Phil breaks down avoidance in simple, uncomfortable terms. Avoidance is not laziness. It’s the habit of looking away from thoughts, emotions, or experiences that feel threatening. Instead of facing them, many men distract themselves through alcohol, substances, overwork, or constant noise. The problem isn’t the distraction itself. It’s what the distraction is protecting you from seeing.

Drawing from his own experience, Phil explains how unresolved childhood trauma quietly shaped his behaviors for years. He shares how emotional pain from early family events became a subconscious lens that influenced his decisions, habits, and self-destructive patterns long into adulthood. That pain didn’t disappear. It just hid behind busyness.

A core idea in the episode is this. Avoidance clouds judgment. When personal pain is left unexamined, it leaks into business as hesitation, inconsistency, fear of growth, and self-sabotage. That’s why many people think they have money problems or business problems when the real issue is internal.

Phil introduces a practical way to confront avoidance. Stillness. Silence. Writing without filtering. He explains why sitting alone with your thoughts feels unbearable for many people and how that discomfort is a signal, not a flaw. The moment you stop trying to curate your thoughts and instead write exactly what comes up, patterns begin to surface.

This is not therapy talk or motivation. It’s a discipline. Facing what you’ve been avoiding creates clarity. Clarity creates better decisions. Better decisions create momentum in business and life.

Key Takeaways

• What avoidance actually looks like in high-performing men
• Why numbing behaviors lead to self-sabotage
• How unresolved trauma blocks business growth
• A simple writing exercise to uncover what you’re avoiding
• Why sitting in silence reveals more than constant action

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, self-mastery, and leadership. It’s part of an ongoing message about fixing the internal bottlenecks that no strategy can override.

Listen with the intention to slow down, turn inward, and face the thing you’ve been avoiding. That work is uncomfortable, but it’s also the doorway to real progress.

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Phil reflects on recent life updates and conversations with people who wanted to launch businesses, grow momentum, or break through plateaus but froze instead. He explains how the desire for perfect clarity often becomes the reason progress stops. In business, waiting to feel confident before acting usually leads to inaction. Real confidence is built after action, not before it.

Using a simple but powerful analogy from everyday life, Phil breaks down how overwhelm works. When there’s too much to do, people shut down. The solution isn’t doing everything at once. It’s choosing a starting point and moving one step at a time. Action creates a new vantage point, and that vantage point creates clarity.

A recurring theme in the episode is focus. Phil explains why trying to clean everything off your plate at once leads to burnout and why slow, intentional movement produces better long-term results. Drawing on lessons from the Marine Corps, he reinforces the principle that slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. Consistency beats intensity when the goal is durability.

Phil also shares parts of his own journey, including business setbacks, leadership mistakes, family pressure, and seasons of doubt. He explains how personal development, mindset shifts, and changing his definition of success allowed him to keep moving forward even when things felt heavy. Growth didn’t remove challenges. It increased responsibility.

The episode emphasizes the long game. Business success comes with cycles of momentum and collapse. The difference between people who win and people who quit is not talent. It’s the ability to keep moving, learning the lesson, and adapting when things get hard.

Key Takeaways

• Why waiting for clarity often keeps entrepreneurs stuck
• How action creates confidence, not the other way around
• A practical way to reduce overwhelm and regain focus
• Why slow, intentional progress beats rushed intensity
• How mindset and personal development support long-term growth

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, discipline, and execution. It’s part of an ongoing documentation of what it really takes to build a business, raise a family, and keep going through uncertainty.

Listen with the intention to reflect, simplify your next move, and take one step forward. Momentum is built by movement, not perfection.

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Phil records this episode on his daughter’s fifth birthday, which sets the tone immediately. He explains that loving your kids is not just about sacrifice, money, or long hours at work. Love is built through presence, attention, and shared moments. No level of business success can replace the absence of connection.

Drawing from his own childhood, Phil reflects on how little he truly knew about his parents beyond surface details. He challenges listeners to ask a hard question. Is providing financially enough if your children don’t know who you are, what you care about, or how to connect with you emotionally?

Throughout the episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of slowing down. He explains why inviting your kids into everyday tasks, even when it takes longer, creates core memories that shape how they view love, safety, and leadership. Being present is not about grand gestures. It is about choosing involvement over efficiency.

Phil also addresses boundaries. Building a business requires discipline, but family time must be protected. When work bleeds into every evening and weekend, children learn that they come second. Phil shares why intentional cutoff times and fully present family windows are essential for both success and peace.

At its core, this episode is about perspective. Childhood is short. The years move fast. Phil reminds listeners that one day, the opportunity to create memories will be gone, regardless of how much money was made.

Key Takeaways

• Why presence matters more than provision for children
• How absence shapes a child’s view of love and leadership
• Why involving kids in everyday moments builds stronger bonds
• How to set boundaries between business and family time
• The long-term cost of prioritizing work over connection

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and intentional living. It is not about guilt or perfection. It is about awareness, discipline, and choosing what truly matters while you still can.

Listen with the intention to slow down, reassess your priorities, and show up fully for the people who will remember how you made them feel long after the business goals are met.

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Phil shares his personal experience growing up without consistent emotional guidance from his father. He reflects on the early years of feeling loved and safe, followed by confusion, resentment, and emotional shutdown after his family fractured. That absence, combined with silence around emotions, shaped how he navigated anger, addiction, relationships, and self-worth for years.

A core theme of the episode is the generational impact of emotionally unavailable fathers. Phil explains how men who never heard “I’m proud of you” often grow into adults who never feel enough. That missing voice becomes an internal gap that drives overwork, restlessness, and chronic dissatisfaction, even when success is achieved.

Phil contrasts this with how he approaches fatherhood today. Instead of raising his children in his image, he focuses on knowing who they are, being present, and offering emotional safety. Presence is not about activities or achievements. It’s about attunement, attention, and consistency.

The episode also connects fatherlessness to leadership and business. Many men bring unresolved childhood pain into entrepreneurship, where it shows up as control issues, burnout, and constant pressure to prove worth. Phil explains that healing isn’t about blaming parents. It’s about extracting lessons, choosing responsibility, and deciding to become the man your children will never have to recover from.

Throughout the conversation, Phil reinforces his broader mission. Hurt men who heal have a responsibility to help other men do the same. Growth is not about perfection. It’s about awareness, ownership, and choosing to lead differently.

Key Takeaways

• How fatherlessness shapes identity, self-worth, and ambition
• Why many high-performing men never feel “enough”
• The difference between being present and being involved as a father
• How unresolved childhood pain affects business and leadership
• Why breaking generational patterns starts with personal responsibility

This episode is part of Phil Bohol’s ongoing work around mindset, leadership, and becoming the man your family needs. It’s not a rant and not a theory. It’s lived experience, reflection, and a call to do better.

Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, identify what you’re carrying, and decide what ends with you.

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Phil breaks down a core reality. Most people aren’t failing because of mindset alone. They’re failing because what they’re doing is not enough, and more importantly, not the right work. He explains how many business owners hide behind activity, busy work, and false productivity while avoiding the actions that actually move the needle.

Using simple analogies, Phil shows how hesitation, fear, and self-doubt keep entrepreneurs from pulling the right levers in their business. Instead of making decisions, they stall. Instead of fixing root problems, they manage symptoms. They show up every day, tell themselves they’re working, then go home with nothing changed.

A major theme of the episode is identity. Phil explains how bringing personal emotions into business decisions creates chaos, while wearing the wrong “hat” at the wrong time damages both business and relationships. Business requires clarity, objectivity, and execution. When ego and feelings take over, progress stops.

Phil also addresses why motivation is overrated. Feeling good does not build a business. Brutal honesty does. Growth requires looking in the mirror, identifying avoidance, and committing to boring, repetitive work long before results appear. Most people won’t do that, which is why most businesses fail.

Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a consistent principle from his broader work. Success comes from fixing the root, not performing for appearances. When you change how you operate, how you decide, and how you execute, results follow.

Key Takeaways

• Why staying busy is not the same as building a business
• How fear and hesitation stop entrepreneurs from pulling key levers
• The difference between productive work and avoidance
• Why ego and feelings sabotage business decisions
• How fixing root problems creates real momentum

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader philosophy around discipline, execution, and personal responsibility. It is not a motivational speech. It is a direct challenge to stop pretending, stop hiding behind effort, and start doing the work that actually matters.

Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, identify what you’re avoiding, and decide whether you’re willing to change how you operate if you truly want different results.

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Phil shares deeply personal experiences from his childhood, including family betrayal, addiction, and repeated brushes with self-destruction. He explains how those early wounds shaped his identity, relationships, and ability to move forward in life. Rather than suppressing that pain, Phil breaks down why acknowledging it is the first step toward real change.

A central theme of the episode is identity. Many people unknowingly continue living as the broken version of themselves created by early trauma. That identity shows up in business through distraction, self-sabotage, and lack of focus. It shows up in relationships through toxic patterns and misplaced loyalty. Phil explains why growth often requires letting go of people you love, not out of hate, but out of responsibility.

Phil introduces the idea of loving from a distance. You don’t have to stop caring about family or friends, but you do have to protect the life you’re building. Boundaries are not punishment. They are leadership. For Phil, becoming a husband and father forced him to ask a hard question. Who do I need to unbecome, and who do I need to become, to protect my wife, my children, and the future I’m creating?

The episode also connects personal healing directly to business performance. Phil explains that unresolved personal chaos drains mental bandwidth, focus, and execution. When you create space in your personal life, clarity and momentum follow in business.

This is not about blame or resentment. It is about ownership. The moment you stop expecting others to heal you or understand your vision, you regain control of your life.

Key Takeaways

• How family trauma silently limits focus and execution
• Why loyalty to the past can sabotage your future
• What it really means to love people from a distance
• How personal boundaries strengthen leadership and clarity
• Why healing personal wounds unlocks business growth

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and self-mastery. It is part of an ongoing conversation about becoming the man required to build a healthy family, a strong business, and a life you’re proud of.

Listen with the intention to reflect honestly, create space where it’s needed, and take responsibility for the future you’re building.

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Phil starts with a simple truth. Hard work sucks. Anyone pretending otherwise is lying. Whether the work is physical or mental, it demands energy, focus, and sacrifice. Building a business is not easier just because it happens indoors or on a screen. It requires mental endurance, emotional control, and the ability to keep showing up when motivation is gone.

Throughout the episode, Phil breaks down how fear, exhaustion, and internal resistance are part of the process. The difference between people who succeed and those who don’t is not talent or background. It is the willingness to keep taking steps forward when the payoff is still invisible. Left foot, right foot, repeat.

Phil shares personal stories from growing up in the Philippines, experiencing family instability, addiction, and repeated failure. Instead of using those experiences as excuses, he explains how he reframed them into part of his identity and strength. The story you tell yourself about your past determines whether it becomes an anchor or fuel.

A major theme of the episode is language. The words you use internally shape your behavior, your confidence, and your standards. Many people unconsciously repeat stories that keep them small, unsupported, or stuck. Phil challenges listeners to question those narratives and decide who they are willing to become instead.

He also addresses the reality of isolation and resistance. Growth often requires distance from people who project fear, limitation, or comfort. Skill-building, discipline, and resilience stack slowly over time, often while life continues to throw unexpected challenges in the way.

This episode is not about hype or motivation. It is about accepting that hard work is the cost of becoming your potential and choosing to pay it anyway.

Key Takeaways

• Why hard work is unavoidable in business and life
• How internal stories shape discipline and execution
• The role of belief and identity in long-term success
• Why background and circumstance do not determine outcomes
• How perseverance separates successful entrepreneurs from the rest

This conversation reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing message about taking ownership, standing on your word, and building something meaningful despite resistance.

Listen with the intention to reflect on the stories you tell yourself, the standards you live by, and whether you are truly willing to do the work required to become who you say you want to be.

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Phil breaks down a truth most people avoid. Prioritizing your business is not something to feel guilty about, but only if it’s done with structure, intention, and boundaries. The real problem is not working hard. The problem is being unfocused, distracted, and unproductive during the hours meant for growth, then carrying that stress into family time.

Throughout the episode, Phil explains how guilt often comes from a lack of clarity and execution. When business work bleeds into family time, it usually points to wasted effort earlier in the day. Scrolling, comfort-seeking, busy work, and avoiding difficult tasks all create mental clutter that never fully shuts off. That’s where resentment and guilt start to build.

Phil introduces a disciplined approach to time and focus, including clear work hours, defined cutoff points, and fully present family time. He shares personal examples from early fatherhood, explaining how short-term sacrifice and delayed gratification can create long-term stability when done intentionally. There is no perfect daily balance. There is only honest evaluation, consistency, and follow-through.

The episode also challenges entrepreneurs to take full ownership of their results. Instead of blaming leads, markets, or the economy, Phil encourages listeners to look inward. Confidence grows through execution, learning, and failure. Avoiding growth tasks while staying busy creates stagnation, not safety.

At its core, this conversation is about leadership. Leadership in business requires focus, discipline, and courage. Leadership at home requires presence, integrity, and honoring your word. One cannot exist without the other for long.

Key Takeaways

• Why guilt often comes from distraction, not ambition
• How to set clear work boundaries without sacrificing growth
• The difference between productive focus and busy work
• Why execution builds confidence and frees up family time
• How disciplined structure supports long-term business success

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a business that supports your life, not competes with it.

Listen with the intention to reflect on how you’re using your time, where you’re avoiding responsibility, and how you can lead better both at work and at home.

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Phil walks through the idea that reality is shaped by belief long before results show up. He shares personal stories from growing up with instability, starting businesses at a young age, and navigating life without formal education or financial safety nets. Rather than positioning himself as an exception, Phil explains how conditioning, self-programming, and follow-through shaped every outcome in his life.

The episode explores how belief influences energy, decision-making, consistency, and execution. Phil breaks down why most people stay stuck not because of lack of opportunity, but because they never fully commit to who they say they want to become. When belief is weak, fear dominates. When belief is solid, action follows, even when the timeline is unclear.

Phil also addresses the tension between faith, free will, and responsibility. He explains why purpose alone is not enough and why action, discipline, and self-trust are required to bring any calling to life. This is not about ignoring fear or pretending challenges do not exist. It is about choosing conviction over paralysis and commitment over comfort.

Throughout the episode, Phil emphasizes a recurring theme in his work. You cannot control time, but you can control how you show up daily. Results are earned by aligning behavior with belief consistently, even when evidence has not arrived yet.

Key Takeaways

• How belief shapes behavior, consistency, and long-term outcomes
• Why most people stay stuck in survival mode despite opportunity
• The role of discipline and conditioning in business success
• How to operate before results show up without losing momentum
• Why execution matters more than circumstances or background

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader body of work on mindset, leadership, and execution. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a life and business intentionally, rather than reacting to fear, history, or external conditions.

Listen with the intention to reflect, challenge your assumptions, and apply what resonates. Real change begins with what you choose to believe and how you act on it daily.

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Phil breaks down a hard truth most people avoid. Worrying about what others think is one of the fastest ways to stall growth. The need for approval creates hesitation, watered-down ambition, and quiet resentment. According to Phil, people will judge you no matter what you do. Success does not silence critics. It often creates more of them.

Throughout the episode, Phil explains how fear of judgment is usually rooted in self-worth. When you value other people’s opinions more than your own, their words carry weight. When you know who you are and why you’re building, those same opinions lose their power. This shift is not about ego. It is about internal alignment.

Phil also addresses how past experiences like bullying, rejection, or trying to fit in can shape adult decision-making. Many entrepreneurs try to build something meaningful while still operating from old mental patterns. That internal conflict shows up as self-doubt, comparison, and constantly second-guessing progress.

This conversation is not about chasing status, money, or material success to prove something to others. Phil shares why he stepped away from trying to replicate what everyone else was doing and focused instead on clarity, purpose, and becoming comfortable being different. For him, real fulfillment came from understanding who he is, not who the world expected him to be.

The episode closes with an invitation to look inward. Growth starts when you stop outsourcing belief and start developing trust in yourself. That work changes how you lead, how you build, and how you show up in every area of life.

Key Takeaways

• Why caring too much about opinions quietly limits growth
• How self-worth shapes confidence, execution, and leadership
• The difference between external validation and internal alignment
• Why being different is required to build something meaningful
• How entrepreneurs sabotage themselves through comparison

This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around mindset, leadership, and identity. It is part of an ongoing conversation about building a life and business from the inside out, not from social pressure or approval.

Listen closely, reflect honestly, and consider where you are still letting other people write your story.

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At the core of this business and entrepreneur podcast episode is a hard truth. Not making a decision is still a decision. Freezing, waiting, or overthinking is often driven by fear, not logic. Phil breaks down why analysis paralysis keeps people stuck and why the breakthrough rarely comes from more thinking. It comes from committing and stepping forward.

Phil explains how many business decisions feel hard not because of the business itself, but because of the personal consequences attached to them. Family, finances, identity, and responsibility all collide at once. He walks through how unclear goals and vague timelines create fear, while clarity around purpose and urgency builds confidence.

The episode also dives into leadership at home. Phil shares how a lack of conviction in your own decisions can spill into relationships, especially with a spouse. When a leader speaks without confidence, others feel it immediately. Responsibility gets deflected. Momentum dies. What looks like external resistance often starts internally.

Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a core leadership principle. The moment you decide to move forward from a place of power instead of fear, things begin to shift. Energy changes. Execution improves. Confidence returns. The breakthrough often happens at the decision itself, not at the destination.

Key Takeaways

• Why indecision is still a decision, and how it quietly leads to failure
• How unclear goals and long timelines create fear and hesitation
• The difference between logical overthinking and heart-led conviction
• Why leadership requires confidence before external support shows up
• How urgency and purpose unlock execution in business and life
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This episode reflects Phil Bohol’s broader work around discipline, leadership, and execution under pressure. It is not a motivational rant. It is a grounded breakdown of how real decisions get made when the stakes are high and excuses stop working.

If you are feeling stuck, uncertain, or hesitant to move forward, this conversation will help you reframe what is actually holding you back. Listen closely, reflect honestly, and most importantly, make a decision and execute.

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Phil challenges the idea that fear is about failure. According to him, fear is often about success. Being seen. Being judged. Being rejected. He explains that many people are not afraid to lose, they are afraid of the responsibility and isolation that comes with becoming great. Playing small feels safer because it protects you from criticism and rejection, even though it costs you fulfillment.

Throughout the episode, Phil speaks directly to the internal battle between freedom and approval. He questions why so many people care more about how others might respond than how they will feel at the end of their life knowing they never went all in. He emphasizes that life is not guaranteed and that waiting to feel ready is another form of avoidance.

A central theme of the episode is identity. Phil explains that many men live their entire lives in survival mode. When they finally have the opportunity to build something meaningful, they sabotage themselves because they don’t know who they are without struggle. Freedom feels unfamiliar, and unfamiliar feels dangerous.

Phil also ties self-belief to purpose. He speaks openly about faith, calling, and the responsibility that comes with having a gift. According to Phil, the world will never see your potential if you refuse to acknowledge it yourself. Self-belief is not arrogance. It is ownership.

The episode reinforces that rejection is inevitable. People will judge, misunderstand, and project their own limitations. The question is whether you are more afraid of that discomfort or of reaching the end of your life knowing you wasted your opportunity.

This is not a motivational rant. It is a confrontation with the last thing most people are avoiding: fully committing to themselves.

Key Takeaways

• Why fear of success keeps people playing small
• How approval-seeking limits freedom and fulfillment
• The difference between survival mode and self-actualization
• Why rejection is part of becoming who you’re meant to be
• How self-belief is tied directly to leadership and execution

This episode is part of Phil Bohol’s broader body of work around mindset, discipline, and stepping into responsibility. It reflects his consistent message that growth requires courage, honesty, and daily intention.

Listen with the intention to reflect deeply, question what you’re still avoiding, and decide whether you’re willing to stop wasting the life you’ve worked so hard to build.

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Phil walks through five brutal truths about how entrepreneurs unintentionally sabotage their families. He starts with misplaced priorities, explaining how constant business emergencies pull attention away from family moments. Being physically present but mentally on Slack, email, or client fires teaches children that work always comes first.

He then tackles the “provider” identity. Phil explains why providing financially is not the same as being a good parent. Money, lifestyle, and material comfort do not replace emotional presence. Many men unknowingly project their own childhood scarcity onto their families, using money to heal wounds that presence is meant to address.

Drawing from his own experience, Phil shares how early business success made him reactive, stressed, and emotionally unavailable during his first daughter’s early years. Without systems, boundaries, or mentors who understood family dynamics, he defaulted to overwork and numbing behaviors instead of confronting the real issues.

The episode also covers bringing business stress home. Phil explains why projecting work pressure onto your spouse and kids creates emotional distance, resentment, and breakdowns in intimacy. Children and partners should never have to guess which version of you they’re getting.

Finally, Phil addresses guilt-driven parenting and broken promises. Overcompensating with gifts, leniency, or empty “next time” commitments erodes trust and builds entitlement. A man’s word matters most at home, and inconsistency creates long-term emotional damage.

Throughout the episode, Phil reinforces a central truth. How you operate in business is how you operate in life. Without boundaries, discipline, and systems, you become a slave to both work and guilt.

Key Takeaways

• Why business emergencies steal presence from family life
• How “providing” becomes an excuse for emotional absence
• The danger of bringing stress and volatility home
• How guilt leads to inconsistent parenting and entitlement
• Why a man’s word is the foundation of trust at home
• How systems and boundaries protect both business and family

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[00:19] The emotional withdrawal signs your kids are showing RIGHT NOW (and why you’re missing them)
[04:50]How your inner resistance to success is actually self-sabotage (and the brutal reason why)
[08:40] The #1 mistake dads make that destroys their connection with their children—without even realizing it

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• The true meaning of suffering and how to transform it into growth
• Why identity shifts are more powerful than action-based goals
• The power of "I AM" statements in reshaping your reality
• How to sacrifice comfort to unlock your full potential
• Why your subconscious mind tries to hold you back—and how to overcome it
• The deep connection between faith, surrender, and success
• The reason challenges arise when you're on the right path—and how to keep moving forward

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[01:23]  The importance of self-mastery in overcoming hardship
[02:55]  Faith, surrender, and why you don’t need to “know” the path
[04:25 ] How to recognize and defeat subconscious resistance
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[00:20] Why emotional gaps form between dads and their children

[00:45] The difference between achievement and attachment to your business

[05:22] A simple 2-step framework to emotionally reset before spending time with your kids

[07:15] How to redefine success metrics to include family life

[09:00] A powerful, life-changing exercise to reconnect with your kids today.

Phil breaks down the success paradox — how the pursuit of wealth, growth, and achievement can turn into an unhealthy attachment, leaving little emotional bandwidth for your kids. Discover the warning signs, understand why your children may feel like they're competing with your business, and learn the proven strategies to fix it before it’s too late.

Phil shares actionable steps to redefine your success metrics, prioritize meaningful family connections, and build a legacy your kids will genuinely be proud of. Learn the importance of presence, mindful parenting, and balancing business ambition with emotional availability. This isn’t just about being successful—it’s about being the dad your kids deserve while achieving your dreams.

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[05:30] Understanding the Success Trap - How achievement addiction creates a dangerous cycle

[12:45] Breaking Generational Patterns - Why your father's absence affects your parenting

[18:20] The Morning Lesson - A powerful story about teaching discipline to a 4-year-old

[25:15] Practical Solutions - How to break the cycle and create healthy success patterns

Phil shares vulnerable insights about his own journey and provides actionable strategies for entrepreneur dads to maintain their ambition while staying emotionally present for their families. 

Learn how to fall in love with the process instead of chasing external validation, and discover why being "successful" might be the very thing keeping you from true fulfillment.

Perfect for ambitious fathers, business owners, and leaders who want to build a legacy without sacrificing their family relationships. This episode provides the wake-up call and practical blueprint needed to break free from the success trap and create meaningful connections with your children.

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Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

(00:00) The Cost of Chasing Success

(01:06) The Importance of Presence

(05:02) Energy Management Over Time Management

(08:29) The Silent Killer: Emotional Detachment

(15:37) Morning Routines for Optimal Energy

(17:27) Protecting Your Family and Yourself

(21:03) Conclusion and Call to Action

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I lost my daughter's entire first year chasing money, trying to build business. 

But what I actually sacrifice is worth 100x more, infinitely more. 

And after coaching men from all over the world, all over the country, different business owners, from different industries, different sized families, I discovered something…

That you'll never be able to get back no matter how much 

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money you make a lot of men chase money business growth. 

But at the end of that if you lose it if you lose the real things that are important in this life.

No amount of that money that you made the success that you got will ever be able to help you buy that back.

So in this video, I'm going to show you what successful dads do and what they protect at all costs.

Because I want you to always remember at the end of the day, it doesn't matter how much money you make, it 

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doesn't matter how big of a business you build, if you lose what's really important in this life.

So let's start off with, um, presence, being truly present here in the moment, and presents, gifts, that you give to your family, gifts that you give to your kids. 

Now, the biggest thing is, you know, men like to think that, if I give you this one piece of attention, I had a long work day. 

I've been hustling my ass off.

I've been building this 

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business, getting that money, whatever the case might be for the family. 

If I give you an ounce of patience, that's a present. 

That's a gift to you from me. 

You're lucky that I'm giving you a gift. 

That's how most men think. 

What you have to learn how to do is learn how to manage emotions from a level where what happens in your day to day work environment, you don't bring that to the household.

You don't bring that to the home. 

By doing 

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that, you can separate business and your personal life, which is what's important. 

You have to know when to leave shit at the door. 

When you do that, and you're able to do that, you're able to be present. 

So when I talk about presence, being here in the moment, being present for your family, that's what I mean.

It's not a gift, it's a state of being. 

When you have presence for your family, when you have presence with your children and your marriage, you have a more meaningful life. 

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And that's what makes all the hustle and all the grind worth it. 

So stop looking at the time, the patience, the attention you give right there in that one moment that you have as a gift, as a present to the people that you love most.

Because what it's gonna do, it's gonna create some sort of like resentment, right? 

Some type of negative animosity feeling. 

Because you think your time is so valuable and that 

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you have to give like this short version of yourself, the business owner, CEO, entrepreneurial version of yourself to your kids when they're just asking you to play.

They're just asking you to eat with them, sit at the table with them. 

Your wife's just asking for some time, not talking about business, not talking about nothing related to that, but to be with her husband. 

Stop looking at that little amount of time, that one minute, two minute, five minutes. 

Cause you might think it's a lot of time, but it's just moments.

Stop looking at that. 

Like you're giving them a 

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present or a gift just because for that moment you were truly there. 

So how do we do this though? 

How do we ensure that you can live a life of presence being a state of being? 

Um, a lot of people think that they, they don't have enough time, right? 

We all have the same 24 hours in day.

Um, What you do. 

In those times in that 24 hours is what means the most, right? 

So 

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yeah, you can have time management. 

Abso-fucking-lutely everybody needs to learn how to manage their time so they can maximize on 24 hours because just cause you think you're hustling for 10, 14 hours in your business doesn't mean it's productive time.

That doesn't mean they're, they're income producing activities. 

A lot of the time that's you doing me like miniature tasks that aren't going to create more money for the business, or you're distracting yourself with all of this busy work and you're not actually driving the business forward. 

And so you got to ask yourself, “Well, if that's 

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happening, if I am not being able to be focused for that 10 14 hours I say I'm hustling, what's causing me to do that?

What most men don't realize is they have an energy problem. 

They try to stretch themselves thin because the world says, well if you work 10 14 hours then you can wear this badge of honor that you're a hustler. 

But people that do big business and make a lot of money, it's not about the amount of hours that you 

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work, it's about what's put into those hours.

But. 

In order to manage what's put into those hours, what you need instead of time management is called energy management. 

Think about it like this, if you had 60 minutes, and you were depleted, you had nothing left in the tank, you're eating like shit, you're not working out, you don't feel connected to your family, everything is basically falling apart.

How lethal do you think you're going to be in that hour, that 60 minutes? 

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Probably not that lethal. 

Now, when you think about super energized, you feel the love from your children. 

You feel the love from your spouse, your wife. 

You feel connected to God. 

You meditate. 

You spend time with self. 

You're fully, fully energized.

What do you think you can do in that 60 minutes? 

That same hour that may be the version of you that's got nothing left in the tank. 

What do you think the performance difference is going to be? 

Very different. 

You're going to, 

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you're probably going to break records in that one hour high energy versus doing nothing meaningful in that one hour, no energy.

So now you think about one, two, three, four, five hours of work in that same space, you're going to get a lot of stuff done once you do four, five hours with nothing in the tank, you're not really getting anything done, but it's going to feel like you're putting a lot of time towards the business. 

And energetically, what that's going to do is it's going to drain you because now you feel drained in your business, and when you 

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try to go home, you've got nothing to really give to the kids or to your wife, because you're energetically completely drained, and because you're energetically completely drained, emotionally, you've got nothing to give anybody.

And your wife and your kids, they're going to want from you. 

They're going to want emotions from you. 

They're going to want connection. 

But if you have no energy to emotionally connect because you don't have the bandwidth, what happens? 

Well, your daughter, your son asks if you can play. 

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And you get short with them, you get pissed off, you get angry, you snap at them.

Because you have no energy to emotionally respond properly to them. 

You see what I'm saying? 

When your wife, uh, tells you to take out the trash to do the dishes, you pop off on her? 

Why? 

Because, energetically, you got nothing left. 

Energetically, it's going to feel like somebody's trying to take something more from you that you already don't have.

And so emotionally, you're going to put a guard up and now again, you're going to project that onto your wife. 

And that's 

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what caused risks in people's marriage. 

And what happens is for a lot of business owners, you don't see that as a lot of entrepreneurs, you don't see that you're doing that, but that's what's happening.

So being able to not just manage time, which again is very important. You have to be productive with your time. 

Absolutely. 

But in order to be productive with your time, you have to learn how to manage your energy. 

Cause if I got an hour and you got an hour, I guarantee you I'm not performing somebody in that hour because I keep my state good.

I keep my energy good. 

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And when you guys do that, what it allows you to do again, it allows you to, in business, know how many hours are the most optimal hours you should be hustling, because I can guarantee you in 10 or 14 hours, unless you're doing a push, you're not really being that productive in 10 or 14 hours of hustle.

A couple hours, three to five hours of hyper productivity will probably move the needle more than a whole week of 10 or 14 hour days basically going nowhere. 

Over time, what does this do? 

If you go the 

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wrong path, which is where a lot of men go, it becomes a silent killer in your life. 

What do I mean by that?

Well, it's this thing where men start to detach emotionally from family, from marriage, even from business. 

You start to feel less purpose driven. 

Every day kind of seems like meaningless, kind of doing the same mundane tasks, not really getting anywhere. 

You don't get those dopamine hits from seeing the business grow or to see the next thing kind of evolve because you're doing all the tasks basically that 

[00:09:00] aren't going to do anything for the business.

And the reason why this is a silent killer is because most men don't realize this is happening until years go by. 

And then they look back on their life and they've put on a fucking dad bod, business hasn't grown, uh, they now have this huge gap inside of their marriage. 

Their kids are older now and they don't really want to hang out with dad anymore because dad was never there when they were younger.

So why do we need dad now? 

And the mindset, the mentality just completely starts to diminish, starts to go away. 

This is 

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where mediocrity starts setting in, complacency starts setting in. 

And you got to understand that when. 

Time wise, you feel like you're constrained to the business. 

Energetically, you feel depleted.

Emotionally, you feel depleted. 

Your mind's gonna start going away. 

You're not gonna have any space. 

You're gonna be, you're gonna have like, what people call a short fuse. 

Anything can break you mentally. 

Any small thing that's out of place, If your wife asks you to 

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 take the trash or do the dishes at the wrong time, you'll pop off.

Your kids ask you to play, or to eat dinner with them at the table, or to brush their fucking teeth, you're gonna pop off on them. 

Mentally, you're gonna be broken. 

Mentally, you're gonna be weak. 

And that's the silent killer because men don't realize when they start being reactive towards life versus proactive.

And again, it's a sequence of things that end up happening that lead to this. 

And when that happens and mentally it's like you're fogged mentally, 

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you don't really see the way forward. 

You start to get what's called decision fatigue. 

Decision fatigue is where there's a time difference between you knowing that maybe there needs to be a decision made to change the trajectory of your life or business and decision fatigue is, I, I, I don't make a decision fast enough because now I don't know if I can trust the decisions that I'm making because look at my track record.

So decision fatigue is the amount of time it takes for you to actually decide and pull the trigger on 

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something and you get fatigued because you're not used to that volume of decisions because you've now made your word not mean anything, right? 

When you say you're doing it for your family, you're building this business for your family, and then you take everything out on your family.

Subconsciously or unconsciously, there's a disconnect over time. 

Your word starts meaning less to you and because your word means less to you when it's time to decide, make a hard call in business, make a hard call, have a hard conversation with your wife, have, have 

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a true conversation with your kids and open, honest and vulnerable one.

That's probably hard for you. 

It's going to be difficult for you to to make a decision on those things. 

And because of this decision, see, again, it kind of, it's, it's kind of like a self fulfilling prophecy, right? 

Like, it's like, we know what needs to be done to get things to the next level, but because all of these variables start going depleted, depleted, depleted, depleted, we have no time.

Thus, we have no energy. 

Thus, we have no emotional connection. 

Thus, we have no mental, uh, 

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uh, bandwidth. 

Thus, we have decision fatigue. 

Everything's depleted. 

Everything's on E man. 

What is that going to do to your family? 

Having to get the leftover versions of you. 

This is why a lot of people end up divorced.

This is why, um, a lot of broken families are there. 

Men don't know how to step into themselves and break out of that shell, whatever it is. 

Because, again, it takes courage to make massive 

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decisions. 

Especially after beatdown, and a beatdown of life and in business. 

Cause shit's gonna happen boys. 

I'm telling you right now, shit's gonna happen.

Um, and when you do that, not just in, in your business, you start living more of a mediocre life. 

You may have felt this before, you start going on autopilot. 

It's like, it's like you wake up just to know you're gonna hate your day. 

And you go about your day just to do the bare minimum. 

And you do the bare minimum because you feel like that's all you got in the tank.

And 

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because that's all you got in the tank, by the end of your workday, you feel completely depleted again. 

And then you have to give the leftovers that you already don't have to your wife and to your kids. 

And even that's pretty shitty for them. 

And so you feel more like a shitbag, but you can't tell anybody about that because you're supposed to be strong.

And then you go to sleep unhappy just to wake up tomorrow to do the same thing over and over. 

And the mind becomes a zombie. 

And then you go on autopilot, and an autopilot can last a couple 

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weeks, a couple months, for a lot of people, a couple fucking years. 

And that's not good. 

Because while you're figuring your shit out, your wife is deciding if she wants to stay with you or not.

Straight up. 

Your kids are already deciding that they don't want you in their life when they're older. 

You ever see kids that like never invite their parents out for like holidays, or to birthdays, or to family events, or special moments? 

It's because those parents didn't prioritize those moments with them 

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as children.

So it's not natural for those children now as adults, to want their parents to be part of that season in their life. 

You see what I'm saying? 

So, how you treat and create an environment for your kids now, no matter what the fuck you're doing in life and in business, is what's gonna get them to decide if they want you in their life down the road.

So. 

How do we solve this? 

How do we protect dads at all costs? 

How do we make sure that dads don't go down this rabbit hole? 

Especially if you want to just change your family's life. 

Especially if you want to do right 

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by your family. 

That's usually the starting intention. 

And then somehow it gets, like, lost.

Because that same man does not learn how to level up in his own personal development to be able to lead both in business and in family. 

You gotta be able to lead not only just in business but also in your household. 

It's very important. 

And again, especially if you're cut from the same cloth, you may not have had somebody to teach you or guide you.

On how to do this. 

Okay. But, but this is why you're listening to this 

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now to make sure you're aware of the possible ramifications of continuing down this path that will not serve your business. 

It won't serve your family. 

It won't serve your marriage. 

It won't serve your relationship with your kids. 

So how do we protect you at all costs?

Well, number one, when we talked about in the beginning, right, we got, we got, um, time management, we got energy management, uh, we have mental management, then, um, we have decision management because fatigue and all that good stuff. 

So let's start with time. 

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The first thing we have to understand is there's only 24 hours in a day.

So what does that mean? 

It's not that we can get more time. 

There's no way to actually create more time, but there is a way to make time for things that we want to prioritize and again, it's gonna take a shift from you You're gonna have to get very fucking uncomfortable.

Especially if you've been rocking and rolling the way that you have been up until this point.

So first thing that you got to do is you’ve got to start prioritizing your energy in the mornings.

When you wake up, don't be looking at your phone. 

Don't be 

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scrolling through social media. 

Don't be checking your emails. 

Don't be checking slack. 

Don't be doing the work stuff. 

The moment you wake up, if your first instinct is to check your phone and start catching up on work, you're wrong. 

You have to optimize your energy levels.

What do we do? 

Well, number one, 

You gotta be journaling. 

You gotta get your thoughts, the good, the bad, the fucking ugly, on paper. 

Get it out of your mind. 

Clear the mind in the morning. 

Journal. 

A lot of people think this is woo woo, and a lot of people teach it. Woo woo is 

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fuck. 

And they tell you that's all you gotta do.

I'm just telling you to optimize energy. 

That's what's recommended. 

You also pray to God. 

Meditate. 

Spend time in stillness reflection of self. 

That's what you should do in the morning that create, um, more energy for you, more mental space, more clarity. 

It gives you a baseline of how to start your day, how to operate throughout your day.

And that sets the tone, how you start your mornings every day. 

Is what sets the tone for the rest of the day. 

So just keep that 

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in mind. 

So you got to optimize what that looks like. 

And if that means waking up 30 minutes earlier, an hour earlier than what you normally do to get that time in before the kids wake up before your wife's up, whatever the case might be, get it done.

Because if you don't get it done, then you can't do the next thing. 

So first we create time for you. 

We create space for you. 

You make time for you. 

That's the most important thing, okay? 

Because if you are the vessel, and you got nothing to give, then your business doesn't grow, your family doesn't grow, nothing else grows.

So you gotta give the vessel time, space, and energy. 

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What that does now, is it helps you look at things from a compartmentalization process, right? 

So, when we think about emotions and energy, so, we get you good. 

You start operating at a higher frequency. 

Now, we have to understand your emotion and your energy.

Throughout the day. 

So let's say that we find your optimal time of how much time you got to be hustling not that 10 to 14 Hour bullshit where you know, you're not even being productive. 

Figure out how much time is actually productive time making money for your business. 

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Then you can start to allocate “Well, at this point in my day, I know I have this much energy left.

This is what percentage my battery is at. 

I need to be able to allocate this amount of energy I have left to end my night. 

So I'm gonna take a piece of that. 

The rest of that needs to go to my family.” 

So every day my family gets an emotional, connected, present version of me. 

So that, that emotional block that you give your family, protect that.

So first, we 

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protect you, your mental state, your emotional state in the morning. 

We optimize that process, thus giving you more time and space and clarity. 

So that way you can construct yourself properly in business, reducing the amount of time of hustle. 

Thus, we then look at, okay, how much do you need to actually end your day?

Right? 

End of day routine. 

That leftover right here is a lot. 

You can give your family a lot more of you emotionally. 

And because of that, you're good. 

Family's good. 

Business starts solving itself because business is business, alright? 

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Business is always going to be moving. 

You're never going to get to like the perfect point in business.

You gotta remember that. 

So now we look at, I'm good. 

My family's good. 

I'm getting good with God. 

I'm getting good with the universe. 

Whatever the case might be. I'm spiritually sound. 

M\y family's good. 

They feel like I'm there. 

I'm present. 

I'm emotionally available for them. 

I'm giving them the best of me.

Not just the breadcrumbs. 

What that does is it gives you more connection, 

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spiritual connection, energetic connection, connection to your family, connection to the core of what it is that's going to drive your purpose and the meaning behind your life. 

And you got to remember, once you have that connection from that baseline is now when you start to.

After, after a while, okay, don't just do this shit like off the jump. 

After a while, you're gonna feel really good, you're gonna feel energized, everything's gonna be feeling predictable as far as your energy levels go, your mental clarity's gonna be good, you don't have decision fatigue, you're making 

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good decisions on a daily basis, you have a solid 1, week track record of doing this.

Now what you do from that same space, you don't jump out of it, now you start making corrections in, in other areas of your life, from that place of power. 

That's what we do to protect you. 

As the leader of the business, leader of the household, we protect you, which then protects the family, which protects the mission, which protects the foundation, now we correct from this space.

That's power. 

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That way you know you're always going to feel full. 

Your family's always going to feel full. 

Because at the end of the day, if you lose everything in life, you take care of that home, you take care of that family, that family's always going to take care of you. 

So you gotta, you gotta remember that.

And when you start making corrections from that place, remember the whole point of being energetically sound is to look at business from a totally different vantage point than probably what you have been doing. 

And when you do that, um, 

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you're just going to start to see differences in your life. 

Okay. 

So that's what I would focus on if I was you and if this video, if this, if this exercise, if this awareness resonated with you and you're serious about giving your kids, giving your wife, the man that they deserve, I want you to like this video, subscribe to the channel and stay plugged in each week that I'm dropping a new video, drop some comments, drop some, like, give me some 

[00:21:30]

feedback.

Tell me what you're doing to implement. 

I love to see wins from high performing men who want to do better and actually put in the work, create the time and space to do better and to be better. 

Like the video, subscribe to the 

[00:22:00]

channel.

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(00:00) Introduction

(00:34) The Myth of Work-Life Balance

(01:33) Personal Journey and Choices

(02:22) The Struggle with Balance

(05:00) Realizations and Shifts

(07:57) Integrating Family and Work

(10:34) Teaching Through Example

(13:48) Application and Morning Rituals

(16:42) Final Thoughts and Call to Action
 

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What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

[00:00:30]

Work life balance is a lie that's destroying your family's future. Since the global shutdown a couple of years ago, I've built multiple seven figure businesses while becoming a father twice over. And today I'm going to show you why balance itself is the wrong goal and what to do and what to focus on instead.

So in this video, you're going to learn 

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a couple of things. 

First thing is why work life balance is actually hurting your family. 

Then I'm going to talk to you about some of the shifts; three shifts I had to make to strengthen the bond and the relationship with my daughters. 

How you can continue to build generational wealth, especially if you come from a third world country like me, while being more present and the exact framework I use making 

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multimillion dollar decisions without sacrificing family time.

I just got done playing in the snow with the girls. 

When my first daughter Ariella was born, it was the start of the global shutdown and I had a choice to make. 

Am I going to live a life of mediocrity and give that to them? 

Or am I going to find a way to live a life that most people can only dream of, of excellence, 

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something to be proud of. 

This is what I've built.

Coming from a third world country, coming from poverty, I was able to build something like this. 

Most people told me that being a new dad is going to be very stressful and you got to take the safe route. 

I chose not to take the safe route and we're all better off for it. 

But you have to understand that when I tried to go against what was calling to me, that's 

[00:02:30]

where I really started to lose myself.

I was so focused on, well, how do I be present with my wife? 

She's got the baby in the tummy, baby's on the way. 

How do I balance that with work? 

And what happened was because I kept listening to the noise of the world, I kept listening to people that were unsuccessful. 

In, in, in terms of how I viewed them, I was listening to them and they were pulling me to this, this mediocre state 

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that I needed this balance.

And every time I tried to seek balance, it felt like I went off balance because as business pulled me one direction, I kept going against that, trying to achieve balance. 

And because of that, then I would give to my family, but then I'd be so distracted because I wanted a balance. 

Thanks.

Working, hustling, building the thing that was going to secure safety and security, especially in a world of chaos, literally world of chaos.

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And that's the guilt that we can feel as fathers, as entrepreneurs, as business owners, that we're trying our best for our family, but we also have to be present for the family because it kind of doesn't make any sense to say that we're doing all of these things, we're building business, we're making money, we're making changes.

For the family it doesn't really make sense to say that and then on the other side of it not see them to neglect them.

And so you got to understand that you're killing yourself trying to 

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balance this thing when it's not balance that you need. 

It's not balance that's gonna get you to break through. 

It's not balance that's gonna give you the ability to grow business. 

While being present, the more you battle this, the more it's going to hurt.

And the more you do this, the more you're going to be distracted. 

You're going to be a state of limbo. 

And eventually as your kids grow older, 

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they're still going to feel like they didn't get enough of you. 

They didn't get the best of you because while you were in. 

When you felt so guilty because you weren't with family that you didn't do the work, you didn't push yourself to achieve greatness.

And when you're with your family, because you weren't pushing yourself to achieve greatness in your business, 

You're always distracted with them, and that's not a way to live. 

And that's what happens when people try to balance things, work life balance. 

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And the more that I did that, what happened was, I kept having this emotional turmoil, as we led closer and closer to my daughter being born.

And when she was born, man, like…

It felt like I was so behind on building a safety net, a security that the first year I wasn't as present as I am today.

Because now we have another daughter, Alessia, and she just turned one. 

And this time around it's very different because of the lessons that I've learned.

So I really want you to pay attention 

[00:05:30]

because we never get that time back. 

And you gotta start asking yourself, don't you get tired of the guilt trip your wife doesn't give you? 

Your kids don't give it to you, but you give you. 

You got to shift the mentality because that first year of birth for my first born, and there's a lot of times that I missed because I was so caught up in emotional distress.

I was so caught up in my head that 

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as much as I thought I was present, I wasn't. 

And that's why I want you to understand that as you kind of move forward away from the world of work life balance, the more that you kind of think about, well, if I'm going to give time to my family, if I'm gonna give time to my kids, quality.

Which one do I have to choose? 

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Which one do I have to give? 

Do I give them quality time, less time, but it's quality time? 

Or do I give them quantity time, but less quality because I'm distracted? 

See, this is the thing that people think they have to choose from. 

Just like work life balance. 

Do I have to choose work?

Do I have to choose life?

Do I choose quality?

Do I choose quantity?

It doesn't have to be that way.

There's no choice that has to be made in those spaces, but you have to allow yourself to think differently.

And this is when I started to realize that 

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I was actually holding myself back because I was building 

my first business and it required me to be on camera, it required me to be on zoom calls.

They required me to be on phone calls, and I used to feel like I was doing something wrong or I was being unprofessional.

If I had my, my daughter with me or if I had my wife in the background or family was happening behind the scenes.

Then one day I realized why, why am I so worried and concerned about how this looks?

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My family needs me right now, and if they're walking around behind me, what's so unprofessional about that?

We're in the middle of a global shutdown.

Everybody's remote.

This doesn't make any sense.

Why am I doing this to myself?

Then I started to realize that I was overcomplicating the whole thing.

I was trying to make a choice when no choice had to be made, and that's when I started changing everything.

I started to actually involve 

[00:08:00] 

my family in during my times of work, but I had to look at things different.

I obviously had to still perform.

I had to put food on the table.

Absolutely.

But what I did was when I made that realization, I stopped trying to balance work and life.

And instead, I started to integrate my family into my purpose.

The thing that, that was calling to me.

I wanted to build a better life for them.

So I involved them more.

I wanted to show them what's 

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possible.

What, what their dad, what their husband was willing to do for them.

So I involved them more.

Everything that I did had to do with my family.

Now I started to understand how to be a family man.

And mind you, I didn't really have that great of an example of what it means for a father to involve his kids like that.

Story for another time, but that's when everything changed.

When you keep choosing and you keep trying to choose.

You're gonna let somebody down.

Think about like this 

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last time you had an email, a slack message, a text message from work and your kids wanted to play.

Were you checking your phone?

Were you thinking about checking your phone?

Were you thinking about work that was potentially gonna hit your phone?

So you had to have it around, you have to just slide it into your pocket while you played and while you were present.

You 

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have to learn a different way.

You gotta learn how to compartmentalize everything.

Because if you learn to compartmentalize, then you can have it all.

Because you're willing to be it all, but you have to stretch yourself more.

Right?

You have to stretch yourself that, if it's not balance that I have to seek, but integration, well, what happens when I start merging work and life?

What does that look like?

Well, now I'm going to have two things emotionally calling to me, one pulling me one direction, one pulling me the other.

How do I not get frustrated at one or the other?

And 

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that's what it means to be a present father.

That's what it means to be a strong man.

It's learning how to operate with those different variables and understanding that at the end of the day, even if that business of yours goes away, your kids, your wife, they will be there.

So show them, if you're working really hard or you're doing a deal or you're growing the business, why not have your son, your daughter there to see you in action?

Because you probably look like a 

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superhero to them if you allow it to be that way.

And the cool part about this is, as Ariella, my four-year-old now, she started getting older.

She has this, um, this little baby phone, this little pink little thing that has a little strap so it doesn't fall off her hand.

And she used to start holding it up to her ear.

And then we realized what she was doing, she was modeling me.

She was closing deals on her phone because I'm a closer.

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And we didn't know what was happening, she just, she just kept doing this with her phone and she started to emulate what I was doing.

And that's when I realized I was teaching her skill sets without even realizing it.

So every time I was on the phone, every time I was talking with clients, every time I was helping somebody, she would see that as dad helping somebody.

She would see that as dad closing a deal.

She would start to model all of these good things and all these attributes.

I didn't even realize 

[00:11:30] 

that she, that she was even paying attention to because normally when she's in the office, she's just playing.

But sometimes, just like Todd in the Marine Corps, if you do the right thing even when nobody's watching, you have to understand somebody's always watching at the end of the day.

She's walking in right now.

So, you gotta ask yourself, and you see her running, what if your business can actually make you a better 

[00:12:00] father?

What if you could do things like this, and you can have your daughter run into the room, and she just lays there, watching you, seeing what you're doing, what you're creating.

And now she has somebody to model.

She can see your work ethic.

She can hear your message.

She can hear your impact.

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If only I knew that cause Ariella is the one that ran in here and I didn't really start to understand these lessons until about one to two years of birth.

So I really started to understand that time was moving quick.

I want you to imagine when you integrate work, life, family, and business in the right ways, and you control the chaos, you lead by example.

I want you to imagine your kids seeing the work that 

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you do, the purpose that you're driven by, as part of their legacy.

And not just a distraction.

Do you want to say hi baby?

No.

Too shy?

And if you can understand that, these are things that they're going to take with them.

These are going to be skill sets that she's going to take with her.

She's going to understand 

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how to communicate.

She's going to understand how to carry herself.

She already is comfortable at a desk.

She's already comfortable on camera.

Imagine if as she grows, as your children grow, they have that in their mind as who they remember their father to be.

So let's talk about application.

Let's talk about how you can apply this into your life.

Okay.

The first thing that you have to understand is you have to have a morning ritual.

You have to have the ability to 

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create time and space for yourself.

This is where you can journal.

This is where you can meditate.

This is where you can pray.

This is where you can really spend time with yourself.

So that way you create time to think, to create, to battle plan.

And just like this.

Integrating business moments, whether you're on a sales call, a meeting, the more you incorporate your children, notice she's not crying.

She's not bothering me.

She's here.

She understands what dad's doing.

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Do you know what dad's doing, baby?

Integration.

I challenge you to be aware that maybe the first time around, second time around, third time around, it's not going to be as easy.

Maybe they're not used to the new environment, but as time progresses, just like all things, they will learn, they will understand, they will understand how to carry themselves in these situations.

Just like right now, you see my daughter, she knows how to play next to 

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me.

She knows how to be present without interruption because over time she's learned how to integrate into what I do on a daily basis.

And if you can take all of these things as learning lessons and teach, that's the most important thing.

Because you teach them how to carry themselves.

You teach them how to think about scenarios and situations.

You teach them the proper etiquette and how to carry themselves.

Now all of these things start 

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becoming the legacy.

This is what you pass on to generations.

Now, at four years old, she's been on more closing calls.

She's been on more meetings.

She's worked with more clients.

She's done more podcasts.

She's done more videos.

She's done so much more at four years old than I did for almost three decades of my life, and it's a beautiful thing.

But at the same time, just like right after this, we have to have boundaries.

We have to 

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create digital boundaries where dad's not always on the computer.

Dad's not always on his phone.

You gotta be able to create space that you're not on social media.

You're not working.

You're not checking slack.

You're not doing the next text message, email, deal proposal, whatever the case might be.

Just like I said right before this, we just finished playing in the snow.

It's her first time seeing the snow.

You have to know when to cut work off.

You gotta know when to cut social 

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media off.

You gotta know, as long as you have a plan that you follow on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis, you can have it all.

You just gotta be willing to stretch yourself.

So if you're ready to stop killing yourself, trying to balance these things, if you're ready to stop killing your legacy with trying to do what mediocre people do, which is this lie of work-life balance.

Here's what I want you to do right now.

Number one, 

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if this has opened your eyes in any shape, way, or form, like and subscribe to this channel.

But number two, I want you to end this and go hang out with your kids, go hang out with your wife, go play in the snow, go, go, go to the beach, whatever season it is for you, for where you're at, unplug, spend time with your kids, spend time with your family, spend time with the people that matter the most.

And just see how much more energized you feel.

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And just imagine a year from now, when they're a little bit older.

Imagine how much closer you're gonna be with them.

You ready to play in the snow again?

And imagine just having the life that you've always dreamed of, because you earned it.

You put in the work, and you led from the front.

As I said, if this has opened 

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your eyes, like this video, share this video with another brother that needs to hear this message.

Subscribe to the channel so that we can keep hearing more messages like this.

And again, as soon as this ends, put the phone down, put the laptop down, put the computer down.

Go spend time with your kids, go spend time with your wife, go love on your family.

I'll see you in the next one.

Say bye bye baby.

[00:18:30] 

That's the show.

Don't just listen to everything I just fucking said and do nothing with it.

Take everything you learned, go out and execute.

Send it.

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(00:00) Introduction and Purpose of the Show

(00:59) The Importance of Reflection

(01:36) The Burden of Pretending

(02:19) The Power of Vulnerability

(04:07) Facing Internal Struggles

(06:05) The Courage to Change

(07:59) Letting Go of the Past

(09:46) The Path to Self-Discovery

(16:25) Breaking Free from the Matrix

(20:36) Reflecting on the Year

(23:11) Final Thoughts and Challenges

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You know, I got a wife, I got kids, I got people looking up to me. I'm the provider, I create security, so how does somebody like me Stop pretending.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you 

[00:00:30]

back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

What's going on you guys. It has been a minute since we've done a little bit of a podcast episode. 

So we're just going to catch up on some things, especially as we wrap up this year. 

I really want you to 

[00:01:00]

 spend some time reflecting. 

I don't think a lot of people reflect enough. 

You get so caught up in your day to day, you get so caught up in the busyness of life.

If you don't reflect, you don't actually learn, you don't extract the teachings or the wisdoms that you need. 

So that way you can elevate in every area of life. 

The whole mentality of go, go, go only serves you to a certain extent. 

And if you don't take time to reflect, then you're not going to know where the gaps are in your operating system, in your 

[00:01:30]

mentality, in your spirituality, in your emotional control and emotional mastery.

And so when we think about why a lot of people operate in this life wearing what I call false armor, they pretend to be a very specific way. 

Let's say that you have a family that you lead. It's very easy to get caught in this mentality of, well, I have to look strong. 

You know, I got a wife, I got kids, I got people looking up to me.

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Um, the provider, I create security. So how does somebody like me stop pretending? 

I have to be strong for the family. 

I have to be this. 

I have to be that,

All you have to do is really be yourself. 

That's the good, the bad, the ugly. 

And men, if you're married, the best thing that you can do for your marriage, the best thing that you can do for your family is to stop trying to pretend to be Superman.

See, because when you 

[00:02:30]

pretend to be Superman, that everything is good. 

Whether business is actually doing good, but you're not good, or you're pretending you're happy right now, but you're not actually happy, whatever it is for you, you're hurting the people that could potentially step up to help you carry some of that weight.

So I was talking to somebody and they weren't telling their wife all of the hardship they're experiencing. And this happened for like two years 

[00:03:00]

straight. 

And the guy just felt like he was crumbling and crumbling and crumbling like everything was just going to shit. 

I said,” have you told your wife any of this?”

He said, “no, you know, she's busy with the kids. She's trying to do her thing at work. And it's just it's not the right time to do it.” 

I said, “man, it's been two years though. 

You've been struggling with this internal battle by yourself for two years and you haven't even told your partner, your spouse, the person you're going 

[00:03:30]

 to do life with.”

How does that make any sense? 

And he says, well, I'm trying to protect her. 

I said, how is it protecting her though? 

Because for you to carry this false armor, this burden, you don't think that energetically, your family doesn't feel that every day. 

They don't see the look in your eyes when you're lost in your own thoughts, in your mind, even though you're supposed to be at the dinner table, or you're supposed to be hanging out with the kids, or you're supposed to be on a date 

[00:04:00]

night with your wife.

You don't think that they, they don't feel any of that. 

And they probably didn't. 

They probably do. 

I said, “look, man, the hardest thing that you can ever do is to be completely open, honest, and transparent with your wife about how crappy you actually feel.” 

And I invite you to do that. 

And he's like, “Oh man, I'm just, I'm breaking down.”

I'm crying. He's like crying. And, um, he's like, “I don't know. I 

[00:04:30]

don't know what's going to happen. 

I don't, I don't want her to feel like I couldn't do it.

That I, that I, that I'm breaking down right now.” 

I said, “just see what happens, man.”

And so he goes and he has this conversation with his wife and he hits me back, you know, a couple of days later and he says, “bro, I don't know why it took so long for me to finally talk about what was going on with me.

But my wife said she's got my back. She's going to support me no matter what and that I got 

[00:05:00]

this and the whole purpose of me telling you this story is to help you understand that a lot of the time.

Especially when you're the provider of a household when you lead a household or you know, you're the person that people go to. 

It's sometimes difficult to feel like you can take off the armor for a little bit and be human. 

That's the most powerful thing, the most courageous thing anybody can do. 

So it takes a lot of courage to be weak.

[00:05:30]

The only time it's actually a weakness is when you start to judge yourself or become afraid of people's judgment of you. 

But I want you to really ask yourself, is that the quality of life that you want to create and establish for yourself? 

And is that the example you want to set for your kids that when you got all this shit going on internally, that bottling it up is the solution?

The powering through it, even though it feels like a void. 

That's the solution. 

Is that what you want to show your kids? 

Cause whether you say it or not, they're going to follow in 

[00:06:00]

the actions. 

 

They're going to follow in how you carry yourself throughout life. 

And so what I invite you to do is ask yourself where this past year, have you been pretending?

Where have you been pretending to be good? 

When have you been pretending to be happy when you're not? 

When have you been pretending that there's nothing going on? 

See, I was really struggling with this for, for a large portion of my life. 

You know, after my parents got 

[00:06:30]

divorced at an early age, I was like, in denial for a majority of my life, all the way up until adulthood.

Literally until I met my wife.

And I kept lying to myself that this is what life is supposed to be like. 

You go through hardship in your life and you just power through. 

And you just do your best, but what you think is your best when you're at your weakest is not even close to your best. 

And for a long time in my life, I held myself back from self actualization, from healing, from really being 

[00:07:00]

able to absorb life for what it's supposed to be.

It wasn't until I was brutally honest with myself that number one, I was actually extremely unhappy, which is probably why at 16 years old, I was miserable and that I was actually making this void much bigger and bigger and bigger. 

I was unhappy with myself. 

I didn't love myself. 

I didn't even know that was a thing.

And I made decisions that would make me more miserable 

[00:07:30]

because I thought those temporary things, you know, getting drunk, getting high, doing the things, those little glimpses of happiness was happiness. 

That's not the case. 

And so the reason why I'm bringing this up is so that you become aware.

That a lot of the times when we start going to these things, these vices in our lives, it's because we think that that's temporary happiness that replaces true happiness.

True happiness comes from having the courage to say, I'm not good. 

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So wherever it is in your life, in your business, in your marriage, in your family, with yourself, take some time to reflect. 

Ask yourself what parts of you that don't serve you anymore, what parts do you want to leave in this year? 

Not bring it into the new one.

If you do this and you practice this. 

What you're giving yourself the opportunity to do each and every year is to create. 

More space for the new self to emerge, for the new self to be built.  

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A lot of people like to bring old baggage into each new year. 

And then they wonder why each year they can't take the quantum leap.

Well, you can't quantum leap if you're holding on to baggage. 

You can't quantum leap if you're holding on to the old self, because you have no space for the new self. 

And I want you to really start asking yourself, you know, is this the quality of life you want to settle for? 

Because that's what it is, you're settling.

And how many months? 

How many years need to pass by for you to finally realize that 

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you haven't been happy? What do you need to lose? What, what, what major life event needs to happen for you to finally stop for a second and really stop looking outward for the solution and start to look inward, start to look within and start to ask yourself like, man, why am I so unhappy?

Anybody else that has what I have, a job, good business, a wife, kids, 

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they would be happy to have this because some people can't have it.

 So why am I not happy? 

And when we say comparison is the killer of all joy, that can also be dumbing down your unhappiness because you think that you should be more grateful.

Sure. 

You could totally be more grateful, but that doesn't mean that. 

The negativity that you feel and the unhappiness that you feel is not valid. 

That's part of the problem. 

You're not acknowledging the pain that you're experiencing 

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because you should be more grateful. 

Again, it's not a one or the other type of situation.

It's a, it's a, it's a, it's a balance. 

It's a harmony of things that yes, maybe I do need to be more grateful, but at the same time, I also need to acknowledge that I don't feel good that I probably need to be doing more stuff for myself. 

Start filling up my own cup. 

Because if you're like me, the reason why you tune in to these episodes is because you're cut from the same cloth.

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Highly driven individual. 

Will do anything and everything for their loved ones. 

No matter how much it takes from them. 

No matter if they got nothing left in the tank. 

They're gonna give, give, give. 

But I want you to become aware that the more that you give in that capacity, the less you're gonna be able to give in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah, sure. 

It'll make you feel proud. 

It'll stroke your ego that you can do this for a couple years. 

But what happens when it's a couple years down the line, and you really got nothing? 

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You really think you're gonna give the best of you to your family? 

You think you're gonna give the best of you to your marriage?

You think you're gonna give the best of you to your business? 

To your career? 

You think you're gonna give the best of you to you? 

You think that you're gonna live the best possible life when you're running on fumes? 

And I think this is where a lot of people get it twisted, right? 

Because hustle culture, you have the fake alpha males out there talking about how you just got to keep running and gunning.

There's a time and a place for it, a hundred percent, 

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but it's not a hundred percent of the time because nobody runs and guns a hundred percent of the time. 

That's, that's just a, uh, a false armor people wear. 

So that way they look unstoppable on the internet. 

But the truth is just like anybody, pro athletes, bodybuilders, anybody that's high performance, the amount of time you stay in a peak state, you must spend equal amount of time.

Resting, recovering, recharging, reflecting, so that way 

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you can give that same a hundred percent, but just like a battery, it depletes. 

You can't give a hundred percent at 20%. 

Can't give a hundred percent when you got 0%. 

So I really want you to start thinking about this because especially after this past year, as I reflect into all these conversations I'm having with a lot of you, there's unhappiness there, but at the same time, while there's unhappiness, there's also like this denial.

Denying self. 

Denying the unhappiness. 

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Denying the bad feelings. 

Why? 

Because of ego. 

Pride. 

I don't want to look like I don't got it. 

I don't want to look like I'm weak. 

The weakness comes from worrying too much about the opinions of others with how you're going to be perceived. 

That's weakness. 

Strength is I know myself and I know I'm not at a hundred percent.

And if I'm really going to lead this family, if I'm really going to lead this business, if I'm going to really lead myself and in this life, I have to know that 

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my cup needs to be full at all times. 

And my cup being full is a selfless act because everything that overflows is what I give to the world, what I give to my family, what I give to my business.

And that overflows where I need to learn how to operate from. 

I think it's because, you know, you might be like me, you might have had to live a large portion of your life, even up until this point in survival mode. 

So all you know how to do is survive. All you know how to do is run away from the demons.

You don't know how to transition into 

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abundance. 

You don't know how to transition into something more than running away. 

Cause survival and running away is all you've known. 

So when you get to a point, where you start to transcend from that, then it's like, well, how do I, how do I do this new thing? 

If all I've known is the running away and the survival and, and that's how I've gotten myself to this point, just straight hustle and grind.

How do I then transition to this other thing where I actually have to spend more time on myself, make sure my cup is full. 

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And that's what's going to get me to where I want to, not where I need to get to just to survive. I don't understand, Phil. I don't understand the art form. Well, you're not supposed to.

Not yet, at least. You're supposed to give it enough time and that space for you to understand a new operating system. 

But again, just like I mentioned, to reflect on that, to understand that, we'll teach you how to let go of things that no longer serve you. 

An identity, an old way of thinking, an old way of being.

Leave that here. In this year, don't bring 

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it to the next one. Those are old ways of thinking. They might have gotten you to this, this point. Now don't lose the hustle, don't lose the drive, don't lose the driving force, don't lose the, the, the, the spark in yourself, the amber, the flame. Don't lose that. Don't let that go.

Don't get complacent. But start to ask yourself, if I continue thinking down this path, if I continue thinking about things in this manner, what is that preventing me from becoming? 

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Anything related to fear is preventing you from becoming who you need to be. A lot of people lack purpose, and that's why they don't know which direction they're going.

There's no intention behind their daily actions. 

But you can't focus on the future if you're still looking backwards at the past. If you're still looking for that boogeyman. 

If you're still looking for the darkness that's following you. 

You can't grow in that space. 

To go from dark to light, 

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you have to fully step into light, and that's a scary thing.

It's kind of like when you are on land, and you have dirt under your feet, you know exactly what's around you, for the most part. 

You can see, you can feel. 

But the moment you start going into these open waters, it's like going into the ocean. 

You don't know what's beneath you, you don't know what's in front of you, to the left, to the right of you.

You don't even know, and what's being asked of you is to swim forward with faith.

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The question is, can you trust yourself that you won't drown, that you're going to be good, that this path that you're on right now is purposed that you're supposed to be here. 

You're supposed to be in the “not knowing”. 

And that's where the wisdom comes from to really learn how to trust yourself in the space.

It's a very different way to experience life. 

See, when we think about the matrix, the matrix, the programming 

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that most people in this world start with, and you'll either do it or you don't in your lifetime. 

You break free from it, which is now understanding that the way the world works is the way of the sheep and that the herds go in that direction.

And in order to live a different life, you have to be courageous enough to go a different path. 

And there's far less going down that path because it's the unknown. 

It's, it's very secure and 

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safe to follow the sheep, to follow the herd, because you at least know that you're going to be surrounded by all of these people who are just following their programming.

And so it creates a sense of safety, but the reality is that's not safety. 

You don't even know where the herd's going. 

You're just following blindly, the blind leading the blind, but being controlled by other forces. 

So at the point where you decide to go a different direction, to have the courage to go a new path, 

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that's when you really start to find yourself because now you're going to be forced to look within.

You're going to be forced to look inside of yourself and ask yourself, where are my flaws? 

Where don't I believe in myself? 

Where am I? 

Where's this fear coming from? 

Where am I scared? Where am I not good? 

Where am I not happy? 

And now you got to start facing some demons. 

You gotta start winning some of those internal battles.

And again, it takes a very courageous individual to look inside and face those demons. 

The sheep don't have to worry about that because the sheep just follow 

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the next person or the next sheep and they just follow and follow and follow. 

And eventually they get to the end of their journey and that's it.

They're just following blindly. 

You have to choose what type of life you want to have. 

What type of life you want to experience because you got one shot. 

Once I finally broke away from the programming, you know, and I did it at an early age, I realized like, I don't want a normal 

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life. If, if, if normal life is all that misery and darkness, and yeah, it might be easier just to submit to it and give up.

I don't want that. 

If, if I got one shot and I decided not to, not to end everything at 16, what does the world have to offer me? 

I'm going to go figure out what that is. 

And I've spent every day since then, and it's been hard. 

It's been difficult. 

I spent every day since then. 

Trying to figure out the purpose of my life, 

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and that's when you start to live life with purpose.

Because it's kind of like a question that's never answered. 

But you're like Albert Einstein, you're just geeking out on it on a whiteboard. 

You're trying to figure out the answer to this puzzle of life. So every day, every hardship you go through, you're like, it's insignificant in comparison to this big puzzle.

I'm trying to figure out, what is the purpose of my life? 

What is my life's purpose? 

If I have a century, if I have a hundred years, or eighty to a hundred 

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years to figure out this problem, is it worth it for me to invest my life to figure it out? 

If you're not thinking at that level, again, this is when you start surrounding yourself with different ways of thinking so you can stretch the mind a little bit.

Stretch your vision of what your life could be. 

And if it's not for you, then again, the herd is always there. 

It's always available to you. 

So why not spend some 

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time just taking a risk on yourself and going a different path? 

The scary path. 

The path you don't want to take. 

The path of the unknown because you've never been there before.

Knowing that if it ever gets too scary, If you really don't feel what I'm telling you, you'll probably gonna feel by finding the courage to go that direction. 

You can always turn around and follow the herd. 

'cause the herd's always gonna be there. 

You'll, you'll, you'll plug back in with them exactly where you left them.

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Nowhere they didn't move, they're just there doing nothing. 

As we end this year, want you to reflect back on the year, where were you the most happy? 

Where were you the most unhappy? 

Who did you love being around? 

Love, not like. 

Who'd you love being around? 

Would you like being around? 

Who did you despise being around?

Get rid of everybody you despised. 

Make a decision on the people that you just liked and how much time you're 

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gonna give them in this new year. 

Spend more time with the people that you love. If you do that, you'll be a much happier person by the end of 2025. 

In 365 days, you're gonna be in a totally different space in your life.

If you have the courage. to walk a new path and to fully commit to the path. 

It's one thing to take your first step. It's one thing to even think about going that direction. 

It's another thing to follow the path, have 

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faith and surrender in that process. 

Even when you experience some eyes and lows, some turbulence, cause you will, it's not a pretty path.

It's not an easy path for a reason. 

It's designed to weed out the weak, but those who fully commit to the path. 

Well, at some point reach a second wind and realize that that's life that they're breathing in all the fears, the doubts, all of the uncertainty is because you've never been there. And that's the whole beauty of life.

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The more unknown it feels, just remember this means you've never been there, which means there's something to be excited about. 

Don't always look at it from the point of darkness. Well, what's creeping in behind the corner over there, there's nothing. 

That's just the mind of the past. So again, always ask yourself, am I looking forward or am I still looking back?

Am I still in the cage? 

It's very easy to flip back and forth between them, but the more aware you are, the more intentional you can be about breaking free and staying free. 

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Some things to think about. 

I'm going to be more active with doing these and sharing thoughts and guidance. 

You know, whenever I get feedback in the comments, emails, or other social platforms.

These always seem to help the right people who need the message when the message is dropped. 

So in 2025, I'm going to invest a lot more time sharing a lot of different things that have changed my way of thinking that have helped me. 

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When you understand the knowledge, download the knowledge, but more importantly, implement the knowledge, have the courage to take the next thing.

So my challenge to you as we end this year is to do something scary that's been calling to you, but you haven't taken that leap yet. 

Take the leap. 

If there's a version of you that you've been wanting to let go, I invite you to leave it in 2024. 

Leave it.

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It doesn't serve you anymore. Have the courage to do that.

And finally, if there's a conversation you should have with your spouse, with your family about pain. 

So you can stop pretending because you want the real you to emerge. 

You want to meet that version of you and your family, meet the real you, have that conversation. 

I can guarantee you will feel more free simply by allowing yourself to drop the weight that you don't even have to carry.

It's never 

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been your responsibility to carry it. 

So drop it. 

You don't need it anymore.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just fucking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

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(00:43) Meeting a Genius: Walter O'Brien

(02:14) Observations and Analysis

(05:45) The Importance of Asking High-Level Questions

(13:34) Understanding the Genius Algorithm

(18:07) Applying the Algorithm to Life and Business

(24:54) Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Transcription:

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If you only had one chance to talk to a fucking genius, please don't waste your time and their time.

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What's going on, you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol, and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have 

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real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

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Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

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Alright, what's going on everybody? 

So, we're gonna be talking about my experience, having the opportunity to talk with an actual genius. 

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Um…

4th highest IQ recorded in the world - actual genius, which is awesome. 

Before we jump into that though, 

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Do me a favor, like it, heart it, that helps me help more people.

So let's dive into it. 

So, I had the opportunity to talk to an actual

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genius and I'm going to be sharing with you today my biggest takeaway is what I was thinking about, what I noticed when I was 

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surrounded by others, the quality of the questions being asked to an actual genius, and where my headspace kind of went to where I felt I could

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extract the most, not only for personal answers, but also for business.

And I want you guys to understand when you're talking to somebody 

[00:01:40] 

that's high level, it's very important that you take the time to think about and consider the questions that you're asking.

What I mean by that is 

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if there's somebody in your life, whether they're a genius or somebody that's just higher level than you, that you can extract wisdom from, 

[00:02:00] 

please do yourself a favor and do that person a favor, because I'm sure they talk to a lot of normal people, 

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and what stimulates their mind is a higher level conversation.

So, here's what I noticed. 

I went to one of my Mentor's events. 

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And, um, he had a guest Walter O'Brien. 

Walter was actually the, 

[00:02:30] 

main character in this show, that apparently you can watch on Paramount, called Scorpion. 

It's an awesome show. 

I started watching it after meeting him, obviously, because I wanted to 

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get a better understanding of his mentality.

And, um, we had an opportunity to have a chat with him backstage. 

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And the first thing that I did, I didn't immediately approach him, I wanted to analyze a genius. 

What, what's the difference between a genius and some random dude that immigrated here from the 

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Philippines that apparently doesn't have that high of an IQ, according to a Google test.

Um, my wife's a lot smarter than me. 

Shout out to my wife. 

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And I wanted to analyze what makes this guy a genius. 

And before this, I already watched him on stage, how he spoke. 

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He'd already explained a little bit more about himself. 

But I wanted to see like the, the, the man behind the speaker on stage.

And so I just analyzed. 

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Okay, so he was like sitting like a table next to me or yeah, a table next to me. 

I was here and I was just analyzing and what I like to do whenever I'm like in a 

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public setting, I like to analyze, I like to understand my environment. 

I don't know if this was a Marine Corps and me kind of being hyper aware of my surroundings or if 

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I'm just that way, I'm just going to assume I'm a little bit of both. 

And so I'm noticing that he's looking away. 

He's looking like, 

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there's people asking him questions over here to his right. 

And, he would be looking away. 

And what that normally tells me is somebody is not interested.

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Somebody is disinterested, maybe disengaged. 

And I'm like, Hmm, I wonder what they're talking about to make this genius, not look at them in the eyes and be engaging.

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Is he bored? 

Is this just how he is? 

Is this what geniuses are like? 

I don't know. 

So I was watching, I was watching. 

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And I was talking to my team, and we were kind of debriefing on some of the things.

Damn, I wish I brought my, um, or maybe I did. 

Hold on.

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Check this out. 

I took notes when the genius was talking, okay? 

Shit. 

Oh, it's over there. 

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Hold on. 

Check this out. 

This, bam! 

This is what I gathered from a genius, okay? 

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This is also what I gathered from a genius. 

And this is an algorithm. 

Now, this is my algorithm, and I'll explain what that means in a bit. 

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But I was showing my team what I was able to extract from watching a genius teach a room of business owners and entrepreneurs.

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And I was actually dissecting his mind. 

And I was asking my team, I said, so when you guys were listening to this genius talk, what did you get from it? 

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And I was expecting for them to have a very similar drawing as I did. 

And we found that we all took away so many different things, 

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but only I was the one that took away a new algorithm, a new way of thinking.

And that's when I realized the question that I need to ask this guy, 

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when I walk up to him, has to be really, really, really good. 

If I was able to extract an algorithm on how to think about life, situations, scenarios, I need to 

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put a good amount of energy and effort into whatever question I'm going to ask this guy, because God knows when I'm ever going to be able to talk to the dude again, right?

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I kept looking back and I'm like, why do people, why does he seem like he's looking away? 

I'm like, why is he not engaged? 

And I'm like, damn, maybe, maybe he's having a bad day. 

Do geniuses have a bad day? 

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Um, maybe it's not the right time. 

Maybe he's just getting bombarded with people asking him questions and shit, because he's a fucking genius.

Maybe, I don't know. 

Maybe, is this the right time? 

Should I do it? 

Fuck it. 

Let's do it. 

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And I was like, I'm gonna walk up. 

So I walk up, hands behind my back, sign of respect, right? 

And, um, just waiting my turn. 

It's like, okay, they're having a conversation. 

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Be respectful. 

And then I understood why he was looking at me.

And this is what I really want you guys to take away. 

If you don't even take away the shit that I took away and you take away this next bit that I'm about to say, please take it. 

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It will help you a lot. 

Exponentially change your life. 

The questions that this dude was being asked was, Hey, did you, do you watch Netflix?

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Do you watch Netflix... 

What? 

You, if you only had one chance to talk to a fucking genius, that you're probably never going to talk to again, the one question you ask is if the dude watches a show on Netflix.

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Please guys, don't waste your time and their time. 

Don't waste people that have done something awesome in their life, and ask them if they watched a fucking Netflix show.

Please God, don't do that. 

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Dumbest - literal dumbest thing, no wonder the guy was like looking away. 

It's like this dude. 

After I watched Scorpion, his show, I understood the 

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extent of the shit that he's done and solved and the problems he solved.

The dude has solved terrorism problems. 

Dude has hacked into 

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NASA when he was like 13 or 14 years old or some shit like that. 

Maybe 11, maybe 12, who knows. 

Um, the dude has, I think, 

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has accounted for for trillions of dollars worth of solutions. 

Do you really think that somebody at that caliber is stimulated by a discussion 

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about Netflix?

Hmm.

And I was like, ah, I understand. 

Because, me too. 

I'm not even a genius. 

And if somebody wants to 

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waste time talking about Netflix, I am not your guy. 

If you want to have a low level conversation, not your guy. 

And I'm not even a genius. 

I just respect my time enough to talk about higher level shit.

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Like, what are we doing here?

So then I decided to politely interrupt. 

Hey sir, got some questions for you. 

Um, would love to pick your brain. 

And me being like 

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a little kid, in a candy shop, with a genius, I like, Hey, here's my drawing. 

Here's my other drawing. 

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Can I ask you a question? 

Um, the way that your mind works with a 197 IQ, does your brain have an algorithm 

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and can you teach it to me in a way that a non-genius can understand the algorithm?

So why did I ask this question 

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you guys?

Why did I ask this question? 

Why did I ask this particular question? 

Does your brain have an algorithm? 

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And can you explain how the algorithm works to somebody that's not a genius to understand it? 

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Why did I ask that question? 

Think about it.

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I could ask a very singular type of Question. 

Hey, can you solve this singular problem for me?

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Question related to how he thinks and talks. 

Good, yeah, 100%. 

I don't know so much about the talking part, but the thinking part. 

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Absolutely. 

Absolutely. 

Something he can process. 

Absolutely. 

But I wanted to understand his process because there's, there's, there's something that people don't 

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understand about, I mean, not even just coaching, but extracting information from people.

The goal of extracting information, and this is related to 

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business. 

This is related to sales. 

This is how you guys asked me, well, Phil, how are you closing deals? 

How do you close? 

5,000, 20,000, 50,000, a 100,000 multiple six figure deals. 

How do you do all of that? 

How do 

[00:10:50] 

you run these businesses?

Bah, bah, bah, bah, bah. 

People usually ask a tactical based question. 

And what that means is how do I do this thing? 

How do I solve this singular problem? 

[00:11:00] 

The reason why that's ineffective, and the reason why I did not ask that question in this scenario, and I never will when talking to a high level person is because if 

[00:11:10] 

you give me the answer to that one singular thing, I'm going to have other questions because I solved that problem, and now I need to solve another problem.

But now I don't have an 

[00:11:20] 

 

opportunity to talk to you. 

So instead, when I'm talking to somebody higher level, I don't ask how to do something, I ask them, how would 

[00:11:30] 

you think about something? 

The more I understand how you think and how you process information, And I can figure out your brain's algorithm,

[00:11:40] 

then if I think like you, then I will solve problems like you, maybe not as efficiently as you, but whether I have one singular problem or a multitude of problems 

[00:11:50] 

in front of me, I take all those problems through this algorithm, and I would probably come up with a similar solution to all of them versus just, Hey, how do you 

[00:12:00] 

solve this one thing?

Does that make sense to you guys? 

Got to think bigger. 

Instead of trying to get external surface level answers, go to the root. 

[00:12:10] 

Because if you understand the root, then you can understand how it grows. 

And so I asked your brain, does it, does it work 

[00:12:20] 

like an algorithm? 

What's the algorithm? 

Can you explain that to me?

Dumb it down is what I was saying. 

And he smiled. 

And he didn't smile the entire time 

[00:12:30] 

that I was waiting to talk to the guy. 

He looked away, disinterested. 

You can tell. 

And, um, it's interesting because even though he smiled, it was a 

[00:12:40] 

manufactured smile. 

So what he said during his presentation was that he doesn't actually feel human emotions the way that other people do.

And he has to logically 

[00:12:50] 

create a scenario in his mind where he can script out like an actor, when to show this emotion, because his IQ is so high, he can't be human with people. 

[00:13:00]

So it comes off very awkward. 

So the fact that he smiled in this moment means he's already calculated this response and this engagement and blah, blah, blah, which was crazy to me.

So he smiled 

[00:13:10] 

and he looked down at my drawing and he looked back at me.

And I said, does your mind kind of 

[00:13:20] 

work like this drawing. 

And I was like, can you explain that to me? 

And I was so interested, hands behind my back, sign of respect, leaning in. 

I'm very interested. 

Please tell me how your genius mind 

[00:13:30] 

works, because this is going to be game changing for everything.

Then he says, yes, my mind works in algorithms 

[00:13:40] 

and the way that my mind works as an algorithm is a lot of people, when they try to solve problems is they try to 

[00:13:50] 

solve the very next problem.

Which then leads them to have to solve the next problem and then leads them to have to solve the next problem. 

[00:14:00] 

And now it can be days, weeks, months, years later, until they go through that entire process.

He said a genius's mind doesn't work that way. 

[00:14:10] 

A genius's mind works where you basically can see every leaf on a tree. 

You can imagine tree stump. 

[00:14:20] 

Branches, leaves. 

Imagine being able to see the whole thing unfold in your mind. 

And I'm like, that makes sense.

[00:14:30] 

Because a genius is able to see all various scenarios, but their mind is like such a supercomputer that it can calculate what those scenarios could be.

[00:14:40] 

And he said something very interesting to me. 

He says, All of those available options, when we're making a decision, 

[00:14:50] 

a genius can see all of those decisions happen in front of them all at once. 

And they just choose the 

[00:15:00] 

one decision out of all those thousands of different scenarios on which one would be the best, which one would be the most productive.

[00:15:10] 

And in my hand, I'm thinking, okay, okay, trying to track what you're saying. 

So in my brain, so this is all happening in real time 

[00:15:20] 

to you super quick. 

Cause I'm trying to be respectful of his time while still really trying to understand it in a way that I can interpret it because I'm not a genius.

Okay. 

Um, I'm like, okay, 

[00:15:30] 

so trees, branches, leaves…

But you're able to see all of them, where most people can only see one. 

Interesting. 

[00:15:40] 

And this is what I do next, you guys.

So again, this is part two to the thing that if you, there's anything you can take from this is ask high level questions. 

But the part two to that is 

[00:15:50] download it, download it where it's, I have this new information from this person.

This is the current thought process that I have. 

[00:16:00] 

And then compare notes. 

What I did in that moment, was then I said, in my own brain, and I'm trying to process this as quick as possible… 

[00:16:10] 

How's that different than how I think? 

And the craziest part for me was realizing, I think in the same direction he does,

[00:16:20] 

but not at the capacity he's able to.

Because again, I'm not a genius.

But, what this showed me was 

[00:16:30] 

the infantry, as an infantry squad leader, has allowed me to at least crack a semi code to how geniuses think.

[00:16:40] 

Which is in sequences. 

So as you guys, if you guys have been following me for years, I talk about sequences, I talk about levers. 

I say it in a, in a way that 

[00:16:50] 

a genius wouldn't say because it's dumbed down at my level.

But then it showed me, I'm like, okay, so basically I'm on the right path,

[00:17:00] 

but I just need to stretch my brain, my neural pathways more in the exact directions they're already growing to.

[00:17:10] 

Which allowed me to build an algorithm based on what he was saying. 

And I was pretty damn on target before I ever fucking meeting the guy. 

[00:17:20] 

And this, what this did was it re-instilled the confidence I had in my processing system. 

How I think about things, how I solve problems, how I solve business problems, 

[00:17:30] 

sales problems, life problems.

And do you see now how that question, understanding how this man thinks 

[00:17:40] 

has now served me and will serve me for the rest of my life?

Versus what, Do you watch this Netflix show? 

Do you watch Netflix? 

[00:17:50] 

I mean, you know, right? 

So then I'm like, interesting, interesting…

And now that I understand, 

[00:18:00] 

not maybe at all, even close to the depth that his brain can go, I'm 

Especially if you watch Scorpion, you'll know what I'm talking about.

Um, what it did is it 

[00:18:10] 

gave me clarity because for me, I think I've been in the personal development space for so long that, and this might be true for you guys, especially once you guys start 

[00:18:20] 

investing into yourselves, you might feel a little crazy, right? 

Because like who you surround yourself with are people that are not as invested into personal development, personal growth, their business, all that stuff.

[00:18:30] 

They don't invest into coaching courses, blah, blah, blah, like we do.

And sometimes we can feel crazy. 

Because as entrepreneurs, as business owners, we have like thousands

[00:18:40] 

of ideas and sometimes we can think we're going psycho. 

But when you talk to somebody like this, who thinks basically the way that we do, but at 

[00:18:50] 

like scale, what it does is it normalizes this, this like feeling of, oh, am I, am I weird?

Am I different? 

Am I blah blah blah blah blah? 

[00:19:00] 

And man, like I can't tell you guys the sense of relief that I felt. 

Like my team can tell you too, I probably had a big ass smile on my face after we debriefed, um, after the fact

[00:19:10] 

I had a big ass smile on my face because then I was like, damn, I'm not doing anything wrong.

I'm actually going the exact direction I need to be going. 

[00:19:20] 

And because I figured out the algorithm in which to process information, I also learned the algorithm in which to understand and process business. 

[00:19:30] 

And so I've been leveraging this entire new way of looking at life, business, and decisions. 

[00:19:40] 

Now using an algorithm versus how I feel, using the best educated guess, I can go even deeper into this topic  

[00:19:50] 

because of the unlocks that happened during this conversation. 

And that was only half of the conversation, by the way, but I'm running up on time because I have to go. 

[00:20:00] 

But here's what I want you guys to leave this with okay, leave today with. 

[00:20:10]

It's very important that you understand that the success that you seek in life is not about how much you know, but more so how you think 

[00:20:20] 

about everything that you know a lot or a little.

If you can understand the sequences, the 

[00:20:30] 

algorithm behind a decision making process, in your personal life, in business, it's all the same. 

And you can find a 

[00:20:40] 

sequential system that you have personally created. 

Cause you all have it, just like I have my system, you have your system. 

If you can spend a day 

[00:20:50] 

literally figuring out your personal algorithm in which you make decisions on, all the 

[00:21:00] 

problems that you have.

Like for me, now all I have to do is plug in my problem in the center of this algorithm.

And then I start 

[00:21:10] 

mapping everything else out and then I solve the problem. 

And then I also solve the next problems and the next problems after that. 

Right? 

Remember, like I told you, like the tree with the branches and the leaves. 

[00:21:20] 

And it's a beautiful thing because then you realize that you already have all the answers that you seek.

You just have to spend time with yourself to figure it out. 

[00:21:30]

And it's not more external information, right? 

This is why, especially in our industry, guys, the information industry, people can go through course 

[00:21:40] 

after course, after course.

Get information, after information, after information, but they don't know how that information applies to them.

They don't know how to make it apply for them. 

They don't know how to utilize that 

[00:21:50] 

information based on their sequence, based on their algorithm. 

And that's why they're never able to yield results. 

And this one singular conversation was 

[00:22:00] 

validation for me, that the reason why I was able to go from where I was, especially if you guys have been with me since 2020, to go from where I was in 2020 to where I'm at today.

[00:22:10] 

It was all a sequence. 

It was all an algorithm. 

And that algorithm was not business

[00:22:20] 

knowledge, sales knowledge, and I've said it for years and I'll say it always. 

There are so many people that are so much smarter than me that have so much more information than me, 

[00:22:30] 

but they haven't learned how to utilize this information to get towards their end goal and state.

And that's why you guys have seen a year over year over year quantum leap into the next level. 

[00:22:40]

And so what I want you guys to leave this with, cause I only got a minute left, is when you guys have the opportunity to talk to people that are at a far different level than you are in life or 

[00:22:50] 

in business, don't waste time asking them about the singular problem.

Pick their brain and understand how they think. 

[00:23:00] 

The more you understand how they think about things, life, business, in general, their regular algorithm, the more you're going to be able to now 

[00:23:10] extract how to think about things from their perspective. 

Thus, having the ability to solve all problems, not just one, and that's how you maximize on the value 

[00:23:20] 

you're able to extract from somebody, okay? 

I geek out on this shit. 

I think that, um, it was probably, 

[00:23:30] 

I'll just say this year, cause I have to think and I don't have enough time to think right now.

Um, the most I don't 

[00:23:40] 

even know the word… substantial conversation? 

It was the most… it was the best fucking conversation. 

I'm not a genius, I'm not gonna try to talk like one.

[00:23:50] 

Best fucking conversation I've had, I haven't been lit up like that in so long. 

Because of like, how awesome it is to break down the signs of how somebody thinks.

[00:24:00] 

That thinks at that level. 

You know, I've met a lot of people and they built 10 million companies, 50 million, 100 million companies plus, and I love extracting the 

[00:24:10] 

room, but to do that with a genius, that was a blessing for me.

So, um, I may continue on part two to this, because again, that was only half the conversation and definitely not 

[00:24:20] 

my, all of my takeaways.

But I didn't realize I was going to talk so much about just one piece, but you can see what happens when they're able to extract so much in so little time. 

[00:24:30] 

And this entire conversation was probably 15, 20 minutes max.

But the extraction of the lessons and the teachings was so profound 

[00:24:40] 

that I still haven't stopped thinking about that conversation. 

And I literally, um, built out a whole business plan and business model leveraging the algorithm. 

[00:24:50]

And it was so much easier than it ever has been in the past. 

Okay guys, so I really do have to go, um, but I hope that you were able to get some type of value from that reflection. 

I may do a part two, there may be a part three, depends on how long I ramble for. 

Um, but if you ever have an opportunity to meet Walter O'Brien, or if you ever get 

[00:25:10] 

an opportunity to watch his show, Scorpion - 10 out of 10 would recommend.

20 out of 10 would recommend.

I mean, you'll even learn from the show based on how he thinks and solves problems.

[00:25:20] 

It's a beautiful thing to see. 

And,  it was, it was a great experience for me, to be able to meet the guy in person and to really pick his brain the right way. 

[00:25:30]

So with that being said, guys, much love as always. 

Peace.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just 

[00:25:40] 

fucking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

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Timestamps:

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(05:55) - Define Your Dream Life to Achieve Success

(09:22) - Balanced Growth and Time Freedom

(12:51) - Clear Structure and Direction for Daily Activities

(17:49) - Allocate Money with Clear Purpose

(21:41) - Importance of Lifestyle and Financial Planning

(24:15) - Envision and Feel the Achievement

(28:07) - Striving for More or Settling for Mediocrity

(28:50) - Overcoming Fear and Aim for Success

(33:55) - Seek Knowledge, Embrace Flaws, Find Purpose

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Transcription:
[00:00:08] Phil Bohol

What's going on, you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol. 

And welcome to the Phil Bohol show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life and more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you. 

I'm here to give you the truth. 

Leah, do everybody a favor. 

Just introduce yourself. 

Who you are, where you're from, what your offer is, and what it is that you want to leave this coaching call with today to help you break through whatever ceiling you're hitting inside of your business.

[00:00:48] Leah K

Thanks, Phil. 

So my name's Leah Kapral. 

I'm in Australia, near Byron Bay, beautiful place, and I am a blood sugar coach. 

And my offer is I help business owners or corporate employees who are over 40 that are ready to take responsibility, and they want to lose weight, reduce health risks such as diabetes, heart disease, and fatty liver, and feel good again.

That’s me!

[00:01:23] Phil Bohol

Love that… So let's dive in with what are you struggling with right now? 

What's the biggest thing that we need to unlock during our next 45 minutes together to take your business to the next level?

[00:01:38] Leah K

Yes. 

So I would say what I'm struggling with is that in the past, I've played not to lose rather than play to win. 

So, yeah. 

Commitment to myself. 

And when I do that, I'll be able to service. 

Yeah, service people in my business.

[00:02:07] Phil Bohol

So do you feel like you're basically transitioning from that survival mode into, like, abundance, and you're having trouble connecting the two?

[00:02:16] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:02:16] Phil Bohol

Bridging it, basically. 

Okay. 

How do you think it's holding you back right now? 

Like, in what ways? 

If you can identify that.

[00:02:26] Leah K

I'd say just a bit of scarcity, skilled (with the tech). 

So that overwhelm thinking too far into the future, structure, and I'm sure there's some I'm not good enough or impostor syndrome going on, for sure.

[00:03:02] Phil Bohol

Okay, so why was it easier to be in survival mode versus the mode that you're in right now?

[00:03:09] Leah K

Um… why was it easier? 

Um, it was easier because I was an employee, and the people I was surrounded with, they were all in survival. 

Now, I've got some assets, so I've got a bit of space to design this. 

So I'm not… I'm not in survival, but it's not really, it's not accelerating at the rate I would like it to. 

So, yeah, I'd say environment, it's the only way I knew culturally.

[00:03:55] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:03:57] Phil Bohol

So now that you've got some assets. 

Are you, like, just not moving at the speed in which you want? 

Are you getting in your way? 

What is that? 

Because what I'm doing right now is I'm analyzing kind of, like, your thought process, where you're taking yourself mentally, and I'm trying to pinpoint where you're getting in your way. 

So what's going on? 

Now that you're in a, a better place, you don't have to survive. 

You know, all of that good stuff. 

You're at this stage, think about, like, your day, think about your business. 

Think about this impact. 

Right.

[00:04:31] Phil Bohol

You want to impact the lives of 10,000 people, 100,000 people, right. 

Um, to become that, and I think I was talking to this, uh, with somebody else to survive, is “I just need to figure out how to put food on the table”. 

“I just need to figure out how I'm going to pay my mortgage next month or my rent next month or my bills next month or my car note next month”.

But when we transition from that survival place to now, we have to look forward to something. 

And it's kind of like being in open water. 

Sometimes we don't know how to operate in that place because we're so used to looking behind us, to run away from the very thing that we're afraid of. 

But now we have to look forward to something, and sometimes it's a very hard thing to look forward to something.

[00:05:09] Phil Bohol

So in what ways are you getting in your own way right now?

[00:05:17] 

Yeah, I'd say clarity of the future.

[00:05:21] Phil Bohol

Okay. Hmm.

[00:05:25] Leah K

Yeah. 

[00:05:27] Phil Bohol

Clarity of the future. 

So that's… clarity of the future. 

Okay.

So a lot of the times when we're thinking about moving towards something, right. 

I literally, I think I just got off a call with somebody today about this, and we're talking about envisioning what it is that we're running towards, right. 

Because if we're not clear on our target, it's kind of like sighting in on a sniper rifle or a machine gun, but we don't really know what we're aiming at. 

And if we don't know, then we can't pull the trigger.

[00:05:58] Phil Bohol

We can't do the “thing”. 

We can't build the business. 

We can't grow our impact. 

We can't really operate day to day with any type of structure or discipline because we don't know why we're doing it. 

And a lot of the time, I think people, they… they forget that the simple things really do scale them. 

The simple things are really the things that we have to focus on to be able to get to the next level. 

So have you spent any time really asking yourself and putting like, literal pen to paper what it is that you're going towards? 

Like, when I say that, I mean, what is this dream life?

What is the house? 

What is the quality of life? 

How do you want to be spending your time? 

What time do you want to wake up every single day? 

When you wake up every single day and you open your eyes, what do you want to see? 

When you think about having nights, how do you want to spend your nights? 

How do you want to spend your weekends? 

What is that quality of life? 

Have you spent any time getting so clear as if you can literally feel like you're there already? 

Have you spent any time there?

[00:07:03] Leah K

It's a really interesting question because, like, it's a year since I left my relationship. 

 

And during that, like, as soon as, within weeks of grieving that I set up a vision board and everything… no, I'd say no.

90, 80% has, has been created. 

The dream of supporting others, like making a big impact and also not being location, not needing to be located somewhere to work. 

So that freedom, sense of freedom hasn't been created.

[00:08:02] Phil Bohol

Has to be, right? 

And you have to keep in mind, vision board, or getting clear on it doesn't mean, like, that's it forever. 

Like, you can literally create this today and in seven days and 30 days, the shit will change again because you as a human, you're changing over time. 

Every single day you have new inputs, which means you're going to have a new output and you have to be able to remember that it's just a starting point, right? 

Let's say, for example, you set a GPS, you're going from California to New York and you take the wrong turn. 

If you had your original vision board, you would never be able to get there because you didn't think that you were going to take this wrong turn. 

And now you're on a different path. 

But what does the GPS do? 

It recalculates. 

And so the same thing has to happen with your vision of the future.

[00:08:47] Phil Bohol

You know, there's going to be some things that you thought you wanted. 

Um, like, for me, for example, I remember a vision board that I did back in like 2019. 

And I was like, man, what is this life? 

What is this dream life that I want to create for myself? 

And I remember distinctly, I put this, like, BMW, it's like black BMW. 

And like, that was like the extent, you know.

Now I'm driving around in the car that I drive now, but the car that I drive now was never in my vision board, but over time it changed. 

But I needed to have a starting point. 

And I also had to give myself permission that every 30 days, every week, shit, every day. 

If I needed to change it, if I wanted to change it, if I wanted something different, that it was okay to want that. 

Because as I continued to execute in my life, executed my business, my vision, my potential continued to grow.

[00:09:35] Phil Bohol

But there's a difference between having time and location freedom and saying, I want to live in a million dollar home and I want to be able to spend at least 3 hours a day doing this thing. 

So for me, it's spending time with my kids, spending time with my family. 

I want to be able to spend one to 3 hours going to the gym, working on myself in my personal development. 

I want to spend time with clients, with clients I actually enjoy talking to. 

I don't want to have fucking nightmare clients where I hate seeing them or thinking about that. 

I have to see them today. 

It's important to be that clear.

Because when you say I want to have time and location freedom, so, you know, I can do anything from anywhere, that's still so broad. 

And what I want you to do, to be able to have a little pep in your step, right.

[00:10:20] Phil Bohol

To be able to be like, I'm going to fucking crush today because you know where you're running to. 

So let's mind map it a little bit. 

What the hell is time and location freedom? 

Like, are you, ist it…is it beachside? 

Is it in Spain? 

Is it in California? 

Where is that? 

Where's your, where's your, where's your headquarters at?

[00:10:39] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:10:40] Phil Bohol

And, like, where would you want to spend that? 

Freedom?

[00:10:43] Leah K

Yeah, Spain. 

Spain and Portugal. 

Yeah, love it.

[00:10:50] Phil Bohol

So Spain and Portugal. 

So now, I mean, I'm either like, really that good or you're just choosing Spain or Portugal. 

Why Spain and Portugal? 

What does it mean to you to be able to go there and have that as your headquarters?

[00:11:04] Leah K

Um, I just love the ocean. 

Like, the depth of the ocean there, the colors. 

Yeah. 

There's so much vibrance in culture and celebrating life, food and. 

 

Yeah.

The mountain next to the ocean, like, the topography. 

Yeah, it just feels, um. 

It feels like you're in the postcard or in that, in the picture on the wall.

[00:11:40] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:11:40] Phil Bohol

Yeah. So now your homework is the city and the home or the view. 

You got to get a visual. 

Like, literally go on google after this call and look up places in Spain. 

Look up the actual location. 

Look at the actual cliff that overlooks the ocean. 

Like, you have to be that clear. 

And then you gotta start from, from that point, that vision point.

[00:12:02] Phil Bohol

Then you have to start envisioning your day as if you're already living it. 

So what would that day look like for you? 

Where like, you're so full of energy that you can, you can impact the world by, by impacting yourself. 

So what does that daily schedule look like?

[00:12:20] Leah K

Yeah, I do like, I do like working. 

It's not like I want not to be with people. 

If I could work 3 hours a day, yeah, 3 hours a day, 4 times a week, I would be happy.

[00:12:56] Phil Bohol

Okay, so what time are those 3 hours? 

Is it 1 hour in the morning, one in the afternoon, one in the evening? 

Is it 3 hours straight? 

Is it from 08:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.? 

Is it from twelve to three? 

Is it from three to six? 

Like, we're talking about absolute clarity. 

And for those of you guys listening, you guys might think this is stupid.

But to have such a, a clarity on which direction, what the dream life is that you're trying to create when you wake up every single day knowing that that's what you're working towards, that's what makes you excited.

Because now you know that you're, you're literally in the process of building your dream life. 

When you're not as clear that the way that we're going through this exercise right now, you wake up today and you're just like, man, maybe I should just like, wait till tomorrow.

Or like, you know, I guess I can kind of do some things, but I don't really have that, that urgency to do it because we're just not clear. 

And so this, like, I mean, I'm being so anal with the details because it's so important. 

Okay, so like, leah, 3 hours. 

How are you structuring those 3 hours? 

What time is that?

[00:14:00] Leah K

Ten to twelve and two to 03:00 p.m.

[00:14:08] Phil Bohol

Okay, and how much money do you want to be making in your business to sustain that life?

[00:14:17] Leah K

So my salary, my highest salary was 120k. 

So the first goal would be to replace that, and then the second goal would be to double that, 250k.

[00:14:36] Phil Bohol

So what happens is we're building your dream life. 

Your dream life is the end destination. 

It's not a, let's, let's try to get to this point and then let's try to get to this point. 

Because let's say, for example, if you're like, my goal is to make $120,000 a year, but I run my own schedule, I do my own business. 

I coach and consult for a living. 

Ba ba ba ba ba. 

If you fall short of that by 50%, you're at 60,000 per year.

You're not going to feel happy about that. 

But if your goal is probably what you're going to say next, which is your real goal, you fall 50% short of that, you're still crushing your I just want to replace my income goal.

[00:15:15] Phil Bohol

Does that make sense? 

Like, go big. 

A lot of people are trained on, well, have fucking realistic goals. 

And I get it, you know, set proper expectations that if you've never made a million dollars in a year, you're probably not going to do that in a month. 

But at the same time, that doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for that. 

That doesn't mean that you shouldn't optimize to that. 

Because when you're thinking about $120,000 versus, like, what's your actual goal? 

What's the thing that's like, oh, shit, that's actually, fucking, that's a lot of money I'm gonna have to work towards. 

What's that number?

[00:15:44] Leah K

Yeah, a million dollars in a year.

[00:15:47] Phil Bohol

Okay.

Million per year versus $120,000, which is basically ten x. 

You're gonna have to make very different decisions to get to a million dollars per year and just getting to $100,000 per year.

[00:16:00] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:16:00] Phil Bohol

You're gonna have to think bigger. 

You're gonna have to let go of some things that don't serve you, including wasting time, let's say, for example. 

So let's do this. 

When, when people tell me they want to make like a million dollar business and they're like, “damn, you know, it'd be nice to, you know, start off with 100,000, then get to 250, then 500, then a million”. 

But their goal is a million, right? 

If they optimize to $100,000 per year, what's going to happen in their day to day? 

They're going to feel stressed out. 

They're going to be emotionally charged. 

They're going to feel like they're never going to be able to get there.

[00:16:33] Phil Bohol

That it's so fucking hard because the payoff is not enough for them. 

It's not enough to say, I'm willing to sacrifice all of this comfort to get to that because they've already experienced it. 

Does that make sense? 

And believe it or not, $100,000 is really not that far away from where you're already at. 

So you're kind of already there. 

But to say a million dollars now it's like well fuck, I'm way behind.

Every day it feels like you'll be behind. 

It's like well if I'm really trying to get to a million, I don't have to worry about this fucking video looking perfect. 

I just have to get the video done because I got to build something else.

[00:17:07] Phil Bohol

And even this thing doesn't have to be perfect or like the iOS, the latest iOS update. 

I just need iPhone version 1. 

I just need to get the shit done. 

And you start moving with a purpose, moving with an urgency because you have so much shit to do. 

I think they actually made a book about this. 

It's called like 10X is easier than 2X or 1X or whatever the fuck it is, right? 

To do more work towards a bigger payout is almost the same amount of effort that you're going to have to put into making $100,000, but at least the payout is bigger, is better. 

So always optimize to that. 

So why'd you choose a million bucks? 

Why not 1.2, why not 750? 

Why million?

[00:17:50] Leah K

Probably just came from my head.

[00:17:54] Phil Bohol

So now this is where other people go wrong with money-mindset. 

But you gotta make the money make sense for you, you got to make the money mean something to you. 

If you can't allocate the dollars, the $1 Million to something specific then it's just this number, it's just this wish. 

But if you start allocating some of those things to, well this is how much I need to afford the house or the view that I want to have in Spain. 

A million dollars per year is also going to allow me to work those 3 hours per day, which means that I have to create a business model that is scalable where I'm not going to have to be super involved.

Or to make a million dollar business where I only have to work two to 3 hours per day, I know I'm gonna need this, this and this operationally to sustain the business with or without me. 

Does that make sense? 

But do you see how you don't think about that shit at a hundred thousand? 

Yeah, at a million you have to think about how you're gonna lead a company or how you're gonna lead a business to be able to create you that lifestyle.

[00:19:02] Phil Bohol

Right? 

So let's, let's start allocating some of this money to something. 

So, how much does it cost to live at the place that you want to live at with the view that you want.

[00:19:17] Leah K

Euros? 

So let's say, let's say $100,000? 

I don't know.

[00:19:33] Phil Bohol

$100k per year for the home that you want in Spain.

[00:19:39] Leah K

Yep. 

Australian dollars.

[00:19:42] Phil Bohol

So Google is shit.

[00:19:43] Leah K

That would be half. 

Okay, money.

[00:19:49] Phil Bohol

Spain luxury home for sale.

[00:19:54] Leah K

Are you looking it up?

[00:19:55] Phil Bohol

Yeah, I'm looking it up “with a view”. 

So this is, this is what we have to do, right? 

We actually have to, like, research our shit, because then it's like, damn, now I really know. 

Maybe a million is not going to get me the lifestyle that I want, you know. 

And you think about this, this is where it's like, well, if this is my dream, I just want to get there in my life. 

It doesn't need to be in three months. 

It doesn't mean in six months, because your life will level up throughout the duration of time. 

Right.

[00:20:24] Phil Bohol

Like, where you get to in a year, two or three is going to be far more of a level up than where you're at right now. 

But that doesn't mean you've hit your dream state yet, which means you always have something to work towards.

And so I'm looking at Costa Desol. 

Okay.

It's look overviewing the ocean. 

I can't share my screen right now, I don't think. 

I'll put it inside of the chat just for you and for everybody, right? 

Boom. 

I think.. it's gonna send.

[00:20:54] Phil Bohol

We'll see. 

It's not gonna send. 

We're gonna have to deal with it.

I'll send it to you on the backside. 

Ideal climate. 

Number one quality of life index, emphasizing leisure, family and community. 

Spain is ranked number two overall of 2023. 

Right? 

This is super nice.

[00:21:08] Phil Bohol

I wish I could share my freaking screen. 

It's beautiful, right? 

It's vibrant. 

11% year over year property price growth. 

Right? 

So now you can have properties in there. 

Things are going for 1.6… 1.49… 1.5… and this is in euros, right? 

So now you start thinking to yourself, okay, now I'm getting a ballpark idea of what it's going to cost for me to live this life, to have this view, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 

And then you're going to have to find out, because I'm going to have you crunch the numbers after today's call. 

And see.

[00:21:39] Phil Bohol

Is a million enough, or do you need a dream a little bit bigger? 

See what I'm saying?

[00:21:45] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:21:45] Phil Bohol

And so that's why it's super important to get this crystal clear. 

And now it's like, well, if you have the home, if you have the view, is it important for you to have a car? 

Is there a car that you want in Spain? 

Or are you like, no, a bike is good enough. 

I don't need a car. 

You know, maybe that's, that's good enough. 

And so a million bucks, you're going to allocate those? 

So this is some homework. 

You're going to allocate how much it's actually going to cost for you to live this lifestyle. 

I want you to literally think about the clothes you want to wear. 

Like, like, is it all Louis Vuitton? 

I don't know.

[00:22:19] Phil Bohol

I'm just throwing stuff out there.

Right? 

Is it Shein? 

You know, there's this place called Shein. 

Is it, I don't know, Macy's, JCPenney? 

What type of clothes do you want to wear? 

How much is it going to cost? 

This house that you want to have? 

It's going to have the view. 

How much is that going to cost? 

How much is your home office going to be? 

Assuming that you want a home office, get so clear that you basically know all the prices as if you're going to go shopping for it, like tomorrow. 

That makes sense.

[00:22:44] Leah K

Yep.

[00:22:45] Phil Bohol

Now what this is going to do is, as you get clear on that, that's monetary, that's all external. 

The next thing that you have to do to take things to the next level is you have to start asking yourself, well, how do I want to feel in that space? 

So if you can expand, if you were to close your eyes right now and you were to think about waking up in this beautiful, beautiful resort like home that overlooks the ocean, and it has the blues and it has the greens and it has everything that you want to see. 

And again, I wish I could show you the visual that I'm looking at. It has all of that. 

When you wake up and you open your eyes and that's the first thing that you see, how does it feel?

[00:23:26] Leah K

It feels surreal. 

Yeah. 

Feels like I'm in a postcard. 

Just free, connected. 

Yeah. 

It feels like a dream.

[00:23:43] Phil Bohol

Okay, so it feels like a dream. 

And how do you feel about yourself that you got there.

From all the pain, all of the heartache, all the times we were like, man, I didn't even think that I could ever get to a place like this. 

Actually waking up there. 

How do you feel about yourself knowing that you were able to accomplish all of that?

[00:24:03] Leah K

Yeah, really proud. 

Really proud. 

You know, I can see my mom, I can see my friends, my future partner. 

Yeah. 

Yeah. 

To have that experience and to share it with all those people would be beautiful.

[00:24:18] Phil Bohol

Dig deeper, right? 

Like, as you're saying that you'll be proud. 

It'll be beautiful. 

It still doesn't sound like you feel what it's like to actually wake up there. 

And it's very important that when, if you ever hear, like, mind to muscle connection right at the gym, the same thing applies with us envisioning what we want in the future. 

We have to be able to actually feel as if we've already accomplished those things. 

Because what that does is it starts programming our subconscious to, like, long for that feeling.

[00:24:46] Phil Bohol

So every day that you're not in Spain, you're not in Portugal, you're not in this place that you can feel so proud that you've actually accomplished it. 

The more that you're not there, the more now you're going to be driven to wake up today, the more now you're going to be driven to do your post, to do your outreach, to grow the business, because you're like, I'm not longing for the things. 

I'm longing for the feelings that I'm going to have about myself knowing that I got to the level I said I was going to get to.

That I did the thing that I said I was going to do.

That everybody that never believed in me and me not believing in me, I actually did everything, and I'm so proud. 

And to actually feel that that's going to be the very thing that you, you chase on a daily basis. 

Does that make sense?

[00:25:28] Leah K

Yeah, yeah, got it. 

Yeah. 

That integrity, the joy, yeah. 

And sharing that.

[00:25:40] Phil Bohol

Okay, so this is what I call, and this is what I teach to people, right? 

Your driving force. 

This is how we go from survival “Oh, shit. I don't know how I'm gonna pay my mortgage. 

I don't know, I'm paying my rent. 

I don't know how I'm gonna pay my car note”.

[00:25:53] Phil Bohol

“I don't know. I'm paying, like, all this. I don't know how I'm gonna do that stuff”. 

And I'm trying to get away from more pain, I'm running, and I'm running, I'm running. 

This is expanding your mind to be excited about something in the future that you're in the process of creating. 

This is the thing that now, like, fools you. 

And again, it's not the things.

[00:26:12] Phil Bohol

And I'm telling you right now, it's not the things, but it's who you become in that process. 

It's you looking at yourself like, damn, I really came from, like, the struggle. 

I really almost lost everything at some point in my life, I was really in a bad place. 

I gave up on myself. 

I remember this one time when my mindset was so fucked up that I almost stopped. 

I almost stopped dreaming. 

I got through that, and now I'm here.

[00:26:34] Phil Bohol

And now you can look forward to something and say, I cannot wait to meet that version of me. 

I can't wait to keep doing all of these things, doing the hard work, putting my head down and getting this shit done so I can create everything I said I wanted. 

And now on a daily, at a micro level, right? 

So that's a macro. 

On a micro level. 

Now you have purpose to show up today. 

Now you move with a purpose. 

Now you move with urgency. 

Now everything kind of makes sense again.

[00:27:02] Phil Bohol

Now you don't get in your way because you're like, “I, I gotta get to Spain. I gotta get to the view. I don't got time for this shit”. 

“Oh, you just want to have a chit chat. You want to waste time? I don't got time. I got to get to Spain”.

[00:27:13] Phil Bohol

“I got to move”. 

And this is where that urgency comes from, because there's a wanting, right? 

You, you're moving from survival to just being good, which leads to complacency, to what do I want in life - because I'm done surviving. 

I'm done with all of that. 

I don't want to do that anymore. 

That's not the life I got past.

[00:27:33] Phil Bohol

That life now I'm going to sustain. 

 

But before I get complacent, I want to start dreaming big again, start reinventing myself, see myself in a different light. 

 

And then you see that on a daily basis.

[00:27:45] Leah K

Yeah. 

What I'm experiencing from what you've shared and created, is that my life is good enough. 

But does it light me up every day that I think I'm living a dream? 

Yeah, that's probably something that's not there, so, yeah.

[00:28:12] Phil Bohol

Yeah, and then we got to ask ourselves, like, “well, shit, man. Like, if I can envision a greater future of myself, am I good with just good enough?”

Am I good with just, like, getting here where I'm just like, “okay, well, that was cool. 

I guess I'll just, like, be mediocre for the rest of my life”. 

Or is that greater thing calling to you and saying, “hey, Leia, wake up”? 

Like, yeah, you're not surviving anymore, which is great, but you still have more in you. 

There's still more gas in the tank. 

There's still so much more potential. 

And when you start hearing that calling, you either answer it or you lose out on really meeting who you were supposed to be in this life.

[00:28:53] Phil Bohol

And I think for me, you know, when I think about it, I use that kind of, like, dark energy, negative energy and be like, ”damn, why am I taking a break today?

Damn, I have been hustling a lot…

Why am I believing my excuses that I don't need to go to the gym today?”

And that's the thing that makes me go to the gym. 

That's the thing that makes me do the work because I'm like, “I don't want to get to the end of my life and regret that I didn't try”. 

And most people are afraid of risk. 

Most people are afraid to fail, especially after they got beat down after beat down after beat down. 

They're like, “damn, I don't want to get beat down again”. 

But then you got to ask yourself, like, “am I good with just good enough? 

Am I going to be good enough just being good enough, Leia?” 

Or am I like, well, fuck, I know at least if I shoot for the stars and I fail, I know that at least I can get back to here.

[00:29:40] Phil Bohol

Not survival, more abundance than survival, but at least I know I tried.

And you got to know that and you got to think about, like, as you go through that process, right? 

How this aligns with your overall mission to want to impact other people. 

When you dream this big and you allow yourself to master how you, you think, how you feel, how you can spiritually fill your cup up when you go through those processes to master yourself, isn't that what you want to help other people do?

[00:30:10] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:30:11] Phil Bohol

And so when we think about real coaches and real mentors in the world, real people, not just in this fucking game for money, but actually want to be like, “damn, I figured this out for myself”. 

I really think that the world needs to hear this message.

Now you can impact the world because you've looked inward and you've started to solve all the problems that have been holding you back. 

And you also know, because we are all human that we all have some way that we're getting in our own way. 

You stopped getting in your own way. 

You cracked the code to this level. 

And now it's like, everybody, I need to share with you guys this message because this is something that really worked for me and I'm so happy now. 

I went from survival mode to this, and now I'm, like, going to the next level - come with me.

[00:30:53] Phil Bohol

And so what people need to understand, just like you're starting to understand now, there's already a movement happening, but who's going to be the voice?

Who's going to be the person that continues to suffer, to self actualize, to be the leader of the movement. 

And that's the process you're in right now. 

So as you gain more clarity, as you. 

As you learn to master this whole process even more, now, you're going to be able to guide so many other people.

[00:31:20] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:31:21] Phil Bohol

Because you've guided yourself. 

And the law of leadership is in order to lead others, you must first lead yourself. 

And so the beautiful part about this industry, which is why I'm also very vocal about wanting to change it, is the more we change ourselves, the better we are to serve our people. 

Then we actually show people what coaching and what mentorship actually is. And so the beautiful part is, Leah. 

The more that you work on yourself, the more your business grows, because the more people are like, Leah is doing something right. 

She's happier. It seems.

[00:31:52] Phil Bohol

I've been following her for a year, two or three, and for some reason, every month, every week, every year, she seems like she's getting happier. 

It seems like she has more purpose. 

It seems like she's figured something out. 

And I want to know what the fuck that is. 

Leah… woah, what do you do? 

What are you doing? 

I want that. 

I want a piece of that happiness.

[00:32:11] Phil Bohol

I want my happiness because I'm also in survival mode, but I don't know how to get to where you're at. 

Or maybe I've passed survival mode, but I don't know how to unlock that next level. 

How did you do it? 

And that's when they plug in with you. 

You see how it all kind of, like, goes all the way back to the source, which is self. 

And the more you heal yourself, the more the world that needs the healing sees you, and they're like, you figured something out, and I need to learn that from you because that's the currency inside of the world today. 

Yeah, making money's great and all that stuff, but everybody's starting to realize that money means shit if you're unhappy.

[00:32:47] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:32:49] Phil Bohol

Okay. 

So, like, this process that you're on right now, I think you're on the right path. 

I think the fact that, you know, I was like, hey, who wants to fucking get coached? 

Live and, you know, share this shit in public or whatever, you're like, me. 

The thing that causes you to say me is because you know that you just need a few more unlocks and you'll be on the right path to get to the level that you want to get to. 

And most people so, you know, are in a position where it's like, I don't want to skyline myself. 

I don't put my shit out there. 

I don't want to talk publicly. 

And then they get in their way.

[00:33:19] Phil Bohol

So just by simply showing up today, you've proven to yourself and you've proven to others and all of your followers that you don't get in your way. 

That no matter what, just like me, no matter what level I get to, I always seek the answer. 

I'm always a student to the game of life. 

So now you take all of this knowledge, this wisdom, you do your homework, you implement it, and now that becomes part of your process, your philosophy, and what you teach people. 

Yeah, 100%. 

And that's what I think this whole world has forgotten. 

And when we think about, this is something that I learned in the Marine Corps. 

It's just passing the torch of knowledge.

[00:33:50] Phil Bohol

Like, that's what humans are supposed to do. 

We're supposed to live life in a way that we survive, right? 

We don't die from the saber tooth tiger. 

We learn how to fucking live in a cave. 

We learn how to cook food, how to create a fire, and then we share it with other people, and that becomes the currency. 

Knowledge becomes the currency. 

And so it's how deep is Leia willing to go and at what speed will determine how fast she gets to this end destination in her mind and how big her impact and her business grows. 

As long as you're wanting to look at the dark side, look at all the things that most people don't want to look at about themselves. 

Because they are too busy judging themselves.

[00:34:27] Phil Bohol

If you continue to seek the answer and just be like, I know I have flaws. 

I know I have shit wrong with me, and that's why I'm, like, seeking these things to better myself and to also crack the code. 

Because if I crack the code for myself, then I crack the code for the world.

And then the days become easy. 

And then waking up tomorrow early in the morning or working late, well into midnight, it doesn't feel like work, because now you have a purpose. 

Okay.

[00:34:53] Leah K

Love it.

[00:34:54] Phil Bohol

Good shit. 

Good shit. 

That helped.

[00:34:59] Leah K

It did. 

It went from good enough to bigger and a dream life. 

So, yeah, thank you.

[00:35:09] Phil Bohol

It's just always remembering, like, it's the most unselfish thing that you can do to dream bigger. 

Most people forgot how to dream. 

Most people in this life have gotten so beaten down over the years, especially after, you know, 2020 and shit like that, and they're just trying to survive. 

And it requires leaders in this world to say, hey, guys, you know, like it's okay to survive, but just remember, there's more to life than that. 

And now you're becoming a leader of that. 

So it's good shit. 

All right. 

So that being said, is there anything else I can help you with before we jump off today?

[00:35:40] Leah K

Um, so in parallel to the big dream, you kind of touched on it at the start, is the operating system. 

If you're going to scale and then having a structure to kind of build your business around to create that, is that something got time for.

[00:36:10] Phil Bohol

So what I'll do is I'll have you actually look at everything that I just told you. 

I'm going to sequence it together so you can see how what we just talked about personally is directly going to fix all of that, right? 

When we think about business structure, business structure can only happen when you have a personal structure. 

Personal structure can only happen when you take the time to battle plan just like we did. 

So that homework must be done personally in order to then business battle plan that makes sense. 

And what happens is, as you build your personal dream state, dream life, dream day, you merge your business to do that right, to fit into these holes inside of your day as a coach, as a consultant. 

Because the more full you are with energy, with this purpose, the more you'll purposefully pour into your business. 

What a lot of people do, that's a mistake is especially again, guys, this is primarily coaching, consulting is they try to work so much and spend little time with themselves.

[00:37:09] Phil Bohol

And then they wonder why their quality of posting is shit, why their DM's are shit, why their sales calls are shit. 

It's because they're giving shit to their business. 

And so what I teach is build your fucking life the way that you're going to be full at 100% of the time. 

And everything that overflows is what you give to your business. 

And that's worth more. 

Those 1, 2, 3 hours of like, you being full and overflowing to your business will mean more to you than 8 to 12 hours of being fucking depleted trying to give that to your fucking business.

[00:37:38] Leah K

Yeah, yeah.

[00:37:39] Phil Bohol

So start with yourself and then build your business around self.

[00:37:43] Leah K

Yeah, I've taken one of your key learnings around discipline and put it into mine, but around pleasure discipline. 

So that's the structure. 

So yeah, what lights you up? 

Enjoying the journey, all those things. 

Finding momentum. 

So yeah, I love it.

[00:38:07] Phil Bohol

Just think about it like this. 

Like when you're unhappy, when you're sad, when you're anxious, when you're all this negative shit, can you actually do anything in your business? 

Can you focus on your business? 

Can you scale your business? 

Can you operate your business? 

Can you lead your business? 

Can you do any of the business shit?

[00:38:21] Leah K

Nice talk.

[00:38:22] Phil Bohol

No, because you can't think. 

You got nothing left to give. 

And then, and then people are like, but no, I just need the tactical strategy or just need to thing. 

And I'm like, but you got nothing to give. 

I can give you the shovel and I can give you the map, but you got no energy to get to the fucking x. 

And when you get to the x, you're gonna have no energy to dig. 

So why the fuck does this even matter? 

How about we rejuvenate you? 

Get some fucking water in you get some food, get some rest, feel good. 

And that way you can make the journey to the x.

[00:38:54] Phil Bohol

And then when you get there, you have enough energy to digest to get to the jackpot, to get to the treasure. 

 

It's the 80/20 rule. 

It's just 80% is us, 20% are those strategies. 

So what I want you to do is I really want you to practice that and just see how when you do that, when you're taking a walk, when you're in nature, when, when you're working out, when you're eating good, when you're practicing all these things that make you happy, those are when all of your business issues start getting unlocks. 

You're like, oh, this is the path. 

It's actually easier. 

And it's not in the work where you get those unlocks. 

It's when you actually separate yourself from the work so that we can look at the actual business, look at all the problems from an outside perspective.

[00:39:37] Phil Bohol

You're not in the shit. 

You're looking at it. 

You're displaced. 

That's way to grow business and solve problems. 

But again, some people will listen to me. 

A lot won't. 

And then look at what happens in a year, two or three.

[00:39:51] Leah K

Yeah. 

Being in the zone of creativity and possibility. 

Yeah. 

You have to be fulfilled, right? 

Yeah, I got it.

[00:39:59] Phil Bohol

Then you're coming up with, like, the worst ideas.

[00:40:03] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:40:04] Phil Bohol

And then, and then what happens? 

You waste a week, a month, a year with those shitty ass ideas and you're like, oh, my gosh, my business is not moving forward. 

And it's like, yeah, you did the worst possible thing. 

You spent so much time on, like, a solution that actually deterred you from getting the result that you want. 

Most people, like, don't have the emotional discipline to say, I'm going to rest today, and I'm not going to focus on work. 

I'm going to fill up my cup and whatever the fuck happens, I'm not going to open slack, I'm not going to open social media, I'm not going to do this stuff. 

 

Most people have trouble with that because of fear of scarcity, of all these negative things. 

And then what happens? 

They never rest. 

So they never get the million dollar idea.

[00:40:47] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:40:48] Phil Bohol

Love it.

[00:40:49] Leah K

That consolidated everything that I needed. 

So thank you, thank you.

[00:40:56] Phil Bohol

Absolutely, absolutely.

And so with that being said, guys, I got a jump. 

But I hope that was, you know, obviously not only valuable to Leah, but everybody listening. 

Do me a favor. 

Do people who need to hear this message a favor, like this post or whatever, boost it up in the algorithm, help other people. 

That's the biggest thing. 

All right, much love as always. 

Peace, guys.

[00:41:15] Phil Bohol

Thanks, Leah.

[00:41:16] Leah K

Thank you so much. 

That's perfect. 

Perfect where I need to get to. I've just done a bunch of landmark and so I know what that is. 

He shared, so it just reminded me to get out of strategy and get into my soul and spirit. 

That's where the answers will come, right?

[00:41:38] Phil Bohol

So thank you.

[00:41:39] Leah K

All right, see ya.

[00:41:44] Phil Bohol

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[00:00:00] And then what happens is.

Now you have this army of people.

That is literally like, forging on to this next evolution, together.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show. Where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance. And everything 

[00:00:30] that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

Guys, it's so important that as you go through your life, go through your journey, you're brutally honest with yourself. 

And what I mean by brutally honest with yourself is knowing what's really you, knowing what's the ego, knowing what's the pride, knowing what it is that's actually calling to you or whispering in your ear right now.

See, when we're not honest with ourselves.

[00:00:30] it's very easy to be unhappy. 

When we're not honest with ourselves, and we wear this false armor of motivation, what happens is, on the outside, things can look really good, but on the inside, things can be breaking. 

So I'm going to share with you a live example of this.

So as most of you guys know, I'm a pretty driven individual. 

I'm all about high performance, I'm all about getting sh*t done.

I'm all about Holding our words to ourselves and our commitments 100 percent.

[00:01:00] Kryptonite to that is sometimes we're so driven by mission and purpose that sometimes we start breaking down the vehicle the vessel to accomplish that mission in that purpose and it's very important that as we learn and go through this process at higher and higher levels were able to stop and slow down and think about.

Where are we dropping the ball because it's 100 percent.

[00:01:30] Okay to live from a place of mission and purpose. 

But what I'm finding the longer I go about this because I've had a very good streak for years now. 

But what I'm finding is my body is starting to break down. 

What I'm finding is my mentality, not my determination, not my motivation, not my commitment.

None of that when it comes to the mind, but just the mental wear and tear. Uh, just being on and driven and motivated. And I think it's healthy to talk about this stuff. 

[00:02:00] So when you're somebody like me, you run, you go, you operate, you do what needs to be done. 

Because if you don't do it, nobody else is going to do it.

There's no, there's nobody going to save you in this life. 

You have to save you. 

And whether you meditate, whether you pray, whether you do anything, you're going to be given guidance, but nobody's going to do the work for you. 

That's what you got to understand. 

So when you're somebody like me. 

That operates from this higher level of consciousness when you operate from a place of surrendering to the voice inside

[00:02:30] Whether that's the voice of God, the universe, whatever calls to you.

It's very important that you remember you have to be around for the long term. 

So the best way I was thinking about this was to imagine that achieving your purpose in life is like going from California to New York. 

In order to get to New York and you're driving, what happens is if you are driving and you go from, you know, let's say the path takes you from California to Arizona.

What if in Arizona, because the roads are different.

[00:03:00] You pop a tire. 

What happens if you keep trying to drive with a popped tire, and you're just like, I need to get to New York. 

My mission is to get to New York. 

But your tire's popped. 

How long will that vehicle last for? 

You may be as hungry and as driven as you want to be, but what's going to happen is, if you keep driving and operating with that thing that's broken, other parts of this vehicle you're supposed to take to New York will continue to malfunction.

The other tires will pop because now it's not balanced. 

[00:03:30] And the more that you go, the more damage occurs. 

This is what happens for us in high performance. 

We're just like, sh*t it. We'll just get to New York. 

Like it is what it is. 

The truth is there is a better way. 

And I'm mastering this more and more and more because it's different at different levels, but it's also the same at different levels.

The fundamentals are the same. 

And so what I found for myself is because I've just been so mission oriented for years now, ever since the shutdown, it's been like an overdrive. 

[00:04:00] I've really forgotten. 

To just do my standard oil check. 

I've really forgotten to take a look at the entire thing, like entirely this vehicle, this vessel that I'm using to get to this, to this end goal, this end state, don't get me wrong.

I spend a lot of time with my family. I, um, I'm going through physical therapy. 

I do that weekly, bi weekly, whatever's needed.

I go to the gym.

 [00:04:30] I read. 

I do all the, all the things right. 

So it's not that I'm neglecting myself, but spiritually, my tank has been empty. 

And it's interesting because I pray every day.

I meditate every day. 

So what's happening is, something's calling me to stop, to slow down for a minute and say, Hey, you might be doing all the things right, but you're not doing a lot of things to make you happy. 

And your happiness is also a key element to getting from where you are to New York.

[00:05:00] And so what I found lately was for some reason, my, I have arthritis in my body because of the military and because of a major car accident I was in.

The arthritis in my shoulders have been. 

So much that opening some milk hurts me doing this motion right here hurts me like just anything that has to do with lifting and I was I was talking to my therapist and he was like there's a part of me that doesn't believe that the physical things that you're experiencing right now are all physical.

[00:05:30] So what he was alluding to was potentially maybe mental. 

So, for example, if these are the arms and the hands that I used to operate all the time. 

And now the very thing that's causing me pain is continuing to raise these hands to do more with these hands. 

But when's the last time I took care of these hands?

When's the last time I gave, I looked at these hands and actually were grateful for all the things that these hands do. 

They carry weights, they work. 

[00:06:00] They carry the children, they carry the family, they do everything. When's the last time I've actually spent some time looking at my hands and appreciated what these hands have done?

When's the last time I actually gave my feet a break, got them a massage, for giving me the opportunity to walk to where I want to in life? 

What I found because I had this massive sh*ting massage the other day, is I've been neglecting the very vehicle, the vessel that's supposed to help me get to this, this, this point of self actualization and transcendence.

[00:06:30] I've been neglecting the very thing that I need to spend more time on, which is why there's ailments happening in my body saying, well, if you don't want to listen. to this, this voice that's telling you to slow the sh*t down and you have too much ego and pride to stop, then what I'll do is I'll make it so it hurts you.

I'll make it so it hurts for you to lift up your hand so you can type. 

I'm gonna make it hard for you to hold your children. I'm gonna make it hard for you to drive so that way you can experience pain. 

Because what I'm trying to.

[00:07:00] Indicate to you is that I need you to stop trying to do more right now. 

I need you to stop right now.

I need you to like, go check yourself out, go do things to, to, to fix those tires, go get the oil change, go figure out what's wrong with your brake pads, go figure out what's wrong with the engine, go spend some time, whether it's a day, a week or a month, spend time there. 

Because if this journey to, to the end state is a lifelong mission, we got to make it to the end of our lives.

[00:07:30] 

But what God is calling me to understand now is, well, Phil, if you want to continue on this path, you're not even going to make it to the end of your life because you're just going to wear yourself down, you're going to break your body, your mind down so much that you're going to sacrifice yourself like a sh*ting martyr for literally no reason.

And it's very important that you guys understand you could be crushing it in every area of your life, but if that thing is calling to you that you're not happy, it's very important that you spend some time there because, man, God knows that. 

[00:08:00] I needed this. 

I needed this like slap in the face to say, Hey, like sh*ting chill for a second when you guys move at high speeds.

I mean, especially if you think about what I've been able to accomplish in just a few years, I haven't even given myself credit for that. 

I don't even see that as a major accomplishment. 

But to most people, they're like, Jesus, bro. 

Like you went from that guy back in 2019 to who you are today. 

Damn, that's really awesome.

That's inspiring. 

And then when I hear that, I'm like, yeah.

[00:08:30] I mean, we had to do it. 

I don't know why anybody's surprised at that. 

Like, you gotta do what you gotta do. 

But to the world, that's a lot. 

To the world, that's impressive. 

But again, it's because of this worthiness thing that I'm continuing to work on.

I'm gonna bring you guys along for the ride because I think it's a never ending thing. 

It's a never ending journey and experience that you have to go through, which also has to do with why I've probably been neglecting my body. 

And so what I've been really focused on the past week is journaling more.

[00:09:00] Praying more, talking with God more.

I've spent more time with my girls, like really just unplugging from the businesses and I've gotten a massage, massive massage that I definitely needed. 

I could tell that I've neglected my body because of how much pain it was. 

It was a two hour long deep tissue massage, and I can tell that all of those things that I was feeling were not normal.

And especially when it came to massaging my hands and feet, man, I like I almost cried, you know, while I was on the table, because I was like, man.

[00:09:30] I've really been neglecting myself, man. 

I've really been like, just just sacrificing myself for the greater good this entire time. 

And I have not been taking care of myself.

I was like, Oh, this is probably what happens to people once they are elevated to a point where they're like, they've made it in life. 

They're like, Behind the scenes depressed, and I'm like, Oh, I think I can understand how this happens. 

Right? 

So you have your business, you have all the things that you could possibly want in life.

[00:10:00] And then you find those people off themselves. 

And you're just like, Oh, I can see how this can turn into that at one point. 

And remember, guys, like, I've wanted to take my life before. 

So I understand the feeling, the feeling of emptiness, like the void. 

And what I'm realizing now in even the best of times, in the best places you've ever been in your life, That void can still be present, and it's very important to be aware of that because I thought that once you get to a certain level in your life, once you have the business, once you have everything that you could want, I mean, I thought that like it's like nothing could hurt you.

[00:10:30] But the truth is, it's probably harder at this level than it was previously. 

I'll explain why. 

When you know that you have the car, you have the house, you have the things, like you have like the physical things in life, it kind of, um, it kind of feels weird because you're like, Oh, well, I thought that like this whole game was getting the stuff, achieving these things, achieving these, these thresholds in life.

[00:11:00] So when you accomplish them and you still kind of can go back to feeling internally empty, it's like, Oh, sh*t, like now what now there's nothing to work toward because you're just like, It's just a matter of time. 

Like, there's a sense of confidence that you have about yourself where it's like, well, um, I know that I'm going to get there.

It's obvious now that I can achieve literally whatever I say I want. It's just literally a matter of time until my reality catches up to my vision. 

So if that's the case, then what the sh*t's the point? 

And then you have to like to get back to your driving force and then your purpose expands, right? 

[00:11:30] So for example when I first started it was like, oh, I just want to be happy.

Oh, I just want to make sure my family's good. 

I want to be able to buy diapers. 

I want to be able to do these. 

And then now it's like changing the trajectory of my bloodline and it's like Jesus. 

So that's a massive thing to say and like to actually mean it and then to live every day to figure out who you need to become to be that person for your bloodline.

You know, some people say it, but are people doing it? 

Are people like just literally surrendering to this entire process and like breaking down in all ways and sacrificing their comfort to become who they need to be?

[00:12:00] And I've been going through this process of rebirth the past week. 

I don't know if it's because it's my birthday month or what the sh*t's going on.

Um, but there's a lot, there's a lot surfacing right now. 

And I'm like, Oh. I see.

I see why I haven't quantum leaped to the level that I'm projecting, right? 

So I've taken massive quantum leaps every year, but it's like, there's a part of me that wants to quantum leap 10 X and that 10 X quantum leap requires me to be so sound.

[00:12:30] It's kind of like if you're, uh, let's say that you're going to go to space, right? 

Not the astronaut, but the actual, like, spaceship. 

If that spaceship cannot handle the pressure of going into space, it will break. 

As it tries to, like, number one, leave Earth. 

Start shaking like Sh*ting madness and crazy.

Imagine if it starts, like, dropping all of the pieces of metal to it. 

It would, it'll explode. 

Imagine when it's trying to, like, pass the atmosphere. 

[00:13:00] I don't know how it works, but I'm sure there's a lot of pressure involved with that. 

Imagine if it couldn't sustain that and it just exploded right there.

It's not a matter of saying, Hey, I'm a spaceship and I'm designed to go to outer space. 

You have to be fortified, you have to be really strong. 

And so what I'm finding is, as I go through this process of continuing to understand my value and my worth, and like, it's taking the time to take care of the vessel, take care of the body.

It's, Oh. 

There's areas of myself that are not strong enough.

[00:13:30] Which is why I cannot possibly take that 10 X quantum leap that's calling to me because it's just like saying, I'm not prepared. 

I don't have the fortitude to sustain lift off, but I want to lift off. 

So it's like I'm trying to rush lift off when it's like, no, make the ship so strong and so sound that there's no way that it could break or malfunction on the way to doing what it's supposed to do.

And so I'm understanding this process because it's What got me to this level? It's not going to get me to the next level.

[00:14:00] I have to completely change my operating system. 

And so, like, hustling and grinding can get you from where you're at to where you want to be 100%. 

But to achieve greatness, it requires such a different level.

And that's the level I'm playing at right now. 

I'm like, what would get Phil from good to great? 

like truly greatness, like where I can truly leave an imprint on this world, and it requires me to really master myself at a whole different level. 

And to most people, I've achieved self mastery to to such an extent that 

[00:14:30] I can now teach people self mastery.

But the next phase requires so much more requires so much more of the shedding of the self shedding of the things that no longer serve me and shedding the mentalities, shedding the belief systems. 

Even shedding the identities, which is crazy because it's like, man, you've already achieved a level.

Your identity has served you like a lot, but now you have to get rid of that identity that got you here for you to create space for the next identity to be born.

 [00:15:00] So it's like this whole game, right? 

But again, it's it's you have to be brutally honest with yourself with well the reason why I haven't moved forward and again It's like it's like the same lessons that surface at each level It's sh*ting crazy because you're just like I thought I mastered this and then you're just you're just like oh I mastered layer one of that level.

But there's like a million layers to that one thing so even if I've achieved the self mastery.

That was like, I've achieved level one self mastery, level two, level 10, but for me to get to level from level 10 self mastery to level 100 self mastery is going to require an entirely different way of thinking, an entirely different way of living.

[00:15:30] And that's why I want to bring you guys along for the ride. 

Because at least with all the lessons that I'm learning, I'm literally taking you from where you're at and like supercharging you to get to where I'm at. 

And once you start thinking about things the way that I think about things, all your problems at your level are going to be like, Oh, it's nothing because I'm designed for something greater and then you start.

[00:16:00] Achieving things faster and faster and faster. 

And then at some point, everybody's going to be all at the same place. 

And we're just like, All right, guys, what the sh*t's next? 

We got to get to the next level. 

And then what happens is. 

Now you have this army of people that are literally, like, forging on to this next evolution together.

And that's what makes life beautiful. 

Because the more that I share with you guys what's worked for me, the more you're going to implement a lot of that sh*t, the faster you're going to get to the level, the faster you get to the level, then it's like, alright guys, Now it's like we as a team.

[00:16:30] As an army, as a front, as like a unit, we're going to like to break into this next level of just greatness together.

And I think that's the whole purpose of this, right? 

Passing the torch of knowledge, things that worked for us and passing it on to the next person and just continuing to live life every day to master these, these ways of life and ways of thinking. And the more that we pass the torch of knowledge and experience to other people, the more that everybody wins.

And the more that I talk about this stuff, the more clear it gets to me and understanding.

[00:17:00] Where the roadblocks are. 

And again, guys, the middle part is the hardest part. 

When you start your journey, you're just like, I'm very excited to become this person. 

I'm very excited to accomplish these things.

Then the end state is like, damn, I feel proud that I've accomplished all these things. 

The middle is a huge part where like, most people break off. 

Most people experience all of the hardship of becoming who they need to be. 

A lot of people experience the process of shedding.

[00:17:30] And it hurts them so much that they stop because it just hurts.

And they stop digging, they stop peeling back the layers. 

I mean, it's crazy. 

There was this, um, this thing that I heard about eagles. 

When the eagle lives, uh, don't quote me on this. 

I might be completely wrong on the age here, but I believe it's 30 years old. I think it's 30 years old or it's 50 years old.

One of the two. 

But anyway, halfway through its life and eagles beaks. 

[00:18:00] And claws are so damaged from life, right? 

Just like the natural wear and tear of life, okay, that what they have to do is because it's so painful to have it, they have to go through excruciating amounts of pain. 

And the next evolution for them to, to, to self actualize at the next level is ripping out their claws and breaking off their beak.

Can you imagine that? 

Can you imagine in order for you to become the next level version of yourself, you have to, you have to rip out your sh*ting talons, 

[00:18:30] And you have to break your beak off? 

You know how much pain would go into just clawing at yourself, and then just ripping off your talons? 

I don't even know how they do that.

But, in order for them to live the next part of their life, they have to kill the version of themselves that they've been up until this point. 

And then they'll grow even stronger talons and then they'll grow an even stronger beak and that's how they live the next phase of their life. 

[00:19:00] But if they don't do that, if they're not willing to go through the pain, then they will die in pain because all of these things are broken, just like we've been talking about this entire time.

It's like. It's like fixing up the car. 

If California to New York will take our entire life, that car needs to be able to get there. 

So just like this, this eagle that's supposed to live for another 50 years, in order for it to live 50 more years, it has to destroy what it's always known, what it's always been.

[00:19:30] And it's the most painful process, and I think that that's where most people break off, because it's like, Jesus, bro, like, you take off one talon, you're like, damn, that hurts so much, I don't know if I can do the rest. But it's the ones that are like, I know that on the other side of all of this pain is the version of me that, that's great, the eagle, that that will fly the highest, that will soar, that will win.

But you have to go through massive amounts of pain. 

[00:20:00] You have to become somebody that you've never been and like you have to dig deep to, to endure the pain, the brutality of life. 

And I think that's what the process is. 

And I think that that's the phase I'm entering right now. It's like, well if, if I know.

That on the other side of the level that I've achieved right now is literally just the rest of my life. 

In order to get to that next level, I have to continue to break down all of these things. 

I have to break off my beak. 

I have to break off these talons that have gotten me to this level in life. 

[00:20:30] So that way I can create space and room for much stronger things to grow for me to be stronger than I've ever been.

And it's a painful process because to get to this place in my life where I've really achieved everything I could want, like, if I never got any higher than this level, I would genuinely be happy. 

My family would genuinely have everything they could possibly need. Like, we're good. 

But there's something about purpose that doesn't matter about you.

It doesn't matter how comfortable you are. 

There's something about understanding that your purpose is bigger than you. 

Where you're just like, you can't settle.

[00:21:00] Because then you're failing people, then you're basically showing people that that's the lid. 

And the whole purpose is to keep showing people what's possible and you have to sacrifice all of your comfort to achieve the most that you possibly can to show the world and everybody else who doesn't believe yet in themselves that they can do it too.

That if somebody likes you can, so can they. And I think that's the purpose. 

I think that if we as humans just spend more time pushing ourselves past our perceived limits.

[00:21:30] I think that naturally, like the world, society, humans would hold themselves to such a different standard. 

I think that if everybody practiced that, 100 percent of people just were constantly, every single day, pushing themselves to find what they're capable of, what they're made of.

I think that the whole world will be better off. 

I think that we'd have people that are more fit. I think that we'd have more entrepreneurs. 

I think that we would have better families. 

I think we would have lower divorce rates. 

[00:22:00] I think that everything, I think everything would be better because everybody's just wanting to be better everywhere.

You look like everybody's trying to better themselves, better their families, better their businesses, better everything. 

But that's not how the world works. 

It's a lot easier to just be complacent. 

So when you have that calling and you're just like, man, I don't know what it is. 

And maybe, you know, you haven't been able to break through it your entire life until now.

Maybe there's something that still calls you and you're just like, I don't know what the sh*t it is, Phil. 

[00:22:30] There's just something that's calling me to be great, but I haven't been able to figure it out. 

And I've been trying for years and I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. 

But I have that itch, I have that thing, there's like whispers in the mind every time I pray, every time I meditate, there's like something calling to me.

I just don't know how to uncover it, I don't know how to become one. 

When you have that whisper, when you, when you have that voice, just realize it, it's, it's, it's, it's a voice, like it's a real one. 

It's not you. 

It's the voice of God. 

It's, it's, it's infinite intelligence. 

[00:23:00] It's the universe. 

Whatever you want to call it, it's calling to you.

So the question is, are you going to listen to it and finally surrender and submit to who you need to become? 

Put pride, ego, shame, guilt, all of the sh*t that, that just are holding you back, are you going to put all of that aside? 

Get on your hands and knees and just surrender to what it is that's calling to you.

And then as soon as you understand, as soon as you hear everything that needs to be done to then take action on it. 

[00:23:30] No matter how much it hurts to break off all of your talons and break off your beak and just all of these things. 

Are you willing to do that? 

At least for me, I can't not do that. 

I can't go back to a normal life.

I can't go back to a life where it's just going to a nine to five job and just sh*ting doing nothing significant with my life. 

Like, I think that's why it's called life's purpose. 

I can't stop. 

I don't know about you, but when I'm not going after my purpose.

[00:24:00] When I'm not living from that place, no matter how scary it is, no matter how much it hurts to keep breaking this sh*t off and breaking off the beaks and just continue to evolve and level up, it's And ask myself, well, why am I choosing to do this?

Why am I, why am I choosing to continue to do this when I could just settle? 

The truth is it's because I'm not choosing it. 

It chose me just like it's choosing you. 

We don't choose these things. 

It chooses us. 

And it's up to us to say, I'm going to listen to the voice.

[00:24:30] I'm gonna, I'm gonna, if I'm getting called to do something great, I'm going to lean into it and be great no matter the price I have to pay.

And that price is everything that's comfortable to you. 

And again. 

If you know you're gonna pay that price, you have to make sure that vehicle is good. 

You gotta make sure you're good. 

And again, it's just brutal honesty. 

For us to be great, we always have to be honest with ourselves. 

We always have to make sure that if we need a day, we take a day.

If we need a weekend, we take a weekend. 

[00:25:00] If we need a week, we take a week. 

If we need to cool off a little bit instead of pushing, and like, instead, we're just being, and we just need that for the season, then B. Don't push, don't do, just be. 

And when it's time to push again, again, getting back into the rotation of things, and pushing, and driving, and um, learning how to hear these voices, hear these, um, it's like the GPS, right?

It's telling, it's like, as you're maneuvering through life and in business, something will call to you again. 

[00:25:30] Take that left. 

Take that pivot. 

Go do that thing. 

And you just have to trust that voice of God. 

You gotta trust that voice. 

You gotta trust that it's guiding you in the right place. And, um, again, you might not see the fruits of your labor for a while.

And it's just continuing to have faith. It's continuing to just move. And if you're just, I believe, more honest with yourself, just like I'm learning to be even more honest, because I'm a pretty honest guy, you know? 

So I'm just like, damn, I can be even more honest that, like, these little things don't make me happy.

[00:26:00] Oh, I need to spend more time with self care. 

Okay. 

I didn't, I thought that was not a thing right now. 

I think, I thought I just had to keep pushing. 

But again, I've never been at this level. 

I don't have people to really tell me what I'm supposed to do or not do next. 

So it's like you have to learn through trial and error what works and what doesn't work.

And that's how you attain wisdom, just going through the process, but as being hyper aware and not just going down a Sh*ting rabbit hole of darkness.

That's what self mastery is. It's actually mastering self through trials and through failures, which is, again, why I'm sharing these stories with you now.

[00:26:30] So that way you can see in real time what that looks like. 

So anyway, guys, be brutally honest with yourself. 

Where are you at? 

Are you good? 

Are you happy? 

Are you not?

Are you, and I'll play devil's advocate, are you just being a bitch? 

Like, what's the thing? 

Because there's truth to that, and I can say that because I've been that.

Where it's like, oh, I just need rest. But if I was being brutally honest, I also didn't put out. For me, when I'm like.

[00:27:00] I need rest,  it's because I'm being brutally honest. 

All I do is put out, and I never take a break. 

So don't just say, I need a break, and then not play devil's advocate with yourself and say, but do you really?

Or, do you actually need to push more, and that's how you'd be brutally honest with yourself, that you could've given more.

You're only gonna know that. 

Nobody else is gonna know that. 

The truth is inside of you, and that truth will set you free, once you're honest with yourself. Alright? 

So, that's what I got.

I really hope that whoever needs to hear this message, hears it.

[00:27:30] Downloads it, and applies it. 

Because it's um, it's a very interesting path that we're all on, at whatever stage you're at, whatever level you're at in your journey, it's a very interesting path that we're on, achieving purpose. 

And again, it's a lifelong mission, so don't feel in a rush to get there.

You gotta get there first. Peace guys.

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(03:40) - Spiritual Awakenings and the Commonality of Divinity

(04:08) - The Reflective Trip to Tahoe

(05:19) - What’s Inside of You

(11:25) - Life Occurrences Beyond Coincidence

(15:20) - The Divinity that Guides us to our purpose

(18:09) - You are a Vessel for a Divine Purpose

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[00:00:00] When we think about our problems, it's like the size of an atom, so tiny. 

In comparison to this all powerful being inside of us.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show. Where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance. And everything 

[00:00:30] that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

What's going on, you guys? 

We are going to be changing it up a little bit today. 

I kind of want to see who can track with me. 

I want to see the things that I teach outside of my clients.

[00:01:00] To just on YouTube or any platform, Instagram, Facebook, uh, podcasting. 

I wonder how people actually think about stuff like this.

So, let's talk about the Sage version of you. 

Let's talk about the all powerful, all knowing version of you that's lying dormant inside of you right now. 

Okay, very different topic than I usually talk about. but I'm interested to see.

[00:01:30] Who can actually Not only understand this from a logical, external perspective, but internally has done some of the spiritual work that's needed to tap into this version of self.

So, whether you believe this or not, or whether you're in the process of uncovering it for yourself, inside of all of us, 

There's divinity inside all of us. 

There is a more powerful version of us that we have access to, whether that's us.

[00:02:00] Whether that's universal power, whether that's God, whatever it is, we all have access to it.

Now, who's aware that they have access to it and who's unaware? 

That's a whole different story. 

Most people. 

In the world right now. 

Do not understand that they have access to this power. 

Most people in the world do not understand that they have access to it at all, and they live their life thinking that there are these humans that just have to live a life.

Get through the 60, 80 years that they're going to 

[00:02:30] live and then get buried. 

That's it. 

Unfortunately, that is actually what people believe that their life is meant for. 

When you start tapping into purpose, when you start tapping into this other version of you, that you were meant for something, that you were born for a purpose, that there's something that you have to get done in this one life you have to live, this is where you start leaving the physical body and entering more of the spiritual realm.

This is where you start really understanding that there's people that have figured this out. 

[00:03:00] And you'll see how they talk about it. 

You'll see that they'll bring it up here and there. 

And for most people, they'll hear it and it'll go over their head. 

They're going to think that it's just like this, you know, woo woo thing.

But when you actually start getting with the times, and you start understanding that there's something bigger at play here, this is where things start to change. 

This is where, like, life changes for you, because now you understand you're playing a different game. 

You're no longer playing the game of just going to work.

[00:03:30] Going home, doing it tomorrow.

You're no longer just living this surface level life. 

And now what you see is the spiritual calling that you have. 

So, back in 2018, when I was in Tahoe, I was feeling extremely lost. Extremely lost in life. I was feeling extremely lost. 

You know, after getting out of the Marine Corps, that was my identity.

I was like, who am I now? 

I started going through some weird thing of depression again.

[00:04:00] And I was like just drinking all the time, smoking weed all the time, just doing all this stupid sh*t all the time. 

So I went to Tahoe and I was like, look, I need to spend time in nature. 

I need to figure my sh*t out.

There's something wrong with me. 

And during this trip to Tahoe, all I did was read this book, it's called To Shake the Sleeping Self. 

And all I would do when I would wake up is I'd literally sit by the window, looking at the snow, looking at the world, and I'd just start reading. 

[00:04:30] And I became very intentional with reading every word inside of that book for every chapter I went through.

And then I started realizing that I was living my life asleep. 

I realized that the way I was living my life was so caught in the rat race of life. 

That I forgot how to live with purpose. 

I forgot how to live with meaning. 

That got stripped from me because the only way that I've ever known that is through the military.

[00:05:00] The only way that I've ever learned how to live with mission and purpose was in the military. 

So to have that no longer part of my life.

It was big.

How the f*ck do I get through this thing? 

How does a civilian actually have a mission and purpose in life? 

And that's when I started going deeper into now, at this point, that's when I went through very deep meditation.

Okay? 

Very, very deep meditation. 

If you guys have done breathing exercises, just understand meditation can get extremely deep. 

It can go far deeper than what you even realize right now. 

[00:05:30] What you can tap into is far deeper and far more powerful than you can even realize. 

So by going into that space, what I found in myself was divinity, and it's very difficult to explain what happens when you can envision it in the mind.

Just imagine, inside of you, there's infinite space. Inside of you, there's, you're not as big as your body.

[00:06:00] Inside of you, spiritually, it's forever that way, forever that way, forever that way, forever that way. 

It's infinite. 

It's infinite. 

When they talk about infinite intelligence, infinite everything, it's everything.

It's infinite. 

There's no stopping it. 

So, what I found in Tahoe was, there was like this, this divine presence. 

This massive, massive, I can't even explain what it looks like, it just, this massive being, all powerful.

[00:06:30] Had no fears, no doubts, there was calmness, there was chaos, there was something that you would fear, and there was something that you'd trust.

And I just remember looking at it in the eyes and I was like.

What is this? 

And why is it in me? 

And as I started talking to it.

[00:07:00] It didn't even say a word. 

It's like I was thinking, speaking to it, and it was speaking back to me through understanding. 

It's like wisdom. And it was a crazy thought conversation we were having.

And then I realized that this same being is inside of all of us. 

That we are all the same. 

We're, we're basically all living the same way with this thing inside of us now who has access to it and who's aware of it, that's a different story.

[00:07:30] If you guys want to have a deeper understanding of this, go look up The Egg Theory on YouTube.

The Egg Theory. 

It gives a very good visual representation of this. 

And The biggest thing for me is through this, I realized that all of the things that I worried about in life were all of these human problems. 

All of these weird things that we stress about in our day.

[00:08:00] Today, people cutting us off on the freeway, people looking at us dirty at the bar, or how we feel about our day, how sh*tty it feels, that we can just have a backache and it ruins our day, sh*t like that.

That it's just so, such a waste of a gift. 

To waste any emotional time and space in those negative places, when we can, in fact, tap into this infinite source and live a life truly of purpose and meaning. 

[00:08:30] And by spending more time spiritually connecting to this source, the life that you live changes. 

All the problems that you have in life and business, in self, with marriage, all of it.

Tiny. 

In comparison to what this being considers. 

When we think about our problems. It's like 

[00:09:00] the size of an atom, so tiny in comparison to this all powerful being inside of us that has problems of the universe, has problems of infinity, never ending, much, much larger scale, much larger scale. It's kind of like the earth versus, um, the universe earth versus the galaxy.

Even earth versus the galaxy is not big enough in comparison. 

[00:09:30] So you can imagine what happens when you start understanding that life is deeper. 

That you have access to a lot more power than you give yourself permission to even see or the openness to even consider that there's something different there, you live a very mediocre life.

So when people start going through spiritual awakenings, this is where they really start tapping into the source. 

This is where they really start tapping into something much bigger than them. 

[00:10:00] And when you really go down this rabbit hole of what life is supposed to be, How you're supposed to respond to things now, having this new sense of awareness.

For me, I started becoming more peaceful.

So, just like you guys see here, this is wrath. 

My deadliest sin, wrath. When I started going through this spiritual awakening.

[00:10:30] I don't really get angry too much anymore. 

It's as if I can feel that emotion, but seeing it from an outside perspective. 

I can see it from an out of body perspective.

When I feel a lot of negative emotions, it's as if I know when to close my eyes and stop, and simply just listen. 

Simply just feel. Simply just surrender. 

[00:11:00] Simply stop trying to control the things I cannot control.

And the crazy part is, when you live and live and operate from that space, you can do anything. 

Because you're not in a rush, you're not attached to an outcome. 

You're just in a state of being. 

You're in a state of connection. 

And you're learning how to trust something much bigger than you. 

Because if you think about it.

[00:11:30] All of the things that happen in our lives, let's call it coincidence, all of those random ass things that happen in our lives where it's like maybe we showed up.

We went to a random store, okay, or random gym, and we bumped into somebody that, out of nowhere else, we would be like, well, why are, why are we bumping into each other here, and why like, right now?

We can call that coincidence, but think about how many times this has happened in your life. 

[00:12:00] Think about all the times in your life where like, you were falling from the f*cking sky, and you were about to crash and burn into the earth. 

And right at the very last second, something just swoops in, And saves the day, where you don't crash and burn.

You think that's a coincidence? 

You don't think that there's something that has caused these events to occur in a sequence, and all you have to do is open your eyes.

[00:12:30] And become aware that everything's happening on purpose? 

That this is not an accident?

Can you imagine what happens if you start looking at life as if it's not just this thing that's happening to you, and that life itself has been written? 

Your purpose and who you're supposed to become is already written. 

[00:13:00] The question is, are you going to find that version of you in this lifetime? 

In another lifetime?

When the f*ck are you going to experience it? 

Are you going to have to reset this whole damn thing and try it again? 

Again, if you don't know what I'm talking about, go look up the egg theory. 

It's a very interesting thing. I'm not saying I'm the master of all this. 

I'm just saying what I've uncovered for myself and what's helped me.

[00:13:30] All I can say Is if this is even at all resonating with you. 

Then you're probably more open and you're probably more awake than you realize if you're like what the f*ck dude You just went a totally different direction. 

It's not your time yet. 

Don't worry about it. 

It gets deeper and You'll probably come back to this or you're gonna come back to some other episode from somewhere else and then something's gonna click one day for you.

[00:14:00] I think that for us, once we start tapping into this, once we start tapping into the thing that's bigger than us, when we start tapping into divinity, when we start tapping into whatever it is that's inside all of us.==

It's very important to remember that the human mind will take you away from it. 

It's very important to remember to bring yourself back. 

Because in that space, nothing stops you. 

[00:14:30] In that space, you fear nothing. 

In that space, you are everything, all things, the good and the bad. 

And you just accept it, and you see it as an experience.

And you just see it roll out and play in your mind. 

You just see life totally different. 

That now you're out of this, this spiritual being that's floating outside of you. 

And you're just watching you. 

Be that version of you, and you can make adjustments.

[00:15:00] You can make tweaks, you can get back on purpose, you can get back on the horse, you can get back on the path that you're meant to walk.

This is how you start guiding yourself. 

But the question is, is that guiding you? 

Or is that something else guiding you? 

Is that God? 

Is that the universe? 

What is this divinity that guides all of us? 

I guess that's what we have to figure out. 

I guess that's the whole purpose of this game. 

[00:15:30] Because if we're meant for something, if we know that the fingerprints we have, nobody of the past has ever had them.

If we know that the fingerprints we have, nobody in the future will ever have them, and that they're specifically unique to us, then that means there's only an imprint that we can leave in this world. 

So what is it? 

What is it? 

[00:16:00] What gift did God, the universe, this higher power, give us? 

What gift did it give us?

So we can be who we need to be and leave that mark that only we can leave. 

Who is that? 

What is that version of us? 

What is it going to take to uncover that person? 

Who are we going to have to unbecome to create space for that person to evolve? 

[00:16:30] What do we have to burn down in ourselves to create the ashes where the phoenix can rise?

What is it? 

When we think about that question, What is my purpose? 

Why am I here? 

And you truly believe you're here for a purpose. 

All your other problems don't really seem that big anymore, do they? 

Because now you're trying to solve a problem that most people cannot solve. 

[00:17:00] And then what you do is you make it your life's work to figure that out.

You make it your life's work to understand what is your purpose. 

What is God calling you to do? 

What is the universe calling you to do? 

What is this divinity that's lying dormant inside of you, calling for you to do, and calling you to become? 

The question is, are you going to choose to become one? 

[00:17:30] Or, are you going to choose to override and say, That's f*cking crazy, bro.

There's no way. 

There's no way. 

If that's your belief, that's your belief. 

You just have to consider, Are you good with settling for that? 

If you choose to believe that. 

Or, will you find a way? to let all the armor down so you can receive whatever gift has been waiting for you.

[00:18:00] The gift has probably been right under your nose this entire time.

So we'll see. 

We will see. 

The moment I started tapping into this, everything changed. 

Life changed. 

Because I changed. 

I stopped seeing myself limited as this version of me that was a f*ck up, that did nothing good with his life, that almost ended his life.  

[00:18:30] To be a vessel. 

And being a vessel allows me to serve with purpose.

Now, as a vessel, what is my calling? 

What is my calling for the day? 

What am I supposed to do? 

See, that's not me making that decision. 

It's not me thinking about it. 

It's me sitting here waiting for the answer. 

Just like something called me to make this video, here we are.

[00:19:00] The thing that calls me next, I will do.

The word I need to pass, I will pass.

And for some reason, again, when you live in that space, your life just completely changes. 

How fast you achieve what you want in life completely changes because you stop wanting it so you start attracting it because you are it. 

[00:19:30] It's an entirely different way of living and it requires you to be open, body, mind, and spirit to all of it.

Because when you're closed off, you're just like, no, no way. 

Your mind will follow and your spirit will be shut down. 

You won't receive. 

But when you become open to life and you just start receiving, you start being, you stop judging self and you surrender to whatever it is that's trying to flow through you as the vessel.

[00:20:00] See what happens. 

See how your life changes. 

See how everything washes away that used to bother you. 

See how much more clarity you have on why you're showing up. 

See how much more you attract into your life in all areas when you operate from that place.

If something's calling to you.

[00:20:30] I'll leave you with this. 

The worst thing that you can do for the world is to silence that calling. 

When something's calling you to be that vessel, that means it's time now.

It's time for you to rise into the next level.

There's something bigger for you now.

But if you logically shut that down, you are taking a gift from the world.

[00:21:00] That is trying to be passed on through you.

When you think about all the hurt and all the pain you've ever experienced in your life, a gift was being forged there.

Don't ever mistake it for anything else.

So I'm interested to see who received this.

[00:21:30] Who understands it, who downloads it. 

Where are you on your journey? 

Because I'll tell you this, there's also people that don't get this, but they speak it. 

Those are the people that make it look bad. 

Those are the people that sound woo woo. It's too much. It's too much of a front.

It's too much of trying to act the part when they actually don't have access at that level. 

[00:22:00] And it's still logical, and you can tell. 

You can tell when somebody speaks about it that it isn't coming from the source. 

You can tell. 

And it's always the ones that are too f*cking book smart about the whole situation.

It's like, you studied too many fancy words. 

I can tell it's not being channeled from the source. 

You can tell. But you can also tell when it is from the source.

[00:22:30] Because it doesn't come from here. 

You'll know where it comes from. 

So I'm curious to know, who's with me? 

Since this is a little bit different than what I normally would talk about.

Again, something called to me to talk about it today. So here we are. Let me know.

[00:23:00] 

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:23:30] 

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