https://simplecast.com Why, Dad? Andrew, an aspiring dad, and Paul, a dad of two, dig deep to find out what it means to be/become the best dad possible, why it matters, and how to do so. 2024 Why, Dad? en Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:00:00 +0000 Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:00:11 +0000 https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com Why, Dad? https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/0d99f0eb-cebb-415a-a69f-66f5be082f6d/f5b31e2f-539a-4f0c-9ce6-8a6f9514d83b/3000x3000/whydadimagenew.jpg?aid=rss_feed https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com episodic Andrew, an aspiring dad, and Paul, a dad of two, dig deep to find out what it means to be/become the best dad possible, why it matters, and how to do so. Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey true https://feeds.simplecast.com/M3QBUaty dads, fatherhood, parenting Babba 35 Studios babba35studios@gmail.com 429ab452-99e1-4658-b5ef-599d0add5f57 The Routine Struggle In this reflective and unscripted episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a personal tension many men face: the balance between structure and presence. What begins as a casual conversation quickly unfolds into a deeper exploration of routines, habits, and the danger of letting them become the end goal rather than a means to something greater.

Paul shares his struggle with relying on routine to stay disciplined, only to find that those same systems can pull him away from what matters most—being present as a husband, father, and man. Andrew relates, reflecting on how even well-intentioned habits can unintentionally crowd out meaningful moments with loved ones.

Together, they unpack the paradox: routines are necessary for growth and stability, but when overemphasized, they can become rigid, self-serving, and disconnected from one’s deeper purpose. The conversation moves beyond productivity into identity—shifting the focus from “Did I check all the boxes?” to “Did I live in alignment with who I want to be?”

Drawing on analogies from coding, combat, parenting, and even dance, they emphasize the need for adaptability. Life isn’t a fixed program—it’s fluid, unpredictable, and requires constant reassessment. Systems provide a foundation, but they must be flexible enough to serve the bigger mission: becoming better men and guiding others—especially children—toward that same pursuit.

The episode closes with a powerful reminder: success isn’t perfection or flawless execution of a plan. It’s progress. It’s presence. And it’s the willingness to continually reflect, adjust, and move forward with intention.

A thoughtful and honest conversation for any man striving to lead his life—and his family—with purpose.

]]> Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/the-routine-struggle-Pbxm_ISR In this reflective and unscripted episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a personal tension many men face: the balance between structure and presence. What begins as a casual conversation quickly unfolds into a deeper exploration of routines, habits, and the danger of letting them become the end goal rather than a means to something greater.

Paul shares his struggle with relying on routine to stay disciplined, only to find that those same systems can pull him away from what matters most—being present as a husband, father, and man. Andrew relates, reflecting on how even well-intentioned habits can unintentionally crowd out meaningful moments with loved ones.

Together, they unpack the paradox: routines are necessary for growth and stability, but when overemphasized, they can become rigid, self-serving, and disconnected from one’s deeper purpose. The conversation moves beyond productivity into identity—shifting the focus from “Did I check all the boxes?” to “Did I live in alignment with who I want to be?”

Drawing on analogies from coding, combat, parenting, and even dance, they emphasize the need for adaptability. Life isn’t a fixed program—it’s fluid, unpredictable, and requires constant reassessment. Systems provide a foundation, but they must be flexible enough to serve the bigger mission: becoming better men and guiding others—especially children—toward that same pursuit.

The episode closes with a powerful reminder: success isn’t perfection or flawless execution of a plan. It’s progress. It’s presence. And it’s the willingness to continually reflect, adjust, and move forward with intention.

A thoughtful and honest conversation for any man striving to lead his life—and his family—with purpose.

]]> The Routine Struggle Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:45:33 In this episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a personal tension many men face: the balance between structure and presence. What begins as a casual conversation quickly unfolds into a deeper exploration of routines, habits, and the danger of letting them become the end goal rather than a means to something greater. Paul shares his struggle with relying on routine to stay disciplined, only to find that those same systems can pull him away from what matters most—being present as a husband, father, and man. Andrew relates, reflecting on how even well-intentioned habits can unintentionally crowd out meaningful moments with loved ones. Together, they unpack the paradox: routines are necessary for growth and stability, but when overemphasized, they can become rigid, self-serving, and disconnected from one’s deeper purpose. The conversation moves beyond productivity into identity—shifting the focus from “Did I check all the boxes?” to “Did I live in alignment with who I want to be?” Drawing on analogies from coding, combat, parenting, and even dance, they emphasize the need for adaptability. Life isn’t a fixed program—it’s fluid, unpredictable, and requires constant reassessment. Systems provide a foundation, but they must be flexible enough to serve the bigger mission: becoming better men and guiding others—especially children—toward that same pursuit. The episode closes with a powerful reminder: success isn’t perfection or flawless execution of a plan. It’s progress. It’s presence. And it’s the willingness to continually reflect, adjust, and move forward with intention. A thoughtful and honest conversation for any man striving to lead his life—and his family—with purpose. In this episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a personal tension many men face: the balance between structure and presence. What begins as a casual conversation quickly unfolds into a deeper exploration of routines, habits, and the danger of letting them become the end goal rather than a means to something greater. Paul shares his struggle with relying on routine to stay disciplined, only to find that those same systems can pull him away from what matters most—being present as a husband, father, and man. Andrew relates, reflecting on how even well-intentioned habits can unintentionally crowd out meaningful moments with loved ones. Together, they unpack the paradox: routines are necessary for growth and stability, but when overemphasized, they can become rigid, self-serving, and disconnected from one’s deeper purpose. The conversation moves beyond productivity into identity—shifting the focus from “Did I check all the boxes?” to “Did I live in alignment with who I want to be?” Drawing on analogies from coding, combat, parenting, and even dance, they emphasize the need for adaptability. Life isn’t a fixed program—it’s fluid, unpredictable, and requires constant reassessment. Systems provide a foundation, but they must be flexible enough to serve the bigger mission: becoming better men and guiding others—especially children—toward that same pursuit. The episode closes with a powerful reminder: success isn’t perfection or flawless execution of a plan. It’s progress. It’s presence. And it’s the willingness to continually reflect, adjust, and move forward with intention. A thoughtful and honest conversation for any man striving to lead his life—and his family—with purpose. true full 41 6260f678-1e68-42c0-8ab2-4754ffa1b898 Raising a Child on Purpose with Nate Turner Most dads don’t have a plan. They just try to do their best.

Nathaniel Turner challenges that completely.

In this episode, we explore what it means to raise a child intentionally by working backward from who they should become. From building a “starting five” of mentors to writing letters that shape identity, this conversation pushes beyond surface-level parenting into legacy-level thinking.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just reacting… or actually leading your family forward, this one will hit.

Guest

Nathaniel A. Turner

Educator, speaker, and author focused on intentional parenting and legacy-building.

Books by Nathaniel Turner

📘 Raising Superman

https://a.co/d/0buvkWP7

Connect with Nate

🌐 Website: https://www.nathanielaturner.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nateaturner/

💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathaniel-turner-5557952b5/

 

]]> Tue, 24 Mar 2026 11:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-a-child-on-purpose-with-nate-turner-3pFFZ1bG Most dads don’t have a plan. They just try to do their best.

Nathaniel Turner challenges that completely.

In this episode, we explore what it means to raise a child intentionally by working backward from who they should become. From building a “starting five” of mentors to writing letters that shape identity, this conversation pushes beyond surface-level parenting into legacy-level thinking.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just reacting… or actually leading your family forward, this one will hit.

Guest

Nathaniel A. Turner

Educator, speaker, and author focused on intentional parenting and legacy-building.

Books by Nathaniel Turner

📘 Raising Superman

https://a.co/d/0buvkWP7

Connect with Nate

🌐 Website: https://www.nathanielaturner.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nateaturner/

💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathaniel-turner-5557952b5/

 

]]> Raising a Child on Purpose with Nate Turner Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:57:09 Most dads don’t have a plan. They just try to do their best. Nathaniel Turner challenges that completely. In this episode, we explore what it means to raise a child intentionally by working backward from who they should become. From building a “starting five” of mentors to writing letters that shape identity, this conversation pushes beyond surface-level parenting into legacy-level thinking. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just reacting… or actually leading your family forward, this one will hit. Most dads don’t have a plan. They just try to do their best. Nathaniel Turner challenges that completely. In this episode, we explore what it means to raise a child intentionally by working backward from who they should become. From building a “starting five” of mentors to writing letters that shape identity, this conversation pushes beyond surface-level parenting into legacy-level thinking. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just reacting… or actually leading your family forward, this one will hit. fatherhood, parenting blueprint, role models, raising children, raising kids, life lessons, emotional intelligence parenting, mentorship for kids, intentional parenting, family leadership, legacy, fatherhood podcast, dad mindset, growth mindset kids, parenting with purpose, life blueprint, community, modern fatherhood, intentional fatherhood, parenting tips, legacy parenting, parenting strategies false full 40 7ca8ec79-2238-4fde-820a-922284ce9b67 When Pride is a Good Thing Pride gets a bad reputation.

Most of us have been taught that pride is something dangerous—something that leads to ego, arrogance, and selfishness. But is all pride actually bad?

In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew explore the difference between destructive pride and healthy pride, and why that distinction matters for men, fathers, and the next generation.

The conversation dives into questions like:

What does it actually mean to take pride in your work?

Can someone take pride in what they do if they don’t take pride in who they are?

How do we teach kids to care about everyday responsibilities like chores or school?

Are we accidentally raising kids to seek approval instead of purpose?

Paul and Andrew unpack the idea that pride isn’t something that can simply be taught through lectures or instructions. Often, it has to be experienced through effort, ownership, and responsibility.

It’s the feeling that comes when you step back after doing something difficult and realize:

"I did that."

Whether you're a dad, planning to become one someday, or simply trying to become a better man, this episode explores how effort, identity, and responsibility shape the kind of pride that builds character instead of tearing it down.

Because the goal isn’t to eliminate pride.

It’s to cultivate the right kind of pride.

]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2026 14:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/when-pride-is-a-good-thing-wxEMaW26 Pride gets a bad reputation.

Most of us have been taught that pride is something dangerous—something that leads to ego, arrogance, and selfishness. But is all pride actually bad?

In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew explore the difference between destructive pride and healthy pride, and why that distinction matters for men, fathers, and the next generation.

The conversation dives into questions like:

What does it actually mean to take pride in your work?

Can someone take pride in what they do if they don’t take pride in who they are?

How do we teach kids to care about everyday responsibilities like chores or school?

Are we accidentally raising kids to seek approval instead of purpose?

Paul and Andrew unpack the idea that pride isn’t something that can simply be taught through lectures or instructions. Often, it has to be experienced through effort, ownership, and responsibility.

It’s the feeling that comes when you step back after doing something difficult and realize:

"I did that."

Whether you're a dad, planning to become one someday, or simply trying to become a better man, this episode explores how effort, identity, and responsibility shape the kind of pride that builds character instead of tearing it down.

Because the goal isn’t to eliminate pride.

It’s to cultivate the right kind of pride.

]]> When Pride is a Good Thing Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:52:35 Pride gets a bad reputation. Most of us have been taught that pride is something dangerous—something that leads to ego, arrogance, and selfishness. But is all pride actually bad? In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew explore the difference between destructive pride and healthy pride, and why that distinction matters for men, fathers, and the next generation. The conversation dives into questions like: What does it actually mean to take pride in your work? Can someone take pride in what they do if they don’t take pride in who they are? How do we teach kids to care about everyday responsibilities like chores or school? Are we accidentally raising kids to seek approval instead of purpose? Paul and Andrew unpack the idea that pride isn’t something that can simply be taught through lectures or instructions. Often, it has to be experienced through effort, ownership, and responsibility. It’s the feeling that comes when you step back after doing something difficult and realize: "I did that." Whether you're a dad, planning to become one someday, or simply trying to become a better man, this episode explores how effort, identity, and responsibility shape the kind of pride that builds character instead of tearing it down. Because the goal isn’t to eliminate pride. It’s to cultivate the right kind of pride. Pride gets a bad reputation. Most of us have been taught that pride is something dangerous—something that leads to ego, arrogance, and selfishness. But is all pride actually bad? In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew explore the difference between destructive pride and healthy pride, and why that distinction matters for men, fathers, and the next generation. The conversation dives into questions like: What does it actually mean to take pride in your work? Can someone take pride in what they do if they don’t take pride in who they are? How do we teach kids to care about everyday responsibilities like chores or school? Are we accidentally raising kids to seek approval instead of purpose? Paul and Andrew unpack the idea that pride isn’t something that can simply be taught through lectures or instructions. Often, it has to be experienced through effort, ownership, and responsibility. It’s the feeling that comes when you step back after doing something difficult and realize: "I did that." Whether you're a dad, planning to become one someday, or simply trying to become a better man, this episode explores how effort, identity, and responsibility shape the kind of pride that builds character instead of tearing it down. Because the goal isn’t to eliminate pride. It’s to cultivate the right kind of pride. true full 39 983492dc-6c15-496f-a755-c96f9949daa8 What Happens When Men Stop Doing Life Alone with Jason Lange This episode explores the transformative power of men's groups, emphasizing support, accountability, and emotional connection for men and fathers. Jason Lange shares insights on how community impacts personal growth, parenting, and identity shifts, offering practical advice for men seeking deeper connection and self-awareness.

Key Topics

The importance of men's groups for support and accountability
How community influences men's personal growth and parenting
The role of vulnerability and emotional expression in masculinity

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Men's Work
01:10 The Importance of Men's Groups
02:40 Support and Accountability in Men's Groups
07:34 Self-Care for Fathers
09:31 Identity Crisis in Fatherhood
10:30 Navigating Life's Transitions
12:24 The Role of Community in Parenting
15:51 Diverse Role Models for Children
19:08 Normalizing Help and Growth
21:37 Integrating Family and Men's Groups
25:53 Virtual vs. In-Person Groups
29:14 Addressing Skepticism About Men's Groups
33:19 The Importance of Genuine Connection
35:16 Men's Groups: A Space for Vulnerability and Growth
39:33 Parenting and Emotional Regulation
43:06 The Role of Men's Groups in Personal Well-being
48:43 Finding the Right Men's Group
56:37 Conclusion and Resources for Men's Groups

Resources

]]> Tue, 10 Mar 2026 11:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/what-happens-when-men-stop-doing-life-alone-with-jason-lange-x4oF_sAH This episode explores the transformative power of men's groups, emphasizing support, accountability, and emotional connection for men and fathers. Jason Lange shares insights on how community impacts personal growth, parenting, and identity shifts, offering practical advice for men seeking deeper connection and self-awareness.

Key Topics

The importance of men's groups for support and accountability
How community influences men's personal growth and parenting
The role of vulnerability and emotional expression in masculinity

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Men's Work
01:10 The Importance of Men's Groups
02:40 Support and Accountability in Men's Groups
07:34 Self-Care for Fathers
09:31 Identity Crisis in Fatherhood
10:30 Navigating Life's Transitions
12:24 The Role of Community in Parenting
15:51 Diverse Role Models for Children
19:08 Normalizing Help and Growth
21:37 Integrating Family and Men's Groups
25:53 Virtual vs. In-Person Groups
29:14 Addressing Skepticism About Men's Groups
33:19 The Importance of Genuine Connection
35:16 Men's Groups: A Space for Vulnerability and Growth
39:33 Parenting and Emotional Regulation
43:06 The Role of Men's Groups in Personal Well-being
48:43 Finding the Right Men's Group
56:37 Conclusion and Resources for Men's Groups

Resources

]]> What Happens When Men Stop Doing Life Alone with Jason Lange Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:57:41 This episode explores the transformative power of men's groups, emphasizing support, accountability, and emotional connection for men and fathers. Jason Lange shares insights on how community impacts personal growth, parenting, and identity shifts, offering practical advice for men seeking deeper connection and self-awareness. This episode explores the transformative power of men's groups, emphasizing support, accountability, and emotional connection for men and fathers. Jason Lange shares insights on how community impacts personal growth, parenting, and identity shifts, offering practical advice for men seeking deeper connection and self-awareness. men’s work, fatherhood, why men need male friendships, fatherhood support system, modern masculinity, self-care, identity crisis, emotional intelligence for men, accountability, community for dads, keywords men's groups, fatherhood growth, why dad podcast, men's work, parenting, support, community, intentional fatherhood, mens group for fathers, vulnerability true full 38 aebfb22b-d040-4fec-8c6e-4552988def22 Should Men Be Dangerous? Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad unpack the popular idea that “men should be dangerous” through the lens of Wild at Heart. They explore what the phrase gets right, what it risks communicating, and where a better target might be “capable and intentional.” The conversation threads through human nature, adventure, protection, taking calculated risks, and the crucial difference between dangerous and reckless. They land on a practical challenge: define what you stand for, then take small daily steps that build strength, clarity, and character.

In this episode
• The “be dangerous” idea: truth underneath it, and how it gets misread
• Dangerous vs reckless, and why the distinction matters
• Why “powerful” may communicate the goal better, but also has limits
• Adventure, risk, and responsibility as part of mature masculinity
• Why knowing what you stand for comes before “being dangerous”
• Small daily challenges that build a man who can lead and protect

Practical takeaways
• Pick one small challenge today (fitness, food, focus, or courage)
• Reduce “easy dopamine” that keeps you timid (scrolling, binging, avoidance)
• Define what you are protecting and building (values, mission, family culture)
• Build capacity on purpose so you can use it wisely

Resources referenced
• Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
• Jordan Peterson (mentioned in context of modern “be dangerous” framing)
• Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg
• Crucial Conversations (book referenced)
• Socratic method (referenced)
• Fathers With Daughters and Russ Kimura (mentioned)
• Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness (mentioned)
• Oregon Coast Trail (mentioned)

]]> Tue, 3 Mar 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/should-men-be-dangerous-7PBeqXxh Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad unpack the popular idea that “men should be dangerous” through the lens of Wild at Heart. They explore what the phrase gets right, what it risks communicating, and where a better target might be “capable and intentional.” The conversation threads through human nature, adventure, protection, taking calculated risks, and the crucial difference between dangerous and reckless. They land on a practical challenge: define what you stand for, then take small daily steps that build strength, clarity, and character.

In this episode
• The “be dangerous” idea: truth underneath it, and how it gets misread
• Dangerous vs reckless, and why the distinction matters
• Why “powerful” may communicate the goal better, but also has limits
• Adventure, risk, and responsibility as part of mature masculinity
• Why knowing what you stand for comes before “being dangerous”
• Small daily challenges that build a man who can lead and protect

Practical takeaways
• Pick one small challenge today (fitness, food, focus, or courage)
• Reduce “easy dopamine” that keeps you timid (scrolling, binging, avoidance)
• Define what you are protecting and building (values, mission, family culture)
• Build capacity on purpose so you can use it wisely

Resources referenced
• Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
• Jordan Peterson (mentioned in context of modern “be dangerous” framing)
• Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg
• Crucial Conversations (book referenced)
• Socratic method (referenced)
• Fathers With Daughters and Russ Kimura (mentioned)
• Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness (mentioned)
• Oregon Coast Trail (mentioned)

]]> Should Men Be Dangerous? Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:44:16 Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad unpack the popular idea that “men should be dangerous” through the lens of Wild at Heart. They explore what the phrase gets right, what it risks communicating, and where a better target might be “capable and intentional.” The conversation threads through human nature, adventure, protection, taking calculated risks, and the crucial difference between dangerous and reckless. They land on a practical challenge: define what you stand for, then take small daily steps that build strength, clarity, and character. Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad unpack the popular idea that “men should be dangerous” through the lens of Wild at Heart. They explore what the phrase gets right, what it risks communicating, and where a better target might be “capable and intentional.” The conversation threads through human nature, adventure, protection, taking calculated risks, and the crucial difference between dangerous and reckless. They land on a practical challenge: define what you stand for, then take small daily steps that build strength, clarity, and character. discipline, courage, be dangerous, intentional living, why dad, fatherhood leadership, healthy masculinity, john eldredge, calculated risk, dangerous vs reckless, protecting your family, identity, adventure, values, confidence, masculinity, wild at heart, personal growth, capability, powerful men, modern manhood true full 37 fdb89c76-35dd-4978-847c-e08175018ba2 Excellence, Accountability & Financial Health with Chad Hufford In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a profound conversation with Chad Hufford, a father of six and founder of Veritas Wealth Management. The discussion revolves around the importance of intentionality in parenting, particularly in financial stewardship. Chad emphasizes that financial health, much like physical health, requires active attention and effort. He shares personal anecdotes about his journey as a father, highlighting the significance of vulnerability and excellence over perfection in parenting. The conversation also touches on the necessity of having a clear vision for the future and the role of accountability in achieving personal and familial goals.
Chad's insights encourage fathers to be proactive in their financial education and to model healthy financial habits for their children. He stresses that someone will inevitably teach kids about money, and it’s crucial for fathers to take on that role. The episode concludes with practical advice for aspiring dads, urging them to surround themselves with mentors and to define what they want their lives to look like in the future. This episode serves as a reminder that being a good dad involves intentional actions, open communication, and a commitment to personal growth

]]> Tue, 24 Feb 2026 15:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/excellence-accountability-financial-health-with-chad-hufford-Wkutv5up In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a profound conversation with Chad Hufford, a father of six and founder of Veritas Wealth Management. The discussion revolves around the importance of intentionality in parenting, particularly in financial stewardship. Chad emphasizes that financial health, much like physical health, requires active attention and effort. He shares personal anecdotes about his journey as a father, highlighting the significance of vulnerability and excellence over perfection in parenting. The conversation also touches on the necessity of having a clear vision for the future and the role of accountability in achieving personal and familial goals.
Chad's insights encourage fathers to be proactive in their financial education and to model healthy financial habits for their children. He stresses that someone will inevitably teach kids about money, and it’s crucial for fathers to take on that role. The episode concludes with practical advice for aspiring dads, urging them to surround themselves with mentors and to define what they want their lives to look like in the future. This episode serves as a reminder that being a good dad involves intentional actions, open communication, and a commitment to personal growth

]]> Excellence, Accountability & Financial Health with Chad Hufford Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:50:40 In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a profound conversation with Chad Hufford, a father of six and founder of Veritas Wealth Management. The discussion revolves around the importance of intentionality in parenting, particularly in financial stewardship. Chad emphasizes that financial health, much like physical health, requires active attention and effort. He shares personal anecdotes about his journey as a father, highlighting the significance of vulnerability and excellence over perfection in parenting. The conversation also touches on the necessity of having a clear vision for the future and the role of accountability in achieving personal and familial goals. Chad's insights encourage fathers to be proactive in their financial education and to model healthy financial habits for their children. He stresses that someone will inevitably teach kids about money, and it’s crucial for fathers to take on that role. The episode concludes with practical advice for aspiring dads, urging them to surround themselves with mentors and to define what they want their lives to look like in the future. This episode serves as a reminder that being a good dad involves intentional actions, open communication, and a commitment to personal growth In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a profound conversation with Chad Hufford, a father of six and founder of Veritas Wealth Management. The discussion revolves around the importance of intentionality in parenting, particularly in financial stewardship. Chad emphasizes that financial health, much like physical health, requires active attention and effort. He shares personal anecdotes about his journey as a father, highlighting the significance of vulnerability and excellence over perfection in parenting. The conversation also touches on the necessity of having a clear vision for the future and the role of accountability in achieving personal and familial goals. Chad's insights encourage fathers to be proactive in their financial education and to model healthy financial habits for their children. He stresses that someone will inevitably teach kids about money, and it’s crucial for fathers to take on that role. The episode concludes with practical advice for aspiring dads, urging them to surround themselves with mentors and to define what they want their lives to look like in the future. This episode serves as a reminder that being a good dad involves intentional actions, open communication, and a commitment to personal growth fatherhood, excellence, financial health, chad hufford, accountability, intentional parenting, wealth management, why dad podcast, family values, personal growth, parenting advice true full 36 056a082c-3496-44d5-af22-e84d9b179d9a Are You Living Together… or Building Together? In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad dive into teamwork and partnership in marriage and family life. Paul reflects on a week of solo parenting, the highs and lows of patience, and how stress can either divide or refine you.

Together, they unpack the shift from living as a “lone wolf” to building a shared life with a spouse. They challenge the 50/50 myth, explore why communication is the foundation of strong partnership, and share practical tools like weekly family business meetings and intentional connection time.

They also discuss the importance of not projecting your own standards onto your spouse, the difference between managing and leading a family, and how modeling healthy teamwork shapes your kids’ understanding of relationships.

If you want a marriage that feels like a mission, not a roommate arrangement, this one’s for you.

📌 Episode Notes

In This Episode:

• Why 50/50 is a myth in marriage
• From “lone wolf” to shared mission
• The danger of unspoken expectations
• “Don’t expect you from anybody else”
• The difference between managing and leading your family
• Reducing friction to increase connection
• How to hold each other to a higher standard without becoming a dictator
• Modeling teamwork for your kids

Practical Tools Discussed:

• Weekly “Family Business Meeting”
• Friday connection time before picking up the kids
• Monthly date night goal
• Shared calendars and visibility
• Creating safe space for feedback
• Kids vs. Dad competitions instead of sibling rivalry

Reflection Questions:

• Are you operating like roommates or teammates?
• Where are you creating unnecessary friction?
• When was the last time you laughed with your wife?
• What systems could reduce stress in your home this week?

]]> Tue, 17 Feb 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/are-you-living-together-or-building-together-IvpgUBgg In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad dive into teamwork and partnership in marriage and family life. Paul reflects on a week of solo parenting, the highs and lows of patience, and how stress can either divide or refine you.

Together, they unpack the shift from living as a “lone wolf” to building a shared life with a spouse. They challenge the 50/50 myth, explore why communication is the foundation of strong partnership, and share practical tools like weekly family business meetings and intentional connection time.

They also discuss the importance of not projecting your own standards onto your spouse, the difference between managing and leading a family, and how modeling healthy teamwork shapes your kids’ understanding of relationships.

If you want a marriage that feels like a mission, not a roommate arrangement, this one’s for you.

📌 Episode Notes

In This Episode:

• Why 50/50 is a myth in marriage
• From “lone wolf” to shared mission
• The danger of unspoken expectations
• “Don’t expect you from anybody else”
• The difference between managing and leading your family
• Reducing friction to increase connection
• How to hold each other to a higher standard without becoming a dictator
• Modeling teamwork for your kids

Practical Tools Discussed:

• Weekly “Family Business Meeting”
• Friday connection time before picking up the kids
• Monthly date night goal
• Shared calendars and visibility
• Creating safe space for feedback
• Kids vs. Dad competitions instead of sibling rivalry

Reflection Questions:

• Are you operating like roommates or teammates?
• Where are you creating unnecessary friction?
• When was the last time you laughed with your wife?
• What systems could reduce stress in your home this week?

]]> Are You Living Together… or Building Together? Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:51:21 In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad dive into teamwork and partnership in marriage and family life. Paul reflects on a week of solo parenting, the highs and lows of patience, and how stress can either divide or refine you. Together, they unpack the shift from living as a “lone wolf” to building a shared life with a spouse. They challenge the 50/50 myth, explore why communication is the foundation of strong partnership, and share practical tools like weekly family business meetings and intentional connection time. They also discuss the importance of not projecting your own standards onto your spouse, the difference between managing and leading a family, and how modeling healthy teamwork shapes your kids’ understanding of relationships. If you want a marriage that feels like a mission, not a roommate arrangement, this one’s for you. In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad dive into teamwork and partnership in marriage and family life. Paul reflects on a week of solo parenting, the highs and lows of patience, and how stress can either divide or refine you. Together, they unpack the shift from living as a “lone wolf” to building a shared life with a spouse. They challenge the 50/50 myth, explore why communication is the foundation of strong partnership, and share practical tools like weekly family business meetings and intentional connection time. They also discuss the importance of not projecting your own standards onto your spouse, the difference between managing and leading a family, and how modeling healthy teamwork shapes your kids’ understanding of relationships. If you want a marriage that feels like a mission, not a roommate arrangement, this one’s for you. leading your family, fatherhood, marriage teamwork, keywords teamwork, modeling teamwork for kids, teamwork in parenting, marriage growth, husband leadership, communication, legacy, fatherhood podcast, teamwork in marriage, dad mindset, family business meeting, parenting challenges, family, partnership, parenting, relationships, communication in marriage, intentional fatherhood, family partnership true full 35 84697979-8024-4eb7-b042-04fe43a5e274 The Importance of Presence in Parenting with Oscar Peña In this episode of the Why Dad? podcast, we sit down with Oscar Peña, host of the Daughtered podcast, for an honest conversation about fatherhood and raising daughters.

Oscar shares his personal evolution as a dad, shaped by missed presence, hard self-reflection, and the wake-up call of being home during COVID. Together, they unpack what daughters truly need from their fathers: presence over perfection, dependability over independence, and intention instead of autopilot. The conversation explores the difference between kindness and niceness, why self-care is not selfish for dads, and how family values create capable, grounded children.

This episode offers practical wisdom for current and aspiring fathers who want to show up more fully, lead with humility, and build trust-based relationships with their kids, especially their daughters.

Guest Info

Oscar Peña

Host of the Daughtered Podcast and father of three daughters. Oscar focuses on presence, humility, and growth — sharing his own mistakes and lessons to help dads raise confident, capable girls.

  • 🔗 Website: https://daughteredpodcast.com
  • 📸 Instagram (Podcast): @daughteredpodcast
  • 📸 Instagram (Personal): @a_growinggirldad
]]> Tue, 10 Feb 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/the-importance-of-presence-in-parenting-with-oscar-pena-H1FmdBYA In this episode of the Why Dad? podcast, we sit down with Oscar Peña, host of the Daughtered podcast, for an honest conversation about fatherhood and raising daughters.

Oscar shares his personal evolution as a dad, shaped by missed presence, hard self-reflection, and the wake-up call of being home during COVID. Together, they unpack what daughters truly need from their fathers: presence over perfection, dependability over independence, and intention instead of autopilot. The conversation explores the difference between kindness and niceness, why self-care is not selfish for dads, and how family values create capable, grounded children.

This episode offers practical wisdom for current and aspiring fathers who want to show up more fully, lead with humility, and build trust-based relationships with their kids, especially their daughters.

Guest Info

Oscar Peña

Host of the Daughtered Podcast and father of three daughters. Oscar focuses on presence, humility, and growth — sharing his own mistakes and lessons to help dads raise confident, capable girls.

  • 🔗 Website: https://daughteredpodcast.com
  • 📸 Instagram (Podcast): @daughteredpodcast
  • 📸 Instagram (Personal): @a_growinggirldad
]]> The Importance of Presence in Parenting with Oscar Peña Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:45:29 In this episode of the Why Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad sit down with Oscar Peña, host of the Daughtered podcast, for an honest conversation about fatherhood and raising daughters. Oscar shares his personal evolution as a dad, shaped by missed presence, hard self-reflection, and the wake-up call of being home during COVID. Together, they unpack what daughters truly need from their fathers: presence over perfection, dependability over independence, and intention instead of autopilot. The conversation explores the difference between kindness and niceness, why self-care is not selfish for dads, and how family values create capable, grounded children. This episode offers practical wisdom for current and aspiring fathers who want to show up more fully, lead with humility, and build trust-based relationships with their kids, especially their daughters. In this episode of the Why Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad sit down with Oscar Peña, host of the Daughtered podcast, for an honest conversation about fatherhood and raising daughters. Oscar shares his personal evolution as a dad, shaped by missed presence, hard self-reflection, and the wake-up call of being home during COVID. Together, they unpack what daughters truly need from their fathers: presence over perfection, dependability over independence, and intention instead of autopilot. The conversation explores the difference between kindness and niceness, why self-care is not selfish for dads, and how family values create capable, grounded children. This episode offers practical wisdom for current and aspiring fathers who want to show up more fully, lead with humility, and build trust-based relationships with their kids, especially their daughters. dad of girls, intentionality, raising daughters, self-care, dependability, intentional parenting, present father, dad habits, fatherhood podcast, dependable vs independent, why dad, fatherhood growth, presence, parenting, daughters, daughter father relationship, advice for dads, family values, covid impact true full 34 2d025dd7-faeb-408c-9b09-db4df41b91ea If You Want a Better Country, Start at Home The world feels fractured, polarized, and increasingly disconnected. For dads, that raises a hard question: how do we raise kids with strong values, resilience, and empathy in the middle of all this?

In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Chip Webster, father, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit Unity in Service. Chip shares lessons from raising two sons, decades of leadership experience, and his work rebuilding trust and unity through service.

They talk about why unity starts in the home, how attention and intentionality shape kids more than words ever will, and why service is one of the most powerful tools for building character and connection. From phones at the dinner table to volunteering as a family, this conversation challenges dads to move from outrage to responsibility.

If you’ve ever wondered how to raise kids who don’t just survive this world but help heal it, this episode is for you.

Guest: Chip Webster

Father, entrepreneur, and founder of Unity in Service

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why raising the next generation is our most important responsibility
  • The role of time, attention, and intentionality in fatherhood
  • Phones, technology, and what kids are really learning from us
  • Why unity at the national level begins with families and communities
  • How service builds trust, character, and connection
  • Simple ways dads can involve their kids in service
  • Discipline, love, and being a role model even when it’s hard

Resources & Links:

🌐 Unity in Service: https://unityinservice.org

📘 Book: Unity in Service: Pathway to Responsible Citizenship

📖 Books mentioned:

The Anxious Generation – Jonathan Haidt

The Coddling of the American Mind – Jonathan Haidt

The Road Less Traveled – M. Scott Peck

 

]]> Tue, 3 Feb 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/if-you-want-a-better-country-start-at-home-x10bJLXz The world feels fractured, polarized, and increasingly disconnected. For dads, that raises a hard question: how do we raise kids with strong values, resilience, and empathy in the middle of all this?

In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Chip Webster, father, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit Unity in Service. Chip shares lessons from raising two sons, decades of leadership experience, and his work rebuilding trust and unity through service.

They talk about why unity starts in the home, how attention and intentionality shape kids more than words ever will, and why service is one of the most powerful tools for building character and connection. From phones at the dinner table to volunteering as a family, this conversation challenges dads to move from outrage to responsibility.

If you’ve ever wondered how to raise kids who don’t just survive this world but help heal it, this episode is for you.

Guest: Chip Webster

Father, entrepreneur, and founder of Unity in Service

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why raising the next generation is our most important responsibility
  • The role of time, attention, and intentionality in fatherhood
  • Phones, technology, and what kids are really learning from us
  • Why unity at the national level begins with families and communities
  • How service builds trust, character, and connection
  • Simple ways dads can involve their kids in service
  • Discipline, love, and being a role model even when it’s hard

Resources & Links:

🌐 Unity in Service: https://unityinservice.org

📘 Book: Unity in Service: Pathway to Responsible Citizenship

📖 Books mentioned:

The Anxious Generation – Jonathan Haidt

The Coddling of the American Mind – Jonathan Haidt

The Road Less Traveled – M. Scott Peck

 

]]> If You Want a Better Country, Start at Home Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:33:33 The world feels fractured, polarized, and increasingly disconnected. For dads, that raises a hard question: how do we raise kids with strong values, resilience, and empathy in the middle of all this? In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Chip Webster, father, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit Unity in Service. Chip shares lessons from raising two sons, decades of leadership experience, and his work rebuilding trust and unity through service. They talk about why unity starts in the home, how attention and intentionality shape kids more than words ever will, and why service is one of the most powerful tools for building character and connection. From phones at the dinner table to volunteering as a family, this conversation challenges dads to move from outrage to responsibility. If you’ve ever wondered how to raise kids who don’t just survive this world but help heal it, this episode is for you. The world feels fractured, polarized, and increasingly disconnected. For dads, that raises a hard question: how do we raise kids with strong values, resilience, and empathy in the middle of all this? In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Chip Webster, father, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit Unity in Service. Chip shares lessons from raising two sons, decades of leadership experience, and his work rebuilding trust and unity through service. They talk about why unity starts in the home, how attention and intentionality shape kids more than words ever will, and why service is one of the most powerful tools for building character and connection. From phones at the dinner table to volunteering as a family, this conversation challenges dads to move from outrage to responsibility. If you’ve ever wondered how to raise kids who don’t just survive this world but help heal it, this episode is for you. screen time, role modeling, fatherhood, citizenship, service, volunteering, discipline, raising kids, parenting in divided times, intentional parenting, unity, connection, leadership, why dad podcast, presence, values, community, trust true full 33 155be75c-a537-4de5-9b67-ae7b2c81baa4 Love Your Kids. Don’t Be a Dick. (with Rob Unger) In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew welcome Rob Unger, a father and community leader, to discuss the realities of fatherhood. Rob shares his experiences of parenting two daughters, the importance of honesty in building connections, and the challenges many dads face, including depression and co-parenting. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, the lessons learned from children, and the need for support among fathers. Rob offers practical advice for future dads and discusses how to break cycles of neglect in family dynamics. The episode concludes with insights on embracing imperfection in parenting and the importance of showing up for children.

Takeaways

  • Fatherhood is about showing up and doing the work.
  • Many dads face challenges like depression and co-parenting.
  • Building connections through honesty fosters community.
  • Communication is key to understanding children's needs.
  • It's important to take yourself less seriously as a parent.
  • Dads should focus on being present for their children.
  • Navigating co-parenting requires patience and understanding.
  • Children teach us valuable lessons about communication.
  • Future dads should prioritize their interests while preparing for parenthood.
  • Breaking cycles of neglect starts with showing up and caring.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Fatherhood and Community

00:50 The Realities of Being a Dad

04:05 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

07:29 Challenges Faced by Dads

09:36 Supporting Other Dads

13:25 Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting

14:55 Lessons Learned from Co-Parenting

18:14 Navigating Fatherhood Challenges

19:39 Lessons from Our Children

22:17 Building Communication Foundations

24:33 The Importance of Showing Up

27:23 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

31:23 Rapid-Fire Insights on Fatherhood

Find Rob

]]> Tue, 27 Jan 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/love-your-kids-dont-be-a-dick-with-rob-unger-bmt2KpUy In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew welcome Rob Unger, a father and community leader, to discuss the realities of fatherhood. Rob shares his experiences of parenting two daughters, the importance of honesty in building connections, and the challenges many dads face, including depression and co-parenting. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, the lessons learned from children, and the need for support among fathers. Rob offers practical advice for future dads and discusses how to break cycles of neglect in family dynamics. The episode concludes with insights on embracing imperfection in parenting and the importance of showing up for children.

Takeaways

  • Fatherhood is about showing up and doing the work.
  • Many dads face challenges like depression and co-parenting.
  • Building connections through honesty fosters community.
  • Communication is key to understanding children's needs.
  • It's important to take yourself less seriously as a parent.
  • Dads should focus on being present for their children.
  • Navigating co-parenting requires patience and understanding.
  • Children teach us valuable lessons about communication.
  • Future dads should prioritize their interests while preparing for parenthood.
  • Breaking cycles of neglect starts with showing up and caring.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Fatherhood and Community

00:50 The Realities of Being a Dad

04:05 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

07:29 Challenges Faced by Dads

09:36 Supporting Other Dads

13:25 Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting

14:55 Lessons Learned from Co-Parenting

18:14 Navigating Fatherhood Challenges

19:39 Lessons from Our Children

22:17 Building Communication Foundations

24:33 The Importance of Showing Up

27:23 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

31:23 Rapid-Fire Insights on Fatherhood

Find Rob

]]> Love Your Kids. Don’t Be a Dick. (with Rob Unger) Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:35:43 In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew welcome Rob Unger, a father and community leader, to discuss the realities of fatherhood. Rob shares his experiences of parenting two daughters, the importance of honesty in building connections, and the challenges many dads face, including depression and co-parenting. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, the lessons learned from children, and the need for support among fathers. Rob offers practical advice for future dads and discusses how to break cycles of neglect in family dynamics. The episode concludes with insights on embracing imperfection in parenting and the importance of showing up for children. In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew welcome Rob Unger, a father and community leader, to discuss the realities of fatherhood. Rob shares his experiences of parenting two daughters, the importance of honesty in building connections, and the challenges many dads face, including depression and co-parenting. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, the lessons learned from children, and the need for support among fathers. Rob offers practical advice for future dads and discusses how to break cycles of neglect in family dynamics. The episode concludes with insights on embracing imperfection in parenting and the importance of showing up for children. imperfect parenting, dad support groups, fatherhood, being present, progress over perfection, mental health, divorce and fatherhood, dad community, showing up as a dad, lessons learned, connection, keywords fatherhood, co-parenting, men and mental health, parenting, support, imperfection, emotional presence, parenting girls, community, co parenting, dad life, modern fatherhood, intentional fatherhood true full 32 745e1cb7-ae3e-44aa-8eb6-473276a36609 To Dad or Not to Dad: A Deep Dive In this episode of the Why, Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad explore the profound question of whether to have children. They delve into the societal and personal implications of parenthood, discussing the joys and challenges of raising a family. The conversation touches on the importance of understanding one's motivations and the impact of children on personal growth and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, they aim to provide listeners with insights into the decision-making process surrounding parenthood.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why “should you have kids?” might be the wrong question
  • Not feeling equipped and why that’s more normal than you think
  • Fear of screwing kids up and what actually matters instead
  • Freedom, travel, and how priorities shift across life seasons
  • Why love alone isn’t enough without intention
  • Purpose, responsibility, and choosing fatherhood consciously

Who this episode is for:

  • Men on the fence about becoming dads
  • Aspiring fathers thinking about the future
  • Current dads reflecting on their why
  • Anyone wrestling with purpose, commitment, and responsibility

Mentioned in this episode:

  • The idea that reflection matters more than certainty
  • The role of intention over perfection
  • How community, uncles, mentors, and parents all shape kids

 

]]> Tue, 20 Jan 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/to-have-or-not-to-have-kids-a-deep-dive-yPqDtODM In this episode of the Why, Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad explore the profound question of whether to have children. They delve into the societal and personal implications of parenthood, discussing the joys and challenges of raising a family. The conversation touches on the importance of understanding one's motivations and the impact of children on personal growth and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, they aim to provide listeners with insights into the decision-making process surrounding parenthood.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why “should you have kids?” might be the wrong question
  • Not feeling equipped and why that’s more normal than you think
  • Fear of screwing kids up and what actually matters instead
  • Freedom, travel, and how priorities shift across life seasons
  • Why love alone isn’t enough without intention
  • Purpose, responsibility, and choosing fatherhood consciously

Who this episode is for:

  • Men on the fence about becoming dads
  • Aspiring fathers thinking about the future
  • Current dads reflecting on their why
  • Anyone wrestling with purpose, commitment, and responsibility

Mentioned in this episode:

  • The idea that reflection matters more than certainty
  • The role of intention over perfection
  • How community, uncles, mentors, and parents all shape kids

 

]]> To Dad or Not to Dad: A Deep Dive Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:48:02 In this episode of the Why, Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad explore the profound question of whether to have children. They delve into the societal and personal implications of parenthood, discussing the joys and challenges of raising a family. The conversation touches on the importance of understanding one's motivations and the impact of children on personal growth and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, they aim to provide listeners with insights into the decision-making process surrounding parenthood. In this episode of the Why, Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad explore the profound question of whether to have children. They delve into the societal and personal implications of parenthood, discussing the joys and challenges of raising a family. The conversation touches on the importance of understanding one's motivations and the impact of children on personal growth and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, they aim to provide listeners with insights into the decision-making process surrounding parenthood. fatherhood, decision-making, deciding to be a parent, intentional parenting, societal implications, should you have kids, parenthood, fear of parenthood, aspiring dads, parenting decisions, philosophical reflections, family, motivations, challenges, emotional readiness for kids, purpose and fatherhood, men and fatherhood, relationships, modern fatherhood, personal growth, joys, why have kids true full 31 dc818033-0eb6-4058-b5a8-17df8ad1e9a8 The Road to Mediocre Fatherhood is Paved with Good Intentions with Larry Hagner In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a deep conversation with Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. Larry shares his personal journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a dedicated father of four boys. The discussion emphasizes the importance of connection, community, and the pursuit of meaningful relationships in fatherhood. Larry provides practical advice for new dads, highlighting the significance of prioritizing marriage and fostering psychological safety in conversations with children. The episode concludes with insights on building a legacy of love and leadership for future generations.

What we cover:

  • Larry’s fatherhood origin story and turning point
  • Why good intentions aren’t enough
  • Fatherhood as a learnable skill
  • The importance of men’s community
  • Psychological safety for kids
  • Why strong marriages create safe homes
  • Leading your family instead of drifting

Find Larry Hagner:

]]> Tue, 13 Jan 2026 12:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/the-road-to-mediocre-fatherhood-is-paved-with-good-intentions-with-larry-hagner-q_9GPssW In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a deep conversation with Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. Larry shares his personal journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a dedicated father of four boys. The discussion emphasizes the importance of connection, community, and the pursuit of meaningful relationships in fatherhood. Larry provides practical advice for new dads, highlighting the significance of prioritizing marriage and fostering psychological safety in conversations with children. The episode concludes with insights on building a legacy of love and leadership for future generations.

What we cover:

  • Larry’s fatherhood origin story and turning point
  • Why good intentions aren’t enough
  • Fatherhood as a learnable skill
  • The importance of men’s community
  • Psychological safety for kids
  • Why strong marriages create safe homes
  • Leading your family instead of drifting

Find Larry Hagner:

]]> The Road to Mediocre Fatherhood is Paved with Good Intentions with Larry Hagner Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:53:52 In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a deep conversation with Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. Larry shares his personal journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a dedicated father of four boys. The discussion emphasizes the importance of connection, community, and the pursuit of meaningful relationships in fatherhood. Larry provides practical advice for new dads, highlighting the significance of prioritizing marriage and fostering psychological safety in conversations with children. The episode concludes with insights on building a legacy of love and leadership for future generations. In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a deep conversation with Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. Larry shares his personal journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a dedicated father of four boys. The discussion emphasizes the importance of connection, community, and the pursuit of meaningful relationships in fatherhood. Larry provides practical advice for new dads, highlighting the significance of prioritizing marriage and fostering psychological safety in conversations with children. The episode concludes with insights on building a legacy of love and leadership for future generations. marriage first, fatherhood, parenting skills, men’s community, the dad edge, dad advice, generational legacy, legendary fatherhood, connection, strong families, marriage, keywords fatherhood, larry hagner, parenting, support, leadership at home, relationships, community, dads, intentional fatherhood, belonging, men and loneliness, skills false full 30 8c082485-b203-4b48-8fab-392177216189 How the Partner You Choose Shapes Your Legacy Who you choose to build a life with shapes far more than your present. It shapes your legacy.

In this episode, Paul and Andrew have an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how choosing a partner influences the kind of family, values, and future you leave behind. They talk about commitment, alignment, communication, growth, and what it really means to build a legacy of love that extends beyond your own lifetime.

From marriage and dating to parenting and long-term vision, this episode challenges dads and aspiring dads to think beyond chemistry and convenience and ask a deeper question. Are we building something together that’s worth passing on?

If you’ve ever wondered how your relationship choices affect your kids, your future, and the kind of man you’re becoming, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How the partner you choose influences your legacy
  • Why alignment of values matters more than perfection
  • Commitment as a daily choice, not just a feeling
  • Growing together instead of drifting apart
  • Communication as the foundation of long-term connection
  • Legacy as love, growth, and continuity, not just a name
  • What single men and aspiring dads should be thinking about now
  • How couples can intentionally shape the future of their family

Whether you’re married, dating, or thinking about the future, this episode invites you to reflect on what kind of legacy you’re building and who you’re building it with.

 

]]> Tue, 6 Jan 2026 11:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/how-the-partner-you-choose-shapes-your-legacy-uf6ROrmS Who you choose to build a life with shapes far more than your present. It shapes your legacy.

In this episode, Paul and Andrew have an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how choosing a partner influences the kind of family, values, and future you leave behind. They talk about commitment, alignment, communication, growth, and what it really means to build a legacy of love that extends beyond your own lifetime.

From marriage and dating to parenting and long-term vision, this episode challenges dads and aspiring dads to think beyond chemistry and convenience and ask a deeper question. Are we building something together that’s worth passing on?

If you’ve ever wondered how your relationship choices affect your kids, your future, and the kind of man you’re becoming, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How the partner you choose influences your legacy
  • Why alignment of values matters more than perfection
  • Commitment as a daily choice, not just a feeling
  • Growing together instead of drifting apart
  • Communication as the foundation of long-term connection
  • Legacy as love, growth, and continuity, not just a name
  • What single men and aspiring dads should be thinking about now
  • How couples can intentionally shape the future of their family

Whether you’re married, dating, or thinking about the future, this episode invites you to reflect on what kind of legacy you’re building and who you’re building it with.

 

]]> How the Partner You Choose Shapes Your Legacy Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:38:50 Who you choose to build a life with shapes far more than your present. It shapes your legacy. In this episode, Paul and Andrew have an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how choosing a partner influences the kind of family, values, and future you leave behind. They talk about commitment, alignment, communication, growth, and what it really means to build a legacy of love that extends beyond your own lifetime. From marriage and dating to parenting and long-term vision, this episode challenges dads and aspiring dads to think beyond chemistry and convenience and ask a deeper question. Are we building something together that’s worth passing on? If you’ve ever wondered how your relationship choices affect your kids, your future, and the kind of man you’re becoming, this one’s for you. Who you choose to build a life with shapes far more than your present. It shapes your legacy. In this episode, Paul and Andrew have an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how choosing a partner influences the kind of family, values, and future you leave behind. They talk about commitment, alignment, communication, growth, and what it really means to build a legacy of love that extends beyond your own lifetime. From marriage and dating to parenting and long-term vision, this episode challenges dads and aspiring dads to think beyond chemistry and convenience and ask a deeper question. Are we building something together that’s worth passing on? If you’ve ever wondered how your relationship choices affect your kids, your future, and the kind of man you’re becoming, this one’s for you. commitment, fatherhood, love and legacy, intentional marriage, love, long-term commitment, communication, legacy, growth, aspiring dads, parenting philosophy, marriage and legacy, choosing a partner, partnership, keywords legacy, parenting, relationships, communication in marriage, personal development, family values, dads podcast true full 29 ce0fe365-7525-4590-9146-79a63f414e08 Brotherhood, Discipline, Legacy: The Warrior Dad Formula with Jeff Wickersham In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Wickersham, dad of two, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy. Jeff shares the moments that shaped his mission, including the loss of his mom and the heartbreaking wake up call that pushed him to serve fathers.

We talk about what’s really happening to dads today: isolation, overwhelm, ego, and the “librarian of the mind” problem where we consume nonstop but rarely take action. Jeff breaks down how to build momentum through simple habits, why consistency beats intensity, and why “work life balance” is a trap. If you want to lead your family with strength, presence, and purpose, this one will hit home.

Guest: Jeff Wickersham

Jeff is a father of two, performance coach, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy.

What we cover

  • Jeff’s origin story and the mission behind Warrior Dad
  • The biggest challenges dads face right now (isolation, ego, overwhelm)
  • The “librarian of the mind” trap: consuming content without implementing it
  • How to build consistency with habits that are simple and sustainable
  • Why “work life balance” isn’t the goal and what to aim for instead
  • Why brotherhood and community are accelerators for growth
  • Practical ways to take action immediately on what you learn
  • Jeff’s definition of being a good dad: answer the “bids” for attention, lead with standards + love, be their biggest fan

Find Jeff Wickersham

  • Website: https://thethewarriordad.com
  • Book on Amazon (search): Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy
  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeff_wickersham/
  • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-wickersham/
  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeffrey.wickershm

 

]]> Tue, 30 Dec 2025 22:12:43 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/brotherhood-discipline-legacy-the-warrior-dad-formula-with-jeff-wickersham-Yw0luMgh In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Wickersham, dad of two, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy. Jeff shares the moments that shaped his mission, including the loss of his mom and the heartbreaking wake up call that pushed him to serve fathers.

We talk about what’s really happening to dads today: isolation, overwhelm, ego, and the “librarian of the mind” problem where we consume nonstop but rarely take action. Jeff breaks down how to build momentum through simple habits, why consistency beats intensity, and why “work life balance” is a trap. If you want to lead your family with strength, presence, and purpose, this one will hit home.

Guest: Jeff Wickersham

Jeff is a father of two, performance coach, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy.

What we cover

  • Jeff’s origin story and the mission behind Warrior Dad
  • The biggest challenges dads face right now (isolation, ego, overwhelm)
  • The “librarian of the mind” trap: consuming content without implementing it
  • How to build consistency with habits that are simple and sustainable
  • Why “work life balance” isn’t the goal and what to aim for instead
  • Why brotherhood and community are accelerators for growth
  • Practical ways to take action immediately on what you learn
  • Jeff’s definition of being a good dad: answer the “bids” for attention, lead with standards + love, be their biggest fan

Find Jeff Wickersham

  • Website: https://thethewarriordad.com
  • Book on Amazon (search): Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy
  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeff_wickersham/
  • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-wickersham/
  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeffrey.wickershm

 

]]> Brotherhood, Discipline, Legacy: The Warrior Dad Formula with Jeff Wickersham Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:42:28 In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Wickersham, dad of two, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy. Jeff shares the moments that shaped his mission, including the loss of his mom and the heartbreaking wake up call that pushed him to serve fathers. We talk about what’s really happening to dads today: isolation, overwhelm, ego, and the “librarian of the mind” problem where we consume nonstop but rarely take action. Jeff breaks down how to build momentum through simple habits, why consistency beats intensity, and why “work life balance” is a trap. If you want to lead your family with strength, presence, and purpose, this one will hit home. In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Wickersham, dad of two, creator of the Warrior Dad Experience, and author of Warrior Dad: Love Your Children, Lead Your Family, Leave Your Legacy. Jeff shares the moments that shaped his mission, including the loss of his mom and the heartbreaking wake up call that pushed him to serve fathers. We talk about what’s really happening to dads today: isolation, overwhelm, ego, and the “librarian of the mind” problem where we consume nonstop but rarely take action. Jeff breaks down how to build momentum through simple habits, why consistency beats intensity, and why “work life balance” is a trap. If you want to lead your family with strength, presence, and purpose, this one will hit home. warrior dad experience, fatherhood, brotherhood, social media addiction, family legacy, warrior dad book, discipline, masculine leadership, intentional dad, men’s mental health, habit building, coaching for dads, alcohol-free, present father, dad community, warrior dad, dad mindset, gratitude practice, jeff wickersham, men’s group, role model, isolation, resilience, information overload, high standards high love, overwhelm, dad burnout, self improvement for men, leadership at home, bookends routine, purpose, morning routine, healthy habits, parenting advice for dads false full 28 5e75ea62-f8e7-4dc8-a643-84f7927b9168 The Missing Piece in Modern Fatherhood In this episode, Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of community for men, particularly fathers. They discuss the paradox of being more connected yet feeling lonelier than ever, emphasizing the need for genuine relationships and support systems. The conversation explores what constitutes a healthy community, the importance of fraternity, and how men can benefit from surrounding themselves with like-minded individuals. They also share their vision for building a local community of dads and the steps they are taking to foster connections among men.

Takeaways

  • Community is essential for emotional and mental survival.
  • Men thrive when they are part of a fraternity.
  • Having diverse perspectives in a community enriches personal growth.
  • Loneliness is a growing issue despite technological connectivity.
  • Men need spaces to share experiences and challenges.
  • Building a community requires intentional effort and engagement.
  • Fraternity among men fosters accountability and support.
  • Shared interests and goals strengthen community bonds.
  • Community can help navigate the complexities of fatherhood.
  • Investing in relationships outside of family is crucial for personal development.

 

 

]]> Tue, 16 Dec 2025 19:51:02 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/the-missing-piece-in-modern-fatherhood-8QqVtP8p In this episode, Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of community for men, particularly fathers. They discuss the paradox of being more connected yet feeling lonelier than ever, emphasizing the need for genuine relationships and support systems. The conversation explores what constitutes a healthy community, the importance of fraternity, and how men can benefit from surrounding themselves with like-minded individuals. They also share their vision for building a local community of dads and the steps they are taking to foster connections among men.

Takeaways

  • Community is essential for emotional and mental survival.
  • Men thrive when they are part of a fraternity.
  • Having diverse perspectives in a community enriches personal growth.
  • Loneliness is a growing issue despite technological connectivity.
  • Men need spaces to share experiences and challenges.
  • Building a community requires intentional effort and engagement.
  • Fraternity among men fosters accountability and support.
  • Shared interests and goals strengthen community bonds.
  • Community can help navigate the complexities of fatherhood.
  • Investing in relationships outside of family is crucial for personal development.

 

 

]]> The Missing Piece in Modern Fatherhood Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:41:22 In this episode, Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of community for men, particularly fathers. They discuss the paradox of being more connected yet feeling lonelier than ever, emphasizing the need for genuine relationships and support systems. The conversation explores what constitutes a healthy community, the importance of fraternity, and how men can benefit from surrounding themselves with like-minded individuals. They also share their vision for building a local community of dads and the steps they are taking to foster connections among men. In this episode, Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of community for men, particularly fathers. They discuss the paradox of being more connected yet feeling lonelier than ever, emphasizing the need for genuine relationships and support systems. The conversation explores what constitutes a healthy community, the importance of fraternity, and how men can benefit from surrounding themselves with like-minded individuals. They also share their vision for building a local community of dads and the steps they are taking to foster connections among men. fatherhood support, fatherhood identity, fatherhood, dad friendships, emotional health for men, male connection, men’s community, modern masculinity, building brotherhood, dads mental health, men's groups, support networks for dads, connection, fraternity, male loneliness, intentional community, parenting, loneliness, support, relationships and growth, relationships, purpose and belonging, community, men’s accountability, belonging true full 27 ccd74e46-7fdb-4758-8e07-e793c0fbbde6 From Addiction to Calling: Fatherhood, Faith, and a Smarter Way to Potty Train with Troy Fink In this episode, Paul and Andrew sit down with Troy Fink: husband, dad of three, pastor, founder, and CEO of Gammit Tech, the team behind Loovy, a smart potty training device built to make one of the toughest early parenting seasons a little more fun and a lot less chaotic.

Troy shares his story of becoming a dad at 19, walking through addiction, and how surrendering his life to God reshaped everything from his identity to how he shows up as a father. We also dig into what it looks like to raise kids with decades of parenting under your belt, why men need a clear sense of purpose, and how Loovy was born out of not wanting to miss the moments he did the first time around.

In this episode, we talk about:

Becoming a teenage dad and realizing years later that he wasn’t showing up the way his son needed

The emptiness of chasing parties, stuff, and status when you’re avoiding your real calling

How faith, community, and a recovery program became the turning point for Troy’s life

What “equations of grace” are and how biblical wisdom has shaped the way he parents

Parenting chapter two and three: raising a teenager and two little ones with a totally different foundation

Why he believes fatherhood is a man’s highest calling

The origin story of Loovy and how it turns potty training into a game instead of a war zone

About Troy

Troy Fink is a husband, dad of three, pastor, and founding partner / CEO of Gammit Tech. He leads the team building Loovy, a smart potty training device that uses lights, music, and feedback to help kids learn to use the toilet while keeping parents sane. His journey has taken him from working at his dad’s car dealership, to pastoring, to leading a startup that sits at the intersection of tech and parenting.

Where to find Troy and Loovy

]]> Thu, 4 Dec 2025 06:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Babba 35 Studios) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/from-addiction-to-calling-fatherhood-faith-and-a-smarter-way-to-potty-train-with-troy-fink-DXZ6GWzm In this episode, Paul and Andrew sit down with Troy Fink: husband, dad of three, pastor, founder, and CEO of Gammit Tech, the team behind Loovy, a smart potty training device built to make one of the toughest early parenting seasons a little more fun and a lot less chaotic.

Troy shares his story of becoming a dad at 19, walking through addiction, and how surrendering his life to God reshaped everything from his identity to how he shows up as a father. We also dig into what it looks like to raise kids with decades of parenting under your belt, why men need a clear sense of purpose, and how Loovy was born out of not wanting to miss the moments he did the first time around.

In this episode, we talk about:

Becoming a teenage dad and realizing years later that he wasn’t showing up the way his son needed

The emptiness of chasing parties, stuff, and status when you’re avoiding your real calling

How faith, community, and a recovery program became the turning point for Troy’s life

What “equations of grace” are and how biblical wisdom has shaped the way he parents

Parenting chapter two and three: raising a teenager and two little ones with a totally different foundation

Why he believes fatherhood is a man’s highest calling

The origin story of Loovy and how it turns potty training into a game instead of a war zone

About Troy

Troy Fink is a husband, dad of three, pastor, and founding partner / CEO of Gammit Tech. He leads the team building Loovy, a smart potty training device that uses lights, music, and feedback to help kids learn to use the toilet while keeping parents sane. His journey has taken him from working at his dad’s car dealership, to pastoring, to leading a startup that sits at the intersection of tech and parenting.

Where to find Troy and Loovy

]]> From Addiction to Calling: Fatherhood, Faith, and a Smarter Way to Potty Train with Troy Fink Babba 35 Studios 00:48:54 In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wondry and Andrew Stolpestad engage with Troy Fink, a father of three and CEO of Gametech, who shares his unconventional journey into fatherhood and entrepreneurship. Troy discusses the challenges and triumphs of being a teenage dad, the spiritual dimensions of fatherhood, and the importance of personal growth and transformation. He introduces Loovy, a smart potty training device designed to make parenting easier, and reflects on the balance of his roles as a dad, pastor, and entrepreneur. The conversation emphasizes the significance of faith, the lessons learned through experience, and the call to be a better man and father. In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wondry and Andrew Stolpestad engage with Troy Fink, a father of three and CEO of Gametech, who shares his unconventional journey into fatherhood and entrepreneurship. Troy discusses the challenges and triumphs of being a teenage dad, the spiritual dimensions of fatherhood, and the importance of personal growth and transformation. He introduces Loovy, a smart potty training device designed to make parenting easier, and reflects on the balance of his roles as a dad, pastor, and entrepreneur. The conversation emphasizes the significance of faith, the lessons learned through experience, and the call to be a better man and father. technology, fatherhood, troy fink interview, spirituality, gametech, dad podcast, dad identity, addiction recovery dad, faith and fatherhood, fatherhood podcast, christian dad podcast, loovy, parenting, troy fink, parenting tools for dads, parenting purpose, personal growth, young dad stories, parenting advice true full 26 78c1e3e6-6fad-469f-8dc6-e664a8a14c01 Let's Stolp and Air Some Dirty Wandrey In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Andrew Stolpestad and Paul Wandrey delve into the complexities of family dynamics, discussing the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and the role of chosen family. They share personal stories and insights on navigating family drama, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. The conversation also touches on the balance between supporting family members and prioritizing self-care, as well as the philosophical concepts of personalism and individualism. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own family experiences and the lessons learned along the way.

Takeaways

  • The importance of having open conversations about family dynamics.
  • Navigating family drama requires understanding and empathy.
  • Setting boundaries is crucial for personal growth.
  • It's essential to prioritize self-care while supporting family.
  • Chosen family can provide support and understanding.
  • Communication is key in resolving family conflicts.
  • Personalism balances individual needs with community responsibilities.
  • Family drama is a common experience for many.
  • Support should empower rather than enable unhealthy behaviors.
  • Reflecting on personal experiences can lead to valuable insights.

 

]]> Mon, 24 Nov 2025 00:45:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/lets-stolp-and-air-some-dirty-wandrey-t5lUMZWo In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Andrew Stolpestad and Paul Wandrey delve into the complexities of family dynamics, discussing the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and the role of chosen family. They share personal stories and insights on navigating family drama, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. The conversation also touches on the balance between supporting family members and prioritizing self-care, as well as the philosophical concepts of personalism and individualism. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own family experiences and the lessons learned along the way.

Takeaways

  • The importance of having open conversations about family dynamics.
  • Navigating family drama requires understanding and empathy.
  • Setting boundaries is crucial for personal growth.
  • It's essential to prioritize self-care while supporting family.
  • Chosen family can provide support and understanding.
  • Communication is key in resolving family conflicts.
  • Personalism balances individual needs with community responsibilities.
  • Family drama is a common experience for many.
  • Support should empower rather than enable unhealthy behaviors.
  • Reflecting on personal experiences can lead to valuable insights.

 

]]> Let's Stolp and Air Some Dirty Wandrey Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:57:11 In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Andrew Stolpestad and Paul Wandrey delve into the complexities of family dynamics, discussing the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and the role of chosen family. They share personal stories and insights on navigating family drama, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. The conversation also touches on the balance between supporting family members and prioritizing self-care, as well as the philosophical concepts of personalism and individualism. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own family experiences and the lessons learned along the way. In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Andrew Stolpestad and Paul Wandrey delve into the complexities of family dynamics, discussing the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and the role of chosen family. They share personal stories and insights on navigating family drama, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. The conversation also touches on the balance between supporting family members and prioritizing self-care, as well as the philosophical concepts of personalism and individualism. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own family experiences and the lessons learned along the way. individualism, men and communication, self-care, boundaries, communication, family priorities, fatherhood podcast, conflict resolution for dads, family dynamics, family drama, healthy relationships, emotional resilience for dads, keywords fatherhood, how to handle stressful family situations, blended family issues, chosen family, personal growth for men, personal growth, personalism, podcast, enabling family members true full 25 e5dfab7b-bf17-403e-9ada-0b4c804fde23 Navigating Burnout with Marchem Pfeiffer: A Dad's Journey to Recovery In this episode, Paul, Andrew, and Marchem Pfeiffer discuss the challenges of burnout and recovery for dads. Marchem shares his personal journey from military service to becoming a leadership coach, emphasizing the importance of self-advocacy, healing, and accountability. They explore the impact of workplace PTSD, the overlap between leadership and parenting, and the necessity of building a supportive community. Marchem provides practical tools for navigating life's challenges and highlights the significance of coping mechanisms to avoid burnout. The conversation concludes with a focus on the importance of knowing oneself and prioritizing mental health.

  • Burnout is a common issue for dads, but recovery is possible.
  • Self-advocacy is crucial for mental health and parenting.
  • Understanding your needs is the first step to recovery.
  • Healing requires accountability and self-reflection.
  • Workplace PTSD can have lasting effects on personal life.
  • Creating a healthy work environment is essential for well-being.
  • Leadership skills can be applied to parenting.
  • Admitting mistakes fosters respect and accountability.
  • Coping mechanisms are vital to avoid burnout.
  • Building a supportive community enhances personal growth.

🌐 Website: https://www.marchempfeiffer.com/

📘 Book: Navigating Leadership: From Toxicity to Triumph (Amazon link)

🧭 Core Alignment Quiz & Diagnostic: marchempfeiffer.com/core-alignment

✍️ Medium: @marchempfeiffer

]]> Wed, 5 Nov 2025 15:59:25 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/navigating-burnout-a-dads-journey-to-recovery-baYRtq27 In this episode, Paul, Andrew, and Marchem Pfeiffer discuss the challenges of burnout and recovery for dads. Marchem shares his personal journey from military service to becoming a leadership coach, emphasizing the importance of self-advocacy, healing, and accountability. They explore the impact of workplace PTSD, the overlap between leadership and parenting, and the necessity of building a supportive community. Marchem provides practical tools for navigating life's challenges and highlights the significance of coping mechanisms to avoid burnout. The conversation concludes with a focus on the importance of knowing oneself and prioritizing mental health.

  • Burnout is a common issue for dads, but recovery is possible.
  • Self-advocacy is crucial for mental health and parenting.
  • Understanding your needs is the first step to recovery.
  • Healing requires accountability and self-reflection.
  • Workplace PTSD can have lasting effects on personal life.
  • Creating a healthy work environment is essential for well-being.
  • Leadership skills can be applied to parenting.
  • Admitting mistakes fosters respect and accountability.
  • Coping mechanisms are vital to avoid burnout.
  • Building a supportive community enhances personal growth.

🌐 Website: https://www.marchempfeiffer.com/

📘 Book: Navigating Leadership: From Toxicity to Triumph (Amazon link)

🧭 Core Alignment Quiz & Diagnostic: marchempfeiffer.com/core-alignment

✍️ Medium: @marchempfeiffer

]]> Navigating Burnout with Marchem Pfeiffer: A Dad's Journey to Recovery Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:39:42 In this episode, Paul, Andrew, and Marchem Pfeiffer discuss the challenges of burnout and recovery for dads. Marchem shares his personal journey from military service to becoming a leadership coach, emphasizing the importance of self-advocacy, healing, and accountability. They explore the impact of workplace PTSD, the overlap between leadership and parenting, and the necessity of building a supportive community. Marchem provides practical tools for navigating life's challenges and highlights the significance of coping mechanisms to avoid burnout. The conversation concludes with a focus on the importance of knowing oneself and prioritizing mental health. In this episode, Paul, Andrew, and Marchem Pfeiffer discuss the challenges of burnout and recovery for dads. Marchem shares his personal journey from military service to becoming a leadership coach, emphasizing the importance of self-advocacy, healing, and accountability. They explore the impact of workplace PTSD, the overlap between leadership and parenting, and the necessity of building a supportive community. Marchem provides practical tools for navigating life's challenges and highlights the significance of coping mechanisms to avoid burnout. The conversation concludes with a focus on the importance of knowing oneself and prioritizing mental health. personal development dads, calm over control, personal growth podcast, parenting through burnout, mindful parenting, self-advocacy, work life balance for dads, men’s mental health, leading at home, fatherhood podcast, recovery, emotional regulation for men, resilience podcast, parenting tips for fathers, leadership, burnout recovery, why dad podcast, emotional alignment, keywords burnout, parenting, community support, coping mechanisms, self leadership, personal growth, leadership for dads, ptsd, dad emotional health, ptsd recovery true full 24 56674320-4007-4c06-b77d-1db93764acf7 Why Crucial Conversations Matter in Parenting Takeaways
  • Crucial conversations are essential for personal growth and relationship building.
  • Avoiding tough conversations can lead to resentment and miscommunication.
  • The HEAR framework (Hedge, Empathize, Acknowledge, Reframe) is a useful tool for effective communication.
  • It's important to prepare for crucial conversations to ensure they are productive.
  • Emotions will always be present in tough conversations; managing them is key.
  • Children learn from their parents how to handle disagreements and tough topics.
  • Mutual understanding should be the goal of any crucial conversation.
  • Acknowledging shared values can help bridge differences in opinions.
  • Taking conversations personally can escalate conflicts; it's important to remain objective.
  • Practicing crucial conversations can strengthen relationships over time.
]]> Tue, 21 Oct 2025 14:07:34 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/why-crucial-conversations-matter-in-parenting-9OShXb0t Takeaways
  • Crucial conversations are essential for personal growth and relationship building.
  • Avoiding tough conversations can lead to resentment and miscommunication.
  • The HEAR framework (Hedge, Empathize, Acknowledge, Reframe) is a useful tool for effective communication.
  • It's important to prepare for crucial conversations to ensure they are productive.
  • Emotions will always be present in tough conversations; managing them is key.
  • Children learn from their parents how to handle disagreements and tough topics.
  • Mutual understanding should be the goal of any crucial conversation.
  • Acknowledging shared values can help bridge differences in opinions.
  • Taking conversations personally can escalate conflicts; it's important to remain objective.
  • Practicing crucial conversations can strengthen relationships over time.
]]> Why Crucial Conversations Matter in Parenting Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:54:31 In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of crucial conversations in parenting and relationships. They explore the definition of crucial conversations, the importance of having tough discussions, and the consequences of avoiding them. The hosts provide strategies for successful conversations, introduce the HEAR framework for effective communication, and discuss the benefits of engaging in these conversations for personal growth and family dynamics. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to reflect on their own conversations and to embrace the challenge of having difficult discussions. In this episode of the Why Dad Podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew delve into the significance of crucial conversations in parenting and relationships. They explore the definition of crucial conversations, the importance of having tough discussions, and the consequences of avoiding them. The hosts provide strategies for successful conversations, introduce the HEAR framework for effective communication, and discuss the benefits of engaging in these conversations for personal growth and family dynamics. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to reflect on their own conversations and to embrace the challenge of having difficult discussions. parenting podcast, family connection, dad podcast, emotional intelligence for dads, conflict resolution, how to talk to your spouse, fatherhood podcast, marriage conversations, relationships podcast, communication tips for parents, emotional maturity, dad growth, family communication, why dad podcast, personal development for men, parenting disagreements, communication in marriage, crucial conversations, better communication skills, mindful fatherhood true full 23 b39442d3-e56b-4551-8d3c-adccef40bdf5 Winning at Home First: Redefining Success with Cory Carlson Cory Carlson — Links & Resources

Website / About / Coaching & Books: Cory Carlson (corymcarlson.com) 

LinkedIn: Cory Carlson on LinkedIn LinkedIn

Books:
 • Win at Home First
 • Rise and Go

]]> Tue, 7 Oct 2025 21:47:21 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/winning-at-home-first-redefining-success-with-cory-carlson-9H9kDqQU Cory Carlson — Links & Resources

Website / About / Coaching & Books: Cory Carlson (corymcarlson.com) 

LinkedIn: Cory Carlson on LinkedIn LinkedIn

Books:
 • Win at Home First
 • Rise and Go

]]> Winning at Home First: Redefining Success with Cory Carlson Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:40:44 On this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Cory Carlson — former corporate executive turned leadership coach, speaker, and author of Win at Home First and Rise and Go. Cory takes us through the pivotal moment that changed his definition of success: a dinner where status and material talk felt empty beside conversations about family. From there, he describes how he began rewriting his life around aligning priorities with purpose. Together, we dive into: The 5 P’s framework that helped Cory craft a purpose statement How identity can shift when we tie too much to achievement Practical habits to recalibrate when life derails you What it means to show up intentionally for your kids Why community, resilience, and faith matter in balancing work and home If you ever feel like you're doing “everything right” and still missing something, this episode is for you. On this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Cory Carlson — former corporate executive turned leadership coach, speaker, and author of Win at Home First and Rise and Go. Cory takes us through the pivotal moment that changed his definition of success: a dinner where status and material talk felt empty beside conversations about family. From there, he describes how he began rewriting his life around aligning priorities with purpose. Together, we dive into: The 5 P’s framework that helped Cory craft a purpose statement How identity can shift when we tie too much to achievement Practical habits to recalibrate when life derails you What it means to show up intentionally for your kids Why community, resilience, and faith matter in balancing work and home If you ever feel like you're doing “everything right” and still missing something, this episode is for you. rise and go, christian dad advice, purpose driven parenting, men of purpose, faith fatherhood podcast, win at home first, family balance, leadership for fathers, identity and faith, cory carlson, work life balance dads, christian leadership podcast, why dad podcast, parenting podcasts for men, intentional dads true full 22 dc999d42-dfa3-498c-91a2-6b4fe15f6b4e Andrew’s Boisterous Laughs and Paul’s Dad Lessons In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew slow things down and invite listeners into a casual conversation about what’s been going on in their lives.

Topics include:

🌽 Surviving the Minnesota “corn sweats”

👶 Paul’s first weeks of paternity leave with both kids at home

🍋 Evie’s lemonade stand and the surprise competition that taught Paul a lesson in letting kids live in the moment

🚗 Andrew’s 15-year father-son car restoration project and the patience it built

❤️ Why shared hobbies and genuine interest in your kids’ passions are some of the most powerful tools for connection

This one mixes humor, reflection, and storytelling. It’s a reminder that the small moments of dad life are where the biggest lessons often show up.

Resources and Mentions:

Good Energy by Dr. Casey Means (book Andrew is currently reading)

Spencer Collazos and the “Big Calendar” reference (from a previous episode)

Call to Action:
If you enjoyed this more laid-back style of episode, let us know! Share your own “dad nuggets” with us at babba35studios@gmail.com.

]]> Tue, 23 Sep 2025 21:47:52 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/andrews-boisterous-laughs-and-pauls-dad-lessons-CaLt3msU In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew slow things down and invite listeners into a casual conversation about what’s been going on in their lives.

Topics include:

🌽 Surviving the Minnesota “corn sweats”

👶 Paul’s first weeks of paternity leave with both kids at home

🍋 Evie’s lemonade stand and the surprise competition that taught Paul a lesson in letting kids live in the moment

🚗 Andrew’s 15-year father-son car restoration project and the patience it built

❤️ Why shared hobbies and genuine interest in your kids’ passions are some of the most powerful tools for connection

This one mixes humor, reflection, and storytelling. It’s a reminder that the small moments of dad life are where the biggest lessons often show up.

Resources and Mentions:

Good Energy by Dr. Casey Means (book Andrew is currently reading)

Spencer Collazos and the “Big Calendar” reference (from a previous episode)

Call to Action:
If you enjoyed this more laid-back style of episode, let us know! Share your own “dad nuggets” with us at babba35studios@gmail.com.

]]> Andrew’s Boisterous Laughs and Paul’s Dad Lessons Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:30:40 Paul and Andrew kick back for a lighthearted “tweenisode.” From paternity leave lessons to lemonade stand drama to a father-son car project 15 years in the making, the guys share laughs, stories, and a few solid dad nuggets about patience, presence, and building unique bonds with your kids. Paul and Andrew kick back for a lighthearted “tweenisode.” From paternity leave lessons to lemonade stand drama to a father-son car project 15 years in the making, the guys share laughs, stories, and a few solid dad nuggets about patience, presence, and building unique bonds with your kids. building connection, paternity leave, fatherhood, parenting podcast, car restoration, father-son project, minnesota summer, parenting humor, patience, why dad podcast, dad life, lemonade stand story, parenting lessons true full 21 58469d5d-4216-48bf-8b4c-cc55c8c258c6 David Schatzkamer and Why Play Is the Most Underrated Parenting Tool Why play matters: Play is how kids communicate their inner world. It’s not just fun—it’s expressive, healing, and relational.

Responding vs. reacting: How slowing down and tuning in builds trust and emotional regulation.

Connection before correction: When children act out, it’s often a bid for connection—not defiance.

Scheduled unstructured time: Just 15–30 minutes of fully present, screen-free play each week can transform your parent-child relationship.

The bedtime battle decoded: Why your kid isn’t actually “hungry”—they just want you near.

Repetition as revelation: Repetitive play often reveals emotional needs or stressors.

Father-daughter bonds: Why a dad’s role in a daughter’s life is especially formative for her confidence and sense of worth.

Parent repair moments: It's not about being perfect—it’s about coming back later to reconnect and repair when you miss the mark.

Creating playful structure: Code words, rituals, and small gestures go a long way in strengthening bonds.

LINKS:

]]> Mon, 15 Sep 2025 21:15:18 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/david-schatzkamer-and-why-play-is-the-most-underrated-parenting-tool-v3km0E6A Why play matters: Play is how kids communicate their inner world. It’s not just fun—it’s expressive, healing, and relational.

Responding vs. reacting: How slowing down and tuning in builds trust and emotional regulation.

Connection before correction: When children act out, it’s often a bid for connection—not defiance.

Scheduled unstructured time: Just 15–30 minutes of fully present, screen-free play each week can transform your parent-child relationship.

The bedtime battle decoded: Why your kid isn’t actually “hungry”—they just want you near.

Repetition as revelation: Repetitive play often reveals emotional needs or stressors.

Father-daughter bonds: Why a dad’s role in a daughter’s life is especially formative for her confidence and sense of worth.

Parent repair moments: It's not about being perfect—it’s about coming back later to reconnect and repair when you miss the mark.

Creating playful structure: Code words, rituals, and small gestures go a long way in strengthening bonds.

LINKS:

]]> David Schatzkamer and Why Play Is the Most Underrated Parenting Tool Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:38:38 Licensed play therapist and serial entrepreneur David Schatzkamer joins Why, Dad? to unpack why play isn’t just for kids—it’s the native language of connection. David shares real-world stories and professional insights to show how dads (and moms) can build deeper relationships with their children by learning to slow down, listen, and engage through play. From bedtime stalling to dragon hunting on a hike, the episode explores how everyday parenting challenges become moments of growth and bonding when approached with curiosity, presence, and a playful spirit. Licensed play therapist and serial entrepreneur David Schatzkamer joins Why, Dad? to unpack why play isn’t just for kids—it’s the native language of connection. David shares real-world stories and professional insights to show how dads (and moms) can build deeper relationships with their children by learning to slow down, listen, and engage through play. From bedtime stalling to dragon hunting on a hike, the episode explores how everyday parenting challenges become moments of growth and bonding when approached with curiosity, presence, and a playful spirit. emotional regulation, bedtime routines, fatherhood, unstructured play, validation, relationship-first parenting, connection, play therapy, child psychology, parenting tools true full 20 74809177-1781-413e-aa67-1217f2a700ea Fatherhood and The Art of Showing Up Takeaways

Showing up means being present physically and mentally.

It's important to take time for yourself before engaging with family.

Micro moments of presence can be just as impactful as macro moments.

Barriers to showing up include work stress and distractions.

Creating routines can help facilitate being present.

Apologizing to children strengthens the parent-child bond.

Modeling behavior for kids teaches them how to show up.

Intentionality in parenting is crucial for connection.

Finding balance between work and family is a constant challenge.

Showing up is a journey of progress, not perfection.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Fatherhood Challenges

02:03 Defining 'Showing Up' as a Parent

06:01 Personal Routines for Effective Parenting

10:05 Micro vs. Macro Moments of Showing Up

14:00 Barriers to Showing Up

19:58 Strategies for Overcoming Obstacles

24:19 Morning Rituals and Intentionality

27:18 The Importance of Presence and Connection

30:05 Family Time: Prioritizing Relationships

37:20 Overcoming Barriers to Showing Up

41:13 Moments of Pride in Showing Up

45:12 Modeling Presence for Future Generations

 

]]> Wed, 27 Aug 2025 14:33:43 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/fatherhood-and-the-art-of-showing-up-r68Ytc8P Takeaways

Showing up means being present physically and mentally.

It's important to take time for yourself before engaging with family.

Micro moments of presence can be just as impactful as macro moments.

Barriers to showing up include work stress and distractions.

Creating routines can help facilitate being present.

Apologizing to children strengthens the parent-child bond.

Modeling behavior for kids teaches them how to show up.

Intentionality in parenting is crucial for connection.

Finding balance between work and family is a constant challenge.

Showing up is a journey of progress, not perfection.

 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Fatherhood Challenges

02:03 Defining 'Showing Up' as a Parent

06:01 Personal Routines for Effective Parenting

10:05 Micro vs. Macro Moments of Showing Up

14:00 Barriers to Showing Up

19:58 Strategies for Overcoming Obstacles

24:19 Morning Rituals and Intentionality

27:18 The Importance of Presence and Connection

30:05 Family Time: Prioritizing Relationships

37:20 Overcoming Barriers to Showing Up

41:13 Moments of Pride in Showing Up

45:12 Modeling Presence for Future Generations

 

]]> Fatherhood and The Art of Showing Up Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:49:36 Summary In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew explore the concept of 'showing up' as a father, discussing the challenges and barriers that prevent parents from being present. They share personal experiences and practical strategies for overcoming these obstacles, emphasizing the importance of intentionality, self-care, and connection with children. The conversation highlights the significance of modeling behavior for kids and the power of apologies in strengthening relationships. Ultimately, the episode serves as a reminder that showing up is a continuous journey of progress rather than perfection. Summary In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul and Andrew explore the concept of 'showing up' as a father, discussing the challenges and barriers that prevent parents from being present. They share personal experiences and practical strategies for overcoming these obstacles, emphasizing the importance of intentionality, self-care, and connection with children. The conversation highlights the significance of modeling behavior for kids and the power of apologies in strengthening relationships. Ultimately, the episode serves as a reminder that showing up is a continuous journey of progress rather than perfection. showing up, intentionality, self-care, connection, family, keywords fatherhood, presence, challenges, parenting, routines true full 19 59654a14-6049-4bb7-bb3c-db2e9ed61ce0 Noémi Beres on Parenting, Creativity, and Making Space What We Talk About:

  • What parenting a teenager teaches you about emotional honesty
  • Rebuilding your creative life as a form of self-care
  • How small acts of art can create connection
  • Giving your kids permission to see you as human
  • Balancing business, boundaries, and being present
  • Creating without pressure and parenting without perfection

Resources & Mentions:

  • PodcastConnections.co — Noémi’s podcast booking service
  • Noémi’s return to mixed media art (discussed throughout the episode)

This Week’s Gentle Nudge:
Make something this week—just for yourself. A doodle, a note, a playlist. Let your kid see you do it.

]]> Tue, 12 Aug 2025 16:27:28 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/noemi-beres-on-parenting-creativity-and-making-space-11oMfo4j What We Talk About:

  • What parenting a teenager teaches you about emotional honesty
  • Rebuilding your creative life as a form of self-care
  • How small acts of art can create connection
  • Giving your kids permission to see you as human
  • Balancing business, boundaries, and being present
  • Creating without pressure and parenting without perfection

Resources & Mentions:

  • PodcastConnections.co — Noémi’s podcast booking service
  • Noémi’s return to mixed media art (discussed throughout the episode)

This Week’s Gentle Nudge:
Make something this week—just for yourself. A doodle, a note, a playlist. Let your kid see you do it.

]]> Noémi Beres on Parenting, Creativity, and Making Space Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:47:41 In this thoughtful and grounded conversation, Noémi Beres joins us to talk about creativity, parenting, and the quiet work of reconnecting with yourself while raising a family. From navigating the realities of parenting a teenager to returning to art after years of burnout, Noémi shares what it means to show up with honesty, softness, and a little space to breathe. In this thoughtful and grounded conversation, Noémi Beres joins us to talk about creativity, parenting, and the quiet work of reconnecting with yourself while raising a family. From navigating the realities of parenting a teenager to returning to art after years of burnout, Noémi shares what it means to show up with honesty, softness, and a little space to breathe. motherhood, self-expression, creativity, parenting teens, parenting identity, noémi beres, gentle parenting, burnout recovery, emotional honesty, podcast connections, parenting and art true full 18 6df07b8c-d164-4557-82ea-840d79203b06 It Takes A Village But Who Makes Up That Village? 👵 Why involved grandparents can boost kids’ confidence, social skills, and emotional wellbeing
🎯 The gap between how you want to parent and how your parents might grandparent
🧁 The power of Sunday muffins, last-minute babysitting, and everyday grandparent magic
💬 What happens when expectations go unspoken and why clear communication is everything
🫱 Creating space for healthy boundaries with extended family
🧠 Acknowledging tricky situations like loss, distance, or toxic relationships with grace
🧓 Legacy and connection: how grandparents, aunts, uncles, and “chosen family” teach kids they’re loved and lovable
🧑‍🍳 A story about a restaurant run by Italian nonnas… and why food is cultural memory
🎣 Fishing trips, life advice, and the simple power of being present

Big Ideas

  • “It takes a village” isn’t just a saying—it’s a challenge to build one
  • Relationships are the foundation. Connection is the goal
  • Communicate early, clearly, and with empathy—especially when integrating parenting styles
  • Show up. Be present. That’s enough
]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2025 18:52:43 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/it-takes-a-village-but-who-makes-up-that-village-rXOKQbAW 👵 Why involved grandparents can boost kids’ confidence, social skills, and emotional wellbeing
🎯 The gap between how you want to parent and how your parents might grandparent
🧁 The power of Sunday muffins, last-minute babysitting, and everyday grandparent magic
💬 What happens when expectations go unspoken and why clear communication is everything
🫱 Creating space for healthy boundaries with extended family
🧠 Acknowledging tricky situations like loss, distance, or toxic relationships with grace
🧓 Legacy and connection: how grandparents, aunts, uncles, and “chosen family” teach kids they’re loved and lovable
🧑‍🍳 A story about a restaurant run by Italian nonnas… and why food is cultural memory
🎣 Fishing trips, life advice, and the simple power of being present

Big Ideas

  • “It takes a village” isn’t just a saying—it’s a challenge to build one
  • Relationships are the foundation. Connection is the goal
  • Communicate early, clearly, and with empathy—especially when integrating parenting styles
  • Show up. Be present. That’s enough
]]> It Takes A Village But Who Makes Up That Village? Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:47:11 In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew dive into the role grandparents and extended family play in our kids' lives—and how those relationships shape not only our children, but our parenting too. From navigating mismatched parenting styles to embracing the “village” of support, the conversation is rich with real stories, honest reflection, and a good dose of humor. Paul shares both the beauty and the challenge of raising kids near involved grandparents, and Andrew brings the perspective of an intentional uncle learning what it means to show up with love and respect. In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew dive into the role grandparents and extended family play in our kids' lives—and how those relationships shape not only our children, but our parenting too. From navigating mismatched parenting styles to embracing the “village” of support, the conversation is rich with real stories, honest reflection, and a good dose of humor. Paul shares both the beauty and the challenge of raising kids near involved grandparents, and Andrew brings the perspective of an intentional uncle learning what it means to show up with love and respect. fatherhood, extended family, raising kids, generational habits, dad podcast, boundaries, communication, intentional parenting, legacy, family dynamics, connection, parenting, self-worth, aunts, parenting styles, grandparents, chosen family, support network, uncles, trust true full 17 2ff21473-756c-4aae-ae9d-c8c938c1eee7 Matt Edmundson: Fridge Rights, Kebab Vans, and Raising Great Kids 🔗 Connect with Matt Edmundson

Website & Full Bio
mattedmundson.com

LinkedIn
Accessible via his site, but confirmed: linkedin.com/in/mattedmundson

Instagram
@mattedmundson

The eCommerce Podcast (hosted by Matt)

Also widely available on Spotify and other platforms

]]> Tue, 15 Jul 2025 14:23:21 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/matt-edmundson-fridge-rights-kebab-vans-and-raising-great-kids-mJYBkLvv 🔗 Connect with Matt Edmundson

Website & Full Bio
mattedmundson.com

LinkedIn
Accessible via his site, but confirmed: linkedin.com/in/mattedmundson

Instagram
@mattedmundson

The eCommerce Podcast (hosted by Matt)

Also widely available on Spotify and other platforms

]]> Matt Edmundson: Fridge Rights, Kebab Vans, and Raising Great Kids Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:50:35 In this episode of Why, Dad?, we sit down with entrepreneur and father of three grown kids, Matt Edmundson, to explore what it looks like to parent with long-term perspective. Matt shares lessons from raising his kids into adulthood—what worked, what didn’t, and the small things that mattered most. From “Fridge Rights” to scheduled dinner at 6:00, his approach is thoughtful, intentional, and packed with practical wisdom for dads in the trenches. If you're trying to lead your family without losing yourself in the chaos, this conversation is full of insight and encouragement. In this episode of Why, Dad?, we sit down with entrepreneur and father of three grown kids, Matt Edmundson, to explore what it looks like to parent with long-term perspective. Matt shares lessons from raising his kids into adulthood—what worked, what didn’t, and the small things that mattered most. From “Fridge Rights” to scheduled dinner at 6:00, his approach is thoughtful, intentional, and packed with practical wisdom for dads in the trenches. If you're trying to lead your family without losing yourself in the chaos, this conversation is full of insight and encouragement. fatherhood, parenting podcast, raising kids, dad podcast, dad advice, intentional parenting, family dinner, succeed at home first, parenting teens, parenting legacy, fatherhood wisdom, matt edmundson, fridge rights, parenting boys vs girls, modern fatherhood, relational parenting true full 16 7d3bf289-8e3a-4e73-a4d7-f1f7dd1af5a3 Gentle Parenting: Spineless or Stronger Than You Think? 🧠 Topics Covered:

  • What gentle parenting actually means
  • The difference between permissive and respectful
  • Why “being the adult” doesn’t mean being the boss
  • Handling triggers without shame
  • How we model emotional regulation
  • Where we’ve gotten it wrong—and what we’ve learned
  • Why connection gives your discipline more power

🎯 This episode is for:

  • Dads trying to be intentional but overwhelmed
  • Parents unsure about the “soft” stuff
  • Anyone who’s yelled then regretted it
  • Folks wondering if respectful parenting is too nice
]]> Tue, 1 Jul 2025 14:11:23 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/gentle-parenting-spineless-or-stronger-than-you-think-xiJOtmtc 🧠 Topics Covered:

  • What gentle parenting actually means
  • The difference between permissive and respectful
  • Why “being the adult” doesn’t mean being the boss
  • Handling triggers without shame
  • How we model emotional regulation
  • Where we’ve gotten it wrong—and what we’ve learned
  • Why connection gives your discipline more power

🎯 This episode is for:

  • Dads trying to be intentional but overwhelmed
  • Parents unsure about the “soft” stuff
  • Anyone who’s yelled then regretted it
  • Folks wondering if respectful parenting is too nice
]]> Gentle Parenting: Spineless or Stronger Than You Think? Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 00:57:19 In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew unpack one of the most misunderstood parenting ideas out there: Gentle Parenting. They break down what it is, what it isn’t, and why so many dads (especially those who grew up with stricter models) find themselves confused by it. This is not a conversation about letting your kids walk all over you. It’s about holding boundaries and connection at the same time. With real-life moments, honest disagreements, and practical reflections, this episode challenges the idea that “respectful” means “permissive.” Whether you’re deep in toddler tantrums or just trying not to lose it after work, there’s something here for you. In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew unpack one of the most misunderstood parenting ideas out there: Gentle Parenting. They break down what it is, what it isn’t, and why so many dads (especially those who grew up with stricter models) find themselves confused by it. This is not a conversation about letting your kids walk all over you. It’s about holding boundaries and connection at the same time. With real-life moments, honest disagreements, and practical reflections, this episode challenges the idea that “respectful” means “permissive.” Whether you’re deep in toddler tantrums or just trying not to lose it after work, there’s something here for you. discipline without shame, emotional regulation, fatherhood, parenting podcast, respectful parenting, early parenthood, parenting triggers, dads of toddlers, toddler tantrums, gentle parenting, why dad podcast, permissive vs respectful, parenting styles, boundaries and connection true full 15 594016a1-4f61-4ecb-9695-1baa28df90a4 Parenting on Empty: Why Showing Up Still Matters 🔑 What We Talk About:
Why “being there” isn’t always easy, but it always matters
How dads carry pressure to fix things instead of just be there
The pilot-in-turbulence metaphor that redefined Nick’s parenting mindset
Learning to shift from resentment to gratitude in daily chaos
Accepting failure and showing your kids that love is consistent, not perfect

💥 This Week’s Challenge:
Next time you walk into chaos after a long day, take a breath. Instead of trying to fix everything, try just being present — tired, imperfect, but available.

🎧 Listen & Subscribe:
Find Why, Dad? on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you stream your podcasts.
Follow us on Instagram @whydadpod for real dad talk, one post at a time.

]]> Tue, 17 Jun 2025 13:45:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/parenting-on-empty-why-showing-up-still-matters-hC7l0iu0 🔑 What We Talk About:
Why “being there” isn’t always easy, but it always matters
How dads carry pressure to fix things instead of just be there
The pilot-in-turbulence metaphor that redefined Nick’s parenting mindset
Learning to shift from resentment to gratitude in daily chaos
Accepting failure and showing your kids that love is consistent, not perfect

💥 This Week’s Challenge:
Next time you walk into chaos after a long day, take a breath. Instead of trying to fix everything, try just being present — tired, imperfect, but available.

🎧 Listen & Subscribe:
Find Why, Dad? on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you stream your podcasts.
Follow us on Instagram @whydadpod for real dad talk, one post at a time.

]]> Parenting on Empty: Why Showing Up Still Matters Paul Wandrey, Andrew Stolpestad 01:07:56 In this episode, Paul and Andrew down in person with their friend Nick Jensen to talk about one of the most overlooked aspects of parenting: what it means to still show up, even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or emotionally tapped out. Nick reflects on his own fatherhood journey — juggling long days at work with the desire to be fully present at home, even when he’s got nothing left in the tank. They talk about guilt, grace, and the hard-earned wisdom of learning that presence doesn’t require perfection. This is an honest, heartfelt episode for the dads (and parents) who know what it’s like to walk through the door and face one more mess, one more meltdown, or one more bedtime battle — and still show up. In this episode, Paul and Andrew down in person with their friend Nick Jensen to talk about one of the most overlooked aspects of parenting: what it means to still show up, even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or emotionally tapped out. Nick reflects on his own fatherhood journey — juggling long days at work with the desire to be fully present at home, even when he’s got nothing left in the tank. They talk about guilt, grace, and the hard-earned wisdom of learning that presence doesn’t require perfection. This is an honest, heartfelt episode for the dads (and parents) who know what it’s like to walk through the door and face one more mess, one more meltdown, or one more bedtime battle — and still show up. imperfect parenting, fatherhood real talk, parenting podcast, being present as a parent, showing up for your kids, emotional regulation for dads, dad podcast, parenting exhaustion, exhausted parent, tired dads, dad burnout, parenting under stress true full 14 fec179c0-0f36-48b0-bc93-f38aea7e494d How Do You Give What You Don't Have? Taking Care of Yourself to Take Care of Your Kids What We Talk About:
🧠 Why mental health maintenance (not just crisis response) is essential
🥦 How nutrition, sleep, and blood sugar affect emotional regulation
🏋️ The connection between movement, play, and showing up well as a dad
🧃 Why your discipline slips when your energy does
💬 Modeling emotional health for your kids by doing your own inner work
🎯 Letting go of shame and starting small when building healthy habits

Quotes from the Episode:

“We think discipline is about our kids—but we need it for ourselves first.”
“You can’t regulate your kid’s nervous system if yours is shot from no sleep and four donuts.”
“Therapy isn’t a fix button. It’s maintenance for the mind.”

This Week’s Challenge:
Take inventory of one area: sleep, nutrition, movement, or emotional processing. What’s one step you could take this week to support your health so you can better support your family?

]]> Tue, 3 Jun 2025 13:45:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/how-do-you-give-what-you-dont-have-taking-care-of-yourself-to-take-care-of-your-kids-VuWE5Jcq What We Talk About:
🧠 Why mental health maintenance (not just crisis response) is essential
🥦 How nutrition, sleep, and blood sugar affect emotional regulation
🏋️ The connection between movement, play, and showing up well as a dad
🧃 Why your discipline slips when your energy does
💬 Modeling emotional health for your kids by doing your own inner work
🎯 Letting go of shame and starting small when building healthy habits

Quotes from the Episode:

“We think discipline is about our kids—but we need it for ourselves first.”
“You can’t regulate your kid’s nervous system if yours is shot from no sleep and four donuts.”
“Therapy isn’t a fix button. It’s maintenance for the mind.”

This Week’s Challenge:
Take inventory of one area: sleep, nutrition, movement, or emotional processing. What’s one step you could take this week to support your health so you can better support your family?

]]> How Do You Give What You Don't Have? Taking Care of Yourself to Take Care of Your Kids Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:49:34 In this episode, Paul and Baba get real about what it takes to stay healthy as a dad — not just physically, but emotionally too. From therapy and fatigue to donuts and discipline, this episode explores how taking care of yourself helps you show up better for the people who need you most. In this episode, Paul and Baba get real about what it takes to stay healthy as a dad — not just physically, but emotionally too. From therapy and fatigue to donuts and discipline, this episode explores how taking care of yourself helps you show up better for the people who need you most. emotional regulation, fit dad mindset, fatherhood wellness, parenting and self-care, healthy parenting habits, discipline and self-control, mental health for dads, mind and body health, parenting energy, dad burnout, therapy for parents, intentional fatherhood false full 13 2f028940-3631-4505-8880-c87ec2f4ed95 Raising Whole Humans With Jon Fogel 🔑 What We Talk About:
👴 Parenting for 40, not just for 18
⚖️ Punishment vs. consequences — and why they're not the same
🧠 Why the best parenting moments happen after the meltdown
🎯 How to raise kids who love learning and trust their own reasoning
📚 What we get wrong about grades, homework, and school
🤐 Why discipline in the moment usually fails
💬 How to model curiosity and emotional regulation as a parent

📚 Resources & Mentions:
Jon’s Book: Punishment-Free Parenting

Jon’s Site: wholeparentacademy.com

Viktor Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning

Topics touched: gentle parenting, emotional development, AI and learning, curiosity in education

💥 This Week’s Challenge:
Try not reacting in the moment.
Instead of disciplining during a meltdown, wait until everyone’s calm — then connect, ask questions, and parent from a place of intention.

🎧 Listen & Subscribe:
Find Why, Dad? on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.
If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review and share it with a friend or fellow parent.

]]> Tue, 20 May 2025 13:45:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Jon Fogel, Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-whole-humans-with-jon-fogel-u1G_INMf 🔑 What We Talk About:
👴 Parenting for 40, not just for 18
⚖️ Punishment vs. consequences — and why they're not the same
🧠 Why the best parenting moments happen after the meltdown
🎯 How to raise kids who love learning and trust their own reasoning
📚 What we get wrong about grades, homework, and school
🤐 Why discipline in the moment usually fails
💬 How to model curiosity and emotional regulation as a parent

📚 Resources & Mentions:
Jon’s Book: Punishment-Free Parenting

Jon’s Site: wholeparentacademy.com

Viktor Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning

Topics touched: gentle parenting, emotional development, AI and learning, curiosity in education

💥 This Week’s Challenge:
Try not reacting in the moment.
Instead of disciplining during a meltdown, wait until everyone’s calm — then connect, ask questions, and parent from a place of intention.

🎧 Listen & Subscribe:
Find Why, Dad? on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.
If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review and share it with a friend or fellow parent.

]]> Raising Whole Humans With Jon Fogel Jon Fogel, Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:50:08 In this episode, Paul and Andrew welcome their very first guest — parenting educator, counselor, and author Jon Fogel (aka @wholeparent). Jon unpacks the difference between punishment and consequences, challenges traditional ideas of discipline, and offers a completely reframed vision of what it means to raise emotionally healthy, curious, and confident kids. This episode explores why parenting shouldn’t be about control, how we often sabotage our long-term goals in the name of short-term obedience, and what it looks like to lead with intention, curiosity, and calm. Whether you're a new dad, a seasoned parent, or just trying to break old cycles, this conversation is full of “oh dang” moments. In this episode, Paul and Andrew welcome their very first guest — parenting educator, counselor, and author Jon Fogel (aka @wholeparent). Jon unpacks the difference between punishment and consequences, challenges traditional ideas of discipline, and offers a completely reframed vision of what it means to raise emotionally healthy, curious, and confident kids. This episode explores why parenting shouldn’t be about control, how we often sabotage our long-term goals in the name of short-term obedience, and what it looks like to lead with intention, curiosity, and calm. Whether you're a new dad, a seasoned parent, or just trying to break old cycles, this conversation is full of “oh dang” moments. raising emotionally intelligent kids, whole parent, parenting podcast, parenting long term, parenting mindset, intentional parenting, conscious parenting, punishment-free parenting, fatherhood podcast, raising thoughtful kids, jon fogel, gentle parenting, emotional regulation kids, parenting with curiosity, how to discipline without punishment, dads podcast, parenting advice, how to teach consequences true full 12 7daaf5ff-51ef-4e8c-96d3-56e2f8db20ab Are We Raising Brainless Automatons? In this episode, Paul and Andrew dig into one of the most powerful (and often under-discussed) parenting skills: teaching our kids how to think. From silly moments like mistaking cows for horses to deeper reflections on autonomy and identity, they explore how critical thinking shows up in everyday parenting—and how easy it is to accidentally shut it down.

You’ll hear personal stories, lots of questions, and practical ways to help raise thoughtful, independent kids in a world full of easy answers.

What We Talk About:

  • Why “those are cows” might not be the best response
  • The difference between teaching kids what to think vs. how to think
  • Why asking questions matters more than giving answers
  • How to stay curious (especially when you feel triggered)
  • Using play (like checkers and chess) to build logical thinking
  • The difference between opinions, beliefs, and convictions
  • The value of letting kids be wrong—and figure it out for themselves

Resources & Mentions:

This Week's Challenge:

This week, try replacing one correction with a curious question. Instead of “That’s wrong,” ask, “Why do you think that?” — and see where it leads.

Share your stories with us on Facebook or Instagram 

Be sure to subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.
Leave a rating if you’re enjoying the show — it helps more dads join the conversation.

]]> Tue, 6 May 2025 13:45:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/helping-your-kids-get-it-wrong-so-they-learn-to-get-it-right-Amq_Hofy In this episode, Paul and Andrew dig into one of the most powerful (and often under-discussed) parenting skills: teaching our kids how to think. From silly moments like mistaking cows for horses to deeper reflections on autonomy and identity, they explore how critical thinking shows up in everyday parenting—and how easy it is to accidentally shut it down.

You’ll hear personal stories, lots of questions, and practical ways to help raise thoughtful, independent kids in a world full of easy answers.

What We Talk About:

  • Why “those are cows” might not be the best response
  • The difference between teaching kids what to think vs. how to think
  • Why asking questions matters more than giving answers
  • How to stay curious (especially when you feel triggered)
  • Using play (like checkers and chess) to build logical thinking
  • The difference between opinions, beliefs, and convictions
  • The value of letting kids be wrong—and figure it out for themselves

Resources & Mentions:

This Week's Challenge:

This week, try replacing one correction with a curious question. Instead of “That’s wrong,” ask, “Why do you think that?” — and see where it leads.

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]]> Are We Raising Brainless Automatons? Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:51:40 In this episode, Paul and Andrew dig into one of the most powerful (and often under-discussed) parenting skills: teaching our kids how to think. From silly moments like mistaking cows for horses to deeper reflections on autonomy and identity, they explore how critical thinking shows up in everyday parenting—and how easy it is to accidentally shut it down. You’ll hear personal stories, lots of questions, and practical ways to help raise thoughtful, independent kids in a world full of easy answers. In this episode, Paul and Andrew dig into one of the most powerful (and often under-discussed) parenting skills: teaching our kids how to think. From silly moments like mistaking cows for horses to deeper reflections on autonomy and identity, they explore how critical thinking shows up in everyday parenting—and how easy it is to accidentally shut it down. 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Join the guys as they reflect on the nuanced idea of parenthood — sharing their thoughts on humility, the power of learning through guidance, and how to cultivate curiosity while instilling values. Whether you're a father, aspiring dad, or simply contemplating what it means to raise children in today’s unpredictable world, this episode offers insightful perspectives on being the best version of yourself as a parent. Don't miss out on this candid conversation about growth, wisdom, and the fine art of letting go. Let us know how you approach teaching your kids and creating that balance in your own lives! Disclaimer: expect some minor audio issues due to one of our hosts calling in from a remote location. In this episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a thought-provoking clip from a popular parenting influencer, where the idea that parents shouldn’t teach their kids "what" to learn, but instead create an environment where they can discover "what they want to learn," is explored. 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Let us know how you approach teaching your kids and creating that balance in your own lives! fostering curiosity, family guidance, parent-child relationships, fatherhood, parenting podcast, raising children, raising independent kids, fatherhood legacy, creating learning environments, positive parenting, aspiring dads, kids learning, best version of yourself, teaching kids, values in parenting, fatherhood journey, dads, dad life, parenting tips, parenting advice, fatherhood responsibility true full 9 49655030-787a-4a3b-9bfa-c9ba94d851e7 The Aspiring Dad: Preparing for Fatherhood Tue, 25 Mar 2025 13:00:00 +0000 babba35studios@gmail.com (Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey) https://why-dad-e8ac326a.simplecast.com/episodes/the-aspiring-dad-preparing-for-fatherhood-O59yuIrj The Aspiring Dad: Preparing for Fatherhood Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey 00:39:07 What does it mean to prepare for fatherhood before it even begins? 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