The addJOY Podcast

Learning How to Laugh at Yourself (S11 E2 Humor + Amusement)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 19 Jun 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, discover the power of self-deprecating humor in finding true joy and happiness. Learn how to lighten your mood by laughing at yourself and embracing imperfections. Join us on this journey towards self-acceptance and a more positive outlook on life in 2024.

What's So Funny?!: The Science of Laughter (S11 E1 Humor + Amusement)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 12 Jun 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Discover the fascinating science behind laughter in this insightful episode. Learn why we laugh, the psychological and physiological benefits of laughter, and how it impacts our overall well-being. Join us as we delve into the research and explore the reasons behind this universal human behavior. Stay tuned to gain a deeper understanding of the power of laughter and its effects on our daily lives.

Selflessness vs. Self-Sabotage (S10 E5 Generosity + Giving)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 5 Jun 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Discover the ultimate battle for your happiness in this thought-provoking episode exploring the contrast between selflessness and self-sabotage. Learn how balancing these two concepts can significantly impact your overall well-being and emotional fulfillment. Gain valuable insights on how to navigate through these conflicting behaviors to create a more harmonious and fulfilling life. Listen now to uncover the secrets to achieving true happiness through understanding the dynamics of selflessness versus self-sabotage.

Self Care is the Ultimate Gift (S10 E4 Generosity + Giving)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 22 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Self-care is the ultimate gift! Discover the power of self-generosity and JOY in this motivational episode about the ultimate gift you can give yourself - self-care. Learn how prioritizing your own well-being can lead to a more fulfilled and happier life. Listen now to unlock the benefits of self-love and self-care, and start your journey towards a more balanced and joyful existence. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's essential. Embrace self-generosity and joy today!

To Give, or Not to Give: That is the Question (S10 E3 Generosity + Giving)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 15 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we delve into the delicate balance of knowing when it's appropriate to be generous and when it's crucial to set boundaries by saying no. Understanding the nuances of giving out of generosity versus recognizing when it's important to prioritize your own well-being is key to maintaining healthy relationships, personal growth, and JOY. Join us as we explore the art of generosity and setting boundaries in various aspects of life.

Ways to Be Generous for Free (S10 E2 Generosity + Giving)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 8 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Want to spread kindness without breaking the bank? In this video, we'll explore creative ways to be generous without spending a dime. From offering a helping hand to simply being a good listener, there are plenty of ways to make a positive impact on others without reaching into your wallet. Listen now to discover how you can be generous in simple and meaningful ways!

Generosity + JOY (S10 E1 Generosity + Giving)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 1 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

https://odb.org/2022/06/08/generosity-and-joy

https://www.adamhamilton.com/blog/give-generosity-and-joy/

There is JOY in Discipline (S9 E8 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 24 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore the concept of finding joy in staying disciplined and the impact it can have on achieving success. Discover effective strategies to stay motivated, overcome obstacles, and reach your goals through the power of discipline. Join us on this journey towards unlocking your full potential and embracing the joy that comes with staying committed to your dreams. Watch now and start your path to success!

Do You Lack Patience + Endurance? (S9 E7 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 17 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Discover the transformative power of patience and endurance as virtues that pave the way for joyful moments in life. In this enlightening video, learn how embracing patience and perseverance can lead you to a place of inner peace and ultimate happiness. Explore the benefits of staying consistent and steadfast in the face of challenges, knowing that brighter days filled with joyous experiences are just around the corner. Join us on a journey towards a more fulfilling life by cultivating patience and endurance as key ingredients for a joyful existence. Embrace the wait, for joyous moments are soon to unfold.

When to Endure + When to Quit: S9 E6 Patience + Endurance

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 10 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this video, we explore the concept of finding joy in knowing when to endure and when to quit. Sometimes in life, we are faced with challenges that require us to push through and keep going, while other times it is necessary to walk away and move on to something better. Join us as we discuss the importance of listening to our intuition and recognizing when it is time to persevere and when it is time to let go. By finding the balance between endurance and quitting, we can find true happiness and fulfillment in our decisions. If you have ever struggled with knowing when to keep going and when to walk away, this video is for you. Learn how to trust your instincts and find joy in making the right choice for yourself. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content on personal growth and self-discovery. #endureorquit #findingjoy #knowingwhentokeepgoing #knowingwhentowalkaway #personaldevelopment

addJOY to Freaknik pt. ii (S9 E5 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (old memories, Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 27 Mar 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode Mari + Kanika continue to reminisce on how their friendship started back in the 1900s and how it represent Patience + Endurance. Take a stroll down memory lane with us as we reminisce about good times with our close friends. From sharing college memories to recalling hilarious moments, join us on this heartfelt journey of nostalgia and laughter. Get ready to feel all the feels as we retrace the steps of our friendship and cherish the special bond we share. Sit back, and let the memories flood in as we relive the moments that have shaped our friendship into what it is today. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more heartwarming content!

addJOY to Freaknik (S9 E4 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 20 Mar 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode Mari + Kanika reminisce on how their friendship started back in the 1900s. Take a stroll down memory lane with us as we reminisce about good times with our close friends. From sharing college memories to recalling hilarious moments, join us on this heartfelt journey of nostalgia and laughter. Get ready to feel all the feels as we retrace the steps of our friendship and cherish the special bond we share. Sit back, and let the memories flood in as we relive the moments that have shaped our friendship into what it is today. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more heartwarming content!

They That Wait: The Benefits of Being a Patient Person (S9 E3 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 11:00:00 +0000

In our fast-paced world, it can be challenging to embrace the power of patience. But taking the time to wait for the right moment can lead to incredible benefits in both our personal and professional lives. In this episode, we explore the reasons why patience is truly a virtue worth cultivating. From building stronger relationships to achieving long-term success, the rewards of waiting for the perfect opportunity are immeasurable. Join us as we delve into the importance of patience and how it can bring us greater JOY. Learn why it's worth the wait and how practicing patience can lead to a more fulfilling and successful future. #Patience #PowerOfPatience #BenefitsOfBeingPatient

Finding JOY in Endurance (S9 E2 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 6 Mar 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In a world that moves at a fast pace, it can be challenging to embrace patience and endurance. However, by learning to find JOY in the journey, we can ultimately experience greater fulfillment and satisfaction in our lives. This episode explores the importance of cultivating patience and endurance, and offers practical tips on how to navigate through life's challenges with grace and resilience. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, as we uncover the power of finding JOY in the midst of adversity. Stay tuned for valuable insights and inspiration on how to thrive in the face of obstacles, and discover the true meaning of resilience and perseverance. Embrace the challenges that come your way (like parenting, workplace conflict, relationships, and health challenges) and learn to savor the moments of triumph and victory. Remember, it's not about the destination, but the journey itself that truly matters. So let's embark on this transformative path together, and find JOY in the beauty of patience and endurance. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more empowering content on personal growth and development while being entertained at the same time. Thank you for tuning in!

Patience + Endurance + JOY (S9 E1 Patience + Endurance)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In this inspiring episode, we delve into the transformative journey of exploring the fascinating concepts of discipline, endurance, and joy. Discover how discipline allows us to harness our inner strength, overcome obstacles, and achieve our goals. Gain insights into the power of endurance, pushing beyond limits, and finding strength in adversity. Furthermore, explore the invaluable role that joy plays in our lives, and how it can be cultivated to enhance our overall well-being and success. Join us as we dive deep into these fundamental aspects of personal growth, and provide you with practical tips and strategies to help you unlock the hidden potential within yourself.

How Can We Be Genuinely Kind? (S8 E7)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 17 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we dive into the essential steps of how to be genuinely kind, fostering a world filled with empathy and understanding. This thought-provoking episode explores the importance of embracing compassion and offers practical tips on how to cultivate kindness in our daily lives.

The Art of Authentic Apologies (S8 E6 Kindness + Courtesy)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 10 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In this enlightening episode, we bring you a comprehensive guide on mastering the art of authentic apologies and achieving sincere reconciliation. Learning how to apologize genuinely is a skill that benefits not only ourselves, but also our relationships with others. From small misunderstandings to larger conflicts, the ability to offer a heartfelt apology can mend emotional wounds and restore trust. Join us as we delve into the core elements of a genuine apology. We'll explore techniques to ensure our apologies are sincere, meaningful, and effective.

Citation: https://www.npr.org/2023/01/25/1150972343/how-to-say-sorry-give-good-apology

Be Kind to YOU! (S8 E5: Kindness + Courtesy)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 3 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In this inspiring video, we delve into the profound concept of being kind to yourself. In today's fast-paced world, it's more crucial than ever to prioritize self-care and nurture our inner being. Join us as we explore empowering techniques and practical advice that will guide you on a journey towards self-compassion and self-discovery.

Throughout this thought-provoking discussion, we'll uncover the transformative power of self-kindness and its positive impact on our overall well-being. Discover a range of strategies for practicing self-compassion, including mindfulness exercises, self-reflection, and embracing self-love as an integral part of your everyday life.

All Courtesy Ain't Common (S8 E4 Kindness + Courtesy)

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Wed, 27 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our latest episode! In this educational video, we delve into the essential principles and key strategies required to cultivate effective manners and exhibit courtesy in various social settings. Politeness is not just a virtue but an art that can foster harmonious relationships and leave a positive impact in every interaction. Join us as we explore how to refine your behavior, enhance your communication skills, and navigate through everyday encounters with grace and respect.

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The Ripple Effect: Unleashing the Kindness Revolution (S8 E3)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 20 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this inspiring episode, we delve into a phenomenon that has the potential to change the world - the Kindness Revolution. Unleashing collective acts of kindness, we witness the incredible Ripple Effect that follows, spreading love, compassion, and positivity throughout society. Join us as we explore the immense power of simple acts of kindness. By embracing kindness, we can create a domino effect that fosters harmonious relationships, boosts mental and emotional well-being, and cultivates an inclusive society. Whether it's a random act of kindness, lending a helping hand, or spreading positivity through words, this video reminds us that even the smallest gestures can have profound consequences.

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Being Kind to Others to Bring Yourself JOY (S8 E2 Kindness + Courtesy)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this captivating video, we delve into the profound connection between kindness and the pursuit of a joyful life. Discover practical strategies for incorporating acts of kindness into your daily routine, cultivating a more compassionate mindset, and experiencing the profound benefits that come from spreading kindness far and wide. Not only will this video inspire and empower you to embrace a more joyful life, but it will also provide you with invaluable insights into the far-reaching effects that kindness can have on our overall happiness and sense of fulfillment.

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Kindness + Courtesy + JOY (S8 E1 Kindness + Courtesy)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 6 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our channel! In this heartwarming episode, we bring you the beautiful concept of spreading smiles and embracing kindness, courtesy, and JOY. Join us on this uplifting journey as we explore the incredible power of simple acts of kindness and the profound impact they can have on both individuals and communities. At its core, this episode celebrates the genuine JOY that stems from being kind and courteous to one another. It reminds us that even the smallest gestures can brighten someone's day and create a ripple effect of positivity. We'll share inspiring stories that exemplify the transformative power of kindness, and highlight the contagious nature of spreading smiles. Discover how acts of courtesy can bridge divides and foster meaningful connections, fostering an environment of understanding, empathy, and unity. Through real-life examples, we showcase how kindness and courtesy promote love, warmth, and compassion. Join us as we delve into various ways you can incorporate kindness and courtesy into your daily life, both online and offline. We will provide practical tips and actionable advice that can help you create a more harmonious and joyful world. Learn how expressing genuine appreciation and respect towards others can create a positive atmosphere wherever you go. Let's unite in our mission to spread smiles, kindness, courtesy, and JOY. Together, we can create a world that embraces compassion and celebrates the power of human connection. Subscribe to our channel to be a part of this incredible journey towards a brighter and more harmonious future.

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addJOY to Conflict: Work Edition (S7 E6 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 29 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Looking to enhance workplace harmony and infuse JOY into conflict? Look no further! In this enlightening episode, we delve into the art of adding JOY to conflict at work. With practical strategies and expert advice, you'll discover how to transform tense situations into opportunities for growth and collaboration. By embodying a positive mindset and embracing open communication, you can navigate conflicts with ease, fostering a happier and more productive work environment. So, join us now and bring a harmonious touch to your workplace interactions! For more valuable insights and tips on conflict resolution, subscribe to our channel and stay tuned for future episodes! Let's work together towards a more joyful and harmonious workplace.

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addJOY to CONFLICT: Family Edition (S7 E5 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this captivating episode, we delve into the transformative power of adding JOY to conflicts within your family. With the ultimate goal of creating harmonious and joyful connections, we share insightful strategies and techniques that will help you navigate through rough patches with ease. Our experts discuss practical tips and effective communication methods that have the potential to turn even the most heated arguments into opportunities for growth and understanding. By embracing empathy, active listening, and finding common ground, you'll discover how conflicts can become catalysts for strengthening the bond between family members. Furthermore, we explore various perspectives on conflict resolution, taking into account the unique dynamics and personalities within your family. With our actionable advice, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the underlying causes of conflicts and learn how to diffuse tension with empathy and respect. Join us on this transformative journey as we guide you through the art of adding JOY to family conflicts. Get ready to witness the magic of turning conflicts into joyful connections, fostering a more loving and supportive environment for everyone involved. Remember, no family is without its disagreements, but it's how we respond to them that truly matters. Embrace the power of JOY and watch as it breathes new life into your family relationships. Subscribe to our channel for more inspiring content on personal growth, communication, and building stronger connections.

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addJOY to CONFLICT (S7 E4 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 15 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the powerful concept of embracing harmony and infusing joy into conflict. Conflict is an inevitable part of life, but often it is accompanied by negative emotions and tension. However, what if we could shift our perspective and approach conflicts with the intention of adding JOY? Join us as we delve into different strategies and perspectives that can help transform conflict into an opportunity for growth, understanding, and ultimately, more JOYful connections. Discover practical tips, insightful anecdotes, and expert advice on how to navigate conflicts in a way that not only resolves them but also leaves all parties involved feeling uplifted. By embracing harmony and infusing JOY into conflict, we open doors to deeper connections, improved relationships, and a more harmonious world. Together, let's explore the transformative power of JOY in conflict and learn how to turn challenging situations into catalysts for positive change. Don't miss out on this enlightening episode that offers a fresh perspective on conflict resolution. Subscribe to our channel for more empowering content and join our community as we strive to create a more joyful and harmonious world.

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8 STEPS TO HAVING JOY IN BEING SINGLE (Bliss Break 4)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Mon, 13 Nov 2023 01:00:00 +0000

Are you tired of feeling down and lonely while being single? Embrace the beauty of solitude and discover how to radiate JOY in your singlehood! In this quick, empowering episode, we present 8 essential steps to finding happiness and contentment while living the single life. Step 1: Embrace Self-Love and Actively Learn to Be Alone. Step 2: Say Yes to All the Opportunities Your Flexibility and Freedom Now Afford You. Step 3: Play the Field. Step 4: Find Your Passion. Step 5: Spend Time With People Who Make You Happy. Step 6: Be Intentional About Your Life While in Solitude. Step 7: Document Your Journeys. Step 8: Fall in Love with Yourself. By following these 8 invaluable steps, you can transform your single journey into a period of self-discovery, inner growth, and genuine happiness. Embrace solitude, radiate joy, and savor every aspect of your singlehood. Join us on this transformative journey today!

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addJOY to BEING SINGLE (S7 E3 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 8 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this captivating episode, we explore the incredible power of finding joy in being alone. If you've ever wondered how to turn solitude into a positive and fulfilling experience, you've arrived at the right place. Our expert hosts delve into the depths of solitary living, shedding light on the amazing potential it holds for personal growth and self-discovery. Discover practical strategies and insightful tips that will help you transform your alone time into moments of pure enlightenment and happiness. Join us as we uncover the secrets of embracing solitude and finding JOY within yourself. Learn how to cultivate a deep sense of contentment, be more self-aware, and truly appreciate the beauty of your own company. With uplifting anecdotes and inspiring life stories, we provide a roadmap to help you navigate the sometimes challenging journey towards embracing solitude. Gain the confidence to spend quality time with yourself, engage in fulfilling activities, and re-energize your spirit like never before. Discover the freedom that comes with embracing solitude and embark on a transformative journey towards self-fulfillment. Don't miss out on this enlightening opportunity to add a touch of JOY to your solitary journey. Hit the play button now and embark on your path to self-discovery and inner bliss!

https://time.com/5401028/benefits-being-single-experts/

https://time.com/6255111/single-people-happy-healthy/

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7 TIPS TO PRIORITIZE JOY IN DATING (Bliss Break 3)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Mon, 6 Nov 2023 01:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our channel! In this quick captivating video, we aim to infuse your dating experiences with an abundance of JOY. Our team of relationship enthusiasts has dedicated years to studying the secrets of successful and JOYous dating. We understand that finding the right partner is not just about compatibility but also about creating memorable experiences that leave you feeling elated and fulfilled. We unlock the essential components that contribute to a JOYful dating experience. Embarking on a dating journey should not be intimidating or overwhelming – it should be filled with laughter, butterflies, and delightful surprises. Join us as we delve into effective strategies for building genuine connections and banishing negative perceptions about dating. Don't let fear or past disappointments hinder your search for happiness; instead, let us show you how to approach dating with an open heart and a JOY-seeking mindset. Subscribe to our channel now, hit that notification bell, and get ready to transform your dating journey into a captivating, JOY-filled adventure!

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addJOY to DATING (S7 E2 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 1 Nov 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Are you ready to inject some new excitement into your dating life? Look no further! In this captivating episode, we delve into the transformative journey of finding JOY in dating. Discover expert tips, creative ideas, and valuable insights that will surely spice up your romantic endeavors. Join us as we explore a variety of ways to enhance your dating experiences, making every moment count. Unleash your true potential as we share strategies for navigating the dating world with confidence and enthusiasm. Delve into the secrets of building a solid foundation for a joyful and fulfilling dating life. Subscribe now and embark on a vibrant and joyful journey towards a remarkable dating life!

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AN ADDJOY HOMECOMING (S7 E1 +addJOY)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 25 Oct 2023 04:00:00 +0000

In this exciting episode, we bring you the ultimate HBCU homecoming bliss, where we delve into the contagious joy and meaningful relationships that are forged during these vibrant festivities. Join us as we celebrate the spirit of Historically Black Colleges and Universities, shedding light on the incredible joy and profound connections that make these events so special. At HBCU homecomings, you can expect an exhilarating fusion of energetic performances, spirited step shows, electrifying football games, and amazing reunions. It's a time when students, alumni, and the surrounding community come together to create a collective experience bursting with pride, nostalgia, and camaraderie. By highlighting the heartwarming bonds and shared experiences that emerge during homecoming, we aim to showcase the immense value of historically Black institutions. HBCU homecomings have a unique power to unite people from diverse backgrounds, highlighting the importance of education, culture, and heritage. This episode captures the vibrant atmosphere, the smiling faces, and the uplifting moments that will leave you feeling inspired and connected to the HBCU community while entertaining you with our humor and amusement as we always do. Whether you're a current student, an alumnus, or simply captivated by the rich history and traditions of HBCUs, this is for you! Don't miss out on this exhilarating journey into HBCU homecoming bliss. Discover the infectious joy, lifelong friendships, and love for one's alma mater that permeate these celebrations. Join us as we delve into the magic that unfolds during this unforgettable season. Remember to like, share, and subscribe to our podcast for more captivating content. Thanks for listening!

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WHAT DETERMINES FAILURE + SUCCESS?! (S6 E6 Pride + Gratification)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve deep into the intriguing concept of success and failure, uncovering the genuine catalyst for pure JOY. Join us as we explore the captivating relationship between achievement and fulfillment, and discover the secret that truly determines our emotional state. Throughout this episode, we navigate the intricate dynamics behind attributing happiness to triumphs or setbacks. Through insightful commentary and in-depth analysis, we investigate the various factors that influence our perception of success and failure. Is it external validation, internal contentment, or a delicate balance of both? Join our engaging discussion as we strive to answer this complex question.

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THE DARK SIDE OF ACHIEVEMENT: Unmasking the JOY-killer (S6 E5 Pride + Gratification)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the detrimental impacts of achievement culture on our ability to experience true JOY. This eye-opening discussion sheds light on the hidden consequences of constantly striving for success and how it can hinder our pursuit of happiness. Join us as we explore the pressures of achievement culture and the toll it takes on our mental and emotional well-being. We uncover the unhealthy obsession with accomplishments that often leads to burnout, stress, and a perpetual sense of inadequacy. By dissecting the root causes and societal expectations associated with achievement, we aim to expose the joy-killer lurking beneath the surface. With insightful anecdotes and research-backed insights, this episode presents an alternative perspective on the pursuit of success. We challenge the prevailing notion that constant achievement equates to a fulfilling life and urge viewers to question the conventional wisdom surrounding it. Discover how to embrace a healthier approach to success that prioritizes personal growth, self-care, and genuine happiness. By shifting our mindset away from the ceaseless pursuit of achievements, we can reclaim our ability to find JOY in the present moment and lead more fulfilling lives.

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WE FIGURED OUT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PLEASURE + GRATIFICATION (S6 E4 Pride + Gratification)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 4 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve deep into the concept of Pleasure vs. Gratification and uncover the key to finding lasting happiness. Are you tired of chasing fleeting moments of pleasure and wondering why they never fulfill you in the long run? Look no further! Discover the fundamental differences between pleasure and gratification and learn how they impact our overall well-being. We explore how instant gratification often tricks us into temporary joy, only to leave us wanting more. However, real, lasting happiness lies in a different realm altogether.

https://mlcooper.com/gratifications-pleasures-knowing-fish-pond/

https://jennifermcnaught.com/2013/03/12/pleasure-vs-gratification/

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HOW DELAYED GRATIFICATION CAN UNLOCK YOUR JOY (S6 E3: Pride + Gratification)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 27 Sep 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our episode on "HOW DELAYED GRATIFICATION CAN UNLOCK YOUR JOY"! In this thought-provoking and inspiring discussion, we delve into the incredible benefits that come from embracing delayed gratification. Prepare to be amazed as we explore how this powerful concept can unlock an abundance of joy in your life. Join us as we uncover the secrets behind delayed gratification and its impact on our overall well-being. Discover how the ability to delay instant satisfaction can lead to long-term fulfillment and greater happiness. Gain valuable insights into the remarkable psychological and emotional effects that arise when we learn to overcome immediate desires for the sake of greater rewards down the road. In this captivating episode, we provide practical tips and strategies to implement delayed gratification in your own life. Learn how to set realistic goals, develop patience, and cultivate self-discipline for improved decision-making and increased satisfaction. Unlocking the power of delayed gratification can truly transform your life, enabling you to experience a newfound sense of fulfillment and joy like never before. Don't miss out on this eye-opening exploration on delayed gratification and its profound impact on happiness.

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IS PRIDE KEEPING YOU FROM JOY? (S6 E2 Pride + Gratification)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 20 Sep 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Humility, often misunderstood as a sign of weakness, actually plays a pivotal role in cultivating deep connections and fostering personal growth. By humbly recognizing our own imperfections and embracing a willingness to learn, we open ourselves up to valuable lessons and transformative experiences. On the other hand, authentic pride allows us to celebrate our accomplishments and capabilities without crossing the line into arrogance. By acknowledging our unique strengths and embracing them with a sense of gratitude, we not only boost our confidence but also inspire others to discover their own potential.

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WHAT DO PRIDE + GRATIFICATION HAVE TO DO WITH JOY? (S6 E1 PRIDE + GRATIFICATION)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our podcast! In this thought-provoking episode, we uncover the profound connection between pride and gratification and their significant role in experiencing true joy. Are you seeking a pathway to genuine, long-lasting happiness? Discover how embracing our accomplishments and feeling a sense of pride in our achievements can enhance our overall well-being. By recognizing the importance of acknowledging our progress and milestones, we can unlock the key to experiencing genuine joy in our lives. Throughout this episode, we delve into the various aspects of pride and gratification, exploring how these emotions are intricately intertwined with our personal growth and happiness. Gain valuable insights into how cultivating these emotions can positively impact our self-esteem, motivation, and overall satisfaction with life.

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UNWAVERING STRENGTH: Navigating Threats to Security + Confidence (S5 E9 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 6 Sep 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In today's world, where threats seem to loom large at every turn, it is essential to maintain unwavering strength, security, and confidence. Our latest video, titled "Unwavering Strength: Navigating Threats with Security and Confidence," delves deep into this crucial topic. In this thought-provoking video, we explore the strategies and mindset needed to withstand and navigate the numerous threats that challenge our security and confidence. Whether it's cyber threats, physical dangers, or even emotional obstacles, we provide valuable insights and actionable tips to help you fortify your defenses. Join us as we uncover the secrets to maintaining robust security measures while simultaneously building rock-solid confidence in the face of adversity. Our experienced panel of experts shares their wisdom, drawing from extensive research and real-life experiences, ensuring the information presented is both accurate and applicable to your daily life. We also shed light on the significance of mental and emotional well-being, emphasizing the indispensable role they play in navigating threats with unwavering strength. As you watch "Unwavering Strength: Navigating Threats with Security and Confidence," you will gain valuable insights into: 1. Identifying potential threats and understanding their implications. 2. Implementing effective security measures to safeguard against external dangers to your well-being. 3. Strengthening your emotional resilience to overcome internal challenges. 4. Boosting your confidence in uncertain situations. 5. Utilizing practical strategies to maintain security without compromising freedom. Don't let threats dictate your life; instead, learn how to proactively navigate them while staying grounded, secure, and confident. Empower yourself by watching our video today!

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EMBRACING OUR IMPERFECTIONS, PT. II (S5 E8 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 30 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this empowering video, join us as we dive deep into the transformative journey of self-acceptance and embracing one's imperfections. This insightful discussion brings forth the secret to unlocking true happiness. Discover how embracing your unique character and personality imperfections can be a catalyst for JOY in your life. We'll explore the importance of accepting ourselves wholly, flaws and all, and how this acceptance fosters genuine happiness and fulfillment. Through thought-provoking anecdotes and helpful tips, we'll guide you on a path to embracing your true self. Let go of the burden of striving for unattainable perfection and instead, celebrate your individuality. By understanding that imperfections make us beautifully human, you'll find the freedom to live authentically. Join our panel of experts as they share their wisdom on embracing imperfections and finding JOY along the way. Gain actionable insights on personal growth, self-love, and emotional well-being that will transform your outlook on life. Don't miss this opportunity to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock the door to pure JOY. Learn how embracing your character and personality imperfections can be the key to a happier, more fulfilling life. Watch now and start embracing yourself, imperfections and all, to unlock the JOY that awaits you!

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UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME: Dressing on Our Own Terms (Bliss Break 2)

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Sun, 27 Aug 2023 04:00:00 +0000

In this empowering short episode, we invite you to join us on a journey of self-expression and liberation. This thought-provoking piece challenges societal norms and encourages everyone to embrace their authentic style without fear or hesitation. Get ready to be inspired as we share personal stories, showcase diverse fashion statements, and discuss the importance of dressing in a way that truly reflects who we are inside. We believe that clothing is a powerful form of self-expression, enabling us to communicate our individuality, creativity, and unique perspectives to the world. With expert tips and tricks, we'll provide invaluable insights on how to curate a wardrobe that represents your true self. From bold and vibrant outfits to minimalistic and understated ensembles, there is no right or wrong way to express yourself through your clothing choices. It's all about embracing your own personal style and making a statement that resonates with you. Join our passionate community as we explore the freedom of dressing without conforming to societal standards. Through our affirming and inclusive content, we aim to empower individuals of all genders, backgrounds, and body types to break free from the shackles of fashion expectations and embrace their individuality unapologetically. So, if you're ready to embark on a transformational journey, to redefine your relationship with fashion, and to truly become "Unapologetically Me," this episode is for you. Remember, your style should be an expression of your inner self, and there's no better time than now to start dressing on your own terms. Like, share, and subscribe to our channel for more empowering content that encourages authenticity, self-love, and personal growth through fashion. Together, let's celebrate diversity, challenge fashion norms, and show the world that we will dress how we want to!

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EMBRACING OUR IMPERFECTIONS: The Power of Body Positivity for Self-Love (S5 E7 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 23 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

In this empowering episode, we delve deep into the importance of body positivity and how it unlocks the gateway to embracing our imperfections and cultivating genuine self-love. Join us on this journey of self-discovery as we unravel the transformative power that comes with embracing our unique bodies and banishing societal pressures and unrealistic beauty standards. Our expert speakers share insights and personal experiences that shed light on the toxic impact of body shaming and the incredible benefits of practicing self-acceptance. Discover how body positivity not only boosts confidence but also promotes mental well-being and helps foster a healthy relationship with ourselves. We explore practical tips and encouragement for embracing our flaws, reframing negative thoughts, and developing self-compassion. From celebrating our individuality to challenging traditional beauty norms, we uncover the tools needed to cultivate self-love and promote inclusivity. Join this illuminating conversation on the power of body positivity in shaping our self-perception and overall happiness. Let's reject society's unrealistic expectations and embrace our unique beauty, both inside and out! Don't miss out on this life-changing episode that will inspire you to prioritize self-acceptance, love yourself unconditionally, and empower others to do the same. Hit the play button now and embark on a journey of personal growth and body positivity!

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HOW TO INCREASE JOY IN YOUR LIFE: A Guide for Beginners (Bliss Break 1)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Mon, 21 Aug 2023 01:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our channel! In this Bliss Break (quick episodes to discuss how we can incorporate more JOY) we present a beginner’s guide to living a more joyful life. Our expert contributors will share 7 practical tips, tried-and-tested techniques, and profound wisdom to help you unlock the doors to everlasting joy. Discover how simple changes in your mindset and daily practices can lead to profound transformations. Join us as we explore various aspects of happiness enhancement, including effective mindfulness exercises, gratitude journaling, and fostering meaningful connections with loved ones. Our step-by-step instructions make it easy for beginners to follow along and implement these practices into their own lives. Each strategy is backed by extensive research and tailored for those who yearn to experience greater joy. Join our community of like-minded individuals seeking joy and personal growth, and let's embark on this transformative journey together! Subscribe to our channel for regular updates, life-changing insights, and more videos aimed at enhancing your happiness quotient. Don't forget to hit the notification bell to never miss any of our empowering content. Together, we can unlock the endless joy that awaits us!Welcome to our channel! In this Bliss Break (quick videos to discuss how we can incorporate more JOY) we present a beginner’s guide to living a more joyful life.Our expert contributors will share 7 practical tips, tried-and-tested techniques, and profound wisdom to help you unlock the doors to everlasting joy. Discover how simple changes in your mindset and daily practices can lead to profound transformations. Join us as we explore various aspects of happiness enhancement, including effective mindfulness exercises, gratitude journaling, and fostering meaningful connections with loved ones. Our step-by-step instructions make it easy for beginners to follow along and implement these practices into their own lives. Each strategy is backed by extensive research and tailored for those who yearn to experience greater joy. Join our community of like-minded individuals seeking joy and personal growth, and let's embark on this transformative journey together! Subscribe to our channel for regular updates, life-changing insights, and more videos aimed at enhancing your happiness quotient. Don't forget to hit the notification bell to never miss any of our empowering content. Together, we can unlock the endless joy that awaits us!

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KNOWING YOUR WORTH (S5 E6 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 16 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our podcast! In this empowering video we delve deep into the importance of understanding your true value. Join us on this transformative journey as we unveil the secrets to realizing your worth and cultivating long-lasting happiness. In a world that often undermines our self-confidence, it's crucial to recognize your worth and embrace it fully. We explore the incredible benefits that come with knowing your true value and how it can positively impact every aspect of your life. Through insightful discussions, practical tips, and inspiring anecdotes, we provide you with the tools to unlock the power within yourself. By understanding your worth, you gain the ability to set boundaries, make empowered decisions, and pursue your dreams with unwavering confidence. Discover how uncovering your worth enables you to attract and maintain healthy relationships, both personally and professionally. As we delve into the importance of self-care and self-love, you'll learn how valuing yourself influences your overall well-being and contributes to enduring joy.

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BOOSTING SELF CONFIDENCE TO UNLEASH YOUR GREATEST JOY (S5 E5 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Wed, 9 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Welcome to the empowering video on "Boosting Self-Confidence to Unleash Your Greatest JOY." In today's episode, we delve into the transformative journey of cultivating joy by nurturing self-confidence from within.

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DEFINING YOUR OWN SUCCESS: Building Confidence to Add Joy (S5 E4 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 2 Aug 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Welcome to this week's episode. Today we are diving deep into the keys to unlocking your true potential and finding fulfillment in your journey to success by clearly defining it for yourself and NOT according to others' standards. Are you ready to experience the unbounded joy that comes from defining your own path, establishing a sense of security, and boosting your self-confidence? Look no further! Join us as we explore the transformative concepts that will help you seize control of your life and truly thrive. Our expert speakers will guide you through practical strategies and powerful mindset shifts that will enable you to embrace confidence as a cornerstone of your daily life. Discover the importance of setting your own standards for success, free from societal pressures or external expectations. Unleash your inner strength as you learn how to navigate obstacles, conquer challenges, and create a life aligned with your deepest desires and not those of everyone else. Building self-confidence is an integral part of your joy journey. We'll share actionable tips and techniques to help develop an unshakable belief in your own abilities, allowing you to face any situation with courage and resilience. Together, we'll dismantle self-doubt and instill the confidence you need to conquer your goals. Don't miss out on this life-changing episode that merges powerful insights with practical advice, showing you how to define your own success, cultivate security, and radiate confidence. Join us on this journey towards becoming the best version of yourself!

https://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/definition-of-success.html

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BUILDING YOUR PERSONAL BRAND (S5 E3 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 26 Jul 2023 11:00:00 +0000

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Why is branding important?

It clarifies your identity
It makes you memorable
Encourages others to trust you
Supports your goals
Helps people decide to align with you…or not

What is branding?

B - blueprint: the master plan around someone’s experience with you. It should be delivered consistently across all areas of your life to help build trust and loyalty.
R - relationship: the thoughts, feelings, and psychological relationship between you and others.
A - agreement: your brand is your promise of what others will experience from relation with you.
N - nature: a brand is the inherent nature of you; your personality, your character, your style. It is the emotional association of who you are.
D - distinctive: branding makes you stand out from others. It is your own unique identity.

What are the positive things that make up your brand?

What are the negative things that make up your brand?

Ways to get clear about your brand:

Share your perceived brand with others. See if it stands.
Celebrate the things you feel promote you well.
Get clear about the things you would like to change. We can’t change things unless we announce the problem.
Having a clear brand helps you stand confidently in who you are

https://medium.com/@bharatharish/what-is-brand-c5db1ab2b47

FAITH IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT! (S5 E2 Security + Confidence)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 11:00:00 +0000

If you struggle with low self-confidence, this one’s for you! Remember: “you might fail. You might fall. Get back up. That is all.” -dana michelle The Faith it Until You Make It kit Start by asking yourself “what did I find anxiety-provoking at first, but is now relatively easy? We can do hard things. We tend to lack self-confidence when we are embarking on challenges that are new, hard, or both. Brainstorm this list when you’re in a good mood. It’s hard to recognize your successes when you’re already feeling low about yourself. Step back to gain perspective Take stock of the ways you know you’re good at things so you don’t get stuck thinking you’re a general loser Be specific about why you’re being hard on yourself mentally Objectively consider your failings so you can balance your thinking. You might not be perfect but you’re probably not terrible either Ask yourself “who am I comparing myself to?” If you have to compare yourself to anyone, let it be yourself so you can take notes on how far you’ve come because no one outside of yourself is your standard Consider that others’ accomplishments (much like your own) are interspersed with mistakes and mediocre results. You are just seeing the high moments. Recognize that feeling self-doubt doesn’t mean you’re off track. Self -doubt is an evolved signaling system. It prompts us to think carefully about what we’re actually doing. While it is uncomfortable, it has some benefits too Know what you need to weather the storm and bounce back Understand what you’re in need of. Nurturing? Social strategies? Physical strategies? Behavioral strategies? Troubleshoot self-sabotaging patterns How to be more confident Keep confidence quotes in your space Keep a photograph of when you felt most confident and list out what got you there Build a confident mindset. Tell yourself you can. Compare yourself kindly Actively shake off your self-doubt Take safe risks. Challenge yourself to do something just beyond your comfort zone. Know your talents and help them shine Do your homework Dare to be the real you While waiting to become your best version of you, keep this in mind: If you prayed for it, prepare for it. At addJOY, we believe that everyone deserves to lead a joyful, secure, and confident life. Our expert team of knowledgeable individuals is here to guide you towards unlocking the power within yourself. Embark on this transformational journey with us and witness the immense positive change it can bring to your life. Subscribe to our channel for regular updates on personal growth, self-discovery, and practical strategies for accessing your full JOY journey. Don't miss out on entertaining discussions and life-changing insights that can empower you to create the joyful life you've always envisioned.

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If you struggle with low self-confidence, this one’s for you!

Remember: “you might fail. You might fall. Get back up. That is all.” -dana michelle

The Faith it Until You Make It kit

Start by asking yourself “what did I find anxiety-provoking at first, but is now relatively easy?

We can do hard things. We tend to lack self-confidence when we are embarking on challenges that are new, hard, or both.
Brainstorm this list when you’re in a good mood. It’s hard to recognize your successes when you’re already feeling low about yourself.

Step back to gain perspective

Take stock of the ways you know you’re good at things so you don’t get stuck thinking you’re a general loser
Be specific about why you’re being hard on yourself mentally
Objectively consider your failings so you can balance your thinking. You might not be perfect but you’re probably not terrible either

Ask yourself “who am I comparing myself to?”

If you have to compare yourself to anyone, let it be yourself so you can take notes on how far you’ve come because no one outside of yourself is your standard
Consider that others’ accomplishments (much like your own) are interspersed with mistakes and mediocre results. You are just seeing the high moments.

Recognize that feeling self-doubt doesn’t mean you’re off track.

Self -doubt is an evolved signaling system. It prompts us to think carefully about what we’re actually doing.
While it is uncomfortable, it has some benefits too

Know what you need to weather the storm and bounce back

Understand what you’re in need of. Nurturing? Social strategies? Physical strategies? Behavioral strategies?
Troubleshoot self-sabotaging patterns

How to be more confident

Keep confidence quotes in your space
Keep a photograph of when you felt most confident and list out what got you there
Build a confident mindset. Tell yourself you can.
Compare yourself kindly
Actively shake off your self-doubt
Take safe risks. Challenge yourself to do something just beyond your comfort zone.
Know your talents and help them shine
Do your homework
Dare to be the real you

While waiting to become your best version of you, keep this in mind:

If you prayed for it, prepare for it.

S5 E1 Security + Confidence: Why Are Security + Confidence Important?

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 12 Jul 2023 10:50:00 +0000

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Why are Security + Confidence important?

Confidence keeps us ready for life
- Believing in yourself means you believe in your decisions
- You’re more likely to move forward with people and opportunities
- Confidence helps us to be resilient
You have less fear and anxiety
- Helps you calm the negative voice
- Keeps you from mulling over worries and perceived mistakes
You have greater motivation
- Perseverance
- You’ll be more self-driven
More resilient
- Gives you the skills and coping methods to handle setbacks and failure
- Helps you see how failure leads to your growth
Improves your relationships
- With more self-confidence, you actually focus on yourself less
- You’re not so focused on the impression you leave when you’re confident
- Breeds deeper empathy because you can be fully present
Stronger sense of your authentic self
- You can easily accept your weaknesses and understand they don’t change your self-worth
- Your actions will be aligned with your principles (you’ll understand your brand)
Helps to keep you believing in Yourself
- Compliments can’t boost your confidence if you don’t believe them too
- Only way you can feel capable is by doing and succeeding
- You build your confidence by learning and practicing and taking pride in your own achievements
- We can do hard things

S4 E9 Savoring + Appreciation: Mystify the Moment

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Wed, 5 Jul 2023 10:45:00 +0000

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Today we are going to talk about staying in the moment. Remaining present to appreciate the right-now. The moment could mean this minute, this week, this year…or this time in your life in general.
- We are focusing on goals when we should be focusing on the current moment…because it might be the goal!
- We keep focusing on the larger legacy. What if the legacy is the life you’re living right now?
  - This life right now is magical
  - All your trials and tribulations are right where you’re supposed to be so savor it
  - The strongest way for you to show up in this life is to love you: who you are, where you are, what you are right now; not who you will be, where you will be, what you will accomplish in the future
  - You are currently sitting inside someone’s dream. You don’t know their name but this was their everyday work and art
- Survival vs. thrival
  - We’ve passed on the psychological legacy of survival so we never consider what thriving is
  - We have to reshape what thriving is so we can then teach that to our children
- We teach others that - to be a good person - we have to pour into others
  - Why don’t we make the effort to savor the moment and purposely pour into ourselves?
  - We struggle to be good to ourselves, but fight to be good to others
- We think of ourselves as masters of our lives, but don’t slow down to learn our own lessons
  - We tell others it is your right to slow down, to say no, to prioritize you…and then we don’t do it
- We insist the world needs us…if we don’t slow down and savor the moments, we won’t be here in the world to share our gifts with the world
  - Slow EVERYTHING in life down
  - Mystify this moment in a way that you recognize how important it is to be here, alive, in this second, minute, time with other people who are also here, alive, in this second, minute, and time. There’s a reason for this 7 billion people to be here versus tomorrow’s 7 billion
- If we don’t start savoring and honoring these moments, we will get to the end of our lives and realize we have not lived them
  - We get caught up in the perfectionism of it all. Am I raising perfect children? Am I working perfectly at my job? Am I the perfect friend?
  - Perfectionism means there is no room for improvement
  - Therefore, perfectionism means the end or death of a thing
  - There is a time and a place for perfection. It is at completion. Prior to that, we are still in our editing and revising stages. First we do the brainstorming, the vision boarding, then the writing. All those original messy parts were necessary to complete the masterpiece novel that I’m writing. It’s ok if you are in the vision board era of your life. Savor it.
  - Savoring the moment is in the messy. This is the part we shouldn’t be afraid to share. If I’m always focused on the finality of a thing, I can’t give the current moment its just due.
  - People put things down because they feel it’s not perfect right away. It’s not supposed to. Your life isn’t perfect until it’s over.

S4 E8 Savoring + Appreciation: Appreciation

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 11:00:00 +0000

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Why is it important to appreciate those things and people you love?
- It boosts others physically: directly tied to a surge in dopamine (for the person being appreciated and the person appreciating)
- It gets the best out of a person and keeps them motivated
- It supports well-being
- It helps people feel valued
- It makes people feel supported when you cultivate the relationship as a sign of appreciation
- It makes people more willing to pay it forward
- It trains
- It builds trust
- It helps people to like you more: “people who give recognition are better liked and perceived as more innovative than those who don’t”
- It creates a positive atmosphere
- It helps YOU practice gratitude: when you commit to appreciation, your life becomes richer, full of color, and more satisfying
Things to remember when appreciating others
- It doesn’t have to be big and showy
- Be consistent: it’s hard to remember you’re appreciated if it’s rare or a one time thing aligned to special occasions
  - “Recognition might be the most underused tool for influencing morale and productivity in the workplace”
- Describe what the person did that you appreciate and be specific
- Describe the impact for the thing you’re appreciating
- Don’t weaken praise with criticism
- Be intentional and learn their love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, tangible gifts, and physical touch
Some creative ways to show appreciation
- Be hyperbolic and show some enthusiasm
- Vary your vocabulary: find multiple ways to thank others repeatedly while still sounding natural
- Get specific: add “for” at the end of your initial phrase of gratitude
- Make it public: in a meeting, group chat, Instagram story, etc.
- Share a list of your favorite things about them
- Write a handwritten letter
- Get deep
  - I cannot thank you enough.
  - Words cannot express how much you mean to me.
  - I am more grateful to you than you’ll ever know.
  - I’m eternally grateful.
  - I'll never forget your support and kindness.

S4 E7 SPECIAL EPISODE: +addJOY to Grief

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 21 Jun 2023 04:00:00 +0000

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Why is it important to Add Joy to everything, including grief?
- It’s easy to have joy in joyous situations, times of grief are when we need JOY the most. But we need to practice it regularly for it to be functional in difficult times.
- We are not suggesting that one be fake or pretend that they are filled with glee when in mourning. We ARE suggesting that joy is possible in the midst of grieving, and that staying in touch with one’s joy can get you through situations more smoothly.
- Because the reality is…life does indeed go on. We still have to raise children, pay mortgages, return to work, and be present for the people that are still here. Tapping into a joy reserve helps us to still live while mourning one who has died.
- It honors the person we lost. No one ever thinks of a lost loved one and imagines the person wishing for their surviving family and friends to be heartbroken and hurting for extended periods of time. In fact quite the opposite. It gives your ancestors honor when they watch you enjoy life, not lament the loss of theirs.
How do we find joy in the midst of such sadness
- Use the AddJoy principles. Literally each one is a recipe for how to bring light into darkness
- Connection + Belonging - sometimes a death is what catapults relationships among the remaining family members. Make good on the vow to cherish one another.
- Awe + Wonderment - if you find yourself crippled with grief, find something that sparks awe and wonderment. Witnessing the awesomeness of the universe can minimize feelings of being picked on by God.
- Humor + Amusement - allow yourself to laugh about the lost loved one. Tell a funny story at the funeral service to remind people that the person brought joy.
- Generosity + Giving - think of a way to honor the person by establishing a scholarship or making a donation to a charity that they would have appreciated. Become a warrior for those that are still living by giving of time and energy in your lost one’s name.
- Kindness + Courtesy - people often regret the last conversations they have with a lost loved one. Minimize those regrets by increasing your overall kindness. Use kind words even in tense situations. Think of the impact just being courteous on the tone of a relationship.
- Attitude + Mindset - (this is a tough one) change your relationship with death. What if we got excited about a person’s transition to another realm? What if instead of focusing on us losing them, we focused on what they have gained? What if we saw death as a transition? What if instead of thinking we will never speak to the person again, we got excited about being able to speak to them all the time?
- Patience + Endurance - patience allows us to accept troubles without being so troubled. Endurance allows us to survive hardships without being broken. Though one’s ability to wade through dark waters is truly tested during times of grief, pulling on these principles make these waters more navigable.
- Health + Wellness - when we lose someone to something specific, we can become intent about not letting the same fate befall us or others. We sometimes throw ourselves into exercise or diets, determined to stave off the illness that took our loved one. What we want to do is have a renewed focus on our overall wellness. Increase your wellness by developing and maintaining healthy habits.
- Savoring + Appreciation - take the time to delve into the lost person. Sometimes we really get to truly know a person after they are gone because we see them more objectively, or find out the awesome things about them after death. Celebrate those things. Relish in the people who remain. Let reflecting on the moments you had with your parent inspire you to create meaningful moments with your child.
- Pride + Gratification - brag on that lost person. Let folks know who they were and why their presence on earth was so meaningful. That sense of gratification and pride can help with the healing process simply by bringing a smile to your face when talking about them.
- Security + Confidence - know that you were loved. You were comforted. You were cared for by this person. Rest in the knowledge that they gave you their best, even if your needs exceeded what they had. Let that love boost your sense of self-worth.
- Soul + Spirit - The soul has to do with the relationship to the self while spirit has to do with one’s relationship to a higher power or non-material being. Tapping into soul and spirit reminds you that the person is not gone. They forever exist in memories, in the faces of their children and grandchildren, in the legacies they’ve created. That person mattered. Let that fact add joy and comfort you during the grieving process.

S4 E6 Savoring + Appreciation: Savor + Appreciate YOU!

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 14 Jun 2023 11:00:00 +0000

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Savoring Self

“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means to escape.” -bell hooks

Why you need to savor yourself
- Keeps your cup full. Helps you to keep that feeling in your reserves when you feel depleted from a lack of others savoring you.
- Point of savoring is to slow down and intensify that moment. Do it for yourself too.
- Lets you know whether you’re being treated well.
- Keeps your self-esteem in a healthy place.
- Keeps you in a place of balance so you don’t trash yourself so quickly.
How to prep for savoring yourself
- Clear the distractions. Get the sitter ready. Take off of work.
- Treat yourself like the most important appointment for that day
- Do not apologize nor justify it. Just do it.
- Make a list of your favorite things so you can prepare to have them on hand.
- Prep for the necessities. The outfit you need to lay out. The reservation you may need to make. etc.
What to do on a day of self-appreciation
- Wake up when you want to
- Get the food YOU savor
- Play your favorite songs
- Spritz your favorite scent
- No obligatory behaviors period
- Make the phone calls or have the conversations that center you and bring you joy
- At the end of the day, reflect on how great the day has been and put the NEXT self-appreciation day on the calendar

addJOY Trailer

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 05:35:37 +0000

Come find out what addJOY is all about! Our podcast is a place where we share information, sing songs, and laugh all while discussing how we encourage you to add joy to your everyday lives.

S4 E5 Savoring + Appreciation: Appreciating the Challenges, the Hard Stuff, and the Rough Patches

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Wed, 7 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Savoring and appreciating the challenges, the hard stuff, the rough patches
- Be grateful for the things you wouldn’t have chosen for yourself
- Reevaluate that which you call an obstacle
- Savor the little things in the midst of adversity
- Look for beauty
- Appreciate the ones going through it with you
- “Bow to your opponent”
- Find value in the fruit of the difficult time
- Morehouse Brother’s meme: “hey, it wasn’t the trauma that made you stronger, kinder and more empathetic…it’s how you handled it. That credit is yours.”
- Embrace failure
- Identify the purpose for your pain and then find value in that purpose
Why is it important to savor and appreciate the difficult parts of one’s life?
- It builds resistance
- It improves your decision making
- It humbles you…in a good way
- It brings out the you, YOU didn’t even know existed.
- It gets you out of old habits and patterns that are no longer serving you
- It can shorten the healing time
- It teaches you how, and when, to let go

S4 E4 Savoring + Appreciation: How to Savor SomeBODY!

info@addjoy.me (addJOY) — Wed, 31 May 2023 04:00:00 +0000

Savoring the people in your life helps you to:

Promote healthy attachment
Enhance life quality for people engaging in relationships
Cultivates healthy connective functioning
Helps others adjust to their role in your life
Helps us adapt to the stressors that come from being in relation with others (as caregivers, as breadwinners, as mentors, as mentees, etc.)
Nurture family ties
Reduces conflict
Increases job performance
Improves mental and physical health
Promotes engagement and learning
Reduces anxiety in relationships

Reactive vs. Proactive Savoring of People

Reactive: happens naturally and spontaneously
- Merely requires awareness of an ongoing positive experience one has not intentionally created, but can savor
- Fosters the joy of surprise
- Only reminisce when external circumstances bring positive memories to mind
Proactive: deliberate and grows from seeking out positive experiences to savor
- Effortful allocation of time and energy to create a positive experience “from scratch” with others
- Fosters the joy of anticipation of a person’s presence
- Reminiscing serves to keep one’s storehouse of pleasant memories fresh and accessible
- Anticipation can heighten the joy of positive events with others both before and during their occurrence

Ways to appreciate others:

Be present
Say thank you
Listen empathetically
Be specific in your praise
Make small sacrifices
Be available
Compliment them…often
Pay it forward
Be loyal to them
Engage in activities THEY enjoy
Take something off their plate, permanently
Write the words down
Know their love language
Brag about them in public, admonish them in private
Reciprocate

S4 E3 Savoring + Appreciation: Ready Or Not...I’ll Savor Evarythang...And Mooooore!

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 24 May 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Inspiring Savoring Activities
- Sharing with others
  Actively seeking and including other people in personal positive experiences and listening to shared stories about past events or future plans can amplify positive emotions. They might point out relevant positive details we may have missed from an event. Also, watching their emotional response can increase one’s own positive emotions.
- Memory building
  By intentionally creating a memory, people can choose the elements from that experience that evoke more pleasure in order to savor that moment to the fullest. Taking a mental picture of an event or keeping a journal or scrapbook to document special moments are some examples of how to build memories.
- Self-congratulation
  Savoring individual or collective success by relishing achievements is another way to amplify positive feelings.
- Sensory-perceptual sharpening
  Purposefully focusing attention on specific features of an experience can enable people to deepen their positive experience or explore it in more detail. Sitting in front of the ocean with your eyes closed while listening to the sound of the waves is a way to narrow your attention and enhance the inner delight generated from the sound.
- Comparing
  Taking time to reflect on how a particular experience is better is another savoring strategy. You can compare the experience to a different setting (counterfactual comparison), the past (temporal comparison), or what other people experience (social comparison) to increase and prolong positive emotions.
- Absorption
  Although similar to flow, absorption requires periods of awareness of positive emotions while being immersed and engaged in a particular experience. This can promote the sensation of slowing down and the feeling of positive moments being prolonged.
- Behavioral expression
  By physically manifesting positive emotions, people can amplify those feelings. Some examples of expressing emotion may include laughing, shouting, and clapping while celebrating a special occasion.
- Temporal awareness
  Bringing awareness to the fleeting nature of a positive experience can motivate people to savor the moment and make the most out of it before it ends.
- Counting blessings
  By attending to and reflecting on a positive experience and the reasons one might be grateful for that experience, people can foster positive feelings.
- Avoiding kill-joy thinking
- Evading downplay and devaluation of positive experiences by not focusing on imperfections can promote lasting positive feelings. However, this might apply only to some cultures, since some contexts value dampening strategies to regulate positive emotions

S4 E2 Savoring + Appreciation: This is the Flavor That We Savor Up in Here, Neighbor!

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 17 May 2023 04:00:00 +0000

You have to have preconditions to fully savor a thing
- Being able to connect to the present moment
- Freedom from urgent responsibilities
- Basic physical and psychological needs are covered
- Presence of mindfulness and meta-awareness of positive experiences
Differences between savoring and other similar concepts
- Mindfulness
  Although savoring involves mindfulness, it is a much narrower process. Savoring involves intentionally attending to the present experience, specifically focusing on internal or external stimuli exclusively related to positive feelings.
- Meditation
  Savoring also differs from meditation in that savoring does not aim to transcend the self, but to focus on pleasant feelings experienced by the self.
- Daydreaming
- Savoring differs from daydreaming since the latter implies detachment from the immediate environment; savoring implies drawing experiences from that environment.
- Flow
  Although flow involves enjoyment of the activity in which people engage in, it entails much less conscious attention to the experience than savoring. Additionally, savoring does not necessarily involve challenge.
Benefits of savoring life
- Counterbalances unpleasant or stressful situations
- It boosts your happiness even if you have fewer positive experiences
- Predicts higher levels of life satisfaction, happiness, and perceived control
- Can predict decreased depressive symptoms, anxiety, and social phobias
- Influences satisfaction in long-distance relationships
- Increases all levels in relationships and self-esteem in that relationship by being able to relate positive experiences
- Helps with work-life balance
- Promotes positive relationships when experiencing a wholehearted response to a narrated positive event by other people

https://positivepsychology.com/savoring/

S4 E1 Savoring + Appreciation: What Does it Mean to Savor a Thing?

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 10 May 2023 11:00:00 +0000

We live in a fast paced world making it hard to slow down and truly savor a thing.
- “Intentionally placing our attention on positive events and prolonging the positive feelings that arise can buffer against negative health outcomes and enable wellbeing.”
Savoring vs. coping; thriving vs. surviving
Requires action on the part of the person doing the savoring and requires the focus on experiencing a delight
It is intimately related to pleasure but cannot be fully felt without becoming aware of the pleasure and appreciating the positive emotions that derive from the actual experience
Savoring cannot happen without mindfulness and a meta-awareness
3 types of savoring
- The past or “reminiscing”
- The present or “savoring the moment”
- The future or “anticipation”
3 levels of savoring
- Savoring experiences
- Savoring processes
- Savoring responses

https://positivepsychology.com/savoring/

S3 E5 Awe + Wonderment: The Wrap Up

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 3 May 2023 11:00:00 +0000

How can you tell when you are truly in awe of something?
- When your mind can’t wrap itself around something
- When something is awe-evoking, it’s difficult to conceive of it fully
How do awe and wonder differ?
- Awe is brief. It’s like you the short circuiting of your brain when you can’t understand something. In fact, you may immediately try to find answers. So then awe induces wonderment.
- Wonderment is longer lasting and is the curiosity behind a thing.
How does awe help you lead a fuller life?
- A full life tends to be one that feels full of purpose and meaning.
- Awe can help you feel like you’re part of the larger whole. It helps to facilitate the feeling of purpose and meaning.
- Being in awe keeps you in a constant state of growing and learning and helps you look forward to more in life.
- As humans, we find awe sufficiently rewarding
  - The things we build: pyramids, cathedrals, temples, structures
  - We create art, music, performances to awe others
Speaking of performances…FB conversation

In anticipation of Savoring + Appreciation

You admire someone’s hair/fit/accessory/car etc that you asked for the number of the person responsible.
You dip down low and appreciate a fit so tough that you give the person dap at their ankles.
You start hitting the person so angered by the state of wonderment they took you to.
The slow roll, the pepper see, the wop, the cabbage patch you break into when your friend got the job.
The way you appreciate the in the past when you hear good news and say, I knew it!

S3 E4 Awe + Wonderment: I'm in Awe of My Damn Self!

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 26 Apr 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Why self-awe is important

It’s honest. Considering yourself mediocre just isn’t true.
It reminds you, you are part of something greater
It clarifies your mission
It removes your limitations. Anything is possible if you are in awe of yourself and believe that the world needs the gifts you possess.

How to increase your self-awe

Body gratitude exercise
Acknowledge weaknesses and note how you’ve managed them
Celebrate your strengths
Stop waiting for others to affirm you, affirm yourself so regularly, the comments of others are icing
Do daily reminders of your awesomeness
Reflect upon your compliments rather than dismissing them
Recognize that many of your accomplishments are attributable to your wondrousness, not luck.

S3 E3 Awe + Wonderment: Amen!

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 19 Apr 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Why should you experience awe + wonderment often:
- Mood motivator
- Makes you more satisfied in life
- Good for your physical and mental health
- Helps you think more critically
- Decreases materialism
- Humbles you
- Expands your perception of time
- Makes you more generous and cooperative
- Makes you feel more connected to humanity
How do you know when you’re missing it?
- You devalue the ordinary
- Myopic viewpoints
- Diversity irritates you
- Chronic lack of satisfaction
- You lack creativity and are obsessed with the practical
- You’re often fearful

S3 E2 Awe + Wonderment: Be Stunned by the Wondrousness of a Thing!

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Who experiences awe most naturally?
- Children
- Older people
- Women
- Income and location are not as important as one may think
- Spirituality and awe are connected

The Most Common Source of Awe: Moral Beauty

Kindness
Strength
Overcoming adversity
Actions of strangers
“Exceptional virtue, character, and ability, marked by a purity and goodness of intention and action”

S3 E1 Awe + Wonderment: What is Awe + Wonderment?

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 5 Apr 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Definition of Awe + Wonderment
- Our definition
- Other definitions
  - “Being in the presence of something vast and mysterious that transcends your current understanding of the world”
Study by University of Central Florida
- People who are more religious tend to experience it less often (This is God’s work) and already expect things to be awesome
- Comes with a sense of “peace and introspection” that can be applied to therapeutic practices
- Closely related to curiosity and humility
Some examples of when you have experienced awe and wonderment:
- Seeing your child’s face for the first time
- A landscape with incredible beauty
- Someone with great talent or ability
- Forces of nature
- Being moved by extreme levels of virtuousness or kindness
- Supernatural experiences
- *personal stories
Use awe and wonderment when feeling stagnant to jumpstart your life or an experience.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/whats_the_most_common_source_of_awe&sa=D&source=docs&ust=1680562105206950&usg=AOvVaw1Q7nRanhS8vqTyu0-YC-6I

And if you want to be awed by some 4th grade art: https://www.artsonia.com/museum/gallery.asp?project=2580052&fbclid=IwAR2fdzRz-0EAcOhO7V6b304pDZp1csDP2MC8OWxjHuMu6LMRUQdGgJSpJKc

S2 E 6 Attitude + Mindset: But What If...

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 29 Mar 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Attitude: how your mindset is reflected and manifested in your personality and what you physically do so we wanted to give some examples of how to keep a healthy attitude in some of the trickiest situations

I am getting a divorce.

Talk about the joy it brought you instead.
What did the hurt teach you?
Find something new to look forward to.
Accept that you both could have done better, but now learn from the lesson.
Pour into other relationships you might have neglected
Do a relaunch

I just lost my job.

Allow yourself to feel the pain and grief of losing your job. Having a positive outlet means you get up after life let you down.
Create a plan and take care of the basics as opposed to focusing on the uncertainty.
Take this as an opportunity to get clear about your dream job.
Focus on the long-term instead of the short-term.
Do a life-edit

Someone I loved dearly just died.

Celebrate the life lived.
Keep a gratitude journal specifically about that person.
Ask for the comfort you need.
Delegate what you can.
Don’t feel guilty for moments of joy

I recently developed a major illness.

Take the invitation to slow down
Put effort into researching your own improvement plan.
Treat yourself to some self-care every day.
Practice meditation.
See health as a process not an outcome
Avoid seeing the illness as an identity, it is only one part of your life

S2 E 5 Attitude + Mindset: I Got a New Attitude

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 22 Mar 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Attitude: how your mindset is reflected and manifested in your personality and what you physically do

Attitudes can be positive, negative, and uncertain

Your attitude determines how you react with the world. It’s external.

Ruled by your conscious mind and is the 5% that your 95% mindset sets in motion
Determined by watching actions
Attitudes can be “faked” or “feigned”

First, get clear about your attitudes

Stop comparing yourself out loud or showing evidence of it outright
- Recognize you and everyone else is unique and different…and should be!
- Develop your own set of standards of what good character is so you aren’t using someone else’s measuring stick
- But also, surround yourself with people with positive attitudes
Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially, sexually…
- Internal dialogue becomes external behavior
- If you don’t feel cared for, it’s hard to care for others in the world
- You can’t pour from an empty cup
- Find what fulfills you and do it regularly…not when you’ve run out of steam and are in crisis
Build up your self-confidence and look like it
- Tell yourself how amazing you are for what you’ve already accomplished (write yourself love notes, don’t take opportunities to belittle yourself, etc.)
- Keep yourself motivated so you can keep going when it’s hard to accomplish difficult tasks (ask yourself for help when you need it, be unwilling to let yourself down)
Believe in yourself
- If you don’t, who will?
Laugh…often
- If you spend time laughing, you won’t spend time frowning
Permit yourself to be loved
- Stop sabotaging your relationships because you’ve told yourself you’re unworthy
- Open yourself to the possibility of it…everywhere
- Act like a person who is loved instead of the person who has been wounded

https://www.clarke.edu/campus-life/health-wellness/counseling/articles-advice/developing-a-positive-attitude/

S2 E4 Attitude + Mindset: Developed Mindsets - “instead of focusing on what you can’t change, focus on what you can create”

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Mindset: the set of ways you choose to think and feel about things

Your mindset determines how you perceive the world. It’s internal.

Subconscious mind and powers about 95% of how we behave
Determined by asking questions
Mindset stays with you unless you change it
A positive mindset will help you reach your goals. A negative one will hold you back.
Helps you to not focus on the things you can’t change, but rather focus on things you can create.
Can be changed with practice and effort.

First get clear about your mindset

Sometimes we develop mindsets from a place of fear
- Embrace your fears
  - Embrace pain, failure, and disappointment
  - Discover how you can use these “negative” feelings to learn from them
  - Understand that you can still have joy while feeling these things
Sometimes we develop mindsets from a place of desiring perfection
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Treat yourself and others well…because you’re both worth it
Sometimes we develop mindsets because we don’t know any better
- Study and read books by people with positive mindsets
- Learn stories about people who have found joy after diversity
Sometimes we develop mindsets from bad habits
- Challenge all of your negative thoughts
  - Your negative thoughts are what develop stress and anxiety; your positive thoughts are what develops joy
    - Negative thoughts do not help you prepare; uncertain ones do
- Train yourself to expect the good. Whether it happened or not, you stayed in a state of joy
Sometimes we develop negative mindsets because it’s all we see
- Visualize joy
  - You will start to see the world as open to your wildest dreams and a better life
  - You will get what you expect

The characteristics associated with a positive mindset:

Optimism: a willingness to make an effort and take a chance instead of assuming your efforts won’t pay off.
Acceptance: acknowledging that things don’t always turn out how you want them to, but learning from your mistakes.
Resilience: bouncing back from adversity, disappointment, and failure instead of giving up.
Gratitude: actively, continuously appreciating the good things in your life
Consciousness/Mindfulness: dedicating the mind to conscious awareness and enhancing the ability to focus.
Integrity: the trait of being honorable, righteous, and straightforward, instead of deceitful and self-serving

https://positivepsychology.com/positive-mindset/

S2 E3 Attitude + Mindset: What do your attitude and mindset tell YOU about YOU?! Pt. II

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 8 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Do more of this:

Satisfy your joy
Reframe your perceived flaws
Use different language
Aim higher and believe it’s possible
See the letdowns as opportunities for come-ups: your curse might be your blessing
Fully value you
- That which you value, you honor and protect

This is how you can tell that a positive mindset about yourself has been created.

You keep yourself encouraged
You build up your own self-confidence
You deal with stress in healthy ways
You develop a joyful personality

We did some research with these articles:

https://medium.com/mind-cafe/14-mindset-changes-thatll-help-you-to-love-yourself-more-d5424b686696

https://positivepsychology.com/positive-mindset/

S2 E2 Attitude + Mindset: What do your attitude and mindset tell YOU about YOU?!

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 1 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Your attitudes and mindsets determine what you think of you and how you present in the world

Positive Mindset for You

You don’t have to believe in positivity; just believe in change
They can only impact your life in two ways. Decide which one it will be.
Things will always go wrong. Be open to the possibility of solutions more than the possibility of demise
If you don’t focus on the “failure,” even when things go wrong, it does not affect your future. If you do focus on “failure,” even when things go right, you’re anticipating the next wrong thing.

Attitudes about self: What are you telling you about you?

Reframing negative self-talk into constructive questions
- What can I learn from this?
- What could I have done differently?
- How might this experience prove to benefit me

Do less of this:

Stop allowing others’ praise to make you feel good about you (the praise of others feels good, but your self-praise feels great)
Stop measuring your self-worth based on achievements or goals (achievements and goals are not the only means through which we can measure our worth)
Stop the self-sabotage (look for the ways you are sabotaging yourself)
Don’t lie about who you are (be honest about who you are)
Don’t accept other people’s bs opinions about you if you have no reason to value their judgment (this is an offshoot of the first bullet. Analyze why certain people’s judgements matter to you so greatly)
Don’t believe you don’t belong (believe that you belong)
Don’t be a yes man (learn when to say yes and when to say no)
Don’t despair about what you can’t change (try not to wallow in what cannot be changed in your past)

We did some research with this article: https://medium.com/mind-cafe/14-mindset-changes-thatll-help-you-to-love-yourself-more-d5424b686696

S2 E1 Attitude + Mindset: Season Opener

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Why are Attitude + Mindset important?

Attitudes make up your mindset and your mindset is probably the most important factor in how you present in the world.

Mindset: the set of ways you choose to think and feel about things
Your mindset determines how you perceive the world. It’s internal.
- Subconscious mind and powers about 95% of how we behave
- Determined by asking questions
- Mindset stays with you unless you change it
- A positive mindset will help you reach your goals. A negative one will hold you back.
- Can be changed with practice and effort.
Attitude: how it is reflected and manifests in your personality
- Attitudes can be positive, negative, and uncertain
Your attitude determines how you react with the world. It’s external.
- Conscious mind and powers about 5% of our thinking and actions
- Determined by watching actions
- Attitudes can be “faked” or “feigned”

SEASON FINALE (S1 E8 Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 15 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Welcome to the Season Finale Celebration of our first season of Connection + Belonging! In this joy-filled episode, we wrap up an unforgettable season that delved deep into the essence of belonging and its profound impact on our lives. Join us as we reflect on the heartwarming stories and transformative lessons shared throughout this empowering series. Throughout this season, we explored the various facets of connection and its significance. From the realms of friendship and family bonds to the uplifting sense of community, we witnessed how genuine connections generate a sense of belonging, infusing our lives with purpose and joy. Catch a glimpse of heart-to-heart conversations that brought tears of joy, laughter, and motivation. We've touched on the importance of open communication, cultivating empathy, and finding common ground to build stronger relationships. Together, we've learned that every journey to true belonging begins with embracing our authentic selves and fostering inclusion among others. Relive the invaluable advice, actionable tips, and empowering strategies that were shared by our renowned experts and individuals who've embraced the power of connection. From creating a supportive network to nurturing meaningful friendships, we've discovered effective ways to foster connections that enhance our overall well-being. As we bid goodbye to this exceptional season, we want to express our deepest gratitude to our incredible loyal viewers and dedicated supporters. It is your enthusiasm and support that has made this season so remarkable. We couldn't have done it without you! Stay tuned for more exciting episodes in the future as we continue to explore the endless possibilities of connection + belonging. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this season finale celebration with your loved ones, spreading the message of empowerment and unity. Thank you again for joining us on this incredible journey. Let's embrace the power of connection and build a future filled with belonging, joy, and unwavering togetherness. Together, we can make a difference!

FOSTERING A SENSE OF BELONGING IN THE WORKPLACE (S1 E7: Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Kanika Bell Ph.D.) — Wed, 8 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our episode on "FOSTERING A SENSE OF BELONGING IN THE WORKPLACE". In today's fast-paced world, creating a joyful connection within our workspace has become essential for overall productivity and employee satisfaction. In this episode, we will delve into effective strategies and tips to cultivate a stronger sense of belonging, resulting in a happier and more vibrant workplace. Discover the transformative power of nurturing a culture that prioritizes happiness and connection. We will explore various proven techniques to promote inclusion, build trust, and encourage collaboration among team members. By implementing these ideas, you can create an environment where employees feel valued, supported, and motivated to contribute their best. Learn how to establish clear and open lines of communication, fostering effective employee engagement. We will provide insights on enhancing workplace relationships, encouraging open dialogue, and active listening. Our expert speakers will share their invaluable experiences and offer practical advice to help you create an atmosphere where everyone feels heard and appreciated. Moreover, we will discuss the significance of recognizing and celebrating individual and team achievements. By acknowledging employee contributions, you can cultivate a sense of pride and belonging that boosts morale and enhances overall job satisfaction. We'll share strategies for fostering a culture of recognition and reward, ultimately creating an environment where employees are inspired to excel. At the heart of this video lies the belief that a happy and connected workplace not only leads to increased productivity but also improves employee well-being and reduces turnover. Join us on this exciting journey as we dive into the secrets of building a joyful connection within your workplace. So, whether you are a leader, an HR professional, or anyone passionate about fostering happiness in the workplace, this episode will provide you with valuable insights and practical tips to kickstart your journey towards an engaging and fulfilling work environment.

WE ARE FAMILY! (S1 E6 Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Kanika Bell Ph.D., Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 1 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Welcome to our pod squad! In this thought-provoking video we delve into the powerful concept of togetherness and celebrate the essence of being one united family. Join us on this inspiring journey as we explore the depths of joy, connection, and belonging that bind us together. Throughout this episode, we encourage you to reflect on the fundamental values that make us a cohesive unit. Our aim is to cultivate a deeper understanding of the significance of connection within our family. As we delve into the concept of joy, we highlight the impact it has on our lives when we choose to foster happiness and positivity. Discover the profound effects that cultivating joy can have on our relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Unity and joy go hand in hand, providing us with a harmonious foundation to thrive as a family. Connection lies at the heart of any strong family bond. Throughout this video, we'll explore the various ways in which we can foster genuine connections with one another. From engaging in meaningful conversations to practicing empathy, we share valuable insights on building bridges that deepen our relationships and create lasting memories. Belonging is an innate human need, and our thirst for it spans across all aspects of our lives. In this video, we'll delve into the concept of belonging as one family, exploring how we can create an inclusive and supportive environment where every member feels valued and accepted and creating boundaries when we don't feel appreciated. By commemorating and celebrating our differences, we strengthen the fabric of our family unit. Join us on this captivating journey as we unravel the threads of joy, connection, and belonging that knit us together as a family. Let's learn and grow together, fostering a harmonious environment that radiates love, understanding, and patience. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast to stay connected and never miss out on our future episodes exploring fascinating topics that bring us closer as a family.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT: HOW TO EXCEL IN YOUR SQUAD (S1 E5 Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Dr. Kanika Bell) — Wed, 25 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0000

In this informative and engaging episode, we delve into the key aspects of being a good member of your squad and mastering squad dynamics. Join us as we explore the essential skills and mindset needed to become a valuable team player in your group setting. From effective communication to active collaboration, we uncover the secrets behind fostering a harmonious and productive squad environment. Discover how individuals can contribute their unique strengths while also building an interconnected tribe that works towards a shared goal. With expert tips and real-life examples, we guide you through strategies for conflict resolution, problem-solving, and improving synergy within your squad. Learn how to navigate different personalities, and capitalize on each member's strengths to achieve remarkable results. Our comprehensive discussion also includes the significance of trust, reliability, and accountability within a team. We shed light on the impact of these traits on long-term squad success and the development of strong team bonds. So if you're someone who simply wants to enhance their abilities as a team player, this video is perfect for you. Empower yourself with the knowledge and techniques necessary to excel as an individual while contributing to the greater success of your squad. Don't miss out on this opportunity to become a master of squad dynamics and foster a positive team environment. Listen now and unleash your full potential as a valuable team player!

FINDING YOUR SQUAD (S1 E4 Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Dr. Kanika Bell, Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 18 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0000

In order to find your squad, you must...

self-reflect (stop telling yourself lies that keep you alone and lonely)
admit you want to be considered, comforted, and cared for
open yourself up to new things
recognize that deep and rich love will bring you both joy and pain
keep a circle that is close, straightforward, sharpens you, and is reliable
be willing to be creative in how you develop your tribe
and keep a squad that consists of the following
- the sage
- the cheerleader
- the ride or die
- the accountability partner
- the good time
- the reliable one

CONNECTING TO YOURSELF (S1 E3 Connection + Belonging)

info@addjoy.me (Dr. Kanika Bell, Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, our founders, Kanika + Mari, talk about how - in order to connect to others - you have to first connect to yourself and understand who you are. Here, both founders share who they are as individuals in preparation to discuss how this helps us find our tribe.

NEW YEAR, NEW YOU, NEW JOY (S1 E2)

info@addjoy.me (Dr. Kanika Bell, Maria Newport M.S.Ed.) — Wed, 4 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, our founders, Kanika + Mari, talk about joy versus happiness and all the operational elements of joy.

WHAT IS addJOY?! {Formerly The JoyRx} (S1 E1)

info@addjoy.me (Maria Newport M.S.Ed., Dr. Kanika Bell) — Wed, 28 Dec 2022 00:09:32 +0000

In today's episode, our founders, Kanika + Mari, introduce us to who they are as individuals, as friends, as professionals, and as a brand.