Tap in with Tiffany

Happy Mother's Day

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Fri, 8 May 2026 08:00:00 +0000

This episode is very much “life is life-ing,” and we’re just trying to keep up. We get into the chaos of parenting in today’s world—from over-the-top prom culture (why is this a full production??) to the emotional and financial weight that comes with raising kids at every stage. As our children get older, the challenges shift, but the responsibility never really goes away.

We talk honestly about what it means to be a mom and still be a whole person. That means setting boundaries, not doing things you don’t want to do, and letting go of the idea that motherhood has to equal sacrifice and suffering. Some of us learned that the hard way.

There’s also a real conversation about anxiety, self-worth, and that constant feeling of being “not enough,” even when everything looks fine on paper. We break down how anxiety and imposter syndrome show up—not just mentally, but physically—and why support (therapy, medication, even checking your hormones) is nothing to be ashamed of.

For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, a listener opens up about struggling with anxiety and the constant feeling of not being “enough,” even when life looks good on paper. We unpack how anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome can overlap—and what it takes to start quieting that inner voice

We also touch on relationships, single motherhood, and how life changes force you to redefine yourself over and over again. Through it all, one thing stays true: you can’t pour into anybody else if you’re running on empty.

💎 Bottom line—do what works for you, take care of yourself, and stop trying to be everything for everybody. 💎

Tap in!!

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:00 Life updates, being sick, and perimenopause brain fog

03:30 Prom season stress and over-the-top expectations

08:30 Marriage, support, and who takes care of mom

13:00 Single motherhood, burnout, and pushing through

16:30 Relationships, cheating, and doing life alone

23:00 Mother’s Day, rest, and letting go of guilt

26:30 Motherhood without martyrdom and asking for help

27:30 Kids growing up and preparing to let go

33:00 Teaching life skills and learning through experience

38:00 The myth of stability and adjusting to life changes

41:00 Identity beyond motherhood and setting boundaries

55:00 Listener question: anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome

01:03:00 Hormones, perimenopause, and mental health shifts

01:08:00 Final thoughts and Mother’s Day encouragement

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Was Her. Still Her. Always gon' be Her.

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 23 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +0000

Aging, confidence, and evolving identity.. we discuss what it means to grow into yourself—embracing change in your body, mindset, and relationships—while letting go of external validation. Health, wellness, and physical changes are addressed with honesty, including conversations around hormones, memory, and the realities of aging bodies.

In this week’s Tap In or Tap Out? segment, the focus shifts to political stress and emotional burnout, as a listener shares there struggle with staying informed vs. staying overloaded and consumed by the woes of the world.

We unpack how confidence deepens with age, why community matters more than ever, and how to navigate life transitions with honesty and self-trust.

Tap in.

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Episode Chapters:

00:00 Intro

00:59 Patreon and Live Plans

01:43 Birthday Recovery Stories

04:46 New Orleans Trip Recap

06:05 Travel Fears and News

07:41 AI and Fact Checking

08:59 Aging Body and Libido

10:15 Confidence in Your Forties

11:14 Hair and Self Image

16:01 Childhood Roots of Confidence

17:37 Not Caring What People Think

20:01 Work Era Mindset Shift

23:28 Professional Image and Race

26:20 Imposter Syndrome and Privilege

29:28 Pretty Privilege Talk

31:03 Body Confidence Shift

32:05 Family Judgment Culture

37:26 Kindness Over Critique

39:47 Aging Body Surprises

42:23 Girlfriends Keep You Sane

44:32 Do Men Talk Too

48:29 Confidence Changes With Age

51:11 Tap In Listener Question

53:17 Staying Engaged Not Consumed

58:25 Build Community Locally

01:00:00 Prayer And Sign Off

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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New Beginnings

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 19 Jan 2026 08:00:00 +0000

From New Year “resolutions” that last two days to unpacking emotional clutter, shopping habits, control, and the fear of slowing down, we explore what it means to grow older, wiser, and more self-aware—without pretending it’s easy. The conversation moves through themes of productivity, grief, identity shifts, motherhood wounds, friendships changing with life stages, and the realization that many of us were surviving long before we ever learned how to be present.

In the Tap In or Tap Out? segment, we speak to a listener navigating guilt, shame, and fear around leaving relationships, setting boundaries, and choosing themselves.

The gem: It’s never too late to change, heal, forgive, and reinvent who you are.

Tap in.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:56 New Year's Reflections

03:23 Setting Intentional Goals

04:20 The 12-Week Year Explained

09:50 Challenges of Perimenopause

11:29 Moving and Decluttering

24:43 Aging and Memory

30:43 Navigating Identity/Self-Discovery

31:15 Breaking Free from the Hamster Wheel

31:29 Exploring New Hobbies and Interests

34:09 Adapting to Life Changes and Friendships

38:21 Aging and Health Concerns

44:01 Planning for the Future

52:22 Tap In or Tap Out!? Moving Forward and Self-Forgiveness

01:00:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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The Hamster Wheel

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 29 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +0000

We open up with a catch-up on life, exhaustion, and transitions—moving homes, shifting work dynamics, and the realities of being high-achieving Black women who are still BLACKITY BLACK! This leads to a deeper conversation about identity, education, and the stereotypes placed on Black professionals, particularly around PhDs, power dynamics, and ego.

From there, we turn toward reflection and end-of-year evaluation. We examine what it means to “move softer,” questioning whether rest, boundaries, and doing less truly feel safe when control has long been tied to our survival. High pain tolerance, overfunctioning, and constant productivity can disguise emotional numbness—and that numbness often keeps people trapped in cycles that look productive but feel empty.

The metaphor of the hamster wheel becomes central: getting off briefly for rest, self-care, or vacations, but always jumping back on without fundamentally changing the cage itself. The conversation challenges us to consider whether we are truly choosing ourselves—or simply managing burnout while avoiding bigger, scarier changes.

In Tap In or Tap Out?, a listener asks how to grieve a living parent—specifically a mother who is emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and resistant to accountability. We discuss grief, reparenting, unrealistic expectations, boundaries, and the painful but necessary process of removing titles in order to see relationships clearly. Choosing peace does not mean carrying hatred, but it may mean accepting who someone is—and deciding how much access they get to you.

Change is inevitable, resilience is learned, and community support is essential. Growth doesn’t come from staying comfortable—it comes from stepping into the unknown, trusting yourself, and allowing life to move you forward.

Tap in.

Episode Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Catch-Up
02:30 Life Changes, Exhaustion, and Reflection
05:45 Black Identity, PhDs, and Stereotypes
10:12 Ego, Power Dynamics, and Dating with Advanced Degrees
14:20 Control, Softness, and Safety
18:45 Letting Go, Fixing, and Overfunctioning
24:30 What “Soft Life” Actually Means
29:10 Work, Money, and the Pressure to Grind
34:55 The Hamster Wheel Metaphor
40:15 Comfort vs Growth
45:10 Pain Tolerance, Numbness, and Resilience
51:20 Faith, Change, and Trusting the Unknown
55:00 Tap In or Tap Out?: Grieving a Living Parent
01:03:00 Reparenting, Boundaries, and Choosing Peace
01:10:30 Final Reflections and Closing

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Fightin, Fuckin, & Freakin

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 6 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We kick things off with a wild story about football moms fighting in the stands—sparking a bigger conversation about conflict, communication, and why some people throw hands while others just don’t care enough to fight.

From there, we dive deep into sex and sexuality. We unpack the Madonna complex, shifting sex drives in long-term relationships, and the need for open dialogue about fantasies and kinks. We also call out the stigma men face when exploring sexual fluidity or non-traditional interests, and challenge the double standards that continue to police women’s sexuality.

This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener question about perimenopause. We share insights on symptoms, the importance of finding a knowledgeable OB/GYN—especially one attuned to Black women’s health experiences—and ways to manage changes through hormone therapy, nutrition, and community support. We close with a reminder that communication and openness are key to navigating both relationships and life transitions.

Tap in Ya'll!

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Breaking Barriers & Staying Grounded w/ Dr. Metoka Welch

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 1 Sep 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Dr. Welch discusses her path from community counseling to counselor education, her unexpected entry into leadership, and the challenges she faced as a young, Black woman in academia. She reflects on the importance of representation and the impact of being a role model for students.

We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, staying grounded, and being loyal—but not to a fault..learning to move on when situations no longer serve you.

This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener question about work-life balance, emphasizing the importance of scheduling rest, defining personal self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking support from your community.

Advice for Listeners:

Stay grounded and know your "north star."

Surround yourself with honest, supportive people.

Set boundaries and schedule self-care.

Don’t be afraid to outsource tasks to make life easier.

*Remember: jobs can replace you, so prioritize your well-being.*

Metoka L. Welch is a seasoned higher-ed leader who’s spent 20 years building inclusive, learner-centered institutions. With deep expertise in accreditation, academic strategy, and experiential teaching, she’s known for shaping policies that stick and collaborations that matter. Whether in conference rooms or the classroom, Metoka brings heart, vision, and a fierce commitment to equity.

Follow more of Dr. Metoka Welch here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/metokafitness?igsh=Ympoa3lkcTRtaGZx

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/metoka-l-welch-phd-lcmhc-1596bb96?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_app

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Intro

01:02 Guest Intro - Dr. Metoka Welch

02:18 Career Path & Leadership Journey

05:02 Transition into Leadership Role

11:09 Career Challenges & Identity

36:09 Personal Practices & Staying Grounded

38:58 Dream Dinner Guest - Maya Angelou

44:53 Key Takeaways & Never Give Up

48:37 Tap in or Tap Out? Work-Life Balance

55:40 Closing Thoughts & Goodbye

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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U-N-I-T-Y: Respect in Relationships

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 18 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We break down the fine line between respect and disrespect, and how misunderstandings around the two can lead to real conflict. We talk about the importance of open communication, setting and honoring boundaries, and how gender roles, masculinity, and our upbringing shape our definition of respect.

This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener trying to find themselves again after a tough breakup. We share our thoughts on self-discovery, healing, and stepping into the next chapter with confidence.

Tap in!

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:00 Season Update and Summer Plans

03:14 Respect vs. Disrespect in Relationships

04:39 Subjectivity of Respect

09:56 Respect in Familial and Romantic Relationships

18:05 Boundaries and Respect

27:50 Communication in Relationships

28:10 Understanding Double Standards

29:31 Defining Disrespect

31:55 Insecurity and Disrespect

41:37 The Importance of Integrity

42:22 Toxic Relationships

47:26 Tap in or Tap Out?: Starting Over After a Breakup

53:31 Conclusion and Farewell

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Spiritual Bath Time with Dr. Roseina Britton

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 21 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Welcoming our first ever guest Dr. Roseina Britton to the podcast! Fun and light-hearted, while deeply centered, Dr. Britton gives us a lot of gems in this conversation. She shares her journey through personal loss, challenges in achieving licensure, and her dedication to healing and empowerment. Also gives us the recipe of her self-care rituals, the importance of mentorship, and breaking societal norms around sexuality. Tap in!

Dr. Roseina Britton is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with a strong academic foundation and a passion for advocacy and education. She earned her BA and MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from North Carolina A&T State University and completed her Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of Iowa. Dr. Britton has contributed to the field through publications in textbooks and peer-reviewed journals and has presented at national and regional conferences on topics including sexual health, sex positivity, and HIV awareness and stigma.

Follow more of Dr. Roseina Britton here:

https://www.serenityhealingcc.com/

https://thedsmpodcast.podbean.com/

https://www.instagram.com/dr.b_shawty/

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Tap In with Tiffany

01:03 Meet Dr. Roseina Britton

01:48 The DSM Podcast and Other Ventures

03:59 Passion for HIV Awareness

05:43 Sexuality and Societal Norms

12:24 Rosei's Personal Journey with HIV

19:00 Challenges in the Path to Licensure

28:55 Affirmations and Self-Pep Talks

29:52 Questioning Career Choices

30:24 Advice and Mentorship

31:32 The Importance of Rest and Relaxation

32:23 Misconceptions and Personal Life

45:03 Bucket Lists and Risk-Taking

52:35 Final Thoughts

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Warm Girl Summer

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 7 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Welcome to Warm Girl Summer! We are discussing recent travels to Costa Rica and Antigua, sharing highlights and the dynamics of group travel. We give our two cents on dating, the complexities of modern relationships, and the importance of maintaining one's peace, even if it means facing challenges in a partnership. Lastly, we touch upon empathy in relationships, the challenges of setting boundaries, and the impact of societal and political climates on dating.

This week's 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's question on solo traveling, suggesting safe and enjoyable destinations.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

01:03 Weather and Travel Plans

01:28 Travel Experiences: Costa Rica and Antigua

02:38 Upcoming Trips and Group Travel Dynamics

12:00 Warm Girl Summer

13:29 Dating and Relationships in Today's Climate

21:18 Therapists' Perspective on Relationships

23:33 Setting Boundaries in Relationships

24:12 High Pain Tolerance and Its Consequences

25:10 Learned Behaviors and Sacrifices

26:43 The Struggles of Keeping Peace

30:06 Financial Constraints in Relationships

34:02 Therapists' Perspective on Change

35:27 Evaluating Relationship Dynamics

37:38 The Fear of the Unknown

39:36 The Importance of Girlfriends

40:47 Exploring Polyamory and Cheating

42:49 Finding Your Peace

43:26 Tap In or Tap Out?: Solo Travel Tips

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Sister, Sister...Sister

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 9 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore importance of sisterhood, specifically sororities, and the benefit of hard work, showing up, community service, plus addressing competition and balancing personal pride with humility within these organizations. At the end of the day, a sorority is not for everybody, and you gotta put the work in to reap the rewards.

This week's 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a listener asking about bonding with their first child (thats still in the womb) and how to be a supportive partner, pre, during, and post birth.

Tap in!

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:20 Discussing Sisterhood and Sororities

02:52 Personal Experiences with Sororities

08:55 Challenges and Misconceptions

15:41 The Importance of Community and Service

41:11 Listener Question: Parenting Tips

51:34 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:20 Discussing Sisterhood and Sororities

02:52 Personal Experiences with Sororities

05:52 Challenges and Misconceptions

08:28 The Importance of Community and Support

41:11 Tap in or Tap Out?: Bonding with Your Baby

42:39 Parenting Tips and Advice

51:34 Closing Remarks

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Time to Go!

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 12 May 2025 07:00:00 +0000

As the circus continues in the U.S. of A.. we are exploring the idea of possibly moving abroad for a better quality of life. We also can't help but discuss the social political climates, and reflecting on white and black protest dynamics. Spoiler: We are sitting this one out. We also weigh in on the potential implications of AI technology in academia and therapy, voicing both advantages and ethical concerns...ie having a AI side piece?? Really?

This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about having a crush on a coworker who's already in a committed relationship, offering cautionary advice on handling workplace romances.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

00:57 Catching Up: Life Updates and Vacations

01:45 Cruise Experiences: Carnival vs. Royal Caribbean

04:20 Social Commentary: Protests and Double Standards

05:25 Celebrating Achievements: Graduation and Counseling

06:32 Vacation Plans: Costa Rica and Beyond

07:12 Living Abroad: The Expat Life

18:56 Navigating Social Media and News

20:08 Consumer Choices and Economic Impact

28:39 A1 and the Education Department

29:36 Stephen A and Trump: A Bizarre Interview

31:32 AI in Education: Challenges and Adaptations

39:15 AI Relationships and Therapy

54:08 Listener Dilemma: Workplace Crush

59:34 Conclusion and Farewell

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Parenting Potpourri

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 17 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Join us as we dive into the challenges of modern parenting, including the emotional and financial toll of raising active children. We explore the intersection of technology with everyday life, discussing its impact on mental health, communication skills, and the shifting dynamics of AI in therapy.

The 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a listener seeking advice on balancing parenting with self-care. The emphasizing the importance of community support and the myth of having to be the 'perfect' strong parent.

Get ready for a blend of heartfelt advice, humor, and deep reflections on life and parenthood. Tap in!

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:00 Life Be Lifin': Parenting Woes

02:18 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges

05:27 The Impact of Technology on Parenting

08:58 The Human Experience in a Digital World

24:39 AI and the Future of Therapy

33:53 Reflecting on a Blackout Experience

34:17 Adapting to Life Without Technology

34:38 Office Life Without Internet

36:59 Conspiracy Theories and Election Integrity

38:59 The Importance of Paper Records

40:34 The Vulnerability of Modern Infrastructure

42:51 The Role of DEI in Schools and Workplaces

51:11 Challenges of Black-Owned Businesses

54:41 TAP IN OR TAP OUT? Balancing Parenthood and Self-Care

1:07:16 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com

Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Intimacy, Growth & The Art of Staying Connected

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 3 Feb 2025 08:00:00 +0000

Navigating Relationships, Intimacy, and Personal Boundaries

We start with a lively discussion about the shifts that occur in relationships over time and how to address emotional changes. We also explore the challenges of maintaining intimacy and communication in relationships, touching on topics like love languages, managing expectations, and the importance of small, consistent gestures. We explore the continuous need for self-development, from being more intentional in relationships to tackling the natural shifts that happen over time, especially during mid-life.

The 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment this week addresses a listener's concern about fading attentiveness in a romantic relationship and offers insights on how to navigate this sensitive issue.

This episode is a mix of serious relationship advice, humor, and some unapologetically honest opinions. Tap in!

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:58 Current Events and Michelle Obama

02:21 Break Time Stories

05:01 Words for the Year

06:58 Relationships, Sex, and Dating

12:52 Expectations in Relationships

25:23 Intimacy and Emotional Connection

28:33 Control Issues and Letting Go

30:46 Navigating Trust in Relationships

31:07 Proving Yourself in a Partnership

31:27 Handling Small Tasks in Relationships

35:13 Building Intimacy Beyond Sex

37:42 Understanding Love Languages

45:56 Dealing with Relationship Changes

52:02 Listener's Relationship Dilemma

01:01:21 Closing Thoughts and Farewell

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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We Love You, Black Man

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 16 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000

We are breakin down men's health from various angles. We share our views on physical health, the importance of regular check-ups, and societal pressures that prevent men -especially black ones- from seeking necessary medical care. We also explore mental health challenges, particularly focusing on the emotional struggles black men face and the stigma around seeking therapy. Additionally, we reflect on our first year of podcasting, discussing our experiences, favorite moments, and aspirations for the future.

The 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about feeling conflicted between staying at a stressful job to support black students or seeking a new opportunity for personal well-being. Join us as we wrap up the season with valuable insights and heartfelt advice.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:03 Season Finale Announcement

01:23 Let's Talk About Men

02:54 Men and Self-Care

06:33 Physical Health and Doctor Visits

20:02 Mental Health and Emotional Well-being

31:12 Understanding Emotions Through Therapy

31:46 The Struggles of Men Expressing Emotions

34:04 Teaching Boys About Emotions

36:46 Balancing Emotional Intelligence and Toughness

39:33 Navigating Relationships and Respect

46:25 The Importance of Environment and Role Models

47:36 Encouragement and Self-Care for Black Men

50:01 Reflecting on the Podcast Journey

56:12 Listener's Dilemma: Job Satisfaction vs. Impact

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Things Done Changed

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore the complexities of holiday traditions, family dynamics, and creating new norms. We share personal stories about shifting holiday celebrations, the impact of losing family matriarchs, and the challenges of maintaining family bonds. We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries with relatives, the transition after divorce, and the concept of chosen family.

This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about balancing shopping habits with financial responsibility. Join us as we navigate the joys and struggles of holidays and offer insights into fostering healthier, happier celebrations.

Tap in with us!

tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:12 Funny Stories

04:41 Holiday Season and Family Traditions

06:52 Changing Family Dynamics and Grief

20:39 Creating New Traditions and Boundaries

34:02 Navigating Family Dynamics

36:30 Balancing Holiday Visits

39:38 Creating New Traditions

46:31 The Impact of Loss on Holidays

59:40 Tap in or Tap Out!? : Shopping Habits

01:07:58 Wrapping Up

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com

Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Gettin' to the Bag

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 21 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Let's get into the complexities of managing wealth and finances. We share our personal relationships with money, financial upbringings, and navigating the psychological aspects of money management. We touch on some strategies for financial literacy, budgeting, and maintaining stability while managing debt and investments. We also discuss modern self-care practices like hiring help and grocery deliveries, highlighting the value they bring to our lives. Additionally, we emphasize teaching generational wealth and multiple income streams, focusing on practical advice for parents. Join us as we share insights on balancing professional and personal roles, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and investing in financial security for the future.

This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener question about keeping boundaries tight as a therapist, when friends and family wanna hit you up for some free therapy. Hint: Its Still NO :)

Want to have your question featured on the show? Tap in with us!

tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Health Talk

01:00 Colonoscopy Experiences

02:23 Alternative Preparations

04:05 Post-Procedure Reflections

05:47 Transition to Money Talk

06:05 Personal Relationships with Money

08:19 Childhood Financial Lessons

10:32 Financial Planning and Education

11:48 Spending Habits and Self-Care

14:43 Budgeting and Debt Management

18:24 Cultural Perspectives on Money

29:06 Household Services and Perceptions

30:42 The Value of Convenience Services

31:39 Breaking the Stigma Around Hiring Help

37:11 Generational Wealth and Land Ownership

39:37 Teaching Financial Literacy to Kids

42:16 Managing Finances and Savings

53:12 Setting Boundaries as a Therapist

01:01:03 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound

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Work, Work, Work, Work, Work

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we discuss our complex work lives, juggling multiple jobs in private practice, teaching, and supervision, and highlight our commitment to financial stability and professional growth. We also -as usual- talk about setting boundaries, the evolution of our career goals, and the hesitation about leadership roles.

This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's question about merging old and new friendships, and we offer up some insights into on navigating these dynamics.

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Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:00 Catching Up: Life Updates and Challenges

01:41 Navigating Parenting and Teen Drivers

06:50 Balancing Multiple Jobs and Careers

15:41 The Importance of Financial Independence

28:07 Setting Boundaries at Work

28:36 Leadership and Management Challenges

34:40 Worst Job Experiences

39:41 Balancing Work and Personal Life

49:52 Navigating Adult Friendships

59:24 Conclusion and Listener Interaction

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Why Therapy?

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

We start out discussing a restorative trip to Jamaica, emphasizing the importance of choosing compatible travel companions. Then we move into a discussion about our career paths as therapists, highlighting the different experiences and motivations that led us into the field. We explore the differences between counseling and psychology, including the varied training and specialties within the professions.

We also cover the most common barriers to seeking therapy, including the significance of readiness, financial considerations, and overcoming stigma, particularly within the black community. We offer guidance for individuals seeking therapy, including how to find a therapist (hint: good ol' GOOGLE) and what questions to ask. We emphasize the importance of understanding a therapist's credentials and specialties to ensure a good fit.

This episode's Tap In or Tap Out' segment answers a listener question about what aspects of our upbringing do we bring into -or consciously drop- from our toolbox as we raise our own children.

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Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:03 Summer Adventures and Travel Tips

01:47 Navigating Group Travel Dynamics

04:11 Therapy Talk: Our Journeys into the Field

11:28 Understanding Counseling vs. Psychology

15:56 Finding the Right Therapist for You

24:48 Working with Different Client Populations

31:42 The Value of Personal Experience in Counseling

32:31 Challenges in Substance Use Counseling

35:34 Understanding Client Needs and Boundaries

38:15 Barriers to Starting Therapy

42:58 The Importance of Long-Term Therapy

48:49 Finding the Right Therapist

52:53 Tap In or Tap Out? Parenting: Lessons and Reflections

01:02:07 Conclusion

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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The Best We Can

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 5 Aug 2024 07:00:00 +0000

In episode 7, we compare the experiences of raising an only child versus multiple children and discuss the uniqueness of raising boys. The conversation expands to address gender expectations, balancing emotional intelligence with raising resilient boys, and the challenges of co-parenting with differing philosophies. We also explore how modern-day access to information influences parenting and the constant worry parents face as their children grow older, especially as the mother of black boys and young men.

This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a listener's dilemma regarding setting boundaries with an estranged father who wants to reconnect with his daughter and grandchildren, prompting a heartfelt discussion about forgiveness, healing, and establishing boundaries.

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Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany

01:00 Parenting: Only Child vs. Multiple Children

04:53 Gender Expectations and Realities

11:22 Balancing Emotions and Masculinity

19:28 Unexpected Parenting Challenges

25:04 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Girls

27:31 The Anxiety of Raising Black Boys

31:28 The Impact of Social Media on Today's Youth

34:16 Balancing Parental Guidance and Independence

35:49 The Complexities of Adult Children Relationships

40:48 Tap In or Tap Out?: Setting Boundaries with a Hurtful Parent

50:07 Conclusion and Farewell

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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From Boomers to Us: The Sandwich Generation

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

We are exploring the complexities of relationships with parents, particularly focusing on the Boomer generation. We share personal anecdotes about our upbringings, parental challenges, and the effect of our parents' behaviors - for better or worse- on our own lives. The conversation also touches on the emotional labor of caregiving, setting boundaries, and understanding intergenerational trauma.

This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a question from a self-proclaimed "Therapy Skeptic" asking about who therapy is for, the potential benefits, and how to find the right therapist for you. We feel like a lot of ya'll might be in the same place, so tap in and find out our take on how therapy might benefit you, if you are ready.

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Episode Chapters:

00:01 Introduction and Episode Kickoff

00:29 Discussing the Boomer Generation

02:08 Parental Influence and Personal Experiences

05:02 Growing Up with Single Parents

07:50 Father's Absence and Impact

17:14 Reconnecting with Biological Father

23:56 Generational Differences and Family Dynamics

32:49 Caring for Aging Parents

36:18 Setting Boundaries with Family

36:35 Cognitive Changes in Aging Parents

37:53 Generational Differences in Caregiving

38:52 Dealing with Difficult Parent-Child Relationships

41:14 The Importance of Self-Care for Caregivers

44:13 Navigating Parental Aging and Health Issues

46:20 Lessons Learned from Parents

57:58 Tap in or Tap Out?!? Finding the Right Therapist

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Selfish...And Lovin' It

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 20 May 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Episode 5 is exploring self-care, emphasizing its personal nature and the importance of daily practices alongside larger goals. We debunk the misconception that self-care is selfish, arguing that it is critical for overall health and well-being. Various aspects of self-care are discussed, including physical, spiritual, mental, and interpersonal wellness. The conversation also covers the importance of rest, routine, and preventative healthcare as forms of self-care. We share personal experiences to illustrate the challenges and joys of establishing consistent self-care practices in our lives, and how that may start to change as we get older.

This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a listener's question about the dynamics of friendship in the workplace, and conflicts she has experienced. We acknowledge that while shared experiences as Black women can create a sense of community, individual differences may lead to varying workplace dynamics. Our discussion highlights the value of openness but also the reality that not all interactions will lead to close connections, reminding the listener that its always on a case by case basis, and how it may not always be "Black Girl Magic" when it comes to working with other black women.

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Episode Chapters:

00:06 Welcome Back and Today's Hot Topic: Self Care

00:27 The Essence and Individuality of Self Care

01:46 Self Care Isn't Selfish: A Deep Dive

03:43 Exploring the Multifaceted Nature of Self Care

05:18 Physical and Mental Wellness: A Holistic Approach

06:37 Daily Self Care Routines and Their Impact

26:16 The Importance of Physical Activity and Nutrition

28:57 Exploring Self Pleasure and Body Awareness

33:48 Embracing Solo Travel: A Journey of Self-Discovery

34:05 The Solo Travel Experience: From Podcast Inspirations to Personal Reflections

35:06 Exploring the World Alone: The Freedom and Fear of Solo Travel

36:12 The Unexpected Joy of Accidental Solo Travel

38:26 Self-Care Through Solo Staycations: The Luxury of Being Alone

39:50 Evolving Self-Care Routines: From Party Nights to Peaceful Nights

46:28 TAP IN OR TAP OUT!! : Navigating Workplace Relationships

47:39 The Other Black Girl: Workplace Dynamics Among Black Women

01:02:10 Closing Thoughts: Embracing Individuality in Professional Spaces

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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How Many of us Have Them?

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 22 Apr 2024 04:00:00 +0000

Navigating Friendships and Boundaries in Relationship

We dive into the complexities of friendships, both old and new, and how to set healthy boundaries within those relationships. We share personal experiences and challenges with blending friends from different stages of life and how they manage expectations and dynamics within those groups. The discussion also covers the difficulty of forming new friendships in adulthood, the impact of jealousy, and the importance of reciprocal relationships. We also touch on the impact of slavery and Eurocentric models that lead to modern day conflict and resource hoarding in the black community.

This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? featuring a listener's question about dealing with financial exploitation by a sibling leads to advice on asserting oneself and communicating needs effectively to establish boundaries. The episode emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, open communication, and the courage to maintain one's well-being in all relationships.

Chapters:

00:06 Welcome Back & Episode Intro

00:48 Vacation Tales: The Cruise Experience

05:06 Navigating Friendships Over Time

06:29 The Dynamics of Long-Term Friendships

14:16 Addressing Challenges in Friendships

19:55 Jealousy and Competition Among Friends

28:30 Sharing Success and Opportunities

32:20 Navigating Competition and Collaboration

33:15 The Impact of Capitalism on Personal Relationships

35:19 Mentorship and Its Value in Personal Growth

36:28 Exploring the Dynamics of New and Old Friendships

50:02 The Art of Blending Friend Groups

55:43 Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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It's Still No..

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 18 Mar 2024 04:00:00 +0000

In this episode we dive into the importance of setting boundaries in all spheres of life, including relationships with partners, friends, and family members. The conversation highlights the struggles and significance of asserting oneself to maintain mental health and peace, and touches on the complexity of adult friendships, the impact of life changes on relationship dynamics, and the necessity of reciprocal relationships and clear communication.

00:05 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany!

00:42 Feedback and Growth: Our Journey So Far

01:22 Deep Dive into Boundaries: Why They Matter

01:48 The Struggle with Setting Boundaries in Relationships

02:44 Age, Experience, and Understanding Boundaries

08:35 Navigating Boundaries in Black Families

16:01 The Challenge of Changing Family Dynamics

22:08 Friendships and Boundaries: Finding Balance

22:51 Embracing Reciprocal Relationships

24:38 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Relationships

26:56 Navigating Boundaries in Personal Relationships

27:22 The Complexities of Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships

30:03 Adjusting Boundaries Over Time and the Importance of Communication

37:56 Life Changes and Their Impact on Boundaries

44:39 Maintaining Individuality and Friendships in Relationships

50:11 TAP IN OR TAP OUT: Navigating Friendship and Dating Boundaries

57:15 Closing Thoughts and Looking Ahead

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Soft Girl Season

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Mon, 26 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we dive into the topic of embracing the soft girl era and what it means for us. We explore how self-care and setting boundaries is crucial, and discuss how this concept affects women, especially black women, and highlight the importance of resilience amidst life's challenges. The conversation touches on navigating the balance between enjoying modern luxuries and cultivating inner strength. We share insights into making life more enjoyable while staying true to yourself...From hiring help to indulging in massages, or booking a private yacht..Tune in for a candid discussion on finding what works best for you and living your best life!

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Episode Chapters

00:05 Introduction: Meet the Tiffanys

00:51 The Soft Girl Era: A Discussion

02:25 The Struggle: Navigating the Hardships

03:51 The Transition: From Hard to Soft

06:11 The Generational Gap: Gen Z vs. Millennials

07:19 The Importance of Boundaries

17:39 The Luxury of Delegation: Housekeeping and More

25:55 The Future: Preparing the Next Generation

28:08 Understanding the Cost of Comfort

28:35 Embracing Convenience Services

29:12 The Desire for Domesticity

29:58 The Luxury of Massages and Yacht Charters

31:12 Dreaming of Private Jet Travel

31:46 Listener Questions: Teaching Empathy and Resilience

46:46 The Reality of Being an Influencer

50:41 The Privilege of Travel and Teaching Empathy

52:36 Closing Thoughts: The Balance of Giving and Teaching Gratitude

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Tappin' in with Dr. Tiffanys

tapintiffanypodcast@gmail.com (Dr Tiffanys ) — Fri, 9 Feb 2024 07:00:00 +0000

In today's episode, we dive in to the topic of relationships, focusing on conflict resolution, communication, boundaries, and expectations. We break down the importance of self-awareness, clear communication, respect, and setting healthy boundaries in a relationship.

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Episode Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

00:41 Meet the Therapists: Personal and Professional Backgrounds

01:22 The Importance of Individuality in Relationships

04:18 The Power of Friendship in Relationships

05:57 The Role of Therapy in Relationships

08:37 The Challenges and Rewards of Marriage

15:25 The Complexities of Dating in the Modern Age

22:10 The Impact of Unspoken Expectations in Relationships

27:15 The Importance of Conflict Resolution in Relationships

32:46 Divorce and Its Impact on Children

32:52 Personal Experiences with Divorce

33:44 The Role of Empathy in Conflict Resolution

34:17 The Impact of Parental Divorce on Personal Relationships

35:13 The Struggle of Conflict Resolution in Relationships

35:57 The Importance of Effective Communication in Relationships

37:05 The Challenge of Balancing Personal Traits in Relationships

37:53 The Role of Conflict Resolution Styles in Relationships

39:48 The Impact of Conflict on Relationships

40:54 The Struggle of Setting Boundaries in Relationships

47:12 The Importance of Effective Communication with Children

49:00 The Challenge of Managing Expectations in Relationships

52:15 The Role of Respect in Conflict Resolution

56:10 The Importance of Understanding and Meeting Expectations in Relationships

59:47 The Struggle of Balancing Personal and Relationship Expectations

01:02:39 Conclusion: The Importance of Open Communication and Understanding in Relationships

Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston

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Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound