Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

The Reality of Hosting This Self-Love Podcast (Celebrating Our 300th Episode!!)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Apr 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Wow!!! I can’t believe this is our 300th episode!!

Thank you so so much for listening to Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women.

This episode is a bit more personal and vulnerable. It’s me reflecting on why I started Mary’s Cup of Tea, what I’m struggling with, and if/ how I hope to move forward. I pull back the curtain to share what it’s actually taken to produce this show, use my voice, and keep going even when it’s felt messy and overwhelming. A lot of the times I feel less confident than I wish to be, but keep reminding myself that confidence is not synonymous with perfection. And self-compassion goes a long way.

Tune into our 300th episode to hear...

a behind-the-scenes look at what hosting this self-love podcast has really been like
why celebrating your input matters more than waiting for external validation
the tension between growth, pressure, and staying true to yourself
what’s next for this show
a reminder to honor your own process, even when no one else sees it

Remember: self-love is about choosing to show, again and again, in ways that feel kind and true.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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Why Your Self-Worth Feels Low (Even When Life Looks Good)

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 17 Apr 2026 17:05:00 +0000

There’s a version of life many women are taught to chase: the one that looks put together, successful, desirable, and “right.” But behind the aesthetic routines, curated homes, and picture-perfect moments, so many of us feel disconnected, drained, or dissatisfied.

This is the self-worth trap.

In this episode, we explore a simple but powerful reframe: your self-worth isn’t built through appearances. It’s built through how your life feels, not how it performs. And when you prioritize appearances over truth, your self-worth will always feel unstable.

Tune into our self-love podcast to learn…

why something can look perfect but still feel completely wrong
the hidden self-worth trap many women live in without realizing it
how social media and external validation distort your self-worth
the unexpected quadrant where real freedom, confidence, and alignment begin
simple ways to stop performing your life and start actually living it

This conversation also touches on body image, mental health, and the subtle ways women are conditioned to prioritize perception over truth.

Mentioned In This Episode... Lena Dunham interview

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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If You Want More Confidence, You Need To Practice Slowing Down

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Apr 2026 14:00:00 +0000

Have you ever noticed how the more you rush, the more everything seems to fall apart? Let’s explore how constantly being “on the go” disconnects you from your confidence and inner peace. If you’re constantly rushing, then you’re stuck in your own anxious headspace, not actually connected to yourself and your surroundings.

In a world that rewards productivity and hustle, slowing down can feel uncomfortable… even wrong. But what if the very thing you think is holding you back is actually the key to building real confidence? What if taking your time is what allows you to hear yourself clearly again, trust your decisions, and move through life with more ease?

This is an “encore” episode, one we’ve already shared on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast but why not revisit it?!

Tune into this self-love podcast to learn…

why rushing keeps you stuck in anxiety instead of grounded in confidence
how slowing down helps you reconnect with your intuition
5 simple ways to practice slowing down
how to move slowly through life in a way that naturally builds confidence

Remember: When you pause, you breathe, and when you breathe, you harness your power. Self-love requires slowing down.

If you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Your Self Love Check-In: 3 Questions To Ask Yourself This Spring

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Apr 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Spring is a natural time for renewal, and this is your reminder to come back to self love in a grounded way. Not a full reset, not a glow up, just a check-in. A moment to notice what feels good, what feels off, and where you might need a little more care from yourself right now.

Here are 3 questions that are designed to make you feel more alive and aligned. I invite you to ponder these questions or better yet, use them as prompts for bullet journaling! Feel free to share your thoughts with me in a comment, message, or review.

You will learn…

How to bring more self love into your life by noticing everyday moments of magic
Where you can disconnect from constant stimulation and reconnect with yourself
A gentle way to check in with your thoughts without overanalyzing them
The surprising impact of slowing down and going “analog” in your daily routine
How to identify what part of you needs attention, care, or support right now

Remember: Self love is magical, and so are you.

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If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread women empowerment and self-love!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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7 Moments That Shaped Our Marriage (feat. My Husband)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Mar 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Seven years together, three years married, and somehow we’re still learning new things about each other!

In this episode, Husband joins Mary to reflect on moments that shaped their relationship.

This isn’t relationship advice or a step-by-step guide to a perfect marriage. It’s just us looking back at what we’ve been through and realizing how those experiences changed the way we communicate, support each other, and show up in our relationship. Get ready for funny stories, peak memories, and relatable relationship dynamics!

You will learn…

how different communication styles can either clash or deepen connection in a healthy relationship
what happens when you stop trying to control your partner’s emotions
our favorite, most chaotic travel stories
why shared experiences build confidence and emotional intimacy in a relationship
how couples therapy helped us break unhealthy patterns
the small ways respect, trust, and self-awareness show up in a strong marriage

Remember: building a healthy relationship takes communication, self-awareness, and a willingness to grow together. And that can only happen through trial and error, forgiveness, resilience, and sometimes, couples therapy.

About Mary’s Husband:

Stan is Mary’s husband and occasional podcast guest who is either unintentionally insightful or unexpectedly hilarious. He immigrated to the U.S. from Uzbekistan and brings a grounded, practical perspective to conversations about relationships, growth, and life. When he’s not helping Mary pack for trips or supporting her ideas, he’s working in the automotive industry and perfecting his Tony Soprano impression.

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5 Things I’d Change If I Could Rewrite My Self-Love Book

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Mar 2026 14:30:00 +0000

Five years ago, I published The Gift of Self-Love. Writing that book when I was just 20 years old was one of the most meaningful experiences of my life. And its message around confidence, healing, and self-love still feels deeply true to me today.

But five years of living, growing, and talking with thousands of women about their experiences has also expanded my understanding of self-love in ways I could not have fully seen back then.

In this reflective episode, I look back on the book with fresh perspective and share a few ideas I might approach differently if I were writing it today. This conversation explores how our understanding of self-love can deepen over time, especially as life experiences reshape how we see ourselves and the world around us.

Get my books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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Feeling Inadequate? How to Snap Out of It and Rebuild Confidence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Mar 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Same. Let's talk about inadequacy– how to snap the F out of it and shift into confidence.

Mary introduces her powerful self-love formula, which intertwines self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-worth, as she challenges listeners to confront their feelings of inadequacy. We also unpack the heavy feelings of inadequacy and shame and how redefining self worth can help you stop measuring yourself against impossible standards.

You will learn...

the difference between insecurity and deeper feelings of inadequacy
how to question the timelines, expectations, and systems shaping your sense of self worth
confront uncomfortable emotions instead of avoiding them
reconnect with your inherent worth and rebuild confidence on your own terms
create an “audacity list” to step outside comparison and reclaim agency in your life

Remember: the goal isn’t to finally become “enough.” The freedom comes when you realize that standard was never yours to begin with.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Why Self-Help is NOT Always Helpful for Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Mar 2026 14:00:00 +0000

If you’ve ever felt like you have to constantly optimize your life to deserve self-love, this conversation will help you rethink how you approach personal development. A deep dive into the complicated relationship between self-help and self love, and why the self-help industry can sometimes leave women feeling more inadequate instead of more confident.

You will learn how to...

recognize when self-help messaging is subtly making you feel broken instead of helping you build self-love
break the exhausting cycle of pressure → shame → burnout that comes from most self-help advice
cultivate self love through community, connection, and self-acceptance rather than endless self-improvement

Remember: you don’t need to become a better version of yourself to deserve self-love. The most powerful form of self love is learning to accept yourself exactly as you are, even on the days when nothing feels optimized.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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How to Feel Confident When You Speak with My Voice Coach Ryan O’Shea

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Feb 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Your voice changes when you feel insecure. It gets tighter, faster, or smaller, and suddenly you don’t feel confident anymore. In this conversation, we explore how to build real confidence by regulating your nervous system and learning to speak from a grounded, embodied confident place.

Mary is joined by voice and communication coach Ryan O’Shea to explore how your voice can make or break your confidence. And no, this isn’t about fixing vocal fry or sounding “more professional.” It’s about learning how to feel more grounded, authentic, present, and confident no matter who you’re communicating with.

You will learn…

Why some people naturally command attention while others feel chronically unheard
How nervous system regulation directly affects your voice and presence
The difference between rambling and inhibition — and how to find the sweet spot
A simple real-time practice you can use before a presentation, job interview, date, or hard conversation to feel more confident
The 3 components of a powerful vocal presence

Remember: confidence isn’t about sounding perfect. It’s about feeling safe and connected in your body when you speak. Your voice isn’t something to fix — it’s something to reclaim.

Ryan O’Shea is a Los Angeles based voice, accent, and communication coach certified in Fitzmaurice Voicework®, Knight-Thompson Speechwork®, and Organic Intelligence®. Ryan combines her experience as an actor and coach to develop a holistic approach to voice and communication. She wants her clients to feel that learning voice and communication skills can help them feel more like themselves, so she merges voice and delivery skills with tools of nervous system regulation and presence. Ryan works with actors who you've seen (and heard!) on HBO, Showtime, Netflix, AppleTV, Fox, ABC, as well in audiobooks, commercials, and theatres across the world. And she’s worked with countless entrepreneurs, and corporate communication clients from Adidas, Tinder, Alpinestars, and more.

Website: https://www.voiceandspeechwithryan.com/

Instagram: @voiceandspeechwithryan

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-o-shea-27a473277/

Self-led Voice Course: Foundations of Voicework, https://www.voiceandspeechwithryan.com/foundations-of-voicework

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @voiceandspeechwithryan

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5 Sneaky Eating Disorder Habits You Might Still Be Doing (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Feb 2026 14:00:00 +0000

Eating disorder recovery is a journey, and sometimes old patterns will show up even after you’re fully recovered. Let’s talk about 5 disordered habits you might still be doing (despite knowing better) and how to stop doing them.

These subtle disordered eating are often framed as “normal” in our culture, but in reality, they’re leftover patterns from diet culture. Whether you’ve been in eating disorder recovery for years or are just beginning to heal your relationship with food and your body, it’s important to notice these sneaky habits so you can break free from them once and for all.

Mary talks about the common ways women internalize harmful beauty standards and how those beliefs show up in everyday choices. From body-checking to moralizing food, these eating disorder behaviors might feel second nature, but they don’t serve your self love journey. Recovery is about unlearning toxic patterns and choosing self love, compassion, and confidence instead.

Take a moment to reflect: Which of these 5 eating disorder habits are you still holding onto? Becoming aware is the first step toward true healing and building a positive mindset around food, body image, and self love.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread women empowerment and self-love!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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28 Things I Wish I Knew at 18 (About Boys, Confidence, Dating, and Self Worth)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Feb 2026 15:00:00 +0000

With special guest: my Sister!!! For my 28th birthday, I sat down with my 18-year-old sister to share 28 truths about confidence, dating, boys, people, and being a woman with self-worth.

This conversation moves from chaotic sister humor to the deeper realities of building confidence as a woman. We talk about why most mistakes get made after midnight, how everything feels more dramatic in the dark, and why intensity is not the same thing as compatibility. We unpack the difference between attraction and anxiety, and why calm, secure love can is often the healthiest.

Beyond dating and relationships, we get into the foundations of self-love: choosing your environment wisely, eating consistently, setting boundaries without over-explaining, and remembering that no one is coming to save you. We talk about body image, spotlight syndrome, conquering insecurities, being the average of the people you spend time with, getting to know your mom as a person, and why embarrassment is a choice.

I hope this Mary’s Cup of Tea episode feels like a confidence pep talk from your virtual big sister.

Remember: “The worst thing in the world can happen, but the next day the sun will come up. And you will eat your toast. And you will drink your tea.”

Hope this episode is somehow entertaining and somewhat useful to your self-love journey.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread women empowerment and self-love!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary Jelkovsky on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...

Mary’s Self-Love Playlist: maryscupoftea.com/playlist

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Self-Care During Hard Times: How to Stay Emotionally Regulated

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Feb 2026 20:45:00 +0000

When the external world feels heavy, your internal world must stay regulated. Self-care is not about escaping reality. It’s about standing steadily inside it. This conversation is about how to stay emotionally regulated when the noise feels constant and the news cycle never ends.

We’ll talk about protecting your energy, being intentional with your attention, and practicing self-care through boundaries with yourself. If your mental health has felt stretched thin by the state of the world, this episode offers perspective and encouragement.

You will learn about…

how social media functions similarly to propaganda
why energy management might be better than time management
how I approach giving and charitable contribution
the idea of “joy stacking” as a form of self care
why eye contact is a form of resistance
small rituals that help you come back home to yourself

Remember: self-care is not disengagement from the world, it is how you stay resourced enough to meet it. Real self-care supports your mental health AND lets you contribute to causes you care about.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support expands our self-love circle and shows others that mental health matters.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self care journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...

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What Women Misunderstand About Anxiety, Mental Health, and the Mind-Body Connection with Dr. Ellen Vora, MD

Ellen Vora — Thu, 29 Jan 2026 14:00:00 +0000

Many women talk about anxiety as if it’s a personality trait, but Dr. Ellen Vora offers a different lens: anxiety could be a mind-body signal that something in your mental health ecosystem needs support. In this conversation, we unpack what women misunderstand about anxiety, why mental health is deeply physical, and how to stop seeing anxiety as a personal flaw.

You will learn…

the difference between “false anxiety” vs. “true anxiety” (and why that distinction changes everything)
is it the mind-body connection or the body-mind connection?
how women’s bodies, hormones, and cultural stressors create a unique anxiety landscape
the drawbacks of traditional cognitive behavioral therapy
physical ways to take care of your mental health

Remember: Anxiety doesn’t automatically mean something is mentally wrong with you. Often it’s your physical body asking for care, and sometimes it’s your inner compass asking for honesty. Either way, you deserve support that helps you feel safer in your body and steadier in your mental health.

Dr. Ellen Vora is a board-certified psychiatrist who takes a functional medicine approach to mental health. Dr. Vora received her B.A. from Yale University and her M.D. from Columbia University. She’s also the bestselling author of The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response where she shares a whole-person perspective on anxiety, mental health, and overall well-being– especially for women.

Follow Dr. Ellen on Instagram: @ellenvoramd Get Dr. Ellen’s book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response

And if you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ellenvoramd

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The Best Mental Health Book That Changed How I See Myself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Jan 2026 15:00:00 +0000

Sometimes the parts of us we’re trying hardest to fix are the ones working the hardest to protect us. Inspired by one of the best mental health books I’ve read recently, this episode offers a compassionate framework for understanding your inner world without pathologizing it.

If you’ve ever felt conflicted, inconsistent, or torn in different directions, this conversation is for you. It explores why inner tension does not mean you are failing at mental health. It might actually make a lot of sense. This episode reviews my biggest takeaways from the book No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz.

We’ll explore ideas like:

Why there are no bad parts — only misunderstood ones
How self-compassion creates internal safety instead of control
The difference between being protector-led vs. Self-led
Why mental health isn’t about eliminating inner conflict, but learning how to relate to it
What it looks like to stay engaged with the world while still protecting your energy

We also touch on something many of us struggle with: how to care deeply about the world without letting its weight completely overwhelm you. And why true self love does not require numbing out, bypassing reality, or carrying everything alone.

Remember: Every part of your personality that you do not love will become hostile. The goal is not to get rid of parts of yourself, but to change how you relate to them.

If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread conversations about mental health, confidence, and self-love in a way that feels real and sustainable.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

“How to talk to the worst parts of yourself” TEDx talk by Karen Faith

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Why Manifestation Doesn’t Work Without Self-Worth with Samantha Chung

Samantha Chung — Thu, 15 Jan 2026 15:00:00 +0000

WOW!!! This just might be the most enlightening, inspiring interview on Mary’s Cup of Tea, thanks to our guest, Samantha Chung. Rooted in self-love and self-worth, Sam’s approach to manifestation is deep yet simple, grounded yet expansive, firm yet deeply compassionate.

Contrary to popular belief, isn’t about positive thinking, vision boards, or proving your worth — it’s about the relationship you have with yourself. Sam explains why healing shame, releasing self-criticism, and relating to yourself with compassion is what actually changes what you attract.

You will learn about...

the surprising link between loving yourself and manifesting your dreams
how to reconcile manifestation teachings with privilege, access, and real-world limitations
why Sam hates the word “manifestation” and the connotations it comes with
how to repair a punitive, damaged relationship with yourself
why self-compassion will not you complacent
what body-image struggles reveal about safety, control, and self worth
how to face your own unworthiness and make contact with a deeply supportive part of yourself
the ONLY emotion that lowers your vibration
access the emotional experience you think money, love, or success will finally give you
see manifestation as a lifestyle rooted in self-love, not a method to fix yourself

Remember: Manifestation doesn't work without self-worth. It's not about getting or achieving something, it's about who you become along the way.

Samantha Chung is a transformational life and mindset coach, viral content creator, and host of the top-ranking podcast Spiraling Higher. She is on a mission to help people break free from their conditioned narratives and awaken to their most authentic, limitless selves. Her paradigm-shifting perspectives have inspired millions to step into self-love and embody their highest potential. Today, she’s here to help you do the same.

Follow Sam on Instagram: @simplifying.sam

Learn more about Sam’s private coaching here.

Share this self love podcast with the women in your life or on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @simplifying.sam

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6 Self Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My Late 20s (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Jan 2026 14:00:00 +0000

Self love isn’t just about accepting yourself as you are or chasing a better version of yourself. It’s about learning how to hold contradictory parts of yourself with self compassion and curiosity.

This conversation explores self love, confidence, mental health, body image, and self-awareness through the lens of growth, rest, insecurity, joy, and becoming. If you’re in your late 20s, or going through a big life transition, this episode is for you.

You will learn how to…

reframe the way you think about insecurities
question diet culture, beauty standards, productivity, and comparison
understand how pleasure can coexist with pain

Remember: self love is not about reaching a healed or perfected version of yourself. It’s about staying honest, present, and compassionate through every season of becoming.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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How Astrology Can Support Your Mental Health with Daniela Karpenos

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Jan 2026 15:30:00 +0000

Astrology can be a grounding, practical tool for self-love and mental health, especially for women navigating change. Daniela from Cosmic Latte joins me to break down rising signs, moon energy, and Saturn returns—and how understanding your zodiac chart can help you meet yourself with more compassion, confidence, and care. Whether you’re looking to add a little whimsy to your life or fully devote yourself to the stars, this episode is equal parts fun and educational.

You will learn about...

why most daily horoscopes are incorrect
the importance of knowing your rising sign
how the moon influences mood, energy, and confidence
how astrology can help you build routines that support your mental health
what a Saturn return brings up in your late 20s (and why it’s not all doom)
the astrology of weekdays i.e. how to plan your week around the planets

Remember: Self-love isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about understanding yourself and letting that understanding soften the way you show up. Daniela Karpenos is a New York-based astrologer and founder of Cosmic Latte, a community of 200,000+ unique souls worldwide devoted to feeding spiritual curiosity, creativity, and connection. With her Leo sun flair and Cancer moon intuition, she shares playful astrology content to help you discover your “you-niverse.”

Get your personalized eclipse guidebook from The Cosmic Latte here!

Or book a private astrology reading with Daniela at thecosmiclatte.com and follow her on Instagram @thecosmiclatte

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If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @cosmiclatte so we can share this self-love journey with you!

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How to Make a Vision Board: A Self-Love Practice for the New Year

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Dec 2025 16:00:00 +0000

A vision board can be a powerful tool for self love when created intentionally. In this episode, Mary shares how to approach vision boarding as a self-love practice rooted in intention, self worth, and presence rather than pressure, perfection, or productivity.

If you want Mary’s vision board template, you can get instant access at maryscupoftea.com/vision and follow along.

Instead of focusing on how your life should look, this process invites you to reconnect with how you want it to feel — offering a refreshing approach to self love that prioritizes intention over outcome, being happy in your life (not just happy with it), and learning to enjoy the process of becoming someone you’re proud of.

Tune in to learn…

How to make a digital vision board that feels supportive instead of overwhelming
Why intentions are much better than traditional goal-setting
How to manifest from self compassion rather than control
The difference between being “happy with your life” vs. being happy in it
What a vision board becomes when it’s rooted in self-worth, not pressure

Remember: Your vision board is not a contract — it’s a conversation with your future self. What’s meant for you is already unfolding, and your only responsibility is to stay present, responsive, and kind to yourself along the way.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self-love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Why Women Need To Stop Trying to Be “Good” with Joy Sullivan

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 19 Dec 2025 14:00:00 +0000

As women, we’re often praised for being “good” — benevolent, proper, generous, and agreeable. But that version of goodness often comes at the expense of your mental health. And it requires a type of self-abandonment which leaves little room for complexity, creativity, or truth.

Poet and writer Joy Sullivan joins Mary to explore why being “good” can be antithetical to being fully human. Together, they unpack purity culture (both religious and progressive), moral performance, and the shame that follows many women. They also explore Joy’s viral essay Tiny Evils and why allowing ourselves small, imperfect, human transgressions can actually reconnect us to creativity.

You will learn how to…

Question moral perfection without abandoning integrity
Understand why goodness is often performative
Reclaim creativity as survival, not productivity
Write and create with confidence and without censoring your vulnerability

Remember: You don’t have to be flawless to be worthy. Your self worth is inherent. If you can love yourself as you are, your creativity will skyrocket.

Joy Sullivan is a poet, teacher, and author of the national bestseller, *Instructions for Traveling West.* She received a Masters in poetry from Miami University and has served as the poet-in-residence for the Wexner Center for the Arts. Her work has appeared in places like Goop, Oprah Daily, and The Sunday Paper.

In addition to leading international writing retreats, Joy has guest-lectured in classrooms from Stanford University to Florida International University and is the founder of Sustenance, a community designed to help writers revitalize and nourish their craft. Read her thoughts on the creative life in her Substack newsletter, Necessary Salt

Follow Joy on Instagram: **@**joysullivan

Get Joy’s poetry book *Instructions for Traveling West.*

Learn more about Joy’s writing community, Sustenance, here.

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The 7 Principles of Self-Love: What Loving Yourself Actually Means

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Dec 2025 14:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary explores seven principles of self love, using her Self-Love Tree framework as a calm and grounding guide for your year-end reflection and renewal.

You will learn how to…

Understand the roots of self-love: self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-worth
Apply the Self-Love Tree framework to your spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, social, romantic, and existential wellbeing
Create your own personalized self-love template to support next year’s intentions

May you always ground yourself in your own unique individual framework for self love, whether that's a tree or something else you want to plant.

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Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:
1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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How Toxic Positivity Harms Mental Health with Whitney Goodman, LMFT (Encore)

Whitney Goodman — Sat, 6 Dec 2025 12:55:00 +0000

Mary talks with licensed psychotherapist Whitney Goodman about the harmful effects of toxic positivity on our mental health. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it — those moments when someone brushes off your pain and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s dismissive, overwhelming, and the opposite of self compassion.

Whitney shares with us about...

what toxic positivity is and the different areas it shows up in (specifically how it appears in religion, workplace, health, grief, etc)
how toxic positivity differs from true self compassion
the antidote to toxic positivity
how to talk to your loved ones when they are experiencing pain
self talk tools that will support your mental health without the pressure to have a positive mindset 24/7

Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, the founder of Calling Home, author of Toxic Positivity, and owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a private online therapy practice in Florida. Her work deeply resonates with women who are navigating boundaries, complex family systems, and the pressure to stay “positive” no matter what.

Whitney earned her undergraduate degree at Tulane University and her graduate degree in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She has advanced training in couples work, trauma, family dynamics, and chronic illness. Her writing appears in Psychology Today and she has been featured in The New York Times, Teen Vogue, NY Magazine, InStyle, and Good Morning America.

A millennial therapist committed to making mental health information accessible, Whitney believes authenticity and emotional expression are essential to living a grounded, meaningful life. Her transparency around her own humanity helps normalize the full spectrum of feelings we all experience.

Remember: “Happiness and positivity have become both a goal and an obligation.” But you don’t have to buy into that—real well-being honors your full emotional landscape and protects your mental health.

Follow Whitney on Instagram: @sitwithwhit

Get Whitney’s book Toxic Positivity here.

And if you're enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sitwithwhit.

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7 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Make Decisions From a Place of Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Nov 2025 14:00:00 +0000

If decision fatigue has you spiraling, this episode will help you reconnect with your needs, wants, desires, and values. Mary shares 7 steps for soothing anxiety, finding clarity, and making choices with confidence and from a place of self-love.

You will learn how to...
- Stop outsourcing your life to other people’s opinions
- Regulate your nervous system so you can make decisions from a place of confidence and self love
- Clarify your values and return to your own inner guidance

Remember: self love isn’t about making the “perfect” choice. It’s about making the choice that honors who you are right now. This episode is a self-love reminder for women who feel stuck or overwhelmed by decision fatigue.

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love. Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:
1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode:
Podcast Interview: Why Self Worth Starts in Your Body with Beatriz Victoria Albina
Book: Stop Emotional Outsourcing by Béa Victoria Albina
Mary’s viral video: “What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do”

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How to Handle Relationship Conflicts with Confidence with Baya Voce

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Nov 2025 14:00:00 +0000

Relationship conflict doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. With the right tools and a sense of confidence and self trust, even the messiest moments can become turning points for deeper intimacy. This conversation with relationship expert Baya Voce is packed with research-backed relationship advice that helps you understand why you fight the way you do—and how to shift patterns that have followed you for years.

You will learn...

what healthy fighting look like and how to navigate conflict with confidence
the different types of toxic tendencies many of us default to when triggered
do men and women differ when it comes to default patterns?
Gottman’s 4 Horsemen, the subtle-but-deadly behaviors that quietly erode connection
what to do when you’ve asked your partner to change, but they can’t or won’t
how to decide whether to stay in or leave a relationship

Remember: A healthy relationship isn’t defined by “never fighting.” It’s about navigating conflict with confidence, a regulated nervous system, and trust in your ability to repair.

Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster. She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel, and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies), and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.

Follow Baya on Instagram: @bayavoce

Baya’s Workbook on How To Bridge the “Effort Gap” in Your Relationship

Get Baya’s free guide on what to say to your partner after a fight

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An Intuitive Eating Tip That Will Help At Holiday Parties

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Nov 2025 14:00:00 +0000

If intuitive eating feels harder during the holidays, you’re not alone. Between buffet tables, endless trigger foods, family comments, and social anxiety, it’s easy to slip into old, disordered eating habits. In this solo episode, Mary shares a simple but powerful intuitive eating tip that can help you feel less crazy around food. This mindset shift will help you approach holiday eating from a place of self compassion and self trust.

This episode isn’t about what’s on your plate — it’s about how you relate to it. Because when food becomes tangled up with guilt, rules, or anxiety, it takes away from your ability to be present in the moment. Instead of succumbing to diet culture, use this intuitive eating tip to rebuild your sense of safety around food and feel more full, whole, and complete.

If you’ve ever found yourself circling the snack table, cutting slivers of dessert, or trying to outsmart your hunger, this one’s going to hit home.

You deserve to be fed, nourished, and loved.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Why Self Worth Starts in Your Body with Beatriz Victoria Albina

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Nov 2025 14:00:00 +0000

People mistakenly believe that self worth lives in the mind. Like if you just think confident thoughts or repeat affirmations like “I’m a worthy woman,” it’ll magically click. But if you’ve ever tried to think your way into feeling like you are enough, you’ve probably noticed… it doesn’t last. That’s because true self worth doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body.

In this episode, Mary talks with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a Somatic Life Coach and author of End Emotional Outsourcing, to explore how reconnecting with your body can transform your relationship with yourself. Béa explains that so many women have been taught to “emotionally outsource” — to base their worth on other people’s validation, approval, or emotions. Traditionally, this has been labeled as codependency, but Béa offers a more compassionate lens that helps us understand why we do it and how to heal.

Together, they unpack what emotional outsourcing really means, how to regulate your nervous system, and how to come back home to yourself. This conversation will help you move beyond people pleasing and perfectionism and into a sense of embodied safety — where self worth isn’t something you have to prove, but something you feel.

In this episode, you will learn…

why and how self worth starts in the body
what emotional outsourcing is and how it differs from codependency
how to break free from self abandonment and practice self compassion
ways to stop chronically people pleasing and detach from others’ emotions

Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (published Sept 30) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade.

🌿 Order Béa’s book End Emotional Outsourcing → beatrizalbina.com/book/

🧘‍♀️ Try her free meditations → beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/

💌 Follow Béa on IG → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp

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Self Love Reminders for Women Who Are Ready for Healing | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Oct 2025 12:00:00 +0000

Self love isn’t a one-time epiphany; it’s a lifelong practice of coming home to yourself. True self-love is rooted in deep self-awareness — because you can’t fully love yourself without first knowing yourself.

This Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea episode brings together some of my favorite clips about healing through self-love. My hope is that these reminders meet you exactly where you are and offer a gentle nudge to keep showing up for yourself, even when the path feels messy or uncertain.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

why the cure to burnout is NOT self care
how to detach your self worth from your productivity
tools for healing from heartbreak and breakups
a simple trick for practicing compassionate self talk
the power of slowing down and resting
how to hold onto hope when everything sucks
ways to reconnect with yourself when you feel lost
simple, grounded ways to prioritize self love every day
mindset shifts for self love, confidence, and knowing that you are enough

Whether you’re coming out of burnout, trying to separate your worth from your work, or putting yourself back together after heartbreak, this episode is your reminder that self-love isn’t selfish. It’s essential.

✨ Deepen your self love journey with the full episodes featured:

Listen to the other episodes in this Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea Series:

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the self love tea!

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Confidence Practices for Women Who Want to Trust Themselves Again | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 17 Oct 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Confidence isn’t something you either have or you don’t — it’s something you practice, lose, question, rebuild, and redefine a hundred times over.

This “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” episode brings together some of the most powerful confidence advice. Whether you’re rebuilding your self confidence after a setback, learning to trust yourself again, or simply trying to quiet that inner critic, this episode is your reminder that confidence is a practice. It’s for women who want to embody AUTHENTIC confidence.

We will unpack…

signs that you’re struggling with self confidence
mindset shifts that will help you feel more confident
why your insecurities might secretly be your strengths
advice from my teen sister (aka my confidence icon) on embracing your uniqueness
how to stop comparing yourself to other versions of you
ways to deal with criticism and rejection
how the language we use shapes our worldview
why affirmations don’t work (and what to do instead)
what purpose means in the context of self love
how to deal with uncertainty and self doubt

Whether you’re looking to boost your confidence or learn to trust yourself again, let this episode be a reminder of your self worth.

If you want to dive deeper into the confidence tips, here are the full episodes:

Full episodes:

💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life!

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Powerful Mental Health & Mindset Shifts for Women Who Feel Lost | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 10 Oct 2025 16:39:15 +0000

Taking care of your mental health is never one-size-fits-all, especially for women who experience self-criticism, overwhelm, and constant comparison.

This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I gathered some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on mental health and positive mindset shifts for women who are ready to get unstuck.

You’ll hear clips on…

motivating yourself with self compassion vs. self criticism
letting go of control and perfectionism
why women must approach mindset work through a feminist perspective
how to redefine success on your terms
healing your relationship to money and abundance
the underrated power of enthusiasm
mantras to carry you through hard times
how to process emotions effectively
coping with feeling lost or “behind” in life
using the power of your mindset to cope with mental health struggles

Let this compilation be one giant reminder that you are enough and you are not alone. This self love podcast is here to support your mental health and mindset.

✨ Deepen your journey with the full episodes on our self-love podcast:

💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, please share it with a friend who could use a gentle reminder that they’re not alone.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Healthy Relationship Advice for Women Who Value Love That Lasts | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 26 Sep 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Healthy relationships are such a big part of self-love.

But love, dating, and long-term partnership can feel complicated — especially when it comes to intimacy, communication, and navigating conflict. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into relationship advice for women who value love that lasts.

This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I pulled together some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on relationship advice. Whether you’re single, dating, married, or hoping for long-term partnership, you deserve safe, healthy love.

You will hear about…

early-stage dating advice from me and my husband
keeping intimacy and sexual connection alive in long-term relationships
easy ways to build eroticism and closeness with your partner
how to create an egalitarian partnership
navigating conflict, fighting fair, and communicating effectively
recognizing and healing from toxic dynamics
coping with heartbreak and learning to enjoy being single
building up your self-worth to attract healthy, stable love

Whether you’re looking to boost your confidence in dating or strengthen your long-term partnership, tune in for practical, heartfelt relationship advice rooted in women empowerment.

May this be a reminder that healthy relationships — romantic or otherwise — are a key part of self-love.

If you want to dive deeper into relationships, intimacy, and healing, here are the full episodes:

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love – An interactive workbook that helps you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love – A guided self-love journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and embrace who you are

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with your partner, friends, or anyone you want to nudge toward better relationships — and maybe try the eye-gazing challenge while you’re at it! ;)

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Female Friendships Advice for Women Who Crave Deeper Connection | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Sat, 20 Sep 2025 02:36:08 +0000

This self love podcast is ALL about women empowerment, and friendships are such a key part of that.

But female friendships in particular can feel complicated, especially as women navigate a world that often undervalues their emotional needs and social bonds. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into friendship, connection, and how women can cultivate meaningful relationships in adulthood.

This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self-love podcast. Today’s episode focuses on friendships, connection, and the joy of being close to like-hearted women.

You will hear about…

how to make new friends as an adult
ways to get closer with your existing friends
breaking past surface-level “catch-up culture” and building rituals that matter
the different types of friendships women can cultivate and why quality matters
navigating conflict in female friendships with compassion
overcoming fear of rejection and people-pleasing in relationships
why in-person gathering is an important part of community-building
why asking for help is a powerful way to strengthen bonds

Whether you already have great girl friends and want to get closer or are looking to find your people, this episode will help you with the who/ what/ where/ how and why.

May this be a reminder that meaningful relationships are a key part of self-love and women’s empowerment.

If you want to dive deeper into female friendships and building your support system, here are the full episodes:

Let these conversations be your friendly nudge to show up for the women who matter in your life. Because the people around you can make or break your self love journey.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life to support womens empowerment and promote self love.

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Body Love & Self Worth for Women Who Hate Beauty Standards | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Sep 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Body love can feel impossible in a world obsessed with beauty standards, especially for women. In this self love podcast episode, we’re diving into body love, self worth, and how women can navigate a world that often undervalues them.

This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self love podcast. Today’s topic addresses how to love yourself beyond your appearance and approach body image challenges with self compassion.

You will hear about…

how to be body positive and navigate health challenges with self compassion
detaching your self worth from beauty standards and external validation
the slew of socio-cultural forces that make body love really fckn hard for women
how to decide what clothes to wear when you’re having a bad body image day
body shame in the bedroom
dealing with weight gain
practical ways to cultivate body love and self worth

Whether you’re starting your journey toward body love or just need a refresher, these conversations will remind you that your self worth is not determined by your appearance.

If you want to dive deeper into your body love journey, here are the links to the full episodes:

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to challenge beauty standards, inspire body love, and spread the gift of self love.

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Eating Disorder Recovery Tools for Women Who Are DONE with Diet Culture | Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Eating disorder recovery is possible, even if it feels difficult at times. So many women struggle in silence with disordered eating and the constant pressure of diet culture, even if they’re not formally diagnosed with an eating disorder.

In this special “Best Of” episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful moments from our self-love podcast. And today’s topic is eating disorder recovery, breaking free from diet culture and leaning into intuitive eating. You’ll hear bits and pieces of my personal eating disorder story, what helped me recover from bulimia, as well as advice from therapists and dietitians.

You will hear about...

how diet culture works in insidious ways
my experience with an eating disorder (bulimia + binge eating)
the root cause of binge eating and how to break the cycle
what finally helped me overcome binge eating
why intuitive eating works is so much more liberating than any diet or weight loss program

Whether you are just beginning your eating disorder recovery journey or you’ve been working at it for years, these conversations will remind you that recovery is not only possible—it’s worth it.

Here are the links to the full episodes:

If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to combat diet culture, promote positive body image, and spread the gift of self love.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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How to Love Yourself Through Bad Body Image Days

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Many women phase bad body image days, especially in a world that equates beauty with self worth.

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and struggled to feel comfortable in your skin, then this episode is for you. The relationship between body image and self-love is complex, but I’m here to remind you that body love is possible.

By shifting our focus from our body image to how our bodies feel, we can reject beauty standards and build our self esteem.

Tune in to learn...

why the phrase “body image” or “body positivity” is a bit misleading
a somatic exercise that will instantly help you love yourself
one question to ask yourself to invite in more confidence and self-love

This episode is not just about body love; it's a heartfelt discussion on self confidence, self esteem, and reclaiming self worth beyond our bodies.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life to help spread this self love tea!

🫖 P.S. This self love podcast episode pairs beautifully with: Mary’s TEDx Talk about body-image

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How Diet Culture Hijacks Women’s Wellness w/ Christy Harrison, MPH (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Diet culture has a sneaky way of showing up everywhere. From weightloss plans disguised as “lifestyle changes” to wellness trends promising to heal everything from your skin to your soul. In this encore episode, I’m joined by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD—author of The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet—to unpack how diet culture infiltrates the wellness world and impacts women’s health in ways that are anything but healthy.

Christy explains how the multi-billion-dollar wellness industry often sells us pseudoscience, dubious diagnoses, and rigid food rules that can lead to disordered eating, body image issues, and mental health struggles. We talk about why so many people—especially women—get caught in this cycle, how eating disorders aren’t always obvious, and why scientific literacy is one of the most powerful tools for protecting your health.

You will learn...

Why diet culture’s obsession with weight loss harms physical and mental health
How wellness trends exploit fear to sell ineffective or harmful solutions
The connection between restrictive eating, binge eating, bulimia, and long-term health issues
Why women are extra susceptible to falling into diet culture and wellness trends
How social media and our political climate contributes to wellness mis- and dis-information

Remember: Your worth isn’t measured by your weight, your diet, or how “well” you follow health trends. Real wellness is about freedom and self compassion.

Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and journalist who has been covering food, nutrition, and health for more than 20 years. She is the author of two books, The Wellness Trapand Anti-Diet, and host of the podcasts Rethinking Wellness and Food Psych. Christy’s decades of work in journalism, nutrition, and intuitive eating have helped thousands break free from the false promises of diet culture and find a more compassionate, evidence-based approach to food and health. Whether you’ve struggled with dieting, fallen into the wellness trap, or simply want to support women’s health in a more sustainable way, this conversation will help you see wellness culture in a whole new light.

Get Christy’s latest book: The Wellness Trap: Break Free from Diet Culture, Disinformation, and Dubious Diagnoses and Find Your True Well-Being

Learn more about Christy at christyharrison.com and follow her on Instagram @chr1styharrison

Mentioned in This Episode: Fears About Food Additives, article by Christy Harrison Is Red Food Dye Dangerous?

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To Love Yourself, You Have to Tell the TRUTH

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0000

You can’t truly love yourself if you’re lying to yourself.

And you certainly can’t find peace in a version of you that’s not real.

Because when you try to love a version of yourself that isn’t true, it feels empty. It’s like people-pleasing: if you sacrifice authenticity for approval, then who are they really approving of? Not the real you. And the same goes for self-approval. If we dress up a lie and call it self love, we’re building a facade that will inevitably crumble.

Self love requires radical self honesty.

In this episode, you will learn…

Why women, in particular, tend to lie to themselves (even more than they lie to others)
What all major religions and spiritual teachings say about truth-telling
3 simple but profound ways to use honesty as a daily practice of loving yourself

We’ll also explore ideas from authors like bell hooks, George Saunders, Don Miguel Ruiz, and Tara Brach, whose teachings remind us that honesty is the foundation of love.

If you’ve ever felt like self-love doesn’t “work” for you, or that you’re doing everything but still feel disconnected, this episode might reveal why and inspire you to honestly love yourself.

Remember: telling the truth isn’t about sharing every secret, it’s about staying rooted in what’s real. And what’s real—no matter how messy—is worthy of self love.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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5 Signs of Low Self Esteem & How To Build Confidence (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 31 Jul 2025 15:03:37 +0000

A lack of self-confidence doesn’t always scream at you—sometimes it whispers in the background of your day. Today, Mary shares 5 not-so-obvious signs that your self-confidence might be quietly taking a hit… signs she’s personally working through, too.

These confidence red flags are common, especially amongst women. From seeking validation in the wrong places to constantly doubting your decisions, exploring self-confidence struggles can also help you shift them. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your own inner wisdom, this episode is for you.

You will learn how to...

stop trying to fill inner voids with external things (AKA build self-worth from within)
start trusting yourself more, even when life feels uncertain
break out of a victim mindset and reassure yourself that you are enough

Because here’s the truth about confidence: no amount of success, praise, or “shiny new thing” will give you lasting confidence or a truly positive mindset. You’re the only one who can create those feelings within yourself. And while that might sound daunting, it’s also incredibly empowering.

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Building Confidence Through Mindfulness with Harvard Psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Jul 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Ever wonder how some people move through life with ease, even when everything feels uncertain? According to Harvard psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer, it’s not about control—it’s about mindfulness. Mindfulness can be a vehicle to confidence, happiness and inner peace.

Dr. Ellen shares with us her refreshingly practical take on mindfulness—not as meditation, but as a way of engaging with the world that leads to more confidence and self-trust. You’ll hear her thoughts on why stress is optional, how to stop overthinking, and how letting go of “right vs. wrong” thinking can open up space for happiness.

You will learn how to...

move through life more mindfully
confidently make decisions
be more comfortable with uncertainty
break out of black-and-white thinking
embrace your individuality

Remember: Self-confidence doesn’t come from knowing. Rather, confidence comes from noticing.

Ellen Langer earned her Ph.D. at Yale University in Social and Clinical Psychology and joined the faculty at Harvard in 1977. She is considered the mother of mindfulness and has written five books on the topic starting with her best-seller, Mindfulness, and her newest book, The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health. The Langer Lab conducts research on health, happiness, decision- making, education, business and culture all through the lens of mindfulness. Because of this research, among other honors, Professor Langer has earned three Distinguished Scientist Awards, The Staats Award for Unifying Psychology, a Guggenheim Fellowship, and The Liberty Science Genius Award.

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The #1 Relationship Tip from Couples Therapy (That Transformed My Marriage, Family, and Friendships)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 12:00:00 +0000

If you are someone who loves building healthy relationships, communication skills, and personal growth, then this episode is for you.

A few years ago in couples therapy, I learned one simple relationship tip that completely changed the way I communicate, especially during conflict. It’s something I come back to again and again, whether I’m arguing with my husband or navigating tension with a family member.

This advice is so powerful because it works outside of romantic partnerships too—whether you're navigating tension with a friend, a family member, or anyone you love and respect.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the exact phrase my therapist said that stopped me in my tracks, helped my husband and I reconnect, and later, helped my sister and I move from feeling misunderstood to finally hearing each other.

But first, a big disclaimer: this tip only works with emotionally intelligent, securely attached people. It’s not for those in abusive dynamics or with people who are committed to misunderstanding you. If that’s something you’ve struggled with, I hope this episode gives you clarity on when to apply healthy communication tools—and when to have the self-worth to step away.

You’ll learn:

Why being “right” is overrated in relationships
How to shift from objective truth to subjective experiences
What emotionally-intelligent conflict resolution actually sounds like
How to move from defensiveness to connection in under 10 minutes

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just want to improve how you show up for the people you love, this episode will give you the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Ep. 170: Intentional Wedding Planning and Artful Gathering with Priya Parker

Ep. 257: Me and My Sister Recap Our Trip to France Ep. 258: Confidence Advice for Teen Girls (feat. My Amazing Sister)

Ep. 258: Confidence Advice for Teen Girls (feat. My Amazing Sister)

Podcast Episode with relationship therapist, Terry Real

Ep. 183: The Best Communication Book

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Confidence Tips for Teen Girls with My 17-Year-Old Sister!

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 9 Jul 2025 22:48:00 +0000

Are you ready for a confidence pep talk from my wise little sister?! Though she’s only 17, her perspective on mental health, body-image, and self-love is relatable to teens and adults alike. Whether you’re a big sister, auntie, parent, caretaker, or teen, you’ll walk away with a confidence boost and encouragement for self-love.

We talk about what it’s like growing up today—from social media pressure, identity struggles, family dynamics, and bullying at school. But we also unpack the beautiful parts: the power of a positive mindset and how even the messiest moments can spark personal growth.

You will learn about...

the challenges teenagers face these days and how adults can show up for them
why feeling lost is actually a good thing
our crunchy mom and how that’s impacted me and my sister’s body-image
how to deal with the grief of an absent or emotionally unavailable parent with self-compassion
ways to cultivate confidence and a positive mindset as a teen girl
what it’s like growing up in an immigrant household
what helps cope with bullying
how caretakers can support a teens with mental health struggles

Whether you're struggling with your own self-esteem or supporting a teen who is, this episode reminds us that confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s something all of us must practice. And sometimes, the people we think we’re teaching (like little sisters) end up being our greatest teachers.

Remember: If you’re having a hard time with confidence, self-esteem, or mental health in general, please reach out to someone you trust. Talking about it is the first step to healing—and you never have to do it alone.

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on Instagram! Sharing helps the message of self-love reach more women and girls around the world.

For more empowering conversations on self-love, confidence, relationships, body-image, mindset and mental health, please explore past episodes of Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women.

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Our Sister Trip to France: Self Esteem, Perfectionism, Highs and Lows

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this special episode, I sit down with my little sister to reflect on our unforgettable trip to France. Though my self-esteem was tested, it was a journey that made me and my sister closer than ever. From the cobblestone streets of Paris to the Mediterranean breeze in Nice, we share how travel can shape your confidence, challenge your mindset, and create memories you’ll never forget.

You will hear about…

the sister fights we had in France (and how we repaired)
our best and worst moments from the trip, including my “haircut from hell” that totally tested my self-esteem
what I learned about my perfectionism and personal growth
my sister’s relationship with art, her supportive art teacher, and how creative expression has shaped her self-esteem and sense of identity
how it feels to turn 17 and the pressure of feeling like you have to figure out who you’re supposed to be

Though this podcast is usually about self-love, body image, and confidence for women, I hope you enjoy this conversation with my sister. We learned so much about each other, the beauty and complexity of family, and how embracing imperfections can lead to genuine connection. Traveling together magnified our insecurities but also opened our hearts to more empathy and understanding—both for ourselves and for each other.

Remember: you don’t have to have everything perfectly planned out to be worthy of love, adventure, and self-compassion, and connection. Growth happens in the messy, unpolished moments, not just the picture-perfect ones. Your self-esteem might waver, and your confidence might crack, but you are enough exactly as you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Google map with all of our France recommendations

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3 Ways Women Sabotage Their Self Love + How To Love Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Jun 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Let’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.

If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and grounding reminders you need to return to yourself.

You will learn how to...

Stay rooted in self-worth when the world feels like it’s on fire
Recognize the difference between reacting and responding
Free yourself from the cycles of rushing and regretting

This self-love podcast episode is meant to help you reflect rather than react, slow down instead of rushing, and trust yourself instead of spiraling in regret.

We often think of self-love as something fluffy or indulgent, but the truth is: it’s crucial. It’s the foundation for how we show up in the world, how we treat others, and how we protect our peace. As you’ll hear in this episode, the more you cultivate self-love, the less reactive you become. The more grounded you are, the less likely you are to betray yourself in moments of stress or uncertainty.

Remember: self-love isn’t a luxury—it’s the foundation of personal and collective healing.

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Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode…

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How to Love Yourself Amidst Trauma, Grief, and Chronic Pain with Ruthie Lindsey (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Jun 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Ruthie Lindsey joins us for a powerful and tender conversation about healing, self-compassion, and what it truly means to love yourself. As a speaker and author, Ruthie shares her journey of navigating chronic pain, deep grief, and religious trauma. Her story reminds us that even in the most painful chapters of life, there is beauty to be found—and that healing is possible when we learn to come home to ourselves.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

How Ruthie “came back to life” after both physical and emotional trauma
The ongoing journey of processing grief, including the loss of her father and how it shaped her healing
The challenges of living with chronic pain while still choosing to love your body
What “embodied healing” means and feels like
Embodiment practices that help you process and release trauma
How religious trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and how to rediscover spirituality on your own terms
What it looks like to reparent yourself and love yourself through the process

This episode is especially meaningful for women who are on a healing journey whether it’s navigating grief, mental health, faith shifts, body image struggles, or simply trying to feel more comfortable in your body. Ruthie offers a compassionate reminder that you don’t need to be “fixed” to be worthy. You just need to show up with presence, honesty, and a willingness to love yourself as you are. You are enough.

Follow Ruthie on Instagram: @ruthielindsey Check out her upcoming workshops and retreats.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Watch the toddler video we talked about

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Feeling Lost After Eating Disorder Recovery and Befriending Like-Minded Women

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Jun 2025 13:00:00 +0000

This is a “reverse interview” where Jessi Jean interviews Mary about the aftermath of ED recovery. Let’s unpack a feeling many of us know all too well—feeling lost, lonely, and realizing that making friends as an adult is HARD. We chat about how healing your relationship with food and body image can throw you into an existential crisis. You might have also asked yourself, "WTF just happened?" or "Who am I?" after ED recovery. How do you move forward when (thankfully) food and body-image no longer control your life?

Mary shares her journey from battling disordered eating and body-image issues to becoming a self-love queen, hosting retreats, writing books, and blowing up on social media. We break down the nuances of ED recovery, followed by the awkward "I'm lost" phase, why building community as an adult is so damn hard, and how to actually do it.

This conversation is for anyone feeling lonely, lost, or in need of community.

Tune in to hear…

01:37 Mary's Journey to ED Recovery and Self-Love

04:01 The Concept of Being 'Recovered' from an Eating Disorder

07:48 Navigating Identity and Purpose After ED Recovery

17:50 Building Community and Friendships as an Adult

33:55 Advice for Making Your Friendships Stronger

39:00 What It Means to Act “As If” to Create a More Positive Mindset

39:17 The Importance of Low Expectations in Friendships

46:36 What is a Self-Love Retreat? Why Did Mary Start Hosting Self-Love Retreats?

53:15 The Power of In-Person Connections and Gatherings

Whether you're trying to level up your relationships, figure out who you are, or start a self-love journey, this episode is packed with practical tips, personal stories, and wisdom from two women who are very much so still figuring it out.

If you enjoyed this conversation, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! We love women empowering women!

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Small Acts of Self-Care That Help My Mental Health

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Jun 2025 12:30:00 +0000

A personal solo episode where I (Mary) share my “small joys” i.e. little acts of self-care that have made a big difference. Each one has become a gentle anchor, a little nudge to remember who I am and what I need. And through them, I’m realizing how the act of keeping promises to myself—no matter how small—has become a declaration of self-worth.

You will hear about...

6 teeny tiny self-care practices that have made a big difference in my mental health
the books I’ve been reading lately (including my unpopular opinion about The Women by Kristin Hannah)
reflections on relationships and making new friends
how to cultivate a positive mindset

At the core of this episode is the idea that keeping promises to yourself is a declaration of self-worth. Every time you follow through on taking care of yourself, you are signaling that you are WORTHY of the time, energy, money, and attention self-care demands.

Tune in for a gentle invitation to remember that your life is YOURS to shape, nurture, and enjoy. A positive mindset could be just a small step away.

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Hilary Hahn performing J.S. Bach: Partita for Violin Solo No. 1 in B Minor, BWV 1002 - 4. Double (Presto)
Ep. 243: How to Stay Hopeful, Joyful, and Soulful with Victoria Hutchins on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube
Ep. 234: Finding Myself in the Unlikeliest of Places (Cuba) on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube

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How to Feel Sexy in a Long-Term Relationship with Sexologist Shan Boodram

Shan Boodram — Thu, 29 May 2025 13:00:00 +0000

Let’s talk about SEX, baby! Shan Boodram, a renowned sexologist and relationship educator, joins our self-love podcast to share powerful insights on how to feel sexy and confident in a long-term relationship. We explore the nuances of body-image insecurities and relationship dynamics, as Shan delivers her no-nonsense advice on how to feel sexy.

You will learn how to...

navigate body-image insecurities in the bedroom
bring up your sexual needs, wants, desires, and concerns without killing the vibe
navigate dry spells in a long-term relationship
channel your sex appeal and feel sexy in your skin
how to handle mix matched desires
reignite the “spark” in your relationship

Shan also answers some of the most common questions about sex and relationships, like:

They say couples should have sex at least once a week. Is this true?
Does scheduling sex kill the mood?
Do men have a higher sex drive than women?
If the spark is gone, does it mean the relationship is deteriorating?

Whether you’re committed, married, or want to be one day, this conversation is filled with female empowerment and relationship advice that will boost your confidence. Get ready to FEEL SEXY.

Remember: A healthy long-term relationship gives you the freedom to be yourself. And THAT is sexy.

Shan Boodram is an AASECT certified sex educator, an American Board of Sexology certified Sexologist, with a M.S. in psychology best known for her work on Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle and as the host of Lovers by Shan Podcast. She has mainstream coverage across all major media networks including: The Today Show, ABC Good Morning America, The Talk, The Real, and The View. Boodram hosted The Marriage Pact on The Roku Channel, Hung Up from Headspace Studios, Makeup or Breakup on Watch, Sexology with Shan Boodram on Quibi and she co-hosted Ex-Rated with Andy Cohen on Peacock. Boodram is a best-selling author of, “The Game Of Desire" (HarperCollins, '19) acclaimed by TIME, Apple, Glamour & Refinery29. She's written for Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, CBC, Playboy and InStyle. Shan is part owner of Arya - a subscription service for couples, she is also Bumble’s sex and relationship expert as well as a longstanding member of the National Coalition for Sexual Health. She recently released a class on MasterClass called The Art of Sex Appeal. Currently she lives in Los Angeles with her two daughters and husband Jared Brady. In the realm of modern intimacy and relationship education, Shan Boodram is not just a leader; she is a pioneer, constantly pushing boundaries since 2009 and inspiring millions to explore, understand, and celebrate the power of intimate connections.

Follow Shan on Instagram @shanboodram

Learn more about Shan’s MasterClass here and her new jewelry line inspired by Kama Sutra

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Mentioned In This Podcast...

Taylor Tomlinson’s “Do It Like Craig” bit

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Boost Confidence with These Delulu Positive Mindset Shifts

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 May 2025 12:45:00 +0000

What if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!”

Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence.

You will learn how to...

- lie to yourself in an empowering way lol

- stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift

- break free from external validation and derive your confidence from within

- balance self-trust with consistent, confident action-taking

- release perfectionism and believe in yourself

Especially for women, embracing a positive mindset is often the first rebellion against a world that profits off of our self-doubt. This isn’t about toxic positivity or lying to yourself in a way that’s avoidant. It’s about consciously choosing beliefs rooted in self-love that remind you that you are enough. Reclaim your self-esteem by choosing self-talk that inspires action and fuels your dreams, regardless of personal insecurities or cultural expectations.

Remember: Confidence doesn’t always have to be logical. It just has to set you free. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! We love women empowering women!

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode:

Ep. 212 How To Be Honest with Yourself

How Often Do People Lie? University of Wisconsin article

Ep. 246: The Breakup That Paved My Self-Love Journey

@alok on Instagram

Ep. 250: Productivity Advice Meets Self-Compassion with Oliver Burkeman

Useful Not True by Derek Sivers

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Productivity Meets Self-Compassion: Overcome Overwhelm and Perfectionism with Oliver Burkeman

Oliver Burkeman — Thu, 15 May 2025 12:00:00 +0000

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your to‑do list? This episode is truly the best productivity advice you'll ever receive because it's built on a foundation of self-compassion. It's Oliver Burkeman exposes why mainstream time management hacks fail and how accepting your human finitude liberates you to be meaningfully productive.

You will learn how to...

redefine productivity beyond endless to‑do lists
ditch hustle culture, but still do what matters most
approach time management with self-acceptance and self-compassion
unlock mental shifts that free you from perfectionism, anxiety, and overwhelm
care about the world’s problems without succumbing to paralyzing despair

Remember: One day, you will die with an unfinished to-do list. No amount of productivity hacks will avoid that. Let this truth liberate you to focus on what truly matters and approach your workload with self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love.

OLIVER BURKEMAN is the acclaimed author of Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals and Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts. His earlier works include The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking and HELP! How to Become Slightly Happier and Get a Bit More Done. For years, he penned the Guardian column “This Column Will Change Your Life,” and his writing has been featured in the Observer, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychologies magazine, and New Philosopher. A former Brooklyn resident, Oliver now lives with his wife and son in England’s North York Moors.

Sign up for Oliver’s newsletter, The Imperfectionist Please get yourself copies of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals!!

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Productivity for Self-Lovers, Ep. 125 on Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast
Elizabeth Gilbert's book Eat, Pray, Love
Elizabeth Gilbert's book, Committed
Resonance: A Sociology of Our Relationship to the World by Hartmut Rosa
New York Times article on Novelty
Slow Productivity by Cal Newport
Are We Still Empathic if We Don't Take Action?

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5 Self Love Shifts to Get Your Spark Back If You’ve Lost It

Mary Jelkovsky — Sat, 10 May 2025 13:05:00 +0000

Feeling stuck in a rut? Like you've lost your spark? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments where motivation seems to slip through their fingers, leaving them questioning their worth and purpose.

Using a balance of mindset shifts and practical advice, Mary will guide you to reigniting your sense of self-worth. Tune in to hear small self-love shifts will help you get your spark back.

You will learn how to...

- release perfectionism and stop fantasizing about an unrealistic version of perfection

- build confidence that is NOT based on external validation

- practice mindfulness to strengthen your self-love

- lean into a spirit of self-discovery

- incorporate small self-love habits into your life that can lead to significant shifts in mindset

Remember: No one can take away what’s in your mind. Your mindset is always the one thing within your control.

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Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

This self-love podcast for women is here to help you love yourself. Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode... The Choice by Dr. Edith Eger Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl TikTok video with advice on how to get your spark back

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Why Binge Eating Isn’t Really About Food with Nutritionist and Therapist Ryann Prentice

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 May 2025 18:56:45 +0000

If you’ve ever felt “out of control” around food—whether it’s binge eating and/ or constantly feeling guilty when you eat—this episode will help you release any residual shame you might be carrying. Mary sits down with therapist + nutritionist Ryann Nicole to unpack why binge eating recovery is less about food and more about how we relate to it.

You will learn...

- a mantra for releasing food guilt

- why binge eating is not really about the food itself

- an anti-diet approach to handling fear foods

- how to recover from disordered eating if you’re living with someone else and their foods can potentially trigger you

You’ll also walk away with hope and encouragement for wherever you are in your binge eating recovery and healing journey.

Ryann Nicole is a licensed therapist, certified nutritionist, and recovered binge eater. She’s known for revolutionizing how people heal their relationship with food—not with more rules or rigidity, but with simplicity, self-trust, and a massive perspective shift. Her signature mantra, “You don’t have to make it mean so much,” has become a lifeline for those learning to let go of shame, release perfectionism, and get back into living their life. Using her binge eating recovery story as the heart of her message and her clinical expertise as the backbone of her work, Ryann brings a refreshing, relatable voice to the wellness space, here to redefine what it means to live a healthy and fulfilling life.

Follow Ryann on Instagram: @itsryannnicole

Check out Ryann’s courses and programs for binge eating recovery: https://itsryannnicole.com/coaching

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Mentioned In This Episode...

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Video of Ryann’s toddler walking

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The Hidden Layers of Bulimia and Binge Eating with ED Psychologist Dr. Anita Johnston

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Apr 2025 13:00:00 +0000

If you want to stop binge eating or recover from bulimia, then we must address the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating. Mary sits down for a Part 2 with eating disorder psychologist, Dr. Anita Johnston, author of Eating in the Light of the Moon. In Part 1, we talked about the spiritual side of eating disorder recovery. Now in part 2, we zoom into the emotional layer beneath bulimia and binge eating.

Dr. Johnston sheds light on the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating, especially the often-overlooked role of repressed anger and how learning to process it can be the key to lasting recovery.

You will learn about...
- common personality traits of those who struggle with disordered eating
- the role of ANGER in eating disorder recovery
- the ONE skill you need to effectively process anger
- how storytelling and metaphors can help us heal from an eating disorder
- how to address emotional patterns that lie beneath bulimia and binge eating

Dr. Johnston also shares how her very first psychology professor—THE Viktor Frankl, the author of Man’s Search for Meaning—inspired her approach to eating disorder recovery.

Remember: Eating disorders are not about food. So to recover, we must explore the deeper layers of our struggle.

Get Dr. Anita’s free Food Metaphor Guide here.

As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ and follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston

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The Breakup That Paved My Self-Love Journey (From Heartbreak to Healing)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Apr 2025 13:00:00 +0000

This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago—long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. As women, it's hard to choose self-love in the midst romantic love.

I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you my full breakup story—not just for the sake of storytelling, but to offer you insights into what healing really looks like, especially after a hard breakup. Tune in for a vulnerable chat + breakup advice.

You will learn how to...
- reclaim your identity after a toxic or codependent relationship
- navigate the grey areas in relationships: where healing and hurt coexist
- find strength in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you
- embrace self-love through the pain of a breakup

Remember: Healing is not about erasing the past—it’s about choosing how to carry it forward. I hope this self-love podcast helps you do just that.

And—hint hint—this episode gives you a big clue about the location of my next self-love retreat… Join the retreat priority list to get early access to all the details!

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...
Martha Beck on The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Body Positivity for Kids: What to Say If a Kid Asks, “Am I Fat?” with Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Apr 2025 12:00:00 +0000

Let’s talk about body positivity in children i.e. how to help kids build a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then I’m sure you want them to have healthy body-image. But raising body positive kids can be hard, especially when it means confronting your own fat phobia. Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW to prioritize body positivity in your household.

You will learn...
- how to address body-image concerns in children
- what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?”
- how to have conversations about healthy eating in developmentally-appropriate ways
- what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then?
- what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight

Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own body-image and beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health.

Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed eating disorders therapist as well as a wonderful content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family. She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body-image injury.

Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome
Subscribe to her Substack for more body positive parenting advice.

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You Are Enough (A Free Chapter from My Self Love Book)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Mar 2025 12:00:00 +0000

Four years ago, The Gift of Self-Love was officially published—a journey that started with a little ebook and the sweetest surprise from someone who believed in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the full-circle story of how this went from being a one-day dream to a best-selling self-love book. Plus life lessons on healthy relationships, mutual support, and long-term growth.

If you are a woman who's ever struggled with self-love, this book is for you.

To celebrate The Gift of Self-Love's 4th birthday, you’ll hear a free chapter from the audiobook! If any of this self-love advice resonates, consider getting a copy for yourself or a friend—because self-love is a gift that keeps on giving.

The Gift of Self-Love: a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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How to stay hopeful, soulful, and joyful with Victoria Hutchins

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Mar 2025 12:00:00 +0000

A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings.

Victoria and Mary talk about…
- A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health
- mutual struggles with bulimia
- thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery
- how nuance is disappearing from our culture
- how to hold onto hope and harness joy

Remember: make believe… make yourself believe in whatever makes you happy and hopefully, at the very least, believe in yourself.

Victoria Hutchins, known as @thedailyvictorian on social media, is a beloved poet and yoga teacher with an online community of over 1.5 million followers. Prior to her current career, Victoria was an attorney at one of the largest law firms in the world and then at a publicly traded tech company. She holds a bachelor of arts from Columbia University and a juris doctorate from Vanderbilt University. Victoria is always seeking beauty, hope, and truth in the mess of life. Her debut poetry book, Make Believe, is an invitation for readers to join her in the search featuring nostalgic prose on returning to childlike joy, reconnecting with your body, and reclaiming a sense of optimism.

Follow Victoria on Instagram: @thedailyvictorian
Get Victoria’s new poetry book, Make Believe
Listen to Victoria’s podcast, Soul Gum.

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Mentioned In This Episode...
A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara

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10 Things Eating Disorder Recovery Taught Me (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Mar 2025 12:00:00 +0000

This episode is for my eating disorder recovery warriors or any woman who has struggled with disordered eating, body image, undiagnosed bulimia, or diet culture in general. Mary shares her lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to deeper self awareness and of course, self love.

You will learn...
- Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through ED recovery and any hard times
- Why chasing happiness is futile (and what to do instead)
- How to stop beating yourself up and practice self compassion

Remember: This too, shall pass. Both the bad and the good.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life to spread the gift of self-love!

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. #2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself

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How To Stop Comparing Your Current Self To Your Past Self

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Mar 2025 14:00:00 +0000

Have you ever looked back at an old photo or memory and suddenly felt a pang of jealousy for your past self? Maybe you used to be more motivated, more social, more confident—or at least, that’s the story your brain is telling you. Comparing yourself will destroy your self esteem. Let's unpack why we romanticize the past and compare ourselves to who we used to be.

You will learn...
- the different ways we compare our current selves to our past selves
- the psychological reason behind this self-comparison
- how sociocultural conditioning promotes competition and comparison
- ways to stop comparing yourself, embrace who you are now, and build self confidence

Remember: Your past self isn’t better than you—she’s just different. She has wisdom to offer you, just as you have wisdom to offer her. Allow all parts of yourself to sit at the table.

Mentioned In This Episode...
TED Talk: The Riddle of Experience vs. Memory by Daniel Kahneman
The Myth of Meritocracy Runs Deep in American History
TED Talk: How to talk to the worst parts of yourself by Karen Faith
Movie Recommendation: Midnight in Paris

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self love!
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The Spiritual Side of Eating Disorder Recovery with Dr. Anita Johnston (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 13:00:00 +0000

WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food.

You will learn...
- how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors
- why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction
- the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food - how to uncover symbolic meanings in food
- why recovery is FUN!
- how to find your hunger and fullness cues - and so. much. more.

Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good).

Get Dr. Anita’s free Food Metaphor Guide here.

And sign up for her Feminine Psyche course here.

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My Unfiltered Opinions on Dating + Relationship Advice for Women

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Feb 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life.

You will hear about...

who should pay on the first date?!?!?
the unseen emotional and energetic labor women contribute to relationships
the importance of becoming the person you want to be with
rethinking the idea that relationships must be hard work
why love alone is not always enough

Remember: You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your feedback helps Mary’s Cup of Tea reach more people who need these self-love reminders!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

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Self Worth & Breakup Advice with Kendra Allen

Mary Jelkovsky — Sat, 15 Feb 2025 20:01:14 +0000

If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn...

how to cope with a situationship ending
why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up
ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recovery

Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more.

Follow Kendra on Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie

Learn more about Kendra’s breakup courses

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7 Self Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Feb 2025 13:00:00 +0000

For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself.

You will learn about...

the dual nature of self-love
the surprising secret to discovering your strengths
a powerful mindset shift that will help you embrace joy—even in the midst of struggle

Remember: Self-love comes not from overcoming our insecurities, but rather from embracing them. We must be-friend our demons and invite all parts of ourselves to sit at the table.

If you want to make Mary’s birthday extra special, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your positive feedback is the best gift ever!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

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How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Jan 2025 13:00:00 +0000

If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you.

You will learn...

why making friends as an adult feels hard
exactly WHERE you’ll find your people
how to make friends who live close to you
actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships

Our guest, Kat Vellos, is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She’s also the creator of the Better than Small Talk conversation cards and the Better Conversations Calendar. Her work helps people transform disconnection and platonic longing into authentic connection and belonging.

In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora, she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more. While working full-time at both of those iconic companies, Kat spent her free time researching and writing her debut book We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. She couldn’t stop herself from writing this book because the thirty-something friendship desert is real and she refused to take “how about we meet up in six weeks?” for an answer. So she used her UX research-n-design superpowers to explore the question “how might we design a better experience of adult friendship and simultaneously put a sizable dent in the loneliness epidemic?” Thousands of readers use her book to improve their friendships every day and her writing is read in over 100 countries. She’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, The Good Life Project, and many more.

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Mentioned In This Episode...
How Long Til’ Black Future Month? by N.K. Jemisin Ep. 195 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Most Underrated Emotion What if friendship is easier than you think?

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How do I deal with a fatphobic friend?

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Jan 2025 13:00:00 +0000

(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia)

Dear Mary,

How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend?

She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness, as well as having parents who engrained fatphobia into her. They would literally sit in the car outside grocery stores and make fun of fat people leaving(not to their faces). Her views and the vocalization of them hurt my soul, they are not an outlook on other people I have ever had, nor would want to have. She talks about these things pretty frequently. A lot of the things she says I would never want my younger sister hearing because I don't want those hurtful views in her head.

I know you wonder, this person sounds awful, why do you have this friend? She is in many ways a wonderful person and a good friend. She is thoughtful, she and I just click in many ways, she is giving and loving to the people close to her, I could go on about qualities I love. But lately my feelings toward her are not good. I don't want to be around her because inevitably she will end up saying some things that really bum me out. I want her to be a lifelong friend, I want to be there for her for anything, I want to babysit her kids...but I would never want her views to be shared with mine.

How do I talk to her about this? Though we challenge each other's views pretty often and are used to confrontation, she is not looking to change her mind on this. For months now I have been avoiding spending as much time around her. Neither of us have many other friends...she is a treasured person for me. What's your advice on keeping or losing a friend because of this?

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The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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How Traveling to Cuba Changed My Life

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 17 Jan 2025 13:00:00 +0000

I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me.

To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine:

How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between suffering and resilience? How does history encapsulate both truth and fabrications? Why do we cling to binary thinking when life is a spectrum of endless complexities? How can humans be simultaneously broken and whole, like mosaics made of shattered multitudes?

Cuba was a lesson in coexistence—where beauty and struggle, joy and pain live side by side. It reminded me that we, too, are complex and layered, yet capable of holding contradictions within us. I hope you get to experience this beautiful island one day too.

Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass, Founder of Heart of Travel

Chen Lizra’s TEDx talk: “The power of seduction in our everyday lives”

Check out Heart of Travel, an ethical travel company that does tours all over Latin America and use code MARY150 for $150 off your next trip.

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Motivating Yourself with Self Love vs Self Criticism (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Jan 2025 12:00:00 +0000

Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead.

Tune in to learn...

Why you might be feeling de-motivated
A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)
Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE

Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps matter.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on Mary's Cup of Tea

The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study

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The Confident Energy We’re Bringing to 2025

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Jan 2025 15:58:17 +0000

“My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok

This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one.

Because 2025 is the year of audacity.

It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright scary. From trying new things to dressing a little less “perfect” and a lot more “you,” this episode is all about stepping into bold, unapologetic self-expression.

You’ll feel inspired to:

Take risks, no matter how small or unconventional.
Lean into tension and embrace your own contradictions.
Make moves that make you squeal with delight (even if no one else gets it).

Let’s kick off 2025 with more audacity, more weirdness, and a whole lot more FAFO energy. You in?

Grab my Feeling Lost Guide to turn uncertainty into SELFISH SELF-DISCOVERY.

If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

Buy Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

“My New Years resolution is to get louder” Viral TikTok video

Ep. 231 with my bestie Dahli Architectural Digest video with David Netto:

Ep. 201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping with Virginia Chamlee

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#231: Meet My Bestie! Neurodivergence, Retreat Reflections, and 2025 Goals

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Dec 2024 13:00:00 +0000

A special in-person recording where Mary has a heart-to-heart with her best friend Dahli! You can watch the video version on Spotify or YouTube.

Tune in to hear…

retreat reflections from Sedona to Portugal
Dahli’s mental health journey exploring ADHD and autism
our goals for 2025

Remember: live, laugh, love!!!

Connect with Dahli on IG: @imdahlidurley Hire Dahli as a photographer or web designer: dahlidurley.com

If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryscupofteaa and @imdahlidurley on social media!

Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#230: Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Dec 2024 13:00:00 +0000

In some ways, women are known as being the connectors, the party hosts, the drivers of relationships. A byproduct of spending centuries constrained to child-rearing and home-making is that many of us have this bio-cultural skill of building community. Why is it then that many of us feel intimidated by other women, lacking in our female friendships, and worrying if our friends truly like us? And as soon as we get over that, finally let someone close to us, they sometimes end up breaking our heart and with it, the friendship. Best friend break-ups involve as much grief as romantic break-ups and yet, we don’t have as many tools to deal with them. Luckily, Danielle Bayard Jackson is here to help us build strong friendships, especially those with fellow women.

Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. She is also the author of the book Fighting for Our Friendships (May 2024).

Danielle’s coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships, and her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets. A former high school teacher, Danielle now uses her teaching skills and leverages her background to study what the latest research has to say about women’s cooperation, communication, and conflict.

You will learn about...

the role jealousy plays in our female friendships
what we should/ should not expect from people in our social circle
the 3 key components to good friendships
how to cope with friendship break-ups

Remember: self-love begs us to have a balance between independence and dependence.

Follow Danielle on Instagram
Learn more about Danielle’s book, podcast, and workshops here: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com
Danielle shares her insight weekly on The Friend Forward Podcast

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#229: Deepening Self-Trust

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Dec 2024 13:00:00 +0000

In this week’s episode, Mary discusses the importance of self-trust and how it plays a role in developing a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. She shares how trusting yourself means letting go of control over outcomes and embracing the process, especially when things don’t go as planned.

Remember: Trust the process, release the result.

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Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 221: How to Trust Yourself
Ep. 212: How to Be Honest with Yourself
Ep. 81: How to Follow Your Heart

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#228: Dear Mary, should I stay friends with my ex?

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Nov 2024 13:00:00 +0000

Dear Mary,

I would love some of your wisdom in relation to my ex.

Things fell apart for reasons that are complicated and awful. But we tried to remain friends. I feel I made an effort, I kept messaging, I asked him about his life, I organized a catch up. I still had lots of feelings to process but I put them aside because I wanted to maintain a friendship.

I backed off a bit while he was on holidays and when he came back and messaged me, I was in a bad place mentally. It took a week or so for me to respond and I told him the truth - that I wasn’t doing well. His response had no empathy. He didn’t ask what was going on or if I wanted to catch up.

Do I tell him how I’m feeling or do I accept he can’t meet my emotional needs and let the friendship go?

Love from,
Anonymous

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*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 203 Coping with Getting Ghosted & Family Estrangement with Minaa B.: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000653572865

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#227: The Messiness of Human-ness with Carissa Potter

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Nov 2024 13:00:00 +0000

This was supposed to be a well-thought-out, polished interview with artist and author Carissa Potter, better known as @peopleiveloved on Instagram. Instead, this turned out to be a vulnerable conversation about parents, religion, narcissism, and overall, our human-ness.

Our guest today, or perhaps more accurately our co-host Carissa has over 800,000 followers on social media but the first sentence on her website says that “Carissa Potter is a human longing for connection.” She writes books, makes art & public commissions, and hosts the series Bad At Keeping Secrets (one of Substack’s featured newsletter of 2022) where she talks to other humans doing really interesting things. Carissa is the founder of People I’ve Loved, her platform and stationary line that bridges the gaps between people by helping them have authentic and sometimes difficult conversations. She was named one of Cosmopolitan’s 24 People (Genuinely) Making the World a Better Place and I couldn’t agree more.

This is an extraordinarily raw and real conversation about...

why Carissa wishes she had kids earlier in life
the nuances of both of our religious beliefs
what Mary’s father is like
how being chronically late might be a sign of intimacy issues

Remember: humans are complex creatures but at our core, all we want is connection with other humans.

Follow Carissa on Instagram: @peopleiveloved
Subscribe to Carissa’s newsletter, Bad At Keeping Secrets: https://peopleiveloved.substack.com

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Narcissistic Abuse: https://www.stopthespincycle.com/narcissistic-abuse

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#226: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Tough Times

Mary Jelkovsky — Mon, 11 Nov 2024 13:00:00 +0000

If you’re going through a difficult time, here are 5 reminders to ground you in self-love.

You will learn...

Where mantras originate from and why they’re helpful
How to work with your mindset to gain greater perspective
What to tell yourself when you’re going through a hard time

Which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

Get Mary’s self-love book + journal:

The Gift of Self-Love: a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself
*100 Days of Self-Love:* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are

Mentioned In This Episode...
240 votes TikTok by @imdaven: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTFwo3So6/

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#225: Can Food Freedom Coexist with Chronic Conditions (PCOS, Celiacs, Crohns, IBS, etc)? with Abbie Attwood

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Nov 2024 13:00:00 +0000

If you have a chronic health condition, then you know how extra difficult it is to navigate food and body-image struggles. Between wellness culture telling you to cut out this or that food and lose weight for “health reasons,” it can be triggering to manage your symptoms without slipping back into a restrictive mindset. And the worst part is, even medical professionals prescribe dietary restrictions without screening patients for a history of disordered eating. So is food freedom possible even while living with chronic illness? Nutritionist Abbie Attwood is here to help.

You will learn...

how to challenge diet and weight-centric medical advice
practical tips for finding peace with your body amidst chronic pain and symptoms
how to approach food with conditions like PCOS, Celiacs, Chrons, IBS, diabetes, and autoimmune illnesses

Remember: Your body deserves COMPASSION even and especially in the face of chronic health challenges.

Abbie Attwood (she/her) is an anti-diet, weight-inclusive nutritionist with a master’s degree in clinical nutrition. She runs Abbie Attwood Wellness, offering virtual nutrition therapy and body image coaching through both individual sessions and group programs. Abbie is also the host of the Full Plate Podcast and writes a companion newsletter.

Abbie’s personal journey with an eating disorder emerged at the intersection of competitive running, neurodivergence, and chronic illnesses. These experiences fuel her passion for working with individuals who don’t always fit the traditional image of disordered eating, offering them a space to feel seen and supported.

Her approach is rooted in self-compassion, social justice, and body liberation. Abbie helps clients worldwide heal from disordered eating, chronic dieting, body shame, and compulsive exercise, guiding them towards a more peaceful and respectful relationship with their bodies.

She splits her time between Maine and the Bay Area, where she lives with her husband and their two quirky rescue dogs. Abbie is a lover of breakfast foods, good books, the ocean, and a scoop of ice cream any time of day.

Follow Abbie on Instagram @abbieattwoodwellness
Learn more about Abbie’s group coaching: https://www.abbieattwoodwellness.com/group-coaching

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Mentioned In This Episode...
The Full Plate Podcast Episode: No, You Can’t ”Eat Your Way” To Diabetes With Erin Phillips, RD & Diabetes Specialist

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#224: How To Process Feelings Effectively

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 31 Oct 2024 12:00:00 +0000

The common misconception is that feeling your feelings means sitting, sulking, and staying where you are until you feel good enough to move forward.

But there’s a much more effective way to process your feelings. Tune in to learn how + hear how Mary is applying this technique to her own life.

Remember: emotions need motion!

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The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
When God Was a Woman by Merlin Stone

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#223: Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m on the right path?

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Oct 2024 12:00:00 +0000

I feel two paths diverging in my life and I feel drawn to one, but it’s more practical and potentially easier and less expensive to do the other, yet, my heart years for more. How do I know if I’m on the right path?

Tune in to hear Mary’s advice on choosing the right path for you.

Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com

Get Mary’s self-love books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman

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#222: Stop Being a “Good Girl” with Elise Loehen

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Oct 2024 12:00:00 +0000

My whole life I have strived to be a “good girl.” But after this conversation with Elise Loehnen, I no longer want to be.

You will learn...

the history behind the 7 deadly sins and how they’ve been weaponized by the patriarchy
who Mary Magdalene really was and how she got mislabeled as a prostitute
why thinness is the dominant beauty ideal in our current culture
the connection between PRIDE and ENVY
subtle ways women undermine each other

Elise Loehnen is a writer, editor, and podcast host who lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Rob, and their two sons, Max and Sam. She is the host of Pulling the Thread, a podcast focused on pulling apart the stories we tell about who we are—and then putting those threads back together. Ultimately Elise is a seeker and synthesizer, braiding together wisdom traditions, cultural history, and a deep knowledge of healing modalities to unlock new ways to contextualize who we are and why we’re here. She’s also the author of the instant New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good (Dial Press/PRH). The book weaves together history, memoir, and cultural criticism to explore the ways patriarchy lands in the bodies of women and embeds itself in our consciousness—and what we then police in ourselves and in each other. Regardless of our religious provenance, the self-denial implicit in each of the Seven Deadly Sins—Sloth, Envy, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Anger—reads like a checklist of what it means to be a “good” woman. With awareness, we can begin to recognize these patterns of self-restriction, break the story, and move ourselves and each other toward freedom and balance.

Follow Elise on Instagram: @eliseloehnen
Get Elise’s book, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb

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#221: How to Trust Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Oct 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Let’s explore what it really means to trust yourself, why it’s essential for your well-being, and how it impacts your decisions and relationships. I also share a personal story about my past relationships and how a lack of self-trust played a role.

You will learn...

3 big ways to think about self-trust
How to discern between fear and intuition
3 small ways to build self-trust daily

Plus, I give you 2 powerful book recommendations to help you strengthen your self-trust.

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” ~Rumi

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*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...

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#220: Staying Active without Slipping Back into Toxic Thoughts

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Oct 2024 12:00:00 +0000

After burning out on exercise during my ED days, 7 years later, I’ve been able to find a much better balance with movement. So let’s talk about HOW I’ve been able to maintain this healthy relationship with exercise– what might help you, what might hurt you, and mindset shifts to make.

You will learn...

how to stay active in a way that’s sustainable, enjoyable, and free of toxic thoughts.
what toxic thoughts or behaviors around exercise can look like (and how to spot them in yourself)
the 3 phases of healing your relationship with movement
mindset shifts to make if you want to stay active without slipping back

Remember: Your mental well-being is as important as your physical, and if your priorities were convoluted for so long during those eating disorder days, it’ll take time to come back to a sense of balance. You have time. Take it.

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And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#219: Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Sep 2024 12:00:00 +0000

It’s common for wedding vows to mention how one’s partner is their “best friend.” But what does that say about our best friends who we’re not married to? And does this put too much pressure on one person to be everything for you?

Back in 2020, journalist Rhaina Cohen wrote an article for the Atlantic titled “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?” Not only did this piece go viral, it also paved the way Rhaina Cohen’s book, the Other Significant Others about reimagining the role of friendships in our lives.

Today Rhaina joins us to discuss…

how/ why prioritizing platonic friendships actually makes your romantic relationship better
the historical role that friends and marriages used to play and how that’s changed over time
tips for taking your friendships from surface-level to depth

Relationships come in many different forms. Some are platonic, some are romantic, some blur the lines of both. As we grapple with what’s been declared as a loneliness epidemic, we must revere all types of relationships and give them the attention they deserve.

Follow Rhaina on Instagram: @rhainacohen
Get Rhaina’s book, The Other Significant Others:

Rhaina Cohen is a long-form journalist, author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others, and producer and editor for NPR’s Embedded. Outside of NPR, she’s written for various publications, including The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and The New Republic. Rhaina Cohen has a B.A. in American Studies from Northwestern University and an MPhil in Comparative Social Policy from Oxford, where she was a Marshall Scholar and did research in Denmark and Iceland on paternity leave policies. She has given talks at NASA and at universities in the U.S., U.K., and Ireland and lucky for you, on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast!

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Mentioned In This Episode...
The Moth conversation cards:
Atlantic article “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?”

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#218: Introducing Dear Mary: "How do I get my confidence back?”

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Sep 2024 12:00:00 +0000

We are starting a new series on Mary’s Cup of Tea! “Dear Mary” is your new self-love advice column where Mary answers YOUR questions.

Question: “I’ve been second guessing myself so much and feeling my confidence and self-belief waver. How do I come back to feeling in my full power?”

Answer: tune in to hear Mary’s advice on how to get your confidence back.

Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com

If you like “Dear Mary,” please let us know by leaving a comment or review!

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

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#217: The Mistake We Make with Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Aug 2024 12:00:00 +0000

The biggest mistake people make with self-love is explained this episode. We talk about how a scarcity mindset is emblematic of low self-worth and why we must be PROACTIVE when it comes to self-love.

You will learn how to...

Identify scarcity thinking in your daily life
Understand the societal roots of scarcity mentality
Practice proactive self-care to avoid burnout

Remember: Take care of yourself in small ways before you burn out in a big way.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And please consider leaving a review/ rating of the show!

Links to Mary’s self-love book and journal:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

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#216: You Are Extraordinary (A Pep Talk)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 12:00:00 +0000

You are extraordinary– here’s why.

Mary talks about…

the dual meaning behind the world “extraordinary”
why we should stop trying to be extraordinary
how to be a more interesting person

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#215: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead) (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Jul 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Mary’s hot take on why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness can leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting state.

You will learn about...

why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image
how hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life
what to focus on instead of “being happy”

Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO

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#214: How to Make a Vision Board, Set Goals, and Create Lasting Behavior Change w/ Jessi Jean

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Jul 2024 12:00:00 +0000

This is a wide-ranging conversation with my friend Jessi Jean, a binge eating and mindset coach.

You will hear about...

how to navigate health concerns without diet culture
what to do if you want kids, but feel anxious about pregnancy/ birth
how motherhood can change you for the better
tips for creating a vision board and setting intentions
the key to creating lasting behavior change and achieving your goals
advice for feeling lost, paving your own way, and getting unstuck

Remember: don’t get caught in the trap of constantly contemplating. No one has life completely figured out, but doing the best you can with what you have is better than waiting for the answers to appear out of nowhere.

Follow Jessi on Instagram: @jessijeannn
Learn more about Jessi’s Food Freedom Online Program here: https://jessijean.com/foodfreedomonlineprogram

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Pure by Anne Geddes (coffee table book with mothers and newborns): https://amzn.to/4eM1hW5
4 Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/3Wa1TxA
The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: https://amzn.to/3xA8FmO

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#213: Sick of People-Pleasing? Here’s How to Stop

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Jul 2024 12:00:00 +0000

People-pleasing is engrained into so many of us. In attempts to be nice, we neglect our own needs, trading authenticity for approval.

You will learn how to...

be honest with other people
how people-pleasing relates to self-trust
tips for aligning with your authentic self before making decisions

Remember: don’t trade short-term approval for long-term authenticity.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Getting Real by Susan Campbell: https://amzn.to/4cqguuo
Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton, PhD: https://amzn.to/3W4EDRk

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#212: How To Be Honest with Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Jun 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Negative self-talk is a form of lying to yourself. Let’s explore the power of honesty as a gateway to self-love.

You will learn how to...

embody a mindset of radical honesty
conquer fears by being truthful
stop absorbing other people’s opinions as facts

Remember: You must be real with how you feel so that you can heal.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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How Women's Body Image is Plagued by "Beauty Sickness" and How to Maybe Heal w/ Dr. Renee Engeln

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Jun 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Our culture is OBSESSED with female bodies and their appearance making us all “beauty sick.” From constricting clothes to anti-aging skincare products, beauty culture eats up our precious time, money, and energy. This is an eye-opening and deeply-relatable discussion with Dr. Renee Engeln about “beauty sickness,” the disease that plagues so many women (to no fault of their own).

You will learn about...

what the research shows about beauty culture and objectification of women
the performative aspects of femininity
the psychological effects of aging in a beauty-obsessed society
how we can fight off beauty sickness both individually and collectively

Renee Engeln, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, is the author of Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women. Her lab (The Body and Media Lab, a.k.a. “BAM”) conducts research exploring issues surrounding women’s body images, with a particular emphasis on cultural practices that create or enforce the frequently contentious relationship women have with their bodies. The research, which has appeared in numerous academic journals, focuses on Objectification Theory, Fat Talk, and Idealized Media Images. She is regularly interviewed by the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, BBC, the Huffington Post, and other national media. Her TEDx talk has over 800,000 views on YouTube.

Remember: Though we won’t heal from beauty sickness overnight, we have the power to minimize how much we participate in it.

Get Dr. Renee’s book, Beauty Sick: https://amzn.to/4c67da9
Learn more about Dr. Renee’s Body and Media Lab: http://bodyandmedia.com
Watch Dr. Renee’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_sick

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 18, Mary’s first interview with Dr. Renee

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Ep. 210: Process > Result

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Jun 2024 12:00:00 +0000

What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself.

You will learn how to...

Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results
Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome
Shift your mindset to find peace in the present moment

Remember: ”Trust your process, release the result.”

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

Learn more about upcoming retreats: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats

Get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://amzn.to/3yJKYII

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#209: The Cure for Burnout is NOT Self-Care w/ Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Jun 2024 12:00:00 +0000

When you find yourself hitting the wall of EXHAUSTION, you could be experiencing burnout. What most people don’t know is that our biological stress cycle is not equipped to deal with our modern-day demands. Luckily, there is a cure for burnout and Amelia Nagoski is here to share it with us.

You will learn...

what causes burnout (and the only CURE for it)
how to actually “listen to your body”
how the stress cycle works
the difference between burnout, depression, and self-sabotage

Remember: When you think you need more grit, what you actually need is help.

Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A. (it stands for Doctorate of Musical Arts) is the co-author, with her sister Emily, of the New York Times bestselling Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle and the Burnout workbook. Her job is to run around waving her arms and making funny noises and generally doing whatever it takes to help singers get in touch with their internal experience.

Get Amelia and Emily Nagoski’s book, Burnout: https://amzn.to/449tPUC And the Burnout Workbook Audiobook with original songs by Amelia: https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Workbook-Advice-Exercises-Unlock/dp/B0CD2S9CBF

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Mentioned In This Episode... 5-part series on how to listen to your body: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-58-how-to-listen-to-your-body

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#208: Feeling Conflicted? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 May 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Feeling conflicted can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. Let’s explore how to cope with conflicting thoughts and emotions across different areas of life, from body image to career decisions, and even current events.

You will learn how to...

navigate conflicting thoughts and feelings
make decisions more confidently
make peace with all the different parts of you

Remember: ”The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.” ~ Aristotle

Interested in Mary’s next self-love retreat? Go to maryscupoftea.com/retreats to be the first to get all the details!

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#207: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 May 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns.

You will learn...

what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset
how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms
why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead)
how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us

Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career.

Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you.

Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!).

Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap.

A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out.

Follow Kara on Instagram: @karaloewentheil
Get Kara’s book, Take Back Your Brain here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g

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Mentioned in this episode…
Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30

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#206: The Easiest Journaling Prompt Ever

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 May 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Mary shares a 3-part journaling prompt that can help you gain deeper self-awareness regarding your true needs and desires. Use this simple, practical prompt anytime to connect with different aspects of yourself.

You will learn how to...

Tap into a reliable source of personal insight
Clear your mental chatter to understand what you really want
Access your heartfelt, soul-centered intuitive guidance

Remember: ”To hear your heart, you need time, stillness, silence, play, and surrender.”

Make sure to get Mary’s books 2 on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471

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#205: Overcoming Mom-Shame + Postpartum Anxiety w/ Cameron Rogers

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 May 2024 12:00:00 +0000

May is mental health month and MOMS need more mental health support. Today we’re joined by Cameron Rogers, a content creator who openly shares about the ins and outs of motherhood.

In this episode, Cameron shares…

why she doesn’t share her kids names and faces online
what postpartum anxiety feels like
how motherhood gave her a new level of self-confidence
advice for new moms

Remember: if you’re anxious about becoming a mom, you’re definitely not alone. But just like everything in life, each phase of motherhood is temporary.

Founder and Host of the Freckled Foodie & Friends podcast, Cameron Rogers (@cameronoaksrogers) utilizes her unfiltered voice and humor to carve out a safe space on the internet for mothers. Her podcast, produced by Dear Media, has amassed over 2 Million downloads and features genuine sit-down conversations discussing wellness, mental health, motherhood, and pop culture. She passionately sheds light on her experiences with pregnancy, postpartum depression, and the often unspoken or overlooked trials and tribulations of navigating the journey of motherhood. Recently, Cameron has extended her community to a Substack titled Fill Your Cup about how she’s keeping her cup full amidst motherhood.

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#204: Feeling Lonely? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 May 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Loneliness is the #1 contributing factor to the mental health crisis we’re currently experiencing so we MUST talk about it for Mental Health Awareness Month.

If or when you feel lonely, remember that it’s not a personal deficiency. It’s a systemic issue in our modern-day, industrialized world. The cure for loneliness is not to become a social butterfly, but rather to re-shape the way you interact with people.

In this episode, you will learn...

why more and more people, especially Americans, are feeling lonely
how to create a culture of connection with your friends and family
the missing KEY to feeling less lonely

If you’re interested in Mary’s next online retreat, sign up to get Mary’s emails here: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails

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#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Family Estrangement w/ Minaa B., LMSW

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Apr 2024 12:00:00 +0000

It’s been almost 3 years since Mary has talked to my father. Now she’s processing that familial estrangement in real time with the help of Minaa B, a licensed social worker and proponent for psychological safety. The conversation also leads into the phenomenon of ghosting; why people do it and how to cope with the lack of closure.

You will learn...

what constitutes estranged family and how surprisingly common it is
why people GHOST and how to cope with ghosting in relationships
the important difference between rules vs. boundaries
ways to grieve and find closure for abrupt endings

Remember: closure is akin to forgiveness in that it can only come from within.

Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of Owning Our Struggles. She is also the founder of a mental health consulting practice where she collaborates with organizations to help them develop psychological safety. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the Verywell Mind podcast, runs an advice column for Cosmopolitan magazine called Free Therapy, and is also a member of the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in various media outlets, including Red Table Talk, Peace of Mind with Taraji, Oprah Daily, Katie Couric Media, and more. Minaa currently resides in New York City.

Follow Minaa on Instagram: @minaa_b
Get Minaa’s new book Owning Our Struggles: https://amzn.to/4b1GDOU

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#202: Dealing with Criticism

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Apr 2024 12:00:00 +0000

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth.

In this episode, you will learn...

the 2 different types of criticisms
what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you)
3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions

Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI
Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww
The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20

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#201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping w/ Virginia Chamlee

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Apr 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Today we’re talking THRIFTING! If you’re anything like Mary, you love secondhand stuff and the unique joy it brings to your home. Artist and collector Virginia Chamlee joins us to share her tips, tricks, and secrets to scoring vintage furniture.

You will learn...

how thrifting builds confidence
tips for finding valuable vintage furniture and decor
mistakes people make when they shop secondhand

Virginia Chamlee is a writer, artist, entrepreneur, and avid collector of vintage. She is the author of Big Thrift Energy, a manual for finding beautiful (often valuable) pieces of design for pennies on the dollar, and a source of inspiration for those looking to collect or style vintage in their own homes. A lifelong collector of vintage design, Virginia has spent years scouring thrift stores, estate sales, antique malls and flea markets for truly incredible, museum-worthy finds (like that Goyard trunk she found for $90, or the floor-length Christian Dior cape scored at Goodwill for $9). She believes even the most high-quality design should be accessible for everyone, and that the antiques industry is long overdue for a shakeup (and maybe a little more, well... energy).

An accomplished artist, her paintings and prints are available via exclusive partnerships with Chairish, Artfully Walls and Anthropologie. Virginia is also a professional writer with bylines at PEOPLE, Buzzfeed, Eater, Bustle, and others.

Follow Virginia on Instagram: @vchamlee
Get Virginia’s book, Big Thrift Energy here: https://amzn.to/3V7zAPY

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Mentioned In This Episode...
estatesales.net

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#200: A Self-Love Gift for YOU!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Apr 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Celebrating 200 episodes with sips of tea and a heart full of gratitude. Thank you, my self-lover, for listening to this podcast and giving yourself the gift of self-love.

Get my list of 200 Reasons to Choose Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/200

From my heart to yours,
Mary

Mentioned in this episode:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Hibiscus Heart Tea: maryscupoftea.com/tea

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#199: Celebrating 1 Year Married w/ Husband!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Mar 2024 12:00:00 +0000

My husband and I are celebrating 5 years together and 1 year married! To commemorate, we thought we’d answer your burning relationship-related questions while reflecting on the half decade we’ve spent together.

We talk about…

how being married feels different
adult friendships and how they’ve changed since our wedding
our age gap
advice for dating and finding “the one”
tips for repairing after a fight
how to decorate your home together, even if you have different styles
new things we’ve learned about each other post-marriage

Tune in for hot takes, relationship advice, and just a sweet conversation about couplehood.

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @maryscupofteaa

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 157 about Our Wedding Reflections: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UGsNzalIhBmXyVogGFKFp?si=ylcqFLbIRgGIVZElssJDCQ
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged: https://amzn.to/3ISBSew

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#198: Secrets to an Organized Home with Nikki Boyd

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Mar 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Would you consider yourself an organized person? What about those with whom you live with?

In the hustle and bustle of life, households frequently face daily stress, financial hiccups, and time crunches which are often aggravated by a lack of organization in the home.

Professional organizer Nikki Boyd joins us to talk about communication as the ultimate organizing tool for households and well as hacks for keeping your home beautifully organized.

You will learn...

ways to communicate with those you live with to ensure a more harmonious household flow
2 places in one’s home that tend to cause stress
hacks for organizing your house and making it feel like a sanctuary

Remember: your home should feel like a vacation from the outside world. Why wouldn’t you make it into a place that feels rejuvenating?

Nikki Boyd is a professional organizer and founder of athomewithnikki.com where she helps bring beautiful order in homes around the world with her business, blog and YouTube channel. What began as a hobby is now a successful home organizing business, a popular blog, and YouTube channel, with thousands of readers coming to her site for creative and straightforward ways to beautifully organize their homes. She lives in Charleston, South Carolina with her husband and two puppies.

Follow Nikki Boyd on Instagram: @athomewithnikki
Watch Nikki’s helpful YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@AtHomeWithNikki/
Check out Nikki’s organizing services: https://athomewithnikki.com
Get Nikki’s book, Beautifully Organized here: https://amzn.to/3PmyWKS

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky: https://amzn.to/49VkEcl

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#197: The Only Way to Conquer Insecurities

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Mar 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Get ready for a pep talk on how to overcome your insecurities and cultivate authentic, true confidence.

You will learn...

the difference between true confidence vs. pseudo-confidence
a counterintuitive approach to conquering your insecurities

Remember: the only way to conquer your insecurities is by making them a glorious part of you.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
TEDx talk on “how to talk to the worst parts of yourself”: https://youtu.be/gUV5DJb6KGs?si=PolNO_jAa1ElBpbg

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#196: Giving Up Fitness and Influencing (a Reverse Interview by Christy Harrison)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Feb 2024 13:00:00 +0000

Last year, Mary did an interview with Christy Harrison on her podcast, Rethinking Wellness. We are resurfacing that episode here, so you can listen to this “reverse interview” where Mary and Christy talk about how wellness culture coupled with social media algorithms creates a toxic environment for both consumers and creators.

Tune into this deeply personal conversation about...

Mary’s history as a bikini fitness competitor starting at age 16, and how it both triggered and exacerbated an ED
how social media algorithms drive us into more extreme diet and wellness content
why Mary thinking of quitting influencing despite finding much success on social media (and why Christy Harrison has already left Instagram)

Though this episode was recorded 10 months prior, everything Mary said still holds true. Social media seems to be doing more harm than good and with every passing day, Mary is more and more tempted to call it quits.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @chr1styharrison

Mentioned In This Episode...

Ep. 162: When Wellness Becomes BS with Christy Harrison on Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1fhy0aQwPZlgUQ4xANrxwq?si=b1b1cf5962894c9a
Sign up for Christy Harrison’s newsletter: rethinkingwellness.substack.com
Get Christy Harrison’s new book, The Wellness Trap: https://amzn.to/3ST99uD
The Social Dilemma movie: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Rabbit Hole Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rabbit-hole/id1507423923
“Is There Life After Influencing?” NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/11/style/lee-tilghman-influencer.html

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#195: The Most Underrated Emotion

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Feb 2024 13:00:00 +0000

A solo episode where Mary talks about an emotion that’s underrated yet magnetic in other people + how you can channel this emotion to lead a more fulfilling life.

Mary talks about...

what’s different about this emotion vs. other positive feelings
how experiencing this feeling is also an act of feminism
ways to get out of a funk
how the show Love on the Spectrum is inspiring her

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Love on the Spectrum: https://www.netflix.com/title/81338328
The Emotion’s Thesaurus: https://amzn.to/3SQfnvA

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#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Feb 2024 13:00:00 +0000

There’s often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it’s normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don’t make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process?

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love.

We talk about…

how to keep the “me” within the “we”
is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not?
should we go through our partner’s phones as a way to ensure honesty?

Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It’s not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other’s individualities within.

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day.

Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon
Get Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Lizzo’s NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2

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Ep. 193: I Cry Every Year on My Birthday

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Feb 2024 13:00:00 +0000

Do you ever cry on your birthday? Because I DO. Every year without fail.

Turns out, birthday blues are a real thing. It’s quite normal to feel a mix of emotions as you reflect on the year that’s passed and look forward to the year ahead.

Tune in to learn why “birthday blues” are so common + how to cope with feeling behind in life.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Ep. 192: Debunking Menstruation Misinformation with Dr. Jen Gunter

Mary Jelkovsky — Fri, 2 Feb 2024 01:30:32 +0000

Dr. Jen Gunter is an OBGYN with 30+ years of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. She joins us today to debunk menstruation myths!

Mary asks Dr. Jen questions like...

is menstruating the body’s way of detoxing?
what causes menstrual cramps and period poops?
why/ how is “alternative medicine” harmful?
do chiropractors really work?
what’s the purpose and process of menstruating?

Remember: don’t believe baseless claims you see on the internet!

Dr. Jen Gunter is an internationally bestselling author, obstetrician, and gynecologist with more than three decades of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. Considered “the world’s most famous—and outspoken—gynecologist,” (The Guardian), her New York Times and USA Today bestselling books, The Vagina Bible and The Menopause Manifesto, have been translated into 25 languages. And her new book Blood is all about the science, medicine, and mythology of menstruation which you’ll get a taste of in this podcast episode.

Dr. Jen is the host of Jensplaining, a CBC/Amazon Prime video series that highlights the impact of medical misinformation on women, and the recipient of the 2020 NAMS Media Award from The North American Menopause Society. Her 2020 TED Talk, “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?” received more than two million views in its first six months, leading to the launch of her popular podcast on the TED Audio Collective, “Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunter.” Originally from Winnipeg, Canada, she lives with her sons in San Francisco, CA.

Follow Dr. Jen on Instagram: @drjengunter
Get Dr. Jen’s new book Blood here: https://amzn.to/3RPBDVS

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @drjengunter

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dr. Jen’s TED talk “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?”: https://www.ted.com/talks/jen_gunter_why_can_t_we_talk_about_periods?language=en

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#191: Learning the Difference AKA Discernment (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Jan 2024 13:01:00 +0000

I’m out of town for 2 weeks hosting another self-love retreat; this time in southern Portugal with 20 women coming from all over. So in attempts to preserve my energy while still keeping the pod going, I thought it’d be fun to revisit an older episode called “Learning the Difference.”

This episode is about DISCERNMENT: the ability to perceive, judge, and understand things in an empathetic, rational, conscientious way. I believe that many things in life lie on a spectrum with nothing being inherently good or inherently bad in all contexts. That’s why it’s important that we have discernment not to judge others, but rather to know the difference for OURSELVES. Discernment is the act of choosing what’s serving you and releasing what’s not, and doing so with self-compassion.

Tune in to learn how to discern!

You will learn…

how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life
an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not
advice to help you feel more at peace and content

Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#190: How to Ask for & Receive HELP without Feeling Guilty

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Jan 2024 13:00:00 +0000

Hyper-independence could be holding you back. Speaking for myself, I am reluctant to ask for and subsequently RECEIVE help which leads to stress, resentment, and basically me running myself in circles.

You will learn how to...

ask for help in small and big ways
convince your brain that you’re not being a burden
harness this healthy receiving energy to feel more at peace

Remember: self-worth is directly proportional to your willingness to receive.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +0000

Jumping on the fresh New Year energy, we’re discussing 5 thought patterns that are keeping you stuck + new mindsets to embrace instead.

You will learn how to...

stop overthinking
cease comparing yourself to others
quickly get out of negative self-talk

Remember: there is a survival-based need behind everything we do, no matter how self-destructive. Luckily, there are more empowering ways to motivate yourself with self-compassion and self-love at the core.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Maria-Victoria Albina- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zXXHgPJgzC9HVtVMJuZmS?si=DueamaQJRZugQw6Ru_EZxw
Ep. 32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6rHAFkK3zikk9FFZURAZMm
Ep. 183: The Best Book on Communication- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3l23N2zAkMk4EVzJlSnooy?si=1_R_GfxtSbuSm5OnLrKLaw
Mary’s 2024 Vision Board- https://www.instagram.com/p/C1ngjVMP7Ll/?hl=en

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#188: 12 Lessons Learned in 2023 (on Marriage, Family, and Friendships)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Dec 2023 13:00:00 +0000

A personal solo episode where Mary reflects on the highs, lows, and lessons learned of 2023. We invite you to think of your own lessons learned from each month of the year as you’re listening. We hope you had a happy holiday season and a refreshing start to your New Year.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s self-love workbook + journal:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 145: My Super Simple New Years Intention Setting Process- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4udZhbOPwKrEJTdBrtX8ZD?si=bbbcbaceed9a43a9
Ep. 176: Our Safari Honeymoon Recap- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pnmL4XYObfGtkeADPCZWy?si=1b03e98e7f9e4667

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#187: Clean Up Your Digital Space(s) Before the New Year

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Dec 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary shares 6 ways to declutter your digital spaces.

You will learn how to…

declutter your phone, computer and social media
better manage your email
organize important information

Remember: Self-love demands that we properly shift from one role to another, acknowledging that digital decluttering is not just about organizing our spaces but reclaiming our focus, reducing stress, and embracing a more intentional and organized use of technology. It’s a journey towards improved well-being in a world filled with constant digital noise.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
How to Remember Your Life: https://youtu.be/GLy4VKeYxD4?si=JcMxOl_qkeSrxedr
Sign up for Notion: https://notion.grsm.io/zb63msx9ep0n

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#186: 5 Habits that Have Made Me a Better Person (Encore)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Dec 2023 13:00:00 +0000

In this solo encore episode, Mary shares 5 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person!

Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t!

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

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The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#185: Feeling Behind in Life? Listen to This.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Dec 2023 13:00:00 +0000

The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you.

When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment.

Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be.

Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea
Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw
Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Cheers to self-love!

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#184: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost with Dr. Sara Kuburic

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Nov 2023 13:00:00 +0000

“Some of us knew who we were and then we lost our way. Some of us never became our Self in the first place. We grew older, we aged, our roles and functions changed, but we never grasped our essence. We became many things- a professional, a partner, a mentor, a parent, a friend- but we never truly became our Self.” ~ pg. 22 in Dr. Sara Kuburic’s book, It’s On Me.

If you’ve ever felt this way– lost, like you don’t know who you really are– then this conversation is for you. Dr. Sara is a psychotherapist who focuses on existential psychology after a long journey of experiencing, studying, and explaining the concept of “self-loss.”

You will learn...

how to answer the question “who am I?”
why hearing advice like “go find yourself” and “figure out who you are” is unhelpful
the first step for how to create an AUTHENTIC sense of self

Remember: who you are evolves over time, but if we are stuck checking boxes and pleasing others, then we will always feel inauthentic, disconnected, and lost in life.

Follow Dr. Sara on Instagram: @millennial.therapist
Learn more about Dr. Sara’s book here: https://amzn.to/3Rata05

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#183: The Best Book on Communication

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Nov 2023 00:55:00 +0000

I thought I was a good communicator until I read this book.

It has challenged me (in a good way) and I wanted to share some of my takeaways with you.

You will learn...

the book Mary’s been reading, bringing to therapy, and trying to learn from
how most people communicate and why it causes conflict
the 4 levels of communication

Remember: there’s a difference between communicating clearly and communicating compassionately. I always thought the goal was the former, but now I’m realizing that it’s the latter.

Hope you enjoy my unofficial book club, where we talk about books that have helped me heal, grow, and evolve.

If you liked this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Get the book Nonviolent Communication: https://amzn.to/3GaGriU

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#182: Sober-Curious? This one’s for you. Therapist Amanda E. White on ALCOHOL

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Nov 2023 13:00:00 +0000

Most of us know that alcohol is poison, it makes us feel shitty, and rarely leads to much good. Despite knowing this, it’s easy to get pressured into drinking even if you don’t want to. This episode is for all my sober-curious friends, who want a fun-filled life without being dependent on alcohol (or any substance for that matter).

You will learn about...

the benefits of quitting, or at least reducing, your consumption of alcohol
how to set boundaries around alcohol around friends, family, and your partner
the link between adderall and alcohol
why alcohol makes us more turned on + ideas for sober dating
how to regulate your emotions before turning to your substance of choice (whether that’s drinking, smoking, or scrolling)

Regardless if quitting drinking is right for you or not, you can be less dependent on substances and thus, more emotionally aware, connected, and present in your life.

Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the host of the podcast, “Recovered-ish.” She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. She is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more. To learn more visit amandaewhite.com

Follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen
Get Amanda’s Not Drinking Tonight book here: https://amzn.to/400T5KM

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @therapyforwomen

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/

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#181: Stress Eating? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Nov 2023 13:00:00 +0000

The holiday season tends to be full of stress: family drama, financial strain, end-of-year work obligations, etc. If you find yourself turning to food to cope with stress, this episode is for you.

You will learn...

why stress eating isn’t always bad and when it becomes a problem
what to tell yourself if you feel like you overate
how to mitigate stress eating and feel less guilty about it

Remember: Food can be complicated, but it can also be a solid source of comfort, pleasure, and joy. Stress eating is nothing to be ashamed of.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Episodes That’ll Help Your Relationship with Food...
Ep. 14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, & Binge Eating for Good: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3tylfVI2XscEZb5g5cHnKE?si=9a84338d304a4203
Ep. 17: The Science of Food Freedom w/ Jessi Jean: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mR0cbZYCNg5amrw4H6zlJ?si=57a51d956c484812
Ep. 29: My Entire ED Story: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6QpXQN0TT8wjEIaL0F1rHK?si=5cf3d47ab2214475
Ep. 150: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ANZQbzkEMXrGtZiLT07cL?si=6b9ebb060b1c4800
Ep. 161: What Helped Me Finally Stop Binge Eating: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bup5DXcRX6ELsFI3OBdlD?si=170248b972ff44ea

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#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary is trying to undo decades of attaching her self-worth to her productivity.

Which is HARD to say the least.

This episode explores our limiting beliefs about productivity, while helping you detach your worth from your output.

You will learn...

why productivity is a trap
how to embrace doing nothing and let yourself rest
2 book recommendations that’ll help you form a better relationship with time
practical tips for decoupling your sense of self-worth from how productive you feel

Remember: Who you are is not what you do. Your work is not your worth. Nothing you do will make you more valuable than you already are.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/495x815
How To Do Nothing by Jenny Odell: https://amzn.to/498y0lp
Ep. 177 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Power of Slowing Down: https://spotify.link/LJFrTQgccEb
Ep. 125 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Productivity for Self-Lovers: https://spotify.link/NNhFH7dccEb
Ep. 79 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk: https://spotify.link/q13zpNiccEb

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#179: Feeling Like Your Body Betrayed You with Grief Expert Ashley Lemieux

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Oct 2023 12:00:00 +0000

CONTENT WARNING: this is an episode about pregnancy loss, chronic pain, and the grief that comes with feeling like your body has betrayed you. Ashley Lemieux joins us to share her personal experience with pregnancy loss, a near death health emergency, and crawling her way through grief.

This episode is a giant permission slip to let yourself feel your pain, to acknowledge your grief for what it is: maybe the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. You will also receive encouragement and tools for finding your light in the dark.

You will learn...

how men and women grieve differently and the toll it can take on a marriage
why so many of us feel GUILT in the grieving process
how to begin to heal after a tragic loss
ways to feel safe in your body after chronic pain

Ashley Lemieux is a best-selling author, speaker, and content creator whose mission is to help you triumph through challenging times. She holds a Masters in Mental Wellness and Grief, has written 2 books including Born to Shine and I Am Here, and hosts a podcast called Healing Her. Everything Ashley shares will help you feel less alone and more empowered, especially during life’s inevitable lows.

Remember: your pain is as bad as it feels.

Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashleyklemeiux
Get Ashley’s book, I Am Here:

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ashleyklemieux

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#178: Coping with Crisis in an Emotionally-Intelligent Way

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 19:22:13 +0000

In an age of information overload and devastating crises unfolding before our eyes, the importance of critical thinking and emotional regulation can not be understated. We must remain grounded and informed in the face of overwhelming news, opinions, and emotions. Tune in to learn Mary’s 5-step process for coping with crisis.

Note: This episode is not about political commentary. Rather, its focus is on sharing tools for processing horrific information on the internet so that you can remain physically and emotionally healthy even in the midst of intense crisis. While acknowledging the importance of humanitarian issues and social justice, this podcast is focused on self-love as a means to maintain personal well-being during challenging times.

Remember: it’s good to care about global, humanitarian issues but don’t let it come at the expense of your own humanity and well-being.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Why Has Social Media Made It Impossible to Follow the Israel-Hamas War? on the Offline Podcast with Jon Favreau: https://crooked.com/podcast/why-has-social-media-made-it-impossible-to-follow-the-israel-hamas-war/#:~:text=As fighting intensifies between Israel,content moderation and fact checking.
TikTok on how it takes 90 seconds to metabolize an emotion: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8haExJG/
The Lemon Tree book: https://amzn.to/3QwIcxb
Byron Katie’s 4 Liberating Questions: https://thework.com/2017/10/four-liberating-questions/
Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/

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#177: The Power of Slowing Down

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Oct 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Have you ever lost something and spent hours frantically looking for it everywhere and then the item shows up when you’re not searching for it? And better yet, it shows up in the place you swear you’ve looked? When you’re rushing, you’re stuck in your own anxious headspace, not actually connected to yourself and your surroundings. Tune in to learn about the power of slowing down, and how it can help you harness your intuition. Plus, Mary shares 5 simple ways to practice slowing down in your daily life.

Remember: When you pause, you breathe, and when you breathe, you harness your power.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#176: Safari Honeymoon Recap, Reflections, & Recommendations

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Oct 2023 11:08:01 +0000

After an epic safari honeymoon, Mary and her husband recap their trip to Tanzania + Zanzibar.

They talk about…

why they chose to do Tanzania safari + Zanzibar island for their honeymoon
funny moments shared, memorable people met, and wild animals encountered
their top hotel recommendations for Tanzania and Zanzibar
what the trip itinerary + budget looked like

We hope this inspires you to add Tanzania to your bucket list (perhaps as a honeymoon destination)! Hotel recs are linked in the episode description. :)

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Hotels We Stayed At...
Amazing B&B in Arusha: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/haradali-39-s-home.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Best lodge with elephants near the pool: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g608450-d8467687-Reviews-Tarangire_Simba_Lodge-Tarangire_National_Park_Arusha_Region.html
Favorite luxury accommodation at Lake Manyara: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/escarpment-luxury-lodge.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Four Seasons in Serengeti: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/four-seasons-safari-lodge-serengeti.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Budget lodge in Ngorongoro Crater: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g317085-d1024831-Reviews-Ngorongoro_Rhino_Lodge-Ngorongoro_Conservation_Area_Arusha_Region.html
Cute hotel in the middle of Stone Town, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/upendo-house-zanzibar-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2
Gorgeous resort in Kendwa, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/zuri-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2

Other Experiences Mentioned…
Paddleboarding in Zanzibar: https://www.paddlesportszanzibar.com
Daraja Foundation: https://www.darajafoundation.com

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#175: When It Feels “Too Good To Be True”

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Aug 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you’ve ever felt like something or someone is “too good to be true” then this episode is for you. Mary talks about a model for strengthening your sense of self-worth, so that you finally feel worthy of things that are good AND true.

Remember: when what you WANT does not align with what you BELIEVE, you will experience an inner battle filled with doubt, fear, and self-sabotage. As you’re figuring out what you want, do not neglect the power of your beliefs.

Join the retreat priority list to get first dibs on our next self-love retreat! https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats

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#174: Leaving the Church, Getting a Divorce, & Healing Religious Trauma w/ Morgan Tyler Haley

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Aug 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you were raised in a restrictive, religious environment, this episode is for you. Morgan Haley joins us for a relatable and validating conversation about unsubscribing from beliefs that don’t serve you and discovering your own identity. FYI, we challenge and reject religious dogma that’s rooted in fear, shame, and hate.

You will learn...
⛪️ why Morgan decided to leave the evangelical Christian community and divorce her first marriage
💔 how that’s impacted her relationship with her family
❤️‍🩹 what’s helped Morgan heal from a lifetime of religious trauma
🏳️‍🌈 how her new relationship changed her view of love

Remember: there is no timeline for the healing process.

Morgan, or @findingmorgantyler on IG, is a queer fitness and yoga instructor whose goal is to bring you approachable workouts that you feel confident doing from the comfort of your home. She speaks openly about leaving religious dogma, discovering her sexuality, and healing from shame through movement. You can find the links to her app as well as her programs via the link in her IG bio.

Follow Morgan on Instagram: @findingmorgantyler
Learn more about Morgan’s approachable yoga + fitness programs: https://linktr.ee/Morgantyler?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=01a2c2e2-4af9-49b6-838e-16a69193565d

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @findingmorgantyler

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#173: The Beauty of “Failure”

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Aug 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I feel like a failure”? As a Type A, self-motivated, achievement-driven kind of person, failure is something you might feel often… even when you haven’t actually failed. The worst kind of failure is when you don’t meet your OWN expectation of success (which is more often than not) and find yourself stuck in a never-ending cycle of “feeling like a failure.”

In this episode, you will learn...

why feeling like a failure is a THOUGHT, not an emotion (and how to talk yourself out of that BS)
how to deal with common feelings of failure like when your body changes, a relationship ends, or a job opportunity doesn’t work out quite the way you expected
3 mindset shifts to help you feel better about potential failures

Remember: Anything that feels like failure right now is pushing you, preparing you, and pointing you toward the path you’re actually meant to be on.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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Where Beauty Standards Come From and How to Stop Self-Objectification with Dr. Lindsay Kite

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Jul 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Have you ever thought that you were happier when you were thinner/ prettier/ younger/ etc?

In a culture that values thinness and beauty, it’s hard not to believe that your value lies in your appearance. We buy into arbitrary beauty ideals and false promises, killing ourselves to look a certain way.

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Lindsay Kite, co-author of the book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, to talk about where beauty standards come from and how to stop self objectification.

You will learn...

the missing piece of the puzzle when we talk about body-image
how the male gaze affects body-image
why losing weight and changing your appearance never solves the problem
ways to combat toxic beauty standards and build body image resilience

Remember: keeping up with beauty ideals is a losing game. Adhering to society’s definition of beauty does NOT buy body love, confidence, health, happiness or self worth. Usually, it only exacerbates body image and self love struggles.

Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament (2020, HarperCollins) and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. Both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their social media activism (IG @beauty_redefined), online course (morethanabody.org), and regular speaking engagements for people of all ages. Lindsay lives in New York City.

Follow Lindsay on Instagram: @beauty_redefined
Get Lindsay and Lexie Kite’s book, More Than a Body: https://www.morethanabody.org/more-than-a-body-book/

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_redefined

Mentioned In This Episode...
Lindsay’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/uDowwh0EU4w

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#171: New Environment, New Mindset

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary shares her lessons learned from traveling and talks about how putting yourself in a new environment is the best way to heal.

You will learn...

2 ways to get unstuck
how Mary healed her relationship with exercise
creative ways to shake up your environment

Remember: you cannot heal in the same environment that you got sick.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#170: Intentional Wedding Planning and Artful Gathering with Priya Parker

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Jul 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Self-love is relational. We NEED people in our lives and gathering is how we build and nurture community. Today Priya Parker is on the show to teach us about the art of gathering, specifically as it pertains to weddings.

You will learn...

why weddings are important for a couple and their families
how Mary & Husband approached their wedding in a conscientious and feminist way
the #1 thing to consider BEFORE planning a wedding (i.e. MUCH-NEEDED advice for engaged couples)
how to set boundaries with friends and family as you’re planning a wedding and resolve any conflict that may come up

Remember: Weddings are symbolic, ritualistic, and a rite of passage for everyone involved. If done in an artful way, weddings can be a beautiful way to begin a marriage… tune in to learn how.

Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, Parker has spent 20 years guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations about community, identity, and vision at moments of transition. She lives in Brooklyn, NY, with her husband and two children.

Follow Priya on Instagram: @priyaparker
Learn more about Priya’s Wedding Course here: https://course.priyaparker.com/aog-wedding-planning
Get Priya’s book, The Art of Gathering: https://www.priyaparker.com/book-art-of-gathering

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @priyaparker

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. #157: Wedding Reflections w/ My HUSBAND: https://spotify.link/ivI8sz5NYAb
10 Wedding Planning Questions for the Artful Gathering Couple: https://www.priyaparker.com/wedding-planning-guide

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#169: Do You Think You’re Boring or Uninteresting? Here’s Why You’re WRONG.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Jul 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you believe you’re boring, you’re more likely to silence your voice, not share your story, not express your gifts.

If you want to put yourself out there whether it’s while dating, at work, trying to start a new business, become a content creator, make new friends, etc, you have to STOP thinking that you’re boring… because you’re not!!

Here’s a 10-minute pep-talk for anyone who feels like they’re boring or not interesting enough.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Quora article: https://www.quora.com/I-am-boring-and-uninteresting-I’m-not-very-talkative-I’m-stoic-and-I-have-no-energy-or-passion-I-read-and-play-video-games-and-I’m-in-a-club-but-don’t-meet-new-people-I-do-well-in-school-and-make-people-laugh-What-can-I-do-to-make-friends

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#168: Imbalances in Relationships & How to Fix Them with Eve Rodsky

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Jun 2023 12:00:00 +0000

WOW!!! This one is going down in history as one of our favorite episodes. Get ready to feel seen, heard, and understood thanks to this conversation with Eve Rodsky about the INVISIBLE and UNPAID labor of women.

Note: though we speak in heteronormative terms, this conversation is for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility in their relationship than their partner. And if you’re single/ dating and see yourself in a long-term partnership in the future, NOW is the time to start thinking about what “fair play” looks like.

You will learn...

the 3 words that RUIN all relationships
why women do more unpaid labor + some shocking statistics
the secret formula for rebalancing the responsibilities in your household
how to challenge cultural assumptions that say you must “do it all” and create a more equitable dynamic in your relationship

Remember: these gender imbalances are NOT YOUR FAULT nor are they your partner’s. There are a lot of cultural assumptions at play here and it’s time to dismantle them to create “fair play” between men and women.

Eve Rodsky transformed her “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship, has elevated the cultural conversation about the value of unpaid labor and care. In her highly anticipated follow-up, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, Rodsky explores the cross-section between the science of creativity, productivity, and resilience. Described as the ‘antidote to physical, mental, and emotional burnout,’ Rodsky aims to inspire a new narrative around the equality of time and the individual right to personal time choice that influences sustainable and lasting change on a policy level. Rodsky’s work is backed by Hello Sunshine—Reese Witherspoon’s media company whose mission is to change the narrative for women through storytelling. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband Seth and their three children.

Learn more about Fair Play and Unicorn Space at fairplaylife.com
Get the book, Fair Play: https://amzn.to/3N3Bxax
And the Fair Play card deck: https://amzn.to/43CKvmi

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Extreme Ownership book: https://amzn.to/45TZNVc
TED Talk Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness: https://youtu.be/8KkKuTCFvzI

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#167: 5 Signs You’re Struggling with Self-Confidence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Jun 2023 12:00:00 +0000

A lack of self-confidence shows up in small and big ways. Here are 5 not-so-obvious signs that you’re struggling with self-confidence, things that Mary is personally working on as well.

You will learn how to...

stop trying to fill inner voids with external things
start trusting yourself more
get out of a victim mindset

Remember: No shiny new thing is going to give you the confidence, happiness, and positive feelings you’re looking for. You’re the only one who can change your mindset and it has to come from within.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#166: Perfectionism and Nervous System Regulation (Pt.2 with María-Victoria Albina)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Jun 2023 12:00:00 +0000

This one is for our fellow perfectionists. Those of us who were raised as girls and women, know how easy it is to fall into perfectionism, constantly equating our worth with how “perfect” we can appear to be. This is Part 2 of our conversation with Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these perfectionistic thinking and reclaim our authenticity.

You will learn...

what happens in the nervous system of a perfectionist
why women, eldest daughters especially, often exhibit signs of people-pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism and how it gets passed down through generations
how perfectionism might be related to IBS and other digestion issues?!?!?!?
tools to help you snap out of perfectionistic thinking

We hope this episode inspires you to choose PRESENCE ＞ PERFECTION.

María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.

Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness

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#165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them (Pt.1 with María-Victoria Albina)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Jun 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”?

If so, then you might be a PEOPLE-PLEASER.

For those of us who were raised as girls and women, people-pleasing is an all too familiar way of relating to those around us. Today we are joined by Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these people-pleasing thought patterns and reclaim our authenticity. This conversation is equal parts entertaining and educational, thanks to María-Victoria’s joyful spirit.

You will learn about...

what really happens in your nervous-system when you prioritize other people’s needs above your own
non-obvious signs of people-pleasing and codependency
ways to stop yourself from people-pleasing and start being more truthful, direct, and authentic

Remember: sourcing your feelings from the outside world is a sign of codependency. Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, your value does not depend on what others think of you.

She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. She’s also the creator of Anchored, a 6-month coaching program and a loving, supportive community for women and afab non-binary folks, where you’ll learn new ways to respond to stress and trauma, ditch codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits as you learn to relate to your body, mind and emotions in healthier ways.

Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media!
Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness

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#164: Conquering Summer Body-Image Struggles

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Jun 2023 12:00:00 +0000

As the weather gets warmer, body-image can get harder. You might be thinking, “I’m nervous to be in a swimsuit around all of my friends, showing so much skin makes me feel insecure…” That’s why Mary is sharing 3 reminders for conquering summer body-image struggles: so that you can wear that bikini with less shame and more confidence.

Remember: do not let your body-IMAGE influence your life EXPERIENCE, especially this summer.

This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 May 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Being lost is not just necessary. It’s inevitable. Everyone feels lost at times, most of us feel slightly lost all of the time. Whether you’re going through a transition in your career, questioning your purpose or feeling confused about your next steps, this episode will give you glimmers of hope amidst uncertainty.

You will learn...

the 2 manifestations of feeling lost and where they stem from
how to feel less agitated and more excited
mindset shifts and ways to deal with your un-lived potentials
how to surrender and trust that you are exactly where you need to be

Remember: You can look for yourself in people, places, careers, hobbies, experiences, and things, but the core of who you are is already within you. Clarity will come when you try new things and put yourself in positions to meet new opportunities.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Cheryl Strayed’s book, Tiny Beautiful Things: https://amzn.to/43ebyUt
Oliver Burkeman’s book, Four Thousand Weeks: https://amzn.to/439aT6F

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#162: When Wellness Becomes BS w/ Christy Harrison, MPH, Registered Dietitian and Intuitive Eating Counselor

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 May 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Christy Harrison, a pioneer in the anti-diet movement, has transformed the way I see food, weight, and health. Now she’s coming on the show to talk about THE WELLNESS TRAP, a hodgepodge of diet culture, disinformation, and dubious diagnoses. Many wellness solutions that promise “health and healing” are really just promoting a standard of health that’s unattainable, problematic, and harmful to your health.

You will learn...

why diets and weight loss are NOT the solution to most all health concerns
how the wellness world tricks us into dubious diagnoses and harmful approaches to “healing”
who often falls into the wellness trap (and why YOU might have at times too…)
how to think critically and employ scientific literacy

Remember: a healthy amount of skepticism will keep you from falling into the wellness trap. Not everything needs to be cured or healed, especially if the methods are scientifically unsound.

Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and journalist who has been covering food, nutrition, and health for more than 20 years. She is the author of two books, The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet, and the producer and host of the podcasts Rethinking Wellness and Food Psych, which have helped tens of thousands of people around the world think critically about diet and wellness culture and develop more peaceful relationships with food. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, SELF, BuzzFeed, Refinery29, Gourmet, Slate, the Food Network, and many other publications, and her work is regularly featured in national print and broadcast media. Learn more about Christy and her work at christyharrison.com

Follow Christy on Instagram: @chr1styharrison
Learn more about Christy’s new book, The Wellness Trap: https://christyharrison.com/the-wellness-trap

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @christyharrison

Mentioned in This Episode:
Fears About Food Additives (article written by Christy): https://christyharrison.ck.page/posts/fears-about-food-additives
Is Red Food Dye Dangerous? https://www.parentdata.org/p/is-red-food-dye-dangerous?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

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#161: What Helped Me Finally Stop Binge Eating

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 May 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you’ve ever struggled with binge eating, you know how difficult it is to stop. You might have tried everything from strict dieting to intuitive eating, wishing that something would help stop your battle with food for good. Mary has been on this journey herself after nearly a decade of struggling with bulimia and binge eating. In this episode, she shares the mindset that helped her FINALLY stop binge eating… forever. Tune in for some refreshing encouragement + a mindset shift for overcoming binge eating.

Remember: binge eating is symbolic of how we function overall. That frantic, compulsive energy around food translates into other areas too. Where else does this binge/ restrict/ self-hate pattern show up in your life?

If you’re interested in Mary’s 4-week program for conquering body-image struggles, breaking the diet cycle, and learning to love yourself, get it Beyond Body here for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body

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#160: Dating in ED Recovery + Life as a Content Creator w/ Brittani Lancaster

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 May 2023 12:00:00 +0000

ED recovery and body acceptance influencer Brittani Lancaster joins us for an honest conversation about online dating, working a 9-5 AND being a TikTok influencer, and what life is like as a content creator.

Remember: it’s okay to keep your personal passion separate from your intellectual passion. You are a multi-faceted human being.

Follow Britt on IG/ TikTok: @brittanilancaster

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @brittanilancaster

On that note, I’m going to take a dramatic sip of tea... Big Heart Tea, that is! My favorite certified organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

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#159: How to Make Your Friendships Stronger

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Apr 2023 12:00:00 +0000

You might have friends that you think you’re close to, but are you really? Most people say they don’t want surface-level friendships, but I think because of capitalism, hustle culture, and the individualistic way in which we live, our friendships have inevitably become surface level even if both people are actually rather deep! It’s just hard to translate that depth to another person unless you know how to intentionally take it there. In this episode, Mary talks about how to make your existing friendships stronger.

You will learn about...

the importance of having fulfilling friendships and how to foster them
some friend date ideas that are much more fun that your typical lunch date
tips for getting your friends together in a wholesome way

Remember: it takes a village for you to thrive. We are not meant to walk through life alone.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
We’re Not Really Strangers card game:
Priya Parker’s, The Art of Gathering:

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#158: Talking to Kids About Food, Fat, and Health w/ Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Apr 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you have children in your life, whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then hopefully you want to create a body positive environment for them. Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW.

You will learn...

what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?”
how to approach a conversation about “healthy eating” with kids
what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then?
what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight

Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health.

Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family. She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body image injury. Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @mybodypositivehome

This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!

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#157: Wedding Reflections w/ my HUSBAND!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Apr 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary’s HUSBAND is joining us for a special podcast episode sharing aaalllll the details of their wedding + how it feels to be married!

You’ll hear about…

a fight they had during the early stages of wedding planning
feelings before, during, and after the big day
their favorite and funniest moments of the wedding
how they approached friends, family, and finances
what their backyard wedding looked like
advice to couples considering having a wedding
thoughts on pre-nups and what it means to be married

Remember: most people want to have a wedding, but aren’t clear on what marriage looks like. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page before going into a life-long commitment.

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...
The Art of Gathering (Book): https://amzn.to/3MCKHfE
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged (Book): https://amzn.to/3mn2IUG
Mary’s Wedding Planning Notion Template: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Wedding-Planning-Template-f5c3e7b8d4d746ccabac42babc334669?pvs=4

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#156: Compassionate Self-Talk

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Apr 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary is practicing compassionate self-talk- here’s how.

You will learn how to...

be more conscious of the stories you’re telling yourself
separate your struggles from your identity
use word choice that’s more supportive and self-compassionate

Remember: your thoughts create your (internal) reality.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#155: Stop Self-Sabotaging with This Quick Tip

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 8 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary has been struggling with self-sabotage so she’s talking about it! Tune in to hear a quick way to stop self-sabotage in its tracks.

Remember: self-sabotage’s close cousin is perfectionism…

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 50: How to Let Go of Control & Perfectionism: https://maryscupoftea.com/50-how-to-let-go-of-control-perfectionism/

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#154: How to Manifest Opportunities in 3 Simple Steps

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +0000

A short episode about how manifestation can be used in a practical way, since a lot of rhetoric on manifesting and the Law of Attraction can be a bit tone deaf… Tune in for Mary’s 3 simple steps for manifesting opportunities into your life.

Remember: the Law of Attraction is essentially a cognitive bias! You can use this brain hack to seek out positivity and goodness in your life, and thus, invite more of that in. Where your attention goes, energy flows and what you focus on grows.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#153: Eating Disorders Amongst Men with Bobby Kasmire

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Eating disorders amongst is not talked about enough so in this episode, Mary is joined by fellow content creator Bobby Kasmire who vulnerably shares about his struggles with disordered eating.

You will learn...

what it’s like struggling with Ed as a guy
Bobby’s brilliant “2-week” rule which has helped him ease food anxiety
how our Ed recovery is shaped and impacted by the internet

Remember: you are more than your Ed! There is a whole beautiful life waiting for you beyond recovery.

A recent college graduate who is currently creating content for over 300k+ followers across TikTok and Instagram, Bobby Kasmire shares his past and ongoing experiences in eating disorder recovery on social media in order to help break the stigma amongst men and eating disorders. He shares helpful tactics, tools, and thoughts that have helped him on his own journey to finding a better relationship with food.

Follow Bobby on Instagram and TikTok: @bobbykazz

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @bobbykazz Listen to Mary on the Bobby PodKazz Podcast here: Get Mary’s Self-Love Playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist

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#152: Listen to This to Get Smarter with Blair Imani on Racism, Religion, Marriage, and Mental Health

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

The most wide-ranging conversation on this podcast! Activist and educator Blair Imani talks to us about topics spanning racism, religion, mental health, marriage, and so much more.

You will learn...

how subtle racism can show up and what to do about it
why Blair chose to convert to Islam
how to feel your feelings AND move forward - ways to intentionally approach marriage with feminism at the forefront

If you made an anti-racist promise in 2020, this is your reminder that there is still tons of work to be done in 2023 and beyond.

Blair Imani (she/her) is the creator of the viral web series Smarter in Seconds. She is the LA Times Bestselling author of Read This to Get Smarter and Head of Education at Feminist for All. She is also the author of Making Our Way Home and Modern HERstory. Her scholarship spans intersectionality, gender studies, race and racism, sociology, and United States history. As a public speaker, Blair Imani has presented at universities including Oxford and Harvard. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Tegan and Sara Foundation. The New York Times praises Blair Imani’s unique ability to create “progressive lessons with vibrant visuals and a perky, quirky delivery.”

Her work centers women and girls, global Black communities, and the LGBTQ+ community. As an educator, influencer, and semi-retired organizer, Blair Imani is dedicated to making the world less terrible and amplifying the voices and work of those fighting the good fight. Learn more about Blair Imani by visiting blairimani.com.

Follow Blair on Instagram: @blairimani
Get Blair’s book, Read This to Get Smarter: https://blairimani.com/read-this-to-get-smarter

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @blairimani Mentioned In This Episode... Reclaiming Our Space by Feminista Jones: http://reclaimingourspace.com

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#151: 25 Things I’m Learning as I Make 25 Trips Around the Sun

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 8 Feb 2023 19:00:00 +0000

Happy birthday to our host Mary Jelkovsky! In this solo episode, Mary shares 25 things she’s learning (key word!) about people, life, and self-love.

The best birthday gift is your listenership and being on this self-love journey together!

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider taking 60 seconds to rate the show on Spotify or leave a review on Apple. Your feedback means the world and helps the show grow.

And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love and if you already have them, please leave a review on Amazon or wherever you bought them from!

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#150: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Feb 2023 12:00:00 +0000

You will learn...

how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors
why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction
the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food
how to uncover symbolic meanings in food
why recovery is FUN!
how to find your hunger and fullness cues
and so. much. more.

Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good).

Follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston
Learn more about Dr. Anita’s Feminine Psyche course here: https://lightofthemooncafe.com/the-four-faces-of-the-feminine-psyche/
FREE Food & Metaphor Guide: www.lightofthemooncafe.com/cot

Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the Light of the Moon Café, an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world.
As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dranitajohnston

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#149: Letting Out Your Creative Power with Katie Dalebout

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Jan 2023 12:00:00 +0000

If you are a creative person, this conversation with Katie Dalebout will make you feel seen, heard, and understood.

You will learn about...

how Katie’s orthorexia led her to create an extremely popular wellness podcast
the mindset (and fears) of a creative person
helpful tools and resources for writers and artists

Remember: creativity comes a lot easier when your nervous system is regulated.

Follow Katie on Instagram: @katiedalebout Learn more about Katie’s Creative Clinic here: https://www.katiedalebout.com/creative-clinic

Katie Dalebout is a writer who produces and hosts podcasts. Her weekly interview show Let It Out began in 2013 and now has over 400 episodes with nearly 9 million downloads. In 2019 she started producing Spiraling, a mental health show she co-hosts with Serena Wolf. In 2016, she published her first book Let It Out, an interactive book about using writing for emotional wellness. She now teaches writing workshops, consults with individuals and brands on creative strategy, and writes a weekly newsletter. She lives in Los Angeles where she walks like she still lives in New York.

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @katiedalebout

Get Mary’s self-love playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist

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#148: Add THIS Gratitude Practice to Your Morning Routine

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 12:00:00 +0000

You’ll feel the enthusiasm in Mary’s voice as she shares with you this 5-second gratitude practice you can do anytime, anywhere!

This episode is for you if you want an easy way to integrate a gratitude practice into your life. Try it and let us know what you think over on @maryspodcast!

And make sure to get Mary’s new self-love journal: https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 121 with Another Gratitude Tip: https://maryscupoftea.com/121-a-quick-gratitude-practice/
Ep. 115 about Learning the Difference: https://maryscupoftea.com/115-learning-the-difference-mindset/

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Ep. 147: Make Your Relationship(s) Better with These 2 Tips

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Jan 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mary shares 2 green flags of a good relationship or 2 things you can practice with your partner. She also talks about her own relationship, lessons learned from couples therapy, and ways to foster a healthy dynamic with those around you.

Remember: there are ways to communicate with each other beyond using words… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love workbook: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love and

100 Days of Self-Love journal: https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love

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#146: Overcoming Rejection and People Not Liking You

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Jan 2023 12:00:00 +0000

This was a HARD topic to talk about… no one likes feeling rejected because it threatens our #1 desire as human beings: the need to be accepted for who we are. Here is how to deal with rejection in a self-aware and self-loving way so that hopefully, other people’s opinions don’t stop you from living YOUR life.

You will learn about...

how to cope with feeling rejected
what to do if you’re the one rejecting YOURSELF
why people might not like you

Remember: REJECTION IS REDIRECTION.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media and feel free to send us a DM!

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#145: My Super Simple New Years Intention-Setting Process

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Dec 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Mary shares her 3-step process for setting intentions for the New Year + tips/ tools for organizing your 2023 goals.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media so we can see your New Years intentions! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
My Vision Board in Notion: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Intentions-f4a527b20f844b219f91cbdfb709a41b

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#144: Mistakes Vagina-Owners Are Making with Dr. Tanaya

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Dec 2022 12:00:00 +0000

We are joined by the sex positive Dr. Tanaya who talks to us about common mistakes/ misconceptions that vagina-owners often have in regards to their reproductive health.

Here are the topics/ questions we dive into:

What causes your uterus and cervix to change over time
Do menstrual cups cause prolapse?
Do vaginas stretch or get loose if you have a lot of sex?
Tips for calming medical anxiety
What are common misconceptions about orgasms, specifically for vulva owners?
Does penis size matter?
Is hair removal dangerous? What’s better: Shaving? Waxing? Laser
Does not wearing a bra really make your boobs saggy?
Do vibrators de-sensitize your clitoris?
Tips for prime sexual health!!

Remember: learning about and understanding your body is a form of SELF-LOVE.

Dr. Tanaya is a medic who is passionate about sexual and reproductive health, and likes to put the ‘fun’ in fundamental sex ed! Having amassed almost a million followers, she focuses on busting sexual health myths, and creating candid, engaging, & informative conversations around these “shushed” topics.

After studying medicine in India, Dr. Tanaya then got a masters in assisted reproductive technologies at the University of Oxford, where she was surprised to see the many many medical myths amongst her highly educated peers! This inspired her to start her Instagram channel, @Dr_Cuterus, where she uses fairytales, mannequins, fun GIFs, and hilariously relatable examples to talk about complex medical & sexual education topics, all wrapped up with an inclusive and gender-neutral bow — a safe place where no topic is too taboo to discuss!

Follow Dr. Tanaya on Instagram: @dr_cuterus Get Dr. Tanaya’s book: https://www.amazon.in/dp/0143455702?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_DKPTASVP98X1D2DKPKXV

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr_cuterus

Mentioned In This Episode... Cardi B’s words of wisdom: https://www.instagram.com/p/CD7ii2FAPqb/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

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#143: Food Freedom During the Holidays w/ Sarah Simpson

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Dec 2022 12:00:00 +0000

If you’re stressed about food during the holiday season, this episode is for you. Mary is joined by Sarah Simpson to talk about how to embody food freedom and self-trust during a time of year when it’s easy to fall back into old habits.

You will learn about...

what life is actually like after recovery
the 4 types of hunger
how to trust your body and yourself around food

Remember: healing isn’t linear, sometimes it’s a cha-cha: a couple steps back is part of the dance! The holidays can help you learn, grow, and heal in a new way.

Sarah is a body image and food freedom coach whose passion for self love and whole-body wellness emerged from her own experiences in the hamster wheel of dieting and weight loss culture. After recovering from her eating disorder and finding her inner confidence, she became a coach. She understands that our relationships with our bodies and food impact every area of our lives, and not enough is done to help us through that.

Follow Sarah on Instagram: @sarahinyellow
Learn more about Sarah’s holiday masterclass here: https://fabulous-leader-1123.ck.page/8b805bff35
Get Sarah’s Food Mindset e-course: https://sarah-simpson-s-school.teachable.com/p/freedom-university

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sarahinyellow

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#142: Making Friends as an Adult - Where, How, and Why

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Dec 2022 22:04:10 +0000

Have you ever felt like making friends as an adult nearly impossible?! Like WHERE do you find like-minded people and HOW do you go from strangers to besties? In this episode, Mary shares her advice for making new friendships and strengthening your existing ones.

You will learn...

the mindset and energy you MUST embody to make new friends
WHERE to find potential friends (the answer might surprise you!)
how to talk to people without being awkward

Remember: people can and will surprise you once you open your heart to genuine connection.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s two books on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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#141: How to Deal with Difficult Family Members

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Nov 2022 03:29:43 +0000

I’m convinced that everyone has at least ONE difficult family member (if not, it might be you 🤪). Family can bring up a lot for us emotionally which is why today we’re talking about how to deal those triggers in a healthy way.

You will learn…

5 questions to ask yourself BEFORE setting boundaries
how to use self-awareness and emotional intelligence with your family
my 5-step process for approaching difficult conversations

Remember: people often project their own insecurities not because they’re malicious, but because it’s easier to direct energy outward than it is to reflect inward. 🎤

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love:

The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love, a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Ep. 35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet Culture: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/35-how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/id1495128359?i=1000493293855
Blog post on setting boundaries: https://maryscupoftea.com/how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/
Boundary Coach, Kami Orange, on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kami_orange

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#140: Journaling Tips + Prompts (Because My New Self-Love Journal is Here!)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Nov 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Mary shares what’s helped her start journaling, stay consistent, and go on to create her own self-love journal! Tune in for journaling tips + techniques + prompts.

You will learn how to...

how to start journaling and stay consistent
what to write about when you’re journaling (plus, the ONE main question you must ask yourself every single time)
3 different approaches to journaling and which one might be best for you

Remember: My new book, 100 Days of Self-Love, is a guided journal with daily musings + thought-provoking prompts followed by space to write. Not only is it BEAUTIFUL, but it’s also something that will help keep you going (read: growing) on your self-love journey.

Get yourself a copy of 100 Days of Self-Love by going to maryscupoftea.com/journal or pick it up at your favorite book retailer!

Mentioned In This Episode...
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron: https://amzn.to/3hLo4Ik
Mary’s new guided journal: https://amzn.to/3UXzI1o

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#139: Creating a Career You Love with My Book Publishing Team: Lindsay & Brenna

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Nov 2022 12:00:00 +0000

Mary talks to Lindsay and Brenna from Blue Star press about book writing, paving your own path, and building a company. They talk about how their career didn’t follow a straight path, but rather, were carved out through curiosity, preparation, and a bit of luck.

You will learn about...

how to stay open-minded as you seek career opportunities
what to do if you don’t know what you want to do
how Mary’s publisher, Blue Star Press, started their company

We hope you enjoy this unique conversation with 2 people who helped bring both of Mary’s books to life!

Get your copy of Mary’s new self-love book: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today and get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal.

Mentioned In This Episode...
“You Don’t Actually Know What Your Future Self Wants” TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/dtfaccGmCCs

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#138: Healing from Heartbreak

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Nov 2022 11:00:00 +0000

This one if for those who are going through a breakup or healing from heartbreak of any sort. You will hear from Mary and a few of her friends on what’s helped them heal their hearts after a break-up. Tune in for heartfelt advice, words of encouragement, and a dose of poetry.

You will hear from…

Mary (@maryscupofteaa) on leaving someone after experiencing trauma together and heavily relying on each other
Kelly (@_kellyu) on finding your own identity after leaving a toxic relationship
Julia (@fitfatandallthat) on letting yourself grieve the loss of a future
Whitney (@whitneyhansonpoetry) who shares a spoken poem for those who are afraid to love again…

Remember: breakups suck, but they’re something to celebrate, too.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

Pre-order Mary’s NEW BOOK: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Excerpt from pg. 94 of 100 Days of Self-Love titled “Celebrate Breakups”
Excerpt from pg. 170 of 100 Days of Self-Love titled “Breakups Are Mirrors”
”home” poetry book by Whitney Hanson: https://amzn.to/3UfIAif

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#137: Motivating Yourself with Compassion

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Oct 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Want to know how to motivate yourself in a self-loving way? Tune into this episode to learn practical tools for finding and creating motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE, of course!

You will learn how to...

Why you might be feeling de-motivated
Use a technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
Employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)

Mary also has a NEW BOOK coming out on November 15th: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dr. Kristin Neff on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast Episode #32: https://youtu.be/SIN48AbUi-A
The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/full/10.1086/691462

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#136: How to Be Body Positive AND Pursue Health

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Oct 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary talks about 3 ways to balance body positivity with the pursuit of health. She hopes you will see that contrary to misconceptions on the internet, body positivity and health are actually one and the same.

You will learn how to...

approach food with a non-diety, yet health-focused, mindset
think about movement in a way that isn’t body or weight loss focused
trust your body after years of trying to control it

Remember: accepting, loving, and caring for your body is the healthiest thing for you. Don’t let diet culture tell you otherwise!

Mary has a NEW BOOK coming out on November 15th: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal.

We are also celebrating over 1 million podcast downloads thanks to all of you self-lovers!!! Thank you so much for supporting this small show over the years. If you have 60 seconds to tell us what you love about the show, we would greatly appreciate a review on Apple or a rating on Spotify. Always love hearing from you!

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#135: On Being Multi-Passionate with Arielle Estoria

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Arielle Estoria is back on the show to talk to us being a multi-passionate creator. Arielle Estoria is a Spoken Word Poet, a Writer and Author, as well as an Emcee, Speaker and Actor.

You will learn about...

how yoga can be incredibly healing to your relationship with your body
what it means to be multi-passionate and how to embrace it as a GIFT
how Arielle practices rest and boundaries as a soulfilled creator

Remember: the real work is rest.

Follow Arielle on Instagram: @arielleestoria
Arielle’s new book The Unfolding is coming spring 2023. Pre-order it here: https://amzn.to/3S7ne6m

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @arielleestoria

Mentioned In This Episode...
Listen to Mary’s previous conversation with Arielle (Episode #21)
Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/emilie_wapnick_why_some_of_us_don_t_have_one_true_calling?language=en

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#134: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Oct 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle.

You will learn about...

finding or having more meaning in our lives
enjoying life without trying to fix everything that is ”wrong with you”
lack of connection making us want to fill a void

Remember: You are enough, your life is enough and who you are at your core is totally okay.

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Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for you to pre-order at maryscupoftea.com/journal Make sure you pre-order the journal by November 1st so that you can get the audiobook for freeeee!

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)

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#133: Self Love in a Post-Pandemic World with Poet Melody Godfred

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary is joined by Melody Godfred to talk about how self-love shows up in our lives, especially post pandemic.

You will learn...

how self-love shows up in motherhood and parenting
why achievements don’t always bring joy
the intrinsic power women hold and how to embrace it

Remember: the goal is not to check the boxes for the sake of “success”; it’s to get closer to YOUR aligned center and be able to live authentically.

Melody Godfred is the Self Love Philosopher. As a poet, author and speaker, she is devoted to empowering people to love themselves and transform their lives. Her poetry has been featured by Oprah Magazine and Today with Hoda and Jenna, among others, for its wisdom and ability to deeply resonate and uplift. Her bestselling debut poetry collection, Self Love Poetry: for Thinkers & Feelers, was recognized as one of the best poetry books of 2021 by Woman’s Day, and her self love guided journal, The ABCs of Self Love, was recently featured by Hudson Booksellers at over 300 airports across the United States. Melody’s new poetry collection, The Shift: Poetry for a New Perspective, is set to be published on September 27, 2022 by Andrews McMeel Publishing and is designed to reframe how we see and move through this brave new, post-pandemic world.

Follow Melody on Instagram: @fredandfar
Learn more about Melody’s self-love poetry books here: https://www.melodygodfred.com

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100 Days of Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 21 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary shares the details about her new book, 100 Days of Self Love! It’s a journal that complements her first book, The Gift of Self Love, to help you continue to grow on your self love journey! There are 100 journal prompts accompanied by little musings by Mary to help guide you.

100 Days of Self Love is now available for pre-order! And if you pre-order now, Mary will send you a copy of the audiobook version for free as a special thank you gift!

Go to maryscupoftea.com/journal to pre-order and fill out the form by October 31 to receive your audiobook!

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#132: What I’ve Learned After Writing 2 Self-Love Books

Mary Jelkovsky — Wed, 14 Sep 2022 13:00:00 +0000

Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for you to pre-order at maryscupoftea.com/journal

After publishing my first book, The Gift of Self-Love, many of you asked for a tool that would help you build a daily practice of self-love into your life. I wrote 100 Days of Self-Love you do just that. It’s got 100 journaling prompts that cover ALL areas of life—body, identity, purpose, relationships, and more—so you can really think of it as a metaphorical multivitamin for self-love, something to keep you going or GROWING on your self-love journey.

Go to maryscupoftea.com/journal to learn more about this new self-love journal! Make sure you pre-order the journal by November 1st so that you can get the audiobook for freeeee!

This solo episode is about what I’ve learned after writing and publishing 2 self-love books. I talk about…

My writing process including how I deal with challenges
Tips for overcoming self-criticism as a creator
Why you MUST share your gifts with the world

Remember: do. the damn. thing. I believe in you and I will keep reminding you of that until you start believing in yourself.

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#131: Having a Bad Day? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In today’s episode, Mary gives a little pep talk around what to do when you’re having a bad day.

You will learn how to...

shift your mood when you have a bad moment in your day
define what a bad day means to you and what is contributing to those feelings
define what a good day looks like for you

Remember: We need to work on untying and detaching our mood on external factors.

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#130: Surrendering & Shattering the Ego with Jake Sasseville

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Our first ever male guest on the show (aside from Boyfriend, of course!) is Jake Sasseville!! Jake is a dear friend of Mary’s who vulnerably shares his life story including struggles with weight/ body-image, career successes and failures, and what he’s learned along the way.

This is a conversation about…

surrendering to life’s highs and lows
overcoming codependent and addictive behaviors
creating true, unimaginable success in your life
how your weight does not have to hold you back

Remember: NEXT. RIGHT. ACTION.

Jake Sasseville is a serial entrepreneur, author, podcaster and TV producer. He is the CEO of Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica, he was the youngest host in late-night TV history on ABC, and the White House, and Kauffman Foundation named him one of the most “innovative entrepreneurs.” He has built a wide-ranging and impactful career at the intersection of culture and consciousness.

At 17, he learned early on about life’s private struggles: his thirteen-year brother died of leukemia and his father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in the same year. As a result, Sasseville has been known to be a sensitive, steadfast and resilient leader, often choosing pioneering paths instead of roads frequently traveled.

Follow Jake on Instagram: @jakesasseville

Learn more about retreats at Imiloa Institute here: https://imiloainstitute.com/retreats/ (and use code TEA to get $250 off an Imiloa Signature Retreat!)

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#129: Dating with Confidence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 11:00:00 +0000

A short solo episode where Mary shares her #1 tip for feeling confident in yourself while dating. Whether you’re seeing someone or just casually dating, this is the mindset you must adopt to attract good, healthy people in your life.

Remember: you are worthy of stable, healthy love.

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#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Aug 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Since Mary is getting married soon, it’s only fitting that she talks to renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon.

You will learn...

which green flags to look out for in your relationship
how to navigate feeling like you’re carrying the “emotional burden” of your relationship
what it means when you say “I love you but I’m not in love with you”
the key to making a relationship last long-term

Follow Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon
Learn more about Alexandra here: www.dralexandrasolomon.com

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Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today, the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Dr. Alexandra’s podcast episode with her husband Todd: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/

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#127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Aug 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Last week, Mary almost applied for a job at Trader Joe’s because she was feeling nervous about her purpose. If you’ve ever questioned your path in life, then this episode is for you.

You will learn...

the 2 scenarios that lead to questioning everything
how to create your purpose in a sea of possibilities
3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around your purpose

Perhaps it’s unwise to think about the future when there is so much for us to learn in the present…

Mentioned In This Episode...
Blog post on Japanese concept of “ikigai”: https://www.brightspacecoaching.com/blog/find-your-purpose

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#126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Aug 2022 11:00:00 +0000

An incredibly rich conversation about how travel transforms your character. Mary interviews Chelsea Glass, owner of Heart of Travel, an organization that helps you learn about Latin American culture through Spanish classes and small group trips.

You will learn about…

how to travel ethically and truly support the country you’re visiting
the hardships of interracial and intercultural relationships
how to find your “home,” whether it’s the place you were born or somewhere abroad

Remember: travel can teach us so much about ourselves and the world around us. If done intentionally, travel transforms you.

Chelsea Glass was born and raised in California and first began studying Spanish at the age of 19. After more than a decade immersed in the language, along with her post-graduate studies in Spanish at CSU Sacramento, Chelsea is a fluent Spanish speaker and experienced language instructor. From 2012 to 2016, Chelsea worked in both tourism and language education (Spanish and ESL) while pursuing her M.A. in Spanish before moving back full time to Guatemala in 2017 to start Heart of Travel. Chelsea has a deep passion for authentic travel and aims to dispel preconceived ideas and notions about Latin American cultures through small group trips. She currently resides in Antigua, Guatemala with her partner and two daughters.

Follow Heart of Travel on Instagram: @heartoftravel__
Heart of Travel’s Spanish courses: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj
Heart of Travel’s small group trips: https://heartoftravel.org/pages/travel-with-us

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Mentioned In This Episode...
Basic level Spanish class Mary is taking: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/p/basic-travel-spanish-i2?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj

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#125: Productivity for Self-Lovers

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Jul 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In order to go after our goals and make our dreams come true, we must prioritize stuff that’s important over tasks that feel urgent. Mary will teach you how to use self-love to decipher between urgency and importance.

You will learn...

why it’s so hard to motivate yourself
the difference between urgency and importance, and why you must prioritize the latter)
how to replace FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)

Remember: accepting that we are finite creatures with infinite possibilities liberates us to do what we really want to. Love yourself enough to choose the important over the urgent.

Mentioned In This Episode...
How to Master Your Priorities Medium Article: https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-master-your-priorities-with-the-urgent-important-matrix-a7904de55266
Productivity for Mortals on the Making Sense Podcast: https://www.samharris.org/podcasts/making-sense-episodes/289-time-management-for-mortals

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#124: How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 11:00:00 +0000

The fear of failure is closely related to the fear of success. Even though it seems like they’re opposite, both are a self-worth struggle.

In this episode you will learn how to...

self-talk your way through the fear of failure
believe in yourself
take small risks that lead to big results

Remember: Believing in yourself is harder to do than not believing in yourself. It takes courage. It takes willpower. It takes support. It takes stamina and stubbornness and it’s really uncomfortable but boy is it worth it.

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#123: The Sex Ed You Didn’t Get with Erica Smith

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Jul 2022 11:00:00 +0000

An interview with Erica Smith (@ericasmith.sex.ed), a sexuality educator who talk to us about abortion, purity culture, and how to talk to people about sex.

You will learn...

why sexual education is so important and how to talk to young people about sex
how to talk to people in your life who might not understand the severity of the abortion issue, specifically your partner
what purity culture is and how deeply it affects us

Erica Smith (she/her) is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education and advocacy to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV+ and transgender adolescents and their families. She received her Master of Education from Widener University’s Center for Human Sexuality Studies. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. Erica lives in Philadelphia with her partner and house full of rescue animals and you can find her on Instagram at @ericasmith.sex.ed

Follow Erica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/
Learn more about the Purity Culture Dropout Program here: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ericasmith.sex.ed Mentioned In This Episode... Sex Education- show on Netflix

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#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything Sucks

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary shares her best advice for practicing self-love during difficult times.

You will learn...

the 3 components of self-compassion
how to know the difference between avoiding and coping
ways to process and move through heavy emotions

Remember: we must be protective and intentional with our energy. Self-care is important now more than ever.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #115: Learning the Difference
Episode #32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
Well + Good Article: https://www.wellandgood.com/manage-stress-roe-v-wade/

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#121: A Quick Gratitude Practice

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary shares an easy, yet effective technique for tapping into more gratitude. You can do this anytime to instantly feel a little more motivated, happy, and grateful… (although you might find it annoying at first ha!).

Remember: changing your word choice can change your life.

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#120: Uncomfortable Realities and the Dark Side of Insta-Therapy with Seerut Chawla

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Jun 2022 12:26:58 +0000

Psychotherapist Seerut Chawla (@seerutkchawla) joins us for a hot take on the dangers of Insta-therapy. Warning: this conversation will challenge you to keep an open mind, think critically, and evaluate what you’ve been taught.

You will learn...

what ideas about mental health that have been popularized on social media are actually unethical and harmful
how cultural differences impact our view of mental health
what trauma actually is and what it is NOT

Remember: take what resonates with you and leave the rest. This conversation is meant to challenge us to maybe see things a little differently...

Seerut Chawla is a psychotherapist and cultural commentator based in London.

Follow Seerut on Instagram: @seerutkchawla
Sign up for Seerut’s Substack here: https://seerutkchawla.substack.com/

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#119: 5 Signs of Emotional Intelligence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Jun 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In today’s episode, Mary takes a deep dive into emotional intelligence!

You will learn how to...

Understand emotional intelligence
How it can be supportive in your self-love journey
Find harmony in the world through your emotions

Remember: Self-love does not exist in a vacuum, so consciously work on yourself AND your relationships.

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Ep 118: Financial Confidence and Investing with Tori Dunlap

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Jun 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Tori Dunlap (@herfirst100k) joins us to talk about INVESTING, building WEALTH, and financial CONFIDENCE.

You will learn...

the best way to invest your money (the how & where)
why women are less financially educated than men (and how to change that)
how to ditch the shame around money and become financially confident

Remember: building wealth as a woman is an act of resistance to the patriarchy.

Tori Dunlap is an internationally-recognized money and career expert, and podcast host. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing and founded Her First $100K to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. She has helped over three million women negotiate salary, pay off debt, build savings, and invest.

Host of the #1 Business Podcast, Financial Feminist; author of the upcoming book “Financial Feminist” (Harper Collins); and Adweek’s ”Finance Creator of the Year”, Tori’s work has been featured on Good Morning America, the Today Show, the New York Times, TIME, PEOPLE, New York Magazine, Forbes, BuzzFeed, CNN, CNBC, and more.

Tori now travels the world writing, speaking, and coaching about personal finance, online businesses, side hustles, and confidence for women.

Follow Tori Dunlap on Instagram: @herfirst100k
Learn more about Tori’s investing app here: https://treasury.app

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#117: Your Summer Body (A Pep Talk)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 May 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary gives you a body-image pep talk for embracing your summer body, knowing that it is perfect exactly the way it is. She talks about how to challenge negative body thoughts, deal with other people’s opinions, and find your personal clothing style for the summer.

Remember: Your job is not to look a certain way in a bikini or to impress people with your body. Your only job is to exist and hopefully, HAVE FUN. Make this the summer that goes beyond your body.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Sign-up for the retreat priority list: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats
The Four Agreements book: https://amzn.to/37Uptb7

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#116: Sexual Communication with Dr. Tara

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 May 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Dr. Tara from @lovebites.co talks to us about S-E-X! Dr. Tara is a professor of relational and sexual communication at CSU Fullerton. Her goal is to normalize sex talks and help people feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching.

You will learn...

how to talk to your partner about sex with confidence
3 practices for enhancing your sexual self-esteem
how your earliest sexual experience influences your desires

Remember: sexual communication is not easy but it’s important to be courageous and speak your mind!

Follow Dr. Tara on Instagram and TikTok: @luvbites.co
Dr. Tara’s 5-minutes sexual meditation: https://youtu.be/nek1luHl5d4
10-minute sexual meditation: https://youtu.be/zYyhs3Whjqo

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#115: Learning the Difference (Mindset)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 May 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Here’s a mindset to adopt for ultimate personal growth and inner peace: learning the difference. Listen to this episode to find out what this means and how to apply it to your life!

You will learn...

how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life
an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not
advice to help you feel more at peace and content

Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference.

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#114: Embodied Healing with Ruthie Lindsey

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Apr 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Ruthie Lindsey speaks to us about grief, chronic pain, reparenting yourself, processing trauma, embodiment practices, religious upbringings, self-love and so much more. Not to mention, Ruthie’s heart shines through her voice and reminds us all that there is so much beauty amidst the broken.

You will learn about...

how Ruthie came back to life after dying (both literally and later, metaphorically)

loving your body amidst chronic pain

embodiment practices for processing emotions - healing from religious trauma and the process of finding God in your own way

Remember: the greatest gift you can give someone, including yourself, is your PRESENCE.

Follow Ruthie on Instagram: @ruthielindsey
Learn more about Ruthie’s upcoming workshop: http://www.ruthielindsey.com/how-to-like-yourself-101

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ruthielindsey

Mentioned In This Episode...
Video of toddler throwing a tantrum: https://fb.watch/cDWNynQyEa/

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#113: Conquering Body Shame in the Bedroom

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Apr 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you’ll want to listen to this episode for advice on conquering body shame in the bedroom.

You will learn how to...

be more confident in your body sexually

vet people and be protective of your space

foster more intimacy and trust in your relationships

Remember: Be protective of the people you allow inside, whether that’s inside your emotional space or inside of you.

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Mentioned In This Episode...
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor: https://amzn.to/3jIUZeB
The Orgasm Gap: How Body Shaming Affects Women’s Sexual Experiences: https://feminisminindia.com/2020/11/12/orgasm-gap-body-shaming/
Episode #38 with Emily Nagoski: https://maryscupoftea.com/sex-orgasms-masturbation-with-emily-nagoski/
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://amzn.to/3vj2Rca

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#112: I said YES! + Thoughts on Marriage & Feminism

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Apr 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Boyfriend has officially upgraded to fiancé! Mary shares the behind-the-scenes of how he proposed and what her thoughts are on engagements, weddings, and marriages. She also talks about how she’s approaching everything with a feminist mindset.

Remember: The most empowering thing you can do for yourself as a feminist is to clearly communicate what is/ isn’t important to you. And as feminists, I don’t think we have any right to judge another woman for her personal choices. Do you agree?

Let me know what you think by screenshotting this episode and tagging @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get my book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage: https://maryscupoftea.com/77-therapy-update-thoughts-on-marriage/

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#111: How Sexuality Can Heal Binge Eating with Jessi Jean

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Apr 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Mary is joined by her dear friend Jessi Jean, Food Freedom Coach who helps women overcome binge eating. They talk about best friend breakups, breast implants, beauty standards, cosmetic procedures, and the link between binge eating and sexuality.

You will learn...

how to create and nurture meaningful adult friendships
why Jessi got her breast implants taken out and her thoughts on other cosmetic procedures
how connecting to your sexuality can help heal binge eating - tips for exploring sexual pleasure both solo and with a partner - advice for building a healthy romantic relationship

Remember: where attention goes, energy flows, and what you focus on grows.

Follow Jessi on Instagram and TikTok: @jessijeannn
Learn more about Jessi’s Food Freedom Online Program here:
https://www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jessijeannn

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mariana van Zeller’s documentary series, Trafficked:
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/tv/shows/trafficked-with-mariana-van-zeller

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#110: A Powerful Question to Ask Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 31 Mar 2022 11:00:00 +0000

In this super-short solo episode Mary shares a powerful question to ask yourself while you’re journaling or find yourself resorting to old coping mechanisms. She also recommends a great book for exploring your emotions and shares some personal things going on in her life (as per usual!).

Mentioned In This Episode...

Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart: https://amzn.to/3wBVz5k

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#109: Steps to Becoming a Writer

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Mar 2022 11:00:00 +0000

We are celebrating the 1-year birthday of The Gift of Self-Love! Today I thought I’d talk about how to become a writer because pursuing this craft has not only forwarded my career, but also helped me grow as a person.

You will learn...

the 5 steps for becoming a writer
different ways to make money as a writer
how Mary got this book deal and stuff to think about if you’re an aspiring author too!

Remember: there are no prerequisites for being a writer. To be a writer, all you have to do is... write! (But I promise I share more than that in this episode ;)

Mentioned In This Episode...

Join Mary’s online retreat on April 13th: maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat
Mary’s TEDx Talk about body-image: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg

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#108: Showing Up Consciously in the Digital Space with Jenny Jay

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Mar 2022 11:00:00 +0000

Today Mary is joined by Jenny Jay, a storyteller and creator and her experiences and education over the last 7 years has become integral to the content that she writes, creates, and shares. Add that to her lived experiences as a South Asian woman with experiences with in/visible disability, living unhoused and without financial security, and existing in her other identities. She recognizes the difference it makes when stories are shared in a way that recognizes your community and validates their experiences. Together, Jenny truly believes that we can make spaces — online, in our media, in our conversations, and in our businesses, spaces for change.

You will learn how to...

think critically about what you see on social media
what digital cultural appropriation is and how to avoid it
set boundaries in your digital space, whether you are a creator or consumer of online content

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Jenny’s Inclusive Content Calendar link: https://www.theethicalstoryteller.com/calendar

Jenny’s land acknowledgment from her email signature:

The Double Jay Collective Inc., was founded on the traditional territory of many nations including the Mississaugas of the Credit, the Anishnabeg, the Chippewa, the Haudenosaunee and the Wendat peoples. More specifically, this land is covered by a historic treaty, the Ajetance Treaty [Treaty 19] signed in October of 1818, where the Mississauga Nation of the River Credit and Sixteen Mile Creeks surrendered their land and is the only treaty [known of] named after an Indigenous community member. It is important to recognize the layers & circumstances that lead to this signing, and that this land is still home to many diverse First Nations, Inuit and Métis peoples.

While land acknowledgements allow us to engage in ongoing reconciliation by reflecting on the physical space we are on, as a company, our work now takes place in a combination of physical and virtual spaces. To continue to prioritize and centre reconciliation we will always encourage our team, clients, and community to take the time to learn about the lands they are currently on. You can do so, here.

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#107: An Intuitive Eating Mindset “Hack”

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Mar 2022 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary shares a new way to think about intuitive eating that will hopefully help you find a sense of freedom and peace with food. The words we use MATTER and if you start using this one word, your mindset around food will definitely change for the better.

Remember: your relationship with food and your body is a reflection of how you lead your life. Do you want everything to be structured, rigid, and obsessive OR would you prefer a little more freedom, flow, and inner peace?

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#106: The Power of Mindless Activities

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Mar 2022 16:49:06 +0000

In today’s episode, Mary shares about the power of mindless activities and how they can help you achieve a state of mindfulness.

You will learn how to...

Let go and allow ideas and new perspectives to come to you
Use your five sense to ground yourself
Do activities that give your mind a break

Remember: The priority at this moment is learning to find ease in your body and breath.

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#105: Tips for Self-Discovery (+ My Personal Identity Crisis)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Feb 2022 03:29:59 +0000

When you’ve been told who you ”should” be your whole life, sometimes it’s hard to figure out who you really are. Tune in for some advice on self-discovery and musings from Mary about what it’s like to go through an identity crisis. Maybe life is just one big long identity crisis, so how can you enjoy that journey?

Mentioned In This Episode...
Sign up for Mary’s emails: https://maryjelkovsky.activehosted.com/f/3
Episode #81: How to Follow Your Heart: https://maryscupoftea.com/81-how-to-follow-your-heart/
Episode #67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations: https://maryscupoftea.com/67-advice-for-finding-your-passion-book-recommendations/
Link to BetterHelp online therapy: BetterHelp.com/mcot

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#104: Sneaky Eating Disorder Habits You Might Still Struggle With

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Feb 2022 02:00:41 +0000

Eating disorder recovery is a journey, and sometimes old patterns will show up even after you're fully recovered. Let's talk about 5 disordered habits you might still be doing (despite knowing better) and how to stop doing them. These subtle behaviors are often framed as “normal” in our culture, but in reality, they’re leftover patterns from diet culture. Whether you’ve been in eating disorder recovery for years or are just beginning to heal your relationship with food and your body, it’s important to notice these sneaky habits so you can break free from them once and for all.

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And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#103: An Astrology Deep Dive with Blyss Veer because it’s my birthday!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 08:15:54 +0000

In honor of my birthday and Aquarius season, I interviewed my retreat sister, dear friend, and amazing astrologer Blyss Veer on how we can use astrology to gain insight into ourselves and harness it for self-love. We also touch on big philosophical topics like grief and the human condition because it’s all related!

Although I’ve always felt very connected to my zodiac sign, I was still a bit skeptical because it felt overwhelming and I didn’t really know the science behind it. Blyss changed all of that for me and she’s about to do the same for you.

In this episode, Blyss teaches us about…

The difference between your sun, moon, and rising signs (and why you may feel more like your moon and rising sign than your sun sign)
Where EXACTLY to look in your chart if you’re looking to tap into more self-love
What it means to be in your “Venus Return” or “Saturn Return” (which especially applies to you if you’re 24 or 27-29 years old!)

... And truly so much more because astrology is philosophical and can go as deep as you want to explore it!

If you’ve been enjoying the podcast and being a part of this community, the best birthday gift EVER would be some positive feedback on the show. If you have just 60 seconds, please review the show on Apple or rate us on Spotify! It helps future self-lovers find this podcast and gives me all the encouragement I need to keep creating for you. ＜3

And make sure to get a copy of my book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode:
Blyss’s favorite coffee is the “Sweetheart Roast” from this shop: https://www.olympiacoffee.com/collections/coffee/products/sweetheart-espresso
Blyss’s favorite coffee shop near Seattle: https://narrative.coffee
Link to book a 1:1 personalized astrology reading with Blyss: https://blyssmoonastrology.as.me and use code GIFTOFSELFLOVE for 33% off

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#102: When Positivity Becomes Toxic with Whitney Goodman

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Feb 2022 07:18:31 +0000

In this episode, Mary talks with Whitney Goodman, a licensed psychotherapist, about the harmful effects of toxic positivity. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it! You know, when someone totally invalidates your feelings and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s so not helpful!

Whitney shares with us about...

what toxic positivity is and the different areas it shows up in (specifically how it appears in religion, workplace, health, grief, etc)
the antidote to toxic positivity
how to talk to your loved ones when they are experiencing pain

Remember: “Happiness and positivity have become both a goal and an obligation.” But you don’t have to feed into that...

Follow Whitney on Instagram: @sitwithwhit

Get Whitney’s book, Toxic Positivity here: https://amzn.to/3zMbptG

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#101: Stop Judging Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Jan 2022 04:16:01 +0000

In today’s episode, Mary takes a moment to chat about self-judgment. Has judging yourself really brought you any good?

You will learn...

How to notice the ways you are judging yourself.

What’s really going on when you’re judging others.

Self-compassion is more productive than blaming, shaming or judging yourself.

Remember: The litmus test for self-judgment: would you judge someone else, like your sister or daughter or friend, for this same exact thing as harshly? You are doing the best you can.

Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #32 with Dr. Kristin Neff:
https://maryscupoftea.com/tools-for-self-compassion-with-dr-kristin-neff/
Dr. Kristin Neff’s article, “The Motivational Power of Self-Compassion”: https://self-compassion.org/the-motivational-power-of-self-compassion/

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#100: 100 Ways to Love Yourself (Habits for Self-Love)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Jan 2022 05:12:22 +0000

We are celebrating our 2-year anniversary and 100th podcast episode today!! In this solo episode, Mary shares 100 tips for self-love, a list of things big and small that you can do to really take care of yourself and love up on yourself! The list touches on all 5 love language: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service. What’s your self-love language?

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Mentioned In This Episode...
2-weeks free therapy on BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/mcot
Mary’s self-love playlist on Spotify: https://maryscupoftea.clickfunnels.com/self-love-playlist

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#99: 10 Purchases Under $10 That Have Made My Life Better

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Jan 2022 02:49:04 +0000

This is probably the most influencer-ish episode Mary’s ever released! She shares 10 items that were inexpensive, but made a huge difference in her health, happiness, and overall well-being. Visit the show notes for all the links!

Here’s a sneak peek of what she shares:

a movie that’s changed her perspective on consciousness
a book that Mary’s read 5 times (and assigns at her retreats)
a lightbulb that Boyfriend got for the bedroom ;)
more!

Remember: small investments can make a big difference!

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Tongue scraper: https://amzn.to/3r2B0uJ
Arrival movie: https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/arrival_2016
Plant watering can: https://amzn.to/3FaTOwG
Hydro flask cup holder: https://amzn.to/3r2Bjpn
My bonnet
Bio Oil Gel Cream: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk
The Four Agreements: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk
My ear plugs (not fully sound proof): https://amzn.to/33dg9MO
Ear plugs recommended to me: https://amzn.to/33fg3UN
Silk sleep mask: https://amzn.to/3q6mAKP
Gel pens: https://amzn.to/3t48MlT
Fire place lightbulb: https://amzn.to/3GcA5xZ

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#98: Predictions for 2022, Courageous Living, and Spiritual Success with Rha Goddess

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Jan 2022 05:55:02 +0000

In this episode, Mary speaks to Rha Goddess about standing in your values and being in alignment with your soul’s calling. Her name says it all: this woman is a GODDESS. From the way she speaks to the wisdom she so generously gives, Rha will change the way you think about yourself and relate to the world around you.

You will learn...

a practice for reflecting on 2021 and stepping into the new year with more intention
Rha’s message and predictions for what 2022 has in store for us
what things distract us from living in alignment with our soul’s calling
how to make mental peace with capitalism, money, and success

Remember: the Universe is constantly winking at you. Are you paying attention? 😉

Rha Goddess is the entrepreneurial soul coach behind hundreds of breakthrough changemakers, cultural visionaries and social entrepreneurs. From multiple NY Times Bestsellers to multi-million dollar social enterprises, Rha’s unique methodology has empowered a new generation of conscious entrepreneurs to stay true, get paid, and do good. From the onset of her more than 30-year career as a cultural innovator, social impact strategist and creative change agent, Rha has drawn on the power of creativity, culture and community to move hearts, minds and policy. Rha’s book, The Calling (St. Martin’s Press) leverages her unique methodology into a step by step blueprint for finding your purpose and making your most profitable contribution.

Follow Rha on Instagram: @rhagoddess

Get Rha’s book, The Calling: https://courses.movethecrowd.me/the-calling

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#97: Setting New Years Intentions

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary will share with you a journaling exercise that is great for setting New Years intentions! This is actually a repost from last year because it’s a practice that is good to revisit so we hope you enjoy it going into 2022!

You will learn...

how to find your Word of the Year
a visualization/ meditation exercise to help you feel more aligned to your purpose
how to create a new belief system for yourself going into the new year

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#96: How To Connect Deeper with Your Sibling(s)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares her advice for connecting with others, specifically your younger siblings. If you‘re getting together for the holidays or simply craving a little deeper connection with those around you, listen to this episode to learn...

3 tips for connecting more deeply with others

what Mary‘s therapist said that helped her create a healthier relationship with her little sister

how vulnerability, in the simplest of ways, will inevitably foster connection.

Remember: vulnerability breeds connection. If you want someone to open up to you, you have to open your heart to them, too.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode...
Brene Brown‘s book, The Gifts of Imperfection: https://amzn.to/3EZjInP

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#95: My Cultural Identity (Being Russian & Jewish)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Dec 2021 02:32:58 +0000

In this personal episode, Mary talks about where her ancestors are from and how her cultural identity continues to evolve over time. She also touches on what being Jewish means to her and why she identifies more as Russian than Jewish (even though both are a big part of her). Although this episode has little to do with body-image or self-love, hopefully, this episode inspires you to embrace your life story too.

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#94: Being REAL on Social Media with Victoria Garrick

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Dec 2021 03:43:30 +0000

Mary is so excited for this podcast episode with Victoria Garrick, former Division I Volleyball Player, TED Talk Speaker, Social Media Influencer, and Mental Health Advocate. Victoria shares all the behind the scenes of building her social media empire, including the mental health side of it.

Since delivering her TED Talk in 2017, Victoria has become a leader in the mental health and body-image advocacy space. After graduating from the University of Southern California in 2019, Victoria has traveled the country speaking on college campuses, hosts her hit podcast Real Pod, and creates daily content for her army of over 1.5M+ people who follow her message of authenticity and self-care on social media.

In this episode, you will learn...

how to recognize signs of burn out and know when you need to take a break
tips and strategies for creating content and building an authentic social media following
what is means to be REAL, both on and offline

Remember: When you express yourself authentically, you will feel more connected to yourself and those around you. Whether you‘re work is on social media or not, being real will always pay off in the long-run.

Follow @victoriagarrick on Instagram and listen to her podcast, The Real Pod!

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#93: How to Give Better Compliments

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Nov 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Giving compliments is the easiest way to make someone‘s day and connect. But I‘ve noticed that the types of compliments we give are often not conducive to women‘s empowerment.

In this episode, you will learn...

the 5 steps to giving empowering compliments
why body-related comments are not okay
the difference between compliments and ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

As Lindsay and Lexie Kite from @beauty_redefined said in their book, ”If you give looks-based comments the power to build people up, you reinforce their power to tear people down. Continuing to focus on someone‘s looks, even in positive ways, uses the same framework and logic that makes apperance-based insults so lethal.”

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Mentioned In This Episode... More Than a Body by Lindsay and Lexie Kite: https://amzn.to/3n7roxT

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#92: Dealing with Holiday Meals

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Nov 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary talks about how to deal with food/ body-image fears that may come up during holiday meals. If you’re nervous about Thanksgiving dinner with your family, this episode is for you!!

You will learn…

self-talk for getting yourself through holiday meals
what to say to your aunt/ grandma/ whoever if they comment on your eating
tips for intuitive eating and making peace with food

This is one of Mary’s FAVORITE solo episodes so it’s definitely worth a listen! And feel free to save it or send it to a friend who might need to hear it too!

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Mentioned In This Episode...

Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #30: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/30-tips-for-bad-body-image-days/id1495128359?i=1000489270133

Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #35: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/35-how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/id1495128359?i=1000493293855

Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #46: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/46-dealing-with-holiday-weight-gain/id1495128359?i=1000503362374

Jessi Jean‘s Food Freedom Online Program: https://www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm

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#91: Becoming a Writer with Aija Mayrock

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Nov 2021 04:21:42 +0000

In this heartfelt conversation, Mary interviews Aija Mayrock, a writer and spoken word poet whose work will send chills down your spine and tears down your cheeks (the good kind!).

Aija shares with us...

how she published her first book at 19 years old
tips for becoming a writer or pursuing your creative passion
what the writing process can look like and where to draw inspiration from

Plus, Aija opens up about her experience with bullying and tools that have helped her heal.

Aija Mayrock is a bestselling author, poet, and performer. She started writing her first book “The Survival Guide to Bullying” when she was 16 years old, after having been bullied for many years. She self published her book before it was acquired by Scholastic and published around the world.

Aija has spoken to over four million people nationwide on bullying and mental health. Aija also joined the ABC and Disney Channel “Choose Kindness” campaign alongside of Hailee Steinfeld and Alessia Cara.

Recently, Aija released a poetry book called Dear Girl which is about the journey from girlhood to womanhood as well as a love letter to the sisterhood. You can read a sample and get your own copy of Dear Girl here: https://www.aijamayrock.com/deargirl

Follow Aija on Instagram: @aijamayrock

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#90: To My Perfectionists

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Nov 2021 02:00:00 +0000

This short solo episode is a message to my fellow perfectionists. If you‘ve ever felt like perfectionism is holding you back, listen to this to break free from that.

You will learn a language trick that will help reframe your mindset about being ”perfect” so that you can finally let go of all those toxic pressures and expectations.

Remember: perfect doesn‘t exist, so don‘t strive to be perfect. Instead, allow others to be INSPIRED by the way you embrace your imperfections.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media!

Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#89: Intentional Productivity with Jules Acree

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Oct 2021 04:07:42 +0000

Today Mary chats with Jules Acree (@julesacree) about intentional productivity, slow living, and decluttering your digital and physical space.

You will learn about...

the BEST (free) tool for organizing your life

mindful and intentional productivity

why clutter is associated with anxiety and ways to de-clutter your space

Our guest, Jules Acree (@julesacree) is a writer, YouTuber, and entrepreneur based in Austin, TX. Through the lens of mindfulness, self-care, and intentional productivity, Jules creates content that helps people slow down, simplify, and create more space in this digital age. She is the founder of the low-waste concept shop The Homebodies (@thehomebodiesco) and is a certified yoga + mindfulness teacher. Jules’ work has been featured in Southern Living Magazine, Well + Good, Shape Magazine, Thrive Global, and was named Wanderlust‘s ‘35 Under 35 in Wellness’. Outside of this corner of the Internet, Jules is a matcha drinkin‘, outfit repeatin‘, professional homebody doing life alongside her husband + two rescue pups.

Learn more about Jules‘s course, Simplify & Thrive, here: https://www.omandthecityblog.com/simplifyandthrive

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YouTube Videos Mentioned In This Episode...
How to Organize Your Life Using Notion: https://youtu.be/G8Q1g4skPoU
How to Organize and Discuss Finances w/ Your Partner: https://youtu.be/R2_1smcssvI

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#88: Asking for Support

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Oct 2021 01:47:14 +0000

A lot of people (wrongly) believe that asking for help means that you‘ve somehow failed... Like if you can‘t do everything on your own then you‘re somehow not good enough. But the truth is, you don‘t have to do everything yourself. It is strong and brave and worthwhile to ask people to support you.

In this episode, will Mary talks about...

how asking for help creates opportunities for both you and others
why asking for help strengthens relationships
mindset shifts to make that will help you feel more empowered

Remember: A strong independent woman is not someone who never asks for help. Strong people are those who are brave enough to know that just because they can do it themselves doesn‘t mean they should.

If you enjoyed this episode, please send it to a friend! And we would greatly appreciate it if you could take 60 seconds to review the show on Apple Podcasts. My way of asking you for help. :-)

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#87: Habits That Have Made Me a Better Person

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Oct 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode Mary shares 6 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person!

Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t!

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#86: Using Human Design for More Self-Love with Erin Claire Jones

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Oct 2021 03:11:46 +0000

Mary is joined by Human Design expert Erin Claire Jones to talk about how we can use this powerful spiritual tool to cultivate more self-love.

Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It offers insight into what’s possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves.

In this episode, you will learn...

what Human Design is and how it can be used to embrace your uniqueness
the 5 different Human Design types (and how to find out which one you are!)
how Human Design can be applied to anything including relationships, work, and mental health

Erin Claire Jones uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals step into their truest selves and to their highest potential. Her work as a guide, coach, and speaker has attracted a growing community of over 120,000 people who turn to her teachings for practical tools, digestible tips, and deeper self-knowledge they can access to live with greater ease and authenticity every single day.

Remember: Human Design is a tool that can give you greater insights into your highest potential. If something doesn‘t resonate with you, that‘s okay! Take what you need and let go of the rest. ＜3

Follow Erin on Instagram: @erinclairejones
Learn more about Erin here: erinclairejones.com
Look up your Human Design: erinclairejones.com/lookup
And here‘s the link to get your Human Design Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: erinclairejones.com/blueprint (Code MARY will get you 10% off your Blueprint or a spot in Erin‘s next Flow workshop :)

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#85: Thoughts vs. Feelings vs. Emotions

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 01:48:07 +0000

Today Mary is talking about the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Once you know the distinctions, it becomes easier to manage your mind because you know exactly what you‘re thinking, feeling, or experiencing.

You will learn how to...

redirect your thoughts using positive self-talk
interrupt negative thought spirals and stop feeling like shit all the time
address emotions that stemmed from childhood in a self-compassionate way

P.S. If you are ready to talk to a licensed counselor or therapist, check out BetterHelp, an online therapy platform I‘ve been using for years. I have an affiliate link that will get you a 2-week free trial: BetterHelp.com/mcot

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#84: Entrepreneurship & Mental Health with Nadya Okamoto

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Sep 2021 03:21:35 +0000

In this episode, Mary chats with Nadya Okamoto, co-Founder of August, a lifestyle period brand working to reimagine periods to be powerful. They chat about period poverty, mental health, relationships and what it‘s like living as a social media influencer and entrepreneur.

You will learn...

How does period poverty affect people who have their periods
What is Nadya and her company, August, are doing to help create change around period poverty
Managing mental health as an entrepreneur

Follow Nadya on Instagram: @nadyaokamoto

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#83: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Hard Times

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary shares with you 5 mantras that have helped to support her through hard times. She also shares some tips to apply these mantras into your own life!

You will learn...

What are mantras? And where do they come from
How to work with your mindset to reframe your circumstances
How to manage your energy through choice

Remember: Everything is happening for you, not to you.

I‘m curious, which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

Mentioned In This Episode... David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell: https://amzn.to/3n3luya

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#82: Managing PCOS without Dieting with Kirsten Mellott, RD

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Sep 2021 02:18:42 +0000

Today we are joined by Kirsten Mellott, a registered dietitian who specializes in Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and eating disorders. She herself has overcome Binge Eating Disorder and has learned to manage PCOS through intuitive eating and gentle nutrition.

You will learn...

what PCOS is (the signs and symptoms to look for)
how to manage PCOS without dieting
tips for advocating for yourself at the doctor‘s office

Follow Kirsten on Instagram: @pcos.positivity
Work with Kirsten: https://www.pcospositivity.com

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#81: How to Follow Your Heart

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Sep 2021 02:00:00 +0000

At our previous retreat, there was 1 retreat sister who couldn‘t figure out what she wanted when it came to her relationship. Without sharing details, she was at a crossroad in her life. Usually in this situation, everyone says ”follow your heart! do what makes you happy!” But nobody tells you exactly HOW to do that. Like what is the difference between a gut instinct and irrational fear? How do you know when you‘re listening to your own heart when you‘ve been listening to your parents, your partner, your friends for so long? How is it that some people are so in touch with their heart and soul and higher selves and others are so disconnected and struggle to make decisions, let alone be confident in them?

You will learn...

Exactly what‘s getting in the way of you following your heart
3 questions to ask yourself when you‘re at a crossroad in life
The # 1 thing you MUST do if you want to reconnect to yourself

Remember: Following your heart is not equivalent to making perfect decisions all the time. It‘s about what opportunities and adventures and lessons can come from your heart-centered decisions.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode...
Episode #64: Struggling to Make Decisions? Listen to this.
Episode #67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations
The Artist‘s Way by Julia Cameron: https://amzn.to/3DpHpoP

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#80: Controversial Conversations with Kenzie Brenna

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 02:27:52 +0000

Okay, this episode is a MUST-LISTEN and we're not just saying that! Today's guest is Kenzie Brenna, fellow self-love advocate, mental health educator, speaker, and podcaster who is AMAZING at talking about taboo topics with the sensitivity and care they deserve.

You will learn how to...

deal with people who disagree with you
embrace the paradoxes in life
be okay with not knowing everything
approach political topics with the nuance, knowledge, and due dilligence they deserve (instead of believing every infographic you see on Instagram)

Kenzie also shares controversial perspectives about things like...

trigger warnings (and why they're not always helpful)
liberal and left-leaning politics
the body positivity community

Warning: you may disagree with a lot of what we say and that's okay! We are all here to listen to each other, invite in different perspectives, and see what we can learn along the way. Thank you for being open to unpopular opinions and uncomfortable (yet important!) conversations. 🙏

Follow Kenzie on social media: @kenziebrenna
Listen to her podcast: [Conversations with Kenzie](

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#79: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Aug 2021 02:00:00 +0000

If you Google this topic, you'll find plenty of articles telling you how to check more things off your to-do list or organizing your planner for more productivity, and all types of advice which sure, could be helpful. BUT, they don't address the mindset behind overwhelm and the fact that your long to-do list is not necessarily the source of your overwhelm. Overwhelm is a MINDSET. And if you're stuck in that mindset for too long, then it can be detrimental to your mental health and well-being. In this episode, Mary shares self-talk tools for getting through overwhelm. These are things you can say to yourself when you catch yourself getting overwhelmed. You will learn...

What a mindset of overwhelm is
The difference between thoughts and feelings (and how to use your thoughts to manage your feelings)
Ways to deal with overwhelm from a mindset perspective

Remember: a long to-do list can trigger a mindset of overwhelm, but ultimately, you have the power to get out of that mindset by practicing better self-talk.

Let us know how you liked this episode by screenshotting and tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! If it was helpful to you, maybe it'll be helpful to someone else too! Thank you in advance for listening, sharing, and supporting the show!

And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#78: Self-Love Retreats: An Inside Look from Our Retreat Sister, Liana

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Aug 2021 02:00:00 +0000

I have a little bit of a different episode for you this week because what you’re about to hear is a conversation with one of my retreat sisters, Liana, who recently attended my Costa Rica Self-Love Retreat. I thought it would be cool to give you an inside look into what self-love retreats are actually like coming from someone who’s experienced one recently.

Even if you’re not thinking about joining a self-love retreat, I still invite you to listen to this episode because Liana and I talk about sexuality, trusting yourself, dealing with toxic family members, connecting with like-minded women, vulnerably sharing your heart, and so much more. Liana herself is incredibly inspiring because she embodies what it means to be so full of self-love and letting that love overflow to others. Whether you want to come to a retreat or not, Liana will help you see what is truly possible for you.

You can connect with Liana by following her on Instagram or TikTok @lovewithliana and inquire to work with her through her website lovewithliana.com. As an Adult Chair® Certified Coach, Liana will guide you through your own self-love practice so that you build healthy relationships and become more present in your life.

And if a self-love retreat sounds interesting to you, our next one will also be in Costa Rica over New Years! At the time of this recording, the New Years Self-Love Retreat is 50% full so if you’re interested, go to maryscupoftea.com/retreats, check out all the information, and if it’s calling you, feel free to fill out an application.

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#77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Aug 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this personal episode, Mary shares some things she's learned in therapy and how it's helped her overcome childhood traumas. Part of why she started therapy in the first place was to conquer her fear of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Mary talks about...

why marriage used to terrify her
how her therapist helped her overcome those fears
other lessons learned in therapy including self-talk, self-trust, and self-empowerment

If you want an accessible and affordable way to see a therapist, check out BetterHelp! Full disclosure: I'm an affiliate because I LOVE their platform and have had an incredible experience with my therapist. I wouldn't have been able to do therapy without BetterHelp (especially during the pandemic)!

Here's a link to a 2-week free therapy trial: [betterhelp.com/mcot](

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#76: Confidence Comes From Clarity

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary explains how confidence comes from CLARITY and how you can gain more clarity in your life. You will learn...

A trick to help you stop comparing yourself to others
3 questions to ask yourself to gain more clarity (and therefore, more confidence)
How to figure out what you really, really want in life

Remember: you don't need certainty in your life; you need clarity. Clarity is the root of self-confidence.

If you found this episode inspiring, make sure to take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram stories so we can see!

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#75: The Origins of Intuitive Eating with Elyse Resch

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Jul 2021 02:16:10 +0000

In this episode Mary interviews the co-author of the origina Intuitive Eating book!! She is so beyond honored to be able to speak with Elyse about how Intuitive Eating (IE), the concept and book, came to be starting in the early 1990s.

This episode is for anyone who's (re)learning how to eat intuitively and wants deeper insight into the practice.

You will learn about...

How IE has evolved over the past 26 years and why it's gained popularity in recent years
The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating (and which one is the most challenging)
The biggest criticisms of IE (and why they're plain WRONG)
How to instill IE into teenagers using adolescent psychology

Remember: your body has an innate wisdom that goes far beyond diet culture and beauty standards. Intuitive eating is about tapping into that wisdom, and learning to trust your body again.

Elyse Resch, MS, RDN, CEDRD-S, Fiaedp, FADA, FAND, is a nutrition therapist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California, with thirty-nine years of experience, specializing in eating disorders, Intuitive Eating, and Health at Every Size. She is the co-author of Intuitive Eating, now in its 4th edition, the Intuitive Eating Workbook, and The Intuitive Eating Card Deck—50 Bite-Sized Ways to Make Peace with Food (upcoming, 2021). Elyse is also the author of The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens and The Intuitive Eating Journal—Your Guided Journey for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (upcoming, 2021), and a chapter contributor to The Handbook of Positive Body Image and Embodiment. She has published journal articles, print articles, and blog posts. Elyse does regular speaking engagements, podcasts, and extensive media interviews. Her work has been profiled on NPR, CNN, KABC, NBC, KTTV, Los Angeles Times, AP Press, KFI Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, and the Huffington Post, among others. Elyse is nationally known for her work in helping patients break free from diet culture through the Intuitive Eating process. She supervises and trains health professionals, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, a Fellow of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Fellow of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. Her philosophy embraces the goal of developing body liberation, with the belief that all bodies deserve dignity, and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating.

Mentioned in This Episode...

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens by Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Journal by Elyse Resch

The Intuitive Eating Card Deck by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole

[The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor](https://www.amazon.com/Body-Not-Apology-Second-Self-Love/dp/1523090995/ref=sr_1_1?crid=J3EM4C6CXHID&dchild=1&keywords=the+body+is+not+an+apology&qid=1626919294&sprefix=the+body+is+

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#74: Afraid of Gaining Weight? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Jul 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode Mary addresses 3 common fears (or myths) surrounding weight gain inlcuding:

"Gaining weight is unhealthy, and losing weight will make you healthier."
"If I gain weight, then I won't be attractive (and no one will like me and I'll die alone)."
"Gaining weight means you've 'given up on yourself,' 'let yourself go,' or 'gotten lazy.'"

These are not true and in this episode, Mary explains why.

Note: in this episode, Mary reads to you directly from her book, The Gift of Self-Love. If you want more tools for body-image healing and confidence building, you can get this self-love workbook on her website or anywhere books are sold.

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#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly U

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Jul 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this interview Mary is joined by her friend Kelly Uchima (@kellyu) to have a deep conversation about recovering from anorexia, addiction, binge eating, codependency, and toxic relationships. Kelly is also Asian American, so she shares the nuances of growing up with body-image struggles while being a person of color.

You will learn...

the warning signs and red flags of toxic relationships (we're talking like, narcisstic abuse)
why you can get addicted to pretty much anything (and how to break free)
what perfectionism, eating disorders, addiction, and toxic relationships all have in common...

This is a rich, raw, and real conversation filled with true vulnerability and authentic storytelling. Please make sure to let us know how you like it by tagging @maryspodcast and @kellyu in your IG stories!

Kelly U (@kellyu) is incredibly passionate about breaking the stigma on mental health. She created and coined the Instagram and Youtube series, Therapy Thursday, to share just how beautiful and meaningful connecting with the most raw, vulnerable parts of yourself can be. Kelly aspires to inspire those who struggle with their relationship with their bodies, food, trauma and recovery. She has overcome eating disorders, anxiety and depression and is grateful to share her journey and help others to help themselves.

Follow Kelly on the Gram: https://www.instagram.com/kellyu/
https://www.instagram.com/therapythursday/

Listen to Kelly's new podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/68zImlmerxtNeVN0XUHoeE

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#72: Stop Trying to Lose Weight (A Pep Talk)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Jul 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, I talk about the impacts of trying to lose weight and how dieting affects our bodies.

You will learn...

What is the "rebound effect" that happens when you diet
The impact of our intention to lose weight
How your body responds to restriction

Remember: :No matter what, no matter how I feel today, I will not starve myself."

Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide!

Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!

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#71: 6 Signs of Self-Confidence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Jun 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Confidence is about owning who you are, whether you like how you look or not. Being pretty is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being accomplished is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being perfect is not a prerequisite for confidence. Confidence is a mindset.

In this episode Mary explains what a mindset of self-confidence is and 6 traits that can build, strengthen, and display confidence.

Here's a sneak peek into the 6 signs of self-confidence:

You do not let your _____ ruin your _____ experience.
You approach any struggle with ______.
You ______ yourself and others.
Other people's success ______ you.
You don't take things _______.
You use your ______.

Can you fill in these blanks?? Let us know!!

And make sure to get a copy of The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#70: Interviewing My Sister!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 02:00:00 +0000

This is an episode that's been a long time coming! Mary interviews her 13-year-old sister Ilana! In this heartfelt conversation, Mary and Ilana talk about...

Ilana's top 3 styling tips
how they maintain such a close relationship despite their 10-year age gap
how adults can support middle schoolers' mental health
their thoughts on Gen Zers
... and so much more!

If you are a sibling, auntie, parent, or gaurdian, we hope this conversation warms your heart and helps you remember what it was like to be 13!

And feel free to take a screenshot of the episode and tag @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

Mentioned in This Episode...
Mary's TEDx Talk: https://youtu.bhttps://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybge/DoDzwM0gybg
Katie Chock's TEDx Talk on Battling the Toxic Male Nerd Culture: https://www.ted.com/talks/katie_chock_battling_the_toxic_male_nerd_culture
Ilana's favorite anime: Jibaku Shounen Hanako-kun

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#69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda Montell

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Jun 2021 02:00:00 +0000

I couldn't wait to release this episode with Amanda Montell, a feminist sociolinguist, author of 2 books, and all-out empowering human! This educational episode explores the dynamics between feminism, cults, and the language we use.

You will learn...

the major warning signs of a cult (and why it's so easy to fall into one)
how modern-day language oppresses women and marginalized people
why sociolinguistics is important to feminism (and why you should care too!)

Amanda Montell is a writer, linguist, former beauty editor, and author of two books: Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language (Harper Wave, 2019), which she is currently developing for television with FX, and Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism (forthcoming June 15, 2021). Amanda's other writing has appeared in Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Nylon, and The Rumpus, among others, and she currently resides in Los Angeles.

Get Worldslut here: https://amzn.to/3cIziZg
Get Amanda's new book, Cultish, here: https://amzn.to/3cIy0O3

And take a screenshot of this podcast episode to share on your IG stories! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @amanda_montell so that we can see that you're enjoying this conversation!

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#68: Overcome Negative Thoughts with This 2-Minute Meditation

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Jun 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this 10-minute episode, Mary shares a mini meditation that will help you break any negative thought patterns. This evidence-based technique is especially helpful when it comes to bad body-image thoughts because it incorporates mindfulness, breathing and self-compassion.

Try this 2-minute meditation and let us know how it worked for you by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories!

And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 May 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Lately there's been a lot of pressure on young people to find their "passion" which can be overwhelming, daunting, and discouraging to us. In this episode, Mary shares her unconventional advice for finding your passion by actually NOT focusing on passion...

You will learn:

what to focus on instead of "passion" (hint: it's not what you think)
5 tips for tapping into your creativity
a journal exercise that will help you discover your interests
book recommendations for self-discovery (these are books that changed Mary's life)

Remember: clarity comes from ACTION. Don’t spend all your time sitting and thinking about what you’re passionate about. Instead, start taking action on the things that set your soul on fire.

Books Recommended:

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo

Make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide!

Once you have the book, we'd love to hear your thoughts in the form of a review on Amazon (or wherever you ordered from). Make sure to screenshot your review and fill out this form so that Mary can send you a sticker in the mail!

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#66: Dealing with Uncertainty, Fear, and Doubt

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 May 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Uncertainty, fear, and doubt can show up in every area of our lives... our jobs/ businesses, weight fluctuations, body changes, relationships... literally everywhere. In this episode, Mary gives her in-depth advice for managing the fear of uncertainty and learning to embrace it as a part of life.

You will learn...

mindset tools for calming stress and anxiety
ways to see uncertainty as your friend and actually learn to embrace it
how to tell the difference between important intuition and unwarranted worry

Remember: uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety are there to protect you. We don't need to get rid of these emotions, we just need to learn to dance with them.

Get Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#65: Orthorexia: When Healthy Eating is Not Healthy with Victoria Myers, RD

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 May 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode we talk to Victoria Myers (@victoriamyers) about ORTHOREXIA, the unhealthy obsession with healthy eating.

You will learn...

what orthorexia is and why it's arguably the most common eating disorder
a simple tip for making sure your healthy habits aren't becoming disordered
how to approach health challenges using gentle nutrition
ways to practice wellness without obsession with kids

Victoria Myers is the dietitian and owner of the virtual private practice and online education center Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Victoria and her staff specialize in empowering women to ditch diets, regulate hormones, heal digestion and learn to practice wellness without obsession. She is also the host of the popular intuitive eating and wellness podcast, the Nourishing Women Podcast. Her mission for her community is to help women let go of the unhealthy obsession with eating healthy, make peace with their body and live their lives to the fullest.

Find Victoria and her practice online:
Nourishing Minds Nutrition
Nourishing Women Podcast
Victoria Myers Instagram
[Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram](

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#64: Do You Struggle to Make Decisions? Listen to this.

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 May 2021 20:51:09 +0000

In this solo episode, I talk about making decisions from a more empowered place of self worth.

You will learn...

8 steps for overcoming decision making fatigue
How to set an intention to make quicker decisions (vs. faster)
How to make quicker AND better decisions while learning to forgive yourself for the "bad" ones and learn from them
How to put decision making into perspective

Remember: "More options, more choices, doesn't necessarily make us happier..."

To leave a review and receive a personalized signed sticker for my book, The Gift of Self-Love, go to this form: https://form.typeform.com/to/zDO3QcXs

This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books.

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#63: Should You Be Doing Therapy, Coaching or Self-Healing?

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, I talk about my personal experiences with therapy, coaching and self-healing and discuss which path or paths might be right for you! All 3 are amazing. Whatever you have the resources and willingness to do, is what’s right for you. Many people, myself included, employ a combination of all 3 depending on the time of their life and what they feel they need.

You will learn…

What therapy is all about and how it can help you
When to decide whether coaching is the right path for you
When is self-healing a useful tool in your personal journey

Remember: All 3 resources are amazing. You have to decide what's right for you now in your own journey.

Links/ Resources Mentioned:
To find a therapist for you, go to: better help.com/mcot

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#62: How to Support Someone with an Eating Disorder: Warning Signs, What To Say, and How to Help

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Something I get asked all the time is "How do I support a loved one who's showing signs of an eating disorder?" In this episode, I answer that question by talking about the major warning signs of an eating disorder and how to address them. If you're a parent, caregiver, teacher, or someone who is close to someone who's exhibiting these signs, please talk to them and encourage them to reach out for help.

You will learn...

The major warning signs, symptoms, and personality traits of someone with an eating disorder
How to talk to them about it
What you can do to help (and what you should NOT do)

Remember: supporting your loved ones is important, but you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped nor is it your job to “fix” anyone. Make sure you are setting an example by taking care of yourself, too.

Links/ Resources Mentioned:

NEDA Hotline: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline

Warning signs of an ED article: https://centerforchange.com/think-your-friend-may-have-an-eating-disorder-heres-what-you-can-do/

2-weeks free therapy on BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/mcot

Get Mary’s new book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/book. This is a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide!

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#61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Apr 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode I talk about why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness might leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting feeling. Instead, I invite you to let go of the expectation that you must be happy all the time, and instead, focus on creating MEANING in your life.

You will learn...

How hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life
Why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image
Tips for creating more meaning in your everyday life

Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life.

Links/ Resources Mentioned:

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO

And if you’re looking for more book recommendations, check out some of my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are self-help books every woman MUST read, and you can check them out at https://maryscupoftea.com/books/

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#60: Diet Culture in Your Romantic Relationships

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Apr 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares with you her tips on how to navigate diet culture within your romantic relationships. You will learn valuable communication tools to express to your partner how to be less "diety." Mary also shares how her boyfriend has learned to have a better relationship with body image and how to do a "safety check" before embarking on a serious conversation about body image in your own relationships!

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#59: My Best Friend Interviews Me! On Book Writing, Marriage, Adult Friendships, and Boob Sweat?!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Mar 2021 02:26:25 +0000

The tables have turned and this time, Mary is the one being interviewed by her best friend, Dahli Durley (@hellodahlibaby). Mary and Dahli met back in 2018 and have been really close friends ever since (although much of their friendship has been long distance!). In this insightful and entertaining conversation, Mary and Dahli talk about...

What it's really like to write and publish a book
How to make friends as an adult
Navigating dating, ghosting, marriage, and divorce
Boob sweat, foot fetishes, skittles and more!

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#58: Reminders for Recovery with Imogen Barnes

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Mar 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by Imogen Barnes, an Eating Disorder Recovery Advocate. Imogen shares an honest recount of her journey with her own eating disorder and what has helped her in the recovery process. In this episode, you will learn:

How living with an eating disorder creates anxiety around food and other areas of your life.
Imogen's journey with OCD and how it contributed to her eating disorder.
Tips to help with recovery.

Things Mentioned:

Imogen's IG post: What if I miss my eating disorder?

Follow Imogen on Instagram:

@im_powering

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#57: Why Affirmations Don't Work (and What To Do Instead)

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Have you ever Googled "self-love affirmations" hoping that they'll help you with self-love, but almost feeling like they... didn't work?

Affirmations sounds nice as an Instagram caption or on a Pinterest quote, but they can often leave us feeling like we're soooo far away from our goal. In this episode, Mary explains the psychology behind why affirmations don't work and what you can do instead that will really help you in your self-love journey.

Note: if affirmations work for you, then that's great! Do what's best for you. But try this other practice too and see how you feel. :)

Episodes Mentioned: Episode #36 with Kara Loewentheil

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#56: Financial Literacy for Womxn with Dasha Kennedy AKA The Broke Black Girl

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Mar 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode we talk to Dasha Kennedy (@thebrokeblackgirl) about how our financial well-being impacts our lives as womxn. In this empowering yet practical episode, you will learn...

how the gender gap hurts women (basically, we are paid less for doing more!!)
ways to think about your finances in an empowering way (no money shame here!)
how to remain financially alert in your relationship (and why you should be!)
what to plan for when it comes to marriage

Dasha Kennedy, better known as The Broke Black Girl, is a millennial financial coach whose no-B.S coaching strategies are helping women of color get ahead.

After a tough life event, Dasha realized how financially unprepared she was, so she began sharing her journey towards financial success on Facebook. The Broke Black Girl (BBG) Facebook group focuses on the financial struggles facing young women of color who have often been overlooked in the traditional conversations around personal finance. Within a year the BBG group has skyrocketed to over 70,000 women.

Dasha has more than a decade of experience working as an accountant and default counselor. She is leading women through discussions around different aspects of financial wellbeing.

Remember: "The ultimate display of love is securing the person you love financially." ~ Dasha Kennedy on Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast

Follow Dasha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebrokeblackgirl

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#55: 10 Things My Eating Disorder Taught Me

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Feb 2021 01:47:35 +0000

In this solo episode Mary shares life lessons she learned from her eating disorder recovery journey.

Although Mary's life lessons are a byproduct of recovery, you'll love this episode even if you don't relate to having an eating disorder.

You will learn...

Mary's mantra for getting through difficult times
Why "being happy" is not a good goal (and what to strive for instead)
How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion

Things Mentioned:
Episode #2: How To Fall in Love with Yourself
Episode # 52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner

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#54: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself for More Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary shares 5 questions to ask yourself for more self-love. These are questions that you can either journal about or simply ponder in your head. They are proven to help you create more peace, joy, and (self) love in your life. Here's a little sneak peek of the 5 questions:

Who would I be if didn't ?

What is the ___ that could happen if I _?

How can I create more _ in my life? (This one is arguably THE most important question to ask yourself!!)

If this was __, what would it ___?

What do I ____ right now?

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#53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa Griffin

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 02:35:11 +0000

Today Mary is interviewing her business coach Melyssa Griffin! The past 6 months, Mary was in Melyssa’s business mastermind called the Aligned Abundance Mastermind which you can learn more about at alignedabundancemastermind.com.
Melyssa Griffin is a former school teacher turned entrepreneur who believes that the best way to grow a thriving business is to heal the leader behind the scenes. She coaches entrepreneurs back to their inner truth so that they can create abundance without self-abandonment. Together, we’ll reprogram the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck so that you can create unapologetic success and abundance.
In this episode you will learn…

How Melyssa went from being a school teacher to being a 7-figure online business owner
The mindset you need to adopt to make more money
What alignment means and how it will help you in all areas of your life

If you’re interested in joining Melyssa’s mastermind, you can learn more about it and apply here: alignedabundancemastermind.com.

And you can connect with Melyssa on IG as @melyssa_griffin and learn more at melyssagriffin.com.

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#52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Feb 2021 05:45:16 +0000

Eight years ago, Caroline Dooner started a blog called The Fuck It Diet. She was trying to heal her relationship with food, and she needed a place to share everything she was learning about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed my life, and now you can read the book The Fck It Diet. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the Fuck It Diet is for you.
In this episode, Caroline and Mary talk about... - What the Fuck It Diet is and how it's different from intuitive eating - Why rest is highly underrated and incredibly necessary for our healing - The difference between food addiction and diet addiction - The difference between overeating, emotional eating, and binge eating (it's not what you think!!) - Why eating should be easy and how you can do it too

Follow Caroline on Instagram: @thefuckitdiet
Get Caroline's book: The Fck It Diet: Eating Should Be Easy
Things mentioned: The Artist's Way by Julia CameronFat!So? by Marilyn Wann

Lastly, if you haven't already, make sure to pre-order your copy of Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself!
By pre-ordering The Gift of Self-Love, you'll get FREE access to Mary's next online self-love retreat. Just go to maryscupoftea.com/book for more info + the links to pre-order the book!

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#51: I Wrote a Book!!!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 02:00:00 +0000

The secret is finally out!! I wrote a book!! It's called The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself (Blue Star Press, 2021).
Build confidence, boost your self-esteem, and overcome body image issues using this inspiring and interactive self-help workbook for women. I've been working on it for over a year and I can't wait for you to finally hold it, read it, and write in it!
Check it out and pre-order it by going to maryscupoftea.com/book
Once you pre-order the book, send an email to book@maryscupoftea.com with a screenshot of your receipt and you will get FREE access to my next online self-love retreat!
I hope you give yourself The Gift of Self-Love! I am forever grateful for your support and I can't wait to see you at our online retreat!

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#50: How To Let Go of Control & Perfectionism

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 02:00:00 +0000

Perfectionism shows up in many areas of our lives, but especially when it comes to food and our bodies (i.e. trying to control what we eat and/or what we look like). In this solo episode Mary talks about ways to let go of control and perfectionism and embody surrender and flow instead.
In this episode you will learn...

Where perfectionism really comes from, how it operates, and why it leaves us feeling bad
4 practical ways to practice letting go of control
Self-talk to practice when you feel perfectionism creeping in Remember: anything you can't control is teaching you how to let go.

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#49: Eating Disorder Recovery with Jessica Flint

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by Jessica Flint who shares her personal journey with eating disorder recovery and how spirituality has helped her in the healing process. Mary and Jessica also chat about:
Perfectionism
The importance of finding support during recovery
Resilience and courage
Fear of gaining weight
Learning to surrender/ trust the process
The differences between fate and destiny

Jessica Flint is the founder of Recovery Warriors and CEO of True Warrior. Both platforms exist to educate, inspire, and empower people to make transformational changes in their life. Forbes recognized her work as a technology innovating mental health and it's reached millions worldwide. She's a popular speaker and teacher in the areas of self-compassion, resilience, archetypes, and personal narratives.
You can find Jessica on either of her websites recoverywarriors.com or schoolofrecovery.comOr check out her app Rise Up + Recover
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#48: How To Have a Healthy Relationship with Exercise

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 Jan 2021 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode Mary talks about how to have a healthy relationship with exercise. You will learn how to use movement as a natural part of your life and redefine the way you see exercise. She also shares some tips that will help you:Find a way of moving your body that you enjoyAsk yourself, “Is this activity going to energize me?”Lower your threshold of what you consider a good workoutExpand your awareness of what a fit body really is If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM:@maryscupofteaa@maryspodcast@retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT:maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/

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#47: A Journal Exercise for Self Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 31 Dec 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode Mary talks shares her approach to setting intentions for the New Year. Many of us find that we set resolutions only to find ourselves back to where we started by February. Mary uses journaling and digging deep within yourself to create gentler, long lasting habits that you can carry with you through the whole year.

In this episode, you will learn…

a journal activity to help you establish your “Word of the Year”
how to visualize a time when you embodied your word
the tools to help you shift your mindset
how to create a belief system that supports your “Word of the Year”

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@maryspodcast
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#46: Dealing with Holiday Weight Gain

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares how to reframe how you think, see, and feel about weight gain. Most of us gain some weight during the holidays, whether that's due to a decrease in activity levels or an increase in food- and that's all fine and dandy! But we shouldn't be so worried about our weight that it ruins our mood. In this episode, you will learn... - a journal activity that will help you reframe how you feel about weight gain - tips that will help you approach weight gain with self-compassion - how to improve your body-image with mindset exercises
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#45: Sierra Schultzzie on Body Confidence, Finding Balance, & Being an Influencer

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Dec 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary is joined by Sierra Schultzzie who asks the question where do you draw your value — your power, your confidence and your worth? Sierra and Mary dive deep into what it means to full embrace who you are and what it means to be authentic. In this episode, Sierra explains how to:

Look at the influences in your life
Understand how valuable you are in spite of how you look
Understand the influence diet culture has on growing up
See what a gift pregnancy is from the body
Find balance with productivity
and so much more!

Sierra Schultzzie is a social media influencer creating fashion and lifestyle content across multiple digital platforms, with a focus on Youtube and Instagram. She has YouTube Channel with over 1.3 million followers called Sierra Schultzzie and she also has a vlog channel with her husband called “Sierra & Stephen IRL” all of which focus on body positivity, midsize and plus size fashion, try on hauls, brutally honest reviews, recreating celebrity photos, style swaps, relationships, and more!

You can find Sierraon Instragram: @schultzzieand on Tik Tok: @schultzzie

Things Mentioned:

Sierra's video on Styling a Curvy Body: https://youtu.be/C1Rdl30fjOg

Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, & Skylar's video on body-image: https://youtu.be/6k9sEglV010

Tiffany Ferg's video on Hustle Culture, Workaholicism, and Toxic Productivity: https://youtu.be/UAwCJAU2tjk

Body Positive Pregnant People to follow:
@thebirdspapaya
@gracefvictory

How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell

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#44: Navigating Holiday Eating & Change in Routine

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Dec 2020 02:00:00 +0000

The holidays and a change in routine can often bring up various struggles like food guilt, stress eating, and binge eating. In this episode, Mary shares her advice for navigating holiday eating and letting go of food anxiety.
You will learn... - how to prevent a binge especially during holiday parties - how to challenge diet culture when faced with negative thought patterns - how to embrace changes in routine and not let them stress you out
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#43: Radical Belonging with Lindo Bacon

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Nov 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by Dr. Lindo Bacon who discusses finding their true self to gain a better sense of belonging and creating a safe space for others to feel fully accepted as they are. Dr. Bacon also talks about what it means to challenge ideas around social identities. In this episode, you will learn about:
How everything we’re taught in mainstream culture with regards to our bodies and image is predicated on a lie, not science.
Owning our personal stories and finding out what makes us unique.
How to open up to other people’s uniqueness.
Cultivate radical belonging in our day to day lives.
and so much more!

Dr. Lindo Bacon’s mission is to create a more just world, where all bodies are valued, respected, and supported. Best known for their paradigm-shifting research and advocacy upending the weight discourse, Bacon’s inspiring message takes us beyond size, to shaping a culture of empathy, equity and true belonging. Dr. Bacon has mined their deep academic proficiency, wide-ranging clinical expertise and own personal experience to write two best-selling books, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, and the co-authored Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, or Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight. Both are credited with transforming the weight discourse and inspiring the course of the body positivity movement. Bacon’s next manifesto, Radical Belonging: How to Survive and Thrive in an Unjust World (while Transforming it For the Better), will be released by BenBella Books in November 10th, 2020, and Bacon is currently spreading this message through public speaking.

You can find Dr. Lindo Bacon on Facebook or Twitter: LindoBaconX or on Instagram @Lindobacon. Or you can find Lindo on their website www.lindobacon.com.

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#42: Communicating with Confidence

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 19 Nov 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares her tips for communicating with CONFIDENCE. As a TEDx talk speaker and someone who's life revolves around communicating to spread a message, Mary has learned a lot about speaking in a way that inspires people.

In this episode you will learn...

which words to STOP using in order to come across more self-assured
mindset tips for feeling more calm, connected, and confident while speaking
the secret to looking and feeling more confident while speaking, whether it's to a friend, to your partner, or in a public setting

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#41: Why Self-Love is Not Selfish with Shannon Kaiser

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Nov 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is an author, life coach, speaker and retreat leader. Shannon gives an honest recount of her own journey with anxiety, depression, addiction and eating disorders and what led her to learn how to truly love herself. In this episode, Shannon discusses…

Approaching self-love as an experiment.
Making the choice to love yourself.
The importance of gratitude and self-care.
Being enough as you are.
Loving yourself as the greatest act to help the world.

Shannon Kaiser is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul and Joy Seeker. As an international life coach, speaker and retreat leader, she helps people trust and believe in themselves so they can live their highest potential. She's been named a top 100 Women to Watch in wellness by mindbodygreen and "your-go-to happiness booster" by Health magazine. She has also been recognized as a Must-Follow Instagram Account for Inspiration by Entrepreneur magazine and a Top Facebook Account for Daily Motivation by mindbodygreen.

Visit her website at playwiththeworld.com and follow on social media @ShannonKaiserWrites.

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#40: Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion with Beth Ruffin

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Nov 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary is joined by Beth Ruffin. Beth is an author, speaker and coach that works with organizational consulting and one on one coaching focusing on inclusion in the workspace.

In this episode you will learn how to...

explore your own biases
be more inclusive in your day to day life
use language that embodies inclusivity
build a brand/business that is focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion
and so much more!

Beth spent 20 years in Corporate America before realizing her dream of entrepreneurship, opening her own boutique consulting firm, The Everyday Inclusionist. Beth is committed to making our world more inclusive through consulting, coaching and speaking. She is also the host of “At the Table,” a weekly podcast about elevating the voices of the underrepresented. Beth’s first book, Get Up, details her journey to self-acceptance. Her second book, You Belong Here, explores the topic of Self Inclusion. Beth believes that everyone has a purpose and has the power within them to impact lives. She is mom to one daughter and in her spare time blogs and travels.

Links mentioned:
Beth's 10 Tips for Building an Inclusive Business

You can find Beth on Instagram as @thebethruffin and on her website bethruffin.com

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#39: How To Stop Caring What Others Think of You

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 29 Oct 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode Mary talks about how to stop caring about OPO (other people’s opinions), OPE (other people’s expectations) and OPA (other people’s agendas). You will learn how to truly live for yourself, not other people, and what it means when you’re feeling “stuck” in life. She also shares some tips that will help you learn what your core values are, find the right support system and recognize negative projections.

Books and Links Mentioned:
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
betterhelp.com/mcot

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#38: Sex, Orgasms, & Masturbation with Emily Nagoski

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 22 Oct 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Ok, this interview is a juicy one!! We are talking with Emily Nagoski about all things SEX like...

how to increase your chances of feeling a climax or orgam - how to talk to your partner about your sexual desires - how to release sexual shame during sex or while masturbating - different ways to masturbate and feel pleasure - how to feel more accepting of how you look "down there" - what sexuality is and what it's not - and so. much. more
Emily Nagoski is a writer, sex educator, researcher, activist, and self proclaimed nerd. Emily went to Indiana University for a M.S. in Counseling Psychology and she continued on to earn a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a concentration in human sexuality. Now, she is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Her new book, Burnout, was released in 2019 which she co-authored with her sister Amelia to help women end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and feeling not enough.
I have been dreaming of this interview with Emily ever since I read Come As You Are 4 years ago! It's a book I recommend to anyone who wants to get to know their body better and feel more informed, educated, and empowered by their sexuality. It truly will transform your sex life and how you see your sexuality in general!
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#37: How To Deepen Your Self-Worth

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 15 Oct 2020 02:48:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary talks about the difference between self-worth and self-confidence. She also gives you 3 ways to strengthen your sense of self-worth in a way that's helpful and long-lasting in your self-love journey.
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#36: Feminism, Body-Image, & Unf*cking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 8 Oct 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This episode is going down as one of our favorites! In this episode Mary is joined by Kara Loewentheil who talks about how we can use thought work to retrain our brains and ultimately change our reality. Kara uses a very unique approach that combines life coaching and feminism to empower women to think, see, and feel better about themselves. In this episode Kara explains how to...

think better thoughts about your body - recognize the link between the patriarchy and our negative thoughts - use feminism and thought work to combat the pressures of beauty standards - apply thought work to social justice issues and create positive change in this world - manage our mind to feel less stressed, anxious, and negative - and so much more!
Kara is a Master Certified Coach with a B.A. from Yale and J.D. from Harvard Law. Kara is the host of the iTunes top-rated self-help podcast Unfck Your Brain which has been downloaded 10M times, and she has been featured in outlets like Marie Claire, Mind Body Green, MSN.com, and The Huffington Post.
This episode goes deep in many different directions so we recommend taking notes as you're listening and letting the message sink in.
You can find Kara on her podcast: UnFck Your Brain or her website: unfuckyourbrain.com
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#35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet Culture

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 1 Oct 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares her 5-step process for setting boundaries with diet culture. These 5 steps will help you speak up to that friend who keeps talking about diets or your family who keeps commenting on your body. Setting boundaries is important in ANY relationship, but especially when it comes to those people who are triggering you back into diet culture.
You MUST tell them that certain things are not okay and Mary's here to help you do that. Happy boundary-setting!
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#34: Living with Chronic and Mental Illness with Esmé Wang

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 20:41:09 +0000

In this interview Mary speaks with the beautiful and talented writer Esmé Wang about what it's like living with chronic and mental illness. Esmé shares her most helpful tools for dealing with depression and anxiety, especially during this difficult time where everything is uncertain. She also gives advice on how we should approach people with disability and how social justice must coexist in our conversations about mental health.
In February 2019, Graywolf Press published Esmé's essay collection, The Collected Schizophrenias, which became a New York Times bestseller and the Los Angeles Review of Books stated that “Esmé Weijun Wang is poised to become a major writer, and this is her origin story.” Her debut novel, The Border of Paradise, has received accolades and kind words from places such as LitHub, NPR Books, and the Chicago Review of Books. She was selected by Granta for their once-a-decade Best of Young American Novelists list of 21 authors under 40, and she received the prestigious Whiting Award in 2018.

Things Mentioned:
Andrew Scott's performance in Sea Wall: https://www.seawallandrewscott.com
Fiona Apple's Fetch The Bolt Cutters Album: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9tY0BWXOZFthbMAh1WrMDEho_wKVSM_1
The Cut article: https://www.thecut.com/2019/02/esme-weijun-wang-on-her-book-the-collected-schizophrenias.html

Connect with Esmé online:
https://esmewang.com
https://www.instagram.com/esmewwang/

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#33: Interviewing My Boyfriend!!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 17 Sep 2020 02:00:00 +0000

The episode we've all been waiting for! The one where Mary interviews her boyfriend! Mary and her boyfriend talk about their relationship by answering some of YOUR questions! Here are the questions Mary and her boyfriend answer in this episode:

How have you grown since being in a relationship with Mary?
Why do you think your relationship worked out so well even though it seemed to move very quickly?
What's your favorite thing about each other?
What was the moment you both "knew" you were each other's person?
What's different about this relationship than past relationships?
How does your boyfriend cope with your posts with minimal or no clothing?
Is it hard living together? What are the challenging parts and what are the best parts?
Did he deal with body confidence issues as well?
How do you plan to teach your kids body confidence?

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#32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 10 Sep 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary interviews the pioneer of self-compassion research: Dr. Kristin Neff. Although our society puts much focus on building self-esteem, Dr. Kristin explains why self-compassion is a much more useful and impactful place to focus on. From soothing symptoms of depression and anxiety to helping us be kinder to others, self-compassion is key to greater well-being, especially for women. Dr. Kristin generously shares tips and tools that will help you be kinder to yourself during difficult times.
In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. She received her doctorate from UC Berkeley, studying moral development and then did 2 years of postdoctoral study at the University of Denver studying self-concept development. During Kristin’s last year of graduate school she became interested in Buddhism and has been practicing meditation ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically until Dr. Kristin created a scale to measure the concept. Dr. Kristin is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin.
In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed a training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals.
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#31: Introducing Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 3 Sep 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Introducing Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0! We are relaunching the podcast which means it’ll be better than ever! We’ll be introducing more diverse guests, a fresh look and feel of the show, and our new Instagram account @maryspodcast. In this episode, Mary talks about her vision for the podcast moving forward and what we’re doing to make this show the most supportive place for your self-love journey.
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#30: Tips for Bad Body-Image Days

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Aug 2020 02:00:00 +0000

No matter how long you've been on this self-love journey, bad body-image days happen to all of us. But it's how we deal with those tough days that make a huge difference in our overall confidence. In this episode, Mary shares her best tips for those negative body-image days. Whether you woke up feeling bloated or not feeling super confident in your skin, there are ways that you can shift your mindset and not let those negative thoughts affect you.
This episode is a mix of mindset advice and practical tips, so we hope they help heal body-image struggles and love yourself unconditionally. Remember, you are so much more than a body. Your body is the least interesting thing about you. And you don't deserve to spend your life obsessing over your body. You deserve so much more self-love.
Links mentioned:
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#29: My Entire Eating Disorder Story: Bulimia, Binge Eating, & Bikini Competitions

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Aug 2020 02:00:00 +0000

{TRIGGER WARNING: eating disorders} In this video I come clean about my lifelong eating disorder and how bikini competitions made it that much worse. I also talk about my bulimia and binge eating disorder and what helped me finally recover.
My intention is that this podcast warns people against dieting because of the harmful physical and mental health consequences it can lead to. And to all my recovery warriors, you are not alone. Recovery is possible and worth it. And I am sending you so much love.
Phew, what a weight lifted off my chest!! I've been wanting to tell this full story for a while, but it brings up a lot of old feelings. Thank you for being with me as I share my vulnerabilities.
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#28: Why I'm Off Social Media

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Aug 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Mary is currently taking a break from Instagram and here's why. She shares all her thoughts and feelings about social media and when/how she is planning to come back. Mary has a few BIG projects coming up that she's been keeping a secret, and we can't wait to share them with you!
Make sure to follow us on Instagram @maryspodcast to be a part of this podcast community and stay updated on new episodes.
And if you want to support this podcast, leave us a review on iTunes! Just scroll to the bottom and let us know how you're liking the show. Your support means the WORLD especially as Mary is working on making this podcast bigger and better than ever.
We love and appreciate you so much and hope this podcast adds a little bit of self-lovin' energy to your day!

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#27: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Jul 2020 02:00:00 +0000

The title says it all! In this episode Mary shares tips for overcoming comparison whether you're comparing yourself to someone on social media or someone you know in real life. It can be quite exhausting to constantly feel like you're not enough because you see other people doing more than you. But there is soooo much you don't know about other people's lives! So don't compare your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel.

We apologize for the poor audio quality on this episode. Mary's microphone wasn't working but the message is still there! Thank you for being here for the imperfect parts of this podcast.

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#26: Changing Your Career with Bethany Goldszer

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Jul 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this epsiode, Mary interviews Bethany Goldszer from Stand Out College Prep. A teacher turned college admissions consultant, Bethany advises parents and students on proven strategies for getting admitted into their top-choice colleges and finding the money to pay for it. She launched Stand Out College Prep in 2012 as a successful side hustle while working at a nonprofit, Urban Upbound, where she has been since 2009.

Bethany talks about how to get noticed in a college application, why so many high school students lack access to a college education, and how to use your unique story to get noticed.

Personality test Bethany recommends: True Colors for pre-college students and Meyer's Briggs for post-college students.

You can find and work with Bethany at standoutcollegeprep.com

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#25: Beauty Standards, Self-Talk, and Social Media

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Jul 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This episode is a turning of the tables where Mary was interviewed on the Rawring Twenties Podcast! This is a wide-ranging and relatable conversation that you don't want to miss!
Be sure to check out the Rawring Twenties Podcast and their hosts Brenda (@balancewithbrenda) and Julia (@jbtolch).
And if you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up
Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will start on July 26th so make sure to register and save your spot before they sell out!

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#24: Self-Worth in Relationships

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Jul 2020 02:02:47 +0000

In this solo episode, Mary shares her personal journey of finding self-worth in her romantic relationships. As someone who has been in many tumultous, toxic relationships, Mary wants you to know that you are worthy of healthy, romantic love. She shares some tips that will help you realize your worth and stop settling for less than you deserve.
If you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up
Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will start on July 26th so make sure to register and save your spot before they sell out!

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#23: Ego Death, Marriage, & Motherhood with Jasmin Steiner

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Jul 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary is joined by Jasmin Steiner (@marriedmomandmantras) to talk about everything from ego death to marriage and motherhood. Jasmin shares with us how she's dealt with severe PPD, a failing and now healing marriage, a loss of identity and self through motherhood and having had to redefine herself on social media platforms from a body-building fitness girl with low self esteem to the mother of twins that shameless showcases her perfectly imperfect mom-bod. Some takeaways from Jasmin include...

how to experience an ego death and find self-love
how to heal a marriage even when you feel like it's not making you happy
how to be in a good mindset during pregnancy and birth
This is a well-ranging conversation that you don't want to miss!
Follow Jasmin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriedmomandmantras/

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#22: Why I'm In Therapy

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 02:00:00 +0000

A solo, personal episode with Mary where she shares her reasons for going to therapy. Unfortunately, there is a big stigma around getting mental health support unless there's something "wrong" with you. Mary talks about why she was afraid to start therapy in the first place and what made her finally commit to it for the past 2 months.
Getting support for your mental health shouldn't be something that's shameful- it shoud be a natural part of preventative mental health! Like taking your vitamins, eating veggies, and getting enough sleep- things we do to support our health BEFORE we are sick.
Thank you for listening as Mary shares some really personal things!
Links mentioned: betterhelp.com/mcot for 2 weeks free therapy

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#21: Give Yourself Permission with Arielle Estoria

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Today we are joined by Arielle Estoria (@arielleestoria), a Spoken Word Poet, Author, Dance Party Enthusiast Emcee and Event Host Speaker, Model and Actress. Arielle is the epitome of a multi-faceted, magical woman who is a bridge between intellect and creativity, the mind and the heart. Through various aspects of storytelling: poetry, keynote speaking, event host/emcee emcee, acting and voice overs, Arielle orchestrates her art out of an, “Words not for the ears but for the soul” motto. The heartbeat behind her work, is a diligent pursuit of instilling and reminding individuals of their value through words.
In this wholesome interview, Arielle gives us permission to BE anything and everything we want to be by channeling our creative selves and sharing our gifts with the world. She also shares how her experience as a black woman in America helped shape her creative work and how being an empath, or a feeler, is actually the greatest gift.
Books mentioned: The Artist's Way, A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativy by Julia Cameron
Make sure to listen to Arielle's song called "Magic In Your Bones" on iTunes or Spotify! Connect with Arielle on Instagram: @arielleestoria And her website: arielleestoria.com

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#20: A Meditation for Self-Love

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 4 Jun 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary shares a Buddhist self-love meditation that will help you feel more at peace with yourself. This practice is especially helpful to those who identify as empaths because us empaths pick up on other people's emotions and often try to help them at the expense of ourselves. Instead, Mary wants you to focus on stepping into a higher frequency of self-love so that you can help others without sacrificing yourself. Do this meditation anytime you're feeling sad, overwhelmed, or when you need a self-love pick-me-up.
Mary also touches on anti-racism and the importance of fighting for human rights. This self-love meditation will help you fight for causes you believe in and help the communities in need from a place of unconditional love.

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#19: How to Have a Healthy Mindset About Health and Recovery

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 28 May 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This episode is a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed by Gabby Male (@gabbymale on IG). Gabby asks Mary questions like…
How do you have a healthy mindset with exercise?
What is health at every size?
How to deal with friends/ family who don’t understand your self-love journey?
What are some tips for recreating your identity during recovery?

Gabby is a non-diet health coach who helps women find balance and feel more empowered in their bodies. She has her own show called the Evolve Your Life Podcast where she talks about everything from fitness to food freedom to personal growth.

Follow Gabby on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/gabbymale/
Listen to her podcast here: https://www.gabbymale.com/evolveyourlifepodcast

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#18: Beauty Sickness with Dr. Renee Engeln

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 21 May 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Okay I am seriously freaking out (in a good way) about this episode because you know that book I keep recommending to you called “Beauty Sick”??? Well, the author of that very book is joining us today on the podcast to talk about beauty sickness- what it is and how we can combat it. Our culture is OBSESSED with appearance, more particularly, women’s appearance. So many of us feel like we are not good enough unless we look a certain way, whether that be a certain weight, body size/shape, or simply our makeup and outfit choices. It’s EXHAUSTING to constantly feel like that. Dr. Renee teaches us how we can stop being so focused on our appearance so that we can finally live free.

Renee Engeln is a psychology professor and director of the “Body and Media Lab” at
Northwestern University. Her research and writing focus on issues surrounding women’s body images, with an emphasis on how cultural forces shape the relationship women have with their bodies. Her work has appeared in numerous academic journals and at academic conferences. She is regularly interviewed by media outlets, including the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, The Atlantic, Vox, and HuffPost. Her TEDx talk has garnered over half a million views.

Get Dr. Renee’s book! It’s called Beauty Sick and it has CHANGED. MY. LIFE.

You can also find her on Instagram as @beauty_sick and her research can be found at bodyandmedia.com

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#17: The Science of Food Freedom with Jessi Jean

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 14 May 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by her dear friend Jessi (@jessijeannn on Instagram) who talks about food freedom, intuitive eating, and healing from body-image struggles. Jessi’s story starts in high school when like many young women, she started restrictive dieting. She went on to compete in bikini fitness competitions thinking that it would make her have more “self-control” around food, but it only made it worse. The exhaustion of dieting, over exercising, and depriving her body nearly killed her.

After being on a healing journey of 10 years, Jessi became a Certified Eating Psychology coach and created the Food Freedom Online Program which helps women heal their relationship with food and their body.

In this podcast, Jessi talks about her daily morning routine which has helped her and hundreds of women stop binge eating by reprogramming the neural pathways in their brain and forming new habits around eating. She also gives tactical advice for conquering binge eating, eating intuitively, and building positive body-image.

Get more info on Jessi’s program here: https://www.conquerbingeeating.com/ffm
And listen to her podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dear-body-podcast/id1460137502
You can also find her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn/

Tag us on Instagram and let us know you’re listening! @jessijeannn and @maryscupofteaa

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#16: How to Support a Friend with Self-Love and Body-Image

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 7 May 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary shares tips for talking to your friends about ANYTHING they’re struggling with- including body-image issues, food struggles, or self-love in general. She shares practical and tactical communication tools that she uses in all her relationships to make the other person feel seen, heard, and understood. She also gives tips for being an empath and not absorbing other people’s energy.

Remember: you are not supposed to “fix” anyone because they were never broken. Your only job is to be there for them.
Get a list of Mary’s favorite books here: https://maryscupoftea.com/books/

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#15: BTS of Being a Social Media Influencer with Chelsea Culbertson

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Apr 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode we talk with Chelsea Culbertson (@choosingchelsea on Instagram) about what it’s like being a social media influencer. Chelsea shares how she uses her social media platform for good and creates healthy boundaries between consuming and creating on Instagram. We also talk about the pros and cons of TikTok and remind you that social media is not real life! No matter how “perfect” someone seems on their highlight reel, there is always SO much you don’t know about their behind-the-scenes.

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#14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, and Binge Eating for Good

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Apr 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Diet culture is a vicious enemy that makes you believe that something is wrong with YOU if you don’t successfully lose weight. Being stuck in the diet cycle makes you spend every second of every day thinking about food and your body, which is no way to live your one precious life. Mary explains how dieting, restricting, and binge eating are all different sides of the same coin, so once you stop dieting and restricting, you will stop binge eating too.

In this episode, Mary shares how to end the diet-restrict-binge by reframing your mindset around food and your body. Mary also talks about the metaphysics of food (a term that’ll change your relationship with food forever) as well as the #1 mindset tool that helped her stop binge eating, forever. Our bodies are wise, so let’s learn to stop fighting them and trust that your body got your back.

Get ready to walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and ready to say f*ck you to diet culture.

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#13: Recovery & Relationships with Julia Parzyck

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Apr 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary talks with Julia Parzyck (@fitfatandallthat on Instagram) about how to nurture healthy relationships while working through eating disorder recovery, body-image issues, or normal daily life. Julia is passionate about educating girls and women to live a life outside of the diet culture, be aware of media manipulation, and embrace their true selves.

Mary and Julia bond over how they’re both sensitive, empathic women who often feel like they’re “too much” in their romantic relationships and how the roots of their eating disorders lie in sexual trauma. Julia also offers a practical approach to creating a healthy relationship with food and body by not letting your thoughts dictate your actions. As an ED recovery coach, Julia is amazing at giving practical advice while also making you feel seen, heard, and understood as a woman in this world.

This episode is relatable AF; just 2 women talking about their own struggles while hopefully helping you navigate yours. Let us know how you like this episode by tagging @maryscupofteaa and @fitfatandallthat in your IG stories

Books mentioned:
Attached by Amir Levine
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln
The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf

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#12: Making Money Online

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 9 Apr 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode Mary shares the different ways she makes money online including social media work, retreats, and online programs. Mary also talks about the importance of having a positive money mindset and treating money as an exchange of energy. We all deserve to make good money doing something we love because each of us have unique gifts, skills and passions that could be of value to others.

If you’ve always wanted to have a successful online business that allows for freedom and flexibility, this episode is for you!

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#11: Self Love During Crisis

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 2 Apr 2020 02:00:00 +0000

The world is in crisis right now and we are all feeling it. In this episode, Mary gives you tips and tools to handle this tough time with self-compassion. If you use the tools Mary gives, this 15-minute episode will help you feel more positively during this time of uncertainty. Remember: you don't have to do anything right now unless it feels aligned to YOU. It doesn't matter what home workout that girl on social media is "recommending"; what does YOUR body, mind, and spirit need right now?

Sending you all so much love! Hang in there xx

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#10: Healing Sexual Trauma with Ailey Jolie

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 26 Mar 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Ailey is Registered Clinical Counsellor with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. She holds a Masters of Counselling Psychology and is a student in the Global Mental Health: Trauma and Recovery Certificate Program at Harvard Medical School. In this episode, Ailey shares with us how eating disorders can often come after sexual violence, whether that’s a microaggression or a macro one. She gives us permission to feel, tips to heal, and ways we can begin to reconnect to our bodies after trauma. Ailey emphasizes that she is not only a therapist, but a human like you, so she shares a lot of her personal journey of struggling with an eating disorder, being in the modeling/pageant industry, rejecting her sexuality, and healing from her own sexual violence.

“Deep” doesn’t even begin to describe the true depth of what Ailey shares so when you listen, make sure to give yourself the time, space, and grace to process everything she says and think about ways to apply it to your own self love and healing journey.
IG posts mentioned: What Type of Sex Serves You? https://www.instagram.com/p/B8hBhEeJwsC/

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#9: Q&A with Mary

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 12 Mar 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Q&A with Mary- ED Recovery, Social Media Business, Life Goals, & More!

Mary answers YOUR questions about everything from starting a business on social media, recovering from an eating disorder, and overcoming codependency. Here are the questions Mary answers:

Has being so open on social media affected your own eating disorder recovery? If so, how?
Your life goals! Career? Kids? Marriage?
How did you know you were ready to speak up and share your journey online?
How did you deal with your codependency?
Was one of your goals of ED recovery to stop thinking about food and weight all the time? If so, how do you deal with it now that your life is still about those topics?
Do you feel like it’s inappropriate to compliment someone’s physical features if they’ve suffered from an eating disorder? How do you give compliments about someone’s appearance without triggering someone?
How do you deal with others around you who are constantly negative about their own weight and self image?
What do you think about BMI? Does BMI show state of health in some way?
How do you create such consistent and relatable content all the time? How do you get more engagement on social media?
Did you ever lose your period during your eating disorder years? If so, how did you get your period back in recovery?
How did you start up your self love retreats?
I’m finally feeling really confident in my body after gaining a significant amount of weight. However, my mom invalidates that I’ve ever struggled with disordered eating and she constantly violates my boundaries by suggesting that I need to lose weight. I can handle criticism from random trolls, but my self love journey feels incomplete without my mom on-board. How do you handle pushback from people you love?

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#8: Stop Overthinking, Embrace Perfectionism, & Let Creativity Heal You with Meg Rosko

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 5 Mar 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This week Mary interviews her dear friend Meg Rosko (@nutmegandhoneybee). Over the past two years, Meg has dedicated her life to cultivating purpose and joy through the healing nature of art and community. Meg vulnerably shares how she started tapping into her creativity by baking cookies after her the death of her older brother. That pivotal moment in her life became a catalyst for expressing her grief through art, and more specifically, learning how to transform pain into sweetness. A few years later, Meg realized that she does not need to define herself as just one thing. Meg hopes to inspire YOU to find the comfort in the unknown of your life, the beauty in all of your experiences, and the courage to create a life rooted in love.

Mary and Meg also bond over their struggles with overthinking, perfectionism and people-pleasing and share some tools on how to work through them. This interviews goes many different directions so grab a cup of tea and enjoy the ride!

Books mentioned: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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#7: Mary Gets Interviewed! How to be Healthy without Dieting

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 27 Feb 2020 02:00:00 +0000

Today’s episode is a little different, a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed on someone else’s podcast! Mary talks about her experience with binge eating, how she went viral on Instagram, and how to balance health with self love. Mary also shares how she changed her mindset and started accepting her body, weight gain and all! You’ll probably want something to take notes with while you listen!

This episode was originally for the Positively Selfish Podcast by Robyn Lee so go check it out when you get a chance! Let us know how you like this episode by taking a screenshot for your Instagram stories and tagging Mary @maryscupofteaa and Robyn @itsrobynlee!

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#6: From ED Recovery to Multi 6-Figure CEO with Rachel Spencer

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 02:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Mary is joined by Rachel Spencer to talk about how building your own business and investing in yourself can help you build confidence and realize how incredibly powerful you are, BEYOND your struggles.

Rachel Spencer is a Business Coach and self-love influencer living in New York City.
Her passion is helping boss babes all over the world to master their message, stand out, and become an authority in their niche so that they can stop feeling invisible and sell with ease!

Rachel struggled with self-confidence and self-esteem issues spurned by unrealistic images in the media during her teenage years, and in her 20s, her issues began to affect every area of her life. In this episode, Rachel talks about how having a business helped her not only heal from her eating disorder, but also build her own confidence and self worth. She shares her tips for starting your own business and how to stop feeling guilty when it comes to money, whether that’s making money or spending money.

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#5: How to Feel Sexy and Confident in the Bedroom

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 02:00:00 +0000

When you feel good in your body and embrace your sexual side, you show up in a more empowered, confident way. Welcome to this special “V-Day” edition of Tea Time with Mary. In this episode, Mary discusses ways that have personally helped her to be more confident in the bedroom. What happens when you use sex to seek validation? And what can you do to show yourself a little more love? As Mary states, your body is for YOU and feeling pleasure in your body is not shameful, it’s natural and needs to be embraced more by women everywhere. So, let’s celebrate this V-Day by celebrating ourselves, our bodies and our sexuality a little bit more!
Books mentioned: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer.
Products mentioned: plusOne makes affordable, high-quality sex toys that you can get at WalMart, Amazon, or Target all under $35! plusOne is breaking down barriers and disrupting outdated taboos regarding self-pleasure with their line of beautiful, affordable and approachable vibrators and sexual wellness products. P.S. If you’re not in a relationship right now, please don’t let this be a day where you beat yourself up about it. At the end of the day, V-Day is a highly-commercialized holiday and literally means nothing. Take this as a day to show extra love for yourself, just because.

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#4: 22 Things I Learned in 22 Years

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 6 Feb 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This is the birthday episode!! Mary shares with you life lessons she had to learn the hard way in her past 22 years on this earth. She talks about everything from sex, hair removal, and yeast infections, to divorce and relationships, to self love and body image.

Here are a few of her favorite lessons…
You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, nor should you strive to be. There’ll always be people who won’t like you no matter what you do.
Hating yourself will not make you happy. Criticizing your body will not make you look better. Shame will not make you feel worthy. Self-love is the way.
Hair removal is overrated.
Your body’s only purpose is to keep you alive. Be kind to it.

This episode is very personal so please let Mary know how you like it by screenshotting and tagging her in your Instagram stories!

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#3: Dealing with Weight Gain, Addressing Trauma, and Feminism with Jessica Demasi

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 30 Jan 2020 02:00:00 +0000

This week Mary talks with Jessica Demasi, a Certified Eating Psychology Coach specializing in Functional Endocrinology and creator of whollyhealed.com. Jessica started whollyhealed.com due to a lack of integrative care when it comes to healing eating disorders. In this conversation, we hear about how early traumas can result in dysfunctional habits around food and body image. We also learn about ways to take a deeper look at our own traumas and how we can begin to heal from them. Mary and Jessica also take a deep dive into the topic of feminism and how it has helped Jessica empower herself on her own mission. So sit back, grab a cup of tea and enjoy this week’s episode!

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#2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 13:00:00 +0000

“We often think of self love as a noun…” a thing we want more of. “In reality, love is a verb…” something inside of us and something that we do; not something we possess. In this episode, Mary talks about the paradox of thinking that if we only have more things to do what we want to do then we can achieve self love. “If you want to have self love, start with the be.” We also hear more about Mary’s personal journey with body image and take a look at how it has affected her relationships in the past, from judging others to how it affected her sex life. Mary also discusses the importance of romanticizing your own life and what that could possibly look like for you. Take a moment to brew a warm cup of tea and enjoy the show!

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#1: Get to Know Mary!

Mary Jelkovsky — Thu, 16 Jan 2020 01:36:44 +0000

Welcome to Tea Time with Mary. Our host, Mary Jelkovsky, is a bikini fitness model turned self love advocate. In this episode, Mary gives us a bit of background on her struggles with eating disorders and body image. From a young age, Mary felt the pressures to "be smart, be pretty and be thin." We also learn about what initially sparked her to make a change and begin the journey to heal herself and learn what self love is all about.

It's a new year and Mary's word of the year is CREATIVE. And podcasting will be one of the many paths Mary will be using to infuse more creativity in her life! So sit back, grab a cup of tea and enjoy this very special episode!

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