began working with a coach 20 years ago and has never stopped seeing it as essential to his growth saying that “As a leader the first step is being able to lead yourself” going on to say being a leader is about asking the right questions “You don’t need to have the right answers or to be the smartest person in the room”. Although having worked with Kenny I would wager a bet that he often is. He also describes how he prepares for each day as a leader by thinking “Not what needs to be done but how to be.” Because people will remember how you make them feel. 

In this episode Kenny describes growing up on a council estate in Aberdeen and how that didn’t make him “hard done by” but did focus his drive. He also explains how the form that his drive has taken has changed over the years. We discuss bringing up girls and how he wants his daughter who is now at university, to grow up as a strong independent woman able to make her own decisions about how to live her life. Also, how hard that is to do, far harder than any leadership role. Despite giving up a career in football Kenny has remained an avid supporter of Aberdeen and has been going to matches with his daughter since she was 7 years old. He shares how football is about his roots, where he grew up, unwinding and spending time with mates who couldn’t care less that he’s a CEO. Kenny also shares how important it is to him that people are respectful, no matter who they are talking to or where they are from. I hope you find him as interesting and motivating to listen to as I do. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> From football boots to Dr Martens with CEO Kenny Wilson Fiona Murden 00:38:40 Some of the topics we explore this week - How a school boy en route to becoming a professional footballer ended up as CEO of Dr Marten’s, why a belief that ‘the harder you work the luckier you get’ can only get you so far, how important it is to love what you do and why no matter how senior or successful you are you still learn from other people. Kenny Wilson who describes himself as ‘a 52 year old Scottish bloke’ has been Chief Executive at the iconic brand Dr Martens for the past 2 years having previously spent 6 years as the Chief Executive of Cath Kidston. When I heard that Kenny was moving to Dr Martens it felt like a natural fit. The brand is about rebellious self-expression, independent thinkers and people who stand up for what they believe in – all things that reflect the depth and character of Kenny as person and a leader. Some of the topics we explore this week - How a school boy en route to becoming a professional footballer ended up as CEO of Dr Marten’s, why a belief that ‘the harder you work the luckier you get’ can only get you so far, how important it is to love what you do and why no matter how senior or successful you are you still learn from other people. Kenny Wilson who describes himself as ‘a 52 year old Scottish bloke’ has been Chief Executive at the iconic brand Dr Martens for the past 2 years having previously spent 6 years as the Chief Executive of Cath Kidston. When I heard that Kenny was moving to Dr Martens it felt like a natural fit. The brand is about rebellious self-expression, independent thinkers and people who stand up for what they believe in – all things that reflect the depth and character of Kenny as person and a leader. false full 3 6fb09026-e5f0-4626-8d7e-5870cb3940f9 Investigative journalism and Harvey Weinstein with Andrea Thompson Do you think anyone was covering the story of Weinstein 15 years ago? If they were, why did it take so long to ignite international interest? Is Covid-19 going to create a fresh start for women or set equality back? Can a fashion and beauty brand embody a genuine feminist agenda? These are all topics we explore in the second episode of Dot to Dot ‘Behind the Person’ with this week’s guest Andrea Thompson.

In this episode we talk about growing up in London with an English mother and father from Barbados and what it felt like to be ‘different’. We explore how seeing the way in which her father was treated compared to her mother made Andrea determined to allow marginalised voices to be heard. Andrea tells me about her time as a fearless young reporter meeting Weinstein face to face, exposing one of Trump’s businesses, investigating Russian companies and uncovering sweatshops in India. We discuss the four pillars that underpin the values she really cares about: women’s empowerment, sustainability, education of girls and women and mental health, and how this is driving the current agenda at Marie Claire. 

Andrea is passionate about unveiling injustice but doing so in a way that provides people with the everyday relief and inspiration to make a difference and get on with their own lives with a spring in their step. This underpins everything she does including the fashion and beauty at Marie Claire which is about celebrating women as they are, instead of as they 'should be'. I’m sure that you will be able to feel the energy that she puts into her career and ensuring that people are heard seep through the recording to positively infect your day, week and maybe even your year ahead. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Wed, 20 May 2020 13:18:17 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/andrea-thompson-sJ4WzOEY Do you think anyone was covering the story of Weinstein 15 years ago? If they were, why did it take so long to ignite international interest? Is Covid-19 going to create a fresh start for women or set equality back? Can a fashion and beauty brand embody a genuine feminist agenda? These are all topics we explore in the second episode of Dot to Dot ‘Behind the Person’ with this week’s guest Andrea Thompson.

In this episode we talk about growing up in London with an English mother and father from Barbados and what it felt like to be ‘different’. We explore how seeing the way in which her father was treated compared to her mother made Andrea determined to allow marginalised voices to be heard. Andrea tells me about her time as a fearless young reporter meeting Weinstein face to face, exposing one of Trump’s businesses, investigating Russian companies and uncovering sweatshops in India. We discuss the four pillars that underpin the values she really cares about: women’s empowerment, sustainability, education of girls and women and mental health, and how this is driving the current agenda at Marie Claire. 

Andrea is passionate about unveiling injustice but doing so in a way that provides people with the everyday relief and inspiration to make a difference and get on with their own lives with a spring in their step. This underpins everything she does including the fashion and beauty at Marie Claire which is about celebrating women as they are, instead of as they 'should be'. I’m sure that you will be able to feel the energy that she puts into her career and ensuring that people are heard seep through the recording to positively infect your day, week and maybe even your year ahead. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Investigative journalism and Harvey Weinstein with Andrea Thompson Fiona Murden 00:43:43 Some of the topics explored this week with Andrea Thompson - editor in chief Marie Claire - How investigative journalism provides marginalised women with a voice, why the Weinstein scandal happened when it did, and how social media has galvanised communities to create positive change. Andrea started her career in her 20s as a fearless undercover journalist, and is no less passionate about righting wrongs and giving under-represented communities a voice today. She has been Editor in Chief of Marie Claire for the past 6 months, taking the helm of the iconic international brand as the first of the 25 countries to go digital. Andrea studied English at The University of York, but it was actually working part time in a pub during her studies and listening to people’s stories that really ignited her passion for storytelling. She pursued a career in publishing, first entering into the world of books (which she found wasn’t quite fast paced enough for her) then working for a range of publications including the Daily Mail, Channel 4 and Marie Claire. Some of the topics explored this week with Andrea Thompson - editor in chief Marie Claire - How investigative journalism provides marginalised women with a voice, why the Weinstein scandal happened when it did, and how social media has galvanised communities to create positive change. Andrea started her career in her 20s as a fearless undercover journalist, and is no less passionate about righting wrongs and giving under-represented communities a voice today. She has been Editor in Chief of Marie Claire for the past 6 months, taking the helm of the iconic international brand as the first of the 25 countries to go digital. Andrea studied English at The University of York, but it was actually working part time in a pub during her studies and listening to people’s stories that really ignited her passion for storytelling. She pursued a career in publishing, first entering into the world of books (which she found wasn’t quite fast paced enough for her) then working for a range of publications including the Daily Mail, Channel 4 and Marie Claire. false full 2 0a5871c2-e32e-4b59-a48a-a9ee2655c418 Conquering D&EI and living with cancer with Brenda Trenowden CBE Do you think that people can change careers later in life? Do you think experiencing life threatening illness brings your values into clearer focus? Do you believe that women and minorities should be more fairly represented across society? Is family important no matter what is going on in your career and life more broadly?

Brenda is extremely passionate about gender equality and was awarded a CBE in the Queen's Birthday Honours List in June 2018 as a result of the work she’s done. She has chaired the 30% Club since 2016. In this role she has encouraged, persuaded, convinced and corralled CEOs globally to understand and support the need for diversity. The campaign hit a milestone in September 2019, when the number of female directors on the boards of the UK’s 100 largest listed companies hit 30.42 per cent. Brenda was listed as the number one Champion of Women in Business 2018 in the Financial Times HERoes awards and in the Summer of 2019, she was awarded an Honorary Doctorate by Queens University in Canada. Brenda spent more than 25 years working in the finance sector living in Paris, Singapore, Mumbai, Dhaka and London. She recently changing careers to work as a Partner at PWC championing Diversity & Inclusion. She is an advisor to the UK Government’s Hampton-Alexander Review. She is also on the England and Wales Cricket Board which reflects her family's passion for the game.

In this episode we talk about what and who has influenced and shaped Brenda in life. We discuss the importance of curiosity which as a psychologist I know helps with both mental and physical health - allowing us to fulfil our potential. We discuss her role in leading the 30% club campaign and her passion for championing diversity and inclusion. We discuss moving careers in your 50s, being focussed on your values and what matters. We also talk about living with cancer and having a glass half full approach to life (even touching on what Brenda calls cancer perks) and the reality of having days that are far from perfect. Most important of all we discuss Brenda’s family and how they are at the heart of who she is.

Brenda’s drive and passion for life is infectious. I hope after listening to this chat you’ll feel motivated to explore your own influences, interests and how you can go about pursuing and fulfilling your dreams.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Tue, 12 May 2020 19:21:36 +0000 fiona.murden@aroka.co.uk (Fiona Murden) https://dot-to-dot-behind-the-person.simplecast.com/episodes/brenda-trenowden-tLY1A6_y Do you think that people can change careers later in life? Do you think experiencing life threatening illness brings your values into clearer focus? Do you believe that women and minorities should be more fairly represented across society? Is family important no matter what is going on in your career and life more broadly?

Brenda is extremely passionate about gender equality and was awarded a CBE in the Queen's Birthday Honours List in June 2018 as a result of the work she’s done. She has chaired the 30% Club since 2016. In this role she has encouraged, persuaded, convinced and corralled CEOs globally to understand and support the need for diversity. The campaign hit a milestone in September 2019, when the number of female directors on the boards of the UK’s 100 largest listed companies hit 30.42 per cent. Brenda was listed as the number one Champion of Women in Business 2018 in the Financial Times HERoes awards and in the Summer of 2019, she was awarded an Honorary Doctorate by Queens University in Canada. Brenda spent more than 25 years working in the finance sector living in Paris, Singapore, Mumbai, Dhaka and London. She recently changing careers to work as a Partner at PWC championing Diversity & Inclusion. She is an advisor to the UK Government’s Hampton-Alexander Review. She is also on the England and Wales Cricket Board which reflects her family's passion for the game.

In this episode we talk about what and who has influenced and shaped Brenda in life. We discuss the importance of curiosity which as a psychologist I know helps with both mental and physical health - allowing us to fulfil our potential. We discuss her role in leading the 30% club campaign and her passion for championing diversity and inclusion. We discuss moving careers in your 50s, being focussed on your values and what matters. We also talk about living with cancer and having a glass half full approach to life (even touching on what Brenda calls cancer perks) and the reality of having days that are far from perfect. Most important of all we discuss Brenda’s family and how they are at the heart of who she is.

Brenda’s drive and passion for life is infectious. I hope after listening to this chat you’ll feel motivated to explore your own influences, interests and how you can go about pursuing and fulfilling your dreams.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

]]> Conquering D&EI and living with cancer with Brenda Trenowden CBE Fiona Murden 00:55:36 When you pursue your passions you can do just about anything you put your mind to. My guest on the very first episode of my new podcast Dot to Dot, Behind the Person is Brenda Trenowden CBE. Someone I met through work and am extremely grateful to call a friend and a mentor. Brenda is energetic, engaging, clever, driven and fun - known aptly by her friends as Wonder Woman. When you pursue your passions you can do just about anything you put your mind to. My guest on the very first episode of my new podcast Dot to Dot, Behind the Person is Brenda Trenowden CBE. Someone I met through work and am extremely grateful to call a friend and a mentor. Brenda is energetic, engaging, clever, driven and fun - known aptly by her friends as Wonder Woman. false full 1