Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Liberated Love: From Codependency to Relational Safety with Mark Groves & Kylie McBeath (Re-Release)

Dr Alexandra Solomon, Kylie McBeath, Mark Groves — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath: https://bookshop.org/p/books/liberated-love-release-codependent-patterns-and-create-the-love-you-desire-kylie-mcbeath/40bfe21a1c3c84ad?ean=9781250908957&next=t&
After purchasing Liberated Love, access the PDF Workbook and free Meditation: https://markgroves.com/book
Reimagining Love episode, "My Partner Wants to Take a Break. What's Next?" https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/my-partner-wants-to-take-a-break-whats-next/id1588419386?i=1000756951793

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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"My Partner Wants to Take a Break. What's Next?"

Dr Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra will be exploring the topic of taking a break from your relationship, which was inspired by a listener email. First, she will talk you through some very specific and perhaps surprising reasons that taking a break is so difficult, with the support of some research. Then you will hear Dr. Alexandra’s Seven-Step Best Practices for a structured or therapeutic separation, with consideration for Before, During and After the Break.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Lived Experience of Ambiguous Marital Separation: A Phenomenological Study: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7383873/
“It’s complicated’’: The continuity and correlates of cycling in cohabiting and marital relationships: https://extension.usu.edu/hru/files/Vennum-et-al-2014-Relationship-cycling-and-outcomes.pdf
Establishing links between relationship cycling, relational stress, and well-being: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02654075251378864
Reimagining Love episode, How to Get Closure After A Breakup - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-closure-after-a-breakup/id1588419386?i=1000603123829
Reimagining Love episode, Dealing With Breakup Regret - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dealing-with-breakup-regret/id1588419386?i=1000604088930
Reimagining Love episode, "I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part One) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-thinking-about-getting-back-together-with-my-ex-part-one/id1588419386?i=1000607309489
Reimagining Love episode, "I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part Two) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-thinking-about-getting-back-together-with-my-ex-part-two/id1588419386?i=1000608341518
Reimagining Love episode, Conscious Uncoupling: Divorce as an Ending, Not a Failure with Katherine Woodward Thomas - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conscious-uncoupling-divorce-as-an-ending-not/id1588419386?i=1000650466142
Reimagining Love episode, The D Word: An Empowering Approach to Divorce with Kate Anthony - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-d-word-an-empowering-approach-to-divorce/id1588419386?i=1000642611274

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Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Featuring The Sober Mom Life: Taking Sexy Back Soberly (and so much more!)

suzanne warye, Dr Alexandra Solomon — Fri, 20 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Here’s a bonus episode for you with Dr. Alexandra guesting on The Sober Mom Life to chat with Suzanne Warye about intimate partnerships, particularly what happens in a relationship when one partner gets sober. In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra talks about how the tools of Relational Self-Awareness can be brought to navigating transitions, growing both individually and together in a relationship, resourcing different kinds of intimacy from within our marriage and outside of it, seeking couple therapy, taking Your Sexy back (especially soberly), and creating moments of appreciation to strengthen your relationship.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Reimagining Love episode, Shifting to Sobriety: Quitting Drinking, Self-Compassion, and Evolving Together with Suzanne & Russell Warye: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/shifting-to-sobriety-quitting-drinking-self-compassion/id1588419386?i=1000743944736

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resources
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Tools for Progress & Peace with Alicia Muñoz (Re-Release)

Alicia Muñoz, Dr Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Cycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Alexandra to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia Muñoz: https://bookshop.org/p/books/stop-overthinking-your-relationship-break-the-cycle-of-anxious-rumination-to-nurture-love-trust-and-connection-with-your-partner-alicia-munoz/18078243?ean=9781648480034
Alicia's website: https://aliciamunoz.com/
Reimagining Love episode, Connecting Through the Nervous System: Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/connecting-through-the-nervous-system-polyvagal/id1588419386?i=1000740378605
Reimagining Love episode, Managing Anxiety: Three Root Causes To Help You Find Relief with Noelle McWard Aquino: https://podcasts.apple.com/am/podcast/managing-anxiety-three-root-causes-to-help-you-find/id1588419386?i=1000728011668

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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"I Rebounded...Are We Doomed?"

Dr Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

In this solo deep-dive episode, Dr. Alexandra will be exploring rebounds. Maybe you are fresh out of a breakup and you've crossed paths with someone you're interested in, but you're scared that pursuing this feels “rebound-y” and therefore foolish. Maybe you're seeing someone who is recently out of a relationship and you're worried about becoming their rebound. Maybe you've had concerns about a rebounding couple in your world. Or maybe you're simply curious about the process of healing between relationships. Wherever you're coming from, this episode will surely leave you with a unique and nuanced perspective on healing before entering a new relationship that will be useful to you.

First, Dr. Alexandra will talk about rebound relationships and dig into the rhetoric around them, including some surprising research that may run counter to the typical view of rebound relationships (and then some caveats to this research - shades of grey galore!). With this groundwork laid out, she is then going to offer you a 9-Task framework for doing a rebound with Relational Self-Awareness – how to keep a new relationship healthy while also continuing to process whatever your previous relationship left you with. And if you're the partner of someone who is rebounding, you can repurpose the framework for your own situation.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Surprising Benefits of a Rebound Relationship: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/sex-esteem/202601/the-surprising-benefit-of-a-rebound-relationship-after-a-breakup
Reimagining Love episode, Why Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin Neff: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/why-self-compassion-is-an-essential-practice-with/id1588419386?i=1000733838918
Reimagining Love episode, Talking About the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-about-the-future-navigating-a-pace-discrepancy/id1588419386?i=1000578512125
Reimagining Love episode, "I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?": https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-need-connection-my-partner-needs-space-now-what/id1588419386?i=1000654782525

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resources
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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We All Deserve Support: Making Therapy Accessible & Healing from Heartbreak with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford (Re-Release)

dr joy harden bradford, Dr Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 Mar 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her mission to make mental health topics more relevant and accessible for Black women. They also discuss what to look for in a new therapist, the personal growth that comes from breakups and new beginnings, and a listener question from a single mom who's struggling with FOMO.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Therapy for Black Girls (including the online therapist directory): https://therapyforblackgirls.com/
Dr. Joy's website: https://hellodrjoy.com/
Therapy for Black Girls Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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On “You, Your Husband, and His Mother”: Understanding Mother-in-Law Dynamics for Healthier Family Connections with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

Dr Alexandra Solomon, dr tracy dalgleish — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Today, Dr. Alexandra and fellow psychologist, author, and podcast host Dr. Tracy Dalgleish are digging into a dynamic that is notoriously difficult to navigate - if, of course, all the stereotypes and jokes and rhetoric are to be totally believed. Except in this conversation, they’re handling it with the compassion, nuance, and understanding that all relationships deserve. They are dissecting the dynamic between a woman, her husband and her mother-in-law, and the complexities often found in that triangle.

Dr. Tracy’s book You, Your Husband, and His Mother explores this dynamic in such an insightful way and her offerings guide this conversation. She provides tools to help you understand the dynamics at play and to shift those dynamics in the most effective way we can: namely, by seeing our own patterns in relation to others’, meeting those patterns with compassion and understanding, and changing up our own dance moves.

In this episode, you will learn:

Why this dynamic can be so challenging, as well as the ways each vertice of the triangle might show up to shape the dynamic
Strategies for prioritizing your relationship amidst family pressures
Dr. Tracy’s Six Types of Mothers-in-Law and Three Styles of daughters-in-law
About Dr. Tracy’s VAULT method, which is an acronym that breaks down the steps you can take with your partner to shake up the dynamics of this triangle

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

You, Your Husband, and His Mother: Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law--and Your Spouse--in Five Simple Steps by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish: https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-your-husband-and-his-mother-create-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother-in-law-and-your-spouse-in-five-simple-steps-dr-tracy-dalgleish/ff98565f5a7ef87a
Follow Dr. Tracy D on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en
Dr. Tracy D's podcast Dear Dr. Tracy: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/dear-dr-tracy/id1452433255
Reimagining Love episode, Love, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-acceptance-growth-the-insights-we-glean-from-couples-therapy/
NYT article on Mankeeping that Dr. Tracy references: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/well/family/mankeeping-definition.html

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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The Other Significant Others: How to Reimagine Your Friendships with Rhaina Cohen (Re-Release)

Dr Alexandra Solomon, Rhaina Cohen — Tue, 17 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0000

What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen
Listen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's book
Connect with Rhaina online
"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and Family

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

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Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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From Crushes to Crises: How Hookup Culture, ADHD, & Family History Fuel Limerence with Amanda McCracken

Dr Alexandra Solomon, amanda mccracken — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of infatuation, unable to discern between love and obsession? In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and journalist and author Amanda McCracken discuss limerence, a state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings. Drawing from her compelling new book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda shares her personal journey through the complexities of limerence, shedding light on how modern dating practices and social media amplify this intense emotional state. Beyond the macro/cultural factors, you will hear about the individual risk factors that can lead to patterns of limerence, such as painful early experiences and certain neuro-wirings/diagnoses, like ADHD and autism. You will also hear about how Amanda approached healing from her limerent patterns and opened herself up to a healthy, reciprocal intimate partnership.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love: A True Story of Overcoming Limerence by Amanda McCracken https://bookshop.org/p/books/when-longing-becomes-your-lover-breaking-from-infatuation-rejection-and-perfectionism-to-find-authentic-love-a-true-story-of-overcoming-limerence-a/ef0e30a5bd30e10b?aid=116429&ean=9781546008538&listref=2026-most-anticipated-memoirs-and-essay-collections&next=t
Learn more about Amanda McCracken: https://www.amandajmccracken.com/
Follow Amanda McCracken on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thelonginglab
Listen to The Longing Lab Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-longing-lab/id1606581375
Dr. Tom Bellamy’s Living With Limerence: https://livingwithlimerence.com/about/
Reimagining Love episode Crushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. Phillips https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crushes-first-love-and-heartbreak-supporting-teens/id1588419386?i=1000704425459&l=ru

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resources
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Featuring ShrinkChicks: Reimagining Healthy Relationships

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Jennifer Chaiken, ShrinkChicks, Emmalee Bierly — Fri, 6 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Today, we're sharing an episode of ShrinkChicks, a mental health and relationships podcast. Dr. Alexandra recently joined hosts Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly for a conversation answering some very thoughtful listener questions such as, “Why is it so hard to break patterns and be in a healthy relationship?” and “How do I stay open to a healthy relationship without waiting for it to fall apart?”. Join our conversation as we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and the importance of self-awareness in fostering healthy connections.

Enjoy this bonus episode filled with insights and practical advice about healthy relationships and the patterns we carry from our families of origin.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Listen for more ShrinkChicks on their podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shrinkchicks/id1483261668
Follow ⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/shrinkchicks/
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube: ⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Relational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona Fishbane (Re-release)

Dr Alexandra Solomon, Mona Fishbane — Tue, 3 Feb 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.: https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536
Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MD: https://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730
The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW): https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.x
Dr. Fishbane's website: Monafishbane.com

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Healing Attachment Wounds in Relationships: The Felt Sense of Safety and Presence with Jessica Baum

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 27 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0000

These days, Dr. Alexandra talks about discernment when approaching the high volume of content available in the realm of mental wellness, self-help, and relationships, so you can sift through what works for you and what doesn’t. And a guiding principle is that insight alone is not sufficient. Engaging with content that helps you go from just knowing some new things to embodying these lessons contributes to your depth of understanding and potential for healing. Today’s guest found her way into her work through eagerly reading self-help book after self-help book trying to understand herself but determined that the piece she needed for her own healing was the felt, somatic experience of being safe in relationships. And that’s not necessarily a romantic relationship, either - that is any anchoring relationship: friends, family members, mentors, pets. This guest is Jessica Baum, licensed psychotherapist and author of the books Anxiously Attached and more recently, Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, which is the focus of this conversation.

You will hear Dr. Alexandra and Jessica Baum discuss:

the science of how relationships offer us these healing anchors, and how to create experiences of safety in our bodies, both from the outside in, and the inside out.
the dynamic nature of attachment styles, or patterns as Jessica calls them, which runs counter to the way many folks speak about them these days.
The Wheel of Attachment, which brings more nuance to the whole topic of attachment.
how to begin this type of somatic work to understand our own dynamic attachment patterns and to engage our right hemisphere of the brain more often to enrich and deepen our connections.
healing in romantic relationships, and how that’s not always available to us in every pairing - but healing through doing our own work always is!

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships by Jessica Baum https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe
Conscious Relationship Group https://consciousrelationshipgroup.com/
Jessica Baum on IG @jessicabaumlmhc https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/?hl=en

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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"If It Wasn’t For You…": The Importance of Mattering For An Abundant, Purposeful Life with Jennifer B. Wallace

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 20 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0000

In our modern world, we have seen a remarkable increase in anxiety and depression in people, particularly among young people, not to mention the loneliness epidemic, burnout, and stress, all of which greatly impact our sense of well-being and our ability to connect with each other. Dr. Alexandra is joined by the award-winning journalist and bestselling author, Jennifer B. Wallace, whose latest book Mattering: The Secret to Building a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose makes the case for why feeling like we matter is essential to our well-being and how prioritizing this need is a remedy to our modern mental health dilemmas.

In this conversation, you will hear about:

some of the stories Jennie came across while researching her new book that demonstrate why mattering, well, matters.
simple practices that folks have integrated into their daily lives to develop a sense of mattering in themselves, and to convey to others that they matter to them.
the aspects of our culture that impact our sense of mattering and how we can respond, counterculturally, with actions that protect our “mattering core”, as Jennie calls it.
Jennie’s thoughts on flake culture (our normalization of bailing on plans) and how it harms our own sense of mattering, as well as harms those around us.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Mattering: The Secret to Building a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose by Jennifer Breheny Wallace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/mattering-the-secret-to-a-life-of-deep-connection-and-purpose-jennifer-breheny-wallace/157a47e2699950cb?ean=9780593850596&next=t
Jennifer B. Wallace’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferbrehenywallace/?hl=en
Jennifer B. Wallace’s Newsletter: https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/newsletter
Derek Thompson’s Substack article: https://www.derekthompson.org/p/whose-cup-are-you-filling

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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How to Talk About Money and Build Trust With Your Partner with Heather & Douglas Boneparth

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0000

You may be surprised to hear that billionaires get divorced at roughly the same rate as the general population, which demonstrates that no amount of money protects couples from the tension that can arise when finances are at play. Dr. Alexandra often says that money is a tricky topic because at one level, it is very concrete – dollars and cents, spending and saving. But at another level, the topic of money evokes deep and meaningful questions about our core beliefs, our sense of identity, our desires, and our insecurities. To help us explore all of this, Dr. Alexandra is joined by financial-planning power couple Douglas and Heather Boneparth.

You will hear them talk about:

why money continues to be a source of tension for couples, even after couples become objectively successful.
“financial infidelity”, the role shame plays with it, and the Boneparths’ case for financial transparency in your relationship.
how to get past the tangible, more surface-level topics around money to curiously dig deeper and explore why you and your partner feel the way you do about money (and spoiler alert: that story started being written long long ago!).
how to approach prenups.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial team by Heather and Douglas Boneparth https://bookshop.org/p/books/money-together-how-to-find-fairness-in-your-relationship-and-become-an-unstoppable-financial-team-douglas-boneparth/273465fcc086fc3d
Subscribe to The Joint Account newsletter: https://www.readthejointaccount.com/
Learn more about The Boneparths: https://domoneytogether.com/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Shifting to Sobriety: Quitting Drinking, Self-Compassion, and Evolving Together with Suzanne & Russell Warye

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Jan 2026 09:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by sobriety influencer, podcast host, and author, Suzanne Warye, and her husband, Russell Warye, to talk about the role alcohol played for them at various stages of their lives and their respective journeys towards sobriety. You’ll hear them talk about the trouble with approaching alcohol with moderation, how shame becomes entwined with alcohol use, and how sobriety clears the landing for self-compassion and worthiness. Throughout, they discuss how their sobriety journeys impacted their relationship, both when Suzanne pursued sobriety first and then years later, when Russell followed suit.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Sober Shift by Suzanne Warye: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-sober-shift-a-modern-day-guide-to-living-an-abundant-sober-life-suzanne-warye/016d6eef4f5d0831?ean=9780063437616&next=t
Suzanne Warye’s Podcast The Sober Mom Life, When Your Partner Stops Drinking (With My Husband!) https://thesobermomlife.com/2024/07/22/when-your-partner-stops-drinking/
Suzanne Warye’s Podcast The Sober Mom Life, How Sobriety Affects Your Relationship: https://thesobermomlife.com/2022/08/22/how-sobriety-affects-your-relationship/
Learn more about Suzanne Warye: https://mykindofsweet.com/about-suzanne/
Reimagining Love episode, “I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-think-ive-outgrown-my-relationship/id1588419386?i=1000739258061
Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidays

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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200th Episode Celebration: Toddcast - Answering Your Questions!

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 Dec 2025 09:00:00 +0000

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce.

Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content.

We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here:

https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Watch the In-studio conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/whTJXMovXrM?si=o_tuVN-KLXA-O1sg&t=7

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidays

For Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) -

Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
Reimagining Love episode, When You’re the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/

Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment:

Healing Attachment Wounds in Relationships: The Felt Sense of Safety and Presence with Jessica Baum: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/healing-attachment-wounds-in-relationships-the-felt/id1588419386?i=1000746825889
From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/
Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/
Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/

For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) -

Reimagining Love episode, My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/
Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/

For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) -

Reimagining Love episode, Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/
Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkout

For Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) -

Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra’s newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/
Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/
Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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Connecting Through the Nervous System: Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Dec 2025 09:00:00 +0000

This conversation revolves around the nervous system and its impact on the way that we connect. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Deb Dana, the leading translator of Dr. Stephen Porges’ scientific work on Polyvagal Theory to the public and mental health professionals. As just one example of her huge impact, a term she coined, glimmers, has gone viral on TikTok.

You’ll hear Deb take us through Polyvagal Theory, explaining the three principles of neuroception, hierarchy of response, and coregulation. You’ll learn about the states our nervous systems go between - how those states feel and the types of thoughts and sensations that go alongside each state. You will learn that our ability to connect with the people around us is dictated by our biology. It’s not cognitive. And it’s certainly not random.

Through the lens of Polyvagal Theory, helping our nervous systems and the nervous systems around us feel safe becomes the goal, and you’ll learn how that perspective has shaped Deb Dana’s life and how it can shift how you approach your relationships, as well. And of course, you’ll hear about glimmers, including how to integrate a simple glimmer practice into your routine, in order to further help the nervous system feel safe and primed for connection, curiosity, and creativity.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Read Deb Dana’s “A Beginner’s Guide to Polyvagal Theory”: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/s/Beginners-Guide-Presentations.pdf
Learn more about Deb Dana and her work: https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/
Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory by Deb Dana: https://bookshop.org/p/books/anchored-how-to-befriend-your-nervous-system-using-polyvagal-theory-deb-dana-lcsw/2dcb315349927ae6

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra’s newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/
Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/
Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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“I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!”

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Dec 2025 09:00:00 +0000

On Reimagining Love, we've done several solo episodes where Dr. Alexandra takes a seemingly simple and straightforward statement that folks are making about relationships. Then she pulls it apart to try to find more shades of grey, to add more complexity and layering to a phrase that she finds has gotten too simplistic. In today’s episode, we are going to look at what it means when people say they've outgrown their relationship*. First, Dr. Alexandra will talk you through what she thinks people are saying when they say they've outgrown the relationship. Then she is going to look at the internal stuff - what might be going on inside of you that's shaping this feeling that you've outgrown the relationship that you're in. Then she is going to look at the relational stuff - what might be going on in the space between you and your partner that's shaping this feeling that you've outgrown the relationship. And then finally, she will talk about some strategies that you can use to bring clarity to the situation.

*This episode often uses the language of intimate partnerships but much of it can be applied to other relationships, like friendships, as well.

Other Solo RL Episodes that do a deep dive on a too-simplistic phrase:

“I Love Them, But I’m Not In Love With Them” https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/i-love-them-but-im-not-in-love-with-them/
“Right person, wrong time” https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/right-person-wrong-time/
“If They Wanted To, They Would.” https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/if-they-wanted-to-they-would/

Resources to support the episode:

Reimagining Love episodes, Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 1 https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-1-rerelease/
Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2 https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-2-rerelease/
Inviting a Reluctant Partner Into Relationship Work https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/inviting-a-reluctant-partner-into-relationship-work-re-release/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra’s newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/
Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/
Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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Visualizing Your Best Self: How To Get More Confidence, Clarity, & Connection with Mimi Bouchard

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Nov 2025 09:00:00 +0000

This episode is brought to you by Activations. Head to activations.com/love for an exclusive offer.

One critical component of any relationship equation is You. When you embody your best self - the self with the most clarity, motivation, aliveness - you bring your most important self to your relationships.

Dr. Alexandra sits down with Mimi Bouchard, an entrepreneur and author, who reveals her transformative journey to her best self across the important pillars of her life: financial, mental, physical, spiritual, and social.

As a result of her work, she created the Activations app to help others embody the person they want to be. Listen in to learn how to bounce back when you slip away from your relationship goals. (Which is inevitable because we are not perfect - but perfection is not the goal!) We can show up in our lives with more confidence and clarity, whether that’s for a first date, an important meeting, a therapy session, a difficult conversation, your wedding day, or a weekday walk in the park.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Mimi Bouchard’s book, Activate Your Future Self: https://bookshop.org/p/books/activate-your-future-self-the-secret-to-effortlessly-becoming-the-happiest-healthiest-and-wealthiest-you-mimi-bouchard/06a64f6f35e11628
Learn more about Mimi Bouchard: https://mimibouchard.com/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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Carrying the Mental Load: How Unequal Cognitive Labor Can Affect Your Relationship with Allison Daminger

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 09:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra totally nerds-out with Dr. Allison Daminger about the division of work in couples, particularly in an often overlooked domain: the mental space. In her research, Daminger found that even when couples approximate parity around “time use”, there are still huge gaps in what she calls “mind use” or cognitive labor… even for modern couples who believe in what she calls the Myth of Mutuality, an equal partnership where both partners evenly share the load.

You will hear about the gendered disparities in cognitive labor in the home in a gentle, blame-free way. When it comes to gender roles in family life, we tend to overestimate the effects of individual differences and underestimate the effects of bigger social forces. So if the load is feeling unequal in your partnership, Daminger wants you to move away from guilt and blame and toward strategies that move you closer to your ideals.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

What constitutes cognitive labor and why women tend to carry the lion’s share.
Experiences from couples in Allison’s research who successfully created shared systems for cognitive labor, and the approaches and conditions that made that possible.
The narratives couples use to justify how they divide labor, especially when trying to avoid recreating gendered patterns (while often recreating them anyway).
How to spot cognitive labor disparities in your own home and use that awareness to divide responsibilities more fairly based on skill rather than “personality” (i.e., gendered expectations).
The pressure that broader societal structures place on individual households, and how reframing the issue can support calls for systemic change.
How to start small and make meaningful shifts toward parity in cognitive labor.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Dr. Allison Daminger’s book, What’s On Her Mind - The Mental Workload of Family Life: https://bookshop.org/p/books/what-s-on-her-mind-the-mental-workload-of-family-life-allison-daminger/585e2aa7eac0a0ea
Learn more about Dr. Allison Daminger and sign up for her newsletter The Daminger Dispatch: https://www.allisondaminger.com/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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Nobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 2) with My Husband, Todd

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Nov 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference?

In this second part of their studio conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Todd talk about scorekeeping, with gender roles, attachment styles and general disposition/worldview in mind, best practices for the “winner” and “loser” in a change/sacrifice scenario, how to approach making sacrifices to stave off resentment…and then the REAL juicy stuff: does Todd hate that Dr. Alexandra is now a Swiftie like him? Plus, hear her hot take on shelving conversations for later.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Reimagining Love Episode, Nobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 1) with My Husband, Todd https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/nobody-wants-this-how-to-love-across-potentially-dealbreaking-differences-with-my-husband-todd/
Watch the FULL IN-STUDIO CONVERSATION on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4R40kazeU4Q?t=9
Reimagining Love Episode, Love Stories: Toddcast https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Nobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 1) with My Husband, Todd

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Nov 2025 09:00:00 +0000

You’ll hear their reflections on Dr. Alexandra’s decision to convert to Judaism, as they discuss the implications of being the 'sacrificing partner' versus the one being 'sacrificed for’. You will also hear how attachment differences and family of origin dynamics impacted their relationship and what they’ve learned from it all over the years.

You’ll come away from this episode with:

A deeper understanding of how interfaith dynamics can enrich or challenge relationships.
Insights into the importance of communication in overcoming differences.
Practical advice on navigating family of origin roles and attachment styles to enhance relationship intimacy.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Reimagining Love Episode, Love Stories: Toddcast https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

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Why Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin Neff

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra’s conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff is all about self-compassion, an essential tool for your emotional well-being toolkit (and that’s scientifically proven!). Dr. Kristen Neff, a trailblazer in the field of self-compassion research, introduces the three foundational pillars of self-compassion, illustrating how integrating all three of these elements empowers individuals to confront their inner critic and cultivate healthier connections.

The discussion delves into the biological and family of origin influences that shape our self-criticism, while also addressing the grief that may surface when embarking on a self-compassion journey. You will also learn about Fierce Self-Compassion, and how we can lean into this action-oriented facet to be ambitious and to fulfill our life’s purpose.

You’ll come away from this episode with:

A deeper understanding of the three pillars of self-compassion and their impact on relationships.
Insights into how practising self-compassion can cultivate self-love, foster connection, enhance intimacy, and reduce anxiety, shame, and isolation
A new perspective on some common myths of self-compassion, such as:

Are self-compassion and self-esteem the same thing?
Is “self-compassion” just “self-pity” rebranded?
Does practising self-compassion encourage people to not take personal accountability?
Does embracing self-compassion mean we can’t be ambitious or want to come in first place?

Strategies for integrating self-compassion into your routine, with a simple starting point that Dr. Kristin Neff herself practices daily

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Learn more about Dr. Kristin Neff and Self-Compassion: https://self-compassion.org/
Join the Self-Compassion Community: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-community/
Fierce Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff: https://bookshop.org/p/books/fierce-self-compassion-how-to-harness-kindness-to-speak-up-claim-your-power-and-thrive-dr-kristin-neff/76d3f59a98e08da8?ean=9780062991065&next=t
Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff: https://bookshop.org/p/books/self-compassion-the-proven-power-of-being-kind-to-yourself-dr-kristin-neff/a22f80fa1a9efa3b?ean=9780061733529&next=t
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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For Love, In Truth: How to Live Authentically and Find Joy with Dr. Martha Beck

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0000

“The cost of that is courage, to live for love, in truth. It takes a lot of guts and the rewards are indescribable.”

Dr. Alexandra sits down with bestselling author and coach Dr. Martha Beck to explore what it means to live “for love, in truth”, a mantra that can redefine the way we experience love and relationships. In a world filled with societal pressures and expectations, Martha shares her wisdom on how embracing authenticity can unlock profound joy and lead to fulfilling connections. Martha reflects on her unconventional journey through relationships, and the life-changing lessons learned from a spiritual experience she had while under anesthesia and from being shunned by her community in her young adulthood. Together, Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Martha Beck tackle a listener's poignant question about experiencing doubt in her relationship that’s full of “emotional complexities and longing”, leading her to question if her needs are being met.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What Martha Beck means by her mantra, “For love, in truth,” and how to recognize when you’re living out of alignment with your truth.
How to hold love and truth through moments of doubt and loss, and how to embrace doubt and loss as necessary aspects of growth.
How to come back to peace when life feels overwhelming.
How to balance compassion for your partner with holding your own truth, telling your own story, and tending to your personal needs.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Learn more about Martha Beck: https://marthabeck.com/
Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity and Finding Your Life’s Purpose by Martha Beck: https://bookshop.org/p/books/beyond-anxiety-curiosity-creativity-and-finding-your-life-s-purpose-martha-beck/6741d02da06f0869
Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan’s Wilder Community: https://wildercommunity.com/
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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What To Do When Your Partner Is Struggling (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra will be taking you through how to take care of yourself and your relationship when your partner is struggling. Perhaps your partner is struggling with a job loss, a health diagnosis, a mental health challenge, the loss of a loved one, family drama, co-parenting with an ex, or something else entirely. Whatever it is, the theme is that there is some scenario that is taking up more of your partner’s bandwidth than usual, leaving less bandwidth for you and your relationship.

In this second part, Dr. Alexandra is going to take you through five internal strategies to cope with the situation at hand – strategies designed to help you tend to and take care of yourself. Then she will take you through nine relational strategies that will help you and your partner maintain or restore your relationship even as your partner struggles.

You’ll come away with this conversation with:

A toolkit of five internal strategies to support your own emotional health while caring for your partner.
Nine actionable relational strategies to enhance communication and understanding in your relationship.
Insights on the significance of self-care for the non-struggling partner and how it contributes to relationship health.
Food-for-thought on resentment, grieving, high-functioning co-dependency, celebrating small victories, and rebuilding after a dark period (and so much more!)

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Terri Cole’s Too Much: https://bookshop.org/p/books/too-much-a-guide-to-breaking-the-cycle-of-high-functioning-codependency-terri-cole-msw-lcsw/077213db5957f23e?ean=9781649631862&next=t&
Reimagining Love episode, High-Functioning Codependency: From Managing to Loving with Terri Cole https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/high-functioning-codependency-from-managing-to-loving-with-terri-cole/
Reimagining Love episode, Why Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin Neff https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/why-self-compassion-is-an-essential-practice-with/id1588419386?i=1000733838918
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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What To Do When Your Partner Is Struggling (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Oct 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this first part, Dr. Alexandra is going to be contextualizing this scenario and providing lots of validation for the struggle that comes with having a struggling partner. She is also going to discuss factors that shape how your partner’s struggle impacts you. Hard things are just hard, but the ways you’re getting activated in the wake of your partner’s struggle also have a lot to do with your specific wounds, as well as the role you played in your family of origin.

The insights shared in this episode lay the groundwork for a two-part series designed to equip you with effective coping strategies to maintain your well-being while fostering intimacy and connection, even in challenging times.

You’ll come away from this conversation with:

A deeper understanding of what Dr. Alexandra calls the Recursive Relational Framework (RRF).
Research examples that demonstrate that your partner’s struggles affect you and that how you respond can influence their outcome.
Strategies for recognizing and managing your emotional triggers in response to a partner's distress.
Practical tips for fostering personal growth while supporting a partner through their challenges.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesworkbook/
Family of Origin Series Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/58WZg044gbmGsL6iPNxXJy?si=bajzkF-kRxG3WL76yJL-qw
Take the Family of Origin Role Quiz: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz/
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Links to research articles mentioned: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/what-to-do-when-your-partner-is-struggling-part-one/

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
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How Healing Your Inner Child Can Deepen Your Relationships with Christine Hassler

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

What if the key to deeper intimacy lies in understanding the echoes of our past? Dr. Alexandra Solomon sits with Christine Hassler, a Master coach, podcast host, and author, to discuss how our family of origin roles shape our present connections, emphasizing the importance of inner child work and relational self-awareness. Christine shares her journey through the unhealthy patterns that surfaced in her own relationship with her partner, Stef, offering a raw look at the necessity of self-reflection in cultivating healthier dynamics.

You'll come away from this episode with:

A deeper understanding of how family of origin influences shape your current relationships.
Practical strategies for engaging in inner child work to enhance self-awareness and relational dynamics.
Insights into the importance of self-advocacy (especially as women!) and authentic communication in intimate partnerships.
Perspective on how our professional roles and work offer yet another arena for us to notice and tend to old pain and create new ways of relating to ourselves and the world around us.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Podcast - Life Coaching with Christine Hassler: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/life-coaching-with-christine-hassler/id1050321415
Christine Hassler's The Women's Retreat in San Diego, Oct 17-19, 2025: https://christinehassler.com/womensretreat/
“Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Managing Anxiety: Three Root Causes To Help You Find Relief with Noelle McWard Aquino

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 23 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Anxiety is one of the most common emotional struggles today. Whether you have a formal diagnosis or are simply experiencing the symptoms, you are not alone.

In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by anxiety expert, therapist, and author Noelle McWard Aquino to talk about the three distinct root causes Noelle has identified and written about in her book Anxiety Unpacked. Together, they discuss which characteristics each type has and what core needs drive them. And most importantly, they discuss practical tools and strategies to help you find relief and peace, regardless of your anxiety type.

You’ll come away with this conversation with:

A thorough overview of anxiety, with answers to questions that often come up such as:

-What’s the difference between anxiety and intuition?

-Is it okay if I just avoid the things that make me anxious?

-How am I possibly going to change my behaviour when I feel as anxious as I do?

-Why do we have to deal with anxiety in the first place?

The three root causes of anxiety, characteristics to identify each type, and strategies to manage each type
Tips on what to do if you’re struggling with anxiety in your intimate partnership, and what to do if your partner is struggling with anxiety
Validation on the experience of anxiety and a mindset shift to provide hope that you can find peace and calm

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Learn more about Noelle McWard Aquino:

https://noellemcwardaquino.com/

Anxiety Unpacked by Noelle McWard Aquino:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/anxiety-unpacked-noelle-mcward-aquino/a60a608d74e71afb?ean=9781960876904&next=t&

“Your Anxiety Toolkit” on MasterClass:

www.masterclass.com/youranxietytoolkit

Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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It’s Not Just You: The Myth of Limitless Resilience with Dr. Tasha Eurich

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Have you ever felt like your resilience is being pushed to its limits, especially in the chaotic and complex world we live in today? Dr. Alexandra sits down with organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Tasha Eurich to delve into the insights from her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (and Why Resilience Alone Isn’t Enough). In this conversation, they discuss the myths of resilience, as well as what a “resilience ceiling” is and how to identify when we’ve hit it. Most importantly, they talk about how to understand the limits of resilience so that we don’t, as Dr. Tasha would call it, “grit gaslight” ourselves when our usual coping strategies don’t work the way they used to.

You'll come away from this episode with:

A clearer understanding of the limitations of resilience and how to identify when you’ve reached your 'resilience ceiling’.
A renewed perspective on the importance of acknowledging struggles as part of personal growth and healing (stoicism isn't the answer here!).
Practical strategies and tools to enhance your self-awareness and well-being, such as Dr. Tasha’s self-assessment for determining how much of our self-definition is about our work and ambition, and her 2-2-2 tool for managing overwhelm.
Insights into the essential emotional needs that foster deeper connections in your relationships.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

The Resilience Ceiling Quiz

https://resilience-quiz.com/

Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (And Why Resilience Alone Isn't Enough) by Tasha Eurich

https://bookshop.org/p/books/shatterproof-how-to-thrive-in-a-world-of-constant-chaos-and-why-resilience-alone-isn-t-enough-tasha-eurich/9f0e6a8876113ed0

Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Navigating Political Polarization: How to Connect Through Curious Conversations with Mónica Guzmán

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

There are a few things we likely can all agree on: (1) we are living in a very polarizing time, (2) it’s hurting us, and (3) the way that we talk about politics is broken, given that we are all living in different information orbits. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down with Mónica Guzmán who offers us some hope for the relationships in our lives that have suffered as a result of this polarization. She also offers us the perspective we need to help us stay grounded, even as the structures all around us fiercely demand our attention and invite our reactivity.

The goal is not necessarily to seek to change each other’s view on the issues but to change our view on each other. And to see that “engagement is not endorsement”, as we work to enter into curious dialogue with the people in our lives and to perhaps notice the ways that we are not as divided as we believe we are.

You’ll come away with:

Strategies on how to approach the conversations with the people in your life that have historically gone sideways due to ideological misalignments
Insights on maintaining curiosity and connection in the face of division
Tips for navigating the online dating landscape without compromising your values or limiting yourself

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Mónica Guzmán’s Reclaim Curiosity Newsletter: https://www.moniguzman.com/subscribe
I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times by Mónica Guzmán: https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-never-thought-of-it-that-way-monica-guzman/22293096?ean=9781637740323&next=t&next=t&affiliate=4380
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Revisit & Reflect: Dr. Thema Bryant on How to Heal through Resting

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

We’re living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload!) and lots of that information is about mental health, wellness, and relational health! But there’s a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us. Whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation. This creates insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior.

Reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, continuing with today’s conversation from the archive. Originally released in September 2022, Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Thema Bryant discuss the importance of resting and of tapping into the things that make you feel truly alive. They also recognize that the ways the system impacts our sense of identity may hinder us from experiencing ease in rest or leisure. They invite us to incorporate these essential self-care acts into our lives little by little.

Get out your favorite pen and journal to reflect on these perspectives:

Many of your struggles are influenced by systemic issues and are not as personal as you might think. Acknowledging this makes a lot of the negative voices in our heads related to our worth less of a mystery - often, they did not come from us.
Rest is a radical act of self-compassion and connection (and not selfish or lazy!), although many people find it very difficult to slow down for a variety of reasons, particularly those from historically excluded identities.
While slowing down can feel overwhelming because it brings up avoided emotions, integrating this practice gradually, and slowly noticing the information our emotions provide us can allow us to tap into our truth.

Journaling Prompts:

How do the macro issues of the world shape your sense of yourself in this moment today? What do the voices in your head tell you about your worth? Did that voice come from you? How might you show up differently if you rejected what the voices told you when they told you negative things about your worth?
What's your relationship with rest and stillness? Is there some discomfort there? What, perhaps, keeps you from feeling at ease while resting? What does it feel like in your body to be still, to do nothing, to not be productive? What does doing something just for the sake of doing it, not as a means to an end, but just to be in the moment - what does that feel like? What's coming up for you as we sit here together right now?
What comes to mind when you are being invited to reconnect with some neglected parts of yourself?
What are you doing when you feel the most alive? What's the setting? What's the context? What time of day is it? What are you up to? What are the constraints to entering that space that makes you feel most alive? What, perhaps, keeps you from feeling entitled to make space for that which makes you come alive?
What is a pledge that you can make to yourself this week to carve out even the tiniest bit more space for rest, for stillness, for doing that which makes you feel alive? And if and when you carve out a little tiny bit more space, can you just notice and land and savor how you feel when you enter that space of rest and stillness?

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Reimagining Love episode, Coming Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema Bryant

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/coming-home-to-ourselves-learning-to-thrive-with-dr-thema-bryant/

Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/homecoming-healing-trauma-to-reclaim-your-authentic-self-thema-bryant/20204100?ean=9780593418321&next=t

The Homecoming Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689

Dr. Thema’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/

Tricia Hershey’s The Nap Ministry (Healing via the REST IS RESISTANCE framework):

https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/about/

Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool

Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530

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Mailbag Episode! Rebuilding After Infidelity

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 08:00:00 +0000

The fourth and final mailbag episode of the summer is here! Dr. Alexandra has advice for three listeners with three relationship dilemmas related to infidelity and rebuilding trust, both relationally and within themselves.

Start healing together with these listener challenges:

Our first listener question concerns shame upon discovering an extramarital affair.
The second question deals with jealousy in the wake of some boundary-breaching behavior that is impacting the relationship.
An affair partner asks our third question, as she struggles with honesty and clarity within the affair from her married partner.

Resources worth mentioning from the episode:

Can I Trust You Again? e-course: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/
Reimagining Love episode, When You’re the Affair Partner: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/
Your Midyear Refresh on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra

Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530
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Dating with Intention and Optimism: How to Get What You Want Out of Love with Case Kenny

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 19 Aug 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra sits down with Case Kenny – creator, mindfulness expert, host of the podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? and author of That’s Bold of You and The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark – to discuss how societal “shoulds” around dating and relationships can create rigid expectations and fear-based decisions. Instead, they invite us to lean into curiosity, optimism, and self-awareness to get what we want out of love and dating.

Together, they dive into:

Why the concept of “settling down” needs an upgrade—and what it means to “settle up” instead
How understanding your “why” of dating shifts your whole approach
Using the peak-end rule to reframe past dating experiences
How showing up enthusiastically and with trust as the default right from the start can amplify your dating and relationship experiences

And so much more!

“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh

Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandra

The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark by Case Kenny

Instagram @case.kenny

Learn more about Case Kenny: https://www.casekenny.com/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day

Submit a Listener Question

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Loving Across Difference: Navigating Identity and Family Relationships Between Cultures with Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 08:00:00 +0000

First-generation children of immigrants often struggle with bicultural straddling, impacting their sense of identity, their mental health, their priorities and values, and their relationships. They can also find it difficult to be understood and loved by their parents in a way they can truly feel. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Sahaj Kaur Kohli, founder of Brown Girl Therapy and author of But What Will People Say: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love and Family Between Cultures to discuss how we can develop more capacity to love across differences and make shifts within ourselves to change our relationships for the better.

You will come away from this conversation with:

Validation for identity tensions you may carry as the child of immigrant parents (or more perspective on these identity tensions if you are not!)
Insight into balancing personal boundaries with cultural expectations, especially when dealing with clashing priorities - plus a fresh perspective on how to approach healing
Tips on finding the right therapist and how to ensure you’re receiving culturally-attuned care given the mental health field’s bias toward a Eurocentric and individualized approach
Strategies for building healthier relationships - with yourself, your family, and romantic partners - while honoring your heritage

“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh

Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandra

But What Will People Say: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love and Family Between Cultures by Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Brown Girl Therapy Instagram

Culturally Enough Substack

Learn more about Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day

Submit a Listener Question

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The Power of Parts Work: Embracing All of Ourselves with Britt Frank

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 5 Aug 2025 08:00:00 +0000

When grappling with aspects of ourselves that we deem less good, less productive or less loveable, it may be tempting to completely write those parts off, or to hide them away in shame. Today’s guest, Britt Frank, sits down with Dr. Alexandra to make a compelling case for why it is essential to use the power of parts work to embrace these aspects of ourselves so that we can make better sense of the full range of the human experience and show up more fully in our important relationships.

You will come away from this episode with:

Inspiration to embrace all parts of yourself, good and “bad”
Know-how to A.L.I.G.N your mind, using this acronym to work with your parts
Greater “parts literacy” to navigate your relationships with more skill, understanding, and compassion
A new perspective on Attachment Styles in relation to our parts

“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh

Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandra

Align Your Mind: Tame Your Inner Critic and Make Peace with Your Shadow Using the Power of Parts Work by Britt Frank

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Reimagining Love Episode, Finding The “Self”: Exploring Family Systems Therapy With Dr. Richard C. Schwartz

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Revisit & Reflect: Drs. John & Julie Gottman on Protecting Connection in Your Relationship

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0000

With these R&R episodes, you’ll reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, continuing with today’s conversation from the archive with the esteemed Drs. John & Julie Gottman. The Gottmans share some of the most groundbreaking findings to ever come out of their Love Lab and discuss with Dr. Alexandra the relationship principle of “Small Things Often.” So, get out your favorite pen and journal and join in this summer reflection.

You’ll come away from this episode with:

A deeper understanding of how 'small things often' can create lasting bonds in your intimate partnerships.
An opportunity to identify and appreciate the positive moments that contribute to your relationship's health.
A framework for self-reflection with actionable journaling prompts to enhance intimacy.

Journaling Prompts:

What messages did you receive growing up, either from your family, your culture, or from media you consumed, about HOW to express love? In what ways were those messages limited, and how might you update them based on what you heard in this clip?
What keeps you from making small gestures of love towards your partner / toward your past partner? What keeps you from ACCEPTING bids for connection from partners? Is it discomfort? If so, what specifically feels uncomfortable? Is it fear? If so, what specifically is the fear? Is it a feeling of unworthiness? If so, what do you want to remember about who you are?
In the clip, the Gottmans remind us that our PERCEPTION of our partner can play a huge role in the dynamic, and that we might actually be missing positive moments and bids for connection that are already happening. Write down a commitment you want to make this week to help you to keep an eye out for the positive.
What’s something you find beautiful about your partner, either inside or out? What would it be like to share this with them, without any agenda, but just because it might light them up?

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Reimagining Love Episode, “How to Love Well: The Little Things that Change Everything with Drs. John & Julie Gottman”

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Mailbag Episode! Trouble in Paradise

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Welcome to another summer mailbag episode, in which Dr. Alexandra digs into recent listener questions so that we can all grow, together. Two of the questions today follow a general shape of a question that comes across Dr. Alexandra’s desk quite often. Something like: “Everything’s perfect in my relationship…BUT….” There’s some challenge, incompatibility, or roadblock that feels outside of our control—or, something within *US* that’s holding us back from taking things to the next level, even though everything feels so right—and we can’t get unstuck. Dr. Alexandra speaks to two listeners in this spot, as well as answering a unique question from a listener who is wanting to reclaim a special place for herself and her daughter, a place that holds both “pain and potential,” in her words, in the wake of the end of her marriage. Listen to hear Dr. Alexandra’s tips on how she can reclaim her paradise.

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Previous summer mailbag episodes: Mailbag 1, Mailbag 2

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Prioritizing Your Pleasure: How to Rediscover Your Spark with Shan Boodram

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 15 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Sex isn't always easy to talk about, but today, you're going to hear from someone who is bringing the sexy back to sex ed. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Shan Boodram, a sexuality educator and certified sexologist, known for her work on Netflix’s Too Hot To Handle, The Marriage Pact on The Roku Channel, and Ex-Rated on Peacock, as well as her MasterClass, “The Art of Seduction,” which leads folks through the fundamentals of flirting, intimacy, and how to foster deep physical and emotional connections. Shan’s approach to sex education is welcoming and approachable, and she has a reverence for this topic that is oh-so central to our humanity and aliveness. From re-defining the way we draw wisdom from the ancient Kama Sutra text, to even designing jewelry that encourages folks to reclaim their pleasure in the bedroom, Shan & this conversation will inspire you to see your and your partner’s sexuality with fresh eyes. And if you’re looking for practical advice on the art of seduction, you’ll get that in this episode, too (enter Shan’s iconic “sexy eye triangle” tip). There’s so much to glean from this episode, whether you’re looking to spice things up with your partner in the bedroom, move past sexual shame, or just see sex in a new way.

You’ll come away from this episode with:

A refreshed perspective on the “intimate self” and a reminder of how central our sexuality is to our humanity
Practical tips for how to use flirting and seduction to connect with others, and even more importantly, with yourself
New ideas for how to bring novelty, improved communication, and playfulness into the bedroom

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Käma, Shan's jewelry collaboration with Surmeyi

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Living Authentically: How to Cultivate Vulnerability, Emotional Safety, and Joy with Jennifer Pastiloff

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 8 Jul 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra sits down with author and speaker Jennifer Pastiloff for a heartfelt conversation centered on vulnerability, new beginnings, and embracing joy through trying times. Jen’s candid sharing of her personal journey reminds us that we're constantly given opportunities to evolve ourselves, heal, and step more deeply into our authenticity. Jen and Dr. Alexandra also discuss navigating the "messy middle" after a breakup or divorce, and how we can begin again in life after facing bumps in the road. Jen's new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life, is out today and explores all of these topics and many more.

You'll come away from this episode with:

Hope & permission to live a bigger and more beautiful life
Reminders for how to cultivate emotional safety in your intimate partnerships, which will pave the way for deeper connection
A deeper understanding of the importance of "I Got You" people—the supportive folks in your circle who reflect your best self back to you—and clues for how to find them
Empowerment to feel joy and search for beauty even in the most difficult or heartbreaking chapters of your life

“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh

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Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life by Jennifer Pastiloff

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Revisit & Reflect: Esther Perel on Reigniting The Spark in Your Relationship

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Welcome to R&R: Revisit & Reflect, a new episode format here on the podcast. We’re living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload) and lots of that information is about mental health and relational health! But there’s a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us, whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation, creating insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior. With these R&R episodes, you’ll reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, starting with today’s conversation from the archive with the inimitable relationship expert Esther Perel. They explore relational ambivalence and how to reignite the spark inside your relationship, and within yourself, inspired by a listener’s question. So, get out your favorite pen and journal and join in this summer reflection.

You’ll come away from this episode with:

A deeper understanding of the importance of rituals in maintaining connection amidst life's challenges
A new perspective on the impact of external circumstances on anxiety in your relationships.
The ability to recognize and respond to your partner's bids for connection.
A framework for self-reflection with actionable journaling prompts to enhance intimacy.

Journaling Prompts:

How do the macro issues of the world shape your love life today? To what degree are you able to give yourself permission for play and pleasure, even as the world feels so hard? What allows you to do that?
In the clip, Esther reminds us that if you don’t know how to turn yourself on, there’s nothing your partner can do to turn you on. How are you finding ways to connect to your own aliveness? What are some things you can do this week, just for you, that could reinvigorate your internal spark? This could include engaging with nature, art, food, movement, or play.
In this clip, Esther and Dr. Alexandra talk about how for a couple to create an experience together, one partner is the initiator and one is the responder. These roles aren’t fixed, but which role do you do you tend to find yourself in more? What do you like about being in each position, and what’s hard about each of them?

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Mailbag Episode! Blended Families, Long Distance, Talking About the Future

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0000

The second mailbag episode of the summer is here! Hear Dr. Alexandra’s advice for three listeners from around the world, with three relationship dilemmas: the first is a fellow “Alexandra” who lives in England and is struggling with her blended family. Next, we hear from a listener in Hawaii who is trying to make a difficult decision about their relationship. Finally, Dr. Alexandra answers a question from a listener in the UK who is ready to have a baby…but her boyfriend is not. Listen to hear Dr. Alexandra’s guidance and submit your own question by following the link below.

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Step Into Your Purpose: Using Righteous Anger for Good in a Broken World with Shannon Watts

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0000

If you’re ready to empower yourself to step into your true purpose but are paralyzed by fear, what-ifs, and imposter syndrome, you’ve found the right conversation. Today’s guest is Shannon Watts, the founder of Moms Demand Action, the nation’s largest grassroots group fighting gun violence in the U.S. Like many of us, Shannon was left outraged and broken after hearing news stories about school shootings and seeing the impact of gun violence on communities across the countries. One night, her sadness transformed to rage, and her life was changed after a Facebook post kicked off what would become Moms Demand Action, a movement of Americans fighting for public safety measures that can protect people from gun violence. They work to pass stronger gun laws and work to close the loopholes that jeopardize the safety of families and communities. They know that gun violence is preventable, and they are committed to doing what it takes to keep families safe. Shannon has been named one of TIME’s 100 Most Influential People, a Forbes 50 over 50 Changemaker, and a Glamour Woman of the Year. She’s also someone who went through an extraordinary transformation, and this is the focus of her and Dr. Alexandra’s conversation, and of her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. Shannon empowers folks to break free from limits, trust their instincts, and lead with passion to create meaningful change. Shannon and Dr. Alexandra talk about activism and the way it impacts relationships, particularly marriage, and Shannon shares how her own marriage evolved as she went through this incredible unfolding.

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The Journey of Raising a Disabled Child: Cultivating Community and Self-Compassion with Amanda Griffith-Atkins

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000

We are all connected to folks with disabilities, whether they’re part of our inner circle, or members of our broader community. Unfortunately, there’s a great deal of stigmatization, misunderstanding, and judgement that crops up around disabled folks and their families. Parents of disabled children are traveling on a different path than other parents, and often need more support, but the people around them don’t always know how to provide it. Therapist Amanda Griffith-Atkins joins Dr. Alexandra on this episode to offer guidance to those parents, as well as the people around them. When Amanda’s son Asher was born, she discovered her life's purpose: to help parents of children with disabilities find their stride. She has become a leading expert in helping parents of kids with special needs navigate their emotions, relationships, and parenting, and her book, How to Handle More Than You Can Handle: Caring for Yourself While Raising a Disabled Child, is out in the world today. Amanda and Dr. Alexandra discuss parenting as well as the experience of partners who are raising a disabled child together and what this journey can bring up for couples. There’s so much goodness in this conversation for everyone, whether this is a new topic for you or one that’s near and dear to your heart.

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How to Handle More Than You Can Handle: Caring for Yourself While Raising a Disabled Child by Amanda Griffith-Atkins

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Mailbag Episode! Part One

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Throughout the summer, Dr. Alexandra will be answering listener questions through Mailbag Episodes. Today’s questions include a query from a listener in Los Angeles who is struggling with her feelings about a choice the guy she’s seeing has made, and isn’t sure how to proceed after a tricky conversation. Next, you’ll hear from Marina in London, who wants some extra support in the aftermath of infidelity. She’s curious about post-traumatic growth and what might be possible for her. Dr. Alexandra wraps things up with a question from a listener in New York, whose boyfriend of over a decade is ambivalent about the relationship and blowing hot and cold. Should she cut loose or stick it out until he makes up his mind? Listen to hear Dr. Alexandra’s takes on all of these relationship situations.

If you want to submit your own question, click the link below. You may just get yours answered on an upcoming mailbag episode this summer!

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How To Disagree With People and Still Love Them: Embracing Nuance in Polarized Times with Brit Barron

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 27 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

When family members or friends hold views that we oppose, we can feel stuck. These days, polarization is everywhere, both in our culture at large and within familial and intimate relationships. So often, conversations online feel like a zero-sum game. At the same time, most of us want to live in a world where we can have thoughtful, nuanced conversations with people we don’t see eye to eye with on every issue. In her book, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the Problematic People in Our Lives Are the Ones We Love, speaker and teacher Brit Barron offers us a way forward that goes beyond the black and white thinking that’s so characteristic of this time, while also emphasizing the importance of holding fast to our personal boundaries and values. In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Brit discuss reminders and a roadmap for cultivating curiosity, humility, and openness, which are essential when it comes to connecting with loved ones we disagree with.

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Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the Problematic People in Our Lives Are the Ones We Love by Brit Barron

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The Four Types of Connection: Unlocking What Really Matters in Life with Dr. Adam Dorsay

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 20 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Connection, both with others and with oneself, really is the answer to so many of life’s woes. We know that investing in our relationships helps us become happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. Dr. Adam Dorsay, author of the book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, walks us through this straightforward but vital idea in this episode: that the antidote to the uniquely modern angst so much of us experience today is connection. Sounds simple, right? Well, not always, when there are so many pulls on our attention and shiny goals to strive towards. Dr. Alexandra talks with Dr. Adam about how connection isn’t just about spending time with others, but so much more than that—an emotional state of aliveness and vitality. Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and executive coach in Silicon Valley, where he works with high-achieving adults. He is also a resiliency expert and co-creator of an international program for Facebook’s Online Safety employees. In this episode, you’ll learn why so many high-achieving folks feel unfulfilled, even when they seem to have everything at their fingertips. You’ll also get pointers from Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Adam about how to prioritize connection in your life, which will lead to more happiness, stability, and gratitude.

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Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love by Dr. Adam Dorsay

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“My Family Is a Mess. Will the Dynamic Ever Change?”

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

When there’s a struggling person in a family, the system often coalesces around that individual, and while we might imagine these patterns get left behind when kids grow into adults, the dynamic often endures for the long run. Reimagining Love listener Cristina wrote in to Dr. Alexandra from Chicago, asking about how to better handle the challenges of such a situation. She’s the only one in her family who is in therapy, and she is eager to disrupt the dynamic. Cristina wants to stay connected to her sisters, despite the challenges they’ve faced, and her hope is to break longstanding patterns of over-accommodation and resentment while honoring her own needs as well as other family members’. Dr. Alexandra dives into this question with the goal of exploring an empowering therapeutic truth: that when you change your own dance moves, you can transform the entire system. If you’re dealing with something similar, this episode is going to offer you ways forward you may not have experimented yet, that could have the potential to change everything. If you’d like to submit a listener question of your own, you can do so by following the link below.

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Should You Share Your Location With Your Partner?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In the age of modern technology, we have more information about each other than ever before. Sharing locations with our loved ones can make life more convenient, and while at first glance it may seem like a small decision, the choice to share or not to share actually encapsulates so many of the values and tensions that couples face—questions of closeness and privacy, trust and betrayal, safety and mystery. And if you’ve ever had tense conversations around sharing your location using apps like Find My Friends, Life360, or Snap Maps, Dr. Alexandra is going to help you understand why this topic carries more weight than we might realize, and how to navigate through it and make decisions about location-sharing with your partner.

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Technology Safety & Privacy: A Toolkit for Survivors: Safety Net Project

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Wisdom From a Happiness Expert: Simple Truths For a Better Life with Gretchen Rubin

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

The work of building a life we love is deep and longterm. But along the way, there are small and simple gems of wisdom that can pack a big punch and lead us to “aha” moments. Renowned happiness expert Gretchen Rubin’s new book, Secrets of Adulthood: Simple Truths for Our Complex Lives, is full of aphorisms that present those kinds of helpful, concise ideas. Gretchen is the author of many bestselling books, such as The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, The Four Tendencies, and Life in Five Senses. She’s also host of the popular podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, which helps people track their happiness-boosting habits. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra and Gretchen use aphorisms from the book to explore themes such as the tension between self-acceptance and wanting to grow, and balancing duty and desire in our relationships. Aphorisms can be wonderful conversation-openers, and this episode may even inspire you to write some of your own!

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Secrets of Adulthood: Simple Truths for Our Complex Lives by Gretchen Rubin

Abandon the Empty Nest. Instead, Try the Open Door by Gretchen Rubin (The Atlantic)

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Crushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. Phillips

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Parents of adolescents can sometimes feel like they’re in a tough spot: they get so much pushback and can lose their confidence when it comes to talking about the topics that really matter such as romance and love. Additionally, many parents don’t feel up to the task of talking with their teens about this subject—often because they’re still making sense of their own relationship journeys. In her new book, First Love: Guiding Teens through Relationships and Heartbreak, journalist, author, and professor Lisa A. Phillips reminds us that all adults are really still recovering from being teenagers, and that they bring their own experiences and ideas of first love into conversations with their kids. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Lisa about how our society has a tendency to demean and devalue fist love, the fact that most adolescents wish their parents spoke with them about relationships, and why a crush really is a milestone, too. They also explore how parents bring their own experiences and biases to these conversations, and often let their own fears and hang-ups stop them from having this important dialog in the first place.

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First Love: Guiding Teens Through Relationships and Heartbreak by Lisa A. Phillips

From WAMU’s 1A: How to talk our teens through their first heartbreaks, featuring Lisa A. Phillips, Alexandra Solomon, and Lauren Hamilton, hosted by Jenn White.

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How to Unbreak Your Heart: The Healing Power of Creativity with Hallie Bateman & Suzy Hopkins

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Breakups are heart-wrenching at any age, but when a partner leaves suddenly after three decades of marriage, it takes a lot of time to pick up the pieces. When Suzy Hopkins had this experience, she decided to team up with her illustrator daughter Hallie Bateman to channel her pain into a creative project, and their book, What To Do When You Get Dumped: A Guide to Unbreaking Your Heart, came to life. Suzy had a rich career in journalism including founding her own magazine, and Hallie is a writer and illustrator whose work has appeared in places like the New Yorker and the New York Times Magazine. This is the second book Hallie and Suzy have made together, and on today’s episode, they’re giving us an inside look at what creating this illustrated guide entailed and how healing the creative process was for both of them. Dr. Alexandra chats with them about some of the most painful aspects of breakups, and they explore the incredible renewal that can occur in the wake of loss, when we are able to accept support from those we love and summon the courage to reimagine our lives.

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What to Do When You Get Dumped by Suzy Hopkins & Hallie Bateman

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Introducing ‘No Small Endeavor’: How to Have Flourishing Relationships with Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Fri, 11 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Today, we are excited to share Dr. Alexandra’s recent interview on the Signal Award-winning podcast No Small Endeavor. Produced by PRX and Great Feeling Studios, the podcast explores what it means to live a good life with the help of courageous and impassioned guests like renowned happiness expert Gretchen Rubin, Hidden Brain podcast host Shankar Vedantam, and New York Times bestselling author Malcolm Gladwell.

In this specific episode, host and theologian Lee C. Camp and Dr. Solomon discuss insights from her book, "Loving Bravely,” as well as the secrets to thriving intimacy, mastering the art of apology, and staying truly present with your partner. Not to mention she shares practical tools for navigating the inevitable challenges of long-term love.

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Your Mindset Changes Everything: The Power of Practical Optimism with Dr. Sue Varma

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 8 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Today’s guest, psychiatrist and author Dr. Sue Varma, says that optimists may be born, but “practical optimists” are made. Not all optimism is good, and not all pessimism is bad. BUT when we become mired in negativity, Dr. Sue says, we become paralyzed and passive. So what’s the fix? In her book, Practical Optimism, and in this episode, she makes a compelling case for why we all need more optimism in our lives and tells us how we can cultivate it right now. Dr. Alexandra chats with Dr. Sue about the role self-compassion plays in this journey, and how finding your soul’s purpose can help you remain in an optimistic zone for decades to come. They also discuss how partners can explore their unique strengths in this area as a team.

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Practical Optimism The Art, Science, and Practice of Exceptional Well-Being by Dr. Sue Varma

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Finding Abundance: The Expansion That Lives Within with Cathy Heller

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

“So often we look outside ourselves for the expansion that lives within,” says today’s guest Cathy Heller, a coach, spiritual guide, meditation teacher, and inspirational speaker. Many of us hang our worth and happiness on things we don’t have yet: the dream job, the perfect relationship, the fancy clothes. But in Cathy’s book Abundant Ever After, as well as in this episode, she tells us that we can have the ease, connection, and joy we so desperately crave, just as we are now. And when we can learn to do that, we become ready to receive abundance. Cathy and Dr. Alexandra discuss the Law of Reception and our capacity for welcoming goodness in, in the same way a radio dial tunes into different channels. Cathy also kicks off the episode by leading listeners through a nourishing mediation, which you can return to at any time, here on this episode.

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Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease by Cathy Heller

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Can You Have an Amazing Career AND an Amazing Relationship?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Few topics are more relevant to our day-to-day lives than work. For many of us, our jobs are more than just occupations—they’re where we achieve goals, make meaning, experience successes and failures, and cultivate our self-esteem. So, when work and love collide, we find ourselves at a rich intersection of emotions, expectations, and needs. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra uncovers why fighting with your partner about work is never just that, and shares tools you can use to cultivate intimacy and ambition simultaneously. You’ll learn about what Dr. Alexandra calls “the Work-Love Matrix,” understand the connections between your experience in the workplace and your experience growing up in your Family-of-Origin, and hear a five-step practice you can use today to have more supportive conversations about work with your partner.

Further Listening: Is Work Stress Taking a Toll on Your Relationship? (Reimagining Love)

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Is There an “Effort Mismatch” in Your Relationship?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 13:44:19 +0000

When two partners have a major difference between them, it can kick up a lot of dust in a relationship. One of the most common is what Dr. Alexandra calls “The Effort Mismatch”: while one partner tends to scan the relationship for problems and is always on the lookout for growth opportunities (The Change Partner), the other partner holds steady, generally accepting the relationship for what it is today (The Acceptance Partner). The good news is, when both partners understand and value their differences, this contrast between them can be a huge asset to their relationship. However, most couples with an Effort Mismatch struggle to reckon with this discrepancy, digging their heels into their side of the dynamic or wishing their partner would magically change. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the internal and relational experience of each of these two types of partners, shares tailored reminders and guidance for each of them, and explains how this difference can actually be extremely complementary, even as it poses challenges for a couple.

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From LinkedIn's Everyday Better with Leah Smart: How to Stop Fighting About Work With Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Fri, 14 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Today, we're sharing an episode of LinkedIn's Everyday Better podcast! Dr. Alexandra recently joined host Leah Smart for a conversation about relationships and work. Learn more below and enjoy this bonus episode!

The research is clear: how satisfied you feel at work impacts the quality of your relationships at home, and the quality of your relationships at home impacts the way you show up at work.

That’s why Dr. Alexandra Solomon wants you to think more deeply about the work-related arguments you have with your partner. Whether you and your partner disagree about how much money you each should make, how many hours you should work, or whether a career is for finding meaning or having financial security, this is fraught terrain, rife with opportunities for conflict.

In this conversation, Alexandra explains why, as a couple’s therapist, she has turned her focus towards the intersection between work and relationships. We explore how to be more relationally self-aware at work and what to do when work stress comes home with you.

Later, Leah and Alexandra are joined by a special guest: Leah’s husband, Tim. Together, they examine what happens when people with different orientations towards ambition become partners.

Links:

Everyday Better on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

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LinkedIn’s award-winning podcast Everyday Better with Leah Smart isn’t just another self-help podcast; it’s a life compass for listeners. Whether you’re contemplating a career change or searching for your purpose in life, Everyday Better host Leah Smart is here for you.

As an educator in self-improvement and positive psychology, Leah brings transformational conversations and actionable insights for improving your well-being.

Each Tuesday, Leah sits down with expert guests who use science and story to share strategies for how we can flourish individually, in relationship to others and to the world around us. Episodes cover everything from tips for improving your sleep routine and reducing stress to insights into how to reexamine your relationship with work.

You can find new episodes of Everyday Better wherever you listen to podcasts and on YouTube.

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How to Love Better: Cultivating Growth, Kindness, and Compassion with Yung Pueblo

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +0000

You likely know today’s guest, Diego Perez, by his pen name: Yung Pueblo. He has an online audience of over 4 million people and is a New York Times bestselling author, whose books have been translated into over 25 languages. Diego’s work focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and cultivating self-awareness, and his meditation practice is central to all that he shares with the world. He and Dr. Alexandra discuss all of that in this conversation, as they dig into the lessons and reflections he’s woven together in his new book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. They dive into what it means to argue and disagree peacefully with a partner, the power of meditation, and why it’s important to work with the universe, not against it. Diego also opens up about his own love story with his wife, Sarah. They wrap things up by exploring a question together from a listener in Chicago who is feeling doubts in her relationship and isn’t sure about the way forward.

How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion by Yung Pueblo

Diego’s Instagram @yung_pueblo

Diego’s website

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Stop, Breathe, Be: Transformative Resets to Curb Stress with Dr. Aditi Nerurkar

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Are you stressed? According to physician and stress expert Dr. Aditi Nerurkar’s research, the answer is most likely “YES.” Whether it’s due to pressure at work, the unrelenting deluge of news, care responsibilities, or relationship challenges (or all of the above!), it’s understandable that most of us feel overwhelmed. But when old coping strategies aren’t working anymore and life feels unmanageable, it takes a toll on our brains, bodies and longevity.

Dr. Aditi joins Dr. Alexandra on today’s episode for a transformative conversation, centered on her bestselling book “The Five Resets: Rewire Your Brain and Body For Less Stress and More Resilience.” Dr. Aditi is a Harvard stress expert, medical doctor, and researcher who is committed to offering actionable, practical, and science-backed approaches to reimagining your relationship with everyday stress and burnout. They discuss the solutions she shares in her book, which will empower you to develop the right kind of resilience, the kind that will allow you to move through challenges with patience and stability. And Dr. Aditi also shares her three second brain reset, “Stop, Breathe, Be” for listeners to try out.

Relevant Links:

The 5 Resets: Rewire Your Brain and Body for Less Stress and More Resilience by Dr. Aditi Nerurkar

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How to Know When It’s Right: The Conversations that Unlock Connection with Lindsay Jill Roth

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Many of us have cultivated confidence in our careers, our family life, and our friendships, but when it comes to dating, we feel lost at sea. This was the case for acclaimed TV and live events producer Lindsay Jill Roth, who found herself asking what she knew were the wrong questions in dating (What does he want me to say? How can I make this person like me?). So, she set out to create a tool for herself that she's now sharing with the world. In her new book, Romances & Practicalities, Lindsay offers a roadmap for how to understand your wants and needs better and truly communicate and connect with the person you’re dating, through 250 research-backed questions spread across twelve categories—from money to children to chores to sex. These questions help folks develop deeper intimacy and open up about what they’re looking for in an intimate partnership. In her conversation with Dr. Alexandra, you’ll hear about Lindsay's budding romance with her now husband, the couples she spoke with who have used this system, and the wisdom and practical guidance she’s garnered from the clinical experts she interviewed for the book—including Dr. Alexandra! Lindsay urges listeners to view expansive and thoughtful dialog as something sexy, not just vital, as they get to know someone that they think might be their person. Lindsay and Dr. Alexandra also address a thoughtful listener question at the end of the episode, about dating across socio-economic class.

Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours!) in 250 Questions by Lindsay Jill Roth

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From Disconnected to Passionate: How to Get Out of a Sexual Rut with Dr. Kate Balestrieri

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Conversations about sex are so important, but approaching the topic with a partner can feel overwhelming. When we come up against sexual challenges in our relationships, it can be easy to fall into patterns of blame and shame. Listening to this episode is a great first step as you find your voice and reclaim your power in your sex life. You’ll hear from psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation all about sexuality and her new book, What Happened to My Sex Life? They explore the importance of creating shared agreements and visions with your partner when it comes to sex, how to navigate retroactive jealousy, and the role safety plays in our sexual connections. They also respond to a listener question about how someone’s sexual history can impact their current relationship dynamic.

Dr. Kate’s book: What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure

Dr. Kate’s Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri

Dr. Kate’s website: Modern Intimacy

Get Naked with Dr. Kate (podcast)

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Rebel (From Critical to Curious)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We’re exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below, along with the FREE Family of Origin Roles workbook, Reclaiming You.

We’re taking a look at “The Rebel” role in today’s episode. Some family systems are well-equipped to handle disagreement, debate, and resistance. But when a family is under pressure in any way, a child who questions or challenges the system is going to be seen as a threat. While the Rebel may cling to their strong opinions and double down on their critical stance, feelings of fear, isolation, and anxiety may occur and continue into adulthood, especially around conformity and authority. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Rebel can break free from old stories that their only path to safety was to push back and choose the path of opposition.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Reimagining Love episode: “People-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your Partner”

Reimagining Love episode: “When Having ‘No Filter’ Hurts a Relationship”

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Parentified Child (From Confidant to Consultant)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000

We’re taking a look at “The Parentified Child” role in today’s episode. The child cast into this role likely heard that they were “so mature,” “wise beyond their years,” or were praised for their comforting presence when they were growing up. The problem? Kids shouldn’t have to provide emotional support to the adults in their family. Unfortunately for the Parentified Child, this felt like the surest route to safety and love, perhaps due to a chaotic environment, overwhelmed parents, or conflict in the family system. As an adult, the Parentified Child carries with them a certain set of beliefs and tendencies that they picked up as a kid in this role. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Parentified Child can free themselves from always taking on others’ needs and create more egalitarian relationships that feel safe and nourishing.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Reimagining Love episode with Dr. Hillary McBride: Getting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride

Reimagining Love series: “I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic”: Part 1, Part 2

Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls' Childhood (Rebecca Epstein, Jamilia J. Blake, Thalia González, from the Center on Poverty and Inequality, Georgetown Law)

Past episodes of the Family of Origin Roles Series: Introductory Episode, The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence), The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity), The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate), The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist)

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Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000

On today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the topic of attachment with guest Thais Gibson, an author, counselor, and the co-founder of The Personal Development School. While the discourse around attachment so often focuses on identifying what’s “wrong” with us, in this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Thais explore how understanding and investigating our attachment style can create fertile ground for us to change the way we show up in relationships and break frustrating patterns. Our attachment style is not our destiny, and when we begin to understand the roots of this subconscious programming, we have the opportunity to reprogram ourselves for better and more fulfilling relationships. This episode will give you the tools and insights to start down that path and think more expansively about attachment.

Thais’s Instagram, The Personal Development School

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Your Best Relationship Begins with You: Nine Truths About Love & Self-Acceptance with Jillian Turecki

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Today’s guest is Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher, author of the new book It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, and host of the podcast, Jillian On Love. You’ve likely seen her wise and straightforward videos that get right to the heart of our most pressing dating and relationship questions. She’s helped thousands through her teachings, courses, writing, and her popular social media accounts to revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they can transform their romantic relationships.

One of the central tenets of Jillian’s work is the idea that the common denominator in all your relationships is you. A lot of us know in our bones that creating safety inside ourselves is the key to healthy relationships with others—but we don’t always know how to do this or where to start. Jillian and Dr. Alexandra also discuss estrangement and navigating complex relationships with family members. Tune in to today’s episode to hear all of Jillian’s wisdom!

Relevant Links:

It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths about Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki

Jillian’s Instagram & website

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist)

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it!

We’re taking a look at “The Peacemaker” role in today’s episode. All families have conflict, and it’s common for one child in the family to play a referee or mediator role, either through intervention or more subtler peacemaking strategies, such as comic relief. As adults, Peacemakers likely find themselves between friends and family members when there are tensions and may struggle to extract themselves from these dynamics. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Peacemaker can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Reimagining Love: Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning Dynamic

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000

We’re taking a look at “The Struggling One” role in today’s episode. In some families, there is an individual who needs more care and attention than others. There are a number of reasons why this might be the case, including a difference in ability, a behavioral challenge, or a mental health condition. In any case, the “struggling one” is the recipient of a lot of the family system’s energy, and this dynamic may lead to certain challenges and strengths for that person in adulthood. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Struggling One can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Minorities Less Likely to Be Identified for Special Education, Study Finds (EducationWeek)

‘Boys are disappearing’ from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected (NBC News)

Girls With Social and/or Attention Deficit Re-Examined in Young Adulthood: Prospective Study of Diagnostic Stability, Daily Life Functioning and Social Situation (National Library of Medicine)

The "Spoon Theory" (Christine Miserandino, www.butyoudontlooksick.com)

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Bedroom Conversations: Why Great Sex Starts With Great Communication with Vanessa & Xander Marin

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 09:00:00 +0000

On today’s episode of Reimagining Love, Vanessa & Xander Marin join Dr. Alexandra for a frank and compassionate conversation about sex—specifically, sex in long-term relationships. It’s normal for couples to fall into a rut in the bedroom, ranging from sex feeling kind of “meh,” to long periods without any intimacy at all. These ebbs and flows are part of being in a long-term relationship or marriage, and the good news is, there are actions you can take to chart a new course with your partner and to get excited about each other again. Vanessa and Xander are a couple who have been creating that very roadmap for folks, through their amazing online courses, their podcast, Pillow Talks, and their New York Times-bestselling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience who has been featured in outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and she has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. And Xander? Well, he is a “regular dude” who left his corporate job to join Vanessa in this work. Together they blend clinical wisdom, humor, openness, and their own personal stories to normalize talking about our sex lives and to offer techniques for improving yours. You are going to hear about their personal experience with couple therapy and how they landed on the agreement, “If it matters to one of us, it matters to both of us.” They share so many juicy insights about sex, from desire discrepancy to initiation to their amazing acronym “P.L.E.A.S.E.,” which you’ll learn in this conversation. This episode will give you the confidence to shift the way you and your partner talk about sex and couple therapy, as well as anything else you might be stuck on.

Relevant Links:

Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander Marin

Vanessa & Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com/https://vmtherapy.com/

Vanessa & Xander’s courses & challenges: https://vmtherapy.com/holiday-gift-guide-2024

Vanessa & Xander’s podcast, Pillow Talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 09:00:00 +0000

We’re taking a look at “The Easy One” role in today’s episode. If you were the kid who could always “go with the flow” in your family, this might be you. As a child, you didn’t express a lot of needs (even though you had them, as we all do!), and that may have been a relief to the Big People in your system, because their attention was needed elsewhere. As an adult, you may identify as a people-pleaser, always attuning yourself to the people around you, wondering how you can make them comfortable or happy. You may believe you’re only worthy to the degree that you’re accommodating others. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Easy One can embark on their healing journey.

Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

Resources about power exchange / kink:

From Michelle Herzog’s Center for Modern Relationships: Article Part I, Article Part II
Pleasure Mechanics: Courses
Pleasure Mechanics: Podcast episode
Dipsea: “How to explore light bondage play with your trusted partner” by Toni Sicola (2021)
Pillow Talk Podcast (Vanessa + Xander Marin): How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners
TIME Article: “Why I Kept My Kinks a Secret” by R.O. Kwon (2024)
British GQ: “A dominatrix gives a beginners guide to kink” by Daisy Schofield (2024)

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Family of Origin Roles Series: The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 Dec 2024 12:47:51 +0000

Today’s episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!

Up first in Dr. Alexandra’s exploration of family roles is “The Perfect One.” If you were the superstar kid in your family, known for bringing home good grades and accolades, this might be you. As an adult, perhaps you seek validation and affirmation of your worthiness through tangible accomplishments. You may believe you’re only as good and worthy of love as your job title, latest career win, parenting flex, or fitness milestone. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Perfect One can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship: Strategies for Busy Lives with Elizabeth Earnshaw

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 09:00:00 +0000

We all know that when we’re stressed, we’re not our best selves. But what happens when this stress threatens to erode our most important relationships, and we feel powerless to change the dynamic? Returning guest Elizabeth Earnshaw joins Dr. Solomon to address this pressing yet common issue. Liz is a licensed family and marriage therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, AAMFT Approved Supervisor, and founder of A Better Life Therapy. She’s known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens, is the author of I Want This to Work, and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, and more. Her newest book, ‘Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships, is an empowering guide to stress-proofing your relationship.

While we may initially believe it’s our relationships that are the cause of our stress, Liz says that it’s often the other way around: that “the unprecedented collective stress we all face today is the cause of many relationship challenges couples are experiencing.” In this episodes, you'll hear Liz’s deeply empathetic re-frame of this issue. Liz and Dr. Alexandra discuss why our partner often gets the “worst” version of us, how we can understand different types or “buckets” of stressors, and the small but mighty changes we can make that will serve our relationships for the long haul. They also focus on the pressures of parenthood and what makes this moment particularly challenging for parents. Finally, they answer a question from a listener in Idaho named Amber about how to move forward after a rift in a friendship.

Relevant Links:

Liz’s book: 'Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships
Liz’s website and Instagram
Parents Under Pressure: The U.S. Surgeon General Advisory on the Mental Health and Well-Being of Parents (2024)
Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy’s essay in The New York Times Opinion section, August 2024: Surgeon General: Parents Are at Their Wits’ End. We Can Do Better.
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What Role Did You Play in Your Family of Origin? (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Today’s episode is the first of a new solo episode series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles. Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messaging about love, connection, and worthiness as a result.

To start off this series, we’re revisiting this in-depth solo episode, in which Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we might have played in our original family systems. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool. In December, we’ll begin releasing role-specific episodes for each of the six roles, starting with “The Perfect One,” so be sure to catch that conversation next month.

Relevant links:

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to “Little You” & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Finding "The Self": Exploring Internal Family Systems Therapy with Dr. Richard Schwartz

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Have you ever felt like different parts of yourself were competing for attention and power? Maybe you have aspects of your personality that you’re proud of, and others that you’d rather keep hidden from the world—the ones that tend to rear their heads in your not-so-shining moments. According to Internal Family Systems Therapy, a framework developed by today’s guest, Dr. Richard Schwartz, we are all made up of sub-personalities or “parts.” IFS posits that by investigating and understanding where each of those parts come from and how they are dictating our current behavior, we can better understand our unique mental world and determine how to make change to support our healing and improve our relationships. Dr. Alexandra talks with Dr. Dick about how IFS has the potential to help individuals understand themselves, strengthen their romantic relationships, or even navigate the dating world. They also explore a question from a listener in Toronto who wants to feel more deeply understood in conversations with her boyfriend.

IFS is a theoretical framework that has helped many folks, but as always, Dr. Alexandra encourages you to see what resonates with you in this conversation and what might be helpful to bring into your own processes of self-discovery and healing, and to your relationships.

Relevant Links:

IFS Institute: ifs-institute.com
Intimacy From The Inside Out: https://ifs-institute.com/store/116
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.: https://bookshop.org/p/books/no-bad-parts-healing-trauma-and-restoring-wholeness-with-the-internal-family-systems-model-richard-schwartz/16396062?ean=9781683646686
You Are the One You've Been Waiting for: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.: https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-are-the-one-you-ve-been-waiting-for-applying-internal-family-systems-to-intimate-relationships-richard-schwartz/18790456?ean=9781683643623
Story on IFS from NPR’s Morning Edition: https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2024/10/25/nx-s1-5055753/parts-work-therapy-internal-family-systems-anxiety#:~:text=At%20the%20center%20of%20IFS,his%20book%20No%20Bad%20Parts.

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High-Functioning Codependency: From Managing to Loving with Terri Cole

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Terri Cole — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 08:00:00 +0000

What would your reaction be if someone asked if you’re codependent? If “Certainly not!” is your immediate response, this episode invites you to look a little deeper. While we often turn to a single definition of codependency—enabling another person in a situation that is damaging or dangerous, such as addiction—Terri Cole‘s new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, expands on this traditional and insufficient definition to include those who are “overly invested in the feelings of the people in our lives to the detriment of our own internal peace.”

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, empowerment coach, and recovering high-functioning codependent. In therapy sessions with her highly capable patients, Terri noticed a lot of pushback when she would suggest that they might be codependent. However, when she clarified her updated definition, they immediately recognized these traits in themselves and could begin recovering from these detrimental behaviors. It is likely that you recognize these traits in yourself or someone close to you, so I hope that you will come away enlightened and empowered from Terri’s explanation of the clues that highlight these traits, the heavy cost to both the individual and their loved ones, and how we can all be of service to others without adopting problematic patterns. We also unpack a thoughtful question from a listener in Nova Scotia Canada about rebuilding a damaged relationship with her four adult children.

Relevant Links:

Learn more about Terri Cole
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Facing Estrangement? Ask Yourself These Questions

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Oct 2024 08:00:00 +0000

The decision to cut off a family member is a difficult one. Estrangement is an attempt to solve a painful, systemic relationship problem. This monumental move should be deeply considered, and my collectivist approach to therapy encourages being curious about and striving to understand how the different contexts our family members—epsecially those with a generational divide—grew up and live within can impact how we show up in our relationships. Without, of course, ever dismissing the very real trauma that can precede an estrangement.

In this in-depth solo episode, I explore the dynamics of cut-offs, including what both the official research and my recent social media survey have to say. Then, I offer three relational self-awareness questions for folks on both sides of the estrangement experience: those considering cutting off a family member and those who are about to be or have been cut off.

These questions aim to support compassionate dialogue that increases both party’s chances of finding a solution. Whether you are the estranger or the estranged, it is my hope that this conversation will leave you with some tools and a perspective you may not have considered, one that takes each person’s lived experience into consideration and opens up the possibility of finding a middle ground between an unhealthy status quo and walking away.

Relevant Links:

Get your companion workbook - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/cutoff
My talk on 1A: “When Loved Ones Become Strangers” - https://the1a.org/segments/when-loved-ones-become-strangers/
Reimagining Love Episode: “End or Mend: Managing Difficult Family Relationships with Nedra Tawwab” - https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/end-or-mend-managing-difficult-family-relationships-with-nedra-tawwab/
APA article: “Estrangement Is Never Easy or Straightforward. Psychologists Can Help” - https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/04/healing-pain-estrangement
Vogue article: “Why So Many People (Myself Included) Are Experiencing Family Estrangement” - https://www.vogue.com/article/why-so-many-people-are-experiencing-family-estrangement
Aeon article: “Estrangement” - https://aeon.co/essays/modern-culture-blames-parents-for-forces-beyond-their-control
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Healing Relationships: Reclaim the Masculine and Feminine Within with Dené Logan

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 08:00:00 +0000

In North America, we’re conditioned from an early age to cultivate specific components of our full personalities and curtail others. For people socialized as girls, traditionally “feminine” qualities such as softspokenness and emotional exploration are encouraged, while assertiveness is discouraged. For people socialized as boys, qualities like toughness and a stiff upper lip are considered masculine, and they are advised against being open about their feelings.

But as hard as patriarchal society has worked to separate us into specific personas based on our sex, the truth is that we all carry masculine and feminine energies within us. In this episode, marriage and family therapist and Depth Psychology expert Dené Logan embarks with me on an exploration of how we manage, heal, and share our internal energies—this is the fascinating topic of her new book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine & Feminine Within.

Relevant Links:

Order Dené’s book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine & Feminine Within
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The 1% Rule: How We Learn from Relationships with Andrea Miller

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Andrea Miller — Tue, 3 Sep 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Founder and CEO of YourTango, Andrea Miller, joins Dr. Share to share the power of being a lifelong “seeker” of relational wisdom. Andrea has dedicated her life to connecting her audience with relationship experts and celebrating relational wisdom, and today, invites us into her journey of opening herself up to love’s lessons.

Relevant links:

Learn more about YourTango
Listen to Dr. Alexandra on Open Relationships: Transforming Together with Andrea Miller
Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love by Andrea Miller
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Love and Loss: Expanding Compassion as You Grieve with J.S. Park

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, J.S. Park — Tue, 27 Aug 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Loss and grief are universal and profoundly human. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a trauma that drastically shifts the trajectory of a life—each spurs a unique grieving process that can be difficult to navigate for both the people grieving and their support systems. As a chaplain at a Level One Trauma Center in Florida, J.S. Park provides emotional and spiritual care for and comfort to those experiencing grief. His support of patients at the end of their lives, and of the loved ones who remain, adds tremendous impact and compassion to his most recent book, As Long As You Need: Permission to Grieve.

In this episode, J.S. shares with Dr. Alexandra what his education and experience have taught him about the “right” things to say and the ways to support grieving loved ones. He offers deeply considered insights into our misguided fear of bringing up the deceased, the impact of loss on the past and the future, and how to care for both a loved one and oneself during the grieving process.

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Safe Conversations: The Healing Power of Listening with Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Dr. Harville Hendrix

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, Dr. Harville Hendrix — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 08:00:00 +0000

What happens when we listen and are listened to more fully, forging a deeper connection? Decades of research tell us that the brain undergoes physiological changes when we begin to “talk without criticizing, listen without judgment, and connect beyond difference.” This is the definition of dialogue coined by today’s guests, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Dr. Harville Hendrix.

Doctors Hunt and Hendrix are internationally recognized couples therapists, educators, speakers, and a married couple themselves. Through decades of research, they developed the Imago Relationship Therapy method, which is taught to therapists around the globe. In this episode, they speak with Dr. Alexandra about moving from monologue (turning the conversation to focus on oneself) to dialogue (keeping the conversation focused on the speaker), and how listening and ensuring true understanding of a speaker’s meaning has enormous benefits to our relationships and our brains.

Relevant Links:

Harville and Helen’s new book, How To Talk to Anyone About Anything - https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/
Learn more about Imago Relationship Therapy - https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiatives/what-is-imago/
Explore Safe Conversations, A Methodology for Connecting - https://safeconversations.com/
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Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two) (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Aug 2024 08:30:00 +0000

In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.

Relevant links:

Listen to Part One of the Conflict series

Access the Conflict Skills worksheet

Couples therapy directories:

Domestic Violence Resources

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Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One) (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Aug 2024 08:30:00 +0000

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The Parent-Child Bond: Removing Blame & Accessing Joy with Dafna Lender

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dafna Lender — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Family therapy expert Dafna Lender and Dr. Alexandra explore the complexities of the parent-child relationship. With 25 years of experience, Dafna has a deep understanding of how a child’s difficult behaviors and a parent’s reactivity can clash and land a family into a therapist’s office. Dafna explains how to disrupt this cycle by removing blame, exploring the parent’s attachment history, and bringing a sense of joy and playfulness back into the relationship.

Relevant links:

Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship by Dafna Lender
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Midlife Transitions: How to Lean in Rather than Resist the ‘Messy Middle’ with Chip Conley

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Chip Conley — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 08:30:00 +0000

When it comes to life stages, “midlife” often gets the short end of the stick. We speak about adolescence and retirement as vistas rich with opportunity and possibility while we joke about midlife and its related crises. However, when we adopt an affectionate perspective, opportunity and joy prove to be just as possible in this “messy middle” stage.

Many transitions take place over the decades following age 50. These milestones are no less impactful than those we celebrate, such as graduation and marriage, and yet most of us lack rituals to mark these evolutions and help us build communities of support in this time of great potential.

Chip Conley was a disruptive force in the hospitality industry for decades. In 2018, he combined his experiences mentoring at Airbnb with his own midlife transition to launch the Modern Elder Academy (MEA). Today, the world's first “midlife wisdom school” offers luxurious, personal growth retreats in Baja California and New Mexico. Chip is also the author of seven books, including his most recent, Learning to Love Midlife.

In December 2024, Dr. Alexandra will be at the Santa Fe ranch location of MEA leading a 5-day retreat for couples centered on healing the past, deepening connection, and creating a relational vision for the future. You can attend with your partner or on your own. To learn more about the retreat, Loving You Without Losing Me: A Retreat for Couples, visit the website and schedule a free consultation call with the MEA admissions team.

Whether you are approaching midlife, are in the midst of it, or if midlife is in your rearview mirror, Chip’s affectionate and curious approach to this often overlooked and undervalued stage will illuminate new outlooks and possibilities for how we lean into life’s transitions.

Relevant Links:

Read Chip’s latest book Learning to Love Midlife
Learn more about Chip and get his free Anatomy of a Transition resource on his website
Learn more about Dr. Alexandra’s December 2024 retreat at MEA
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Ditch the “Shoulds”: How Feminism Improves Your Love Life with Kara Loewentheil

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Kara Loewentheil — Tue, 16 Jul 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Research shows that gender socialization plays out most rigidly in our intimate relationships. How do we learn to separate our thoughts and actions from our socialization? In this episode, podcaster, author, and feminist coach Kara Loewentheil joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation that confronts the ways in which patriarchy influences our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.

Relevant links:

Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head--And How to Get It Out a New York Times Bestseller by Kara Loewentheil

Listen to the Unf*ck Your Brain Podcast

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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two) (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Jul 2024 08:30:00 +0000

In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.

Relevant links:

Listen to Part One of this series

Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet

"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra

E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”

Mark Groves Ted Talk

Book: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman

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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One) (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Jul 2024 08:30:00 +0000

On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.

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Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet

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Mental Health and Relationships in Post-Roe America with Shefali Luthra and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, Shefali Luthra — Tue, 25 Jun 2024 08:30:00 +0000

June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court’s decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare.

In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality.

Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness.

Shefali and Dr. Pooja’s powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar.

Relevant Links:

Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali Luthra

Read Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

The UCSF Turnaway Study

Two years after Roe’s overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they’re harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th

Connect with Shefali on X or through email

Learn more about Dr. Pooja’s work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on Instagram

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Modern Masculinity: From Toxic to Communicative with Dr. Ish Major

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dr. Ish Major — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.

Relevant links:

Connect with Dr. Ish online and on Instagram

Watch Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon

Reimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”

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Rewrite Your Story: Healing from Trauma with Dr. Frank Anderson

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dr. Frank Anderson — Tue, 11 Jun 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.

Relevant links:

To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank Anderson

Connect with Dr. Anderson online and on Instagram

Learn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

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Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Jun 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.

Relevant links:

Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet here

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Money & Marriage: When One Likes to Spend and One Likes to Save with Dr. Scott Rick

Dr. Scott Rick, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 May 2024 08:30:00 +0000

What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick’s research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships.

Relevant links:

Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott Rick

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The Search for Green Flags: Ditch the Dating Myths, Not the Apps with Damona Hoffman

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Damona Hoffman — Tue, 21 May 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy.

Relevant links:

F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona Hoffman

Listen to Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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End or Mend: Managing Difficult Family Relationships with Nedra Tawwab

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Nedra Tawwab — Tue, 14 May 2024 08:30:00 +0000

[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]

Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.

Relevant links:

Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab

The Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab

Listen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear This

Connect with Nedra online and on Instagram

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"I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?"

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 May 2024 08:30:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.

Relevant links:

Access this episode's companion worksheet here

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Reimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'"

Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie Anderson

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Open Marriage: Lessons from Non-Monogamy & Motherhood with Molly Roden Winter

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Molly Roden Winter — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Author Molly Roden Winter joins Reimagining Love to share her story of opening up her marriage as a happily married mother and the hard-earned and profound truths she learned along the way. For Molly, her journey of non-monogamy opened her up to more: more choice and self-discovery, and feeling more than her roles as a mother and wife.

Relevant links:

More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Roden Winter

New York Magazine's "A Practical Guide to Modern Polyamory"

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The Other Significant Others: How to Reimagine Your Friendships with Rhaina Cohen

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Rhaina Cohen — Tue, 23 Apr 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Relevant links:

The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen

Listen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's book

Connect with Rhaina online

"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and Family

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Liberated Love: From Codependency to Relational Safety with Mark Groves & Kylie McBeath

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Mark Groves, Kylie McBeath — Tue, 16 Apr 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.

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Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath

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When You're the Affair Partner

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Apr 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Throughout her decades as a therapist, Dr. Alexandra has helped many people navigate being "the affair partner." Participating in infidelity creates an intoxicating yet profoundly confusing blend of emotions and experiences. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra examines the psychology of this role and offers a compassionate look into the surrounding context: the thrills, secret benefits, sources of shame, and potential origin stories embedded within this controversial role.

Relevant links:

"A Great Wagon" by Rumi

Journal of Sex & Martial Therapy: "Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Theory" by Anthony F. Bogaert and Lori A. Brotto

"Taking Sexy Back" by Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Facebook Group: Esther Perel Discussion Group

Reimagining Love episode: "Guidance for the Newly Single"

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When Shame Blocks Repair

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Apr 2024 08:30:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.

Relevant links:

Access this episode's companion worksheet here

Reimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"

Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit

Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to Shame

Building Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow by Joseph Burgo

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Conscious Uncoupling: Divorce as an Ending, Not a Failure with Katherine Woodward Thomas

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Katherine Woodward Thomas — Tue, 26 Mar 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Ten years after "conscious uncoupling" first entered the public lexicon, Katherine Woodward Thomas joins Reimagining Love to discuss her powerful rebrand of what's possible after a breakup or divorce. Through sharing her story and dissecting the cultural myths that cause us to view divorce as a failure, Katherine encourages us to bring a sense of generosity and intentionality to the process so that we can transform our relationships with our former partner, ourselves, and our futures.

Relevant links:

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas

Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Revised) by Katherine Woodward Thomas

Connect with Katherine online and on Instagram

Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz

The Good Divorce by Constance Ahrons

Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships by Diane Vaughan

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From Burnout to Balanced: Bringing Self-Compassion to Our Careers with Esther Boykin

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Esther Boykin — Tue, 19 Mar 2024 08:30:00 +0000

Esther Boykin joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation around the intersection of mental health and our careers. Esther highlights the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and points us towards using self-compassion as an essential tool for improving both our personal and work lives. When we bring self-compassion to our careers, we prevent burnout by opening up a deeper connection to our common humanity. Together, Esther and Dr. Alexandra then respond to a listener who thinks her relationship is being held back by her partner's ambition.

Relevant links:

Connect with Esther online and on Instagram

Learn more about Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word and the Compassion Collective

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan

Reimagining Love episode: "Talking about the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy"

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Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno

Julie Menanno, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 08:30:00 +0000

What does it feel like to be in a securely attached relationship? Renowned relationship expert and therapist Julie Menanno joins Reimagining Love to illuminate what we can learn from examining secure attachments. Together with Dr. Alexandra, Julie help anxious and avoidant partners understand each other by guiding us through how different attachment styles show up in tender moments. Ultimately, Julie reminds us that the purpose of attachment work is to help us heal from our past unmet needs so that we can form secure attachments today.

Relevant links:

Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno

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"Why Can't I Get Over It?"

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 5 Mar 2024 09:30:00 +0000

Deceit, infidelity, and betrayal profoundly shake our inner worlds. If you're struggling to heal from relational harm, you may be endlessly ruminating on the past and wondering why you can't just let it go. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra breaks down the process of forgiveness and provides seven reasons why you can’t get over it.

Relevant links:

Access this episode's companion worksheet here

Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit

Reimagining Love episode: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"

Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon

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Trauma Bonds: Healing from Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics with Dr. Laura Copley

Dr. Laura Copley, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 27 Feb 2024 09:30:00 +0000

What are trauma bonds and how can we heal from them? Dr. Laura Copley joins the podcast to dive into the sticky dynamics of unhealthy, trauma-bonded relationships. Drawing from personal experiences and her work as a relationship trauma expert, Dr. Laura gives us insight into what she calls "the hero's journey" — a transformative path towards recognizing our origin stories, attachment wounds, and current relationship dynamics so that we can transcend our trauma and form authentic connections.

Relevant links:

Loving You Is Hurting Me: A New Approach to Healing Trauma Bonds and Creating Authentic Connection by Dr. Laura Copley

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Love By Design: Why Couples Succeed with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 20 Feb 2024 09:30:00 +0000

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh returns to Reimagining Love to share her research on the six ingredients that help love bloom into a thriving relationship. In this conversation, Dr. Sara encourages us to move beyond our culture's myth of finding a perfect mate and instead, focus on creating something special together.

Relevant links:

Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Use code "Reimagine" for 10% off Dr. Sara's Relationship Panoramic Inventory (Valid until 2/29/24)

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Are You Ready to Date Again?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Feb 2024 09:30:00 +0000

Thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a breakup or loss? How can you tell if you're truly ready to get back out there? In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra provides five Relational Self-Awareness-informed indicators that you can use to help you discern whether you’re ready to date again.

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What Role Did You Play in Your Family of Origin?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Feb 2024 09:30:39 +0000

In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.

Relevant links:

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz

Reimagining Love: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"

Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 09:30:20 +0000

Emily Nagoski joins Reimagining Love for a vulnerable and expansive conversation about nurturing lasting sexual connections in long-term partnerships. As an award-winning sex educator and author, Emily combines groundbreaking research, sex education, and stress education to expand our ideas about women's sexuality. In her new book, Come Together, Emily explores how long-term couples maintain sexual connection over time. Together, Emily and Dr. Alexandra uncover the importance of moving away from the "shoulds" in our sex lives and towards discovering more confidence and joy with our partners.

Relevant links:

Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski

Dates for Emily's upcoming book tour

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The D Word: An Empowering Approach to Divorce with Kate Anthony

Kate Anthony, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 09:30:36 +0000

Renowned divorce coach Kate Anthony sits down with Dr. Alexandra to offer us an empowering approach to divorce that centers accountability and integrity. Sharing wisdom from her own divorce, Kate guides Dr. Alexandra through the experience, from exploring what is embedded within the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’ to all the tricky things that emerge in the aftermath of a separation: parenting decisions, the gender dynamics of divorce, and the heaps of unsolicited advice that’s coming your way.

Relevant links:

The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate Anthony

Listen to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Explore Kate's program Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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The Power of Play: Embodying Sex Positivity with Nicoletta Heidegger

Nicoletta Heidegger, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 09:30:48 +0000

Therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger joins Reimagining Love for an expansive conversation about all things sexuality. Nicoletta's approach shows the power of sex-positivity — encouraging curiosity about how everyone can learn to have better sex and, in doing so, build deeper connections to our senses, our relationships, and ourselves.

Relevant links:

Learn more about Nicoletta's work

Nicoletta's Sex and Scholars Podcast

Tickets for Afternoon Delight: A Live Podcast Experience on Feb. 10th, 2024

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Intergenerational Healing: A Holistic Approach to Breaking Cycles with Dr. Mariel Buqué

Dr. Mariel Buqué, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Jan 2024 09:30:55 +0000

Dr. Mariel Buqué joins Reimagining Love to discuss her debut book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma. As an expert in intergenerational trauma, Dr. Buqué offers wisdom on what gets passed down within families: not only inheritances of pain and trauma but also precious stories and gifts. Dr. Buqué shares her journey of infusing traditional clinical frameworks with holistic healing practices, paving a path through intergenerational wounds and toward emotional liberation.

Relevant links:

Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma by Dr. Mariel Buqué

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Reflect With Me: Checking In With Ourselves and Our Relationships in the New Year

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Jan 2024 09:30:42 +0000

In this special mini-solo episode, Dr. Alexandra invites you to join her as she reflects on 2023 and moves into the new year with intentionality. Sharing her perspective on resolutions, Dr. Alexandra encourages listeners to navigate this time with self-compassion and gentleness. Then, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through two exercises designed to reflect on the lessons and challenges of the past year and find optimism for this upcoming year.

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"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 09:30:04 +0000

Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals, or not hitting the gym as often as we'd desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habits personally. If you struggle to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the second episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra introduces the idea of a 'Health Habit Discrepancy' and encourages you to get curious about why you and your partner might think differently about health habits. Then, Dr. Alexandra speaks to both partners, providing guidance on how to navigate this conversation with sensitivity and understanding.

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"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 09:30:41 +0000

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Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 5 Dec 2023 09:30:56 +0000

Today’s solo episode is geared towards the “newly single,” whether you just got out of a brief situationship or a long-term, serious partnership. Dr. Alexandra breaks down what research tells us about why breakups are so challenging, and then delivers five practical strategies to help you feel more like you in this new era.

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Connecting Self-Care to Community Care: Healing Together with Minaa B.

Minaa B., Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Nov 2023 10:00:55 +0000

Minaa B. joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss healing from trauma and the power of connecting self-care to community care. As a licensed social worker and mental health educator, Minaa's work explores the intersection of mental health and social justice, and uses this understanding to give context to our personal struggles, from our childhoods to the systems of oppression that deeply impact our communities.

Relevant links:

Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World by Minaa B.

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The Highs and Lows of Finding "Your Person": Bringing a Sense of Humor to Dating with Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu

Julie Krafchick, Yue Xu, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Nov 2023 10:00:46 +0000

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the popular podcast Dateable, join Dr. Alexandra for a fun, yet insightful, conversation about all things dating. Together, they explore our rapidly changing dating culture and tackle three sticky relationship situations.

Relevant links:

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Listen to the Dateable podcast

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100th Episode: Answering Your Questions!

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Nov 2023 10:00:30 +0000

Today's show is the 100th episode of Reimagining Love! Dr. Alexandra celebrates this milestone by answering several great listener questions: one from a woman in her 20s who is grappling with stability vs adventure in her love life; one about ambition differences between two partners; and one from a man desiring more affection from his partner. Take a listen to hear from Dr. Alexandra on all of these great questions!

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Family Dynamics: How to Maintain Your Voice and Your Connection with Your Family of Origin with Julia Samuel

Julia Samuel, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Nov 2023 10:00:40 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.

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Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:

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Kids & Digital Wellness: Parenting in the Age of Screens with Dr. Devorah Heitner

Dr. Devorah Heitner, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 09:00:23 +0000

Dr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more.

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Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD:

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Desire Differences: What to Do When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Libidos with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencill

Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy, Dr. Jennifer Vencill, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 24 Oct 2023 12:29:54 +0000

If you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team.

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Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencill

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Love, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 09:00:47 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness.

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Dr. Tracy's podcast, I'm Not Your Shrink:

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My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Oct 2023 09:00:07 +0000

Resentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.

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Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:

Part 1:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444

Part 2:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000556284436

Episode #33 of Reimagining Love, Disrupting the Overfunctioning/Underfunctioning Dynamic:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000565488608

Episode #50 of Reimagining Love, Tending to Little You and Exploring Your Family of Origin:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

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Navigating Open Relationships: How to Create Agreements that Foster Security and Growth with Jessica Fern & David Cooley

Jessica Fern, David Cooley, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 Oct 2023 09:00:07 +0000

[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this rich and challenging episode, you will learn about loving with greater care and awareness, whether you are someone who practices monogamy or ethical nonmonogamy.

Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/polywise-a-deeper-dive-into-navigating-open-relationships-david-cooley/18957274?ean=9781990869143

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Help! My Kids Don't Want Me to Date!

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 26 Sep 2023 09:00:49 +0000

Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener's question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modeling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savor and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids.

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If They Wanted To, They Would

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 19 Sep 2023 09:00:53 +0000

A phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away.

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Let's Talk About "Sleep Divorces"

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 09:00:56 +0000

We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.

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The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan Worley

Marital quality and the marital bed: Examining the covariation between relationship quality and sleep (NIH)

Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse

The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani

Is sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)

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Unlocking Pleasure: How Imagination Can Empower and Reignite Us with Gina Gutierrez

Gina Gutierrez, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 5 Sep 2023 09:00:26 +0000

Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling.

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Navigating Life Transitions As a Couple: A Conversation With My Husband, Todd

Todd Solomon, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Aug 2023 09:00:43 +0000

Life transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Alexandra and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together.

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I Love Them, But I'm Not In Love With Them (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Aug 2023 09:00:12 +0000

Has someone every said this phrase to you? Have you ever said it to someone else? In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Alexandra explores why the statement "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" is so complicated and what might actually be lying beneath these words in the context of an intimate relationship.

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Inviting a Reluctant Partner into Relationship Work (Re-release)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Aug 2023 09:00:00 +0000

Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Alexandra explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons.

A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next two weeks and will return on August 22nd with another re-release episode!

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Finding Your People: Navigating Friendships in Adulthood with Lane Moore

Lane Moore, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Jul 2023 09:00:12 +0000

Lane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults.

You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane Moore:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-will-find-your-people-how-to-make-meaningful-friendships-as-an-adult-lane-moore/18699308?ean=9781419762567

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Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 09:00:11 +0000

When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.

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Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 09:00:21 +0000

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Healing from Collective Trauma: Marking the Anniversary of the Highland Park Shooting with Audrey Grunst

Audrey Grunst, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Jul 2023 09:00:45 +0000

Dr. Alexandra sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start:

Moms Demand Action:

https://momsdemandaction.org/act/

Brady: United Against Gun Violence:

https://www.bradyunited.org/take-action

Everytown:

https://www.everytown.org/

Learn more about Psychological First Aid:

https://learn.nctsn.org/course/index.php?categoryid=11

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Embracing the Bittersweet: The Beauty of Longing and Impermanence with Susan Cain

Susan Cain, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 09:00:40 +0000

Susan Cain, author of the world-renowned bestsellers "Bittersweet" and "Quiet," joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about how to honor the poignancy found in the transitional periods of our lives, whether we're launching our kids off into the world, grieving the end of a relationship, or growing old. They also discuss the ways in which the bittersweet impacts and enhances our intimate relationships.

Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/bittersweet-how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-susan-cain/17375002?ean=9780451499783

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"On Children" by Kahlil Gibran (poem)

https://www.themarginalian.org/2019/09/09/on-children-kahlil-gibran/

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Breaking Patterns & Moving Forward: The Science of Stuck with Britt Frank

Britt Frank, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 09:00:37 +0000

Britt Frank joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future.

The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank:

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How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Tools for Progress & Peace with Alicia Muñoz

Alicia Muñoz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 09:00:11 +0000

Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia Muñoz:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/stop-overthinking-your-relationship-break-the-cycle-of-anxious-rumination-to-nurture-love-trust-and-connection-with-your-partner-alicia-munoz/18078243?ean=9781648480034

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Cultivating Contemplation: How Wonder Helps us Heal with Cole Arthur Riley

Cole Arthur Riley, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Jun 2023 09:00:45 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by the visionary writer and poet Cole Arthur Riley on this episode. They discuss Cole's book, "This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us," and explore topics of wonder, contemplation, disability, childhood, and much more.

This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us by Cole Arthur Riley:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/this-here-flesh-spirituality-liberation-and-the-stories-that-make-us-cole-arthur-riley/17122524?ean=9780593239797

Black Liturgies, a project that integrates spiritual practice with Black emotion, Black literature, and the Black body:

https://www.instagram.com/blackliturgies/

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Modern Family Values: How to Be the Parents We Want to Be in a Busy World with Dr Yael Schonbrun

Dr Yael Schonbrun, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 30 May 2023 09:00:28 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by psychologist and author Dr. Yael Schonbrun for a hopeful and inspiring conversation about working parenthood. They discuss the challenges of balancing family and work life as well as strategies to help busy parents structure their lives in a way that works for their family and aligns with their values.

Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection by Dr. Yael Schonbrun:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/work-parent-thrive-12-science-backed-strategies-to-ditch-guilt-manage-overwhelm-and-grow-connecti-on-when-everything-feels-like-too-mu-yael-schonbrun/18162992

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Getting Real About Pleasure: Reclaiming Desire with Dr Laurie Mintz

Dr Laurie Mintz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 23 May 2023 09:00:32 +0000

Dr. Laurie Mintz joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about all things pleasure, from the orgasm gap to sexual myths to vibrators, offering inspiration and encouragement to both individuals and couples as they seek to reignite and reconnect with their desire and sexual identity.

Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz:

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A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Dr. Laurie Mintz:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-tired-woman-s-guide-to-passionate-sex-reclaim-your-desire-and-reignite-your-relationship-laurie-b-mintz/19853981?ean=9781605501079

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Dr. Ian Kerner:

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How to Bring Relational Self-Awareness to a First Date

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 May 2023 09:00:02 +0000

Whether you've been on dozens of first dates or are brand new to the experience, this episode will provide tools and tips to help you approach the daunting and exciting task of meeting someone new with Relational Self-Awareness.
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12 Strategies for Swiping with Relational Self-Awareness

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 May 2023 12:21:44 +0000

In this episode, Dr. Alexandra offers 12 practical strategies for navigating dating apps with self-compassion and success. These strategies will help you tune into the emotions that are coming up inside you as you swipe so you can bring more Relational Self-Awareness to your dating journey.

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Why You're Frustrated with Dating Apps

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 May 2023 09:00:08 +0000

Feeling burnt out and frustrated with dating apps? You're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra unpacks why so many people feel this way, offering explanation and validation for daters who are feeling stuck and disillusioned. Tune in next week to hear Dr. Alexandra's 12 Relational Self-Awareness strategies for using dating apps.

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Finding Yourself Again: The Truth About Codependency with Melody Beattie

Melody Beattie, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 09:00:43 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Alexandra discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie:

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Identifying Patterns & Getting Curious: Dating Mindfully with Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein

Jordana Abraham, Dr. Naomi Bernstein, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 09:00:17 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by sisters and co-hosts of the "Oversharing" podcast, Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They have a candid conversation about modern dating, gender scripts, and practical tools for how to stay centered and present on a date.

Oversharing Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oversharing/id1620971837

U up? Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/u-up/id1313996383

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"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Apr 2023 09:00:49 +0000

If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. Find the link below to listen to Part I of this series if you missed it.

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Part I of this series (previous week's episode):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000607309489

Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930

Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000603123829

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"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Apr 2023 09:00:49 +0000

If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. In next week's episode, Dr. Alexandra will share an accompanying worksheet for this series.

Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930

Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000603123829

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Gender, Family, & the Home: Why "Fair Play" Helps Our Relationships Thrive with Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Mar 2023 09:00:32 +0000

Guest Eve Rodsky is the author of the bestselling book "Fair Play," a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra and Eve discuss the problem of invisible domestic labor, especially for women and mothers, and explore how we can reimagine family life to create a more equitable and healthy future for all.

Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live-eve-rodsky/12084091?ean=9780525541943

Fair Play Card Deck:

https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards

Fair Play Documentary:

https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary

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The Neuroscience of Pleasure: Why Good Sex Matters with Dr. Nan Wise

Dr. Nan Wise, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Mar 2023 09:00:03 +0000

Dr. Nan Wise, a neuroscientist researcher and certified sex therapist, joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about the importance of prioritizing healthy pleasure. Dr. Nan shares some of the most fascinating findings from her team's research, especially pertaining to female pleasure.

Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life by Dr. Nan Wise:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/why-good-sex-matters-understanding-the-neuroscience-of-pleasure-for-a-smarter-happier-and-more-purpose-filled-life-nan-wise/6960664?ean=9781328451309

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Dealing with Breakup Regret

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 09:00:34 +0000

In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores common feelings that can follow a breakup, including regret, grief, and loneliness, even for the partner who initiated the breakup. She explains where these emotions come from and what they can signal to us about our healing journey ahead.

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How to Get Closure After a Breakup

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Mar 2023 10:00:50 +0000

The end of a relationship can feel disorienting and earth-shattering, so it's only natural for us to yearn for the ever-elusive feeling of "closure." In this episode, Dr. Alexandra posits that we often look for closure in the wrong places after a breakup, and she offers an empowering reframe for anyone who's grieving the end of a partnership.

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Building a Home Within Ourselves: From Surviving to Thriving with Tara Schuster

Tara Schuster, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Feb 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Dr. Alexandra's guest on this episode is Tara Schuster, an accomplished entertainment executive turned mental health advocate and best-selling author. In this touching conversation, Tara shares her inspiration for her new book, Glow in the F*cking Dark, and how she has lived the mission of building a nurturing home within herself, even when life presents challenges.

Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul, from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way by Tara Schuster:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/glow-in-the-f-cking-dark-simple-practices-to-heal-your-soul-from-someone-who-learned-the-hard-way-tara-schuster/18679351?ean=9780593243091

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http://www.taraschuster.com/

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https://www.instagram.com/taraschuster/

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Breaking Family Patterns & Healing Wounds: The Origins of You with Vienna Pharaon

Vienna Pharaon, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Feb 2023 10:00:59 +0000

Vienna Pharaon returns to Reimagining Love for a profound conversation about her new book, which focuses on the impacts of our family of origin and how we can understand our past to improve our relationships in the present.

The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-origins-of-you-how-breaking-family-patterns-can-liberate-the-way-we-live-and-love-vienna-pharaon/18612766?ean=9780593539910

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"Right Person, Wrong Time"

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 10:00:02 +0000

The timing of how things play out in our lives is often out of our control. How do we decide whether to pursue a budding relationship, even when "the time isn't right," or whether to accept circumstances and let things go? Dr. Alexandra discusses all of this in more in this episode.

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Is Your "Situationship" Working?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Feb 2023 10:00:45 +0000

Casual and/or circumstantial relationships can be fun, but they also pose unique challenges and often bring up complex emotions. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra shares her thoughts on "situationships" and provides prompts and questions to assess whether your particular relationship is continuing to be enriching, respectful, and clear for both partners—or whether it may be time to move on.

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NPR's 1A: The Joys and Pains of Multigenerational Households:

https://the1a.org/segments/the-joys-and-pains-of-multigenerational-households/

"Compersion" article:

https://digitalcommons.ciis.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1010&context=advance-archive

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Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness: The Connection Between Thriving Relationships and A Fulfilling Life with Dr. Marc Schulz

Dr. Marc Schulz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 10:00:13 +0000

Dr. Marc Schulz, co-author of the book "The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" joins Dr. Alexandra for a fascinating overview of the longitudinal research that he and his colleague Dr. Robert Waldinger synthesized in their new book. Dr. Schulz discusses some of the biggest takeaways from this study with Dr. Alexandra, including hopeful and exciting insights about the connection between thriving relationships and a fulfilling life.

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The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Robert Waldinger MD and Marc Schulz PhD

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-good-life-life-changing-lessons-from-the-world-s-longest-study-of-happiness-marc-schulz/18716303?ean=9781982166694

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Masculinity & Vulnerability: How Men's Healing Helps All of Us with Connor Beaton

Connor Beaton, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 10:00:22 +0000

Dr. Alexandra's guest on this episode is Connor Beaton, a coach, speaker, and author of the new book "Men's Work." Their conversation focuses on men’s work and healing and touches on universally relevant topics including breaking free from shame and self-isolation, owning our emotions, and connecting with a kind of inner-strength that comes from courage and humility, rather than domination.

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Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom by Connor Beaton:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/men-s-work-a-practical-guide-to-face-your-darkness-end-self-sabotage-and-find-freedom-connor-beaton/18423283?ean=9781683649908

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Evolving Together: Updating Our Relationships with Our Parents with Daniel Maté

Daniel Maté, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 Jan 2023 10:00:41 +0000

Daniel Maté joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion centering on parent-child relationships, with a focus on how to cultivate and update this relationship once both parties are adults. They discuss the "Hello Again" workshops that Daniel and his father, Gabor Maté, facilitate for people to work on this specific relationship, and explore the challenges and possibilities of the parent-child bond.

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Hello Again: A Fresh Start For Parents And Their Adult Children:

https://www.helloagainproject.com/

Walk with Daniel:

https://www.walkwithdaniel.com/

Let's Get Lyrical with Carice & Daniel (Podcast)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-lyrical-with-carice-daniel/id1661415500

Daniel's website:

https://www.danielmate.com/

The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté with Daniel Maté

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-myth-of-normal-trauma-illness-and-healing-in-a-toxic-culture-gabor-mate/17446136?ean=9780593083888

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People-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your Partner

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 10:00:50 +0000

Open communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.

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When Having "No Filter" Hurts A Relationship

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 Jan 2023 10:00:39 +0000

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Moving Through Our Emotions: Cultivating Joy & Resilience with Erica Hornthal

Erica Hornthal, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 10:00:14 +0000

Dance movement therapist Erica Hornthal joins Dr. Alexandra for an enriching conversation about how movement and dance can have a transformative positive impact on our mental health. They also answer a listener question about regulating one's emotions during difficult conversations with a partner.

Body Aware: Rediscover Your Mind-Body Connection, Stop Feeling Stuck, and Improve Your Mental Health with Simple Movement Practice by Erica Hornthal:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/body-aware-rediscover-your-mind-body-connection-stop-feeling-stuck-and-improve-your-mental-health-with-simple-movement-practice-erica-hornthal/17771314?ean=9781623176891

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Is Work Stress Taking a Toll on Your Relationship?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Dec 2022 10:00:40 +0000

Stressing about our jobs is inevitable, and it can take a real toll on our intimate partnerships. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores what happens when we take work home with us, and how it may create challenging dynamics with those we love. She provides tools and strategies to manage work stress in healthier ways, have empathetic conversations with our partners, and foster compassion for ourselves.

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Love Stories: My Best Friend Ali

Alexandra Folz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 10:00:16 +0000

Dr. Alexandra sits down with her lifelong best friend, Ali, for a heartfelt conversation about their four decades of friendship and everything they've learned about each other and themselves along the way.

Ali's book, "The Heirloom"

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-heirloom-alexandra-folz/11612835?ean=9780998276908

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We All Deserve Support: Making Therapy Accessible & Healing from Heartbreak with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 10:00:43 +0000

Therapy for Black Girls (including the online therapist directory):

https://therapyforblackgirls.com/

Dr. Joy's website:

https://hellodrjoy.com/

Therapy for Black Girls Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641

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The Sweetness of Self-Care: Baking by Feel with Becca Rea-Tucker

Becca Rea-Tucker, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 15 Nov 2022 10:00:20 +0000

Becca Rea-Tucker is a cookbook author and Instagram sensation who bakes with a purpose, and she joins Dr. Alexandra for a sweet discussion about her new cookbook, Baking by Feel, and her cakes with feminist messages that inspire people to use their voice.

Baking by Feel: Recipes to Sort Out Your Emotions (Whatever They Are Today!) by Becca Rea-Tucker

https://bookshop.org/p/books/baking-by-feel-recipes-to-sort-out-your-emotions-whatever-they-are-today-becca-rea-tucker/18321498?ean=9780063160040

Becca's Instagram (@thesweetfeminist)

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Caring For Ourselves & Each Other: How We Heal with Alex Elle

Alex Elle, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 8 Nov 2022 10:00:31 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Alex Elle, author of the new book "How We Heal." They discuss healing through personal writing, how we can re-parent ourselves, and how we can build a life full of individual and relational growth amidst challenges and change.

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/

How We Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free by Alexandra Elle

https://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-heal-uncover-your-power-and-set-yourself-free-alexandra-elle/18265479?ean=9781797216263

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Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Nov 2022 09:00:37 +0000

Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through an exploration of their "Original Love Classroom"—the family system they grew up in—and explains why the roles we were cast in as children impact the way we relate to those we love in the present.

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/

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Love Stories: Building a Life Together with Elise & Suz

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Oct 2022 09:00:00 +0000

In this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down with Elise & Suz, a young and recently married couple, for a thoughtful conversation about queerness, modern marriage, and building a life together. Elise & Suz share the story of how they met, their relationships with their own queerness and identity, and how they reimagined traditions for their wedding. They also reflect on some of the challenges, and the joys, of the post-marriage chapter.

Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):

estherperel.com/alexandra

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Getting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride

Dr. Hillary McBride, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 09:00:42 +0000

Dr. Hillary McBride joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her work on embodiment and presence. They talk about why and how to listen to what your body is telling you, and Dr. Hillary guides listeners through a body meditation that can help you come back to the present moment and feel more at ease.

Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):

estherperel.com/alexandra

The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-wisdom-of-your-body-finding-healing-wholeness-and-connection-through-embodied-living-hillary-l-mcbride/16458447?ean=9781587435522

Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Dr. Hillary McBride:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/mothers-daughters-and-body-image-learning-to-love-ourselves-as-we-are-hillary-l-mcbride/12670127?ean=9781682613542

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https://hillarylmcbride.com/

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"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Oct 2022 13:57:47 +0000

In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Alexandra addresses all of this and more in today's episode.

Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):

estherperel.com/alexandra

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Listen to Part 1 of this episode:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000581520129

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"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Oct 2022 09:00:31 +0000

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Love Stories: Leading with Purpose with Julie Lythcott-Haims

Julie Lythcott-Haims, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 09:00:48 +0000

Julie Lythcott-Haims, bestselling author of the books "How to Raise an Adult," "Real American," and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult," joins Dr. Alexandra on the show to discuss her career, groundbreaking writing, and the challenges she's decided to take on along the way. Listen to feel inspired by Julie and her mission to bring attention to the issues that matter most.

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims:

https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success/9781250093639

How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims:

https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult-9781250838414/9781250137777

Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims:

https://bookshop.org/books/real-american-a-memoir/9781250296733

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How to Love Well: The Little Things that Change Everything with Drs. John & Julie Gottman

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 09:00:28 +0000

Today's episode features two legends from the fields of couples therapy and relationship science: Dr John Gottman, and Dr. Julie Gottman. They sit down with Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about their groundbreaking research and careers, as well as their own relationship with one another, and share simple and actionable steps you can use today to deepen connection in your long-term partnership.

The Gottman Institute website:

https://www.gottman.com/

The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Drs. John & Julie Gottman

https://bookshop.org/books/the-love-prescription-seven-days-to-more-intimacy-connection-and-joy/9780143136637

Small Things Often (The Gottman Institute podcast):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/small-things-often/id1498172564

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Coming Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema Bryant

Dr. Thema Bryant, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 09:00:49 +0000

Dr. Thema Bryant, president-elect of the American Psychological Association, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich conversation about how we can heal, grow, and thrive, both on the individual and community level. They also answer a listener question about how and when to speak up in difficult family arguments about religious beliefs.

Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:

https://bookshop.org/books/homecoming-overcome-fear-and-trauma-to-reclaim-your-whole-authentic-self/9780593418314

The Antiracism Handbook by Dr. Thema Bryant and Dr. Edith G Arrington:

https://bookshop.org/books/the-antiracism-handbook-practical-tools-to-shift-your-mindset-and-uproot-racism-in-your-life-and-community/9781684039104

The Homecoming Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689

Dr. Thema's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/

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Talking About the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 6 Sep 2022 09:00:29 +0000

On this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.

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https://dralexandrasolomon.com/future

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

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Love Stories: Partnership & Parenthood with Cathy & Todd Adams

Cathy Adams, Todd Adams, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 09:00:25 +0000

On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.

Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adams

https://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9awnt6nNZ8D8rXC5HhoCqvUQAvD_BwE

Zen Parenting Radio:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318

Zen Parenting Website:

https://zenparentingradio.com/

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

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Loving and Loving Again: Personal Evolution in Relationships with Mark Groves

Mark Groves, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 23 Aug 2022 09:00:16 +0000

Mark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.

Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:

peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode:

www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence

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Tuning into You: How Self-Reflection Creates Healthy Relationships with Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken

The Shrink Chicks, Emmalee Bierly, Jennifer Chaiken, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 09:00:08 +0000

The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence

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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Aug 2022 09:00:35 +0000

Listen to Part 1 of this series:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271

Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:

www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence

"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/

E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”:

https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645

Mark Groves Ted Talk:

https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=en

Book: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman:

https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Practice-Emotion-Focused-Therapy-Essentials/dp/1433832852/ref=sr_1_1?crid=L7QAJ78C3X9T&keywords=rhonda+goldman&qid=1659051680&sprefix=rhonda+goldman%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1

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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Aug 2022 09:00:16 +0000

Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.

Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:

peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove

Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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Love Stories: Toddcast

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Todd Solomon — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 09:00:19 +0000

Dr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.

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peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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Getting to Zero: Conflict & Repair with Jayson Gaddis

Jayson Gaddis, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 09:00:51 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.

The Family Institute at Northwestern University:

https://www.family-institute.org/

Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis:

https://bookshop.org/books/getting-to-zero-how-to-work-through-conflict-in-your-high-stakes-relationships/9780306924811

The Relationship School:

https://relationshipschool.com/

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Learning to Cherish: From "You & Me" to "Us" with Terry Real

Terry Real, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Jun 2022 09:00:14 +0000

World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.

The Family Institute at Northwestern University:

https://www.family-institute.org/

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:

https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672

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Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning Dynamic

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Jun 2022 09:00:19 +0000

Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.

Get the companion worksheet for this episode:

www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamic

The Family Institute at Northwestern University:

https://www.family-institute.org/

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

“Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek:

https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/

“Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017):

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/

“I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor:

How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017):

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/

Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:

https://bookshop.org/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live/9780525541943?gclid=CjwKCAjwyryUBhBSEiwAGN5OCMpPV9pDU8oYDF4N2gccTwdOWo4hb8gHLsp3DfY1sTLi7IrxdD83YxoCGiQQAvD_BwE

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Love Stories: Permission for Pleasure with Al Fine, Co-Founder & CEO of Dame Products

Alex Fine, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 31 May 2022 09:00:22 +0000

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.

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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout):

https://www.dameproducts.com/

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Understanding Ourselves: The Challenge & Gift of Therapy with Lori Gottlieb

Lori Gottlieb, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 24 May 2022 09:00:24 +0000

Lori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.

Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:

https://bookshop.org/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-a-therapist-her-therapist-and-our-lives-revealed/9781328662057

"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:

https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/

Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb & Guy Winch (podcast):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696

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Self-Advocacy in Action: Finding Your Voice in Relationships with Nedra Tawwab

Nedra Tawwab, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 17 May 2022 09:00:15 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.

Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101

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Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab:

https://bookshop.org/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself/9780593192092

Nedra's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/

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Reaching the Summit: The Challenges & Possibilities of Modern Love with Dr. Eli Finkel

Dr. Eli Finkel, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 10 May 2022 09:00:57 +0000

Dr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Alexandra for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship.

The Family Institute at Northwestern University:

https://www.family-institute.org/

The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel:

https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345

Dr. Eli Finkel's Website:

https://elifinkel.com/

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We Need to Talk About Ghosting

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 3 May 2022 09:00:18 +0000

Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.

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Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

We Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1

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Love Stories: Writing Relationships with Novelist Monica Ali

Monica Ali, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 09:00:50 +0000

In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).

Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475

Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/

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Monica Ali's website:

https://www.monicaali.com/

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Somatic Abolitionism: Understanding Racialized Trauma Through the Body with Resmaa Menakem

Resmaa Menakem, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 12:32:10 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.

Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/

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Resmaa's website:

https://www.resmaa.com/

The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakem

https://bookshop.org/books/the-quaking-of-america-an-embodied-guide-to-navigating-our-nation-s-upheaval-and-racial-reckoning/9781949481747

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem

https://bookshop.org/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-9781942094470/9781942094470

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Relational Authenticity: How Boundaries Protect Us, and Connect Us with Terri Cole

Terri Cole, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 09:00:06 +0000

Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Dr. Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.

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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole:

https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683

Terri’s Boundary Quiz:

https://boundaryquiz.com/

Terri’s website:

https://www.terricole.com/

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Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 5 Apr 2022 09:00:03 +0000

Listen to Part I of the Conflict series:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444

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Couples therapy directories:

https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/

http://www.iceft.com/

http://therapist.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Domestic violence resources:

https://ncadv.org/resources

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Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One)

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 09:00:29 +0000

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https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

Couples therapy directories:

https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/

http://www.iceft.com/

http://therapist.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Domestic violence resources:

https://ncadv.org/resources

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Relational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona Fishbane

Mona Fishbane, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 09:00:11 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.

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Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.

https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536

Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MD

https://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730

The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW):

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.x

Dr. Fishbane's website:

Monafishbane.com

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Tending to Loss: What We Get Wrong About Grief with Megan Devine

Megan Devine, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 15 Mar 2022 09:00:08 +0000

Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.

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https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274

It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine:

https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-ok-that-you-re-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss-in-a-culture-that-doesn-t-understand-9781622039074/9781622039074

How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine:

https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708

Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community:

https://refugeingrief.com/

Connect with Megan:

megandevine.co

Here After, Megan's Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505

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What Women Lose in Marriage: The Case for a Radical Awakening with Dr Shefali Tsabary

Shefali Tsabary, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 8 Mar 2022 13:40:28 +0000

Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.

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A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

https://bookshop.org/books/a-radical-awakening-turn-pain-into-power-embrace-your-truth-live-free/9780062985897

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"I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With Them"

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Mar 2022 10:00:35 +0000

This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.

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The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):

https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love?language=en

Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon:

https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461

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From Performance to Pleasure: A New Vision for Sexuality with Dr. Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 10:00:10 +0000

Dr. Emily Nagoski comes on the show to talk all things sexuality and pleasure with Dr. Alexandra. They answer two listener questions together and discuss Dr. Emily's work and research around female pleasure as well as burnout and the stress cycle.

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Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

https://bookshop.org/books/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-9781982165314/9781982165314

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. & Amelia Nagoski, DMA

https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324

Dr. Emily Nagoski's Worksheets:

Sexual Temperament Questionnaire

Sexual Cues Assessment Worksheet

Turning Off the Offs Worksheet

Sexy Contexts Worksheet

Stress Worksheet

The Nap Ministry @thenapministry

https://www.instagram.com/thenapministry/?hl=en

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From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel

Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 15 Feb 2022 10:00:27 +0000

Dr. Dan Siegel joins Dr. Alexandra to talk about attachment theory, parenting, and healing intergenerational trauma. Dr. Siegel's work looms large in the worlds of psychology, psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology, and he has published many bestselling books, linked below.

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Links to a selection of Dr. Dan Siegel's books:

The Whole-Brain Child

The Mindful Therapist

Aware

Mentioned in this episode:

Caste by Isabel Wilkerson

How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

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Values & Communication: The Next Sexual Revolution with Cindy Gallop

Cindy Gallop, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 8 Feb 2022 10:00:34 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Alexandra.

Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

MakeLoveNotPorn:

https://makelovenotporn.tv/

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Can We Rebuild After Infidelity?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 1 Feb 2022 10:00:03 +0000

Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Alexandra walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Alexandra also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below.

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Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

CU Boulder Infidelity Study

https://www.colorado.edu/asmagazine/2018/04/04/extramarital-sex-partners-likely-be-close-friends-and-men-are-more-apt-cheat

Infidelity Around the World (The Economist)

https://www.economist.com/1843/2018/01/16/infidelity-around-the-world

Extramarital Affairs (Pew Research Center)

https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2014/01/14/extramarital-affairs-topline/

Post-Traumatic Stress & Infidelity Study (Stress & Health)

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/333787481_Posttraumatic_stress_and_psychological_health_following_infidelity_in_unmarried_young_adults

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Love Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde

Kristi Born, Rainier Wylde, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 25 Jan 2022 10:00:32 +0000

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.

Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Books on infidelity and related topics:

What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman)

New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson)

The State of Affairs (Esther Perel)

The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu)

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)

Kristi's website:

https://www.kristiborn.com/

Rainier's website:

https://www.rainierwylde.com/

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Discernment in Dating: Cutting Through the Noise with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh — Tue, 18 Jan 2022 10:00:11 +0000

Dating is hard enough, and with so many voices offering advice, opinions, and hot takes, it can be challenging to tune in with yourself and how you really feel about a new prospect. Dr. Alexandra invites Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh on the show to answer a question from a listener who is having this exact challenge, and they discuss ways to regulate the nervous system and tune in with the body before, during, and after a date.

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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk:

https://bookshop.org/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma/9780143127741

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski:

https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s website:

https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.saranasserzadeh/

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Reclaiming Pleasure: Trauma, Healing, & Communicating Boundaries with Holly Richmond

Dr. Holly Richmond, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 11 Jan 2022 10:00:54 +0000

Dr. Holly Richmond joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. They also answer a listener question about communicating sexual boundaries in dating situations. (CW: sexual trauma)

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Dr. Holly Richmond’s book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life:

https://bookshop.org/books/reclaiming-pleasure-a-sex-positive-guide-for-moving-past-sexual-trauma-and-living-a-passionate-life/9781684038428

Dr. Holly Richmond’s free mini-course, “Grounding Exercises for Survivors Reclaiming Pleasure after Sexual Trauma”

https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com/freeminicourse

Dr. Holly Richmond’s Instagram, @drhollyrichmond

https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond/

National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)

www.rainn.org

Additional resources and help lines:

https://ncadv.org/resources

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Working Through Jealousy as a Couple

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 4 Jan 2022 10:00:27 +0000

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra gets into the nitty gritty of a common relational challenge: jealousy. Addressing both the jealous individual and their partner, Dr. Alexandra illustrates how jealousy can manifest, what it says about a relationship and how couples can move through the emotion as a team.

Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

Get the companion worksheet for this episode:

www.dralexandrasolomon.com/jealousy

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/

Resources and help lines for relationship abuse and domestic abuse:

https://ncadv.org/resources

The Widespread Suspicion of Opposite-Sex Friendships (The Atlantic)

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/08/mistrust-opposite-sex-friendships/596437/

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Romantic Jealousy (Psychology Today)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201909/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-romantic-jealousy

Study: The Price of Distrust: Trust, Anxious Attachment, Jealousy, and Partner Abuse

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5380380/

Study: Romantic Attachment and Subtypes/Dimensions of Jealousy

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2936010/

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Love Stories: Embodied Sisterhood with Drs. Lindsay & Lexie Kite

Dr. Lindsay Kite, Dr. Lexie Kite, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 10:00:29 +0000

For this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes identical twins Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite to Reimagining Love. Lindsay and Lexie received PhDs in the study of women’s body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Dr. Alexandra dives deep with the Kites to hear about their childhood growing up as identical twins, tracing how the challenges and joys of their sisterhood led them to the important work they do today and how their relationship has evolved through every stage of life.

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More Than a Body: Your Body is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Drs. Lindsay and Lexie Kite

https://bookshop.org/books/more-than-a-body-your-body-is-an-instrument-not-an-ornament-9780358645573/9780358229247

The Kites’ website:

https://www.morethanabody.org/about-us/

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Relocating for Love: Finding Agency in Accommodation with Vienna Pharaon

Vienna Pharaon, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 21 Dec 2021 10:00:58 +0000

How do we know when we are too accommodating in relationships, or not accommodating enough? Dr. Alexandra invites therapist and friend Vienna Pharaon on the show to talk about major life transitions and how they can impact our intimate partnerships. Together, they answer a question from a listener who is struggling to adjust to a new city and lifestyle, after having moved where her partner is doing his med school residency.

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Vienna Pharaon’s e-course, “The Origins of You”:

http://www.newyorkcouplescounseling.com/

Vienna Pharaon’s Instagram, @mindfulmft

https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmft/

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Dating Again: Healing the Past, Embracing the Present with Elizabeth Earnshaw

Elizabeth Earnshaw, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 10:00:42 +0000

A listener question about dating after divorce spurs a fascinating discussion between Dr. Alexandra and guest expert Liz Earnshaw, a marriage and family therapist and author of the new book I Want This To Work. Liz and Dr. Alexandra offer encouragement and possibilities to this listener as he considers looking for love in this new chapter.

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Referenced in this episode:

Liz Earnshaw's book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age

https://bookshop.org/books/i-want-this-to-work-an-inclusive-guide-to-navigating-the-most-difficult-relationship-issues-we-face-in-the-modern-age/9781683647959

Gottman’s “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

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(Re)Gathering for the Holidays

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 7 Dec 2021 10:00:01 +0000

The holidays are upon us. How do we want to do things differently this year? Dr. Alexandra discusses how to make the most of gatherings with loved ones, from having compassionate conversations, to taking breaks, to connecting over shared memories.

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Games to spark connection and conversation:

Table Topics:

https://www.tabletopics.com/

Heads Up:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.wb.headsup&hl=en_US&gl=US

Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories (Esther Perel)

https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game

Catch Phrase:

https://www.target.com/p/ultimate-catch-phrase-game/-/A-79749959

Love Lingual:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Language-Conversation-Icebreakers-Relationship/dp/B0857JK41W/ref=sr_1_54?keywords=conversation+games&qid=1637347490&sr=8-54

Referenced in this episode:

Priya Parker in conversation with Krista Tippett:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/priya-parker-remaking-gathering-entering-the-mess/id150892556?i=1000537146183

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Love Stories: Unconditional Love with Moe Ari & Sandra Brown

Moe Ari, Sandra Brown, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 30 Nov 2021 10:00:58 +0000

In this first “Love Stories” episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down in the studio with Moe Ari and his mother, Sandra Brown. Originally assigned female at birth, Moe has used his own gender transition story to help many others discover their authentic voice and navigate the difficult journey of alignment, as a therapist and mindset coach. Moe and Sandra discuss their respective experiences of Moe’s transition, sharing the moments of realization, layers of grief, and unconditional love that allowed them to deepen their relationship through this major transformation.

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Moe’s website:

https://theemoeari.com/moeari

Moe’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/loveoutproud/?hl=en

Additional resources:

Moe Ari on the Mark Groves Podcast

The Gift of Gender Authenticity | Jean Malpas TEDx Talk

Ackerman Institute's Gender & Family Project

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Getting Your Needs Met: Relationship Boundaries with Shadeen Francis

Shadeen Francis, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 23 Nov 2021 10:00:59 +0000

Therapist Shadeen Francis joins Dr. Alexandra to respond to a listener who is interested in opening up her marriage, but is facing resistance from her partner. They use this question as a springboard to explore the topic of disclosed non-monogamy, unmet needs, mental health and communication in a long-term partnership.

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Shadeen’s Website:

https://shadeenfrancis.com/

Shadeen’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis/

Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It":

https://terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/

Learn more about the topics covered in this episode:

The Flexibility of Female Sexuality with Wednesday Martin (The Psychology Podcast)

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern)

Relationship Bill of Rights (Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux)

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Dating & Dealbreakers: Lessons from Reality TV with Nick Viall

Nick Viall, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 16 Nov 2021 10:00:07 +0000

Nick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Alexandra answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse)

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon: A Clinical Look at the Break-Up of Katie & Greg (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-alexandra-solomon-a-clinical-look-at-the-break/id1448210981?i=1000531152178

Breaking Down Marriage 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-down-marriage-101-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1448210981?i=1000505891430

Nick's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/

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Difference as a Bridge: Cross-Cultural Love with Dr. Adia Gooden

Dr. Adia Gooden, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 9 Nov 2021 10:00:18 +0000

Dr. Alexandra is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond.

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Dr. Adia Gooden’s website:

https://dradiagooden.com/

Pew: Intermarriage in the U.S. 50 Years After Loving v. Virginia:

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/intermarriage-in-the-u-s-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/

Pew: Interfaith marriage is common in U.S., particularly among the recently wed:

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/06/02/interfaith-marriage/

Pew: Shared religious beliefs in marriage important to some, but not all, married Americans:

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/10/27/shared-religious-beliefs-in-marriage-important-to-some-but-not-all-married-americans/

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Inviting a Reluctant Partner Into Relationship Work

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 2 Nov 2021 13:03:09 +0000

When one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explores “Relational Self-Awareness Discrepancies,” sharing tools and ideas that couples can use to generate empathy and move to a place of understanding and growth when faced with this common issue.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Dr. Gabor Mate: https://drgabormate.com/

Dr. Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

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Loving Through Crisis: How We Reconnect with Esther Perel

Esther Perel, Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 09:00:43 +0000

How do we reconnect with our loved ones, and ourselves, during times of global crisis? On this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned psychotherapist and author Esther Perel to puzzle through this pressing question. You may recognize Esther’s voice from her celebrated TED talks, which have garnered more than 30 million views. Her bestselling books delve into topics of desire, infidelity, and sustaining mystery and excitement in long-term relationships. Together, Esther and Alexandra address a nuanced listener question about whether to move forward with a relationship that has fallen flat during the COVID-19 lockdown.

They also share information about Esther’s upcoming conference, Sessions Live, which is dedicated to therapists, coaches, and other professionals who help people navigate the complexities of modern relationships. Reimagining Love listeners can get a discount on their Sessions Live ticket by using the code “reimagininglove” at checkout: https://sessions.estherperel.com/sessions-live-2021

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Mentioned in this episode:

Terry Real:

https://terryreal.com/

UCSF burnout study:

https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2021/04/420231/frontline-health-workers-across-us-faced-unique-stressors-during-covid-19

The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller:

https://bookshop.org/books/the-wild-edge-of-sorrow-rituals-of-renewal-and-the-sacred-work-of-grief/9781583949764

Adam Grant on Languishing

https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_how_to_stop_languishing_and_start_finding_flow

Lisa Fortuna:

https://www.bumc.bu.edu/busm/profile/lisa-fortuna/

Rachel Botsman:

https://rachelbotsman.com/

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Trailer - Reimagining Love

Dr. Alexandra Solomon — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 20:55:12 +0000

Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between — a podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and award-winning author Dr. Alexandra Solomon, featuring conversations with notable guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop-culture.

To join our conversation about the relationships that matter most, subscribe or follow the podcast today.

(Guest voices include: Esther Perel, Nick Viall, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Dr. Adia Gooden, Shadeen Francis)

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